Its hard to forgive yourself when you know, some stuff cant be taken back, what's done is done. Regret makes life 10x more difficult. Especially knowing what you've did was completely horrendous. Makes you wish you can go back in time and take a different path. Make it a lesson in life and learn from it. Be honest with you're words and intentions. Not everyone is perfect but in the end, it comes down to your convictions and your ways of living life. Amazing video, definitely put some pep in my step!
I'm going to listen to this every single day until it sinks in. I have been living in guilt for over 7 years and beat myself up daily. It is exhausting and it is ruining my life. Thank you for this.
5yrs for me 🙁 I tried resolving my past but the person I hurt will NEVER forgive me. I poured my heart and soul into trying to show this person how REALLY SORRY I am and that TRULY ♥️ care for them but the pain is to much for them to forgive 😭 my heart/soul is crushed and I feel dead inside. It’s ruining everything else in my life.
@@Respect_all_life if you try working through the event with EFT you may find you are able to relieve most if not all of the guilt, and in fact, you may even help the person you hurt. It is possible to get past this, but it really helps to have someone guiding you through it.
I use to feel that I deserve to be punished for my bad decisions and all of my past mistakes. So I beat myself up and even punished myself. It’s robbed me of 35 years of joy and I recently actually forgave myself for my past. I got rid of the emotional baggage that has held me back my whole adult life. I’m 50 now and it’s “my time” to live now. If anyone is curious how I dropped the baggage, I started with being mindful of my inner critic demon and wrote down a positive thought for every negative lie my inner critic said. I worked like crazy for months to change my inner dialogue by watching self help videos, meditating and sincere journaling. Obviously I know it could creep back and I will have to continue healing and growing. That’s why I’m still watching self help videos and journaling. I’m continuously working on self-love and reclaiming my life. Bless everyone who is suffering. Don’t give up because you are worth it. Only you are in control of your thoughts. Put on your armor and go fight the battles in your mind!!! Remember you may loose some small battles but you can still win the WAR!!!
Thank you! We tend to attach to the guilt because we feel we deserve to live in pain as payment for our mistakes. I have clung on to things like that because I felt i was not deserving. That has changed letting go of the ego and realizing no one is perfect. Learn and try not to repeat. 💞
I wish i could sleep and never wake up again for my sins . im guilty i hurt the girl who loved me so much and i cant forgive myself . i dont deserve to live. Creature like me are a shame for society and humanity . i am a psychiatrist and i cant be more shameful of my job .
I know what kind of a person I am, but this one decision made me question my character and I can't seem to forgive myself for it. I constantly feel like I can't breathe because I feel so guilty. It happened months ago but I still think about it. I know I'm not perfect, but sometimes it's hard not to expect myself to be. Thank you for this.
"Not forgiving yourself is a disservice to humanity." So true, and helpful to remember. It's a disservice to ourselves as well as to those around us. I guess holding on to guilt is basically like dragging out and multiplying the consequences of the mistake, rather than just learning from it and moving on. Thanks for the video.
"not forgiving yourself is a disservice to humanity, that guilt is obscuring the divine light that's attempting to peek through the cracks right now" A WORD
Listen to what he said guys. We do the best we can in the moment. How are you supposed to know how you'll feel in the future? Don't beat yourself up. No guilt. Only love ♡
Let the karmic glue go, guys. We wouldn't be having this awakening if we weren't forgiven for our past negative actions. A little bit of kindness goes a long way. Thank you, Victor. I feel ya, bro. :)
I feel guilty for my past, I’m 21 and I have high dreams of influencing others and inspiring with my creativity. But I’m having so much trouble forgiving myself and pursuing anything because there are negative perceptions of me that I feel will literally destroy my life. And the amount of people who think I’m a terrible person is a small one but I identify with this constant past version of me. So I’ve been stuck for months not trying anything.
Ive been going through this for a few months. Hurt a man who truly loved me and ruined the perfect relationship. Ive hurt certain people with monrey issues and ive lied to the ones i loved. I cant eat sleep because i can't forgive myself. I needed to hear this
@JoeyD Please help me. I hurt my best friend and my girlfriend. And I made up twisted stories and now I can't even remember what I told everyone and the guilt has been eating away at my life. I tried to apologise but lied instead. And then lied about an apology again. I'm just so confused and I regret it all from the very start. I want my life to be straight again. Please help me.
@@meetshivam Hi. Try to understand that we all make mistakes. We all have our deal of regret and trouble in life. I know it's hard and painful, but it is just how life works. First thing to do is to acknowledge that something indeed happened or that you did something wrong. To forgive is just that - to acknowledge and accept that it DID in fact happen, no sugarcoating, and then you have to take responsibility for it and make sure you don't repeat the same mistake again. We make the wrong decisions sometimes, and end up regretting them badly. If you had made a mistake that just means you are a human being. I know it is not the pleasant thing to have in mind, but we all hurt someone along the way, and we all end up getting hurt by somebody else. The past has passed and there is nothing in this world you can do, no amount of shame, guilt and regret that can change what already happened. What is done cannot be undone, so we have to let it go sooner or later or it will consume us and ruin our lives. But there is this grandiose thing we still can do, and that is - to forgive. Grow from the experience, learn from it and use it as a fuel to be a better person and help others. No matter how negative the situation might be, there is always something positive to be drawn from it. Even a tiny little thing. It is also very important to be aware of the fact that mistakes are something we have done, not something who we are. They don't have to define us. You are a good person, and the fact that you feel the guilt shows just that. Otherwise you wouldn't be regretting that choice. The only thing you can do now is to apologize to them from the bottom of your heart and move from it. It is up to them whether or not they will forgive you, but it is only up to you to forgive yourself. And that is the hardest thing to do, but you have to do it for yourself. Remember - you are a good person and use this experience to become even better. The past is just an illusion, it does not exist anymore. You can't take is back or change it. You only have this present moment and what you do with it determines your future, not what has already happened. You have a blank piece of paper ahead of you it is up to you to decide what colours you'll use to paint it. I hope you will find some peace and find a way to forgive yourself. That's the only way. Forgive - get better - act better. If you imagine a friend of yours or someone dear to you having that burden you carry, you wouldn't want them to be so upset about it and you wouldn't constantly go around reminding them they have done something wrong and they must pay for it now. You would only want them to get that burden off their shoulders, you would support them and love them no matter what. So - be that person for yourself. Show some love to yourself, embrace what you cannot change, learn from it and always strive to be a better person than you were yesterday. Don't be so hard on yourself. Tomorrow is a new day and it will get better. Spread love, my friend! I wish you all the best in life.
@@user-fj5ec9zd2o that’s awesome. I too have felt guilty for letting my friends down friends who. I truly cared about. They decided to not forgive me which only told me that they don’t truly care about me and that hurt me but thankfully I have other friends who I have known for a long time and they understand and choose to stay along side with me. I have felt so guilty about the other situation it started eating me up but theirs no point in being depressed on what happened in the past you can’t fix it so the best I can do is learn from it and become better, your reply was great and taught me a lot
*This parable is told of a farmer who owned an old mule. The mule fell into the farmer’s well. The farmer heard the mule praying or whatever mules do when they fall into wells.* After carefully assessing the situation, the farmer sympathized with the mule, but decided that neither the mule nor the well was worth the trouble of saving. Instead, he called his neighbors together, told them what had happened, and enlisted them to help haul dirt to bury the old mule in the well and put him out of his misery. Initially the old mule was hysterical! But as the farmer and his neighbors continued shoveling and the dirt hit his back, a thought struck him. It suddenly dawned on him that every time a shovel load of dirt landed on his back, HE WOULD SHAKE IT OFF AND STEP UP! This he did, blow after blow. “Shake it off and step up… shake it off and step up… shake it off and step up!” He repeated to encourage himself. No matter how painful the blows, or how distressing the situation seemed, the old mule fought panic and just kept right on SHAKING IT OFF AND STEPPING UP! It wasn’t long before the old mule, battered and exhausted, stepped triumphantly over the wall of that well! What seemed like it would bury him actually helped him … all because of the manner in which he handled his adversity. THAT’S LIFE! If we face our problems and respond to them positively, and refuse to give in to panic, bitterness, or self-pity.
Thank you! I will be listening to this video every day until I find the strength to truly forgive myself. Guilt is an extremely hard burden to bear around. I think it has caused me some kind of recurrent depression and anxiety. It is hard to enjoy life and be truly happy, when guilt is eating you inside. But, you are right, EVERYBODY has mistakes, everybody has at least once done something in their life that goes against their ethical principles, and feels terrible guilt and shame over it. Those actions do not define us, I know I am a good person, and if I didn't feel such guilt I'd probably be a psychopath. I want to finally let it go and be free, I hope I will soon get there. Thank you again, this is very helpful.
+ Sometimes I wished I was a psychopath/sociopath at least I wouldn't care and be fearless. I could do whatever I wanted and not have empathy and all this shame. It sucks because I'm very sensitive...even when it's not my fault, I'll still find a way to blame myself or tell myself I'm a bad person and deserve not to be happy. I can make a small mistake and make a big deal out of it. I avoid people because I feel like I'm just a disappointment and then I'm back in the self blame and shame cycle again. I want relationships but I don't feel like I'm good enough. I've forgiven the people that have hurt me and I seem to punish myself...its weird! People hurt me plus I hurt me, instead of hurting others. 😞
May Phoenix I hope you’re okay. Keep your head up and realize the fact that you feel this way just shows that you are a good person. And you definitely deserve to be happy, nobody deserves to feel sad all the time.
Woah. I'm also a recovering heroin addict, 4 years clean now ..but the things I did keep me up at night still and I stumbled across this video. Thank you. Truly.
I carried shit for years, took a tablet of paper and wrote letters either to myself or to others about things I felt guilty or shameful for. kind of apology letters. over the corse of 6 months or so I wrote different things,then one night I lit the notebook and started a bonfire
I did horrible thing month ago, tried to apologize but other person hates me.. I keep being sad, lost. I can't live anymore, it's killing me inside. I may be bad but i wanna change and let that person know I'm sorry
That's the goal but everything comes from you. Not from the other person so it will be better to forgive yourself ( to learn from yourself ) than to forgive the mtotherfo' in front of ya' ( and not learn from it or less easily. )
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Thank you 💜 I still have my mistake on my mind at points, and I’m slowly learning to face it and forgive myself. I’ll never allow a negative mindset to influence me. I’m stronger and better than that now 😌 Love and light to you all 💜🌏
This is the most relatable video on a human level, explains so much of this experience on earth, how we beat ourselves up for things in the past, and maybe the greatest lesson of all is to move forward from all of it and accept yourself.
Thanks so much Victor!! My husband is struggling a LOT and is very close to losing everything he holds dear in his life. Your video touched him and he listened to it 4-5 times yesterday. I’m hoping your videos continue to resonate with him so he can heal himself. ✌🏻❤️😊
hey, i’ve been feeling really guilty about a very huge mistake i did, it’s been almost a year that i’ve been feeling like this. RUclips decided to help me out of nowhere, and recommended this video of yours, that helped me so much more. i watched it whenever i got free time in a week, i listened to your words many times and now i feel better. so i thought i must thank you, first for helping me finally feel better, and second for being such a good person, thank you for existing. thank you for making your videos, thank you for being the person you are💖
You had me at "Not just a matter of choosing" ... thank you ... forgiveness is a blessing ... we can only strive for it and hope. What I had to say to myself after my speed addict days ... "ME TORTURING MYSELF IS ACTUALLY HURTING THE PEOPLE I LOVE" ... that helped me get my head straight ...
Thank you. I've been listening for awhile. This one really hit home as I lost my son to a Heroin OD 2 years ago. I think I could have helped him and the quilt is always here. As a Mom I don't see how you can ever release that. Helping others is helping me. Learning how to be in the Light with him.
Losing a child is unlike anything else ... in my experience helping others who have been through it ... I've found the core of it never goes away ... it always resurfaces ... and the people I work with have to deal with it every time. I see it getting easier for them, like they have a relationship with the guilt that gets better over time. I'm so sorry for your loss ...
Ginny Paul So sorry for your loss ~ hoping you find the way to be kind to yourself and heal from your grief. Please be gentler with yourself - wishing peace will fill your heart some day.
Yes! Being of service to other hurting parents and addicts will help you feel like your child did not die in vain. God bless you as you learn to heal.🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
All my guilt/shame relates to social situations, minor misdemeanours from childhood/teens, and as a young adult. Might be labelled ADHD these days, but I didn’t have that luxury growing up! This was helpful, particularly how I could ‘easily’ forgive others but struggle to extend the same courtesy to myself.
I did something really horrible. I was a deeply troubled and abused kid and I didn't know what I did was wrong. If I knew of the consequences and how deeply it hurt someone I would've never done it. It's so hard to forgive myself. But I know I have to.
Again Victor, this is a perfectly timed message. It may not always be related to a situation where someone dies or even commits suicide! Our seemingly ordinary lives present opportunities to be in the space of unconditional love all day everyday! It's not easy, however when we can see "it" and exude some form of simple compassion, that may be the perfect fit for that one moment. 💛
I’ve felt this type of guilt as well getting fired from my job for no reason & feeling like a loser cause I can’t get one. It would play over & over in my head telling myself that I’m a failure & seeing my friends having jobs just made me feel bad about myself. I never like comparing myself to others but sometimes it just gets the better of you.
I’ve been feeling so guilty about my behaviour during an abusive relationship, and now I’m thinking, if the worst thing I’ve done in my life is scream and yell at someone for abusing me continuously then I’m actually good with that. I haven’t done horrible things in my life and I haven’t intentionally hurt or deceived anyone so why am I beating myself up for having a couple of verbal breakdowns during this time of abuse. Thank you this has been helpful.
11:15-11:25. Wow. Thank you for unburdening yourself from your guilt. You've been a divine light for me today and I couldn't thank you enough. I'm very hard on myself when I don't live up to my own expectations. I'll keep listening to this daily. Really.. Thank you.
Recently learned that when triggered from guilt shame or fear and causes unforgiveness we tend to relive the negative reactions, once realizing this allows forward movement in self healing, yet expect old habits to repeat. Much Love and thank you for sharing your inspiring videos Vic. ♡♡♡♡
Thank you for simplifying everything and talking about the real life spiritual struggles that affect almost everyone . They don't get enough attention !
Found this video because I keep beating myself up for bad things I’ve done in the past. I no longer am that person but the guilt eats me up inside and I just want to say thank you. I am always making actions towards change and am in therapy
Victor, I watch your videos every single day. It's part of my daily routine. I get a great deal of comfort from listening to you talk, no matter the topic. This is because I sense your sincerity & desire to help others. Thank you for what you do!
Before I clicked on your video, I just felt as if you have been through a lot in life and I think you’re a very wise man who takes every experience and learns from it. Great advice
So much in common... I just said the people who overcome an addiction are miracles and for them there is a huge blessing and purpose.. My husband passed from an overdose and I can see where he saved my life.. I also can say his impact on my life shapes who I am today and my spiritual awakening began. I have no idea who I am anymore. I have been in a breakdown and I spilled myself to my Creator and have asked for much guidance and discernment and Wisdom. I feel God within and he is speaking so loudly to me. You are helping me and divinely guided. Thank you so much
Thanks Victor, your doing a good service here . I find it easier to relate because of your street background , your experiences are easier to understand then the robot voice overs on some channels. Not that I'm trying to knock them there doing good work as well but the words they choose and old English language is sometimes hard to keep up , I guess that's what I'm getting at . Anyway thank you again and everyone's comments are great to read and know we're not alone in this 3D life ❤️🕉✌🏼
Thank you Victor for this honest and at times raw video. It is very helpful. I just want to say that a person's action or inaction is not the cause of another's decision to end their life (a decision like that comes from a long legacy of suffering and feeling insignificant or worthless). Being open to listening/responding to someone with love, compassion, and non-judgment while in crisis can prevent a tragedy. But this can be hard to do and not knowing how to do it can make people pull back out of fear of making things worse. Unknowingly saying, "the wrong thing," at the wrong time or not know what to say or do when a person is in crisis does not cause someone to end their lives ever! That being said this is definitely one of those times when you can only do your best with what you have available at the time.
I feel like my life has turned to a living nightmare but I’m working on forgiving myself. I apologized immediately and understood what I did wrong and they even told me not to beat myself up but holy shi it’s hard I don’t know if I can do this.
I can't ever thank you enough for this video! I was the one who wrote to you about a friend who told me he was going to commit suicide. I did say, "you what the bible says about that". In retrospect, I should have called for a professional to come and help him, but your video helps me to feel better, in the fact that "next time", I will sit down and talk with the person about how life can get better, and etc. I love you, man!
i know someone in these comments has done something horrible & keeps holding on and forgiveness is very hard & not letting your mind take over is very hard and immediately bashing yourself and feeling undeserving of everything good in your life is normal but i wish & pray to stop feeling like this & it takes time you need to know you are a good person u can get through this !
what to do if the mistake u did can affect your future and if people knew they would think you're a bad personn . personally i cant forgive myself and i still cant understand how i did such a thing like its totally not me . i am shocked of myself so how about people around me
Every mistake that we did can effect the future in anyway..I know the whole world will think of you as a bad person..it may hate you or break you..when you realized your mistake and feel guilty about it, it means you are a good person because a bad person will never feel guilty about what he did..so forgive yourself and try to face it if the mistake effects your future, accept the punishment If it means to,but never try to avoid it..the whole point of forgiveness is to apologise and to make feel others and ourselves better
Smilyyy flower When we do bad, sinful things, we are in a totally different mindset at the time, of to be able to see it’s wrong. Sometimes, we’re insecure, immature, selfish, rebellious, or just get caught up with thinking it’s ok because other people do it. When we are in a healthier, mature, remorseful mindset, we then realize how wrong we were and wonder how we were ever the other way! If you didn’t have a guilty conscience and have regret, you’d be a narcissistic sociopath who never thought anything you did was wrong or your fault. It’s good you realize you were wrong and have empathy for the people you have wronged. Be thankful you realize it, and aren’t some hardened person who doesn’t give a crap. Our bad choices always affect the future, but your maturity in having remorse and awareness will help your future to be better in another way, because you won’t make the same mistakes again. 🙂
Thank you I have a lot of things I was struggled with from my past and I don't want to forget myself and it's hard to but thanks for encouraging people to do so I do have trouble with addiction and bad mistakes in that area and I'm very new to you channel and I appreciate you taking time to do this they can really help a lot of people and have already thank you man
The synchronises with you videos and my life is amazing, you seem to read my mind and then do a video. Thank you so much for your content, its truly incredible. Thank you
Thank you for giving me help on this. I feel guilt over every tiny thing in my life, moreso when I became a parent. This will help me. Namaste (and thanks for being so honest!) ☆♡☆♡☆♡
Bro, you and i have very similar stories and i relate to this very much.. i was strung out/tweeking since 2012..i got a year sober today but guilt keeps me up every night and thats why i searched this topic and found this..
I'm Struggling with this These Days...but I Pray to God,he really help me to Forget and forgive myself.... I've totally changed...but Still on this Process but by the Grace of God I know one Day I'll never feel guilty anymore.....👏
Thank you Victor so much, so heartfelt, sharing ur videos to others is a way of helping for me to help others, yep always timing when u want to be there for someone u love I know ur words & experience is touching my heart so much to understand as lived with guilt of punishing myself for others hurting me I let go of negitives thru awekenking & the love continues to flow & yep without the cracks the light can't thru, thank you always my friend Namaste Cath 💞💞💕💕 xx
Thank you so much for your video. I’m struggling today. I feel like a failure. I know I’m not deep inside...but the things in my past sometimes keep bubbling to surface and I find myself back walking in circles
It made my heart better. Thank you. Last few days I've to fall from some guilt and sadness. but now I feel some better. you are right, past is gone now, we have to face the present time. If we can make some better things to people or the victim its really helpful for our life to overcome the guilt. Thank you so much. Create new videos like this. you cured me.
1. Take your mistakes as a lesson to learn from and action next time. 2. Prove to yourself that you are a nice person by helping others, volunteering. 3. When you tell others not to be so hard on themselves - take your own advice, be understanding and forgiving to yourself as you are to others. Not forgiving yourself is a disservice to humanity, it doesn't help anyone. Brené Brown talks on healing shame through vulnerability. Also Ross Rosenberg on self-love deficiency recovery.
Once again this video came at a time when I really needed to hear someone say the things you say about guilt. I thank you so much for your honesty and sincerity about this and all the other topics you touch on. Love you Victor.
At around 14 minutes you said something that struck me. I've been working with others to help them forgive themselves but I still have guilt over things I did as a child and young adult. At 14:00 or so you said you try to think about it as a lesson and learn from it. This was really helpful. Most people probably wouldn't think those things I did were all that bad, but to me they stand out and almost have a life of their own. I know the guilt doesn't serve me or anyone else. I use various healing techniques such as EFT and Logosynthesis on others and myself and am trying to use Psych-K to change my core belief that I do not deserve to be happy. But it is slow-going right now. Thanks again for what you are doing to help people.
I still oberyhink 8 years old past mistakes and torture myself every second.Its hard for me to forget because i think that people think im terrible person
Thanks for this message. I've messed up so much broken relationships words I can never take back and lost time. I'm doing my best. Sometimes my head is my own worst enemy. Thoughts on constant replay..... I feel I don't deserve to live...... I'm still trying though it's hard to ask for help....
You were so right guilt doesnt change anything and it doesn't help anything especially of you have already learned from the situation. You helped me sleep for the first time in a while thank you so much
Thank you. I'm dealing with not allowing myself to be happy with somebody years ago. I didn't know it would impact the rest of my life or at least a big chunk of it.
I’m grateful to have found this video and you. You speak what we all feel below. Easier then listening to my psychologist. One day I hope to no longer have the heavy weight of guilt on my shoulders. It all started 5 years ago on a situation that happened 5 years before that. I totally agree with you, guilt has held me back. I told my new psychologist about it and he agrees. So I hope to be a “new version” of myself, as cliche as that sounds.
Hey Victor! I agree with your advice. i especially liked the part when you said about, holding on to guilt does a dis-service to humanity....Yet, another great video! Peace to you also!!
This was helpful Victor. I realize that I do know better. I need to listen to my inner voice. However, I lack the confidence to put myself out there, to be vulnerable. I feel guilty because I know in my heart that I need to be doing more than I am. But, I’m afraid. Thank you again for a great video.
Of all the things I told myself to do and all the good habits I try to do and all the motivation I use, and of all that when I fail I feel absolutely useless. See I'm the type of person that will go above and beyond and if I fail I take it as weakness. But the one thing I have NEVER, EVER thought of doing is to simply forgive myself so thankyou.
I ever crash with someone driving a ninja, i didnt pay attention to a ninja on my back , i think its about 70 km speed. , i suddenly turn right , then crash, my aerox was allright, but his ninja is in a bad shape , he cant turn on his motor because several parts were broken, plus the top of one of his finger also got cut from something i believe when we got crash . I ask forgiveness for that man after i help him to the side of road . He forgive me, and ask if i could help him with money to repair his ninja,. I cant, because i didnt have money,But that man said it was allright, he also forgive me, he seems really hurt about his finger, then suddenly he calmed and smiled on me., while he light a cigarette. i was crying because i cant do anything like pay for his broken part ,. I decided to wait him to call his family, i also ready to take a blame for my action, but he said its also his fault, then he just let me go home. I cant ever forget that day. It pains me whenever i remember he were smiled on me, and he just let everything go. My big regret is i didint ask his phone number, or his bank account, so if i had the money i can send it to him.
Its hard to forgive yourself when you know, some stuff cant be taken back, what's done is done. Regret makes life 10x more difficult. Especially knowing what you've did was completely horrendous. Makes you wish you can go back in time and take a different path. Make it a lesson in life and learn from it. Be honest with you're words and intentions. Not everyone is perfect but in the end, it comes down to your convictions and your ways of living life. Amazing video, definitely put some pep in my step!
Instead go back in time and fix it! The government is hiding time machine capability from the public.
What you did ?
I am there where you were 4 years ago when you wrote this :(
I'm going to listen to this every single day until it sinks in. I have been living in guilt for over 7 years and beat myself up daily. It is exhausting and it is ruining my life. Thank you for this.
Me too
5yrs for me 🙁 I tried resolving my past but the person I hurt will NEVER forgive me. I poured my heart and soul into trying to show this person how REALLY SORRY I am and that TRULY ♥️ care for them but the pain is to much for them to forgive 😭 my heart/soul is crushed and I feel dead inside. It’s ruining everything else in my life.
Same here but 7 months for me. I broke my moral code and I've ruined my mental health in the process.
How are you now?
@@Respect_all_life if you try working through the event with EFT you may find you are able to relieve most if not all of the guilt, and in fact, you may even help the person you hurt. It is possible to get past this, but it really helps to have someone guiding you through it.
I use to feel that I deserve to be punished for my bad decisions and all of my past mistakes. So I beat myself up and even punished myself. It’s robbed me of 35 years of joy and I recently actually forgave myself for my past. I got rid of the emotional baggage that has held me back my whole adult life. I’m 50 now and it’s “my time” to live now. If anyone is curious how I dropped the baggage, I started with being mindful of my inner critic demon and wrote down a positive thought for every negative lie my inner critic said. I worked like crazy for months to change my inner dialogue by watching self help videos, meditating and sincere journaling. Obviously I know it could creep back and I will have to continue healing and growing. That’s why I’m still watching self help videos and journaling. I’m continuously working on self-love and reclaiming my life. Bless everyone who is suffering. Don’t give up because you are worth it. Only you are in control of your thoughts. Put on your armor and go fight the battles in your mind!!! Remember you may loose some small battles but you can still win the WAR!!!
Bless you Angie. I think you're an angel. Thankyou for your beautiful words! Love the last sentence! Yes!
i feel like this at the moment but im trying. Thank you Angie
Thank you! We tend to attach to the guilt because we feel we deserve to live in pain as payment for our mistakes. I have clung on to things like that because I felt i was not deserving. That has changed letting go of the ego and realizing no one is perfect. Learn and try not to repeat. 💞
Thank you Lady! I will try that
Healing Heather, will put this advice in practice. Thanks.
Healing Heather ❤️
Thank you 💜
I wish i could sleep and never wake up again for my sins . im guilty i hurt the girl who loved me so much and i cant forgive myself . i dont deserve to live. Creature like me are a shame for society and humanity . i am a psychiatrist and i cant be more shameful of my job .
Cycle of Life.
Accepting experiences.
Change is happening.
Being honest with yourself.
I know what kind of a person I am, but this one decision made me question my character and I can't seem to forgive myself for it. I constantly feel like I can't breathe because I feel so guilty. It happened months ago but I still think about it. I know I'm not perfect, but sometimes it's hard not to expect myself to be. Thank you for this.
"Not forgiving yourself is a disservice to humanity." So true, and helpful to remember. It's a disservice to ourselves as well as to those around us. I guess holding on to guilt is basically like dragging out and multiplying the consequences of the mistake, rather than just learning from it and moving on. Thanks for the video.
"not forgiving yourself is a disservice to humanity, that guilt is obscuring the divine light that's attempting to peek through the cracks right now" A WORD
Listen to what he said guys. We do the best we can in the moment. How are you supposed to know how you'll feel in the future? Don't beat yourself up. No guilt. Only love ♡
Let the karmic glue go, guys. We wouldn't be having this awakening if we weren't forgiven for our past negative actions. A little bit of kindness goes a long way. Thank you, Victor. I feel ya, bro. :)
That's a really lovely thought
Omg you’re absolutely right
I feel guilty for my past, I’m 21 and I have high dreams of influencing others and inspiring with my creativity. But I’m having so much trouble forgiving myself and pursuing anything because there are negative perceptions of me that I feel will literally destroy my life. And the amount of people who think I’m a terrible person is a small one but I identify with this constant past version of me. So I’ve been stuck for months not trying anything.
Ive been going through this for a few months. Hurt a man who truly loved me and ruined the perfect relationship. Ive hurt certain people with monrey issues and ive lied to the ones i loved. I cant eat sleep because i can't forgive
myself. I needed to hear this
Your not alone man I did to I did horrible things but we got this
@JoeyD Please help me. I hurt my best friend and my girlfriend. And I made up twisted stories and now I can't even remember what I told everyone and the guilt has been eating away at my life. I tried to apologise but lied instead. And then lied about an apology again. I'm just so confused and I regret it all from the very start. I want my life to be straight again. Please help me.
@@meetshivam Hi. Try to understand that we all make mistakes. We all have our deal of regret and trouble in life. I know it's hard and painful, but it is just how life works. First thing to do is to acknowledge that something indeed happened or that you did something wrong. To forgive is just that - to acknowledge and accept that it DID in fact happen, no sugarcoating, and then you have to take responsibility for it and make sure you don't repeat the same mistake again. We make the wrong decisions sometimes, and end up regretting them badly. If you had made a mistake that just means you are a human being. I know it is not the pleasant thing to have in mind, but we all hurt someone along the way, and we all end up getting hurt by somebody else. The past has passed and there is nothing in this world you can do, no amount of shame, guilt and regret that can change what already happened. What is done cannot be undone, so we have to let it go sooner or later or it will consume us and ruin our lives. But there is this grandiose thing we still can do, and that is - to forgive. Grow from the experience, learn from it and use it as a fuel to be a better person and help others. No matter how negative the situation might be, there is always something positive to be drawn from it. Even a tiny little thing.
It is also very important to be aware of the fact that mistakes are something we have done, not something who we are. They don't have to define us. You are a good person, and the fact that you feel the guilt shows just that. Otherwise you wouldn't be regretting that choice. The only thing you can do now is to apologize to them from the bottom of your heart and move from it. It is up to them whether or not they will forgive you, but it is only up to you to forgive yourself. And that is the hardest thing to do, but you have to do it for yourself. Remember - you are a good person and use this experience to become even better. The past is just an illusion, it does not exist anymore. You can't take is back or change it. You only have this present moment and what you do with it determines your future, not what has already happened. You have a blank piece of paper ahead of you it is up to you to decide what colours you'll use to paint it.
I hope you will find some peace and find a way to forgive yourself. That's the only way. Forgive - get better - act better. If you imagine a friend of yours or someone dear to you having that burden you carry, you wouldn't want them to be so upset about it and you wouldn't constantly go around reminding them they have done something wrong and they must pay for it now. You would only want them to get that burden off their shoulders, you would support them and love them no matter what. So - be that person for yourself. Show some love to yourself, embrace what you cannot change, learn from it and always strive to be a better person than you were yesterday. Don't be so hard on yourself. Tomorrow is a new day and it will get better. Spread love, my friend! I wish you all the best in life.
@@user-fj5ec9zd2o that’s awesome. I too have felt guilty for letting my friends down friends who. I truly cared about. They decided to not forgive me which only told me that they don’t truly care about me and that hurt me but thankfully I have other friends who I have known for a long time and they understand and choose to stay along side with me. I have felt so guilty about the other situation it started eating me up but theirs no point in being depressed on what happened in the past you can’t fix it so the best I can do is learn from it and become better, your reply was great and taught me a lot
@@moeabouzeid8356 I'm glad it was helpful. Wish you all the best!
If someone makes a movie about this guy's life Ryan Reynolds needs to play him.
No where in the bible says "forgive yourself" so it's not biblical
@@lupebinoeder9521 what does that have to do with his comment
Great Idea
Thank you❤️🙏❤️🌏❤️
Yes!
*This parable is told of a farmer who owned an old mule. The mule fell into the farmer’s well. The farmer heard the mule praying or whatever mules do when they fall into wells.*
After carefully assessing the situation, the farmer sympathized with the mule, but decided that neither the mule nor the well was worth the trouble of saving. Instead, he called his neighbors together, told them what had happened, and enlisted them to help haul dirt to bury the old mule in the well and put him out of his misery.
Initially the old mule was hysterical! But as the farmer and his neighbors continued shoveling and the dirt hit his back, a thought struck him. It suddenly dawned on him that every time a shovel load of dirt landed on his back, HE WOULD SHAKE IT OFF AND STEP UP!
This he did, blow after blow. “Shake it off and step up… shake it off and step up… shake it off and step up!” He repeated to encourage himself. No matter how painful the blows, or how distressing the situation seemed, the old mule fought panic and just kept right on SHAKING IT OFF AND STEPPING UP!
It wasn’t long before the old mule, battered and exhausted, stepped triumphantly over the wall of that well! What seemed like it would bury him actually helped him … all because of the manner in which he handled his adversity.
THAT’S LIFE! If we face our problems and respond to them positively, and refuse to give in to panic, bitterness, or self-pity.
Love this story! That mule was no Victim!!!
Seauin Ireland Exactly 😃👍👏🤝👐
SpiriTrek Thanks for the compliment 😊
Laura Woods 👍👐
iSharePassion.com Love this fable even more each time I hear it - thanks, needed this today. Thank you! ♡♡♡
Thank you! I will be listening to this video every day until I find the strength to truly forgive myself. Guilt is an extremely hard burden to bear around. I think it has caused me some kind of recurrent depression and anxiety. It is hard to enjoy life and be truly happy, when guilt is eating you inside. But, you are right, EVERYBODY has mistakes, everybody has at least once done something in their life that goes against their ethical principles, and feels terrible guilt and shame over it. Those actions do not define us, I know I am a good person, and if I didn't feel such guilt I'd probably be a psychopath. I want to finally let it go and be free, I hope I will soon get there. Thank you again, this is very helpful.
i wish to get better
+ Sometimes I wished I was a psychopath/sociopath at least I wouldn't care and be fearless. I could do whatever I wanted and not have empathy and all this shame. It sucks because I'm very sensitive...even when it's not my fault, I'll still find a way to blame myself or tell myself I'm a bad person and deserve not to be happy. I can make a small mistake and make a big deal out of it. I avoid people because I feel like I'm just a disappointment and then I'm back in the self blame and shame cycle again. I want relationships but I don't feel like I'm good enough. I've forgiven the people that have hurt me and I seem to punish myself...its weird! People hurt me plus I hurt me, instead of hurting others. 😞
Brilliant words
May Phoenix I hope you’re okay. Keep your head up and realize the fact that you feel this way just shows that you are a good person. And you definitely deserve to be happy, nobody deserves to feel sad all the time.
I hope so too!
Woah. I'm also a recovering heroin addict, 4 years clean now ..but the things I did keep me up at night still and I stumbled across this video. Thank you. Truly.
How are you doing right now?
I carried shit for years, took a tablet of paper and wrote letters either to myself or to others about things I felt guilty or shameful for. kind of apology letters. over the corse of 6 months or so I wrote different things,then one night I lit the notebook and started a bonfire
Yesss I was thinking about this I’m gonna do it now thank youu
How are you doing 🗣
Jesus loves you!
I did horrible thing month ago, tried to apologize but other person hates me.. I keep being sad, lost. I can't live anymore, it's killing me inside. I may be bad but i wanna change and let that person know I'm sorry
You have changed. Ur not the same person even if other people see you as the same.
We never know what someone else is going through. Thank you for sharing. ❤️ your messages.
So true. I forgive others for things I can't forgive in myself. Good point there Vic. That was an eye opener for me. Thank you. 🙏❤️
If you don't forgive yourself FIRST you're gonna' do it again. Forgive yourself first :).
That's the goal but everything comes from you. Not from the other person so it will be better to forgive yourself ( to learn from yourself ) than to forgive the mtotherfo' in front of ya' ( and not learn from it or less easily. )
"awareness"
you could call on charity CHARITY TO CO-ASSIST YOU IN FORGIVING YOURSELF... ARE R BORN INTO THE HUMAN CONDITION.. LIKE AN ENERGETIC QUICKSAND, OR LOVE IS A BOOMERANG SO IS THAT HATE BALL YOU JUST COUGHED UP... FORGIVENESS ... I FORGIVE ME I AM WILLING TO DISPELL THIS BITTER ENERGETIC SPELL I HAVE PLACED UPON MYSELF.. CAUSE THEY TAUGHT ME CONDEMNATION BECAUSE THATS ALL THE HAD IN THEIR CONFUSED BUCKETS .. BELIEF IN JUDGMENT AS A GAMEPLAN IT COMES FROM BELIEVING IN A FEARFUL GOD .. CALL CLARITY .. SHE LIVES IN SILENCE .. SHE SHALL EMERGE WHEN CALLED DESIRED... ALL GIVING .. MERCY .. SHE IS LYICAL .. LIKE BEAUTIFUL MUSIC INSIDE.. THE HARD PROGRAM MAY FIGHT BACK SO WHAT .. IT IS WHAT IT IS .. CALL HER AGAIN....
I have the exact same problem
Thank you 💜
I still have my mistake on my mind at points, and I’m slowly learning to face it and forgive myself. I’ll never allow a negative mindset to influence me. I’m stronger and better than that now 😌
Love and light to you all 💜🌏
This is the most relatable video on a human level, explains so much of this experience on earth, how we beat ourselves up for things in the past, and maybe the greatest lesson of all is to move forward from all of it and accept yourself.
Thanks so much Victor!! My husband is struggling a LOT and is very close to losing everything he holds dear in his life. Your video touched him and he listened to it 4-5 times yesterday. I’m hoping your videos continue to resonate with him so he can heal himself. ✌🏻❤️😊
hey, i’ve been feeling really guilty about a very huge mistake i did, it’s been almost a year that i’ve been feeling like this. RUclips decided to help me out of nowhere, and recommended this video of yours, that helped me so much more. i watched it whenever i got free time in a week, i listened to your words many times and now i feel better. so i thought i must thank you, first for helping me finally feel better, and second for being such a good person, thank you for existing. thank you for making your videos, thank you for being the person you are💖
You had me at "Not just a matter of choosing" ... thank you ... forgiveness is a blessing ... we can only strive for it and hope.
What I had to say to myself after my speed addict days ...
"ME TORTURING MYSELF IS ACTUALLY HURTING THE PEOPLE I LOVE" ... that helped me get my head straight ...
+DivineUnionTV great insight and share; thanks
Thank you for this comment it is exactly what I need to hear dealing with guilt.
Thank you. I've been listening for awhile. This one really hit home as I lost my son to a Heroin OD 2 years ago. I think I could have helped him and the quilt is always here. As a Mom I don't see how you can ever release that. Helping others is helping me. Learning how to be in the Light with him.
Losing a child is unlike anything else ... in my experience helping others who have been through it ... I've found the core of it never goes away ... it always resurfaces ... and the people I work with have to deal with it every time. I see it getting easier for them, like they have a relationship with the guilt that gets better over time.
I'm so sorry for your loss ...
Ginny Paul So sorry for your loss ~ hoping you find the way to be kind to yourself and heal from your grief. Please be gentler with yourself - wishing peace will fill your heart some day.
I am so sorry for your loss
Yes! Being of service to other hurting parents and addicts will help you feel like your child did not die in vain. God bless you as you learn to heal.🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
All my guilt/shame relates to social situations, minor misdemeanours from childhood/teens, and as a young adult. Might be labelled ADHD these days, but I didn’t have that luxury growing up! This was helpful, particularly how I could ‘easily’ forgive others but struggle to extend the same courtesy to myself.
I did something really horrible. I was a deeply troubled and abused kid and I didn't know what I did was wrong. If I knew of the consequences and how deeply it hurt someone I would've never done it. It's so hard to forgive myself. But I know I have to.
I’m in crazy sexual guilt right now trying to stay sober and I needed to hear this. Thank you! You’ve earned a subscriber
I need to pass my heavy guilt
On? Why would you want to do that?
@@adammarquez5203 I think he meant pass it as passing it as an obstacle. Not passing it to another person
@@Chapz725 yeah I think you’re right, I’m pretty sure he meant to move past or to leave behind his guilt.
Again Victor, this is a perfectly timed message. It may not always be related to a situation where someone dies or even commits suicide! Our seemingly ordinary lives present opportunities to be in the space of unconditional love all day everyday! It's not easy, however when we can see "it" and exude some form of simple compassion, that may be the perfect fit for that one moment. 💛
I’ve felt this type of guilt as well getting fired from my job for no reason & feeling like a loser cause I can’t get one. It would play over & over in my head telling myself that I’m a failure & seeing my friends having jobs just made me feel bad about myself. I never like comparing myself to others but sometimes it just gets the better of you.
I’ve been feeling so guilty about my behaviour during an abusive relationship, and now I’m thinking, if the worst thing I’ve done in my life is scream and yell at someone for abusing me continuously then I’m actually good with that. I haven’t done horrible things in my life and I haven’t intentionally hurt or deceived anyone so why am I beating myself up for having a couple of verbal breakdowns during this time of abuse. Thank you this has been helpful.
11:15-11:25. Wow. Thank you for unburdening yourself from your guilt. You've been a divine light for me today and I couldn't thank you enough. I'm very hard on myself when I don't live up to my own expectations. I'll keep listening to this daily. Really.. Thank you.
Recently learned that when triggered from guilt shame or fear and causes unforgiveness we tend to relive the negative reactions, once realizing this allows forward movement in self healing, yet expect old habits to repeat. Much Love and thank you for sharing your inspiring videos Vic. ♡♡♡♡
YES .. guilt and shame is almost always a "cycle" thing ...
Thank you for simplifying everything and talking about the real life spiritual struggles that affect almost everyone . They don't get enough attention !
Found this video because I keep beating myself up for bad things I’ve done in the past. I no longer am that person but the guilt eats me up inside and I just want to say thank you. I am always making actions towards change and am in therapy
Victor, I watch your videos every single day. It's part of my daily routine. I get a great deal of comfort from listening to you talk, no matter the topic. This is because I sense your sincerity & desire to help others. Thank you for what you do!
Before I clicked on your video, I just felt as if you have been through a lot in life and I think you’re a very wise man who takes every experience and learns from it. Great advice
So much in common... I just said the people who overcome an addiction are miracles and for them there is a huge blessing and purpose.. My husband passed from an overdose and I can see where he saved my life.. I also can say his impact on my life shapes who I am today and my spiritual awakening began. I have no idea who I am anymore. I have been in a breakdown and I spilled myself to my Creator and have asked for much guidance and discernment and Wisdom. I feel God within and he is speaking so loudly to me. You are helping me and divinely guided. Thank you so much
I am so sorry for your loss and I hope you find peace. LOVE YOU.
This is so perfect for me right now. My friend just passed over and I feel guilty for not Having done more... I miss him. 🙏🏼
Thanks Victor, your doing a good service here . I find it easier to relate because of your street background , your experiences are easier to understand then the robot voice overs on some channels. Not that I'm trying to knock them there doing good work as well but the words they choose and old English language is sometimes hard to keep up , I guess that's what I'm getting at . Anyway thank you again and everyone's comments are great to read and know we're not alone in this 3D life ❤️🕉✌🏼
Thank you Victor for this honest and at times raw video. It is very helpful. I just want to say that a person's action or inaction is not the cause of another's decision to end their life (a decision like that comes from a long legacy of suffering and feeling insignificant or worthless). Being open to listening/responding to someone with love, compassion, and non-judgment while in crisis can prevent a tragedy. But this can be hard to do and not knowing how to do it can make people pull back out of fear of making things worse. Unknowingly saying, "the wrong thing," at the wrong time or not know what to say or do when a person is in crisis does not cause someone to end their lives ever! That being said this is definitely one of those times when you can only do your best with what you have available at the time.
Incredible synchronicity with me man! Love your videos and know that you speak wisdom!
I feel like my life has turned to a living nightmare but I’m working on forgiving myself. I apologized immediately and understood what I did wrong and they even told me not to beat myself up but holy shi it’s hard I don’t know if I can do this.
Thx vic... Youniverse truly sent me this today. Really needed this.. Been on this guilt trip for days now.. Namaste.
I can't ever thank you enough for this video! I was the one who wrote to you about a friend who told me he was going to commit suicide. I did say, "you what the bible says about that". In retrospect, I should have called for a professional to come and help him, but your video helps me to feel better, in the fact that "next time", I will sit down and talk with the person about how life can get better, and etc. I love you, man!
If you were drawn here, trust that it’s a sign that you are forgiven.
i know someone in these comments has done something horrible & keeps holding on and forgiveness is very hard & not letting your mind take over is very hard and immediately bashing yourself and feeling undeserving of everything good in your life is normal but i wish & pray to stop feeling like this & it takes time you need to know you are a good person u can get through this !
...I think it's safe to say, Victor makes up for any wrongs he could have ever committed in life, with each and every video he posts.
what to do if the mistake u did can affect your future and if people knew they would think you're a bad personn . personally i cant forgive myself and i still cant understand how i did such a thing like its totally not me . i am shocked of myself so how about people around me
Every mistake that we did can effect the future in anyway..I know the whole world will think of you as a bad person..it may hate you or break you..when you realized your mistake and feel guilty about it, it means you are a good person because a bad person will never feel guilty about what he did..so forgive yourself and try to face it if the mistake effects your future, accept the punishment If it means to,but never try to avoid it..the whole point of forgiveness is to apologise and to make feel others and ourselves better
Smilyyy flower
When we do bad, sinful things, we are in a totally different mindset at the time, of to be able to see it’s wrong.
Sometimes, we’re insecure, immature, selfish, rebellious, or just get caught up with thinking it’s ok because other people do it.
When we are in a healthier, mature, remorseful mindset, we then realize how wrong we were and wonder how we were ever the other way!
If you didn’t have a guilty conscience and have regret, you’d be a narcissistic sociopath who never thought anything you did was wrong or your fault.
It’s good you realize you were wrong and have empathy for the people you have wronged.
Be thankful you realize it, and aren’t some hardened person who doesn’t give a crap.
Our bad choices always affect the future, but your maturity in having remorse and awareness will help your future to be better in another way, because you won’t make the same mistakes again. 🙂
Thank you I have a lot of things I was struggled with from my past and I don't want to forget myself and it's hard to but thanks for encouraging people to do so I do have trouble with addiction and bad mistakes in that area and I'm very new to you channel and I appreciate you taking time to do this they can really help a lot of people and have already thank you man
The light always shines through, Brethren. Namaste!
The synchronises with you videos and my life is amazing, you seem to read my mind and then do a video. Thank you so much for your content, its truly incredible. Thank you
Thank you for giving me help on this. I feel guilt over every tiny thing in my life, moreso when I became a parent. This will help me. Namaste (and thanks for being so honest!) ☆♡☆♡☆♡
Bro, you and i have very similar stories and i relate to this very much.. i was strung out/tweeking since 2012..i got a year sober today but guilt keeps me up every night and thats why i searched this topic and found this..
Thank you Victor. Sending you love for sharing your story and being authentic! Namaste'
I have used the Hopanoponope (not sure of spelling) song of self forgiveness. It really helped me, I was surprised!
Thank you for making this video.it's been a great help to me during a very difficult time.
I'm Struggling with this These Days...but I Pray to God,he really help me to Forget and forgive myself....
I've totally changed...but Still on this Process but by the Grace of God I know one Day I'll never feel guilty anymore.....👏
I agree, learning from your experiences can change your life for the positive.
Brother you are helping more than you know.
Thank you Victor so much, so heartfelt, sharing ur videos to others is a way of helping for me to help others, yep always timing when u want to be there for someone u love I know ur words & experience is touching my heart so much to understand as lived with guilt of punishing myself for others hurting me I let go of negitives thru awekenking & the love continues to flow & yep without the cracks the light can't thru, thank you always my friend
Namaste Cath 💞💞💕💕 xx
Thank you so much for your video. I’m struggling today. I feel like a failure. I know I’m not deep inside...but the things in my past sometimes keep bubbling to surface and I find myself back walking in circles
It made my heart better. Thank you. Last few days I've to fall from some guilt and sadness. but now I feel some better. you are right, past is gone now, we have to face the present time. If we can make some better things to people or the victim its really helpful for our life to overcome the guilt. Thank you so much. Create new videos like this. you cured me.
1. Take your mistakes as a lesson to learn from and action next time.
2. Prove to yourself that you are a nice person by helping others, volunteering.
3. When you tell others not to be so hard on themselves - take your own advice, be understanding and forgiving to yourself as you are to others.
Not forgiving yourself is a disservice to humanity, it doesn't help anyone.
Brené Brown talks on healing shame through vulnerability. Also Ross Rosenberg on self-love deficiency recovery.
I have no friends, you are saving me.
Once again this video came at a time when I really needed to hear someone say the things you say about guilt. I thank you so much for your honesty and sincerity about this and all the other topics you touch on. Love you Victor.
Thank you so much for your take on this! ❤❤❤
we are each like the moon, we have a dark side that we will never ever show.
At around 14 minutes you said something that struck me. I've been working with others to help them forgive themselves but I still have guilt over things I did as a child and young adult. At 14:00 or so you said you try to think about it as a lesson and learn from it. This was really helpful. Most people probably wouldn't think those things I did were all that bad, but to me they stand out and almost have a life of their own. I know the guilt doesn't serve me or anyone else. I use various healing techniques such as EFT and Logosynthesis on others and myself and am trying to use Psych-K to change my core belief that I do not deserve to be happy. But it is slow-going right now. Thanks again for what you are doing to help people.
Thank you so much. I really needed this. Peace to you and everyone else.💚
This really helped me man, been threw a lot myself
I still oberyhink 8 years old past mistakes and torture myself every second.Its hard for me to forget because i think that people think im terrible person
You can't control people. Just tell yourself that you are going to love yourself anyway. Eventually it will click in.
You are so inspiring, so glad you made it!
Thanks for this message. I've messed up so much broken relationships words I can never take back and lost time. I'm doing my best. Sometimes my head is my own worst enemy. Thoughts on constant replay..... I feel I don't deserve to live...... I'm still trying though it's hard to ask for help....
thank you for being there and sharing sincere messages chock full of innovative and accurate solutions. i love your videos.
Thank you Victor , this video is helping me so much
Thank you for re-posting this. We all need reminding every day. Namaste.
i wasn't expecting much.. but you have blown me away. Thankyou. means a lot!
You were so right guilt doesnt change anything and it doesn't help anything especially of you have already learned from the situation. You helped me sleep for the first time in a while thank you so much
Thank you. I'm dealing with not allowing myself to be happy with somebody years ago. I didn't know it would impact the rest of my life or at least a big chunk of it.
Watching this again for a second time a few years later and this message still helps me to this day. Thank you soooo much Victor. 💛
self-forgiveness is crucial to self-compassion and reaching your goals!
Thanks for recommending this video in your email today Vic! It was very relevant to the shadow work I am doing right now. Love and Light to all!!💖
Thank you this video gave me a bit more hope you are a beautiful person with a good soul
Thank you, you are valued 💜 so proud of you for overcoming things
The serenity prayer helps , too . Thank you , Victor . I'm very grateful for all your suggestions . This video was much needed . 💞
I’m grateful to have found this video and you. You speak what we all feel below. Easier then listening to my psychologist. One day I hope to no longer have the heavy weight of guilt on my shoulders. It all started 5 years ago on a situation that happened 5 years before that. I totally agree with you, guilt has held me back. I told my new psychologist about it and he agrees. So I hope to be a “new version” of myself, as cliche as that sounds.
This video is a Godsend.
An ongoing process in my life that has liberated me so much. Worth It!
I love doing something nice it feel like it evens out the guilt
Hey Victor! I agree with your advice. i especially liked the part when you said about, holding on to guilt does a dis-service to humanity....Yet, another great video! Peace to you also!!
This was helpful Victor. I realize that I do know better. I need to listen to my inner voice. However, I lack the confidence to put myself out there, to be vulnerable. I feel guilty because I know in my heart that I need to be doing more than I am. But, I’m afraid. Thank you again for a great video.
Of all the things I told myself to do and all the good habits I try to do and all the motivation I use, and of all that when I fail I feel absolutely useless. See I'm the type of person that will go above and beyond and if I fail I take it as weakness. But the one thing I have NEVER, EVER thought of doing is to simply forgive myself so thankyou.
Thanks Victor for being vulnerable and sharing your story. This has helped 🌸
I ever crash with someone driving a ninja,
i didnt pay attention to a ninja on my back , i think its about 70 km speed. , i suddenly turn right , then crash, my aerox was allright, but his ninja is in a bad shape , he cant turn on his motor because several parts were broken, plus the top of one of his finger also got cut from something i believe when we got crash . I ask forgiveness for that man after i help him to the side of road . He forgive me, and ask if i could help him with money to repair his ninja,. I cant, because i didnt have money,But that man said it was allright, he also forgive me, he seems really hurt about his finger, then suddenly he calmed and smiled on me., while he light a cigarette. i was crying because i cant do anything like pay for his broken part ,. I decided to wait him to call his family, i also ready to take a blame for my action, but he said its also his fault, then he just let me go home.
I cant ever forget that day. It pains me whenever i remember he were smiled on me, and he just let everything go.
My big regret is i didint ask his phone number, or his bank account, so if i had the money i can send it to him.
Thank you Victor ‼️‼️ Love You and your videos‼️‼️ ☮️🕉
if that is "a perfect circle" hat, man.. .you are my new hero :)
You are doing a great job you are helping people to be a better person in future and move on.