@@charltonlaurel9698 would but I dont have any yet other than that one, was only a week ago, havent been out much since I work alot. Planning on doing some cold approaches at the shopping mall soon tho, I always catch girls staring at me there and alot of them are my type
@@dirtydan351 what to do when they stare? To me, it feels like they are mocking me, and to stare back makes me think that I'm creeping..and in my head .
I've worked as a bartender in a couple different cities and I don't even think twice about going out alone now. Loads of guys do it especially when you get past the early twenties or college ages. It's not uncommon or thought of as weird for a guy to come in alone and order a drink. But one point I would make is try not to act like you're desperate to find friends to talk to, I would say sit down(not in a corner) at the bar and act like you're just there because you like being alone better. This is very attractive to people and you will find people will come to you more often than not. It's almost like girls want to try to earn your attention because they are wondering why you aren't showing anyone attention.
Went to a graduation. Went out to the bar alone. Talked to 6 women! Got 3 contacts. It's soooo raw to go out alone. I was making buddies and dancing with girls throughout the night!
marser if it’s a group, start by saying “you guys look like fun” or “you guys look interesting.” ....then “how do you know each other?” It’s Important to ask the second question, so you know who’s single and who’s taken. And pls don’t be shy, warm up before you go out solo, (workout or ask random ppl if they have gum, or do some cardio)
Contrary to popular belief, going out solo should not be awkward at all. In fact, one of the beautiful things about going solo is that there's literally nobody watching and basically no consequences for a bad approach. There are a lot of other subtle advantages to going out alone. Let me show you why solo game is my FAVORITE way to game and possibly the best way to LEARN game as well!
AskToddV thanks I actually went out solo last week for the first time and it felt awesome. So many times when my friends don’t want to go out I feel like I’m stuck at home. When really I’m in control.
Well, I see what you mean, but there are bystanders who occasionally will give you a dirty look for approaching. Usually doesn't happen but will happen to me on rare occasions. Heck, the barista at this cafe a weeks ago during the day fricking cockblocked me, which blew my mind.
Hey Todd, thanks for the useful tips and all, but I kinda feel like a lot of tips (in general) are geared towards extravert People. Extraverts tend to thrive in big groups and get energy from social interactions. Do you have any specific tips for introvert People? I have Fun going out, but at the end of the night, I am also exhausted from all the interactions and everything Else that's going on. Difficult to make a good impression if you give a vibe of Being tired. Thanks a lot and keep up the awesome work!
I’ve gone out alone for years and years and years. Being a one man army is the greatest confidence boost you can have. Then when I do occasionally go out with a wing I fucking kill. Solo game is for the badass motherfuckers. Let’s get it men!
"Be a social person! Talk to people and enjoy conversations!" I think this is the most important advice! If someone does this, chances are everything else will flow naturally.
"Going out solo is the heart and the soul of game." Most guys that are good at Game are their own men, strong individuals and so this quote really nails it. I'd rather go out alone than have to worry about managing my wing men.
A recommendation I might add is if you're nervous about going out solo but want to take the initial steps: coordinate with a group you know that is going to a certain bar but then don't go with them to the bar. Go earlier alone or just go alone when you feel comfortable, go around, talk to girls, and when you feel tired, just go find that group of friends and chill with them. That way if your solo night attempt isn't successful, you have the backup plan of joining the group. Has to be a group though, not a single person or 2. You could also come find them, say hi (confirm their presence), and then just leave them and start picking up girls.
Go after the group gets there. you go last. because women see a group saying heyy whats up and all giving you attention and even moire once they are half sauced
Everytime I went out solo I got the best experiences of my life both negative and positive, but most of them extremely positive essentially because when you are alone you only depend on yourself and you do what you want without any kind of external conditioning factor and it is absolutely true as Todd says that people and girls get really impressed when they see you alone because it communicates high social status, courage and that you're fine with yourself and most of the time they approached me instead of the other way around
Excellent! Excellent!! Excellent!!!! I'll also add that in my experience, the whole "awkward guy all alone" thing is ALL in your head. Most people are drunk and don't give a shit/won't remember, and the people who aren't are so insecure about themselves they won't even notice or care about what you're doing. That lesson can be applied to everything. Pretty much all of my pulls have been either solo, or after my wing left for the night.
I started doing this in college, going out alone and approach women with each approach I learned something different, every woman is different but there are definitely patterns you start seeing. This exercise starts shaping everything in you, the way you walk, talk and think. It basically shapes your personality for the better. Once you become good at this, your confidence is going to be so high that you are going to translate this in everything else you do in life. My main advice is always to be respectful towards women, read the room, context. Be smart, cause this game is a ground full of land mines and some mistakes can cost very high! If you survive you’ll be a better person
I approached a girl who looked alone once ..... another girl popped out of no where and started talking. It was ok....then a third girl popped out. That was too much for me....I frozed and walked away lol
Girls are jealous and bitchy always when they ve the power to do it. Thusands of times they say " go away " when they see that their friend feels attraction for the random guy with good game. The positions of power are when they are in a social circle.I am thinking to find ways to submit them and this behaviour of cockblocking.But it looks masterful to do this..without looking the bad guy when in reality she was the bitch. "They should ask why r you having fun can i listen ?" Not like " leave i want to talk to her.Leave" or to grab her and pull jer away randomly.They are so rude! A woman with power is a disaster.This is my life lesson.Strip her power as fast as possible and show much more power than her
Great video and Todd is spot on 100% about just being relaxed and sociable in terms of helping ease social anxiety but also maintain a state of being present in the moment, and talking to a bunch of people. The biggest mistake I've made personally before going to bars or clubs is not be willing to push myself to be more sociable and strike conversations which makes it a lot more difficult to approach the girl or group of girls I would like to than not. Also, getting a decent buzz, being clean-cut in appearance/hygiene is a big confidence booster while having good attire helps a lot of in terms of boosting self-esteem.
After watching this, i ventured out and the advice at 2:00 was so crazy enlightening. Before watching this I was that weirdo quiet corner guy. Now, This whole weekend has been a crazy Rollercoaster ride 😵💫. So many ppl really do want to chat and I can't remember all the names lol. So many crazy events and invites to new hidden places. So grateful for this video. Getting rid of my social anxiety fast! Even just walking down the street use to stress me
Literally only just discovered going out solo. I was out for a couple hours and I got invited to joint 2 separate groups of birds. They had clearly clocked me and the fact I was out solo and they were keen af.
just choose an amount of times you gonna go out per week.. and go out that amount, whether you have some one to join you or no.. dont cancel going out if you cant find anyone
Went out last week met two women got shift off one girl In smoking area and then got off with another girl later that night and ended up going back to her house, honestly didn't have to do much just happened, I enjoyed myself regardless of pulling but all I say to anyone that struggles being on there own just walk in like u own the place get a drink, relax, talk to people go for a smoke, smile, be yourself and just enjoy your night that's wa I have learned since going on my own and I like it now
I've always been the creepy awkward guy, but I've been eating up these videos now - for a while - and I think they've changed the way I react to people. Recently I've started to say things out loud to people I don't really know - men and women. I never really small talk, I usually talk about things that I'm interested in, but most of the time I have just kept my mouth shut. My culture is like that. We don't chat. So now, I'm socializing. And just that has gotten me nice interactions with women. I also smile a lot now, because in my head I'm always trying to find out some man-to-woman things to say, and that's sort of funny to me. Like in the gym the other day I was having a staredown with this fitness chick and I gave her a hand with some of the equipment and then this other girl came close to me to work out and we started talking and flirting, the fitness chick got noticeably upset at me! That was a fucking weird experience, things like this never happened to me before. I'm not "in the system" or "gaming", I'm not really trying to game just having interactions through my normal life, but it seems the way of looking at things has changed for me. I see now I have had a very rigid view about myself. I've always been physically attractive. I'm tall, muscular and handsome, but I've been lacking on the social side.
@@stevendalloesingh1214 I've been two years together with a 21 year old 8/10 from IG now. The pick up stuff helped me a lot with her. She said I stood out from others, because I wasn't needy or pushy. So I'm sort of back to not engaging in conversation with women now. I shouldn't, but old habits die hard.
I should have came to this video before going to a night club for the first time last night with two female friends. I would have done the same things you suggested, but I ended up standing around, not knowing what to do. I felt nervous, isolated, insecure, and awkward. This video is helpful on what to do as a single guy going to a night club.
heres a nice strat i thought of: walk up to a group of girls (alone) and start hitting on the least attractive girl. Focus on her the most. Ask for her name and focus on what she has to say. Trying to get her number, in theory, should be easier than getting the hotter girls numbers. But, while your doing that, the hot girls might get jealous and think, "Oh wow does he not think im cute?" and they might try to compete.
Isn't this in the Mystery Method? Anyway yeah this was the traditional way to open groups. If you go for the attractive girls straight away the less attractive girls are more likely to block you cause they're jealous. But if you open the less attractive girl, she's more receptive and the hot girls aren't used to being sidelined so like you say they're more likely to compete for your attention. So you open the less attractive girl, then switch to the more attractive girl later.
Go out, have fun on your own and women will feed off of your good energy. Women feel less judged about leaving the venue with a solo dude. Sometimes the women will even pick YOU up.
Great practical/actionable advice from Todd as usual. My advice for shy newbies going out solo is to hit the clubs and go to them early before the big crowds get there where it's just like 20 people in there and go up to anyone who's smiling and looks friendly be flat out honest with them like "hi, my name is _____ and this is my first time in a nightclub, my buddy didn't show up so I'm here by myself and I have NO IDEA WHAT I'M DOING HERE and am scared to talk to anyone, you guys look friendly are you from around here?" It's super gay beta chodey but whatever, you do whatever it takes lol. People are a lot more friendly than the stereotypes portray… if some shy nervous dude said something like that to me I'd be like ya man sure you can hang with us and try to help him have fun. Most people in a club want everyone to have fun like they are, ESPECIALLY giggly girls celebrating birthdays or engagements or whatever. Everyone having fun makes everyone else have fun. Baby-step your way into building social circles at the bar or finding clubbing buddies who will kind of take you under their arm or give you some advice. You're in that harmless stage where a lot of girls will be nice to you if you're honest just because it's like "aww that's cute he's shy and trying!! awwweee!!" Whereas when you get better they'll start shit testing you, etc lol.
I can relate to this, but the difference is, i went solo to a bar basically because i was working in a different city as my home town, and after work, almost every weekend i started to go out to certain bars, early but not as early, and would see people just chilling there, drinking a lil bit, made friends with their respective bartenders and the security guys pretty quick, after a couple of times, they would give me free drinks on them because i became a regular, it has happened that sometimes i made friends out of nowhere there and started getting invited to places just for hitting the club solo, gotten laid out of being invited to places, and that shit was surprisingly new to me since back in my town, you always go out with buddies and and girls you already know, and just stick with them
@@edgaral happened to me as well but with nightclubs, started conversations with people who seemed the most approachable while waiting in line and ended up having a blast and making friends and meeting cool people.
Hi Todd, how are you able to talk clearly in clubs with these loud music? I keep ketting trouble when talking cause I have to pause every 30 seconds because I can’t hear a word coming out of her mouth... please help me!
I'm in the same boat man, too damn loud to hear anything sometimes. Though it's been forever since I went to a traditional club but even many bars and what not.
Loads of people will tell you to talk in clubs. In my experience, don't bother. Note that I'm in university, so your situation may be different. It's possible to pick up a girl/guy without saying a word till you leave the club. Smile at someone dance over if they smile back, dance with them if they're into it, maybe introduce yourself but keep it short. Someone with game might chuckle at this method, but it works fine for me and my friends.
Toby Hendricks lol gay game is not the same as straight game 😂 women are much harder to seduce than men which is why the men who stay straight are the true OGs.
@@BigD751 Dude, I don't know how old you are, but university is easy mode compared to the outside world. It's even common to see girls approaching guys.
Im gonna be honest with you... Im kinda retarded and I still got laid with my shit game in uni. Most of those lays from residence in first year. That being said, I went out every chance I got, multiple times a week!
3:03 is true lol. I've gotten the "I like that, a guy that doesn't need others to have fun" also I'll get the weird look from girls. But that happens like 2 out of 10 times. Yolo lol
Go out solo is something I absolutely love. Can someone that is not comfortable doing the most mundane things solo (restaurant, theater, mall) go out to the clubs? Sure, but I think it's something that you have to work up to.
I love this can relate so much Solo game helped a lot to be more grounded and cool in general Sometimes wing can be a limitation Majorities of my pull are from solo game
My mate just let me down to go out tonight. So I’m gonna pluck up the courage and just go to the club and have fun. I can’t let this night go a waste 🤣
This man changed my life, my ex girlfriend broke up with me little over 2 months ago, I started watching his videos. He talked about a man need to be on his purpose. Of course I begged, pleaded and chased my ex for 2 weeks before discovering this channel, guys now am on my purpose, have my own business, have my RUclips channel and a lot has changed in my life and guess what? I don’t want my ex anymore.
Move to a bigger city :/. That's what I've seen other instructors recommend. I'm in the same spot as you. Apparently social circle game is better suited for this situation.
Personally, I focus in on girls that are visiting from out of town or just moved. As soon as a girl’s anchored herself into the local scene, I tend to leave her be (sexually/romantically).
Improve your game in a different bigger city and when ur game is improved and ur a social savvy guy, then come back to your city and mingles. With your new acquired social skills u will have an easier time being in the social circles.
im from the uk living in argentina and the amazing thing here in this city is the guys dont talk to the girls in bars, they keep to their own which means more for me, just got to master the language.
It’s funny, going out and being comfortable was never a problem for me. In fact it was something I learned I enjoyed back when I worked for the circus. Always surrounded by people there.
@matthew truscott lol I'm not the least bit concerned with looking stupid. My point is that I can hop around to different venues whenever and however I please, and that I can approach a girl when I want and talk to her for however long I want and leave with her if I want without having to worry about who I'm leaving behind. Going out with groups can be a drain at times because, sometimes, there's this sense of having to be tethered to them for the entire night. Most dudes understand if you just disappear for the night but still...flying solo is still easier for approaching and chatting up the girls that I like with less personal logistics to worry about.
Todd, this is awesome my Brother. I have no chose over the years to develop my solo game due to the fact that I am very serious about my self-development in my Life, my old group just wanted the white picket fence lifestyle, it is way more to life then this in my opinion. I would like to see more men learn the solo game, but too many hide behind needing to be in a group, and then they are not even pulling any women while in the group. I have seen these same group of men get jealous when the solo man is pulling women in groups by himself, then jealousy begins. Ever witness this??
Your advice is very helpful. I should’ve came to you sooner. I went to a club alone one time and obviously I didn’t have a good time because of my lack of confidence.
I got stuck because I approached too many girls with too little output so now I'm back to where I was before trying solo in 2019. I had a feeling like my life is gonna change then as soon as I had the high from getting numbers, but turns out everything requires effort and commitment so I relaxed too much and unlearned the skill.. Now on my way to climbing back
Such a good video. Bookmarked! I'm about to start a 90 day challenge of going out every night, most of those will probably be alone. Will def be watching this one again...
Fire Tv just move to Bangkok, about to close an apartment tomorrow and as soon as I have that logistical challenge handled I’m going to start. I signed up for Todd’s coaching program as well and will be making video updates on the process (which is also coincidentally a 90 day program)
Interesting, that's cool. I always feel awkward even just going to a concert or something alone but it's my own anxiety worrying about what people think or what I think they think.
Word of encouragement right here. I’m one short dude and I’ve been soloing for the past three weeks. Going to keep at it even if it feels hard at times.
I went out alone yesterday, at first it was not that bad, but after few short conversation with girls it wasn't that great. I had zero things to speak with them, after couple of hours i spoke with one girl just ask if she wants to go to after party at my house, she said yes but after 2 minutes when we were heading back to my house her friends called and she want back to her friends, that was brutal.. shiet..... that was so close. I need to practise more closing, opening and everything, and try not to drink that much alkohol.
That happens man I went through that myself but u learn as you go on, just go up chat away ask them about hobbies, travelling things like that it does help in a way that's wa I do and it works, don't be so hard on yourself u will get there it just takes time
Hey Todd, I'm always impressed by the way you speak in your videos, specifically the level of diction you use. I know I'm a fairly smart person but I feel like I'm lacking a certain level of working vocab. I'm curious if you've done anything to consiously improve yours or if you have any advice on how to improve my own...?
Some of the coolest experiences I've ever had in a stripclub were when I was alone. Learning not to reliant on others for your personal happiness is the key.
@@leonardofiallos7551 no I'm talking about the girls I chase if the girls you chase like eight men and good for you personally that's how I want my wife to be I would love to go home to see my wife getting quadruple penetrated by a bunch of black guys totally fascinating and sexy live p*** love my girlfriends I presented in The Bu no DP two guys have a girls
Always find being alone and in a new place really easy to execute game with no social repercussions for bad game and no concurrent awkwardness of being alone
Can you make an order of operations for pulling? Like... 1. Approach, 2 tease, 3 change subject, 4. Say you gotta leave then grab number. ??? If u make these diff formulas it would help. Thanks in advance.
If you can't go out solo you can't game. Game is predominantly a solo activity. Even if you have a wing, if you're a good wing then you're literally hoping for him to disappear with a girl and leave you solo. Having any other attitude makes you a bad wing. If you need friends for emotional support in order to game, you're still a beginner.
Right? I'm in the same exact boat. I understand the structure and logistics of how things are supposed to play out, but what the hell do you talk about?
Love the content BTW, Todd, if you're seeing this. You're the only PUA guy out there that breaks things down in a structured and coherent way that makes sense and is encouraging to us introverts. As oppose to the usual vague "RA RA! Go-out-and-be-the-life-of-the-party-and-stop-being-a-chode" advice that's only helpful to extroverts from you-know-who.
Just look for topics to talk to every cashier you encounter and treat them all the same. Talk as much as possible and have the conversation as emotionally charged as possible. Then when u encounter a hot one keep the same demeanor and you just have to be yourself. You will encounter some duds but if they giveu choosy signals ask then when they get off work and if theyre free to hang out then.
When i start game i was pretty good with wing man or wing girl! Right now i prefer every situation because i just dont give a fuck! If you going alone out, you learn so much quicker! Todd is fucking good teacher
Hey Todd, How do you analyze women's blueprints? What are some general synopsis for each blueprint? And what practical actions should you choose to behave/do around each of those blueprints to move and achieve the goal, i.e sex? E.g. Some women are educated, and some, are less educated. Some are more open with their sexuality, and some are less. Some may dress formal, and some may dress more "at ease" like in sweatpants and a simple t-shirt... Some behave, think, and believe in a prim and proper manner, while other women are the opposite. So how can we be aware of those blueprints and act accordingly? I believe you touched on this lesson in your last program with the former dating company you worked with. Maybe you can touch a bit back on this subject of blueprints. Thank you! :)
I went out solo a few times on my own. my advice is start with bars/pubs with a pool table in it. put a coin down to play the champion. get to know him/her and kick their ass. I sometimes emotionally feel paranoid. I never really got used to going out alone but in the end its not bad. I never got asked are you here alone. if I was to answer that just say im passing time :) no need to lie
I find my wing usually helps me get in the groove at the start of the night but fucks my shit up at the end lol My best nights were when he fucked off to a different area of the club and I was solo
Great video as usual. Any chance of a video on gaming in a small town? RSD Luke and Max did a video where the crux of their argument was "move to a bigger city". Is there any easily implementable practical advice you could impart on this?
In japan, most of them tend to be mass cuz they're shy,and not confident. but It doesn't matter if they someone watch me . I do pick up a girl whenver I'd like to.
AskToddV I Started good in terms of creating attraction with my colleges ,but then it started going down with those people because of me being lazy after getting tiny results. How do I crank up the game again with these people. Or should i stop trying with these people and improve my skills outside. How do i keep the game going after certain point without getting overwhelmed and that is my problem i think.
I went out to a bar alone the other night and did my very first cold approach, I got rejected, but my confidence has never been higher
Happy for you, down to talk about our cold approach experiences?
@@charltonlaurel9698 would but I dont have any yet other than that one, was only a week ago, havent been out much since I work alot. Planning on doing some cold approaches at the shopping mall soon tho, I always catch girls staring at me there and alot of them are my type
That's awesome! It's all downhill from here.
@@dirtydan351 what to do when they stare? To me, it feels like they are mocking me, and to stare back makes me think that I'm creeping..and in my head .
@@jaco5187 why down hill? Be a little bit more positive?
*Whatever you do, doing it solo will cultivate your masculinity and make you more confident with yourself, boost your self-esteem.*
Oh yes, now I know that when I fap I cultivate my masculinity
yes you are right. I am a total sexbomb from all the sex i have been having with me bro
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Have read this n motivated me! I won't die of being bored living indoors again...yaaasss! Stepping out!!
That is some good advice. 👍
"Are you here alone?"
Me: No, Jesus is always with me
Rule #18 bringing religion into game is instant vibe killer
@@juswolf22 Maybe if you're ugly. I can say whatever I want.
@@juswolf22 yeah if you ask them what there religion but just saying jesus is with me , theyll take it as a joke
@@juswolf22 rule#19 don't take jokes too seriously
Jesus is my wingman :)
Tod: *Become a social person..*
Me: *dies*
😅😅😅
Dies is exactly right. The willingness to run straight into the dragons mouth is what you need to have. To walk into pain voluntarily and be reborn.
I've worked as a bartender in a couple different cities and I don't even think twice about going out alone now. Loads of guys do it especially when you get past the early twenties or college ages. It's not uncommon or thought of as weird for a guy to come in alone and order a drink. But one point I would make is try not to act like you're desperate to find friends to talk to, I would say sit down(not in a corner) at the bar and act like you're just there because you like being alone better. This is very attractive to people and you will find people will come to you more often than not. It's almost like girls want to try to earn your attention because they are wondering why you aren't showing anyone attention.
Went to a graduation. Went out to the bar alone. Talked to 6 women! Got 3 contacts.
It's soooo raw to go out alone. I was making buddies and dancing with girls throughout the night!
What were your conversations like? I mean, you introduce yourself after making a compliment or...? And what stuff do you talk about later on?
@@marser7437 watch todd's stuff on cold approaches. he always opens up with a unique compliment that also has a negative side to it
@@marser7437 just kept it real and relevant and danced
marser if it’s a group, start by saying “you guys look like fun” or “you guys look interesting.” ....then “how do you know each other?” It’s Important to ask the second question, so you know who’s single and who’s taken. And pls don’t be shy, warm up before you go out solo, (workout or ask random ppl if they have gum, or do some cardio)
marser every thing and nothing
Contrary to popular belief, going out solo should not be awkward at all. In fact, one of the beautiful things about going solo is that there's literally nobody watching and basically no consequences for a bad approach. There are a lot of other subtle advantages to going out alone. Let me show you why solo game is my FAVORITE way to game and possibly the best way to LEARN game as well!
Boss You made my game go up so much..
AskToddV thanks I actually went out solo last week for the first time and it felt awesome. So many times when my friends don’t want to go out I feel like I’m stuck at home. When really I’m in control.
Well, I see what you mean, but there are bystanders who occasionally will give you a dirty look for approaching. Usually doesn't happen but will happen to me on rare occasions. Heck, the barista at this cafe a weeks ago during the day fricking cockblocked me, which blew my mind.
@@fecaldegallo2247 The point is to not give a fuck what other people think-- just go on about your business, confidently.
Hey Todd, thanks for the useful tips and all, but I kinda feel like a lot of tips (in general) are geared towards extravert People. Extraverts tend to thrive in big groups and get energy from social interactions. Do you have any specific tips for introvert People? I have Fun going out, but at the end of the night, I am also exhausted from all the interactions and everything Else that's going on. Difficult to make a good impression if you give a vibe of Being tired. Thanks a lot and keep up the awesome work!
God bless The Toddfather, the 5'7 feudal Lord.
possible best pua out there, maybe neil strauss in his day was better but thats about it p.s he was also 5'7
@@Whatshappening2024 Weird thing is that the legendary Cajun from Keys To The VIP is also very short at 5'6, 5'7ish.
@@Frederick0220 Maybe this means there's hope for me since I'm also 5'7.
There definitely is, Raj. You into daygame btw? Looking for a wing although I mostly go out solo.
@@Frederick0220 Haven't gotten there yet. Still struggling with approach anxiety at bars even after drinking.
I’ve gone out alone for years and years and years. Being a one man army is the greatest confidence boost you can have. Then when I do occasionally go out with a wing I fucking kill. Solo game is for the badass motherfuckers. Let’s get it men!
"Be a social person! Talk to people and enjoy conversations!" I think this is the most important advice! If someone does this, chances are everything else will flow naturally.
"Going out solo is the heart and the soul of game." Most guys that are good at Game are their own men, strong individuals and so this quote really nails it. I'd rather go out alone than have to worry about managing my wing men.
A recommendation I might add is if you're nervous about going out solo but want to take the initial steps: coordinate with a group you know that is going to a certain bar but then don't go with them to the bar. Go earlier alone or just go alone when you feel comfortable, go around, talk to girls, and when you feel tired, just go find that group of friends and chill with them. That way if your solo night attempt isn't successful, you have the backup plan of joining the group. Has to be a group though, not a single person or 2. You could also come find them, say hi (confirm their presence), and then just leave them and start picking up girls.
Go after the group gets there. you go last. because women see a group saying heyy whats up and all giving you attention and even moire once they are half sauced
Not everyone has the group to meet tho .
Everytime I went out solo I got the best experiences of my life both negative and positive, but most of them extremely positive essentially because when you are alone you only depend on yourself and you do what you want without any kind of external conditioning factor and it is absolutely true as Todd says that people and girls get really impressed when they see you alone because it communicates high social status, courage and that you're fine with yourself and most of the time they approached me instead of the other way around
Excellent! Excellent!! Excellent!!!!
I'll also add that in my experience, the whole "awkward guy all alone" thing is ALL in your head. Most people are drunk and don't give a shit/won't remember, and the people who aren't are so insecure about themselves they won't even notice or care about what you're doing. That lesson can be applied to everything. Pretty much all of my pulls have been either solo, or after my wing left for the night.
Its also in how you present yourself. If you go in there wearing a trench coat = awkward guy. U go in wearing cargo shorts = loser. Aaaand so on.
I think I needed to read this. I always assume that everyone else is looking at me like I'm a loser when I have nothing to prove thay
I love going out alone.
I started doing this in college, going out alone and approach women with each approach I learned something different, every woman is different but there are definitely patterns you start seeing. This exercise starts shaping everything in you, the way you walk, talk and think. It basically shapes your personality for the better. Once you become good at this, your confidence is going to be so high that you are going to translate this in everything else you do in life. My main advice is always to be respectful towards women, read the room, context. Be smart, cause this game is a ground full of land mines and some mistakes can cost very high! If you survive you’ll be a better person
I approached a girl who looked alone once .....
another girl popped out of no where and started talking. It was ok....then a third girl popped out.
That was too much for me....I frozed and walked away lol
Better than never...
That's good bruh ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
been there too...you're not alone
98% of people wouldnt even have the balls to approach. You won!
Girls are jealous and bitchy always when they ve the power to do it. Thusands of times they say " go away " when they see that their friend feels attraction for the random guy with good game. The positions of power are when they are in a social circle.I am thinking to find ways to submit them and this behaviour of cockblocking.But it looks masterful to do this..without looking the bad guy when in reality she was the bitch.
"They should ask why r you having fun can i listen ?" Not like " leave i want to talk to her.Leave" or to grab her and pull jer away randomly.They are so rude! A woman with power is a disaster.This is my life lesson.Strip her power as fast as possible and show much more power than her
@@13TrafalgarLaw Can you teach me a way to trip her Power away?
Great video and Todd is spot on 100% about just being relaxed and sociable in terms of helping ease social anxiety but also maintain a state of being present in the moment, and talking to a bunch of people. The biggest mistake I've made personally before going to bars or clubs is not be willing to push myself to be more sociable and strike conversations which makes it a lot more difficult to approach the girl or group of girls I would like to than not. Also, getting a decent buzz, being clean-cut in appearance/hygiene is a big confidence booster while having good attire helps a lot of in terms of boosting self-esteem.
"It doesn't take 2 men to talk to a woman." -The Most Interesting Man in the World
Love it! Gotta take that to heart!
I don't even need game advice anymore. Just waiting for Todd to drop the track title in the outro.
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Second this
Definitely
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After watching this, i ventured out and the advice at 2:00 was so crazy enlightening. Before watching this I was that weirdo quiet corner guy. Now, This whole weekend has been a crazy Rollercoaster ride 😵💫. So many ppl really do want to chat and I can't remember all the names lol. So many crazy events and invites to new hidden places. So grateful for this video. Getting rid of my social anxiety fast! Even just walking down the street use to stress me
Literally only just discovered going out solo. I was out for a couple hours and I got invited to joint 2 separate groups of birds. They had clearly clocked me and the fact I was out solo and they were keen af.
just choose an amount of times you gonna go out per week.. and go out that amount, whether you have some one to join you or no.. dont cancel going out if you cant find anyone
My game really improved going out alone, my friends never were down so I was like fuck it I'll go out, but it is really fun tho to go out solo.
Went out last week met two women got shift off one girl In smoking area and then got off with another girl later that night and ended up going back to her house, honestly didn't have to do much just happened, I enjoyed myself regardless of pulling but all I say to anyone that struggles being on there own just walk in like u own the place get a drink, relax, talk to people go for a smoke, smile, be yourself and just enjoy your night that's wa I have learned since going on my own and I like it now
I've always been the creepy awkward guy, but I've been eating up these videos now - for a while - and I think they've changed the way I react to people. Recently I've started to say things out loud to people I don't really know - men and women. I never really small talk, I usually talk about things that I'm interested in, but most of the time I have just kept my mouth shut. My culture is like that. We don't chat. So now, I'm socializing. And just that has gotten me nice interactions with women. I also smile a lot now, because in my head I'm always trying to find out some man-to-woman things to say, and that's sort of funny to me.
Like in the gym the other day I was having a staredown with this fitness chick and I gave her a hand with some of the equipment and then this other girl came close to me to work out and we started talking and flirting, the fitness chick got noticeably upset at me! That was a fucking weird experience, things like this never happened to me before. I'm not "in the system" or "gaming", I'm not really trying to game just having interactions through my normal life, but it seems the way of looking at things has changed for me. I see now I have had a very rigid view about myself. I've always been physically attractive. I'm tall, muscular and handsome, but I've been lacking on the social side.
I'm 5.9" with decent arms and a pudgy belly, how have things been improving for you social wise?
@@stevendalloesingh1214 I've been two years together with a 21 year old 8/10 from IG now. The pick up stuff helped me a lot with her. She said I stood out from others, because I wasn't needy or pushy. So I'm sort of back to not engaging in conversation with women now. I shouldn't, but old habits die hard.
I should have came to this video before going to a night club for the first time last night with two female friends. I would have done the same things you suggested, but I ended up standing around, not knowing what to do. I felt nervous, isolated, insecure, and awkward. This video is helpful on what to do as a single guy going to a night club.
heres a nice strat i thought of:
walk up to a group of girls (alone) and start hitting on the least attractive girl. Focus on her the most. Ask for her name and focus on what she has to say. Trying to get her number, in theory, should be easier than getting the hotter girls numbers. But, while your doing that, the hot girls might get jealous and think, "Oh wow does he not think im cute?" and they might try to compete.
Isn't this in the Mystery Method? Anyway yeah this was the traditional way to open groups. If you go for the attractive girls straight away the less attractive girls are more likely to block you cause they're jealous. But if you open the less attractive girl, she's more receptive and the hot girls aren't used to being sidelined so like you say they're more likely to compete for your attention. So you open the less attractive girl, then switch to the more attractive girl later.
Go out, have fun on your own and women will feed off of your good energy. Women feel less judged about leaving the venue with a solo dude. Sometimes the women will even pick YOU up.
Great practical/actionable advice from Todd as usual. My advice for shy newbies going out solo is to hit the clubs and go to them early before the big crowds get there where it's just like 20 people in there and go up to anyone who's smiling and looks friendly be flat out honest with them like "hi, my name is _____ and this is my first time in a nightclub, my buddy didn't show up so I'm here by myself and I have NO IDEA WHAT I'M DOING HERE and am scared to talk to anyone, you guys look friendly are you from around here?" It's super gay beta chodey but whatever, you do whatever it takes lol. People are a lot more friendly than the stereotypes portray… if some shy nervous dude said something like that to me I'd be like ya man sure you can hang with us and try to help him have fun. Most people in a club want everyone to have fun like they are, ESPECIALLY giggly girls celebrating birthdays or engagements or whatever. Everyone having fun makes everyone else have fun. Baby-step your way into building social circles at the bar or finding clubbing buddies who will kind of take you under their arm or give you some advice. You're in that harmless stage where a lot of girls will be nice to you if you're honest just because it's like "aww that's cute he's shy and trying!! awwweee!!" Whereas when you get better they'll start shit testing you, etc lol.
I can relate to this, but the difference is, i went solo to a bar basically because i was working in a different city as my home town, and after work, almost every weekend i started to go out to certain bars, early but not as early, and would see people just chilling there, drinking a lil bit, made friends with their respective bartenders and the security guys pretty quick, after a couple of times, they would give me free drinks on them because i became a regular, it has happened that sometimes i made friends out of nowhere there and started getting invited to places just for hitting the club solo, gotten laid out of being invited to places, and that shit was surprisingly new to me since back in my town, you always go out with buddies and and girls you already know, and just stick with them
@@edgaral happened to me as well but with nightclubs, started conversations with people who seemed the most approachable while waiting in line and ended up having a blast and making friends and meeting cool people.
You are the best, ToddV. Not only have you taught me great things, but you've also helped me realize I have more game than I had believed I did!
Ya’ll worried about going out alone while some of us did this from the beginning because we had no other options.
Hi Todd, how are you able to talk clearly in clubs with these loud music? I keep ketting trouble when talking cause I have to pause every 30 seconds because I can’t hear a word coming out of her mouth... please help me!
I'm in the same boat man, too damn loud to hear anything sometimes. Though it's been forever since I went to a traditional club but even many bars and what not.
Loads of people will tell you to talk in clubs. In my experience, don't bother. Note that I'm in university, so your situation may be different. It's possible to pick up a girl/guy without saying a word till you leave the club. Smile at someone dance over if they smile back, dance with them if they're into it, maybe introduce yourself but keep it short. Someone with game might chuckle at this method, but it works fine for me and my friends.
Toby Hendricks lol gay game is not the same as straight game 😂 women are much harder to seduce than men which is why the men who stay straight are the true OGs.
@@BigD751 Dude, I don't know how old you are, but university is easy mode compared to the outside world. It's even common to see girls approaching guys.
Im gonna be honest with you... Im kinda retarded and I still got laid with my shit game in uni. Most of those lays from residence in first year. That being said, I went out every chance I got, multiple times a week!
3:03 is true lol. I've gotten the "I like that, a guy that doesn't need others to have fun" also I'll get the weird look from girls. But that happens like 2 out of 10 times. Yolo lol
Go out solo is something I absolutely love. Can someone that is not comfortable doing the most mundane things solo (restaurant, theater, mall) go out to the clubs? Sure, but I think it's something that you have to work up to.
I love this can relate so much
Solo game helped a lot to be more grounded and cool in general
Sometimes wing can be a limitation
Majorities of my pull are from solo game
The quality is unparalleled
My mate just let me down to go out tonight. So I’m gonna pluck up the courage and just go to the club and have fun. I can’t let this night go a waste 🤣
If you can't be comfortable alone with your ego and soul you have bigger problems than game. I cannot roll with a wingman they just slow me down.
Wow lol
In England you definitely don’t wanna go out by yourself you won’t survive. If you’re visiting you can get away with it
@@RH-hb7zs what you mean
I lowkey kinda wanna hangout with you now
This man changed my life, my ex girlfriend broke up with me little over 2 months ago, I started watching his videos. He talked about a man need to be on his purpose. Of course I begged, pleaded and chased my ex for 2 weeks before discovering this channel, guys now am on my purpose, have my own business, have my RUclips channel and a lot has changed in my life and guess what? I don’t want my ex anymore.
I just went to a rave solo and it was a blast
Hi . My question is ¿how to deal with making game in cities that are not so big where social circles tend to know each other a lot?
Move to a bigger city :/. That's what I've seen other instructors recommend. I'm in the same spot as you. Apparently social circle game is better suited for this situation.
Personally, I focus in on girls that are visiting from out of town or just moved. As soon as a girl’s anchored herself into the local scene, I tend to leave her be (sexually/romantically).
exactly. The only option is to move to a bigger city? Or is there another strategy
How many people live in your place?
Improve your game in a different bigger city and when ur game is improved and ur a social savvy guy, then come back to your city and mingles. With your new acquired social skills u will have an easier time being in the social circles.
This is all about me .. finally ! Handling the groups especially guys is my biggest sticking point and obstacle.
Wow! What great advice from a subject that rarely gets answered. Thanks
im from the uk living in argentina and the amazing thing here in this city is the guys dont talk to the girls in bars, they keep to their own which means more for me, just got to master the language.
just sad that you're bald and chubby.
@@Spankerdig1 and i have a small penis.
It’s funny, going out and being comfortable was never a problem for me. In fact it was something I learned I enjoyed back when I worked for the circus. Always surrounded by people there.
I have to go out solo. It’s the only way I can comfortably go at my own pace
@matthew truscott lol I'm not the least bit concerned with looking stupid. My point is that I can hop around to different venues whenever and however I please, and that I can approach a girl when I want and talk to her for however long I want and leave with her if I want without having to worry about who I'm leaving behind. Going out with groups can be a drain at times because, sometimes, there's this sense of having to be tethered to them for the entire night. Most dudes understand if you just disappear for the night but still...flying solo is still easier for approaching and chatting up the girls that I like with less personal logistics to worry about.
Agree with you, when I go out with friends I feel like they need attention, specially the ones that can’t ha,del themselves
Damn Todd, that instrumental at the end was dope! Start sharing the love with your music bro. We'd appreciate it.
This channel is GOLD
Todd, this is awesome my Brother. I have no chose over the years to develop my solo game due to the fact that I am very serious about my self-development in my Life, my old group just wanted the white picket fence lifestyle, it is way more to life then this in my opinion. I would like to see more men learn the solo game, but too many hide behind needing to be in a group, and then they are not even pulling any women while in the group. I have seen these same group of men get jealous when the solo man is pulling women in groups by himself, then jealousy begins. Ever witness this??
loving how he says "going out solo"
Your advice is very helpful. I should’ve came to you sooner. I went to a club alone one time and obviously I didn’t have a good time because of my lack of confidence.
Do I see a white jacket here?
Ask u r eyes😒
headed out solo brothers- cheers
I got stuck because I approached too many girls with too little output so now I'm back to where I was before trying solo in 2019. I had a feeling like my life is gonna change then as soon as I had the high from getting numbers, but turns out everything requires effort and commitment so I relaxed too much and unlearned the skill.. Now on my way to climbing back
Yea I have the same problem. It’s difficult to get ppl to go out
My boy Big Todd had to cop a new jacket
Such a good video. Bookmarked!
I'm about to start a 90 day challenge of going out every night, most of those will probably be alone. Will def be watching this one again...
Awesome man, how have you been doing so far?
Fire Tv just move to Bangkok, about to close an apartment tomorrow and as soon as I have that logistical challenge handled I’m going to start. I signed up for Todd’s coaching program as well and will be making video updates on the process (which is also coincidentally a 90 day program)
Good for you, logistics are soo key! Very much looking forward to your video updates!
Thankyou for all Todd 👊😊
Went out solo 3 days a week for over a year when my wing moved cities
Joe Ierfino how’d it go
@@Gio-nl7eg It was an Amazing growth opportunity
Interesting, that's cool. I always feel awkward even just going to a concert or something alone but it's my own anxiety worrying about what people think or what I think they think.
Word of encouragement right here. I’m one short dude and I’ve been soloing for the past three weeks. Going to keep at it even if it feels hard at times.
@@Exen88 Dope, progress reports? Lol
Your content is great
Going out solo is like free diving or climbing without rope
I went out alone yesterday, at first it was not that bad, but after few short conversation with girls it wasn't that great. I had zero things to speak with them, after couple of hours i spoke with one girl just ask if she wants to go to after party at my house, she said yes but after 2 minutes when we were heading back to my house her friends called and she want back to her friends, that was brutal.. shiet..... that was so close. I need to practise more closing, opening and everything, and try not to drink that much alkohol.
That happens man I went through that myself but u learn as you go on, just go up chat away ask them about hobbies, travelling things like that it does help in a way that's wa I do and it works, don't be so hard on yourself u will get there it just takes time
You mentioned starting game when you were 18. What venues would you recommend for guys under 21?
3:25 ...Say all my friends died in Vietnam. Hahaha
Adams Omede all my friend are married exept me
Been going out solo for years so many pluses in it for one mates don't cramp your style and two it makes you thick skinned.
Hey Todd, I'm always impressed by the way you speak in your videos, specifically the level of diction you use. I know I'm a fairly smart person but I feel like I'm lacking a certain level of working vocab. I'm curious if you've done anything to consiously improve yours or if you have any advice on how to improve my own...?
Read books, write a journal.
Some of the coolest experiences I've ever had in a stripclub were when I was alone. Learning not to reliant on others for your personal happiness is the key.
I love going out solo! “ It doesn’t take two men to to talk to one girl” -The most interesting man. Stay thirsty my friends.
But it takes two men to satisfy her 2019
TeeBo _XRP ????? Really ? ?? I thought it took 8? Those gang bang videos lied to me!!!! Lol 😂
@@leonardofiallos7551 no I'm talking about the girls I chase if the girls you chase like eight men and good for you personally that's how I want my wife to be I would love to go home to see my wife getting quadruple penetrated by a bunch of black guys totally fascinating and sexy live p*** love my girlfriends I presented in The Bu no DP two guys have a girls
TeeBo _XRP ....? How much porn do you watch?
Awesome advice! Some of my best nights have been solo because, when you see a pretty girl by herself, there is an excellent chance that she's DTF.
Pretty rare a woman by herself though would you say?
@@jeffherrington Not as rare as you might think.
Always find being alone and in a new place really easy to execute game with no social repercussions for bad game and no concurrent awkwardness of being alone
I thought Todd was wearing a lab coat lol
Todd = the god father of game
Can you make an order of operations for pulling? Like... 1. Approach, 2 tease, 3 change subject, 4. Say you gotta leave then grab number. ??? If u make these diff formulas it would help. Thanks in advance.
Whenever I go a club I have problems approaching big groups dancing in a circle
Man I need to know that beat in the outro
According to Shazam, "Numb the Pain" - Kevo.
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You forgot about Dre?
If you can't go out solo you can't game. Game is predominantly a solo activity. Even if you have a wing, if you're a good wing then you're literally hoping for him to disappear with a girl and leave you solo. Having any other attitude makes you a bad wing. If you need friends for emotional support in order to game, you're still a beginner.
I like your vids, i watched alot of them. But what i know the least, is what should i say? What should i talk about?
Right? I'm in the same exact boat. I understand the structure and logistics of how things are supposed to play out, but what the hell do you talk about?
@@BM-ik5gc Haha exactly! I hope Todd could make a video about that, if i knew what to say, i would never hesitate picking up girls!
Let's get some up votes on this reply thread so that can be featured in the next video LOL
Love the content BTW, Todd, if you're seeing this. You're the only PUA guy out there that breaks things down in a structured and coherent way that makes sense and is encouraging to us introverts. As oppose to the usual vague "RA RA! Go-out-and-be-the-life-of-the-party-and-stop-being-a-chode" advice that's only helpful to extroverts from you-know-who.
@@BM-ik5gc Yes, i would love to know what to say! Please Todd :3!
Just look for topics to talk to every cashier you encounter and treat them all the same. Talk as much as possible and have the conversation as emotionally charged as possible. Then when u encounter a hot one keep the same demeanor and you just have to be yourself. You will encounter some duds but if they giveu choosy signals ask then when they get off work and if theyre free to hang out then.
It's really fun but as Todd said I never get shit for going out alone. Girls are really impressed by that.
Yeah I just tell them straight up that it’s easier for me to hop around however and whenever I please this way
I just don't do clubs anymore. A lounge bar yes. Or social settings, yes. But that's just me.
When i start game i was pretty good with wing man or wing girl! Right now i prefer every situation because i just dont give a fuck! If you going alone out, you learn so much quicker! Todd is fucking good teacher
Hey Todd,
How do you analyze women's blueprints? What are some general synopsis for each blueprint? And what practical actions should you choose to behave/do around each of those blueprints to move and achieve the goal, i.e sex?
E.g. Some women are educated, and some, are less educated. Some are more open with their sexuality, and some are less. Some may dress formal, and some may dress more "at ease" like in sweatpants and a simple t-shirt... Some behave, think, and believe in a prim and proper manner, while other women are the opposite.
So how can we be aware of those blueprints and act accordingly?
I believe you touched on this lesson in your last program with the former dating company you worked with.
Maybe you can touch a bit back on this subject of blueprints.
Thank you! :)
I went out solo a few times on my own. my advice is start with bars/pubs with a pool table in it. put a coin down to play the champion. get to know him/her and kick their ass. I sometimes emotionally feel paranoid. I never really got used to going out alone but in the end its not bad. I never got asked are you here alone. if I was to answer that just say im passing time :) no need to lie
The man brother. Thank You.
You are still great. Thank you
I find my wing usually helps me get in the groove at the start of the night but fucks my shit up at the end lol My best nights were when he fucked off to a different area of the club and I was solo
Why it is so fckin hard! Thank's man for your advice, you're the best!
Great video as usual. Any chance of a video on gaming in a small town? RSD Luke and Max did a video where the crux of their argument was "move to a bigger city". Is there any easily implementable practical advice you could impart on this?
Todd have you ever been in a fight related to game? Would love to hear a good story. Love your content and keep it up
Great video Todd, and nice jacket.
In japan, most of them tend to be mass cuz they're shy,and not confident.
but It doesn't matter if they someone watch me . I do pick up a girl whenver I'd like to.
Bar crawls are the best for going solo
AskToddV I Started good in terms of creating attraction with my colleges ,but then it started going down with those people because of me being lazy after getting tiny results. How do I crank up the game again with these people. Or should i stop trying with these people and improve my skills outside. How do i keep the game going after certain point without getting overwhelmed and that is my problem i think.
Btw what's the closing song?
#outro
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the boss has spoken
Perfessor Todd
"dont be awkward " as long as its not illeagle then why not entertain yourself. I love trolling people sometimes.
What was your job before you turned game into a career?
Solo is always better than poor wingman I found that even pulling toos
Needed this video