It's really a western thing. I went Krakow Warsaw and there's an abundance of couples. It's because there's 1000000 times more beautiful feminine women there. The UK is f**ked.
Young fella I know what you mean and I do pray for young men like yourself. I'm in my 40s and it use to not be this bad. I believe online dating ushered in the ability of women to filter out the average guy. Then it trickles down to meeting them in person and them having that same mentality. I spend a big part of my life alone being that I"m single with no kids. I'm more on the introvert end of the spectrum but even with that said we as human beings desire to be with someone and to love and be loved. If you can somehow have kids while you're young, even if it's adopting to bypass the legal system so if you divorce all of your money wont be going to you ex and instead going to your child, as you get older you will at LEAST have your kids in your life and not be alone. It's the only unconditional love you'll find in life. The parent/child love. Having kids, somehow, is the advice I'd tell my 22 year old self.
@@aarrynz9721 Physically a man can still have kids if his sperm count is still high but mentally the urge of wanting to be a father has already checked out at that point, especially when all prior attempts to get a woman worthy of raising a family ends in failure. I'm 36 with no children and I came to the realization that I'm not meant to be a father when I hit 30 after wasting my 20's trying to get with a woman that I can start a family with, only to wind up empty handed. I've never even been in a relationship that didn't involve the internet so I've never had a girlfriend outside of the internet. Hookup culture is a blessing and a curse for me, granted that casual sex is shallow and at times meaningless but without it, I would still be a virgin so I have no shame in participating in it however I still feel like my life has no purpose or meaning into it because having a family, actually gives you a drive to enjoy life and motivates you to do the best for your family. I get what Marcus is saying but the cruel reality is that not everyone is gonna be blessed to get that opportunity.
Little advice from a 28y/o guy living in Tokyo 1. accept your current reality and see what you can change/improve 2. be ok with yourself, find peace within yourself 3. appreciate what you already have 4. keep working hard (and smart), lift weights, educate yourself (no matter how hard things get) 5. rest, take small breaks when things are overwhelming 6. celebrate small accomplishments Stay strong bros💪
I’ve just accepted being alone and that I’ll use all the time I get while I’m still alone to focus on self improvement. I wanna be my best self for whoever I meet in the (near) future.
what an excuse. You know you can find a women that can support you on your self improvement journey and you dont have to talk to her all the time which still give you time to focus on your self (there is 24 hours in a day). The fact that you had to accept it means that it was problem in you in the first place and you refuse to get better and change it. You dont have to read this comment or care about it but just keep it in the back of your head.
@@SJTheGiant Sometimes there are things you just can't change man. Which is why it might be better to accept that you'll be alone for a while, rather than let the constant rejection and slight hope just grind away at you. I'm not saying that you need to live like this forever, but perhaps you have to accept that maybe right now there's no hope for you, but maybe in the future when you reach new levels things might open up.
I know... a lot of MGTOWS are saying "we dont need women anymore, they have become trashy human beings".. yes, modern women.. but I bet If they could meet an old fashion non-feminist women, they would think twice about staying single for the rest of their lives. As Hamza said, it's mostly a cope. We're not biologically made for being alone and "wife-less" our whole life. I bet any MGTOW would give anything to find a caring loving woman. It's just, it seems there are none left anymore.. and its so sad. As Christopher Mcandless once said: "happiness is only real when shared"
@@leventebognar7635 just wait til the next Civil War maybe after that people will learn to appreciate each other cuz we ain't gettin anywhere else otherwise tbh
And why would we? Times are just as hostile as they ever been, people more willing to stab others in the back for a promotion. Cancel people for saying the wrong thing.
When the only snap chat friend requests you get are from OF models.. smh. Loved the video and I agree 100%. You're doing real work that matters in the world keep it up Hamza! Hanging with the boys, and throwing a frisbee or football is always a time for the books. Stray strong brothers.
I was going crazy the whole day today about being rejected by a girl for the 5th time this year, I worked out and trained my boxing until my whole body would just shake, and then there's Hamza's video on this relatable topic. Thank you for being here the whole time, watching our backs. We'll be happy one day, kings. We will meet our destined beloved ones that each of you deserved. It's just time for us to keep the grind and mobilize our resources to be better than we were yesterday. Let's do it!
You need more rejection, 5 times a year isn't near enough, players get rejected hundreds and hundreds of times with trial and error before they get the game and become absolute pimps, so go out there and embrace rejection, it serves as motivation and it toughens you up until you don't care anymore.
I’m 21, still virgin (for now) and until really just the last 4-5 months I struggled with loneliness. It was pretty normal for me to go through months without getting any notifications from anyone outside my family. Since I have struggled with this since I was a little, it eventually became normalized (which is the worst part about it all imo) that I had ceased to even try make changes to myself. I’ve even used the “sigma male” “non conformist” mindset to cope with it, which only led me down even further to the point that I had practically let go of myself. All it took was loosing the one or two last friends I had to where I finally snapped out of my decade long trance and realized that shit needed to change asap or else I would have wasted my early adulthood in the same way I had wasted my youth. That being said, even now I am still in the bottom 90% and it’s prolly not even close, but I can say with confidence that I am in a much better space than I was a year or two ago. Who knows, give it another year or two and I’ll be in that top 20% 🤷♂️ Bottom line is that even if things seem skewed or unfair, nothing is stopping you from making the necessary changes to turn your life around.
Dear Joseph, you're still very young. Don't give up, and instead watch some real motivational speeches - watch few videos from Joe Dispenza about the - law of attraction -, or Abraham Hicks, just so you understand how the mindset changes reality, and how we create our world. Accoring to the law of attraction - we attract what we are. In other words, if you engage in too many negatives thoughts and false believes about yourself, you attract more of that negativity. You must completely change the way you think about life and yourself. Life is about - making it worth living, so in every moment, when God looks down on Earth he knows it was worth creating it.
I live alone, I workout alone, I drive my motorcycle alone, I shower alone, I sleep alone, I eat alone. I do everyting alone except work. But you know what? I am learning every single day something about myself. I'm getting stronger and smarter everyday. Eventually I will find someone who is on my level, and we will conquer a lot. I turned my loneliness into my power. Change what you have control over. EDIT: I wasn't expecting so much love and response on this comment. Thanks everyone. Keep your head up and it's OK to choose for yourself sometimes (related to break up comments). Focus on your goals and you'll achieve anything.
@@user-br7pg3ms1yshut up. You have a comment saying you graduated in 4 years and never spoke to anyone between them. Don’t bring people down when they’re not doing what you did
when people act like andres it is likely that they are suffering very deeply themselves and their emotions just spill over. they need as much help as anyone else tbh :)
it always hurts the most when you're in a group full of people who are supposed to be your friends but they just ignore you. nobody has said anything to me in weeks, and it's starting to hurt a little bit. It's not like they don't want me there, it's just like they don't care. I talk to people, sure, but nobody talks to me. does anyone else feel that? you try to interact with others but nobody ever seems to want to interact with you, and you're just stuck feeling worthless and depressed and alone...
Used to be there. Just don’t hit them up. I have friends like that, if they hit me up then we hang out and if not then I don’t care. Talk to new people, make new friends and find people whose goals align with yours. The guys that I am hanging out with rn I met at the club at random. One of them I talk to almost daily as we check up on each other and every week the group asks me to go out. Learn to be by yourself and love yourself. Once you can do that then find someone that loves you for what you are and I guarantee you they’ll hit you up. Talk to random people too, that’s how you find good friends.
Randoms are the most fun, at least for me. So many silly Talks and stuff. Just be open, easier said than done, I very much know myself. Friends that do not care mostly don't bcs they rank themselfes above you or they are just busy. The People who do not care will dissapear once you stop caring, and That's what I suggest to you. Tip: you may have old friends and people you were really connected with, but yall lost contact due to how Life goes by. I guarantee you, they thought abt you, they thought to maybe even contact you, but just somewhat felt like not doing so. Contact them, you will find out that they thought of you and maybe you will have a good laugh together. I struggled with the same Problem, never solved it, it solved itself. Anyways, may God bless you😚
A lot of things that you touched on in this video relate a lot to how I’ve been feeling especially this year. There is definitely a huge disproportion/imbalance in the dating pool between men and women. And a lot of others, including myself have heard many times “there is someone for everyone” line, sure looks like that may not be true for a lot of us in this circumstance. If you’re in a never ending cycle of getting rejected, or never receiving love from any woman, loneliness pretty much is almost like a life sentence for you.
Better to be lonely, to focus on yourself, and achieving your goals, better than to be with fake friends that can abandon you when they don't need you anymore, not wasting time with them, just lift weights, eat healthy, and work hard
@@sneekiersnek3122 You can make goals, for example, a goal to be more disciplined, to be a better and more productive person, put aside things that wastes our times, and focus on improving yourself, everything starts with gymnastic, eating healthy, and sleeping well, "well I don't sleep enough too" but I do other things, since the time I started workout, I feel as another person, firstly did home workout then started gym, and I'm even more productive in projects, learn faster, my girl loves me more, and everything is in right place, you do the same, and you will see then change in yourself, good luck
Yeah why isn't it good enough to have a solitary life, solitary existence. Who needs friends, or girlfriends anyway? Lol. Learn to Code! Let's go Brandon!
I’m 13 years and hamza literally made my life 10 times better. I used to play about 7 hours a day and I was addicted to video games and porn , my grades were terrible , my family was disappointed in me . around the age of 11 I started self Improvement , I joined martial arts , my grades got so much better , and I completely stopped playing video games , although I can’t really go more than 3 weeks on nofap , but I’m still happy about myself . Thank you Hamza❤❤❤
That's amazing! I hope you succeed. Dont be me. Im 36, and ive only just started turning my life around the last few years with nofap, exercise, cold showers, regular sleep. I rarely drink, and have been on keto diet the last couple years too. I already stopped playing games years ago, it used to be my favorite thing to do! But I started to realize how much time I was wasting of my life on things that don't matter.
A man's will is his most powerful weapon. If you are truly determined to do something, then nothing can stop you. And besides, we all know how hard no fap is, keep going. You got this.🤟
As a man who used to struggle with depression these are the most helpful things I can think of: -Take Risks, don't let the fear of failure stop you from trying something new or something great -Do things that genuinely scare you or that you're afraid of (Even little things like climbing onto a roof and helping to put up Christmas lights if you're afraid of heights or saying something to the cute cashier girl other than "hi" and "thanks") -Pursue an ambitious goal, one that a lot of people don't believe you can achieve (It doesn't even matter if you fail this because no matter what the pursuit of an ambitious goal will make you a better person and give you fulfillment) With that being said, do your best to succeed -Have a passion, basically this means to find a hobby that you enjoy so much that you will spend hours and hours getting better at it -Study history, pick a role model, and then analyze the traits of your role model and list the reasons why you admire them. Then start to emulate these traits in your everyday life and eventually you will become your own role model. -Don't ever quit something just because it's hard (You can quit a crappy job if it's not the right fit for you, but never quit solely based on the fact that something is difficult). Embrace challenges and look for opportunities to improve yourself mentally, physically, and spiritually. -Never put yourself down. Try not to think negative things about yourself and especially never say them out loud. You will think more highly of yourself when you say positive things about yourself, at the very least avoid putting yourself down on purpose. -Live purposefully. Have a direction for your life and if you don't already have one, make one. Decide what's most important to you and live accordingly. If you have a family or even a single loved one, your first priority (other than serving God if you're religious) should be to provide for them, to protect them, and to help them become the best version of themselves -Develop Integrity. I can't even explain how much this increases your self-repsect. Be honest, be trustworthy, don't cheat (unless you're in a street fight) and live with honor. -Find a hobby that you're really passionate about and strive to become a master at it -Finally, probably the most important thing I can say is to think less about yourself. Think less about yourself but not less of yourself. In other words, think about other people before you think about yourself, especially your family and loved ones. If you're focused on helping them with their problems I can promise you that your problems will become less important and less troublesome. Look for opportunities to help others and make them feel better about themselves. Nothing lifts you out of depression better than helping someone out of theirs. I hope this helps. I realize that some people are genetically predisposed to having a harder time with depression, but I believe that there's nothing you can't overcome with a strong mindset. In addition, I strongly believe that going through depression and having such terrible lows actually gives you the capacity to feel even greater happiness and joy. The reason I say this is because when you feel genuine joy after being depressed for so long you can't help but feel grateful. The beauty of life is that we are meant to experience the full range of human emotions, from happiness to anger to jealousy to despair to joy. We couldn't feel genuine happiness if we never knew what it was like to be sad. If I could talk to whoever is reading this face-to-face, what I would say to you would be simple: don't quit. A quote from Winston Churchill kept me going in times when I thought I had nothing left, he said: "If you're going through Hell, keep going." Everything in life can be and is meant to be an opportunity to make yourself better, and depression is no exception. Keep fighting, all of you are descended from warriors no matter what culture or country you are from. You wouldn't be here today if it weren't for the conquering spirit of your ancestors. Live a life that would make them proud. While most of us will not fight in physical wars, no one is exempt from the battlefield of life. Depression can be a battle every single day, every single second in some cases. Keep fighting, it will only get better. And the more you fight, the more you will gain respect for yourself. I've conquered my depression. Every now and then it will start to try and creep back into my mind but I don't let it. I destroy those feelings with action. I go lift weights, I go running, I listen to metal music, whatever it takes for me to regain my confidence. You can conquer depression, no matter how severe it is. That doesn't mean you'll never have days where you feel down, but it does mean that you'll have the strength to push through and do what you need to do as a man regardless of how you're feeling. Stay strong, stay hard, and fight like dragons 🐉 You're going to be very glad you did.
Brothers read the comments here. Just READ. You are NOT alone in this. Even if you feel alone you are not the only one experiencing this. Don't let negativity consume you.
You are absolutely right about men not having safe spaces anymore. I live in a native reservation here in Canada and many years ago. We use to have men’s pilgrimages that were meant to help aboriginal men get away from addictions like alcohol & drugs and promote spiritual positivity. Today, those mens pilgrimages are no longer around and they favor women’s-programs. Especially, since the missing & murdered aboriginal women movement has been heavily pushed the last decade. It’s sad that it seems like we can’t co exist without being told we’re sexist. This is why I left left wing politics and am not taking anymore BS.
Hey bro, also from Canada... Ontario, specifically.. in my 40's.. it's a bunch of bullshit out there, stay strong. I'm a musician and so i'm more often than not surrounded by leftists, but I'm actually full MAGA, and once you realize the globalist agenda, you can get along better in the world, even though it is harder. I personally just try not to get too fat, and occasionally I'll get a girl, but it's fairly rare since most of them are, as Hamza says, looking for 9/10 Chads.. It's important to educate yourself as much as you can. The real advantage we have is that most of the world is willfully ignorant, and basically dumb. You don't need a ton of friends, just a few good ones.
As a teenager, I've been lonely for a while, and been exercising as a way to use this loneliness to make change for myself. I've quitted using social media because I knew it wouldn't be good in the long run. I wish to be in a community like this who allow people like me to make positive changes and be able to make progress to make society better. +1 Sub Edit: Just hit 100 likes, thanks to everyone who not just understands hardship, but to those who want to help others to change positively!
@@murloc2134 Thank you! It means a lot to me that I still have some hope that I can change myself for the better and later help others to change themselves as well.
I hate when people say social media as a whole isn't good. What you really mean is the content you watch isn't good. If you consume productive content, there's nothing wrong with it.
I learned to embrace the loneliness. I’ve grown to not care and I focused on my relationship with God, im not saying that’s for everyone but it worked for me . I learned some skills improved my source of income, got a e-commerce store that’s doing alright. My next move is to buy a few ATMs now and make some passive income. The moment I stopped caring about women is when women started giving me attention and now I will not sacrifice my peace and quiet for anyone so I rather just be by myself it’s the best way to live your life if the spiritual thing isn’t for you and you need to bust a nut pump and dump and move on, and don’t think about her again. she will call you I Guarantee it.
There is a Chinese proverb that says: The man who blames others has a long way to go. The man who blames himself is halfway there. The man who blames no one has already arrived. Women are not listening to this, why would they?
Hi Hamza. I’m a woman and I’ve been watching your videos for the past 2 weeks. While you say this channel is not for women, you say a lot of things that can apply to women. I have benefited from your channel although I may not be your target demographic. While some people might find what you have to say as vulgar or crass, I find you to be very honest. I appreciate your honesty and your passion to help men of this generation.
Women can learn a lot about self improvement in shit thats worth. Becouse all they do its put another layer of makeup and think they are awesome. While they dont have personalitys, hoobys and are incapable of conversation becouse they dont have opinions in anything all they do its repeat the agenda talking points like a parrot. And they wonder why women have done nothing for society since the dawn of time.
The suicide part really hit me there’s been a few times where I’ve come so close but thinking about how it would affect my family and mates has stopped me
Yeah me too my friend, the only thing that kept me from going through with it was the number of people I told I was immortal until I completed the goals I have. I can't break that promise no matter the reason
I try to explain this to people all the time, but I think that if suicide is heads, then school shootings/lashing out is tails at a point where are you are made to feel insignificant you can either fold over and die or kill that which makes you feel insignificant
The "Slept with the drug dealer" is just SPOT ON, witnessed my self during one of the Bday's I was invited too.. But guess what guys? that same girl was still single and settled for some guy that has nothing, she let her self lose and is not even close to being even worth the attention, it's a double edge sword that will hit hard later on in life. Keep working on yourselves kings!
I'll throw my story in here. I was born legally blind yet still had a little bit of vision growing up. I was able to play video games, watch cartoons, enjoy anime thanks for the family that raised me. However around 2017/18 I was diagnosed with glaucoma and slowly watched a little I said I had slowly but surely vanish. Those first two years were a living hell for me I will never not deny that. Yet I'm still here six years later because of the support team that I had my school counselor, my mother, my father either, and everyone else. So now here I am 24 years old still with my depression yet it's a part of me I've accepted it there days where it'll be strong there are days when I won't even realize there that's the beauty of life you take it one day at a time and everyone every day of their life is fighting the world they just don't know it oh and I still playing video games don't ask I'm just too much of a stubborn ass to give up my hobbies
You’re not alone man, in a similar situation except abit older. Just have to take life as it comes and try to enjoy what you can. Wasted too much time trying to fit into society and it just never worked out. Hope you have better luck!
Top G shyt 💪 Life is tough. You can't experience happiness without depression. You can't feel warm if you never know what cold is. Keep on fighting through the struggle "Never commit suicide" -crip mac
Loneliness isn't an emotion, it's a symptom. A basic principle of positive solitude is that it is essential to be able to fill the feedback gap by yourself. Whether a feedback gap opens gradually or suddenly, if you can fall back on yourself to fill it, you can live your life with a minimum of disruption and confusion. In the long term, the more self-reliant and creative you can become in filling the feedback gap, the more stable you will be.
Im so sorry that youre going theough this brither. In my opinion nobody of peaceful will and who helps in paying the taxes of a city should ecer be allowed to he homeless in that very city. absolutely nothibg short of an injustice
I deeply respect you Hamza bro, i really needed this today. Thank you for your encouraging content and your support for the male comunity ,I've been watching your content for a while now and I just want to express my gratitude towards you, you've helped me change for the better for the past few weeks and I just really want to thank you.
your jeffery vs addonis thing always inspires me as a boy who still goes to school I would say my bros never let me feel lonly, I think my ease in making new friends is definatly a big factor.
I am almost 27 now and I am still don't know how it feels to have a relationship with a woman, how it feels to hold her hands and to provide for her. 27 years of pure loneliness and people outright ignoring me since I was a child. It's like I am not even real or even human anymore. The funny thing is, as much as I don't want to be lonely I despise modern western women, so I don't even try to seek a relationship. It's all so confusing.
My fiancée left me just before our marriage due to lack of my sexual experience. I am a 27 year old Christian. And now realise that being a pure , caring guy is not popular anymore. But don't you think I gave up ! Never ! Just bought my first new built flat in Manchester. Thx for the video
@@thedarkestknight8381 hard disagree Women prioritise differently to us and while they do value sexual experience, they value other things more He can either meet a woman with similar values and she’ll value that from him Or he can have a short burst and smash a couple of birds to gain some experience before settling with a partner Experience is easy to gain and a small obstacle to overcome - although I wouldn’t recommend telling the women you’re a virgin if you’re just trying to get the experience. Let them find out the hard way so you get the experience first
8:30 absolute respect. Just because this channel’s content isn’t made for women doesn’t mean that they’re seen as nothing by Hamza. The reason why am saying this because I know some people will try to take advantage of this by saying ‘’Oh look! Hamza is a misogynist!’’ This channel is a space for men and only men. Women are free to observe and learn about our nature and internal conflicts here, but this is directed to us men, we need this content now.
When you said " think a man you truly respect and putted you through a hard challenge and you succeed and then he said you are a man now " it reminded me of the time when I went on a trip to anandpur (heaven on Earth) and after the trip when we returned he said I was the most disciplined even among my elder brothers who are 22 and 27 and I a 15 year old was the most disciplined made me feel I am going on the right path
I would like to tell to those men who think a girlfriend would make a difference into not feeling lonely that it wouldn't change much. Loneliness can have many forms and one form is not having a person to advise you about your life and future.A girlfriend or wife can make things much worse by being an extra burden. You have to be alright with yourself, determined about your future and based spiritually about your purpose in this life. Women are overvalued at this point.
For men who have never had this in their lives, this advice is worse than useless. It feels condescending. The reality is that men DO NEED to have these experiences and the pain of being an outcast can kill a man. But yes... The obtaining of a girlfriend will not fix other issues and even the lack of sexual confidence can be tough to shake even after having successes. The reality of all this is that the process of being an outcast and knowing nothing but rejection and scorn from women creates real wounds that heal slowly but probably never totally
@@ligafftheindifferent3495 I think you are trying to approach the subject more traditionally in a time that nothing traditional has been left standing. My approach is more radical and accelerationist. It is predetermined that society will go to shit without strong men and at this point the situation is unrecoverable. So i tell them to educate, exercise, prepare, philosophize as much as possible, work hard, focus on God and themselves. If they do all that they will be alright with themselves, they will know what they are looking for, where to search for it and they will be able to reject everything that is not wife material. At this point if they focus on experiences with women without the above preparation i mentioned, i think they will be heading for countless rejections from women who are whore material or bang these countless hoes which also a loss of time. You say rejection and scorn...from whom? Women who are not virgin from the age of 14 , haven't got a hint of spiritual life ,that only count our manliness from the size of ours dicks or our sexual feats? Really im honoured to be rejected by all those women and if i have the knowledge it won't create wounds, i will be grateful they did me the favour to reject me. Could be wrong, but im here to discuss.
@@ligafftheindifferent3495 Then again, if there is a break-up/seperation, you are back to square one, and may feel worst off bing an outcast again as you've now had a taste of how it was like to be normal, and to be back into the outcast box anyway despite giving it your best. Your identity of how you are prior to the relationship/experience will take over and it would not mean anything at the end of the day anyway.
Agreed, as someone whos made that mistake, don't go into a relationship when you're at the bottom point of your life. Improve yourself first so that you can feel genuinely happy and provide a good relationship for your partner aswell, not being a incoherent mess of emotions and a burden to them.
I'm on my 4th week of self improvement I've been building my social skills and my body and I cannot think that i genuenly wouldev jumped down a bridge and kil#ed myself just because of women ive gained alot of confidence and ive got visible abs finally and my mental health is now alot better *Thank you Hamza*
This is way blackpilled bros. Things do get better and things can be alright. All of these statistics look depressing and difficult to overcome, but it is entirely our job to find a solution to this problem. We don't need to become another number on the statistics labelled here; we need to be the solutions that bring them back down. Keep going bros.
I've grown to believe that as a man, I'll always be lonely. No one's going to accept me for being a man unless I'm offering value.. and that involves developing myself, hitting the gym, and so on.. so all I'm focused on everyday is increasing value But being lonely sucks. Some days, you just feel the need to be with someone.. but it's the reality we as men face
Bro, get over it. I don't mean this in a rude or disparaging way. If you are pining so hard for a woman, it's only because you don't value yourself enough. The _GREATEST_ value a man can bring is *Self-Respect!* Do what you need to do to see yourself as the strong and worthy man you are. I suggest working on being grateful for who you are, what you have done, and what you have. You will be fine brother. Get over your Self-Hatred and women will flock to you, as your confidence and drive will put you where you need to be.
@@arc.gouda08 the people that are fucking a 100 girls aren't happy either, the proof is that they always want more. You feel like it's hard only because your comparing yourself. No regrets ...
I've accepted my loneliness and I've been like this for...all my life. Even more lonely when the covid pandemic took hold of the world. I got the solid run in 2022 and I was killing it in life. Got my career of my dreams, getting $ and then Sept of 2022. My body went into physical stress and even lost my ability to walk. Lost my career, respect of my co workers, 2 girls I was talking to and had interests in me! Mainly lost my ability to work alongside my younger brother in the same agency. Recovery has been very painful and lonely. Already eliminated nearly everyone i used to know because they dont go their 1/2 way. Im at a point where i need to also go for psychological therapy too. First I need to heal physically & I know...I will rise one day and invest to be financially free & I'll be unstoppable.
"This channel is not for women. It will never be for women." I was listening to this a few days ago, and it completely caught me off guard. My initial reaction was a bit of shock and mild offense. Why? Because modern society and social media has hardwired us into this mindset. That's it's not okay for men to feel a certain way. But after listening for a few more minutes I could see just how genuine and honest this man was being...and a lot of men are feeling this way, and the cognitive dissonance is starting to melt away. The scales are beginning to fall from our eyes. This man is speaking honestly and a lot of people need to hear this. Especially men. This is a new beginning for me.
I never feel 'lonely', I just enjoy being alone. For me there's so much power in being able to enjoy stuff by yourself. I go to the gym, go on long hikes weekly and do many other things all by myself. I just find it to be very peaceful. Is it weird that I enjoy being alone? EDIT: to clarify, I am not alone all the time, it's just that I am mostly by myself, I do go out every few weeks, do go to the gym with mates every once in a while. It's just that I don't 'need' people to do certain things.
You dont feel lonely until one day finding yourself crying for several minutes and dont have any person whom you can tell about it and who would understand
@@2sad2live50 Nah. I've been used up by people who called themselves my friends for so long I despise making connections with new people. I feel free now that I realized people are liabilities and I should never depend on them.
@@teufelszahn Monday-legs Tuesday-running Wednesday-arms Thursday-back Friday- chest Rest for Saturday and Sunday. I also do an workouts everyday of the week at night but there are only 10 minutes.
@@revenge8215 Try Back Chest Traps, Shoulders (not front) and Neck Rest Arms (also train your forearms) Legs Rest Start bulking with enough good protein and start taking creatin, that will change your life
This video just changed my whole look on life. For the last 15 months I’ve been so stuck in the past thinking about my ex girlfriend and how she left me and started sleeping with tons of frat guys and “top 20% guys”. All this time I’ve been thinking what im gonna say to her next time I see her or talk to her or when shes “done with college and will give our relationship another chance”. After watching this I pictured who we will be if that really ever does happen. Since we broke up I’ve slept with 1 girl. I wasn’t able to get attached because I was still stuck on my ex. Anyways in the last 14 months I’ve grown so much as a person and dropped so many bad habits like smoking weed, vaping, anime, video games, and other short term dopamine activities. While my ex may always be more attractive in appearance then me, she has absolutely nothing going for her in the long term. She isn’t passionate about her career, she smokes weed all the time, has slept with 15+ guys in 1 year and most likely has connection issues, doesn’t have any real hobbies, and spends most of her day scrolling tik tok. I will always be grateful for what she was and gave me in the past but this video helped me realize that she will never be that version of her again and if the time comes where she wants to try things again I will be years ahead of her in all aspects of my life and she will most likely cheat on me or get bored of the relationship quickly because of how her choices since we were last together changed her for ever. Sorry if this seemed like a rant it just felt so good to finally have a logical reason to let go
15+ guys? Man, she's for the streets! Forget her and go on in life. She is not worth any second of your time. You're better than this. She don't deserves you.
Yeah bro, I was with a girl for 10 years.. she left and became a huge whore. Now, many years later, she's non-binary, probably fried from having too many group s-e-x sessions. She used to be special, and when she left, I was very upset. She just laughed though, and was very poisonous at that point to me. I didn't get over her for a while, and had a few girls in the meantime, but what I'm glad about is that eventually I stopped being such a bitch about it, and realized who I am, and what I am really capable of, which is a lot. Girls like your ex and my ex are the types who, sadly, can't really be redeemed. They've purposely ruined themselves, just because they accepted progressive politics and logic. This is actually political, and our enemies, who are all around us (corrupt governments here in the West and elsewhere - the global elite), these bastards want the global population just to f_ck off. This is one way they do it. Don't let these satanic sh_tbags f_ck with you. (btw RUclips is part of it, i couldn't even post this comment because it wasn't "respectful" enough)
34 years old and been on testosterone and other steroids since age 27. Was invisible to women and had no friends until I got big on juice. Now I’m getting married and I told my fiancé I don’t want to have any sons, only daughters because I know how hard it it to be a man. She asked me why I keep a gun in a safe and I told her self defense even though I actually have it case I want to kill myself. Cause of my life before and after steroid use I will never view the world the same, cause nobody cared about my struggles until I was better looking. My life is the definition of Blackpill I guess you could say.
@@practicing2002 yeah I’ve been off testosterone for a few weeks. I take Trt to keep myself at natural levels. But the world makes me sad cause I used to get rejected by women all the time, I take gear and start to look good and all of a sudden those no answers become a yes. Hell women started to make it easy for me by initiating at bars and in public. My personality didn’t change the only thing that changed was my looks. Now I wonder if my fiancé would even be with me if I still looked like what I used to. So anybody that says personality over looks is bull crap your looks are your personality.
This is how i see myself and the society, i live in. I'm walking pass these houses, fill with people, watching their favorite shows/news/programs and/or doing their tiktok dance. Some have families, some have bf/gf, they're all doing their thing, while i'm passing by in the cloudy, snowy, cold side walk... I been a loser..my whole life. I do have parents and siblings but i always felt alone even if they were around. I just think and believe that some people were born to be with others while others were born to be by themselfs. Its a hard pill to take but it is what it is.
and the worst part is I have a desire to be with ither people, not with a spouse, jsut with some from. Im peasceful and friendly as far as Im concerened(nobody has told me thst I was rude before sooooo...) And I am not even allowed to that. Like... why even go on living if Im narred from fulfilling a mandatory and meager desirE?
Few hours back i was also feeling lonely after thinking about my family's financial condition, also i procrastinated today after so long, but after some hours i got back 🔙 and started to work again as I'm the one of the people who can break the MATRIX
Live for the struggle my Brethren, live for the journey- Not everything is down to your moment of sadness… Tragedy can be healed through stoic creativity.
Men are lonely because “nobody cares”. However it’s a men’s job to transform himself by using the loneliness to be better, stronger, wealthier…. It’s good to know what is happening, but it’s important to create your own reality
You really hit the nail on the head. It feels like the environment that we're in now is, if you're a guy, you are well and truly on your own. No one gives a shit about you, not your fellow men, and especially not women. Any issue you deal with, you're going to have to deal with it on your own with no support except from yourself. It ain't just the young guys dealing with this anymore either. 30 years old here and still dealing with this, trying to figure it all out and feeling like I'm getting no where. Just gotta keep trying I guess. Hopefully I'll be able to turn it all around before hitting 40 where it'll truly feel hopeless. lol
i need to thank you hamza, i didnt even watch you for a year and you helped me so so much. Many girls speak with me and even have interest. If you didnt upload video about tiktok and social media i would also be lonely. Honestly i hope EVERYTHING best for you
I'd say a great way to cure loneliness (especially if you struggle with females) is to just broaden your network with other guys. Get high quality man in your life that will give you the right amount of attention, validation and support. Eventually you'll have a better time building your value. Take the time to find your circle. It is important!
@@kw7814 Go to events / places that cater to your interests and approach men. It is very easy to approach people of the same gender. The key is to go out and do something you love and hopefully you'll intersect with other guys that you can connect with :)
I’ve faced loneliness practically all years of highschool, barely have a connection with my family (in fact I don’t even feel like my sister is my sister)… I’ve kinda accepted it and ignored the sugar coating that others are sayin, started self improvement a year and a half ago and now I’m stocky n built, have a beard, for the first time in my life I have a LATINA girl wanting to go on a date with ME, and I’m pursuing a career that gives me hope… just know we all go through different types of loneliness but in the end you must show up and go through it because it develops the man you become in the future
I mean everyone tries to hard and I think that's what it really comes down to. People forget that you can be the happiest person on the planet and be single at the same time. Tbh a lot of times relationships make peoples lives worse especially if their trying too hard. Get a life first and relationships will come later. I am in a relationship now and my life is not really any better than it was when I was single, its just that there are different positive things about it and also different negatives.
It pains me because of the fact that i am going through the exact situation right now. Its a very lonely time for men in this era but we have to come together boys.
This shit hits harder every minute like hardening metal with all sorts of other metals and stuff,it just gets more relateable and it truly is lonely,i might be young at 16,but i already have a couple of i can call them couleges that i know that most likely arent going to get laid,all they do is play some roblox fruits games and watch anime,even told me they watch ph 3-4 times on the daily basis,i sure am setting up myself for a brighter future.As im working on myself,working out,im getting a paypal soon so i can earn money and retire my parents as my dream i wish to fulfill,it really fucking hit when you said that this world is about to crumble very soon...Here in serbia we still have quite a bit of masculanity left but the west culture is hitting here and women are changing to those like in the west,if you are reading this i want to thank you for changing my pathetic life and motivating me to discipline myself to become masculine as my role as a man.I will do the hard work especially when i dont feel like it.
Hard times create strong man.Strong men create good times. And good times create weak men. And weak men create bad times.This quote really fits to the last 100 years. But I personally hope that that the quote comes full cycle again. Because right now we have weak men that let the world get worse and worse. I think this eventually will create strong men again, with people like hamza guiding them to become strong, masculine men again.
You're forgetting about AI and automation, eventually there aren't going to be any men, or women for that matter, period. Humans are being phased out. We are in essence just machines, so it only makes sense that things progress this way.
@@malengcraft7757 How do you know what's possible? The tech grows every year and every advancement accelerates the speed at which things progress. It's only a matter of time. Most humans are mediocre intellect at best, and all we do as a collective is stare at our phones all day so we're getting dumber. The likelihood of humanity prospering in a healthy way again is slim to none. Every year we become more isolated, more narcissistic, and more doped up and distracted with mindless entertainment while our mental health declines and people grow farther apart. The people in power obviously want it that way so that we're docile, divided, and easy to control. It's undeniable. If world leaders actually cared about humanity they wouldn't have let the world degenerate like this, but the people at the top are power hungry psychopaths. Human nature is inherently selfish and we are essentially just survival computers whose primary goal is to survive in the most powerful way possible and pass on our DNA.
It’s a real shame, that even this statement is meant to shame, & blame men for all of society’s woes. If women are as equal as they claim to be, then I say pass this torch of burden to create, sustain, secure society onto to them, & let’s just sit this round out.
Married my husband at 21 YO, both of us were waiting for marriage and intentionally looking for a future spouse when we met each other. No previous partners. It’s been six years, and I guess i’ve pair bonded with him because to me, he is the definition of a real masculine man. Pre-marital sex is the number one driver of the western dating game, and the root of all of these problems. If people took “no sex before marriage” seriously, a lot more people would be married at 21 lol.
@@franlorde149 Your right rn 50% of marriages end in divorce with 70-80% being initiated by Women, if we didn’t have immigration in the west we be like Asia rn
I'm a Polish guy, used to live twice in Britain and in The Netherlands. When I lived there I had no one to speak to for around a year. When women saw where I was from this was like, worse than being a criminal. I returned to Poland, graduaded, dated the most beautiful girlfriend from my University. It was like dating a souless machine. She was my only girlfriend I ever had. I will be 27 now, I'm joining Cisco Systems in Cracow, i'm importing Dodge Challenger from States, I sail in weekends and I don't want to date anyone anymore. Because everytime some girl want to date me who is like, lower quality to say bluntly I also see a hurt man because of her. My friend who live both in Poland and in Sonoma, California multimilionare, boxing everyday, they don't want to date him. It's sick guys, it's sick. He had 8 girlfriend or 10 cuz he's a chad, bo no one who wanted to commit to him. Oh, and my ex wanted to sleep with him after she broke up with me.
Your second reason is why I advocate so heavily for boys to join a fraternity while in college. One of the greatest days of my life was being initiated into my frat after months of hard work and dealing with all the shit I had to do. It’s not all bad either - mine literally taught me how to be a man in every aspect, not just dealing with tough shit. Like how to dress and how to talk to girls for example.
Loneliness is temporary, use it to fuel your ambitions and the feel of being alone will vanish. I kid you not, try out something that interests you and it will go away.
In my college vacation days now... Never felt this lonely and depressed in my entire 18 years of life. I have goals to pursue, things to worship etc. But I cannot really focus on any of these. Today, I found this channel, joined the Gym, deleted Instagram twitter. Hope everything is a uphill from today.
thank you very much hamza. today the girl I liked confessed me. i saw her at our college traditional day, i complimented her, exchanged IDs, and then what? we talked and talked and talked and she shared her traumas and I shared mine and today she confessed me. i pulled this girl in 4 fuckin days. shes religious, studious and aint like other girls. this is because of your advice i was able to achieve this. thank you very much.
Hamza you read my mind.I was actually thinking that you would make a video about men and loneliness and you uploaded this video after a few hours.In terms of improving your content I think that you could also focus on the self improvement journey not only in the initial stage but what comes afterwards.For instance, the way that we should all face the struggles that follow having taken the "hard" way towards success.
Hamza I met this girl then after we started talking she treated me like her bf and I got attached way too quickly then as I made my move she ghosted me then as I tried to vent out and get some fresh air on my skateboard and now I’m injured I can’t even go to the gym and clear my mind but thankfully I have you and I’d like to thank you for all you’ve done for me and you’ve made me a better man
Hoooooly shit, ho-ly-shit! My father hasn’t been a part of my 34-year-old life almost at all, but I never really picked up on that one thing. When you described the right of passage in front of your male peers, your elder putting his hand on your shoulder in approval. I went through a hurricane of emotions and ended up in tears and get my knees get weak. Oh my God, I don’t know if I had ever felt this. Thank you!!!
this is probably the video i need rn. most of my "friends" when you need them most to open about things they always put me on ignore while i see them on social media with all the time in the world then i start to think "what if im the problem?". when you need them most to open about things they just flat out ignore me for days and in and its getting to me. i just really hope this can help me bcs i dont know where to run to anymore
Have these friends too. Never "hey how's your day?". Just "yo are you getting online and join our squad???" just that. That is the only thing they want from me. F*ck that.
there is a difference between purposeful lonliness and purposeless lonliness. Purposeless lonliness is where you don't have anything to do so you slip into these bad habits and feel more lonely with each coming day. When you are going through purposeful lonliness is that when you have goals and you are focused a lot on them, sure the path is lonely, but it doesn't even feel lonely because you are so focused on yourself. The path to success is a lonely one. It has been hard for me to do all the things I am working towards when I see my friends with their girlfriends and going on vacation it hurts. But I remember what I am working towards and I don't feel as bad. However it would be a thousand times worse if I didn't have any goals. I would probably fall into a depressed state. The key to fixing your sadness is to having a purpose. Because your too busy to be sad.
The path to success is actually very commonly not at all a lonely one. Many people get lots of opportunities just by knowing a lot of people and being in good standing with them.
One thing ive noticed is that all my female friends have endless unread messages on their phones. At any point in the day they can open their phone to connect with someone. They get so much attention that they often complain about how exhausting it is. As a man im lucky to have one person text me throughout the week. I get excited to see a message pop up and half the time its a spam message anyway. Women dont understand how vast the gap is between men and women when it comes to social fulfillment.
It's scary, it's freakish and disgusting. If I was born in a different time I would have so much more worth socially. It's just I've been born in this weirdo simp device society. I can't wait for the day I reach the top and stick the ultimate middle finger in society's face, as well as make a bunch of changes by taking down corrupt companies and showing what humility looks like to these egotistical pricks
Im getting better and better in self improvement. The last weeks. I finally started gym the right way. Im going to mosque nearly every day. Im going to school and im good in it. I really can say that im a good person objectivly. Ive lost 25kgs some like 44lbs i think. So theres someone that im goin to stop talking with and after that i will go ghost mode like you said. Ive learned, the biggest enemy of me is me. Get up kings. Im with you
Hamza Today, I felt discouraged and I really don't know why. There's this voice telling me if I wanna do it my way, I am gonna fail. Its kinda complicated but your videos are always motivating and keeping me Hamzish(Strong).
I've had two relationships in the last decade. 2011-2013 was the first and I dated for 7 months this year. I felt alone even having these "relationships". Disney princess movies really set false ideals against what men are and how we should act. 😔
It's making me pissed off that the media's gonna start call Hamza "misogynist" at some point and attempt at cancelling him when the definition of the word itself is misinterpretated and only used for clout. We may dislike some of the self-improvement gurus that are more sellouts, but Hamza's taking the risk of articulating his thoughts that may result in an extreme decimation of his first source of income and influence. I hope that doesn't happen, and if it does, as a debt we'll fight against it. Can't have more gratitude than finding you setting my ass straight. May Allah guide us all to the right path.
Well, you're not wrong, pretty much all facts here. I do sometimes realise it's just cope, when I think I don't need sex or girls, perhaps that mentality would change after I finish building my body and all.
it's not that the path itself is necessarily lonely, it's just that the majority of men are lonely and an even bigger majority of people who end up on self improvement and these communities were lonely to begin with.
As an introvert the loneliest I've ever been is when I was surrounded by fake friends
Same brotha
Keep it up
We all gon make it
Same.
aren't you the actual fake friend when you betrayed tommy, lance vance ?
THIS IS THE LAST DANCE FOR LANCE VANCE
Same here. I'd rather be lonely. It's difficult to meet friends these days because 99% are social media zombies who are glued to their phones.
Loneliness is the main reason men are facing depression this day, it's not easy, be strong and keep grinding 💪
Yessir
Grind so hard that everybody will respect you
And what if the grind was all in vain?
Don’t kill people with kindness, torchure them with success
@@ReasonAboveEverything then you've grinded for the wrong thing
It's really a western thing. I went Krakow Warsaw and there's an abundance of couples. It's because there's 1000000 times more beautiful feminine women there. The UK is f**ked.
I'm 22 years old and almost over with life. I wasn't made for this society, I can't believe I was born in these times.
Where u from?
@@robbenvanpersie1562 Portugal
Young fella I know what you mean and I do pray for young men like yourself. I'm in my 40s and it use to not be this bad. I believe online dating ushered in the ability of women to filter out the average guy. Then it trickles down to meeting them in person and them having that same mentality. I spend a big part of my life alone being that I"m single with no kids. I'm more on the introvert end of the spectrum but even with that said we as human beings desire to be with someone and to love and be loved. If you can somehow have kids while you're young, even if it's adopting to bypass the legal system so if you divorce all of your money wont be going to you ex and instead going to your child, as you get older you will at LEAST have your kids in your life and not be alone. It's the only unconditional love you'll find in life. The parent/child love. Having kids, somehow, is the advice I'd tell my 22 year old self.
@@marcusj97 why can't you have kids on your 40s?
@@aarrynz9721 Physically a man can still have kids if his sperm count is still high but mentally the urge of wanting to be a father has already checked out at that point, especially when all prior attempts to get a woman worthy of raising a family ends in failure. I'm 36 with no children and I came to the realization that I'm not meant to be a father when I hit 30 after wasting my 20's trying to get with a woman that I can start a family with, only to wind up empty handed. I've never even been in a relationship that didn't involve the internet so I've never had a girlfriend outside of the internet. Hookup culture is a blessing and a curse for me, granted that casual sex is shallow and at times meaningless but without it, I would still be a virgin so I have no shame in participating in it however I still feel like my life has no purpose or meaning into it because having a family, actually gives you a drive to enjoy life and motivates you to do the best for your family. I get what Marcus is saying but the cruel reality is that not everyone is gonna be blessed to get that opportunity.
Little advice from a 28y/o guy living in Tokyo
1. accept your current reality and see what you can change/improve
2. be ok with yourself, find peace within yourself
3. appreciate what you already have
4. keep working hard (and smart), lift weights, educate yourself (no matter how hard things get)
5. rest, take small breaks when things are overwhelming
6. celebrate small accomplishments
Stay strong bros💪
Thanks
This.
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Hey i think you dropped this👑
Lies
I’ve just accepted being alone and that I’ll use all the time I get while I’m still alone to focus on self improvement. I wanna be my best self for whoever I meet in the (near) future.
Lets go Jacob my same name same drive 💪💪🥶
U gon be livin the best life one day
what an excuse. You know you can find a women that can support you on your self improvement journey and you dont have to talk to her all the time which still give you time to focus on your self (there is 24 hours in a day). The fact that you had to accept it means that it was problem in you in the first place and you refuse to get better and change it. You dont have to read this comment or care about it but just keep it in the back of your head.
@@SJTheGiant Sometimes there are things you just can't change man. Which is why it might be better to accept that you'll be alone for a while, rather than let the constant rejection and slight hope just grind away at you. I'm not saying that you need to live like this forever, but perhaps you have to accept that maybe right now there's no hope for you, but maybe in the future when you reach new levels things might open up.
@@jayrollo1352 exactly
The only thing worse than being alone is being trapped with people you can't stand.
Those words are so true🙏
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Very big Truth. It will fuck you up harder than anything else.
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So damn true
I wouldn't say loneliness is the biggest problem. It's just that we can't trust anyone. Loneliness is just a symptom.
This
I know... a lot of MGTOWS are saying "we dont need women anymore, they have become trashy human beings".. yes, modern women.. but I bet If they could meet an old fashion non-feminist women, they would think twice about staying single for the rest of their lives. As Hamza said, it's mostly a cope. We're not biologically made for being alone and "wife-less" our whole life. I bet any MGTOW would give anything to find a caring loving woman. It's just, it seems there are none left anymore.. and its so sad. As Christopher Mcandless once said: "happiness is only real when shared"
It has to get seriously so bad before it gets better
Not sure if we hit that threshold yet I don't think so
@@leventebognar7635 just wait til the next Civil War maybe after that people will learn to appreciate each other cuz we ain't gettin anywhere else otherwise tbh
And why would we? Times are just as hostile as they ever been, people more willing to stab others in the back for a promotion. Cancel people for saying the wrong thing.
When the only snap chat friend requests you get are from OF models.. smh. Loved the video and I agree 100%. You're doing real work that matters in the world keep it up Hamza! Hanging with the boys, and throwing a frisbee or football is always a time for the books. Stray strong brothers.
I was going crazy the whole day today about being rejected by a girl for the 5th time this year, I worked out and trained my boxing until my whole body would just shake, and then there's Hamza's video on this relatable topic. Thank you for being here the whole time, watching our backs. We'll be happy one day, kings. We will meet our destined beloved ones that each of you deserved. It's just time for us to keep the grind and mobilize our resources to be better than we were yesterday. Let's do it!
@@bigdawg546 it's not the same girl bro, that would be some jeffrey thing to do ahahahha
You need more rejection, 5 times a year isn't near enough, players get rejected hundreds and hundreds of times with trial and error before they get the game and become absolute pimps, so go out there and embrace rejection, it serves as motivation and it toughens you up until you don't care anymore.
Take a rejection that there is still improvement it will help your mindset 💪
Working on your caracter is also important
@@noneofyourbuizness Going through hardship builds character
Imagine being lonely, when your surrounded by your own positivity.
Tough comment
@@pravinschmidley4711 Tougher comment
@@nothingforcontent tougherer comment
We live in a society though. We fear being lonely.
@@Neaktivni99999 having bad genetics doesn't mean your life is over and you cant do anything great
I’m 21, still virgin (for now) and until really just the last 4-5 months I struggled with loneliness. It was pretty normal for me to go through months without getting any notifications from anyone outside my family. Since I have struggled with this since I was a little, it eventually became normalized (which is the worst part about it all imo) that I had ceased to even try make changes to myself. I’ve even used the “sigma male” “non conformist” mindset to cope with it, which only led me down even further to the point that I had practically let go of myself. All it took was loosing the one or two last friends I had to where I finally snapped out of my decade long trance and realized that shit needed to change asap or else I would have wasted my early adulthood in the same way I had wasted my youth.
That being said, even now I am still in the bottom 90% and it’s prolly not even close, but I can say with confidence that I am in a much better space than I was a year or two ago. Who knows, give it another year or two and I’ll be in that top 20% 🤷♂️ Bottom line is that even if things seem skewed or unfair, nothing is stopping you from making the necessary changes to turn your life around.
This is the growth mindset we all need to adopt. Great start of the journey Joseph. I'm rooting for you! 🙌🔥
You’ve got this bro! You can do it! I have faith in you 🫂
Dear Joseph, you're still very young. Don't give up, and instead watch some real motivational speeches - watch few videos from Joe Dispenza about the - law of attraction -, or Abraham Hicks, just so you understand how the mindset changes reality, and how we create our world. Accoring to the law of attraction - we attract what we are. In other words, if you engage in too many negatives thoughts and false believes about yourself, you attract more of that negativity. You must completely change the way you think about life and yourself. Life is about - making it worth living, so in every moment, when God looks down on Earth he knows it was worth creating it.
GO KING!
You can fucking do it bro!
a hug is all i fucking ask
No touching is banned
Hug your dad
Awww ... 🥺
same bro
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I live alone, I workout alone, I drive my motorcycle alone, I shower alone, I sleep alone, I eat alone. I do everyting alone except work. But you know what? I am learning every single day something about myself. I'm getting stronger and smarter everyday. Eventually I will find someone who is on my level, and we will conquer a lot. I turned my loneliness into my power. Change what you have control over.
EDIT: I wasn't expecting so much love and response on this comment. Thanks everyone. Keep your head up and it's OK to choose for yourself sometimes (related to break up comments). Focus on your goals and you'll achieve anything.
no. fuck that guy above me, this is an awesome fucking comment and you are gonna find out just how right you are.
@@user-br7pg3ms1yshut up. You have a comment saying you graduated in 4 years and never spoke to anyone between them. Don’t bring people down when they’re not doing what you did
@Andres what the hell is wrong with you?? Did you mom yelled at you for sitting in basement for too long?
when people act like andres it is likely that they are suffering very deeply themselves and their emotions just spill over. they need as much help as anyone else tbh :)
Good brother
it always hurts the most when you're in a group full of people who are supposed to be your friends but they just ignore you. nobody has said anything to me in weeks, and it's starting to hurt a little bit. It's not like they don't want me there, it's just like they don't care. I talk to people, sure, but nobody talks to me. does anyone else feel that? you try to interact with others but nobody ever seems to want to interact with you, and you're just stuck feeling worthless and depressed and alone...
Used to be there. Just don’t hit them up.
I have friends like that, if they hit me up then we hang out and if not then I don’t care.
Talk to new people, make new friends and find people whose goals align with yours. The guys that I am hanging out with rn I met at the club at random.
One of them I talk to almost daily as we check up on each other and every week the group asks me to go out.
Learn to be by yourself and love yourself. Once you can do that then find someone that loves you for what you are and I guarantee you they’ll hit you up. Talk to random people too, that’s how you find good friends.
Randoms are the most fun, at least for me. So many silly Talks and stuff. Just be open, easier said than done, I very much know myself. Friends that do not care mostly don't bcs they rank themselfes above you or they are just busy. The People who do not care will dissapear once you stop caring, and That's what I suggest to you.
Tip: you may have old friends and people you were really connected with, but yall lost contact due to how Life goes by. I guarantee you, they thought abt you, they thought to maybe even contact you, but just somewhat felt like not doing so. Contact them, you will find out that they thought of you and maybe you will have a good laugh together. I struggled with the same Problem, never solved it, it solved itself. Anyways, may God bless you😚
@@ernimuja6991
This is spot on, and very well said!
i can relate to this so deeply bro.
I understand u. I thought I was the only one who felt this way but now I know I’m not alone
Hamza:the big brother we all deserved but never got😔
you have him right here on RUclips my man, never give up
the sad thing is, i do have an older brother
@@ithmail show him this channel
A lot of things that you touched on in this video relate a lot to how I’ve been feeling especially this year. There is definitely a huge disproportion/imbalance in the dating pool between men and women. And a lot of others, including myself have heard many times “there is someone for everyone” line, sure looks like that may not be true for a lot of us in this circumstance.
If you’re in a never ending cycle of getting rejected, or never receiving love from any woman, loneliness pretty much is almost like a life sentence for you.
Yeah the saying “there is someone for everyone” is absolute bullshit, my lonliness is actually causing me to decend into madness and insanity
Better to be lonely, to focus on yourself, and achieving your goals, better than to be with fake friends that can abandon you when they don't need you anymore, not wasting time with them, just lift weights, eat healthy, and work hard
it is easy to not be lonely and hang around with the boys.
Cope harder
@@sneekiersnek3122 at the bottom.
change your habits you dislike the most in your life.
do them slowly , no rush .
one at the time.
@@sneekiersnek3122 You can make goals, for example, a goal to be more disciplined, to be a better and more productive person, put aside things that wastes our times, and focus on improving yourself, everything starts with gymnastic, eating healthy, and sleeping well, "well I don't sleep enough too" but I do other things, since the time I started workout, I feel as another person, firstly did home workout then started gym, and I'm even more productive in projects, learn faster, my girl loves me more, and everything is in right place, you do the same, and you will see then change in yourself, good luck
Yeah why isn't it good enough to have a solitary life, solitary existence. Who needs friends, or girlfriends anyway? Lol.
Learn to Code! Let's go Brandon!
I’m 13 years and hamza literally made my life 10 times better.
I used to play about 7 hours a day and I was addicted to video games and porn , my grades were terrible , my family was disappointed in me . around the age of 11 I started self Improvement , I joined martial arts , my grades got so much better , and I completely stopped playing video games , although I can’t really go more than 3 weeks on nofap , but I’m still happy about myself . Thank you Hamza❤❤❤
i’m also 13, lifting helps a ton with nofap and so does deleting insta and tiktok
That's amazing! I hope you succeed. Dont be me. Im 36, and ive only just started turning my life around the last few years with nofap, exercise, cold showers, regular sleep. I rarely drink, and have been on keto diet the last couple years too. I already stopped playing games years ago, it used to be my favorite thing to do! But I started to realize how much time I was wasting of my life on things that don't matter.
A man's will is his most powerful weapon. If you are truly determined to do something, then nothing can stop you. And besides, we all know how hard no fap is, keep going. You got this.🤟
@@Andrew.Browne You look Hella older for a 13 year old lol did puberty hit you at a young age or smth?
Keep going brother, an early start is more helpful than you might recognise.
As a man who used to struggle with depression these are the most helpful things I can think of:
-Take Risks, don't let the fear of failure stop you from trying something new or something great
-Do things that genuinely scare you or that you're afraid of (Even little things like climbing onto a roof and helping to put up Christmas lights if you're afraid of heights or saying something to the cute cashier girl other than "hi" and "thanks")
-Pursue an ambitious goal, one that a lot of people don't believe you can achieve (It doesn't even matter if you fail this because no matter what the pursuit of an ambitious goal will make you a better person and give you fulfillment) With that being said, do your best to succeed
-Have a passion, basically this means to find a hobby that you enjoy so much that you will spend hours and hours getting better at it
-Study history, pick a role model, and then analyze the traits of your role model and list the reasons why you admire them. Then start to emulate these traits in your everyday life and eventually you will become your own role model.
-Don't ever quit something just because it's hard (You can quit a crappy job if it's not the right fit for you, but never quit solely based on the fact that something is difficult). Embrace challenges and look for opportunities to improve yourself mentally, physically, and spiritually.
-Never put yourself down. Try not to think negative things about yourself and especially never say them out loud. You will think more highly of yourself when you say positive things about yourself, at the very least avoid putting yourself down on purpose.
-Live purposefully. Have a direction for your life and if you don't already have one, make one. Decide what's most important to you and live accordingly. If you have a family or even a single loved one, your first priority (other than serving God if you're religious) should be to provide for them, to protect them, and to help them become the best version of themselves
-Develop Integrity. I can't even explain how much this increases your self-repsect. Be honest, be trustworthy, don't cheat (unless you're in a street fight) and live with honor.
-Find a hobby that you're really passionate about and strive to become a master at it
-Finally, probably the most important thing I can say is to think less about yourself. Think less about yourself but not less of yourself. In other words, think about other people before you think about yourself, especially your family and loved ones. If you're focused on helping them with their problems I can promise you that your problems will become less important and less troublesome. Look for opportunities to help others and make them feel better about themselves. Nothing lifts you out of depression better than helping someone out of theirs.
I hope this helps. I realize that some people are genetically predisposed to having a harder time with depression, but I believe that there's nothing you can't overcome with a strong mindset. In addition, I strongly believe that going through depression and having such terrible lows actually gives you the capacity to feel even greater happiness and joy. The reason I say this is because when you feel genuine joy after being depressed for so long you can't help but feel grateful.
The beauty of life is that we are meant to experience the full range of human emotions, from happiness to anger to jealousy to despair to joy. We couldn't feel genuine happiness if we never knew what it was like to be sad. If I could talk to whoever is reading this face-to-face, what I would say to you would be simple: don't quit. A quote from Winston Churchill kept me going in times when I thought I had nothing left, he said: "If you're going through Hell, keep going."
Everything in life can be and is meant to be an opportunity to make yourself better, and depression is no exception. Keep fighting, all of you are descended from warriors no matter what culture or country you are from. You wouldn't be here today if it weren't for the conquering spirit of your ancestors. Live a life that would make them proud. While most of us will not fight in physical wars, no one is exempt from the battlefield of life. Depression can be a battle every single day, every single second in some cases. Keep fighting, it will only get better. And the more you fight, the more you will gain respect for yourself. I've conquered my depression. Every now and then it will start to try and creep back into my mind but I don't let it. I destroy those feelings with action. I go lift weights, I go running, I listen to metal music, whatever it takes for me to regain my confidence.
You can conquer depression, no matter how severe it is. That doesn't mean you'll never have days where you feel down, but it does mean that you'll have the strength to push through and do what you need to do as a man regardless of how you're feeling. Stay strong, stay hard, and fight like dragons 🐉 You're going to be very glad you did.
Well said brother
and how this helps with loneliness?
Thank you so much I needed that today.
@@JAKE-ng8yr you attract more friends but you also make use of the time alone (less time to think/feel lonely)
Spoken like a true man, thank you for taking your time to lift other people's spirits.
Brothers read the comments here. Just READ. You are NOT alone in this. Even if you feel alone you are not the only one experiencing this. Don't let negativity consume you.
You are absolutely right about men not having safe spaces anymore. I live in a native reservation here in Canada and many years ago. We use to have men’s pilgrimages that were meant to help aboriginal men get away from addictions like alcohol & drugs and promote spiritual positivity. Today, those mens pilgrimages are no longer around and they favor women’s-programs. Especially, since the missing & murdered aboriginal women movement has been heavily pushed the last decade. It’s sad that it seems like we can’t co exist without being told we’re sexist. This is why I left left wing politics and am not taking anymore BS.
Hey bro, also from Canada... Ontario, specifically.. in my 40's.. it's a bunch of bullshit out there, stay strong. I'm a musician and so i'm more often than not surrounded by leftists, but I'm actually full MAGA, and once you realize the globalist agenda, you can get along better in the world, even though it is harder. I personally just try not to get too fat, and occasionally I'll get a girl, but it's fairly rare since most of them are, as Hamza says, looking for 9/10 Chads.. It's important to educate yourself as much as you can. The real advantage we have is that most of the world is willfully ignorant, and basically dumb. You don't need a ton of friends, just a few good ones.
Indigenous Men's Programs should absolutely be able to share the same space as MMIW issues as they're both sides of the same coin.
Where I’m from at my reservation, we have men programs. It’s a shame U guys dont
somehow, I am not surprised by this.
Real MEN dont need "safe spaces". Lets be real here.....
As a teenager, I've been lonely for a while, and been exercising as a way to use this loneliness to make change for myself. I've quitted using social media because I knew it wouldn't be good in the long run. I wish to be in a community like this who allow people like me to make positive changes and be able to make progress to make society better. +1 Sub
Edit: Just hit 100 likes, thanks to everyone who not just understands hardship, but to those who want to help others to change positively!
I also quitted porn for about 7 months, so that pretty good as well.
Bro you got this man don't give up we're on the same boat
@@murloc2134 Thank you! It means a lot to me that I still have some hope that I can change myself for the better and later help others to change themselves as well.
I honestly think Hamza is the greatest self improvement RUclipsr of all time
I hate when people say social media as a whole isn't good. What you really mean is the content you watch isn't good. If you consume productive content, there's nothing wrong with it.
I learned to embrace the loneliness. I’ve grown to not care and I focused on my relationship with God, im not saying that’s for everyone but it worked for me . I learned some skills improved my source of income, got a e-commerce store that’s doing alright. My next move is to buy a few ATMs now and make some passive income. The moment I stopped caring about women is when women started giving me attention and now I will not sacrifice my peace and quiet for anyone so I rather just be by myself it’s the best way to live your life if the spiritual thing isn’t for you and you need to bust a nut pump and dump and move on, and don’t think about her again. she will call you I Guarantee it.
There is a Chinese proverb that says: The man who blames others has a long way to go. The man who blames himself is halfway there. The man who blames no one has already arrived. Women are not listening to this, why would they?
Hi Hamza. I’m a woman and I’ve been watching your videos for the past 2 weeks. While you say this channel is not for women, you say a lot of things that can apply to women. I have benefited from your channel although I may not be your target demographic. While some people might find what you have to say as vulgar or crass, I find you to be very honest. I appreciate your honesty and your passion to help men of this generation.
We need returns of women like you :)
i hope chad sees your improvements and pick you :)
@@octoslut I’m married so I don’t need a chad. Thanks tho.
Women can learn a lot about self improvement in shit thats worth. Becouse all they do its put another layer of makeup and think they are awesome. While they dont have personalitys, hoobys and are incapable of conversation becouse they dont have opinions in anything all they do its repeat the agenda talking points like a parrot.
And they wonder why women have done nothing for society since the dawn of time.
I'm a woman and I watch Hamza too!!
The suicide part really hit me there’s been a few times where I’ve come so close but thinking about how it would affect my family and mates has stopped me
Bro much love to you, don‘t forget many ppl had bad situations and many made it out, maybe y‘all one of them. Love to all the brothas
@@man58652 I believe I am one of those people now times may be hard but tough times are what makes a man
Yeah me too my friend, the only thing that kept me from going through with it was the number of people I told I was immortal until I completed the goals I have. I can't break that promise no matter the reason
I try to explain this to people all the time, but I think that if suicide is heads, then school shootings/lashing out is tails at a point where are you are made to feel insignificant you can either fold over and die or kill that which makes you feel insignificant
Hope u good brodi
Perfect timing hamza , fits right into my schedule for the day
Love your story and videos incase you see this
Once you’ve had a few, you’ve had them all and loneliness doesn’t even exist to you anymore because you’d rather have your solitude.
The "Slept with the drug dealer" is just SPOT ON, witnessed my self during one of the Bday's I was invited too.. But guess what guys? that same girl was still single and settled for some guy that has nothing, she let her self lose and is not even close to being even worth the attention, it's a double edge sword that will hit hard later on in life. Keep working on yourselves kings!
I'll throw my story in here. I was born legally blind yet still had a little bit of vision growing up. I was able to play video games, watch cartoons, enjoy anime thanks for the family that raised me. However around 2017/18 I was diagnosed with glaucoma and slowly watched a little I said I had slowly but surely vanish. Those first two years were a living hell for me I will never not deny that. Yet I'm still here six years later because of the support team that I had my school counselor, my mother, my father either, and everyone else. So now here I am 24 years old still with my depression yet it's a part of me I've accepted it there days where it'll be strong there are days when I won't even realize there that's the beauty of life you take it one day at a time and everyone every day of their life is fighting the world they just don't know it oh and I still playing video games don't ask I'm just too much of a stubborn ass to give up my hobbies
You’re not alone man, in a similar situation except abit older. Just have to take life as it comes and try to enjoy what you can. Wasted too much time trying to fit into society and it just never worked out. Hope you have better luck!
Top G shyt 💪
Life is tough. You can't experience happiness without depression. You can't feel warm if you never know what cold is.
Keep on fighting through the struggle
"Never commit suicide"
-crip mac
We are going to die anyway, life is a mistake death is freedom.
Loneliness isn't an emotion, it's a symptom.
A basic principle of positive solitude is that it is essential to be able to fill the feedback gap by yourself.
Whether a feedback gap opens gradually or suddenly, if you can fall back on yourself to fill it, you can live your life with a minimum of disruption and confusion. In the long term, the more self-reliant and creative you can become in filling the feedback gap, the more stable you will be.
I am homeless and really felt this, thank you Hamza
Im so sorry that youre going theough this brither.
In my opinion nobody of peaceful will and who helps in paying the taxes of a city should ecer be allowed to he homeless in that very city. absolutely nothibg short of an injustice
Always remember - Anyone can give up on you but never give up on yourself. Just don't quit, small steps daily, lead to a NEW YOU.
true that! the only way is up
Great channel! Just subscribed, love your content!
Been a struggle for me too for a while but life is YOU VS. YOU, so like you mentioned, small steps man 🙂
God also never gives up on you
Thank you
I deeply respect you Hamza bro, i really needed this today. Thank you for your encouraging content and your support for the male comunity ,I've been watching your content for a while now and I just want to express my gratitude towards you, you've helped me change for the better for the past few weeks and I just really want to thank you.
your jeffery vs addonis thing always inspires me
as a boy who still goes to school I would say my bros never let me feel lonly, I think my ease in making new friends is definatly a big factor.
I am almost 27 now and I am still don't know how it feels to have a relationship with a woman, how it feels to hold her hands and to provide for her. 27 years of pure loneliness and people outright ignoring me since I was a child. It's like I am not even real or even human anymore. The funny thing is, as much as I don't want to be lonely I despise modern western women, so I don't even try to seek a relationship. It's all so confusing.
Focus on yourself brother, find peace and solitude in yourself brother 💪💪💪💪💪💪
@@mrtrollnator123tired of people saying that, truth is it don’t work
@@revenge8215 you know what, maybe you're right...
@@mrtrollnator123 I hope I’m not bro
@@mrtrollnator123 blah blah blah...
My fiancée left me just before our marriage due to lack of my sexual experience. I am a 27 year old Christian. And now realise that being a pure , caring guy is not popular anymore. But don't you think I gave up ! Never ! Just bought my first new built flat in Manchester. Thx for the video
You will win the end. You'll have assets while she'll have nothing. Then you'll be able to pick, but my advice, go to Asia for that.
Oof that’s harsh, atleast you dodged a bullet by not getting married to her
Lol
Religion is cope get with the times men need sexual experience if you didn’t get it young it’s over
@@thedarkestknight8381 hard disagree
Women prioritise differently to us and while they do value sexual experience, they value other things more
He can either meet a woman with similar values and she’ll value that from him
Or he can have a short burst and smash a couple of birds to gain some experience before settling with a partner
Experience is easy to gain and a small obstacle to overcome - although I wouldn’t recommend telling the women you’re a virgin if you’re just trying to get the experience. Let them find out the hard way so you get the experience first
8:30 absolute respect.
Just because this channel’s content isn’t made for women doesn’t mean that they’re seen as nothing by Hamza. The reason why am saying this because I know some people will try to take advantage of this by saying ‘’Oh look! Hamza is a misogynist!’’
This channel is a space for men and only men. Women are free to observe and learn about our nature and internal conflicts here, but this is directed to us men, we need this content now.
He’s a big hypocrite
„Your life will get better if you realize its better to be alone than to chase people who don’t really care about you. So meet people who do care.“
Being single is a blessing and accept it in your self improvement journey to work on yourself but don’t give up
When you said " think a man you truly respect and putted you through a hard challenge and you succeed and then he said you are a man now " it reminded me of the time when I went on a trip to anandpur (heaven on Earth) and after the trip when we returned he said I was the most disciplined even among my elder brothers who are 22 and 27 and I a 15 year old was the most disciplined made me feel I am going on the right path
right on brother
I would like to tell to those men who think a girlfriend would make a difference into not feeling lonely that it wouldn't change much. Loneliness can have many forms and one form is not having a person to advise you about your life and future.A girlfriend or wife can make things much worse by being an extra burden. You have to be alright with yourself, determined about your future and based spiritually about your purpose in this life. Women are overvalued at this point.
For men who have never had this in their lives, this advice is worse than useless. It feels condescending. The reality is that men DO NEED to have these experiences and the pain of being an outcast can kill a man. But yes... The obtaining of a girlfriend will not fix other issues and even the lack of sexual confidence can be tough to shake even after having successes. The reality of all this is that the process of being an outcast and knowing nothing but rejection and scorn from women creates real wounds that heal slowly but probably never totally
@@ligafftheindifferent3495 I think you are trying to approach the subject more traditionally in a time that nothing traditional has been left standing. My approach is more radical and accelerationist. It is predetermined that society will go to shit without strong men and at this point the situation is unrecoverable. So i tell them to educate, exercise, prepare, philosophize as much as possible, work hard, focus on God and themselves. If they do all that they will be alright with themselves, they will know what they are looking for, where to search for it and they will be able to reject everything that is not wife material. At this point if they focus on experiences with women without the above preparation i mentioned, i think they will be heading for countless rejections from women who are whore material or bang these countless hoes which also a loss of time. You say rejection and scorn...from whom? Women who are not virgin from the age of 14 , haven't got a hint of spiritual life ,that only count our manliness from the size of ours dicks or our sexual feats? Really im honoured to be rejected by all those women and if i have the knowledge it won't create wounds, i will be grateful they did me the favour to reject me.
Could be wrong, but im here to discuss.
Thank you! I recently broke up with my gf 2 months ago, and I was in a 4 yr relationship. I tend to forgot that this was the way I felt.
@@ligafftheindifferent3495 Then again, if there is a break-up/seperation, you are back to square one, and may feel worst off bing an outcast again as you've now had a taste of how it was like to be normal, and to be back into the outcast box anyway despite giving it your best. Your identity of how you are prior to the relationship/experience will take over and it would not mean anything at the end of the day anyway.
Agreed, as someone whos made that mistake, don't go into a relationship when you're at the bottom point of your life. Improve yourself first so that you can feel genuinely happy and provide a good relationship for your partner aswell, not being a incoherent mess of emotions and a burden to them.
I'm on my 4th week of self improvement I've been building my social skills and my body and I cannot think that i genuenly wouldev jumped down a bridge and kil#ed myself just because of women ive gained alot of confidence and ive got visible abs finally and my mental health is now alot better *Thank you Hamza*
Where did you start
Keep it up bro , interested in following ur journey
social media is the greatest poison ever invented......
This is way blackpilled bros. Things do get better and things can be alright. All of these statistics look depressing and difficult to overcome, but it is entirely our job to find a solution to this problem. We don't need to become another number on the statistics labelled here; we need to be the solutions that bring them back down. Keep going bros.
I like the way you think brotha!
I've grown to believe that as a man, I'll always be lonely. No one's going to accept me for being a man unless I'm offering value.. and that involves developing myself, hitting the gym, and so on.. so all I'm focused on everyday is increasing value
But being lonely sucks. Some days, you just feel the need to be with someone.. but it's the reality we as men face
i feel u brother
Stay up king
The right people will come and that is a fact
Bro, get over it.
I don't mean this in a rude or disparaging way. If you are pining so hard for a woman, it's only because you don't value yourself enough. The _GREATEST_ value a man can bring is *Self-Respect!* Do what you need to do to see yourself as the strong and worthy man you are.
I suggest working on being grateful for who you are, what you have done, and what you have. You will be fine brother. Get over your Self-Hatred and women will flock to you, as your confidence and drive will put you where you need to be.
@@arc.gouda08 the people that are fucking a 100 girls aren't happy either, the proof is that they always want more. You feel like it's hard only because your comparing yourself. No regrets ...
I've accepted my loneliness and I've been like this for...all my life. Even more lonely when the covid pandemic took hold of the world. I got the solid run in 2022 and I was killing it in life. Got my career of my dreams, getting $ and then Sept of 2022. My body went into physical stress and even lost my ability to walk. Lost my career, respect of my co workers, 2 girls I was talking to and had interests in me! Mainly lost my ability to work alongside my younger brother in the same agency. Recovery has been very painful and lonely. Already eliminated nearly everyone i used to know because they dont go their 1/2 way. Im at a point where i need to also go for psychological therapy too. First I need to heal physically & I know...I will rise one day and invest to be financially free & I'll be unstoppable.
"This channel is not for women. It will never be for women." I was listening to this a few days ago, and it completely caught me off guard. My initial reaction was a bit of shock and mild offense. Why? Because modern society and social media has hardwired us into this mindset. That's it's not okay for men to feel a certain way. But after listening for a few more minutes I could see just how genuine and honest this man was being...and a lot of men are feeling this way, and the cognitive dissonance is starting to melt away. The scales are beginning to fall from our eyes. This man is speaking honestly and a lot of people need to hear this. Especially men. This is a new beginning for me.
I never feel 'lonely', I just enjoy being alone. For me there's so much power in being able to enjoy stuff by yourself. I go to the gym, go on long hikes weekly and do many other things all by myself. I just find it to be very peaceful.
Is it weird that I enjoy being alone?
EDIT: to clarify, I am not alone all the time, it's just that I am mostly by myself, I do go out every few weeks, do go to the gym with mates every once in a while. It's just that I don't 'need' people to do certain things.
Nah
I kind of enjoy it too
Yes…weird and maladaptive. We are a social species.
"Happiness is only true when shared"
Nah some people wired different bro I can be the same I don’t really enjoy being around others as much
I'm alone, but I'm not lonely. I love the simplicity, the peacefulness
You dont feel lonely until one day finding yourself crying for several minutes and dont have any person whom you can tell about it and who would understand
@@2sad2live50 Nah. I've been used up by people who called themselves my friends for so long I despise making connections with new people. I feel free now that I realized people are liabilities and I should never depend on them.
Thats probably because all entertainment is in your phone and Xbox. That's modern men lol
the future for human interaction just seems so grim, the worst part is I really doubt most people will even care to think how it all got so bad
Life isn't worth living anymore. I'm just laying around, awaiting the end.
Start Lifting, it will change your life
@@teufelszahn have waited 3 months to disagree
@@revenge8215 Tell me your workout schedule
@@teufelszahn Monday-legs
Tuesday-running
Wednesday-arms
Thursday-back
Friday- chest
Rest for Saturday and Sunday. I also do an workouts everyday of the week at night but there are only 10 minutes.
@@revenge8215 Try
Back
Chest
Traps, Shoulders (not front) and Neck
Rest
Arms (also train your forearms)
Legs
Rest
Start bulking with enough good protein and start taking creatin, that will change your life
This video just changed my whole look on life. For the last 15 months I’ve been so stuck in the past thinking about my ex girlfriend and how she left me and started sleeping with tons of frat guys and “top 20% guys”. All this time I’ve been thinking what im gonna say to her next time I see her or talk to her or when shes “done with college and will give our relationship another chance”. After watching this I pictured who we will be if that really ever does happen. Since we broke up I’ve slept with 1 girl. I wasn’t able to get attached because I was still stuck on my ex. Anyways in the last 14 months I’ve grown so much as a person and dropped so many bad habits like smoking weed, vaping, anime, video games, and other short term dopamine activities. While my ex may always be more attractive in appearance then me, she has absolutely nothing going for her in the long term. She isn’t passionate about her career, she smokes weed all the time, has slept with 15+ guys in 1 year and most likely has connection issues, doesn’t have any real hobbies, and spends most of her day scrolling tik tok. I will always be grateful for what she was and gave me in the past but this video helped me realize that she will never be that version of her again and if the time comes where she wants to try things again I will be years ahead of her in all aspects of my life and she will most likely cheat on me or get bored of the relationship quickly because of how her choices since we were last together changed her for ever. Sorry if this seemed like a rant it just felt so good to finally have a logical reason to let go
15+ guys? Man, she's for the streets! Forget her and go on in life. She is not worth any second of your time. You're better than this. She don't deserves you.
If she or any woman who left you ever come back, never allow them back into your life. Ever.
Yeah bro, I was with a girl for 10 years.. she left and became a huge whore. Now, many years later, she's non-binary, probably fried from having too many group s-e-x sessions. She used to be special, and when she left, I was very upset. She just laughed though, and was very poisonous at that point to me. I didn't get over her for a while, and had a few girls in the meantime, but what I'm glad about is that eventually I stopped being such a bitch about it, and realized who I am, and what I am really capable of, which is a lot. Girls like your ex and my ex are the types who, sadly, can't really be redeemed. They've purposely ruined themselves, just because they accepted progressive politics and logic. This is actually political, and our enemies, who are all around us (corrupt governments here in the West and elsewhere - the global elite), these bastards want the global population just to f_ck off. This is one way they do it. Don't let these satanic sh_tbags f_ck with you. (btw RUclips is part of it, i couldn't even post this comment because it wasn't "respectful" enough)
@@awesomeerr8765 I double it.
it only extends the time she makes your life miserable.
eventually you'll end at the beggining.
Wait why drop things you enjoy though?
34 years old and been on testosterone and other steroids since age 27. Was invisible to women and had no friends until I got big on juice. Now I’m getting married and I told my fiancé I don’t want to have any sons, only daughters because I know how hard it it to be a man. She asked me why I keep a gun in a safe and I told her self defense even though I actually have it case I want to kill myself. Cause of my life before and after steroid use I will never view the world the same, cause nobody cared about my struggles until I was better looking. My life is the definition of Blackpill I guess you could say.
This is so tragic
Wow bro I’m sorry the world was so harsh, there is a reason why you’re here. We are going through this together, don’t give up yet.
@@practicing2002 yeah I’ve been off testosterone for a few weeks. I take Trt to keep myself at natural levels. But the world makes me sad cause I used to get rejected by women all the time, I take gear and start to look good and all of a sudden those no answers become a yes. Hell women started to make it easy for me by initiating at bars and in public. My personality didn’t change the only thing that changed was my looks. Now I wonder if my fiancé would even be with me if I still looked like what I used to. So anybody that says personality over looks is bull crap your looks are your personality.
@@stormraiders4599 girls lie to look good on camera saying they prefer dad bods and that personality matters most which are obviously lies
Dude you are 34, your body makes its own test. Go see a professional before you take any more crap and get off the supplements.
This is how i see myself and the society, i live in. I'm walking pass these houses, fill with people, watching their favorite shows/news/programs and/or doing their tiktok dance. Some have families, some have bf/gf, they're all doing their thing, while i'm passing by in the cloudy, snowy, cold side walk... I been a loser..my whole life. I do have parents and siblings but i always felt alone even if they were around. I just think and believe that some people were born to be with others while others were born to be by themselfs. Its a hard pill to take but it is what it is.
and the worst part is I have a desire to be with ither people, not with a spouse, jsut with some from. Im peasceful and friendly as far as Im concerened(nobody has told me thst I was rude before sooooo...)
And I am not even allowed to that. Like... why even go on living if Im narred from fulfilling a mandatory and meager desirE?
Edit: I meant to say just with some friends.
Watching this is technically procrastinating. Remember to improve day by day
True bro
Few hours back i was also feeling lonely after thinking about my family's financial condition, also i procrastinated today after so long, but after some hours i got back 🔙 and started to work again as I'm the one of the people who can break the MATRIX
Having no friends and never having a gf literally makes me feel like I’m in a living nightmare. I pray everyday it gets better but it never does.😢
Listening to this makes me realise again how grateful I am to be single and genuinely not interested in dating. It’s just toxic
No you still need it, affection, sex, feeling understood.
What disgusts me is the slap choke spit part he said. And the ending, no family.
Live for the struggle my Brethren, live for the journey-
Not everything is down to your moment of sadness… Tragedy can be healed through stoic creativity.
Men are lonely because “nobody cares”. However it’s a men’s job to transform himself by using the loneliness to be better, stronger, wealthier….
It’s good to know what is happening, but it’s important to create your own reality
Adonis!..... that gives power...
Jeffrey and Adonis intro is top tire..
You really hit the nail on the head. It feels like the environment that we're in now is, if you're a guy, you are well and truly on your own. No one gives a shit about you, not your fellow men, and especially not women. Any issue you deal with, you're going to have to deal with it on your own with no support except from yourself. It ain't just the young guys dealing with this anymore either. 30 years old here and still dealing with this, trying to figure it all out and feeling like I'm getting no where. Just gotta keep trying I guess. Hopefully I'll be able to turn it all around before hitting 40 where it'll truly feel hopeless. lol
The self improvement journey is a lonely journey, I got friends, a family and a girl, but I still feel lonely without a reason.
i need to thank you hamza, i didnt even watch you for a year and you helped me so so much. Many girls speak with me and even have interest. If you didnt upload video about tiktok and social media i would also be lonely. Honestly i hope EVERYTHING best for you
I'd say a great way to cure loneliness (especially if you struggle with females) is to just broaden your network with other guys. Get high quality man in your life that will give you the right amount of attention, validation and support. Eventually you'll have a better time building your value. Take the time to find your circle. It is important!
How do you do that?
@@kw7814 Go to events / places that cater to your interests and approach men. It is very easy to approach people of the same gender. The key is to go out and do something you love and hopefully you'll intersect with other guys that you can connect with :)
Very true dude. A brotherhood will cure it for you.
@@amin_dhou I want to move to a city soon so hopefully I can meet people by going to events in the city by myself and make some friends!
@@kw7814 Best of luck on finding your circle. You got this :)
Social media has been the biggest problem
I’ve faced loneliness practically all years of highschool, barely have a connection with my family (in fact I don’t even feel like my sister is my sister)… I’ve kinda accepted it and ignored the sugar coating that others are sayin, started self improvement a year and a half ago and now I’m stocky n built, have a beard, for the first time in my life I have a LATINA girl wanting to go on a date with ME, and I’m pursuing a career that gives me hope… just know we all go through different types of loneliness but in the end you must show up and go through it because it develops the man you become in the future
@Andres Thanks homie i wish you luck too
I've been lonely since all of Elementary School, Middle School and High School but I have a very supportive family
@@kunwarpreetsingh1375 time to do something about that loneliness
I mean everyone tries to hard and I think that's what it really comes down to. People forget that you can be the happiest person on the planet and be single at the same time. Tbh a lot of times relationships make peoples lives worse especially if their trying too hard. Get a life first and relationships will come later. I am in a relationship now and my life is not really any better than it was when I was single, its just that there are different positive things about it and also different negatives.
It pains me because of the fact that i am going through the exact situation right now. Its a very lonely time for men in this era but we have to come together boys.
Praying for the men who are lonely ❤.
This shit hits harder every minute like hardening metal with all sorts of other metals and stuff,it just gets more relateable and it truly is lonely,i might be young at 16,but i already have a couple of i can call them couleges that i know that most likely arent going to get laid,all they do is play some roblox fruits games and watch anime,even told me they watch ph 3-4 times on the daily basis,i sure am setting up myself for a brighter future.As im working on myself,working out,im getting a paypal soon so i can earn money and retire my parents as my dream i wish to fulfill,it really fucking hit when you said that this world is about to crumble very soon...Here in serbia we still have quite a bit of masculanity left but the west culture is hitting here and women are changing to those like in the west,if you are reading this i want to thank you for changing my pathetic life and motivating me to discipline myself to become masculine as my role as a man.I will do the hard work especially when i dont feel like it.
Hard times create strong man.Strong men create good times. And good times create weak men. And weak men create bad times.This quote really fits to the last 100 years. But I personally hope that that the quote comes full cycle again. Because right now we have weak men that let the world get worse and worse. I think this eventually will create strong men again, with people like hamza guiding them to become strong, masculine men again.
You're forgetting about AI and automation, eventually there aren't going to be any men, or women for that matter, period. Humans are being phased out. We are in essence just machines, so it only makes sense that things progress this way.
@@Dakradom shut up liar 🤥
@@walterwhite1 hur dur, idiot
@@malengcraft7757 How do you know what's possible? The tech grows every year and every advancement accelerates the speed at which things progress. It's only a matter of time. Most humans are mediocre intellect at best, and all we do as a collective is stare at our phones all day so we're getting dumber. The likelihood of humanity prospering in a healthy way again is slim to none. Every year we become more isolated, more narcissistic, and more doped up and distracted with mindless entertainment while our mental health declines and people grow farther apart. The people in power obviously want it that way so that we're docile, divided, and easy to control. It's undeniable. If world leaders actually cared about humanity they wouldn't have let the world degenerate like this, but the people at the top are power hungry psychopaths. Human nature is inherently selfish and we are essentially just survival computers whose primary goal is to survive in the most powerful way possible and pass on our DNA.
It’s a real shame, that even this statement is meant to shame, & blame men for all of society’s woes. If women are as equal as they claim to be, then I say pass this torch of burden to create, sustain, secure society onto to them, & let’s just sit this round out.
Married my husband at 21 YO, both of us were waiting for marriage and intentionally looking for a future spouse when we met each other. No previous partners. It’s been six years, and I guess i’ve pair bonded with him because to me, he is the definition of a real masculine man. Pre-marital sex is the number one driver of the western dating game, and the root of all of these problems. If people took “no sex before marriage” seriously, a lot more people would be married at 21 lol.
and then they get divorce
@@franlorde149 who does
@@franlorde149 Your right rn 50% of marriages end in divorce with 70-80% being initiated by Women, if we didn’t have immigration in the west we be like Asia rn
So you are still only in your 20's. Things change in your 30 and 40s
At 37, I don't think I will be able to find a female partner who hasn't had sex.
I'm a Polish guy, used to live twice in Britain and in The Netherlands. When I lived there I had no one to speak to for around a year. When women saw where I was from this was like, worse than being a criminal. I returned to Poland, graduaded, dated the most beautiful girlfriend from my University. It was like dating a souless machine. She was my only girlfriend I ever had. I will be 27 now, I'm joining Cisco Systems in Cracow, i'm importing Dodge Challenger from States, I sail in weekends and I don't want to date anyone anymore. Because everytime some girl want to date me who is like, lower quality to say bluntly I also see a hurt man because of her. My friend who live both in Poland and in Sonoma, California multimilionare, boxing everyday, they don't want to date him. It's sick guys, it's sick. He had 8 girlfriend or 10 cuz he's a chad, bo no one who wanted to commit to him. Oh, and my ex wanted to sleep with him after she broke up with me.
Wow 😳
Thats harsh man womans are craaazyy these days
And i am from the netherlands and i know our womans here are not crazy but more likely bat shit mental
Which is the same😂 its how you look at it
Your second reason is why I advocate so heavily for boys to join a fraternity while in college. One of the greatest days of my life was being initiated into my frat after months of hard work and dealing with all the shit I had to do. It’s not all bad either - mine literally taught me how to be a man in every aspect, not just dealing with tough shit. Like how to dress and how to talk to girls for example.
Loneliness is temporary, use it to fuel your ambitions and the feel of being alone will vanish. I kid you not, try out something that interests you and it will go away.
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Tell Jim I refer you to him for a life changing investment opportunity, that will change your financial life ...
It doesn't sadly
Men, the best love you can have in your life is self-love. At the end of the day all you have with you is you, don't be unkind to yourself.
It's not that easy 💔
@@azhaankhan7000 yes it takes time but take the self love journey is something you need to take one step at a time.
In my college vacation days now... Never felt this lonely and depressed in my entire 18 years of life. I have goals to pursue, things to worship etc. But I cannot really focus on any of these. Today, I found this channel, joined the Gym, deleted Instagram twitter. Hope everything is a uphill from today.
The most "toxic" video I have heard in a while. Feels good to hear the truth. Great job Hamza!
thank you very much hamza. today the girl I liked confessed me. i saw her at our college traditional day, i complimented her, exchanged IDs, and then what? we talked and talked and talked and she shared her traumas and I shared mine and today she confessed me. i pulled this girl in 4 fuckin days. shes religious, studious and aint like other girls. this is because of your advice i was able to achieve this. thank you very much.
I'm so happy to hear that my man. Let's keep up the good work
Lol
Hamza you read my mind.I was actually thinking that you would make a video about men and loneliness and you uploaded this video after a few hours.In terms of improving your content I think that you could also focus on the self improvement journey not only in the initial stage but what comes afterwards.For instance, the way that we should all face the struggles that follow having taken the "hard" way towards success.
I'm a loner all my life! I'm 62 not a hunter! Spend my time building up my life and yet no matter what I do I feel invisible!
Hamza I met this girl then after we started talking she treated me like her bf and I got attached way too quickly then as I made my move she ghosted me then as I tried to vent out and get some fresh air on my skateboard and now I’m injured I can’t even go to the gym and clear my mind but thankfully I have you and I’d like to thank you for all you’ve done for me and you’ve made me a better man
Wow this man literally hit every nail on the head
"You enter the world on your own and you leave on your own people all we ever truly have is ourselves better get comfy with it"
What to do if family disowns u?
@@robbenvanpersie1562 Just learn to be happy with your own company and accept that it's a them problem not you.
@@GlasgowBandit what about when the problem IS you?
Hoooooly shit, ho-ly-shit! My father hasn’t been a part of my 34-year-old life almost at all, but I never really picked up on that one thing. When you described the right of passage in front of your male peers, your elder putting his hand on your shoulder in approval. I went through a hurricane of emotions and ended up in tears and get my knees get weak. Oh my God, I don’t know if I had ever felt this. Thank you!!!
Hamza, Thank for changing my life and making me better version of my self
this is probably the video i need rn. most of my "friends" when you need them most to open about things they always put me on ignore while i see them on social media with all the time in the world then i start to think "what if im the problem?". when you need them most to open about things they just flat out ignore me for days and in and its getting to me. i just really hope this can help me bcs i dont know where to run to anymore
you'll be fine my man, just keep up the hard work, will ya?
Have these friends too. Never "hey how's your day?". Just "yo are you getting online and join our squad???" just that. That is the only thing they want from me. F*ck that.
They are not your friends ! Find a new circle of real friends
there is a difference between purposeful lonliness and purposeless lonliness. Purposeless lonliness is where you don't have anything to do so you slip into these bad habits and feel more lonely with each coming day. When you are going through purposeful lonliness is that when you have goals and you are focused a lot on them, sure the path is lonely, but it doesn't even feel lonely because you are so focused on yourself. The path to success is a lonely one. It has been hard for me to do all the things I am working towards when I see my friends with their girlfriends and going on vacation it hurts. But I remember what I am working towards and I don't feel as bad. However it would be a thousand times worse if I didn't have any goals. I would probably fall into a depressed state. The key to fixing your sadness is to having a purpose. Because your too busy to be sad.
Very true
The path to success is actually very commonly not at all a lonely one. Many people get lots of opportunities just by knowing a lot of people and being in good standing with them.
@@SantanaBanana47 there's a difference between having coworkers and people with connections and having friends.
@@natelofimusic true
One thing ive noticed is that all my female friends have endless unread messages on their phones. At any point in the day they can open their phone to connect with someone. They get so much attention that they often complain about how exhausting it is. As a man im lucky to have one person text me throughout the week. I get excited to see a message pop up and half the time its a spam message anyway. Women dont understand how vast the gap is between men and women when it comes to social fulfillment.
It's scary, it's freakish and disgusting. If I was born in a different time I would have so much more worth socially. It's just I've been born in this weirdo simp device society. I can't wait for the day I reach the top and stick the ultimate middle finger in society's face, as well as make a bunch of changes by taking down corrupt companies and showing what humility looks like to these egotistical pricks
Im getting better and better in self improvement. The last weeks. I finally started gym the right way. Im going to mosque nearly every day. Im going to school and im good in it. I really can say that im a good person objectivly. Ive lost 25kgs some like 44lbs i think. So theres someone that im goin to stop talking with and after that i will go ghost mode like you said. Ive learned, the biggest enemy of me is me.
Get up kings. Im with you
Women realize that when they get married they have to pay half the bills and do all the chores and still be called a nag.
L comment
Hamza
Today, I felt discouraged and I really don't know why.
There's this voice telling me if I wanna do it my way, I am gonna fail. Its kinda complicated but your videos are always motivating and keeping me Hamzish(Strong).
amen to that sir
I've had two relationships in the last decade. 2011-2013 was the first and I dated for 7 months this year. I felt alone even having these "relationships".
Disney princess movies really set false ideals against what men are and how we should act. 😔
It's making me pissed off that the media's gonna start call Hamza "misogynist" at some point and attempt at cancelling him when the definition of the word itself is misinterpretated and only used for clout. We may dislike some of the self-improvement gurus that are more sellouts, but Hamza's taking the risk of articulating his thoughts that may result in an extreme decimation of his first source of income and influence. I hope that doesn't happen, and if it does, as a debt we'll fight against it. Can't have more gratitude than finding you setting my ass straight.
May Allah guide us all to the right path.
Why can't men build strong lasting friendships?
Multiple reasons
if you dont finish school with some good friends then they are really hard to come by
Well, you're not wrong, pretty much all facts here.
I do sometimes realise it's just cope, when I think I don't need sex or girls, perhaps that mentality would change after I finish building my body and all.
So true on that part about "what do men have to live for", I've been mulling that one over for about 3 years now.
this self improvement journey is actually very lonely journey, but it's worth it at the end
it's not that the path itself is necessarily lonely, it's just that the majority of men are lonely and an even bigger majority of people who end up on self improvement and these communities were lonely to begin with.