Your content is really dope, bro. Many wouldn't see things the way that you do. I recently got cheated on by my ex-fiance and nearly lost myself after finding out about the whole ordeal. I'm just grateful for being able to control my emotions when I found out, despite everything I was already going through. On the bright side, I'm living and working in Asia now.
@JayNdou It depends on the type of job you want to do, bro. There are a couple of agencies that you can use to apply. I'm teaching English. So, I can only give you sound advice on teaching jobs. You can go on Google and search "TESOL jobs in Asia"
I’m definitely not screwed coz I am not a victim. If a girl is not on my program I charge it to the game and keep moving. Stay on your purpose. We’ll win at the end kings.
It is tough to be a man, especially here in South Africa, but you just have to accept it and make your way in this world. You can not feel sorry for yourself, if other men are driving G-Wagon's, you can too. Only the strong survive.
In 2k25 gents, let's do things differently. If you tried getting a job and haven't received any response. Instead of waiting for a miracle, resort to selling something (nothing illegal). If your woman is not putting in effort in the relationship. Don't resort to GBV. Instead, move on. Don't think short term. Think long-term and build the life you want to be in. Let's build stats that show growth in SA, not stats that show decline. Focus on health,wealth, and relationships that build growth.
@@dmngo10start in your own room on your bed , pick up the bible go through scripture and pray (have a conversation with the Lord) , you don’t need to rush yourself to church…you will eventually join the right church for you when you are ready.
@@dmngo10Don't allow church hurt to come in between you and God. Due to my personal walk with God, I have not been to church since lockdown and sometimes I have to be around people of same fellowship for encouragement but my point is my relationship with God hasn't been as strong as it's been before lockdown being in church. You don't always need a church building to get started with faith in God. God is always with you, pray for help wherever you are. Don't allow the religious spirit of people pain the wrong picture to you of what a true believer in Christ as a Christian is
Hard times build character. im in my 20s and no longer depress myself with such realities/thoughts anymore. I’ve figured out that the universe ALWAYS equalises chief😂….. I don’t care that my sisters play life on easy mode (good for them). Mara I know that one day, I’ll get my day in the sun.
Indeed! Life has no permanent favorites, we are all going through life's trials & tribulations (earlier/late) but if you endure it enough to see the better days then you made it.
@@janetjohnston1702y'all can't endure forever for life requires you to step up, meaning play your part and life will meet you halfway, energy doesn't lie my sister,women have it easy honestly speaking compared to men.
I'm a 19 year old male, and I have devoted myself to changing our society and I am the one who will move our nation back to the past , days where my grandparents parents know what is love and the importance of respect and loyalty
Me as a man I'm not screwed, because a woman is not worth ruining my life. She cheats and I still have my life, so I move on with my life. As a young man we must come to a realisation that our purose in life is not to chase after woman and relationship but to built better societies, so I have a more important and God given purpose which is to build a better society. I advice my younger brothers to study hard, get better jobs and open up companies and industrialise our own countries. Stop chasing women and alcohol it has nothing of value you are wasting your life and purpose. To sum up, seek God first and He will show you your purpose.
Thank you. My younger brother 21 is at UP studying accounting CA. He is stressed by course. No time for girls. After that, he will be focusing on climbing the ladder in auditing and crediting. No business with girls none whatsoever. Pursuing future goals equals celibacy. Lento ekhulunywa uPen is limited to his circle. Young men are doing well.
As guy in their 20s specifically 22 with a BCOM degree and first born out of 4 I still struggle to get jobs, my mom is even divorced I can’t even help out with small cause I can’t even get a job even though I studied and graduated, everything you said is literally what I’m going thru and it’s worse because I am in relationship, what you saying is conversations that need to take place especially for black male youth, it’s tough it’s really tough
Even go to physical stores, look for vaccines, online look vaccines, LinkedIn , I’m applying everyday with an actual good profile and experience, still nothing, and worst I know I’m not the only one going thru this, we need help especially us youth
Wish you better times ahead. Keep trying to find different ways to leverage your degree even unorthodox ways. Try to make sure you are providing VALUE.
Look at how many young men/ boys are dropping out of school compared to young women/girls and sitting idle on street corners doing nothing. Its heart breaking to see.
This one hits home, I dont get why its not discussed enough. If I were to form an NGO of some sort, thats the area I would focus on. Men, black men in particular need to get educated, it doesnt have to be the traditional route but we need more black men in the corporate space and being in the forefront of innovation. Its so heartbreaking to see, out 10 black graduates, only 3 or 4 are males😢. We need to go back to the basics or we will forever be in the bottom of the food chain and thats were a lot of social ills stem from.
@@thisisntokozohow because corporate is where innovation happens and men are the best innovators that’s why even engineers work in corporate now in tech developing tech in our country that’s why tech in SA is behind compared to 1st world countries lack of men in innovative spaces…
@@siyandamasala1136also people over look getting a skill, look at people from Zimbabwe they come here and they are making gates, they are cutting our grass they are plastering plumbing etc If I knew then what I know now I would have invested in knowing a skill at a technical college than getting a degree in HR. Simply because with skill you can still hustle after work on weekends it’s like two incomes. We need to get those young boys who drop out to rather go to TVET colleges and learn a skill, they must be our electricians in our homes they must be our plumbers etc
eish pen, you nailed it bro 🤣 fun fact is my girl dumbed me she said I wont be able to give her the kind of fun she wants for this festive season 😀 duku duku on her WhatsApp status she was already holding hands in an audi and i suspect that's my friend's car but otherwise we move 💪💪💪💪
Hade dawg, you laughing cause you don’t know how to express your pain. Unfortunately that’s how the game is and cruel. Best thing to do for yourself is go to therapy, up your bread and focus on you.
Gents need to stop buying love through sacrificing their needs and wants, and money, do not sacrifice more than you will be willing to lose. and love isnt the most important thing in a relationship. if you go on how you feel for someone, youll always sell yourself short and end up doing so many things to the point where a human being cant even disappoint you, without you feeling like you have to end their life because of how much youve done for them. and lastly NO ONE OWES YOU TO STAY WITH YOU REGARDLESS OF WHAT YOUVE DONE FOR THEM.
The sooner gents prioritize themselves and love themselves enough to detach from material things, the sooner life becomes easier and relationships become better. What you put out is what you attract, this is why you don't see billionaires accused of killing their partners. It's always those of us trying to build better lives for ourselves and partners. Focus on loving yourself Gents, the love from women will follow.
I totally agree, but what we need to do is to first come together as men and use social media to voice these things out and put light on the toxic behavior that they have. We can get more and more people to join the movement it would be great. We need to point out these behaviors and shame them
I couldn't agree more with you Mavundla bro. I like how unapologetic Penson gets without coming off as being antagonistic. As gents, we need to be proactive in fighting this inequality divide, and we can start by being vocal on these streets, challenging the status quo bro...Otherwise, we are as good as dead if we don't speak and react.
Yoh kunzima😢. I genuinely had a very good job and I saw those odds. I worked closely with the executives of the company I worked at and they would always hire women over the men. I really feel for my brothers yoh. I really hope society can balance again and men can regain their confidence and esteem. Our society is rotten yazi. We need God's intervention yohh. This makes me feel so much empathy especially because I know my man finds himself in a similar position, he's trying so hard and I just pray his efforts are recognised 😢
We dont need God intervention, men have turned into cowards ,instead of raising against the system ,they sit behind chair with big English like this guy ,instead of organizing as men to fight the system
@@MfanafuthiHlophe-u4t Do you have your own organization that men can join? Drop the name/link/page. Or an idea of how an organization of such men would be formed and implemented against our problems (hell even a rough sketch of how it would work will do). Because if you don't have anything of your own then you're just a man criticizing another man who, at the very least, has actually opened a platform that facilitates a conversation...which is a hell of a lot more than many men have done/will ever do.
I hope he makes it, and shout out to you for understanding the situation and holding him down during these tough times unlike most women these days they would just look for someone who's already doing good instead of building something up with a brother they would want finished product that's how they're programed to do so that we will stay divided so that whatever we do won't have an impact since we believe in different things
@AbrahamMavundla He broke up with me on New year's Eve 😂😂. Yoh hai ke. But I hope he heals and becomes secure as a man because I know he broke up w me out of feelings of inadequacy
I wish we had more black people, specifically men to talk about these issues more. Also we need to find a robust solution to this pandemic. I am a teacher by profession and believe me I sometimes cry when I look at the way young people are aimless and they don't know what they living for at all. At time I think they get too used to my preaching to them and they take very lightly the things I always tell them. I wish it were ever possible for me to invite you so you could have just a little chat with my FET boys😢. Our kids are indeed screwed
No amount of preaching will help. Government should change laws and stop writing women off accountability, everything wrong is men according to government & society, while women can do as they please they aren't supposed to be told they're the source of many things
You're ri about that, us men need to come together and use social media a tool to spread the message by pointing out these toxic behaviors and shaming them and also fight the court systems to change the laws that put men at a disadvantage against women
Bro, I’ve been in this exact situation. It’s soo frustrating. Luckily for me and my gf at the time, I was raised well by my parents and know not to lay hands on women. I tried so many times to leave peacefully but she wouldn’t let me, got to a point where I locked myself in the toilet and spent the night there just to avoid her. She banged on the door until she was too tired to continue 👍
Love the content bro! Keep it coming, You never sugarcoat anything. Especially when it comes to teaching us young guys, we appreciate you sir. You deserve all your flowers, please keep educating us young guys 👏
Looking at it, this way or that way it's dangerous for both parties and the biggest casualties are kids that are being born out of loveless relationships...
Chief yami Yazi what you're saying is on point but let's be honest, how can we change the mindset of all these girls.. It's impossible. Unfortunately it's all in our hands as ma aothi to grow into something irresistible. Instead of lama klipa we Hennessy we can rather focus on more self improvement habits. It's nice but there's no going back unless we can invest in Boma a 10-20 year lifestyle practice that'll put our sisters in line.. Talking to them is a waste of our time
This is funny, I had the same argument over these topic with a group of friends last week. Happy to see I’m not the only one brave(in todays woke climate) enough to raise the view.
This is some dope content. Thank you for mentioning the reality now and the difference of back in the time of our grand parents. I'm currently with a girl who started acting right after I started making some money but before that she was just sh** and would lie and text other men. Imagine living in a reality like that. Imagine what that does to someones psychology, knowing a lot of the black women are like that.
Great video Penson, one which definitely needs to be shared far and wide. We have a crisis in South Africa and in order to help mitigate it, it is important to continue having these conversations. This video will definitely help many.
Eyy gents, these days I've noticed that most girls love the idea of having a boyfriend/man and less the journey of building and growing together. I think we young men, are also partly to blame for this. Simply put, we lack principles that guide our lives and decision making. Ultimately, we'll be unable to guide and lead the young women that come into our lives to see the vision long term and buy into it. Leadership is a big need in females. And Im certain that the lack thereof, exacerbates infidelity. In any case, principles are also important for breeding the patience we all need whilst working our way up. Nothing is easy gents. Whether its a job, a business idea, or whatever, nothing is easy. Its no coincidence that almost all rich black men are north of their 40s, IT TAKES TIME.
Cowards who surrendered their countries to western powers and puppets presidentials?Please South Africans are the most powerful men amongst all Africans men.Dont compare us with Cowards who run away from their countries.
Whose responsible of breaking down young men to the point where violent is their only reaction to show their worth? Deep thoughts. (media, women, parents, government, religion, poverty...who's to blame?)
This is being orchestrated. Society is trying to flip gender roles to spite God and the way he designed things to be. Think about it, the agenda is to uplift the female and suppress the man. Women are being encouraged to be masculine, men are being encouraged to be feminine.... Eventually there will be a mismatch in the dating game and boom... Population decline
When a woman has cheated on you and you find out, she needs for you to talk in order either feel better about her actions so she can look like the justified or for you to make a point that she can leap on and turn against you making herself the victim. Your silence after finding out kills her inside.
I've been constantly thinking about this and I have been thinking about a podcast that tends to educate men. Also to create a community that holds men accountable to keep the conversation not just once in a while but on a daily basis. The content like red pillers are encouraging this type of behaviour some even taking it to the extreme. Not enough content is made to educate men to do the right thing
Mlotshwa What i liked is when you said :majita start to commit in your relationships build them, cut the lifestyle of being a provider to women We can save ourselves as man if we start to be honest and find partner that will deserve us not nice time life first
this isn't just exclusive to men, I think its a major societal problem, traditional relationships aren't really working because of the society we live in and I feel the problem is men for some reason think that shit like this isn't going to happen to them, hence the extreme reactions we've seen in the past. I feel like there needs to be a strategy change when it comes to relationships where compatibility is prioritized and the traditional expectations of partners should be done away with. Lento yokuInvesta kuThando and happily ever after shit isn't working. I feel like people should find people they are on the same page with and build a life with them, they don't have to be exclusive to each other but as long as both individuals honor their set agreement and the relationship works for both individuals.
@@babybop9817 hate to say it but you have a point. Traditional relationships may be a thing of the past. The probable outcome is that if we were to do it like you say, prioritizing compatability and not prioritizing exclusivity, all women would flock to the top 10% guys. They'd be fine to sharing them. The bottom 90% will be expected to parent the children sired by the top guys. And they will take that deal because they got no other choice....If you think about it, we are actually already doing what you've outlined. It just hasn't been socially accepted yet.
What a zigzag beating Argentina about the bush to meandering the point is all this? Call a spade a spade and stay that way, one can never understand what they have not experienced.
@@soult-17 all im fucking saying is settle with what you can deal with, muyisifebe shada isfebe nifebe ndawonye, munezingane shada onazo, mungana mali thola onganayo noma onayo oWilling ukukthatha. Curate your relationships to what works for both of you not unrealistic societal expectations that neither gender can reach. Both men and women running around like headless chickens trying to get picked knowing very well they aren't compatible with the individual that picks them and get surprised when shit doesn't work out, the calculations aren't adding up.
I wouldn't say black women are the most employed group. It depends on certain industries. Supply chain, logistics, mining industry, construction industry, heck we can also say the SAPS...common man.
Ya grootman ku rough. Mara let me put my 2cents for your effort. Its all the fundamentals of a men that need to established. Iqiniso vele nou kubi. We as men must establish a foundation for ourselves. Bra god Ne mali. Umndeni always kodwa we come 1st 2025.
Penson, you're on the money. This is why the red pill space blew up in 2020/2021. I wouldn't even say it's only black men who experience these things but I do get your point
My girl of 6 years bruh, six years. She let me kulo December cabanga, I know mid jan she will try the get to back story. Im fucked. Been lonely all December bruh while she’s busy partying every event. Yerr I’ve been stressed bruh
The fact that we are starting to admit this thing, it's a step forward to working on ourselves and the problem, An important thing that made me survive my ordeal in the 20s was the STRUCTURE that supported me through it all which was my family. It's not easy as in walk away from them especially when your serious in building a family and a legacy then they collapse everything on you and call what they did a mistake, sorry, let's talk and move on from it.. You'll never be the same again and on top of that most of us never had a consistent father in our lives where you could learn or be taught manhood. SO Some of the things you'll learn from yourself sometimes your mother sometimes the older father figure driving a nice car who has no morals or interest what the younger generation are getting from him that's also a cause of things, bad father figures, we in a mess and that's why they turning to drugs to escape... You've started something with this video which shows awareness for young men who are starting to figure out who they are and what they want in life, and social media ain't a place to be looking! it's in your hands in what you can make and grow for yourself, and it takes time, but if you believe in yourself and the Lord our God, life will get easier.
It really is sad to see how young men are struggling even more nowadays, things keep getting worse, the only thing these kids see working for men is politics and amapiano. However, kudos to the government and private businesses attempting to "correct" the gender inequality previously meted out by society against women. Currently there are so many NPOs, Private companies, government organizations, civil organizations solely focused on the betterment of women. Where are the ones focused on men in this current economic climate? Dololo🤷🏾♂️. Although the efforts of these different entities is appreciated. We've always known that crime, alcohol and drug abuse is predominantly done by men, how are any of these issues which are rooted in lack being addressed? Aretse🤷🏾♂️. Certainly, some sort of attention in the form of what is being done for women has to be paid to men. If not, the next best thing for a guy to get a buck is to take it from someone else or sell something illegal to get it. The crime in this country will continue increasing if we continue on this path.
In as much as amajita are supposed to be the providers, they must also go for the hun who've got their own things going on. It will eleviate the stress and paranoia of umuntu wakho stepping out on you, and that can only happen when a woman has her shit together. Awukwazi ukubonisana no muntu othanda izinto.
Just to add on... It's the way our sisters handle it when they get caught.... It's the blatant disrespect they receive in that moment that. Hope our brothers find a better ways of dealing with this. Cause definitely our sisters won't.
Penson I don't think we can solve everything at once but the DNA test being compulsory is a start, cz Paternity issues decrease abuse will decrease, then we find the next way financially to empower our young black men in this country, such conversations lead us to clarity which in turn bring us closer to making specific solutions for the Young black man
I think the other thìng is that a woman gos as far as using umuthi for a guy to do what she wants but forgetting that materialistic things never satisfy ad umuthi can turn deadly
"Talk about what"??? The moment we try to talk yall call us misogyny, narcissists!!!! So it's better to stay quiet and stop dealing with y'all, simple !!! Life's greater that way.
Am personally not screwed. We are all human. Once you start idolizing a person, that's what happens. We need jesus more than we think. Because that's true happens before anything or anyone.. I hope this message go to everyone who is watching this video..
Last year I was doing Matric, I am not happy about completing my Matric because I don’t know what will happen to me.I have questions in my mind that I cannot answer. The unemployment rate in this country is devastating 😢
I wish I could start a program for more men to invest in a skill, plumbing, electrician etc I don’t know anyone with a skill who goes to bed hungry. My dad is a mechanic the minute he wakes up he’s getting a call because Mr so and so is stuck and needs him, my dad is hardly in the house because of the amount of time he spends out fixing people’s cars. Gents invest in a skill, we have concluded that the work environment is already giving mostly women opportunities so let’s find another option.
I fully agree with all the points you've made in this video. Your presentation was excellent, effectively highlighting the challenges facing young men today. However, I believe you have the potential to transform this channel into a platform for empowering young men, addressing their issues constructively rather than simply criticising them as society often does. There's a significant lack of self-help resources created by Black African men for our youth, and this channel could fill that void. I strongly encourage you to consider this, as I believe you could have a profound impact. Young men need to cultivate self-reliance and avoid self-destructive behaviors such as excessive alcohol consumption and casual sex. Embracing celibacy can significantly contribute to character development and enhance their thought processes
peoples must just stop cheating if you fill like you don't love him anymore just brake up with him,especially nina mantombazane ake niyeke ubufebe,you slowly but surely becoming our worst enemies.
Fam if you have time please come with stats for the black men employment statistics ngoba we won't be able to rebuttal unless we have "peer-reviewed" studies to quote because these people wont believe anything without scientific proof.
Grootman how about you start a podcast for the first time and address this issue…and if you do a pod can I please be there…there’s a story I need to share.
Maybe the patriarchy doesn't exist. It's a media illusion. If men had such a position of power these problems wouldn't exist. These problems actually prove the point, there is no patriarchy
You're right when you say lets understand some of a couple of things. People turn to bypass things with the aim of , ill just figure out what to do. while each and everything has its own ways to blow up.
Your content is really dope, bro. Many wouldn't see things the way that you do. I recently got cheated on by my ex-fiance and nearly lost myself after finding out about the whole ordeal. I'm just grateful for being able to control my emotions when I found out, despite everything I was already going through. On the bright side, I'm living and working in Asia now.
Congrats to u brother. You a strong man. Emotional decisions are always the worst
Hey sbonga im a young man trying to better my life and just curious on how you managed to get a job in Asia
@JayNdou It depends on the type of job you want to do, bro. There are a couple of agencies that you can use to apply. I'm teaching English. So, I can only give you sound advice on teaching jobs. You can go on Google and search "TESOL jobs in Asia"
zinjani iyfebe eAsia?
Another positive thing, at least it happened before you actually got married and then she would've stolen half your life with the divorce.
I’m definitely not screwed coz I am not a victim. If a girl is not on my program I charge it to the game and keep moving. Stay on your purpose. We’ll win at the end kings.
Izinja madoda🎉😂
It is tough to be a man, especially here in South Africa, but you just have to accept it and make your way in this world. You can not feel sorry for yourself, if other men are driving G-Wagon's, you can too. Only the strong survive.
Exactly. More life bafowethu
Sucks fr 😢 dammit man 😔
In 2k25 gents, let's do things differently.
If you tried getting a job and haven't received any response. Instead of waiting for a miracle, resort to selling something (nothing illegal).
If your woman is not putting in effort in the relationship. Don't resort to GBV. Instead, move on. Don't think short term. Think long-term and build the life you want to be in.
Let's build stats that show growth in SA, not stats that show decline.
Focus on health,wealth, and relationships that build growth.
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Men please turn to the lord and pray. Make the lord your saviour. Let that be your starting point .
I know you meant well by this but there's also a reason their not going to church either. Appreciate tho fr!
@@dmngo10start in your own room on your bed , pick up the bible go through scripture and pray (have a conversation with the Lord) , you don’t need to rush yourself to church…you will eventually join the right church for you when you are ready.
You mean well but churching is another obsticle for us black men in this country to be looked down on for not being perfect
Amen🙏Men and women, the devil is after both.
@@dmngo10Don't allow church hurt to come in between you and God. Due to my personal walk with God, I have not been to church since lockdown and sometimes I have to be around people of same fellowship for encouragement but my point is my relationship with God hasn't been as strong as it's been before lockdown being in church. You don't always need a church building to get started with faith in God. God is always with you, pray for help wherever you are. Don't allow the religious spirit of people pain the wrong picture to you of what a true believer in Christ as a Christian is
Hard times build character. im in my 20s and no longer depress myself with such realities/thoughts anymore. I’ve figured out that the universe ALWAYS equalises chief😂….. I don’t care that my sisters play life on easy mode (good for them). Mara I know that one day, I’ll get my day in the sun.
Im 19.5 and this is my path, lets rise nonstop
Indeed! Life has no permanent favorites, we are all going through life's trials & tribulations (earlier/late) but if you endure it enough to see the better days then you made it.
@@janetjohnston1702y'all can't endure forever for life requires you to step up, meaning play your part and life will meet you halfway, energy doesn't lie my sister,women have it easy honestly speaking compared to men.
I'm a 19 year old male, and I have devoted myself to changing our society and I am the one who will move our nation back to the past , days where my grandparents parents know what is love and the importance of respect and loyalty
Me as a man I'm not screwed, because a woman is not worth ruining my life. She cheats and I still have my life, so I move on with my life. As a young man we must come to a realisation that our purose in life is not to chase after woman and relationship but to built better societies, so I have a more important and God given purpose which is to build a better society. I advice my younger brothers to study hard, get better jobs and open up companies and industrialise our own countries. Stop chasing women and alcohol it has nothing of value you are wasting your life and purpose. To sum up, seek God first and He will show you your purpose.
Well you are screwed coz , if u sleep with a hun then following day asks you for 10k or else she will open a rape case , it will be chai for u
Thank you.
My younger brother 21 is at UP studying accounting CA. He is stressed by course. No time for girls. After that, he will be focusing on climbing the ladder in auditing and crediting. No business with girls none whatsoever. Pursuing future goals equals celibacy.
Lento ekhulunywa uPen is limited to his circle. Young men are doing well.
As guy in their 20s specifically 22 with a BCOM degree and first born out of 4 I still struggle to get jobs, my mom is even divorced I can’t even help out with small cause I can’t even get a job even though I studied and graduated, everything you said is literally what I’m going thru and it’s worse because I am in relationship, what you saying is conversations that need to take place especially for black male youth, it’s tough it’s really tough
Even go to physical stores, look for vaccines, online look vaccines, LinkedIn , I’m applying everyday with an actual good profile and experience, still nothing, and worst I know I’m not the only one going thru this, we need help especially us youth
Wish you better times ahead. Keep trying to find different ways to leverage your degree even unorthodox ways. Try to make sure you are providing VALUE.
Dont wait for a job in your line of study. Get a mean time job like a call centre or go into some sort of business.
Look at how many young men/ boys are dropping out of school compared to young women/girls and sitting idle on street corners doing nothing. Its heart breaking to see.
This one hits home, I dont get why its not discussed enough. If I were to form an NGO of some sort, thats the area I would focus on. Men, black men in particular need to get educated, it doesnt have to be the traditional route but we need more black men in the corporate space and being in the forefront of innovation. Its so heartbreaking to see, out 10 black graduates, only 3 or 4 are males😢. We need to go back to the basics or we will forever be in the bottom of the food chain and thats were a lot of social ills stem from.
Unfortunately corporate is not for black men but women thrive better there...maybe engineers yes that we need more black man at but I get your point
@@thisisntokozohow because corporate is where innovation happens and men are the best innovators that’s why even engineers work in corporate now in tech developing tech in our country that’s why tech in SA is behind compared to 1st world countries lack of men in innovative spaces…
@@oreneilehlalethwa7404 lol Tjo 😂😂😂
@@siyandamasala1136also people over look getting a skill, look at people from Zimbabwe they come here and they are making gates, they are cutting our grass they are plastering plumbing etc
If I knew then what I know now I would have invested in knowing a skill at a technical college than getting a degree in HR. Simply because with skill you can still hustle after work on weekends it’s like two incomes. We need to get those young boys who drop out to rather go to TVET colleges and learn a skill, they must be our electricians in our homes they must be our plumbers etc
eish pen, you nailed it bro 🤣 fun fact is my girl dumbed me she said I wont be able to give her the kind of fun she wants for this festive season 😀 duku duku on her WhatsApp status she was already holding hands in an audi and i suspect that's my friend's car but otherwise we move 💪💪💪💪
Tough luck brotherman
Mashallah brother👏🏽. WE MOVE ON!!
You need new friends chief 😂😂😂 that's your enemy right there
@4ORCE_NLM1 for real that's his enemy
Hade dawg, you laughing cause you don’t know how to express your pain. Unfortunately that’s how the game is and cruel. Best thing to do for yourself is go to therapy, up your bread and focus on you.
Gents need to stop buying love through sacrificing their needs and wants, and money, do not sacrifice more than you will be willing to lose. and love isnt the most important thing in a relationship. if you go on how you feel for someone, youll always sell yourself short and end up doing so many things to the point where a human being cant even disappoint you, without you feeling like you have to end their life because of how much youve done for them. and lastly NO ONE OWES YOU TO STAY WITH YOU REGARDLESS OF WHAT YOUVE DONE FOR THEM.
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The sooner gents prioritize themselves and love themselves enough to detach from material things, the sooner life becomes easier and relationships become better. What you put out is what you attract, this is why you don't see billionaires accused of killing their partners. It's always those of us trying to build better lives for ourselves and partners. Focus on loving yourself Gents, the love from women will follow.
I totally agree, but what we need to do is to first come together as men and use social media to voice these things out and put light on the toxic behavior that they have. We can get more and more people to join the movement it would be great. We need to point out these behaviors and shame them
I couldn't agree more with you Mavundla bro. I like how unapologetic Penson gets without coming off as being antagonistic. As gents, we need to be proactive in fighting this inequality divide, and we can start by being vocal on these streets, challenging the status quo bro...Otherwise, we are as good as dead if we don't speak and react.
Yoh kunzima😢. I genuinely had a very good job and I saw those odds. I worked closely with the executives of the company I worked at and they would always hire women over the men. I really feel for my brothers yoh. I really hope society can balance again and men can regain their confidence and esteem. Our society is rotten yazi. We need God's intervention yohh. This makes me feel so much empathy especially because I know my man finds himself in a similar position, he's trying so hard and I just pray his efforts are recognised 😢
We dont need God intervention, men have turned into cowards ,instead of raising against the system ,they sit behind chair with big English like this guy ,instead of organizing as men to fight the system
It's how the system is destroying the black society... disempower black men and empower black women only, role reversed
@@MfanafuthiHlophe-u4t
Do you have your own organization that men can join? Drop the name/link/page.
Or an idea of how an organization of such men would be formed and implemented against our problems (hell even a rough sketch of how it would work will do).
Because if you don't have anything of your own then you're just a man criticizing another man who, at the very least, has actually opened a platform that facilitates a conversation...which is a hell of a lot more than many men have done/will ever do.
I hope he makes it, and shout out to you for understanding the situation and holding him down during these tough times unlike most women these days they would just look for someone who's already doing good instead of building something up with a brother they would want finished product that's how they're programed to do so that we will stay divided so that whatever we do won't have an impact since we believe in different things
@AbrahamMavundla He broke up with me on New year's Eve 😂😂. Yoh hai ke. But I hope he heals and becomes secure as a man because I know he broke up w me out of feelings of inadequacy
Soon as he said "Men are fucked" I knew he was about to cook 😂
Just focus on yourselves Kings!!
😂😂😂 ... it's tough out there bra ...
Im not in my 20s anymore but "R35 in the bank" statement triggered me.
I wish we had more black people, specifically men to talk about these issues more. Also we need to find a robust solution to this pandemic. I am a teacher by profession and believe me I sometimes cry when I look at the way young people are aimless and they don't know what they living for at all. At time I think they get too used to my preaching to them and they take very lightly the things I always tell them.
I wish it were ever possible for me to invite you so you could have just a little chat with my FET boys😢. Our kids are indeed screwed
No amount of preaching will help. Government should change laws and stop writing women off accountability, everything wrong is men according to government & society, while women can do as they please they aren't supposed to be told they're the source of many things
We are focusing on the problem and not the cause.... society needs to check it's self
clock it and akusibona abantu besfazane abayqala lenkinga, Men started it and sebeya khala manje because the ladies are playing their games.
@@BridgetCamagu what would you say the cause is?
@uchwepheshe us humans..the unrealistic societal expectations of each other...lack of accountability mainly
You're ri about that, us men need to come together and use social media a tool to spread the message by pointing out these toxic behaviors and shaming them and also fight the court systems to change the laws that put men at a disadvantage against women
😢😢😢😢 I'm speechless. This video touched me so hard because I studied but am still unemployed 😢 I decided to apply for general work once
You can say that again bro. I graduated in 2022 and I'm still looking for employment
By "understand" certain things, he doesn't mean accept certain things. It's very uncommon that men just wake up and feel like murder.
& It's Your "Everyday Joe" That Are Doing It, Like How Mentally Broken Do You Have To Be To Do That.
W perspective. Please keep dropping this knowledge. You have a science-backed vivid imagination of reality, a rare commodity.
You just gained a follower, I’ve watched two videos and I like your content. Very raw issues both women and men are facing
the top 1% of men are living the life. We are lucky lol. but yes, I agree. It is not good for society as a whole.
Bro, I’ve been in this exact situation. It’s soo frustrating. Luckily for me and my gf at the time, I was raised well by my parents and know not to lay hands on women. I tried so many times to leave peacefully but she wouldn’t let me, got to a point where I locked myself in the toilet and spent the night there just to avoid her. She banged on the door until she was too tired to continue 👍
Psychopath that 1
Love the content bro! Keep it coming, You never sugarcoat anything. Especially when it comes to teaching us young guys, we appreciate you sir. You deserve all your flowers, please keep educating us young guys 👏
Looking at it, this way or that way it's dangerous for both parties and the biggest casualties are kids that are being born out of loveless relationships...
Chief yami
Yazi what you're saying is on point but let's be honest, how can we change the mindset of all these girls.. It's impossible. Unfortunately it's all in our hands as ma aothi to grow into something irresistible. Instead of lama klipa we Hennessy we can rather focus on more self improvement habits.
It's nice but there's no going back unless we can invest in Boma a 10-20 year lifestyle practice that'll put our sisters in line.. Talking to them is a waste of our time
Yeah they need learn their lesson and make them realize the damage they are doing
Lack of father figures and healthy masculine figures
And who created that?
healthy masculinity cant teach you how to not get a heart attack because your kids arent yours
People learn to accept life is full of challenges.
Thank you 🙏🏿
This is why women should never be presidents. Imagine being told to accept nonsense, these problems are man made & we sho just accept? Smh
That's the problem everybody acting like they got it and they don't.
Some things are very PAINFUL to accept 😢😢. This right here is the unspoken Truth
This is funny, I had the same argument over these topic with a group of friends last week. Happy to see I’m not the only one brave(in todays woke climate) enough to raise the view.
This is some dope content. Thank you for mentioning the reality now and the difference of back in the time of our grand parents. I'm currently with a girl who started acting right after I started making some money but before that she was just sh** and would lie and text other men. Imagine living in a reality like that. Imagine what that does to someones psychology, knowing a lot of the black women are like that.
Great video Penson, one which definitely needs to be shared far and wide. We have a crisis in South Africa and in order to help mitigate it, it is important to continue having these conversations. This video will definitely help many.
How can it help while this dude is wearing red nail polish? It's confusing 😕
Its sad what men go through nowadays.Very insightful and informative video
The young men you described are no longer just young men, it literally applies accross generations
Eyy gents, these days I've noticed that most girls love the idea of having a boyfriend/man and less the journey of building and growing together.
I think we young men, are also partly to blame for this. Simply put, we lack principles that guide our lives and decision making. Ultimately, we'll be unable to guide and lead the young women that come into our lives to see the vision long term and buy into it. Leadership is a big need in females. And Im certain that the lack thereof, exacerbates infidelity.
In any case, principles are also important for breeding the patience we all need whilst working our way up. Nothing is easy gents. Whether its a job, a business idea, or whatever, nothing is easy. Its no coincidence that almost all rich black men are north of their 40s, IT TAKES TIME.
We will make it Brother no matter what...young black men are under attack systematically But look at God take us to the top
It's tough to be a man but a man needs to be tougher look at our West African Brothers
Cowards who surrendered their countries to western powers and puppets presidentials?Please South Africans are the most powerful men amongst all Africans men.Dont compare us with Cowards who run away from their countries.
This is my first time on your channel, and I have a lot to catch up to. Enjoyed this episode and subscribed and about to watch more of your content.
Cartoons and folk stories are perfect examples of villains and heroes
Right
To be honestly. People who don't know what it is to love someone and be invested in that person, will not understand what you positing.
Whose responsible of breaking down young men to the point where violent is their only reaction to show their worth? Deep thoughts. (media, women, parents, government, religion, poverty...who's to blame?)
This is being orchestrated. Society is trying to flip gender roles to spite God and the way he designed things to be. Think about it, the agenda is to uplift the female and suppress the man. Women are being encouraged to be masculine, men are being encouraged to be feminine.... Eventually there will be a mismatch in the dating game and boom... Population decline
No lies told!
These are the conversations we should be having... big ups❤
Unpopular facts ,we not ready to listen to ,Facts ,facts ,facts !!
When a woman has cheated on you and you find out, she needs for you to talk in order either feel better about her actions so she can look like the justified or for you to make a point that she can leap on and turn against you making herself the victim.
Your silence after finding out kills her inside.
Mfethu! I learned this one the hard way.
Finally, you hit the nail on the head.
I've been constantly thinking about this and I have been thinking about a podcast that tends to educate men. Also to create a community that holds men accountable to keep the conversation not just once in a while but on a daily basis. The content like red pillers are encouraging this type of behaviour some even taking it to the extreme. Not enough content is made to educate men to do the right thing
We also need to come together as men and use social media to shame these behaviors and hold anyone who indulge's in this madness
Mlotshwa
What i liked is when you said :majita start to commit in your relationships build them, cut the lifestyle of being a provider to women
We can save ourselves as man if we start to be honest and find partner that will deserve us not nice time life first
The only thing that can stop this behaviour is to try minimise poverty
Paint on the nails yes understandable but allowed on a man No!!!! 😂😂
this isn't just exclusive to men, I think its a major societal problem, traditional relationships aren't really working because of the society we live in and I feel the problem is men for some reason think that shit like this isn't going to happen to them, hence the extreme reactions we've seen in the past.
I feel like there needs to be a strategy change when it comes to relationships where compatibility is prioritized and the traditional expectations of partners should be done away with.
Lento yokuInvesta kuThando and happily ever after shit isn't working. I feel like people should find people they are on the same page with and build a life with them, they don't have to be exclusive to each other but as long as both individuals honor their set agreement and the relationship works for both individuals.
ya stop lying to men and telling them that they can earn love from a women and all the jazz.
@@babybop9817 hate to say it but you have a point. Traditional relationships may be a thing of the past.
The probable outcome is that if we were to do it like you say, prioritizing compatability and not prioritizing exclusivity, all women would flock to the top 10% guys. They'd be fine to sharing them. The bottom 90% will be expected to parent the children sired by the top guys. And they will take that deal because they got no other choice....If you think about it, we are actually already doing what you've outlined. It just hasn't been socially accepted yet.
What a zigzag beating Argentina about the bush to meandering the point is all this? Call a spade a spade and stay that way, one can never understand what they have not experienced.
@@soult-17 all im fucking saying is settle with what you can deal with, muyisifebe shada isfebe nifebe ndawonye, munezingane shada onazo, mungana mali thola onganayo noma onayo oWilling ukukthatha. Curate your relationships to what works for both of you not unrealistic societal expectations that neither gender can reach. Both men and women running around like headless chickens trying to get picked knowing very well they aren't compatible with the individual that picks them and get surprised when shit doesn't work out, the calculations aren't adding up.
eish & at the same time we can't complain it is what it is hard times create great individuals. sizo'phumelela.❤👑🛐🇿🇦🙏🏿
The truth in this video...?! 🙆♂️👏👌🙏
I wouldn't say black women are the most employed group. It depends on certain industries. Supply chain, logistics, mining industry, construction industry, heck we can also say the SAPS...common man.
Facts men should definitely focus more on industries that value them more as to women
This is just sad
Ya grootman ku rough. Mara let me put my 2cents for your effort.
Its all the fundamentals of a men that need to established. Iqiniso vele nou kubi. We as men must establish a foundation for ourselves. Bra god Ne mali. Umndeni always kodwa we come 1st 2025.
Dope content.subscribed
Penson, you're on the money. This is why the red pill space blew up in 2020/2021. I wouldn't even say it's only black men who experience these things but I do get your point
My girl of 6 years bruh, six years. She let me kulo December cabanga, I know mid jan she will try the get to back story. Im fucked. Been lonely all December bruh while she’s busy partying every event. Yerr I’ve been stressed bruh
Bro don't take her back , just focus on getting your shit together
😂😂😂 she's the one on your profile pictures right now?
@@4ORCE_NLM1 nah that’s my little sister 😂
@@4ORCE_NLM1 let me change that picture before you get the wrong idea 😂😂
Marriage.
Understanding Madara Uchiha was the best thing I ever done.
Big up on this content
The fact that we are starting to admit this thing, it's a step forward to working on ourselves and the problem,
An important thing that made me survive my ordeal in the 20s was the STRUCTURE that supported me through it all which was my family.
It's not easy as in walk away from them especially when your serious in building a family and a legacy then they collapse everything on you and call what they did a mistake, sorry, let's talk and move on from it.. You'll never be the same again and on top of that most of us never had a consistent father in our lives where you could learn or be taught manhood. SO Some of the things you'll learn from yourself sometimes your mother sometimes the older father figure driving a nice car who has no morals or interest what the younger generation are getting from him that's also a cause of things, bad father figures, we in a mess and that's why they turning to drugs to escape...
You've started something with this video which shows awareness for young men who are starting to figure out who they are and what they want in life, and social media ain't a place to be looking! it's in your hands in what you can make and grow for yourself, and it takes time, but if you believe in yourself and the Lord our God, life will get easier.
Bless bro.
I think you can now do the eye brows. By December 2025, I am sure a dress will not be a bad idea 🤭🤭🤭
It really is sad to see how young men are struggling even more nowadays, things keep getting worse, the only thing these kids see working for men is politics and amapiano. However, kudos to the government and private businesses attempting to "correct" the gender inequality previously meted out by society against women. Currently there are so many NPOs, Private companies, government organizations, civil organizations solely focused on the betterment of women. Where are the ones focused on men in this current economic climate? Dololo🤷🏾♂️. Although the efforts of these different entities is appreciated. We've always known that crime, alcohol and drug abuse is predominantly done by men, how are any of these issues which are rooted in lack being addressed? Aretse🤷🏾♂️. Certainly, some sort of attention in the form of what is being done for women has to be paid to men. If not, the next best thing for a guy to get a buck is to take it from someone else or sell something illegal to get it. The crime in this country will continue increasing if we continue on this path.
In as much as amajita are supposed to be the providers, they must also go for the hun who've got their own things going on. It will eleviate the stress and paranoia of umuntu wakho stepping out on you, and that can only happen when a woman has her shit together. Awukwazi ukubonisana no muntu othanda izinto.
Just to add on... It's the way our sisters handle it when they get caught.... It's the blatant disrespect they receive in that moment that.
Hope our brothers find a better ways of dealing with this. Cause definitely our sisters won't.
Penson I don't think we can solve everything at once but the DNA test being compulsory is a start, cz Paternity issues decrease abuse will decrease, then we find the next way financially to empower our young black men in this country, such conversations lead us to clarity which in turn bring us closer to making specific solutions for the Young black man
I think the other thìng is that a woman gos as far as using umuthi for a guy to do what she wants but forgetting that materialistic things never satisfy ad umuthi can turn deadly
2025... 🙏🏽 for men to be a bit smarter. Vigilant..... ibani verge okay!!!😂
Mr incredible said to that kid who idolised him - "Go home kid I work alone " he rejected the kid
Asikhulume- Let’s Talk!
"Talk about what"??? The moment we try to talk yall call us misogyny, narcissists!!!! So it's better to stay quiet and stop dealing with y'all, simple !!! Life's greater that way.
@ I hear you, but it would not kill to try again.
Because we have grown men painting their nails 😑
Am personally not screwed. We are all human. Once you start idolizing a person, that's what happens.
We need jesus more than we think. Because that's true happens before anything or anyone.. I hope this message go to everyone who is watching this video..
Last year I was doing Matric, I am not happy about completing my Matric because I don’t know what will happen to me.I have questions in my mind that I cannot answer. The unemployment rate in this country is devastating 😢
Yah nor its chaiiii!!!!!! 💔
It's over bro, gents gotta accept, you can't force things.
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😂😂😂😂😂😂
You nailed it
That’s when I decided I’m not gonna marry my crush or person that I love the most
Ngyakuzwa... kodwa ke izinzipho zipendelweni? Benginganakile yaaz.😊😊
I wish I could start a program for more men to invest in a skill, plumbing, electrician etc I don’t know anyone with a skill who goes to bed hungry. My dad is a mechanic the minute he wakes up he’s getting a call because Mr so and so is stuck and needs him, my dad is hardly in the house because of the amount of time he spends out fixing people’s cars.
Gents invest in a skill, we have concluded that the work environment is already giving mostly women opportunities so let’s find another option.
How do you learn those skills though
@ they offer them at TVET Colleges
I fully agree with all the points you've made in this video. Your presentation was excellent, effectively highlighting the challenges facing young men today. However, I believe you have the potential to transform this channel into a platform for empowering young men, addressing their issues constructively rather than simply criticising them as society often does.
There's a significant lack of self-help resources created by Black African men for our youth, and this channel could fill that void. I strongly encourage you to consider this, as I believe you could have a profound impact. Young men need to cultivate self-reliance and avoid self-destructive behaviors such as excessive alcohol consumption and casual sex. Embracing celibacy can significantly contribute to character development and enhance their thought processes
Eish, that alcohol and casual sex chat needs to be echoed... It definitely tempers with our decision making.
@@crystalsounds9542 Fully agree champ.
peoples must just stop cheating if you fill like you don't love him anymore just brake up with him,especially nina mantombazane ake niyeke ubufebe,you slowly but surely becoming our worst enemies.
Niyavuma yini ukushiywa ngoba nine entitlement anivumi🤭
Ewu! Sisenkingeni 🤦♂️🙇♂️
is it me or the brother gained some weight?.. thanks for the content my king its so insightful keep it up big bro
Well said m f o 100%
Fam if you have time please come with stats for the black men employment statistics ngoba we won't be able to rebuttal unless we have "peer-reviewed" studies to quote because these people wont believe anything without scientific proof.
Grootman how about you start a podcast for the first time and address this issue…and if you do a pod can I please be there…there’s a story I need to share.
real talk
For the last time.... leave itabane alone....thixo
There are Lazy!! they must come with new innovative ideas
Love the hair colour 😍you shouldve dyed your eyebrows and beard it would've been super👌🔥🔥
Are you listening 😂?
@KabeloMotsiri-n7y no I'm not😭😭
So what is sustaining patriarchy then if men are allegedly invisible in SA society?
Maybe the patriarchy doesn't exist. It's a media illusion. If men had such a position of power these problems wouldn't exist. These problems actually prove the point, there is no patriarchy
WMC
@@SheCanSmile there is no patriarchy. It's a illusion sustained by the leftwing globalist media
Stoicism could be the answer.
I read Meditations by Marcus Aurelius. I'd suggest for my brothers to start there.
Thank you,
You're right when you say lets understand some of a couple of things. People turn to bypass things with the aim of , ill just figure out what to do. while each and everything has its own ways to blow up.
faxx
Are you going through a midlife crisis?
No, you must understand his content
12:45 truth
Facts 😂😂