The real problem is when you go to therapy, research on your mind and try to understand why you feel the way you do and how to fix it, get into shape etc., but it doesn't fix anything. When nothing in your life changed no matter what you do, that's a real problem with no solution.
Yeah, I can relate to this I went therapy for 2 years and it make me sick, I just feel angry and annoyed every time I had to go and talk to my therapist. It just feel the same: “Do this, talk with them, write this”, for some time I try to do some new stuff like going to the gym, archery and writing how I feel on a diary, it kinda help but if I’m honest, it always feel like a chore or distraction. I feel good when I went to the gym, I feel excited when I learn how to use a arch and i feel more connected with myself after writing on a diary, but after some time my mind went automatically to “Man, this is sucks and I’m just distracting myself”. I recently changed my therapist and started taking medication, it kinda helps but sometimes it just feels as im just wasting money, time, causing myself to be hungrier and other side affects. I guess there isn’t too much else to say, for some people Some stuff works and for others don’t. I was feeling pretty good with myself since this morning but a few hours ago I started having this usuals negative thoughts and how things could be better if I was dead. It sucks man but someway or another I’ll keep trying.
@@AlejandroGonzalez-ou1slGreat for you taking action. Keep it rolling. The idea of going to therapy sessions is terminate it all one day. The therapist isn’t going to live by one’s side at all times after all. “Bad Therapy: Why the Kids Aren't Growing Up” is a book by Abigail Shrier that covers some of those topics. Keep it simple, stupid and slow motion is better than no motion.
Yeah I have the same problem I stopped going to therapy because it made me even more depressed. A few years went by and some bad decisions or bad luck or I don't even know got me in the situation I'm in today, I'm extremely lonely and burnt out, I hate everyone and I actually have 0 motivation to do stuff. I feel extremely tired all the time I feel lonely all the time even when people are around and I feel like shit in general like the when you're sick. I really can't do this for much longer and my schedule is so shit at the moment that it's near impossible for me to finish my work in time. I just want time to stop for a bit even a day, I just want to be able to close my eyes and relax for a second I don't want to be sad angry and stressed all the time I just want all this to stop
There’s also the crowd of people who say “I’d rather try to fix my own problems, or live with them until the very end or if I get help from someone else. I’m not about to pay someone to fix my problems, or tell me how to fix my own. Especially if the lack of that money is my problem.”
I went to therapy to help with my depression, and let me tell you, I was kind of disappointed. Partially with the therapy, partially with myself. Therapy is not magic. I often found it difficult putting my problems and emotions into words (since I'd never done that before), I found a lot of the methods to be kind of obtuse, hard to understand or just ineffective. I also found that the simple act of talking to someone did very little to help me work through my problems or make me feel better. A lot of talk therapy is designed with a female patient in mind, and women often have a much better insight into their emotional landscape and are able to articulate their problems. Most therapists are also female, and most dudes would rather die than express some of their particular problems to a woman. If you're not used to the language of therapy and in tune with your emotions, doing therapy can feel like trying to type out an essay wearing balloon mittens. Very frustrating and alienating. I'm not trying to dissuade anyone from trying therapy. If you somehow get the chance, go for it. There's a chance it will be the thing for you. But the idea that when things get too bad you can just go to therapy and everything will be better, guaranteed, is a mirage. You can't rely on it.
Personally, I have an... interesting relationship with my parents. I'm 16 but because of how I grew up and am growing up, my attitude on life is much more grown up than it should be, and I missed out on a lot of key childhood experiences that my friends all went through without me, and I felt left out for most of my childhood. However, this taught me empathy at a very young age (probably too young) and how to make friends with people without relying on a common hobby or shared past. I won't go into it here but I am forever grateful that I have homies that I can talk about this stuff with, and I hope they know that they can talk to me about anything they need. Amazing video btw
thanks for sharing that. It sounds like you’ve gained a lot of wisdom through your experiences, having those real connections is everything. glad you liked the video
With the world we live in right now, everyone is out for themselves. The entitlement BS and dealing with others can do a toll and more often than not, you have to put your struggles aside to help others. As a Lot Tech at Home Depot, that is kind of my job. Having to stop whatever you are doing to help a customer is part of my day, and that is part of the reason why I prefer to be alone sometimes.
Having "Real" Friends that you can open to is really a good solution I think because It reinforces your relationship if you both open to your problems and they might be in a similar situation so you can share advice. I like that you have a new opinion on this subject (on RUclips). Nice video +1 Sub :)
What's helped me immensely, lately, has been getting pets. They ground me in the present, & take me out of the constant dissociation I didn't even realize I was in. And they provide me enough joy on a daily basis to endure the pain that comes with processing repressed grief.
I can appreciate the wisdom you’ve imparted in this video and the fact that there’s an acknowledgment for every part of the spectrum of dealing with depression and other struggles. I don’t know that I’ll ever change nor do I care; it’s been a long time since I’ve truthfully cared. At this point, the only thing keeping me from sinking into the abyss is anger. White hot anger and rage boiling in a cauldron filled to the brim only to spill out on occasion. Without the anger, I slip back into some sort of melancholic lethargy and end up consumed by my own thoughts - not to mention becoming inherently more distrustful of others because of unsavory/traumatic experiences. Who knows what the future holds? Maybe I’m wrong after all or maybe I’ve been right all along. Only time will tell.
thank you for sharing that, it takes a lot to put these feelings into words. sometimes, holding onto whatever keeps us going, even if it's anger, is a form of survival. just know you’re not alone in the struggle
I miss the feeling of being in love. It's easier for me to better myself for someone than for myself. I'm not too bothered by the way I am even if the hole I'm in gets deeper.
Being a great acknowledgement of male depression, this video might have glanced at a honestly personal problem of guilt and depression. Thinking that I don't want to burden my friends with the knowledge of "Im really struggling with my mental health" leading to awkward feelings of your friends asking "H-hey how are you feeling" or thinking that there's something wrong with you. When in reality if your pride hides your actual problems and being alone is your only chance of being your real self (vulnerable) then consider therapy, you don't need to tell anyone you're getting help, but acknowledging that there might be something different or even wrong with you is the first step of overcoming personal problems. Outlook on things such as your future or current events shape your emotions as much as you allow it, remember never to trust your thoughts past 9pm and my favorite quote when I'm feeling really down is "Suicide is a permanent solution to temporary problems"
I believe the feelings past 9 PM are the truth and what our subconscious is trying to tell us outside of all the fake things we endure before that time. I believe if I enact that permit solution, it will solve temporary and permanent problems. I won’t have to suffer anymore and there’s nothing good I will miss out on that could ever bring me peace.
Her: You need therapy.
Him: Fair enough. *starts doing burpees*
The real problem is when you go to therapy, research on your mind and try to understand why you feel the way you do and how to fix it, get into shape etc., but it doesn't fix anything. When nothing in your life changed no matter what you do, that's a real problem with no solution.
Yeah, I can relate to this
I went therapy for 2 years and it make me sick, I just feel angry and annoyed every time I had to go and talk to my therapist.
It just feel the same: “Do this, talk with them, write this”, for some time I try to do some new stuff like going to the gym, archery and writing how I feel on a diary, it kinda help but if I’m honest, it always feel like a chore or distraction.
I feel good when I went to the gym, I feel excited when I learn how to use a arch and i feel more connected with myself after writing on a diary, but after some time my mind went automatically to “Man, this is sucks and I’m just distracting myself”.
I recently changed my therapist and started taking medication, it kinda helps but sometimes it just feels as im just wasting money, time, causing myself to be hungrier and other side affects.
I guess there isn’t too much else to say, for some people Some stuff works and for others don’t.
I was feeling pretty good with myself since this morning but a few hours ago I started having this usuals negative thoughts and how things could be better if I was dead.
It sucks man but someway or another I’ll keep trying.
@@AlejandroGonzalez-ou1slGreat for you taking action. Keep it rolling. The idea of going to therapy sessions is terminate it all one day. The therapist isn’t going to live by one’s side at all times after all. “Bad Therapy: Why the Kids Aren't Growing Up” is a book by Abigail Shrier that covers some of those topics. Keep it simple, stupid and slow motion is better than no motion.
Yeah I have the same problem I stopped going to therapy because it made me even more depressed. A few years went by and some bad decisions or bad luck or I don't even know got me in the situation I'm in today, I'm extremely lonely and burnt out, I hate everyone and I actually have 0 motivation to do stuff. I feel extremely tired all the time I feel lonely all the time even when people are around and I feel like shit in general like the when you're sick. I really can't do this for much longer and my schedule is so shit at the moment that it's near impossible for me to finish my work in time. I just want time to stop for a bit even a day, I just want to be able to close my eyes and relax for a second I don't want to be sad angry and stressed all the time I just want all this to stop
Depression and anxiety are real responses to genuine information
There’s also the crowd of people who say “I’d rather try to fix my own problems, or live with them until the very end or if I get help from someone else. I’m not about to pay someone to fix my problems, or tell me how to fix my own. Especially if the lack of that money is my problem.”
I went to therapy to help with my depression, and let me tell you, I was kind of disappointed. Partially with the therapy, partially with myself. Therapy is not magic. I often found it difficult putting my problems and emotions into words (since I'd never done that before), I found a lot of the methods to be kind of obtuse, hard to understand or just ineffective. I also found that the simple act of talking to someone did very little to help me work through my problems or make me feel better.
A lot of talk therapy is designed with a female patient in mind, and women often have a much better insight into their emotional landscape and are able to articulate their problems. Most therapists are also female, and most dudes would rather die than express some of their particular problems to a woman. If you're not used to the language of therapy and in tune with your emotions, doing therapy can feel like trying to type out an essay wearing balloon mittens. Very frustrating and alienating.
I'm not trying to dissuade anyone from trying therapy. If you somehow get the chance, go for it. There's a chance it will be the thing for you. But the idea that when things get too bad you can just go to therapy and everything will be better, guaranteed, is a mirage. You can't rely on it.
Personally, I have an... interesting relationship with my parents. I'm 16 but because of how I grew up and am growing up, my attitude on life is much more grown up than it should be, and I missed out on a lot of key childhood experiences that my friends all went through without me, and I felt left out for most of my childhood. However, this taught me empathy at a very young age (probably too young) and how to make friends with people without relying on a common hobby or shared past. I won't go into it here but I am forever grateful that I have homies that I can talk about this stuff with, and I hope they know that they can talk to me about anything they need. Amazing video btw
thanks for sharing that. It sounds like you’ve gained a lot of wisdom through your experiences, having those real connections is everything. glad you liked the video
With the world we live in right now, everyone is out for themselves. The entitlement BS and dealing with others can do a toll and more often than not, you have to put your struggles aside to help others.
As a Lot Tech at Home Depot, that is kind of my job. Having to stop whatever you are doing to help a customer is part of my day, and that is part of the reason why I prefer to be alone sometimes.
Having "Real" Friends that you can open to is really a good solution I think because It reinforces your relationship if you both open to your problems and they might be in a similar situation so you can share advice. I like that you have a new opinion on this subject (on RUclips). Nice video +1 Sub :)
absolutely, real friends make all the difference. thanks for the sub
What's helped me immensely, lately, has been getting pets. They ground me in the present, & take me out of the constant dissociation I didn't even realize I was in. And they provide me enough joy on a daily basis to endure the pain that comes with processing repressed grief.
+rep for jacob jones
i really needed this, my adhd and her rejecting me, familial pressures are rlly killing me
I can appreciate the wisdom you’ve imparted in this video and the fact that there’s an acknowledgment for every part of the spectrum of dealing with depression and other struggles.
I don’t know that I’ll ever change nor do I care; it’s been a long time since I’ve truthfully cared. At this point, the only thing keeping me from sinking into the abyss is anger. White hot anger and rage boiling in a cauldron filled to the brim only to spill out on occasion.
Without the anger, I slip back into some sort of melancholic lethargy and end up consumed by my own thoughts - not to mention becoming inherently more distrustful of others because of unsavory/traumatic experiences.
Who knows what the future holds? Maybe I’m wrong after all or maybe I’ve been right all along. Only time will tell.
thank you for sharing that, it takes a lot to put these feelings into words. sometimes, holding onto whatever keeps us going, even if it's anger, is a form of survival. just know you’re not alone in the struggle
I miss the feeling of being in love. It's easier for me to better myself for someone than for myself. I'm not too bothered by the way I am even if the hole I'm in gets deeper.
Being a great acknowledgement of male depression, this video might have glanced at a honestly personal problem of guilt and depression. Thinking that I don't want to burden my friends with the knowledge of "Im really struggling with my mental health" leading to awkward feelings of your friends asking "H-hey how are you feeling" or thinking that there's something wrong with you. When in reality if your pride hides your actual problems and being alone is your only chance of being your real self (vulnerable) then consider therapy, you don't need to tell anyone you're getting help, but acknowledging that there might be something different or even wrong with you is the first step of overcoming personal problems. Outlook on things such as your future or current events shape your emotions as much as you allow it, remember never to trust your thoughts past 9pm and my favorite quote when I'm feeling really down is "Suicide is a permanent solution to temporary problems"
That quote's from Robin Williams, one of the funniest and most quick-witted comedians I've ever seen. He took his own life at age 63
I believe the feelings past 9 PM are the truth and what our subconscious is trying to tell us outside of all the fake things we endure before that time. I believe if I enact that permit solution, it will solve temporary and permanent problems. I won’t have to suffer anymore and there’s nothing good I will miss out on that could ever bring me peace.
honestly one of the realest videos i've ever seen man. the grind gets hard sometimes but what's life without a little pain ykwim?
glad it resonated with you, man.
You're amazing, dude
riding my motorcycle is like meditation
Absolutely loved this. Thank you my guy
eeally appreciate that, thanks for watching
Another solid video as usual my man
Appreciate your support man
@@alasta1rr
Thank you man.
thanks for the advice bro
Deep bro
perfect video to watch whilst eating dinner
I love this, thank you!
Great vid, true as well.
I recommend max derrat's channel, it’s a great mix of game analysis with psychology 😊
Thanks dude
what relationship ?
JACOBFUCKINGJONES MY MAN
great video
tysm bro
What can i do when nobody cares?
Then you'll just have to care instead
@Avemado that's right, once again i must carry other's responsibilities, do their job and... idk
Christ is my therapy 2:05❤❤ ✝️ ❤❤
search up about the collective unconscious.
what does this have to do with the noosphere?