What Causes Men To Breadcrumb A Woman (SHOCKING TRUTH)
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Hi Jonathon, I'm 59 female and have had no luck dating. The last guy I went out with stopped seeing me after the 2nd date because I didn't sleep with him right away. What questions should we be asking men? I love watching your channel. It's so refreshing to see a confident yet vulnerable man speaking the truth about these issues. I'm to the point where I just give up and just want peace and stability in my life. Connor would be so proud of you. God bless you!! ♥️🙏🕯️🕊️🌈
Isnt it called dating. Casual dating. You hang out for awhile have alittle sex.
So in other words instead of thumbing alone with his private body parts, sometimes male tend find a female human body to stick his body parts in. He is not interested in her as a human, but purely as a warm whole to stick his stick in. However if he will be direct about his intentions the female might not be allowing directly stick it to her and would feel used. However male being taught that if he mindf..ck female that he is not using her (bread crumbs) he would still get to stick his privates into her. If you he does it politely then somehow it downplaying "using" part.
He's not really that into you but he wants to save you for future 'USE'.
Makes total sense
So true
Okay i got it im just an option
My last relationship kept saying he met me at the wrong time- was busy, but didn’t want to lose me. Eventually he broke up with me by text saying he’s too busy. Funny thing is that he started dating another lady within a couple weeks and is still with her. Guess he was just too busy for me😢
@@sophiaperiii1483 To this immature, user friendly and not your caliber person. You may be an option. Sounds like your person is out there and as Antonio shared and I’m learning, it’s an inside job~nurture the relationship with you and we get to watch everything else come towards us and fall into place 🙏🙌💛
I guy who breadcrumbs is a very narcissistic , cold , manipulative , insecure “man”.
Well done!
Exactly! If I text a guy and no response for 24 hours...he’s dead to me. I’m not somebody’s afterthought!
Well said how dare they use people let's hope anybody who does that to someone get it back straight away from the next person
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Yep! They pretty much are. It’s all fun and games to them until you cut them off. They can’t deal with it!
I stopped breadcrumber last week. I came out with and said I’m done with inconsistent breadcrumbing behavior and then sent a screenshot of what the definition is in case he was unsure. Then I blocked him. Very empowering
Yeah I did the same too. I’m not being an option . No way. I’m glad I saw this behaviour after 3 months. No thank you
I did the same thing. I respect
Myself too much to make this keep happening. 👍🏼
Or maybe they are naive about men and all the games and lies they use.
Any word since?
It’s interesting to me how many middle aged men can’t see their role in why women their age might be bitter. Not justifying bitterness, but it’s usually because younger men treat women like garbage. Then they seek younger & younger ones they can continue to treat like garbage. Vicious cycle! Thanks for being a positive example of self reflection & accountability!
Or older men so 🤷
Exactly. They go for younger because they’re easier to manipulative and aren’t “damaged” like what they did to older women. It’s disgusting. They know they ruin women yet deny it.
I am 31 years old and I can tell you the dating pool definitely has pee in it. I find myself in situation ships back to back with men who are either non-committal, emotionally unavailable, players or simply just not ready to invest fully into a relationship. I am tired and emotionally drained. I am fearful that I will never find a real reciprocated love. All of these men are so scarred and at this point so am I. I can’t date anymore I give up 😞
Just turned 31 last month. You just read my life. Im over it too
Don't give up; ask the right questions up front to weed them wrong ones out quickly and don't feel bad about moving on if you see they don't fit what you want
@@dpharrison7 do as you want and run into losers. Let others live the way they want.
It's a bunch of bull there never scarred up until Mrs right comes next they marry her .it's a game they play.well they even know the behavior to do to get the silent message to you..they don't like u at all or a little bit to get rid of u..it's too bad they don't use honesty at the frt gate in the beginning and use it at the back gate when ur involved
@@Therealdonaldtrumpusa I hear you..if you feel this way being 31,imagine the way I feel being 39??it is really awful out there too much fake with alot of them.
He's just not interested if a guy really is into you he wouldn't do that
Yes, but things can even change, a man can start out really liking you and lose interest over time , there is no one tried n true way to know how things end up, except for running at the first red flag i fuess
If you mirror a guy and he breadcrumbs you he will eventually eliminate himself. ... and if youre smart youll accelerate that
Starting to do that now. Hopefully it takes care of the problem.
@@wunlytenow5783 It might, but why do the thing we don't like to someone else? I get that sometimes though you just don't want the confrontation and just want to piss them off. Good Luck
haha
It never stops this guy just after ignoring him for almost one month he lured me in now I deleted him. He keeps creating new accounts!😓😓😓😥
A good rule of thumb to remember is that most lazy guys are like flowing water, they take the path of least resistance. They will do as little as they can trying to get as much as they can. They are opportunists.
Why would a man say “ I love you, I adore you. I’m just not IN love with you?” Why bother even saying, “ I love you.”
Jonathan, don't you think a man will breadcrumb a woman if she allows it. It's upto us not to allow this behavior. When a woman knows her worth and is emotionally healthy she will not allow this breadcrumbing behavior to go on. Love your videos! Thankyou!
….” Allow ?”’
I’m responsible for my self -
I don’t give a F what the other guy is doing ..
@@BarbaraMerryGeng allow means to be given this behavior and continue to be available to him
I don't want to have to tell a man how to treat me at that level I'm not here to train him.im seeking the man who sees knows my worth respects it.and shows it by action in alignment..if he breadcrumbs you.hes not for u..leave..no words ..have to be spoken..
He can breadcrumb all he wants, I’ll be polite but I’m seeing other people dude..
Good.!
If u recognize “man breadcumbing” u, run Forrest! Run!!!!!!!
That’s like being their option
Yep- married and breadcrumbed for 13 years- while he was still shopping for someone else kept promising the golden carrot of a baby and a house..SO yep We are so done...
Girl...I did it for 8 months and I was over it.
@@Kat3369 he was deployed on an off told me he had some trauma and finally figured out he only wanted money
When that ran out he didn't want to to be married any more.... so glad I finally see him who he really is... I am single ..
@@nurselarelle good for you, babe! Good luck in love!
Issue is no one knows how to connect. texting is NOT connecting. And no one knows how to invest in people. So if one thing doesnt seem right, men and women bail as they can easily shallowly find a new date in their Pjs in their room. It takes no effort these days and there is no accountability. Same goes for work, friends, etc. we live in a very self serving country and world.
100%
Unfortunately, that is completely true!
I’ve noticed we have moved to a virtual society where feelings and investments are like buying benefits in a game. It’s not real or taken seriously by most people. If one of your love languages is “quality time” then you have to be so clear that means both your worlds stop for a selected period of time to really connect. If I am investing my life, energy, time, money in you,Expect an equal commitment. Love isn’t fuzzy warm feelings, it’s sacrifice and commitment for the benefit of enjoying this person I feel is worth while.
Assumptions and expectations are the razor and poison of relationships. The problem is we all have them. We don’t share them or we aren’t honest about them. Then we use them against the very person we want to connect with.
Very well said, i concur
It's best to remove yourself from a situation like that...I share things about myself with a man and I have my boundaries I am also self sufficient and take care of myself...we have too many women chasing men out here...so if I feel like he is withdrawing or breadcrumbing me I just remove my energy and myself completely ...that does one of two things...gives him space to contemplate about whether or not I am that important to have in his life or what is most likely my energy will be replaced with another female and then it is clear he was not looking for a partnership just for a battery to charge up whatever need he has in his life and I am neither not an energizer...I am a dura cell 🤣
Know your worth and don't settle for less than you deserve...and that means from anyone not just potential partners ☺️
I’m NOT blend-able with a man still talking to his ex-wife and paying for his 30 year old daughters lifestyle, nope. Booom.
That dude is not emotionally mature, obviously.
My dad supported me until the day he passed away (literally) - I was 36. That alone, I don't think makes anyone a bad person.
@@inkerikavantera 🙏🙏🙏💫🕊🕊🕊💫😉
@@inkerikavantera :) ♥️
@@pelekoa4414 🎀💓🐣🐯🦄😍
Had this happen. Guy literally begged to be with and see me. Then started the lying "oh i was busy today" dissapeared for 8-24hours on a regular basis. Very erratic communicator. Lots of promises, little return, I asked if he had interest in someone else....he denied it.
I asked him if he wasnt all that interested we could end it now. He kept saying no that he was all in and committed to seeing the relationship through long-term and talks about wanting marriage etc........then goes back to not communicating. Just when i was ready to vent an block him he would message me as if everything was perfectly fine. "i did this an that today...i cant wait to see you and be with you....blah blah." Then i reply, and no response again for another 8-24hrs.
I started dating other men. Just makes no sense to have so much free time to do all these great things and adamant about being with me, yet wont contact me.
The guy I was dating for months gave me the feeling I was asking too much too soon. Like where this is going. At firts he was showing me full interest and than pulled away like let's take it slow, lets hang up for a year and than we will see. BS! I detached and he came back around wanting to invest more. The cycle repeated. I cut him off for good. Soon after he was in a relationship. Always trust your instinct and believe when someone is keeping you in a limbo. We absolutly deserve someone who is not just bored and immature.
Sick of breadcrumbs !! I want a baguette 🥖
Another great video, I call breadcrumbing the C+/B- syndrome. Dating someone who is close but not quite close enough. I think when people are lonely or suffer from low self esteem they will get tempted to settle for the close enough and not hold out for that A- to A+ relationship that we all deserve.
Well said
In my life, there is no such thing as an A+ man. If I get a B+, it'll be a miracle. Too many people my advanced age are too damaged or flaky to function in a relationship.
I asked the guy I adore to meet my father and he replied, "One day". It really hurt me as I know 'one day' is more than likely a no. I saw it as a put off and that he wasn't serious developing anything further with me. Why can't men/people just say no and then explain why they say no so you now and left wondering about things.
Because being honest doesn't get them what they want, so they evade at best and lie their [another word for donkeys] off. 😉 Be vigilant!
@@FortyFourAndGoreyep sadly 😢
I think at this stage of the game..... DATING WOMEN & forgetting about the opposite sex would be MUCH EASIER 🤨
Hahaha
Lol!! Just said this to my DIL this morning!!!!!!
AGREE!!!!
I think about this all the time.
Amen to that
My younger brother just told me I had to interview men. Wow, he knows more than me. ❤️
Because he is a man. A young one but a man so he knows.
I am so angry that my husband changed after the wedding. I feel deceived that his intentions were not known until after it was too late.
Please... do that for me! I was married for 29 years, and the whole dating thing is sooooo hard!!
Actions speak louder than words.
Seen enough men use the first wife to get somewhere established. Then dump the 1st wife cause she reminds him he’s older.
So they plug in the trophy wife assuring themselves, they are still young & vital.
This society is equal opportunistic it seems. All the available men (note not traditional self respecting men) are looking for a 10-20 year old younger woman who’s career oriented . And younger girls are looking for that self made man who’ll happy to indulge them while he still can.
And the overlooked mature experienced woman, keep their money close to the vest, traveling, doing their thing and enjoying life.
A seasoned gal has the attitude of ‘yes, maybe I may have wanted you, but since you passed me by for the ‘fountain of youth’ then I certainly don’t need you.
Older men fool themselves cause they attracted some financially savvy young ladies…But some girls pay them attention cause they see a man with an ego in need of feeding.
If you are not good friends with your significant other, you will be subject to the rollercoaster of romance (which can be exciting, but not the main meal). Feelings of love are much different than feelings of sexual attraction. When sex becomes the full expression of the love one feels for one's partner (general like, admiration, respect, feeling safe, and more) it is the best. I like the best. I would rather wait for that, or be happy alone.
This video could not be more 150% spot on!!
I know women in their late 30s who are so burned out that dating absolutely sucks and they don’t want to do it anymore.
I personally have one friend that’s 39 almost 40, and she’s been ghosted or strung along a month two by almost 50 men.
This dating scene regardless of the age range it absolutely sucks!
I’d love to see how to navigate online dating when you still in your 30s never been married and want a family it seems nearly impossible because most men don’t want a commitment or they’ve been divorced and never want to do it again; how can we vet them to narrow it and find the quality ones that won’t waste out time???
Maybe some of the 50 men your friend was with thinks that she’s a breadcrumber. It’s all about perspective.
You need one interview question…”What do you think you need to work on about yourself” If the person says they don’t need to change anything RUN…😨😳😬 I agree. Ask questions to get to a deeper level fast.
@Jenny G Ha ha great. That is the question that Dr Les Carter recommends as someone with narcissistic personality disorder cannot answer it 😊😃
Love it!
I need to do that? Do I look him up on Google?
I was involved with one this past yr & last
Doesn't really matter WHY he's breadcrumbing...just block him if he's doing that. If you don't have the nerve to block or ghost...just toss him into the friendzone and keep it platonic forever (no more dates). Best wishes. ❤
Exactly
No mystery here.No matter which partner man or woman breadcrumbing it is derived from just being selfish.
And it's just plain rude.
@@springfauna1465 It sure is!! I’ve dropped a few female friends lately for breadcrumbing me. It’s rude and hurtful in any type of relationship.
I have to say, hold the phone! to the 60 yr old male in Atlanta. He has just put women my age in a box. Bitter, jaded? I believe we are wiser, more intuitive and spot B.S. quicker. So I call B.S. on his rationalizing dating someone young enough to be his daughter. Lol, love you Jonathan, but there is two sides to that coin. 58 and alone in Alabama.
This!!!! You are so spot on! It is certainly why I come off as “bitter and jaded”! I know what I want, and what I will NOT tolerate. There is absolutely nothing wrong with knowing that and NOT bowing down to a man and accepting less than what I deserve!
I wouldn’t say we are bitter and jaded but we know what true love is and personally I am not willing to settle for less. A widow of 6 years happily married for 34 years currently 62 n single.
Brilliant comment! 👏👏👏👏
I've know jaded 19 yo girls , all ages women r dealing with this crappy dating scene, sadly some of the younger ones r going through even worse.
Agreed! Thought the same when he told that story.
Funny your friend said that...I'm 56, and divorced in 2019, after being with my ex for 37 years. A lot has changed, regarding dating, & guys, since I was 19. I never thought I would date someone in the 38-42 year range, but I do, because it seems that men my age are looking for a cook and a nursemaid, instead of a girlfriend, or a relationship! And God forbid, if you want to go dancing, or do something spontaneous, or fun. And I have to be honest...in the bedroom...they just can't keep up.
Everything you said is true. Just ended a "relationship" for this very reason.
Same here!
Was just about to go to bed and saw this 11.10pm here in Australia....happy to catch Jonathon live for once..
Hello there, in Australia 🦘
I watch this channel from Denmark... 😊🌏
The older a person is, the more life experience you would expect from them. Many young ones appreciate this mature quality in a person. Others prefer to be same age group to grow together and learn about life together. To each their own.
😄😄 I would love having an older brother to ‘interview’ men I’m interested in
Right?!?!
Perhaps I'll ask a friend that served in the Navy. BS reader 🤪
I have two older brothers and nobody's good enough for me in their eyes, so scratch that! LOL!!!!!!!!
@@springfauna1465 LOL Well. My older brother...yeah my two uncles two. I'm not sjre they have seen anyone as "worthy." But maybe in past that was because they weren't the best for me? Not sure if the saw me clearer and read those guys better?
@@ladyj8878 Most probably, they sound like treasures.. I’d like to have brothers just help me move… lol
I'm 60 yrs old. And I find men my age are damaged from bad experience with women. I like 10-20 younger as well.
Agree most men in 60s are damaged if single younger ones look appealing but too close to kids age. Just can’t do it
I am 62yrs...divorced since 2004 ( two failed attempts at a relationship.( 5yr and a 1yr ....but both alcoholic) , I am damaged as well, ( not with alcohol )so men have way too much baggage, i no longer want to give up my freedom of doing what I want, watching what I want, being with friends, family. Just not answering to anyone..I actually like being alone...
Good one! 😂
Jonathon, you hit the nail on the head when you said, "emotional immaturity!" Because this was a recent experience of mine. Thank you so much for this topic!!
I would have loved to have a dad or a big brother who cares enough to protect me. I am an only child.
I had 3 older brothers and a great Dad. They did protect me and it kept away A Holes for the most part.
I have two older brothers and a father, but they never protected me. They're not bad people, just self centered and carrying their own wounds, along with my mother. I grew up in a home with parents steeped in unimaginable trauma where I had to tend to their needs. I've always been on my own to sort through life. It's painful.
@@kp4911 I am so sorry to hear that. Have to say my Dad and my brothers were always my heroes and now that I'm getting a divorce after almost 40 years of marriage, they are still there for me. Perhaps you can reconnect with them. This divorce has brought them closer to me.
We are not in control of what others offer us, but we Are in control of what we received
Vet before dating. I really like this. I am doing this inasmuch as I can. It's rough out there no matter who pulls away or ends things first. Taking it slow, waiting for sex even, and staying unattached to the outcome seems about the best way.
I am reading your book now on Self Love...it should be the Bible for dating and becoming emotionally mature. I have found bread crumbing occurs for all the reasons you mentioned but more often than not it is the emotionally immature who are stuck in "maybe." Thank you, you are very insightful. Keep up the great work.
WOW! Thanks for sharing!!
Yup!!
I just left a relationship like this. We dated for a total 5 months and lived together for 3 of those months, but after we moved in together this started happening.
I tried to communicate everything about what you’re saying with him, but it was always a moot point. I felt like he was wasting my time, so I walked away. Haven’t spoken to him since.
Agree 100% most men don’t like being asked questions and say nasty stuff or avoid it by changing the subject or say not now later and later doesn’t come. Or run away!
Men in their 50’s don’t want a committed relationship.
@Corinne D'amato you are so right !
Or they think they can do better, and end up a lonely old man
Women need to close the shop to this kind of customer.
Even Men in their 30s don’t want it. I think it’s society and how’s it changed dating for all ages. 20-60 it doesn’t matter it’s all the same.
I’ve just succumbed to the idea I’ll be single forever at this point.
@@8309barbie I think a lot of people are wondering if this is the new reality. I do think we have to be more firm about what we will accept, even if it means rewinding expectations back to horse and buggy days more or less. Facing singledom, there is not much to lose.
I love this, Jonathon! I am in agreement that it's not wise to keep allowing ourselves to get hurt over and over again.
Dating is exhausting and does wear on our heart. So far three scammers and the newest has pulled back, and I don't know why. But I will keep trying!!
Why bother.....
God bless you, it certainly gets tiring
You pull back and see what happens 👍 men are supposed to Pursue women
I just thought of this story about one of my exes. He was my first husband and I see him frequently because
we share two children and four grandchildren. So here's a scene with this ex. Everyone was sort of
hanging out in the lobby before the start of my grandson's Bar Mitzvah. On these occasions we
usually hug, but this time he approaches me with his hand outstretched, like he's going to shake
hands. I laughed, saying something like "Ha! We were married for 18 years and have two children
and 4 grandchildren and now you're shaking my hand as though we just been introduced...?! ) I am laughing
again, thinking about it, and I only wished I'd spoken louder so that others around me could appreciate the joke!
If he’s in a new relationship, hugging you would be disrespectful to his new partner. Not sure why having been married in the past would entitle you to the level of physical intimacy you had while married.
I absolutely love every single one of Jonathon’s videos. I am 35 years old and I can relate to everything he says. I also enjoy getting the male perspective on things. Very enlightening. Great stuff!
My husband who has bread crumbed me since we met loves Black Sabbath. He was at the concert in Milwaukee where there was a "riot" we both come from very similar trauma filled families. 35 years later and here we are. When I express my needs I'm told I'm too much and never happy
I cannot disagree with anything this man has stated. I approve.
Yes, Jonathon! I always wanted a big brother in my teens and twenties. I ask the tough questions one the phone. A good one to ask is what their passion is. If they do not have one, I move on. I am not bitter and carrying a lot of baggage but I agree. Men and women in their 50s have a lot of unresolved trauma and childhood wounds. Everybody should love themselves fully before going out on the dating scene. I was always intentional….I like deep conversations, not the BS small talk.
Come on now! I love this video! I would rather run away the wrong guy by being straightforward and direct about what I want/need, than to waste my time with someone who is emotionally unavailable.
Wht I want other women to know is that is not ur faults when a man breadcrumbs u.
He wants to do it, he do it.
If he feels like to do it, he do it. So when a man does it, don't ever second guessing, u will feel emotionally drained and depressed by guessing the reasons why a certain people do something ...
Accept what he show, he show what he want to show... So u know...
I feel breadcrumbed for years. I had “a drawer”. Then he decided to sell and move but no heart-to-heart about how it would play out for us. Any affection at all initiated by me was rejected so I would withdraw. Much later he would kind of reach out again. Good lord. Over and over. Not a sex thing. I call it emotional constipation. He broke and one night told me I love you several times, timid but joyful self-discovery. Then no calls for a good month. Then no reference to it. At all. Depressing since we have years of fantastic adventures. I don’t want to start new with anyone, but this is not satisfying. More like self destructive.
Thanks for your insights.
Girl, you have put up with too much! Block him! Move on. Find friends to do things with, go places with, friends to hug! Find a group to do things with. Get a part time job, fill your time. You have been treated poorly far too long!
Sounds horrific.
I'm 57 years old, healthy minded and over my past ready for love. My last relationship during covid bread crumbed me. He was fine with going jogging every day outdoors going shopping at the mall and the grocery store, but he wouldn't meet me in person outside. Finally, after calling him out on this, he did meet me at Starbucks, but only for about an hour. Then it took two more months to have him meet me again. He didn't like it that I wouldn't go to "his place", so finally he ghosted me.
hi jonathon
once again, you’re so right - why enter into a relationship before getting to know a person?
on a side note: don’t worry about not showing your book - it would have ruined the view on your black sabbath t-shirt!
I agree with what you say about interviewing/interrogating someone you're dating. It doesn't have to be obvious or aggressive/hostile, and I suggest watching a few real police interrogations (not TV) - most of them are quite calm - or body language videos, to understand how you can interpret the truthfulness of someone. It's important to get to the deeper levels, because when life's storms hit, you will want those strong roots. One of my personal tests is - what kind of a sense of humor does he have? Nothing is more revealing about a person than what they find to be humorous.
My problem is ALL THE MEN in my Age are in there 60s & LATCHED ON TO ME in just a few dates & then CLAIM ME & plan my life out with them!!!! 😳 OMG! Please STOP THE MADNESS! No wonder I FEEL MORE Comfortable with a Man who’s bread crumbing me!
You must have a nice house and/or a big divorce settlement.
Life is short thats why
Woo hoo! I'm 60 and not bitter!!! 🙌🙌🙌
I enjoy your videos. I feel like you need to visit this topic again.. the true "breadcrumb" behaviour happens when the person is just saying Good Morning.. and hey... followwed by asking for x rated pics. No calls either. They are have the true "funboy" personality and want to string the woman along for about a month until they think they've worn you down enough for them to come over. It's usually someone who has become comfortable with collecting pictures with no human connection. For example a friends with benefits situation which means no commitment. However this type wants to skip the friends part as well. I'm not sure how many women are participating in this game. It must be going on or they wouldnt be able to get away with this.
This is so true , we need to be aware of this and bail out . They play hot and cold so you never know where you are with them. Ladies kick a man like this to the kerb you will never be happy with them and they will just hurt you . Dont' listen to lines im-so in love with you because if they were they wouldnt' be treating you this way. Be strong and walk away.
I would like this twice if I could, I totally agree.
I’ve been thinking the same to myself for a while. There must be women participating in this type of dynamic, knowingly or unknowingly, for this type of “funboy” personalities (btw, loved the moniker :)) to continue to thrive and persist. Hook up culture has harmed women while giving sleazy men exactly what they are looking for. I hope women wisen up and not participate in these dynamics, not only for their own sake, but for the sake of womanhood and traditional family values. Sigh.
@@Ana-rb7ws so agree
I want the whole loaf not just crumbs been there done that 4 years no more. I deserve more than that
Oh my, for a second I thought "Breadcrumbs? Do guys dredge and deep fry us?" 🤔 I guess some of them do.
Only if you let them. Love yourself and you wouldn’t accept the breadcrumbs. I want the whole loaf again. I call dating a job interview
Your friend said many women are bitter, jaded and angry at men. Many men are like this too and that makes it hard to date for women who do not hold a lot of baggage.
You’re right vetting really does have to occur on the front end. Once you get into a long tangled relationship with the wrong partner they typically reject your interest.
Love how you teach us to also look at ourselves the things we do..or not do as women..love u johnathon.. blessings
My husband interviewed - or I should say - interrogated me before dating me. And while he asked me all the very important questions I paid much attention to the questions he asked as they told me all I needed to know about him. 20 years later we are truly happy and more in love than ever. Very good advice! I enjoy your videos as they confirm that we're successful. Plus I love learning how to continue to be successful.
Thank you Jonathon- that’s exactly it. Thank you. My 6 yr on/off relationships was exactly that. A light bulb moment.
On off attitude so as could not trust him which he condescendingly said was unattractive. He kept things to himself. Only say enough but you know the deceit is there so you can’t trust. You shut up rather than being put down. Self love was needed badly Jonathon…. In buckets. So glad it’s over!
I can appreciate that too many "let downs" might permanently scar a heart. I am quite tender from a 9 mos relationship that just ended painfully. I know I heard and saw what I wanted even though he was quite honest that he was not interested in a long term relationship. So I take my part and he has some too as he did not act inline with that sentiment all the time. So I'm trying to enjoy my summer and have lots of girlfriend plans. I've been trying to cultivate being more open and generous to all I meet. Starting conversations, smiling, giving compliments to strangers. My girlfriends have an a joke about this....I call it channeling my inner Labrador retriever vs my more natural cat instincts. Beyond any dating aspirations I feel like it just creates such a positive flow in my life and creates happiness and joy internally where I'm in danger of the scarred heart resulting in being bitter and jaded. ♥
Jonathan I’ve made a conscious decision to be single. I live in Hong Kong and there are very few men my age here. The few I have met are wounded. I have a very happy life, I work full time and love my leisure time. I am loved by my. Adult children and I love myself. So I’m going to be happy and complete without a man. Thank you for the great videos, I’ve really enjoyed them. 😀🙋💎
I like that, I thought of having my grown children interview and choose the man I should go on a date with. I even thought of calling Nev and Max to help with a date I just couldn't figure out what he was up to, but I would love it if you would interview my dates for sure! ❤
This happens in marriages too so I think 🤔 we just have to keep calling our spouses out on it. 😆
I’m not wounded but only because I consciously chose to take years to heal alone.
7:35 that was actually going on in traditional societies and communities where fathers & older brothers won’t let their daughter or sister date . They only approve of official relationships to make women avoid heartbreaks
Lol! It's true. I need to be my own big brother with a shotgun mentailty for vetting men before I date them.👍👍👍 Yes!! Be intentional about dating. If he gets scared, let him run!!😎
My GOD Jonathan ! You are just too wonderful for words.....Just found you recently. Where have you been all my life ???
A big hi and hug Jonathan from Juliet, a New Zealander living in London, England. I have been watching your videos for months and liked you so much from the word go. You are always so sensible, genuinely nice and with good balanced energy. I wish you well!!! Xxxxx
New to your channel! I was talking to a guy for about 5 months during the pandemic. He was consistent texting but never called. (We work together). I asked him why he’d never asked me out on a date- he said he was trying to get to know me and then go from there and that he was not in relationship-but considered himself dating....acted like I was putting him on the spot...he said he did not think there had been opportunity to ask me on a date w everything going on...I accepted I’d been had. He’d wasted my time.
Very interesting video. Have been married for 32 years. I find that after being married that amount of time Men still breadcrumb. I find it is a means to see if you still care about them. The answer to your question that you may ask is... Yes, I am married to an emotionally immature man. Yes, I am a gluntant for punishment. Still trying to get him to grow up 😞 In your opinion. In my case. Would you reccomend your book "What the heck is self love anyways?"
Yes big brother advice always needed over here ! Thank you Jonathan. Breadcrumbs are crumby. I really want to get better at speaking my truth when dating. I think I breadcrumb myself and don't even realize it but not speaking up for myself at the right times.
Glad to help
You can ask questions but sometimes they don’t always tell you the truth ❤
I was asking for advice this week from friends two of which were women, and what they said absolutely puzzled me. They said “the less attention he gives me the more I want him.” I guess I have the hardest time finding the balance between kind/generous and opportunistic/aggressive.
I have been "interviewed" by men only to be love boomed in return. Once they are aware of my playback they just tell me what they think I want to hear and then eventually it turns into a bad break-up and my heart broken and precious time lost. I'm so tired of being played.
Thank you! I actually had a friend tell me not to ask men "What are you looking for?" or any other important questions! Thank you for validating my intentional style of dating.
323 calls later.... Most of which were initiated by him... Sometimes toward the end calling me 8 times a day.... To say the least I am bewildered.....
Did he ghost you? After all those calls? Jerk! Sounds like he was playing the field and using your kindness as emotional support..
I like you Jonathan! You’re fun and inspiring! I’m struggling with all the things you’re diving into. I’m learning! I’m going to do what you advices! I can see my own mistakes! It’s both ways!!! We’re not intentional! I’ll ’ have to start asking questions no matter what! Thank you Jonathan! You’ve made me aware of the loopholes!
I am so glad I stopped the breadcrumber. I am now in a real solid relationship.
Thank you Jonathon for the hug. Haven't been hugged in such a long time. Don't know what that feels like anymore. Wish I could buy your book, self love but so poor. I'll continue to watch your videos.
Alice, the world is filled with people who would love to be hugged by you giving kindness to one person by another person...so many people of all ages are in some kind of pain, physical, emotional...all kinds...a productive way to live is when you find you have a need, give that very thing to someone else...I wish you the very best in life
Yes, your 3 key points where accurate. Something I need to clearly discuss in my next coffee date and don’t get swept away with chemistry. Because you want it to workout so much. Unfortunately it never does.
Yes, I would love a big brother. I am an only child, and my mother never taught me how to protect myself. I had to learn the hard way with a ruined life.
I want to hear why so many agree to this “Friends w/Benefits” crapola 🤦♀️🔫
You mention the maybe category. When things are new we don't always present ourselves authentically. I tend to look for ways to make things work.. Sometimes I find myself thinking the guy is a "maybe" but wonder if it's me overlooking or misreading the red flags.
Nothing irritates me more the a man's breadcrumbing.. Bottom line he gets jettisoned out of my life... Goodbye I say
Thank you, out of South Africa, Cape Town.. 💛🙏
Greetings from South Africa. Love your content...
Regarding vetting a potential meet up/ relationship, I get the last name and background check. I have 3 rules for the initial meet up: 1-public place, 2-my turf-home field advantage, 3-ALL expectations are off the table-protects both parties.
Great video thank you❤ I won't be settling for breadcrumbs next time and ask more questions next time. Done being taken for ride and disappointed. Appreciate you.
"You want to scare the wrong guy away by asking the right questions right away."