"Let no man separate what God has joined together", so God says every marriage is worth saying because marriage is a symbolic representation of God's faithfulness to your spouse until the very end... no matter how bad the unfaithfulness is. See Hosea to see another example.
The key here, as you said, is "what God had joined together." God hates divorce, and therefore we should try our best to make it work, but not every marriage was put together by God. Unless there was abuse or adultery we need to make it work, But sometimes there's abuse or adultery present and that is not from God and most likely not put together by him.
Please search scripture as a whole and reconsider your position. There are serial adulterers (potential addicts), abusing their spouse emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and physically. Jesus reiterated that divorce is permissible for adultery. That doesn’t mean mandated so if a couple chooses to work through it, that’s up to them and God. Having a spouse in unrepentant sin with no desire to change or honor God is a very serious thing and expecting a partner to remain in an extremely unsafe relationship like that is harmful to the partner and implies that God cares more about marriage than He does about the person (people) He has made in His image. Hosea is a picture of God’s love toward each of us as the spiritual adulterers. While God may lead an individual to follow in Hosea’s steps, it is certainly not the expectation for every believer. Reconciliation in that situation may be an ideal, noble, and godly goal, but should not be forced at the expense of the safety, heart, mind, and essence of another by one who is continually defiling the marriage bed and His Bride.
Thanks! I talked with Cody last week and he was so helpful. He also pointed me to Malia's recent webinar that was full of great ideas. Thanks MH for what you do!!
It's been very difficult. My wife has said many times that she wants a divorce, but I tell her every time that I will never sign anything. She says that we're just living together, but we're not married. She's never acknowledged being married. I've fought 100 percent for this marriage. I've waited all my life for her, but she doesn't understand what that means. I told her that I thank God for her every day; she said that I can't do that because I don't have her.
Thank you for what you are doing. More grace. I have a question, how possible is it to get back a husband who has abandoned his wife and children for over three decades and has attached himself to another woman who has grown children,and has also given him a son who also now has a family of his own?
It is NEVER too late! Reach out to one of our client representatives to find out more about how we can help ❤️ You can contact someone by going to this link marriagehelper.com/apply1
I attended the couples workshop with my wife last may, and even though she's home she has shown no interest in reconciliation or working on the marriage. I feel like I spent all this money and have to keep spending money and my marriage isn't getting fixed. She has said she wants a divorce, and i told her that i dont want that. I continue to stand for my marriage and even though she hasn't said it in a while about the divorce, there's no headway or intimacy between us. I want my marriage back, I want my wife back, I want the closeness and intimacy we once had back and I feel like she's listening to everyone else in her life who is telling her to give up on the marriage. I keep working on my PIES, and I get nowhere...how can we get back on the love path if she refuses to even try?!
Shes not into you and most likely into someone else. If she isnt riding a new horse already shes certainly already got the saddle picked out. Retain your dignity. Leave.
Keep working on your Pies to be the best you can be for you. If you're looking at it as PIES are to get her back, change your mindset. That shift in mindset if you do it for you and not to save your marriage will shift everything. It's hard to remember but if you want to save this marriage you want to show up as your best self. And when she sees that subconsciously it will change how she perceives you. Your best self for you changes your life in every way with everyone. And bonus if she comes back to you. Maybe the mindset you have in the way you are working on your Pies is somehow a PUSH behavior that they discuss here on marriage helper. How she perceives your energy is all something that happens subconsciously Our behaviors are our subconscious mind, everything in the past we've been through since childhood. You'll know you're doing your PIES in a better way when you have least fear and impatience for her return. We get impatient when we don't get what we want when you want. Maybe you are doing your Pies for her and not you. And from that comes impatience negate you're not getting her back on your timing. Let her come back on her timing. There's no way we can do our PIES flawlessly. Think about what gets you off track or what push behaviors you have slipped on and come up with better ways to handle and prevent them in the future. The person in the comment above is a different person with their own life experiences. When they say to move on, they're trying to help you with best intentions. However PIES always wins your best self for you and for whoever you end up with, will love the version of yourself that you did for you. Doing this for you is the most selfless act for you. I wish you the best I pray for you both. Remember love is patient. Love is kind. Be patient and kind to yourself. PIES is a journey not a means to an end.
@yourredcomrade717 before anything else, she's into herself. It's not about him, this is about her stuck in her own mind. She's confused and it's not always about another horse in the pic. She's doing this to herself and it's hard to remember she's not doing it TO him. She needs to go through her own storm and it sucks when it hits loved ones but lessons will be learned.
There are a few options. You can book a call with Cody here: marriagehelper.com/apply1 Check out the Marriage Helper website for some great next steps: marriagehelper.com/ (The free mini-course is a great way to start). In tandem, you can also join Marriage Helper's free Facebook group: facebook.com/groups/783603618395431/ For reference: My marriage was saved in 2017 by following Marriage Helper principles. Today, I volunteer with Marriage Helper's Facebook and Community Moderator teams.
I attended the SOLO workshop, it was 100% helpful and yes life changing. Never too old to learn and change. Anything is possible.
"Let no man separate what God has joined together", so God says every marriage is worth saying because marriage is a symbolic representation of God's faithfulness to your spouse until the very end... no matter how bad the unfaithfulness is. See Hosea to see another example.
The key here, as you said, is "what God had joined together."
God hates divorce, and therefore we should try our best to make it work, but not every marriage was put together by God.
Unless there was abuse or adultery we need to make it work, But sometimes there's abuse or adultery present and that is not from God and most likely not put together by him.
Please search scripture as a whole and reconsider your position. There are serial adulterers (potential addicts), abusing their spouse emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and physically. Jesus reiterated that divorce is permissible for adultery. That doesn’t mean mandated so if a couple chooses to work through it, that’s up to them and God. Having a spouse in unrepentant sin with no desire to change or honor God is a very serious thing and expecting a partner to remain in an extremely unsafe relationship like that is harmful to the partner and implies that God cares more about marriage than He does about the person (people) He has made in His image.
Hosea is a picture of God’s love toward each of us as the spiritual adulterers. While God may lead an individual to follow in Hosea’s steps, it is certainly not the expectation for every believer.
Reconciliation in that situation may be an ideal, noble, and godly goal, but should not be forced at the expense of the safety, heart, mind, and essence of another by one who is continually defiling the marriage bed and His Bride.
Approaching this from a faith based perspective? Check this out: marriagehelper.com/should-christians-separate-part-1-of-3/
Thanks! I talked with Cody last week and he was so helpful. He also pointed me to Malia's recent webinar that was full of great ideas. Thanks MH for what you do!!
Where is this webinar?
It's been very difficult. My wife has said many times that she wants a divorce, but I tell her every time that I will never sign anything. She says that we're just living together, but we're not married. She's never acknowledged being married. I've fought 100 percent for this marriage. I've waited all my life for her, but she doesn't understand what that means. I told her that I thank God for her every day; she said that I can't do that because I don't have her.
Cody is the best! He’s been very patient and kind and seems truly invested in helping me save my marriage. So thankful that I’ve found yall
"When there's a will, there's a way," they say.
You have an amazing organization! Thank you!
Thank you for what you are doing. More grace. I have a question, how possible is it to get back a husband who has abandoned his wife and children for over three decades and has attached himself to another woman who has grown children,and has also given him a son who also now has a family of his own?
Awesome vid! What about if we just got divorced? Is it too late?
No. Dr. Beam says divorce is just an event bc reconciliation may still be able to occur.
It is NEVER too late! Reach out to one of our client representatives to find out more about how we can help ❤️
You can contact someone by going to this link marriagehelper.com/apply1
@@MarriageHelper thank you!!!!
It’s NEVER too late!
What if you are financially abused....???? How can those women get the help they so desperately need....????
Bet she thinks all your issues, caused by her financial irresponsibility, are unreasonable and not caused in any way by her actions.
@@dccs6009??
Get another men’s wallet…. Woman live easy life.
Get in shape
Look good
Appreciate a men’s time / work / effort.
Be feminine.
Don’t argue.
Stop playing the victim
Don’t blame previous men
What are you literally talking about? Someone's clearly done you dirty. Lol. 😆 🤣 😂
I attended the couples workshop with my wife last may, and even though she's home she has shown no interest in reconciliation or working on the marriage. I feel like I spent all this money and have to keep spending money and my marriage isn't getting fixed. She has said she wants a divorce, and i told her that i dont want that. I continue to stand for my marriage and even though she hasn't said it in a while about the divorce, there's no headway or intimacy between us. I want my marriage back, I want my wife back, I want the closeness and intimacy we once had back and I feel like she's listening to everyone else in her life who is telling her to give up on the marriage. I keep working on my PIES, and I get nowhere...how can we get back on the love path if she refuses to even try?!
Shes not into you and most likely into someone else. If she isnt riding a new horse already shes certainly already got the saddle picked out. Retain your dignity. Leave.
Keep working on your Pies to be the best you can be for you. If you're looking at it as PIES are to get her back, change your mindset. That shift in mindset if you do it for you and not to save your marriage will shift everything. It's hard to remember but if you want to save this marriage you want to show up as your best self. And when she sees that subconsciously it will change how she perceives you. Your best self for you changes your life in every way with everyone. And bonus if she comes back to you. Maybe the mindset you have in the way you are working on your Pies is somehow a PUSH behavior that they discuss here on marriage helper. How she perceives your energy is all something that happens subconsciously
Our behaviors are our subconscious mind, everything in the past we've been through since childhood.
You'll know you're doing your PIES in a better way when you have least fear and impatience for her return. We get impatient when we don't get what we want when you want. Maybe you are doing your Pies for her and not you. And from that comes impatience negate you're not getting her back on your timing. Let her come back on her timing.
There's no way we can do our PIES flawlessly. Think about what gets you off track or what push behaviors you have slipped on and come up with better ways to handle and prevent them in the future. The person in the comment above is a different person with their own life experiences. When they say to move on, they're trying to help you with best intentions. However PIES always wins your best self for you and for whoever you end up with, will love the version of yourself that you did for you.
Doing this for you is the most selfless act for you. I wish you the best I pray for you both. Remember love is patient. Love is kind. Be patient and kind to yourself. PIES is a journey not a means to an end.
@yourredcomrade717 before anything else, she's into herself. It's not about him, this is about her stuck in her own mind. She's confused and it's not always about another horse in the pic. She's doing this to herself and it's hard to remember she's not doing it TO him. She needs to go through her own storm and it sucks when it hits loved ones but lessons will be learned.
@yourredcomrade717 that's not helpful or kind. You need to get your head right or not comment
Seek God. Read the book of Hosea.
Wouldn't know cuz I'm not married
Im new abd starting to watch your videos....i could use some help
There are a few options.
You can book a call with Cody here: marriagehelper.com/apply1
Check out the Marriage Helper website for some great next steps: marriagehelper.com/ (The free mini-course is a great way to start).
In tandem, you can also join Marriage Helper's free Facebook group: facebook.com/groups/783603618395431/
For reference: My marriage was saved in 2017 by following Marriage Helper principles. Today, I volunteer with Marriage Helper's Facebook and Community Moderator teams.
Do yall have any scholarships? I’ve been unemployed for almost a year and can barely afford living expenses but my marriage is on life support.
Have you seen Marriage Helper's Facebook group?
facebook.com/groups/783603618395431/
To answer the title question:
Depends. What would you want to be doing for your 50th anniversary?
Is this only for Americans?
Not at all! We have team members all around the world and offer both online and in-person workshops. To learn more visit marriagehelper.com