Did Phantom Intruder Force Husband to Shoot His Wife? | Nicholas Firkus Case Analysis
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- Опубликовано: 29 сен 2024
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"Nick's pessimism was overly optimistic." Pure gold, Dr. Grande!
Crazy people. I am thoroughly amazed at what some people will do to escape accountability.
'There was no laughter at that address, not even a mini ha-ha'. That got me good! 🤣
"Not even a mini haha! " you had me rolling on the floor !
Taking a $3,500 trip to Hawaii while in the process of being foreclosed on is outrageous.
he wanted to give her a nice sendoff.
When you’re not paying your bills, you’ll have lots of extra cash lying around.
Nick just wanted to have fun and refused to pay anything that took away from that. Heidi allowed Nick to deal with their finances. She happily, and ignorantly, turned that responsibility over to Nick.
@@mjallen1308 In America, sadly, no.
@@andrews527 when I say “lots”, I’m not saying millions but I work a full time job right now. Unless I spend my money on something else, if I stop paying my bills - I’ll have plenty of extra cash just lying around. Of course, this doesn’t apply if you’re not working but if you have a job and you stop paying bills - there’s no reason you should be broke.
I'm relieved he got LIFE WITHOUT PAROLE. My heart goes out to Heidi, and her Family.🥀🥀🕯️🕯️🕊️🕊️🙏🙏
Hey Doc. Been a daily channel viewer for a couple years now. I enjoyed this case on 20/20. Also, congrats on your Roku show, will be tuning in as much as possible!
As soon as I heard the words "A black man". I knew Nic was at the center of the case.
Right?!!! I had the same exact thought.
Blacks are 13% of the population. A fraction of that 13% is responsible for a vast majority of all rape, murder and violent crime. So you would be statistically wrong to assume
Or "somepuertoricanguy" like they joked on south park. White people, we can be pretty absurd at times lol
As soon as I heard "husband," I knew Nic did it.
FBI crime statistics
Hello 👋 good Dr. Grande 🎉😊
Poor woman 😭
Amazing as always thank you for a very interesting True Crime. 🎉
Can you please do Herb Baumeister?
Wow. THEY got "shot" by a "black man" and he ran away with nothing because THEY were shot ... righto. Over here, that would be called a "Tui" Second wife got out in time. Very sorry for his first wife, Heidi and her family. You can't always know your loved one, sadly, but surely she knew not to get into that much debt regarding the house? Or did they have the arrangement that he'd do it all? Never do that. xxx Poor love.
I watch the full interrogation of Nick and I have never heard a anything more about all the blood found in the basement. Always wondered if she was actually killed in the basement. I can’t believe they couldn’t arrest him back in 2010.
I never heard about blood in the basement. I've always been interested in this story. Sondra from St. Paul.
"His pessimism was overly optimistic." 😅😅
Hello
Hope your day was good. 💐
If a would-be killer seems innocuous or "normal", you will usually find people that knew the suspect that will say " I knew Alex for years, though. A killer? No way!"
I was WAITING for the haha joke I know u too well dr grande after all I watch every video haha. Great video dr 👨⚕️
I didn't want to say it, but Nick used the magic word: "It was a black man." It works every time. It gave him a decade of freedom with the worst alibi in history!!
Nick had no life insurance on the 1st wife, killed her to avoid the embarrassment of her finding out he had lied from the start.
Jeebus that's a heck of a way to avoid embarrassment. Some BIG screws loose in Nick.
Then he finds another wife and started the same exact thing. Like "I got away with it once, I'll kill this one also".
How do these crazy F's find these women?
What is so difficult about filing for divorce!?! It sucks, but it’s better than prison. Nic was clearly a selfish and arrogant jerk.
Random question of the day, is schadenfreude sadism?
My Mom.passed in Jan 2008 and Dad Jul 2010. I was trying to care for Dad and my Mom's sister so did not hear about that even though I had lived in that area til Sep 2004 and just moved to a nearby suburb while a son and sister remained in the area.
There was no benefit to anyone to kill Heidi except she wouldn't distrust him once the SHTF. It is sad Police took so long to prosecute him.
Serial liars who kill are the worst cowards. They generally kill an innocent to cover their self harming behavior with murder. Why do so many believe they will get away with murder? We need a Liars Anonymous including kids diversion.
His name is a crime in itself
Firkus?! Don't even know us
It's shocking and sad that it takes the police so long to put a case together
The idea is easy. Getting enough evidence to get a conviction is hard in some cases
yay!! grande!
Nicholas Firkus is a 3 lifepath in numerology
I'm surprised the victim made it home from vacation... I wouldn't be surprised if he'd planned to dispose of his wife there but chickened out and that's why the actual murder was so badly and hastily carried out at the very last moment before inevitable discovery of his massive failings.
A coward, a liar, and a racist....I hope no men of colour suffered police interrogation over this case after the murderer described a fictional black violent intruder as scapegoat for his crime.
Thanks for the analysis.
I heard not one call on the sketch that was done
I bet it was an imaginary Brack guy that did it.
It’s always the black guy or the Hispanic guy 😑
She was very pretty.
If people would realize marriage is a business contract they might look at how their fiancé handles money. Thank you Dr. Grande for another interesting video!
Bravo....Someone who GETS it. I wonder if the word marriage was eliminated from the english language and replaced with the phrase "legally binding financial contract between two people and the government" if 'spring weddings' would disappear.
Agreed. Marriage is not taken at its truth. Rather, as a formal public ascertain that is subject to being revoked or defiled when it strains one or both of the participants. Why is it that divorce doesn’t serve as an equal option to a viable end in a disingenuous union? Murder more plausible?
Yes. Always get to know how your partner handles finances. I almost married someone when I was very young who wrote bad cheques, stole from his parents etc. Came to my senses and married the best man I've ever known. We're a full-on, honest team. People think they can love without trust and think it's a reason to marry. My opinion is that there is no real love without trust. Trust comes first. If you can't 100% trust them ... just don't.
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My late ex husband called it ownership papers.
Reminds me of the case where a guy faked for years he was doctor to his family then killed them all so they would not find out he was a fraud.
The Frenchman? The one who convinced them he worked for the WHO and had insider info to help them make investments? I read the English translation of the book. It stuck with me all these years.
@@animula6908 yeah Jean-Claude Romand
How this guy got two really good looking women is beyond me.
When you’re an incel who’s obsessed with appearance, it’s no wonder why it’s hard to reframe your schema. Not everyone is as shallow as you, Joey.
He found em at church bro. it seems luke a good idea but then you have to go to church for the rest of your life bc she aint just going to stop going 😂
I think it’s always a tragedy to be in a relationship with self centered and manipulative individuals. Although most people don’t lose their lives in these types of relationships, an emotional and psychological death can certainly take place.
Thank you for covering this case, Dr. Grande.❤
An intelligent and spot on comment 👌
Honestly, I have 2 young kids... a girl and a boy.. and seeing how much naive people can become fixated on somebody (including my younger self to some degree) and knowing how many manipulative and even psychopathic individuals are out there, it makes me want to have some kind of social structure around that prevents them from engaging in conventional dating culture at a young age. We see how dysfunctional mainstream dating has become too.
When young, it's hard not to be naive... one should overcome their naivete before engaging with finding love. That's not to say they should be jaded, but just prepared and some wisdom.
She didn’t know. He kept the forclosure from Heidi entirely. It appears he tried to keep similar things from his next wife as well. Good for her for leaving before it was too late!
The Blackman intruder story never fails.
So creative, right?
its usually true
@@tonyhill8300 you make your claim without evidence, and so it can be dismissed
@@tonyhill8300 those pesky blacks!
@@SkySpiral8 13% of the population 56% of the crime
This reminds me of the Lori and Mark Hacking case, in which the husband Mark lied to his wife about being in college and getting accepted into medical school, then murdered her rather than admit his deception. Hacking was also a seemingly friendly guy who was generally well-liked and active in his church, and was clumsy as hell about covering up the murder. And credit to the Salt Lake City PD: it took then a few weeks, rather than a few years to get a warrant for his arrest. They saw through his "my wife was kidnapped" story within hours of hearing it.
Yes!!!! Me too!!! All cases like this are so sad and awful. No accountability whatsoever. I can't even begin to understand how they come to the conclusion that murder is the best possible answer. Killing the one you chose to spend the rest of your life -- people who choose the murder option clearly have no idea what love is. I wish there was some kind of evolutionary human trait/ability that would warn us of people like that... Too bad there isn't some kind of hive mind ability we can tap into.🔮👀🙊🧿🧠🧬⚡
Heidi was younger and probably came from a responsible family and didn't know Nick was a Narscissist. He also fooled people in their church. But I'm surprised he actually fooled the police.
How in the world did he think Killing Heidi was better than Eviction???
He was about to do it again. It's some kind of sick pattern in his head. Pretending and lying to keep up facades and appearances.
Interesting way to save your spouse from an uncomfortable situation..
“There was no laughter at that address, not even a Mini Ha Ha” 😂 Dr. Grande you crack me up, lots of laughter over here!
I really don’t understand the mindset of people who murder just to avoid humiliation. How little do they think their victims life is worth if they can justify murder to avoid being emotionally uncomfortable for a bit? Thank you for your analysis Dr. Grande
Too much self respect. Being too focused on others' opinion of them. If you have no self respect life is easier and honesty not at all embarrassing.
I haven't gotten into the video yet but narcissists couldn't care less about the lives of others. They live to make themselves happy and will do whatever it takes to make that happen.
Pride goeth before the fall, or however that goes.
what i also dont understand and it totally buffels me is what woman is stupid enough to believe his story and goes and marry him in such short time after his wife passes away (murdered ) (by him )
i just dont get ittttt!!!!
Narcissists murder for less than that. Look at Scott Petersen. Murdered his wife and baby because he didn’t want to pay child support.
It is amazing how some folks assume that others are just as stupid as they are and try to get away with murder.
Well, he seemed to be fairly right about how stupid the cops and district attorney were in his county, since it took them years to finally arrest him.
@@rullmourn1142 that is a darn good point
Nick also fooled Heidi and their church. He was very believable at being a Narcissist. I can only imagine the lies he told his carpet laying customers.
Think how many get away with it though
@@bryanshort4422 it's so interesting how some Narscissist play people so good. They instinctively know what to say. They create confusion, throw people off balance and lie so damn good.
This guy looks...the way he does, is flat broke bankrupt, under suspicion of murdering his wife, and he was still able to get a woman to marry him. Man has mad game.
Says more about the woman
That might be a bit unfair to the women. People like him are very good at putting in a mask.
Then over time, the mask comes off and their true nature is revealed
"He never met a bill, he could pay on time" LOL Another Dr. Grande witticism! He always comes out with a funny quip when i least expect it, also with straight-faced delivery
I hate to admit it, but I think I can use that freeze to describe myself. Lol.
I hate to admit it, but I think I can use that freeze to describe myself. Lol.
Trying to live a "champaigne" lifestyle on a "moonshine" budget.
This guy sounds exactly like my ex! So glad we divorced, so he didn’t end up murdering me!
How awful that her life was taken just so her husband could spare himself the shame of his irresponsible financial decisions. I'm always perplexed by those who kill, instead of just telling the truth. Chandler Halderson is one that just amazes me also, killed his parents instead of admitting his lies. Like, how well did that work out for you now? Lies are exposed and they're going away for life, for murder.🙄 Idiots. I hpe your Tuesday has been great Dr Grande, and as always, you're such an awesome, smart, and very adorable person. 😃I love watching these videos, I learn a lot.
The one goofball I forget his name someone help me out it was D'Amico or something geeky entitled brat stole 200,000$ from parents Simp gave Russian Ecam sex worker he never met thought she loved him borrowed more money from rich brother as well ....killed his whole family mom,Dad,brother with shotgun cus they did not approve of him not working not going to school stealing thier life savings and mooching off them and were taking away (or so they thought)his computer access and to their bank accounts....he was way into adult hood and could not handle being accountable or a disappointment.....
I’m not certain she was financially responsible either if she was going out to get a pedicure. That sort of thing should only be for people who have plenty left over after paying their mortgage and retirement. She did not deserve to be killed though. Not saying that at all. Also, that Chandler guy…yikes. That one haunts me. It’s so important to find a partner that is good with money.
Good evening Dr Grande, excellent analysis. The wife was way too trusting. Her trust got her killed. The husband Nicholas is exactly where he should be.
As always I learn something new from your videos.
Have a wonderful Wednesday.
The cool part is how the 2nd wife caught a clue and went into action. Im so sad for his sweet 1st wife and amazing 2nd wife.
@@BobbiGail I believe both wives 2be very intelligent & 1 shud trust the significant other, great video Dr Grande, ur analysis is always fascinating 🙏❤️✌️👍...
Trust, but verify. Russian proverb
I’d give anything for a $1500 mortgage, that’s less than I paid for rent for a 1 bedroom apartment in 2010 when you said they were paying that much for their mortgage. The cost of housing in Seattle is becoming brutal. Sorry, I got sidetracked by the mortgage cost.
I have noticed a trend in one spouse killing the other recently. Maybe it’s the content that I am viewing, but I don’t understand why people aren’t just getting divorced? Is it about insurance? I don’t get it. I’ll never understand how someone can hurt or kill another person. Especially someone you claim to have loved.
What??? In Savannah Ga u can get a great house for 1500 per month. Leave seattle! Come on down :)
Think of divorce as a long term mortgage.......Takes forever, very costly, Kind of painful, especially if you now hate your co-owner.
Now you have Murder: Kind of like a slot machine.....You may Hit the jackpot (Get away with it and insurance money) or you may get caught (which at some points looks no worse than option 1.)
Does that help you understand WHY someone MIGHT try it?
Thank you for the upload, Dr. Grande.
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I find these stories so wild. Human life for these psychopaths really doesn't mean much. Imagine the mentality the killer goes through convincing himself that he has the power to take a life like that. Scary stuff man
Too many bad folks in bad neighborhoods with too many GUNS over there in U.S., I say from the comfort and safety of Australia!
Your snake population scares me.
@@sondragramse1770 And don't forget about the Spiders!
I’ve often wondered if these hilariously tragic attempts to cover up crimes are the product of being a habitual liar. The people I know have a habit of ignoring the lies because either they are inane or the liar throws fits. To my eye, they begin to delude themselves into thinking everybody is buying what they are selling.
Fr, Heidi was able to be scammed and he thought cops would be as easy. Which I guess it sort of was since it took so long to indict him. He thought he was so smart. But, why was her family not able to move LE along?
His parents raised an azzhole. They knew it, but constantly fed his irresponsibility....then tried to cover their OWN failure as his parents.
I'm sorry, she is not 12? I could swear she is 12.
It's rare but some people look extremely young till they get into their 20's. I looked like an adolescent till I was 20 and the drinking age was 18 at the time. My DL & face got scrutinized every time.
Another victim of domestic violence and control over the spouse. Thanks Dr. Grande 😢
No amount of money is worth the loss of life. Amazing how many people don’t know this.
The street name made me giggle. The deadpan reference elicited a hearty guffaw!
Sick on so many levels of depravity. In my studies it does not surprise me what people are capable of when they are blinded by greed and their ego. Thank you 🤔❤🇺🇸
"He never met a bill that he could pay on time."😂 ❤🌵
The intruder story crap again sigh. Such BS. Very sad she had a terrible & callous husband. Excellent points again. Thanks Dr G😊💞💞
Dr. Grande is such a wonderful speaker, and hilarious at just the perfect moments.
Good evening, Dr. Grande!
Another financially irresponsible person, which didn't change when Nick remarried.
And why did they need a "safety plan?"
Was it a dangerous neighborhood?
And was there any serious evidence of a real intruder?
The answer is "no."
Of course, Nick murdered Heidi, but she probably wasn't worth very much from a financial point of view, unless she had a huge insurance policy on her life.
It's just as well that he is now out of circulation for life.
Thanks for sharing.
Thank you, Dr. Grande!
What a sad situation for Heidi. Your analysis is really thorough and insightful.
The first wife was very much the victim. I can imagine she would like her story to be a warning to all couples that don't take a backseat in the serious matters of being a couple. Each person needs to be on the very same page with finances, Childs, house chores, savings, how holidays are going to be spent, and tons more. One of the couple needs to nip things in the bud the moment things are not shared between the couple. It doesn't have to end up with murder....or divorce.
Active in the church here we go again
Yep, and also they usually work for the family business
Is it me or does anyone else perceive adult children employed by their families as more cavalier than others? Nepotism can create some curious characters.
More like entitled.
They already know they have a job. What a nice comfort.
This is an interesting idea for a subject to study and discuss.
I knew someone with this situation, guaranteed job plus millions, working with his dad.
He turned out disappointing. Tried to turn a story around to absolve his kid from responsibility for his actions and blame the person who was harmed.
I was so shocked, went No Contact.
“The couple was very active in their church…” Whenever I hear that phrase I know someone’s been murdered.
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At least, he doesn't have to worry about paying the mortgage or any bills. Oh, but never worried anyway, he just didn't pay😮
"Not even a mini ha-ha".😂😂😂
Yes, it was totally painfully obvious that he was guilty from the very beginning.
Pistorius vibes
How much less understanding of the world and human nature would we have if NOT for Dr. Grande's videos? For some reason I feel strongly today the need to thank him for all he does! 🙏🙏🙏
The second wife really was a help. I hope they have peace.
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The police never did believe his story; the perceived lack of physical evidence was the key thing holding back a murder charge.
And you don't need distrust of your spouse if you have a decent sense of personality, something this channel imparts in abundance. Boundary crossing, minor acts of sadism, selfishness and lack of awareness are all aspects that many people overlook and shouldn't. Understanding the signs will assist you in all types of relationships and will help you avoid certain destructive personalities altogether.
I always give myself one more day of fun before I start dieting.
Values or the lack of such as extreme self consciousness and self centeredness that lead to this type of crime is sobering; all adults should see a therapist and work out your defects of character. So sad this case. I hope he thinks about his foolishness everyday.
Analyze cases involving false claims of Black assailants. I would include the 'Van Diesel voice' case.
They always make up excuses saying black men broke in the house to rob them to cover up murder of their wives to cover up financial problems they're having in the marriage
I've always believed that cowards are among the most dangerous people to be involved with.
If my partner was murdered, especially right on front of me, you won't see me form a new romantic relationship lol.
I just watched the 20/20 Special on this case Friday night!
Great video Dr. Grande! Would you do a video on that Colin kid from Dr. Phil (The guy with the sexual offenses)? I just saw that episode and I wanted to hear your insight/ thoughts on his personality/ if he can be helped.
Thank you and keep it up!
He killed out of shame? What?
What the......you can't make this up. Next, Dr Grande. BTW Hi
People are so dumb. If you aren’t paying your bills then there shouldn’t be pedicures, cable tv, Netflix, alcohol, eating out, no new phones, car, clothes,shoes…nothing but basic internet do you can keep looking for a second or 3rd job. Two people should be able to afford $1500. The McDonald’s down the street pays enough to afford that.
@ 15:00 "Personality traits do not tend to change overtime."----This is advice coming from a 'Psychologist/Psychiatrist'❓ Is that not the basis of therapy from a 'Psychologist/Psychiatrist ⁉️ 🤔
"Not even a mini haha " heeeeeheeeeheee !!! 😂🎉❤
I’ve never met a good Nick
We appreciate how dedicated Dr Grande for giving us a thorough analyses of homicide cases. God bless him and everyone here.
The second wife married a guy that shot the first. Very strange people.
Hi from Minneapolis! 👋 Right near Minnehaha Ave! 😂
I live near the St. Paul side of Minnehaha..Hi.
“ Not even a mini ha ha “
Have you ever looked into the missing person case of Bobby Dunbar from Opelasus Louisiana. Started in 1912. Continues into 1990s and still unsolved.
They should have added a hate crime to the charge, for blaming the murder he clearly committed on a black man.
This man sandbagged his wife and then killed her. Shameful.