I did this for 6 months and it transformed my self-confidence.
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- Опубликовано: 17 фев 2024
- A heart-felt letter to anyone struggling with self-confidence.
In here I share about the journey I embarked on 6 months ago and how a small change in my daily routine has transformed the confidence I have in myself.
It all started with this one quote from Mel Robinson. She was on a podcast and said "People don't have self-confidence because they don't trust themselves". I'm so glad I stumbled upon this powerful truth, because this quote was what it took for me to promise myself that I would get to a point where I would not flake on myself and begin to trust myself.
In the past 6 months I've learned so much about self-confidence, self-esteem, self-assurance and what it truly means to carry yourself in a way that is confident, in a way that is content with who you are and in your journey, and in a way that is filled with inner peace.
The key to my whole message revolves around the idea that when you believe in yourself, you don't try to convince others.
When you are content with yourself, you don't need others' approval.
When you accept yourself, the whole world accepts you.
About me: I’m Alexandra and I live in Oxfordshire together with my husband and our adorable daughter. My hope is that you’ll find a lot of positivity on this channel.
About this channel: Sharing from the heart. Sharing how I see the world. On here, I will cover topics such as: creativity, cooking, hobbies, self-care, mental health, mom life, crafty life, fashion, womanhood and, travelling.
Stick around and let's be friends. 
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You're like a friend I haven't met yet.
I love your content - both in terms of content and aesthetics. Thank you ❤️
Thank you so much! Yes, working on the aesthetics, I just want to make the prettiest with substance videos there can be! Your words about being a friend you haven't met, are so kind! Thank you! X
" its so hard to stick to your own words sometimes because I think as humans we are so used to disappointing ourselves". Oof. Painful but accurate statement. This came at the perfect time. I decided last night to start a 30 days of self confidence journey. Much like you with singing and playing guitar, I lost so much of my confidence in myself with designing clothes. I cared way too much about what people think about me and it took a toll on my mental health. This video makes me feel like I am going on this journey with my best friend. Definitely going to incorporate these tips. Thank you Alexandra! It's also nice to hear your voice too!
P.s. please make a video of you singing and playing the guitar. The few chords you played sounds so beautiful! 🩷
Thank you so much for sharing! And from the bottom of my heart, I wish you all the best with your self-confidence journey! I know I feel so different now (in the best way possible) than I did 6 months ago an I wish the same for you and even more. It's wild how people's perception of us can impact us, I hope you find a place within you where what you think of your work is enough! :) Sending lots of love! And funny enough I sang a little bit in the recording but decided to cut it out haha! I will continue to work on my self-confidence around that area and one day I will share something XXX
You have deepened my habit for writing the list. I do mine the night before. I call it my night timeblueprint to keep promises to myself. Like giving a valentine to myself. ❤
I love this! So poetic and so centred in love. xxx
You should be charging for this kind of therapy!! Loved watching this, and so timely for me as I am working on manifesting the person I want to be. I think confidence is definitely a constant work in progress.
Haha! I am the least qualified person for it haha, but I do find lots of meaning in sharing my experiences with people! Sending lots of love to you as you discover and align yourself with the person you want to be! XXX
You are so sweet, God is giving the strength to go through.God bless you ❤
Thank you so much! He really does! X
“Lack of self confidence is about not trusting yourself””Not flaking on yourself” So impactful .Thankyou so much for sharing this Alexandra .I am very intentional about what I consume on social media and I find you a warm and wise spirit.❤
I am so glad you found it that way! And thank you for your kind wards - so please to hear what I put into the world makes your cut! X
I love your channel! Thank you for posting this. You are so encouraging ❤️
I am so, so glad to hear! Thank you for watching! Sending love! X
Thank you for sharing, there are some messages here that I needed to hear as I embark on making a lot of changes in my life that revolve around me being me and feeling strong in that. Also, you are looking extra beautiful today😊, your work is shining out of you ❤
Ah I am so glad to hear! I wish you all the best in your journey of change - as someone who is still very much on that journey - it's truly hard work but so rewarding! Cheering you on!
Omg this was so lovely to watch. It completely finished my weekend on the right note😊. I was lucky enough to afford a year of therapy in the UK, and my counsellor had me saying 'what if Im not enough'. I realised I truely believed it and had fed my anxiety. So I practised turning up to events going if Im not enough the other person ,Ill be enough for myself. It was hell at first😅 but it got easier and It allowed me to enjoy my life and the people I meet. Thanks for the video Alexandra, Im so happy you took the risk to do it❤❤🎉
Yes, to ALL OF This! My anxiety fed on "why did I do that, it was so wrong" and my therapist asked me to consider what is acceptable. And now when my mind comes to torment me about an interaction with a person - I say to myself "was that acceptable?" if that person said that to me would I think it's acceptable? And 100% of the cases it's acceptable, so then I say "ok, it's acceptable, let's move on!" - it's so powerful to speak back to our minds and try and re-train our way of thinking! I'm so glad you said to yourself "you're enough for yourself"! I will take this for myself! Sending lots of love XX
I just watched this yesterday, and it's the most encouraged and inspired I've been in a long time. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and beautiful works here! God bless x
Ah this makes me smile! Thank you so much for sharing! God bless you too! Sending lots of love! x
An excellent pattern for living. I'm honestly working on this and i thank you❤
Yes, it truly is! So happy to hear and cheering you on in this! X
Hi Alexandra, I have spent a lot of time thinking about this vlog. I will say that listening to share your experience in Australia hurt my heart and soul . It hurt to know that you experienced this at all and if I am honest it hurt to know that it took place in my homeland. I hope that you also met people who nourished your soul during your time here. I have learnt that when we depend on or are told that our worth is dependant on the value that others attached to us, and what they think of us, it constrains our opportunities for growth and thus our self confidence. This acceptance (value or our worth) is conditional and I learnt that it had a huge impact on my self confidence. Carl Roger’s idea of unconditional positive regard challenged this. In essence at its core, It is the inherent belief of the capacity of people to grow and develop in a positive direction and sits with the ideas of genuineness empathy and acceptance. We don’t always make great choices or acts in ways that others will agree with but we have worth because we exist and are unique. Your vlog has reminded of of him and while he was a psychologist my practice as a health professional and as partner, parent and friend has been grounded in his ideas. So for me self confidence incorporates all the things you spoke about as well the joy in (re) discovering people and strategies that help us know/remember that we are enough, we have worth, we are unique. You are all of these things. As a favourite radio announcer of mine issued to sy each day when she signed off “go well” (her name is Virginia Trioli). Apologies for the very long comment!
I love you and your videos =D since ever! God bless you so much
Sounds like you're one of the O.G! Thank you so much for watching and leaving such warm and kind words! Sending lots of love! X
Thank you for sharing your lovely soul with the world. Looking forward to the next video.
Thank you so so much for watching being here and commenting! Means so much! Yes, already working on the next one, hoping to post it this coming weekend! XXX
You are a star and I am very proud of you….believe me I no how hard it is….i really did hit rock bottom some days are better then others but when I strike through my list with a highlighter pen.
I’m like yes I done it!!
Even if it is one thing that’s on there …I give myself and puppy a hug 😊
The best thing I ever did was get of social media
Keep at it lovely you are doing great.❤
changing my relationship with social media - quitting for 5 months and then only checking it on my desktop has changed, changed, changed my life for sure!!!!! I want to cheer you on and celebrate you for every little tick you've done on your to do list! It is such a good feeling hey!!! Sending lots of love and thank you so much for watching and being here and loving on me and this video!!! XXXX
Esti minunata, Alexandra!! Si mi-e dor de vremea "tineretii" in care eram foarte bune prietene. ❤❤❤
Marcelina CE SURPRIZA sa te vad pe aici. Mi-a venit o idee. Hai sa devenim prietene de email. Știi ca pe vremuri când isi scria lumea scrisori? Ce zici? Te pup! XX
Ce idee buna!! ❤
I just started watching your video and the moment you said "Praise the Lord!" I had to like this video ❤🙏🏽
I loved that part and specifically left it in there, as an acknowledgement of being grateful for where I've been! I love that you noticed/appreciated it too! Thank you for watching and being here XX
As a young ballet dancer, I let a Director in a company where I was auditioning tell me, "We like you a lot, but come back to us when you've lost 5 pounds." I let that guy derail my career. I lost all that weight and more. Too much really. Although I later became a ballet teacher, I''ll always feel bad that I let him wreck my dreams. I wish I would have been a bit stronger to just ignore him and move on. This was many years ago and I've since learned all the advice you've given here, but I hope the young people here listen and learn what you have to say! It's important for a happy life.
Thank you so much for sharing! It really goes to show that people's words can have such a huge impact on us, if we let them. And like you said, when you're young, sometimes you really don't know any better. I wish I had the guts to go and ask my trainers what they thought of my singing, because deep down I know what they had to say was better than the narrative my mind made up and ran with! I love that you stuck with it and became a ballet teacher! So beautiful! And yes, I think that's one of the reasons I made this video, because I wish I came across this advice many, many years ago. Sending lots of love, thank you for watching and being here! X
@@AlexandraBurnett😊 Like others have mentioned here. If we lived closer we could go for coffee and walks. We'd have a nice little group!
I’m loving your super thoughtful, introspective, uplifting videos lately 🙌🥰
Ah thank you so much! That means a lot to me right now XX
So much truth in such a short video! Love your new type of content
So much love in one comment - thank you so much for watching and sharing! X
Speak to my soul. I just love your content. Will be thinking about this one for days/weeks/months, Thanks.
WOW! Sending so much love! Thank you!
This was so beautiful, wise, and inspiring. Thank you 🥺❤
Ah I am so glad to hear!!!! You're welcome!
I love this video so much. I feel like you put into words what I did the last two years with my own life. Thank you! :)
I just want you to know that I am cheering you on and I am celebrating with you!!! Sending you lots of love and thank you for watching! X
@@AlexandraBurnett thank you so much 🫶🏼
Hi Alexandra!! What a lovely message!!
I love your content so much… it’s almost like you are a friend of mine.. really, really heart warming to hear you.
Thank you ❤
This feels like a warm hug to receive on a very cold, very raining Monday morning! Thank you! X
Thank you ❤
You're so welcome 😊
love your videos! thank you!
You are so welcome! Thank you for watching! X
I have always loved your videos and it's truly your personality and genuine nature that drew me to your videos. I'm glad that you are slowly growing into a new personhood as you enter into this season of your life. I can't wait to see how this unfolds in your creative side.
Such kind words from you! Thank you! Feeling inspired to continue with these videos, so I'm really excited to see where that takes me but also to enjoy just making them! X
This is such a beautiful and bold video. ❤ Thank you for sharing your story.
Ah I feel the same way about it, if I am allowed to say so! It took me about a month and a half to figure out what I wanted to say, but once I did, it was a one take wonder and it felt right! Sending lots of love, thank you so much for watching! X
Thank you for sharing ❤ Just what I needed!
I'm so glad it resonated with you! sending love X
Loving your content and words of wisdom, thank you so much ❤
Thank you so much for watching Melanie XXX
You are good Alexandra, a good human being 🫶🏼
Thank you so much!!! x
Great wholesome content, I hope to apply some of your suggestions. I already sort of have to-do lists/work lists but they are put on scraps of paper which get jumbled or lost. I am going to start recording these things more intentionally in a journal book like you. Oftenly I feel like I have barely achieved anything so being able to have it in written history will help me to realise that I do infact achieve.
I will start treating my work as a profession rather than thinking what I do isn't important. Really, I'm wasting the time of the cilents (who are paying me to give them results) just because of my low self worth & confidence.
Thank you for the videos x
Yes, about the written history. It's so nice to look back and have evidence of all the things you were able to accomplish over time. Wishing you all the best with your journey - I'm cheering you on!!!
This was wonderful, thank you. I’ll try this ❤
I am so glad you came across this video and it resonated! Cheering you on as you grow in self-confidence! X
You are a precious spirit. Thank you for sharing ❤
Thank you so much for watching and for your very kind words! Sending love X
Just what I needed to hear. Really helpful to me, thank you! A wise mother indeed
I am so so pleased to hear! Sending you lots of love! XXX
You are very inspiring, you have inspired me to follow in your footsteps ❤
Cheering you on! And praying you will find lots of joy on your journey of change! X
I always knew that we have something in common
Now you made me curious - what is it? X
@@AlexandraBurnett Aah you responded!!
Okay, we both love music and we sing. I also think I'm not good enough because of what people told me.
Anyways I love your videos and you inspire me a lot
First of all parents have to bring up their kids being self-confident and feeling loved and ok. If we don't feel like this as an adult it's worth digging in your family history and realize why your parents failed - without judging them.
Whilst I agree that parents play a huge part in shaping their kids' confidence, I feel like your portrayal of self-confidence lacks nuance. To me self-confidence is not something you have or you don't and that's finite. It's not something your parents instil in you and then it stays there forever. Self-confidence, the way I have experienced it, is fluid and it's very much complex. It's something you gain and you lose, something you fight for, something you grow into, something that changes as you change, something that gets chipped away by the world and our experiences, regardless of how much / little confidence your parents encouraged you to have. Thank you so much for watching. x
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Sending lots of love X
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Sending lots of love! X