I have literally just come across you and i am so happy i have. My story i need to be honest with myself to be honest with others. Im a 39yr old male who has done nothing with their life for 22 yrs as from the age of 17 i started smoking cannabis on a bong as i dont smoke cigarettes never have,the last 10 years really heavy they say people cant get addicted but im 1 of those 10% with cannabis addiction. nothing else has ever got me hooked i can nip in an out of drink porn gambling etc they dont bother me at all, but in time that will all stop once i can control the way i think.. Iv made my start from stopping altogether as my life was a mess am a rubbish role model i have no money no house i cant drive i struggle to show love to loved ones but get told im a decent person how so?. My life for 22 0:01 yrs has been solely about cannibis i stopped seeing my friends show no love to family all i cared about was that next hit. I am 4 days into the process of giving up my addiction its tough but its what i want to do im doing it by myself iv not asked for help as i know i can do it ony own, iv took up breathing techniques stretching and im reading about changing the way my brain works how to get my self esteem good. its challenging as i killed alot of brain cells i would think as i struggle to remember some stuff, struggle to understand certain things that come natural to most im on my path to be a better person once i start loving myself and accept this is who i am then il be on the right path, people say am a good person i have good manners im easy going i will help anyone if i can from the smallest thing like opening the door for someone i try an treat everyone with respect as i dont know whats going on in there life. I want to be better for me to be better for my family. Its a long hard and painful process i know but that is my goal to a better life my objective 100%. This was my addiction and im fighting it with all my heart. Good luck to anyone out there trying to kick an addiction i know your pain, but remember always theres a way out. Its never to late to enhance your future as i am trying to. Your brain is a poweful tool its just about finding it and using it correctly. Thank you anyone who has read this far its much appreciated❤. to help me with my goal. And please no grammer police please im trying.
I can't thank you enough for taking the time to share your touching story with us. Your honesty and bravery are truly inspirational. It's never easy to face our own difficulties, and your drive to overcome your cannabis addiction is inspirational. Your experience highlights the resilience of the human spirit, and it is never too late to make a positive change. Remember that self-acceptance and self-love are important milestones on this journey, and your dedication to becoming a better person for yourself and your family is truly wonderful. Your message reminds us that there is always hope and a path out of addiction. Your openness to share your experiences will definitely encourage and help others who are on in the same journey. I'm very happy to have you as a member of our community, and I look forward to your continued growth. You are a nice person with a kind heart, as seen by your path toward self-improvement. Your efforts to treat others with respect and to help those in need are admirable. Thank you for sharing your feelings and for your kind thoughts. We'll be there for you every step of the journey. Remember, you're not alone, and there's an entire community here waiting to support you. I wish you courage and success on your journey to a better life💖🌻💕🤗
@@yourinnerchildmatters thank you for you're reply you don't understand how much the support means to me. I know there are alot of people out there with more problems than myself. I want them people to know they are stronger than what they believe don't let people put you down saying your not good enough your the strongest person in your own life, I think we forget that when life gets on top of us, there's always a way for change you just really need to want too. This isn't my first time to cure my addiction I've tried multiple times ending in failure. it's the first time my brain is in the right place I'm accepting what was wrong not hiding away from the fear I had to confront it and to conquer it, and move forward a better person. We can all do it we have to really want it ,I came to realise nobody is alone don't think you are like I have for 10 yrs there is always a way out on the otherside and support helps alot. I will keep you updated on my progress and hopefully in 1 years time I'm becoming the man I was meant to become.
...it is not the grammar, it is the courage, authenticity and Faith put in Your better self what really matters. Keep going, day by day, one step at a time. Much Love and Gratitude for this.
That happened to me too, I left my family and refused to speak for 3 years. Ive reconnected now, but 2 years of private therapy and 4 years studying philosophy , before I felt I'm me , lets see ❤
Thanks for sharing! I'm at that stage of being an adult and feeling like attachment still takes over authenticy. Any tips or advice on this transformation to reconnecting?
How do you know who you are not? If you don't want to be selfish remember to look in the mirror if you've got no one like you and you'll get spooked every time. You have to be with anyone else there has to be two humans for you to know your own value and have something to compare it to because a mirror doesn't do it and then when you see that you need someone to get to know so that you can actually think about who and what you are then well you're no longer selfish same thing with this. How do you know if you're authentic or not? Okay so I'll put it like this anytime I have ever thought that there was something that seemed to be fake about myself. It always seems to me that that must then mean that I believe something about myself. Believing means that there's still at least one thing about whatever it is and it's not right or you don't have the full picture yet. Do you believe even a single word that comes out of your mouth? As a run of example and exercise I bet you do and I'm not trying to belittle you but what I'm saying right now is that I don't believe a single thing that I'm saying because I don't have to I have faith because faith is letting Go not holding on. Imagine something the size of a mustard seed and how that moves a mountain okay. What I just said is an example of how faith and about the size of a mustard seed is used by me to do one dish at a time instead of getting blown away looking at a huge stack of dirty dishes and getting scared off by that. Oh by the way this guy's brainwashing his s*** doesn't work and you can tell because it's not changing anything for you and you have to keep coming back and listening to him if you want to do something like that go find Alan Watts at least he has a pleasant voice and he laughs it a lot of things this guy's really using words to try and cast spells on you I mean if you think about it everything he's using has a way to be spelled kind of like what I'm doing right now. It's called the English language and it uses spelling to influence communications and actions literally adding the weight of words to the intention of using them is the grammar of this all you know a gram is a thing of weight and the second half of grammar as a word I guess kind of means something like to hand over to someone else. think about that. If I write you a note that says please pass the table salt and you read it and you pass the table salt I may have just cast a spell on you and I'm not being cute
No man has the ability to bring me to tears like Gabor Mate. I'm sure there are many others, but I appreciate how he bridges eastern and western thought into a truly holistic archetype that combines the spiritual healing of the east with the language of the good doctor of the west. Who sees through the reductionist, over drugged paradigm we live in - a true asset and gift to our modern suffering.
Totally agree! Gabor Mate's ability to blend Eastern and Western viewpoints is truly impressive. His holistic approach to modern difficulties provides much-needed balance. A wonderful gift for people interested in learning more about healing and well-being., Thanks for sharing your insights.💖💖
You must be a fool. This guy called Gabor Matte who some how thanks to his tortured look and biography of being decendant of Jewish holocaust survuviors which supposedly gives him credability, is spreading lies and misconceptions about Israel and harming it in its just and diffucult effort in eradicating this barbaric evil manifestation of Islam called Hamas. Trying to justify and nullify the inhumane, appalling attrocities it commited on Oct 7th which must not be accepted by any human being. Your contribution is to discredit Gabor, spread the truth about the Hamas and this war
I don't know if I am being my authentic self. For the most part, I do what I want to do, I live the way I want to live. But I lack connection with other people; it's very very rare that I 1) come across people that I am interested in, 2) come across people who are interested in me, and 3) form relationships that last long enough to create connection (ie most people want to establish relationships on a superficial/small-talk level, they don't want to go any deeper than that). I also lack joy, meaning, fulfilling activities, community, stable relationships (I have no family). So because my life is lacking so much that I find meaningful, I guess I have to say that I am not living an authentic life. But I can't force those meetings>conversations>relationships>connections. So this is the way life is. I am working on shifting my focus towards accepting life the way it is instead of continually wishing life were different. This is the way life is. I need to accept it and be content with it.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and being so honest. It's not easy to open up about our struggles, but by doing so, you're creating a space for connection and understanding. Remember that you're not alone, and there are people out there who will appreciate and value you for who you are. It's great that you're reflecting on your authenticity and being true to yourself. Building connections and finding meaningful relationships can take time, but don't lose hope. Keep being yourself, and the right people will come into your life.
@@yourinnerchildmatters It's easy to open up. It's difficult to find people who will listen besides my therapist. Which is why I pour my heart out in RUclips comments.
I think the takeaway here is brainwashing but that's my subjective opinion and I'm not trying to sell it to you like it's an objective truth but remember if whatever he says in this one video doesn't change your life forever... Think of it like the holy Bible okay? That's a pretty big book no matter what else I think about it I know that it's pretty heavy and it's a book and I'm not buying it and if you did well you bought it. You're going to carry that weight
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.sporessss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
We hardly seldom pay attention to ourselves; instead, we focus on things like work, relationships, etc. For so many of us, trying to please people or acting in a way that we think is necessary to obtain their love, respect, or acceptance is an ongoing struggle. The true question that we should all be asking is how to reconnect with ourselves. If you haven't discovered out how to connect with yourself, living is a difficult and frustrating game. Because contentment is not a function of what we get or how people see us. It shapes our identity, manner of life, and moral character. Others may take away all of your "things," but they cannot take away who you are. You must develop self-love if you want to live a happy life.
@@מלי-ש4ג Developing self-love begins with accepting yourself as you are and treating yourself with kindness." Practice positive self-talk, set attainable objectives, and prioritize self-care. Remember that you are deserving of your own love and respect. #SelfLove
After hearing dr.maté on this channel, I finally said no to something I didn’t wanted to do. Today only. It was a small thing, but all the caregivers out there will understand how our daily lives are full of small things for others. It felt odd at first and I felt tensed, trying to justify my no in my own mind. But I tried to focus on the good doctor’s words and his voice and image, and very slowly the tension receded. Then I helped the person I said no to earlier in another way that was okay to me. My whole life in a flashback became clearer to me. Don’t know how to thank dr.maté. And this channel.
Your experience reflects the transformative power of Dr. Maté's perspective. It's surprising how a simple 'no' may result in such profound insights and great transformation. Your journey of self-discovery and self-care while also finding ways to help others is truly inspirational. Dr. Maté's words have a great impact, as the story you tell beautifully shows. Thank you for sharing such a wonderful moment, and may his teachings and your newfound awareness continue to lead yourself in the right direction.Bless you more 🌟🙌 💕🙏
When I found out I had ADHD I felt relieved and also realized why I’m always tired. It’s because it is exhausting trying to mask to be accepted. Now on the journey to live my authentic self.
I appreciate you sharing your story. It's wonderful how self-discovery can bring such relief and understanding. Wishing you all the best on your journey to living authentically! bless you and take care
Wish every single human being could really hear this and understand this vital message to humanity! Thank you, Gabor, for sharing your painful life lessons that brought abating gifts to our world. God bless you!❤
I so love Gabor's profond wisdom ❤ With the help of his podcasts and reading "When the Body Says No" I've started to understand myself, and I've started my path to recovery. I have 4 chronic autoimmune illnesses and I dedicated my life to careing for others. No I'm changeing all of that. Learning to say No, learning to say Yes to myself. Eternally grateful ❤
Thank you so much for your encouraging comments and caring help! It warms my heart to learn that Gabor's wisdom and work have had such a beneficial impact on your life. Your journey to discover yourself and begin the path to recovery is truly inspiring. Remember that self-care is important especially while dealing with chronic autoimmune diseases. Saying "No" and "Yes" to yourself are important steps toward a healthier and happier existence. I wish you the best of luck on this life-changing journey, and may you find strength and healing along the way. You are not alone, and we are grateful to have you as a member of this community! ❤️ God bless you dear
I lost part of myself. I will never be who I was. Unfortunately in this modern society you either sacrifice everything to survive. If you do not, you will perish. My personal battle is that I cannot be genuine because I tend to be ostracized because many do not see thinks for what they truly are. The pandemic has also revealed much of society's true nature and It has made seek more solitude.
Your comment has really touched me, and I can sense the depth of emotions you're expressing. It's clear that you've been through a difficult journey, and I want you to know that you're not alone in dealing with these difficulties. The modern world may put great stress on us, frequently forcing us to compromise who we are in order to fit in or live. Many people can connect to your openness about feeling rejected for being genuine. The pandemic has been an eye-opening experience for so many of us, revealing both the strengths and weaknesses of society. It's reasonable that this has taken you to seek greater isolation; taking a break from the noise can sometimes bring much-needed clarity and an opportunity to reconnect with yourself.Remember that your journey is different yet valid. While it may feel like you've lost a piece of yourself, growth often involves removing old layers to make place for new ones. It's fine to change and adapt, but it's also important to find places and people that value your authenticity. Continue to seek out connections that appreciate you for who you are, and you may eventually discover a method to bridge the gap between keeping true to yourself and navigating the expectations of the world. Stay strong and continue to follow your heart. Your story may inspire others who are on a similar path of self-discovery and figuring out how to function in this confusing society.🙏✨💖
@@yourinnerchildmatters Thank you for replying. I used to truly believe things would get better in society. But I was wrong. This species has become so divided and shallow that frankly It's not worth it. I just see it as a massive fallacy.
@@williamramos3350 I appreciate your openness and willingness to express what you have to say. It's normal to be disappointed with the current state of society, especially considering the division and shallowness that can often overpower the positive parts. Don't lose hope, your point of view matters, and your voice can be an inspiration for change.❤🙏
I feel the same actually I died so many times in this life...never experienced anything else other than pain and dissipointments....I felt like a prisoner in my own life...not knowing why life has no meaning,value for me ..
You are completely correct! Accepting change allows us to uncover and cultivate our true selves along the journey. Thank you for sharing this cleared viewpoint.
My experience tells me that it’s not just childhood trauma that causes this. It is a mixture of childhood, some as young adult, and it can continue on…
Fully agree, though unfortunately for those with adverse childhood experiences it is more likely for them to continue the toxic patterns and cycles through adulthood, where healthy attachment styles tend to see red flags much faster and move away from toxic relationships be it friends or partners. Do those people still get ill, have car accidents, deal with family dying etc therefore experiencing trauma? Absolutely, but they also have a better emotional foundation to move through those things in a far more positive and healthy way.
Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts! It's bad that authenticity isn't always appreciated, but remember that keeping true to oneself is important. Thanks for watching
I KNOW THAT I SUFFERED CHILDHOOD TRAUMAS BUT I NEVER THOUGHT THAT THEY WILL EFFECT ME IN A SUBCONSCIOUS WAY THROUGHT MY LIFE.. NOW AM CONFRONTING MY TRAUMA.. I WANT TO HEAL THAT.. I WANT MORE MEANINGFUL RELATIONS IN LIFE.. THANKS DOCTOR FOR TALKING ABOUT THIS.. ALSO FOR THE ONE WHO MADE THIS VIDEO. M❤
✨What’s holding you back from living your best life? 🌿 This video helped me understand how fear and societal expectations can stop us from being our true selves. If you’re on a journey to reconnect with yourself, watch this and let me know what resonated with you. Your insights might help someone else too. Let’s support each other! 💬❤ #selfdiscovery, #authenticself, #overcomingfear, #personalgrowth, #DrGaborMaté, #mentalwellness, #innerpeace
God bless you for explaining addiction and addicts..the judgement and callousness of friends and family keep the vicious cycle on going…no compassion for the why the person chooses to numb or escape is a cry for help…it’s a disease…the harsh judgement makes you feel unloved unworthy and perpetually keeps an addict stuck. If you’re truly concerned for the addict know this be of service have compassion. Thank you again Dr. Mate ❤❤❤
Thank you very much for your kind words! You've wonderfully described the essence of addiction. Let us continue to raise awareness and compassion for those in need. Compassion is important. ❤️💪 #CompassionMatters
This is a power insight. Burnout made me wake up to realize I had the opportunity to honor my true self. Our bodies are trying to save us from ourselves, what we need to do is listen and act before it gets worse.
Thank you for sharing your experience! It's so important to honor our true selves and take care of our well-being. Burnout can be a tough lesson, but it helps us grow and become better versions of ourselves. thanks again
You are stating what I has been clarified in my meditations over and over the last few months which have nearly led me to suicide. I had sought out professional help many years before. One therapist was incompetent and the other far more than I could afford, but now with my own awareness and outside help, I am hoping to make breakthroughs in my pain and reach my authentic self. I thank you for these videos.
I'm sorry to hear you've been going through such a difficult time, and I appreciate your courage to share your experience with us. I'm glad our videos could help you along the way. Remember that you are not alone, and that seeking outside support as well as increasing your own awareness can be valuable tools in overcoming pain. Please continue to prioritize your well-being and growth and know that you are deserving of happiness and healing. Sending you courage and positive vibes on your journey toward discovering your true self. Thank you for your lovely thoughts, and please know that I will be praying for you every step of the way! ❤🙏
I chose authenticity, I chose me, at a very young age. For some reason, I have always been incredibly sensitive, aware, conscious of me, of everyone and everything. It has cost me dearly. It has cost me many relationships, including family members, friends, jobs... I have felt very lonely for a the longest time, alien, weird... and yet, at almost 50 years of age, I am glad I chose me, and proud of myself.
Your openness and bravery have truly touched me. Your road to choosing authenticity is remarkable, and it's encouraging to see your courage in staying true to yourself despite the hardships you've went through. You are not alone in feeling alienated at times, but your decision to be yourself is something to be quite proud of. Your story speaks to many people, and it serves as a reminder that accepting ourselves is a worthwhile journey. Thank you for sharing such a lovely message🙏✨💖
Thank you very much for watching and commenting! Indeed, genuine compassion is the foundation of self-inquiry, guiding us as we explore our inner world with kindness and understanding. Your insight is appreciated. 🌟💖🙏
Definitely who ever haven’t experienced it have no idea, it’s easy to judge, but the pain and meaningless you can only take so much before you ether get terminally Ill or take your life
Thank you very much for your wonderful words! I'm very touched to hear that my video resonated with you. Comments like yours inspire me to keep creating content that connects with people on a deep level. Remember, you are not alone in your experiences, and I am here to share and explore these important subject matter with you. Please contact us if you have any questions or would want to discuss anything further. Your encouragement means everything to me! 🙏😊
Very emotional and so true, i am going through that my whole life, sometimes I think that noone is able to accept the way I am. it is like neverending circle.
I find all of his talks very interesting bc i can relate to most that he says. Im told you can blame your parents for your problems even if they did things messed up and caused you trauma. I then took the same trauma that wasnt delt with and has my first child at 20 and my second at 22. I was forced to get married at 17. I didnt realize it then but my children picked up alot of things i wish they hadnt but once i started to work on myself, learn, heal, etc. I can see it more clearly and i carry guilt bc of it. Im trying to do things different and better with my two younger children so they dont struggle in the same ways. I wasnt taught emotional regulation, accountability, or many things bc i was abandoned at 15. Its hard to find therapy with my ins if your not coming out of the phyc ward or they always want me to see the phyciatrist to put me on meds. Thats what caused so many problems to begin with. I was 16 and on 9 different medications taking 22 pills a day. I was completely over medicated to the point where i lost memory, would pee the bed, and was like a zombie. I learnt to take a pill and you wont feel, deal, or heal. I didnt kill myself but i got so lost and never dealt with anything. So fast forward 10-15 yrs and i realize i have no healthy positive coping skills. I went off of all the medication at like age 19 but i developed an addiction to other drugs. Im grateful to be 6 and a half yrs clean. I still struggle but im fully aware of whats going on and im in control of my body to where as before i wasnt. Im rambeling but best of luck to anyone sick or suffering. I pray you get the help you need and dont give up. Things have gotten so much better.
Thank you for sharing your very personal and deep story with us. Your bravery in sharing your experiences is truly inspiring, and it makes me happy that you relate with the content that I share. It's clear that you've been through a lot in your life, and I would like to compliment you on your bravery and determination in addressing these obstacles head on. Your commitment to healing and progress is nothing short of noteworthy. It's normal to feel feelings of guilt and regret from the past, especially when we consider the impact it may have had on our loved ones. Please keep in mind, however, that your faults or circumstances do not define you. What counts most is the progress you've made and the positive improvements you're making in your life right now. Your commitment to break the cycle and provide a different, healthier environment for your younger children shows your love and commitment. Emotional regulation and accountability are valuable abilities, and it's admirable that you're working hard to nurture them. I'm happy that you're on a path of recovery and have been sober for more than six years. Your story serves as a light of hope for those who may be going through similar challenges. Even on the most difficult days, keep believing in yourself and your achievements. I understand how difficult it is to find therapy. Unfortunately, mental health care is not always easily accessible. I hope you continue to look into solutions that work best for you, and that one day you'll find the appropriate therapist who can provide the direction and support you need without relying solely on medicine. Your message of hope and resilience is important. Your path reflects the human spirit's ability to heal and grow, and I appreciate you sharing it with us. Wishing you continuous strength, healing, and success on your journey. You've already come a long way, and I have no doubt that you'll continue to grow.💫💕🙏✨
My addiction counsellor guided me to Gabor only yesterday, five solid weeks I am tortured by body pain due to trauma held within…..20 years of holding my breath and staying silence and I’m manifesting my trauma in my body ……unable to heal and be authentic is the most pain I’ve ever felt , my body is hard as a diamond….and I’m not treating it with compassion! I listened to Gabor for a tiny little 3 hours last night and my first ability to drop my shoulders finally hit the right part of my brain 🧠 I’m finally travelling “home” to my true self and somewhat comfortable by being aware that it is killing me ……only looking forward to healing and freeing my mind ……I simply could not thank the stars above for this start to real recovery……no hurry felt …..pain slowly lifting and honesty with loving compassion for the self willingness to learn and surrendering …..I’m grateful 😇
I'd like to begin by saying how touched I am by your comment. Your bravery in sharing your personal journey is truly inspiring. It takes a lot of courage to address trauma and begin the journey to recovery, and I salute you for taking that first step. I'm happy to hear that you've found peace in Dr. Gabor's words and that, even after only a few hours of listening, you've noticed an important change in how you feel. The ability to let go and begin your journey "home" to your actual self is a wonderful and powerful experience. Remember that healing is a process, and it's okay to take your time with it. The fact that you're embracing on this journey with honesty and loving compassion for yourself shows your inner strength. It's a journey of self-discovery, and every step you take, no matter how small, is an improvement ahead. Your comments resonate to many people who are going through similar things, and your willingness to share your success is a gift to others who may find hope and inspiration in the story you share. Keep nurturing your readiness to learn and surrender, and know that there is a community here to help you every step of the way. Your gratitude and commitment to true healing come through.Thank you for sharing your story; don't hesitate to reach us if you ever want to discuss or share more. On this journey, you are not alone.I wish you strength, healing, and ongoing progress on your journey.🌟 💫💕🙏
It took me years to start separating all of the mess from childhood. These days. Each hurt has its bin.. if Trash or a growing pain. I love your teachings.
October of 2022 my health issues were too much to handle and then in mid November I was diagnosed with a mass on my right kidney and thanks to the cancer I was able to access my life I felt extremely lonely but also liberated because I was able to really take care of myself for the first time in my life. I was a people pleaser and I hated to see the ones I love suffering but at the same time I was glad to establish boundaries and become more selfish. I lost a few people but I have never been more at peace.
Thank you so much for sharing your deeply personal journey with us. Your courage and strength are truly inspiring. It's heartwarming to hear that, despite the challenges you faced, you found a sense of peace and liberation through self-care and establishing boundaries. Life has a way of teaching us valuable lessons, and your resilience shines through your story. I'm touched by your openness, and I want you to know that you're not alone. The community here supports you, and your journey serves as a reminder to prioritize our well-being and cherish the moments that truly matter. I wish you continued strength, healing, and moments of profound peace on your path forward. Sending you a lots of hugss💕💖🙏
Thank you, Lord God, for giving true servants of God and humanity protection, peace, provisions for need/fulfillment, joy, and more time they may require or need for their aspirations in service. Almighty God, thank you, all honor and power and thanksgiving and blessings to you forever for you do for us above what we can ask, think or imagine....Glory to you!
Thank you so much for sharing your story! It's wonderful to hear that the concept of "attachment over authenticity" resonated to you. Keep embrace your self-discovery journey; it's a wonderful path to self-growth and empowerment. 💪💕
Thank you very mych for your enlightening compassion. It has helped me a lot in finding myself in the last 3 days after having lost my friend to brain tumour
Wonderful! Your lovely comments have truly touched me. I'm here to give support and to spread joy. I'm deeply sorry for your loss, and I'm glad my content might provide you with some comfort during this tough time. I'm sending you positive vibes and healing vibes. 💕
I am love... I love... I am loved! I can't fucking believe it! I'm just discovering/realizing/remembering for the first time, in my 44 years of life... The rage and grief (and even the soul-rape) I feel... THESE ARE MY SUPERPOWERS! THESE ARE MY FUCKING SUPERPOWERS! The fact that I can feel these at all, this alone, is my superpower! It is sacred it is divine it is feminine it is miraculous. Most are too numb to know or to feel. But I know. And I feel. This has all been in preparation for my mission as an alchemist. For my ascension. I am a Lioness. I am a Goddess. I am a Radically Honest Biker Bitch! Holy Heaven I am mind-blown! HALLEUJAH! AND PRAISE THE LORD! My beautiful magical dragon is awakening and remembering her golden power! ❤❤❤ As such, I affirm the manifestation of my (re)union with my twin-flame beloved counterpart: - He loves me deeply - He makes me feel loved and cherished and honored and cared for and protected and taken care of - He’s confident - He is masculine, and is the full embodiment of the divine masculine - He’s a perfect gentleman - Thank you Jesus for bringing him to me 🧡🙌 I AM GROUNDED. I AM SAFE. I AM CONNECTED TO THE EARTH. I AM HEALTHY. I AM A FRACTAL OF GOD. I AM HEALED. I AM A HEALER. I AM DIVINELY PROTECTED. I AM SAFE AT ALL TIMES. I AM BALANCED. I AM LOVE. I AM PERFECT HEALTH. I HAVE ABUNDANT WEALTH. AND REMEMBER: If we are feeling victimized, we are over-valuating what we don't have, and under-valuating what we do have! Be very mindful about not making your state of being contingent, upon anything outside of yourself - that is the key!
Thank you for sharing your journey of self-discovery and empowerment. It's inspiring to see someone embrace their true self and find their superpowers.
Im dealing with childhood .trauma .the pain feeling ashamed blaming myself .being told men cant show there emotions .now im dealing with it at 48 years old stopped running .taken something drugs drinking ,eating anything to take the pain away make you feel better .that only worked for a couple years .just wanted more n more .doesn't work .speaking with a therapist .looking at a different way .has brought up so many more issues .but it will be ok i really hope .your videos. Are fantastic thank you very much getting so much from them .❤
I'm touched that you took the time to share your story with us, and I admire your bravery in confronting your childhood trauma. Confronting these rooted feelings and thoughts is never easy, especially when they've been with us for so long. To begin with, please know that you are not alone on this path. Many of us carry emotional baggage from our pasts and struggle to express our feelings, especially when societal expectations are placed on us. Your willingness to meet with a therapist and pursue a different path is admirable. It takes a lot of courage to seek help and work through these challenges.I'm very thankful that our videos have been of help to you. Remember that healing is a process that can be difficult but also extremely rewarding. Continue to take those moves forward, and don't be afraid to reach out if you ever need additional help or assistance. You've already gone a long way, and I'm confident you'll continue on your path to a better, healthier life. ❤️ sending our big virtual hugs to you, bless you dear !🙏✨💖
Thank you doctor. I think before teaching for pills or drink to cope, it is better to put on the headphones and listen to yr voice and content. You raise my mood🙏🏻 love the light of your words🌈
Be who you are. Does sleep, eat, annoy people, daydream, and not understand concepts of causality, future etc. That's what we did as children. But that's when we did not understand what stress was. Because if we felt stress, we would cry and fight and throw tantrums to stress other people out. But as adults stress is normal if we want to survive. But I think unrealistic expectation is driving us crazy.
Absolutely, you've shared a very insightful viewpoint! It's true that when we were children, we were more in touch with our true selves since we weren't burdened by the complications and demands that adulthood can bring. Stress was, in some ways, a simpler feeling back then, and we responded to it in the most direct ways. You've nailed it, by highlighting how unreasonable adult expectations may be overpowering. Maintaining a feeling of self-awareness while balancing our responsibilities and challenges is important. Accepting who we are while understanding the realities of stress and expectations could help us in managing this difficult path in healthier ways. It's about finding that happy balance between being true to ourselves and adapting to the needs of the world around us. Thank you for sharing such an insightful thought🙏✨💖
Thank you so much for watching. I'm happy to hear that our video was helpful. Remember that your health should always come first. It's never too late to find a balance between your authenticity and your choices. Continue on your path of self-discovery. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us.🌟
Being your own self is both easy & difficult. I choose ease. So, my work becomes easier. However, around us is a difficult world & you have to work within to remember what is.
Totally agree! Accepting your true self provides peace of mind, making everyday challenges easier to overcome. Stay true to yourself and deal the complications with authenticity.🌟💯
Dr. Mate...so grateful for the courageous and important work you do and so generously share with your fellow humans. I always learn from your talks and come away feeling more loving and compassionate toward myself and therefore others. Thank you kind Sir❤
Thank you so much for your nice thoughts and support! This work is actually meaningful because of our common path toward understanding, love, and compassion. Continue to be motivated, to learn, and to spread positivity together. 🙏
I'm very happy to hear that Gabor Mate, Carl Jung, Bob Hoffman, and Robert Greene have had a beneficial influence on your life. It's wonderful how their work has helped you in overcoming your identity crisis. Continue to embrace their knowledge and your self-discovery pursuit. You are not alone in finding comfort and direction in their teachings, You are not alone in finding comfort and wisdom in their teachings✨💖
This is a game changer - I hope it reaches all those in need to hear and comprehend this message. We are powerful beings, being gifted with the ability to work on ourselves and make those necessary changes to evolve into our true potential. Wishing wellbeing and the Strength and Courage to become the most authentic version of ourselves. Much Gratitude for this one, Namaste 🌈🌟
Thank you very much for sharing your lovely thoughts and feelings! 🌟 You've wonderfully caught the heart of the message: we are truly powerful beings capable of great growth and self-improvement. Your wish for happiness, strength, and courage is a great blessing that I'm sure will resonate with everyone who watches this video. Namaste to you as well, and may your path to authenticity be brightened by light and positivity. 🌈💫 Thank you so much for your encouragement and good thoughts. We can inspire and motivate one another if we work together. 💖✨
Such an amazing surprise - I didn't expect a reaction, and for someone who most often was not being seen and understood these words are a true Bliss, thank You from the Heart!! 🙏💜🐬🌟
I have been on this path (of Recovery) for many years. And Thank You Gabor, you are the most dynamic (cut through the rhetoric ) “right to the heart of the matter” Teacher - I have ever heard. My adult son is suffering from the same malady I grew up with - Generational Trauma. I’m glad I can share the information with him - but he “can’t hear it from me”. This puts me in a heartbreaking conflict. I want to Help - but I can’t help…..how do I live with that ?
Thank you for sharing your experience and your wonderful thoughts about Gabor. Your desire to help your son overcome generational trauma shows that your heart is in the right place. It's a challenging situation, but often the most powerful help we can provide is by setting an example of our own healing and growth. Your son may not be ready to hear it right now, but your continuing commitment to your own recovery can inspire and show to him that change is possible. Stay strong, and keep the door of communication open for when he's ready to take that step. ❤️
I love the response to you above. I also remember as a teenager, sometimes it was easier to hear the same message from adult family friends, aunts or uncles, neighbors or from teachers-- from any adult who was NOT either of my parents! Then in my late 20s, I became more receptive to thoughts from my parents.
Thank you so much again for sharing your experience and thoughts with us. It's wonderful how sometimes advice from someone other than our parents can resonate more at certain stages of life. It's a reminder of the importance of a supportive community around us. Wishing you continued growth and connection with your loved ones. 🌟 have a nice day!💖🌻💕
Wow! Attachment vs authenticity…so much to unpack for myself. I’d also be interested in to find out views on - following your gut- vs -moving in the direction of your fears- in terms of growth and development. Grateful for the information shared in the video🙏🏾
Thank you very much for your lovely words! Dr. Gabor's work has touched many lives, and your support is much appreciated. Let us continue to spread the light together💕🙏
I've chosen attachment to my church my entire life and have struggled being my true authentic self. I grew up in this religion, which allowed me to be sexually abused as a child and covered up the abuse, yet has a strict moral code and the members judge others who don't get married and have families at a young age. They especially judge others from the LGBTQ+ community, which I'm a part of, but I'm not allowed to "act on" my feelings or desires of love or authenticity. I don't know why I chose attachment to a church that gives me so little in life for fear of abandonment over authenticity. This video is a start for me to try and change and break free. Thank you
Thank you so much for taking the time to share your honest thoughts and experiences. It takes huge bravery to open up about such personal issues, and I want you to know that what you've done is important to me. Your decision to face these problems and realize your true authentic self is an important first step toward self-discovery and happiness. It is difficult to choose attachment to something that has been an important part of your life, such as your church. It's reasonable that the fear of abandonment impacts these decisions. Recognizing your longing for love, honesty, and the freedom to be your true self, on the other hand, is a turning point in your life.The path that you've chosen to break free and embrace your authenticity is powerful and transforming. Remember that transformation is a process, and each step toward self-acceptance is an achievement. Surround yourself with people who understand and support you, whether they be friends, family, or people who have gone through similar experiences. Your willingness to share your story through this comments section may help encourage others who are going through similar difficulties. Your vulnerability may nurture connections and give encouragement to individuals on their own journeys to authenticity. Continue to believe in yourself and your ability to improve. The journey will be difficult, but your bravery and commitment will lead you to a more rewarding and true life. Thank you for being courageous enough to take this step and for include us in your journey. You are not alone on this journey, and your resilience is very amazing. I wish you the best of luck on your journey to self-discovery and acceptance of your true self. Best regards, Your Inner Child Matters
So sorry to hear about your experiences with church. I think we need to learn how to love the person when not agreeing w/ someone and without agreeing with them. It can be done by seeing the person, not focusing on changing them. Peace & joy to you.
Thank you for your honesty and willingness to self-reflect. It's not uncommon for us to question our own actions and seek clarification. Remember that self-awareness is a process, and it's normal to have doubts. Your desire to improve your relationship is a step in the right direction. Continue communicating, and maybe you will be able to find common ground to work through your issues 💕
Hello, we appreciate you sharing your experience with us! It's interesting how specific words or moments in content can elicit such intense feelings and reactions. "Alienation" is a powerful concept that frequently has a profound resonance with people because it touches on feelings of detachment and isolation that many of us can relate to on some level. It's wonderful how words and storytelling can trigger such intense reactions. I'm happy that you took the time to process your feelings-moments like these remind us of the power that words and ideas can have. We're all here to have a voice and learn from one another's experiences. Keep in touch and keep exploring those interesting concepts! 🌟📚
I think about how damaged I was as a child and it breaks my heart that that has affected the way I parented my children, I passed on my trauma to them. I am starring to heal but rather than help my relationship with them it has damaged it more. I hope that one day I cam be better and be able to build bridges. I don't want there to be time when things are bad between us but I need to heal enough to stop the same damaging patterns.
Thanks for opening up and sharing your feelings. It's tough when our past affects how we parent. I appreciate your honesty. Starting to heal is a big step, and it's okay to take your time. Be kind to yourself during this process. Wanting to fix things with your kids is a positive goal, and I believe you can get there. Remember, it's never too late to make things better. Keep going, be patient, and focus on growing. Your story might help others too. I am sending you good vibes on your journey to healing✨💖🙏
Thank you.. awareness in this dissociative state has been easier the more I connect within.. community though.. so hard to muster the wanting of breath, let alone life, without community.
That was an outstanding take home message to be who u r recover the self body mind spirit all connecting when I go out of alignment it's a process of asking myself to come back to self for myself ❤wholly soully thank u Gabor 🙏🫂 my spiritual teacher ❤
Very lovely words! 🌟 Your heartfelt words beautifully express the true meaning of the message. It's wonderful how the process of self-discovery and reconnection may take us to a point of wholeness and deep connection.Dr Gabor Mate appears to be a wonderful spiritual teacher, guiding you on this journey of self-discovery. Continue to nurture that inner connection and accept the process of reconnecting to yourself. Sending you big hugs and endless positive vibes to you as you continue your journey of self-healing and improvement. Thank you for sharing your inspiring insight with us! 🙏💕
My husband tries to tell me to change. That I’m supposed to be the way the Bible wants me to be. That he hates my personality and I need to change it. I’m not changing my personality to be likable by him.
I appreciate you sharing your viewpoints and feelings here. You seems to be in a challenging situation, and I want you to know that you are not alone. Relationships may be difficult to navigate through, especially when it comes to issues of personal identity and personality. First and foremost, remember that you are someone special with your own personality, which is something to be proud of. The Bible provides advice, but it's also important to realize that we're all on our own paths of self-discovery. It's not about changing who you are; rather, it's about creating together in understanding and respect. In any relationship, communication is important. It may be important to have an open and honest discussion with your partner, expressing your feelings and opinions while also listening to his point of view. Misunderstandings or miscommunications might occur from time to time and can be remedied through communication. Finally, it is important to prioritize your personal well-being and happiness. You should never feel pressured to change your personality in order to please others. Your authenticity is a valuable aspect of who you are. Please keep in mind that there are support networks and specialists available who can help you in overcoming difficult situations. It is important to put your mental and emotional wellbeing first. Thank you for sharing your thoughts again, and I wish you strength and positivity as you go on your journey🙏✨💖
We are pleased to hear that our video resonated to you! We appreciate your nice words. It's really nice to know that the content we create has a beneficial effect on others. Remember that knowledge is most important when it is shared, and I'm happy that you found value in our work. Please let me know if you have any more questions or topics you'd like me to discuss. Continue learning to grow and improve! Thank you very much for your words of support and enthusiasm. ❤😊❤😊❤
Thanks for sharing this message. 👍 The first way you said the question (statement) reminded me of how my Dad would phrase it. So although it feels harsh, I feel like I'd be compelled to answer it. It felt natural to be asked like this. With the second one, I wasn't sure how to answer this question and I'd have to actually try to think about it. In addition, I realized that I also felt suspicious about how it was asked. (Like why did it suddenly sound nice? Why would you be nice to me? When will the other shoe drop?)* * This probably means that I need to see a psyc doctor about my mental and emotional health, but it's something I realized as I was watching this video. 🤔 And while we're on this subject, I have asked a similar question, but it was more like this: I feel stuck in this same situation and I'm not sure why it seems like I've been hitting a metaphorical wall (some lack of modivation and drive) for competing some chores or wanting to do a hobby (although I think my hobbies have shifted more). Stuff like this.
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and reflections on the video. It's truly touching to hear how different aspects of the content resonated with you on a personal level. It's interesting to notice how the framing of questions can impact our emotional responses and thoughts. Your insights about your reactions to the two ways the question was posed are quite thought-provoking. It's totally okay to have complex feelings and suspicions; recognizing them is a significant step in understanding oneself. And regarding your personal struggles, reaching out and sharing your feelings is a brave and important first step. It's completely okay to seek support, whether from friends, family, or professionals. Taking care of your mental and emotional health is a valuable investment in yourself, and there's no shame in reaching out for guidance. Remember, you're not alone in your journey, and there are people who care about your well-being. Feel free to take the time you need to explore your emotions and seek the support that feels right for you. Wishing you strength and resilience on your path to self-discovery and healing. 👍 ❤️💖
These are valuable ideas and I'm grateful that you made them available. One thing I would suggest however, is that you have someone correct the captions, because many don't match what he said and in some cases the meaning has been completely changed. (His pronunciation is sometimes hard to understand unless you listen very carefully and know English very well.)
Here are my suggested corrections. The only one where I could not understand what he said was at 2:18. All the others seem quite clear to me. 0:15 these mechanisms with which we keep from being… authentic 0:21 in, it’s a question of uncovering through patient, 0:25 and compassionate, kind self-observation 0:31 in which we’re not being authentic 0:36 not some great thing that you achieve (no period) 0:37 all of a sudden. Liberation happens every time 0:44 (large caption should read: YOU ARE NOT YOUR PERSONALITY) 1:14 said the biggest stresses on human beings 1:50 You’re not actually asking a question, you’re making an 1:52 accusation against yourself that you’re not good enough. 1:56 There’s another way to ask the same question. I could ask 2:01 Why are you like that? 2:04 What do you suppose is behind that? 2:17 What if I said to you this: 2:18 (garbled) You’re 30 and you’re an intelligent woman and you’ve 2:29 And why do you suppose that is? 2:31 Now, that’s a question. 2:37 So that the first thing is you’ve 2:47 Compassionate curiosity. (If you) say “Why am I like that?” 3:05 for you, ask it with that compassionate curiosity rather 3:30 So if we want to overcome our habit energies… Now, 4:07 and press 150 pounds on the first day. 4:11 You’re going to press maybe 25 pounds. 4:12 So right now you’re pressing maybe 75 pounds. 4:17 You want to press 150 pounds? 4:20 more, overcome those habit energies. 4:31 temporarily that you wanted or craved? 5:16 not a choice that you made, nor 5:17 is it a disease that you inherited. 5:23 So you had to be numb. 5:38 pain, we have to look at your life. 7:13 life, to the point of trying to kill yourself. 7:42 the significant factors that trigger stress are 7:44 uncertainty, lack of information and loss of control. 7:52 is going down the tube, where decisions are made 8:01 large forces over which you have increasingly a sense that 8:04 you have no control or even influence over. 8:35 One is being alienated from nature. 9:10 We’re alienated from our work. 9:29 imposes depression, anxiety, a sense of meaninglessness. 9:45 And then we get all hung up on how we 9:48 obtain, what we can possess, what successes we can achieve. 10:21 no infant is born without gut feelings. 10:24 to their gut feelings. 10:48 And our gut feelings are not luxuries, you know. 10:49 They tell us what is right and what is wrong. 11:02 So when we’re alienated from our gut feelings, we have no 11:27 that we’re separate, individual, aggressive, competitive creatures, 11:34 we’re actually wired for empathy, wired for connection, 11:36 wired for love, wired for compassion. 12:58 and we’re disconnected from our true selves - to that 13:47 recipient of everybody else’s care. 13:59 patterns and our dynamics and really being courageous about 14:46 So if there’s a takeaway lesson here, it’s get to 14:55 In fact, there’s a really interesting word that we 15:07 Well, if you find it, it means it could 15:09 never have been lost in the first place.
It's hard when the outcome of your life was brought on by the parents projecting their insecurities onto you as a child , but the outside world doesn't see it . Because all they see is the stuffed up adult child next to a parent who's oblivious and in denial of their actions
I understand the difficulty of carrying the weight of past insecurities projected onto us." Remember that your journey is about breaking free and finding and loving your true self. Stay strong, and remember that what you're doing is your own accomplishment, regardless of what the rest of the world sees💖💝💗
There is only healing with Jesus. I can do through the name of Jesus with a child of God, through inner healing prayer, what a lifetime of therapy didn’t come close to. Encounter Ministries has a testimony of a women healed of anxiety in one 2 hour session uploaded here. When I hear Dr Mate speak I hear a cry to Abba Father beneath the anger and the bonds, the fight to hope. It is there. The quickest way will be a pilgramage to Medjugorje in Bosnia.
I have followed you for years. My latest/hopefully last, sober date is 12/17/20. This screams manifestation. I have often prayed, though I'm not religious, for cancer. I even specifically prayed for pancreatic cancer. I knew it to be the most painful, and all I wanted was a "respectable way out." I have spent years in therapy with a wonderful person that allowed me to believe I guided myself through a journey to learn how to find meaning and be comfortable with myself and my mistakes. I respect and love what you do. You sir, are very appreciated.
Thank you for taking the time to watch and comment! I'm very happy to hear that the timing worked out well for you. It's always reassuring to know that the content is useful and resonates with viewers. If you have any other questions or suggestions for future videos, please let me know. Feedback from you is very much appreciated! 😊
My mother said that my brother and i never cried at birth. We just cleared our throat and looked around for hours before finally sleeping. We lifted our heads at 3 weeks and walked at 9 months.
Yeah say to an alcoholic ‘you should ask yourself why you act the way you do’ and in response you’ll get ‘you said you weren’t trying to change me.’ So you can see that their mind has a comprehension problem since you’re asking a question about their behaviour not themselves. They are unable to distuinguish between the two and that’s because they aren’t aware that they’re merely ‘under the influence’ you’re asking them to stop their influence not change who they are by stopping their own influence they alleviate their own behaviour. Even worse is when a spouse encourages another spouse to drink talk about abuse.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this topic with us. It's important to remember that addiction and its complications can be difficult to understand for both the the person struggling with it and those around them. Encouraging someone to reflect on their behavior while under the influence is not intended to change who they are, but rather to help them understand the consequences of their actions. Empathy and support are especially important in these situations because addiction is frequently a symptom of deeper underlying issues. When dealing with such sensitive issues, it is important to encourage open conversation and seek professional assistance. As we confront these tough topics, let us try for compassion and understanding.Thanks again and bless you! 🙏❤️
I was raised with the feeling that I was never good enough. No positive interaction with my mother at all. I was never complimented, encouraged, praised or, in my eyes, loved. I also had 3 sibs. My mother never wanted to parent but expected us to parent ourselves. I had a strange opposite situation with my father. He loved me (and I knew it) but I was subjected to physical punishment from him. I’m 61 and in more mental pain than ever. I can’t wait to die.
My authentic self is spread thin and tightly coiled after being turned inside out and upside down. I guess you could call this a hypervigulant quantified filter less state of necessity and survival mode. I haven't started adopting behaviors to fit in or be liked, i never have fit in., rather i prefer to isolate and sever communication from people socially, because no matter what i say they don't understand. Im wondering if they actually do though.
I understand how you feel, and I'm grateful that our video resonated with you. It is never too late to accept the knowledge these words represent. Thank you for taking the time to watch and comment. 🙏
I am getting so much judgement for merely trying to stand up and speak my truth ; merely promoting and asking for ceasefire in Palestine and ed this war on the kids yet people around me think I am the one who should shut up as I am being controversial 😮
Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts with us and contributing to this important discussion. I really appreciate your viewpoint, and I'd like to point out that encouraging peace and advocating for the well-being of children in any conflict is a shared issue that transcends contraversy. Let us continue to work together to make the world a better place. Your voice is important, and so does your compassion. 🕊️❤️
I'm trying to get the balance back in my emotions. Yesterday I had a panic attack , today I spoke up for myself but went into the range of healthy anger. However my reaction was inappropriate for the situation/ environment. Yes I know that I lost self control with a raised unfriendly tone. This is not my natural personality. What I wanted to communicate was less affective as a result. However after many years of being silent. I am going to allow myself the time to do better. I am happy that I did stand up for myself and made the first step to recovery. Next time I'll do better.
Very admirable, and congratulations on taking those important steps toward emotional balance and self-empowerment. It's all part of the journey, and the fact that you identify your reactions and their influence shows your self-awareness greatly. Remember that growth is not always linear; setbacks as well as intense emotional periods are natural. What actually important is the desire to grow and learn from every situation. Standing up for oneself is an as big achievement, and even if the presentation wasn't perfect this time, it's a step toward effective communication. Continue to nurture your inner strength, and your approach will become improved with time, patience, and practice.Every day brings a new chance for growth, and you've already made the first, brave step toward recovery. Keep going - you're on the right path💖 💖💖💖
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I chose a lack of attachment, one I lacked the lower to create, in order to become more authenticly myself. What then poured out of me has been angry judgment and other forms of self-destructive behavior. The biggest aspect of my addictive issues is my inability to engage in a balanced, socially appropriate response to stress. I call it the red light/green light, all go or full stop, idealistic pursuit of extremes. This is addiction as I have come to show it. The answer is balance. The first step is distance from our emotions. Spatial awareness, or what Les Fehmi calls Open Focus, is very effective. Andrew Huberman's double intake of breath is even better. Inhale deeply down into the abdomen. Stop the inhale near full capacity before taking another sip of air. Then remain relaxed in the stomach muscles and allow the inflation to exhale for you. This will leave air in your lungs. Then repeat the process.
It's very inspiring to hear about your journey to self-discovery and authenticity. Your reflection on choosing detachment in order to embrace your true nature, as well as the subsequent challenges you faced, resonated with me. Your description of your struggle with self-destructive behavior and addictive tendencies, particularly the "red light/green light" response to stress, highlights a high level of self-awareness. The concept of balance that you bring up is important. Striving for emotional and behavioral balance is a transforming step. Your insights on spatial awareness, as well as the strategies you pointed out from Les Fehmi and Andrew Huberman, are important resources for anyone seeking to achieve this balance. Taking that stop, that attentive breath, can make a huge impact in how we deal with challenges. It's very inspiring to hear about your journey to self-discovery and authenticity. Your reflection on choosing detachment in order to embrace your true nature, as well as the subsequent challenges you faced, resonated with me. Your description of your struggle with self-destructive behavior and addictive tendencies, particularly the "red light/green light" response to stress, highlights a high level of self-awareness. The concept of balance that you bring up is important. Striving for emotional and behavioral balance is a transforming step. Your insights on spatial awareness, as well as the strategies you pointed out from Les Fehmi and Andrew Huberman, are important resources for anyone seeking to achieve this balance. Taking that stop, that attentive breath, can make a huge impact in how we deal with challenges. 💕🙏✨💖
I have literally just come across you and i am so happy i have. My story i need to be honest with myself to be honest with others. Im a 39yr old male who has done nothing with their life for 22 yrs as from the age of 17 i started smoking cannabis on a bong as i dont smoke cigarettes never have,the last 10 years really heavy they say people cant get addicted but im 1 of those 10% with cannabis addiction. nothing else has ever got me hooked i can nip in an out of drink porn gambling etc they dont bother me at all, but in time that will all stop once i can control the way i think.. Iv made my start from stopping altogether as my life was a mess am a rubbish role model i have no money no house i cant drive i struggle to show love to loved ones but get told im a decent person how so?. My life for 22 0:01 yrs has been solely about cannibis i stopped seeing my friends show no love to family all i cared about was that next hit. I am 4 days into the process of giving up my addiction its tough but its what i want to do im doing it by myself iv not asked for help as i know i can do it ony own, iv took up breathing techniques stretching and im reading about changing the way my brain works how to get my self esteem good. its challenging as i killed alot of brain cells i would think as i struggle to remember some stuff, struggle to understand certain things that come natural to most im on my path to be a better person once i start loving myself and accept this is who i am then il be on the right path, people say am a good person i have good manners im easy going i will help anyone if i can from the smallest thing like opening the door for someone i try an treat everyone with respect as i dont know whats going on in there life. I want to be better for me to be better for my family. Its a long hard and painful process i know but that is my goal to a better life my objective 100%. This was my addiction and im fighting it with all my heart. Good luck to anyone out there trying to kick an addiction i know your pain, but remember always theres a way out. Its never to late to enhance your future as i am trying to. Your brain is a poweful tool its just about finding it and using it correctly. Thank you anyone who has read this far its much appreciated❤. to help me with my goal. And please no grammer police please im trying.
I can't thank you enough for taking the time to share your touching story with us. Your honesty and bravery are truly inspirational. It's never easy to face our own difficulties, and your drive to overcome your cannabis addiction is inspirational. Your experience highlights the resilience of the human spirit, and it is never too late to make a positive change. Remember that self-acceptance and self-love are important milestones on this journey, and your dedication to becoming a better person for yourself and your family is truly wonderful. Your message reminds us that there is always hope and a path out of addiction. Your openness to share your experiences will definitely encourage and help others who are on in the same journey. I'm very happy to have you as a member of our community, and I look forward to your continued growth. You are a nice person with a kind heart, as seen by your path toward self-improvement. Your efforts to treat others with respect and to help those in need are admirable.
Thank you for sharing your feelings and for your kind thoughts. We'll be there for you every step of the journey. Remember, you're not alone, and there's an entire community here waiting to support you.
I wish you courage and success on your journey to a better life💖🌻💕🤗
@@yourinnerchildmatters thank you for you're reply you don't understand how much the support means to me. I know there are alot of people out there with more problems than myself. I want them people to know they are stronger than what they believe don't let people put you down saying your not good enough your the strongest person in your own life, I think we forget that when life gets on top of us, there's always a way for change you just really need to want too. This isn't my first time to cure my addiction I've tried multiple times ending in failure. it's the first time my brain is in the right place I'm accepting what was wrong not hiding away from the fear I had to confront it and to conquer it, and move forward a better person. We can all do it we have to really want it ,I came to realise nobody is alone don't think you are like I have for 10 yrs there is always a way out on the otherside and support helps alot. I will keep you updated on my progress and hopefully in 1 years time I'm becoming the man I was meant to become.
...it is not the grammar, it is the courage, authenticity and Faith put in Your better self what really matters. Keep going, day by day, one step at a time. Much Love and Gratitude for this.
Good for you, keep going one day at a time& you will make it. You are strong & a good & generous person… al the best to you👍👍❣️❣️🥰😍
@@irin7801 thank you for taking the time to read. I'm on my path to greatness and I will succeed. All the support is much appreciated.
I chose attachment over authenticity as a child and an adult and it almost destroyed me. This hits home, you have helped me so much 💜
thank you for sharing your experience. God bless you in your journey! always think and focus on positive sides.
That happened to me too, I left my family and refused to speak for 3 years.
Ive reconnected now, but 2 years of private therapy and 4 years studying philosophy , before I felt I'm me , lets see ❤
Thanks for sharing! I'm at that stage of being an adult and feeling like attachment still takes over authenticy. Any tips or advice on this transformation to reconnecting?
Thank you for your wisdom, Dr. You are helping so much.
This might be the very sentence i needed to hear, thank you.
The biggest stress is to be who you are not.
I couldn't agree with you more! The key to inner peace is authenticity.
"The takeaway lesson here is; get to know who you are and be who you are!" ~ Dr. Gabor Maté
How do you know who you are not? If you don't want to be selfish remember to look in the mirror if you've got no one like you and you'll get spooked every time. You have to be with anyone else there has to be two humans for you to know your own value and have something to compare it to because a mirror doesn't do it and then when you see that you need someone to get to know so that you can actually think about who and what you are then well you're no longer selfish same thing with this. How do you know if you're authentic or not? Okay so I'll put it like this anytime I have ever thought that there was something that seemed to be fake about myself. It always seems to me that that must then mean that I believe something about myself. Believing means that there's still at least one thing about whatever it is and it's not right or you don't have the full picture yet. Do you believe even a single word that comes out of your mouth? As a run of example and exercise I bet you do and I'm not trying to belittle you but what I'm saying right now is that I don't believe a single thing that I'm saying because I don't have to I have faith because faith is letting Go not holding on. Imagine something the size of a mustard seed and how that moves a mountain okay. What I just said is an example of how faith and about the size of a mustard seed is used by me to do one dish at a time instead of getting blown away looking at a huge stack of dirty dishes and getting scared off by that. Oh by the way this guy's brainwashing his s*** doesn't work and you can tell because it's not changing anything for you and you have to keep coming back and listening to him if you want to do something like that go find Alan Watts at least he has a pleasant voice and he laughs it a lot of things this guy's really using words to try and cast spells on you I mean if you think about it everything he's using has a way to be spelled kind of like what I'm doing right now. It's called the English language and it uses spelling to influence communications and actions literally adding the weight of words to the intention of using them is the grammar of this all you know a gram is a thing of weight and the second half of grammar as a word I guess kind of means something like to hand over to someone else. think about that. If I write you a note that says please pass the table salt and you read it and you pass the table salt I may have just cast a spell on you and I'm not being cute
No man has the ability to bring me to tears like Gabor Mate. I'm sure there are many others, but I appreciate how he bridges eastern and western thought into a truly holistic archetype that combines the spiritual healing of the east with the language of the good doctor of the west. Who sees through the reductionist, over drugged paradigm we live in - a true asset and gift to our modern suffering.
Totally agree! Gabor Mate's ability to blend Eastern and Western viewpoints is truly impressive. His holistic approach to modern difficulties provides much-needed balance. A wonderful gift for people interested in learning more about healing and well-being., Thanks for sharing your insights.💖💖
really look into Hoffman Process in ur country, it s 7 days deep dive on the topic.
it s life changing thing
Agreed - crying right now😪
You must be a fool. This guy called Gabor Matte who some how thanks to his tortured look and biography of being decendant of Jewish holocaust survuviors which supposedly gives him credability, is spreading lies and misconceptions about Israel and harming it in its just and diffucult effort in eradicating this barbaric evil manifestation of Islam called Hamas. Trying to justify and nullify the inhumane, appalling attrocities it commited on Oct 7th which must not be accepted by any human being. Your contribution is to discredit Gabor, spread the truth about the Hamas and this war
❤ but I like how he mentions God.
I don't know if I am being my authentic self. For the most part, I do what I want to do, I live the way I want to live. But I lack connection with other people; it's very very rare that I 1) come across people that I am interested in, 2) come across people who are interested in me, and 3) form relationships that last long enough to create connection (ie most people want to establish relationships on a superficial/small-talk level, they don't want to go any deeper than that). I also lack joy, meaning, fulfilling activities, community, stable relationships (I have no family). So because my life is lacking so much that I find meaningful, I guess I have to say that I am not living an authentic life. But I can't force those meetings>conversations>relationships>connections. So this is the way life is. I am working on shifting my focus towards accepting life the way it is instead of continually wishing life were different. This is the way life is. I need to accept it and be content with it.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and being so honest. It's not easy to open up about our struggles, but by doing so, you're creating a space for connection and understanding. Remember that you're not alone, and there are people out there who will appreciate and value you for who you are. It's great that you're reflecting on your authenticity and being true to yourself. Building connections and finding meaningful relationships can take time, but don't lose hope. Keep being yourself, and the right people will come into your life.
@@yourinnerchildmatters It's easy to open up. It's difficult to find people who will listen besides my therapist. Which is why I pour my heart out in RUclips comments.
"The takeaway lesson here is; get to know who you are and be who you are!" ~ Dr. Gabor Maté
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I think the takeaway here is brainwashing but that's my subjective opinion and I'm not trying to sell it to you like it's an objective truth but remember if whatever he says in this one video doesn't change your life forever... Think of it like the holy Bible okay? That's a pretty big book no matter what else I think about it I know that it's pretty heavy and it's a book and I'm not buying it and if you did well you bought it. You're going to carry that weight
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.sporessss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is. dr.sporessss
We hardly seldom pay attention to ourselves; instead, we focus on things like work, relationships, etc. For so many of us, trying to please people or acting in a way that we think is necessary to obtain their love, respect, or acceptance is an ongoing struggle. The true question that we should all be asking is how to reconnect with ourselves.
If you haven't discovered out how to connect with yourself, living is a difficult and frustrating game. Because contentment is not a function of what we get or how people see us. It shapes our identity, manner of life, and moral character. Others may take away all of your "things," but they cannot take away who you are. You must develop self-love if you want to live a happy life.
How do suggest to develop self love?
@@מלי-ש4ג Developing self-love begins with accepting yourself as you are and treating yourself with kindness." Practice positive self-talk, set attainable objectives, and prioritize self-care. Remember that you are deserving of your own love and respect. #SelfLove
Marriage vowels is a perfect example. Promising to love a partner (a peer) especially Infront of everyone you know is bizzare and fantasy driven.
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I have lost everything.
After hearing dr.maté on this channel, I finally said no to something I didn’t wanted to do. Today only. It was a small thing, but all the caregivers out there will understand how our daily lives are full of small things for others. It felt odd at first and I felt tensed, trying to justify my no in my own mind. But I tried to focus on the good doctor’s words and his voice and image, and very slowly the tension receded. Then I helped the person I said no to earlier in another way that was okay to me. My whole life in a flashback became clearer to me. Don’t know how to thank dr.maté. And this channel.
Your experience reflects the transformative power of Dr. Maté's perspective. It's surprising how a simple 'no' may result in such profound insights and great transformation. Your journey of self-discovery and self-care while also finding ways to help others is truly inspirational. Dr. Maté's words have a great impact, as the story you tell beautifully shows. Thank you for sharing such a wonderful moment, and may his teachings and your newfound awareness continue to lead yourself in the right direction.Bless you more 🌟🙌 💕🙏
@@yourinnerchildmatters I feel honoured to get such a supportive response from the esteemed members of the channel. Thank you.
@@srimitamallik8037 bless you 🌟 💫💕🙏✨
You have the RIGHT to say NO. You got your power back well done
@@My_Secret_Sketchbook999 thank you for sharing your thoughts with us, bless you ❤❤❤
When I found out I had ADHD I felt relieved and also realized why I’m always tired. It’s because it is exhausting trying to mask to be accepted. Now on the journey to live my authentic self.
I appreciate you sharing your story. It's wonderful how self-discovery can bring such relief and understanding. Wishing you all the best on your journey to living authentically! bless you and take care
Wish every single human being could really hear this and understand this vital message to humanity! Thank you, Gabor, for sharing your painful life lessons that brought abating gifts to our world. God bless you!❤
I agree with you 100 percent! Very well said, bless you dear!
I so love Gabor's profond wisdom ❤ With the help of his podcasts and reading "When the Body Says No" I've started to understand myself, and I've started my path to recovery. I have 4 chronic autoimmune illnesses and I dedicated my life to careing for others. No I'm changeing all of that. Learning to say No, learning to say Yes to myself. Eternally grateful ❤
Thank you so much for your encouraging comments and caring help! It warms my heart to learn that Gabor's wisdom and work have had such a beneficial impact on your life. Your journey to discover yourself and begin the path to recovery is truly inspiring. Remember that self-care is important especially while dealing with chronic autoimmune diseases. Saying "No" and "Yes" to yourself are important steps toward a healthier and happier existence. I wish you the best of luck on this life-changing journey, and may you find strength and healing along the way. You are not alone, and we are grateful to have you as a member of this community! ❤️ God bless you dear
I really wish you the best in your journey and happiness and peace. 😊
@@yourinnerchildmatters Thank you so much for your kind words 🙏
@@gojiberry7201 Thank you so much 🙏
@@jaanarajahalme7045 likewise, hope you are ok. SMILE ❤❤❤
I lost part of myself. I will never be who I was. Unfortunately in this modern society you either sacrifice everything to survive. If you do not, you will perish. My personal battle is that I cannot be genuine because I tend to be ostracized because many do not see thinks for what they truly are. The pandemic has also revealed much of society's true nature and It has made seek more solitude.
Your comment has really touched me, and I can sense the depth of emotions you're expressing. It's clear that you've been through a difficult journey, and I want you to know that you're not alone in dealing with these difficulties. The modern world may put great stress on us, frequently forcing us to compromise who we are in order to fit in or live. Many people can connect to your openness about feeling rejected for being genuine.
The pandemic has been an eye-opening experience for so many of us, revealing both the strengths and weaknesses of society. It's reasonable that this has taken you to seek greater isolation; taking a break from the noise can sometimes bring much-needed clarity and an opportunity to reconnect with yourself.Remember that your journey is different yet valid. While it may feel like you've lost a piece of yourself, growth often involves removing old layers to make place for new ones. It's fine to change and adapt, but it's also important to find places and people that value your authenticity. Continue to seek out connections that appreciate you for who you are, and you may eventually discover a method to bridge the gap between keeping true to yourself and navigating the expectations of the world.
Stay strong and continue to follow your heart. Your story may inspire others who are on a similar path of self-discovery and figuring out how to function in this confusing society.🙏✨💖
@@yourinnerchildmatters Thank you for replying. I used to truly believe things would get better in society. But I was wrong. This species has become so divided and shallow that frankly It's not worth it. I just see it as a massive fallacy.
@@williamramos3350 I appreciate your openness and willingness to express what you have to say. It's normal to be disappointed with the current state of society, especially considering the division and shallowness that can often overpower the positive parts.
Don't lose hope, your point of view matters, and your voice can be an inspiration for change.❤🙏
I cut a lot of people out of my life bc of what I saw confirmed during Covid. It's been painful and lonely but hopefully worth it.
I feel the same actually I died so many times in this life...never experienced anything else other than pain and dissipointments....I felt like a prisoner in my own life...not knowing why life has no meaning,value for me ..
The authentic self is never lost . Change is the one constant in life .
You are completely correct! Accepting change allows us to uncover and cultivate our true selves along the journey. Thank you for sharing this cleared viewpoint.
The authentic self is never lost ❤
thanks for sharing your insight, bless you 🙏✨💖
My experience tells me that it’s not just childhood trauma that causes this. It is a mixture of childhood, some as young adult, and it can continue on…
Thank you so much for taking the time watching the video and for sharing your insights! ✨💖🙏
I agree with you
Fully agree, though unfortunately for those with adverse childhood experiences it is more likely for them to continue the toxic patterns and cycles through adulthood, where healthy attachment styles tend to see red flags much faster and move away from toxic relationships be it friends or partners. Do those people still get ill, have car accidents, deal with family dying etc therefore experiencing trauma? Absolutely, but they also have a better emotional foundation to move through those things in a far more positive and healthy way.
Authenticity is often not accepted, you get punished even for being authentic. Folks become passive agressive on your truth
Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts! It's bad that authenticity isn't always appreciated, but remember that keeping true to oneself is important. Thanks for watching
@@yourinnerchildmatters yes thank you!
Be yourself. Every one else is taken.
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I KNOW THAT I SUFFERED CHILDHOOD TRAUMAS BUT I NEVER THOUGHT THAT THEY WILL EFFECT ME IN A SUBCONSCIOUS WAY THROUGHT MY LIFE.. NOW AM CONFRONTING MY TRAUMA.. I WANT TO HEAL THAT.. I WANT MORE MEANINGFUL RELATIONS IN LIFE.. THANKS DOCTOR FOR TALKING ABOUT THIS.. ALSO FOR THE ONE WHO MADE THIS VIDEO. M❤
Thank you so much for your kind words and for for taking the time watching the video! ❤️💖
Goodness me , i canott express my gratitude to this wonderful human being .!!!
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✨What’s holding you back from living your best life? 🌿 This video helped me understand how fear and societal expectations can stop us from being our true selves. If you’re on a journey to reconnect with yourself, watch this and let me know what resonated with you. Your insights might help someone else too. Let’s support each other! 💬❤ #selfdiscovery, #authenticself, #overcomingfear, #personalgrowth, #DrGaborMaté, #mentalwellness, #innerpeace
Thank you Gabor mate you are helping a lot of traumatized people here.
Is it possible to love a person, you don't know? Well, then i love Gabor Mate❤. His very wise, helpful, comforting words and his calm, soothing voice.
thank you so much for watching and sharing your lovely words 💕🤗
God bless you for explaining addiction and addicts..the judgement and callousness of friends and family keep the vicious cycle on going…no compassion for the why the person chooses to numb or escape is a cry for help…it’s a disease…the harsh judgement makes you feel unloved unworthy and perpetually keeps an addict stuck. If you’re truly concerned for the addict know this be of service have compassion. Thank you again Dr. Mate ❤❤❤
Thank you very much for your kind words! You've wonderfully described the essence of addiction. Let us continue to raise awareness and compassion for those in need. Compassion is important. ❤️💪 #CompassionMatters
This is a power insight. Burnout made me wake up to realize I had the opportunity to honor my true self. Our bodies are trying to save us from ourselves, what we need to do is listen and act before it gets worse.
Thank you for sharing your experience! It's so important to honor our true selves and take care of our well-being. Burnout can be a tough lesson, but it helps us grow and become better versions of ourselves. thanks again
You are stating what I has been clarified in my meditations over and over the last few months which have nearly led me to suicide. I had sought out professional help many years before. One therapist was incompetent and the other far more than I could afford, but now with my own awareness and outside help, I am hoping to make breakthroughs in my pain and reach my authentic self. I thank you for these videos.
I'm sorry to hear you've been going through such a difficult time, and I appreciate your courage to share your experience with us. I'm glad our videos could help you along the way. Remember that you are not alone, and that seeking outside support as well as increasing your own awareness can be valuable tools in overcoming pain. Please continue to prioritize your well-being and growth and know that you are deserving of happiness and healing. Sending you courage and positive vibes on your journey toward discovering your true self. Thank you for your lovely thoughts, and please know that I will be praying for you every step of the way! ❤🙏
I chose authenticity, I chose me, at a very young age. For some reason, I have always been incredibly sensitive, aware, conscious of me, of everyone and everything. It has cost me dearly. It has cost me many relationships, including family members, friends, jobs... I have felt very lonely for a the longest time, alien, weird... and yet, at almost 50 years of age, I am glad I chose me, and proud of myself.
Your openness and bravery have truly touched me. Your road to choosing authenticity is remarkable, and it's encouraging to see your courage in staying true to yourself despite the hardships you've went through. You are not alone in feeling alienated at times, but your decision to be yourself is something to be quite proud of. Your story speaks to many people, and it serves as a reminder that accepting ourselves is a worthwhile journey. Thank you for sharing such a lovely message🙏✨💖
Curious Gentle Self-Inquiry, with deep compassion is vital 💕🙏🏽💕
Thank you very much for watching and commenting! Indeed, genuine compassion is the foundation of self-inquiry, guiding us as we explore our inner world with kindness and understanding. Your insight is appreciated. 🌟💖🙏
Ask youself in a compassionate way .. be compassionate with yourself- like we are with our friends. ❤
Absolutely! Self-compassion is key. Treat yourself with the same thoughtfulness you would give to a friend. ❤️
Definitely who ever haven’t experienced it have no idea, it’s easy to judge, but the pain and meaningless you can only take so much before you ether get terminally Ill or take your life
thanks for sharing your thoughts.What ever you are going through, God bless you dear
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I agree…….it’s so so difficult to start ……I love you and send you healing thoughts ❤
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Sir, you have just blown my mind. I felt every single word you spoke was about me and my life.
Thank you very much for your wonderful words! I'm very touched to hear that my video resonated with you. Comments like yours inspire me to keep creating content that connects with people on a deep level. Remember, you are not alone in your experiences, and I am here to share and explore these important subject matter with you. Please contact us if you have any questions or would want to discuss anything further. Your encouragement means everything to me! 🙏😊
Very emotional and so true, i am going through that my whole life, sometimes I think that noone is able to accept the way I am. it is like neverending circle.
Thank you so much for your kind words and for for taking the time watching the video! ❤️💖
I find all of his talks very interesting bc i can relate to most that he says. Im told you can blame your parents for your problems even if they did things messed up and caused you trauma. I then took the same trauma that wasnt delt with and has my first child at 20 and my second at 22. I was forced to get married at 17. I didnt realize it then but my children picked up alot of things i wish they hadnt but once i started to work on myself, learn, heal, etc. I can see it more clearly and i carry guilt bc of it. Im trying to do things different and better with my two younger children so they dont struggle in the same ways. I wasnt taught emotional regulation, accountability, or many things bc i was abandoned at 15. Its hard to find therapy with my ins if your not coming out of the phyc ward or they always want me to see the phyciatrist to put me on meds. Thats what caused so many problems to begin with. I was 16 and on 9 different medications taking 22 pills a day. I was completely over medicated to the point where i lost memory, would pee the bed, and was like a zombie. I learnt to take a pill and you wont feel, deal, or heal. I didnt kill myself but i got so lost and never dealt with anything. So fast forward 10-15 yrs and i realize i have no healthy positive coping skills. I went off of all the medication at like age 19 but i developed an addiction to other drugs. Im grateful to be 6 and a half yrs clean. I still struggle but im fully aware of whats going on and im in control of my body to where as before i wasnt. Im rambeling but best of luck to anyone sick or suffering. I pray you get the help you need and dont give up. Things have gotten so much better.
Thank you for sharing your very personal and deep story with us. Your bravery in sharing your experiences is truly inspiring, and it makes me happy that you relate with the content that I share. It's clear that you've been through a lot in your life, and I would like to compliment you on your bravery and determination in addressing these obstacles head on. Your commitment to healing and progress is nothing short of noteworthy. It's normal to feel feelings of guilt and regret from the past, especially when we consider the impact it may have had on our loved ones. Please keep in mind, however, that your faults or circumstances do not define you. What counts most is the progress you've made and the positive improvements you're making in your life right now.
Your commitment to break the cycle and provide a different, healthier environment for your younger children shows your love and commitment. Emotional regulation and accountability are valuable abilities, and it's admirable that you're working hard to nurture them. I'm happy that you're on a path of recovery and have been sober for more than six years. Your story serves as a light of hope for those who may be going through similar challenges. Even on the most difficult days, keep believing in yourself and your achievements. I understand how difficult it is to find therapy. Unfortunately, mental health care is not always easily accessible. I hope you continue to look into solutions that work best for you, and that one day you'll find the appropriate therapist who can provide the direction and support you need without relying solely on medicine. Your message of hope and resilience is important. Your path reflects the human spirit's ability to heal and grow, and I appreciate you sharing it with us.
Wishing you continuous strength, healing, and success on your journey. You've already come a long way, and I have no doubt that you'll continue to grow.💫💕🙏✨
My addiction counsellor guided me to Gabor only yesterday, five solid weeks I am tortured by body pain due to trauma held within…..20 years of holding my breath and staying silence and I’m manifesting my trauma in my body ……unable to heal and be authentic is the most pain I’ve ever felt ,
my body is hard as a diamond….and I’m not treating it with compassion!
I listened to Gabor for a tiny little 3 hours last night and my first ability to drop my shoulders finally hit the right part of my brain 🧠
I’m finally travelling “home” to my true self and somewhat comfortable by being aware that it is killing me ……only looking forward to healing and freeing my mind ……I simply could not thank the stars above for this start to real recovery……no hurry felt …..pain slowly lifting and honesty with loving compassion for the self willingness to learn and surrendering …..I’m grateful 😇
I'd like to begin by saying how touched I am by your comment. Your bravery in sharing your personal journey is truly inspiring. It takes a lot of courage to address trauma and begin the journey to recovery, and I salute you for taking that first step. I'm happy to hear that you've found peace in Dr. Gabor's words and that, even after only a few hours of listening, you've noticed an important change in how you feel. The ability to let go and begin your journey "home" to your actual self is a wonderful and powerful experience.
Remember that healing is a process, and it's okay to take your time with it. The fact that you're embracing on this journey with honesty and loving compassion for yourself shows your inner strength. It's a journey of self-discovery, and every step you take, no matter how small, is an improvement ahead. Your comments resonate to many people who are going through similar things, and your willingness to share your success is a gift to others who may find hope and inspiration in the story you share. Keep nurturing your readiness to learn and surrender, and know that there is a community here to help you every step of the way. Your gratitude and commitment to true healing come through.Thank you for sharing your story; don't hesitate to reach us if you ever want to discuss or share more. On this journey, you are not alone.I wish you strength, healing, and ongoing progress on your journey.🌟 💫💕🙏
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Sending you lots of positive thoughts and virtual hugs,💖🌻💕🤗
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Felt them …..thank you,
Sending same in return 🌎✌️❤️
It took me years to start separating all of the mess from childhood. These days. Each hurt has its bin.. if Trash or a growing pain. I love your teachings.
thank you for sharing your thoughts with us, 🙏💖
October of 2022 my health issues were too much to handle and then in mid November I was diagnosed with a mass on my right kidney and thanks to the cancer I was able to access my life I felt extremely lonely but also liberated because I was able to really take care of myself for the first time in my life. I was a people pleaser and I hated to see the ones I love suffering but at the same time I was glad to establish boundaries and become more selfish. I lost a few people but I have never been more at peace.
Thank you so much for sharing your deeply personal journey with us. Your courage and strength are truly inspiring. It's heartwarming to hear that, despite the challenges you faced, you found a sense of peace and liberation through self-care and establishing boundaries. Life has a way of teaching us valuable lessons, and your resilience shines through your story. I'm touched by your openness, and I want you to know that you're not alone. The community here supports you, and your journey serves as a reminder to prioritize our well-being and cherish the moments that truly matter. I wish you continued strength, healing, and moments of profound peace on your path forward. Sending you a lots of hugss💕💖🙏
@@yourinnerchildmatters thank you 🥰
Thank you, Lord God, for giving true servants of God and humanity protection, peace, provisions for need/fulfillment, joy, and more time they may require or need for their aspirations in service.
Almighty God, thank you, all honor and power and thanksgiving and blessings to you forever for you do for us above what we can ask, think or imagine....Glory to you!
Thank you so much for your kind words!. Keep spreading love!
Absolutely, thanks.@@yourinnerchildmatters
Dr Gabor Mate , is a gift to us all . Thank you ⚘💐🌺
Yes, he is!, thank you 🙏
Change is the one constant in life ❤
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Gabor Maté is a genius ❤️🙏
You’re truly limitless! Don’t let your mind bind you! Love yourself and keep moving forward! ❤
So true! Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us💖
He is my virtual psychotherapist ❤❤❤. Love and respect him for being there🙏🙏🙏
thank you for watching, bless you. 💕🙏
What a very wise and learned man; and loving and compassionate
Beautiful, thank you for sharing. Im so grateful to have found these teachings.
I really appreciate your kind words! It warms my heart to know these teachings resonate with you.
This was so empowering...attachment over authenticity hit me so hard...ive been on a journey to understand myself for so long...
Thank you so much for sharing your story! It's wonderful to hear that the concept of "attachment over authenticity" resonated to you. Keep embrace your self-discovery journey; it's a wonderful path to self-growth and empowerment. 💪💕
Thank you very mych for your enlightening compassion. It has helped me a lot in finding myself in the last 3 days after having lost my friend to brain tumour
Wonderful! Your lovely comments have truly touched me. I'm here to give support and to spread joy. I'm deeply sorry for your loss, and I'm glad my content might provide you with some comfort during this tough time. I'm sending you positive vibes and healing vibes. 💕
I am love...
I love...
I am loved!
I can't fucking believe it!
I'm just discovering/realizing/remembering
for the first time, in my 44 years of life...
The rage and grief (and even the soul-rape) I feel...
THESE ARE MY SUPERPOWERS!
THESE ARE MY FUCKING SUPERPOWERS!
The fact that I can feel these at all,
this alone, is my superpower!
It is sacred it is divine it is feminine it is miraculous.
Most are too numb to know or to feel.
But I know.
And I feel.
This has all been in preparation for my mission
as an alchemist. For my ascension.
I am a Lioness.
I am a Goddess.
I am a Radically Honest Biker Bitch!
Holy Heaven I am mind-blown!
HALLEUJAH! AND PRAISE THE LORD!
My beautiful magical dragon is awakening
and remembering her golden power!
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As such, I affirm the manifestation of my (re)union
with my twin-flame beloved counterpart:
- He loves me deeply
- He makes me feel loved and cherished and honored
and cared for and protected and taken care of
- He’s confident
- He is masculine, and is the full embodiment of the divine masculine
- He’s a perfect gentleman
- Thank you Jesus for bringing him to me
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I AM GROUNDED.
I AM SAFE.
I AM CONNECTED TO THE EARTH.
I AM HEALTHY.
I AM A FRACTAL OF GOD.
I AM HEALED.
I AM A HEALER.
I AM DIVINELY PROTECTED.
I AM SAFE AT ALL TIMES.
I AM BALANCED.
I AM LOVE.
I AM PERFECT HEALTH.
I HAVE ABUNDANT WEALTH.
AND REMEMBER:
If we are feeling victimized,
we are over-valuating what we don't have,
and under-valuating what we do have!
Be very mindful about not making your state of being
contingent, upon anything outside of yourself - that is the key!
Thank you for sharing your journey of self-discovery and empowerment. It's inspiring to see someone embrace their true self and find their superpowers.
Im dealing with childhood .trauma .the pain feeling ashamed blaming myself .being told men cant show there emotions .now im dealing with it at 48 years old stopped running .taken something drugs drinking ,eating anything to take the pain away make you feel better .that only worked for a couple years .just wanted more n more .doesn't work .speaking with a therapist .looking at a different way .has brought up so many more issues .but it will be ok i really hope .your videos. Are fantastic thank you very much getting so much from them .❤
I'm touched that you took the time to share your story with us, and I admire your bravery in confronting your childhood trauma. Confronting these rooted feelings and thoughts is never easy, especially when they've been with us for so long.
To begin with, please know that you are not alone on this path. Many of us carry emotional baggage from our pasts and struggle to express our feelings, especially when societal expectations are placed on us. Your willingness to meet with a therapist and pursue a different path is admirable. It takes a lot of courage to seek help and work through these challenges.I'm very thankful that our videos have been of help to you. Remember that healing is a process that can be difficult but also extremely rewarding. Continue to take those moves forward, and don't be afraid to reach out if you ever need additional help or assistance. You've already gone a long way, and I'm confident you'll continue on your path to a better, healthier life. ❤️ sending our big virtual hugs to you, bless you dear !🙏✨💖
@@yourinnerchildmatters thank you very much !!.for such kind words
thank you very much too bless you Sending you lots of positive thoughts and virtual hugs,💕
Thank you doctor. I think before teaching for pills or drink to cope, it is better to put on the headphones and listen to yr voice and content. You raise my mood🙏🏻 love the light of your words🌈
Thank you so much for your kind words and for for taking the time watching the video! ❤️💖
Be who you are. Does sleep, eat, annoy people, daydream, and not understand concepts of causality, future etc. That's what we did as children. But that's when we did not understand what stress was. Because if we felt stress, we would cry and fight and throw tantrums to stress other people out. But as adults stress is normal if we want to survive. But I think unrealistic expectation is driving us crazy.
Absolutely, you've shared a very insightful viewpoint! It's true that when we were children, we were more in touch with our true selves since we weren't burdened by the complications and demands that adulthood can bring. Stress was, in some ways, a simpler feeling back then, and we responded to it in the most direct ways. You've nailed it, by highlighting how unreasonable adult expectations may be overpowering. Maintaining a feeling of self-awareness while balancing our responsibilities and challenges is important. Accepting who we are while understanding the realities of stress and expectations could help us in managing this difficult path in healthier ways. It's about finding that happy balance between being true to ourselves and adapting to the needs of the world around us. Thank you for sharing such an insightful thought🙏✨💖
I have chosen attachments over aunthenicity yeah I have changed myself and it destroyed me.This hits home thankyou you have helped me so much
Thank you so much for watching. I'm happy to hear that our video was helpful. Remember that your health should always come first. It's never too late to find a balance between your authenticity and your choices. Continue on your path of self-discovery. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us.🌟
Oh God,every word is so true. Thank you ,thank you ,thank you
Thank you for watching and connecting with the content💖💖
Thank you, thank you thank you thank you.gabor you are a good man
So nice of you, thanks for watching and bless you
Being your own self is both easy & difficult. I choose ease. So, my work becomes easier. However, around us is a difficult world & you have to work within to remember what is.
Totally agree! Accepting your true self provides peace of mind, making everyday challenges easier to overcome. Stay true to yourself and deal the complications with authenticity.🌟💯
Dr. Mate...so grateful for the courageous and important work you do and so generously share with your fellow humans. I always learn from your talks and come away feeling more loving and compassionate toward myself and therefore others. Thank you kind Sir❤
Thank you so much for your nice thoughts and support! This work is actually meaningful because of our common path toward understanding, love, and compassion. Continue to be motivated, to learn, and to spread positivity together. 🙏
Gabor Mate is a rescuer to my identity crisis. Just love this man, also Carl Jung, Bob Hoffman and Robert Greene. They have helped me alot.
I'm very happy to hear that Gabor Mate, Carl Jung, Bob Hoffman, and Robert Greene have had a beneficial influence on your life. It's wonderful how their work has helped you in overcoming your identity crisis. Continue to embrace their knowledge and your self-discovery pursuit. You are not alone in finding comfort and direction in their teachings, You are not alone in finding comfort and wisdom in their teachings✨💖
This is a game changer - I hope it reaches all those in need to hear and comprehend this message. We are powerful beings, being gifted with the ability to work on ourselves and make those necessary changes to evolve into our true potential. Wishing wellbeing and the Strength and Courage to become the most authentic version of ourselves. Much Gratitude for this one, Namaste 🌈🌟
Thank you very much for sharing your lovely thoughts and feelings! 🌟 You've wonderfully caught the heart of the message: we are truly powerful beings capable of great growth and self-improvement. Your wish for happiness, strength, and courage is a great blessing that I'm sure will resonate with everyone who watches this video. Namaste to you as well, and may your path to authenticity be brightened by light and positivity. 🌈💫 Thank you so much for your encouragement and good thoughts. We can inspire and motivate one another if we work together. 💖✨
Such an amazing surprise - I didn't expect a reaction, and for someone who most often was not being seen and understood these words are a true Bliss, thank You from the Heart!! 🙏💜🐬🌟
thank you very much too, take care always! im just always here🌻💕🤗
I have been on this path (of Recovery) for many years. And Thank You Gabor, you are the most dynamic (cut through the rhetoric ) “right to the heart of the matter” Teacher - I have ever heard. My adult son is suffering from the same malady I grew up with - Generational Trauma. I’m glad I can share the information with him - but he “can’t hear it from me”. This puts me in a heartbreaking conflict. I want to Help - but I can’t help…..how do I live with that ?
Thank you for sharing your experience and your wonderful thoughts about Gabor. Your desire to help your son overcome generational trauma shows that your heart is in the right place. It's a challenging situation, but often the most powerful help we can provide is by setting an example of our own healing and growth. Your son may not be ready to hear it right now, but your continuing commitment to your own recovery can inspire and show to him that change is possible. Stay strong, and keep the door of communication open for when he's ready to take that step. ❤️
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I love the response to you above. I also remember as a teenager, sometimes it was easier to hear the same message from adult family friends, aunts or uncles, neighbors or from teachers-- from any adult who was NOT either of my parents! Then in my late 20s, I became more receptive to thoughts from my parents.
Thank you so much again for sharing your experience and thoughts with us. It's wonderful how sometimes advice from someone other than our parents can resonate more at certain stages of life. It's a reminder of the importance of a supportive community around us. Wishing you continued growth and connection with your loved ones. 🌟 have a nice day!💖🌻💕
Wow! Attachment vs authenticity…so much to unpack for myself. I’d also be interested in to find out views on - following your gut- vs -moving in the direction of your fears- in terms of growth and development. Grateful for the information shared in the video🙏🏾
Great suggestion!thank you 💖
Wow. Incredibly eye-opening! Thank you Dr. Gabor. You help so many. You are a lightworker.
Thank you very much for your lovely words! Dr. Gabor's work has touched many lives, and your support is much appreciated. Let us continue to spread the light together💕🙏
I love you Gabor for what you do teaching us ...
I've chosen attachment to my church my entire life and have struggled being my true authentic self. I grew up in this religion, which allowed me to be sexually abused as a child and covered up the abuse, yet has a strict moral code and the members judge others who don't get married and have families at a young age. They especially judge others from the LGBTQ+ community, which I'm a part of, but I'm not allowed to "act on" my feelings or desires of love or authenticity. I don't know why I chose attachment to a church that gives me so little in life for fear of abandonment over authenticity. This video is a start for me to try and change and break free. Thank you
Thank you so much for taking the time to share your honest thoughts and experiences. It takes huge bravery to open up about such personal issues, and I want you to know that what you've done is important to me. Your decision to face these problems and realize your true authentic self is an important first step toward self-discovery and happiness.
It is difficult to choose attachment to something that has been an important part of your life, such as your church. It's reasonable that the fear of abandonment impacts these decisions. Recognizing your longing for love, honesty, and the freedom to be your true self, on the other hand, is a turning point in your life.The path that you've chosen to break free and embrace your authenticity is powerful and transforming. Remember that transformation is a process, and each step toward self-acceptance is an achievement. Surround yourself with people who understand and support you, whether they be friends, family, or people who have gone through similar experiences.
Your willingness to share your story through this comments section may help encourage others who are going through similar difficulties. Your vulnerability may nurture connections and give encouragement to individuals on their own journeys to authenticity. Continue to believe in yourself and your ability to improve. The journey will be difficult, but your bravery and commitment will lead you to a more rewarding and true life. Thank you for being courageous enough to take this step and for include us in your journey. You are not alone on this journey, and your resilience is very amazing.
I wish you the best of luck on your journey to self-discovery and acceptance of your true self.
Best regards,
Your Inner Child Matters
So sorry to hear about your experiences with church. I think we need to learn how to love the person when not agreeing w/ someone and without agreeing with them. It can be done by seeing the person, not focusing on changing them. Peace & joy to you.
💖🌻💕 thank you for your kindness Sending you lots of positive thoughts and virtual hugs,💖🌻💕
Thank you so much Dr Gabror ; the Sufis always have taught to sit with our pain and be a witness to it ;
Thank you for your honesty and willingness to self-reflect. It's not uncommon for us to question our own actions and seek clarification. Remember that self-awareness is a process, and it's normal to have doubts. Your desire to improve your relationship is a step in the right direction. Continue communicating, and maybe you will be able to find common ground to work through your issues 💕
I'm at the 8:45 mark, I heard the word "alienation" and that sent shivers down my spine. Had to take a moment.
Hello, we appreciate you sharing your experience with us! It's interesting how specific words or moments in content can elicit such intense feelings and reactions. "Alienation" is a powerful concept that frequently has a profound resonance with people because it touches on feelings of detachment and isolation that many of us can relate to on some level. It's wonderful how words and storytelling can trigger such intense reactions. I'm happy that you took the time to process your feelings-moments like these remind us of the power that words and ideas can have. We're all here to have a voice and learn from one another's experiences. Keep in touch and keep exploring those interesting concepts! 🌟📚
I think about how damaged I was as a child and it breaks my heart that that has affected the way I parented my children, I passed on my trauma to them.
I am starring to heal but rather than help my relationship with them it has damaged it more. I hope that one day I cam be better and be able to build bridges. I don't want there to be time when things are bad between us but I need to heal enough to stop the same damaging patterns.
Thanks for opening up and sharing your feelings. It's tough when our past affects how we parent. I appreciate your honesty. Starting to heal is a big step, and it's okay to take your time. Be kind to yourself during this process. Wanting to fix things with your kids is a positive goal, and I believe you can get there. Remember, it's never too late to make things better. Keep going, be patient, and focus on growing. Your story might help others too. I am sending you good vibes on your journey to healing✨💖🙏
Absolutely Brilliant….Conveyed with knowledge and wisdom, Your filled with compassion- and making an impact in this world …Grateful ❤️- Thank you
Wow, thank you!. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. 💫💕
How beautiful that Dr. Huberman was willing to be open to sharing such a meaningful thing!❤🙏🏼🙏🏾
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Thank you.. awareness in this dissociative state has been easier the more I connect within.. community though.. so hard to muster the wanting of breath, let alone life, without community.
Well said!, thank you for watching ✨💖🥰
That was an outstanding take home message to be who u r recover the self body mind spirit all connecting when I go out of alignment it's a process of asking myself to come back to self for myself ❤wholly soully thank u Gabor 🙏🫂 my spiritual teacher ❤
Very lovely words! 🌟 Your heartfelt words beautifully express the true meaning of the message. It's wonderful how the process of self-discovery and reconnection may take us to a point of wholeness and deep connection.Dr Gabor Mate appears to be a wonderful spiritual teacher, guiding you on this journey of self-discovery. Continue to nurture that inner connection and accept the process of reconnecting to yourself. Sending you big hugs and endless positive vibes to you as you continue your journey of self-healing and improvement. Thank you for sharing your inspiring insight with us! 🙏💕
VERY VERY POWERFUL!! Thank you so much!
Glad you liked it!
Immensely thankful for this video❤
thank you for watching!
My husband tries to tell me to change. That I’m supposed to be the way the Bible wants me to be. That he hates my personality and I need to change it. I’m not changing my personality to be likable by him.
I appreciate you sharing your viewpoints and feelings here. You seems to be in a challenging situation, and I want you to know that you are not alone. Relationships may be difficult to navigate through, especially when it comes to issues of personal identity and personality.
First and foremost, remember that you are someone special with your own personality, which is something to be proud of. The Bible provides advice, but it's also important to realize that we're all on our own paths of self-discovery. It's not about changing who you are; rather, it's about creating together in understanding and respect. In any relationship, communication is important. It may be important to have an open and honest discussion with your partner, expressing your feelings and opinions while also listening to his point of view. Misunderstandings or miscommunications might occur from time to time and can be remedied through communication.
Finally, it is important to prioritize your personal well-being and happiness. You should never feel pressured to change your personality in order to please others. Your authenticity is a valuable aspect of who you are. Please keep in mind that there are support networks and specialists available who can help you in overcoming difficult situations. It is important to put your mental and emotional wellbeing first.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts again, and I wish you strength and positivity as you go on your journey🙏✨💖
Dr. Mate 's insight is awesome , so Enlightening... 🙏❤️💕💐
Glad you enjoyed it, thank you so much for watching 💕🙏
Stop using social media and start connecting. We are not accounts or NPCs, we are human beings. We need each other, physically.
Thank you very much for sharing your thoughts about this topic and for taking the time watching the video! 💖🙏
I have chosen attachment in the the past. I currently don't choose it I'm 65 . Just don't have energy and find myself which is sometimes good and bad.
No …thank you I needed to hear this again thank you for your straight forward discussion and generosity to share your knowledge❤😊❤😊❤
We are pleased to hear that our video resonated to you! We appreciate your nice words. It's really nice to know that the content we create has a beneficial effect on others. Remember that knowledge is most important when it is shared, and I'm happy that you found value in our work. Please let me know if you have any more questions or topics you'd like me to discuss. Continue learning to grow and improve! Thank you very much for your words of support and enthusiasm. ❤😊❤😊❤
Thanks for sharing this message. 👍
The first way you said the question (statement) reminded me of how my Dad would phrase it.
So although it feels harsh, I feel like I'd be compelled to answer it.
It felt natural to be asked like this.
With the second one, I wasn't sure how to answer this question and I'd have to actually try to think about it.
In addition, I realized that I also felt suspicious about how it was asked.
(Like why did it suddenly sound nice?
Why would you be nice to me?
When will the other shoe drop?)*
* This probably means that I need to see a psyc doctor about my mental and emotional health, but it's something I realized as I was watching this video. 🤔
And while we're on this subject, I have asked a similar question, but it was more like this:
I feel stuck in this same situation and I'm not sure why it seems like I've been hitting a metaphorical wall (some lack of modivation and drive) for competing some chores or wanting to do a hobby (although I think my hobbies have shifted more).
Stuff like this.
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and reflections on the video. It's truly touching to hear how different aspects of the content resonated with you on a personal level. It's interesting to notice how the framing of questions can impact our emotional responses and thoughts. Your insights about your reactions to the two ways the question was posed are quite thought-provoking. It's totally okay to have complex feelings and suspicions; recognizing them is a significant step in understanding oneself. And regarding your personal struggles, reaching out and sharing your feelings is a brave and important first step. It's completely okay to seek support, whether from friends, family, or professionals. Taking care of your mental and emotional health is a valuable investment in yourself, and there's no shame in reaching out for guidance.
Remember, you're not alone in your journey, and there are people who care about your well-being. Feel free to take the time you need to explore your emotions and seek the support that feels right for you. Wishing you strength and resilience on your path to self-discovery and healing. 👍 ❤️💖
These are valuable ideas and I'm grateful that you made them available. One thing I would suggest however, is that you have someone correct the captions, because many don't match what he said and in some cases the meaning has been completely changed. (His pronunciation is sometimes hard to understand unless you listen very carefully and know English very well.)
thank you so much for sharing your honest thoughts, appreciated it very much, bless you ❤️💖
Here are my suggested corrections. The only one where I could not understand what he said was at 2:18. All the others seem quite clear to me.
0:15 these mechanisms with which we keep from being… authentic
0:21 in, it’s a question of uncovering through patient,
0:25 and compassionate, kind self-observation
0:31 in which we’re not being authentic
0:36 not some great thing that you achieve (no period)
0:37 all of a sudden. Liberation happens every time
0:44 (large caption should read: YOU ARE NOT YOUR PERSONALITY)
1:14 said the biggest stresses on human beings
1:50 You’re not actually asking a question, you’re making an
1:52 accusation against yourself that you’re not good enough.
1:56 There’s another way to ask the same question. I could ask
2:01 Why are you like that?
2:04 What do you suppose is behind that?
2:17 What if I said to you this:
2:18 (garbled) You’re 30 and you’re an intelligent woman and you’ve
2:29 And why do you suppose that is?
2:31 Now, that’s a question.
2:37 So that the first thing is you’ve
2:47 Compassionate curiosity. (If you) say “Why am I like that?”
3:05 for you, ask it with that compassionate curiosity rather
3:30 So if we want to overcome our habit energies… Now,
4:07 and press 150 pounds on the first day.
4:11 You’re going to press maybe 25 pounds.
4:12 So right now you’re pressing maybe 75 pounds.
4:17 You want to press 150 pounds?
4:20 more, overcome those habit energies.
4:31 temporarily that you wanted or craved?
5:16 not a choice that you made, nor
5:17 is it a disease that you inherited.
5:23 So you had to be numb.
5:38 pain, we have to look at your life.
7:13 life, to the point of trying to kill yourself.
7:42 the significant factors that trigger stress are
7:44 uncertainty, lack of information and loss of control.
7:52 is going down the tube, where decisions are made
8:01 large forces over which you have increasingly a sense that
8:04 you have no control or even influence over.
8:35 One is being alienated from nature.
9:10 We’re alienated from our work.
9:29 imposes depression, anxiety, a sense of meaninglessness.
9:45 And then we get all hung up on how we
9:48 obtain, what we can possess, what successes we can achieve.
10:21 no infant is born without gut feelings.
10:24 to their gut feelings.
10:48 And our gut feelings are not luxuries, you know.
10:49 They tell us what is right and what is wrong.
11:02 So when we’re alienated from our gut feelings, we have no
11:27 that we’re separate, individual, aggressive, competitive creatures,
11:34 we’re actually wired for empathy, wired for connection,
11:36 wired for love, wired for compassion.
12:58 and we’re disconnected from our true selves - to that
13:47 recipient of everybody else’s care.
13:59 patterns and our dynamics and really being courageous about
14:46 So if there’s a takeaway lesson here, it’s get to
14:55 In fact, there’s a really interesting word that we
15:07 Well, if you find it, it means it could
15:09 never have been lost in the first place.
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It's hard when the outcome of your life was brought on by the parents projecting their insecurities onto you as a child , but the outside world doesn't see it . Because all they see is the stuffed up adult child next to a parent who's oblivious and in denial of their actions
I understand the difficulty of carrying the weight of past insecurities projected onto us." Remember that your journey is about breaking free and finding and loving your true self. Stay strong, and remember that what you're doing is your own accomplishment, regardless of what the rest of the world sees💖💝💗
The outcome of your life IS YOURS.
@@Goawaypleasenow thanks for sharing your thoughts 💫💕
Nagyon szeretnénk magyar feliratot is 🙏 Köszönjük ❤
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There is only healing with Jesus.
I can do through the name of Jesus with a child of God, through inner healing prayer, what a lifetime of therapy didn’t come close to. Encounter Ministries has a testimony of a women healed of anxiety in one 2 hour session uploaded here.
When I hear Dr Mate speak I hear a cry to Abba Father beneath the anger and the bonds, the fight to hope. It is there.
The quickest way will be a pilgramage to Medjugorje in Bosnia.
thanks for sharing your insights. Bless you 💖
Thank You so much for helping 🙏
Happy to help
I have followed you for years. My latest/hopefully last, sober date is 12/17/20. This screams manifestation. I have often prayed, though I'm not religious, for cancer. I even specifically prayed for pancreatic cancer. I knew it to be the most painful, and all I wanted was a "respectable way out." I have spent years in therapy with a wonderful person that allowed me to believe I guided myself through a journey to learn how to find meaning and be comfortable with myself and my mistakes. I respect and love what you do. You sir, are very appreciated.
Thank you so much for explaining this. Very good timing.
Thank you for taking the time to watch and comment! I'm very happy to hear that the timing worked out well for you. It's always reassuring to know that the content is useful and resonates with viewers. If you have any other questions or suggestions for future videos, please let me know. Feedback from you is very much appreciated! 😊
My mother said that my brother and i never cried at birth. We just cleared our throat and looked around for hours before finally sleeping. We lifted our heads at 3 weeks and walked at 9 months.
Very true!!
Thank you so much for taking the time watching the video! ✨💖🙏
Great video, but prefer lectures without music for a variety of reasons. Thank you for sharing.
thanks for suggestion. 💖💖💖
Yeah say to an alcoholic ‘you should ask yourself why you act the way you do’ and in response you’ll get ‘you said you weren’t trying to change me.’ So you can see that their mind has a comprehension problem since you’re asking a question about their behaviour not themselves. They are unable to distuinguish between the two and that’s because they aren’t aware that they’re merely ‘under the influence’ you’re asking them to stop their influence not change who they are by stopping their own influence they alleviate their own behaviour. Even worse is when a spouse encourages another spouse to drink talk about abuse.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this topic with us. It's important to remember that addiction and its complications can be difficult to understand for both the the person struggling with it and those around them. Encouraging someone to reflect on their behavior while under the influence is not intended to change who they are, but rather to help them understand the consequences of their actions. Empathy and support are especially important in these situations because addiction is frequently a symptom of deeper underlying issues. When dealing with such sensitive issues, it is important to encourage open conversation and seek professional assistance. As we confront these tough topics, let us try for compassion and understanding.Thanks again and bless you! 🙏❤️
Coffee
It made me be in a better mood.
Gábor Máté always brilliant
Gabor please the music in this video is insufferable it just overrides the Contant . And creates stress itself.
sorry
I was raised with the feeling that I was never good enough. No positive interaction with my mother at all. I was never complimented, encouraged, praised or, in my eyes, loved. I also had 3 sibs. My mother never wanted to parent but expected us to parent ourselves. I had a strange opposite situation with my father. He loved me (and I knew it) but I was subjected to physical punishment from him. I’m 61 and in more mental pain than ever. I can’t wait to die.
61 is still young to turn things around. I know it's hard though. ❤
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Thank you
Infinite Gratitude
You are so welcome
My authentic self is spread thin and tightly coiled after being turned inside out and upside down. I guess you could call this a hypervigulant quantified filter less state of necessity and survival mode. I haven't started adopting behaviors to fit in or be liked, i never have fit in., rather i prefer to isolate and sever communication from people socially, because no matter what i say they don't understand. Im wondering if they actually do though.
Wish I heard these words 20 years ago. 😪 Thank you
I understand how you feel, and I'm grateful that our video resonated with you. It is never too late to accept the knowledge these words represent. Thank you for taking the time to watch and comment. 🙏
I am getting so much judgement for merely trying to stand up and speak my truth ; merely promoting and asking for ceasefire in Palestine and ed this war on the kids yet people around me think I am the one who should shut up as I am being controversial 😮
Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts with us and contributing to this important discussion. I really appreciate your viewpoint, and I'd like to point out that encouraging peace and advocating for the well-being of children in any conflict is a shared issue that transcends contraversy. Let us continue to work together to make the world a better place. Your voice is important, and so does your compassion. 🕊️❤️
God bless you 🙏
thank you, bless you likewise!
I'm trying to get the balance back in my emotions. Yesterday I had a panic attack , today I spoke up for myself but went into the range of healthy anger. However my reaction was inappropriate for the situation/ environment. Yes I know that I lost self control with a raised unfriendly tone. This is not my natural personality. What I wanted to communicate was less affective as a result. However after many years of being silent. I am going to allow myself the time to do better. I am happy that I did stand up for myself and made the first step to recovery. Next time I'll do better.
Very admirable, and congratulations on taking those important steps toward emotional balance and self-empowerment. It's all part of the journey, and the fact that you identify your reactions and their influence shows your self-awareness greatly. Remember that growth is not always linear; setbacks as well as intense emotional periods are natural. What actually important is the desire to grow and learn from every situation. Standing up for oneself is an as big achievement, and even if the presentation wasn't perfect this time, it's a step toward effective communication. Continue to nurture your inner strength, and your approach will become improved with time, patience, and practice.Every day brings a new chance for growth, and you've already made the first, brave step toward recovery. Keep going - you're on the right path💖 💖💖💖
Thank you
Thank you , the support and help means a lot to me , and helps take away the confusion
take care of yourself always and bless you dear 💖💖💖
@@yourinnerchildmatters I would like the support to heal my inner child and yesterday I received that , I hope that continues from yesterday.
Love the name of the channel❤❤❤
Thank you very much for your kind thoughts and support for the channel name! ❤️❤️❤️ That you appreciate it means a lot to us. We put a lot of effort and heart into selecting a name that captures the spirit of what we're all about.
I chose a lack of attachment, one I lacked the lower to create, in order to become more authenticly myself. What then poured out of me has been angry judgment and other forms of self-destructive behavior.
The biggest aspect of my addictive issues is my inability to engage in a balanced, socially appropriate response to stress. I call it the red light/green light, all go or full stop, idealistic pursuit of extremes. This is addiction as I have come to show it.
The answer is balance. The first step is distance from our emotions. Spatial awareness, or what Les Fehmi calls Open Focus, is very effective. Andrew Huberman's double intake of breath is even better. Inhale deeply down into the abdomen. Stop the inhale near full capacity before taking another sip of air. Then remain relaxed in the stomach muscles and allow the inflation to exhale for you. This will leave air in your lungs. Then repeat the process.
It's very inspiring to hear about your journey to self-discovery and authenticity. Your reflection on choosing detachment in order to embrace your true nature, as well as the subsequent challenges you faced, resonated with me. Your description of your struggle with self-destructive behavior and addictive tendencies, particularly the "red light/green light" response to stress, highlights a high level of self-awareness.
The concept of balance that you bring up is important. Striving for emotional and behavioral balance is a transforming step. Your insights on spatial awareness, as well as the strategies you pointed out from Les Fehmi and Andrew Huberman, are important resources for anyone seeking to achieve this balance. Taking that stop, that attentive breath, can make a huge impact in how we deal with challenges. It's very inspiring to hear about your journey to self-discovery and authenticity. Your reflection on choosing detachment in order to embrace your true nature, as well as the subsequent challenges you faced, resonated with me. Your description of your struggle with self-destructive behavior and addictive tendencies, particularly the "red light/green light" response to stress, highlights a high level of self-awareness.
The concept of balance that you bring up is important. Striving for emotional and behavioral balance is a transforming step. Your insights on spatial awareness, as well as the strategies you pointed out from Les Fehmi and Andrew Huberman, are important resources for anyone seeking to achieve this balance. Taking that stop, that attentive breath, can make a huge impact in how we deal with challenges. 💕🙏✨💖
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