Thank you for an example of how to set healthy boundaries, Ive never seen what it looks like. They feel so vulnerable, ive never seen what it looks like to live a life where you dont control others
I am blown away! Thank you so much for courageously speaking truth about the pandemic and suppression of data by health agencies and our trusted doctors. Love is the highest power!
I get where you are coming from and you are very brave that you take ownership of your feelings. One day those phone calls will completely stop. It’s tough then too. It’s a conundrum.
I love your examples of how to approach your mom and other people. I'm at the point where I dred seeing and talking to my mom because of how she violates my boundaries all of the time. I always leave feeling like I've said things I wish I didn't and listened to things I shouldn't have because she keeps saying negative things about my sisters and nieces and nephews (it used to also be about my dad as well when he was alive) despite my best attempts to say something kind about them or stop the conversation. It's much easier on me to cease my contact with her!
Dear Kenneth, your brilliant advices open a window in a new reality. How to deal with this problems. It's one of the most sensitive subject. Boundaries!!!
As someone with a history of CEN and a lifetime of sexual, emotional physical abuse & a cult, thank you so much. Your channel has been so helpful for me and I've only watched three videos so far. Turning my life around has been hard but I know I'm on the right path because ive found your videos. I'm ready to heal
Wow Kenny Weiss, your video was first in my RUclips feed this morning. Such a beautiful image of style and art. So harmonious. Some of us are more art, nature and beauty focused, we want to see and enjoy what’s beautiful and great about our ‘world’ (it’s not just about people), and today you remind me of that 🕊️
If they werent being selfish with their multiple calls they would eventually send a thorough text. Most of the time they dont do that. Only a list of missed calls as a way of justifying you "ignoring" them. Its a subtle way of maintaining their reality that you're the problem
In that case let them think what they want and you stay you with your truth which is you have the right to protect yourself. We can't control them but we can be happy with our true
Please include some examples of such behavior of setting boundaries at corporate environments. Especially with manupulative colleagues having corporate power.
When I first moved to central Mexico...every one kissed everyone! strangers even! I actually loved it. All changed with covid...now it is sort of hit and miss. Amazing how a cultural norm of hundreds of years can change in a moment.
Amazing, I needed this I haven't really got a real life example of how to set boundaries. I have a toxic mother, and I can't still move out, I have one year left and the ways you share how to set boundaries may help me with my mother, even though I have lost hope that things may get better
The Mum conversation 😂 genius! I've kind of done that with people too (stating what i like, what consequences i draw under wich circumstances and still giving them all the freedom), but hadn't heard it so clearly from someone else so far.
I enjoyed this, and was just what I am thinking about currently: More internal, less external boundaries as another poster posted. Here is my problem with all of this though: my own guilt and shame.; I notice it pushes me to establish external (and emeshed) boundaries, and not internal. For example, last thursday a coworker (who I am not fond of) said something to me I found disparaging. I disengaged. I kept to myself all day, but interacted as work required. But the guilt and shame told me 2 things: 1) You have to tell that person you are upset by what they said 2) you have to keep being nice and engaged with them. So that is where I am at just in general. Your video is helping me become aware of the shame/guilt dynamic within me, and I know that is the start of healing.
Shame doesn’t tell you that you have to tell that person they said something that upset you… shame causes you to blame YOU in some way… shame creates a belief that you were deserving of the disparaging words from your coworker. Shane does not motivate or encourage responsibility.
Kenny, your tips are awesome and very effective. My archbishop fully and comorbidly scores beyond 9 NPD traits. he's adamant about smearing me and falsely accusing. I just respond with neutral face and no reaction. Also, I'm trying to spread awareness. He's a malignant and communal narc but couldn't do much without his flying monkeys/enablers.
Your interaction at the store with your daughter worked not because of your well planned and thoughtful approach but only because she's a genius lol ....great video thank you
I really like your advice and boundaries. Love your view on the covid crazies! Boundaries went out the window for people.. I'll remember that response..
I love this. Thank you for sharing the information of actual ways to deal with these individuals. We hear a lot about setting boundaries, but rarely does anyone say how to actually do it with the people we need to create boundaries with the most. Blessings 💫 🙌 ❤
As a very abused young child I did everything different in parenting. The same went with my relationship with my husband. All I did was teach them to put me last and disrespect me. My adult son turned his father against me. Over and over. We divorced and I left. I still love him butI it’s too painful and suddenly I am very sick. Previous breast cancer maybe more now or bad autoimmune disease sjogrens or lymphoma. Had surgery today and my adult son chose my surgery day to turn his dad against me. I spoiled my son. Gave him everything. Now I’m paying and alone
As I got really good with boundaries diminishing codependency emotionally it made my narcissistic adult children choose abandonment against me...which Ironically help my healing process Bittersweet 😔🌠
Excellent information. I like how you stay in your own space. I'm doing better at that, and your examples help. I still have a problem with huggers. I don't like to hug strangers, nor even very many that I do know. The hand held out, or up, or even fully turn away, is often needed in church. One lady insisted, then "hugged" me as if in person. Your reframe, after all it really is about them, not me, helps. Thanks.
We never did science this way _ u are so brave_ the whole city i live in was hugging toilet paper for 2 years - Over COVID. I think its the way toillet training ocurs_ its traumatizing the children and now we have a society in shame spiral.
I'm impressed in how you handled yourself in the airport situation - not easy to stay calm and collected while someone else is screaming in your face - I do know what that is like 🙄 so 👍. I agree with you on your right not to conform to using a mask - I certainly would never use one myself. Since I live in Sweden nothing closed down during covid to my knowledge and no one in this country forced anyone to wear a mask - it would be your choise. Distance was uphold in public places which I find nice and I like the space anyway. Love your programs, very helpful and inspiring. Thanks Kenny🥰
Boundaries work with everybody. I need to be in touch with my sister and she is a flaming Narc . Golden Child in a family of 2 Narc parents. Anyway...I state the facts from what I understand to be a legal viewpoint. I ignore her other remarks.
„People call me“- your mother is not just „people“ - why don’t you just say -,hey mom please don’t leave me so many messages- period! So much talk but it is easy - just tell her you don’t like it when she calls and leaves so many messages!
Is it just me, or are people just awful these days about how budinski and nosy and disrespectful of your private business? All of this used to be frowned upon, BECAUSE it violates boundaries. Wtf happened, where people seem to think OTHER PEOPLE'S boundaries no longer matter?
wow, I truly appreciated your insight on mental health issues, but once I heard how you reacted to the Covid pandemic, I am unsubscribing very disappointed and upset with your rationales/ justifications…
I realize this is a demonstration of diplomacy while recognizing someones free will. But for what it's worth on the mom analogy, I don't think you made that up. I think you acurately identified what was going on and don't want to decimate her feelings telling her the truth, which is that when she treats you that way she isn't loving you, she is out for herself for a feeling probably to avoid lonliness and feel in control even to your detriment and is willing to be emotionally manipulative, however passive. Good on you for setting a boundary and sharing the tactic with us. ruclips.net/video/nLpBah9nZeQ/видео.htmlsi=wuPS_PzhRqPVg2G_ ruclips.net/video/-O0jpgcu6wE/видео.htmlsi=MLp5qFc2hntzrDpr
GOOD CONTENT-------NO FRIENDS - EXIST FOR ME------TOXIC FAKE FAMILY ----I DO NOT LIKE - FAKE KISSING ----HUGGING-----FIST BUMP---IS MY CHOICE-----WITH A SMILE------
Thank you for an example of how to set healthy boundaries, Ive never seen what it looks like. They feel so vulnerable, ive never seen what it looks like to live a life where you dont control others
I am blown away! Thank you so much for courageously speaking truth about the pandemic and suppression of data by health agencies and our trusted doctors. Love is the highest power!
Passive aggressive trait is usually a Covert Narcissist thing.
I get where you are coming from and you are very brave that you take ownership of your feelings. One day those phone calls will completely stop. It’s tough then too. It’s a conundrum.
I love your examples of how to approach your mom and other people. I'm at the point where I dred seeing and talking to my mom because of how she violates my boundaries all of the time. I always leave feeling like I've said things I wish I didn't and listened to things I shouldn't have because she keeps saying negative things about my sisters and nieces and nephews (it used to also be about my dad as well when he was alive) despite my best attempts to say something kind about them or stop the conversation. It's much easier on me to cease my contact with her!
Dear Kenneth, your brilliant advices open a window in a new reality. How to deal with this problems. It's one of the most sensitive subject. Boundaries!!!
As someone with a history of CEN and a lifetime of sexual, emotional physical abuse & a cult, thank you so much. Your channel has been so helpful for me and I've only watched three videos so far. Turning my life around has been hard but I know I'm on the right path because ive found your videos. I'm ready to heal
Wow Kenny Weiss, your video was first in my RUclips feed this morning. Such a beautiful image of style and art. So harmonious. Some of us are more art, nature and beauty focused, we want to see and enjoy what’s beautiful and great about our ‘world’ (it’s not just about people), and today you remind me of that 🕊️
Thank you so much 😀
If they werent being selfish with their multiple calls they would eventually send a thorough text. Most of the time they dont do that. Only a list of missed calls as a way of justifying you "ignoring" them. Its a subtle way of maintaining their reality that you're the problem
In that case let them think what they want and you stay you with your truth which is you have the right to protect yourself. We can't control them but we can be happy with our true
Thing is my family is basically scapegoating me and making it seem like I’m the narcissist when they are too.
@@OrionOlamPiksie same here. Projecting their false narratives onto us
You are so kind and caring! Please teach us more about setting boundaries!! Thank you for this video!
You are so welcome!
Love this, very polite, very kind you will figure it out.
Wow this guy is stylish!!!
When the internals match the externals_walking the talk_ behavior matches what comes out his mouth.
Love this❤ will be using this to help my situation
Thanks for the help
We need healthy internal boundaries and less external boundaries. Wonderful video 🙏 Thanks Kenny 👍
Yes. That's it!
I require a balanced amount of both.
Please include some examples of such behavior of setting boundaries at corporate environments. Especially with manupulative colleagues having corporate power.
Wow! I love how you handled you with your mom. I giggle but I still liked it.
When I first moved to central Mexico...every one kissed everyone! strangers even! I actually loved it. All changed with covid...now it is sort of hit and miss. Amazing how a cultural norm of hundreds of years can change in a moment.
Excellent insight. Thanks Ken.
Glad it was helpful!
Amazing, I needed this I haven't really got a real life example of how to set boundaries. I have a toxic mother, and I can't still move out, I have one year left and the ways you share how to set boundaries may help me with my mother, even though I have lost hope that things may get better
The Mum conversation 😂 genius!
I've kind of done that with people too (stating what i like, what consequences i draw under wich circumstances and still giving them all the freedom), but hadn't heard it so clearly from someone else so far.
It's great to just be , and extend that to others ! Wonderful ! Acknowledge, accept , respond ! Grow !
Well said!
I enjoyed this, and was just what I am thinking about currently: More internal, less external boundaries as another poster posted. Here is my problem with all of this though: my own guilt and shame.; I notice it pushes me to establish external (and emeshed) boundaries, and not internal. For example, last thursday a coworker (who I am not fond of) said something to me I found disparaging. I disengaged. I kept to myself all day, but interacted as work required. But the guilt and shame told me 2 things: 1) You have to tell that person you are upset by what they said 2) you have to keep being nice and engaged with them. So that is where I am at just in general. Your video is helping me become aware of the shame/guilt dynamic within me, and I know that is the start of healing.
Shame doesn’t tell you that you have to tell that person they said something that upset you… shame causes you to blame YOU in some way… shame creates a belief that you were deserving of the disparaging words from your coworker. Shane does not motivate or encourage responsibility.
Wow que emocionante es escucharte
necesito escuchar este clip 1000 veces más!!
Kenny, your tips are awesome and very effective. My archbishop fully and comorbidly scores beyond 9 NPD traits. he's adamant about smearing me and falsely accusing. I just respond with neutral face and no reaction. Also, I'm trying to spread awareness. He's a malignant and communal narc but couldn't do much without his flying monkeys/enablers.
Your interaction at the store with your daughter worked not because of your well planned and thoughtful approach but only because she's a genius lol ....great video thank you
I really like your advice and boundaries. Love your view on the covid crazies! Boundaries went out the window for people.. I'll remember that response..
So many great tips on setting boundaries. I need to memorize these “come backs” otherwise my mind goes to jello in the moment.
I love this. Thank you for sharing the information of actual ways to deal with these individuals. We hear a lot about setting boundaries, but rarely does anyone say how to actually do it with the people we need to create boundaries with the most. Blessings 💫 🙌 ❤
I will offer my hand- yes!!!perfect!!!!!
I loved the monologue about your mom..it was SO sweet and heartwarming💜☺
Great tips and 100% with you with example at the airport!!
Thanks for your videos
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you
Thank you!!❤
Dear Kenny I'm following you and I think you have right. Thank you, I'm trying to do it ❤
You can do it!
As a very abused young child I did everything different in parenting. The same went with my relationship with my husband. All I did was teach them to put me last and disrespect me. My adult son turned his father against me. Over and over. We divorced and I left. I still love him butI it’s too painful and suddenly I am very sick. Previous breast cancer maybe more now or bad autoimmune disease sjogrens or lymphoma. Had surgery today and my adult son chose my surgery day to turn his dad against me. I spoiled my son. Gave him everything. Now I’m paying and alone
As I got really good with boundaries diminishing codependency emotionally it made my narcissistic adult children choose abandonment against me...which Ironically help my healing process
Bittersweet 😔🌠
I like that arm and hand coming out 😂 good one!!
Excellent information. I like how you stay in your own space. I'm doing better at that, and your examples help. I still have a problem with huggers. I don't like to hug strangers, nor even very many that I do know. The hand held out, or up, or even fully turn away, is often needed in church. One lady insisted, then "hugged" me as if in person. Your reframe, after all it really is about them, not me, helps. Thanks.
very helpful videos
Glad it was helpful!
We never did science this way
_ u are so brave_ the whole city i live in was hugging toilet paper for 2 years -
Over COVID.
I think its the way toillet training ocurs_ its traumatizing the children and now we have a society in shame spiral.
RISC management = no reaction, no information, no exposing yourself, no communication
I'm impressed in how you handled yourself in the airport situation - not easy to stay calm and collected while someone else is screaming in your face - I do know what that is like 🙄 so 👍. I agree with you on your right not to conform to using a mask - I certainly would never use one myself. Since I live in Sweden nothing closed down during covid to my knowledge and no one in this country forced anyone to wear a mask - it would be your choise. Distance was uphold in public places which I find nice and I like the space anyway. Love your programs, very helpful and inspiring. Thanks Kenny🥰
You have a million dollar smile 😁
Beautiful ❤️😍
Good parenting👍🏼 My daughter takes great pride in her beat-up ‘98 Camry that SHE paid for💪🏼👩🏼🦰
2020 had the 18th LOWEST DEATH RATE over previous 30 years - Office for National Statistics UK
I hug people but close friends and parents all 4 of them.
We can only control ourselves
You are on point 💯 with this grown n sexy conversation.
Period!✨
Boundaries work with everybody. I need to be in touch with my sister and she is a flaming Narc . Golden Child in a family of 2 Narc parents. Anyway...I state the facts from what I understand to be a legal viewpoint. I ignore her other remarks.
Breaking generational curses by example..
🎉🎉
#teachingkids
„People call me“- your mother is not just „people“ - why don’t you just say -,hey mom please don’t leave me so many messages- period! So much talk but it is easy - just tell her you don’t like it when she calls and leaves so many messages!
Is it just me, or are people just awful these days about how budinski and nosy and disrespectful of your private business? All of this used to be frowned upon, BECAUSE it violates boundaries. Wtf happened, where people seem to think OTHER PEOPLE'S boundaries no longer matter?
I'm so happy your girlfriend realized she missed you and quit her job.
There's no reason to be angry in the kiss face example tho? Just tell em and then shake hand..or plead Covid precautions or something like that?
💫✨️🌟🌹👍
Dont take the bait..! 👍😎
Just say mom your calling too much please stop thank you!!
It seems kissing on the cheek seems to trigger you!
wow, I truly appreciated your insight on mental health issues, but once I heard how you reacted to the Covid pandemic, I am unsubscribing very disappointed and upset with your rationales/ justifications…
And that is totally your choice to unsubscribe. But Kenny is a legend!!
I am glad you are doing what is best for you.
I’m glad you stumbled upon the video talking about Covid. I wish one day you understand.
I realize this is a demonstration of diplomacy while recognizing someones free will. But for what it's worth on the mom analogy, I don't think you made that up. I think you acurately identified what was going on and don't want to decimate her feelings telling her the truth, which is that when she treats you that way she isn't loving you, she is out for herself for a feeling probably to avoid lonliness and feel in control even to your detriment and is willing to be emotionally manipulative, however passive. Good on you for setting a boundary and sharing the tactic with us.
ruclips.net/video/nLpBah9nZeQ/видео.htmlsi=wuPS_PzhRqPVg2G_
ruclips.net/video/-O0jpgcu6wE/видео.htmlsi=MLp5qFc2hntzrDpr
GOOD CONTENT-------NO FRIENDS - EXIST FOR ME------TOXIC FAKE FAMILY ----I DO NOT LIKE - FAKE KISSING ----HUGGING-----FIST BUMP---IS MY CHOICE-----WITH A SMILE------
Thank you for the fresh perception. 🙏🏼