But we LEARN with emotions and traumas. But mild at max. Thats the only part i disagree. If not, we have not evolded till now. We learn what can hurt us when we got hurt, who can hurt us and etc. But if youre in a permanent state of anxiety, you might have some dificults if you cant relax at the school or university.
@@evilzinabyssranger5695 I appreciate your viewpoint on learning through emotions and traumas. It is true that even challenging situations can teach us important things. However, creating a balance between growth and well-being is as important. Anxiety management is important to creating a positive learning environment. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us!🙏
I know now I was not the right person for my ex narc/addict. His life trauma stunted his growth emotionally hence yrs of self medicating. My love , understanding, support could never help. I pray for him to find his inner child. I believe all that Dr M says. I have been witness for 24 yrs of marriage. Now I can only heal my inner child & I’m fearless @ 72 to begin anew. Therapy has helped me to see our relationship for him was only transactional. He never developed past the narcissistic age as a child. My self discovery brings me great peace. Listening to Dr M is part of my healing
Thank you for taking the time to share your touching story with us. Reflecting on a past relationship, especially one with such complicated issues, requires big strength and courage. Your comments show that you showed great love, empathy, and support during your 24 years of marriage. You've also clearly started a great journey of self-discovery and healing. Recognizing that your ex-partner's problems came from his own traumas and addiction is a significant discovery. Your decision to focus on healing your inner child is a wonderful example of how strong you are. It is never too late to prioritize your own well-being and growth, and your courage to start over at 72 is very impressive. Dr. Mate wisdom seems to resonate with you, providing you with significant direction and support on your healing journey. Remember that healing is a personal process for everyone of us, and it's inspiring to see you embrace it with such grace and determination. Know that you have a loving community here who wishes you happiness and peace as you continue on this transforming journey. Your story reminds us that, no matter what challenges we face, we can find strength and healing inside ourselves. Best wishes on your journey of self-discovery and healing. May you find the pleasure and peace you deserve.🙏✨💖
Thank U Sandra! Had same experiences and family deals and now..I'm done! We have to stay strong and mature to know our issues. I can't and won't FIX anyone anymore. Too much drama that's not MINE.
@@SoTiredoftheToxicBS I absolutely understand your point of view. It is important that you prioritize your personal well-being and peace of mind first. You are absolutely right; we cannot help anyone else; they must work on themselves. Stay strong and focused on what provides you happiness and peace of mind. You've deserved it.✨💖
I am grateful for Dr Gabor and his wisdom! It's also amazing seeing the comments pop up as I'm watching... I feel like I'm connected to all of you in real time and we are all on that divine path of healing and healing others.
Thank you so much for taking the time to share your comments! Dr. Gabor is a true source of insight and inspiration. It's nice to hear that you experience a sense of connection while watching and engaging with the comments. It's a wonderful feeling to know that we're all on this path together, supporting each other's healing and development. Let us continue to pull each other up and empower one another on this beautiful path of healing and development. You're presence and positivity are much appreciated here! 💕
Another winner, (except the evolutionary stuff, for me) All of these responses are well known to me but less so, the more that I understand them and how I can behave from other places. It’s not astonishing that people don’t listen to children, but it’s a travesty. I’ve ALWAYS understood that environment is #1 and needs the highest priority in any learning environment. Having two narcissistic parents was difficult but my natural curiosity is probably a big part of what saved me, besides my faith; Believing in and relying on our creator has always made me feel safe. Being childlike is a treasure and I’m so grateful to have held on to that, and it’s still going strong at 61. Thank you again for the pertinent and helpful information, I appreciate it so much.
Thank you so much for taking the time to share your perspectives and personal experiences with us! It's very inspiring to hear about your experience and how you've persevered in the face of hardship. You are completely correct; it is disappointing how often children's voices go unheard, despite the fact that they often have so much wisdom to share. Your awareness of the importance of the environment, as well as your confidence in our creator, are extremely encouraging. It's good to hear you've kept your childish curiosity and that it's still a value in your life. Age is merely a number, and your soul is clearly youthful and active.We enjoy having viewers like you that value the information we provide. Your encouragement means a lot to us, and we're glad to keep sharing valuable insights. Please feel free to express any other views or questions you may have. Thank you for being a member of our community once again! 😊🌟
Thank you very much for your thoughtful and lovely comment. Reading comments like yours reminds me of why I love what I do. It's very humbling to think about the impact we can have on future generations, and I'm grateful to have you along for the journey. Your support means a lot to me, and comments like yours keep me inspired to keep creating and sharing. Let us continue to work together to make the world a better place. I'm sending you my love and thanks! 💫❤️
adults were not safe. other kids were not safe. so i connected with my stuffed animals. and i still connect with my stuffed animals. however, i'm fortunate enough now, as an adult, to be able to connect with other humans safely--there were no safe other humans when i was a kid. it's nice having both connections now--stuffed animals and other humans--and i love them all. :)
I'm happy that you've found comfort in your stuffed animals as well as the opportunity to interact with other people. It's inspiring to see the strength you've discovered on your path. 🧸💕🤗
The probl is that no parents, nor teachers, no line managers/bosses are interested in putting effort to find out to help the healing. It is always someone else probl! Even jails do not want to find out so to help the healing and understanding for an effective rehabilitation. Time in jail should be exclusively to heal via inner work. What they teach instead? And what inmates learn? Only to be worst! It is everywhere, at every level of the culture of modern society, transversely in each country and it touches every wealth class/societal level. WE NEED EVERYONE TO STUDY TRAUMA, SO THAT EVERYONE CAN KNOW THESE THINGS Dr Maté is saying and we will have a TRAUMA INFORMED SOCIETY keener to be more vulnerable, empathetic, respectful and HUMAN. So shut down now we aren't human anymore, so detached, cold and indifferent we are more like robots..I dont want to say animals as they show several time better behaviour than ours..even animals!!
I absolutely understand your feelings of dissatisfaction and you've made some important points here. It's disappointing when we see how often the responsibility for understanding and addressing trauma falls by the wayside in our educational and judicial institutions. You are completely right: it should not be someone else's issue, and we need a more compassionate and trauma-informed society. Dr. Maté's message is important, highlighting the value of empathy, sensitivity, and respect for each person's experiences and problems. It's sad to see how detachment and indifference may influence modern culture. However, your willingness to change and your call to action are encouraging. We can work toward a society that truly appreciates the well-being and progress of every individual by raising awareness and pushing for trauma-informed practices. Thank you for sharing your points of view and contributing to this important discussion. We can work together to make our society more caring and kind. 🌟
A few years ago I watched a documentary about a tribe in southamerica that was formed by runaway boys and girls only. They rejected all adults, elders and authorities and they ended up assaulting small villages to get their food and also took their money. Those villagers were scared of them because they were helpless against them because the police was only protecting the big cities and wouldn't do anything about it and that went on for a few years. The documentary didn't cover what happened to them but it's totally the extreme of what Dr. Mate is talking about on what happens when kids only rely on each other, shut their common sense and stop learning from adults to become functional human beings
Thank you so much for sharing the story from the documentary and connecting it to Dr. Mate's views about the importance of children learning from adults and gaining functional abilities as they grow. It's distressing to hear about the serious scenarios in which these children found themselves. It's an eye-opener of how important adult supervision and mentorship can be in a child's life. When children have to make decisions for themselves without the help and knowledge of elders, it can have negative consequences. We can only hope that those young people eventually had positive results and were able to find a path to a more secure and productive being.Stories like these highlight the importance of supporting and encouraging our youth's growth, since they are the future of our society. Thank you for sharing this thought-provoking story and highlighting the importance of Dr. Mate's message🙏✨💖
Gabor Maté did some good work with addicts in Toronto I think. He just writes books now. And repeats himself. And yes we all know at this stage he was in womb before the world ww 2.. How's he getting in getting in Ww3? Any tips ?
I wish this video was compulsory for all schools teacher .They all should dear and watch and be asked questions about it so to check if they paid attention while watching it..
I had zero adult attachments :( it was so bad, I looked to ADULT men who used me for, you know what 😢 but I thought that meant I was good enough. I thought it meant I was good enough. I thought it meant someone liked me. I was 11 :(
I'm very sorry to hear that you had such a difficult and traumatic experience at such a young age 😢. It's heartbreaking to hear that you were forced to seek validation and acceptance in such harmful ways. That should never happen to anyone. Please know that you are not alone, and that the actions of others do not decide your worth. You are naturally valued simply the way you are. It's important to remember that seeking approval from others in bad ways does not define your value. You deserve to be loved, cared for, and respected. Consider speaking with a professional counselor or therapist if you haven't previously done so. They can give you with the support and help you need to heal from these past experiences. There is hope for healing, and there are people out there that sincerely care about your well-being including me. Thank you for sharing your experience. Your bravery in sharing your experiences is going to help others who are in similar situations understand they are not alone and that there is hope for a better future. I'm sending you a virtual hug and wishing you strength on your journey to self-love and healing.🙏✨💖 take care always
@@yourinnerchildmatters thank you so much for your comment and validation for what I went through! This means a lot to me!!! You’re completely right on! I definitely deserve love and respect and I’m slowly learning this :) I’ve done so so much healing within through mindfulness! I haven’t touched on this part of my life yet, but it’s in the works! Thanks again for your kind comment xoxo so much love to you!!
But we LEARN with emotions and traumas. But mild at max. Thats the only part i disagree. If not, we have not evolded till now. We learn what can hurt us when we got hurt, who can hurt us and etc. But if youre in a permanent state of anxiety, you might have some dificults if you cant relax at the school or university
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! Emotions and even simple experiences may be very effective teachers in our life. They can act as warning indicators and guideposts, helping us in understanding what might be harming to us. You are correct that learning from our experiences, whether positive and negative, is a key aspect of human growth and evolution. I absolutely agree with your statement regarding the necessity of relaxation, particularly in academic settings. Anxiety may undoubtedly make it difficult to concentrate and study efficiently. It's a fine line between learning from our emotions and maintaining a healthy mental state. Finding that balance can be difficult at times, but it is worthwhile working towards. Your perspective brings value to the subject, and I appreciate your contribution to this discussion. Please feel free to share any other comments or experiences. We can all learn and grow together through these discussion💕🙏✨💖
Why would you think like that? If you look into it, could it be that it’s been ”taught” to you as a child, that there’s something inherently wrong about you and the way you are/express yourself, and you have internalized shame? Please consider this other point of view and best of luck 😊
I am so upset that Pastor Tim Fletcher, a Canadian counsellor, believes that trauma children had a narcissistic parent. Then they are so helpless to cope in life and have healthy relationships, they focus on themselves and their unmet needs. They wish to control someone to get what their parents couldn't give them. Thus they become a narcissist themselves; or the needy ''co-narcissist'', in a co-dependent relationship. People are now saying there are a handful of different types of narcissism. As this is an intractable personality disorder virtually without hope of healing, should we not be careful about using this term? Or is it accurate? What should the millions of traumatised children-now-chronologically-adults do about this awful life sentence?
👏👏👏👏Dr. Mate is the Best, He brings such an important and profound message to humanity... Thank You... 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
We agree! So nice of you, thank you💕🙏✨💖
But we LEARN with emotions and traumas. But mild at max. Thats the only part i disagree. If not, we have not evolded till now. We learn what can hurt us when we got hurt, who can hurt us and etc.
But if youre in a permanent state of anxiety, you might have some dificults if you cant relax at the school or university.
@@evilzinabyssranger5695 I appreciate your viewpoint on learning through emotions and traumas. It is true that even challenging situations can teach us important things. However, creating a balance between growth and well-being is as important. Anxiety management is important to creating a positive learning environment. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us!🙏
I know now I was not the right person for my ex narc/addict. His life trauma stunted his growth emotionally hence yrs of self medicating.
My love , understanding, support could never help.
I pray for him to find his inner child.
I believe all that Dr M says. I have been witness for 24 yrs of marriage.
Now I can only heal my inner child &
I’m fearless @ 72 to begin anew.
Therapy has helped me to see our relationship for him was only transactional. He never developed past the narcissistic age as a child.
My self discovery brings me great peace.
Listening to Dr M is part of my healing
Thank you for taking the time to share your touching story with us. Reflecting on a past relationship, especially one with such complicated issues, requires big strength and courage. Your comments show that you showed great love, empathy, and support during your 24 years of marriage. You've also clearly started a great journey of self-discovery and healing. Recognizing that your ex-partner's problems came from his own traumas and addiction is a significant discovery. Your decision to focus on healing your inner child is a wonderful example of how strong you are. It is never too late to prioritize your own well-being and growth, and your courage to start over at 72 is very impressive. Dr. Mate wisdom seems to resonate with you, providing you with significant direction and support on your healing journey. Remember that healing is a personal process for everyone of us, and it's inspiring to see you embrace it with such grace and determination.
Know that you have a loving community here who wishes you happiness and peace as you continue on this transforming journey. Your story reminds us that, no matter what challenges we face, we can find strength and healing inside ourselves. Best wishes on your journey of self-discovery and healing. May you find the pleasure and peace you deserve.🙏✨💖
I understand you ... i ve arrived to Dr.G.Maté with a similar path with my exboyfriend... ❤❤❤ we are healing day by day. Courage!!
Thank U Sandra! Had same experiences and family deals and now..I'm done! We have to stay strong and mature to know our issues. I can't and won't FIX anyone anymore. Too much drama that's not MINE.
@@SoTiredoftheToxicBS I absolutely understand your point of view. It is important that you prioritize your personal well-being and peace of mind first. You are absolutely right; we cannot help anyone else; they must work on themselves. Stay strong and focused on what provides you happiness and peace of mind. You've deserved it.✨💖
I am grateful for Dr Gabor and his wisdom! It's also amazing seeing the comments pop up as I'm watching... I feel like I'm connected to all of you in real time and we are all on that divine path of healing and healing others.
Thank you so much for taking the time to share your comments! Dr. Gabor is a true source of insight and inspiration. It's nice to hear that you experience a sense of connection while watching and engaging with the comments. It's a wonderful feeling to know that we're all on this path together, supporting each other's healing and development. Let us continue to pull each other up and empower one another on this beautiful path of healing and development. You're presence and positivity are much appreciated here! 💕
Another winner, (except the evolutionary stuff, for me)
All of these responses are well known to me but less so, the more that I understand them and how I can behave from other places.
It’s not astonishing that people don’t listen to children, but it’s a travesty.
I’ve ALWAYS understood that environment is #1 and needs the highest priority in any learning environment.
Having two narcissistic parents was difficult but my natural curiosity is probably a big part of what saved me, besides my faith; Believing in and relying on our creator has always made me feel safe.
Being childlike is a treasure and I’m so grateful to have held on to that, and it’s still going strong at 61.
Thank you again for the pertinent and helpful information, I appreciate it so much.
Thank you so much for taking the time to share your perspectives and personal experiences with us! It's very inspiring to hear about your experience and how you've persevered in the face of hardship. You are completely correct; it is disappointing how often children's voices go unheard, despite the fact that they often have so much wisdom to share. Your awareness of the importance of the environment, as well as your confidence in our creator, are extremely encouraging. It's good to hear you've kept your childish curiosity and that it's still a value in your life. Age is merely a number, and your soul is clearly youthful and active.We enjoy having viewers like you that value the information we provide. Your encouragement means a lot to us, and we're glad to keep sharing valuable insights. Please feel free to express any other views or questions you may have. Thank you for being a member of our community once again! 😊🌟
I just love you. The world is a better place with you in it. You are creating a legacy for future generations
Thank you very much for your thoughtful and lovely comment. Reading comments like yours reminds me of why I love what I do. It's very humbling to think about the impact we can have on future generations, and I'm grateful to have you along for the journey. Your support means a lot to me, and comments like yours keep me inspired to keep creating and sharing. Let us continue to work together to make the world a better place. I'm sending you my love and thanks! 💫❤️
❤I completely agree ☺️
The great being who came to help and support humanity and doing actively his work wonderfully. So grateful. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
thank you ❤️💖🙏
Thank you
You're welcome, thank you so much too for watching 🙏✨💖
Teaching self regulation is a golden thread here.
Thank you Dr. Matte
Thanks for watching!, bless you
Oh love this man. Incredible discerniment!!! ❤❤
thank you so much for listening 💕🙏✨💖
adults were not safe. other kids were not safe. so i connected with my stuffed animals. and i still connect with my stuffed animals. however, i'm fortunate enough now, as an adult, to be able to connect with other humans safely--there were no safe other humans when i was a kid. it's nice having both connections now--stuffed animals and other humans--and i love them all. :)
I'm happy that you've found comfort in your stuffed animals as well as the opportunity to interact with other people. It's inspiring to see the strength you've discovered on your path. 🧸💕🤗
Thank you so much for sharing these lectures! 🙏🏼
Glad you like them!, thank you so much too 💕🙏✨
Dr. Gabor Mate is the best ❤🎉
thank you so much for watching, bless you 💖
Thanks dr mate I get alot out of your talks🙏💯
thank you very much for watching 💕🙏✨
that was beautiful
thank you so much, appreciated your lovely comment 🙏✨💖
the guys a genius
thanks for watching💕🙏
❤❤❤❤❤❤thankyou
thank you so much too 💕🙏✨💖
Dr Mate you have no idea how much I needed to hear this today…. Thank you for all your care and attention to humanity ❤
You are so welcome, and thank you so much for watching, bless you!
The probl is that no parents, nor teachers, no line managers/bosses are interested in putting effort to find out to help the healing. It is always someone else probl!
Even jails do not want to find out so to help the healing and understanding for an effective rehabilitation. Time in jail should be exclusively to heal via inner work. What they teach instead? And what inmates learn? Only to be worst! It is everywhere, at every level of the culture of modern society, transversely in each country and it touches every wealth class/societal level. WE NEED EVERYONE TO STUDY TRAUMA, SO THAT EVERYONE CAN KNOW THESE THINGS Dr Maté is saying and we will have a TRAUMA INFORMED SOCIETY keener to be more vulnerable, empathetic, respectful and HUMAN. So shut down now we aren't human anymore, so detached, cold and indifferent we are more like robots..I dont want to say animals as they show several time better behaviour than ours..even animals!!
I absolutely understand your feelings of dissatisfaction and you've made some important points here. It's disappointing when we see how often the responsibility for understanding and addressing trauma falls by the wayside in our educational and judicial institutions. You are completely right: it should not be someone else's issue, and we need a more compassionate and trauma-informed society. Dr. Maté's message is important, highlighting the value of empathy, sensitivity, and respect for each person's experiences and problems. It's sad to see how detachment and indifference may influence modern culture. However, your willingness to change and your call to action are encouraging. We can work toward a society that truly appreciates the well-being and progress of every individual by raising awareness and pushing for trauma-informed practices.
Thank you for sharing your points of view and contributing to this important discussion. We can work together to make our society more caring and kind. 🌟
A few years ago I watched a documentary about a tribe in southamerica that was formed by runaway boys and girls only. They rejected all adults, elders and authorities and they ended up assaulting small villages to get their food and also took their money. Those villagers were scared of them because they were helpless against them because the police was only protecting the big cities and wouldn't do anything about it and that went on for a few years.
The documentary didn't cover what happened to them but it's totally the extreme of what Dr. Mate is talking about on what happens when kids only rely on each other, shut their common sense and stop learning from adults to become functional human beings
Thank you so much for sharing the story from the documentary and connecting it to Dr. Mate's views about the importance of children learning from adults and gaining functional abilities as they grow. It's distressing to hear about the serious scenarios in which these children found themselves. It's an eye-opener of how important adult supervision and mentorship can be in a child's life. When children have to make decisions for themselves without the help and knowledge of elders, it can have negative consequences. We can only hope that those young people eventually had positive results and were able to find a path to a more secure and productive being.Stories like these highlight the importance of supporting and encouraging our youth's growth, since they are the future of our society. Thank you for sharing this thought-provoking story and highlighting the importance of Dr. Mate's message🙏✨💖
Gabor Maté did some good work with addicts in Toronto I think. He just writes books now. And repeats himself.
And yes we all know at this stage he was in womb before the world ww 2..
How's he getting in getting in
Ww3? Any tips ?
I wish this video was compulsory for all schools teacher .They all should dear and watch and be asked questions about it so to check if they paid attention while watching it..
Thank you for your thoughtful comment. Let's hope it inspires more open discussions and positive changes in education. 📚
I had zero adult attachments :( it was so bad, I looked to ADULT men who used me for, you know what 😢 but I thought that meant I was good enough. I thought it meant I was good enough. I thought it meant someone liked me. I was 11 :(
I'm very sorry to hear that you had such a difficult and traumatic experience at such a young age 😢. It's heartbreaking to hear that you were forced to seek validation and acceptance in such harmful ways. That should never happen to anyone. Please know that you are not alone, and that the actions of others do not decide your worth. You are naturally valued simply the way you are. It's important to remember that seeking approval from others in bad ways does not define your value. You deserve to be loved, cared for, and respected. Consider speaking with a professional counselor or therapist if you haven't previously done so. They can give you with the support and help you need to heal from these past experiences. There is hope for healing, and there are people out there that sincerely care about your well-being including me.
Thank you for sharing your experience. Your bravery in sharing your experiences is going to help others who are in similar situations understand they are not alone and that there is hope for a better future. I'm sending you a virtual hug and wishing you strength on your journey to self-love and healing.🙏✨💖 take care always
@@yourinnerchildmatters thank you so much for your comment and validation for what I went through! This means a lot to me!!!
You’re completely right on! I definitely deserve love and respect and I’m slowly learning this :) I’ve done so so much healing within through mindfulness! I haven’t touched on this part of my life yet, but it’s in the works!
Thanks again for your kind comment xoxo so much love to you!!
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A alot of Adults now are acting as Children now, so does the samething apply 😊
thanks for sharing your thoughts 💕🙏✨
There is no "tool".
Tools are illusions.
The problem is that people hold onto their tools.
The solution is to let go.
💕🙏✨💖 thank you 💕🙏✨💖
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But we LEARN with emotions and traumas. But mild at max. Thats the only part i disagree. If not, we have not evolded till now. We learn what can hurt us when we got hurt, who can hurt us and etc.
But if youre in a permanent state of anxiety, you might have some dificults if you cant relax at the school or university
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! Emotions and even simple experiences may be very effective teachers in our life. They can act as warning indicators and guideposts, helping us in understanding what might be harming to us. You are correct that learning from our experiences, whether positive and negative, is a key aspect of human growth and evolution. I absolutely agree with your statement regarding the necessity of relaxation, particularly in academic settings. Anxiety may undoubtedly make it difficult to concentrate and study efficiently. It's a fine line between learning from our emotions and maintaining a healthy mental state. Finding that balance can be difficult at times, but it is worthwhile working towards. Your perspective brings value to the subject, and I appreciate your contribution to this discussion. Please feel free to share any other comments or experiences. We can all learn and grow together through these discussion💕🙏✨💖
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Self expression? 😅if i did that to the full extent, ppl would shun me.
Then they might be the wrong people to have around.
Why would you think like that? If you look into it, could it be that it’s been ”taught” to you as a child, that there’s something inherently wrong about you and the way you are/express yourself, and you have internalized shame? Please consider this other point of view and best of luck 😊
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@@sallagio yes, of course, I was shamed to be alive...shamed and blamed.
I am so upset that Pastor Tim Fletcher, a Canadian counsellor, believes that trauma children had a narcissistic parent. Then they are so helpless to cope in life and have healthy relationships, they focus on themselves and their unmet needs. They wish to control someone to get what their parents couldn't give them. Thus they become a narcissist themselves; or the needy ''co-narcissist'', in a co-dependent relationship.
People are now saying there are a handful of different types of narcissism. As this is an intractable personality disorder virtually without hope of healing, should we not be careful about using this term? Or is it accurate? What should the millions of traumatised children-now-chronologically-adults do about this awful life sentence?