This would not fly with me. 🤪 But that is a red flag in a partner. It is very concerning that it seems he is undermining the training and not seeing care of the animals as his responsibility.
@@Whateverhasbeenmynameforyears totally agree with you. It seems like she has to do work with training of the bird not him. Pure laziness, and not for responsibility. If he complains why the bird does not like him that would be his fault.
@@Whateverhasbeenmynameforyears Agree. And it's safe to say that could very well be a detriment in the bird's training. Not cool.. Look at all the the things the bird trainers pointed out in a WILLING participant,that was overlooking or misunderstanding. How the husband gonna know,now that he refused this.
@@Bullen_3 I agree honestly because it would be the same thing about dog owners that do not want to train their dogs but want to complain the dogs bad behavior. Stop complaining about it and you as the owner need to fix behavioral issues. It is not the animals fault it is the lack ownership of the pet owners.
immediate red flag anyone who thinks it's just the animal that needs training. They learn from us! And we should be willing to grow with them! I am glad the wife at least recognizes that it is part of the problem
I don't of course know the case but I have seen people asking too much from their partners for a pet. It's not that they aren't willing to help out but they get asked to change their life style and miss out stuff they enjoy so for example that dog doesn't have stay alone. People have limits and when they get to that point they can look unreasonable or uncaring but they really aren't. They are just exhausted. In some point they are going to say no. I'm not going to sacrifice more for this animal, it's making my life miserable. I won't miss my aunt's wedding just because he has separation anxiety, the dog needs to learn to stay home alone. Quite frankly I won't change my work schedule anymore either, you can just figure it out if the mutt has to stay.
Yeah there is a few red flags he is showing. Both the undermining of her training in his responses to the bird and in the refusing to be part of the solution. Not wanting to come is top of red flags and could speak to a lot of negative traits that could be speculated.
@@Whateverhasbeenmynameforyears Sure, but do remeber we got a very short one sided explanation on the issue. A red flag isn't the same thing as an actually problematic individual. We don't know how much he has done for or suffered because of the bird and what picture he was given on the training. Did he even agree on having a bird or did the wife bring it in against his will and just expected him adjust and take the work on. Was the issue really the training or that it would happen in front of the audience? Basically we have too little information to form any real judgement. I'm open that he is in the wrong but I'm also open that there is more to the story.
@@idaaho if we are bringing animals into our home, we need to be willing to make changes. For example, my partner has had to learn not to leave any food unattended in reach of my dog. He's a dachshund and he goes 'screw the consequences' when it comes to food. So it's as simple as putting it on the counter if we leave it. We also have to make sure not to leave plastic out or his cat chews on it and could swallow it. We make changes for the sake of providing for our pets. He doesn't need to upend his entire life, but something like making sure a section of the house is dark and quiet for the bird doesn't seem unreasonable, or shouting at it or staring it down because that's how he chooses to handle it, these are things we can and should control. I can't tell you how often I have dealt with over weight dogs and hear 'well my husband just keeps feeding him treats. I know it's bad but he doesn't want to stop'.
@@idaaho I agree with the fist part of your statement but the last part of your comment is too close to things I have heard that make it hard for people to leave abusive partners for me to be comfortable with it.
This video was extra helpful. Screaming is definitely an area of concern for one of my birds who presents similarly to Bella. I'm always stressed so I'm going to try and chill out more before training to see if that helps with my bird's reaction to me. Again, great video!!
the teaching to talk instead of scream is one of the first major tricks i figured out with my own birds! my macaw says hello and my sunconure can say hey. i just ask them "what do you say?" before i take them out of the cage because i felt i was rewarding them for screaming because they want out. now they'll both say it before i ask the question. i did have kind of a set back with this with my sun conure before though. i used to yell "no" for when she would do naughty things (usually chewing on stuff or biting) but inturn she learned how to say no and would say it back to me like it was a game (she'd bob her head and dance and everything, she thought we were just playing) so i switched to yelling "hey" instead. welp now she can say hey too, but its much quieter hahaha. she understands my tone of voice much better now and rarely gets into anything she's not supposed to these days. i think it just took us a while for me to communicate that my tone meant i was upset about something, same as it took me a while to learn her body language for when *she* was upset. i used to get bitten a lot simply because i didnt know the very plain signals she was giving me.
Yeah the more I think about it the more I am worried for her. I hope this is the only place he is showing this kind of behavior but it probably is not.
As a behavior specialist in Early Start you wouldnt believe how many parents expected me to "fix" their kids without them having to change anything about what they do or being there for their kids, which does not work.
I love your understanding of bird behaviour, so I want to learn more from you. I don’t have any bird family members but I occasional come across a wild bird in desperate Ned of human help. My problem is gaining trust of a frightened bird, my empathy for their fear is hard to bare & I try to build trust with food they like, then make the rescue as quick as possible to reduce stress. The hardest were a cockatoo, who had a huge support group deafening me & a currawong that we finally cornered but I lost my track pants in the chase (funny to us but not the bird, I was happy it bit me for its sake). It was released a month later. WIRES had to rescue the cockatoo, they do such great work here. If only there was a way to communicate our intentions to help not harm, injured wildlife. Cheers, from Australia
I made this same mistake with my first bird, confused happiness with being heightened, and god knows how hard it is to undo this kind of thing. Some days she's screaming, I just whisper back, and she slowly turn down the volume, almost as if she's trying to listen to me and her own screaming is making it difficult. Some other days, I just leave the room because it's so frustating 😅 Feels like an uphill battle.
🤪 yeahhhh. I’m lucky that mine doesn’t blame our new rescue african grey. She hates males, but even though she has bit him hard a few times, my husband has not given up. I’m still training me first.
As hole of my live i have being a exception to the rule , and so my caique bird ... She goes for some water in the midle of the dark night ... But she does not poop at night and kind of waits for it in the morning. And also like her owner she is the loudest in the neighburhood.
Food is a powerful tool! Every animal wants it and needs it. This is what can help change behavior in a positive way rather than with punishment. Punishment isn't reliable but positive associations are! :) You cant punish a lion, shark or whale and positive reinforcement is so powerful! So we shouldn't need to punish smaller animals like dogs either :)
It's always interesting to me that people think that birds that speak are smarter then those that don't. Which is just not the case. Talking is fun and amusing but has its own set of problems at times. Right Jinx??😉
Much to think about on the bird being heightened. Sometimes our home is pretty quiet and boring. Maybe it’s fine. The noisy moments happen but they tend to swirl around the parrots, not focus on them. I usually feel guilty for not stimulating them enough. Perhaps it’s best. They are healthy and usually well behaved.
I don't think she likes the loud click, she got hesitant to touch & kept eyeing the clicker at the end of her hand & not the target stick & when it clicked her eyes pinned
Get on board husband. You may only encourage any hard work your wife is trying to incorporate in the training with the bird to quit bad annoying habits. Knowledge is power. Listen to the experts.
“He wants the bird fixed not him” 😂
Basically he does not want to do the help to train the bird. Call that lazy.
This would not fly with me. 🤪 But that is a red flag in a partner. It is very concerning that it seems he is undermining the training and not seeing care of the animals as his responsibility.
@@Whateverhasbeenmynameforyears totally agree with you. It seems like she has to do work with training of the bird not him. Pure laziness, and not for responsibility. If he complains why the bird does not like him that would be his fault.
@@Whateverhasbeenmynameforyears Agree. And it's safe to say that could very well be a detriment in the bird's training. Not cool..
Look at all the the things the bird trainers pointed out in a WILLING participant,that was overlooking or misunderstanding. How the husband gonna know,now that he refused this.
@@Bullen_3 I agree honestly because it would be the same thing about dog owners that do not want to train their dogs but want to complain the dogs bad behavior. Stop complaining about it and you as the owner need to fix behavioral issues. It is not the animals fault it is the lack ownership of the pet owners.
I am just so impressed with the ability to read these birds, especially because they each have their own character and mannerisms.
immediate red flag anyone who thinks it's just the animal that needs training. They learn from us! And we should be willing to grow with them! I am glad the wife at least recognizes that it is part of the problem
I don't of course know the case but I have seen people asking too much from their partners for a pet. It's not that they aren't willing to help out but they get asked to change their life style and miss out stuff they enjoy so for example that dog doesn't have stay alone. People have limits and when they get to that point they can look unreasonable or uncaring but they really aren't. They are just exhausted.
In some point they are going to say no. I'm not going to sacrifice more for this animal, it's making my life miserable. I won't miss my aunt's wedding just because he has separation anxiety, the dog needs to learn to stay home alone. Quite frankly I won't change my work schedule anymore either, you can just figure it out if the mutt has to stay.
Yeah there is a few red flags he is showing. Both the undermining of her training in his responses to the bird and in the refusing to be part of the solution. Not wanting to come is top of red flags and could speak to a lot of negative traits that could be speculated.
@@Whateverhasbeenmynameforyears Sure, but do remeber we got a very short one sided explanation on the issue. A red flag isn't the same thing as an actually problematic individual.
We don't know how much he has done for or suffered because of the bird and what picture he was given on the training. Did he even agree on having a bird or did the wife bring it in against his will and just expected him adjust and take the work on. Was the issue really the training or that it would happen in front of the audience?
Basically we have too little information to form any real judgement. I'm open that he is in the wrong but I'm also open that there is more to the story.
@@idaaho if we are bringing animals into our home, we need to be willing to make changes. For example, my partner has had to learn not to leave any food unattended in reach of my dog. He's a dachshund and he goes 'screw the consequences' when it comes to food. So it's as simple as putting it on the counter if we leave it. We also have to make sure not to leave plastic out or his cat chews on it and could swallow it.
We make changes for the sake of providing for our pets. He doesn't need to upend his entire life, but something like making sure a section of the house is dark and quiet for the bird doesn't seem unreasonable, or shouting at it or staring it down because that's how he chooses to handle it, these are things we can and should control.
I can't tell you how often I have dealt with over weight dogs and hear 'well my husband just keeps feeding him treats. I know it's bad but he doesn't want to stop'.
@@idaaho I agree with the fist part of your statement but the last part of your comment is too close to things I have heard that make it hard for people to leave abusive partners for me to be comfortable with it.
This video was extra helpful. Screaming is definitely an area of concern for one of my birds who presents similarly to Bella. I'm always stressed so I'm going to try and chill out more before training to see if that helps with my bird's reaction to me. Again, great video!!
Try a bit of guided meditation - it does a world of good!
the african grey in the back was SIDEEYEING
Y’all are so good at problem solving. It’s seriously impressive.
Fascinating video. You cant tell me the bird cant read peoples moods!
Such a beautiful green winged macaw. 12:40 that African grey just chillin on the carrier ❤
the teaching to talk instead of scream is one of the first major tricks i figured out with my own birds! my macaw says hello and my sunconure can say hey. i just ask them "what do you say?" before i take them out of the cage because i felt i was rewarding them for screaming because they want out. now they'll both say it before i ask the question.
i did have kind of a set back with this with my sun conure before though. i used to yell "no" for when she would do naughty things (usually chewing on stuff or biting) but inturn she learned how to say no and would say it back to me like it was a game (she'd bob her head and dance and everything, she thought we were just playing)
so i switched to yelling "hey" instead. welp now she can say hey too, but its much quieter hahaha. she understands my tone of voice much better now and rarely gets into anything she's not supposed to these days. i think it just took us a while for me to communicate that my tone meant i was upset about something, same as it took me a while to learn her body language for when *she* was upset. i used to get bitten a lot simply because i didnt know the very plain signals she was giving me.
That husband is MADE of red flags 😳
Yeah the more I think about it the more I am worried for her. I hope this is the only place he is showing this kind of behavior but it probably is not.
Thats so lovely to watch ♥ you are amazing ♥
Thank you for sharing this beautiful Birdy with us.
Keep the bird, ditch the husband 😂
I learn everything for my bird from your vids and I thank you very much Jamie and Dave❤❤❤
As a behavior specialist in Early Start you wouldnt believe how many parents expected me to "fix" their kids without them having to change anything about what they do or being there for their kids, which does not work.
I love your understanding of bird behaviour, so I want to learn more from you. I don’t have any bird family members but I occasional come across a wild bird in desperate Ned of human help. My problem is gaining trust of a frightened bird, my empathy for their fear is hard to bare & I try to build trust with food they like, then make the rescue as quick as possible to reduce stress. The hardest were a cockatoo, who had a huge support group deafening me & a currawong that we finally cornered but I lost my track pants in the chase (funny to us but not the bird, I was happy it bit me for its sake). It was released a month later. WIRES had to rescue the cockatoo, they do such great work here.
If only there was a way to communicate our intentions to help not harm, injured wildlife.
Cheers, from Australia
Lots of great info.. awesome job guys
Her bird looks just like my prior bird Keets. Good luck with her training.
Hello kindra, how're you doing today???
I made this same mistake with my first bird, confused happiness with being heightened, and god knows how hard it is to undo this kind of thing. Some days she's screaming, I just whisper back, and she slowly turn down the volume, almost as if she's trying to listen to me and her own screaming is making it difficult. Some other days, I just leave the room because it's so frustating 😅 Feels like an uphill battle.
I wish there was a way to rehome husbands
They can be trained with positive reinforcement
They rehome themselves when a sweeter treat is offered.
Oh there is 😂
There is and I have never been happier, yes I’m the husband
🤪 yeahhhh. I’m lucky that mine doesn’t blame our new rescue african grey. She hates males, but even though she has bit him hard a few times, my husband has not given up. I’m still training me first.
Great informational video as always! I am sure she will have success!
Bella is beautiful, keep up the great work guys😅
Great team work! Awesome job. Gina Hetlage
Which feathers are the "F U" feathers?
Good job guys
As hole of my live i have being a exception to the rule , and so my caique bird ... She goes for some water in the midle of the dark night ... But she does not poop at night and kind of waits for it in the morning. And also like her owner she is the loudest in the neighburhood.
Great video.
Always interesting I never used food rewards for training but I never had birds. I can see how food rewards work in a positive way.
Food is a powerful tool! Every animal wants it and needs it. This is what can help change behavior in a positive way rather than with punishment. Punishment isn't reliable but positive associations are! :) You cant punish a lion, shark or whale and positive reinforcement is so powerful! So we shouldn't need to punish smaller animals like dogs either :)
My bird does something funny, I laugh, my bird laughs, I laugh more, my bird laughs more, then the whole world is laughing...here comes the pain!
I want to see a version of her video but with translation of what the bird is thinking while they talk lol
It's always interesting to me that people think that birds that speak are smarter then those that don't. Which is just not the case. Talking is fun and amusing but has its own set of problems at times. Right Jinx??😉
Much to think about on the bird being heightened. Sometimes our home is pretty quiet and boring. Maybe it’s fine. The noisy moments happen but they tend to swirl around the parrots, not focus on them. I usually feel guilty for not stimulating them enough. Perhaps it’s best. They are healthy and usually well behaved.
Hello Cynthia, how're you doing???
Hi, I'm new to your channel, but I would like to come join everyone at the training class. Please let me know how? Thank you very much.
Cant understand what Dave is saying at the end?
at 15:10 ?? - "are you still talking about Jinx, or...?"
@@AyaBlue22 Thank you
@@Whateverhasbeenmynameforyears happy to be of service!
She’s gonna have to divorce the husband.
Hello Cecelia, how're you doing today???
Nice video India
Training this thing ⁉️
She needs to upgrade her husband.
Hello Lisa, how're you doing???
I don't think she likes the loud click, she got hesitant to touch & kept eyeing the clicker at the end of her hand & not the target stick & when it clicked her eyes pinned
Get on board husband. You may only encourage any hard work your wife is trying to incorporate in the training with the bird to quit bad annoying habits. Knowledge is power. Listen to the experts.
Hello , how're you doing???
I disagree about the metal training stands. They are over priced as it is!
If you where in my neighburhood i would build you one , for free
@@renedejong6386 thank you so much but there’s no need. I have the training stand from parrot wizard and my birds do great with it.