He’s describing evolutionary adaptation for survival. So when a woman is ready to have a partner this is what attracts her, when society pushes her to leave her home to make babies anything that will get her out will do
"If you make a woman laugh, you can kiss her" Rules unclear. I asked a girl out and she laughed at me, so I kissed her and now I'm in jail awaiting trial.
Yes we care about looks the first. Its true. Just like men. I dont understand why men have such a hard time accepting this. Like they make all the excuses possible to not accept this. Like women are atracted to bad men. No women are not at all atracted to bad men. But if said bad man is very good looking he will be atractive to women despite beeing not so nice.
@gertorrrrrr6 Looks are very important. Thank goodness a great number of men acknowledge this. They go to the gym and dress well. The ones who are stubborn like the above poster will suffer if they keep pretending they don't get it. Ladies go crazy about a sharp dressed man (like the song). Ugly men become philosophers instead of trying to improve themselves. Smdh.
@@gertorrrrrr6 Exactly! Men act like they'll give the time of day to a woman who is a 4/10 in their eyes. Nope! Men are just as (if not more) shallow than women.
My husband didn't make a lot of money at first, but he always, always has been such a hard worker. I knew he would do whatever he needed to do to be a good provider, and he is. We want for nothing, and I get to be home every day with our children. He is also a great listener. He pays attention and remembers things people say. There is always "room at his table", in terms of growing our circle of friends and relationships. He truly values every person he talks to.
That's a great quality. I like anyone who values everyone they talk to. That's a good person. I know a Fed Ex guy like that. Nicest man. Like Mr Rogers
As a girl, I was skeptical before clicking on this short, but this guy’s absolutely correct. My parents taught me, “A man won’t be perfect, but he should show potential, a willingness to constantly learn and work hard.” Of course, you will only attract what you are so I’m keeping myself clean for marriage, studying hard, and working on physical health. Someday I hope I’ll have a good man who loves God.❤
@@keifer7813 And manure makes things grow.🌸I do have a lot of common sense on my own, this video just reminded me of what my parents said about looking for potential in someone.
My husband has all 3. I vividly remember when I started dating my husband and saw that he acted the same way in-front of his friends and parents that he did me. He was consistent and true to himself.
What do men want? It could be assumed its the thing they approach, pursue, propose, protect, and provide for🤔. Hopefully when they get what they want it actually is what they want.
@@noconsentgiven Personally what I want as a man in this context is to have a place where I matter, and where I feel respected and appreciated. And if a woman to whom I am naturally drawn can embody and express that in a way that is genuine and authentic then loving, providing for and protecting that woman comes naturally.
Because "society" really means "women" and women simply don't care. To them, men are simply tools and utilities. Robots. Machines. Created to serve. Replaceable, interchangeable, disposable. Valued only for as long as they're useful, and not a nanosecond longer. Ever wonder why women become uncomfortable when men show feelings? Because machines don't have feelings, but if the mask slips, and the human beneath shows through, women might be forced to feel empathy, and that might make them feel _uncomfortable_ about the way they treat their robot-slaves. And we can't make women uncomfortable, can we.
Looks are important to a lot of people, both men and women, but they’re one of many and looks are subjective. Plenty of ugly and broke dudes pull girls. The biggest failure I see from most men is either a lack of effort or lack of social skills.
@@Ashley-q8n I have always been kind and intelligent, gues what? I have never had a girlfriend until my late 20s, all I have wanted was to be loved by a woman and give her the world. Now that I have well paying job women started to act so differently it is honestly disguisting.
@@Ashley-q8nmany women are that way, sadly. There are more than enough examples of this. It is sad, but blaming men for what was done to them, because they were too naive and idealistic to see it coming. Victim blaming and belitteling. How does this help anyone? Men need women to call out other women on their bs more. The options men have, are already being used (MGTOW and such, plus being super vigilant about partners) which leads to the current situation we have now happening: Women asking, where all the good men are. They are running away from most women, naturally, because they are sick of the exploitation and potential destruction of their whole life. So they are super careful now and avoid any red flag and don't "try" anymore. Either it is a good woman or a flat out nope.
@@DJDeity17 this is not traditional. Regardless of your gender, who doesn't want a partner who is kind, funny and intelligent, and resourceful (as in character, not materially speaking). I would say it is backwards to want to be with someone who is fully dependent on you
100% true. Married my first and only boyfriend at 21 cuzza all these 3 things. We were both poor kids from immigrant parents, but he was a hard worker, kind and tooo smart. I KNEW that if i married him i was gonna be ok in the future. And man i was right😇
What he says applies to traditional minded and raised women. Not feminist minded. Most women are feminists that's why men in their 30s struggle to marry even though they may have stable white collar jobs because women in their 20s and focusing on being independent financially first
may I ask what trustworthiness is though? that sounds like worthy of trust. which seems like it would be on the receiver's end of trust rather than the person providing trust. I could be the most honest person on the planet but if someone is the most skeptic too than how would they trust me?
@@nothinbutms I would say being trustworthy generally means having integrity, defined as honesty and having moral principles; moral principles defined as values both personal and shared between people about right and wrong and life in general.
@@nothinbutmsit means acting with integrity, being an honest person. That means being honest with themselves too. And all of this means that they have courage and humility, and are self reflective
Totally agree. My boyfriend was kind, generous, and knowledgeable to fix the timing belt on my first car and we had only been dating a month, his dad helped too. I was very impressed and we’ve been married for 22 years. He also has the best work ethic I’ve ever seen. I thank God for him every day!
I would put kind first, laughter second, and later future provider. Life has taught me that in times of despair, a kind heart is more valuable than cod cash. Married happily for 28 years.
And there’s the charming women that are sociopaths and have bipolar or borderline personality disorder that are attracted to good and kind men because they can use and control them to their advantage. And if the man is disconnected from her defending himself, he’s a neglectful husband.
Currently getting over a break up with one of those Jezebels 😒 I don't even know why I feel kinda depressed over it, I know it's for the best. I'm guessing I need to work on my game more, and get into more situations where I can meet more of a quiet, kinda shy, good hearted woman
@@broco6608How do you know he didn’t cheat? 😂 as long as they don’t get someone pregnant or bring home a disease used discretion so what let another woman do your dirty work sex is not love and the majority of men never leave their wives further fling humans were not meant to be monogamous that’s religion patriarchy telling all that bullshit.😊
We have zero evidence you're remotely successful, but we do see that you're lacking sufficiently in self-esteem to believe a woman's job is to invest in you. A man's job is to invest in himself and hold himself above the demands and expectations of women in everyday society. That's not you. You've simply told us your wife stayed because you complied with her demands. You're a man women will use, but you are not one they'll respect.
@@JosephStalin311 of course other reasons as well. Kindness as this guy mentioned. I make her laugh also. But a man should provide, and she was with me before I could do that, and based only on what she saw in me.
I agree- there are some men who are kind but they are not safe for you, emotionally. A guy can be a great guy to everyone, but if it’s not your guy and you can’t rely on him, then that’s that.
That's a shallow view of women and it means you have some personal baggage to work through. The unhealed psyche is convinced the world is full of snakes.
@@MHLivestreams Yeah, of course it exists. But it's shallow to assume that's all women care about in general. Many women do also happily marry down. And anyway, when men are wounded by a woman trying to marry up, that shows a lack of wisdom and knowledge. Because there's a whole historical context for why it's such an ingrained behavior. There's so much bitterness among the chronically online men about this, because they tell each other they should be outraged instead of think.
Women that were not interested in me when I was young and charming but displayed interest in me after receiving my law degree, my response was that men my age are not interested in women your age. ❤
I Love how when I was in my early 20s girls my age ignored me and dated guys over 30+. Now they are 30+ and mad that I want to date 20 year olds. Like that's what you did.
I love my husband because he is respectful , understanding, loving, caring, and has a good heart. This is why we’ve been together for 18 years. I try to be the same with him. We also raised a wonderful boy together. This is what every one wants.
Yes. First is money Second is because it can lead to money. Third, he means weakness not kindness.. because she thinks you will give her your money.. When you get the money guys stick to the code.. all these chicks are for the streets.
I do agree. The kindness is the BIGGEST most impressive trait for me. Wins me over instantly. Then he backs it up with intelligence, that’s sexy! Financially stable makes him a King who knows how to manage things. Yes!! These do indeed impress women.
OK orgasm over 😂 Sorry couldn't resist joking about that,glad you have this.its amazing how you are so happy and the way you talk about your partner.hope you have this continue to the end.
"They don't want someone who is kind, but they're impressed by [generosity]" Meaning kindness is not among the 3 mentioned traits, it's maybe only generosity, which is probably connected to the first trait of resource security
@arnavrawat9864 yeah it's an interesting way of wording it. "They don't want someone who's gonna be a good person" Immediately after that he says "They're impressed by someone who's good" Basically it means you need to be good at the right moments and for the right reasons outside of your own ego or selfishness.
Tell that to most women today. Most women only find 4.5% of men to be sexually appealing. Women today want to sleep with a Chad...while expecting to date/marry a Chad with a Bag!
That's why women curve the kind guys and stick to the a-holes that excite them? Lol talking from experience being on both sides. Its very clear which women prefer
@@MarioMario-vy4biI feel sorry for chad, the volcano guy wins for several reasons, first he owns the volcano, second he banged the chick while being able to let her go, third, chad will find out eventually that she was just a girl and she will get tired of him.
My husband is all three for sure. We connected immediately with humor, he was sweet to his mother and even kind to his little brother who was only 10 when i began handing out at his house. He was and still is a very intelligent ambitious hard worker who provides and gets along with pretty much everyone and I’m so grateful for the 15 years we been together so far ❤❤❤
What do you mean by saying; "so far?" Either you took your vows seriously, or you didn't. Either you're committed 💯% or you're not. Remember these vows: "In the name of God, I, ______, take you, ______, to be my (husband/wife), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until we are parted by death. This is my solemn vow."
@@jamesnash6101she’s saying she’s grateful for the 15 years they’ve been together so far. Anything could happen, that doesn’t mean she doesn’t take her vows seriously 😟 tomorrow isn’t promised so be grateful for the past and the now.
When I married my husband he didn't have a job. I wasn't phased by that though. I knew that he had a healthy work ethic, and would do whatever he had to do to provide. It took time, but eventually he got a great job. 15 years later, he's still a great husband and provider! I'm so grateful to him! ❤
Mine didn’t have a job either and was dumb. He still doesn’t work, now he’s a stay at home dad and maid. It’s perfect. Providing is easy I can do that working two days a week. You want someone kind and fun, who knows they aren’t smart so they take direction.
It's true and I don't blame them. And by young it's mostly teenagers when kids start to understand attraction towards opposite gender (or same genders if they are gay), their brains aren't fully developed, they aren't grown ups, they are still learning and yes then the tall ripped guy in the class seems hot, so does the hot girl with big titts and btts. It's an age of discovering, most aren't thinking about future, romantic love is a new emotion to them so yes kids of both genders don't think much about other things than physically attractive (most cases), for some people it stays more than teenage to they turn 20. As people mature, the priorities changes, they become more realistic, genuine and appreciate a real bond. Yes some people find live in high school but for most people it's an age of experience, and we shouldn't judge them on that, rather on what choices they are making as an adult. Are they still materialistic, greedy, only after lust, or have they grown and value genuinity more.
Super lucky to have found a husband who scores off the charts in all 3. We all have flaws, but those definitely sound like the core values I looked for. 100% agree with this message.
My ex had 4 kids and broke up with me because "I couldn't provide for her." I make $5k a month, it was just too soon to be providing for a woman I just started dating (6 months) lol crazy man.
@@bodhisattva2348 Nop and even if i had i wouldnt want to do it. They fought for equality now they have to bathe in it. I keep my money i keep all my power. If i provide for someone their money is money and im in charge of it otherwise i don't provide nothing.
What this guy says is very true. My wife, after we'd been married several years, told me she could tell I was going to be a hard worker, be faithful, responsible, had good natural intelligence to be able to give her and future kids a decent life, be nice to her and liked that I listen to her. She was correct on all fronts.
I think he forgot to say that all 3 are relative, or at least the providing and intelligence parts, some women will be ok with a person that makes 50k a year, for other women a good provider is 6 figures a year and so on, we are in the 21st century man, putting a roof on top of their heads and food on the table is not sufficient.
This describes my husband perfectly. His love and respect for his grandparents and his parents shows what a class act he is. He also goes out of his way to be kind to people in service jobs. He is also brilliant and disciplined. 😊
I knew a woman who didn't care about a mans status at all. All she wanted was love, compassion, commitment, loyalty, trust, caring, kind and considerate and honest. She'd prefer a man who hasn't got a cent to his name but has a very high abundance of all or most of the aforementioned. That's a very unique, deep, real, rare and one fine human being.
Women who are financially secure, or who are sure they don't want/cant have children, or who are more mature and have already raised children, are not concerned with the 'provider' aspect. True there are golddiggers out there, but for most women the importance of a man being able to provide was never about her, it was for the benefit of the kids they would likely raise in the future. Guys generally seem to be oblivious to the obvious reasons why their earning potential matters to women of child bearing age.
@@katherineosere6597 not true I have very little empathy and practically no sympathy especially for people outside of my family and close friends. But I still always try to do the right thing even if I could do the wrong thing without feeling guilt
All throughout my 20'ies, while studying process engineering, I got ignored 12 times, rejected 7 times, and friendzoned twice. I took it with humour and kindness.
You are young and a smart man. Society nowadays doesn't know how to appreciate a good person. I don't think that they are rejecting you. God has a good smart young decent woman reserved for you ❤️ that's why he is not allowing you to get with the wrong person.
@@Ladybug-lz5un 1.) I'm 54 now. 2.) Three of the rejections were very explicit and got me into serious troubles. The other four were both definite and embarrassing. After each I became more reluctant to try another and quit the dating market entirely in my mid 30'ies. (20 years ago) About MGTOW I learned about 7 years ago, and about Sigma- men just recently. What women are attracted to I can't tell from experience or first word. I only can tell from experience that none of those I was interested in returned my feelings, but some (4-5) were fine to exploit them. What ever is waiting for me out there, I'll call the bomb squad to defuse it, but I'm not going to approach. 3.) I'm an atheist.
Bro thats nothing... You gotta get out there mich more. I know guys that approach 30-50 girls per week. They mostly get rejected, sure. But you gotta get used to that and grow from it, take care of your emotions and your trauma, if any come up. 21 experiences in a whole decade is like nothing.
@@bjornborg4849the problem is that just the approaching hundreds of women to find the right one is the part of the reason we are having these dating issues today. For the last 2 or 3 generations now, that is all they tell people. What I can tell you, if you go back to silent gen and early boomers, that is not how dating went. People were generally much more invested in each others lives than they are today. Today people tend to be a lot more selfish and focusing on themselves than their fellow acquaintences. That investment helps building extremely strong households with very low rates of divorce due to the investment into each others lives before dating. Example, my grandpa was born in '44 and my grandma was born in '45 about 14 months apart. They first met each other at church when he was 6 and she was 5. They grew up together in the same church. She was truly invested in his life and vice versa. In highschool, they started dating. He left for college in another state. She graduated the following year and went to a different college, but couldn't stand not being with him as they were both already so invested in each other's lives by growing up together. She made the big move, swapped universities to his just so she could be with him, and they got married at 21. Because of that strong bond, she was truly with him through thick and thin till death did they part. Whether that be when he was an Army Ranger being deployed to Vietnam, through economic struggles, or living the hard retired life as a rancher till he passed. He passed in 2020 to leukemia. Always working. Relationships haven't been like that now for multiple generations. People think that the best method for a good strong relationship is just a numbers game. No, the strongest relationships is someone who you have built and invested your life with. That is why only 6 out 1000 men are still getting married and why the divorce rates of those are still at around 50%. If you haven't invested any time into each other as people, why even date first? Just because of a physical attractiveness? That is why relationships now are horrible and are failing significantly. This can be backed by the fact that Pew Research found that 63% of men under 30 are single. 30% of all adult americans are not married or engaged in a committed relationship.
All my life when I asked a woman out the first reply always was 'what do you do' , imagine if a woman was brave enough to ask a man out and the man's first reply was ' what do you do? It would be an insult to the woman, guess what it is an Insult to a 'man'
Facts ❤ I met my husband when we were both teenagers and he was funny and kind and unlike all the other boys he just had this sort of maturity about him that made him stand out. We're in our forties now and he is an amazing dad, he is ambitious with work and he's still kind and makes me laugh everyday. ❤
My second date with my husband was a trip to an antiques' shop. I admired a small piece of furniture that I couldn't afford. He didn't say anything, but next day he showed up at my home with the piece. I was so touched by that. It's not that I wanted him to spend money all the time, but the fact that he'd been so thoughtful.
As a father of daughters I'd say another thing to consider is the personality that goes with the ability to provide in any situation. Kindness is one thing but the ability to switch that off and show the character to do whatever it takes to put food on the table in absolutely any sh!tstorm scenario, will not go unnoticed.
Would you or have you ever deliberately test(ed) the guy, in a slightly to moderately provoking manner, in order to see his true character? Asking in case I get a daughter of my own.
when you say "whatever it takes",do you really mean WHATEVER? if so,then basically you say "do whatever it takes and we will tell ourseleves that we are kind,just to not feel bad about ourseleves" that is,we are hypocrites...
Yup been saying this since I was like 12! Make a girl laugh anytime you want and you got her. She will want to be around you as much as possible. Don’t force it though, let them miss you some days!
Very true. My husband had/has these things. Gets up daily to work, kind and respectful to his parents, goes out of his way for children and the elderly. We celebrate 25 years next week. He’s a wonderful Dad as well.
Apparently, you took those wedding seriously; "In the name of God, I, ______, take you, ______, to be my (husband/wife), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until we are parted by death. This is my solemn vow.
@daniela_k and so, when you are not satisfied, in the bedroom by his performance. That is one reason to leave him? And then break-up the entire family, and then take 50% of everything the both of you worked so hard to achieve? That's very selfish of you. And I wonder if he knows that?
1 2 and 3 is money.. they only want you to be kind so you give them money with nothing in return. Stick to the code guys keep your money.. all these chicks are for the streets
@@kaikai-pb7fh depends on the circumstances in which the woman lived. Money is not that important at the beginning, like the person said having his act together signals that he'll do right and provide in the future.
spot on my guy. all reasons i fell in love with my husband. he treated me so kind and had a great work ethic despite being poor. now hes an engineer and although i work too, we feel stable in this terrible economy
Ambition combined with intelligence and kindness is truly attractive. Competence, compassion, social, loyalty, courage, strenght and success.. yeah those are attactive too
I’m a short, average looking guy but have dated way out of my league because when I meet a new woman, I demonstrate all of these traits within the 1st few conversations and if she’s interested, she will pursue. Not all women are wired to think this way but when you find one who does, she’ll hold on tight.
"if you can make a woman laugh, you can kiss her" LOVE THAT!!! And YES you are right. Also: you can understand a lot about a person's character, noticing what they laugh about (and how)!!!
If you give a women money you can do alot more than just kiss them lol. If we make yoy laugh too much you just dont leave, and i really dont want them being their in the morning when i wake up.
I have a learning disability since my mother drunk alcohol during her pregnancy. Long story short: I’m not intelligent. Neither am I witty, funny or anything like that nor am I a good provider in general terms. I can only work in minimum wage occupations. How should I overcome this. I’m already 34 and never had a girlfriend, or a date. I asked women out, but they all rejected me. What should I do? I’m tired living in isolation for something I had no control over.
Go to groups/classes/book clubs/gym classes/church/or any event that you enjoy. It takes a few months at any of these to get to know people. Don't come on too strong or act desperate or whiny. Also, most importantly.. say a prayer!
Well American woman are difficult to deal with, be a passport bro and get a passport and see if you can find a partner in another country? 🤔 Maybe it will work
That's exactly right and it created a great marriage for us. He gave lots of love, kindness, generosity, laughter every single day and he reaped the rewards because it just made me appreciate him all the more!!!!
And all we ask in return is that you be modest in manner, disciplined in health, feminine in role, loyal in behavior, and empathetic at heart. And apparently that is too much to ask!
All these sound good on paper but reality is women are attracted to handsome tall & rick men. That's the ultimate truth. All the intelligent, humour, kind, provider things are appreciated only when the desperate women are in their late 30s.
With women having equal pay and graduating college at a higher rate then men, how can any average man possibly provide these days? Women should be expected to provide just as much.
Something like 40% of households have women as the main/sole/equal breadwinner while men still don't give birth or participate equally in childrearing/domestic duties. How much more would you like women to provide 😂
On # 1, key is "he has to have his act together." Responsibility for me is behind the entire "good provider" idea. I don't wanna raise my husband along with my kids... We've gotta be on the same team and he's gotta have my back like I have his. Additionally, if I'm knocked up looking like an old VW bug about to bust open with a total stranger we dna cocktailed up, Imma need someone solid to lean on for a minute.
The first point 100%. I hate it whenever I reject someone or ask to get to know them more slowly, they get mad and call me something unsatisfactory. I want someone real and genuine. It’s not too much to ask.
If they don't want to get to know you slowly, then they are only after a pump and dump. Choose a different type of man that isn't solely focused on sex and you'll have better luck.
I am 40 with kids in college. One almost a lawyer other a officer. This man is right. Kindness and planning a life is my biggest talent. I laugh at myself and sweet to people and I am at peace. Be kind.❤
He’s absolutely correct about that. I am dating some guys and immediately reject the males who come off as mean I don’t play the fake nagging. I don’t play fake interrogation. I don’t play fake challenging because how it starts is how it’s going to end.
Problem is being kind often means losing in the capitalistic ratrace Not even the ratrace; even high school dynamics Actually; now I think about it; this guy is an idiot😂
This is why if you make a young male unemployed or poor with no prospects you make it impossible for him to find a female partner. The future trouble this causes is immense to the individual and society.
This is my husband. Everyday he brings me coffee in bed, will hold the door open for a random stranger and he’s simply the most loving and kind dad. He’s such a gentle soul. So incredibly grateful he’s my partner.
Why wouldn't we; he's not angry, "red pilling it", telling us that settle, remain subservient, etc. We DO need these types of REAL human beings.... Called Men. PERIOD 🩸
@@RobinZipporah how on earth can you find an enemy in my comment… I obviously realize we need men like this. My point is that there are many men like this and I’m happy that there are women like YOU who agree. There are many women who never appreciate men like this. I’m showing gratitude - don’t project onto me please
I expressed to my first wife a suggested lifestyle that we could expect in a five year and ten year plan. Within three years we were divorced. As soon as the house and new car was paid off I was booted out. I was deemed a BAD Husband!
Im sorry this happened. But just to clarify for most women its not just about money. We need to feel safe emotionally and physically too. Not just financially. There was probably more going on that she was unhappy about, at least from her perspective. Sorry.
@@resheaparker2725 Yes there was narcissism PND [undiagnosed] Oh and cheating [her] and I was no Angel but there ARE ALWAYS TWO SIDES TO EVERY STORY. I was the only one who went to couples therapy because I had all the problems. That was 1996!!!
@@resheaparker2725 most men a lot of men tell us women its all about the money . i remember my dad told me around 17 yrs old. "Donna don't ever rely on anyone especlly a man for money. they will have complete control over you" I saw it with my friends neighbors he was right.
Listen up fellows, This sh!t he kicking Is called SIMP 101 Stay focused Stay focused Stay focused The only 3 reason you need to protect are, your mental, emotional, and financial health...
Females marry the attractive guy with none of these traits before they figure out these traits are what is important so he’s not wrong but this is irrelevant.
And that's where men mess up. They should think about future too. How will she be as a mom? Does she actually care about me as a person or just the Financials I bring to the table? So much emphasis on the sexual aspect when a good relationship has soooooo many other parts to it.
@@kat4onelove How will someone who spent 10-15 years jumping in and out of beds be as a wife and mother? Well, she didn't exactly practice for those roles, did she?
@kat4onelove her sexual history matters because if she was sexually irresponsible in the past, it means she didn't value herself and lacked self-discipline. If she didn't show decernment when choosing partners, it means she has a history of making bad and / or impulsive decisions. She will also no doubt have issues and trauma left behind by her behavior. A promiscuous woman will never be a better life partner than a woman who isn't promiscuous.
Anyone that genuinely believes this is doomed. Women love you when you’re good looking, confident, ambitious and respectful. Everything else is nonsense and won’t get in the door.
He's describing a wise woman. Not all women are that wise.
He’s describing evolutionary adaptation for survival. So when a woman is ready to have a partner this is what attracts her, when society pushes her to leave her home to make babies anything that will get her out will do
Few are. Very few.
Well said
bert8497 that was my nephews wife. She comes from the Philippines
Not all women are raised wise but, they can’t play stupid either.
My husband had all these characteristics. He passed away three years ago. There are good men out there! I miss him every second of every day.
I so hear you. I lost my husband of 25 years a few months ago, and the grief is overwhelming. I will miss him for the rest of my life.
@Davidleavitt123 Thank you.
Same with my husband. He passed away after 41years of marriage.
@@Debra-k1f I recently lost my husband of 25 years. I am sorry for your loss.
I’m so sorry for your loss 😢
"If you make a woman laugh, you can kiss her"
Rules unclear. I asked a girl out and she laughed at me, so I kissed her and now I'm in jail awaiting trial.
#debunked
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Damnit I believed this guy
20 years ago it happened for me....he tells no lies....thats how I became a great kisser up north and down south
Yeah but you did kiss her!
They only care about intelligence and kindness if you look good first. Otherwise you're a friendzone nice guy or a creep.
@@kagepoker Also applies to men. They like "bad girls". Nobody wants somebody they can have. Everyone wants somebody else who doesn't want them.
Yes we care about looks the first. Its true. Just like men. I dont understand why men have such a hard time accepting this. Like they make all the excuses possible to not accept this. Like women are atracted to bad men. No women are not at all atracted to bad men. But if said bad man is very good looking he will be atractive to women despite beeing not so nice.
@gertorrrrrr6 Looks are very important. Thank goodness a great number of men acknowledge this. They go to the gym and dress well. The ones who are stubborn like the above poster will suffer if they keep pretending they don't get it. Ladies go crazy about a sharp dressed man (like the song). Ugly men become philosophers instead of trying to improve themselves. Smdh.
@@gertorrrrrr6 Exactly! Men act like they'll give the time of day to a woman who is a 4/10 in their eyes. Nope! Men are just as (if not more) shallow than women.
Except there are a lot of married men who are plain.
My husband didn't make a lot of money at first, but he always, always has been such a hard worker. I knew he would do whatever he needed to do to be a good provider, and he is. We want for nothing, and I get to be home every day with our children. He is also a great listener. He pays attention and remembers things people say. There is always "room at his table", in terms of growing our circle of friends and relationships. He truly values every person he talks to.
That's a great quality. I like anyone who values everyone they talk to. That's a good person. I know a Fed Ex guy like that. Nicest man. Like Mr Rogers
That’s a fine man.
This is a great man love what you said!
You are Blessed.
Praise GOD.
he's a keeper then - lucky you
Kind, intelligent(funny) and a good provider. Sounds about right.
I think i wouldn't need the good provider stuff, i can care for myself
But the rest is absolute facts
Agreed !
Unfortunately, very few men meet this criteria.
@@sharonberry1958I meet this criteria!
What planet is this where these women exist with women overwhelming leading in the category of seeking divorce .
Rodney Dangerfield made plenty of women laugh, but he never got any respect.
Hypergamy is pro,sti.tu-tion:.
She may be with a man for those reasons but she will leave for someone who has more.
Here is your trophy, you've won the comments! 🤣
Joan Child disagrees with you.
😂👍💯
What they want is bad boys. They get bored with nice guys
As a girl, I was skeptical before clicking on this short, but this guy’s absolutely correct. My parents taught me, “A man won’t be perfect, but he should show potential, a willingness to constantly learn and work hard.” Of course, you will only attract what you are so I’m keeping myself clean for marriage, studying hard, and working on physical health. Someday I hope I’ll have a good man who loves God.❤
Smart girl.
Why do people always quote their parents like they were world renowned thinkers of their time. Maybe what you were taught was a load of horse manure 🤷
@@keifer7813 And manure makes things grow.🌸I do have a lot of common sense on my own, this video just reminded me of what my parents said about looking for potential in someone.
@@17sweetheart Lol fair enough
@@keifer7813😂
I made the lady at the bank laugh , so I kissed her and she called the cops 👮♂️
Better luck next time 😂
@@BAYKING_316 the guy on the Internet told me to do it
😂
Did you open the door for her first and was signaling that you had some $ in your account!?
@@mt.n5427 no but I did tell him about the guy on the Internet but he didn't seem to care
My husband has all 3. I vividly remember when I started dating my husband and saw that he acted the same way in-front of his friends and parents that he did me. He was consistent and true to himself.
That's wonderful, lucky you✨
Amazing outlook
Love consistent.
So when are you filing for divorce? 70 percent chance
Who’s asking 🙄🙄🙄
But why is it that society rarely talks about what men want, considering men are the ones who approach, pursue, propose, protect and provide?
What do men want? It could be assumed its the thing they approach, pursue, propose, protect, and provide for🤔. Hopefully when they get what they want it actually is what they want.
@@noconsentgivenbullshit dont twist his comment lol Still taking off responsibility from females
@@noconsentgiven Personally what I want as a man in this context is to have a place where I matter, and where I feel respected and appreciated. And if a woman to whom I am naturally drawn can embody and express that in a way that is genuine and authentic then loving, providing for and protecting that woman comes naturally.
@@bekitavaka Well said❤️.
Because "society" really means "women" and women simply don't care. To them, men are simply tools and utilities. Robots. Machines. Created to serve. Replaceable, interchangeable, disposable. Valued only for as long as they're useful, and not a nanosecond longer.
Ever wonder why women become uncomfortable when men show feelings? Because machines don't have feelings, but if the mask slips, and the human beneath shows through, women might be forced to feel empathy, and that might make them feel _uncomfortable_ about the way they treat their robot-slaves. And we can't make women uncomfortable, can we.
Number one is looks, number two is money. The end.
I believe it's the other way around
Most men have small appendages… so the men that don’t are the better choice
Totally no
Looks are important to a lot of people, both men and women, but they’re one of many and looks are subjective. Plenty of ugly and broke dudes pull girls. The biggest failure I see from most men is either a lack of effort or lack of social skills.
Avoid all those if best sex ever
So 1. Money 2. Ability to make money and 3. Be kind enough to give them money. Yes.
Yep. All they care about is money and status
@@Ashley-q8n I have always been kind and intelligent, gues what? I have never had a girlfriend until my late 20s, all I have wanted was to be loved by a woman and give her the world. Now that I have well paying job women started to act so differently it is honestly disguisting.
@@Ashley-q8nI feel sorry for all you shallow women who only want money😂
@@Ashley-q8nmany women are that way, sadly.
There are more than enough examples of this. It is sad, but blaming men for what was done to them, because they were too naive and idealistic to see it coming. Victim blaming and belitteling.
How does this help anyone?
Men need women to call out other women on their bs more. The options men have, are already being used (MGTOW and such, plus being super vigilant about partners) which leads to the current situation we have now happening: Women asking, where all the good men are.
They are running away from most women, naturally, because they are sick of the exploitation and potential destruction of their whole life.
So they are super careful now and avoid any red flag and don't "try" anymore. Either it is a good woman or a flat out nope.
@@Ashley-q8n It’s not sad. It’s the truth. Stop with the virtue signalling
He doesn’t have to be rich ever, but he’s got to be someone who always take the responsibility to provide to the best he can.
What does this Man offering traditional Value's get in Return for such a sacrifice?
@@DJDeity17 this is not traditional. Regardless of your gender, who doesn't want a partner who is kind, funny and intelligent, and resourceful (as in character, not materially speaking). I would say it is backwards to want to be with someone who is fully dependent on you
than back to kitchen 🤷♂️☕️
@@Marta-zm8oeread again.. and try again.. out of context 🤦♂️☕️
@@UNDWARUM37 ? Apparently my reading comprehension is lacking
100% true. Married my first and only boyfriend at 21 cuzza all these 3 things. We were both poor kids from immigrant parents, but he was a hard worker, kind and tooo smart. I KNEW that if i married him i was gonna be ok in the future. And man i was right😇
I hope you send the screenshot of this comment to him. Would make his months.
they thing is ...men shouldnt worry about what women are attracted to. they should juat focus on what's attactive to them.
What ?
What he says applies to traditional minded and raised women. Not feminist minded. Most women are feminists that's why men in their 30s struggle to marry even though they may have stable white collar jobs because women in their 20s and focusing on being independent financially first
Trustworthiness is key, too. Both people in a relationship must be worthy of one another’s trust.
may I ask what trustworthiness is though? that sounds like worthy of trust. which seems like it would be on the receiver's end of trust rather than the person providing trust. I could be the most honest person on the planet but if someone is the most skeptic too than how would they trust me?
@@babsiegordon525 Absolutely! 😊
@@nothinbutms I would say being trustworthy generally means having integrity, defined as honesty and having moral principles; moral principles defined as values both personal and shared between people about right and wrong and life in general.
It’s important but it’s hard to gauge during the attraction phase
@@nothinbutmsit means acting with integrity, being an honest person. That means being honest with themselves too. And all of this means that they have courage and humility, and are self reflective
Totally agree. My boyfriend was kind, generous, and knowledgeable to fix the timing belt on my first car and we had only been dating a month, his dad helped too. I was very impressed and we’ve been married for 22 years. He also has the best work ethic I’ve ever seen. I thank God for him every day!
100% just like my husband. Kind, thoughtful and hands on helpful❤
Right... & then you cheat on that poor man when things don't go your way
To fix your timing belt requires taking off the engine fan. So the man gotta have tools and knows how to use them.
@@bluecheeze163Awh are you okay?
@@bexmw you know what I'm talking about bigot
I would put kind first, laughter second, and later future provider. Life has taught me that in times of despair, a kind heart is more valuable than cod cash. Married happily for 28 years.
Same. Been with my hubby for 19 years.
You’re equating having “cash” to someone who is THINKING and prioritizing as a provider to protect and sustain his family
It’s NOT the same thing 😂
❤
Beside that, Cod cash smells.
Yes. A quality person first
And there’s the charming women that are sociopaths and have bipolar or borderline personality disorder that are attracted to good and kind men because they can use and control them to their advantage. And if the man is disconnected from her defending himself, he’s a neglectful husband.
Here, here
Nothing wrong with divorcing her. U just said it they are psychos
Currently getting over a break up with one of those Jezebels 😒 I don't even know why I feel kinda depressed over it, I know it's for the best. I'm guessing I need to work on my game more, and get into more situations where I can meet more of a quiet, kinda shy, good hearted woman
Ya my wife invested in me and believed I’d be successful when I was young and broke. It makes me proud to say she was right.
Thank you for not cheating on her or not leaving now that you have money.
@@broco6608How do you know he didn’t cheat? 😂 as long as they don’t get someone pregnant or bring home a disease used discretion so what let another woman do your dirty work sex is not love and the majority of men never leave their wives further fling humans were not meant to be monogamous that’s religion patriarchy telling all that bullshit.😊
We have zero evidence you're remotely successful, but we do see that you're lacking sufficiently in self-esteem to believe a woman's job is to invest in you.
A man's job is to invest in himself and hold himself above the demands and expectations of women in everyday society.
That's not you. You've simply told us your wife stayed because you complied with her demands.
You're a man women will use, but you are not one they'll respect.
So she fell in love with you because she believed you were gonna be rich or for other reasons?
@@JosephStalin311 of course other reasons as well. Kindness as this guy mentioned. I make her laugh also. But a man should provide, and she was with me before I could do that, and based only on what she saw in me.
I would replace his #1 with making me feel safe. Feeling ‘safe’ physically, emotionally and financially is really important to me.
That IS kindness, silly.
Would you "feel safe" with a man who is unkind?
Kindness is to treat others as you would want to be treated and that includes feeling safe and secure.
I agree- there are some men who are kind but they are not safe for you, emotionally. A guy can be a great guy to everyone, but if it’s not your guy and you can’t rely on him, then that’s that.
Add it...🎉
You want them to be kind because you think if they are, theyll give you money for nothing in return.
Yes, women always choose the kind, intelligent man with potential. After they have had a train run on them by the other guys.
You mean the lying men just playing around but not telling her that truth?
@@sonofhibbs4425 No, he means the men she's been conditioned into liking through fiction-reading/novels, movies, and last but not least, social media.
Maybe the women youve been going out with.
@@colewhitten4016 hey guys, he thinks she really slept with only one guy before him 🤣 🤣 🤣
@@colewhitten4016 I love when dumb people can’t tell this doesn’t apply to 100% of women 🤦♂️
This isn't attraction. This is guessing which man will be the most useful tool to her.
Welcome to women. They’re attracted to men that will be useful for their survival. It’s evolutionary psychology 101
That's a shallow view of women and it means you have some personal baggage to work through. The unhealed psyche is convinced the world is full of snakes.
A woman can do bad alone. The only men who tend to have the above stated view are the ones who can't or are afraid they can't measure up.
@@LockhartLorehypergamy is a well known behaviour, it's a fact.
@@MHLivestreams Yeah, of course it exists. But it's shallow to assume that's all women care about in general. Many women do also happily marry down. And anyway, when men are wounded by a woman trying to marry up, that shows a lack of wisdom and knowledge. Because there's a whole historical context for why it's such an ingrained behavior. There's so much bitterness among the chronically online men about this, because they tell each other they should be outraged instead of think.
Women that were not interested in me when I was young and charming but displayed interest in me after receiving my law degree, my response was that men my age are not interested in women your age. ❤
I Love how when I was in my early 20s girls my age ignored me and dated guys over 30+. Now they are 30+ and mad that I want to date 20 year olds. Like that's what you did.
Why would anyone be interested in a young person who's worth nothing? Men are also put off by such women. 😂
If you have money, women will find you intelligent and kind
Not necessarily
I can make my own money. I want 1) kindness. 2) Intelligence. 3) Adventurous. In that order....
@@shawnasanclemente4668 But you ultimately still want a man who makes more than you do.
@@robertd9850true!
Wrong
I love my husband because he is respectful , understanding, loving, caring, and has a good heart. This is why we’ve been together for 18 years. I try to be the same with him. We also raised a wonderful boy together. This is what every one wants.
❤
Hey is said that women don't want a people's pleaser but a bad guy then?
Pretty sure you haven't missed a meal because he couldn't afford to buy for 19 years
We want bad boys for a minute as immature teenagers. Women who are mature want the good guy. I married the good guy.
@@darbofuchs9021 I don’t know about other women, but I don’t want a “bad guy”. I don’t know where I would be if he were a bad guy.
He's describing what most women regard a simp.
No he's describing what you regard a simp.
@@ss-ds2dn BINGO! Where tf did this guy get "most" from
Hes telling you what women want, as researchers have data collected from women that indicate this
You know women more than the speaker or are you just parroting incel ideas?
consider the married men in your circle. He has just described most married men.
Exactly. I liked that my husband knew where he was going, had a sense of humor and great intelligence and was profoundly kind. Met him 15 years ago💕
Now you found your beta provider, so you go cheat with Chad
@@DonTrump-sv1siplease go outside 🙏
@@MN-sn5dr Damn, dont get upset at the messenger
I'm glad your meal ticket paid off
You made him do it, woman! 😀
I'm a woman, and I approve of this message😊
I'm a alien studying mankind
Quit lying to yourself. Women are attracted to looks first and foremost.
You are one woman, not the women ;-)
Yes. First is money
Second is because it can lead to money.
Third, he means weakness not kindness.. because she thinks you will give her your money..
When you get the money guys stick to the code.. all these chicks are for the streets.
@@chriswilliams8299how's it going. ?
I do agree. The kindness is the BIGGEST most impressive trait for me. Wins me over instantly. Then he backs it up with intelligence, that’s sexy! Financially stable makes him a King who knows how to manage things. Yes!! These do indeed impress women.
OK orgasm over 😂
Sorry couldn't resist joking about that,glad you have this.its amazing how you are so happy and the way you talk about your partner.hope you have this continue to the end.
"They don't want someone who is kind, but they're impressed by [generosity]"
Meaning kindness is not among the 3 mentioned traits, it's maybe only generosity, which is probably connected to the first trait of resource security
SHE WANTS YOUR MONEY😂😂😂😂... THAT'S what kindness means in woman language.
@arnavrawat9864 yeah it's an interesting way of wording it.
"They don't want someone who's gonna be a good person"
Immediately after that he says
"They're impressed by someone who's good"
Basically it means you need to be good at the right moments and for the right reasons outside of your own ego or selfishness.
Oh. So you date the nice guys only? Because they are often kind without any sense of reciprocal interest...
A man with solid morals who doesn't cheat is more important than $
money helps too. cheers...❤❤🎉😮😮❤❤
Actually, that's what men want in women. Women want cash.
Tell that to most women today. Most women only find 4.5% of men to be sexually appealing. Women today want to sleep with a Chad...while expecting to date/marry a Chad with a Bag!
@@VIDS2013 no we all don't. I am one. I know. Its what the other person wrote.
That would be a gay man.
Intelligence is super attractive. The last thing you want is a super intelligent man who is also cruel. Kindness is important.
Is that why women keep escaping from my volcano hideouts?
That's why women curve the kind guys and stick to the a-holes that excite them? Lol talking from experience being on both sides. Its very clear which women prefer
@@PMA65537no it’s because she can’t resist escaping with chad.
@@MarioMario-vy4biI feel sorry for chad, the volcano guy wins for several reasons, first he owns the volcano, second he banged the chick while being able to let her go, third, chad will find out eventually that she was just a girl and she will get tired of him.
My husband is all three for sure. We connected immediately with humor, he was sweet to his mother and even kind to his little brother who was only 10 when i began handing out at his house. He was and still is a very intelligent ambitious hard worker who provides and gets along with pretty much everyone and I’m so grateful for the 15 years we been together so far ❤❤❤
Same
What do you mean by saying; "so far?" Either you took your vows seriously, or you didn't. Either you're committed 💯% or you're not.
Remember these vows:
"In the name of God, I, ______, take you, ______, to be my (husband/wife), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until we are parted by death. This is my solemn vow."
@@jamesnash6101she’s saying she’s grateful for the 15 years they’ve been together so far. Anything could happen, that doesn’t mean she doesn’t take her vows seriously 😟 tomorrow isn’t promised so be grateful for the past and the now.
That's a beautiful story ❤
That's the man... protect him at all costs
Allahuma baarik
When I married my husband he didn't have a job. I wasn't phased by that though. I knew that he had a healthy work ethic, and would do whatever he had to do to provide. It took time, but eventually he got a great job. 15 years later, he's still a great husband and provider! I'm so grateful to him! ❤
Guarantee you would still let me through
You just condemned every other woman to years of problems 😂
He must've had a big package
You're the exception. The world needs many more women like you.
Mine didn’t have a job either and was dumb. He still doesn’t work, now he’s a stay at home dad and maid. It’s perfect. Providing is easy I can do that working two days a week. You want someone kind and fun, who knows they aren’t smart so they take direction.
He only surveyed oldies. If she young, she wants a handsome dude.
I’m a woman and I approved this message thank you!
Chad's are the only winners in this rigged game.
I'm not Chad. I don't play.
@@chrisharris6462 loser 😂
It's true and I don't blame them. And by young it's mostly teenagers when kids start to understand attraction towards opposite gender (or same genders if they are gay), their brains aren't fully developed, they aren't grown ups, they are still learning and yes then the tall ripped guy in the class seems hot, so does the hot girl with big titts and btts. It's an age of discovering, most aren't thinking about future, romantic love is a new emotion to them so yes kids of both genders don't think much about other things than physically attractive (most cases), for some people it stays more than teenage to they turn 20. As people mature, the priorities changes, they become more realistic, genuine and appreciate a real bond. Yes some people find live in high school but for most people it's an age of experience, and we shouldn't judge them on that, rather on what choices they are making as an adult. Are they still materialistic, greedy, only after lust, or have they grown and value genuinity more.
Super lucky to have found a husband who scores off the charts in all 3. We all have flaws, but those definitely sound like the core values I looked for. 100% agree with this message.
Happy for you. God blessed you
For now…. They live in a drama film. 🙄
Women say this and then have three kids with baby daddy's in jail.. bruh
Exactly.
There is no woman speaking in this video
My ex had 4 kids and broke up with me because "I couldn't provide for her." I make $5k a month, it was just too soon to be providing for a woman I just started dating (6 months) lol crazy man.
To summarize : They want to find someone that is willing and able to provide them a lifestyle without any expectation on their part.
So u have none of those qualities?
@@bodhisattva2348 Nop and even if i had i wouldnt want to do it. They fought for equality now they have to bathe in it. I keep my money i keep all my power. If i provide for someone their money is money and im in charge of it otherwise i don't provide nothing.
He isn’t saying that at all.
You are right there
The fact that bearing/raising kids is taken for granted like this is part of why the birth rate is dropping 😂
What this guy says is very true.
My wife, after we'd been married several years, told me she could tell I was going to be a hard worker, be faithful, responsible, had good natural intelligence to be able to give her and future kids a decent life, be nice to her and liked that I listen to her.
She was correct on all fronts.
If this was true I would not be single at 42😂
44, same here.
😂😂😂
Physical attraction was already assumed I guess
I think he forgot to say that all 3 are relative, or at least the providing and intelligence parts, some women will be ok with a person that makes 50k a year, for other women a good provider is 6 figures a year and so on, we are in the 21st century man, putting a roof on top of their heads and food on the table is not sufficient.
@@ChuyR.
If all other factors (looks, behavior etc...) are similar the 6 figure guy will often be chosen over that 50K guy.
Agree! Nothing better than a kiss after laughter. I like a man who is practical and can fix things 😊
Im get 10/10 in school practicals
A servant and jester, basically.
"If the women don't find you handsome, let em find ya handy..."
Red Green, The Red Green Show
Canadian comedy TV show about 20 or 25 years ago...
@@jemperdillerpretty much. Thats what a court jester does. Entertain her the moment you get home from work. If you don't? Plenty of other men will.
Has to be tall, white, and handsome first though, right?
This describes my husband perfectly. His love and respect for his grandparents and his parents shows what a class act he is. He also goes out of his way to be kind to people in service jobs. He is also brilliant and disciplined. 😊
How old were you when you met him?
@@jamesnash6101This information is classified, probably.
I knew a woman who didn't care about a mans status at all. All she wanted was love, compassion, commitment, loyalty, trust, caring, kind and considerate and honest. She'd prefer a man who hasn't got a cent to his name but has a very high abundance of all or most of the aforementioned. That's a very unique, deep, real, rare and one fine human being.
What novel/film was this again?
Sounds great, she needed attention. As soon as she get the attention she cheats and turns back to the “bad guy” provider
Women who are financially secure, or who are sure they don't want/cant have children, or who are more mature and have already raised children, are not concerned with the 'provider' aspect. True there are golddiggers out there, but for most women the importance of a man being able to provide was never about her, it was for the benefit of the kids they would likely raise in the future. Guys generally seem to be oblivious to the obvious reasons why their earning potential matters to women of child bearing age.
Empathy. Without empathy there is no connection. Regardless of everything else.
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Not necesarely, cause tou can fake empathy really well if you re evil or a psycho. Two faced s. O. B.
If you're kind, you're likely to have empathy because you can put yourself in others' shoes, hence the kindness
If you're not empathetic you're not very kind
@@katherineosere6597 not true I have very little empathy and practically no sympathy especially for people outside of my family and close friends. But I still always try to do the right thing even if I could do the wrong thing without feeling guilt
All throughout my 20'ies, while studying process engineering, I got ignored 12 times, rejected 7 times, and friendzoned twice. I took it with humour and kindness.
You are young and a smart man. Society nowadays doesn't know how to appreciate a good person. I don't think that they are rejecting you. God has a good smart young decent woman reserved for you ❤️ that's why he is not allowing you to get with the wrong person.
@@Ladybug-lz5un that's what you tell the ugly guys
@@Ladybug-lz5un 1.) I'm 54 now.
2.) Three of the rejections were very explicit and got me into serious troubles. The other four were both definite and embarrassing. After each I became more reluctant to try another and quit the dating market entirely in my mid 30'ies. (20 years ago) About MGTOW I learned about 7 years ago, and about Sigma- men just recently.
What women are attracted to I can't tell from experience or first word. I only can tell from experience that none of those I was interested in returned my feelings, but some (4-5) were fine to exploit them. What ever is waiting for me out there, I'll call the bomb squad to defuse it, but I'm not going to approach.
3.) I'm an atheist.
Bro thats nothing... You gotta get out there mich more. I know guys that approach 30-50 girls per week. They mostly get rejected, sure. But you gotta get used to that and grow from it, take care of your emotions and your trauma, if any come up. 21 experiences in a whole decade is like nothing.
@@bjornborg4849the problem is that just the approaching hundreds of women to find the right one is the part of the reason we are having these dating issues today. For the last 2 or 3 generations now, that is all they tell people. What I can tell you, if you go back to silent gen and early boomers, that is not how dating went. People were generally much more invested in each others lives than they are today. Today people tend to be a lot more selfish and focusing on themselves than their fellow acquaintences. That investment helps building extremely strong households with very low rates of divorce due to the investment into each others lives before dating.
Example, my grandpa was born in '44 and my grandma was born in '45 about 14 months apart. They first met each other at church when he was 6 and she was 5. They grew up together in the same church. She was truly invested in his life and vice versa. In highschool, they started dating. He left for college in another state. She graduated the following year and went to a different college, but couldn't stand not being with him as they were both already so invested in each other's lives by growing up together. She made the big move, swapped universities to his just so she could be with him, and they got married at 21. Because of that strong bond, she was truly with him through thick and thin till death did they part. Whether that be when he was an Army Ranger being deployed to Vietnam, through economic struggles, or living the hard retired life as a rancher till he passed. He passed in 2020 to leukemia. Always working.
Relationships haven't been like that now for multiple generations. People think that the best method for a good strong relationship is just a numbers game. No, the strongest relationships is someone who you have built and invested your life with. That is why only 6 out 1000 men are still getting married and why the divorce rates of those are still at around 50%.
If you haven't invested any time into each other as people, why even date first? Just because of a physical attractiveness? That is why relationships now are horrible and are failing significantly. This can be backed by the fact that Pew Research found that 63% of men under 30 are single. 30% of all adult americans are not married or engaged in a committed relationship.
All my life when I asked a woman out the first reply always was 'what do you do' , imagine if a woman was brave enough to ask a man out and the man's first reply was ' what do you do?
It would be an insult to the woman, guess what it is an Insult to a 'man'
Nowadays, men ask women that. It's not an insult.
I don’t have a problem with that question it’s the “how much you make” or “you must make a lot of money” that makes me lose interest.
He's describing traditional women. Women these days want the opposite when they SHOULD be attracted to the 3 things he mentioned
Because modern women are masculine as hell
Oh traditional? You mean women who will be a doormat to the man?
Women nowadays still marry these guys lol. Data over perception any day.
Facts ❤ I met my husband when we were both teenagers and he was funny and kind and unlike all the other boys he just had this sort of maturity about him that made him stand out. We're in our forties now and he is an amazing dad, he is ambitious with work and he's still kind and makes me laugh everyday. ❤
It's one of the best things I've read this year.
Wow since you were teenagers. Sounds like an ideal situation for relationships as long as y’all never strayed from each other! I’m happy for you
My second date with my husband was a trip to an antiques' shop. I admired a small piece of furniture that I couldn't afford. He didn't say anything, but next day he showed up at my home with the piece. I was so touched by that. It's not that I wanted him to spend money all the time, but the fact that he'd been so thoughtful.
As a father of daughters I'd say another thing to consider is the personality that goes with the ability to provide in any situation. Kindness is one thing but the ability to switch that off and show the character to do whatever it takes to put food on the table in absolutely any sh!tstorm scenario, will not go unnoticed.
You don’t have to switch kindness off to also have perseverance and strength. You can be kind and simultaneously be a hard worker and provider.
Trust me your daughters are not attracted to a man's ability to provide.
Would you or have you ever deliberately test(ed) the guy, in a slightly to moderately provoking manner, in order to see his true character?
Asking in case I get a daughter of my own.
What about your wife? You didn't mention her, I assume you are divorced?
when you say "whatever it takes",do you really mean WHATEVER?
if so,then basically you say "do whatever it takes and we will tell ourseleves that we are kind,just to not feel bad about ourseleves"
that is,we are hypocrites...
The title of this should be “
Here are the 3 characteristics women look for in a man they want to take advantage of.” 😂
MIC DROP 🎤
Yup been saying this since I was like 12! Make a girl laugh anytime you want and you got her. She will want to be around you as much as possible. Don’t force it though, let them miss you some days!
He was married and had a regular job selling siding.
Very true. My husband had/has these things. Gets up daily to work, kind and respectful to his parents, goes out of his way for children and the elderly. We celebrate 25 years next week. He’s a wonderful Dad as well.
.. and lover too? 😀
Apparently, you took those wedding seriously;
"In the name of God, I, ______, take you, ______, to be my (husband/wife), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until we are parted by death. This is my solemn vow.
@daniela_k and so, when you are not satisfied, in the bedroom by his performance. That is one reason to leave him? And then break-up the entire family, and then take 50% of everything the both of you worked so hard to achieve? That's very selfish of you. And I wonder if he knows that?
@jamesnash6101
Lololol
I’m the same way but my wife neglects my carnal needs and is driving me insane any suggestions.
Yes, absolutely. Plus self-control and being protective towards his woman.
Lmao
Hard to find these days with all these men raised without fathers.
1 2 and 3 is money.. they only want you to be kind so you give them money with nothing in return. Stick to the code guys keep your money.. all these chicks are for the streets
@kaikai-pb7fh If you run after chick's on the streets then that's what you'll get
@@kaikai-pb7fh depends on the circumstances in which the woman lived. Money is not that important at the beginning, like the person said having his act together signals that he'll do right and provide in the future.
That's for the 1%. This is what the other 99% want:
1) Money
2) Status
3) Toxicity
Correct bro
Boom
spot on my guy. all reasons i fell in love with my husband. he treated me so kind and had a great work ethic despite being poor. now hes an engineer and although i work too, we feel stable in this terrible economy
My husband is the love of my life for these reasons… he makes me laugh more than anyone!!!
Ambition combined with intelligence and kindness is truly attractive. Competence, compassion, social, loyalty, courage, strenght and success.. yeah those are attactive too
i like how he worded it about man's ability to be a provider .
What attracted me was kindness to animals, his sense of humor, and his intelligence.
YES
This 👏🏼 I judge most people on how they treat animals.
@@LaLuna82
So you’re a vegetarian?
@@AyubHassan07 vegan actually
@@LaLuna82 Hi; may you please explain the difference for me? Thanks in advance!!
I’m a short, average looking guy but have dated way out of my league because when I meet a new woman, I demonstrate all of these traits within the 1st few conversations and if she’s interested, she will pursue. Not all women are wired to think this way but when you find one who does, she’ll hold on tight.
But you don’t have one right now
You were betabuxxing weren't you?
Wrong. She won't pursue you, this is your job. Full stop!
@@ana-maria448 Nope. If a woman is really interested, she WILL pursue. If she doesn't, she's not that into you.
If women pursue you from a couple of conversations, you aren't average looking. She wanted you from the beginning.
"if you can make a woman laugh, you can kiss her" LOVE THAT!!! And YES you are right.
Also: you can understand a lot about a person's character, noticing what they laugh about (and how)!!!
If you give a women money you can do alot more than just kiss them lol. If we make yoy laugh too much you just dont leave, and i really dont want them being their in the morning when i wake up.
Just cause you can kiss her doesn’t mean much more. Women will kiss a frog
@@jamesmanter8731 whatever.....
@@kaikai-pb7fh Lame
No. Not even on the hand, not even blow a kiss. No. Misinterpret my laugh as attraction, we’ll all regret it.
I have a learning disability since my mother drunk alcohol during her pregnancy. Long story short: I’m not intelligent. Neither am I witty, funny or anything like that nor am I a good provider in general terms. I can only work in minimum wage occupations.
How should I overcome this. I’m already 34 and never had a girlfriend, or a date. I asked women out, but they all rejected me. What should I do? I’m tired living in isolation for something I had no control over.
Find your passion and she might be there.
there is nothing to overcome,in my opinion. you are fine,stay simple and relaxed. if you still don't like your life,try therapy.
Go to groups/classes/book clubs/gym classes/church/or any event that you enjoy. It takes a few months at any of these to get to know people. Don't come on too strong or act desperate or whiny. Also, most importantly.. say a prayer!
Well American woman are difficult to deal with, be a passport bro and get a passport and see if you can find a partner in another country? 🤔 Maybe it will work
That's exactly right and it created a great marriage for us. He gave lots of love, kindness, generosity, laughter every single day and he reaped the rewards because it just made me appreciate him all the more!!!!
And all we ask in return is that you be modest in manner, disciplined in health, feminine in role, loyal in behavior, and empathetic at heart. And apparently that is too much to ask!
Lol
@@elenalouis311Don't forget bad at arithmetic...oh I guess that is implied....
Society can’t even define what a woman is. How do you expect them to be able to fulfill all of your expectations?
@@joshcantrell8397 exactly bro 😂😂😂
No it’s not. That describes my mother and my friends.
“if you can make a woman laugh, you can kiss her,” well, no, obviously not.
some women have no sense of humor or she was on her phone
In French we say: "Femme qui rit à moitié dans ton lit." A woman who laughs is half in your bed.
All these sound good on paper but reality is women are attracted to handsome tall & rick men.
That's the ultimate truth. All the intelligent, humour, kind, provider things are appreciated only when the desperate women are in their late 30s.
Specially for young women the handsome part is very real. It is how it is.
With women having equal pay and graduating college at a higher rate then men, how can any average man possibly provide these days? Women should be expected to provide just as much.
😂
I agree.
Right. The most important jobs in society are made by the working poor class.
Men should do 50% of household chores and change diapers and child rearing. Also, women don't owe them sex.
Something like 40% of households have women as the main/sole/equal breadwinner while men still don't give birth or participate equally in childrearing/domestic duties. How much more would you like women to provide 😂
On # 1, key is "he has to have his act together." Responsibility for me is behind the entire "good provider" idea. I don't wanna raise my husband along with my kids... We've gotta be on the same team and he's gotta have my back like I have his. Additionally, if I'm knocked up looking like an old VW bug about to bust open with a total stranger we dna cocktailed up, Imma need someone solid to lean on for a minute.
Absolutely correct. 100 percent.
The first point 100%. I hate it whenever I reject someone or ask to get to know them more slowly, they get mad and call me something unsatisfactory. I want someone real and genuine. It’s not too much to ask.
If they don't want to get to know you slowly, then they are only after a pump and dump. Choose a different type of man that isn't solely focused on sex and you'll have better luck.
I am 40 with kids in college. One almost a lawyer other a officer. This man is right. Kindness and planning a life is my biggest talent. I laugh at myself and sweet to people and I am at peace. Be kind.❤
...it is a ton easier to be kind than cruel
try asking the wife to pay the bills and write us her reply!
It's like 90% of men I've met in my life, now what women bring to the table?!
@SS and T1T$
@@MartinMalmy
BS married couple are not having sex ..
Exactly 💯 💯 💯
If any you meet have something valuable, I guarantee you she will not be sharing it with you and that attitude.
@@sonofhibbs4425
What attitude?!!.
He’s absolutely correct about that. I am dating some guys and immediately reject the males who come off as mean
I don’t play the fake nagging. I don’t play fake interrogation. I don’t play fake challenging because how it starts is how it’s going to end.
The opposite of a “bad boy” is a “good man”.
Kindness.tender.smart I'll take it❤
Yeah we all know how women like the “nice” guys!!
Most women do
@@Ashley-q8n yeah when y’all finally decide to marry, before that y’all runnin’ the train.
@@Ashley-q8nRIGHT....😂😂😂
It's not that women hate nice guys, it's just that nice guys tend to be ugly.
Problem is being kind often means losing in the capitalistic ratrace
Not even the ratrace; even high school dynamics
Actually; now I think about it; this guy is an idiot😂
Check, check and check.
Ladies, i am here!
Bro other people have to be the judge, you can't self assess lol.
😂
Don't look for shallow parasocial women on RUclips
I'd say 99% of them are gold diggers
I guarantee you are none of the above.
@@johanliebert5781 pretty sure it's a joke
This is why if you make a young male unemployed or poor with no prospects you make it impossible for him to find a female partner.
The future trouble this causes is immense to the individual and society.
This is my husband. Everyday he brings me coffee in bed, will hold the door open for a random stranger and he’s simply the most loving and kind dad. He’s such a gentle soul. So incredibly grateful he’s my partner.
You are truly a lucky woman. Hopefully, i will get to be with a kind and loving man like this. You both are blessed. 🙏🙇♀️✝️💞👩❤️👨
Partner?
So hes getting you coffeee before he goes to work while you just hangout. Sounds like a bad deal.
@@ArenaRat-xd8fu we are both retired 😂
@@screenname2206 i highly doubt that lol
Glad to hear the ladies in the comments agreeing - there is hope ❤
Why wouldn't we; he's not angry, "red pilling it", telling us that settle, remain subservient, etc. We DO need these types of REAL human beings.... Called Men. PERIOD 🩸
@@DANIELBRADLEY33Lol! ❤️ 😆
@@RobinZipporah how on earth can you find an enemy in my comment… I obviously realize we need men like this. My point is that there are many men like this and I’m happy that there are women like YOU who agree. There are many women who never appreciate men like this. I’m showing gratitude - don’t project onto me please
Women's say one thing and do another , my good man. Don't believe their cope. Some do believe this , but the vast majority , they don't live it
Why wouldn't they
Doesn’t matter how you describe what women loves or want in a man, mostly it revolves around money and status.
That's a sophisticated way to say "get your money up and help others".
Also someone who makes you feel safe. And a HUGE bonus is finding them physically attractive.
This guy is from another planet! There aint no such woman on planet earth
I expressed to my first wife a suggested lifestyle that we could expect in a five year and ten year plan. Within three years we were divorced. As soon as the house and new car was paid off I was booted out. I was deemed a BAD Husband!
Im sorry this happened. But just to clarify for most women its not just about money. We need to feel safe emotionally and physically too. Not just financially. There was probably more going on that she was unhappy about, at least from her perspective. Sorry.
@@resheaparker2725 Yes there was narcissism PND [undiagnosed] Oh and cheating [her] and I was no Angel but there ARE ALWAYS TWO SIDES TO EVERY STORY. I was the only one who went to couples therapy because I had all the problems. That was 1996!!!
Sounds like she didn’t like the outcome she was hoping for. I hope you find someone more in tune with your lifestyle
What the guy in the video isn't telling you is women look for the guys he's describing like a parasite looks for a host. It's not love.
@@resheaparker2725 most men a lot of men tell us women its all about the money . i remember my dad told me around 17 yrs old. "Donna don't ever rely on anyone especlly a man for money. they will have complete control over you" I saw it with my friends neighbors he was right.
So be a good work horse is a woman’s first criterion. Imagine legally binding yourself to someone this difficult.
Listen up fellows,
This sh!t he kicking
Is called SIMP 101
Stay focused
Stay focused
Stay focused
The only 3 reason you need to protect are, your mental, emotional, and financial health...
You need the fellow who’s called Jesus
I can understand why you’re alone
@@dmillionaire7 He’s literally describing a Christian. Don’t get it twisted 😏
@@runee60 everybody can diagnose a disease,no one wants to cure...
Females marry the attractive guy with none of these traits before they figure out these traits are what is important so he’s not wrong but this is irrelevant.
Well yeah...atractive is atractive. 😂😂 men should not be that mád at women liking good looks....you are even worse. Lets be real.
Shoutout to Tom Leykis.
Females will marry a "nice guy" Beta-male provider so he can be used as a utility. All the while they'll be hooking up with bad-boy thugs.
👍
So tell me Rob loser why are many average small guys married to beautiful ladies? CAUSE LOOKS ARE SUBJECTIV! U GET IT?
Yes, this holds true for like 5% of the women population. The other 95%, we know about them all too well, what they want and how they behave.
Exactly. Im in my early 30s. MOST modern women are not looking for a squared away guy lol. You must FIRST be physically attractive.
@@zenmasters_games uh oh...you sound like you've been rejected a lot..bitter
@@CynthiaGalant-z9d hahaa there you go
The data still reflects this is what they want unfortunately.
You are absolutely on my page!
Humor is key,as well as a smile.
Opening positive healthy energy.
Yup, make us feel safe, be kind, and be mature
Sure you wouldn't just prefer to be around a Bear?
@@MTXSHO9732vV8SHO nicknames don’t bother me
And what do we get out of all that? And please dont say a relationship
Hire someone for all that shit. Men aren't your bodyguards and slaves.
sure..u lie..until the badboys show up
When it comes to potential life partners, men want a woman with a good past, and women want a man with a good future.
Massive generalization
And that's where men mess up. They should think about future too. How will she be as a mom? Does she actually care about me as a person or just the Financials I bring to the table?
So much emphasis on the sexual aspect when a good relationship has soooooo many other parts to it.
@@kat4onelove How will he be as a partner - a 50/50 partner/father
@@kat4onelove How will someone who spent 10-15 years jumping in and out of beds be as a wife and mother? Well, she didn't exactly practice for those roles, did she?
@kat4onelove her sexual history matters because if she was sexually irresponsible in the past, it means she didn't value herself and lacked self-discipline. If she didn't show decernment when choosing partners, it means she has a history of making bad and / or impulsive decisions. She will also no doubt have issues and trauma left behind by her behavior. A promiscuous woman will never be a better life partner than a woman who isn't promiscuous.
As a husband I have to say that I am all those things 10 times over and so much more. I am actually unbelievable. Wow, what a guy I am.
What a guy. You're so wonderful, according to you, of course.
@jeffro. Not according to me, but according to all the peoples of the world
😂
Anyone that genuinely believes this is doomed. Women love you when you’re good looking, confident, ambitious and respectful. Everything else is nonsense and won’t get in the door.
- What's your super power?
- Money
-Eugene Krabs 🦀
He is reading my mind. These are exactly how I see my husband!!!!
This is how men should be, but not what modern women like.
There is a reason.
Why Money is always ultimate.
because money is the ultimate reason!
Is it because people buy into the lie that Greed Is Good?
@@antispindr8613 oh,no. we know it is bad,but we can't help ourselves,because we distanced ourselves from God...