*Lying *Fake promises *Controlling *Your are always an second option *Blame game *Telling you are their 1 priority not in their actions are the main traits of toxic relation
At the end its upto you. You begin the relationship and your are the one who will end. If you think i can't live without him/her despite giving several chance to improve his behavior then you will suffer more and more. Better is to take firm decision & leave him/her. In future you will be proud of your decision.
Best advice di aapne, mai exact aise hi karti hoon jab mai kisi baat pe confuse hoti hoon, (Note book me Advantages aur Disadavantages likhti hoon)☺🙏Thanks from bottom of my heart.
Mai toxic marriage me phasi hu pr late kardi 5 saal ho gya now I'm pregnant pregnancy tk me nhi bdla but mai self dependent nhi hu ab kru kya utne ka dil hua pakh bar pr phas s gyi
I was in a relationship where I feel Im not getting the freedom in my life Im afraid of what if I do anything which will create problem to her when Im in real life.She always tells me my faults my imperfection though we had many beakups and we tried to solve those problems nd I changed many thing like stpoped talking to female close friends of ex school,atonp cpnnection to people etc nd now im not perfect she said nd she broked up .so im in a very big trauma nd depression
Mein b ek toxic relationship mey hu...mujhe b kuch samajh mey nhi aarha hain ki mein kaise niklu..bacho ke liye mein jada sochti hu...or bar bar mar kha ker b nhi nikal pati hu.abhi yeh sab bardas nhi hota hai mujhe se kiya karu.
Helo maan ek solution btaye kya 14 years relationship hone ke baad toxic relationship dikh rha too kya kare. Jo banda baat kiye bina rhta nhi tha wah abhi 5 min cll karta hai. Bolta hai kaam kar rhe. Female ke sath jyada time de rha too mujhe kya karna chahiye
Hello mam I'm from pakistan and I'm in relationship and i watch your video now but i want to discuss with you im so depressed i can not understand something what i do so please mam reply me fast
With whom I'm feeling that relationship is my child hood teacher.I always wanted to be like her.She was my favourite teacher and she always had guided me as my parents.When I scored bad marks in H.S,she was the only person who always stands behind me and influence me to make my score better and helped me to think about my future. She loved me a lot and I loved her too.I always treated her like my parents and she always loved me like her child too. But now she has a family and I don't have any problem with it but she never give me time.She ignores me always and she does it so badly that I can't even explain. But I loved her,I still have feelings for her. What can I do?
If your teacher has been so supportive and nice to you for so long, it clearly indicates that it's not a toxic relationship. If she has a family now, then she needs her space too as she has new roles and responsibilities.. and that's completely normal. When you say, "She doesn't give me time", do you mean she doesn't give you tuitions anymore or she doesn't chat with you? If it's tuitions, then you can always get a new teacher if she doesn't want to teach you. But if you want her to chat and spend time with you, then that needs to be done while respecting her boundaries. Ask yourself, are you intruding into her personal space? Are you respecting her time? Are you being considerate about her new responsibilities? May be some introspection can give you more clarity and some answers too.
The toxic pattern you explained is repeating exactly with me. After he does breakup he comes and apologise, then trap me in his words and i fall for him. Again, i ignore my daily tasks(studies to do) and give time to him...but after sometime on calls he doesn't speaks much, stays silent completely, and not even tries to make a conversation and cut the call. Then after a few mins when am done with my overthinking and crying, when he feels good he tries to talk with me normally as if nothing happneed. Please suggest me a good advice, I don't wnt to give up on him but am SUFFERING every two days with a arguement on small thngz...please suggest me something..🙂
I gave my energy n time fir 6 years in a relationship hoping it will chnge one single day but it went on becoming worse n worse n in this I became hopeless I couldn't study life became boring like a trap n at end I started telling myself I am a loser I hated Myself because I tried to break up with him n again use to call him by my own which drained me completely.. I use to suffocate when use to ignore him I carried a guilt that he did so many things for me how could I leave him but I vanished in this soo even if it hurts to break up do it asap because if you are alive then only World exist so believe in yourself love yor self explore life n sray happy
@@shraddhamahabare9304 sorry ma'am after watching ur story I can feel bad for u.but agar apne ye decision kuch, time pehle liya hota to, acha rehta.but abhi, bhi kuch nahi bigda ma'am purani baate bhool jao. Now get up u r a real fighter u can do it👍I m with, u😜
Every relationship requires some adjustments (NOT compromise). Mutual respect and adjustments make a relationship strong and healthy. But if you are having to compromise your values, principles, happiness, ethics, needs etc. to accommodate another person, that means something is going wrong. You'll understand the difference by your own feelings. If, at the end of the adjustment, you feel unhappy and drained out, you'll know that you are making the adjustments to avoid clash and confrontation, not to build up something healthy. When you are in a toxic relationship, the adjustment will still make you feel like a loser. In a healthy relationship, after making the adjustments, you will feel happy because your friend/partner/spouse will recognise your effort and the bond will grow stronger.
@@AmrutaaRajrrishhi But every person is different, so their values, needs, mentality etc. If there will be no compromise then how relation specially among couple's will be built? Even there is no standard guideline to define what is compromise and what is adjustment. It greatly varies from person to person. Above all all break ups are not the necessary result of toxic relations. In case of husband-wife the toxic relation, the which we commonly perceive, may not be the result of their separation. Many other issues even the sheer self-interest play it's role in their break up. So all break ups specially it it taken place between husband and wife cannot be clubbed as the outcome of toxic relations.
@@sekharsil6633 There is no ONE SIZE FITS ALL explanation for any problems between two human beings. You are right, each person has their own set of values, ethics, priorities, needs, wishes, etc. At the end of the day, it doesn't matter what you call it: adjustment or.compromise, what matters is how you feel after adjusting/compromising. Whatever factors may be involved, if the act of compromise/adjustment makes you happy.. do it. If no, then sooner or later, it will lead to unpleasantness and crack the relationship. Period.
@@AmrutaaRajrrishhi Thanks for your reply. But to make my final comment in this regard that we should accept the fact that we do certain things out of sheer responsibilities and duties. Not that we love them to do or doing them we get pleasures. Even we do things which give us pain but if we don't do them it affects our sense of morality. Beyond the understanding of toxic or compromises or adjustments, the sense of morality is the most important grid in every relationship, especially between couple's and husband-wife. Again thank you.
@@sekharsil6633 Thank you for sharing your take at relationships. Relationships are meant to elevate our lives, be the reason for our growth, sense of fulfillment and happiness. I hope you find these in your life in abundance. Good luck and stay blessed.
Mere relation mai bohot jagre hote thee...Wo mere situation ko nehi samajta tha..or mere samjaneke bad bhi mujhe nehi samaj ta thaa....Plzzzzz help mee
Nikal ja o jaldi nehi ye log jindigi barbad kardenge phir bhi boy to itna victim card play nehi karta but jab ladki hoti hay to agar mentaly not ok ho to yo ku66 bhi kar sakta ya phir wo pagal ho jayegi ya phir khud ko hurt kar legi... This is not normal anymore
Hi mam very well explained but I'm going through the.it's 10month of married life.my husband is not working since 2yr..our is arrange marriage..he is only one son .though i know he he don't have job i have married as he was good to me.i also thought that he will get job and i was also keep supporting him morally and whatever best i could do . whenever we go out i spent for everything. You know since the day i married he is provoking nd hurting me 100time then 100times he comes nd say sorry..i gave enough chance and forgot nd forgiven him.still he is repeating the same. Though he don't have job I'm I'm supporting him and adjusting for everything still he hurts me and provoke me and make me to cry every two days once. If i suggest any good thing or if i advice any good thing he always talk negetive and he talk riverse and throw the word in return which hurts me. alot as I'm very sensitive. After hurting everytime he will act as of nothing happened nad then. he will say why are you taking everything seriously.his parents also supporting him whatever he do. They will criticise me even if i do ggod things for him they won't recognise my good things.just bz they don't have daughter and he don't have sister he don't understand girl's feeling and pain...since 10month of married life I'm not happy at all always he throws words nd hurtse then 100 times he make mistakes then 100time he will ask sorry which has no meaning.still i gave enough chance and forgiven..i don't want to give up nd i don't want to lose my relation so I jave adjusted amd dint even said to my family but recently when I was talking over call with my mom i cried that time my mom asked i said light story not complete story she told me to adjust....since then im just acting as if like nothing happened just bz mu mom should not take tension as my dad lost his live during covid 19. Since I married every once in two days or week I'm crying bz my husband provoke by throwing words which i don't like. The things which i don't like he do that then he will throw the bad words then he will ask sorry....most of the time I'm crying I'm working in IT company i can't focus on my work.I'm finding very difficult as everytime he provoke me and he urt me in his words that too the things which i don't like about that only he will talk... example I like my nation and i like Modi and i like praying God.i like positivity...but things which i like he talk against to that just to hurt me he will speak anything then he will say sorry as if like nothing happened..how much torture I'm baring and controlling now. adays my aggression level has increased and i get offend so early by seing his behaviour.he not working but still I'm supporting him in each and everything.but he never correct his mistake though he says he will correct it...I'm fed-up nd tired enough. I'm just adjusting and forgot nd forgiven just bz i dint want to give up nd don't want to lose the relation. Now tell me mam what should I do. Please suggest me
Mam🙏🙏 aur kaise ho aap mam mera aapse question hai mam aaj mai aapko 35 signs bhej raha hoon mam aapko mujhe batana hai ki in signs ka kya matlab hai ye kya jataate hain aap is topic par bhi video bana do chaahe jitni long bane aap banaana mam 1,all take no give 2;feeling drained 3;lack of trust 4:hostile atmosphere 5,occupied with Disbalance 6:constant judgment 7:persistent unreliability 8;nonstop narcissism 9:loaded with negative energy 10:lack of communication 11;continuous disrespect 12:mutual avoidance 13;insufficient support 14:ceaseless control issues 15;never ending drama 16:Persistent self betrayal 17:constand challenges 18:feelings of unworthiness 19;vibes of entrapment 20,always undermining 21,empty pretense 22:packed with uncertainty 23;brimming with envy 24;shortage of autonomy 25;permeates victimhood 26:diminishes your self worth 27;laced with dishonesty 28;makes you unhappy 29:feels uncomfortable 30;lower your high standards 31;senses stagnant 32:cuts corners 33;filled with criticism 34,brings out the worst 35;cannot do anything right
Mam I need your advice! I meet him online now it's been 1 &1/2 year. First few months were going good, I was happy and everything was going awesome but after few days he started changing and also started taking me for granted , like use bad words, get angry at small things,tells me not to talk to other boys. And when I used to get angry he used sweet words and I fall for it and sometimes he acts he doesn't even care and the same keeps repeating and i cry a lot and get depressed and still hope for him to change. But mam it's hurting me and i don't know what to do exactly Sorry for a long para but I need your help!! 🙏🏻
I think you know what you need to do, but you are just not being able to get out of the loop. The more you tolerate disrespectful behaviour, the more you give power to another person to control your life. People treat us the way we allow them to treat us. You need to understand what is better for you, being depressed in a relationship or being genuinely happy. Love and disrespect don't go hand in hand.
@@AmrutaaRajrrishhi Thank You Thank you Thank you so much for taking your time and replying me! I really don't know how to thank you right now.Your Advice is really helpful 🥰❤️ And I will take care of it !
@@cookiecake6187 I wish you all the happiness and joy in the right relationship. If you are feeling depressed, it means you know that you deserve better,
@@AmrutaaRajrrishhi I have finally taken the right decision for my self ☺️ and ended the relationship and I m desperate to tell you that It's been 2 weeks since this happened and started working on myself more,I am happier than ever 😄❤️ really appreciate your efforts ma'am 🙇🏻💖
@@cookiecake6187 May the universe be with you to give you all the strength and resilience that you need now. Wish you a beautiful life ahead. 💕 God bless. 🙏
Mam agr dusra person look like psyco and alwys said dont leave me.,,mai reh nhi pauga bt at the same time he is toxic for me and tourtured me mentally,,thn what should i do uska soche or apna ???
14 year mai khabi ldai nhi hua bt achanak se uska behavior change hogaya. Mera ijat Bhut karta tha ab nhi karta kuch bhi bol deta hai or uske andar mujhe khone ka daar bilkun nhi hai
Mam mai to apne ap ko time ko dene ki kosis krti hu... Pr mera partner mujhpe bht cillata hai ki mera phn uthao... Hmsw baat kro or pure din mere sath rho.... Agr mai uska call msg ignore krti hu to gali deta hai... Mujhe majburi me usse connect rehna pdta hai... Mujhe mere liye apne ghr valo ke khud ke liye kbhi time nhi milta. ....usne bht jada control kr rkha hai or mujhe meri mrzi se jeene nhi deta. ...usne mujhse meri frnds ko dur kr diya or relatives ke yaha bhi jane se mna kr diya.... Agr mai bolu sb ku6 breakup bolu to vo bhi nhi krne deta.... Plz help me mam🙏
Aap ko pata hai aap kya chahti ho aur aap ko kya karna chahiye. Phir bhi aap ek Qaidi ki tarah jee rahe ho? Agar abhi yeh haal hai, toh aage kaise rahogi uss insaan k saath.. socha hai? Ek galat decision se zindagi barbaad ho sakti hai. Ek sahi decision se ek bilkul nayi zindagi ban sakti hai. Sawaal yeh hai ki tum kya chahti ho??
Mam i leave that relationship but i feel guilty for her even i know she is happy she took food timely but i am not well i am sad from 2 years i always think about bad things happend in past my appetite is not well and I am deppresed, thinking that why i am still caring about her 🥺😭😭
Toxic relation Break up k baad wo mujhe bewafa bolta hai...Mujhe nehi samaj ta hai or upne upko samesha thik and mujhe galat samajta hai...kya karu ....plzz bataiyr
Don't worry aise ladko ko apni galti nhi dikhti... Aap acha karoge to uski nazro mein ache ho......aise ladke apne soch k hisab se chalte hai.... Hamari thinking kuch ni hoti... Same here
I am in pain plz help!! I finally got to know I am in a toxic relationship. And I want to quit the relationship. But whenever I tell him it's not working and I am not happy in this relationship... He either gets very sweet and try to solve the problem by saying sorry and etc or he starts cutting his hands, bangs his head on the wall or even burn himself. I don't know what to do now.. I feel like I am trapped. Can Anyone please help!
@@manisha3557 Thankyou soo much for the advice. I didn't had guts to walk away so continued until he just did the last thing he could do. Physical violence! And that moment I walked away. He still tries to communicate in any way but I ignore now. I hope things get better.
@@kalyaanseva7255 sister indulge yourself in some spritual activities. It will heal you. Forgive yourself and forgive him...stay strong...god bless you...
*Lying
*Fake promises
*Controlling
*Your are always an second option
*Blame game
*Telling you are their 1 priority not in their actions are the main traits of toxic relation
At the end its upto you. You begin the relationship and your are the one who will end. If you think i can't live without him/her despite giving several chance to improve his behavior then you will suffer more and more. Better is to take firm decision & leave him/her. In future you will be proud of your decision.
I'm literally crying while watching this i want to get out of it!!! I hate it here but i just can't it's so difficult 😭
Mam aapki video dekh kr sukoon mila lg rha h kya galtiya hue h mujhse itna atcha video kisi ne nhi bnaya bahoot bahooot shukriya mam
Best advice di aapne, mai exact aise hi karti hoon jab mai kisi baat pe confuse hoti hoon, (Note book me Advantages aur Disadavantages likhti hoon)☺🙏Thanks from bottom of my heart.
Happy woow👍👍
@@Ghanshyamtiwari19 tq😊
@@Happy-gn6ky ohh welcome ma'am it's my pleasure. Ma'am kya abb apki life thik chal rahi hai koi problem to nahi hai?
Thik chal rahi hai, by grace of Allah.life me aaceptance is important ye baat samjh aajaye to sab thik ho jata hai.😊
@@Happy-gn6ky ma'am sorry but kya apse pooch sakta hu ki aap pehle toxic relationship me thi?
Bilkul kaam aaya h thank you so much, however abhi I am in the stage of talking action. Hoping for the best 😇
Thanks 👍👍👍👍👍 good information mam
Perfect. U hv covered almost all the points. Very helpful.
Excellent by Afzal bajwa motivational speaker u tube channel and love for all from Pakistan
bhot sahi batati ho
much much love wish you happiness
Best good advice to improve ourselves rather than any relationship which is on break even point.
"be strong"... I Appreciate this👍
Bahoot bahooot bahooot atchi video h Kam meri problem solve kre plz mam Tut chuka h dil mera life me lgta h kutch nhi h
Ekdum correct bol rhe Yaar...ye same circle mere sath b repeat horha...
Same here
Same here
Best advice like a professional ❤️❤️❤️
Quite helpful talk.i m in very toxic relationship. But can't understand to how to quit.
Dil se dhanyabaad maam.really helpful video for me.
Definitely this video will help you to take the right decision.......Thank You Ma'am for your nice interpretation.
I have learnt so much in such a short video, all I can say is love you
Quite practical advice! Really appreciate your efforts! 👍
Jahnvi ji I hope aap iss problem se zald bahar aaogi. My best wishes to u
Well explained thanku ma'am
Ma'am You Are A True Motivater.
It’s sad to see, we humans are doing so bad to each other..
or is it we ourself doing bad to ourselves?
What a great knowledge u r channel need millions view
Thank you so much. Please share the videos and spread the knowledge if you have found it valuable. 🙏🙏🙏🙏
@@AmrutaaRajrrishhi definitely
Aapki baate bilkul relatable h thankyou for your advice 🙏🏼
very accurate and informative, Love From Bangladesh
Very good.
Mam this is one of the best advise. How to get rid of such toxic relationship.we r in a joint family.n conservative society
Thank you so much ❤️
Very helpful video
thank you dii... love u❤❤. u make it more clear for meee
Bahut bahut accha laga
Medam🙏🙏 toxic relationship kya hoti hai aap ye detail me explain karo aur iske signs par bhi video bana do
Sooo soo well explained Ma'am... Thank you..
thank you.. very good.. it is help me..
Thanks ❤️
Mai toxic marriage me phasi hu pr late kardi 5 saal ho gya now I'm pregnant pregnancy tk me nhi bdla but mai self dependent nhi hu ab kru kya utne ka dil hua pakh bar pr phas s gyi
Good 👍 thanks
It was nice to listen you Thank you , I hope I'll be normal and happy soon ....🙂
Hello mam I'm from meghalaya west jaintia and I'm in relationship toxic I want to discuss with you I'm so deppressed ican n't understand so what I do
Perfect video for toxic realtionship ❤️
Good madam
Dil se bholi aap ne madam... ❤️
I was in a relationship where I feel Im not getting the freedom in my life Im afraid of what if I do anything which will create problem to her when Im in real life.She always tells me my faults my imperfection though we had many beakups and we tried to solve those problems nd I changed many thing like stpoped talking to female close friends of ex school,atonp cpnnection to people etc nd now im not perfect she said nd she broked up .so im in a very big trauma nd depression
Bilkul sahi bol rahe ho aap
Mera beta aesa hai tu mujey kya Karna chaiye Mera beta 34 age hai per he is not married anyone what can I do mam I m worry about him
Mein b ek toxic relationship mey hu...mujhe b kuch samajh mey nhi aarha hain ki mein kaise niklu..bacho ke liye mein jada sochti hu...or bar bar mar kha ker b nhi nikal pati hu.abhi yeh sab bardas nhi hota hai mujhe se kiya karu.
Superb
Thank you ❤
best advice
I have learnt so much ma'am.
Bahut acxa hai
Thank you so much mam
Lots of love from nepal🇳🇵
Thank you so much ❤️❤️❤️
Tq so much ma'am 😊
Helo maan ek solution btaye kya 14 years relationship hone ke baad toxic relationship dikh rha too kya kare. Jo banda baat kiye bina rhta nhi tha wah abhi 5 min cll karta hai. Bolta hai kaam kar rhe. Female ke sath jyada time de rha too mujhe kya karna chahiye
Great talk !! ❤️❤️
Madam , i really need to consult with you about my problems , right now my situation is worst ... Please madam how can i contact with you !
Kabhi bi sorry ya apologize nahi kiya for the past 30 yrs.
awesome
Me bahut confused hoo mam kiya baat karke meri problem solve kar sakte hai
Zabrdust❤
Mam ye jo 35 signs hain ye kya hain inka kya matlab hai?
Too late. She burnt me heavily and choose hypergamy 😅.
thank you so much mam for this video
Thnk you maam
Thanks di
Acxa advice hai
6:52 best line
Hello mam I'm from pakistan and I'm in relationship and i watch your video now but i want to discuss with you im so depressed i can not understand something what i do so please mam reply me fast
U R My Guru Amruta Ji, M waiting next vedio, now m feeling good
With whom I'm feeling that relationship is my child hood teacher.I always wanted to be like her.She was my favourite teacher and she always had guided me as my parents.When I scored bad marks in H.S,she was the only person who always stands behind me and influence me to make my score better and helped me to think about my future.
She loved me a lot and I loved her too.I always treated her like my parents and she always loved me like her child too.
But now she has a family and I don't have any problem with it but she never give me time.She ignores me always and she does it so badly that I can't even explain.
But I loved her,I still have feelings for her.
What can I do?
If your teacher has been so supportive and nice to you for so long, it clearly indicates that it's not a toxic relationship. If she has a family now, then she needs her space too as she has new roles and responsibilities.. and that's completely normal. When you say, "She doesn't give me time", do you mean she doesn't give you tuitions anymore or she doesn't chat with you? If it's tuitions, then you can always get a new teacher if she doesn't want to teach you. But if you want her to chat and spend time with you, then that needs to be done while respecting her boundaries. Ask yourself, are you intruding into her personal space? Are you respecting her time? Are you being considerate about her new responsibilities?
May be some introspection can give you more clarity and some answers too.
The toxic pattern you explained is repeating exactly with me. After he does breakup he comes and apologise, then trap me in his words and i fall for him. Again, i ignore my daily tasks(studies to do) and give time to him...but after sometime on calls he doesn't speaks much, stays silent completely, and not even tries to make a conversation and cut the call. Then after a few mins when am done with my overthinking and crying, when he feels good he tries to talk with me normally as if nothing happneed. Please suggest me a good advice, I don't wnt to give up on him but am SUFFERING every two days with a arguement on small thngz...please suggest me something..🙂
If you keep doing the same things, you will keep getting the same results.
Same with me
But I took courage to end 2 years realtionship for my better future
I gave my energy n time fir 6 years in a relationship hoping it will chnge one single day but it went on becoming worse n worse n in this I became hopeless I couldn't study life became boring like a trap n at end I started telling myself I am a loser I hated Myself because I tried to break up with him n again use to call him by my own which drained me completely.. I use to suffocate when use to ignore him I carried a guilt that he did so many things for me how could I leave him but I vanished in this soo even if it hurts to break up do it asap because if you are alive then only World exist so believe in yourself love yor self explore life n sray happy
Ayesha aap aise aadmi ko ignore kyu nahi krti baar baar uske paas kyu chali jaati ho. Now take a big step
@@shraddhamahabare9304 sorry ma'am after watching ur story I can feel bad for u.but agar apne ye decision kuch, time pehle liya hota to, acha rehta.but abhi, bhi kuch nahi bigda ma'am purani baate bhool jao. Now get up u r a real fighter u can do it👍I m with, u😜
Thank you didi ❤️
Thanks
I got to see ur video at the time, when iam struggling to deal with a toxic person. Right content right time.
Mai v toxic relationship se presan hun bandi mujhe suside ka dhamki deti h kya krun
Mei nikalna chahti hu but i can't hurt my family or don't play with their respect
What I can do
Thank you mam
In every relation there is a compromise and adjustments. What is the line of difference between compromise and toxic and how one could determine that?
Every relationship requires some adjustments (NOT compromise). Mutual respect and adjustments make a relationship strong and healthy. But if you are having to compromise your values, principles, happiness, ethics, needs etc. to accommodate another person, that means something is going wrong.
You'll understand the difference by your own feelings. If, at the end of the adjustment, you feel unhappy and drained out, you'll know that you are making the adjustments to avoid clash and confrontation, not to build up something healthy. When you are in a toxic relationship, the adjustment will still make you feel like a loser. In a healthy relationship, after making the adjustments, you will feel happy because your friend/partner/spouse will recognise your effort and the bond will grow stronger.
@@AmrutaaRajrrishhi But every person is different, so their values, needs, mentality etc. If there will be no compromise then how relation specially among couple's will be built? Even there is no standard guideline to define what is compromise and what is adjustment. It greatly varies from person to person. Above all all break ups are not the necessary result of toxic relations. In case of husband-wife the toxic relation, the which we commonly perceive, may not be the result of their separation. Many other issues even the sheer self-interest play it's role in their break up. So all break ups specially it it taken place between husband and wife cannot be clubbed as the outcome of toxic relations.
@@sekharsil6633 There is no ONE SIZE FITS ALL explanation for any problems between two human beings. You are right, each person has their own set of values, ethics, priorities, needs, wishes, etc. At the end of the day, it doesn't matter what you call it: adjustment or.compromise, what matters is how you feel after adjusting/compromising.
Whatever factors may be involved, if the act of compromise/adjustment makes you happy.. do it. If no, then sooner or later, it will lead to unpleasantness and crack the relationship. Period.
@@AmrutaaRajrrishhi Thanks for your reply. But to make my final comment in this regard that we should accept the fact that we do certain things out of sheer responsibilities and duties. Not that we love them to do or doing them we get pleasures. Even we do things which give us pain but if we don't do them it affects our sense of morality. Beyond the understanding of toxic or compromises or adjustments, the sense of morality is the most important grid in every relationship, especially between couple's and husband-wife. Again thank you.
@@sekharsil6633 Thank you for sharing your take at relationships. Relationships are meant to elevate our lives, be the reason for our growth, sense of fulfillment and happiness. I hope you find these in your life in abundance. Good luck and stay blessed.
Mere relation mai bohot jagre hote thee...Wo mere situation ko nehi samajta tha..or mere samjaneke bad bhi mujhe nehi samaj ta thaa....Plzzzzz help mee
Break it
Nikal ja o jaldi nehi ye log jindigi barbad kardenge phir bhi boy to itna victim card play nehi karta but jab ladki hoti hay to agar mentaly not ok ho to yo ku66 bhi kar sakta ya phir wo pagal ho jayegi ya phir khud ko hurt kar legi... This is not normal anymore
I break it
@@bidisharoy8035 congratulations for your life's new beginning 👍
Every day is a new day
@@DhruvPatel-pe1ns Thanks😊
Hi mam very well explained but I'm going through the.it's 10month of married life.my husband is not working since 2yr..our is arrange marriage..he is only one son .though i know he he don't have job i have married as he was good to me.i also thought that he will get job and i was also keep supporting him morally and whatever best i could do . whenever we go out i spent for everything. You know since the day i married he is provoking nd hurting me 100time then 100times he comes nd say sorry..i gave enough chance and forgot nd forgiven him.still he is repeating the same. Though he don't have job I'm I'm supporting him and adjusting for everything still he hurts me and provoke me and make me to cry every two days once. If i suggest any good thing or if i advice any good thing he always talk negetive and he talk riverse and throw the word in return which hurts me. alot as I'm very sensitive. After hurting everytime he will act as of nothing happened nad then. he will say why are you taking everything seriously.his parents also supporting him whatever he do. They will criticise me even if i do ggod things for him they won't recognise my good things.just bz they don't have daughter and he don't have sister he don't understand girl's feeling and pain...since 10month of married life I'm not happy at all always he throws words nd hurtse then 100 times he make mistakes then 100time he will ask sorry which has no meaning.still i gave enough chance and forgiven..i don't want to give up nd i don't want to lose my relation so I jave adjusted amd dint even said to my family but recently when I was talking over call with my mom i cried that time my mom asked i said light story not complete story she told me to adjust....since then im just acting as if like nothing happened just bz mu mom should not take tension as my dad lost his live during covid 19.
Since I married every once in two days or week I'm crying bz my husband provoke by throwing words which i don't like. The things which i don't like he do that then he will throw the bad words then he will ask sorry....most of the time I'm crying I'm working in IT company i can't focus on my work.I'm finding very difficult as everytime he provoke me and he urt me in his words that too the things which i don't like about that only he will talk... example I like my nation and i like Modi and i like praying God.i like positivity...but things which i like he talk against to that just to hurt me he will speak anything then he will say sorry as if like nothing happened..how much torture I'm baring and controlling now. adays my aggression level has increased and i get offend so early by seing his behaviour.he not working but still I'm supporting him in each and everything.but he never correct his mistake though he says he will correct it...I'm fed-up nd tired enough. I'm just adjusting and forgot nd forgiven just bz i dint want to give up nd don't want to lose the relation. Now tell me mam what should I do.
Please suggest me
I broke up with her because of too much of toxicity in our realationship
Ma'am main apse apni problem discuss karna chahati hun.....
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Mam🙏🙏 aur kaise ho aap mam mera aapse question hai mam aaj mai aapko 35 signs bhej raha hoon mam aapko mujhe batana hai ki in signs ka kya matlab hai ye kya jataate hain aap is topic par bhi video bana do chaahe jitni long bane aap banaana mam
1,all take no give
2;feeling drained
3;lack of trust
4:hostile atmosphere
5,occupied with Disbalance
6:constant judgment
7:persistent unreliability
8;nonstop narcissism
9:loaded with negative energy
10:lack of communication
11;continuous disrespect
12:mutual avoidance
13;insufficient support
14:ceaseless control issues
15;never ending drama
16:Persistent self betrayal
17:constand challenges
18:feelings of unworthiness
19;vibes of entrapment
20,always undermining
21,empty pretense
22:packed with uncertainty
23;brimming with envy
24;shortage of autonomy
25;permeates victimhood
26:diminishes your self worth
27;laced with dishonesty
28;makes you unhappy
29:feels uncomfortable
30;lower your high standards
31;senses stagnant
32:cuts corners
33;filled with criticism
34,brings out the worst
35;cannot do anything right
I have a kid and i am also carrying now...i t has become very difficult to take a decision .plz advice
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Xchi lg rhi ho..👌
Habit se mazboor hu.. Or mentally drain ho chuka hu.. Please help
Change the habit.. Results will change.
How to get out from toxic relationship even you want too but your partner doesn't. Pls tell me
Mam I need your advice!
I meet him online now it's been 1 &1/2 year. First few months were going good, I was happy and everything was going awesome but after few days he started changing and also started taking me for granted , like use bad words, get angry at small things,tells me not to talk to other boys. And when I used to get angry he used sweet words and I fall for it and sometimes he acts he doesn't even care and the same keeps repeating and i cry a lot and get depressed and still hope for him to change. But mam it's hurting me and i don't know what to do exactly
Sorry for a long para but I need your help!! 🙏🏻
I think you know what you need to do, but you are just not being able to get out of the loop. The more you tolerate disrespectful behaviour, the more you give power to another person to control your life. People treat us the way we allow them to treat us. You need to understand what is better for you, being depressed in a relationship or being genuinely happy. Love and disrespect don't go hand in hand.
@@AmrutaaRajrrishhi Thank You Thank you Thank you so much for taking your time and replying me! I really don't know how to thank you right now.Your Advice is really helpful 🥰❤️ And I will take care of it !
@@cookiecake6187 I wish you all the happiness and joy in the right relationship. If you are feeling depressed, it means you know that you deserve better,
@@AmrutaaRajrrishhi I have finally taken the right decision for my self ☺️ and ended the relationship and I m desperate to tell you that It's been 2 weeks since this happened and started working on myself more,I am happier than ever 😄❤️ really appreciate your efforts ma'am 🙇🏻💖
@@cookiecake6187 May the universe be with you to give you all the strength and resilience that you need now. Wish you a beautiful life ahead. 💕 God bless. 🙏
toxic people s behavior is so bad that v cant b happy ,withem
Mam agr dusra person look like psyco and alwys said dont leave me.,,mai reh nhi pauga bt at the same time he is toxic for me and tourtured me mentally,,thn what should i do uska soche or apna ???
Right same question
thnk u mam
Toxic people k sath hu aur nikalna v chahti hu.. But earning to chahiye.. Kya kare mam?? Please advice
Toxic relationship mein rehna maano haath payr baandh k paani mein doob jaana hai. Apni zindagi ko aage hum kaisa banana chahte hain, humein woh sochna chahiye.. aur uske liye jo karna pade, woh karna chahiye. Chahe earning karni ho ya koi bada faisla lena ho, jo zaruri hai, woh karna chahiye.
Well explained.
14 year mai khabi ldai nhi hua bt achanak se uska behavior change hogaya. Mera ijat Bhut karta tha ab nhi karta kuch bhi bol deta hai or uske andar mujhe khone ka daar bilkun nhi hai
Mam mai to apne ap ko time ko dene ki kosis krti hu... Pr mera partner mujhpe bht cillata hai ki mera phn uthao... Hmsw baat kro or pure din mere sath rho.... Agr mai uska call msg ignore krti hu to gali deta hai... Mujhe majburi me usse connect rehna pdta hai... Mujhe mere liye apne ghr valo ke khud ke liye kbhi time nhi milta. ....usne bht jada control kr rkha hai or mujhe meri mrzi se jeene nhi deta. ...usne mujhse meri frnds ko dur kr diya or relatives ke yaha bhi jane se mna kr diya.... Agr mai bolu sb ku6 breakup bolu to vo bhi nhi krne deta.... Plz help me mam🙏
Aap ko pata hai aap kya chahti ho aur aap ko kya karna chahiye. Phir bhi aap ek Qaidi ki tarah jee rahe ho?
Agar abhi yeh haal hai, toh aage kaise rahogi uss insaan k saath.. socha hai? Ek galat decision se zindagi barbaad ho sakti hai. Ek sahi decision se ek bilkul nayi zindagi ban sakti hai.
Sawaal yeh hai ki tum kya chahti ho??
@@AmrutaaRajrrishhi alg hona mam
Mam i leave that relationship but i feel guilty for her even i know she is happy she took food timely but i am not well i am sad from 2 years i always think about bad things happend in past my appetite is not well and I am deppresed, thinking that why i am still caring about her 🥺😭😭
You can never drive a car on a busy road by constantly looking at the rear view mirror.
Toxic relation Break up k baad wo mujhe bewafa bolta hai...Mujhe nehi samaj ta hai or upne upko samesha thik and mujhe galat samajta hai...kya karu ....plzz bataiyr
Don't worry aise ladko ko apni galti nhi dikhti... Aap acha karoge to uski nazro mein ache ho......aise ladke apne soch k hisab se chalte hai.... Hamari thinking kuch ni hoti... Same here
Thnk u so much mam
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I am in pain plz help!!
I finally got to know I am in a toxic relationship. And I want to quit the relationship. But whenever I tell him it's not working and I am not happy in this relationship... He either gets very sweet and try to solve the problem by saying sorry and etc or he starts cutting his hands, bangs his head on the wall or even burn himself. I don't know what to do now.. I feel like I am trapped. Can Anyone please help!
Don't communicate about this, this is going to drain you. if u have guts just walk away, if not just ignore and focus on yourself.
@@manisha3557 Thankyou soo much for the advice. I didn't had guts to walk away so continued until he just did the last thing he could do. Physical violence! And that moment I walked away. He still tries to communicate in any way but I ignore now. I hope things get better.
@@kalyaanseva7255 oh lord! That's Pathetic. Hope you have found peace within. More power to you girl! ❤️ Stay strong 💪
@@tanyarajpoot7011 I thought it's going to end but it's getting worse! But thankyou soo much for support :) I feel happy people are there with me.
@@kalyaanseva7255 sister indulge yourself in some spritual activities. It will heal you. Forgive yourself and forgive him...stay strong...god bless you...