I Found out, my wife of 17 years cheated on me.
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- I Found out, my wife of 17 years cheated on me.
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This is such a serious story but the fucking part of the coworker just straight up going "Oh no I don't wanna be with you forever, I just wanna hook up" absolutely sent me in hysterics
“she quietly rolled over and got on all 4’s” Dude why are these stories always oversharing😂
He tries to degrade her at his best ability because everybody who read his story is calling him loser and such.
@@l-l-l-l-l-l-lyo it's u again
And who's clalling him a loser it only seems to be u lol??
Or other lonely men
@@l-l-l-l-l-l-lhe pretty much is a loser after that cause he’s practically sexually assaulting her, consent under duress isn’t consent as she’s not thinking with a clear fucking head idgaf if she cheated any sympathy I had for him went out the window after all that and anyone who deals with cases like this would even say that consent under duress is not consent he’s basically giving the signal if you let me do this I won’t divorce you as duress is threats of violence, constraints or other action brought to bear on someone to do something against their will or better judgement!
Yeah that was gross
It's because it's all fake. He regularly says he was basically shit faced the entire time but can recall the tiniest most mundane detail. Half these stories are faked for "clout" that's why every one of them is a new account, they're always rich or well off. And the divorce almost always goes their way. In a world where infidelity isn't regularly considered in custodial battles, they always end up getting custody because wife cheated. Well my step mother cheated on my father and still ended up with custody. He had definitive proof.
The slight change in pace when the ai read “they live in California, he’s fucked” got me
Yep, this dead serious situation and just, that right in the middle, had to laugh at that.
Right. I laughed too and had to rewind a few times
The moment I heard "I've always been a peaceful man". The only thing that went into my head was "Oh fuck"
That's usually how it goes. I'm the same. Usually peaceful and chill. Though my humor and demeanor might suggest differently lol. I care about the people I consider friends.
When the peaceful men and women are forced into extreme circumstances 😬
"Sleep in the guest bedroom"
"She refused."
ACTUALLY KICK HER OUT. This disrespect should not be tolerated. Shes STILL manipulating you
"It was just a thrill!" Nah lady, you were badmouthing him, you only regret getting caught.
this is theory but is there any psychological route that may lead people to do this if they don't have a child, like geniunly curious,what if the op and yhe wife had a child of their own would this still happen?
@@kazukawasaki97possibly because a child you believe to be conceived from yourself is naturally someone you hold deep love for. But in this scenario, she’s just all the way in the wrong, I don’t think even a child could have reconciled this, as proven by her first marriage where her husband (father of daughters) had an affair, they reconciled, then she had a revenge affair and blew up the marriage. That being said, she was in a supposedly perfect relationship and still had an affair for two years that she called an “adventure she got lost in”. I don’t doubt she actually loved him and vice versa, but the betrayal was too massive.
@@nolanc9344 yea,I totally just forgot about her previous marriage,damn adhd hitting hard
I loathe it when the claim is "It was just a mistake" on a persistent multi-session affair. Being drunk or under the influence and doing something under the influence, that's a mistake. Having some kind of extreme set of circumstances, doing something and realizing immediately afterwards "Oh, Crap" , that's a mistake.
However, it was still a decision and regardless if it was a mistake, they have the right to accept anything or not on the matter. Having said that, having a persistent ongoing affair is not a mistake, it's a lifestyle decision, and you deserve whatever you lose.
Edit: Just to pre-emptively deal with the comments, no being drunk does not make it right, and it does not mean you deserve forgiveness, I just meant it at I could see you going "Oh I f'd up" but you still need to own your actions.
Their "mistake" was getting caught
I disagree. Drunk actions are still sober thoughts. No way in hell yiu cheat under the influence unless you are sh1t faced. And that's called grape.
Agreed. Kinda sick of ppl packaging an entire affair as a single mistake deserving of a second chance. No bich, there were a million instances you could have chosen your partner over AP, and you chose AP, this is your millionth and first chance.
@@legiontepes3474 I'm not saying drunk is the end all excuse, It's just impaired judgement not no judgement, I just didn't want to make my post hella long lol
@@legiontepes3474 True. I black out from drinking too much before I could even consider doing anything like cheating. It's such a pathetic excuse.
Bro this game footage is infuriating. How can someone be so bad at parkour.
FACTSS
I've had to re-listen to the story twice because I can't get over how abysmal this dude is at hittin the space bar correctly lmao
8 months relationship and she says " all we need is having each other on life insurance"....
Am i the only one who noticed something here??
I think they said on each other’s insurance not life insurance.
Incredibly sad & honest story. Can't believe people would inflict pain to their spouse after experiencing the pain of being cheated on themselves, honest to God her brain isn't wired correctly. That's just it. People who cheat have something wrong in their mind. Don't get why people lie all the time, being truthful is much easier IMO.
Multiple past partners does that to a woman. I don't claim to fully understand how or why it happens that way, but too often I've heard stories of women struggling to pair-bond, once the sparks are gone it sometimes leads to infidelity, sometimes to separation, but it's almost always due to having been with other men before. Of course infidelity can come about in many different ways, but it is always optimal for a woman to stay with her first partner, except in extreme situations. Incidentally, this is also why, in the past, fathers had a hand in choosing his daughter's partner, he loves her and he wants her to have a happy and successful marriage, so he helps her find a good partner.
@@edwardofengland2993nothing but facts
"Hurt people hurt people"
@@edwardofengland2993the worst kind of response, with a dash of misogyny. Love the cesspool that is youtube comments.
Men never cheat dontcha know?
@@GamezPDD Ouch, looks like I struck a nerve.
He gave up med-school for her ...
THAT part!!!
That was his big mistake
For a single mother with two kids...The OP's brain got rotted at some point.
Bro told her that her cooking "tasted like static"💀
So in your opinion, dear reader, which is worse? If it's a fresh marriage or a long marriage? Does cheating become worse with age or less difficult to bear? The reason I ask is I always go "jeez, after less than a year?" Or "dear God, after all these years?" And when I start to think about it's about equally bad. But adding a time frame makes it worse every time for whatever reason.
The long relationship will cause PTSD, the short one will sow seeds of doubt in someone to the point they'll become insecure, both are hell to deal with I suppose
I'll say a long one and it has to be that no traumatic experience has happened recently. So for instance if you spouse hit their head hard and changes but you still loved them then you can dump that cheating on the injury. In a short marriage you can also compartmentalize that they just wanted to get married or they got out of their honeymoon phase so it's easier to justify. The only reason that I would see cheating as explainable in a long term marriage is if the other party is subjecting you to a dead bedroom and isn't willing to at least try to get you off. I'm talking about refuses every advance and only allows once a month and never initiates.
I'd rather 1 year. When your partner clears and you get a divorce it feels like the time you spent with them was all a lie and it meant nothing. I'd rather feel like I lost 1 year of my life than 17
I believe both are equally as bad. Cheating is never easy on its consequences let it be new or old marriage.
Like it laments me that cheaters would do it instead of being blunt and divorcing.
longer is worse because youve ended up wasting more years of your life
The fact that the ap had other women he was playing with is so humiliating 😭 she just one of the hoez
13:59 She indignantly asked what's the point of telling Affair Partner Wife? OP was dumbfounded for what felt like an inappropriate amount of time
27:16 I asked her what I did wrong in this marriage, making her so unhappy (she - you did nothing wrong; liked the adventure the rush)
Yeah but at the same time…he said she was using Snapchat but when people said you can’t see it in real time he said oh uh it’s WhatsApp xd and he also said he got a message saying “I’ll bring the special toy” but the the wife is the one who brought it??? This story is probably fake as hell
@@dddaaa6965or he made a mistake bc he was hysterical, overwhelmed, or upset
Ya know that'd make sense too rather than "an error means its fake" lol
@@bradstical86 uh huh, that was me cherry picking non ridiculous parts of his story, not to mention, if he was hysterical I’d expect way more mistakes than ONE, the second one was months after when he wasn’t with her anymore already.
@@dddaaa6965the second one he just shorted the convo so itd be easier to type
And the first one from the original post happened right after he found out ... when he would've been distressed
What is ''AP"
Jesus this guy spiraled HARD
I felt for him until the night he spent with her part came up...just get out don't do stuff like that.
Right …. He crossed a line with that … lost all sympathy after.
I was with him up until that point. Obviously she deserves divorce & all that, but... the way he described their night together... it sounded more like grape than anything... it made me so fucking uncomfortable. He got some sort of kick/joy from violating his STBX...
Yeah, that was all kinds of wrong
@@alexalverez9532i mean yeah it was uncomfortable but it isn’t rape if what he said was true abt disclosing and her agreeing
@@bunniiluvinI agree that what he did was wrong, but you can't grape someone that has consented to the act. What are you talking about? He did get off on using her but if both parties consented than it's not grape. I feel like you're just trying to demonize the guy
This dude basically described himself as the college Chad, a regular stud, but every decision made in this story says otherwise.
Like marrying a single mom with two young kids...YUCKS!!
yeah...poor guy
If someone cheats on you, leave them. It's not an excuse to SA and degrade your partner. If you do this, you're just as toxic.
Planned deceit and rubbishing your partner with the AP is the end of the relationship. You don't come back from that kind of disrespect.
Only a doormat would've taken her back
Even if she had an unplanned one night stand she still deserves divorce
I never really understood why some people choose to still sleep with their partners after the cheating is revealed. Even in this situation where he degrades her over it. If you hate your partner so much that you never want a relationship again, then why continue the physical relationship
Hate sex
It's a weird concept I guess but some ppl like the feeling of using the cheating spouse to inflict emotional pain
i’m fairly certain he just did that to cause pain to her….cant really berate him for it, people cope in different ways
hate sex is hot in the moment..
To get laid... duh!
But, on a more serious note, when a deeply intertwined relationship starts to unravel, that process may take time. That and the OP has this issue where he never has turned down sex from this woman, so he may literally have to go no contact in order to really break up with her. Also, seems she was really into that shit.
Sex is a way to convey feelings, emotions, and comes with a type of release. I think it's all linked to the fact that OP is literally on the verge of constant emotional eruption. The sex helps release all the pent up anger and energy that's linked with it. For OP's ex, it's probably for atonement.
That calm feeling after therapy is the best. it's just so relieving
If they could bottle that, I wouldn't need therapy, I'd need Rehab
Same, I took therapy since my college health office offered that and it helped put me in a great state of euphoria. It felt like time around me was slow and nothing matters, really refreshing after venting my heart out
This guy's posts felt like I was watching a lifetime movie 💀
What a waste of time and effort. The worst thing is how her daughters treated him and he even stayed with her. Its a shame he forgave them. He married a single mum raised her children and hiw she payed him, by going full 304 for 2 years just for a stupid kink. This woman is really stupid.
He was a cuck to start with. Never mess with single mums
It's not the kids fault.
what did the kids do?
@@travv88 Kids being kids when it comes to step parents.
Mans made sure to drop in a HIPPA violation in there too 😂 good job brother, sorry it happened to you
Op needs a fucking hug.
I understand how much she ruined OP's life, but stooping to her level with how he acted when she wanted sex with him and what he made her do was pretty degrading for both of them. I know she had already degraded herself plenty, but revenge sex isn't going to help. Not judging OP for doing it, I just feel like he shouldn't have done it for his own mental health and peace.
I was looking for someone else to say this. The sex part left a horrible feeling in my stomach.
Nah i dont wanna hear how she ruined his life. He did that on his OWN by getting with her KNOWING shes damaged goods and he said he wanted to be child free. But he still took on her kids. What kind of crap is that
@@ljlemon5546”damaged goods” is such a disgusting way of describing a women for just having kids
I am totally judging OP. That was a shitty thing to do and made me lose all sympathy for his issue. He's clearly not a good person either. Good people don't act that way. That shit sounded more akin to SA than anything else.
@@karmakiwi2155 I agree. She wasn't damaged goods. She was complete trash. She was trash in her previous marriage, and she was trash in her 2nd one. No surprise there.
Notice how every single reddit person needs therapy
No one needs therapy, it is a scam.
What? He lost 17 years of his life, ofcourse he needs therapy?
its reddit.
@@Thanatossssx He hooked up with a single mum. That is also a very reddit thing
@@mortaldao8044so??
Single mothers deserve no affection of form of intimacy bc they have kids??
If so then the same applies to a single dad
Solid parkour work man. I came for the story but you're damn good at it.
It isn't his parkour clip. None of these are. They're "stock" clips that can be put in the background, and are used on several other story accounts
@@ayeniifr?
@@lostplug Yep. it's why you see the same parkour maps/courses used across several videos and channels
Wtf is the point of wanted to not have kids and be "child free" but then getting with a chick who has kids and marrying her? You're not child free bro.
because back then the person was more valuable than his ideal wants; it's not surprising we all compromise with reality.
@@j0hnc00 more like he had low self value so when someone with more confidence came along he values the more than his own self worth.
@@l-l-l-l-l-l-l I always roll my eyes when someone says their a "firecracker" it just means they're unstable and don't think long term.
No single moms!!
Not defending the wife, but OP's way of dealing with it was a bit troubling: the vengefulness, the rough s*x, the drinking, suicidal thoughts...
Single mother behavior😂
OP's parent said it best. "Damaged goods", which when paired with OP who is a people pleaser brings the worst outcome. He signed up into a marriage where he was not respected by his step daughter, cheated on god knows how many time (I don't think this is her one and only time because she is the one who initiates the cheating and she had wilder sex drive than OP who can't even be a Dom in bed) and losing a good chunk of his life being used as free babysitter.
20:25 ok this part was just disgusting and vile
ONG XD WTH
I was NOT ready lmao.
I was with him up until that point. Obviously she deserves divorce & all that, but... the way he described their night together... it sounded more like grape than anything... it made me so fucking uncomfortable. He got some sort of kick/joy from violating his STBX...
It was borderline, he seemed to have been lost in the sauce.
This story genuinely got me emotional
@sadiaaziz3708 I don’t understand how was that disgusting r u talking about OP or the wife and explain how it was disgusting and vile.
This is probably the hardest parkour I’ve seen
I wouldn't be suprised if 85% of these stories are written by the same 5 people
Honestly same
Op is spiraling into the incel pit fast I feel bad for him.
what the fuck
With all the compromises and the fact that she was a practicing supervisor for her AP something tells me the ex wife doesn't want love, but control over people
It makes the part about meeting her that much worse.
Snap chat doesn't show messages read out tho...
20:10 is crazy, like bros actually a demon. I deadass could never be that mad lmao
The "abusive sex" was way too far! Not quite sure if that constitutes as rape, but omg that's horrible! I was completely on his side up until that point.
I wonder why nobody else is talking about that😮
It is not rape but is so grossly mannipulative to allow someone to degrade themselves when you know they think it will help keep you in the relationship when you know you're gonna bounce
@@meandmeself No it's clearly for catharsis and so she shares some of his emotional turmoil. It's not manipulative when he's outright stating that it isn't a reconciliation. Obviously not healthy but to call it rape or even manipulative is absurd.
@@entonbray it is manipulative because even if you say that it isn't a reconciliation to be doing this they have an unfair expectation that you are gonna go along eventually and it is just immature to lead something on that you know is just for getting off when the other expects more even if they are wrong to do that
@@entonbray and me saying manipulative doesn't mean I think he is evil either that just isn't the right choice in my mind
hey bro, keep going with the grind but maybe you could use some stories wich arent fake and also some stories other than cheating. All good tho
There's lots of stories out there, you wouldn't know what's fake and real. The craziest ones sometimes you won't believe really happened.
@@Shayne_Viceral-Perez Yea I mean I kinda like the fake stories since its just entertaining and most of the time I can tell wich stories are real and wich are fabricated or atleast are exaggerated. Im more so playing on the fact that he is overusing these goddamn cheating stories lmao.
@@shitpostproductions8039 he also gets caught on two lies, people said he can’t watch in real time on Snapchat and he replies “oh um whatever it was whatsapp xD” ALSO he said his wife received a message saying I’m bringing the toy, yet she is the one who brought it? Shit makes no sense lol
These kinds of stories makes me happy that I'm single. That stress is something I don't want to ever want in my life.
That has to be consider rape... right? Not legally but psychologically?? Like she did that outta whatever fucked up desperation.... why would you ever do that to your self? He hates you he's going to hurt you....
she wanted it so no its not rape.
How is it “psychological rape”
This guy turned down becoming a doctor for a woman with 2 kids, he deserves it tbh
Bruh
Love the internets hate on single mothers 💀
Some yall sound like adolescents in middle school who watch too much tate or smth
Got that "road to a million" in ur bios or smth
you dont need to forgive them to move on, you have to accept that they are not worth wasting any more emotions or time on and forgive yourself for letting them hurt you.
"my wife of 17 years 🥰🥰"
"my wife of 17 years 💀☠"
At first I started to feel bad for him until the part where he claimed they had sex but in reality he essentially rxped her regardless if she consented she was literally desperate thus wasn’t thinking with a clear head I wish I could find his post cause that’s disgusting as fuck he is no better than she is and probably worse for thinking that it was ok!
I agree!! that was horrible
By your logic, she is also a rapist, as any time she had sex with him when he was unaware of her infidelity, she raped him by deception.
If you think that is r*pe you don't think women are capable of having much agency
I was with him up until that point. Obviously she deserves divorce & all that, but... the way he described their night together... it sounded more like grape than anything... it made me so fucking uncomfortable. He got some sort of kick/joy from violating his STBX... fuck
How is it rape if she consented rape is sexual acts forced on someone without consent so for her to consent does not make it rape yes it was morally wrong to some people but she wasn't under the influence of any drugs or alcohol
The volume on this video is perfect. Sometimes they do wind up a little too quiet since I have the heat running.
I know she messed up but... OP should never have kept having sex with her. Honestly dude that was disturbing to hear. I know she cheated but OP is not a Saint either. That honestly sounded borderline evil and taking advantage of a situation. She's hoping she can get him back (which you shouldn't) but this guy is... just using her. That is so disgusting to me. I hope this is some sort of fake story and some dark fucking fantasy. Upon further thinking of it, that shit borderline sounded like SA.
you dont need to forgive her just tell her to get out of your life and forget about her never forgive
the most disturbing part is the revenge sex. he brutally raped her cuz he’s sad???? Cheating is one thing but violent assault is worse
I was with him up until that point. Obviously she deserves divorce & all that, but... the way he described their night together... it sounded more like grape than anything... it made me so fucking uncomfortable. He got some sort of kick/joy from violating his STBX... seemed like she felt she deserved to be graped, but really she didn't. No one (except grapists) deserve to be graped
She's of legal age she was not on any substances and fully consented so it is not rape morally it could be wrong to some but other than that f her
@@evinhylow7864 Yeah, keep thinking that, honey
“Final update - I’m dead.” lol. These AI generated stories sure are entertaining but they all fit the same pattern.
There would of been a time when I would of found the sex portions, post-affair reveal, as a type of abuse or SA. Now with more experience with relationships and overall understanding human behaviour, I get it.
Hate sex: it’s an odd feeling and experience that those in turbulent conditions crave or give into. For some it seems therapeutic or needed for their grieving process, but mainly a by product of an emotional state.
Is it healthy? Hell no.
It’s just something some people do at times, for whatever reasons, as long as both parties are consenting.
Isn’t the human heart strange sometimes?
It's always the voyeurs, they just have to take pictures or do things in public. If your girl is like this you should automatically suspect she has the capacity to cheat. It feeds their fantasy
This one was just sad.
Like, most of these have some karma, clever twist or satisfying revenge...
But this one just had a woman sleep with some guy that broke down once she got caught.
The guy gets depressed and the marriage falls apart.
No fun :-(
ok.... him starting to record her while they did it after signing the divorce papers to serve her.... is too much and very disturbing. Ik she fucked up and cheating once your done. But the recording grossed me out i had to stop listening
bro hated his cheating wife .... so he made a corn video with her 😂😂😂😂 wtfff
Hate sex and just being able to literally fuck it into her that he’s not coming back. Seems more plausible if you think about it like that.
always choose a career over a partner. a career will never wake up one day and tell you it doesn’t love you anymore
“I can explain” 💀
Random comment ☠️
19:26 that line had me dying 🤣🤣💀
Bro you didn’t just marry a nurse…you married a nurse that was a single mother 😭
That make nothing BETTER 😂😂😂😂. WAKE UP.
This is a pretty disgusting story, honestly. I'm not even really sympathetic to OP.
I relate to this guy so much. Ex gave me a similar response.
What she said cut me so deeply I find it much harder to maintain friendships now.
I asked her what I ever did for her to cheat on me. Her response? "Nothing. You were and are perfect."
I was perfect....sigh. oh well.
It sounds like she is a broken person. Don’t worry. It’s not your job to fix her.
All I know you need to keep making sure you and you’re girlfriend/boyfriend wife/husband you need to make sure hey this relationship is good and healthy don’t f it up now and remember if you wanna talk abut something am here and tell me everything and tell me what you think and please watch this video abut someone who is married or used to be married what have happened
Snapchat doesn't display the message the other person sent unless you enter the app itself 🗿
Lol fake story then 😂
He mistook it for WhatsApp
I can't believe op gave up his career for her...
Honestly I wonder what I would do if I was in his shoes, if I discovered my wife was unfaithful. Without any sense of pride or levity, I legitimately think it would be murder. I know myself, I know my anger and the depths of my spiteful hate. Pushed to that emotional edge, I believe that everything would strip away, leaving just that redhot coal of rage. I hate that part of me, but I know it's there.
Buddy the fuck are you doing leaving that on a youtube comments 😭 get yourself checked out and learn to control that anger. And not to be prepared for anything or whatever but just so that you're the best possible version of yourself
@@_juju_jojo_ wanna kiss bro?
@@idk-_-- I mean, as long as your offering. Ahaha
This story is captivating but this has the be the worst Minecraft gameplay I have ever seen lol
Kinkos isn’t even in business anymore???
download for the minecraft parkour world?
I find it quite disturbing how many of these stories there are.
Him railing his wife is crazy
The second he said that my mind went to “well he just fu(ked up”
okay i now im late but dude you have every right to cry
I have learned the hard way, there are definitely things a so can do that are more painful than cheating.
My husband has cheated in the distant past. I have never cheated. Never understood it until recently. Marriage can be so lonely. I daydream of an affair, of being loved, respected, held, and protected.
I communicate my despair with my husband. Nothing changes. If you asked him, we are doing good.
If i get away, ill probably never marry again. Its a trap.
she probably cheated on her first husband also lol
Snapchat doesn't give you text previews
This guy gave up a future by leaving medical school and marrying her. That woman if I can even call her that wasted 17 years of his life and ruined his future. That shit deserves prison
Probably a made up story but pretty well written if so. If it's true ( I believe it isn't ) , it's all gonna be good my guy. There's a world out there.
I’m pretty sure you can’t login into a single Snapchat account on multiple devices so that’s when I stopped believing it was true
Notwithstanding the nature of the story, the sadistic sex part was quite intense.
everyone in this story sucks
Great story but Jesus Christ the parkour in the background is throwing me off like bro just close app
Out of the air a girl came in the end and wanted to hook up with him? These stories are fairytails -.-
This turned into 50 shades of what the fuck
I've learned from this channel that a divorced woman is a huge red flag🚩
No fault divorce is BS if the other party cheats that should count for something.
69th viewert
Just the title alone has me gutted. 17 years. She wasted 17 years of that mans life.
Damn
- So tell me, what caused your lack of trust?
- Reddit.
This shit is so fake I believe the twilight story now
This short made me realize that Justin Timberlake and Justin Bieber aren’t the same person. I thought he just changed his last name or something. I’m actually in a lot of shock rn
Prior to divorce you do not go to her HR department
I swear reddit be better theropy than my doctor 😂
1:05 Already can tell the story is fake. Snapchat doesn't show you the contents of messages you receive in notifications, only that you got either a text message, picture, or video and who sent it to you.
“Damaged goods”?
33:13 Why did my mom have to walk into my room at this part?