Komi CAN Communicate, and She's Better at It Than You
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- Опубликовано: 21 окт 2024
- In this video, I talk about my first impressions of Komi Can't Communicate (Komi-san wa, Komyushō Desu), and take a look at how the show and its protagonist, Shouko Komi, compare to Watamote and Tomoko Kuroki. Then, as my videos often do, it descends into a rant about social media.
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Watamote - What it's like for people with social anxiety disorder.
Komi Can't Communicate - What it *SHOULD* be like for people with social anxiety disorder.
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Komi got tadano who change him otherwhise
Watamote and komi can't communicate would same
Accurate
actually it si more like this:
Watamote- how a world looks when you are a boy
Komi- how a world looks when you are a girl
@renkiji yes she is a girl because if she was a boy even audience would not care about her and consider her some perverted creep. Nobody cares about boys.
Hey, you aren't boring. Much like how Tadano-kun is a chad to everyone who watches Komi-san, the same applies to you. As long as as you or what you are saying is genuine, we can connect to you. Just because you don't have the spastic personality of an anime character doesn't mean you don't have amazing charisma.
Agreed I found this channel accidentaly and now Im subbed
I 100% believe Komi-san falling for the male protagonist.
Because I would too. Regardless of beauty if someone was able to fully understand me, my various personality traits and interpret my weird internal monologue from just the stuff I say. I would ask them to marry me on the spot.
Well, that, and he's a genuinely helpful and kind guy who's not afraid to eat his pride to save Komi-san from embarrassment. I enjoy both him and Komi-san as characters, which doesn't seem to be the case for many anime couples (where one side just ends up gratingly annoying for the sake of comedy).
that's the fantasy portion of the anime, lol. xD
@@MyouKyuubi I think the beauty of it is that it doesn't have to stay a fantasy. I tend to feel alone a lot of the time because of a couple of neurological disorders I have. But I do have a friend who genuinely cares and helps me out with things that I struggle with. Friends like her are hard to find but there out there. The more people learn about this kind of stuff the more genuinely nice people will be out there to help.
I mean at that point, yeah. Chances to find another feels so small of course you would
@@smol_fox481 Ain't a soul on this planet that can read your mind, bro.
it's a fantasy.
I know it's an imperfect analogy, but I'm reminded of the quote: “Fairy tales do not tell children the dragons exist. Children already know that dragons exist. Fairy tales tell children the dragons can be killed.”
― G.K. Chesterton
Annnnd Komi is apparently not popular in Japan due to Komi being pretty. Apparently the Japanese think that attractive people can never suffer from anxiety or social phobias.
Oh man, I know. And it's not just Japan; people from english-speaking countries and everywhere else try to make that argument too. It's not a mentality that's specific to any one country. It's a form of internet brainrot. If you look through the comments here, there's a section of people trying to claim that the only reason Tadano tries to help Komi overcome her social anxiety is because she's hot.
The whole point of this show, and the reason why its message is so positive and uplifting, is that it shows us the ideal way to treat someone with mental illness: with kindness and understanding.
These people who are hostile toward Komi because she's attractive are just tossing out the whole point of the show. The point of the show is that we should be compassionate. These people are taking that message, willfully ignoring it, and just making up a different message that justifies the bitterness they feel toward society because they can't get laid.
And that's another reason so much of mental illness isn't taken seriously. Because people like to believe that beautiful, rich, or even happy seeming people can't have massive internal struggles and will downplay their illness because they have what most people presume to be a happy life. But that thought process often makes those so-called lucky few hide their pain, thus worsening their conditions. The idea that preserved happiness negates the human condition is a horrible lie that stunts the empathy we all crave and need.
Ironic since that's what the show's trying to disprove
@@absoluteunit30 not to mention, i think the idea of Komi being this overly attractive girl kinda fits the message and idea that ANYONE can suffer from anxiety or any form of a communication disorder which includes people who are conventionally attractive that you may think they have nothing going on that’s stopping them.
There you go again bringing tears to my eyes. It's just like our lord and master Fluttershy said, "Sometimes we all just need to be shown a little kindness".
High five 👋
Sometimes we need GTO to come along and beat the crap out of ToraUma.
@@angelr864 Bro-hoof /)
As someone who HAS these disorders that komi has it fucking sucks. I have high anxiety and a debilitating mood disorder, it's been miserable but.. This show kinda gives me hope. I've been working very very very hard on everything about me, to be able to not seem inept or mentally dead. I am so high on prescriptions when I changed psychologists he questioned if I really took 600mgs of this one med. Imagine trying to explain that you have a mental illnesses that makes it hard to just exist.
Komi helped me so much because it helps me have hope.
I wish fewer people would go "Hey here's a chemical that will alter your brain and make you more convenient for the rest of us" and more people would go "Hey how about we all try caring a little, and treating this person with a tiny amount of consideration for their situation, which - surprise, surprise - is not identical to our own (or anyone else's)?"
I hope you have and/or meet people who are caring enough to ask about the things that matter to you. Be well.
@@hazukichanx408 well you see,
money.
- the american healthcare system
@@hazukichanx408 ideally it would be nice if we didn’t have to rely on medication but sadly most of our brains (like myself) are born with lower dopamine/serotonin levels by default (compared to a normal person’s brain) and we often have to rely on medication like these so we can bring them back up to levels that can be considered “normal”
"in a fantasy world where people have empathy...!"
Why does this statement hurt me???
"a fantasy world where people can actually feel empathy"
Honestly, it's not too much. That's the exact way to put it.
The people on social media talking about "ableism" are probably without the disorder they are ranting about. If they had it or knew someone who did in real life; they would likely have the same level of understanding that you do and wouldn't be so upset about it. It still boils down to a lack of empathy.
A good population of people to meet is solo sportsmen. They USUALLY feel inadequate, to a level of bitterness they need to develop strong methods to overcome, and it only gets worse when you get better and inch closer to the wall of your human limits. It's like gravity at 90 degree angle, until the wall next to you is as impossible to escape off of as the floor under you with depression. And not only can you not rise up, you can't even roll over.
For a paralympian, the "ableist" limitation is literally nothing. NONE of your working faculties is as good as you want them to be. And that really is just realizing the limitation of the human condition, how we can ONLY progress with the combined strengths of our broken bodies and minds.
Yeah, I have ocd and I'm chill about it
I am a person that maintains, from a philosophical point of view, that there isn't such a thing as "good" and "evil" those are just concepts that we throw around. No, what we have is either empathy and a complete lack of empathy. Selfless or selifshness. The more empathic and selfless a person is, the more "good" that person is, the more lack of empathy and selfish a person is, the more "evil" that person is.
We don't live in a world of good and evil, we live in a world of people that actually give a shit (and I mean REALLY gives a shit) and people that don't give a shit.
It might not do us well to assume the people complaining about ableism on the internet aren't people who have or have had to watch those they care about suffer as a result of the things they're complaining about. We have to extend some understanding to them too, I suppose....
@@vidmuncher the main problem with people complaining about ableism is that its quite difficult to differentiate between people who actually have empathy and people who want to look empathetic, kinda like activist tourism
Imagine how much better the world would be if we could all just become Chadanos for the Komis out there.
Some people are unwilling to put in even a little effort to do that.
The rest of us?
We can try. We can do our best. And, quite a lot of the time, we can make a difference for the better in the life of someone who really, really needs it.
@@hazukichanx408 "Some people are unwilling to put in a little effort for that" That is exactly what I was before watching *Komi can't communicate*. I used to have the mindset that caring about the feeling of other people is a mental burden, and I should focus on myself. Unbeknownst to me, I was on my way to becoming Komi... And now I realised, connections to people around me is just as important as improving myself
we.. maybe we will have ability to change age and gender in the distant future :)
if you are a woman world is all fine for you
@@deltaxcd
Wrong wrong fucking wrong
@@Queen_Sakura No not wrong at all being a woman is so much better for man unlimited sex and attention also everyone trying to help you and being nice give a woman's body to a man and he will take over the world.
Uncle Unit is back😃 We love Tonkatsu so very very much. However to speak on things of the upmost importance, it’s nice to have the ability to drop the character and speak in your own voice.
Yeah, Katsu is not suited for anything too serious. I originally tried to write this video for her, and I couldn't figure out how to do it without it being ridiculous lol.
@@absoluteunit30 and oh to be a fly on that wall to hear you use that voice in your daily life XD
Hearing all this reminds me of how I didn’t understand what depression actually was like until I became depressed. I had used to think it was something like “extreme sadness”, oh how ignorant I was back then. Hopefully one day people will learn to help those with mental illnesses better.
Thank you for all the videos you make, I think they really help my mental health. Partly just because of the refreshing amount of intelligence and common sense they have, unlike many people on the internet.
I hope this season finds you well. Sincerely, A long-ish time viewer.
Yeah. I wish it was just extreme sadness. Emotional states are temporary. Instead it feels like going through the day in varying degrees of living death, and from the oustide it looks like laziness.
Woah, one of the few moments I actually start tearing up over a video-
Time to write an essay instead of doing my math homework I guess 💀💀
I wouldn't say that I have like really severe struggles, I think I was diagnosed with ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder) during 4th grade. Last year I was taken out of school because I started crying in the nurses office. I went to a psychiatrist and he told my parents that I had mild anxiety, mild depression, and fatigue. I'm not too sure if the things I was technically diagnosed with could be cured, although I can say that I won't be able to fix those things in a year, considering the type of person I am.
My struggles aren't anything new or shocking, I've had moments where I get like really sad for no reason. And when I say sad, I mean like crying on the floor over thinking everything and intrusive thoughts about possibly harming myself, for me at least. I'm not too sure if that'd be considered an episode of some sort, although I do know that's not a normal moment of being just sad.
Most of the time, that sadness is mixed in with fear and guilt. I usually don't tell too many people this, since I feel crappy having to make it their problem, but when I get the chance to, I at least try to explain a few things.
I do have people who care for me somehow, my parents are great people and I have a creative and kind little brother. The weird thing is, I don't get out of my room much, I'm always tired after school so I just don't feel like doing anything, I can't focus or even ask for help half the time. Everything goes really fast for me and I honestly hate it. School is important, but I obviously don't like it.
During school I'm already really tired, and gym just makes it worse. My friends are there and they're not the best at sports either, but they're good people. They do get concerned when i start freaking out over the noises, I flinch a lot and basically dodge the ball instead of catching it.
Im not sure why I have such strong reactions to noises like doors slamming and bouncing balls (don't take that out of context 😭😭) although nobody really seems to care. The teachers are just kinda like "Oh yeah, understandable but 𝓰𝓻𝓪𝓭𝓮𝓼." Although, I feel like that's mainly my fault since I never tell them anything so they probably assume I'm just unathletic or lazy.
Today I was actually really scared, I almost started crying, I have cried a few times during gym, but this time I actually felt dizzy, I almost felt like I was going to pass out. My friends did check on me, they asked if I was okay and all I did was just shake my head. I did try explaining why I freak out over the noises, although one of my friends shrugged it off, so I just kinda stopped trying to explain.
Other than that stuff, I feel like I can't exactly get anyone to truly understand, mainly because of how much some shrug it off and how much i isolate myself from almost everyone. I can't explain why I feel so tired nor can I explain why I hate myself so much, I just want someone to listen. Many people have listened before, although it really just feels like a one time thing, like a rare moment I get and then it's gone. I felt bad writing this because I love my family and friends, I just don't know if they'll really understand. Plus, I don't think my school will really care unless I have another episode in front of the teachers.
Personally, I can connect with this video in a way, because some people don't really get why I apologize so much, or when I feel really bad for no exact reason. There are good people out there, but I feel like those people should learn more about mental health so they can be even better.
I apologize for the stupidly long comment, I just felt like talking about this. ^^'
Started watching Komi because of how f**king adorable she is, staying because it's a damn good series and you made it far more important in my eyes.
Probably one of my favorites of yours in a while. This is really really good and you actually made me interested in the show. I straight up overlooked it thinking it was just kind of like... I guess what the isekai genre turned into, with taking a concept and then plastering generic wish fulfillment over the top of it thereby completely removing the point of the genre in the first place.
Also 100% agree with the thoughts on Twitter. Fuck Twitter.
Yeah, I totally thought it would be that too, but it surprised me. Tadano's an actual character, not just an audience avatar. Not particularly complex, but he is. More importantly, Komi is the actual MC. The show starts out following Tadano as a way to introduce Komi, but once it does, it gradually shifts from his perspective to hers, so that rather than just seeing her though his eyes, we see him through hers. It doesn't have the depth of Watamote, but it does have something to say, and it's definitely worth watching.
@@absoluteunit30 A couple other hows SOMEHOW lacking the... wide appeal of Komi or Watamote, are Sakamoto Desu Ga? and Handa-kun (spinoff to Barakamon but perfectly, even better-ly, watchable with ignorance to the original).
Handa-kun is a lot like Komi but it's a comedy show about a guy who NO MATTER WHAT can't shake off the good intentions of his peers. For your histroy it might be genuinely painful.
Sakamoto Desu Ga? (Haven't you heard? I'm Sakamoto) is a show about an absolutely peerless individual finding absurd solutions to anything from his ridiculous perfection. BUT, there's some shallow forays into his occasional insecurities as well, fleshing him out quite well as a character and making the flawlessness more of an artistic exaggeration of a person with a certain set of skills and social rapport.
Both shows I think would be good to watch ACTUALLY during High School, for some perspective in your adolescence. They might be less known than Brakamon or The World God Only Knows, which have similar virtues. They're ultimately very warm, understanding shows, that you couldn't really make without a decent amount of perceptiveness towards other people.
I do think that Komi has one thing (perhaps the only thing) in her favor in navigating her problems, and that's her looks. Being quiet and withdrawn and having people mistake that for poise is something that only people with good looks can get away with. And then having multiple people try to help you and perhaps even seeing you clamming up because of your anxiety as "cute". Unattractive people have no such leeway given to them. IF anyone notices them at all they're not seen a poised, their anxiety attacks are not seen as cute, and no one wants to be bothered to talk to them, let alone help them. Not to be bitter, because Komi is a great and inviting way to get people introduced to mental illness who haven't been exposed to it, and Komi herself is a sweet girl who definitely deserves to be happy, but if we could have such an empathetic look at someone with Komi's problems who perhaps isn't drop dead gorgeous, 10/10, instant waifu material that would also be cool, too. Because to a lot of people it's easy to excuse a lot of things that would normally be seen as difficult to deal with as long as you're hot, but if you're not all people see is how "difficult" you are.
>Bocchi the Rock enters the chat
This is one of my favorite animes. As somebody with Aspergers, (which makes it almost impossible pick up social cues) I relate with her alot. And sure, when you watch the show it seems silly and cute, but on the inside it's a terrifying trial to step outside and talk to someone. What's even harder is people in the adult world who don't understand, thinking you are incapable of jobs because of it, so you search and search, yet every interview is the same mess. It's a trial to live every day. A struggle to convey your feelings into words, and instead the only thing you can do is scream inside your head because you don't know how to tell your thoughts without looking like a freak. But you can't stop. You have to move forward. Because you know in the back of your mind, if you stop, you'll be alone forever.
Or if you're like me, you can get into jobs and people in the workplace keep failing to understand that you can handle work situations but not social ones.
I have been alone for 38 years so far.
I like how my father, who was a medic, described OCD. (and yeah, I'm sure he was okay with the colloquial term) He pointed out that OCD isn't "just liking things to be perfect." Everyone likes to see all the shampoo bottles arranged by size with the labels facing out. OCD is when you needed need something to be perfect at the expense of everything else. If you're two hours late to work and still can't leave the house because you decided to just peel the labels off.. plus you might as well transfer them all the same size bottle.. and you'll get to that right after you finish scrubbing the toilet because that needs to be done.. Then that is true OCD. It's when your life and functionality suffers.
Damn, I feel really bad for doing nothing today. In all seriousness I'm glad that mental illness is slowly but surely being taken more and more seriously. My mother has OCD and I know how much it affects people in there day to day lives. Keep up the good work you absolute unit.
I was expecting this to be one of those videos where they try prove that Komi can communicate, and just faking her disability, but I'm bloody happy it wasn't and am bloody happy with this video. I've got a stutter, so I've been able to really relate with Komi, which is why I absolutely love the manga, and anime,. Awesome vid!
I used to stutter a LOT myself when I was young back in grade school.
When I first saw a people talking about Komi I took a little look at it and initially brushed it off as just a more idealized Watamote and didn't really pay attention to it any further, then this vid came out and proved me right. HOWEVER, while I was right about it being a more idealized Watamote it never occurred to me that is the reason why I should watch it. Also never thought I'd be sold on an anime with the sentence "a fantasy world where people can actually feel empathy".
Also yes, twitter is a living nightmare I wish I could escape from but that's where all the art people are nowadays.
that’s generally the vibe I got too, I didn’t feel like checking it out initially for that reason but I think I may consider it now. Though, I will still urge anyone who enjoys how the social anxiety aspects were done in Komi-San to check out Watamote, as even without having seen Komi-San yet, I just can’t picture it really impacting me to the same extent as Watamote did (a big part was probably the time I saw it tbf)
and especially since I’ve even seen some people trash on how Watamote did it while praising Komi-San, as I don’t really think that’s necessary at all and two animes about this topic can handle it in different ways and still be good in their own respects.
What I like about this series myself is that she knows its an issue and she herself is trying to put in the effort to do something to break out of it rather then taking the easy route many people seem to take and falling back into routine to convince herself that she shouldn't have to do anything about it and everyone else should bend over backwards to help her not have to deal with it and avoid the stress of her anxiety.
And having friends who not only nudge her to be social to try new things that require her to interact with people and normalize a sensation o familiarity to think 'this is okay, I can do this. Its not so bad.' But help her calm back down to a centered emotional state if it does get a little out of hand for her.
I love how the narrator says that "Just because someone has a Communication Disorder, doesn't mean they don't want to interact with others."
As someone on the autism spectrum, I am surrounded by people who try their best to understand what I go through and help me, kind of like Komi and her growing circle of friends. Though I am ridiculously awkward and am prone to anxiety, I want to improve myself as much as I can too.
I absolutely adore this sweet cinnamon roll of a character and wish nothing but good things for her.
I've been praying she got an anime adaptation for YEARS, because the manga has been one of my favorites of all time.
Komi is just amazing as a story personally. Crippling anxiety in anime when done well can hit close to home.
You nailed everything that I feel about this show especially the fairy tale part xD
"SOCIAL ANXIETY ISEKAI"
Where's MY track suit goddamit?!?!?!😋😎
11:04 - 12:16 goddamn, can I get an amen in here?!
I struggle with a visual disability. I once had a teacher who yelled at a few of my classmates for jokingly using the expression “what are you, blind?“ to each other. She told them it was very insensitive towards me and they shouldn’t say that, etc.
However, while I appreciated her concern… A. I didn’t even hear them say that at the time, and B. I don’t care that they said that anyway. The term “blind“ is often used colloquially and I understand they were just using it as an expression. It’s totally fine. 👍
I think you especially shouldn’t berate someone on someone else’s behalf without even getting their perspective.
>I think you especially shouldn’t berate someone on someone else’s behalf without even getting their perspective.
Man, for real. That's a lesson that a lot of people on the internet need to learn.
I’ve just recently started watching the anime and all i gotta say is that i love how it portrays social anxiety and communication disorders in general.
to me, the way Komi reacts to alot of situations throughout the episodes relates to me quite alot as there were many times where i would freeze up or stutter really hard when i had to go up to speak to the class.
thankfully tho after a bit of therapy and medications i’ve been able to sort of grow more by improving my anxiety (although it’s still there, just less worse than last year) and now i’m just kind of inspiring to be someone like Tadano who can understand what’s going on with others (as i suck at “reading the room” in general) and social cues are often difficult for me to understand.
hopefully as time goes on.. i’ll be able to get myself back up there to the point that i won’t have to deal with any form of severe anxiety in the future so i could be that type of person who helps others but for now, i need to work on myself to get there.
I kinda got off topic but overall.. i think your video perfectly described how this show is supposed to be and i really do wish we had that type of world shown in KCC where we had more people who are more empathetic to those with mental struggles/disorders just like how there is for physical disabilities
Thank you for this. I’ve been that crummy unsympathetic family member towards mental illness and it’s beautiful to see something I can work towards.
Bell gang here to appreciate uploads regardless of timezone before actually watching the video.
Edit now that I've actually watched the thing: I'm glad Komi is actually a good show. My friend got immensely turned off by the magical realm of the two massive pervs joining the entourage back-to-back and put it on the skip list. Which I do personally feel is a strike against it (despite witnessing far more depraved shit than that), it's that kind of in-your-face weeaboo degeneracy that can block out what little normie crowd anime has. But in spite of that, this show is too fucking wholesome in concept and execution, and I want it to be an amazing saccharine experience of concentrated diabeetus that'll make people go Big Bang Theory; in that maybe a few people that stumble upon this manga/show in some way recognize other people in their life dealing with a fraction of what Komi is going through.
Building on your point, Watamote is rough because that's the idea: being this way is a horrible experience, life sucks internally, and externally you just look like some kind of a retard. It evokes pain because that is the feeling that is being expressed, and a lot of people can't handle a trip down the Depression Express like that. In comparison, Komi is beyond palatable: drop-dead kawaii waifu, normalguy MC ft. omnipresent hair accessory, rambunctious genki gag character that actually has the capacity to serious up sometimes, and nothing bad really happens. It's not like Komi was abused as a child, or that her disorder only applies to men for the funnies, or that she grew up supremely sheltered and was waited on so heavily she never got the chance to practice. This is just how she is, people recognize that something's up and do their best to help, and it's fucking amazing. But then the coomsluts start asking to wear collars and murder sidewalks for their waifu, and it's an odd whiplash of pure kinky obsession in what's otherwise a really cute and sweet show.
This is kinda unrelated, but as an animator/artist the opening is absolutely stunning and needs to be appreciated more. I could go on for hours about how the use of colors and composition is absolutely genius and it is so visually pleasing, ok bye
Hey man, Monster Musume is god tier! Okay, maybe not God Tier, but the MC is cool. He loves his waifus, and will punch a bitch if you disrespect them.
That aside, just started watching Komi Can’t Communicate, and I adore it. Like you, I found myself identifying with Komi, and actually started tearing up when she was writing her problems on the chalkboard.
Great video, and I can’t wait to watch more of this show.
I love Monster Musume, but the premise is silly. Also yeah, I was surprised by Komi, how well she's handled, and how much empathy I felt for her.
@@absoluteunit30 Can’t disagree that the premise is silly.
If that universe was real, and the laws were the way they were in the series, jails would have an overpopulation problem. 🤣
@@EquesTron I think Interviews with Monster Girls and Monster Girl Doctor would be good for you then. The first is about how some monster girls live in a modern human society but, racily, only the humanoid ones referred to as Demi-humans. Like vampires, snow women, succubae, and even Dullahans.
Monster Girl Doctor is... a fantasy world more like Monster Musume except in a medieval setting and looking at health issues that would affect monster girls.
Then there's Interspecies Reviewers which is a good series despite the softcore porn premise that got it banned. Snowflakes can't handle a series that actually discusses sex with monster girls.
@@EquesTron to be fair, a lot of the sillier aspects of the laws get phased out as the series progresses.
The MC has to go through a lot of crap to be fair. His parent's house got transformed to be a monster human relations experiment villa, so its not like he's undeserving, he was just lucky/unlucky to be the one thrown in that situation.
Bro, the animators of komi anime has done 100 times more for mental illness and social anxiety than the government in Japan ever will.
Lol i actually was a guy like Tadano for a long time i was the help for about 10 different people with social anxiety or other disorders that makes life harder as it is. Now two years later im here watching this video and crying to myself cause i have never ever been helped by anyone besides myself and for some reason i kind of developed social anxiety and depressions and im sure there are other things. Thanks for your opinion tho. i know exactly how Tadano feels and kind of how Tomoko does..even tho im not an asshole i would say
Can you please do these non katsu videos more often? Don't get me wrong I love those videos as much as I love these videos but this is like a breathe of fresh air seeing your humor and opinions in a different shade and not just for us as you said it's good to get out of character every once in a while. Not begging you to do these more often if you don't wanna we're fine with katsu too but keep in mind whenever you want a break you're just as entertaining as katsu and if you wanna do videos as just you anytime we'll happily accept it
I do admit, I haven't seen it. I know absolutely nothing except Komi has social anxiety. However, I love this video anyway, and I think I might watch Komi Can't Communicate! Not to mention, I love the way they draw Komi when she freezes up, with those huge eyes and I want to draw like that someday!
I started watching for the deep voiced waifu, and here I am getting a deep thought provoking analysis to an anime I previously had no interest in.
As someone who has had social anxiety all my life and no one who really understood it, I appreciate how much more informed people are today then when I was a kid getting forced to interact with people and fake small talk while I wanted to hide in a corner.
I appreciate your story and you being willing to share your own troubles, dude. Wish you and your mental health are doing good!
Komi from a design standpoint is adorable as hell, especially in her chibi moments, but her issues are very relatable. I know The exact pain!
That was surprisingly tender. I don't normally do much but DIE laughing from your shows, but this one's got a special place.
I always felt that Komi is the main character we the viewer are to project on, and Tadano is the almost-realistic husbando anyone with difficulties expressing themself could hope for.
I don't normally comment, but this one hit too close to home for me not just to comment, but also to say thank you. I don't remember if they flat out say it, call it a different name, or only say it's a communication disorder, but what Komi suffers from is called selective mutism (I hate the name cause it makes it sound like a choice when it's far from it). An anxiety disorder that cripples you enough to be unable to talk, no matter how much you want to. Your anxiety overrides your own will. It can be a simple as only speaking a sentence or two at a time, to as serious as not being able to talk to anyone at all regardless of who they are like Komi is. Like I was growing up.
First of, your intro explaining it was simple and perfect. Chef's kiss, couldn't have explained it better myself. Even now after over a decade of talking, I still can never call someone. They either have to call me or I have to know they're expecting me to call. A lot of the anxiety doesn't go away. It just fades out just enough for you to say "Fuck it. I'm sick of this shit, I wanna talk." I wish I was kidding on how simple that thought process is, but I and a lot of other past selectively mute people I met experienced that. It's weird how that works.
And secondly, this is just my own experience so I can't say how others with the same problems had to deal with, but everyone idolizing Komi isn't as far off from the truth as you think. Is it highly exaggerated and in the wrong age group, oh for sure. For me, I was seen as the cool mysterious kid in elementary school. Kids were curious and just saw me as interesting cause they wanted to know why I was silent. Of course I didn't talk so them asking me why I didn't talk only got them me looking at them like they're were nuts. That interest leaves once you hit middle school, then no one cares either way. Never got bullied for it somehow. Got no ammo to work with I guess.
But anyways, thank you for talking about this show. It's a fantasy reality without question, but a very cute one that shows something I wish more series did: treat people with anxiety disorders like normal people and helps us like you would any other person if you see us struggling! If we need some specific help, we'll find a way to tell you or may even push through our struggle a bit if we feel safe enough around you.
nah man, I genuinely felt better about myself after watching this anime, I only wish I would've done more to try and make friends back in school, most people don't see social anxiety as a real issue, hell, if I didn't struggle with that shit for almost my whole life, I would feel the same...
anyway, great video, I know this was uploaded like a year ago, but still, good shit, man
When I was a Kid and Teenager I had huge social anxiety, I never had any real friends and moved around a lot thanks to being part of a split military family, so any friends I did make would be lost just as fast as I changed schools, and I stayed as a anxious mess until I started playing D&D. After a couple years of playing D&D I became much better at talking to others, as I had put myself into the mindsets of many characters and had played the game alongside actual friends who I grew my social skills alongside.
While I still have Anxiety focused on many other things, like the future, but Im now the most talkative introvert you will ever meet as long as its a topic im comfortable talking about. My Job primarily involved me talking to strangers all day, and while Im exhausted when I get home I don't feel that social anxiety anymore (or atleast its much smaller now, Dating is still very difficult and it doesnt help that im Asexual).
My advice to those who suffer bad social anxiety, if you can find a small group of kind people to play D&D with, do that. You play as somebody who ISN'T you, doing things that you yourself would never get the chance or have to do, and nothing you do or say in the game will impact your real life self, its the perfect test run for social skills. Once you get to talking in character it will become MUCH EASIER.
an easy and effective way to treat people with compassion and helping people with mental disorders is to WATCH SYMPHOGEAR
This show is so good. It reminded me how I was, and watching it now I can relate to this in a way it gives me flashbacks to memories I've forgotten.
Good show 5/5 and thanks for Absolute Unit for a great narration, that was beautiful
keep switching it up between videos with you and tonkatsu, I think a mix is really good. keep it up man, much love!
Never thought I'd be called out by an anime I watched this on Netflix around the time it first came out and I basically just related to komi the entire time
Bro, unironically one of the best anime review videos I have ever seen.
Thank you.
I had a pretty big comunication disorder and... unfortunatley i had no one to understand me. Somehow i managed to overcome it just by myself and now i'm your average 17 years guy, a little bit on the shy/doesn't like to talk to people but doesn't show (more or less Tadano). Right now i try to be like him and understand my friends that have problems comunicating. I really liked this anime and i even finished the manga (no spoilers). I hope that more people are going to pay more atention to their friends and help them get over it, as i had no one to and it was a nightmare.
It was hard for me to watch Komi, only got around to watching it a few months back. Seeing her have fun with friends and going out with them, being able to have a normal high school life made me jealous. I was distant for most of my high school life, and when I did go somewhere with friends, I'd be forgotten about even if I was just with two other people. Even in classrooms, I was forgotten and left out. I had friends, but they only spent time with me in class if no one else they knew where in it.
I do wish to see more videos like this, man.
I never met you IRL, but from this video you showed us how much of a Pure Human-being you truly are.
Damn I wondered where you went after your last channel. Glad I found ya again. Your voice, humor and way you articulate is very cool and very unique.
13:15 I suppose doing what you said in the video. Instead of bitching on people, I make sure my friends are "comfy" as hell. The kind that would almost fulfill Komi's life. You're definitely right on the fact that not everyone will have people Komi is surrounded with, and honestly, I think that's the sad part. Taking the time of day to spend time with a friend talking about their mental illness is still recently new to me due to the fact I had my own problems and did not realize theirs as well. We're all trying to cope in some way, and I'm glad I can handle myself enough to provide something for my friends the solace they needed. And once again, it's kind of thanks to you.
As someone who has similar issues with communication, depression, anxiety and repetitious behavior (AKA a Autist), I identify with Tomoko. I've been selfish, a bit of an asshole, and tbh, not really comfortable around other people. So I've resorted to just going to the internet as my main source of social interaction. And here, I've fallen into the same shitty habits when going online, especially on social media sites like Twitter. Cause I wanted to reach out to people so badly, and I wanted to just shoot the shit with anybody.
It feels good to get that immediate reaction from people whenever I left a reply that people agreed with. I saw this as real communication when it really wasn't. I took part in my fair share of public shaming, "woke" scolding, and just generally other pathetic behavior of someone that's constantly glue to the internet. And of course, I kept brushing it off to people I hated as well as disassociating myself with the people that engaged in those exact same behaviors that I indulged in. And I'll admit, I still do those things from time to time, and kept falling back on bad habits. But, I at least have a good mental framework to work with so that I could know when to stop and look in the mirror.
Not to treat the comments like a therapy session or anything, but I was just afraid of ending up alone, and so I ostracized myself and spent most of my interactions online because it's way easier. And so long as I didn't end up on somebody's bad side, I was satisfied with the result. But it just made me worse. I hate wasting my time interacting with people that I may or may not meet in real life and so I decided to get out of my comfort zone and actually engage in IRL interactions.
My current fixation is music, so I currently volunteer at a non-profit music and arts venue where I've made a whole lot of IRL new friends that encourage people to get out of their comfort zones and engage, but never forced them. I've also made some internet friends that also share the same passion in music that I do (specifically metal). They respect people for who they are and for that I'm learning more about what it means to interact with people far more than I ever did when I was terminally online. I'm still online quite a lot, but I've made deep and meaningful connections with people online as well as IRL, with a new sense of purpose. I feel more confident in myself now and I've been going out far more often over the past few years, and I'm able to hold meaningful conversations with people.
I've been Tomoko for quite some time, but, hell, even she managed to succeed at some point by making at least ONE new friend. And I strive to be more like end game Tomoko, AKA Komi. Someone who may still struggle with their communication skills, but has made enough improvements in their life to blossom into a positive, decent human being who just needs a little push here and there. This was a wonderfully done video that I hope not only serves as a wake up call for people who are chronically online, but also people who are struggling with their communication disorder.
TL;DR I'm a sperg that started as the virgin terminally online user and currently The Chad not as online IRL enjoyer.
I appreciate your work, it's great to learn more about you. Stay safe and keep up the great work
Beautifully written video.
Thank you.
Great video as always man. Cool to see your closer take on this series and even if it divulges into a rant, I enjoy that too. Keep up the good work!
My psychologist is a brilliant and compassionate man. It is he who has provided me with techniques and emotional support that has brought me thus far where I can sit in a semi-busy restaurant with my folks and not start shaking and lose the ability to transfer words from my brain to my mouth. I still have anxiety attacks, but they are few, far in between, and much less severe. I Zoom with him or talk over phone twice a week.
Damn this really made me reevaluate my life. Ive had a life very similar life to komi granted my mental health issues clouded me from seeing how absurdly well i had it even till now. Im like 25 and have bipolar disorder and autism, ever since i was like a toddler. So socially inept and emotionally turbulent. Very toxic combo. and despite all my sociopathic nonsense i STILL have people in my life that love me for who i am. And im a somewhat functional person. Granted im a total loser in my opinion who is more of a waste of space if anything. But seeing this video and you explaining how komi’s life is basically a fantasy when i thought it was normal to have some people who understood your problems. Thanks for this insightful video i will def be re-evaluating my adult life until this point.
I think everyone here - including Absolute Unit - are missing a certain detail, and that's the difference in attractiveness between the two characters.
Perhaps Komi is by default treated more favorably by everyone around her because - unlike Tomoko - she is an attractive girl. Heck, almost the entire class is simping for her because of how graceful she looks.
I'm not entirely sure if she would get the same treatment if she was a disheveled mess like Tomoko is. *Maybe* would still be approached by Tadano, who of course - being the pure hearted protagonist that he is - doesn't give a single care about Shouko's looks. Everyone else, not so sure.
My one comment is gone...
So Again than:
Tadano Is a good MC and the best Trap
Ps: love your video
Komi is wholesome af
Honestly it is nice to hear your opinion on Komi, I read the manga years ago and have yet so see the anime so I'll get on that in a bit. TBH my social skills were on par with Komi not that long ago but I started to lift, and went Uni, now I'm like one quarter of a functional human adult. Thanks for the video.
I love this anime because it gave me hope that there was a person that would befriend me even though I don’t talk. I just feel hated in school because there is this dumb meme about how the quiet kid will shoot you or something. Also I got that dumb anime trope where I look like I’m glaring at everyone because I have almond shaped eyes.
Hey unit I started this anime because of this video and I have been having a blast watching and have what I think is a new understanding of what it's like to deal with this issue and I'm trying t learn more about it so I can be friend people with this complicated situation thanks man for the the video and I hope u have a great holiday bro also on a side note I'm reading university days again for the season be safe and have fun this season bruddah
I'm happy you covered this anime. I just found it and started watching it and I love it. I relate to her, and seeing Komi make progress is amazing.
Well I for one love your voice no matter how much gravel you gargle.
I’m actually like that you compared Watamote to Komi can’t communicate. Bravo! Where are my live streams…?
8:38 ITS ABOUT DRIVE ITS ABOUT POWER WE STAY HUNGRY WE DEVOUR
Nice to hear from real you again. Don't have anything against Tonkatsu, but I do hope you won't completely replace your videos with hers )
Also Komi's dad is a gigantic fuckin Chad.
Great video unit. I love these kinds of videos just as much as your tonkatsu ones. Hope to see more of both in the future.
As someone with anxiety, I’d have loved Tadano in my life, but don’t worry, you can drag yourself out of it yourself, it’s just gonna hurt a lot more than with friends
I enjoy videos like this because I know I don't have a solid understanding of what certain mental illnesses are like and recommendations to watch shows like this help me be more empathetic to others. Kindness is too rare in the world, so thank you for this review and recommendation.
I'd like you to picture a lizardman standing up and giving thunderous applause.
Because that's me right now. Excellent video!
I really respect how you addressed the topic of mental illness in this video.
This is honestly a video that I'll be sharing with some people. So again, excellent video!
I knew this channel had something special. I’m glad I subscribed.
Well I'm definitely going to check it out now.
I've been aware of it for awhile but was worried it might irritate me because of my own near crippling social anxiety.
Komi is still beautiful
And so are you
And thank you for this beautiful video man
This video is absolutely the unit! Love it haha
"What have you done today?" brought me to tears.
Thank you.
Yo not early, but was waiting for him to cover this anime
I was one of those people with extreme social anxiety and had ALOT of issues growing up. Bullied etc so it took a good while before I became the person I feelt like inside (30s), outgoing, talkative etc. So for that reason whenever I see people who are shunned away from others, the weirdos and so on I usually love to talk to them cause after a while when they eventaully do open up they have the absolute best shit to say and talk about.
You know, I honestly thought that the Tonkatsu voice was a vocal filter or something. Cause, that sounds like it would hurt the throat after, about ten seconds.
The fact that you do the voice yourself is either impressive, or terrifying that you can handle that without damaging your vocal chords.
The definition at the start of each episode and Komi's unique bond with her father are among my favorite aspects of the show.
7:31 I think my favorite moment is when Komi and her dad go to the restaurant and just have a nice time; it's been awhile so sorry if I'm mistaken, but they just vibe and communicate in the way they're comfortable, and Komi's even comfortable enough to troll him a bit when he asks how she's doing at school before giving the real answer. It's such a sweet scene
I have no eloquent words. Just-
Thank you for making this.
As much as I love your waifu comedy style of videos, this is a really refreshing and interesting take on an anime that I really didn't expect from you. I can tell the story really did have an impact on you and you're way of breaking down mental illness in an articulate and empathetic way I found to be really captivating. Really cool that you can make videos that touch on some serious topics while still making me laugh my ass off! Great job, would love to see more of these in the future.
I also love this anime. I never had Social anxiety. But I grew up ASD so I still had difficulty committing. I actually feel I had a similar situation to Komi, I was very thankful to have support and understanding friends and teachers when I grew up on the farm. Great video. This is a great Anime.
I think another important part of the show is that they show social issues in characters besides Komi, since experiences with mental disorders are inherently subjective. While it’s nice to imagine a fantasy world where people make an effort to accommodate each other, it’s also kinda refreshing to see a character like Katai, since I’ve had similar experiences with my habits being perceived as intimidating or off-putting.
I recently tripped and fell down the Tonkatsu rabbit hole and as gut bustingly funny as the rest of the videos have been... this one... this one right here is the one that will keep me here. I hope you can do this now and again, as a given anime or topic warrants.
Hell, I am literally on medical leave from work right now due to my own issues functioning in social circles, thankfully, writing is not as terrifying as speaking. Shows like Komi are very much a balm to the soul, the real world is doing the best it can and I do have a few around me that at least pretend to understand. But yeah, many days I wish the 'fantasy' of an understanding world was not fantasy.
Any rate, hope you are still out there. Having a voice of deranged sanity is very important right now, even the distractingly 'sultry' tones of Tonketsu.
Thanks for introducing me to this show! Your video was great too
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I played Skyrim for almost 12 straight hours and spent way too much money DoorDashing Taco Bell. Thank you for asking.
Dude your view and explaination is just amazing
I want to hug you men. As a men with HDA I'm very lucky for having a mother that has informed herself about the illness all my live to known how to raise me better, a bunch of brothers and sister with different grades of the illnes to relate too and a great friend to hug wen I needed. I wish ye best for you and everyone with similar problems.
Thank you for your understanding, both about bein a socially awkward spaz like me, and also reaffirming what I always thought about Twitter, just a toxic breeding ground for miserable people and helping me hammer that thought home like a railroad steak
A lot of our problems would not be present if Social Media was not present.
You are still just as insightful as you have always been since the first time I saw your videos as DWK.
I am so happy to see you don't hate yourself as much as you've used to. Have a bro hug.🤗
I love how patient Tadano is with Komi whenever she tries to speak. He tells her to take her time and never rushes her. 😊❤
I had a friend that struggled hard with it fortunately, I was there to be a supportive aid. And in a way that my friend described it: "You are like a larger plane in a world of storm clouds that helps me to keep balance. Where there is turbulence your large wings ease the winds for me. Where thunder strikes your size takes most of it for me but not all, letting me learn."
It sounds strange but in a way, it makes sense as some may see the world differently. And my friend finally got the time to shine when during a competition where all that stress and angst spiraled out of control. I simply said to my friend: "stay in the moment, not in the past nor the future. Level out with your goal and when you see your moment, dive into it and claim it." And against even overwhelming odds my friend succeeded and it was a heartwarming moment to see all those chains brake loose and my friend's own wings spread wide to take flight.
To this day those I have helped dos the same as I do now for so many more, to help them to brake loose and find their comfort zone.
another vid that reminds me why i enjoy you man
I miss this voice man!! do more of this voice as well!!!
Absolutely loved this video, and may or may not have gotten a little choked up near the end.