I believe there's a special punishment in hell for those who lied about their children paternity. Not only lying to your "supposed" partner, but lying to your child about his real dad? Damn, that's so fucking evil.
For real, even if the OP is the only father that the child knew, it’s not fair for either him or the OP to live in a lie, it’s not fair to trap someone on financial and long-term emotional obligation for a child he didn’t brought, it can mess the child, but the mother is to blame because if she stayed faithful or went after the biological father, none of this would happened in the way it did
@@lifeisamess8100it’s not a “women thing” it’s an evil deception, child fraud, infidelity etc, just because an infidelity child is a consequence of cheating women, doesn’t make it fine
@@tintinismybelgian atleast he is safe with his somewhat caring father and isn't quite conscious about his surroundings but the 8yo has nothing but a mentally ill mother and an unknown and perhaps absent father the man he thought of as his father for his entire life is nothing but a stranger now
Fr, I feel so bad for the kid, OP is AH for that. I understand separating legally and not paying, but cutting contact like that? Kid will be depressed for the rest of his life 😢
Personally i think op made the right call with the other kids since he realized he couldn't raise the affair child without holding resentment or favoritism to his bio kid over ap kid.
Perhaps, but that poor kid is going to feel entirely abandoned by the man they have always known to be their father, and to be separated from their sibling. That poor kid is going to need some serious therapy.
@@SteveJones313 And then immediately after his mom going to jail. That is absolutely cold blooded. Divorce the mom, send her to jail, but be there for that boy you raised. He did nothing wrong. That breaks my heart. I would have but I guess I can understand why he wouldn't.
@@Dakooties For real. All OP cared about was HIS pain and HIS revenge. That boy has no reason to "come to understand", what that he was just collateral in the man who raised him having his knife twist moment? I don't understand how men do this, it's not like the oldest was a little kid who would one day forget him or something. OP is obviously one of those guys who sees children as his or other men's f**k trophies.
@@Dakooties "He did nothing wrong" Neither did the father. It costs a lot of money to raise children. It's not unreasonable an expectation to only want to spend your hard earned money raising children you thought were yours.
Not his kid, he should call the ex and let her know he dropped the bastard off at a firestation and that kid is in state custody, the one that is his is fine and safe.
I feel like after fighting tooth and nail to get his children back and being so worried about their whereabouts, he'd have had this conniption like "After having my boys stripped from me I can't imagine being without them even if they aren't mine" but alas, real life isn't a movie and not everyone is perfect, but his choice is understandable
I pray to God that if my future wife (oh, hi, Mark) ever cheats on me and has someone else's kid well before I found out, that I'd have the strength to fight for custody of that child. While I feel terrible for OP, I am absolutely fucking torn up over a poor kid who now has to live with an unemployed mother, with nothing to her name who now has a criminal record. What's worse? Poor kid was just taken from his dad to live an undeniably shitty life and he's gonna hold it against himself. Man, I wanna fucking cry right now.
I agree with you, in the span of a few months he completely lost his father, and lost his mother for 18 months. He is only 8!!!!! And his mom when out will be broke and a felon… it’s just tragic
@@akaihidan4371 dude, I've decided. I've been through worse. If I ever found out my kid whom I've raised was "someone else's" I'd stick around. I'm committed to being a good dad regardless. This doesn't exonerate cheaters, it makes their cheating worse. They didn't cheat, they won the game and traded the prize for a cornchip.
@@varun009 You say that, but you might find that's a harder choice to make when it actually happens. Remember, OP didn't cut contact because he no longer loved the kid. He cut contact because he felt it was the best thing for the kid. He was afraid that he would grow to resent the kid, which would have been even worse on the kid. Besides that, it's not his kid, legally. He can't just claim custody like he did with his bio kid. It would be a very difficult fight in court.
Not neceesarily at birth, but certainly it should not be possible to put your name to a legal document like a birth certificate without a paternity test unless it is already known that the parentage of the child is in question as in cases of child abandonment.
I feel bad for the 8 year old but i understand OP's decision, because raising a child that isn't yours makes you feel like a damn tool so obviously he wouldn't want to keep that remindrr around
I feel bad for the 8yo child, his whole turned upside down with one person. And I understand OP, raising a child that isn't yours while trying not to think about him being not yours is tough. I hope everything goes well in life for that child
wait how did she manage to leave with minors to go outside the country ? shouldnt she have some proof that you consented to that? shame poor suffering the consequences of his own mother.
@@untitled-person236 you need consent of both parents, most passports(well where im from) come with birth certificates at the back, if she wanted to leave she had to have written permission.
I get it’s hard but now the brothers are split up, the 8 yo lost their dad, and his mom went to prison for 1 yr. Also, legal paternity goes by what’s on the birth certificate, so she still technically kidnapped both kids. I couldn’t imagine stepping a way from a child a raised for 8 years
Honestly, i wouldn't trust fil and mil that quick, they better have evidence they weren't involved in the kidnapping as otherwise they ain't seeing that kid again ever.
Another story i watched (2 fucking hours) : where the wife cheated on him with 47 man and its more but no discovrrd and his 5/yo daughter is not biologically his so he adopted her and she went to jail
Remember that other one where the dude was married for like 30 plus years, catches his wife cheating, divorces her, then one of his kids does a 23 and Me on a whim and turns out that she wasn't related to OP? Then OP does a paternity test for all his kids to find out that all aren't his? Turns out the wife was banging literally any swinging dick within a mile radius her entire marriage and life really, and when her kids confronted her and forced her to choose a time to sit down and talk, she off'd herself. It was like some telenovela.
@@L3adb3lly The OP isn't exactly going to be in a great psychological place either after this rollercoaster. The kids he kept could easily end up in a worse position with him than not.
@@eyeclapback7182 No OP could have chosen to continue to raise his 8 year old, for the sake of the 8 year old and his little brother. He opted to do the paternity test, and he opted to sever the bond when he found out his 8 year old didn't come from his ballsack. He needs to own that. His kids are innocent in this, and his decision is going to fuck things up for them....
@@mnomadvfx he should get therapy regardless... he still has one of his two kids to look after... and no doubt that 3 year old needs answers as to why mommy and big brother are gone.
This is one of those stories I wish he would’ve adopted the 8 year old. He lost his dad, his mom, his brother, and is now living with strangers. He doesn’t mention giving him any explanation or anything. His life is completely changed and at the whim of random adults because the people he should be able to trust couldn’t get their shit together.
Wouldn't say it was a clever trick, he just gave a simple lie and she came. I'm surprised she believed him because he himself told her he wasn't an idiot back when he confronted her about the cheating.
@brianjosiahlocario747 That’s only the case if the adult travelling with the child isn’t the parent or guardian. Nor do they do they due diligence at the airport by checking whether the parent is a single parent or not.
I feel so bad for the 8yo, he is gonna have some heavy resentment as he grows older. As much as I would like for the dad to accept him, I respect that he knows there's a great possibility he would resent the boy and favor his bio son. I think it's for the best tho, I'm just so mad for the OP and his kids. I hate when women do this shit, not only does it hurt the man but the child as well. And this woman thought that she'd rather face criminal charges than have OP find out he wasn't the dad to one of them? Wild
While I emphasize with OP regarding the 8 yo, I imagine that the feeling of abandonment he must feel must be leagues from what OP feels. I also imagine the 3 yo must be set up for some serious resentment towards OP for cutting him off from his brother - whom, admittedly, didn't do anything wrong. Don't get me wrong, I can't judge OP for this, it must be an absolute nightmare scenario, and the ex wife is a poster child for human trash, but at the end of the day he _did_ break up the family.
I think OP should have fought for the 8yo. I intensely disagree with this decision. Biologically may not have been his but for 8 years he was blessed to have him in his life and how can both suddenly deny that blessing and break up the brothers is cruel
If you are American and married the oldest is deemed yours. I believe some states allow you to remove yourself from the birth cert if you can prove fraud and if you can find the bio father. I am not 100% on how that part works. But I do know you are deemed by the courts to be the father.
I will never understand how someone can raise a child as their own for 8 years and then give them up after finding out they aren't theirs biologically. While I understand that the kid is a reminder of his ex's infidelity, not having him in your life is a reminder of that as well. I would rather let the child have the parent they have grown up to know than to sever that bond and hurt that child. That 8 year old lost two parents, and a sibling in all of this, and the OP, by giving up his rights as the man who raised him, it partially at fault for that.
So he should just embrace the cuckold and go with it 😑 It's not just about what is infidelity and not. It's perfectly reasonable to raise a child that is not of your own blood IF YOU CHOOSE IT knowlingly when you got into the relationship in the first place. But finding out after years that it was someone elses all along? Ye - I can imagine not being OK with that at all.
@@mnomadvfx After 8 years, it's not "someone else's child". They have a father-son bond, that child doesn't know any other dad. His biological father is a literal stranger, who might not even know he exists. OP had a choice to be that child's father, as he had been for that child's entire life. He chose to sever that bond, despite the damage it would do to that child AND his biological son who at 3 is WAY too young to understand why his big brother isn't around anymore. My sons have the same age gap, and they absolutely have bonded to one another even though the youngest isn't one yet. Fuck OP for hurting that innocent child instead of manning up and getting some therapy so he could be a good father to both of his kids.
@@mnomadvfx he ALREADY made this choice. He invested 8 years of life into him and this kid is strongly bonded to him. Nothing will change it anymore. The fact that he can throw it all away is more terrible than his cheating wife.
I doubt he will reach out. He said it himself, just looking at the child made him sad and he was forever a reminder of the mothers infidelity. It's not the kids' fault, but if he stayed in that boys life there is a chance there would be favoritism to the bio son.
An 8yr old is gonna remember their mother fkng everything up at this time.. That kid is gonna grow up hating her for doing all of this and essentially taking away his dad....
As the story went through I've got more disgusted with OP mindset. Yes, I can understand his struggles with coming to terms that his oldest son was born of infidelity. But in a matter of weeks or months he threw away all of the love and connection that has been built between him and a son, 8 years of it. There was no winner in this story, everyone lost. And most of all - innocent kids who got stuck between cheating mom and prideful father. I have no simpathy for either of those and will never understand how you can prioritize blood relation over soul relation.
What was he supposed to do? Maintain a relationship with a child he knew he would grow to loathe? That’s not healthy for the kid. He made the right choice
@@JustALouDude he should have gone to therapy and figure out these feelings. They always have a basis. Work through them. Or recognize that all of the crap he said wasn't love and it was all conditional. He didn't even try. Which again will lead to him being no better parent than her. He made the right choice for him and his mental health, that's for sure. He doesn't care about that boy. And he should find courage to accept that then and stop pretending to love him or covering it as he loved him.
@@AlexiosLairbut it’s on the mother to take care of that child. Not him. Now that he isn’t his father, he has no responsibility to that child. While I would have a harder time with going NC with the child, I would still eventually not be in that child’s life because seeing the child would just be a reminder of betrayal, even just being a coparent. The mother needs to find the kid’s actual dad and make him play his part
@@JustALouDude OP is his father ALREADY. I don't know how else I can explain to you that blood doesn't mean shit. It's the years, commitment and love you invest into a child. You don't just stop being a father at the snap of the fingers. You keep repeating the same bs again and again.
Imagine being an 8 year old child whose father just suddenly tell you you don't matter to him anymore because he can't get over his own hangs ups about raising another man's kid. I get the getting cheated on sucks, hard, and finding out one of your kids isn't biologically yours has to be a special kind of pain. But if you raised that child for so many years, only to be able to shut off that love and care the minute you find out its not yours? That's bullshit. Now that kid has to deal with an uprooted life, possible resentment and abuse from their biological parent(s), and the knowledge that a parent's love is conditional and based on sharing DNA.
This whole thread here giving sympathy to father for making a hard choice to let him go because he can't get over his pride makes me yet again being disappointed in humanity. People forgot what it means to be real parent. The one who build the bond that will never be thrown away. That is why adoption is a thing. It's not 18th century, blood doesn't mean shit now.
@@JustALouDude I honestly don’t care about his perspective because he didn’t seem to care about his son’s. He abandoned that child because of his (the child’s) mother’s infidelity and has the gall to act like he’s not throwing his son’s world into chaos. And yes, that boy is his son because he raised him for 8 years just fine. That fact that he could throw that away over biology is disgraceful. Living with resentment? Towards a child? It’s pathetic.
“On paper I look like a scum bag” Bro you ARE a scum bag that’s your son. You abandoned that child for something he didn’t have any part of. The wife is clearly the bad guy here but so is OP. All sympathy for his situation went out the window when he abandoned a child and left him to fend for himself with a clearly toxic mother who is about to be facing jail time. 8 years of raising and loving a child doesn’t just go away that poor kid is going to have major mental issues due to this
I'm seeing a lot of comments that they feel bad to the 8 yr old and OP shouldn't have abandoned him. Do I feel bad? Yes. He is a victim too. Do I think OP is a bad person for not keeping the kid? Absolutely not. His decision is justified and he shouldn't be responsible for his cheating ex-wife's actions. He'll end up hating that kid and vice versa. Cut contacts now to let himself and his biological son heal.
when it comes to violations... making a man raise the child of an affair is worse than a woman being graped... because while they both have emotional trauma that should be visited on no one, making a man work to raise a child that a woman knows is not his, paying for and loving said child for 18 years... only for the truth to be revealed, is a violation that goes deeper than someone forcing themselves on another for a few minutes. not to mention it also violates the child, from their own self image, their connection with others... smh, paternity testing should just be a natural response to every birth. make it part of the fee of paying the hospital for the cost of the birth.
That's an absolute bullshit. I can understand if it happens with you when you didn't expect to take care of the kid and it appeared out of nowhere. Then yes, you are in no way obligated to take care of this kid. But when you spent 8 years of your life, you claim you love and care for that kid, when he bonded to you so deeply already... and you decide to get rid of him , get rid of so called love because he is child of an affair, even though you are ALREADY his father and nothing will change it anymore... THAT is worse than whatever you listed.
Even tho it’s sad for the 8 year old, I understand the choice the father made. Some people are strong enough to raise the other man’s child but I myself know that I could never do that
Deadbeat dads: the mother of my child wont allow me to see my children OP: able to bring two kids from Sweden 😂😂😂😂 I know it's totally unrelated to this but I've always believed that when a man says the mother wont allow access is pure BS. There's steps one can take to get theur children if they really want...
OP shouldnt have any contact with any of the kids, he should just fuck off and let the brothers be together, what he did can and will destroy the oldest and i really hope that OP dosent get more kids
BOOHOOO. poor 8 year old, but its the b*itch's fault. I hope the 8 year old grows up remembering how his mother destroyed everything, and grows up hating her. Hating OP wouldnt matter since he has his 3 year old with him.
It's your fault it's your wife's fault because she was cheating on him and fled to Sweden with his kids because one of his kids is his and that's not right and she should pay for her actions and go to hell for what she has done to him and if you guys can't see that then you guys are delusional and she doesn't deserve anything for cheating on him and and fled to Sweden with his kids because one of the kids is his and you don't have to apologize for anything it's her fault not his.
I believe there's a special punishment in hell for those who lied about their children paternity. Not only lying to your "supposed" partner, but lying to your child about his real dad? Damn, that's so fucking evil.
Amen on that. I'd be devastated.
Nope, It's just a women thing and nothing wrong with women being women.
@@lifeisamess8100
Sarcasm?
For real, even if the OP is the only father that the child knew, it’s not fair for either him or the OP to live in a lie, it’s not fair to trap someone on financial and long-term emotional obligation for a child he didn’t brought, it can mess the child, but the mother is to blame because if she stayed faithful or went after the biological father, none of this would happened in the way it did
@@lifeisamess8100it’s not a “women thing” it’s an evil deception, child fraud, infidelity etc, just because an infidelity child is a consequence of cheating women, doesn’t make it fine
The only innocent victim is the 8yo child
And the 3yo.
Amen man.....
@@tintinismybelgian atleast he is safe with his somewhat caring father and isn't quite conscious about his surroundings but the 8yo has nothing but a mentally ill mother and an unknown and perhaps absent father the man he thought of as his father for his entire life is nothing but a stranger now
True. The child is the one suffering the most from the actions of the adults around him.
Fr, I feel so bad for the kid, OP is AH for that. I understand separating legally and not paying, but cutting contact like that? Kid will be depressed for the rest of his life 😢
Personally i think op made the right call with the other kids since he realized he couldn't raise the affair child without holding resentment or favoritism to his bio kid over ap kid.
Perhaps, but that poor kid is going to feel entirely abandoned by the man they have always known to be their father, and to be separated from their sibling. That poor kid is going to need some serious therapy.
@@SteveJones313 yes but they should come to understand. That if it were not for their mom. None of this would've happened.
@@SteveJones313 And then immediately after his mom going to jail. That is absolutely cold blooded. Divorce the mom, send her to jail, but be there for that boy you raised. He did nothing wrong. That breaks my heart. I would have but I guess I can understand why he wouldn't.
@@Dakooties For real. All OP cared about was HIS pain and HIS revenge. That boy has no reason to "come to understand", what that he was just collateral in the man who raised him having his knife twist moment?
I don't understand how men do this, it's not like the oldest was a little kid who would one day forget him or something. OP is obviously one of those guys who sees children as his or other men's f**k trophies.
@@Dakooties
"He did nothing wrong"
Neither did the father.
It costs a lot of money to raise children.
It's not unreasonable an expectation to only want to spend your hard earned money raising children you thought were yours.
Poor kid,the person that he thought was his father ain't,his life got uprooted,if wasn't for the ex wife cheating.
I feel bad for the 8 year old
Not his kid, he should call the ex and let her know he dropped the bastard off at a firestation and that kid is in state custody, the one that is his is fine and safe.
Yea it's not the poor kid's fault, it's all his mother.
What did the child do to be called a bastard and to be dropped off at a fire station? The actions of his mother is not his fault.
@@CensorthisbananahamockI hope you don’t procreate
@@Ahaahn727Look up the meaning of bastard. Absolutely no reason for the fire station comment though.
I feel like after fighting tooth and nail to get his children back and being so worried about their whereabouts, he'd have had this conniption like "After having my boys stripped from me I can't imagine being without them even if they aren't mine" but alas, real life isn't a movie and not everyone is perfect, but his choice is understandable
I pray to God that if my future wife (oh, hi, Mark) ever cheats on me and has someone else's kid well before I found out, that I'd have the strength to fight for custody of that child. While I feel terrible for OP, I am absolutely fucking torn up over a poor kid who now has to live with an unemployed mother, with nothing to her name who now has a criminal record. What's worse? Poor kid was just taken from his dad to live an undeniably shitty life and he's gonna hold it against himself. Man, I wanna fucking cry right now.
I agree with you, in the span of a few months he completely lost his father, and lost his mother for 18 months. He is only 8!!!!!
And his mom when out will be broke and a felon… it’s just tragic
@@akaihidan4371 dude, I've decided. I've been through worse. If I ever found out my kid whom I've raised was "someone else's" I'd stick around. I'm committed to being a good dad regardless. This doesn't exonerate cheaters, it makes their cheating worse. They didn't cheat, they won the game and traded the prize for a cornchip.
I strongly judge OP for not keeping that child. I don’t care if we’re related, he was his dad.
@@varun009 You say that, but you might find that's a harder choice to make when it actually happens. Remember, OP didn't cut contact because he no longer loved the kid. He cut contact because he felt it was the best thing for the kid. He was afraid that he would grow to resent the kid, which would have been even worse on the kid. Besides that, it's not his kid, legally. He can't just claim custody like he did with his bio kid. It would be a very difficult fight in court.
Paternity tests should be mandatory at birth and paternity fraud should be a crime.
Not neceesarily at birth, but certainly it should not be possible to put your name to a legal document like a birth certificate without a paternity test unless it is already known that the parentage of the child is in question as in cases of child abandonment.
@@mnomadvfxat birth
I agree. And for cases of potential infidelity, pre birth tests should be mandated.
-a woman
I feel bad for the 8 year old but i understand OP's decision, because raising a child that isn't yours makes you feel like a damn tool so obviously he wouldn't want to keep that remindrr around
I feel bad for the 8yo child, his whole turned upside down with one person. And I understand OP, raising a child that isn't yours while trying not to think about him being not yours is tough. I hope everything goes well in life for that child
wait how did she manage to leave with minors to go outside the country ? shouldnt she have some proof that you consented to that? shame poor suffering the consequences of his own mother.
I think its different cause she the mother
Passports are a thing even for kids my 4 y/o sister have a passport
@@untitled-person236 you need consent of both parents, most passports(well where im from) come with birth certificates at the back, if she wanted to leave she had to have written permission.
@@Xrk-krx jeez read to understand not to yap, im talking about consent not passports.
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How do i know i'm addicted to this videos? This is 12 minutes old, that's how
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I get it’s hard but now the brothers are split up, the 8 yo lost their dad, and his mom went to prison for 1 yr. Also, legal paternity goes by what’s on the birth certificate, so she still technically kidnapped both kids. I couldn’t imagine stepping a way from a child a raised for 8 years
The child now don't have a father, mother and his brother :(
That's unbelievable to think about.
Honestly, i wouldn't trust fil and mil that quick, they better have evidence they weren't involved in the kidnapping as otherwise they ain't seeing that kid again ever.
Poor 8 year old
Awww Charlie lost his plaything to prison 😂
Another story i watched (2 fucking hours) : where the wife cheated on him with 47 man and its more but no discovrrd and his 5/yo daughter is not biologically his so he adopted her and she went to jail
yh omg thats what this story reminded me of that was such a rollarcoaster when i watched that in full and omg the op was so funny Xd
Remember that other one where the dude was married for like 30 plus years, catches his wife cheating, divorces her, then one of his kids does a 23 and Me on a whim and turns out that she wasn't related to OP? Then OP does a paternity test for all his kids to find out that all aren't his?
Turns out the wife was banging literally any swinging dick within a mile radius her entire marriage and life really, and when her kids confronted her and forced her to choose a time to sit down and talk, she off'd herself.
It was like some telenovela.
Wow, the twist with the paternity test results must have been devastating. I can't imagine how hard that was for you.
The lengths people will go to to avoid their well-deserved consequences.
I hope the other kid doesn't end up with an abusive biological father because that's a possibility.
The kid lost both his parents his sibling and his home. It doesn't get much worse than that. That kid is going to be so messed up.
@@L3adb3lly
The OP isn't exactly going to be in a great psychological place either after this rollercoaster.
The kids he kept could easily end up in a worse position with him than not.
@@L3adb3llyOh well. It’s ALL the mother’s fault.
@@eyeclapback7182 No OP could have chosen to continue to raise his 8 year old, for the sake of the 8 year old and his little brother. He opted to do the paternity test, and he opted to sever the bond when he found out his 8 year old didn't come from his ballsack. He needs to own that. His kids are innocent in this, and his decision is going to fuck things up for them....
@@mnomadvfx he should get therapy regardless... he still has one of his two kids to look after... and no doubt that 3 year old needs answers as to why mommy and big brother are gone.
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This is one of those stories I wish he would’ve adopted the 8 year old. He lost his dad, his mom, his brother, and is now living with strangers. He doesn’t mention giving him any explanation or anything. His life is completely changed and at the whim of random adults because the people he should be able to trust couldn’t get their shit together.
Saying " it happened less than 10 times " is crazy
Wouldn't say it was a clever trick, he just gave a simple lie and she came. I'm surprised she believed him because he himself told her he wasn't an idiot back when he confronted her about the cheating.
I honestly dont blame him if the 8yo ended up miserable... It was all his mother's fault
I just hope OP still treat him like a son eventho he isnt
This is why you need a plan before confronting a cheater/deceiver.
She can't take the kids to another country you have to sign papers not only her for your she will have to Forge your signature
@brianjosiahlocario747 That’s only the case if the adult travelling with the child isn’t the parent or guardian. Nor do they do they due diligence at the airport by checking whether the parent is a single parent or not.
My heart breaks for that little boy! I don’t at all blame OP but that poor baby lost both his parents because of her selfish actions 🥺😢
I feel so bad for the 8yo, he is gonna have some heavy resentment as he grows older. As much as I would like for the dad to accept him, I respect that he knows there's a great possibility he would resent the boy and favor his bio son. I think it's for the best tho, I'm just so mad for the OP and his kids. I hate when women do this shit, not only does it hurt the man but the child as well. And this woman thought that she'd rather face criminal charges than have OP find out he wasn't the dad to one of them? Wild
sad about the kid and mc choice.
Waiting for people to condemn him for not wanting the older child 😂. Or is that only on reddit
While I emphasize with OP regarding the 8 yo, I imagine that the feeling of abandonment he must feel must be leagues from what OP feels. I also imagine the 3 yo must be set up for some serious resentment towards OP for cutting him off from his brother - whom, admittedly, didn't do anything wrong. Don't get me wrong, I can't judge OP for this, it must be an absolute nightmare scenario, and the ex wife is a poster child for human trash, but at the end of the day he _did_ break up the family.
Man call the cops 10:06
It's illegal to flee with your kids from your husband?
yes it is fleeing without a notice with minors is a crime
Um... I'm pretty sure you need both parents signatures to take kids on a plane. I realize she could have forged his signature, but still.
When u disregard mother that happens
I think OP should have fought for the 8yo. I intensely disagree with this decision. Biologically may not have been his but for 8 years he was blessed to have him in his life and how can both suddenly deny that blessing and break up the brothers is cruel
OP couldn't see past his own hatred to care for the kid he raised. Its sad and kinda pathetic, but I get it.
Man I feel so bad for that lil 8 year old boy I would literally hate my mom omg
I pooped myself
Guys I am not hating on telltale but I pooped my self
"buckle up because this will be a very long one" bruh i watched one video like this which was an hour long 💀🙏🏻
Yo your wife is for the universe 😮😮😮
Take a shot every time the AI says "honestly"
Yeah nah brah! You abandoned the older child. Awful awful
Actually kidnapping is a serious crime and you should talk the police. Maybe police interact Interpol and your wife forcefully return Us
there is a joke somewhere here about Swedish police but I can't place it.
That's crazy
That's crazy
If you are American and married the oldest is deemed yours. I believe some states allow you to remove yourself from the birth cert if you can prove fraud and if you can find the bio father. I am not 100% on how that part works. But I do know you are deemed by the courts to be the father.
She abducted the children
Only 18 years for destroying his live welcome to the modern equal world
18 months.
Yikes I guess unconditional love isn’t real.
Is OP Destiny in an alternate reality? 😂😂😂
18 month is a fucking joke!
I will never understand how someone can raise a child as their own for 8 years and then give them up after finding out they aren't theirs biologically. While I understand that the kid is a reminder of his ex's infidelity, not having him in your life is a reminder of that as well. I would rather let the child have the parent they have grown up to know than to sever that bond and hurt that child. That 8 year old lost two parents, and a sibling in all of this, and the OP, by giving up his rights as the man who raised him, it partially at fault for that.
So he should just embrace the cuckold and go with it 😑
It's not just about what is infidelity and not.
It's perfectly reasonable to raise a child that is not of your own blood IF YOU CHOOSE IT knowlingly when you got into the relationship in the first place.
But finding out after years that it was someone elses all along?
Ye - I can imagine not being OK with that at all.
@@mnomadvfx After 8 years, it's not "someone else's child". They have a father-son bond, that child doesn't know any other dad. His biological father is a literal stranger, who might not even know he exists. OP had a choice to be that child's father, as he had been for that child's entire life. He chose to sever that bond, despite the damage it would do to that child AND his biological son who at 3 is WAY too young to understand why his big brother isn't around anymore. My sons have the same age gap, and they absolutely have bonded to one another even though the youngest isn't one yet.
Fuck OP for hurting that innocent child instead of manning up and getting some therapy so he could be a good father to both of his kids.
BEEEEYYTAH!!!
@@L3adb3lly im honestly so pissed that nobody else is looking at it this way.
@@mnomadvfx he ALREADY made this choice. He invested 8 years of life into him and this kid is strongly bonded to him. Nothing will change it anymore. The fact that he can throw it all away is more terrible than his cheating wife.
When he's old and wants to reach out to the one he abandoned. He will get laughed at.
I doubt he will reach out. He said it himself, just looking at the child made him sad and he was forever a reminder of the mothers infidelity.
It's not the kids' fault, but if he stayed in that boys life there is a chance there would be favoritism to the bio son.
Ummm ya…you CANT leave a country with your children without the consent of a spouse.
It’s…it’s not possible lool.
Good try AI
My Fiancée Cheated on Me, So I Left Her
An 8yr old is gonna remember their mother fkng everything up at this time.. That kid is gonna grow up hating her for doing all of this and essentially taking away his dad....
Poor OP
Poor 8 year old kid
I am pooping rn
Sue for eternity fraud, but I doubt you'd get much since you obviously live in a women's state that sentenced her with less than the legal minimum
Paternity fraud needs to be held at the same level of crime as murder in the first degree.
What's wrong with u? Let women be women, r u trying to imply that women can be in the wrong??
Nah, there are civil legal measures for having caused emotional trauma, and criminal legal measures for financial fraud.
The same sentencing as murder? You’re Delulu! 🫠🤣🤣🤣😂😂
@lifeisamess8100 women are almost always wrong, the rare times they are right is purely by accident.
@mnomadvfx fuxk the civil side, there needs to be penalties for cheating and defrauding someone.
As the story went through I've got more disgusted with OP mindset. Yes, I can understand his struggles with coming to terms that his oldest son was born of infidelity. But in a matter of weeks or months he threw away all of the love and connection that has been built between him and a son, 8 years of it. There was no winner in this story, everyone lost. And most of all - innocent kids who got stuck between cheating mom and prideful father. I have no simpathy for either of those and will never understand how you can prioritize blood relation over soul relation.
What was he supposed to do? Maintain a relationship with a child he knew he would grow to loathe? That’s not healthy for the kid. He made the right choice
@@JustALouDude he should have gone to therapy and figure out these feelings. They always have a basis. Work through them. Or recognize that all of the crap he said wasn't love and it was all conditional. He didn't even try. Which again will lead to him being no better parent than her. He made the right choice for him and his mental health, that's for sure. He doesn't care about that boy. And he should find courage to accept that then and stop pretending to love him or covering it as he loved him.
I bet years later op's kida gonna post their own story about op
@@AlexiosLairbut it’s on the mother to take care of that child. Not him. Now that he isn’t his father, he has no responsibility to that child. While I would have a harder time with going NC with the child, I would still eventually not be in that child’s life because seeing the child would just be a reminder of betrayal, even just being a coparent. The mother needs to find the kid’s actual dad and make him play his part
@@JustALouDude OP is his father ALREADY. I don't know how else I can explain to you that blood doesn't mean shit. It's the years, commitment and love you invest into a child. You don't just stop being a father at the snap of the fingers. You keep repeating the same bs again and again.
Imagine being an 8 year old child whose father just suddenly tell you you don't matter to him anymore because he can't get over his own hangs ups about raising another man's kid. I get the getting cheated on sucks, hard, and finding out one of your kids isn't biologically yours has to be a special kind of pain. But if you raised that child for so many years, only to be able to shut off that love and care the minute you find out its not yours? That's bullshit. Now that kid has to deal with an uprooted life, possible resentment and abuse from their biological parent(s), and the knowledge that a parent's love is conditional and based on sharing DNA.
So him living a lie and hiding resentment for the child is better? Think about his pov here
This whole thread here giving sympathy to father for making a hard choice to let him go because he can't get over his pride makes me yet again being disappointed in humanity. People forgot what it means to be real parent. The one who build the bond that will never be thrown away. That is why adoption is a thing. It's not 18th century, blood doesn't mean shit now.
@@JustALouDude I honestly don’t care about his perspective because he didn’t seem to care about his son’s. He abandoned that child because of his (the child’s) mother’s infidelity and has the gall to act like he’s not throwing his son’s world into chaos. And yes, that boy is his son because he raised him for 8 years just fine. That fact that he could throw that away over biology is disgraceful. Living with resentment? Towards a child? It’s pathetic.
I feel so bad for the 8 year old boy, to be abandoned by the man who he called father
wild
Was the ex improsoned in Sweden or at OP’s country?
“On paper I look like a scum bag”
Bro you ARE a scum bag that’s your son. You abandoned that child for something he didn’t have any part of. The wife is clearly the bad guy here but so is OP. All sympathy for his situation went out the window when he abandoned a child and left him to fend for himself with a clearly toxic mother who is about to be facing jail time. 8 years of raising and loving a child doesn’t just go away that poor kid is going to have major mental issues due to this
have you ever run out of stories
Your a mo ron for not calling asap
Can anyone recommend a channel with real stories and a human narrator? Getting sick of this AI shit.
Snook is a pretty good channel. The stories are more horror-focused though
XO stories is pretty good too
Mark Narrations and LostGenre are both pretty good. I'm also sick of these obviously fake stories, even if they can be addictive
I'm seeing a lot of comments that they feel bad to the 8 yr old and OP shouldn't have abandoned him.
Do I feel bad? Yes. He is a victim too.
Do I think OP is a bad person for not keeping the kid? Absolutely not. His decision is justified and he shouldn't be responsible for his cheating ex-wife's actions. He'll end up hating that kid and vice versa. Cut contacts now to let himself and his biological son heal.
when it comes to violations... making a man raise the child of an affair is worse than a woman being graped... because while they both have emotional trauma that should be visited on no one, making a man work to raise a child that a woman knows is not his, paying for and loving said child for 18 years... only for the truth to be revealed, is a violation that goes deeper than someone forcing themselves on another for a few minutes. not to mention it also violates the child, from their own self image, their connection with others... smh, paternity testing should just be a natural response to every birth. make it part of the fee of paying the hospital for the cost of the birth.
That's an absolute bullshit. I can understand if it happens with you when you didn't expect to take care of the kid and it appeared out of nowhere. Then yes, you are in no way obligated to take care of this kid. But when you spent 8 years of your life, you claim you love and care for that kid, when he bonded to you so deeply already... and you decide to get rid of him , get rid of so called love because he is child of an affair, even though you are ALREADY his father and nothing will change it anymore... THAT is worse than whatever you listed.
Even tho it’s sad for the 8 year old, I understand the choice the father made. Some people are strong enough to raise the other man’s child but I myself know that I could never do that
I sencerely hope you are not going to be a father then.
Deadbeat dads: the mother of my child wont allow me to see my children
OP: able to bring two kids from Sweden 😂😂😂😂
I know it's totally unrelated to this but I've always believed that when a man says the mother wont allow access is pure BS. There's steps one can take to get theur children if they really want...
You are not a male so you ha e no clue what they go through unless you follow research and court cases.
And a misandrist.
I am sure you would make the claim males cannot be abused either.
OP shouldnt have any contact with any of the kids, he should just fuck off and let the brothers be together, what he did can and will destroy the oldest and i really hope that OP dosent get more kids
BOOHOOO. poor 8 year old, but its the b*itch's fault. I hope the 8 year old grows up remembering how his mother destroyed everything, and grows up hating her. Hating OP wouldnt matter since he has his 3 year old with him.
half of the story OP sounds like domestic violence
YTA
It's your fault it's your wife's fault because she was cheating on him and fled to Sweden with his kids because one of his kids is his and that's not right and she should pay for her actions and go to hell for what she has done to him and if you guys can't see that then you guys are delusional and she doesn't deserve anything for cheating on him and and fled to Sweden with his kids because one of the kids is his and you don't have to apologize for anything it's her fault not his.
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