How Age Can Affect A Relationship | Kingsley Okonkwo

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  • Опубликовано: 25 авг 2024

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  • @nikkicreary
    @nikkicreary Год назад +378

    Thanks, PK. My husband is 11 years younger than me. We have been friends for 11 yrs married for 4 years. My ex-husband and I were the same age, and he was very immature. Age don’t make relationships it 2 people committed to make it work...just my opinion and my reality respectfully.

    • @Sudio51Babe
      @Sudio51Babe Год назад +6

      Thank you!!!!!

    • @josephineamgbolley7503
      @josephineamgbolley7503 Год назад +17

      Awwww l am so much inspired by your testimony,God bless your home forever

    • @leadiabe2634
      @leadiabe2634 Год назад +6

      Thanks for sharing 👍❤

    • @KingsleyOkonkwo
      @KingsleyOkonkwo  Год назад +36

      I love that!

    • @durbansaladyinaccra2173
      @durbansaladyinaccra2173 Год назад +17

      Personally, as a woman I don't disclose my age. If you are my family, friend or partner you will already know it but if I dont know you...its not your business.

  • @liz9664
    @liz9664 Год назад +132

    Age is just a number. What matters is maturity, flexibility, and adaptability between the male and female. Forget pressure from society and do you! 😊

  • @nonyetobe1912
    @nonyetobe1912 Год назад +65

    All correct. According to research, the younger you are, the less likely your relationship is to work, but there are few exceptions to it. The most important thing is for the man to lead well and for the woman to submit well.
    Thank you Pastor.

    • @onlinelearningguide
      @onlinelearningguide Год назад +1

      You are right! As a tip on the idea, man should acquire vital knowledge to help him lead the relationship well. His woman must respect and submit to his rules and share him her ideas if there are wrong idea.

  • @mwanamrembo
    @mwanamrembo Год назад +28

    I am totally blessed from this teaching. I am the older woman. Financially though...he is better off so its not about money. Thank you for touching on all the points that matter. Its good to hear a Man of God from Africa teaching in this way. I pray you expand and grow richly continuing to spread your teachings throughout Africa and the world. I guess the time for me to discover you is now and I thank the Holy Spirit for guiding me to you and your wife. You are a blessing and a power couple. Keep shinning! Blessings from KENYA.

  • @BenefitXX
    @BenefitXX Год назад +58

    I didn't need this to know I'm on the right path...yea my wife to be is older than i am, Good to hear from you MOG..

    • @MoyinoluwaDorcas
      @MoyinoluwaDorcas Год назад +2

      Wow. This is great

    • @timxdesign
      @timxdesign Год назад

      How many years?

    • @BenefitXX
      @BenefitXX Год назад

      @@timxdesign just 1

    • @timxdesign
      @timxdesign Год назад +1

      ​@@BenefitXX Thanks for the swift response, mine is 2 years

    • @BenefitXX
      @BenefitXX Год назад +1

      @@timxdesign sure bro, I've marriages the woman is 10years older but the respect is there for the man.. Besides psychic maturity too has nothing to do with age

  • @agnesgomez9391
    @agnesgomez9391 Год назад +92

    Despite the fact that people say age is just a number ,getting married to someone I’m older than is something my brain can’t condone 😢it’s weird to me

  • @NdiAche
    @NdiAche 11 дней назад

    Thank you Pastor Kingsley. I have leant from your wordings. Age is just a number. Maturity, flexibility and adaptability between the male and female is the key🔐

  • @sarahjoseph2747
    @sarahjoseph2747 Год назад +9

    I'm actually 4 years older than my boyfriend and he's mature and his thinking is far from his age. Very far.

  • @tmbrightfuture2023
    @tmbrightfuture2023 6 месяцев назад +2

    Since I started listening to Pastor K. I have learnt a lot about marriage

  • @victorwinner491
    @victorwinner491 Год назад +18

    Finally, someone addressed this issue!🤗

  • @lucymuzungu7258
    @lucymuzungu7258 Год назад +16

    Well articulated. Can a woman respect and submit. And a man can love no matter what. I agree it can be done.

    • @nnekafaith8489
      @nnekafaith8489 Год назад

      Very, very.if u love the guy my dear if the qualities u want in a man is in him,no body will tell you , especially when he is taking authority/leadership ,u will obey him willingly.

  • @kingdomtalk2526
    @kingdomtalk2526 Год назад +30

    I've been waiting for a message like this ever since. Thank You Papa ❤️

  • @margarethnyamushonongora7522
    @margarethnyamushonongora7522 Год назад +8

    Thank you sir, Wiseman. Nomatter the age the man is to lead and the woman enjoy being led and respect the leader.

  • @seighatuks4704
    @seighatuks4704 Год назад +4

    If others got it right with this... Why did you think you can't get it right... Age doesn't matter, perfect love is the key....

  • @EssenceofGod5657
    @EssenceofGod5657 Год назад +6

    Amen age is just a number ☮️

    • @Dorismom
      @Dorismom Год назад +1

      A friend of mine referred me to Dr Baba dada the man that fixed my broken relationship without any effects I really appreciate you Baba dada the great spell caster

  • @gideontech2281
    @gideontech2281 9 месяцев назад +1

    In a nutshell, this is awareness of the inherent issues, so it's a question of "can you handle it?"

  • @emildaadamu7742
    @emildaadamu7742 Год назад +10

    Man of wisdom, thank you sir!!🙌🏾

  • @ejamemarvelous5331
    @ejamemarvelous5331 Год назад +10

    Thanks a lot PK for drawing our attention to things that really matter.

  • @charleskay1
    @charleskay1 Год назад +2

    May your days be long Sir.

  • @nzoputachukwunnamezie7566
    @nzoputachukwunnamezie7566 Год назад +1

    Wow! I have being longing for this. But in terms of respect, women also need respect as well. Thanks

  • @xeik7482
    @xeik7482 Год назад +1

    You are so right about those around the same age ...100%

  • @Sudio51Babe
    @Sudio51Babe Год назад +7

    I don't have a see a big deal in marrying a younger man. Intelligent men with the ability to lead is always my spec.
    Once we have that much, who am I? You become the master without questions. 😊

  • @ChristaMeleha
    @ChristaMeleha 6 месяцев назад

    Best teaching ever. Age us just a number. Though pressure from outside the relationship but it takes the 2 people to make it work. Thanks Pastor God Bless.

  • @joyce744
    @joyce744 Год назад +4

    I don't want enter in a relationship with a guy that loves me so much because he is younger. But he is always there for me. Motivate me to be good.

    • @regalchic
      @regalchic 6 месяцев назад

      Honey.. please enter.. I had one and I regret shooting him away with age. If he is able to lead and motivate you age regardless and takes good care of you and you don't look older than Him. Heck! carry on

    • @chiomaokonkwo9046
      @chiomaokonkwo9046 2 месяца назад

      Take a chance with him. If it works, great! If it doesn't work, at least you know you gave it your best. We regret the things we didn't do more than the things we do in life.

  • @BubbasJuice2145
    @BubbasJuice2145 Год назад +4

    😊 pastor you are on point with that the man has to be flexible but at 15 my maturity was in tact and I knew where we were headed and that’s right there were still times I wanted to go and did the club and partying but when I did, it was with his children, or our parent, you know we would go… the oldest daughter was two years younger than me and as I told her and her sister that I am not here to be their mother, I will be their friend because they have mothers. I’m here to love my husband and that’s what I’m gonna do. It worked out well there’s always bumps though.

  • @rubymoore5875
    @rubymoore5875 11 месяцев назад +1

    I truly Love Pastor Kingsley And Pastor Mildred and the God I see in them both. Truly you both are such a blessing. I love the knowledge God has given you both. I so need this kind of knowledge in my life♥ Thank You Both for truth..

  • @hopeamadichukwu8781
    @hopeamadichukwu8781 Месяц назад

    bravo, you are the best mentor Pastor K. more grace

  • @toluekwe
    @toluekwe Год назад +10

    I love listening to you and PM as your wealth of knowledge and insight on relationships is remarkable.
    Thank you Pastor for this video. I wish you specified age ranges for the statistics when you said “the younger you are, the less likely the marriage will work, and older you are the more likely the marriage will work”. Are there no limits to these statistics? If someone marries at age 21 or at age 55 for the first time do these stats still apply?
    God bless you for all you do to enrich and empower the body of Christ Sir

    • @mrbennett
      @mrbennett Год назад +1

      Statistics are based on the general experience of people. It doesn't mean you cannot be an exception if you have the features he mentioned like maturity, flexibility, willingness to respect your husband regardless of age, patience, etc.

  • @jeremyhodge6216
    @jeremyhodge6216 3 месяца назад

    I'm in a relationship with a far younger woman and we get along well so far. We have plenty in common what I like about her the most she's a "Traditionalist" and that's very important to me ☺️👌💯

  • @emekaabuah6029
    @emekaabuah6029 Год назад +3

    Essentially, Pastor K is saying that if the woman ticks all the boxes and is older than you it's fine.

  • @afinikiamos8806
    @afinikiamos8806 Год назад +4

    Thank you pastor k...but I have my reservations about a lady dating or marrying someone younger than her... it's a capital NO for me abeggggg sir...
    I cannot marry a man I'm one second older than...Adam was created before Eve nahh...😆
    It feels so weird dating or marrying my younger brother kinda age.... abeggggg...🙄
    But thank you for the highlight sir...😊

  • @kimberlyjessicah9145
    @kimberlyjessicah9145 Год назад +4

    God bless you Man of God. I was waiting on a message like this.

  • @Okoliesamuel101
    @Okoliesamuel101 Год назад +3

    Thanks for the teaching, Pastor K. You did justice to the topic.

  • @confidenceagochukwu8520
    @confidenceagochukwu8520 Год назад +30

    I feel like I'm not supposed to be my age😂
    Like a 28year old in a 20year old body.
    I now understand why I have certain preferences in a relationship.
    Thank you PK

    • @laurajaff1203
      @laurajaff1203 Год назад +1

      Same as me dear

    • @punila8671
      @punila8671 Год назад +1

      Same

    • @mklovlif
      @mklovlif Год назад +2

      The thing is we turn to be in denial as we go older 😅 we don’t want to accept our older age

    • @nkechiezeala
      @nkechiezeala 11 месяцев назад

      ​@mklovlif no, It is not denial. Sometimes I literally forget my age when asked and have to calculate in my head because I feel way younger than my actual age by God's grace.

    • @allenmirabel5445
      @allenmirabel5445 8 месяцев назад

      Same here as well
      I look so younger than my age , that when I tell people my age, they don't believe me 😅

  • @olufunkekolajo3747
    @olufunkekolajo3747 Год назад +3

    Age really matters in a relationship but the gap shouldn't be so large. I totally agree about flexibility..

  • @sportingarenatv7495
    @sportingarenatv7495 Год назад +4

    GREAT WORK MORE GRACE SIR MORE BLESSINGS IN JESUS NAME .

  • @lawalgrace6927
    @lawalgrace6927 10 месяцев назад

    I am 17years old and i have listen to many of daddy kingsley and mummy and i belive that if I keep myself with right information and i do something with what i know by the time I'm around 25 i should be a relationship coach i suddenly start having burdens for teenager around me with relationship.
    I wish to meet mummy and daddy

    • @ikeholisa6837
      @ikeholisa6837 10 месяцев назад

      Wonderful
      I have been following them for awhile wish I new them before now
      You must have gathered so much experience
      I will like to hear from you
      I believe you will impact such value
      Looking forward to hear from you

    • @lawalgrace6927
      @lawalgrace6927 8 месяцев назад

      @@ikeholisa6837 Good evening did, I just received the notification that someone responded.
      Yeah I have and I'm working towards being a valuable person

    • @lawalgrace6927
      @lawalgrace6927 8 месяцев назад

      I meant Good evening sir

  • @enumangene6914
    @enumangene6914 Год назад

    Thank you so much PK for opening my eyes to the reality and complexities of age differences, this definitely gave me more clarity!!!

  • @seighatuks4704
    @seighatuks4704 Год назад

    People should just make themselves flexible with life... There's nothing wrong with older or younger... Dont be myopic... Love covers all..

  • @Sflowwzz
    @Sflowwzz Год назад

    Age is nothing but a number... Nice one, Pastor K!!

  • @mavisakomea3895
    @mavisakomea3895 Год назад +3

    Woow... always been asking myself dis questions... Thank u Soo much for impacting us

  • @musah09068
    @musah09068 Год назад +2

    pastor k u ar too much sir
    May God increase you in knowledge
    Can't wait 🕺

  • @jeannettekomya7017
    @jeannettekomya7017 Год назад +16

    My husband is 12 years than me, i’m happy and good with it, but my parents only know he is 9 or 10 years older. I really don’t know how they will take it if they know the truth since my parents are only 3 years gap. I’m 24 he is 36 ❤

  • @BubbasJuice2145
    @BubbasJuice2145 Год назад +3

    Pastor everything you’re saying is just on point I have to write a book about it age ain’t nothing but a number will be the title

  • @sylvabiam1438
    @sylvabiam1438 Год назад

    Indeed, men worldwide love respect!

  • @Giftfolktales2024
    @Giftfolktales2024 Год назад +1

    Thank you Pastor Kingsley. God bless you.

  • @blessedadjoa497
    @blessedadjoa497 Год назад

    I found this quite interesting. In my church they generally are not really in favour of marriages where the man is more than 10years older than the woman. They believe the couple cannot "flow" well enough.

  • @MomentswithFlorence20
    @MomentswithFlorence20 Год назад +7

    Thank you so much for this Pastor Kingsley. It’s very timely for me.

  • @etinosaevbuomwan8101
    @etinosaevbuomwan8101 Год назад +1

    Such an amazing watch. I know better now, Thank you PK

  • @PhilipThrives
    @PhilipThrives Год назад +1

    Thank you for sharing Sir.

  • @user-ie4pi2eo6x
    @user-ie4pi2eo6x Год назад

    I’m 23 she 22, luckily people tell me I’m mature for my age, I’m well on my way 😊

  • @christianawilliams4615
    @christianawilliams4615 4 месяца назад

    Wow this is really enlightening thank you sir

  • @phanieproperties7180
    @phanieproperties7180 Год назад +1

    Nice piece. Blessed

  • @pandorabox8765
    @pandorabox8765 Год назад +1

    Hello good day I've listened to what you said and you said the man should lead and have a woman should have a patient and respect if she's older and hes younger but what happens to the respect and loyalty honesty trust commitment when the woman is older and the guy is young I understand the role of playing a position as a woman no matter what age you R but where's the respect for the woman of an older age where's the understanding of a woman when she's older that a man is supposed to give her I only heard you talk about how a woman is supposed to respond to her mate versus hermit responding to her

  • @cygwanfogbe246
    @cygwanfogbe246 Год назад +4

    The younger you are when you make a decision of who to marry…..it’s true!

  • @raelisr5688
    @raelisr5688 10 месяцев назад

    When a woman is older,I kindly request for scriptural references.God bless you

  • @esthershine2486
    @esthershine2486 Год назад +2

    Thank you so much Man from God 🙏

  • @benoric3865
    @benoric3865 Год назад +4

    I learned something. Thank you Pastor.

  • @emmanuelchibueze5854
    @emmanuelchibueze5854 Год назад +2

    Thanks for this teaching God bless you.

  • @katebenduba7027
    @katebenduba7027 Год назад +1

    Thank you man of God.

  • @alexedem4987
    @alexedem4987 Год назад +2

    Thank you for this enlightenment.

  • @Ayspeaks_
    @Ayspeaks_ Год назад +1

    ❤❤ I love this man

  • @MegaObiuwovwi
    @MegaObiuwovwi Год назад

    This is now clear to me now, Thank u sir

  • @tayooluwa1616
    @tayooluwa1616 Год назад +1

    Thanks pastor k for this enlightenment, I am really blessed sir..God bless

  • @divinefavourgiftsamsondeen609
    @divinefavourgiftsamsondeen609 Год назад +4

    Thank you so much for this powerful enlightenment message. God bless you sir

  • @Victorymovement
    @Victorymovement Год назад +3

    Powerful 🙌🙌

  • @ericking3459
    @ericking3459 Год назад +1

    Thanks for sharing🎉😊

  • @spanishfly7709
    @spanishfly7709 Год назад +4

    I'm 45 my girlfriend is 24 and things are great.

    • @okoliconfidence5777
      @okoliconfidence5777 Год назад

      I am 24 my man is 50 yrs am really confuse

    • @BoogeeChyke
      @BoogeeChyke 3 месяца назад

      ​@@okoliconfidence5777don't be . Listen to the message again , if you can manage what was said , no problem ..

  • @davidmwansa8517
    @davidmwansa8517 Год назад +1

    Thank you sir

  • @thelmalum7990
    @thelmalum7990 Год назад +1

    Thank you pastor K...i keep learning from u every day🤗🙌

  • @eugenemintah3420
    @eugenemintah3420 6 месяцев назад

    Thank you sir...

  • @okafoevelyn7587
    @okafoevelyn7587 Год назад +18

    Thanks for this message Pst K. This is honestly the issue I'm facing right now, my parents are refusing to accept my man because he's 20yrs older than I am. I honestly don't know what to do, he's intentional about everything he does and a very disciplined person which is something I find rare in young men. I honestly don't see myself being with someone who doesn't know his left and right or still trying to know his purpose, I'll rather be with someone who I can learn from everyday. I need advice 😟

    • @mzSte
      @mzSte Год назад +8

      Read Pastor K’s book - I love you but my parents say no. It will specifically address this dilemma. I hope this help Evelyn

    • @ladyjulkt6133
      @ladyjulkt6133 Год назад +13

      20year is alot. Please please pray and listen to your parents advice pleeaase

    • @obiomandubisi-igwilo4351
      @obiomandubisi-igwilo4351 Год назад +12

      Listen to your parents oh, their refusals saved me

    • @okafoevelyn7587
      @okafoevelyn7587 Год назад

      @@mzSte Thank you

    • @okafoevelyn7587
      @okafoevelyn7587 Год назад

      @@ladyjulkt6133 Thank you

  • @sakerlyfri5182
    @sakerlyfri5182 Год назад +2

    I have been waiting for this 🙌🙌

  • @floraapi9431
    @floraapi9431 Год назад

    Beautiful. And very understandable. Thanks for sharing❤❤❤❤

  • @Lizpearly
    @Lizpearly Год назад +1

    Nice message...Thanks sir

  • @ariandmary
    @ariandmary Год назад +14

    I have a 26 year gap with my amazing boyfriend and we couldn't be happier; we're going strong for 5 years now and have built something beautiful. :) We started speaking about it on our channel. It's good to be proud of yourself in this way; what anyone feels about your relationship isn't meaningful if you're actually happy.

    • @ecotastv
      @ecotastv Год назад +3

      Just dey play

    • @ecotastv
      @ecotastv Год назад +1

      Just dey play

    • @ariandmary
      @ariandmary Год назад

      @@ecotastv I’m not sure I understand what you’re saying

    • @ecotastv
      @ecotastv Год назад +1

      5 yrs of be in a relationship and no commitment of getting married.
      That's ungodly.
      If you have truth in you, hope you understand

    • @ariandmary
      @ariandmary Год назад +2

      @@ecotastv not everyone wants to get married, friend 😀

  • @divamoses3553
    @divamoses3553 Год назад

    Thank you pastor k

  • @god563616
    @god563616 Год назад +7

    American Men think old starts at 30 and have been dragging negatively 30 and 40 year old women who want relationships really bad for the last few years which is disgusting and insane to me because those ages aren't old. There is nothing wrong with anyone having preferences but the superficiality of humans have really reached it's peak which is affecting the marriage rate significantly. Men act like they don't want women and women the same yet they need each other! Relationships have never been this divisive.

  • @nikiwek.h6728
    @nikiwek.h6728 Год назад +5

    With a generational difference especially if the woman is older, it needs a different kind of grace. And I mean a man at 21 or 22 years and a woman at 38years and above. I have seen the challenges in this type from a close friend and I don't know if such can work. Is there anyone in this kind of set up?

    • @KCD8595
      @KCD8595 Год назад +3

      I was in one recently w/ a guy 15 yrs younger...i gotta tell you..i was very self conscious as well as flatterd that he was attracted to me.. i enjoyed the attention,his company and the intimacy was fiery🔥...but yes i felt a lil insecure abt meetn his friends or family as well as bringn him around mines...we felt comfortable in each others presence but thats far as it got.......im older and i had to admit to my self that we really didnt complete each other in a way i could live with & be comfortable with....we werent on the same wavelengths in my opinion as a couple with a big age gap.

    • @nikiwek.h6728
      @nikiwek.h6728 Год назад +2

      @@KCD8595 Thank you for your honesty. And it's true, when the gap is too big it's hard to bridge that, especially in terms of opinions and outlook on matters of life. Because they still need more experience and exposure to life.

    • @jayaustin1939
      @jayaustin1939 Год назад

      Well from my point of view as a man the generational gap doesn’t really exist because I’m quite in tune with the times. Consequently we tend to be on the same wavelength when discussing different subjects be it fashion, music, politics, etc. I do not belong to the category of older people that are completely oblivious to the mindset of a younger person. Understanding and appreciating the mindset of your partner and making the necessary adjustments while also carefully introducing your wealth of wisdom is key. I’m 47 she’s 30.

  • @zeeckymande1084
    @zeeckymande1084 Год назад

    All points, on point👌🏾

  • @mwakaaliciachimbila1242
    @mwakaaliciachimbila1242 Год назад

    Thank you pastor

  • @chrispinacrispinsamu1208
    @chrispinacrispinsamu1208 9 месяцев назад

    Thank you sir 🙏🙏

  • @nnadozieonyemairo4387
    @nnadozieonyemairo4387 Год назад

    Thanks PK. More grace dear.

  • @omolabakeadekoya335
    @omolabakeadekoya335 Год назад

    Thank you so much for this PK...God bless you Sir!!!

  • @razberryaj6746
    @razberryaj6746 Год назад

    Sweet! Great insights here!

  • @foyinlolasworld6072
    @foyinlolasworld6072 Год назад +1

    Thank you for sharing 😊 much needed

  • @chituruoji8939
    @chituruoji8939 Год назад +1

    Thanks Pk. Love this video so much.

  • @user-oq5fm6du8l
    @user-oq5fm6du8l 10 месяцев назад

    Thank u sir

  • @fitswemilastephanie6347
    @fitswemilastephanie6347 Год назад

    This is apt!

  • @nanaessy4304
    @nanaessy4304 Год назад

    God bless you

  • @blessingarchibong833
    @blessingarchibong833 Год назад

    God Bless you Sir

  • @vanessaaniefo8226
    @vanessaaniefo8226 Год назад +1

    Age is truly just a number indeed.💯

  • @kikinora6201
    @kikinora6201 Год назад

    Thank you pk🥰

  • @Desiree_of_lagos
    @Desiree_of_lagos Год назад

    Practical points. Thank You PK ♥️♥️

  • @kesienaemefe4582
    @kesienaemefe4582 Год назад +1

    Thank you for this pastor 😊

  • @emmanuelsamuel2283
    @emmanuelsamuel2283 Год назад

    Well said sir...thanks sir

  • @TobiMoniola
    @TobiMoniola Год назад

    Well elucidated

  • @agathaomeh4065
    @agathaomeh4065 Год назад

    Really amazing 👌

  • @tamboumiebi9486
    @tamboumiebi9486 Год назад

    Good one

  • @chineduanyanwu3387
    @chineduanyanwu3387 Год назад

    Depending on one’s values system…