Same. I didn't have my first alcoholic drink until my late 20s and never went to parties, never smoked, got good grades... At least some people peaked in high school before the downward spiral. I feel like I've been circling the drain since well before then.
ME TOO PAL...but i managed to find someone that loves me. 23 years being a virgin and having no parties in college is starting to pay up. I traded all my luck there to meet her.
I feel like a lot of adults get married and have children for the same reason a lot of teens start smoking. They just want to fit in and not look like they're stuck at an immature phase. Maybe they even think that getting married is something you do to get your shit together, rather than something you do AFTER you've gotten your shit together.
And then they find themselves in a loveless marriage divorce in about 2 years and created monster children that took all the wrong lessons from their parents because all they inherited was misery and anger and regret. Because the parents were not adult enough to be fucking parents in the first place. So now the world has to suffer the offspring of their own stupidity.
@@kidanarchy2105 I think the worst is that moment you finally lose a bunch of weight and think “thank god I dodged that bullet. I’ll never let myself get fat again!” And then immediately go to work at domino’s pizza for 11 years and gain 200 lbs. but now you’re old and fat and when you’re old you don’t lose fat as easily as when you’re young. So now I’m working a physically demanding job in construction while weighing 400lbs and my weight never goes down even if I don’t eat for a week.
Dude sameee I am trying desperately to fight food addiction its like how the fuck do i stop doing something that i literally need to do to survive? And sureeeee "eat less" but it only takes one bite of anything good or bad tasting for me to forget that. I am not even fat my body somehow keeps up with me but i can still feel all the other bad effects of it.
@@DaisyAzuras Luckily I'm not old yet (23, yay!). But weight loss is still really hard. Like, I have a terrible metabolism (which is annoying because my siblings and dad have *really* fast metabolisms. I got my mom's), plus thyroid issues. Like, I apparently almost went into a coma once, and I spent all of HS drowsy as hell. Oh and I looked like a fucking blimp in middle school because my problems were undiagnosed at the time.
Me at 18: Ah I don’t smoke, drink or do drugs! I got my life in order! Everything’s fine! Also me: **a completely non-functional mess with undiagnosed panic disorder and depression that spends his time playing videogames non-stop to emulate feelings of progression and success and getting upset at people with neopronouns in Tumblr to make up for the fact years of bullying left him socially stunted**
Guess who's taking all of this to heart? I do frequently think of myself as the "cool girl", admittedly, but unlocking your backstory is actually making me think about what getting drunk on people liking me could do later down the line. So, at the very least, know you helped one person.
Once I’m 30 I can afford all the goth shit I couldn’t as a kid and still not fit in. I’m still gonna wear my goth shit cause that makes ME happy and at the end of the day that’s what matters. Thanks DWK
This is almost exactly the advice given to me by my older brother back when I was still in high school, and I've never forgotten it. I still remember standing in the driveway talking with him, and him saying "You know what I was like in high school. Everybody knew me. When I graduated, I stopped talking to any of those people, except for 3. All the shit I did to be cool, to be popular, and everything I got for it evaporated the day I graduated. Look at where I am now. Don't do what I did, or you'll end up here, and it's not worth it." It was probably the best life advice I've ever received.
You will probably never know me personally but man am I glad I found you even if it is through a screen. Your positive negativity is just what i need/needed in my life. Because when you share your ideas in this way it feels like i actually learned a hard lesson but without a mental kick in the butt.... i guess i am trying to say is that your words are both rough and gentle at the same time unlike anyone else I have ever heard in my life. Just don't make it a gimmick or else it will lose the magic lol.
I try to speak bluntly when I talk about this kind of stuff. I'm hoping that if I convey just how badly I fucked up and how painful it is, it might shock someone into listening, and not making the same mistake. Thank you for listening. I'll try not to make it a gimmick lol.
This is actually a really good take. I’m definitely gonna keep this in mind. To be fair, I wasn’t planning on doing anything in these next three years of my high school life because I am incredibly boring and do not give a single shit about the lives of the majority of the people around me, but it’s still a cool perspective on things.
What surprises me the most when I think about it at the age of 25, is how much I truly forgot about high school. I’d have reach hard to the point that my brain hurt to recall 15 names and faces I went there with. I don’t even talk to who I considered my best friend anymore. I think both he and I can personally attest to this since we were good students who never got into trouble, but the other extreme is also true. Being a star student matters as much as being cool: it doesn’t. The last time I met this guy in person, I learned that he had also struggled to get his degree, still lived with his parents (I dropped out of my first college and have struggled to complete a business degree over 5-6 years) and we were both struggling with depression. That conversation was a somber warning that I needed to get the hell out of my hometown and never come back, lest I be trapped in my mother’s garage and perpetually victim to her demands until I lost my mind. I’m only doing a bit better because my university helped me do so. Of course addiction would’ve made everything worse, so I’d still pick child prodigy over the cool guy in a survival pending escape sense.
Me trying to rebuild myself up again after i got destroyed by a traumatic mental illness episode when i was 17. Was a completely average teenager before that point (No drugs, no alcohol etc...). Sometimes it really is just bad luck.
Ironically enough, I was one of the "good kids": never smoking, drinking, dating, or using drugs - was weird but at least liked books. Everyone thought I'd become an A+ student with a bright future but then Mental Illness happened and evened the playing field, lol, so to say Another thing that comes to my mind is how different our cultures are: in mine most ppl drink or smoke, cuz it's Russia and we have no drugs to deal with stress - so being an adult who doesn't smoke or drink makes ppl think I'm weird, lol Anyway, good video and good advice
You know I always kinda felt left out and down on myself through high school but when you put it like that. I'm glad I just stuck with my buddies and didn't cave to peer pressure
I kinda wish you started a podcast on Spotify or something, because I’d love to just listen to you ramble about random shit. Ranging from stories from your life to opinions on random shit “please not politics though”. Your voice is surprisingly fun to listen to.
I never have smoked or drank, and never had any interest in doing so. Not because of all the PSA's and junk, but because I never understood what made them cool to begin with. I never was able to grasp the appeal. I never really tried to be popular or cool or anything, either. I always thought it would be great if I was seen that way, but that wasn't ever a priority I went out of my way to accomplish. And yet, I'm still a miserable adult anyway, so something still went terribly wrong.
People use drugs for lots of reasons, depends on the substance. They feel good and allow you to have experiences of altered states of conciousness, which can be useful, fun, creative and enlightening. That's the appeal. Good feels and exploration of the mind. It's when they become a priority in life or when pathological behavior emerges around the usage that they become a problem. Cigarettes are a seductive because they are legal, widely available and have been part of our culture for so long but they are by far one of the most destructive drugs. Not all 'drugs' are harmful, but cigs and alcohol are arguably the worst.
@@DonnDeVoreMusic I do understand the appeal. What I meant was that I didn't for a long time. And by the time that I did, I had plenty of chances to see the long term drawbacks and decided it wasn't worth it. Feeling good in the moment doesn't sound so bad, but eventually you start to feel miserable unless you do it consistently.
My man, I'm glad to see you back and doing... Well I can't exactly say doing well, but I can say doing better. Part of what I enjoyed about your other content was the sense of sage wisdom that can only come from someone whose made a lot of mistakes and hopes to keep others from falling down the same path. You're hilarious, and a man who has some shit to say, even if he thinks that nobody cares. I care, and I'm glad to hear from you again. Hope you stick with us, hope you stay clean, and most of all, I hope you take care of yourself man.
I'm here from your old channel, and I don't care if this isn't pony content like you used to do, because your shit is good. It makes sense. Also I have anxiety and stuff but yeah. Yeah. Sure. Can deal.
"There's no more parties when you're 30" Can confirm, 31 and the last actual party I was at was 3 years ago. Save yourself the hangover and the money, stay sober.
For what it's worth, some of us managed to waste our youths even without drugs and alcohol, I was perfectly capable of making terrible life decisions even while sober. Good luck keeping off the cigarettes man
I feel like I have the opposite problem. Like, I didn't do a lot of hanging out with others, drinking, etc. but I'm in a rut. My anxieties stem from not having a well-paying job, having a mountain of student debt, and not being able to afford medicine, rent, and other bills with my income. This is not an uncommon problem. We live in a sick, sad world that's just getting sadder and sicker. Still, we should strive to improve our lives and the lives of others through our actions and words. That and dismantling the things that make us sad and sick. It's amazing to see you use your platform to help out the young people who are struggling through life and finding their identity.
It takes knowledge to realize someone else has a problem. But wisdom is admitting *you* have a problem. And using it to tell other people about that problem so they don't have to deal with it, legendary. Don't you ever let anyone tell you different!
God damn, the only thing that can match your fantastic humor is your ability to be so heart stabbingly sincere. If it's any consolation, your content, all the way back to your MLP days to now, has definitely help me out through tough times. And I'm confident I ain't the only one.
Lmao you made my dad laugh, he said you’re points are very valid too, he just quit drinking and smoking weed like a year ago so a lot of this resonates with him, that was awesome
Totally spot on about high school not mattering after it's over. The only thing about high school that still affects me are the occasional anxious dreams about how I forgot to do my homework.
I know its been well over a year since you made this, but thanks. I never did the parties, the drugs, the anything really. Sometimes I look back on high school and go "Damn I missed out" and I look at myself now, 21 and in a community college with the same close friends I had for four years. And I worry I missed out-but hearing you talk reassures Im where I am for a reason. And that I'll get where I'm going with time. Thanks Unit.
I just graduated high school and I'm kinda proud to say I never have done any drugs or vaped. All I've done was smoke was one cigar on graduation night like 2 weeks ago and it was fun until it gave me a stomach pain and made me shake lol. Was probably a bad idea to smoke a full fucking cigar my first time by myself on a mostly empty stomach lol. But it made for some cool pics and memories. I'll follow your advice. Don't really have any plans to make it a regular thing. Maybe there's something wrong with me but I just like feeling emotions. I don't want anxiety meds or OCD pills or anti-depressants. I don't want alcohol. I just want to feel real. And no matter how much pain I feel at least I know I'm a real, sentient being.
Good video. Makes me realize that my depressing high school experience molded me into the shockingly well adjusted 20 year old i am now. The future holds infinite possibilities. Do t run from them, run twards them with intent to fuck it up, cause u never know; that fuck up might just be the thing that gets you were you want.
This is kind of a nitpick, but no, being miserable all the time isn't normal or good, even for a teenager. Other than that, I agree with most of your points
This might honestly be the simplest way of explaining the subject matter I have ever seen. cant wait to try it out in 10 years when my niece is all fucked up.
As someone who turned 21 recently this is all starting to hit me now harder than ever. on some real shit, being the druggie and trippin out on all sorts of shit isnt cool when youre not in high school and i went through that journey myself
I wasn’t cool in high school and compensated by doing what you warn about in this video all through my 20s. The worst of it was a period where I tripped at every opportunity my tolerance would allow it for 4 straight years…and me and my friend group reinforced that this was cool…the myriad substance abuse issues ended with me dropping out of grad school for my dream field, which I regret to this day. I finally got a stable life now and but I feel so behind on learning to be an adult and I already feel old…I’m glad I learned the lesson of this video already but the fact that you made it and articulated so many of my feelings makes me like you even more.
Honestly, I never really had GOOD FRIENDS in high school. I never had a true clique. I just kinda did my work and talked with everybody and was friendly with everyone. I was in newspaper and TV Production (I wrote articles and made videos for the school's announcements program.). When I filmed with the football team, they were just being annoying, constantly asking if I was going to interview them or something. (At least when it was in their locker room.). You know what I did? I ignored 'em. I just wanted to get what I needed and get out. I didn't feel like I was missing anything. That said, the consequence of all that is now I don't know who among my peer group would have my back. I had some roommates in my first semester college (thanks COVID for messing that up), but they're lives seem very aimless as opposed to mine.... or at least they LOOK more aimless. I don't know if it's just the anxiety or if it's true, but I absolutely have no idea will stick up for me, because it's me, ya know. I mean, I know my family will, but that's what their SUPPOSED to do. Who would actively CHOOSE to stick by me. I had this moment, at my high school Senior Awards where I presented an Award. (I wasn't nominated because there were a bunch of other people that had more active presences and personalities than mine, but I wanted to be like that presenter on an award's show.) Anyway, I go out on stage, and I actually get some active applause... not like the other presenters, and I SOAKED THAT [BEEP] IN. I did an "I'm the King of the world" pose and everything and that just egged 'em on more. The thing is.... I don't know if it was applause because they were happy to see me present and they knew I was going to do a good job or if it was because I AMUSE them. You know what Brad Pitt said to Matt Damon in Ocean's Eleven, "Don't shift your weight, look always at your mark but don't stare, be specific but not memorable, be funny but don't make him laugh. He's got to like you then forget you the moment you've left his side." That last part is what worries me. Yeah, I didn't get screwed up by drugs or alcohol and all that, but am I so incapable of making true friends that that's what I'll become for people my age. I have NO IDEA how much this actually relates to what you said but that's what I was thinking of. Thanks for sharing your experience, man. Love hearing you talk!
I don't know how I stumbled on this video and this channel tonight, but I'm glad I did. Something about this video is really comforting to me. I myself was never "that guy" in my youth. Was sober, hard-working, straight-A's in high school, had a fierce independent streak while paradoxically desperately trying to fit in and be accepted. I wouldn't ever have described myself as popular, but people knew me, and I had a group of friends I liked that liked me. It's probably nostalgia goggles, but the sad truth is I look back at high school as some of the happiest years of my life, a fact which depresses me to no end. Made it through college, but it was a struggle; I became depressed, overweight, and my social skills kind of eroded away from lack of practice, which made me isolated. Now, I'm a few years short of thirty, and I'm in a relatively better place with a pretty good-paying job in a city I like living in, but my social life is still practically nonexistent, and I still feel stuck in a field I was never super interested in that I only pursued so that I wouldn't ever have to worry about bills. I'm getting better with at least trying to keep up with my hobbies and with putting myself in uncomfortable situations and taking better physical care of myself, but the depressive spirals still happen the discipline/motivation ratio for working out and for my artistic pursuits teeters constantly, and I'm still socially isolated outside of work. Just goes to show I guess that you can do everything right based on what is generally agreed upon as good adult skills, and still come out with problems I suppose.
Young 18 year old viewer here, and honestly, the fact you "were that kid" makes your advice a whole lot more meaningful. I heard it all the time during high school, "it won't matter, people won't care after high school, you'll lose touch with friends and cliques won't be a thing anymore", but still having to suffer with 4 more years of insecurity, feeling out of place, and watching the most asshole drug-addicted boys or fakest bitchiest blonde girls getting all the friends and attention kept tearing a hole in me. But, now being graduated, I look forward to not worrying or feeling that shitty outcasted feeling anymore, and I just worry about the kids who think acting irresponsibly is worth it.
It's never too late to change and be better though. I left home one day a year before graduating college due to then undiagnosed mental illness and basically made a helluva lot of bad choices for two years before deciding being homelessness and self destructing was not working for me. Time skip a few years after, getting professional help and through the encouragement of very good friends, I'm working full-time now, studying for my bachelor's full-time, all while slowly but surely grinding to climb the corporate ladder and actively managing my BPD. Shit's tough, but, like that song you quoted: I get knocked down, but I get up again. It's never too late to better yourself. You're never too old to want and endeavour to be better.
Powerful. One of the best public service announcements for young people that I've ever heard. I'm not even joking when I say that this video should be played in every jr high and high school in the world. And ironically, the people who don't fit in as kids often make the best adults. Why? Because studying, staying out of trouble, staying in shape, planning for the future, etc, isn't cool when you're a teenager. But, y'know, there's always exceptions. Me? I was a clean, sober, hard-working, straight-A student. Now, I'm 35, severely clinically depressed, crippled by social anxiety, never had a job, just an absolute mess. So, you never know.
I have no problem dressing the way I did as a teenager because I was boring and only wore jeans and generic t-shirts. In fact, I still have some of the clothes I had as a teenager and still wear them because I barely changed physically, even though it's been close to a decade now.
Every channel I watch, I get the same two ads for how Fitbit can improve my skipping and why I should buy crm software for my scooter business. Here I got an ad for a girls boarding school where angsty teens can learn beekeeping…
**hugs** I know you might not feel like getting them, but everyone deserves to feel loved. I may not have been "that guy" in high school, but I did waste my childhood. it sucks. I love that you made this video to help kids who might find themselves where you were. it says a lot about your character. i hope that some kids will listen to your words and take it to heart.
I could never do drugs or alcohol, not trying to be like high moral horse asshole... just for the simple reason that the idea of putting something inside me that effects my thinking terrifies me. I already make enough poor decisions without my mental faculties being distorted.
man, sometimes I wonder how I may have missed out on shit & memories as a teenager 'cause I lacked the need of getting shitfaced with whatever with at the time childhood friends. I was fine nerding out home, I'm happy to be the good kid. I didn't get the obsessiveness of my chemical romance and whoever the band of the month was, the need to go to concerts.. I hate masses of people, gives me anxiety. I'm probably ultra boring but that's OK, who cares what everybody thinks, as long as you're good with yourself. still struggling with mental health & the very accepting of myself but I'm still kicking and breathing =] who knows about next year tho - for over 15 years now I've had this feeling in my bones, like in the core that I'm not going to live past 30, can't explain why it comes stronger at times and goes to sleep for some time, maybe darker side of depression rearing it's head, who knows. thanks for the vid man, you rock ❥
Upon the estacy offering at 30 -- "What is wrong with this guy's life, what is he trying to escape..." had those thoughts at 17, have done more addictive stuff closer to 40.... I'm going to go think about this. Seriously ^^
I mean, there's still parties, but they're depressing, because you're just hanging out with all the other people who haven't really figured their shit out yet. Also there'll be that one guy who still kind of likes to get fucked up on weekends, but he's married and maybe has a kid. So he brings his wife to the party. The stereo is blasting some 90's/00's rock music, but out of one ear, you're hearing some slightly smashed chick asking the guy and his wife about their marriage. "So how long have you guys been together?" "Well, we met in blah blah blah and we just had our Xth anniversary, but that's since we met, we've only been married for Y years." "I'm so happy for you. So the baby's how old?" "She was born in la-dee-da-dee-da whatthefuckever, so it's been Z months etc. etc. etc." On one side, you've got a stereo blasting some msi song, and on the other, you've got this conversation. Suddenly it dawns on you that this music is like 15 years old, and all the people who made it are probably married and have kids as well. They were adults when you were a teenager, they're like 40 now. Young people who hear this music today think of it the same way you thought of songs from the 80's and before - that's some old shit. It's too loud. You came here to see some friends, but one of them didn't show up and the other's trying to get drunk enough to hit on that one chick who was gonna be here tonight, so he's not really trying to hang out and chat. You're just standing there with a beer surrounded by people you don't know, and don't have the energy to engage anyone beyond a nod and some "meh" kind of facial expressions here and there. You don't need any new friends. Suddenly, you wish you were at home watching netflix, and that's when the party's over.
Great advice, many people need that stuff to be pumped into their minds. I'm one of those people, was like 5 years ago. I'm ten years younger than you, but I do feel like there is no going back. I dropped out of a medical university willingly, I started practising drawing art, even got some art courses to be a professional artist, but it's been 3 years now, and I still don't have much, my art sucks and I am not successful at all, I feel like I should have finished that med university, but there is no going back and I definitely don't have brains for that now. I keep drinking and smoking stuff so that I would feel less miserable, but it doesn't help, not by a long term. I still have like a lot of time, but I dunno about that. Great advice about friends, only of the friends you meet in school and college are gonna stay, the rest will be gone before you notice
I pretty much had this long term perspective even when I was a kid. I looked at the behaviour of responsible adults and compared it to the behaviour of unresponsible teenagers and concluded that I should just skip that phase. I remember when I was 10 I was afraid of becoming a teenager because I though I'd automatically become an idiotic douchebag. I think a big thing that helped was that I had friends that were semi-autistic dorks so I didn't have to bother with trying to fit in, those friends even stuck with me through my brony phase.
and here i was thinking i was weird, midway through my 20's and having not a damn thing to show for myself sense highschool other then not being in jail and not being a drug addict. hearing this from you both gives me a little optimism for my future and makes me afraid that its going to take even longer to get my shit together then i thought. i legit thought you where either fresh out of highschool or fresh out of collage when you started making videos on the other channel. this and other comments in this comment section have kind of rocked my world view a little.
I have always appreciated your style and humor, and I loved when you let your rants flow, and this channel is the best of that aspect. Thanks for returning, I missed your brand of content. Pony video or not I enjoy your stuff! Thank you!
Wow. I did not expect that you were bascially THE cool kid at school. I've seen those when I was young, and whenever I was at such a party it was basically drinking, small-talking and turning the music up so loud that you couldn't actually talk, and it even hurt the ears. Most of them dropped to an easier tier of school around 8th grade (Germany has 3 tiers after elementary school: practical, in-between, and intellectual, with the latter being the hardest). Some of them were bullies, so in their cases I was glad to be rid of them, but I felt bad for the others. But you're right: What you do at school doesn't matter in later life. For me that was actually quite a relief, getting to start a "New Game+", i.e. at the university I met new people, but they were more mature and not bullies, and the lectures were more up my alley on average compared to school (also university is literally about 100 times cheaper here compared to the USA, so I understand any US American who doesn't want to go there). I think I'm still socially awkward, but I'm getting better and at least I'm not a soccer hooligan or something like that. Maybe I'll even find a girlfriend one day who isn't too busy to have more than a placebo relationship. Would be nice. I'm nearing the end of my 30s, too. Anyway, I'm glad that you haven't given up the fight to turn things around with the drugs and stuff. I'm not sure if some random commenter can do anything to help, but if you ever need another distraction aside from creating stuff, we all could play some online games together and chat over Teamspeak. Preferrably some co-op thing, because people have different skill-levels.
You can consider combining this topic with finding one's identity, I think both topics link well. Kids emulate other people either because they want to fit in, or it's because they don't know any better. By the time they knew better it will be too late.
I used to be a big shot theater kid in high school, thought I might become a famous actor some day. Instead, I dropped out of university because I was having anxiety attacks, failed to start a gaming channel on RUclips, and started working a 9-5 office job. My only saving grace is that I spend my summer weekends as a volunteer street performer at the Renaissance Faire, where I get to pretend to be a big shot theater kid again as I rapidly inch toward 30. tl;dr: Your words have touched me in places my therapist never could.
You know what the funny part of life is? When you never smoked, never took any drugs, hardly drank and still needed 10 years after school to arrange your life in a way that doesn't make you jump off a cliff. I got a job for more than 2 years now, a small family to myself and a big one for support and i feel your message. :) I came from your pony videos and I will stay for the wisdom.
yeah you're right but sometimes you do something you think is cool, you feel cool, and you find people who also think is cool you can meet friends for life, just look for people like you First day in university, I came a little late, my whole group is waiting outside class, talking joking, getting themselves known. And there is one skinny guy away from them, leaning on the wall and playing some waifu gacha game on his phone. I knew immediately that he is my man. Or back in middle school, first day, all kids are trying to get along with themselves, and there is one man sitting in class and reading Gulag Archipelago. This book made adults cry and we were like 12. He was cool to and we're still friends.
I have never smoked. But honestly, all those "SMooKIING BUUUD!" videos in school made me so annoyed by the way they talked down on us like we were stupid, that I almost wanted to smoke just to have some sort of symbolic middle finger to those videos. Emphasis on ALMOST. (Kids are stupid and we were all one). If they showed me this video, of a stickman head smoking with DWK saying the stuff he said in this, I would've taken it more to heart and been glad he said this, rather than feeling like the people telling us saw us as nothing but stupid fleshsacks of bad decision making.
Man when i was a teenager. I was just like you are now. Now my life is the oppsite. I have stuff togeather. I feel like you being this way and talking to others dose more parenting than any person who is a parent today.
As a teen who used to struggle with acne drugs and alchohal in my mind were a gateway to looking even worse which is the last thing I needed. Also early death, can't forget that.
I just found your channel and i like what you have to say so far. I think i am around the same age as you, in my 30s. and i feel the same, most people my age have already started their families, have their lives together, etc... I kinda do. but kinda don't. still... At least, i dont feel like ive accomplished anything so far, but maybe thats the depression speaking.
Weird how I’ve been in this state of midlife crisis worrying about the future since I was a literal child and somehow still don’t have my shit together... huh
I was definitely not the cool kid in school, I was the bullied nerd by far. Though I was always surrounded by people who drank and did drugs I never did them myself, not because of PSAs or parents telling me it's bad, but because I saw what that shit did to my family first hand. 1 of my uncles would drink heavily and when he did he turned into a monster, seeing him back hand his wife in person, strike his kids and threaten to hit anyone who dared cross him. Seeing my own brother go down a similar route, which he finnaly got off of thankfully, these were just 2 of almost a dozen druggies and alcoholics I saw in my own family,, seeing all of that growing up made me realize I wanted something different so I went down a much harder road and that is to not give in to the temptations that have consumed most of my family.
Thanks for making that video on the other channel. Wouldn't have made it here if it wasn't for that. Nice to see you back, and I'm realy happy that you enjoy creating content. Have a great one.
I wasn't even that guy and yet here I am, an alcoholic without friends and failed my degree and was never even the cool guy. anyways thats why I play an instrument to feel like I am something.
I have to disagree with you on one point the party does not stop once you hit your 30s my wife and I are in our early 40s and we still party like we're in our twenties the only difference is we have more responsibilities now so we don't get to party as often
The main thing that got me through depression when I was younger was my friends, but the second thing that keeps me going day to day ever since is spite. It's probably a terrible reason but spite towards other people is why I cope as well as I do.
I was wondering where this was going, by the end of it I realized this is profound. And that some of it ought to be taught in schools. Nobody tells you the cool people can't stop themselves from fucking up their own life when their older. Why should they have power over you or get you to feel inferior about yourself? don't let em/.
There was a Stephen King book that got banned: Rage. In it, the main character takes his class hostage. His demands? He wants his classmates to open up honestly and actually talk to each other. A lot of feelings and trauma comes out. And the consensus is that it's fairly normal. After that, they start putting aside social cliches and assumptions and try to help each other. We're all just people, everywhere.
I kinda wish I was a teacher so I could play this video in the beginning of every semester for my class. This is a really important video for teens to see, IMO.
Dam i really want to lobby this presentation at my highschool to deter smoking and drugs there. It was wild over there. It was an elite rich type of school and yea. Money really makes it easier to get those things.
Hey man, when you recognize whats going on, thats the first step. Even the worlds most successful people sometimes were complete failures until the second half of their lives. Just look at people like David Goggins, Charles Darwin, or Heny Ford himself. All 30-50 something years old before they turned life around. Love the videos and i think youre doing some good shit here, keep trucking man🤘🏻
I was also that kid, but thankfully my parents took me out of school and started me on cyber school sophomore year which gave me enough time to realize all this and get my life on track
I'm 16 and I knew you back on your other channel and I'm glad I got this video and your others so I can use em' as references. This video really speaks to me and I'll make sure to use your advice here. I'm also happy you're back on RUclips
Bruh, you were a cool teenager who's a miserable adult now. I sucked as a teenager and I still suck now.
Me to bro
Same
being at square one would be nice if i could find the fuckin board game
Same. I didn't have my first alcoholic drink until my late 20s and never went to parties, never smoked, got good grades... At least some people peaked in high school before the downward spiral. I feel like I've been circling the drain since well before then.
Jokes on you, I was a very unpopular teenager and I'm still a terrible adult
Can confirm i was unpopular and now im n adult who cant adult
@@AngelWingsYT Accuracy 100
Preach sister
Same…
ME TOO PAL...but i managed to find someone that loves me. 23 years being a virgin and having no parties in college is starting to pay up. I traded all my luck there to meet her.
I feel like my mind is being dissected by your words- I’ve never been exposed to this level of honesty before.
Exactly
Yeah, I can see this around me
I’m in my 40’s and just got divorced and have nothing and no direction. This helped me.
good luck dude
Your pfp and name dont match that description lol
@@andrewjennings7306 I’m a brony so that pfp is my oc. The name is the name of my real life horse.
I feel like a lot of adults get married and have children for the same reason a lot of teens start smoking. They just want to fit in and not look like they're stuck at an immature phase.
Maybe they even think that getting married is something you do to get your shit together, rather than something you do AFTER you've gotten your shit together.
Most people these days can't even find dates.
And then they find themselves in a loveless marriage divorce in about 2 years and created monster children that took all the wrong lessons from their parents because all they inherited was misery and anger and regret. Because the parents were not adult enough to be fucking parents in the first place.
So now the world has to suffer the offspring of their own stupidity.
@@ceresbane Well I am sure divorce rates and shit are beyond 50% nowadays.
I had a weird aversion to smoking, drinking, and drugs all my life. So instead I ate everything I found in my house.
Bro same. Food addiction is the fucking worst.
@@kidanarchy2105 I think the worst is that moment you finally lose a bunch of weight and think “thank god I dodged that bullet. I’ll never let myself get fat again!” And then immediately go to work at domino’s pizza for 11 years and gain 200 lbs. but now you’re old and fat and when you’re old you don’t lose fat as easily as when you’re young. So now I’m working a physically demanding job in construction while weighing 400lbs and my weight never goes down even if I don’t eat for a week.
Dude sameee I am trying desperately to fight food addiction its like how the fuck do i stop doing something that i literally need to do to survive? And sureeeee "eat less" but it only takes one bite of anything good or bad tasting for me to forget that. I am not even fat my body somehow keeps up with me but i can still feel all the other bad effects of it.
@@DaisyAzuras Luckily I'm not old yet (23, yay!). But weight loss is still really hard. Like, I have a terrible metabolism (which is annoying because my siblings and dad have *really* fast metabolisms. I got my mom's), plus thyroid issues. Like, I apparently almost went into a coma once, and I spent all of HS drowsy as hell. Oh and I looked like a fucking blimp in middle school because my problems were undiagnosed at the time.
Oh shit that's me too
What makes you special as a content creator that I will always enjoy is your brutal honesty about the world as you see it and yourself.
This. This so much.
This needs to be played in all public schools when it's raining during PE.
yeah, and teenagers would still not change. You cannot win against stupidity. In the kids and more importantly, their parents.
Me at 18: Ah I don’t smoke, drink or do drugs! I got my life in order! Everything’s fine!
Also me: **a completely non-functional mess with undiagnosed panic disorder and depression that spends his time playing videogames non-stop to emulate feelings of progression and success and getting upset at people with neopronouns in Tumblr to make up for the fact years of bullying left him socially stunted**
Jesus dude.
@@evaporatednut9824 Hey man, at least I'm better now
Guess who's taking all of this to heart? I do frequently think of myself as the "cool girl", admittedly, but unlocking your backstory is actually making me think about what getting drunk on people liking me could do later down the line. So, at the very least, know you helped one person.
Once I’m 30 I can afford all the goth shit I couldn’t as a kid and still not fit in. I’m still gonna wear my goth shit cause that makes ME happy and at the end of the day that’s what matters. Thanks DWK
That was the warmest, kindest 'gfy' I've ever heard.
This is almost exactly the advice given to me by my older brother back when I was still in high school, and I've never forgotten it. I still remember standing in the driveway talking with him, and him saying "You know what I was like in high school. Everybody knew me. When I graduated, I stopped talking to any of those people, except for 3. All the shit I did to be cool, to be popular, and everything I got for it evaporated the day I graduated. Look at where I am now. Don't do what I did, or you'll end up here, and it's not worth it."
It was probably the best life advice I've ever received.
"ever see a 40 year old still wearing goth stuff, or punk?" I'm in this picture and I don't like it. He ain't wrong, though, folks.
You will probably never know me personally but man am I glad I found you even if it is through a screen. Your positive negativity is just what i need/needed in my life. Because when you share your ideas in this way it feels like i actually learned a hard lesson but without a mental kick in the butt.... i guess i am trying to say is that your words are both rough and gentle at the same time unlike anyone else I have ever heard in my life.
Just don't make it a gimmick or else it will lose the magic lol.
I try to speak bluntly when I talk about this kind of stuff. I'm hoping that if I convey just how badly I fucked up and how painful it is, it might shock someone into listening, and not making the same mistake. Thank you for listening. I'll try not to make it a gimmick lol.
This is actually a really good take. I’m definitely gonna keep this in mind. To be fair, I wasn’t planning on doing anything in these next three years of my high school life because I am incredibly boring and do not give a single shit about the lives of the majority of the people around me, but it’s still a cool perspective on things.
What surprises me the most when I think about it at the age of 25, is how much I truly forgot about high school. I’d have reach hard to the point that my brain hurt to recall 15 names and faces I went there with. I don’t even talk to who I considered my best friend anymore.
I think both he and I can personally attest to this since we were good students who never got into trouble, but the other extreme is also true. Being a star student matters as much as being cool: it doesn’t. The last time I met this guy in person, I learned that he had also struggled to get his degree, still lived with his parents (I dropped out of my first college and have struggled to complete a business degree over 5-6 years) and we were both struggling with depression. That conversation was a somber warning that I needed to get the hell out of my hometown and never come back, lest I be trapped in my mother’s garage and perpetually victim to her demands until I lost my mind. I’m only doing a bit better because my university helped me do so.
Of course addiction would’ve made everything worse, so I’d still pick child prodigy over the cool guy in a survival pending escape sense.
Me trying to rebuild myself up again after i got destroyed by a traumatic mental illness episode when i was 17. Was a completely average teenager before that point (No drugs, no alcohol etc...). Sometimes it really is just bad luck.
Ironically enough, I was one of the "good kids": never smoking, drinking, dating, or using drugs - was weird but at least liked books. Everyone thought I'd become an A+ student with a bright future but then Mental Illness happened and evened the playing field, lol, so to say
Another thing that comes to my mind is how different our cultures are: in mine most ppl drink or smoke, cuz it's Russia and we have no drugs to deal with stress - so being an adult who doesn't smoke or drink makes ppl think I'm weird, lol
Anyway, good video and good advice
You know I always kinda felt left out and down on myself through high school but when you put it like that. I'm glad I just stuck with my buddies and didn't cave to peer pressure
You made the right choice. That's good to hear.
I was a teenage once and I chose to be crazy about my little pony and anime, yeah I don't know where I went wrong. 🙄😅
trust me you did right or at least much better than most who decided to fuck up their life early.
@@darkmario720 Encouraging.
You could've chosen a whole lot worse
This world simultaneously deserved and didn't deserve to be graced by George Carlin. RIP, you massive legend.
Not the hero we deserved, but the hero we needed.
I kinda wish you started a podcast on Spotify or something, because I’d love to just listen to you ramble about random shit. Ranging from stories from your life to opinions on random shit “please not politics though”. Your voice is surprisingly fun to listen to.
I never have smoked or drank, and never had any interest in doing so. Not because of all the PSA's and junk, but because I never understood what made them cool to begin with. I never was able to grasp the appeal. I never really tried to be popular or cool or anything, either. I always thought it would be great if I was seen that way, but that wasn't ever a priority I went out of my way to accomplish. And yet, I'm still a miserable adult anyway, so something still went terribly wrong.
People use drugs for lots of reasons, depends on the substance. They feel good and allow you to have experiences of altered states of conciousness, which can be useful, fun, creative and enlightening. That's the appeal. Good feels and exploration of the mind. It's when they become a priority in life or when pathological behavior emerges around the usage that they become a problem. Cigarettes are a seductive because they are legal, widely available and have been part of our culture for so long but they are by far one of the most destructive drugs. Not all 'drugs' are harmful, but cigs and alcohol are arguably the worst.
@@DonnDeVoreMusic I do understand the appeal. What I meant was that I didn't for a long time. And by the time that I did, I had plenty of chances to see the long term drawbacks and decided it wasn't worth it. Feeling good in the moment doesn't sound so bad, but eventually you start to feel miserable unless you do it consistently.
Fucking same my dude.
My man, I'm glad to see you back and doing... Well I can't exactly say doing well, but I can say doing better. Part of what I enjoyed about your other content was the sense of sage wisdom that can only come from someone whose made a lot of mistakes and hopes to keep others from falling down the same path. You're hilarious, and a man who has some shit to say, even if he thinks that nobody cares. I care, and I'm glad to hear from you again. Hope you stick with us, hope you stay clean, and most of all, I hope you take care of yourself man.
Man, this would probably actually work better than an official PSA if it were played in schools.
I'm here from your old channel, and I don't care if this isn't pony content like you used to do, because your shit is good. It makes sense.
Also I have anxiety and stuff but yeah. Yeah. Sure. Can deal.
Teenagers can't possibly be cool. It is scientifically impossible. That being said, I agree with this video.
"There's no more parties when you're 30"
Can confirm, 31 and the last actual party I was at was 3 years ago. Save yourself the hangover and the money, stay sober.
This tbh.
For what it's worth, some of us managed to waste our youths even without drugs and alcohol, I was perfectly capable of making terrible life decisions even while sober. Good luck keeping off the cigarettes man
I feel like I have the opposite problem. Like, I didn't do a lot of hanging out with others, drinking, etc. but I'm in a rut. My anxieties stem from not having a well-paying job, having a mountain of student debt, and not being able to afford medicine, rent, and other bills with my income. This is not an uncommon problem. We live in a sick, sad world that's just getting sadder and sicker. Still, we should strive to improve our lives and the lives of others through our actions and words. That and dismantling the things that make us sad and sick. It's amazing to see you use your platform to help out the young people who are struggling through life and finding their identity.
That genuine plea at the end broke me. Im glad you're doing better, seriously
It takes knowledge to realize someone else has a problem. But wisdom is admitting *you* have a problem. And using it to tell other people about that problem so they don't have to deal with it, legendary. Don't you ever let anyone tell you different!
God damn, the only thing that can match your fantastic humor is your ability to be so heart stabbingly sincere. If it's any consolation, your content, all the way back to your MLP days to now, has definitely help me out through tough times. And I'm confident I ain't the only one.
So, by process of elimination, as the least cool teenager in the school, I must be an *awesome* adult. Another victory for logic.
Lmao you made my dad laugh, he said you’re points are very valid too, he just quit drinking and smoking weed like a year ago so a lot of this resonates with him, that was awesome
Totally spot on about high school not mattering after it's over. The only thing about high school that still affects me are the occasional anxious dreams about how I forgot to do my homework.
I know its been well over a year since you made this, but thanks. I never did the parties, the drugs, the anything really. Sometimes I look back on high school and go "Damn I missed out" and I look at myself now, 21 and in a community college with the same close friends I had for four years. And I worry I missed out-but hearing you talk reassures Im where I am for a reason. And that I'll get where I'm going with time. Thanks Unit.
I just graduated high school and I'm kinda proud to say I never have done any drugs or vaped. All I've done was smoke was one cigar on graduation night like 2 weeks ago and it was fun until it gave me a stomach pain and made me shake lol. Was probably a bad idea to smoke a full fucking cigar my first time by myself on a mostly empty stomach lol. But it made for some cool pics and memories.
I'll follow your advice. Don't really have any plans to make it a regular thing. Maybe there's something wrong with me but I just like feeling emotions. I don't want anxiety meds or OCD pills or anti-depressants. I don't want alcohol. I just want to feel real. And no matter how much pain I feel at least I know I'm a real, sentient being.
Good video. Makes me realize that my depressing high school experience molded me into the shockingly well adjusted 20 year old i am now. The future holds infinite possibilities. Do t run from them, run twards them with intent to fuck it up, cause u never know; that fuck up might just be the thing that gets you were you want.
You know, that point about the “cool kid’s” life always seeming more interesting and enjoyable actually helped me out a lot. Thanks.
This needs to be played in every highschool everywhere.
This is kind of a nitpick, but no, being miserable all the time isn't normal or good, even for a teenager. Other than that, I agree with most of your points
This might honestly be the simplest way of explaining the subject matter I have ever seen.
cant wait to try it out in 10 years when my niece is all fucked up.
As someone who turned 21 recently this is all starting to hit me now harder than ever. on some real shit, being the druggie and trippin out on all sorts of shit isnt cool when youre not in high school and i went through that journey myself
I still wear my high school and college clothes since they fit me and I don't like buying clothes.
I wasn’t cool in high school and compensated by doing what you warn about in this video all through my 20s. The worst of it was a period where I tripped at every opportunity my tolerance would allow it for 4 straight years…and me and my friend group reinforced that this was cool…the myriad substance abuse issues ended with me dropping out of grad school for my dream field, which I regret to this day. I finally got a stable life now and but I feel so behind on learning to be an adult and I already feel old…I’m glad I learned the lesson of this video already but the fact that you made it and articulated so many of my feelings makes me like you even more.
Honestly, I never really had GOOD FRIENDS in high school. I never had a true clique. I just kinda did my work and talked with everybody and was friendly with everyone.
I was in newspaper and TV Production (I wrote articles and made videos for the school's announcements program.). When I filmed with the football team, they were just being annoying, constantly asking if I was going to interview them or something. (At least when it was in their locker room.). You know what I did? I ignored 'em. I just wanted to get what I needed and get out. I didn't feel like I was missing anything.
That said, the consequence of all that is now I don't know who among my peer group would have my back. I had some roommates in my first semester college (thanks COVID for messing that up), but they're lives seem very aimless as opposed to mine.... or at least they LOOK more aimless.
I don't know if it's just the anxiety or if it's true, but I absolutely have no idea will stick up for me, because it's me, ya know. I mean, I know my family will, but that's what their SUPPOSED to do. Who would actively CHOOSE to stick by me.
I had this moment, at my high school Senior Awards where I presented an Award. (I wasn't nominated because there were a bunch of other people that had more active presences and personalities than mine, but I wanted to be like that presenter on an award's show.) Anyway, I go out on stage, and I actually get some active applause... not like the other presenters, and I SOAKED THAT [BEEP] IN. I did an "I'm the King of the world" pose and everything and that just egged 'em on more.
The thing is.... I don't know if it was applause because they were happy to see me present and they knew I was going to do a good job or if it was because I AMUSE them. You know what Brad Pitt said to Matt Damon in Ocean's Eleven, "Don't shift your weight, look always at your mark but don't stare, be specific but not memorable, be funny but don't make him laugh. He's got to like you then forget you the moment you've left his side."
That last part is what worries me. Yeah, I didn't get screwed up by drugs or alcohol and all that, but am I so incapable of making true friends that that's what I'll become for people my age.
I have NO IDEA how much this actually relates to what you said but that's what I was thinking of. Thanks for sharing your experience, man. Love hearing you talk!
God, man, i've just missed your voice
I don't know how I stumbled on this video and this channel tonight, but I'm glad I did. Something about this video is really comforting to me. I myself was never "that guy" in my youth. Was sober, hard-working, straight-A's in high school, had a fierce independent streak while paradoxically desperately trying to fit in and be accepted. I wouldn't ever have described myself as popular, but people knew me, and I had a group of friends I liked that liked me. It's probably nostalgia goggles, but the sad truth is I look back at high school as some of the happiest years of my life, a fact which depresses me to no end.
Made it through college, but it was a struggle; I became depressed, overweight, and my social skills kind of eroded away from lack of practice, which made me isolated. Now, I'm a few years short of thirty, and I'm in a relatively better place with a pretty good-paying job in a city I like living in, but my social life is still practically nonexistent, and I still feel stuck in a field I was never super interested in that I only pursued so that I wouldn't ever have to worry about bills. I'm getting better with at least trying to keep up with my hobbies and with putting myself in uncomfortable situations and taking better physical care of myself, but the depressive spirals still happen the discipline/motivation ratio for working out and for my artistic pursuits teeters constantly, and I'm still socially isolated outside of work. Just goes to show I guess that you can do everything right based on what is generally agreed upon as good adult skills, and still come out with problems I suppose.
I love your honesty here. I didn’t do the drugs alcohol thing, but I’m still a miserable adult who doesn’t have their life together. 😔
Oh man. I feel like I can breathe now, like I just removed 5 books from my chest. I really needed this
Young 18 year old viewer here, and honestly, the fact you "were that kid" makes your advice a whole lot more meaningful. I heard it all the time during high school, "it won't matter, people won't care after high school, you'll lose touch with friends and cliques won't be a thing anymore", but still having to suffer with 4 more years of insecurity, feeling out of place, and watching the most asshole drug-addicted boys or fakest bitchiest blonde girls getting all the friends and attention kept tearing a hole in me. But, now being graduated, I look forward to not worrying or feeling that shitty outcasted feeling anymore, and I just worry about the kids who think acting irresponsibly is worth it.
It's never too late to change and be better though. I left home one day a year before graduating college due to then undiagnosed mental illness and basically made a helluva lot of bad choices for two years before deciding being homelessness and self destructing was not working for me. Time skip a few years after, getting professional help and through the encouragement of very good friends, I'm working full-time now, studying for my bachelor's full-time, all while slowly but surely grinding to climb the corporate ladder and actively managing my BPD. Shit's tough, but, like that song you quoted: I get knocked down, but I get up again.
It's never too late to better yourself. You're never too old to want and endeavour to be better.
Powerful. One of the best public service announcements for young people that I've ever heard. I'm not even joking when I say that this video should be played in every jr high and high school in the world. And ironically, the people who don't fit in as kids often make the best adults. Why? Because studying, staying out of trouble, staying in shape, planning for the future, etc, isn't cool when you're a teenager. But, y'know, there's always exceptions. Me? I was a clean, sober, hard-working, straight-A student. Now, I'm 35, severely clinically depressed, crippled by social anxiety, never had a job, just an absolute mess. So, you never know.
I have no problem dressing the way I did as a teenager because I was boring and only wore jeans and generic t-shirts.
In fact, I still have some of the clothes I had as a teenager and still wear them because I barely changed physically, even though it's been close to a decade now.
Whats the problem with that?
@@bluwasabi7635 Being asked if I have permission from my parents everywhere I go, for starters. That fucking sucks.
@@LabMatt Ah. Well, soon enough you'll be able to wear whatever you want.
Every channel I watch, I get the same two ads for how Fitbit can improve my skipping and why I should buy crm software for my scooter business. Here I got an ad for a girls boarding school where angsty teens can learn beekeeping…
…Which seems appropriate and beneficial after listening to this.
**hugs**
I know you might not feel like getting them, but everyone deserves to feel loved.
I may not have been "that guy" in high school, but I did waste my childhood. it sucks. I love that you made this video to help kids who might find themselves where you were. it says a lot about your character. i hope that some kids will listen to your words and take it to heart.
I could never do drugs or alcohol, not trying to be like high moral horse asshole... just for the simple reason that the idea of putting something inside me that effects my thinking terrifies me. I already make enough poor decisions without my mental faculties being distorted.
That is my exact same reasoning my dude.
Same here as well man. Same here...
man, sometimes I wonder how I may have missed out on shit & memories as a teenager 'cause I lacked the need of getting shitfaced with whatever with at the time childhood friends. I was fine nerding out home, I'm happy to be the good kid.
I didn't get the obsessiveness of my chemical romance and whoever the band of the month was, the need to go to concerts.. I hate masses of people, gives me anxiety.
I'm probably ultra boring but that's OK, who cares what everybody thinks, as long as you're good with yourself. still struggling with mental health & the very accepting of myself but I'm still kicking and breathing =] who knows about next year tho - for over 15 years now I've had this feeling in my bones, like in the core that I'm not going to live past 30, can't explain why it comes stronger at times and goes to sleep for some time, maybe darker side of depression rearing it's head, who knows.
thanks for the vid man, you rock ❥
That title needs to be on a sign along the road!!
Upon the estacy offering at 30 -- "What is wrong with this guy's life, what is he trying to escape..." had those thoughts at 17, have done more addictive stuff closer to 40.... I'm going to go think about this. Seriously ^^
"There's no more parties when you're thirty." FUCK why did you have to say it so clearly that shit hurt so much to hear...
I mean, there's still parties, but they're depressing, because you're just hanging out with all the other people who haven't really figured their shit out yet. Also there'll be that one guy who still kind of likes to get fucked up on weekends, but he's married and maybe has a kid. So he brings his wife to the party. The stereo is blasting some 90's/00's rock music, but out of one ear, you're hearing some slightly smashed chick asking the guy and his wife about their marriage.
"So how long have you guys been together?"
"Well, we met in blah blah blah and we just had our Xth anniversary, but that's since we met, we've only been married for Y years."
"I'm so happy for you. So the baby's how old?"
"She was born in la-dee-da-dee-da whatthefuckever, so it's been Z months etc. etc. etc."
On one side, you've got a stereo blasting some msi song, and on the other, you've got this conversation. Suddenly it dawns on you that this music is like 15 years old, and all the people who made it are probably married and have kids as well. They were adults when you were a teenager, they're like 40 now. Young people who hear this music today think of it the same way you thought of songs from the 80's and before - that's some old shit.
It's too loud. You came here to see some friends, but one of them didn't show up and the other's trying to get drunk enough to hit on that one chick who was gonna be here tonight, so he's not really trying to hang out and chat. You're just standing there with a beer surrounded by people you don't know, and don't have the energy to engage anyone beyond a nod and some "meh" kind of facial expressions here and there. You don't need any new friends.
Suddenly, you wish you were at home watching netflix, and that's when the party's over.
Great advice, many people need that stuff to be pumped into their minds. I'm one of those people, was like 5 years ago. I'm ten years younger than you, but I do feel like there is no going back. I dropped out of a medical university willingly, I started practising drawing art, even got some art courses to be a professional artist, but it's been 3 years now, and I still don't have much, my art sucks and I am not successful at all, I feel like I should have finished that med university, but there is no going back and I definitely don't have brains for that now. I keep drinking and smoking stuff so that I would feel less miserable, but it doesn't help, not by a long term. I still have like a lot of time, but I dunno about that. Great advice about friends, only of the friends you meet in school and college are gonna stay, the rest will be gone before you notice
I pretty much had this long term perspective even when I was a kid. I looked at the behaviour of responsible adults and compared it to the behaviour of unresponsible teenagers and concluded that I should just skip that phase. I remember when I was 10 I was afraid of becoming a teenager because I though I'd automatically become an idiotic douchebag.
I think a big thing that helped was that I had friends that were semi-autistic dorks so I didn't have to bother with trying to fit in, those friends even stuck with me through my brony phase.
and here i was thinking i was weird, midway through my 20's and having not a damn thing to show for myself sense highschool other then not being in jail and not being a drug addict. hearing this from you both gives me a little optimism for my future and makes me afraid that its going to take even longer to get my shit together then i thought.
i legit thought you where either fresh out of highschool or fresh out of collage when you started making videos on the other channel. this and other comments in this comment section have kind of rocked my world view a little.
I have always appreciated your style and humor, and I loved when you let your rants flow, and this channel is the best of that aspect. Thanks for returning, I missed your brand of content. Pony video or not I enjoy your stuff! Thank you!
Wow. I did not expect that you were bascially THE cool kid at school. I've seen those when I was young, and whenever I was at such a party it was basically drinking, small-talking and turning the music up so loud that you couldn't actually talk, and it even hurt the ears. Most of them dropped to an easier tier of school around 8th grade (Germany has 3 tiers after elementary school: practical, in-between, and intellectual, with the latter being the hardest). Some of them were bullies, so in their cases I was glad to be rid of them, but I felt bad for the others. But you're right: What you do at school doesn't matter in later life. For me that was actually quite a relief, getting to start a "New Game+", i.e. at the university I met new people, but they were more mature and not bullies, and the lectures were more up my alley on average compared to school (also university is literally about 100 times cheaper here compared to the USA, so I understand any US American who doesn't want to go there). I think I'm still socially awkward, but I'm getting better and at least I'm not a soccer hooligan or something like that.
Maybe I'll even find a girlfriend one day who isn't too busy to have more than a placebo relationship. Would be nice. I'm nearing the end of my 30s, too.
Anyway, I'm glad that you haven't given up the fight to turn things around with the drugs and stuff. I'm not sure if some random commenter can do anything to help, but if you ever need another distraction aside from creating stuff, we all could play some online games together and chat over Teamspeak. Preferrably some co-op thing, because people have different skill-levels.
Dont do something that you dont suit yourself and dont let some strangers decide that for you
You can consider combining this topic with finding one's identity, I think both topics link well. Kids emulate other people either because they want to fit in, or it's because they don't know any better. By the time they knew better it will be too late.
I used to be a big shot theater kid in high school, thought I might become a famous actor some day. Instead, I dropped out of university because I was having anxiety attacks, failed to start a gaming channel on RUclips, and started working a 9-5 office job. My only saving grace is that I spend my summer weekends as a volunteer street performer at the Renaissance Faire, where I get to pretend to be a big shot theater kid again as I rapidly inch toward 30.
tl;dr: Your words have touched me in places my therapist never could.
A lot of this hit close to home. Lol I'm 23 and it very much feels like I've wasted my life even though it's just starting.
Then do something and quit fucking whining about it
You know what the funny part of life is? When you never smoked, never took any drugs, hardly drank and still needed 10 years after school to arrange your life in a way that doesn't make you jump off a cliff. I got a job for more than 2 years now, a small family to myself and a big one for support and i feel your message. :) I came from your pony videos and I will stay for the wisdom.
yeah you're right
but sometimes you do something you think is cool, you feel cool, and you find people who also think is cool
you can meet friends for life, just look for people like you
First day in university, I came a little late, my whole group is waiting outside class, talking joking, getting themselves known. And there is one skinny guy away from them, leaning on the wall and playing some waifu gacha game on his phone. I knew immediately that he is my man.
Or back in middle school, first day, all kids are trying to get along with themselves, and there is one man sitting in class and reading Gulag Archipelago. This book made adults cry and we were like 12. He was cool to and we're still friends.
I have never smoked. But honestly, all those "SMooKIING BUUUD!" videos in school made me so annoyed by the way they talked down on us like we were stupid, that I almost wanted to smoke just to have some sort of symbolic middle finger to those videos. Emphasis on ALMOST. (Kids are stupid and we were all one).
If they showed me this video, of a stickman head smoking with DWK saying the stuff he said in this, I would've taken it more to heart and been glad he said this, rather than feeling like the people telling us saw us as nothing but stupid fleshsacks of bad decision making.
Man when i was a teenager. I was just like you are now. Now my life is the oppsite. I have stuff togeather. I feel like you being this way and talking to others dose more parenting than any person who is a parent today.
As a teen who used to struggle with acne drugs and alchohal in my mind were a gateway to looking even worse which is the last thing I needed. Also early death, can't forget that.
I just found your channel and i like what you have to say so far. I think i am around the same age as you, in my 30s. and i feel the same, most people my age have already started their families, have their lives together, etc... I kinda do. but kinda don't. still... At least, i dont feel like ive accomplished anything so far, but maybe thats the depression speaking.
Weird how I’ve been in this state of midlife crisis worrying about the future since I was a literal child and somehow still don’t have my shit together... huh
I was definitely not the cool kid in school, I was the bullied nerd by far. Though I was always surrounded by people who drank and did drugs I never did them myself, not because of PSAs or parents telling me it's bad, but because I saw what that shit did to my family first hand. 1 of my uncles would drink heavily and when he did he turned into a monster, seeing him back hand his wife in person, strike his kids and threaten to hit anyone who dared cross him. Seeing my own brother go down a similar route, which he finnaly got off of thankfully, these were just 2 of almost a dozen druggies and alcoholics I saw in my own family,, seeing all of that growing up made me realize I wanted something different so I went down a much harder road and that is to not give in to the temptations that have consumed most of my family.
Thanks for making that video on the other channel. Wouldn't have made it here if it wasn't for that.
Nice to see you back, and I'm realy happy that you enjoy creating content.
Have a great one.
I wasn't even that guy and yet here I am, an alcoholic without friends and failed my degree and was never even the cool guy. anyways thats why I play an instrument to feel like I am something.
I have to disagree with you on one point the party does not stop once you hit your 30s my wife and I are in our early 40s and we still party like we're in our twenties the only difference is we have more responsibilities now so we don't get to party as often
As long as you have one good friend in the world then you are doing fine. Life's not a popularity contest.
The main thing that got me through depression when I was younger was my friends, but the second thing that keeps me going day to day ever since is spite. It's probably a terrible reason but spite towards other people is why I cope as well as I do.
I was wondering where this was going, by the end of it I realized this is profound. And that some of it ought to be taught in schools. Nobody tells you the cool people can't stop themselves from fucking up their own life when their older. Why should they have power over you or get you to feel inferior about yourself? don't let em/.
There was a Stephen King book that got banned: Rage.
In it, the main character takes his class hostage. His demands? He wants his classmates to open up honestly and actually talk to each other. A lot of feelings and trauma comes out. And the consensus is that it's fairly normal. After that, they start putting aside social cliches and assumptions and try to help each other. We're all just people, everywhere.
"Your high school social life doesn't matter."
Well that's a relief.
I was a mixed teen, but became a better adult with practice and failure. XD
I kinda wish I was a teacher so I could play this video in the beginning of every semester for my class. This is a really important video for teens to see, IMO.
Dam i really want to lobby this presentation at my highschool to deter smoking and drugs there. It was wild over there. It was an elite rich type of school and yea. Money really makes it easier to get those things.
Hey man, when you recognize whats going on, thats the first step. Even the worlds most successful people sometimes were complete failures until the second half of their lives. Just look at people like David Goggins, Charles Darwin, or Heny Ford himself. All 30-50 something years old before they turned
life around. Love the videos and i think youre doing some good shit here, keep trucking man🤘🏻
I was also that kid, but thankfully my parents took me out of school and started me on cyber school sophomore year which gave me enough time to realize all this and get my life on track
Wow, I wanna send this to people I know for their well-being
YOU ARE CORRECT!! MY EXCUSE FOR NOT FITTING IN IS I DIDNT WANT TO SUCK AS AN ADULT!!
I'm 16 and I knew you back on your other channel and I'm glad I got this video and your others so I can use em' as references. This video really speaks to me and I'll make sure to use your advice here. I'm also happy you're back on RUclips
Re-Liking all of these because while I've been around since the olden days, I wasn't watching as Spartan Flash Sentry at the time.
"Wearing the punk look when you're like, 30"
Now I feel called out. :V
Be wise today, so you don't cry tomorrow. Thanks for the video!
Well, I was horribly uncool as a teenager and I just bought a car with money I earned from my career, so this tracks.