narcissist: "i miss you". me: i don't blame you. i did more for you than you deserved, and more than i should have done. i gave you 120% and you gave me zero in return. i was so good to you despite all the bullshit you put me thru.... AND ALSO, i miss me too. i miss the "me" i used to be, before ever meeting you. so yah, if i were you, i would miss the f*ck out of me too. at least the power, control and benefits that you used to enjoy lol. cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
@@PNWWildernessJourneys it's nice if you can, but overall, let karma do the dirty work. rotten fruits eventually fall off by themselves. -cheers, steven
Zero is not the truth because they give you so much to stay on their tables. (Breadcrumbs...). But the fact is: You CAN (are able to) do much more than them. I would advise everyone here - don´t put in them put in you!
@@Tokolos They are. They have horrible pains and agonies inside that you are there to alleviate. But emotions like that aren't meant to be ignored, and they will pop up faster and faster and faster every time, and you will get the full punishment for them!
Mine has contracted me telling me he is sorry and misses me every day. Said I was the best person he has ever known and wants to start over. I now no longer feel the same abt him, so he is very depressed, sleeping all day he says. Sorry, but I am enjoying being alone.
My ex narc had been trying to contact me every year around March/April since 2022. In 2022 he contacts me through LinkedIn. I vaguely remember the conversation, in 2023 he contacted me through Facebook and then showed up at my residence saying he would give me a ride to work (drunk as usual), I told him no because I knew he'd been drinking, March 2024, he sends me a photo of himself graduating from college (62 years old lol) and that's when I drew the line. Only contacts me every year around March and April for whatever reason? I told him if he contacts me one more time, a restraining order will be issued. Alcoholic sob and verbally abusive
They gotta be ‘the victim’ even if they kill a puppy they’d play the victim ‘. I ruined my new clothes’ poor poor me ‘ sick sick twisted demonic self centered black holes.
@@yuu_miran It’s possible if you go no contact. I’ve been no contact for twenty years and for twenty years I have had peace. However I do have a lot of bad memories.
Exactly! They miss using you and manipulating you! My own mother would say "I miss you" and I never understood why it sounded wrong when she said it but your video explained it very clearly.
you're so right. It's all a manipulative game. After i went no contact and the narcissist realized I was really done, he sent me a long text about how he went into a deep dark depression and was now coming out of it and feeling better. Of course an empath like me would typically fall for that and offer support. No more. I didn't respond. Depression doesn't make you mean and horrible to people for years like he was to me. Im done with this sick individual.
Another ploy of theirs is that after years of no communication nor contact, they will email you "heartfelt" birthday greetings, remarking what an irreplaceable, amazing person you are! It's enough to turn ur stomach! Delete! Non sequiter: June 5 (tomorrow) is Danish's birthday!! HAPPY BIRTHDAY, DANISH! 🎉 Enjoy this special day and thank u for all you have gifted this community!! You have improved our lives beyond all expectations because of your rare and raw truth and authenticity! 100% genuine❤.
@@narcabusecoach - Many more happy returns of the day, This is SundarRaj from Southern part of India, your videos really enlighten me a lot, how i have suffered becoz of my narcissitic dad and grandma, Its so terrible experience with them,, my grandma died 10 years ago, i was younger at that time, but now my mind is recollecting all my trauma memories and healing.. Thanks a ton to you.. your videos must have helped a lot of souls.. Thanks a ton for ur teaching and all videos
That’s exactly what happened in my relation. He was getting respect because of me,because I had reputation, without me he is trash . Now after 9 months he wants me back 🤮🤮🤮
After 12 years of no contact, my narc former sister sent me an e-mail complimenting me saying "everybody I know always thought you looked like Catherine Zeta Jones". I immediately deleted the e-mail and did not respond, nothing good could come of contact. If I respond with anger or with an insult (which I really WANT TO DO) she would love it. That's the supply she needs. I have no family because of her. You are spot on.
Absolutely! ANY response at all = SUPPLY. If you are nice, then they can reel you in to discard you later. If you are not nice, then they can have a pity party and play the victim. I have a narc younger sister with whom I'm also No Contact. I would love to have an actual relationship with a real sister, but it's not her. My parents are/were narcs (my mother has passed), and I suppose she learned from them. The three of them Scapegoated me my entire life, and that would promptly restart if I reinitiated contact. I also have no family, including most, if not all, of my extended family. I really do understand you. It sucks sometimes, but I have to believe we are happier and healthier. We got out! Take care, my friend. 🙏💜
Months ago, my narc discarded me, no contact, blocked me and all. And just today, message me giving his new mobile number just in case "I miss him" he said, then I can contact him and reconnect to him 🥴 So, this content is very timely and on point!!!
I asked my ex fince a week.or so after discard if he missed me (i was still very much trauma bonded and felt i needed his validation that what we shared was real). His answer: "yes, I miss some things about you". Even while we were together it was clear he only appreciated, wanted, craved what I could GIVE him, not who I really AM. Im convinced, this is all the narc REALLY misses.
Narcs don't miss you. They miss what you used to do for them. If they could find someone to do the things that they made you do for free, they would never think twice about you.
Hundred percent true . After 9 months he wants me back. Because it didn’t work with the new supplier. If it did work he wouldn’t even care. Obviously he couldn’t control her or use her God knows. I am better without him still heeling 🤕🤒
I went No Contact a few months ago from a friend that has always been manipulative and controlling. She did the smear campaign and now she keeps trying to reach out to me in several ways, like nothing happened. It’s like they’re stalkers, obsessed with trying to get you back. They just can’t accept that you want them out of your life for good. Creepy.
Could narcs go so far as contacting you covertly on the internet ? Something like that happened me last week, I was chatting personally with some anonymous user on a forum. Then a second user turned up, as if trying to get to know me. After a few rounds of asking, she gave herself away, that we´ve met IRL. That´s all she said but I knew straight away who that meant and blocked. I told user 1 about this because I was confused at first not noticing the different username but all of a sudden user 1 became hostile alike and stopped talking. Not that this whole thing bothered me , I got things to do but could it all have been her doing ? pretending to be multiple people ?
Danish, aa I write this my daughter is trying yet again to pop right back in my life. She and my three beautiful granddaughters,8mths to 8yrs, showed up at my apartment yesterday after I had not text nor called her in a few months. Steering clear after she just took them away from me March before last. She got a car and no longer needed me. With her, stress left, confusion left. And I gained peace of mind, more money in my bank account and a new love in my life that was never expected nor looked for. God is so good and at 58, took 35 years of narcissist abuse I never knew I was experiencing. I knew I was above the limit on abuse, physical, mental, psychological and emotional but you put a name and all the other elements in place. I'm not stupid, I knew the word but I equated that with prideful and egotistical people. My daughter far exceeds her dad, my ex-husband. Bless you and thank you. You are a blessing and whether you know it or not.. you are a gift from God and He is pleased... Peace and Blessings to you, your family and All your subscribers 🙏🙏🙏💖😊🌞
Yes, just yesterday that person called, I answered bcse I believed if he called after 8 months, he suddenly became rude , mind games, this is when we were making plans together then he escaped and also manufacturing crises, I thought I'd hear an apology and a correction from him since he called, but he just called to find out what I do and where I stay and to see if he can come into my life again, I'm glad I'm not interested.
I've cut off with him at least 5 times & he exactly did this kind of weird activities to come back! But this time I'd try my best leaving him forever. I know it’s difficult for a victim to run away from a narc partner but no other way to survive!
🎉 Truly never gave that much thought, hope that's my sign I've healed, busy convincing myself not to be obsessed with them, I know it's to stay no contact keeping me free for better vibes!😊❤😅
My X questioned one time if I was breaking up with her. All I said was thank you for being with me all these years and making memorable moments, I appreciate you. In the end, she broke up with me in a text. I responded, "One day you will realize that you have down- graded and there is no coming back. Good luck." LOL
I’m so sorry you had to go through that but also grateful for your videos. They’ve added pieces to my horrid puzzle making me realize I’ve been surrounded by such individuals my whole life. From father, ‘friend’🙄through my teenage years, and now I’m married to one-23 yrs together and it just keeps getting worse 😳
I went back so many times, every time the abuse just got worse. Now that I understand and have accepted that he will never change, this time I will never go back again.
narcs cant change, remember it has nothing to do with you. for the narc you dont even exist, the narc doesnt interact with you but with an internal object he made of you in his mind.
HAPPY HAPPY BIRTHDAY DANISH🎉🎉🎉 certainly a blessing and a treasure you are, where would we be without you? Talk about confirmation! What am I doing that I keep drawing these ppl to me? ENOUGH!! I’m doin the work, all is well this too shall pass! Blessings on your special day Danish🙏🏾🙏🏾🎊🎉💕
I love the sweetness about you Danish. You explained that one so well. My ex narc boyfriend called me and said isn’t that amazing? I didn’t realize I called you. I said I don’t think it’s amazing at all and I will never ever go out with you again. He started to cry so I said , you There? And I hung up. He called back but I did not answer.
Danish you are always 100% accurate in every way! I couldn't help but laugh when you said they manufacture a crisis. All of a sudden they will have had an accident, broken bones, illness, etcetera. I have even been lied to about actual deaths in the family that didn't even occur!!!! It would be comical if it wasn't so pathetic. Thank You for being such a Blessing!!!
The fact that you opened about your mom in this video makes this page 10x more genuine. All your content is just amazing , soo helpful ,Thank you sooo much for sharing and spreading this info.
I’m really thankful for your videos! I don’t know for sure that a dear friend is a narcissist. Mainly because he is a long time alcoholic who is drinking a lot now. He certainly shows symptoms of many things. He, from past drug use that he stopped and drinking, has had either auditory hallucinations, delusions and thinks I and others played mean, cruel tricks or jokes on him. I know he can just take a word and twist it so he can make me so angry and evil. I’m hoping he will get help by detoxing. I thought he was, but, today over the phone (again) he gives it the F*** everybody. And people who try to still try to play games to hurt me like…. And of course he is talking about me. I’m grounded in who I am and know I have never treated anyone like he describes. I’ve learned not to get emotional or so angry like I have been in the past. Sorry so long. I don’t think I will ever know how he is unless he gets medical help to stop drinking. Thank you ❤
Don’t forget “but calls.” I would get them constantly from my covert mother and her new husband. Even before I went no contact. But calls are when them pretend that the phone called you on accident, so when you answer, all you hear is people talking or interacting in the background. Usually it at a gathering of people you know. No matter how many times you loudly say hello, no one will respond. Sometimes I get several in one week. They continued even after two years of no contact. Thank you.
Danish in Pakistan every second person is NPD patient please give us the plan to survive married life with narcissistic husband. Coz we can't leave them.
Hi Danish-I am new to your videos. I just want to thank you for taking the subject to a more critical thinking level. I’ve gained a lot of insight having listened /watched your videos. And additionally, I’m really sorry that you had to go through so much turmoil with both your Mother and Father. I share a similar story as yourself so I could relate 100%. Sending you healing energy and blessings for a brighter future.💖
My ex used to send a text after days asking what that series was we were watching again? Or what’s the name of that park we went to im gonna take the kids there? Of course prompting me to say ok I’ll come and the next thing we’re back together with no apologies or any resolving of the reason we split.
I broke up with my ex 2 weeks ago because I realized he is a narc. I wonder why it took me almost 5 years to realize since my mother is the same way. Now there is a deep emptiness inside me, I have a heartache and daily crying attacks out of nowhere and find it hard to stop. My thoughts are circling, I miss him, it hurts but I won’t contact him. I just don’t know how to get through it. I think I need help. 💔
If you had a narcissistic parent or both, you will then last longer in relationships with narcs. 1. Because you are groomed for it to be normal. 2. Because you have no support assuming your parents were toxic. So you stay longer.
When i miss someone i get sad, but once i reach them i feel fine again, narcisist dont miss you, once i went 5 years with out seeing my oldest narcisist brother and when i got to see him he told that It was about 5 years the last time we saw each other, i didnt had a clue how much time had past.
I'm low and lonely without her 💔 I cried a thousand tears when she said goodbye 👋 💔 I'm balling my eyeballs out, and one of my eyes 👀 fell out from all the crying I have done since she said goodbye 👋 💔 😢
I do recognize that part of making strategic plans, instead of the obvious just to call and say they missed you or ask for your help. Instead everyone must be outsmarted and outplayed all the time so the simpliest task cannot be executed directly, it has to be thought over for days and then presented in such a way it is known that your cousins, her neighbours, friends and distant relatives are in line for helping her out. You may have said for years you want to help her with the heater and also have done for years, but every time you do it she brings up that all of these persons all want to help her with the heater. Every conversation is like that. When I am helping out, all I hear is this and this person also offered their help. What is going on?
Yes! When I told him to leave me alone since he's nothing but trouble, he goes on to say "all of those personalities you have were trouble". Lol! Really? If that's the case, why do you keep on contacting me every year, only once a year? That goes to show you he's up to no good. 62 years old trying to hoover me. I'm 55 years old and I ain't falling for it
I have a narcissistic step mother we are fighting every now and then we've been on off for years but 2022 she did it again after a fight she weaponized my step siblings against me they all blocked me! One of the sibling then unblocked me and i told her i know what's going on..she apologized but my heart was brocken 💔 i forgave her but then i blocked her ! The other siblings they suddenly keeping popping up on my WhatsApp with new phone numbers but this time around i knew it's my narcissistic step mother behind want to contact with me through my siblings, so this time i didn't fall for it i blocked them again and changed my phone number!
That's why my family won't send me an email (they are blocked and can't call me) not even in Christmas or New Year. They also sent me an sms telling me my mother had a stroke but I didn't showed up. Still, a few days later I ended up in the emergency room due to intestinal spasms... that's how the induced guilt and their abuse showed in my body. Then you know you need to leave if you care the bare minimum about yourself because they won't ever care. It's so sad when it's your family the origen of all of your misery in life and you look back seeing how you spoiled your life and soul feeding their black holes. Still, I don't agree I'm a "chosen one". I could have been better to the world if I weren't preyed upon over and over again.
I can bet - they don´t miss you - they only miss what you provide them. Because they don´t even know you in person (they never cared)... And they will replace you very fast (even in the relationship they had other supplies on the side to use - not to care - to use).
Absolutely true. Same happened to me. Days after discard she reached out to her ex boyfriend and saw them at a local concert. Meanwhile telling me she would stay alone after the break up. The look on her face when I exposed her that night was priceless. The thing that's hurts the most, I was doing the right steps to heal, and excepting the break up. I thought she was too....WRONG !! Stupid me for believing a w**re. Damn, I'm dumb !!!!
@@clintonnagy1662 Those people are totally different than you. You can´t trust nor believe them (sadly). And they walk on fast because they never created a deep bound with you (in fact it was never you in person they liked - it was what they can get out of you what they liked and loved...). You just have to accept that and move on (it is hard but with time it gets easier). The sadest thing is: In fact it is no loss to lose such people...
Another piece of great insight from Danish Bashir 🌹....fantastic delivery as always 👌🏽. Sounds like these sympathy vampires need a rehab facility built for them!
Hello danish ... I m female...my husband have npd I left my home ...he beat me so hard...by belt Your video's help me a lot to understand the narcissist And stay away from him Can please make video in Hindi language plz .....it will help other women/men .... those who does not understand English..... mostly the female plz
@@TheSmiler23 a real narc is not human, its a dark entity, there is nobody there, just a blackhole, if we could take a peak in the mind of a narc we would all be screaming and run for the hills
I am a suvivor. I was in a relationship with a narcissist for 10 years and we have 2 young kids together. We have no contact in anyway. I live in Vancouver, WA. I have searched for resources, groups and mental health and have had no luck. I have searched out of my area,but still nothing. I have a lot of issues left from the past 10 years. Ineed help and i am scared what will happen if i dont find it soon. Does anyone know resources in Vancouver, WA or Portland, OR?
I believe that BOTH the narcissist and the survivor of the narcissist miss each other for the wrong reasons! I agree that the narcissist ONLY misses whatever supply that they were receiving, BUT when a survivor of the narcissist says that they are missing the narcissist, what are "THEY" missing? Are they missing the abuse? Are they missing being treated badly? Are they missing the narcissist crazy behavior and ways? Are they missing the gaslighting? Are they missing being with an evil sadistic person? You say that the narcissist doesn't miss the REAL YOU, and I agree...BUT there is no way that a survivor of the narcissist can miss the REAL THEM either since they only fell in love with the narcissist FASLE SELF!
Have a neighbor narcissist trying to wiggle her way back in to my life right now. I am unable to move right now but I have her blocked from calling me. She walks around the corner and tries to talk to me. I calmly answer basic questions but no real information. I know she wants me to open up and let her back in or get angry and yell. She would be happy either way. When she talks all I hear are nails on a chalkboard.
“What happened to our forever” idk you tell me ? No accountability no apology whatsoever ! Them says he’s waited for me all these years , I know he has another girl there ! Deff not coming back correct , just more manipulation
Hi danish now i m in this situation my narc partner doing this now i need to move on but he block my money and he can distroy my financial paths he all the time fight with me with out any certine reson now i m depressed how do i control this
Yes, mine sent me an email "where is ?" I didn't answer. Yes I have the narcissistic mother, thank God I have a sister and we can go back and forth about it. Nobody else would believe it, you have to live it and I have for 70 years, still living it.
They only miss the control they had over you. They think they own you for life. If they truly cared they’d have never miss treated you to begin with. I know from experience it only gets worse if you take them back. They will want to punish you for keeping them at bay. Just block and delete them and their attempts if you don’t have children with them!
U r d Saying it all correctly.. it reinforces we shouldn’t get fooled. Guess what I was doing. Whenever he felt power by controlling me he was happy. Being the empath I was felt happy when he was happy. When he felt that he would deprive me of that too by increasing his vibrations
narcissist: "i miss you".
me: i don't blame you. i did more for you than you deserved, and more than i should have done. i gave you 120% and you gave me zero in return. i was so good to you despite all the bullshit you put me thru....
AND ALSO, i miss me too. i miss the "me" i used to be, before ever meeting you.
so yah, if i were you, i would miss the f*ck out of me too.
at least the power, control and benefits that you used to enjoy lol.
cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
That was great!!!!😂😂 and so true!💙💪🔥
Spot on! 100% Exactly what I've always wanted to say to "them" but choose not to! Especially the part about "I MISS ME TOO"!
@@Sadbuttrue-ThatSwedishGirl thanks. glad you found some benefit and enjoyment. 😉
-all the best, steven
@@PNWWildernessJourneys it's nice if you can, but overall, let karma do the dirty work. rotten fruits eventually fall off by themselves.
-cheers, steven
Zero is not the truth because they give you so much to stay on their tables. (Breadcrumbs...). But the fact is: You CAN (are able to) do much more than them. I would advise everyone here - don´t put in them put in you!
They miss the Role you play in their game life 😢😢😢😢😢
Exactly they play games with you
Amen 🎉🎉🎉🎉
And they want the show to go on no matter what.
Yes , they call it " The narcissists playbook " !!
Thanks for confirming what I already knew. Never go back because they'll double down on your punishment.
Each time I took this person back, the devalue cycle came faster than the previous one.
It’s really like they’re running a program.
@@Tokolos They are. They have horrible pains and agonies inside that you are there to alleviate. But emotions like that aren't meant to be ignored, and they will pop up faster and faster and faster every time, and you will get the full punishment for them!
Mine has contracted me telling me he is sorry and misses me every day. Said I was the best person he has ever known and wants to start over. I now no longer feel the same abt him, so he is very depressed, sleeping all day he says.
Sorry, but I am enjoying being alone.
My ex narc had been trying to contact me every year around March/April since 2022. In 2022 he contacts me through LinkedIn. I vaguely remember the conversation, in 2023 he contacted me through Facebook and then showed up at my residence saying he would give me a ride to work (drunk as usual), I told him no because I knew he'd been drinking, March 2024, he sends me a photo of himself graduating from college (62 years old lol) and that's when I drew the line. Only contacts me every year around March and April for whatever reason? I told him if he contacts me one more time, a restraining order will be issued. Alcoholic sob and verbally abusive
My person after breakup does not feel like contacting or talking to me as we work toghter...I think I miss him but he has no feelings..
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He says hes still mourning! Over what!!!??? Treating me horrible
Exactly! They have selective memory
They gotta be ‘the victim’ even if they kill a puppy they’d play the victim ‘. I ruined my new clothes’ poor poor me ‘ sick sick twisted demonic self centered black holes.
Mourning ? Isn´t that in context of burials ?
Narcs can´t even get words right, they just test their effects like toddlers try buttons on a toy.
Narcissistic abuse is wrong and the victims deserve justice and peace.
Narcissistic abuse should be considered a crime.
Perhaps peace is the main thing i want till the end of my life but having this simple thing seems just impossible
@@yuu_miran It’s possible if you go no contact. I’ve been no contact for twenty years and for twenty years I have had peace. However I do have a lot of bad memories.
Vengeance is the Lords Amen
@@JesuisLord Yes and I’m glad.
The narcissists only miss the supply, for love forget about its.
Exactly! They miss using you and manipulating you! My own mother would say "I miss you" and I never understood why it sounded wrong when she said it but your video explained it very clearly.
you're so right. It's all a manipulative game. After i went no contact and the narcissist realized I was really done, he sent me a long text about how he went into a deep dark depression and was now coming out of it and feeling better. Of course an empath like me would typically fall for that and offer support. No more. I didn't respond. Depression doesn't make you mean and horrible to people for years like he was to me. Im done with this sick individual.
This is a sick game
Another ploy of theirs is that after years of no communication nor contact, they will email you "heartfelt" birthday greetings, remarking what an irreplaceable, amazing person you are! It's enough to turn ur stomach! Delete!
Non sequiter: June 5 (tomorrow) is Danish's birthday!!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY, DANISH! 🎉 Enjoy this special day and thank u for all you have gifted this community!! You have improved our lives beyond all expectations because of your rare and raw truth and authenticity! 100% genuine❤.
Thank you so much for remembering my birthday. It means a lot 🙂
Happy Birthday! Surviving our narcissists is another Birth’ing experience! Thanks Danish.
@@narcabusecoach 🎂
@@narcabusecoach - Many more happy returns of the day, This is SundarRaj from Southern part of India, your videos really enlighten me a lot, how i have suffered becoz of my narcissitic dad and grandma, Its so terrible experience with them,, my grandma died 10 years ago, i was younger at that time, but now my mind is recollecting all my trauma memories and healing.. Thanks a ton to you.. your videos must have helped a lot of souls.. Thanks a ton for ur teaching and all videos
@@narcabusecoach Happy Birthday Danish , 🎂🎂🎂 from one who finds your words validating , Thank-you 😊
I didn’t know they had feelings! Who would’ve known🤷🏿♂️
They miss seeing the pain they cause.
They miss feeling important. Some people draw some sick sense of value from how much they can hurt others.
"weaponize empathy" , "sympathy vampires" - you are so spot on Danish, I am impressed every time.
They miss how you in their life made them have a good reputation in society.
That’s exactly what happened in my relation. He was getting respect because of me,because I had reputation, without me he is trash . Now after 9 months he wants me back 🤮🤮🤮
They miss you for what they could use you for and will lie, pretend to change, make all kind of promises to try to get you back
After 12 years of no contact, my narc former sister sent me an e-mail complimenting me saying "everybody I know always thought you
looked like Catherine Zeta Jones". I immediately deleted the e-mail and did not respond, nothing good could come of contact. If I
respond with anger or with an insult (which I really WANT TO DO) she would love it. That's the supply she needs. I have no family
because of her. You are spot on.
Wow she's beautiful though
I am in the same boat... a nasty heartless sister who feels entitled to destroy my reputation and my own family. It is nauseating to be sure!
Absolutely! ANY response at all = SUPPLY. If you are nice, then they can reel you in to discard you later. If you are not nice, then they can have a pity party and play the victim. I have a narc younger sister with whom I'm also No Contact. I would love to have an actual relationship with a real sister, but it's not her. My parents are/were narcs (my mother has passed), and I suppose she learned from them. The three of them Scapegoated me my entire life, and that would promptly restart if I reinitiated contact. I also have no family, including most, if not all, of my extended family. I really do understand you. It sucks sometimes, but I have to believe we are happier and healthier. We got out! Take care, my friend. 🙏💜
Months ago, my narc discarded me, no contact, blocked me and all. And just today, message me giving his new mobile number just in case "I miss him" he said, then I can contact him and reconnect to him
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So, this content is very timely and on point!!!
I asked my ex fince a week.or so after discard if he missed me (i was still very much trauma bonded and felt i needed his validation that what we shared was real).
His answer: "yes, I miss some things about you". Even while we were together it was clear he only appreciated, wanted, craved what I could GIVE him, not who I really AM. Im convinced, this is all the narc REALLY misses.
"I miss you and love you." Are empty words.
Narcs don't miss you. They miss what you used to do for them. If they could find someone to do the things that they made you do for free, they would never think twice about you.
Hundred percent true . After 9 months he wants me back. Because it didn’t work with the new supplier. If it did work he wouldn’t even care. Obviously he couldn’t control her or use her God knows. I am better without him still heeling 🤕🤒
I went No Contact a few months ago from a friend that has always been manipulative and controlling. She did the smear campaign and now she keeps trying to reach out to me in several ways, like nothing happened. It’s like they’re stalkers, obsessed with trying to get you back. They just can’t accept that you want them out of your life for good. Creepy.
Could narcs go so far as contacting you covertly on the internet ? Something like that happened me last week, I was chatting personally with some anonymous user on a forum. Then a second user turned up, as if trying to get to know me. After a few rounds of asking, she gave herself away, that we´ve met IRL. That´s all she said but I knew straight away who that meant and blocked. I told user 1 about this because I was confused at first not noticing the different username but all of a sudden user 1 became hostile alike and stopped talking. Not that this whole thing bothered me , I got things to do but could it all have been her doing ? pretending to be multiple people ?
I went on no contact and she started using my own child to say it's your child who wants to talk to you not me.... Without an apology.
@@LukaChunda these are some mental people. Always crossing the boundaries.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY DANISH YOU ARE A GIFT TO SO MANY SO GLAD GOD MADE WONDERFUL YOU ! THANK YOU SO MUCH ! 🤍🎂🌸🤍
Thank you so much 😀
Danish, aa I write this my daughter is trying yet again to pop right back in my life. She and my three beautiful granddaughters,8mths to 8yrs, showed up at my apartment yesterday after I had not text nor called her in a few months. Steering clear after she just took them away from me March before last. She got a car and no longer needed me. With her, stress left, confusion left. And I gained peace of mind, more money in my bank account and a new love in my life that was never expected nor looked for. God is so good and at 58, took 35 years of narcissist abuse I never knew I was experiencing. I knew I was above the limit on abuse, physical, mental, psychological and emotional but you put a name and all the other elements in place. I'm not stupid, I knew the word but I equated that with prideful and egotistical people. My daughter far exceeds her dad, my ex-husband. Bless you and thank you. You are a blessing and whether you know it or not.. you are a gift from God and He is pleased... Peace and Blessings to you, your family and All your subscribers 🙏🙏🙏💖😊🌞
My ex literally sat me down and told me she misses me and still loves me while in a relationship with someone else 🤦🏼♂️
Yes, just yesterday that person called, I answered bcse I believed if he called after 8 months, he suddenly became rude , mind games, this is when we were making plans together then he escaped and also manufacturing crises, I thought I'd hear an apology and a correction from him since he called, but he just called to find out what I do and where I stay and to see if he can come into my life again, I'm glad I'm not interested.
Thanks ❤you’re helping me getting through my pain 😢
We will get thru it together, the person that I was dealing with has really disappointed me once I realized what was really going on.
Thank you so much for your help. it help me to understand narcissist ❤.
I've cut off with him at least 5 times & he exactly did this kind of weird activities to come back! But this time I'd try my best leaving him forever. I know it’s difficult for a victim to run away from a narc partner but no other way to survive!
Thanks so much for sharing your knowledge and experience 🙏🏻
🎉 Truly never gave that much thought, hope that's my sign I've healed, busy convincing myself not to be obsessed with them, I know it's to stay no contact keeping me free for better vibes!😊❤😅
I know! I went though all that shit!
Wow , That hit home …..
I Daily waits for your video thank❤you
My X questioned one time if I was breaking up with her. All I said was thank you for being with me all these years and making memorable moments, I appreciate you. In the end, she broke up with me in a text. I responded, "One day you will realize that you have down- graded and there is no coming back. Good luck." LOL
I’m so sorry you had to go through that but also grateful for your videos. They’ve added pieces to my horrid puzzle making me realize I’ve been surrounded by such individuals my whole life. From father, ‘friend’🙄through my teenage years, and now I’m married to one-23 yrs together and it just keeps getting worse 😳
Thank you well said 👍💯
Danish, you literally explained all the nasty narcs in my life.
They miss abusing you and controlling you. My miss and their Miss is 2 different ways
I went back so many times, every time the abuse just got worse. Now that I understand and have accepted that he will never change, this time I will never go back again.
narcs cant change, remember it has nothing to do with you.
for the narc you dont even exist, the narc doesnt interact with you but with an internal object he made of you in his mind.
HAPPY HAPPY BIRTHDAY DANISH🎉🎉🎉 certainly a blessing and a treasure you are, where would we be without you? Talk about confirmation! What am I doing that I keep drawing these ppl to me? ENOUGH!! I’m doin the work, all is well this too shall pass! Blessings on your special day Danish🙏🏾🙏🏾🎊🎉💕
I love the sweetness about you Danish. You explained that one so well. My ex narc boyfriend called me and said isn’t that amazing? I didn’t realize I called you. I said I don’t think it’s amazing at all and I will never ever go out with you again. He started to cry so I said , you There? And I hung up. He called back but I did not answer.
Thank you for your videos! All these things are literally happening just like in your shares! This healing is a blessing! ❤
Danish you are always 100% accurate in every way! I couldn't help but laugh when you said they manufacture a crisis. All of a sudden they will have had an accident, broken bones, illness, etcetera. I have even been lied to about actual deaths in the family that didn't even occur!!!! It would be comical if it wasn't so pathetic. Thank You for being such a Blessing!!!
The fact that you opened about your mom in this video makes this page 10x more genuine. All your content is just amazing , soo helpful ,Thank you sooo much for sharing and spreading this info.
Thank you for sharing this ❤
I’m really thankful for your videos! I don’t know for sure that a dear friend is a narcissist. Mainly because he is a long time alcoholic who is drinking a lot now. He certainly shows symptoms of many things. He, from past drug use that he stopped and drinking, has had either auditory hallucinations, delusions and thinks I and others played mean, cruel tricks or jokes on him. I know he can just take a word and twist it so he can make me so angry and evil. I’m hoping he will get help by detoxing. I thought he was, but, today over the phone (again) he gives it the F*** everybody. And people who try to still try to play games to hurt me like…. And of course he is talking about me. I’m grounded in who I am and know I have never treated anyone like he describes. I’ve learned not to get emotional or so angry like I have been in the past. Sorry so long. I don’t think I will ever know how he is unless he gets medical help to stop drinking. Thank you ❤
This is so helpful Danish! Thank you for addressing this topic!
I love your channel. You're doing good things! This is definitely your purpose In life.
Thank you for this valuable lesson and video that helps people who suffer to deal witn demonic and evillness of Narcissis behavior.❤
This is absolutely 110% true absolutely experienced it too with a BF thank you
Don’t forget “but calls.” I would get them constantly from my covert mother and her new husband. Even before I went no contact. But calls are when them pretend that the phone called you on accident, so when you answer, all you hear is people talking or interacting in the background. Usually it at a gathering of people you know. No matter how many times you loudly say hello, no one will respond. Sometimes I get several in one week. They continued even after two years of no contact. Thank you.
Thank you. I needed to hear this
Danish in Pakistan every second person is NPD patient please give us the plan to survive married life with narcissistic husband. Coz we can't leave them.
My husband discarded me thank God
But our society is too conservative we can't be discarded. We need to survive with narcissistic husband. Please Danish help us
watch dr. Ramani too. She talks about such situations where it's difficult to leave them
That was a life saving msg sir.......thank you so much
Hi Danish-I am new to your videos. I just want to thank you for taking the subject to a more critical thinking level. I’ve gained a lot of insight having listened /watched your videos. And additionally, I’m really sorry that you had to go through so much turmoil with both your Mother and Father. I share a similar story as yourself so I could relate 100%. Sending you healing energy and blessings for a brighter future.💖
My ex used to send a text after days asking what that series was we were watching again? Or what’s the name of that park we went to im gonna take the kids there? Of course prompting me to say ok I’ll come and the next thing we’re back together with no apologies or any resolving of the reason we split.
I broke up with my ex 2 weeks ago because I realized he is a narc. I wonder why it took me almost 5 years to realize since my mother is the same way. Now there is a deep emptiness inside me, I have a heartache and daily crying attacks out of nowhere and find it hard to stop.
My thoughts are circling, I miss him, it hurts but I won’t contact him.
I just don’t know how to get through it.
I think I need help. 💔
Let's talk .me in same condition
If you had a narcissistic parent or both, you will then last longer in relationships with narcs. 1. Because you are groomed for it to be normal. 2. Because you have no support assuming your parents were toxic. So you stay longer.
You will get through this girl !
Trust me I didn’t know for 5 years now with help of a therapist am over it so happy peaceful
if he was a real narc you would have figured that out in max a few months not 5 years
When i miss someone i get sad, but once i reach them i feel fine again, narcisist dont miss you, once i went 5 years with out seeing my oldest narcisist brother and when i got to see him he told that It was about 5 years the last time we saw each other, i didnt had a clue how much time had past.
This is such a good video. It is correct on every level.
I'm low and lonely without her 💔 I cried a thousand tears when she said goodbye 👋 💔 I'm balling my eyeballs out, and one of my eyes 👀 fell out from all the crying I have done since she said goodbye 👋 💔 😢
Your expertise, delivery credentials precede you .excellent
Bang on ! Cheers
I do recognize that part of making strategic plans, instead of the obvious just to call and say they missed you or ask for your help. Instead everyone must be outsmarted and outplayed all the time so the simpliest task cannot be executed directly, it has to be thought over for days and then presented in such a way it is known that your cousins, her neighbours, friends and distant relatives are in line for helping her out. You may have said for years you want to help her with the heater and also have done for years, but every time you do it she brings up that all of these persons all want to help her with the heater. Every conversation is like that. When I am helping out, all I hear is this and this person also offered their help. What is going on?
This is so true
Hopefully after watching your videos, survivors won't go to this trap
Yes! When I told him to leave me alone since he's nothing but trouble, he goes on to say "all of those personalities you have were trouble". Lol! Really? If that's the case, why do you keep on contacting me every year, only once a year? That goes to show you he's up to no good. 62 years old trying to hoover me. I'm 55 years old and I ain't falling for it
Thank you Danish
From JANESVILLE, WISCONSIN USA
Makes perfect sense. Thank you.
Happy Birthday for tomorrow! You’re a great person!
I have a narcissistic step mother we are fighting every now and then we've been on off for years but 2022 she did it again after a fight she weaponized my step siblings against me they all blocked me!
One of the sibling then unblocked me and i told her i know what's going on..she apologized but my heart was brocken 💔 i forgave her but then i blocked her !
The other siblings they suddenly keeping popping up on my WhatsApp with new phone numbers but this time around i knew it's my narcissistic step mother behind want to contact with me through my siblings, so this time i didn't fall for it i blocked them again and changed my phone number!
I was reading it is your birthday today wish you only great things for you God bless you every day for your wisdom and helping happy birthday
That's why my family won't send me an email (they are blocked and can't call me) not even in Christmas or New Year.
They also sent me an sms telling me my mother had a stroke but I didn't showed up. Still, a few days later I ended up in the emergency room due to intestinal spasms... that's how the induced guilt and their abuse showed in my body.
Then you know you need to leave if you care the bare minimum about yourself because they won't ever care. It's so sad when it's your family the origen of all of your misery in life and you look back seeing how you spoiled your life and soul feeding their black holes. Still, I don't agree I'm a "chosen one". I could have been better to the world if I weren't preyed upon over and over again.
I can bet - they don´t miss you - they only miss what you provide them. Because they don´t even know you in person (they never cared)... And they will replace you very fast (even in the relationship they had other supplies on the side to use - not to care - to use).
Absolutely true. Same happened to me. Days after discard she reached out to her ex boyfriend and saw them at a local concert. Meanwhile telling me she would stay alone after the break up. The look on her face when I exposed her that night was priceless. The thing that's hurts the most, I was doing the right steps to heal, and excepting the break up. I thought she was too....WRONG !! Stupid me for believing a w**re. Damn, I'm dumb !!!!
@@clintonnagy1662 Those people are totally different than you. You can´t trust nor believe them (sadly). And they walk on fast because they never created a deep bound with you (in fact it was never you in person they liked - it was what they can get out of you what they liked and loved...). You just have to accept that and move on (it is hard but with time it gets easier). The sadest thing is: In fact it is no loss to lose such people...
Another piece of great insight from Danish Bashir 🌹....fantastic delivery as always 👌🏽.
Sounds like these sympathy vampires need a rehab facility built for them!
Tremendously accurate 💯
Hello danish ...
I m female...my husband have npd
I left my home ...he beat me so hard...by belt
Your video's help me a lot to understand the narcissist
And stay away from him
Can please make video in Hindi language plz .....it will help other women/men .... those who does not understand English..... mostly the female plz
So...narcs don't just manipulate for the good you give, but to also torture you? Yikes......D:
You're so right ✅️
depends what kind of narc, some need sadistic supply but not all
@@promo130 oh...but still....
@@TheSmiler23 a real narc is not human, its a dark entity, there is nobody there, just a blackhole, if we could take a peak in the mind of a narc we would all be screaming and run for the hills
@promo130 agreed....
Very nice 👍 respected Sir!
Backfire to narcissist, I love God thank God Amen 💖
I am a suvivor. I was in a relationship with a narcissist for 10 years and we have 2 young kids together. We have no contact in anyway. I live in Vancouver, WA. I have searched for resources, groups and mental health and have had no luck. I have searched out of my area,but still nothing. I have a lot of issues left from the past 10 years. Ineed help and i am scared what will happen if i dont find it soon.
Does anyone know resources in Vancouver, WA or Portland, OR?
I believe that BOTH the narcissist and the survivor of the narcissist miss each other for the wrong reasons! I agree that the narcissist ONLY misses whatever supply that they were receiving, BUT when a survivor of the narcissist says that they are missing the narcissist, what are "THEY" missing? Are they missing the abuse? Are they missing being treated badly? Are they missing the narcissist crazy behavior and ways? Are they missing the gaslighting? Are they missing being with an evil sadistic person? You say that the narcissist doesn't miss the REAL YOU, and I agree...BUT there is no way that a survivor of the narcissist can miss the REAL THEM either since they only fell in love with the narcissist FASLE SELF!
Have a neighbor narcissist trying to wiggle her way back in to my life right now. I am unable to move right now but I have her blocked from calling me. She walks around the corner and tries to talk to me. I calmly answer basic questions but no real information. I know she wants me to open up and let her back in or get angry and yell. She would be happy either way. When she talks all I hear are nails on a chalkboard.
This is so true, I can’t 😶
Show up to the hospital yeah right!😂😂😂😂
They miss you as their tool.
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They feel and think NOTHING!!!! Just move onto the next supply. And they don't care
“What happened to our forever” idk you tell me ? No accountability no apology whatsoever ! Them says he’s waited for me all these years , I know he has another girl there ! Deff not coming back correct , just more manipulation
Omg! So true🧘💯🙏
Hi danish now i m in this situation my narc partner doing this now i need to move on but he block my money and he can distroy my financial paths he all the time fight with me with out any certine reson now i m depressed how do i control this
Assalamualaikum... Can i contact you personally sir???
Yes, mine sent me an email "where is ?" I didn't answer. Yes I have the narcissistic mother, thank God I have a sister and we can go back and forth about it. Nobody else would believe it, you have to live it and I have for 70 years, still living it.
Thank you Angel Danish❤❤
Perfectly describe sir
So true try the sick hospital game calling my daughter
Neverrrrr again
Thank you so much sir
They only miss the control they had over you. They think they own you for life. If they truly cared they’d have never miss treated you to begin with. I know from experience it only gets worse if you take them back. They will want to punish you for keeping them at bay. Just block and delete them and their attempts if you don’t have children with them!
After 9 months he indirectly contacted me to be with him again . He is really sick. Life is better without him no going back .
U r d
Saying it all correctly.. it reinforces we shouldn’t get fooled. Guess what I was doing. Whenever he felt power by controlling me he was happy. Being the empath I was felt happy when he was happy. When he felt that he would deprive me of that too by increasing his vibrations
Do you offer counceling?
It’s uncomfortable how accurate this is to her actions