I feel so bad for the girl who broke up with the guy bc of drugs. You can tell she still loves him and she tried so hard; you can hear the pain in her voice.
The other problem is, is she is crazy mature. Shes ready for a full adult relationship. He's still hangin out and smokin with the homies, and lying about what he's up to. They are in completely different places in life. Shes already outgrown him, and won't be looking back.
@@liliyurch2511 Maybe. If almost definitely made her grow up and understand she didn't want to be treated like that and know she deserved better. Meanwhile he's still in the same place as when the relationship started. One day he's grow up and be filled with regret that he didn't do better and let her get away. She was fantastic.
Kissing someone else in front of your partner isn’t a little moment. That’s huge. And the fact that she doesn’t see it that way is heartbreaking as a whole
Yeah my exbf did this to me. He had asked beforehand, as did the guy he kissed, but I thought it was a joke so the kiss threw me off. Thank you for validating the weird feeling I had from it.
@@aashnasawlani Wth are you on about , admitting your mistakes and going foward with CHANGE in themselves and willing to show that change to their ex after mistakes they have made is nothing else than courage and being brave. Self respect has NOTHING to do with this. Self-respect would come into account here if they desperetly clinged to something dead which isn't the case here for most of them. If anything , wanting closure is something you need to respect yourself more in the future after mistakes you've made have come to light. You're so full of it lmao.
To be honest the last thing I'd want an ex partner to tell me is "you've traumatized me" or "you've made me scared to get into another relationship." My heart would be crushed. (Just to clarify- I would never treat someone I love(d) so badly in the first place.)
It’s true and the sad thing is that oftentimes you either won’t get to say it or even if you do say it they won’t listen or take it seriously. The hope is that they are mature enough to hear you out and hold themselves accountable for what they did
The lesbian couple's relationship was extremely poisonous, with the woman who wants her ex-lover back constantly raising the bar and then telling her there's nothing she's done to deserve her praise. You went and got the hell away from that girl and that relationship, and I applaud you for that! It's poisonous
@@Natu014 I think she wants her ex back because she hasn't been able to find anyone else who will put up with her crap like her ex did. She wants to feed her more crap and feel like she still has control over her by doing so. So glad she managed to get away!
It made me upset when she said she got drunk and cheated on her, then the toxic one referred to that event as not as big if a deal to her. She didn't say it directly about that but it was right after the girl brought it up. So you can kind if put 2 and 2 together.
@@chisofly7850 speaking as someone who is all for weed it can get to an unhealthy point. Anything can be an unhealthy addiction. I don’t know if he has one or not but if your lying to your partner about it it’s probably not at a healthy place.
He was probably high on set LMAO. Honestly though I feel bad for him. She clearly doesn't understand addiciton. He needs to go to rehab and forget about girls until he's a year sober.
@@theNimboo for some reason I have a feeling she’s just very young and feels uncomfortable with him doing anything but being sober, maybe religion or family w past addictions ? It just seems like it was a deal breaker and he just wants to smoke weed and play video games lol
It's actually horrifying that one persons perception after the break-up would can be that they did nothing wrong but the other person is now traumatised by what they did... and the other person has no clue at all :(
It feels nice seeing people not necessarily asking their ex to take them back into a relationship, but seeking closure and admitting their flaws in the dark. I can tell it will help with the healing process. Not sure about the guy but the other 2 certainly had some merit and I think it will help all 4 of them recover and let go of hatred.
That girl who insisted on sobriety and action backing up his words, she sounds like the type who would make the sacrifice play for the greater good of the relationship, and it gets even better because on top of that she's got a healthy sense of self-worth, too. Seriously hope that she finds somebody willing to go equally as far for her.
So, just to be clear, that one girl is dating a new guy and is still friends with her ex who she would consider getting back together with if she breaks up with her current partner. Sounds like a huge red flag
He asked her a question. She said she is seeing someone but said if she wasn't currently then maybe. She said that....because he asked her that question. How exactly is that a bad thing or a "rEd fLaG"? You people are so weird.
That’s literally not what she said. Y’all are misinterpreting her. She specifically said that if it was an alternate universe where she wasn’t dating someone, but because she is, she wouldn’t.
@@Xplreli I mean you really shouldn't need closure if you're in a new relationship Otherwise it's really unfair to the other person because you're clearly not over your ex
The guy with the curly hair with the substance use looked smug about using other things. That's a red flag! Seems like if they were sorry truly wouldn't they feel something else about it, like remorseful? I think you're onto something with your comment and I'm studying body language and interrogation with someone ex-FBI and it's interesting watching this
The guy struggling with addiction issues is definitely just apologizing cause he wants her back… when she asked him if he was sober, he literally said he smoked a week ago and fumbled his words if could’ve been like 2 days ago in reality…
“What was insignificant to me, wasnt insignificant to you.” I hope she can truly heal after this because I’ve been in that relationship, it took all I could give.
But maybe with the lights on before the lights off just like in CUT videos...otherwise I'd be scared about getting murdered or something if someone invited me over for "closure" and insists on being in the dark...
3:20 As someone who went through an abusive phase that was traumatic in a relationship you often remember little things that they don’t. My partner and I use to have an AWFUL relationship she was literally the ultimate tormentor in my life. We moved passed that and healed (Ik that’s not for everyone) and she genuinely has become a better person and works her ass off to make it up to me every second of every moment of every day but I remember she told me her pendant was broken and wouldn’t stay on her neck and she had no idea how it happened so I told her the story of how and why she broke it and she sobbed saying she didn’t remember doing that and she asked herself how could she do that to the first gift I gave her. There are a lot of little things she did that I told her she did that she just didn’t realize she had done and is mad at herself over
@@freddyjafar1490 probably because when they are hurting you they are actually in the moment more mentally occupied with something that’s hurting them, i think
It's very interesting how the body language of the girl in the dress changed completely after her ex arrives. At first she lookes very confident and in control, afterwards we can see that she knows that she did something wrong.
I really feel for the girl whose ex relapsed but I just hope she knows that his relapsing wasn't an indicator of whether or not he "loved" her. addiction can't be cured by love, all addicts have someone or something they love, and if love was all it took there would be a lot more recovering addicts in this world. unfortunately it's a disease and its an incredibly hard one to overcome, especially when the recovery is a lifelong effort. best wishes to them both and I hope they both find peace
yeah, its almost like a weird power dynamic. someone gets away with bad behavior, knows the person kept staying/coming-back, so theres more confidence in continuing that bad behavior.
It's so crazy to think about how many moments are a big deal in one person's experience, and the other person doesn't have ANY recollection. Relatable and wild
3:21 & 6:01 You can tell she grown into an adult and was truly apologetic and understanding, I am at this stage right now where I feel bad for the thing I’ve done in the past but don’t have the heart to go back and apologize. I haven’t grown out of that stages yet, hopefully one day I can or just let time do it part
The lesbian couple had the same issue that I had in my previous relationship and it was just awful. My ex just gave me a lot to traumatize about being together with another person that I hardly can imagine my self with anyone for the past year almost. She still try to reach me till this day and I just can't even talk to her. The worst part is that she thinks that everythiing she did it was never that bad. Everytime she tries to talk to me she always asks what happend so serious that I don't even wanna talk to her, like wtf?
my ex best friend is like that too. i know it's not the same as being in a relationship, but we grew up together and lived together and the fallout from cleansing her from my life was rough. she's tried to get in contact with me several times since, acting as though nothing happened to push us apart, and i'm like... in what WORLD would i want someone who treated me so abysmally back in my life?! what would i even get from that? people like your ex are just living in an alternate reality or something. so sorry you had to go through that. :(
Mine was a gay relationship. He took so long to accept his sexuality and when he finally did? He cheated on me with the excuse that he wasn't sure if he truly cared about me or if it waa because I was the first guy he been with. When I got mad and told him that he'd really messed with my head, he said "well, I apologized. Why are you making me feel bad" i haven't spoken to him in 6 months and never will
Out of everyone I dated in the 35 years I have been alive, there is only one person that I would take back. The only reason is because she admitted that she was being selfish and was the cause of our breakup. If I wasn't in a time in my life at that moment of getting myself back together, I would have gave it another chance. But it didn't happen and now I have been with my wife for the past 10.5 years and married for 8.5 of those. It may not seem like it, but your special person is out there. Until that happens, don't settle for anyone just to not be alone.
As someone who used to be in a psychologically abusive relationship, I could totally relate to the ex in the lesbian couple. My ex would belittle everything I did, and it crushed me. Now the girl needed to hear that she was abusive to her ex girlfriend. I hope this conversation motivates her to continue her journey through rehabilitation. I also hope the ex finds the peace that she deserves.
I don't know bout yall but I thought the sobriety girl or whatever i should call her hahha was very good at talking about emoyions and stuff. like she really chose the right, accurate words
wait… so… you’re seeing someone and asked your EX to come onto Cut to “apologize” and potentially get back together? dam what a slap in the face to the man she’s dealing with. UPDATE: people who disagree on my statement. idc, solely because if you’ve decided to move on with a new partner you should not be “seeking” closure from a ex bf/gf when you’ve shown you moved on by being with someone new. sorry, not.
he asked, not her. I really don't think the main aim of any of them was to use this to get back together with their ex, it was mainly for closure. And surely the blonde girl didn't think she'd get back with her ex after all the horrible shit she did to her
For 2 adults it’s starting to seem immature. Smoking weed is less harmful than any drug right, but I wish they went more into detail bc she shouldn’t be trippin over something so little
@@endedlegacy Just because it's less harmful than any other drug, doesn't mean that it can't negatively affect someone's life, I know from experience that it can, it can make people lazy, the high is addictive so people will spend all their money on it and people can get serious withdrawal symptoms from it. We don't know why she wanted him to quit, these could be some of the reasons and they could also not be some of the reasons, only they know.
I feel bad for the guy who smokes. Addiction is an awful thing to go through. He really wants to tell his ex that he's gotten better. By his response, he tries to downplay the last time he used to lessen his shame. I hope he gets sober one day.
Yeah you can’t just tell someone you quit or I leave. And think that if they don’t quit that means that they don’t love you. A persons addiction has nothing to do with loving someone else. Now it’s perfectly ok with her not wanting to be with someone that’s using. Being with an addict is nearly impossible because drugs always come first. I say this as a recovered addict. I’ll have 8 years clean in September. But she definitely shouldn’t think she could’ve controlled his addiction or that it was her fault. When she said she wouldn’t be able to get over him going behind her back. She does need to maybe learn some more about addiction to help her understand and make peace with that. Because to her it feels like a personal betrayal. And that’s really not how addiction is. Active addiction takes control of everything you can’t just stop because someone tells you to even if you want to. You have to go to treatment and get help . It has nothing to do with your spouse and is a complete personal journey. No one else can make you sober or make you use ( unless they literally force you obviously, but you know what I meant hopefully)
To the people complaining about the guy just smoking weed. #1 she just might not be comfortable with the smell or is in a work field where it’s just unprofessional to have that scent on you. #2 she did say alcohol and other things. You don’t know how bad of a drunk or the other things he was doin
It's hinted to there are other likely harder substances he indulges in. They likely don't bring it up here on video because those substances are likely illegal/ much more frowned upon, which could seriously damage his personal image in the literal infinite sphere of the internet. Not to mention, it could also serve and be used as evidence against him both legally and in personal and professional relationships.
#3 It's encouraged in the recovery community to be abstinent from all mind-altering substances, including weed. Might not be a gateway for everyone but it typically is for addicts.
Watching this brought back so much pain and trauma with all of my ex’s. Especially the ex who was physically abusive. I wish I can tell him how much he made it hard for me to date again. I think it’s best for me to not reopen those wounds 😢
It takes good self-reflection for someone to really examine and understand themselves like that lesbian lady did who got asked to be on here. Good on her for communicating plainly: “no”
Man you can tell that they still love their exes because it takes a lot of courage to ask someone to take you back, that's mean you're life incomplete without them❤.
Wow ppl actually still love their exes. Thts absolutely mind boggling to me just pow. The tall gal in the skirt is so stunning! I mean, they’re beautiful but I jst like her look
Having someone cut you down because of their issues and then say I hope you realize your self worth is filthy work. After you get stung like that, you learn to see signs and just stay away from people like that
Tbh, there are reasons relationships end and getting back together might sound great but in a few months those things will annoy you again and it will end. Like why run incircles unless that person has actually changed. I dont get that.
The addiction issue girl should be going to Al anon to figure out how to cope with his addiction bc you can’t change an addict, you can only change how you interact with them. Blaming him for his addiction is not helpful.
Would never let any of my ex’s back nor ask them to despite how much I loved them. You leave ,your spot on my heart is blacked out. Move on to something better
The girl that is with a drug addict don’t need to be with him. She has no idea how to be with and deal with an addict. Of course he relapsed that’s always going to happen on the road to recovery. Being disappointed and making it about you does not help at all.
The lesbian couple felt like the only one that learned something. The girl in the skirt is just yikes and probably the most oblivious. The guy who has problems with substance abuse seems to be still in it, knowing his faults but still not corecting them. Atleast the people with some selfreflection seem to have thoight about it enough that they realized that these relationships arent working. The skirt girl hasnt and that makes me sad
I can see elements of all of these relationships being context of my last relationship and he literally dmed me last night like asking if I had moved on and like trying to get back together as well as closure. I just wanted to cut off the rest of the dead weight and just knowing that he hasn’t learned from his mistakes and doing it to his new gf pisses me off because I was mad at myself for not ending the relationship sooner out of my own self respect. I am glad though because with the timing I ended up with my current boyfriend and I can see a future with him in 10 years + down the road. He missed out and took advantage of what a good person I am and his family and friends are so disappointed in him. He’s just a complete loser and I’ve been really kicking myself for not ending it sooner. It hurt knowing that he was thinking about dumping me but didn’t because he thought he was my main support system. Like I’ve been completely alone before and it’s better than being in a lie. He even was talking to his current gf while we were still trying to fix/repair the relationship which infuriated me even more. He wanted to be friends but I wanted nothing to do with that. I’m so glad that I’ll never be talking to him again. He’s an alcoholic, super senior, and a dead beat. This new gf is naive because he said that he’s shown every red flag but they’re still together. I’m so grateful for my partner and I’m being treated how I should be treated by a partner. I’m extremely happy and everyone loves him.
I felt like the conversation between the lesbian couple was so necessary... might have brought up pain but maybe hearing from the other side that you were abusive may be very helpful to your growth if you have the maturity to recognize so, so that you can change for future relationships...and also, after all the other girl had done and heard the other wasn't proud, hearing about her self worth from who hurt her may bring some peace to her heart... ofc her self worth must be defined by herself but it may bring a little closure.. just hope all the best for both of them, hope they can heal with time and have a better relationship with new people
Yeah, after making as many sacrifices as I did for 5 and 1/2 years waiting for my ex to get his shit together all the while him telling me that we were going to have a long loving life together and that just like me he can't back out of the relationship either that he was 100% in and then he finally gets a job, starts living a secret life, then breaks up with me as soon as he's stable even though I have illnesses that make it so I'm probably going to die in my 30s and I'm 29 right now. He knows that fully well and he knows that he took away crucial years of my life to be able to live. Also, when we started dating I had just months previously lost both of my parents. I have no family left. Even though I love my ex wholeheartedly even still now, I would never consider taking him back. I wouldn't be able to trust him. That was one of the biggest issues through our entire relationship with him constantly lying about things that he did not ever need to lie about. He's too afraid of doing the right thing because that would mean sacrifice on his end.
@@theNimboo sucks. Just getting worse as time goes on. Like, fibro amplifies the pain and then gives you over $200 different illnesses and symptoms like IBS and immune problems and such then my Marfan, that's a degenerative issue. Then there's the fact that I haven't had a home since 10:00 and I've had to move every single year since being 10 until I moved out on my own at 15 but then when I lost that housing now I've been bouncing back around and unfortunately social security only gives you so much and I can't find anywhere in my county to live. And it's really important that I stay in this area because my doctor's in this area and every single time you move out of your network on Medicare they have to completely re-diagnose everything and I do not think that I can put up with doing that again. If I have a lapse in my medications I am sure to cause significant harm to myself, not self-inflicted, just the fact of being off of the medication would harm me. Well, in addition, if I hit a certain breaking point then causing myself physical pain actually feels better than the pain that my brain receives so sometimes bashing my face into a table is the only thing that will provide me relief. I know it sounds horribly strange but I don't make up the rules. If I did I would be living on an acre of land in a beautiful house that was as efficient as possible and I would be working on my garden and I would have a bunch of dogs and if I was fortunate enough to meet anyone I was mentally emotionally and physically attracted to then I would love to add an addition to the house! 💛 But I'm reality come December I'm on the streets. 🤷🏽♀️ I'm trying every little thing. I even made over a dozen phonecalls today looking for emergency housing. Nada. Mi ne estas bone! But I have SOME leads I just have to wait until this Tues/Wed to get a call. Phalanges crossed!
@@theNimboo how are you by the way? I hope you're feeling okay today! It's always actually really nice to meet any other people with chronic pain issues because I really do not find a lot of people in my life have much sympathy for what we go through though it's not like I'm asking for sympathy I'm more so asking people to kind of empathize and like being mindful and that's hard enough for people to do for some reason. But when I talk to other chronically ill individuals we might talk about our illnesses for like a hot second just so we can know and be mindful and understand limits and boundaries and such but after that like, typically they're the only people that I can talk to normally because they're the only ones that understand that point of view. And I know people without chronic pain are going to see that sentence and be like "if you're not talking about your illnesses or your pain what point of view are you talking about?" and it's literally it's own thing. It effects everything.
I feel so bad for the girl who broke up with the guy bc of drugs. You can tell she still loves him and she tried so hard; you can hear the pain in her voice.
Addictions are truly devastating
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The other problem is, is she is crazy mature. Shes ready for a full adult relationship. He's still hangin out and smokin with the homies, and lying about what he's up to. They are in completely different places in life. Shes already outgrown him, and won't be looking back.
@@michaelclark3007 it makes you wonder if being with him is what made her have to grow up to fast; she had to be the adult to keep him safe
@@liliyurch2511 Maybe. If almost definitely made her grow up and understand she didn't want to be treated like that and know she deserved better. Meanwhile he's still in the same place as when the relationship started. One day he's grow up and be filled with regret that he didn't do better and let her get away. She was fantastic.
Kissing someone else in front of your partner isn’t a little moment. That’s huge. And the fact that she doesn’t see it that way is heartbreaking as a whole
Yeah my exbf did this to me. He had asked beforehand, as did the guy he kissed, but I thought it was a joke so the kiss threw me off. Thank you for validating the weird feeling I had from it.
The part where she says what have you done to make me proud just sent chill down my spine.
I got super angry at that, like how could you tell someone that
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@@katelynlaviolette1023 4:35
Yall brave asf I'm not asking nobody to take me back df
@@aashnasawlani Wth are you on about , admitting your mistakes and going foward with CHANGE in themselves and willing to show that change to their ex after mistakes they have made is nothing else than courage and being brave. Self respect has NOTHING to do with this. Self-respect would come into account here if they desperetly clinged to something dead which isn't the case here for most of them. If anything , wanting closure is something you need to respect yourself more in the future after mistakes you've made have come to light. You're so full of it lmao.
And I hope you prideful mfers stay the hell away from me. Pettiness and pride are unfortunately very correlated.
@@frostwindsgaming8645 my fault I thought u was shit talkin
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agreed. only brave fearless ppl do that
To be honest the last thing I'd want an ex partner to tell me is "you've traumatized me" or "you've made me scared to get into another relationship." My heart would be crushed.
(Just to clarify- I would never treat someone I love(d) so badly in the first place.)
but if you made someone feel like that, you would 100% deserve to hear it and feel just a fraction of the pain they've been through.
@@seducedbysasquatch this.
It’s true and the sad thing is that oftentimes you either won’t get to say it or even if you do say it they won’t listen or take it seriously.
The hope is that they are mature enough to hear you out and hold themselves accountable for what they did
@@dtar3844 unless they're a narcissist (and my ex is) they wouldn't care and it'd be ammo for him or her
Yeah and her ex didn’t even feel about about it she seemed so condescending
None of these couples should get back together.
Amen!🙏
LMAO 💀
The lesbian couple's relationship was extremely poisonous, with the woman who wants her ex-lover back constantly raising the bar and then telling her there's nothing she's done to deserve her praise. You went and got the hell away from that girl and that relationship, and I applaud you for that! It's poisonous
I don’t think she’s lesbian I think she bi
It was shitty how she made all the horrible stuff she did about herself
@@Natu014 I think she wants her ex back because she hasn't been able to find anyone else who will put up with her crap like her ex did. She wants to feed her more crap and feel like she still has control over her by doing so. So glad she managed to get away!
It made me upset when she said she got drunk and cheated on her, then the toxic one referred to that event as not as big if a deal to her. She didn't say it directly about that but it was right after the girl brought it up. So you can kind if put 2 and 2 together.
To me this relationship sounded straight up abusive, I hope anyone considering dating the blonde woman watches this video.
Bruh the guy is so obviously lying abt the last time he smoked 💀
He was like last week then realized oh shit I did yesterday too😆
Why does she care about him smoking weed tho? Enough to dump him?
@@chisofly7850 speaking as someone who is all for weed it can get to an unhealthy point. Anything can be an unhealthy addiction. I don’t know if he has one or not but if your lying to your partner about it it’s probably not at a healthy place.
He was probably high on set LMAO. Honestly though I feel bad for him. She clearly doesn't understand addiciton. He needs to go to rehab and forget about girls until he's a year sober.
@@theNimboo for some reason I have a feeling she’s just very young and feels uncomfortable with him doing anything but being sober, maybe religion or family w past addictions ? It just seems like it was a deal breaker and he just wants to smoke weed and play video games lol
It's actually horrifying that one persons perception after the break-up would can be that they did nothing wrong but the other person is now traumatised by what they did... and the other person has no clue at all :(
It feels nice seeing people not necessarily asking their ex to take them back into a relationship, but seeking closure and admitting their flaws in the dark. I can tell it will help with the healing process.
Not sure about the guy but the other 2 certainly had some merit and I think it will help all 4 of them recover and let go of hatred.
That girl who insisted on sobriety and action backing up his words, she sounds like the type who would make the sacrifice play for the greater good of the relationship, and it gets even better because on top of that she's got a healthy sense of self-worth, too. Seriously hope that she finds somebody willing to go equally as far for her.
So, just to be clear, that one girl is dating a new guy and is still friends with her ex who she would consider getting back together with if she breaks up with her current partner. Sounds like a huge red flag
Yeah, it just makes her current boyfriend seem like an obstacle and not something that takes her "off the market." Gross, the new dude deserves better
He asked her a question. She said she is seeing someone but said if she wasn't currently then maybe. She said that....because he asked her that question. How exactly is that a bad thing or a "rEd fLaG"? You people are so weird.
That’s literally not what she said. Y’all are misinterpreting her. She specifically said that if it was an alternate universe where she wasn’t dating someone, but because she is, she wouldn’t.
@teddybear umm… did you even watch the video? I don’t think any of these people got back together. They were just looking for closure.
@@Xplreli I mean you really shouldn't need closure if you're in a new relationship
Otherwise it's really unfair to the other person because you're clearly not over your ex
I wonder if these people are apologising selflessly or purely because they want the person back
This is facts.
The guy with the curly hair with the substance use looked smug about using other things. That's a red flag! Seems like if they were sorry truly wouldn't they feel something else about it, like remorseful? I think you're onto something with your comment and I'm studying body language and interrogation with someone ex-FBI and it's interesting watching this
The guy struggling with addiction issues is definitely just apologizing cause he wants her back… when she asked him if he was sober, he literally said he smoked a week ago and fumbled his words if could’ve been like 2 days ago in reality…
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“What was insignificant to me, wasnt insignificant to you.” I hope she can truly heal after this because I’ve been in that relationship, it took all I could give.
Imagine a DIY version of this. Your ex invites you over for closure. You come over. They lead you into a dark closet just to talk 💀.
But maybe with the lights on before the lights off just like in CUT videos...otherwise I'd be scared about getting murdered or something if someone invited me over for "closure" and insists on being in the dark...
@@kesetokaiba thats kinda the point of my joke my guy. How weird and creepy an irl version would be.
Now that's scary AF. 🥶😱
3:20 As someone who went through an abusive phase that was traumatic in a relationship you often remember little things that they don’t. My partner and I use to have an AWFUL relationship she was literally the ultimate tormentor in my life. We moved passed that and healed (Ik that’s not for everyone) and she genuinely has become a better person and works her ass off to make it up to me every second of every moment of every day but I remember she told me her pendant was broken and wouldn’t stay on her neck and she had no idea how it happened so I told her the story of how and why she broke it and she sobbed saying she didn’t remember doing that and she asked herself how could she do that to the first gift I gave her. There are a lot of little things she did that I told her she did that she just didn’t realize she had done and is mad at herself over
I’m so glad that she seemed to heal from whatever was hurting her enough to hurt you (on purpose or accident). Glad you two are happy :)
@@Oliver-yw1ny thank you
Hope you guys are happy💕
They never seem to remember the crap they've put you through. Like how?
@@freddyjafar1490 probably because when they are hurting you they are actually in the moment more mentally occupied with something that’s hurting them, i think
I’m not here to see people heal and make-up, I’m here to see how messy this gets😂
Exactly I'm here for the drama
@@pastaholic ain’t we all 🤣
Exactly 🍿🥤😂
Totally 🎉
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idk why i was most shocked by how different their color palettes were when the lights came on like- 😭 im over here like “wait, she’s not blonde??”
seeing body language in the dark is wild because it is like you can see the true feelings of each person in the confrontations
It's very interesting how the body language of the girl in the dress changed completely after her ex arrives. At first she lookes very confident and in control, afterwards we can see that she knows that she did something wrong.
exactlyyy, the way was talking in the beginning was so different and i was super shocked she cheated. i thought her ex would be the toxic one
Getting closure is important, but ex's are ex's for a reason, remember that...
nah, fuck the ex
And closure is often not in talking with your ex. People need to be okay with and understand that
Eh
A date in the Dark would be 🔥💯
There was an old show called “ dating in the dark “ maybe you’ll like it. Search it up
they did this before
I really feel for the girl whose ex relapsed but I just hope she knows that his relapsing wasn't an indicator of whether or not he "loved" her. addiction can't be cured by love, all addicts have someone or something they love, and if love was all it took there would be a lot more recovering addicts in this world. unfortunately it's a disease and its an incredibly hard one to overcome, especially when the recovery is a lifelong effort. best wishes to them both and I hope they both find peace
Great comment, thank you
If she was my daughter I would steer her away from him.
Man, I need to live three times before I ask someone to take me back, and y'all r doing this in front of the camera, I need to up my courage.
nah they just clingy babies, move on
5:31 you know it's bullshit when someone says "I don't know, I didn't write down the date"
It’s fascinating that the partners who actively broke up is much more confident than the other
yeah, its almost like a weird power dynamic. someone gets away with bad behavior, knows the person kept staying/coming-back, so theres more confidence in continuing that bad behavior.
It's so crazy to think about how many moments are a big deal in one person's experience, and the other person doesn't have ANY recollection. Relatable and wild
3:21 & 6:01 You can tell she grown into an adult and was truly apologetic and understanding, I am at this stage right now where I feel bad for the thing I’ve done in the past but don’t have the heart to go back and apologize. I haven’t grown out of that stages yet, hopefully one day I can or just let time do it part
The lesbian couple had the same issue that I had in my previous relationship and it was just awful. My ex just gave me a lot to traumatize about being together with another person that I hardly can imagine my self with anyone for the past year almost. She still try to reach me till this day and I just can't even talk to her. The worst part is that she thinks that everythiing she did it was never that bad. Everytime she tries to talk to me she always asks what happend so serious that I don't even wanna talk to her, like wtf?
Ooof you dodged a bullet with her. Denial levels too OP
Dude, run.
my ex best friend is like that too. i know it's not the same as being in a relationship, but we grew up together and lived together and the fallout from cleansing her from my life was rough. she's tried to get in contact with me several times since, acting as though nothing happened to push us apart, and i'm like... in what WORLD would i want someone who treated me so abysmally back in my life?! what would i even get from that? people like your ex are just living in an alternate reality or something. so sorry you had to go through that. :(
@@theclockworkheart that thing about this kind of people living an alternate reality its so true...
Mine was a gay relationship. He took so long to accept his sexuality and when he finally did? He cheated on me with the excuse that he wasn't sure if he truly cared about me or if it waa because I was the first guy he been with. When I got mad and told him that he'd really messed with my head, he said "well, I apologized. Why are you making me feel bad" i haven't spoken to him in 6 months and never will
Out of everyone I dated in the 35 years I have been alive, there is only one person that I would take back. The only reason is because she admitted that she was being selfish and was the cause of our breakup. If I wasn't in a time in my life at that moment of getting myself back together, I would have gave it another chance. But it didn't happen and now I have been with my wife for the past 10.5 years and married for 8.5 of those. It may not seem like it, but your special person is out there.
Until that happens, don't settle for anyone just to not be alone.
As someone who used to be in a psychologically abusive relationship, I could totally relate to the ex in the lesbian couple. My ex would belittle everything I did, and it crushed me.
Now the girl needed to hear that she was abusive to her ex girlfriend. I hope this conversation motivates her to continue her journey through rehabilitation. I also hope the ex finds the peace that she deserves.
“You chose work over me, but I know at that time I didn’t have a job”
Yea sounded like a pretty logical conclusion to come to all things considered
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No one cares
@@larklarkleahleah62 all of the world talking about it . you can check ✊#mahsaamini
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None of the relationships are worth rekindling
I don't know bout yall but I thought the sobriety girl or whatever i should call her hahha was very good at talking about emoyions and stuff. like she really chose the right, accurate words
wait… so… you’re seeing someone and asked your EX to come onto Cut to “apologize” and potentially get back together? dam what a slap in the face to the man she’s dealing with.
UPDATE: people who disagree on my statement. idc, solely because if you’ve decided to move on with a new partner you should not be “seeking” closure from a ex bf/gf when you’ve shown you moved on by being with someone new. sorry, not.
he asked, not her. I really don't think the main aim of any of them was to use this to get back together with their ex, it was mainly for closure. And surely the blonde girl didn't think she'd get back with her ex after all the horrible shit she did to her
Yeah I understand the video more in the sense of getting together in one room and finally talk everything off your chest
Seems like the title of the video wasn't really the idea prior to filming.
But it also shows honesty integrity and respect to all parties involved in my opinion
@@CameronForrester oh?
That boy is lost in drugs. I really hope he gets professional help and learns to lead a healthy life.
Omg omg 1:33 was exactly how i felt with my ex and when i heard her say that I almost started crying
If one partner is sober and the other isn’t, you either accept that you are incompatible in that way or just let it go.
For 2 adults it’s starting to seem immature. Smoking weed is less harmful than any drug right, but I wish they went more into detail bc she shouldn’t be trippin over something so little
@@endedlegacy i agree
@@endedlegacy Just because it's less harmful than any other drug, doesn't mean that it can't negatively affect someone's life, I know from experience that it can, it can make people lazy, the high is addictive so people will spend all their money on it and people can get serious withdrawal symptoms from it. We don't know why she wanted him to quit, these could be some of the reasons and they could also not be some of the reasons, only they know.
Addictions are no joke. That shit will bring you down. She needs to cut him out of her life.
@@endedlegacy she said alcohol and other stuff...that shit is no joke.
These ppl are so brave to do this in my opinion, I would never do this with my ex due to the trauma from it
If you gotta ask your ex to take you back in the dark, then it doesn't deserve to see the light firefly.
Bruh I can’t even ask someone out, this would be scary af 😭
Scary? But it’s in the dark lol. I don’t even wanna know when the lights are on how you are 😂😬
I feel bad for the guy who smokes. Addiction is an awful thing to go through. He really wants to tell his ex that he's gotten better. By his response, he tries to downplay the last time he used to lessen his shame. I hope he gets sober one day.
imagine wanting someone back and u think the best way is to make a video with cut so everyone else sees y’all’s privacy and knows what happened 😭
People really don’t understand that addiction is a disease and not a complete battle of wills.
Yeah you can’t just tell someone you quit or I leave. And think that if they don’t quit that means that they don’t love you. A persons addiction has nothing to do with loving someone else. Now it’s perfectly ok with her not wanting to be with someone that’s using. Being with an addict is nearly impossible because drugs always come first. I say this as a recovered addict. I’ll have 8 years clean in September. But she definitely shouldn’t think she could’ve controlled his addiction or that it was her fault. When she said she wouldn’t be able to get over him going behind her back. She does need to maybe learn some more about addiction to help her understand and make peace with that. Because to her it feels like a personal betrayal. And that’s really not how addiction is. Active addiction takes control of everything you can’t just stop because someone tells you to even if you want to. You have to go to treatment and get help . It has nothing to do with your spouse and is a complete personal journey. No one else can make you sober or make you use ( unless they literally force you obviously, but you know what I meant hopefully)
Okay, but why are these two femme presenting people the most gorgeous ever, like my jaw dropped.
Currently stuck between “We should really strive to know less about each other.” And “wow… what else did she do??”
To the people complaining about the guy just smoking weed. #1 she just might not be comfortable with the smell or is in a work field where it’s just unprofessional to have that scent on you. #2 she did say alcohol and other things. You don’t know how bad of a drunk or the other things he was doin
It's hinted to there are other likely harder substances he indulges in. They likely don't bring it up here on video because those substances are likely illegal/ much more frowned upon, which could seriously damage his personal image in the literal infinite sphere of the internet. Not to mention, it could also serve and be used as evidence against him both legally and in personal and professional relationships.
@@ValkyrieKitty777 Exactly my thoughts. Good for her tho, knowing her worth and not wanting anything to do with that type of lifestyle
@@ValkyrieKitty777 you get it.
#3 It's encouraged in the recovery community to be abstinent from all mind-altering substances, including weed. Might not be a gateway for everyone but it typically is for addicts.
I had to call Poison Control, this was T O X I C
Takes a lot to be so open on platforms like these 🙏🏿❤️
Watching this brought back so much pain and trauma with all of my ex’s. Especially the ex who was physically abusive. I wish I can tell him how much he made it hard for me to date again. I think it’s best for me to not reopen those wounds 😢
Nah my self respect won’t allow me to ask anyone to come back 🤧 you gone you gone 👋
It takes good self-reflection for someone to really examine and understand themselves like that lesbian lady did who got asked to be on here. Good on her for communicating plainly: “no”
Man you can tell that they still love their exes because it takes a lot of courage to ask someone to take you back, that's mean you're life incomplete without them❤.
Cut should do The Button in the dark.
"Why would I be proud of you, you haven't done anything to make me proud of you" damn..
Wow ppl actually still love their exes. Thts absolutely mind boggling to me just pow. The tall gal in the skirt is so stunning! I mean, they’re beautiful but I jst like her look
Having someone cut you down because of their issues and then say I hope you realize your self worth is filthy work. After you get stung like that, you learn to see signs and just stay away from people like that
long distance ex's meet for the first time in the dark - ya id apply LMAO
Do one with divorced couples! Or throuples!
Tbh, there are reasons relationships end and getting back together might sound great but in a few months those things will annoy you again and it will end. Like why run incircles unless that person has actually changed. I dont get that.
This is so brutal.
Home girl wit the the ex struggling with addiction was cool af. Like, dawg 5:42
Her: I feel like you chose work over me.
Also her: I know I didn't have a job.
The dude in the tie dye took the loss...his ex is stunning
The addiction issue girl should be going to Al anon to figure out how to cope with his addiction bc you can’t change an addict, you can only change how you interact with them. Blaming him for his addiction is not helpful.
Maaaaaan… Let my man SMOKE!
... :l
Would never let any of my ex’s back nor ask them to despite how much I loved them. You leave ,your spot on my heart is blacked out. Move on to something better
You don+t need the other person to have closure, not seeing them, not talking to them. Closure is yours independently of the other party,
These filmings are SO unflattering. I feel bad for the folks in these videos when they see themselves in that night-vision for most of the video.
i gotta say i think i prefer the sweet "confessing my feelings in the dark" to this one .....
The girl that is with a drug addict don’t need to be with him. She has no idea how to be with and deal with an addict. Of course he relapsed that’s always going to happen on the road to recovery. Being disappointed and making it about you does not help at all.
if he was honest, that’s a different story. i can’t help you if you go through your addiction behind my back and everytime i find out on my own.
The lesbian couple felt like the only one that learned something.
The girl in the skirt is just yikes and probably the most oblivious.
The guy who has problems with substance abuse seems to be still in it, knowing his faults but still not corecting them.
Atleast the people with some selfreflection seem to have thoight about it enough that they realized that these relationships arent working. The skirt girl hasnt and that makes me sad
This
The girl with the black dress is sooooo pretty omds
He definitely smoked before shooting this
2:23 go build your kingdom, king!
I can see elements of all of these relationships being context of my last relationship and he literally dmed me last night like asking if I had moved on and like trying to get back together as well as closure. I just wanted to cut off the rest of the dead weight and just knowing that he hasn’t learned from his mistakes and doing it to his new gf pisses me off because I was mad at myself for not ending the relationship sooner out of my own self respect. I am glad though because with the timing I ended up with my current boyfriend and I can see a future with him in 10 years + down the road. He missed out and took advantage of what a good person I am and his family and friends are so disappointed in him. He’s just a complete loser and I’ve been really kicking myself for not ending it sooner. It hurt knowing that he was thinking about dumping me but didn’t because he thought he was my main support system. Like I’ve been completely alone before and it’s better than being in a lie. He even was talking to his current gf while we were still trying to fix/repair the relationship which infuriated me even more. He wanted to be friends but I wanted nothing to do with that. I’m so glad that I’ll never be talking to him again. He’s an alcoholic, super senior, and a dead beat. This new gf is naive because he said that he’s shown every red flag but they’re still together. I’m so grateful for my partner and I’m being treated how I should be treated by a partner. I’m extremely happy and everyone loves him.
don´t take you ex back, they did shit to you and they would do it again. I did it 2 times, I would never take another ex back I learned my lesson
I felt like the conversation between the lesbian couple was so necessary... might have brought up pain but maybe hearing from the other side that you were abusive may be very helpful to your growth if you have the maturity to recognize so, so that you can change for future relationships...and also, after all the other girl had done and heard the other wasn't proud, hearing about her self worth from who hurt her may bring some peace to her heart... ofc her self worth must be defined by herself but it may bring a little closure.. just hope all the best for both of them, hope they can heal with time and have a better relationship with new people
Yeah, after making as many sacrifices as I did for 5 and 1/2 years waiting for my ex to get his shit together all the while him telling me that we were going to have a long loving life together and that just like me he can't back out of the relationship either that he was 100% in and then he finally gets a job, starts living a secret life, then breaks up with me as soon as he's stable even though I have illnesses that make it so I'm probably going to die in my 30s and I'm 29 right now. He knows that fully well and he knows that he took away crucial years of my life to be able to live. Also, when we started dating I had just months previously lost both of my parents. I have no family left. Even though I love my ex wholeheartedly even still now, I would never consider taking him back. I wouldn't be able to trust him. That was one of the biggest issues through our entire relationship with him constantly lying about things that he did not ever need to lie about. He's too afraid of doing the right thing because that would mean sacrifice on his end.
Damn girl, I'm sorry you had to go through that. How are your illnesses now? I also live with chronic pain and shit, it really sucks.
@@theNimboo sucks. Just getting worse as time goes on. Like, fibro amplifies the pain and then gives you over $200 different illnesses and symptoms like IBS and immune problems and such then my Marfan, that's a degenerative issue. Then there's the fact that I haven't had a home since 10:00 and I've had to move every single year since being 10 until I moved out on my own at 15 but then when I lost that housing now I've been bouncing back around and unfortunately social security only gives you so much and I can't find anywhere in my county to live. And it's really important that I stay in this area because my doctor's in this area and every single time you move out of your network on Medicare they have to completely re-diagnose everything and I do not think that I can put up with doing that again. If I have a lapse in my medications I am sure to cause significant harm to myself, not self-inflicted, just the fact of being off of the medication would harm me. Well, in addition, if I hit a certain breaking point then causing myself physical pain actually feels better than the pain that my brain receives so sometimes bashing my face into a table is the only thing that will provide me relief. I know it sounds horribly strange but I don't make up the rules. If I did I would be living on an acre of land in a beautiful house that was as efficient as possible and I would be working on my garden and I would have a bunch of dogs and if I was fortunate enough to meet anyone I was mentally emotionally and physically attracted to then I would love to add an addition to the house! 💛
But I'm reality come December I'm on the streets. 🤷🏽♀️ I'm trying every little thing. I even made over a dozen phonecalls today looking for emergency housing. Nada. Mi ne estas bone! But I have SOME leads I just have to wait until this Tues/Wed to get a call. Phalanges crossed!
@@theNimboo how are you by the way? I hope you're feeling okay today! It's always actually really nice to meet any other people with chronic pain issues because I really do not find a lot of people in my life have much sympathy for what we go through though it's not like I'm asking for sympathy I'm more so asking people to kind of empathize and like being mindful and that's hard enough for people to do for some reason. But when I talk to other chronically ill individuals we might talk about our illnesses for like a hot second just so we can know and be mindful and understand limits and boundaries and such but after that like, typically they're the only people that I can talk to normally because they're the only ones that understand that point of view. And I know people without chronic pain are going to see that sentence and be like "if you're not talking about your illnesses or your pain what point of view are you talking about?" and it's literally it's own thing. It effects everything.
black dress girl you’re beautiful!
Lol
Yes you are pretty, but ppl can see your other comments responding to things about yourself lol
@@aliciadeadlydaisy7543 girl what? 🤣 what does that have to do with me telling the other girl she’s pretty
Personally I wouldn't give anyone here a second chance.
i'm not crying, you are
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I'd do this show for 10k bucks.
Cause it's pretty much self harming in another kind of way that I never would've imagined to exist.
Honestly let the dude light one up every now and then
Black color really helps her silhouette.
1:40 breaks my heart 💔
Why he gotta apologize for smoking weed tho lmaoooo gmfu
"Can I hug you?"
- "Sure..."
That was so forced lol
Dude will never quit weed for the girl
I literally just had a conversation with my baby daddy about possibly getting back together and then this notification pops up. What the hell.
just beautiful to watch
0:42 girl is soooo beautiful omg
We will never get everything we want out of someone, then it'll be a cycle of not getting everything we want from someone and everyone has 47 cat's
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when someone is addicted their actions are not about you.
Nahhh I don't go back... left for a reason.