How Do I Stop Giving Money to My Ex-Daughter-in-Law?
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I have to disagree with you regarding wanting to know where daughter-in-law is spending her money. If daughter-in-law is asking for money. mom-in-law has every right to know that it's not going to drugs or alcohol or fast food or starbucks or any other number of behaviors that are squandering that money. If daughter-in-law does not want to cough up the information, she does not get one penny.
I agree with you on this. If you pay your own way and don't ask me for money then I would agree with Dr. John that what you are doing with your money is none of my business but when you start coming to me for money I start disagreeing with Dr. John because it absolutely becomes my business what you are doing with your money. I'm supposed to give someone money and not even be allowed to know if they are using that money to buy drugs? Are you kidding me?
Yep, same thing with a college kid refusing to disclose grades to their parents. Assuming the parents are paying.
I kind of agree with you. She doesn't have a right to ask where her money goes right now. She does have a right before giving her money reach time to put that knowledge as a stipulation to helping her financially
Agreed
My son did the same to me right after my husband died. At the time, I had no clue how much money I would have coming in. His landlord called me. I paid thev3 months he was behind and told the landlord not to call me again. My son rarely speaks to me now. My husband and I spent most of our savings fighting cancer. Then my daughter took off to the world of drugs. I'm now raising her two children. I feel for this nice lady. Sometimes kids turn our lives upside down.
Im really sorry to hear that. I feel sorry for you. Sometimes drugs can amplify an already bad situation. Best of luck to you.
So sorry for losing your husband
And men keep telling women they will grow old alone if they don't have kids.....kids or no kids stuff happens and sometimes they can be more trouble than not
Wow, im sorry. You should not have to raise your children and your grandchildren. You are a good person for doing so though.
@@ykook7000 They need to parent them right. Kids take work, or don't have them.
This caller ain’t saying all she knows “I don’t trust her in my house” there’s sooo much more to the story sounds like she doesn’t wanna tell it ALL
Yeah, there is so much more going on here. Also where is the DIL family? Can't they also help? Why is all on the caller?
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Don’t pick up the phone and call. Messages is the proof the courts will want. Have it in writing
Agree. Send texts and emails which is documentation unless she records the phone calls.
How would courts be involved?
@@Fred2-123 this is headed to court. She won’t voluntarily give up the child. They said call and say I am coming to get the child…… yea that not sound advice. Message that is your intention and the reason why and state that if you don’t comply I’ll be seeking legal custody.
Yup that was terrible to advise. Paper trail is everything. Only way to consider a phone call is if it can be recorded with or without the consent depending on the laws there.
Exactly. He’s really missing it with his advice on this one.
I agree with talking on the phone to make things more personable, but for legal purposes, if it comes to that, documentation is key and that's also a text message.
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Tell the son to take care of his choices and be accountable for his decisions!!
The moment you ask me for money, where your money goes IS ALL MY BUSINESS.
If you do not feel it is my business to know where your money goes, do not even attempt to move your lips to ask me for a dime.
Exactly if you need money I can get into your business or you don't get my money
I was gonna comment something similar.. this is where i disagree with John. My cousins asked my parents for money and when they consulted me, I said give it to them on 1 condition.. share your budget with us (or we can help you create one) so this situation never arises again
Like when a homeless person asks for money for food. I offer to go get them a sandwich or burger or something. Suddenly, they're not interested.
Agreed. 💯.
@@garyishSame. Amen.
If she’s been paying her rent every month since April, then why is she about to be evicted? 🤔
Best comment on here! I wish the guys had asked her that during the call.
Meth is my guess.
Why are you so cute.
She said she's been paying the rent since Jan!
What I came here to say!
So her son turns trans and is allowed by the courts to absolve himself from all responsibility and he's allowed to just be flake and a burden on society?
Trans privilege 😂
@@jeremywheeler2122 exactly
A lot of these people are doing that to their families after ripping them apart to pursue their new lifestyles. It's really messed up. One example: Caleb Hammer did a financial audit of one of these people, and he was a despicable person, father, and husband!
My thoughts exactly! Horrible people yet glorified by the media. The world is going downhill
my bio-dad was not trans and i was given 25 a MONTH by him court ordered. he was just a old bum not working and thats all the court took out of his SS. he would call me once a year to complain about those 25. he felt that since my mom was getting ebt she shouldnt have claimed child support.
Only $800 rent and still can’t pay? Stop giving her money and take custody or call the cops if she puts up a fight and file a petition for her this mom has a secret life that’s why she’s broke .
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Sad for a child being leveraged.
This caller is basically paying the child support her son should be paying and the ex-daughter-in-law knows it. It's not the caller's responsibility to financially support anyone. It would be enough of a sacrifice and commitment if the caller took in and raised her granddaughter. She needs to save her money for her own future and just be a regular grandma who babysits and gives gifts to her grandchild.
How are you going to tell this lady that her daughter in law money isnt her problem! If i give you money its my business to know where its going JOHN
That's what Dave always says. If someone asks you for money, you have a right to know where it's going.
I blame the transgender who chose himself over the child he help created. Caused this whole confusion. The child suffers the most
That's a woman now. Accountability goes away.
Trans or not I don’t see how that impacts the person from caring for their child. They don’t have to be together to still care for the child.
I blame this administration that caters to TRANSGENDERISM. Hey the can change their gender not on the expense of taxpayers.
You are not wrong, of course, to blame the he/she, or whatever that thing is. But at least as much blame must be allocated to the woman, as she chose to make a baby with this him, her, or whatever it is. Either that or she choose not to take proper precautions to insure a baby was not made.
Birth control has never been easier, more accessible, cheaper, or more reliable than it is now. Yet so many women cannot be bothered, or worse, they just want to crank out kids without any thought to the long term consequences for themselves or the child. And I don't want to hear something to the effect of; well the man has just as much responsibility as the woman to take precautions. While, on paper, that may be true, the reality is the man can just drop out, anytime he wants, as the thing in this example did. It is much harder for the woman to just drop out, so whether it is right or not, she must be the one to protect herself.
I agree,I got nothing against trans people but when you have a kid it ain’t about you anymore you do what’s best for the kid that means being a father not something else.
Lots of people in the LBGTQ community have good jobs, careers, businesses of their own. I think the father of the child needs to be held to a higher standard.
I think John's initial assessment of "indigent" is the real reason for the low, court-ordered weekly payment. Trans may be the reason for that state of being but you still can't get blood from a stone. If that individual is not working to their full potential, for whatever reason, there is no more money available for child support.
We have a similar situation in our own family. The ex-DIL had to be told she needed to figure out her own life, after being provided room & board for over a year after the split. The trans family member is not really a functioning member of society & is irritatingly self-absorbed but "her" life is also hers to figure out.
@@hrobinson9701 I didn't know if the indigent reference was assumed? John probably had back-story we didn't hear about.
Where's ex DIL's family? I didn't hear that question. Also, doesn't Dave advise sitting with those in financial distress to help them learn to manage their money? And why isn't it caller's business how ex-DIL spends the money she's given? Also, John -- heaven forbid you lose your wife, but your life will *NOT END* -- what an overly-dramatic and self-defeating statement! Is this what you tell your clients?? No, you'd say, take as much time as you need to grieve, and then move forward!! Sheesh, John.
Yea, John frustates me. I don’t think he gives very good advice sometimes. Not sure he should be on this show.
Where her money's going is entirely your business as long as you're giving her money constantly. So... I disagree. She should have to show you why she doesn't have money. You could be enabling a drug addiction for all you know.
She likely won't give you the granddaughter as long as she knows the granddaughter is the way to your money.
100%. When you’re literally paying her rent and then she calls and says she needs money for rent, they definitely just made it her business.
This whole situation is sad from top to bottom. And there's a child caught in the middle.
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No car note, free food, and minimum $900 in extra income per month!! I don't think the Dil is working 2 full-time jobs. Maybe it's 2 part time jobs otherwise she wouldn't qualify for government assistance. Income would be too high.
The son is a dead beat dad
I hope the Mom will encourage the daughter in law to go back to the Child Support Court system and let them take another look at the deadbeat father. He doesn’t qualify for the Dad title! $25 a week is nuts. That should be the Monday morning call for the child’s mother.
True, But also the mom isn't stepping up as she should be
Sounds like she's not even using the money she's being given for rent because she's on the verge of being evicted. She's getting all kinds of support and yet doesn't have control over her money and expect people to keep funding her life.
Not only that she's completely fine putting this pressure on a grieving widow.
She's not a better actor here than the guy is frankly
Excuse you it's "Ma'am"
A dead beat mom now apparently....
Consult a dictionary and you will see you are wrong. He pays court ordered child support. Yes it's a pathetic amount but that's the judges fault. Deadbeat means you don't pay child support. She is.
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"But my grandchild doesn't have any food ... ". It will always be about the child, so you either have to get custody of the child, or, offer to feed the child IN YOUR HOME. If she gets evicted, the grandchild can stay with you, but not her. Whatever you do, you do directly and only for the child. You never give the mother money to spend on the child.
As dave says, the grand child is not your child, not your responsibility, that child has its own parents
@@dbdb4962 You don't have grand children, am I correct?
They're getting food stamps and the child if under 5 is getting WIC
@USMC6976 this is what dave said. I do have grandchildren. I watched a RUclips where he said that to someone.
@@dbdb4962 I haven't seen that one, but yeah, the child isn't my responsibility, but if you noticed, I take care of the child, not the parents. If that can't happen, I'll let the state take my grandchild then petition the state for custody.
I believe the mother-in-,law should know how much she makes and where it goes. If the daughter-in-law disagrees, then she can tell her no more money!!!
Yep, ideally Granny needs to sit her DIL down and look at income and expenses and see where improvements can be made.
You have made her dependent out of your guilt. But you have to step back and let her figure it out
...from one Granny to another
There's helping and taking advantage
Dave says you can sit them down and say that your money is conditional on the two of you sitting down and you help her make a budget. If she wants your money you do get to know what she's going to do with it. You might also offer to put her through FPU.
Yeah I was hoping that’s how they would respond- in a more loving manner. I wish Dave had been there to answer this call. It’d probably help their relationship too.
FPU will only help people who want to fix their financial life.
Yes I think if Dave had taken this call it would have been answered better
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try telling the bank "it's none of your business" when you ask them for a loan, and they tell you to provide all your bank statements and check stubs so they can see how you spend your money. if someone is in dire need every month, they definitely better be open to telling me where they are messing up with their money, because they're going to get some coaching and reprimand before i lend.
There are all kinds of welfare for single moms. She's doing something else. Support your grandchild via babysitting and stuff. Don't pay for your son's wife.
Welfare is temporary. It's supposed to be. Well over half the moms in this country are single. Oh well. Women need to quit working in low pay pink collar jobs. Trades pay well. There's no reason in the world she can't work construction or learn plumbing if she doesn't have a marketable credential.
Yeah, if she wants to know where the money goes, buy the kid clothes or pay for other tangible items. Don't just send cash
@@christinebutler7630 If you actually talk to women in trades you'd find it's a pretty hostile work environment for women. Male dominated industries are typically filled with sexism which is why a lot of women tend to avoid them or end up not following through fully with those career paths. I'm not saying it's every work place, but it's pretty common.
The money is definitely going up her nose, in her arm, etc
daughters x wife. Her son transitioned.
Another family lost to the trans hysteria.
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Her son needs mental help. He is severely ill.
@@shanep2760 You're right. I guess they're just getting more creative.
@@shanep2760 True. But this father is being praised as stunning and brave while most other deadbeats are seen for what they are.
@@alicef128 There is. But this call was about the father. Not other people.
“When u give her money, it’s none of ur business to know what she’s doing with that money” that might be the most dumbest thing I’ve ever heard this dude say lmaoooo🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
If she has been paying her rent and she's going to be evicted for rent, then where is the money going?
You can't care for other people if you don't care for yourself first.
I'm all for helping people, but if its killing you then its not smart.
I understand exactly what you’re going through, I give my cousin money for years,she lives in a third world country and helped her with school fees and food. He is telling you exactly what I told cousin but, but she is like a money sucker, there is always something that she needs for the kids. I finally went down there to see what was going on. Yes ,they live in poverty and with not much education there is not much job opportunities available, but I am so tired of having to send them money. I want to retire in five years but, I don’t have that kind of money to do so.
You’re 59 and ready to retire. Please stop giving her money. It’s hard when your granddaughter who is still so young and the guilt is overwhelming. If you want to take the granddaughter in temporary until mom is back on her feet.if that happens. It may come down to taking in your granddaughter on a permanent basis. I hope all works out and that you find peace in your decision
I agree with the phone call to discuss what's going on and what needs to happen. But I would also follow up with a written message (text or email) indicating what you had talked about and that if you didn't hear back from the person that you would consider your summary to be an accurate assessment of what they discussed.
This way you can talk, and you will have documented the conversation.
Easy: "Checkbook is closed. BYE!"
If she is giving her money, than it is her business where she is spending it on
This situation is just a very sad situation all around. The main one to blame is the transgender who chose to be selfish instead of his wife and daughter.
Regardless of one's alphabet sexuality (that No One Needs to Know About- aka Keep it to yourself like everyone else), If you create a child- you are responsible for providing for the child. Personal responsibility has no gender.
I know someone who’s husband doesn’t pay child support because he decided he is gay.
The ex-daughter in-law is taking out her disgust with her ex on his mother. She’s either completely incompetent, on substances or just lying about her need for money to make somebody ‘pay’ literally and figuratively for her ex’s behavior.
The son is trash 🚮
How is it so confusing that someone can be broke? Even if they have a job. Over half the US is paycheck to paycheck with no savings
@@benmyers9030 I don’t see where I stated I was confused. I was very clear on what I think is happening and why.
Seems like you’re confused
@whosaidthat9265 Bless your heart. You demonstrated your confusion rather than stated it.
She doesn't have to be an addict or incompetent to be broke. She has to be a regular single mom without child support. It's not confusing
@benmyers9030 again, while I know you think being condescending is a virtue, I said exactly what I meant to say and am not changing my stance. She is asking for money because she's bitter. If she can't pay her rent despite having received help for months, she is the problem. Nobody cares if you agree or like what I stated. It's the truth. She needs to get it together. Child support does not fix her failure to do what she needs to do to care for herself and her kid.
@whosaidthat9265 blah blah blah you are repeating yourself no one cares
If it’s none of your business, you can tell the borrower to go to their local payday loan lender and get the money. They will require a lot more than the family member ever will ask.
How can you advise her to take care of kids? She wants her peace and no more drama. Do you think she has energy and money to take care another person(s).
I didn’t hear how old the granddaughter is but if I were in these shoes I would say to the ex-daughter-in-law that I would take the girl and have her live with me while the daughter finds a roommate/place to stay etc. until she finds something stable. The Ex-DIL doesn’t sound stable though, so I would expect to have the little girl long term. The caller needs to find out about legal guardianship for the granddaughter.
I disagree if she is giving money to help out she needs to know she is not enabling a bad habit
I would say text for legal reasons, hear say doesn’t stand in court
I would hope that she, or anyone in this situation, is not giving money. I might pay the landlord, bring groceries or pay the utility company but give cash, no way.
John, I definitively respect your thoughts and advice but Tammy DOES get a say in how the money she gives her ex DIL is spent.
Additionally, if shes giving moeny for rent or groceries she is well within her right to asl what the Ex DIL's budget/spending looks like.
This poor woman though, losing her husband and her son is a deadbeat and has mental illness.
This "single mother" works 2 jobs, receives food stamps, welfare, and child support, but is broke?
I'm calling bullsh1t on this single mother.
Very typical for those types of women
Thank you Bob Newhart.
“Stop it!”
Why tell her to not do text messages? This allows her to have something in writing!!! EVERY conversation should be through text. You’ve obviously never been in this situation.
She should pursue legal means to help her grandchild.
Another sad win for the alphabet people
Also known as the skittles people
And the most worthless generation.
Transphobic much?
@@JJones-zg7yz No one fears trans. We just don't hang out with pervs.
@@JJones-zg7yz The individual in the call lost her husband to the trans moment and destroyed a family in the process. A child will grow up without a father.
I wonder if it could be that person which attended Caleb Hammer show in "Most Entitled Person EVER" :D
I'll pay her 500 dollars to be on his show lol
That’s what I was thinking!!
No that one paid more than 100 a month. But put this dil on Caleb's show and it'll be fireworks
If the court has ruled that her son pay $25 a week, he is making basically nothing. WHY?? When she was trying to explain why her son only paid $25 per week child support, she explained it by saying "He's transgender." I'm sorry. Where is it written that if you are transgender you don't have to work and pay your bills? I actually liked Dr. John's answer. Just stop. If transgender son can't pay his bills, maybe his ex-wife could work and pay her own bills? Just a thought.
Daughter-in-law is a scammer and scammers are the world's best manipulators. They can somehow convince you that THEIR problems can only be solved with YOUR money. HER problems need to be solved with HER money. PERIOD. Didn't you just love how she used her child to get her hand in grandma's pocket? "My daughter is going to be out on the streets if YOU don't help me." Never did it occur to her that SHE can do something to keep her daughter off of the streets. I am just flat disgusted by scammers.
eviction doesn't just happen....
Exactly. The process of eviction and foreclosures is a court process. And never overnight.
The son is in NC romping thru the alternative lifestyle community earning a little trick money here and there.
Hasn't Dave suggested going through financial with family before giving to them? I think DIL finances are her business if she gives her money going forward. How do you not have money if you work two jobs and get free food?
Lawyer expenses? Day care? Car payment? We don’t know the whole story- life is really expensive
@@arthrodea Remember mother-in-law gave her a car and she has gave her over $4000 in the last few months
@@JaneDough23 Yes, I'm not saying the mom-in-law needs to keep financing the ex wife. But life is expensive, so I could see where a single mom with a small child is not making ends meet between all the possible expenses she may be incurring. Lawyers cost $500 an hour, divorces and child custody cases can run up incredible bills. Daycare is easily 2K a month. She may have student loans or credit card debt - we have no idea of the ex wife's full financial picture.
@@arthrodea She gets SNAP which means she qualifies for other state aid. In my state, most schools either have free after school programs for low income families or Boys and Girls Club (or similar). Low income preschool children get free preschool. If her lawyer bills are that high and she only managed to get $25 a month, he/she ought to get fired. MIL gave her a car.
'I've been giving her money to try and help her". She isn't helping her.
Yeah she actually is helping. Why won't she move the dil and granddaughter in with her? It's her son who failed. She's his mom. She also failed. She should help her family not cut them off to teach some kind of lesson
@@benmyers9030 Apparently the son was old enough to marry and recently decided he wanted to pretend to be a woman. Some people start on a good path but allow selfishness to take over. Adult parents are not always the reason for a deadbeat adult child. Additionally, if she works two jobs, has no car payment, and gets free food and medical, she is clearly wasting money somewhere to not be able to afford rent for two people.
Place the blame where it belongs, deadbeat dad (and possibly wasteful mom).
She has, just in the wrong way. Kid gets a roof and food, but apparently dil is taking advantage. Should have started with a conversation about her finances & how much & how lon she can help. But death of a spouse, & loss of a son brings trauma. Don't blame her
@@benmyers9030probably character issue with dil she doesn't want in her house.
@eurekahope5310 actually good parents raise good children. It's not a dice roll. You reap what you sow.
Is dil paying for child care? Health insurance? How many hours and what pay rate at her 2 jobs? The mil gave her 4k so she should be jumping into a pool of gold like scrooge mcduck right?
Move them both in and reduce their expenses, help with childcare, support your dil whose "husband" left, and keep at least 1 parent in the kids life. Or make everything worse with your awesome plan
The son is an idiot. If she is giving her money, she most certainly has an interest in where it goes. She can, as John's boss Dave has said multitudes of times be involved with her in her finances. Problem is it didn't begin right.
Yep! John got that one WRONG... Dave wouldve had that condiition firmly in place.
Why not try to find out where her money is going and when an addiction problem is uncovered use that to inform any CPS action?
Stop giving money to an ex. It's easy to do. Just say NO!! That's what I do.
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Send food, send kids clothes....no cash
Of course, you get a say where her money goes if you are giving her money. You just have to make that part of the deal. You get to see her budget, bills, and other expenses. And you get to see all the money she is taking in from work and government programs. If she doesn't want to do that, then don't give her money. Problem solved.
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WRONG, you could say if you show me your budget THEN I might give you money. Also sounds like there is more to this story, if your husband died and you are alone, and you son left her and she is alone I would move her in before paying 6 months of rent. She said no to substance abuse but im guessing yes or she works an hour away because she is seeing some other guy that lives an hour away and has substance problems...there is always more to these stories
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Damn I wish my in laws would’ve helped me like that when I became a single mom instead of living in motel rooms for a roof over our head, I would’ve been so grateful
how about she takes custody of this poor child?
She is 60 y.o. and by herself. It's incredibly hard to become a parent in this situation.
She needs to ask her baby father not you. You didn’t create it
It sounds like the daughter in law is blowing the money if the lady is giving her money each month for rent but now they have a 3 day notice, you have to be 30 days late on rent for that to happen. 2 jobs and she can't pay her rent? She needs a reset find a cheaper place to live and work closer to home. Anna In Ohio
I bet $1000 she will say if I can't stay or an issue with me staying neither will the granddaughter.
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I can’t imagine being mired in this pile of crap. Lost husband, inadequate retirement plan/execution, subsistence living, freak show son, ex daughter in law who is inadequately equipped to parent and on and on. This family has at least 2 generations of bad decision making and questionable parenting. I don’t see any of this getting better.
How about what I do? I say Hmmmm…NO. Stop enabling her. Your grandson could get seriously hurt while she bilks you.
She’s spending her money on other things and using your money to pay bills
Actually dealing in ‘messages’ is helpful should she have to prove something in court. Should must keep all messages and replies to protect herself and possibly make a case in court.
25 dollars a week? Wow.
This is a typical example of John falsely predicting the situation. I would support her too, I don't think anyone objects
I don't agree with John on the "It's no business where her money goes." Once someone asks for money they make it your business. I think the money is being blown somewhere. Drugs, a boyfriend, gambling, etc. Something is off.
This is not about a parent being a trans "thing" or "it". I have trans family members who are stable, responsible members of families. This about a deadbeat dad, an overwhelmed mom, and a caring grandmother who is trying as hard as she can for a grandchild. Sometimes parents stink, regardless of gender or orientation.
Serious question, after you have a zero credit score, if you do manual underwriting with Churchill, do you have a credit score again?
Yes
Don't do underwriting.
@@USMC6976 Why?
Cut her a deal. Say to her: "For every dollar I give you, you gotta listen to a minute of John Deloney."
Guaranteed crickets. 🤫
Please don't tell her to listen to John Deloney. Please, oh PLEASE!
I love John's tip 😂😂😂
Dr John making a joke at the beginning by "simplifying" a stranger's situation , and half way through the call changing course!
If she takes the child she needs to set visitation dates...boundaries. otherwise she will show up whenever and one day she wont leave
Why did she said the daughter in law cannot say with her?
She doesn’t trust the daughter-in-law. She says “ I don’t trust her.”
She said she can't trust her.
EXACTLY, that's logical why pay her rent for six months just move her in, there is more to this story it's either substance abuse or daughter in law is hooking up with another deadbeat...there is more to the story.
@@anncassidy3705 If I didn't trust her, how can you trust her enough as to why she needs money? Also she said her husband would be rolling in his grave if he knew she was doing this.
@@hiddenprofits216 She never said that.
Wow that devolved real quick. So basically her son is a POS so she feels bad. I dont blame her
He pays $25 a week?????? That's laughable. That's only $1300 a year. Holy shit
My Dad was ordered to pay $25/week in 1957! Not that he ever paid of course. I hate deadbeat dads with a passion.
I’d rather have things in writing than “she said.”
Man! I think these guys have missed the real points here, and there are two of them.
First, if you are giving somebody money to live, what they are doing with their money IS your business!
In this case, I believe it was said that the woman is working two jobs. How many hours are you working and how much money are you making? Where is all that money going? If it is going to drugs, toys, a way too expensive apartment, being flushed down the toilet, whatever, then you don't need my help. You need to relocate your spending priorities.
Second, children are almost always used as a weapon, but this possibility was not even mentioned. Instead, the hosts when down the; just go get your granddaughter path, as if the caller had that as a right. I think it is a much more likely possibility that the caller will be told something to the effect of; you just better keep coughing up the money or your granddaughter will be living on the street with me and you won't be seeing her at all. Of course I can't guarantee that this will be the response but I think the caller should have been advised of this as a possibility.
If a kid is on the street, it's easy to get custody (with a lawyer)
@@glitterstarbeau Well I'm not going to argue with you because I really have no knowledge of how hard or easy it would be to get custody of a child on the street, although I would imagine it varies from state to state. I would, however, suggest that the first problem could be just finding the child once they have been taken to the street.
great ep
Well you got that kind of money
I’m confused. She’s paying the daughter in laws rent but she doesn’t know where the money is going? Hello?
How you just gonna up and leave to another state when you got kids to raise?? People crazy as hell put here...smh
So is he technically a "deadbeat dad" or an absent mother?
Woah…. Talk about an Early Plot twist!! 😖 I’m sorry this woman has to go through this