Should Step Parents Be Allowed To Discipline Their Spouse’s Children? | RSMS
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- Do you think it's okay for a step parent to get involved with disciplining the children of their spouse??
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People need to stop posting crap like this on social media. Discipline your child in private.
Exactly!
That actually what I say! If it's sincere love affection and concern I don't have a problem with step parents disciplining. What I do have a problem with is, why in the heck do you have to post is on this darn Social Media? Why? SMH!
I’m more embarrassed for the stepmom than the child.
Yes the public humiliation is unnecessary.
I agree
I don't agree with putting it online. That's not my style.
Exactly
They can pay for them, expect to treat them like their own ,but can’t discipline?? I don’t understand that.
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Yes . That makes no sense .
@@rogers5622 I can get on my lil soap box about that….but the stepparent role can be one of the most disrespected and stressful…to put it nicely!!!!!
Absolutely!
Its her approach....he needs his Father on this one...
I don't have a problem with step parents disciplining the child if it's with sincere love affection and concern. What I do have a problem with is it being put on this darn Social Media! Why?
I am 15 and unless you are my legal parent, i am not gonna listen to you!
There not the parent and they should stay out of it
The step parent can discipline their step children if the parents approve it other then that let the mother or the father discipline their own children
Correcting the situation is one thing, but creating a bigger problem is another. I just think embarrassing him in a public setting could do more harm than good. Everyone does not need to know how you discipline your kids. Take this mess off social media.
And she got too much joy out of it...
Have a convo with both actual parents first! PERIOD
She humiliated him not discipline him. That's a form of abuse.
As long as it's not abuse, Yes. They should!! Be on the same page as they said. If I'm taking care of you I should be able to discipline you.
ass backwards how would you feel with someone putting they hands on your child foh
I think it should be whatever the biological and stepparents all agree on. However, like the last caller stated, if both biological parents are in the picture and doing their job as parents you shouldn’t need the stepparent to be disciplining the child. They should be in more of a supportive role in enforcing the biological parents rules. That’s how I did with my stepson.
Naw. If someone is providing for a child and the child lives under their roof, then they have every right to discipline him. Its like saying if a child goes to live with an uncle and aunt or grandparents, that they can't discipline them.
@@King-ns7it if the bio parent lives with them they discipline
And you need to put your kids above your spouse or at least on the same page
@@Unbreakable245 that makes no sense. If that's the case then the bio parents should feed, clothes, and shelter those kids on their own. You can't ask somebody to take care of somebody else's children and they can't discipline them. Where they do that ish at?
@@King-ns7it You need to put your kids first
NOT your spouse first!
@@Unbreakable245 are you crazy? Then why get married? Marry your kids and you take care of them. This what's wrong with the world right now and why it's jacked up because of yall single mommas and your little demon seeds running around the earth. I'm pissed they overturned Roe vs Wade, we def need that ish.
Don't marry if you not going to let the other intervene and discipline.
Put your kids first
If there is not a relationship, then I agree. Why put it on social media? She got too much joy out of that. Just my opinion.
Exactly
Yes step parents should be allowed to discipline!!!!
Yes, but not by cutting off his hair. If he smokes weed . There are several ways to discipline a child in this scenario.
Condemnation and humiliation to change a child's behavior is not appropriate especially the way this step parent has done it so publicly
I couldn't agree more. Actually just commented this. Thank you
U r taking a L if you r a step parent even more so if u r a step dad.
The child is living in the home with both she has the right to discipline him. Not discipline will lead to bigger issues. She has a right to control his behavior.
no she doesnt lol
This parent is doing this for her.
Tbh if a kid is doing something you know is wrong n ur their step parent u have every right to discipline them but u have to do it the right way
Thank you so much for this video I’ve been married for two years I have a 10-year-old. Her father is not active and I have a one-year-old with my husband and we’re currently pregnant. My 10-year-old is acting up and I’ve tried myself so many times to handle it but today my husband‘s going to have to step in LOL thanks shout out to the stepfather’s.
WHERE is the dad....he needs to discipline his son. I don't agree with her putting it on SM.
Lets stop bringing our home on Social Media
Home should be Whats it called your Private Nest🙏🙏 Happy 4th of July ppl
This video will make me to recount all my childhood experiences. Growing up as a teenager together with my siblings. 😂.
As a guy if I'm married to some woman and I'm helping support her and her child yes I should be able to discipline them or she is not the woman for me. There is a reason why she was with me , no longer with the father of the child. I avoid them type of situations the best I can. If I had a child from one relationship then in another relationship you better discipline that child.
Don't touch my child that is the issue so glad I am not dealing with you.
It's not about correction being questioned it's the way the correction is being done and to go live what type of parenting skills is that as a black community we have to do better by discipline our children
I have a daughter, that has three kids, their dad lives out of state and has another family, I'm not going to say he's not a good dad but he's not there to help raise these with my daughter. I have free range to discipline either one of them, but I choose not to use physical discipline, as opposed to the way I was raised, by my mother that beat the hell out of us on a regular basis, and I agree with what Ricky said about deserving every whooping that I got. Children need to be discipline, that is a man, that's what God ordained him to be out of the womb, a man although he's a child now, he's a man-child. This may not sound pretty if he goes to jail this young man is going to be disciplined through the court system he's going to be disciplined in the penitentiary by inmates and staff. Discipline starts at home again discipline starts at home.
@@jamesware8708 I'm a single mother of four my oldest one is 27 years old never went to jail a day of his life I never beat my kids cut their hair off is different ways to discipline a child you don't have to embarrass them humiliate them y'all have to think about these children are human and have feelings too now what if the boy would have committed suicide from her doing that of course if they go to jail they going to get dismissed because the people in the jail don't give a damn about them I never said don't discipline your kids so what type of parent are you to go on social media and humiliate him y'all want to talk about the word of God let's talk about it the Bible also says that parents are not to provoke their children my discipline for my kids come out of place of love it was never for the world to see
Its so frustrated to be a step parent
So dam hard
Didn't have to make it public!
It’s not a problem if all parents agree however why put it on social media?
Mary M you are so right that’s when the problem began he’s gonna be teased by other children and this may lead to a bigger problem , sit down and talk too the young man . Why everything got to be on social media
Put it on social media so everybody know, even the person he's buying his weed from or whatever he's getting it from, the people he hang around won't really hang around anymore because they know they'll be put on social media as well
Certain things Rickey that I agree too👍💯
Excuse me! I do not have children,, I do not know anyone; however, I do know just like God’s word shall always remain the same, so shall discipline children! Whatever generation may come or go. Dr. Maya Angelo once said a child is not born coming out of their baby crib knowing respect. Kids must be taught and trained in the home. It’s unfortunate kids today lack so much integrity about respect because most parents are not teaching them.🧐
Black men are most likely to be step parents and most of it is the trauma we faced growing up so we try to be heroes. The same women that caused us that trauma are the same women we ruin our lives over trying to save. DONT DO IT! Be a better example for YOUR children!
I wouldn't give a man with children the time of day because I didn't want to deal with their mom. After the deaths of my husband and children I had a change of heart. I wanted to pour the same love and care into his children that I poured into my own. I wanted to get along with their mom as well but she wasn't having any of it. This woman went to extreme lengths cause problems so eventually I wouldn't allow them to come over to my house anymore. I had my house and we had a house together so when it was my husband's visit I went to my house. It was that or end up in prison for God knows what.
don't touch my child. all parents need to have a conversation FIRST.
Not physically but constructive criticism is needed
The stepmother should not have disciplined the child that way, especially on social media. I hope the biological mother talked to a lawyer about this. I am in no way saying he should not have been disciplined, but this was mental abuse towards the child.
This is a no! She's shaming him. There's a difference between discipline and shaming. Discipline is correcting the behavior and giving appropriate consequences. Cutting someone's hair is shaming them for who they are, blasting it all over social media, and telling the world he's an F student.
For example if a kid is acting up and causes a tray of eggs to drop on the floor. Some parents would get angry and call that kid dumb or something. But true discipline is when you yell at the kid, because we'll get angry, but you tell the kid, that his BEHAVIOR was stupid. Not that HE was stupid.
Shaming children for doing dumb stuff, makes them feel unworthy and can lead to low self esteem. It teaches them they are bad at the core. But telling them their actions are stupid, allows them to make a change.
Humiliation is not punishment
The child sounds so distant and unhappy. A 12 year old smoking weed at home is suffering badly. Poor boy.
Absolutely No! Stay off of the Social media exposing the youth like this. WTH.
Exactly👌🏿
Discipline and humiliation is two different things
Hell to the yeah.like ricky said she didn't whooped his ass.and grades .discuss the disciplined.
Absolute murder of the English language. 👨🏽⚖️ You are hereby sentenced to 6 months in the county jail
Yes!!! Be on ONE accord as a couple!!!!
My parents discipline to their children were beating our ass if we don't go their rules they laid for their children.
This one took me a sec to think on. At first I thought the punishment was harsh, and then I considered what his biological mother would think. AND THEN I REMEMBERED SHE SAID STRAIGHT F’s! I’m sorry but not much is off the table because straight F’s could really jack his future up, and if his biological father and mother aren’t correcting this situation than she is being a humanitarian at this point.
You have to punish him like that by cutting off his hair that mess with their self-esteem I need to cut that damn weave out of her head that's just straight-up abuse
I'm feeding him, protecting him, spending my time and money on him, so yes....i WILL discipline him. This is my house
If you were protecting him he wouldnt be an F student.
That haircut though 🤣. Seriously he’s on his way to a world where there may be no comeback. He could end up on crack or even worse. I agree with Ricky Smiley. Why is he getting high in the first place? He’s not even a teenager. Who is he hanging around with? Hopefully he just got caught with some weed and that’s it. Looks pretty stoned to me. Hopefully he learns a lesson, and goes on to do great things. I don’t see anything wrong with what she did. Praying 🙏🏾 for this child and the family.
That boy was publicly humiliated. If I was his bio mother that woman would be getting visit from social services.
Why did she have to put it on social media? If I was his biological mother, I would unstitch her weave and it would come with a ass whooping on social media. What’s with cutting his hair vs putting him on punishment by taking things away from him and not letting him go anywhere.
I remember this video this woman said he was going to give his son of George Jefferson haircut
Embarrassment is never the way.
There is a difference between discipline and public humiliation. This is public humiliation. Why is it necessary to cut the boy's hair, make a video of it, and then post the video online for the world to see? Her response does not match his actions, and I would feel this way if she were his biological mother. What she did here is just as damaging as striking him would be, if not more. Abuse is not discipline. She deserves the flack she received, and I hope she was thoroughly embarrassed.
They become their children too once they are married. Step nothing!
🤦 Not on social media...She is personally getting something out of this🤔...
Yes she has the absolute right because she's an adult, the era I grew up in the teachers, neighbors and anybody grown could beat our ass. That's the problem with society discipline is a thing of the past and mainly the reason they are out committing crime.
😂😂 frl bro. If i ever came home and told my mother that a teacher beat me, 😭 God knows im getting more from her
If that step parent is providing for, and protecting that child then it’s an automatic yes. I be damned anyone live under my roof and I can’t correct them. If the step parent is worried about someone else disciplining their child, then maybe you should go ahead and marry your BM/BD.
Yes!... bc...if the step parent wasn't needed by the spouse they shouldn't be there. Shiiii...this uh team sport, we playing doubles, tag team.
She isn’t wrong! He needs punishment !
Watching this video this teanager smoke weed and he was punished. When i was growing up as a teenager together with my siblings no body was allowed to have a boyfriend or girlfriend between the ages 15-22 in my parents home. How dare you say infront of them such thing they will beat the hell out of you and i only had a cell phone in 2009 when i was entering into university .My parents were financially stable but they did not want to spoil their children thhat was why they only gave us phones only when we were entering into university.
They can step in and discipline as long as it’s not physically or emotionally damaging to my chid.
Mine are grown ...its a way to deal with anybody and humiliation just not it...i have disciplined and allowed discipline of my children out of respect for him as king! Now you waste your money to prove a point.🙅.he still smoke just don't be high in front of her..im telling ya lol😂
ONCE YOU HAVE A CONVERSATION WITH BOTH PARENTS , THEN YOU WILL KNOW YOUR PLACE. That’s for step mama and step daddy.
I disciplined my bonus baby as I did mine. I don't hit my biological babies and didn't hit on him. She was doin tha Most in my opinion. That's a form of embarrassment and torture. And it seems she took Pleasure in that shit. It's a way to discipline children without that type of degradation and embarrassment.
Young men out there… I PROMISE TO GOD it’s not worth it bro.. just stay sober, stack your money early and listen to your people while you in that house…. And don’t fluserate your grandparents…..🤣🤣
Where is his dad??
Every ass whoopin I ever got I deserved 100% and nobody can tell me different
You can talk to them and discipline like you would do any other child, but that deep discipline should have come from his Dad... If I was his mother, I would have beat her ass! If she would have killed him, your asses would be on here saying why was she around the child. So, just stop! She could have disciplined him another way. There was nothing constructive about cutting his hair off.
🤬Hair cuts have nothing to do with behavior it's actually ignorant to do so.Why in the hell is she not talking to him, snatching a knot on his ass!, praying with him after asking him what's going on? Did something happen to him that he feels he needs to use drugs, that's how you correct situations. Making everything freaking public out is out of line.The only reason why she displined that way because she saw it on social media. Mr.Rickey you know you are not doing that to none of your boys. If anything you're, giving them a good talking and a punch in the chest. sitting around here letting social media raise their kids. Bull squat let that be your child and the step parent displined that way, everyone of you bringing the city down! I'm a mentor I will give my life for any kid even if I don't know them so this right here pisses me off. Kids don't stand a chance
The song “Baby Daddy” by Wycliffe Jean says a lot.
If the parents can't raise the child/children together they marry and bring on bonus parents. Hopefully they marry people they trust to love and correct their children as they would. If they're good enough to be around and support the children they should be good enough to discipline . Embarrassment should never be a from of discipline.
Discipline yes but don’t hit my daughter.
I agree, if he was caught broken the law by the police he would have been fresh cut in a coffin!
step parents can set rules if he is taking care of the child. My mom raise me to respect adults period. Yes it's a partnership.
Steph in Alaska
Adults does not deserve more respect than children does
Correction is good. But Big Mama didn't put it on Social Media, dang!!!
She didn't correct him. She chose to embarrass him
I agree with you, but she shud have taken something away from him, that he really likes, the game he probably plays! Or sent him to a program they call boot camp
He fed him clothed him protected him put a roof over his head and educated him my son's step father got in that ass when needed and I approved
You know it's so funny how people think that any form of discipline is acceptable because it goes under the banner of discipline, the funny part about it is a lot of this discipline that is being handed out is being done by people who have been abused themselves, so all they're doing is passing down the abuse that was done on them. Basically under the guise that, if it was done to me, I should be able to do it to you. Just because it was done to you, doesn't make it correct, nor you passing it down, does not make that correct, and when in fact, the only thing that you will be doing, is passing on the abuse that was given to you.
Doubling down on the point, not only will he feel the abuse from this step parent, but now he will catch hell, and abuse from all the people, i.e. his friends, who were able to witness said discipline, all throughout social media and wherever else. It is no wonder, our kids are in the street killing folks, shooting up each other, don't give a damn about who they hurt or harm, and have no natural affection for one another, because none was shown to them. People need to understand, physical discipline most definitely is not the only way, and reaching a child's mind, and heart, is so much more effective, but that takes time and effort.
It's funny, you can physically discipline your child in such a way, that you desensitize them for feeling anything for anybody, and leave them mentally scarred, and psychologically damaged. This here, was completely unnecessary, and if the child is failing in school, that's the parent's fault, because that just shows your lack of involvement, in the school work and in them, HELLO!!!
Hopefully this young man gets help from someone who is properly educated and trained in helping him work through his issues, and getting him on a better path. I am what I am, till I ain't what I ain't, if all those who don't like my comments or thoughts, just know in advance IDGAF................ K!!!!!!! 🤣✌🏿❤️ 1
This why I can’t be nobody StepDaddy. Fuvk Dat!!
Well, before I got married, I said I didn't want step children. The reason why because I don't want to hear your not my mom or get that look, 🤨😏,🤣, I wish you would hit me!, and another thing is I didn't want any baby mama drama 🙄, Another thing is that child will always feel a certain way. But, I'm old school discipline, you staying under my roof, I feed you, buy you clothes, send you to school, hell yes I'm discipline you and if the child doesn't like it, I will tell his or her dad to send her back to her mom cause I will not allow a child thats staying under my roof to be disrespectful toward me or his or her dad and you will follow the rules😉
Man you're selfish...children need structure and it does not matter you gives it I had a great stepfather and besides you probably missed a great opportunity to influence a child's future....and as far as drama goes every household has their measure off it
@@seantracibrome2287 I never been call selfish in my life and no, I'm not selfish. I m honest and nothing is wrong with that. You can't say I'm selfish because I didn't want step kids before I was married. This is my choice.
What's ironic ....is god forbid your marriage fails guess what...your a baby momma...
Where is the daddy?
Great Entertainment Video of The Parent Discipline The Child. Not like get whipped or spanking with a Belt or Stick or Iron or Plunger Stick or Fist. A George Jefferson Sherman Hesmley Hair Cut
It could have been worse he lucky to me
I have step kids , if they can't follow the rules it my way or the highway. I will not allow the system to control my kids, home.ldont like the word step kid.
The discussion have been discussed between Mother and myself. I will raise this male or female to become successful Black individual. That my take on it . Kick that Ass. Either thchild will become the parent's are You.
there are some parents that are biological parents to their children and shouldn't be allowed five feet near kids. I don't understand the idea of a woman or a man marrying someone but saying, we live together, we eat together we spend together but you can't discipline my children from a previous relationship. if you don't trust your husband or wife to do that when clearly it takes 2, then why are you with this person? if you're marrying them and not considering rather they are good enough to play a part in fully raising ALL the kids you got issues. In any family, you need as many positive ppl around your family, your kids...I can't sleep or love someone whom I cant trust with the most important ppl in my life. even if the biological father is involved and positive, the more the better in my opinion. but this is wrong no matter who's the parent. this is not a strong solution, he knows hair grows back lol. and there is way too much embarrassing stuff online, and way too much positive feedback for those who have embarrassing moments.. he and his friends are going to laugh and think of ways to turn this into something he can capitalize off
Yes is They Unruling kids
SOME SHIT YOU JUST DON'T DO.
Either she cuts his hair…DOJ DAMN SHO WILL!!!
Hell yeah. I did!!! Not that were bad kids but belts are important to a parents life. As long as it’s no over doing it
I don’t think she should have cut his hair .she should of just taken his phone and grounded him,
Yasss!!...
I gree mr smiley.
Absolutely not! Let the biological parents discipline their own children. If your stepping in verbally that's fine but anything other than that, you, as a step parent, have no right touching, in any way, another parent's children. Especially if both biological parents are in the children's lives.
Well if I can’t discipline your child don’t expect me to be financially responsible for your child
@@tyhill1422 dont put your hands on my child i’ll do that
@@tyhill1422 why you trying to be a step daddy so bad 😹
@@ThePlatinumChild I’m just saying these are the consequences when dating a single mother and being a step daddy lmao
Single parents raise brats step dads must be allowed to discipline
Amen!!
Some good did you Ricky you still act up has a grown man
Absolutely within reason especially if the parents aren't...communication is the best way to discipline and get though to biological parents and the children they have born into our world. No, hitting or whooping is necessary whether they're blood or water 'remember there is not blood without water...I am that water you drink 27/7 365 days of the year RESPECTFULLY MY ELDER SIR KING RICKEY SMILEY👑❤😇🙏🏽💯🌹🇺🇸
You do what you have to do
Let them handle it.....
No
Rickey sound outta touch talking about weed
How he’s too young to be smoking anything
@@coryhoward5078 I agree I wasn’t talking about the kid I was just speaking on what Ricky said about weed
HELL YEAH!! He living in HER house.💁🏾♀️
No it’s a better way (Their House )
Like he has a choice? No wonder he is failing with that type of 'discipline' he doesn't stand a chance.
Im not goin fa that shit
This reminds me of the cartel videos interigating there enemy's then torturing them,man weeed ain't that bad you guys make weed sound wey wey wey worst then it is you guys take meds that's wey worst