My dad was Catholic and mom a Methodist. They were married for 61 years. When they married, they were not allowed to marry inside of the church but had to get married in the rectory. Mom always wanted to covert to Catholicism. My dad did not live to see it, but she became Catholic last year at the age of 91. 🙏
I must say and warn those discerning. I married a non believer. It was fine at first. Always went to mass with us when daughters were little. When they became teenagers, he stopped attending. They did too. Now, I not only pray for his conversion, but that if our 2 daughters! It’s so difficult without the support and prayers if a spous. He is committed to me but as my faith has deepened, I feel alone and it’s definitely a cross I bear. So know that only God can help.
Prayers for you, this is why I'm still single. So many guys of other faiths want to date me, very rarely do I come across a strong Catholic man... it's painful, but I'd rather be single than go through what you're going through. God bless you for not giving up, I pray God converts your kids and husband soon.
I was in a Mix marriage. My husband was born a Hindu but he wasn't religious and I was a non practicing (stopped going to church after the age of 20) cradle Catholic. My mother wanted us to get married in the church but I refused that my husband should convert just to get married to me. So we had a civil marriage. When I got pregnant we both felt the need to live our life according to the truth and true values so our son will be raised in the truth. We found our way back to the church individually. We ended up baptizing our son when he was 2 and this Easter my husband got baptized, had his first communion and confirmation. We had our marriage convalidated too! Now we're a happy and faithful little Catholic Family. I am so grateful that my husband became a Catholic for his love of Christ. His love for Jesus brought me back to the church and value the true presence of the Eucharist. All glory to Lord Jesus Christ, for His continuous Mercy, Love and Grace. 🙏🏽
That's beautiful. I sort of had the opposite happen. I came back to the Church after we conceived our daughter 8 years ago. I wanted to get our marriage convalidated at that time. She then divorced me because of this.
I was in a mixed marriage. My wife converted 1 year ago this July. Thank you Jesus, praise be to God. And thank you to Our Lady of Fatima for her prayers.
@@witchhunter8489 Hmmm, I don't recall saying Fatima did anything? But I did thank Our Lady for her prayers to our Lord. Kind of like thanking someone for praying for you in a time of need. I believe I did thank Jesus and offer praise to God alone. Maybe my wording was wrong, or confusing in the parent comment. My wife started her Journey from Methodist to Catholic after reading a book about Fatima. God's Grace flowed through this miracle from God and moved my wife. My wife was stirred by the Holy Spirit. I asked Our Lady of Fatima to pray for my wife's conversion. It seemed fitting to thank our Mother for her prayers since my wife did in fact convert. All praise and glory be to God. Salve Regina.
How to weed out the bad potential mates: Just tell them you are committed to not having sex before marriage. They will soon depart if their intentions are less than honorable
@@catholicfemininity2126 do you think that having a strong relationship with God can help with discernment when it comes to avoiding sick men like that? I suppose it’s a bit of a rhetorical question as yes of course that is one of the fruits of our relationship with God. But just wondering if perhaps you have any thoughts you might be gracious enough to share? Thanks 😊
Absolutely agree 💯 my husband was Protestant and he was the only guy that wanted the same thing. Sadly the Catholic men I met were not devout and the examples of my brothers didn't have this moral virtue.
@@catholicfemininity2126 it’s not just men who do this. I was questioned by a “devout Catholic” woman that I dated if I was gay because I was trying to be chasted before marriage. I tried to keep us from “fooling around”. It’s a double standard from women. If men want to “fool around” before marriage then they are just using women. If men don’t want to “fool around” before marriage, then they are gay.
My grandma married a non catholic this was over 100 years ago. Well growing up they were a happy couple. My grandma had two children, one my mom. Grandma raised the two in the church. Grandpa one Sunday decided to go with Grandma to Holy Mass. He liked the peace he felt there. So he went with my grandma for 15 years to Holy Mass. One Sunday Father who liked both my grandparents went up to my grandpa and said, "Floyd, I noticed you come to Mass every Sunday but you don't receive Holy Communion, why?" Grandpa said, "because I'm not Catholic." The priest was surprised, he asked "why aren't you Catholic?" Grandpa said, "Because no one asked me." The Priest smiled and asked, "Floyd, would you like to be Catholic?" My grandpa said, "Yes." They were married happily, until my grandpa died. My grandma then at age 86yr. married and widower he 96yrs. He loved my grandma's kindness, as she was very kind. Turned out they weren't married long. Do to an illness he had to go into a home. Grandma visited him everyday and took care of him. She invited a priest over to visit with him. Found out he was never baptized. So the priest baptized him in his sick bed. The priest said, "Orlo do you know right now your as innocent as a new born baptized at 96yrs old." Orlo was was overwhelmed happy smiling. He passed away 6 months later. Grandma has passed away too. I asked her what she did to get them to do that. She said nothing, I just went to Church and lived my faith. I didn't preach to them. She in her quiet kindness and love brought two to the Church, that we know.
I married a baptized Protestant when I was in a period of time in the Protestant church. However, our marriage was bathed in prayer and I fully believe that God isn’t surprised by anything. Last year when I returned to the Catholic church, we had our children baptized and a marriage con-validation. The mix has actually deepened faith for both of us, and I get emotional thinking about how much our marriage has sanctified us. I’m lucky that he comes to mass and supports raising our kids in the faith. THIS openness is crucial in a mixed faith relationship.
@@jakec947 yes and no. He came from an extremely sola scriptura fundamentalist background, so the language took a long time to work through. It has taken many a long conversation to break communication barriers and get to core beliefs
@@jakec947 my Baptist ex divorced me because I came back to the Catholic Church. She said things like "the Catholic Church is a cult" and worse. So, yeah. Huge differences potentially.
I was a Protestant. My wife cradle Catholic. It took some years but I warn you lol read all the Scott Hahn, Brant Pitre, Steve Ray, Tim Staples and other super star theologians books. They will get you thinking. I wrestled with the truth for a long time. Since entering the church in 2019. Could use all the prayers I could get. God calls the the chosen home. Don’t ever give up :) sending my love and prayers out to those who need some encouragement today! Nunc Coepi All Glory to Jesus Christ!
@@MrTheclevercat Oh, really? Goodness gracious! - I'm sorry; we silly Catholics are not very adept at detecting sarcasm. The incessant stream of intellectual tradition, Greco-Roman letters, and scholastic prowess has hopelessly enfeebled our already fatuous minds.
I appreciate how Father is so kind but pulls no punches. I converted to Catholicism 18 years ago and married my non-Catholic boyfriend eight months later. A couple of years ago, our oldest daughter came home upset from religious education because the teacher spoke against mixed marriage and she felt that her family was being criticized, but I said no, your teacher is right, a mixed marriage may work well in many respects but it leaves a deep loneliness at the center of your being because the person you love doesn't want to share the most important part of your life. I hang on to both the marriage and the Faith through sheer stubbornness. Well, a good non-Catholic husband beats a bad Catholic one, I suppose.
You write, "it leaves a deep loneliness at the center of your being because the person you love doesn't want to share the most important part of your life." I feel that so much with my non-Catholic boyfriend of 15 months. I love him, and he's head-over-heels for me, but it just hurts my heart so much!
@@jellojenna6 The luster of being newly in love kind of hides all the cracks so you don't even realize that the cracks are chasms. For 18 years I've waited for a conversion that never came. You have to consider that this is a real possibility.
Fr. Pine, My heart goes out to you and your family as you grieve the loss of you mom. It will be a year since I lost my dad next month. I think about him all the time. I will continue to pray for the repose of your mothers soul, as well as, your family at this time. Eternal rest grant unto her, O Lord. And let perpetual light shine upon her. May she rest in peace. Amen.
My parents are one is Catholic the other Methodist (but super practicing on both ends) I've seen and felt the division and personally for me and my married into family I want us to both me of Catholic and hopefully tlm mass goers. Pray the rosary as a family, be on the same page on all big issues etc. Deep down I know I've wanted this so much since I was little. I pray I can meet him soon. Having a mixed faith family isn't for me. It's already difficult with one faith let alone two. Thank you Fr. for addressing it!^_^❤
I am Catholic and married a non-catholic, at that time. We are scheduling our marriage into the Church. God answered prayers and brought my wife into the Church.
Amazingly joyful even in this evil generation, I have hope that you will embrace Jesus and His one holy catholic apostolic Church : truly inseparable! Thanks be to God you are baptized! Still, come to complete Christianity which is Catholicism - the science of saving souls to make you a saint with your full cooperation! "Memorare" offered for you on the 24th Sunday of Ordinary Time September 17, 2023
How soo beautiful the words your sister said to your mother..God rest her soul🙏My condolences to you dearest Father,thank you and all Holy priests that are there for us🙏💖
I look at my parents as an example, my mom was a practicing Catholic, my dad was non-religious at all. My mom went away from the Church before I was born and after going back to the church for a period of time, went away again. Other reasons were an impetus for it, but I can't help having a non-religious spouse helped and what difference a Catholic spouse would have played. Also me and my siblings grew up in a non-religious secular household, I converted in college, and my siblings still have no religious identification. Catholics should marry other Catholics
i’m converting to Catholicism and my boyfriend is a cradle Catholic and i’m grateful for him indirectly bringing me home. there’s no way i could be okay with getting married if we’re not united in faith. i’ve always believed in God, but i was tired of being a lukewarm Christian. now that i’m learning about the Church and all that it teaches, i’m just eternally indebted to him. Thanks be to God🙏🏽
My girlfriend is born and raised Muslim. My discussions with her has grown my faith in Christ exponentially but I still love her deeply. We plan on getting married next year. I do my best to show my girlfriend through my actions what a good follower of Christ is. She has agreed to raise all our children as Catholics and attend Sunday Mass every weekend . Where does a person in my situation stand?
@Richard Montgomery my girlfriend is from Istanbul so she’s more open minded than other Muslim women. Also it’s not written in Quran explicitly, only in sharia law.
Yes. They can!! However, it is not a good idea. From bitter experience, you will find an immovable object in the way as you live your married life. Bringing up children, teaching morality and about God. The differences are insurmountable. Don't do it!!! Life is hard enough. You need your spouse on the same page, especially in the fundamental things. Souls are at stake.
I'd say it depends on the type of non Catholic Christian. Some Christians are more Catholic than some 'Catholics' that are so in name but not practice.
@@leekflower1 by god sake, If you do not follow the word of Christ, our church, what she teaches, well, you are not Catholic, I do not know "good Christians" I only know Catholic Christians, the clear answer is No! They can't get married unless the couple becomes Catholic....it's a serious mistake to marry someone who isn't a convert, most Catholics really aren't....but who am I to judge? .
@@tomasparriles6440 we have a shared baptism with protestants. You will see many in heaven and there will be lots of 'catholics' in hell. And I would say the reverse is also true that could be said in protestant circles. Only God judges our eternal destination.
@@leekflower1 baptism? For the love of God, we don't share anything with those people, they baptize in the name of the God that they have made for themselves, if it bothers you that a Catholic tells you something about our own faith, I think you should reconsider your position, baptism? and the rest of the sacraments? whoever eats and drinks will have eternal life ..... confession? marriage? ect... ect... decision making... if they are good why don't they take our faith?... after all, it wasn't the apostles who founded the church, it was Christ, but I understand. ......who is good? no one....
Biggest hurdle for me and my non Catholic wife is contraception and wanting more kids. It is still something we are trying to figure out today after almost 10 years of marriage.
My husband was not Catholic, and he converted after 13 yrs of marriage. He was a devout Protestant. That was a big road block or speed bump...so people really need to take this into consideration. I was not as devout as I thought but after he converted, he helped our family grew in our faith by leaps and bounds, now all daughter would not marry a non Catholic, specifically a devout Catholic, not in name in only.
Hello Diana, I am a devout Catholic currently engaged to a Protestant pastor. Never in a million years did I believe this would happen. I have been waiting faithfully for a spouse for 7 years, since coming back to the faith after having a daughter out of wedlock. I did my best to only date Catholics but nothing ever worked out. I feel so drawn to my fiancée’s love for Christ and his heart for others. I am devastated that he does not have any interest in converting at this time and seems to be moving even further into his own church. On top of this he most likely is unable to have more children, which is devastating to me, but I am 37 and my options are not good either way. I deeply love this person, but I am seeking some kind of guidance from someone who has been through it. Can you have a good marriage in this circumstance? Am I being tested in some horrible way? Should I be alone for the rest of my life rather than marry a devout Protestant?
Yeah my trouble is my wife and i were both baptized methodists, got married in a Methodist church. Now ive converted to catholicism and she absolutely refuses to allow me to raise the kids catholic. Im doing it anyway but its a weekly fight, its damaged my marriage so much but helped our family life in many many ways. Im a better dad, more disciplined, i curse way less, drink way less, eat way less, and study and talk about faith all day every day. She misses the nominal methodist version of me and wishes id go back. I wish shed get serious about her faith but i cant demand anything of her. She probably never wouldve married me if she knew one day id be a marry worshipper. Lol. Pray for me, im only 1 year into conversion
Praying for your brother, I'm a practicing Catholic. I am trying to decern marriage with a non-catholic Christian and was talking to my decon and he said that keeping the marriage together would be the most important thing so praying for you.
@@dylanb6005 Amen! I think the church uses men like us to reach them. My priest said there are blessings that she has now because of my conversion. My wife still rolls her eyes everytime i bring up the church but shes nowhere near as negative towards it now. Im two years in and much happier, less sinful, and she recognizes that. Also she’ll move heaven and earth for me so i dont miss mass. I have to say i see some hope there. Blessings to you as well, ill pray for your situation too buddy.
My husband and I are of different races, but we are both Catholic, so I never considered our marriage as "mixed." I am glad you said a mixed marriage is between a baptized non-Catholic and a Catholic.
@@musicboi3530 We never argue about important things which are religion and values so I lucked out. Marrying someone of my race but with different values and religion would have caused problems. So I don't agree.
I married a non-Catholic on 1975. Still happily married. He is a Christian, (sort of) but I did not and would not push him to convert to Catholicism. You have to explain before you get married about all the Catholic traditions and rules, i.e. getting married in a Catholic church, bringing children up in the Church, Baptised, First Holy Communion, Confirmation etc. No negotiation. My husband was very supportive and was included in all the celebrations and traditions. I am very lucky, but some Catholic friends of mine haven't been. Such a pity.
@@mitchell5134 he was christened Anglican, then his family changed to Presbyterian. He doesn't go to his church now but takes part in any religious events at our family's Catholic church. So he's ' technically Christian but doesn't practise it. Although I sometimes think he's more of a Christian than many people who spend their time going to church most of the time. He is so good hearted and will help anyone who is in trouble, be it changing someone's car tyre to inviting people to supper if he feels they are lonely.
CAn you make a video on being single and struggling with insecurity, bitterness, and lonliness? Since I was a kid I wanted to get married like my parents, and be a housewife and mom, but so far, God has not blessed me, and I don't know why, truly.
Offer up your struggles to Jesus as a penance. Pray to be able to love Him more and accept the suffering and have interior peace. Possibly your vocation is to be single. Pray the rosary. God Bless
I hear you!! I messaged you a few minutes ago. If you like we can talk sometime (no pressure) as I feel very much like you do. The one consolation is that our highest relationship is in Jesus Christ, so even when single we are already in a sense with our greatest love. Though I know that’s not always so consoling when seeing siblings with their babies and friends babies. Blessings sister 🙏🏼
@@supercoop9613 ---That's true to offer up suffereings as a penance. Yikes, hearing that I might have a vocation to be single is not what I wanna hear. lol. But you're not wrong.
@@catholicfemininity2126 Pray to accept whatever God has planned for you. Have faith and trust Him. He will have something awesome planned. I pray everyday to love Him more and more. The more you truly love Him the less lonely you'll feel. God Bless 🙏🙏
Last that should be mentioned. A Catholic person may live, (after divorce) together in a civil marriage. Without annulment. So long as no sex is involved. But the Catholic individual must get permission from the Bishop. Living together like brother & sister. This works in most cases for old people. And that person may receive the Sacraments, confession, holy communion.
My dad was a methodist and my mom was a Catholic which makes me a produce of a mixed marriage. Thanks be to God that all of us children were raised Catholic! My parents ended up in divorce and my mom never remarried. Today we all discourage our children from mixed marriages, the non-Catholic must convert to the Church if marriage is to take place or remain as friends only.
I am interested in what you (and others here) think of marrying a non-practicing buddhist. I guess to put it shortly, she is perfect for me in every way...except not Catholic. I've talked to her about all the rules (no sex before marriage, no contraception, NFP, raising children catholic, Mass every sunday) and she is completely on board. But just isnt Catholic herself. It's very tough. We broke up 6 months ago over this, but we still text and think about getting back together. Any input/stories are welcome.
I do not think it is God's will that any child of God gets married to a non-child of God. I get this idea from verses like 2 Corinthians 6:14. While this situation is not easy to handle, I believe we can trust that God wants what is best for us, and commands like this are really for our good.
@step. My cousin is a staunch Buddhist who married a born Catholic. After 20 years of marriage, she converted even though at the time of marriage both promised to raise their kids as Catholics. They have no kids despite being found to be fertile. Nothing medically or clinically wrong. Tried all ways, both no children. I can't help wonder why. My own experience on this mix marriage issue is whichever spouse is stronger in the faith will prevail and end up converting the other. In my country, Catholics form 5% and all Protestants I totally form about 10% of the population. Mix marriages are unavoidable. I would encourage you to be stronger one, no need to impose but firm in religious matters in your family.
Oh I wouldn’t do it. Marriage is hard enough without that wrench in the way. Join online Catholic communities to look for a Catholic spouse. Visit different churches. Look for a good Catholic woman. You separating seems to be a gift from God.
Pray hard that the Lord gives her the grace to convert into Catholicism! If you're having issues now you'll have even more later! Seek first to do the will of God not yours. Go's bless!
My baptismal godmother is a Croat Catholic like me, but she married an Englishman, Methodist, in the Catholic ceremony and lives in England. She raises her children Catholic and her husband comes to Mass with them.
What if you were both non-baptised and got married, then baptised protestant, then converted to Catholicism? Would you need to get remarried within the Catholic Church?
I believe you would need your marriage to be convalidated, so that your children can be baptized in the faith. The Catholic Church does not recognize civil marriages as real marriages..
I was a fallen away Catholic for a long, long time. I was "more Spiritual than religious" and sort of vaguely a believer. I married a Baptist lady outside of the Church. After we conceived a child, I came back to the Church. I wanted our marriage convalidated. Long story short, she divorced me because of it.
My wife and I were married as Baptists and recently converted to the Catholic Church. I was convinced of the need to convert way before she was so I guess you can call that evangemarried
Can someone explain what he means at 5:30 in the video? It sounds like if you cheat on your wife you do not have to share that with her as long as you repent and make an effort not to do it again? To admit it to her would only make her suffer, it sounds
I think you are spot on but am in deep disagreement about one not needing to reveal lack of faithfulness in a marriage to their partner. I’m sorry but that simply isn’t correct. A person must be totally honest about this to their spouse and a lack of doing so is an injustice. You are withholding a truth from that person whereupon the foundation of the marriage is based on.
Faith is a really good indicator that a spouse will stick to their vows no matter what. It's why even atheists value faith in a person when they see it. Means you can trust them not to change their minds and rationalize their way out of promises.
I was surprised when I heard that also, especially since he seems like such a straight-and-narrow priest. Had to replay it several times to make sure I heard correctly. Would have love to hear him (or anyone else) expound or comment on that
Pretty similar to the Orthodox position, however we are a little more prescriptive with the baptism and therefore groups as it needs to have been done in the name of the All Holy Trinity. So in short Catholic, Lutheran, Anglican and a few others are accepted, unfortunately there are too many Protestant groups that call themselves “Christian” to safely include all of them.
I am a Catholic woman looking to meet a Christian man who practices the faith. He doesn’t have to be Catholic himself (though would be nice). Are there any good dating apps people would recommend here?
I don't know any apps, so I can't speak to that. My advice would be this; Accept that you may have the vocation of being single, and that is okay, you can lead a blessed life and do much for God's kingdom that you can't do as a married woman. If you are to get married, do not marry a non Catholic, unless you are willing to have a deep conversation and possibly convert. I love my Catholic sisters, but I am an incredibly devout Lutheran, and there is a lot of Catholic doctrine I fundamentally disagree with, and I want to raise my children in the Truth as a Lutheran. A divided household is an absolutely atrocious idea. As such, I could not marry a Catholic woman unless she were willing to convert to Lutheranism, and I would of course back my beliefs with sound doctrine and good reason. Seek a Catholic husband, be willing to become protestant, or be alright with not marrying at all. The only reason I say that he shouldn't become Catholic is that I believe the woman should honor her husband and be willing to submit to his spiritual leadership, and only if he is of course a very devout, practicing Christian. You may likely disagree, but those are my inputs. God bless you, I pray you find a good and devout husband, strong in the faith.
@@davidthompson5020 thank you David for your message and heartfelt advice from the Lord!! For me my relationship with God is more important than getting married ultimately. And if that’s true then I really should find a man who is Christian. I feel I can’t afford to be so picky about the denomination, if not Catholic then that’s ok but I do want our household to be one denomination so I could convert. Thanks for giving your thoughts again. Warm regards from Spain
The real question is, is if your future spouse is a Christian who puts their faith and trust in Jesus, -and that Jesus is their savior AND Lord over their life. That is what it means by "equally yolked", you don't have to be the same denomination, but the foundation needs to be the same.
I'm a non-Catholic Christian, but am considering Catholicism. My girlfriend is neither. She's more of a mystical "everything goes" type of person (perrenialist?) who believes in a higher power. Based on that info, could this result in a blessed marriage? According to the Catholic church, when or for what reasons might this be? I'm afraid the video wasn't direct enough for me🙈
Absolutely avoid this marriage at all costs, she would lead you into sin, or away from the faith which would be worse. Unless she converts and becomes a devout Bible believing Christian before you get married please do not make the mistake of marrying her. Don't follow your desire for marriage to the point you make unwise decisions.
Reminds me of my friend, she converted to the Catholic church, but her bf wasn't on the same page, a few months later they broke up. She wanted someone strong in her faith, not someone to put her at risk of losing it.
As an atheist, I say no. She seems to be an agnostic who can promise only to constantly recalculate whatever seems right to her at the moment. She won't *permanently* make up her mind, about you or anything else.
Generally it is a good idea to only marry Catholics, not just Catholics but real practicing Catholics who go to Church weekly, believe abortion and contraception are evil, believe that sex is to remain in the confines of marriage etc. I read an article somewhere that if you marry a non-Catholic, the non-Catholic spouse can serve as an anti-witness to your children and that I believe is a great point
I haven’t heard your argument yet, and even though after two years being subbed to this channel I have rarely if ever disagreed with you, but based solely on your intro disclaimer, as a Catholic married to an atheist, I’m just going to guess, you’re wrong. lol. 😆 [after watching the vid, this was great, very well said, very on point. Great job once again.]
Matt Frad, almost always wrong or in slight error. The monk dudes, almost always correct and never speak error. More monk dudes. Content request, just an hour of the monks gently correcting and tempering Matt’s opinions. Over pints.
Thank you for this wonderful and informative video as always Father! I have one question if I may, Father said in the video that if one spouse were to be unfaithful they should repent but not too necessary to tell the spouse due to the hurt it would cause. I appreciate what he is saying and I can understand but what if the spouse just felt so guilty for infidelity that they felt it was wrong to hide it. Would it be recommended by the Church that they really should just keep quiet regardless? Thanks.
So a lie by omission is being put firth as ok? If the other spouse finds out without the unfaithful spouse telling them will cause more damage than just keeping quiet. It becomes a bigger breach of trust than just the infidelity.
My antennas were raised when I heard that also. I did not expect that answer, although I understand it. If revealing infidelity to your spouse is just to resolve your guilty conscience, then that can be seen as selfish and if you truly intend to change your ways and have confessed to God, then the end result will just be the irrecoverable pain and damage to your spouse (assuming they don't find out otherwise). As far as the church's stance, I've heard pastoral advice to the contrary which makes all this confusing. I'm wondering if anyone else can expound or comment on this comment at 5:30 in the video
There is no way God would say "don't worry about telling them, just be better." The only time someone would ever really say that would be to justify their own cowardice at facing the spouse which they betrayed. Anyone who would be okay with doing that is a sociopath.
This is so confusing, can someone explain please? life in non-sacramental marriage is a sin so why does the Catholic Church allows it? if I marry an unbaptized man, will I live in sin?
No. A non sacramental marriage isn't sinful. A non sacramental union/marriage is a natural marriage. Marriage is first a “natural institution,” that is, it is established by God as a good in creation, endowing it with its own proper laws. Whether baptized or not, one is able to enter into a true, valid marital relationship as God designed it to be between one man and one woman. Since baptism is the gateway to the sacraments and is necessary for the valid reception of the other sacraments, it is necessary that both in a marriage be baptized in order for their valid natural marriage to be also a sacrament of the Church.
Thank you for your answer Eshita. I understand baptism is necessary in order to receive other sacraments that’s why I thought this kind of marriage is unilaterally sacramental, but I understand that is not a case?
If only one party is baptized in a marriage, it's not a sacramental marriage. However, it's not a sin, because you're in a marital union according to the natural law that God created. A sacramental marriage shows that the marriage is not just a human institution, but a participation in the covenant of Christ and His Church by both parties being baptized. And with this participation, we help our future spouse to grow in the faith. And it's our responsibility as followers of Christ to help our unbaptized loved ones to know the Truth, i.e Christ. When the non baptized is baptized later, the marriage is considered sacramental. Hope I helped.
Father Gregory, could you explain a bit more about non sacramental/ natural marriage please? Well I guess it doesn't really matter anymore for me but I'd like to know what type of marriage I had!? 😨 My husband died last year in a tragic road accident 😢 he was not baptised/ not religious and we married in the Catholic Church (I'm Catholic) we got some permissions/dispense from my parish priest but now I want to know if my marriage was even valid/real? 😢 thank you father, God bless!
@@leekflower1 I agree, But I will say that if someone goes through the process of converting than I would imagine they believe it is important enough to honestly go the spiritual and sacrificial steps necessary. Most people who want a church wedding and don't believe will just use an Anglican or other Christian Church that doesn't have these requirements.
What if it is between a catholic and a batized non religious? (Like atheist or agnostic, are they considered christians or are they considered non batized people?)
I marry a protestant girl , it didn't work out , race , sex , Religion does matter. The removal of , Love , honor and obey from the marriage vow , didn't make a woman a man's equal , it removed a man's place from the marriage and family . No fault divorce was the same as Marking null and void , "Untill death do us part."
Answer is no. Edit: not to marry a non catholic. Later in marriage it will become apparent, the wedge that is created by not both being Catholic. That happened to my marriage of over 20 yrs. Thinking about how your mom was able to instill her beliefs to her children is beautiful.
My mother us Catholic my father a baptized and confirmed Lutheran. I went to mass regularly with my grandparents. I learned more of the Bible from my non church going dad than I ever did from Mas or Catholic school. I learned more of the catechism from my mother than any religious formation classes provided by the church. I believe a mixed marriage can work, but it does say in the epistles to not be unequally yoked. It's not easy. I refused confirmation because I have many reservations about Rome and many traditions of the church. Yes I have discussed with my family and a priest many times.
If the Protestant went to any denomination that has their church on the Catholic (sabbath) Sunday I think there would not be much difference. But if it was a denomination like SDA that go to Church on the Sabbath of the Bible there might be conflict of faith. I was raised Pentecostal until my mom and two uncles became SDA after a few years and listened to sermons from both churches I read the Bible and discovered that the Sabbath was the 7th Day after checking the calendar I also discovered that Sunday was NOT the 7th day SO my 11 year old brain realized that Sunday was not the Sabbath of the Bible. If a preteen boy can figure that out why are so many people attending Church on the wrong day? I know why I go on Sunday it’s because my wife won’t go at all if we go to any church except Freewill Baptist. Her dad was a FWB Pastor. Knew that when I married her so it is what it is. We attend FWB even if they worship on the Catholic “sabbath”. FWB & SDA not much difference except the 1st day Sunday Services vs the 7th day Saturday Services of the SDA AND the unhealthy diets of the FWB. I don’t think eating a pig is a sin but knowing what that animal eats I find the idea of PORK revolting!
My girlfriend is Catholic; I'm atheist. She'd stopped attending church a long time before we met, and ironically it's me encouraging her. It's important to me that she has "her thing" I believe silly but I totally support. That's tolerance. And it's an expression of unconditional love. I believe it'll work out fine.
I'm sorry to hear that your wife feels that way. It sounds like she is not respecting your feelings towards religion or your faith. Do what your heart tells you to do. If that means to follow god, then do so. No one should stand in your way.
Mike Irish -. They CAN if a Catholic priest is present. But the orthodox are too bitter and usually don’t allow their spouse to invite a Catholic priest to the wedding.
I would think it would be best to stay in our faith! Less problems unless one converts sincerely! Interfaith marriages can work though! I am catholic and never wanted to marry a non catholic!
@@brittoncain5090 And when your spouse tries to raise them to be non-Catholic, you have introduced division and conflict into your home, hence why the Church has always taught pre-Vatican II that Catholics can only marry Catholics
@@pong9000 No. Not everyone is called to the sacramental life of marriage. That doesn't mean you can't get married and try to have children, or cannot adopt one, but until you commit to raising a child, you are not truly married.
@@RealAugustusAutumn My girlfriend is past menopause. We both actively care for our own extended families, and our purpose in marrying is to do more for the others'. This would make lending a room to her collage-aged niece, or her changing grandma's diapers, less awkward - for example. I guess you're realizing that marriage can do more than isolate couples into nuclear families.
@@brittoncain5090 the apostle Paul used to say, in simple words, everything is allowed, but not everything is beneficial...so, it's up to you, friend.you can do whatever you want...does it suit you as a catholic?...
The obvious answer should be that the wife should follow her husband. If he's protestant, she should follow him there. If he's Catholic, she should follow him there. If not, they should just stay apart. All this marry but make sure your children are Catholic is just a bad idea, in my opinion. I am almost sure it won't ever work. I mean, it's not like you're stopping to follow Christ. You can do well as a Christian as Catholic or Protestant if you really want to. All these emotional reactions to things these days just bore me. In my opinion, better marry a good protestant than a bad Catholic and vice versa. And if you're a lady, in my opinion, just follow the man, love Christ, and be happy.
Should a guy marry a non-Catholic woman? Depends. Can she cook? Should he only marry a Catholic woman? Same question. Let's get our priorities straight. 😇
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As a protestant who was baptized by immersion, I found St Thomas' example interesting (7:30). I used to say (in jest) I don't know what to think of paedobaptism, but I definitely believe in baptism by immersion, however I've since heard some Orthodox people fully dunk babies.
My dad was Catholic and mom a Methodist. They were married for 61 years. When they married, they were not allowed to marry inside of the church but had to get married in the rectory. Mom always wanted to covert to Catholicism. My dad did not live to see it, but she became Catholic last year at the age of 91. 🙏
Beautiful! I believe he lives and sees it in love.
Blessed be God ❤
I must say and warn those discerning. I married a non believer. It was fine at first. Always went to mass with us when daughters were little. When they became teenagers, he stopped attending. They did too. Now, I not only pray for his conversion, but that if our 2 daughters! It’s so difficult without the support and prayers if a spous. He is committed to me but as my faith has deepened, I feel alone and it’s definitely a cross I bear. So know that only God can help.
That is a difficult situation to feel alone like that. Jesus loves you. Praying for you and your family.
I think 1 Corinthians7 v12-17 might help.
Very difficult, my situation also
Ask St. Monica for intercession, God bless you
Prayers for you, this is why I'm still single. So many guys of other faiths want to date me, very rarely do I come across a strong Catholic man... it's painful, but I'd rather be single than go through what you're going through. God bless you for not giving up, I pray God converts your kids and husband soon.
I was in a Mix marriage. My husband was born a Hindu but he wasn't religious and I was a non practicing (stopped going to church after the age of 20) cradle Catholic. My mother wanted us to get married in the church but I refused that my husband should convert just to get married to me. So we had a civil marriage. When I got pregnant we both felt the need to live our life according to the truth and true values so our son will be raised in the truth. We found our way back to the church individually. We ended up baptizing our son when he was 2 and this Easter my husband got baptized, had his first communion and confirmation. We had our marriage convalidated too! Now we're a happy and faithful little Catholic Family. I am so grateful that my husband became a Catholic for his love of Christ. His love for Jesus brought me back to the church and value the true presence of the Eucharist. All glory to Lord Jesus Christ, for His continuous Mercy, Love and Grace. 🙏🏽
That’s great that your husband found Jesus, and that your family all has a legitimate love for Him.
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That's beautiful.
I sort of had the opposite happen. I came back to the Church after we conceived our daughter 8 years ago. I wanted to get our marriage convalidated at that time. She then divorced me because of this.
@@DavidMatias79 I’m sorry to hear that brother, how are things holding up now?
@David M Did she really do that? She didn't want to spend the rest of her life with you? That's evil bro
I was in a mixed marriage. My wife converted 1 year ago this July. Thank you Jesus, praise be to God. And thank you to Our Lady of Fatima for her prayers.
Fatima does nothing. It's God .
@@witchhunter8489 Hmmm, I don't recall saying Fatima did anything? But I did thank Our Lady for her prayers to our Lord. Kind of like thanking someone for praying for you in a time of need. I believe I did thank Jesus and offer praise to God alone.
Maybe my wording was wrong, or confusing in the parent comment.
My wife started her Journey from Methodist to Catholic after reading a book about Fatima. God's Grace flowed through this miracle from God and moved my wife. My wife was stirred by the Holy Spirit. I asked Our Lady of Fatima to pray for my wife's conversion. It seemed fitting to thank our Mother for her prayers since my wife did in fact convert. All praise and glory be to God. Salve Regina.
@@wootamatron1 no one in the Bible prayed to mary, the apostles were clear in their letter whom to pray.
How to weed out the bad potential mates: Just tell them you are committed to not having sex before marriage. They will soon depart if their intentions are less than honorable
This will weed out some people but not everyone unfortunately. You have to really be brave and discerning, and prayerful in a relationship.
There are some sickos out there that find this to be a challenge, and wanna see how far they can push the girl into going against her values....
@@catholicfemininity2126 do you think that having a strong relationship with God can help with discernment when it comes to avoiding sick men like that? I suppose it’s a bit of a rhetorical question as yes of course that is one of the fruits of our relationship with God. But just wondering if perhaps you have any thoughts you might be gracious enough to share? Thanks 😊
Absolutely agree 💯 my husband was Protestant and he was the only guy that wanted the same thing. Sadly the Catholic men I met were not devout and the examples of my brothers didn't have this moral virtue.
@@catholicfemininity2126 it’s not just men who do this. I was questioned by a “devout Catholic” woman that I dated if I was gay because I was trying to be chasted before marriage. I tried to keep us from “fooling around”. It’s a double standard from women. If men want to “fool around” before marriage then they are just using women. If men don’t want to “fool around” before marriage, then they are gay.
My grandma married a non catholic this was over 100 years ago. Well growing up they were a happy couple. My grandma had two children, one my mom. Grandma raised the two in the church. Grandpa one Sunday decided to go with Grandma to Holy Mass. He liked the peace he felt there. So he went with my grandma for 15 years to Holy Mass. One Sunday Father who liked both my grandparents went up to my grandpa and said, "Floyd, I noticed you come to Mass every Sunday but you don't receive Holy Communion, why?" Grandpa said, "because I'm not Catholic." The priest was surprised, he asked "why aren't you Catholic?" Grandpa said, "Because no one asked me." The Priest smiled and asked, "Floyd, would you like to be Catholic?" My grandpa said, "Yes."
They were married happily, until my grandpa died.
My grandma then at age 86yr. married and widower he 96yrs. He loved my grandma's kindness, as she was very kind. Turned out they weren't married long. Do to an illness he had to go into a home. Grandma visited him everyday and took care of him. She invited a priest over to visit with him. Found out he was never baptized. So the priest baptized him in his sick bed. The priest said, "Orlo do you know right now your as innocent as a new born baptized at 96yrs old." Orlo was was overwhelmed happy smiling. He passed away 6 months later. Grandma has passed away too. I asked her what she did to get them to do that. She said nothing, I just went to Church and lived my faith. I didn't preach to them. She in her quiet kindness and love brought two to the Church, that we know.
I married a baptized Protestant when I was in a period of time in the Protestant church. However, our marriage was bathed in prayer and I fully believe that God isn’t surprised by anything. Last year when I returned to the Catholic church, we had our children baptized and a marriage con-validation. The mix has actually deepened faith for both of us, and I get emotional thinking about how much our marriage has sanctified us. I’m lucky that he comes to mass and supports raising our kids in the faith. THIS openness is crucial in a mixed faith relationship.
Is it really a mixed faith relationship? I mean, the core beliefs are the same.
@@jakec947 yes and no. He came from an extremely sola scriptura fundamentalist background, so the language took a long time to work through. It has taken many a long conversation to break communication barriers and get to core beliefs
You are very lucky indeed.
@@jakec947 my Baptist ex divorced me because I came back to the Catholic Church. She said things like "the Catholic Church is a cult" and worse. So, yeah. Huge differences potentially.
I was a Protestant. My wife cradle Catholic. It took some years but I warn you lol read all the Scott Hahn, Brant Pitre, Steve Ray, Tim Staples and other super star theologians books. They will get you thinking. I wrestled with the truth for a long time. Since entering the church in 2019. Could use all the prayers I could get. God calls the the chosen home. Don’t ever give up :) sending my love and prayers out to those who need some encouragement today! Nunc Coepi
All Glory to Jesus Christ!
As a child of a mixed religion household, no. The child suffers, they can see and feel the divide and get left in limbo and without faith..
Yep. My dad's family was Catholic, my mom's was Baptist. I became agnostic for years. Thank God I was eventually led back to the Church.
@@MrTheclevercat Exactly. I couldn't have said it better myself!
@@MrTheclevercat Oh, really? Goodness gracious! - I'm sorry; we silly Catholics are not very adept at detecting sarcasm. The incessant stream of intellectual tradition, Greco-Roman letters, and scholastic prowess has hopelessly enfeebled our already fatuous minds.
I appreciate how Father is so kind but pulls no punches. I converted to Catholicism 18 years ago and married my non-Catholic boyfriend eight months later. A couple of years ago, our oldest daughter came home upset from religious education because the teacher spoke against mixed marriage and she felt that her family was being criticized, but I said no, your teacher is right, a mixed marriage may work well in many respects but it leaves a deep loneliness at the center of your being because the person you love doesn't want to share the most important part of your life. I hang on to both the marriage and the Faith through sheer stubbornness. Well, a good non-Catholic husband beats a bad Catholic one, I suppose.
You write, "it leaves a deep loneliness at the center of your being because the person you love doesn't want to share the most important part of your life." I feel that so much with my non-Catholic boyfriend of 15 months. I love him, and he's head-over-heels for me, but it just hurts my heart so much!
@@jellojenna6 The luster of being newly in love kind of hides all the cracks so you don't even realize that the cracks are chasms. For 18 years I've waited for a conversion that never came. You have to consider that this is a real possibility.
My condolences. May your mother rest in eternal peace. Beautiful information. Thank you Father.
Fr. Pine,
My heart goes out to you and your family as you grieve the loss of you mom. It will be a year since I lost my dad next month. I think about him all the time. I will continue to pray for the repose of your mothers soul, as well as, your family at this time.
Eternal rest grant unto her, O Lord. And let perpetual light shine upon her. May she rest in peace. Amen.
My parents are one is Catholic the other Methodist (but super practicing on both ends) I've seen and felt the division and personally for me and my married into family I want us to both me of Catholic and hopefully tlm mass goers. Pray the rosary as a family, be on the same page on all big issues etc. Deep down I know I've wanted this so much since I was little. I pray I can meet him soon. Having a mixed faith family isn't for me. It's already difficult with one faith let alone two. Thank you Fr. for addressing it!^_^❤
I am Catholic and married a non-catholic, at that time. We are scheduling our marriage into the Church. God answered prayers and brought my wife into the Church.
My wife was not catholic when we got married in the catholic church and now 13 years later and my wife is now catholic.
I’m Protestant (reformed) but I still like to watch all of these videos to learn more about Catholicism just because of some catholic friends I have
Amazingly joyful even in this evil generation, I have hope that you will embrace Jesus and His one holy catholic apostolic Church : truly inseparable! Thanks be to God you are baptized! Still, come to complete Christianity which is Catholicism - the science of saving souls to make you a saint with your full cooperation!
"Memorare" offered for you on the 24th Sunday of Ordinary Time September 17, 2023
How soo beautiful the words your sister said to your mother..God rest her soul🙏My condolences to you dearest Father,thank you and all Holy priests that are there for us🙏💖
I look at my parents as an example, my mom was a practicing Catholic, my dad was non-religious at all. My mom went away from the Church before I was born and after going back to the church for a period of time, went away again. Other reasons were an impetus for it, but I can't help having a non-religious spouse helped and what difference a Catholic spouse would have played. Also me and my siblings grew up in a non-religious secular household, I converted in college, and my siblings still have no religious identification. Catholics should marry other Catholics
i’m converting to Catholicism and my boyfriend is a cradle Catholic and i’m grateful for him indirectly bringing me home. there’s no way i could be okay with getting married if we’re not united in faith. i’ve always believed in God, but i was tired of being a lukewarm Christian. now that i’m learning about the Church and all that it teaches, i’m just eternally indebted to him. Thanks be to God🙏🏽
My girlfriend is born and raised Muslim. My discussions with her has grown my faith in Christ exponentially but I still love her deeply. We plan on getting married next year. I do my best to show my girlfriend through my actions what a good follower of Christ is. She has agreed to raise all our children as Catholics and attend Sunday Mass every weekend . Where does a person in my situation stand?
Nice name for somebody dating a Muslim
@@jeremydavie4484 I am fond of history
You are catholic? Really?....
@@tomasparriles6440 What makes you think he isn't?
@Richard Montgomery my girlfriend is from Istanbul so she’s more open minded than other Muslim women. Also it’s not written in Quran explicitly, only in sharia law.
Yes. They can!! However, it is not a good idea. From bitter experience, you will find an immovable object in the way as you live your married life. Bringing up children, teaching morality and about God. The differences are insurmountable. Don't do it!!! Life is hard enough. You need your spouse on the same page, especially in the fundamental things. Souls are at stake.
I'd say it depends on the type of non Catholic Christian. Some Christians are more Catholic than some 'Catholics' that are so in name but not practice.
@@leekflower1 by god sake, If you do not follow the word of Christ, our church, what she teaches, well, you are not Catholic, I do not know "good Christians" I only know Catholic Christians, the clear answer is No! They can't get married unless the couple becomes Catholic....it's a serious mistake to marry someone who isn't a convert, most Catholics really aren't....but who am I to judge? .
@@tomasparriles6440 we have a shared baptism with protestants. You will see many in heaven and there will be lots of 'catholics' in hell. And I would say the reverse is also true that could be said in protestant circles. Only God judges our eternal destination.
@@leekflower1 baptism? For the love of God, we don't share anything with those people, they baptize in the name of the God that they have made for themselves, if it bothers you that a Catholic tells you something about our own faith, I think you should reconsider your position, baptism? and the rest of the sacraments? whoever eats and drinks will have eternal life ..... confession? marriage? ect... ect... decision making... if they are good why don't they take our faith?... after all, it wasn't the apostles who founded the church, it was Christ, but I understand. ......who is good? no one....
@@tomasparriles6440 the most traditional of Catholics agree on shared baptism as does the Catechism.
Biggest hurdle for me and my non Catholic wife is contraception and wanting more kids. It is still something we are trying to figure out today after almost 10 years of marriage.
My husband was not Catholic, and he converted after 13 yrs of marriage. He was a devout Protestant. That was a big road block or speed bump...so people really need to take this into consideration. I was not as devout as I thought but after he converted, he helped our family grew in our faith by leaps and bounds, now all daughter would not marry a non Catholic, specifically a devout Catholic, not in name in only.
Hello Diana, I am a devout Catholic currently engaged to a Protestant pastor. Never in a million years did I believe this would happen. I have been waiting faithfully for a spouse for 7 years, since coming back to the faith after having a daughter out of wedlock. I did my best to only date Catholics but nothing ever worked out. I feel so drawn to my fiancée’s love for Christ and his heart for others. I am devastated that he does not have any interest in converting at this time and seems to be moving even further into his own church. On top of this he most likely is unable to have more children, which is devastating to me, but I am 37 and my options are not good either way. I deeply love this person, but I am seeking some kind of guidance from someone who has been through it. Can you have a good marriage in this circumstance? Am I being tested in some horrible way? Should I be alone for the rest of my life rather than marry a devout Protestant?
Father Gregory Pine, sorry about the news about your mom, may her soul by the mercy of God, rest in peace.
Yeah my trouble is my wife and i were both baptized methodists, got married in a Methodist church. Now ive converted to catholicism and she absolutely refuses to allow me to raise the kids catholic. Im doing it anyway but its a weekly fight, its damaged my marriage so much but helped our family life in many many ways. Im a better dad, more disciplined, i curse way less, drink way less, eat way less, and study and talk about faith all day every day. She misses the nominal methodist version of me and wishes id go back. I wish shed get serious about her faith but i cant demand anything of her. She probably never wouldve married me if she knew one day id be a marry worshipper. Lol. Pray for me, im only 1 year into conversion
Praying for your brother, I'm a practicing Catholic. I am trying to decern marriage with a non-catholic Christian and was talking to my decon and he said that keeping the marriage together would be the most important thing so praying for you.
@@dylanb6005 Amen! I think the church uses men like us to reach them. My priest said there are blessings that she has now because of my conversion. My wife still rolls her eyes everytime i bring up the church but shes nowhere near as negative towards it now. Im two years in and much happier, less sinful, and she recognizes that. Also she’ll move heaven and earth for me so i dont miss mass. I have to say i see some hope there. Blessings to you as well, ill pray for your situation too buddy.
definitely profited from your book Fr Pine!
Mixed marriage weakens the faith if the spouse and make the kids confused most times
Father Pine, what about a talk on the meaning of the Lord's Prayer? Also, Sermon on the Mount.
My husband and I are of different races, but we are both Catholic, so I never considered our marriage as "mixed." I am glad you said a mixed marriage is between a baptized non-Catholic and a Catholic.
It is mixed
Your still in an interracial marriage which is mixed but in a different way
@@musicboi3530 We never argue about important things which are religion and values so I lucked out. Marrying someone of my race but with different values and religion would have caused problems. So I don't agree.
I married a non-Catholic on 1975. Still happily married. He is a Christian, (sort of) but I did not and would not push him to convert to Catholicism. You have to explain before you get married about all the Catholic traditions and rules, i.e. getting married in a Catholic church, bringing children up in the Church, Baptised, First Holy Communion, Confirmation etc. No negotiation. My husband was very supportive and was included in all the celebrations and traditions. I am very lucky, but some Catholic friends of mine haven't been. Such a pity.
How can you "sort of" be a Christian?
@@mitchell5134 he was christened Anglican, then his family changed to Presbyterian. He doesn't go to his church now but takes part in any religious events at our family's Catholic church. So he's ' technically Christian but doesn't practise it. Although I sometimes think he's more of a Christian than many people who spend their time going to church most of the time. He is so good hearted and will help anyone who is in trouble, be it changing someone's car tyre to inviting people to supper if he feels they are lonely.
CAn you make a video on being single and struggling with insecurity, bitterness, and lonliness? Since I was a kid I wanted to get married like my parents, and be a housewife and mom, but so far, God has not blessed me, and I don't know why, truly.
Offer up your struggles to Jesus as a penance. Pray to be able to love Him more and accept the suffering and have interior peace. Possibly your vocation is to be single. Pray the rosary. God Bless
I hear you!! I messaged you a few minutes ago. If you like we can talk sometime (no pressure) as I feel very much like you do. The one consolation is that our highest relationship is in Jesus Christ, so even when single we are already in a sense with our greatest love. Though I know that’s not always so consoling when seeing siblings with their babies and friends babies. Blessings sister 🙏🏼
@@supercoop9613 ---That's true to offer up suffereings as a penance. Yikes, hearing that I might have a vocation to be single is not what I wanna hear. lol. But you're not wrong.
@@catholicfemininity2126 Pray to accept whatever God has planned for you. Have faith and trust Him. He will have something awesome planned. I pray everyday to love Him more and more. The more you truly love Him the less lonely you'll feel. God Bless 🙏🙏
God gave men free will. Don't expect Him to mind-control a man into loving you.
Last that should be mentioned. A Catholic person may live, (after divorce) together in a civil marriage. Without annulment. So long as no sex is involved. But the Catholic individual must get permission from the Bishop. Living together like brother & sister. This works in most cases for old people. And that person may receive the Sacraments, confession, holy communion.
My dad was a methodist and my mom was a Catholic which makes me a produce of a mixed marriage. Thanks be to God that all of us children were raised Catholic! My parents ended up in divorce and my mom never remarried. Today we all discourage our children from mixed marriages, the non-Catholic must convert to the Church if marriage is to take place or remain as friends only.
Come to St. James E-Town, KY. Your sisters are already here!
I am interested in what you (and others here) think of marrying a non-practicing buddhist. I guess to put it shortly, she is perfect for me in every way...except not Catholic. I've talked to her about all the rules (no sex before marriage, no contraception, NFP, raising children catholic, Mass every sunday) and she is completely on board. But just isnt Catholic herself. It's very tough. We broke up 6 months ago over this, but we still text and think about getting back together. Any input/stories are welcome.
I do not think it is God's will that any child of God gets married to a non-child of God. I get this idea from verses like 2 Corinthians 6:14. While this situation is not easy to handle, I believe we can trust that God wants what is best for us, and commands like this are really for our good.
@step.
My cousin is a staunch Buddhist who married a born Catholic. After 20 years of marriage, she converted even though at the time of marriage both promised to raise their kids as Catholics.
They have no kids despite being found to be fertile. Nothing medically or clinically wrong. Tried all ways, both no children. I can't help wonder why.
My own experience on this mix marriage issue is whichever spouse is stronger in the faith will prevail and end up converting the other. In my country, Catholics form 5% and all Protestants I totally form about 10% of the population. Mix marriages are unavoidable.
I would encourage you to be stronger one, no need to impose but firm in religious matters in your family.
No, let her go and thank God for separating the both of yall (2 corinthians 6: 14)
Oh I wouldn’t do it. Marriage is hard enough without that wrench in the way. Join online Catholic communities to look for a Catholic spouse. Visit different churches. Look for a good Catholic woman. You separating seems to be a gift from God.
Pray hard that the Lord gives her the grace to convert into Catholicism! If you're having issues now you'll have even more later!
Seek first to do the will of God not yours. Go's bless!
The lead says 'can a Catholic marry a non-Catholic' when in the following story he states 'should they marry a non-Catholic?'
this was spookily timed in my life
😂just Holy Coincidence😏
Same here LOL
My baptismal godmother is a Croat Catholic like me, but she married an Englishman, Methodist, in the Catholic ceremony and lives in England. She raises her children Catholic and her husband comes to Mass with them.
I though Croatians only Married Croatians
@@dwightschrute900 Most of them do, but not necessarily.
What if you were both non-baptised and got married, then baptised protestant, then converted to Catholicism? Would you need to get remarried within the Catholic Church?
I believe you would need your marriage to be convalidated, so that your children can be baptized in the faith. The Catholic Church does not recognize civil marriages as real marriages..
I (male; atheist) married a catholic woman and everything was and still is perfect between us.
Are you both still happy? I am Catholic considering marrying an atheist.
@@fieldofyellowroses,
why specifically an atheist?
Tough in regards to natural family planning
I was a fallen away Catholic for a long, long time. I was "more Spiritual than religious" and sort of vaguely a believer.
I married a Baptist lady outside of the Church. After we conceived a child, I came back to the Church. I wanted our marriage convalidated. Long story short, she divorced me because of it.
God be with you brother
Most definitely can, I am always on my best behaviour not to disgrace Catholicism. It keeps the marriage interesting as that the pursuit is still on.
My wife and I were married as Baptists and recently converted to the Catholic Church. I was convinced of the need to convert way before she was so I guess you can call that evangemarried
Can someone explain what he means at 5:30 in the video? It sounds like if you cheat on your wife you do not have to share that with her as long as you repent and make an effort not to do it again? To admit it to her would only make her suffer, it sounds
that's what it sounded like to me as well
I think you are spot on but am in deep disagreement about one not needing to reveal lack of faithfulness in a marriage to their partner. I’m sorry but that simply isn’t correct. A person must be totally honest about this to their spouse and a lack of doing so is an injustice. You are withholding a truth from that person whereupon the foundation of the marriage is based on.
Faith is a really good indicator that a spouse will stick to their vows no matter what. It's why even atheists value faith in a person when they see it. Means you can trust them not to change their minds and rationalize their way out of promises.
I was surprised when I heard that also, especially since he seems like such a straight-and-narrow priest. Had to replay it several times to make sure I heard correctly. Would have love to hear him (or anyone else) expound or comment on that
Yeah that was really concerning especially about the cheating aspect.
I wouldn't advise people with different faiths to ever marry. Values matter in relationship
Pretty similar to the Orthodox position, however we are a little more prescriptive with the baptism and therefore groups as it needs to have been done in the name of the All Holy Trinity. So in short Catholic, Lutheran, Anglican and a few others are accepted, unfortunately there are too many Protestant groups that call themselves “Christian” to safely include all of them.
It’s very hard but possible
Father Pine, I would love to talk to you in private as I'm struggling with this very issue, if you have time and see this can you please help me
Re the question: "When can a Catholic marry a non-Catholic?"
Midnight, Friday the 13th???
HC-JAIPUR (29/05/2022)
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That was helpful.
I am a Catholic woman looking to meet a Christian man who practices the faith. He doesn’t have to be Catholic himself (though would be nice). Are there any good dating apps people would recommend here?
I don't know any apps, so I can't speak to that. My advice would be this;
Accept that you may have the vocation of being single, and that is okay, you can lead a blessed life and do much for God's kingdom that you can't do as a married woman.
If you are to get married, do not marry a non Catholic, unless you are willing to have a deep conversation and possibly convert. I love my Catholic sisters, but I am an incredibly devout Lutheran, and there is a lot of Catholic doctrine I fundamentally disagree with, and I want to raise my children in the Truth as a Lutheran. A divided household is an absolutely atrocious idea. As such, I could not marry a Catholic woman unless she were willing to convert to Lutheranism, and I would of course back my beliefs with sound doctrine and good reason.
Seek a Catholic husband, be willing to become protestant, or be alright with not marrying at all. The only reason I say that he shouldn't become Catholic is that I believe the woman should honor her husband and be willing to submit to his spiritual leadership, and only if he is of course a very devout, practicing Christian.
You may likely disagree, but those are my inputs.
God bless you, I pray you find a good and devout husband, strong in the faith.
@@davidthompson5020 thank you David for your message and heartfelt advice from the Lord!! For me my relationship with God is more important than getting married ultimately. And if that’s true then I really should find a man who is Christian. I feel I can’t afford to be so picky about the denomination, if not Catholic then that’s ok but I do want our household to be one denomination so I could convert. Thanks for giving your thoughts again. Warm regards from Spain
Thank you
Never ever do it. Don’t ask me how I know.
Short answer: no
Long answer: non
The real question is, is if your future spouse is a Christian who puts their faith and trust in Jesus, -and that Jesus is their savior AND Lord over their life. That is what it means by "equally yolked", you don't have to be the same denomination, but the foundation needs to be the same.
I'm a non-Catholic Christian, but am considering Catholicism. My girlfriend is neither. She's more of a mystical "everything goes" type of person (perrenialist?) who believes in a higher power.
Based on that info, could this result in a blessed marriage? According to the Catholic church, when or for what reasons might this be? I'm afraid the video wasn't direct enough for me🙈
Absolutely avoid this marriage at all costs, she would lead you into sin, or away from the faith which would be worse. Unless she converts and becomes a devout Bible believing Christian before you get married please do not make the mistake of marrying her. Don't follow your desire for marriage to the point you make unwise decisions.
Reminds me of my friend, she converted to the Catholic church, but her bf wasn't on the same page, a few months later they broke up. She wanted someone strong in her faith, not someone to put her at risk of losing it.
As an atheist, I say no. She seems to be an agnostic who can promise only to constantly recalculate whatever seems right to her at the moment. She won't *permanently* make up her mind, about you or anything else.
Generally it is a good idea to only marry Catholics, not just Catholics but real practicing Catholics who go to Church weekly, believe abortion and contraception are evil, believe that sex is to remain in the confines of marriage etc. I read an article somewhere that if you marry a non-Catholic, the non-Catholic spouse can serve as an anti-witness to your children and that I believe is a great point
Please pray that God blesses me with the opprotunity to meet a good strong CAtholic gentleman. So far there is none.
I haven’t heard your argument yet, and even though after two years being subbed to this channel I have rarely if ever disagreed with you, but based solely on your intro disclaimer, as a Catholic married to an atheist, I’m just going to guess, you’re wrong. lol. 😆
[after watching the vid, this was great, very well said, very on point. Great job once again.]
Matt Frad, almost always wrong or in slight error. The monk dudes, almost always correct and never speak error. More monk dudes.
Content request, just an hour of the monks gently correcting and tempering Matt’s opinions. Over pints.
How is Matt almost always wrong?
Thank you for this wonderful and informative video as always Father! I have one question if I may, Father said in the video that if one spouse were to be unfaithful they should repent but not too necessary to tell the spouse due to the hurt it would cause. I appreciate what he is saying and I can understand but what if the spouse just felt so guilty for infidelity that they felt it was wrong to hide it. Would it be recommended by the Church that they really should just keep quiet regardless? Thanks.
So a lie by omission is being put firth as ok? If the other spouse finds out without the unfaithful spouse telling them will cause more damage than just keeping quiet. It becomes a bigger breach of trust than just the infidelity.
My antennas were raised when I heard that also. I did not expect that answer, although I understand it. If revealing infidelity to your spouse is just to resolve your guilty conscience, then that can be seen as selfish and if you truly intend to change your ways and have confessed to God, then the end result will just be the irrecoverable pain and damage to your spouse (assuming they don't find out otherwise). As far as the church's stance, I've heard pastoral advice to the contrary which makes all this confusing. I'm wondering if anyone else can expound or comment on this comment at 5:30 in the video
There is no way God would say "don't worry about telling them, just be better." The only time someone would ever really say that would be to justify their own cowardice at facing the spouse which they betrayed. Anyone who would be okay with doing that is a sociopath.
This is so confusing, can someone explain please? life in non-sacramental marriage is a sin so why does the Catholic Church allows it? if I marry an unbaptized man, will I live in sin?
No. A non sacramental marriage isn't sinful.
A non sacramental union/marriage is a natural marriage. Marriage is first a “natural institution,” that is, it is established by God as a good in creation, endowing it with its own proper laws. Whether baptized or not, one is able to enter into a true, valid marital relationship as God designed it to be between one man and one woman. Since baptism is the gateway to the sacraments and is necessary for the valid reception of the other sacraments, it is necessary that both in a marriage be baptized in order for their valid natural marriage to be also a sacrament of the Church.
Thank you for your answer Eshita. I understand baptism is necessary in order to receive other sacraments that’s why I thought this kind of marriage is unilaterally sacramental, but I understand that is not a case?
If only one party is baptized in a marriage, it's not a sacramental marriage. However, it's not a sin, because you're in a marital union according to the natural law that God created.
A sacramental marriage shows that the marriage is not just a human institution, but a participation in the covenant of Christ and His Church by both parties being baptized. And with this participation, we help our future spouse to grow in the faith.
And it's our responsibility as followers of Christ to help our unbaptized loved ones to know the Truth, i.e Christ.
When the non baptized is baptized later, the marriage is considered sacramental.
Hope I helped.
Thank you very much Eshita, God bless
You're welcome Dana, God bless you too
Father Gregory, could you explain a bit more about non sacramental/ natural marriage please?
Well I guess it doesn't really matter anymore for me but I'd like to know what type of marriage I had!? 😨
My husband died last year in a tragic road accident 😢 he was not baptised/ not religious and we married in the Catholic Church (I'm Catholic) we got some permissions/dispense from my parish priest but now I want to know if my marriage was even valid/real? 😢 thank you father, God bless!
You can have a civil union and live in sin. Or your spouse could convert and go to heaven.
Easy Peasy
That's assuming the converting coincides with repentance and belief in God.
@@leekflower1 I agree, But I will say that if someone goes through the process of converting than I would imagine they believe it is important enough to honestly go the spiritual and sacrificial steps necessary.
Most people who want a church wedding and don't believe will just use an Anglican or other Christian Church that doesn't have these requirements.
What if it is between a catholic and a batized non religious? (Like atheist or agnostic, are they considered christians or are they considered non batized people?)
I marry a protestant girl , it didn't work out , race , sex , Religion does matter.
The removal of , Love , honor and obey from the marriage vow , didn't make a woman a man's equal , it removed a man's place from the marriage and family .
No fault divorce was the same as
Marking null and void ,
"Untill death do us part."
Answer is no.
Edit: not to marry a non catholic. Later in marriage it will become apparent, the wedge that is created by not both being Catholic. That happened to my marriage of over 20 yrs.
Thinking about how your mom was able to instill her beliefs to her children is beautiful.
My mother us Catholic my father a baptized and confirmed Lutheran. I went to mass regularly with my grandparents. I learned more of the Bible from my non church going dad than I ever did from Mas or Catholic school. I learned more of the catechism from my mother than any religious formation classes provided by the church. I believe a mixed marriage can work, but it does say in the epistles to not be unequally yoked. It's not easy. I refused confirmation because I have many reservations about Rome and many traditions of the church. Yes I have discussed with my family and a priest many times.
You're intellectually honest, humble, you have integrity. Even me an atheist can see that and I'd trust you as a babysitter.
Good day Father, just a question: Can a woman marry a man younger than her?
If the Protestant went to any denomination that has their church on the Catholic (sabbath) Sunday I think there would not be much difference. But if it was a denomination like SDA that go to Church on the Sabbath of the Bible there might be conflict of faith. I was raised Pentecostal until my mom and two uncles became SDA after a few years and listened to sermons from both churches I read the Bible and discovered that the Sabbath was the 7th Day after checking the calendar I also discovered that Sunday was NOT the 7th day SO my 11 year old brain realized that Sunday was not the Sabbath of the Bible. If a preteen boy can figure that out why are so many people attending Church on the wrong day? I know why I go on Sunday it’s because my wife won’t go at all if we go to any church except Freewill Baptist. Her dad was a FWB Pastor. Knew that when I married her so it is what it is. We attend FWB even if they worship on the Catholic “sabbath”. FWB & SDA not much difference except the 1st day Sunday Services vs the 7th day Saturday Services of the SDA AND the unhealthy diets of the FWB. I don’t think eating a pig is a sin but knowing what that animal eats I find the idea of PORK revolting!
My girlfriend is Catholic; I'm atheist. She'd stopped attending church a long time before we met, and ironically it's me encouraging her. It's important to me that she has "her thing" I believe silly but I totally support. That's tolerance. And it's an expression of unconditional love.
I believe it'll work out fine.
Do you guys don’t have a common law state of marriage
I want to convert to Catholicism and my wife thinks religion is dumb should I just forget about converting
I'm sorry to hear that your wife feels that way. It sounds like she is not respecting your feelings towards religion or your faith. Do what your heart tells you to do. If that means to follow god, then do so. No one should stand in your way.
@@janetdiaz3463 she is definitely softening her stance she isn't objecting but she will not be joining me we shall see what happens
@@derekstevens96 wishing you all the best. I hope things work out for the two of you.
@@janetdiaz3463 I feel like things will work out
Can and a Catholic and an Orthodox get married?
Orthodoxy virtually never convert to Catholicism.
@@Crusader33ad thanks but that has absolutely nothing to do with my question
Mike Irish -. They CAN if a Catholic priest is present. But the orthodox are too bitter and usually don’t allow their spouse to invite a Catholic priest to the wedding.
Doesn't matter what religion you marry: what matters is a true beleiver marrying a non believer, which causes, "schizm!.
I would think it would be best to stay in our faith! Less problems unless one converts sincerely! Interfaith marriages can work though! I am catholic and never wanted to marry a non catholic!
Because there is no law against it. Hopefully, the non will change the Catholic's mind.
Damn dawg cant marry my cousin
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Its easy: they can't. You both promise in the marriage vows to raise your kids Catholic, which is impossible for a non-Catholic to do
He explains that only the Catholic spouse is held to make that promise
@@brittoncain5090 And when your spouse tries to raise them to be non-Catholic, you have introduced division and conflict into your home, hence why the Church has always taught pre-Vatican II that Catholics can only marry Catholics
So if you can't have kids, you can't marry?
@@pong9000 No. Not everyone is called to the sacramental life of marriage. That doesn't mean you can't get married and try to have children, or cannot adopt one, but until you commit to raising a child, you are not truly married.
@@RealAugustusAutumn My girlfriend is past menopause. We both actively care for our own extended families, and our purpose in marrying is to do more for the others'. This would make lending a room to her collage-aged niece, or her changing grandma's diapers, less awkward - for example.
I guess you're realizing that marriage can do more than isolate couples into nuclear families.
No.
Yes, a Catholic is able to marry someone who isn't a Catholic
@@brittoncain5090 the apostle Paul used to say, in simple words, everything is allowed, but not everything is beneficial...so, it's up to you, friend.you can do whatever you want...does it suit you as a catholic?...
The obvious answer should be that the wife should follow her husband. If he's protestant, she should follow him there. If he's Catholic, she should follow him there. If not, they should just stay apart. All this marry but make sure your children are Catholic is just a bad idea, in my opinion. I am almost sure it won't ever work. I mean, it's not like you're stopping to follow Christ. You can do well as a Christian as Catholic or Protestant if you really want to. All these emotional reactions to things these days just bore me. In my opinion, better marry a good protestant than a bad Catholic and vice versa. And if you're a lady, in my opinion, just follow the man, love Christ, and be happy.
Should a guy marry a non-Catholic woman? Depends. Can she cook?
Should he only marry a Catholic woman? Same question.
Let's get our priorities straight. 😇
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The gospel is not "Christ died for our sins" if we make Him Lord of our life.
The gospel is not "Christ died for our sins" if we repent and get baptized.
The gospel is not "Christ died for our sins" if we fear God and work righteousness.
The gospel is not "Christ died for our sins" if we confess our sins and ask for His forgiveness.
The gospel is not "Christ died for our sins" if we receive Him as our personal savior.
The gospel is not "Christ died for our sins" if we believe He died for our sins.
The gospel is not "Christ died for our sins" if we invite the Lord into our heart.
The gospel is not "Christ died for our sins" if we receive the Eucharist of holy communion.
The gospel is not "Christ died for our sins" if we keep the commandments and sell our possessions.
The gospel is not "Christ died for our sins" if we forgive those who have trespassed against us.
The gospel is not "Christ died for our sins" if we stop sinning.
The gospel is not "Christ died for our sins" if we walk the isle and join the church.
The gospel is not "Christ died for our sins" if we pray the sinners prayer.
The gospel is not "Christ died for our sins" if we are confirmed.
The gospel is not "Christ died for our sins" if we deny ourself, take up our cross and follow Him.
The gospel is not "Christ died for our sins" if we observe Yom Kippur.
The gospel is not "Christ died for our sins" if we endure unto the end.
The gospel is not "Christ died for our sins" if we kneel at an old fashioned altar and cry a hot scalding bucket of tears.
The gospel is not "Christ died for our sins" if while listening to "Just as I am" we decide to walk the isle and give our heart to the Lord.
The gospel is not "Christ died for our sins" if we pray the rosary.
The gospel is not "Christ died for our sins" if we DO ANYTHING!
Don't pervert it by adding to it.
The gospel is found in 1 Corinthians chapter 15:1-4. "Moreover, brethren, I declare unto you the gospel... By which also ye are saved,... how that Christ died for our sins... he was buried, and that he rose again the third day according to the scriptures."
Just keep it simple. (2 Corinthians 11:3)
God says salvation is found through faith in the finished cross-work and resurrection (Ephesians 2:8-9.)
It is only faith that can justify and count for our righteousness.
But to him that worketh not, but believeth on him that justifieth the ungodly, his faith is counted for righteousness. (Romans 4:5)
Salvation is not getting our sins forgiven, it's believing they already are!
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As a protestant who was baptized by immersion, I found St Thomas' example interesting (7:30). I used to say (in jest) I don't know what to think of paedobaptism, but I definitely believe in baptism by immersion, however I've since heard some Orthodox people fully dunk babies.
I fell in love with a Protestant and I have to let go of him. I just hope he will go back to the Catholic Faith.🙏🥲