How To Set Boundaries Politely
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- Опубликовано: 30 сен 2024
- How To Set Boundaries Politely. In todays video you will discover simple techniques to begin setting boundaries politely. So many people feel guilty saying nor or are afraid that if they set a boundary they will be rejected. With these simple steps you will feel safe setting boundaries politely.
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“ we don’t stand in front of abuse ever “ - I love your quote. And you’re an inspiration.
I know you referenced this would not work with people with narcissistic traits. But generally those are the type of people who engage in controlling/passive aggressive behaviors. At minute 6, saying to them “it’s my problem I’m recovering” would just give the majority of people entitlement to shame you, along with the entire family system. Love that the example of hammer calling worked for you and your mom. I am learning from this, thanks for video.
I agree with you. Impulsive borderliners too - they also use personal data given to them voluntarily by us - as a weapon of shame and attack later on.
They way you handled your mom with phone calls was adorable. It is clear that - after everything - you love her. So sweet.
Nice information, thank you. Not wearing a mask during a pandemic does not work for me, though. You do you, possibly at the risk of others. Sometimes it's about thinking of others and listening to the people that we have elected to lead us. It's that simple for me and many others. Lives were lost and many of them.............................. That comment of it's all about You was a bit too much. Something you should reflect upon.................................. Just a suggestion for the future and in kindness.
Kenny you’re amazing and your content shows you have done the recovery work. 🎉
People with social anxiety really get triggered by like that stranger at airport screaming and yelling due to not wearing mask.
Due to ACoA and ACE traumatized people will not be able to shake it off. They will internalize stranger's anger and screaming as own ersonality flaw inside them, they will internalize the hysteria and anger and assault as their own personality disorder and flaw and abnormality - there will be toxic shame. And compulsion to fix the stranger and their anger and feel responsible for their anger mood swings and hysteria.
I learned IFS model works best for this - it is about realizing that our parts inside us are reacting to abuse, and these parts are taking charge of Self to handle the situation - through self blame, panic, self abuse, self flagellation, self hatred. So we need to realize our parts inside us are burdened by trauma - and we can unburden them by realizing we are in the body of adult with functional Self that can be calm and realize that the other person is mentally ill and evil and psychopath - and it has nothing to do with our own traits nor persona nor fault nor blame.
Somewhere in this discussion, I hope to hear the phrase, "I don't give a good goddamn what you think of where I apply MY boundaries."
I love u, man.
Now, that I've heard u speaking about masks and plandemic I love even more! ✊💙🤗
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I so love your material Kenny,I so appreciate what you do,I have been telling everyone about you and heal the hurt,I don't know why someone would get bent out of shape hearing your recovery work, maybe they are not as messed up as myself,but I so thank you for what you do,it is nothing short of amazing
Hahaha "this kissy thing of kissing eachothers cheeks " awesome. In south America thats the normal way of greeting ...not doing it would be strange, but i know what you mean bc ive lived in america and in Uk many years and kissing ppls faces gets weird...no one knows how many kisses on each cheek to give... totally awkward
Absolutely PERFECT! Thank you for this. It has provided so much clarity on how to process a couple situations in my life.
Omg i wish i had your patience 😅 my husband talked to me in an aggressive tone for many seconds...then maybe a minute...i did my breath work to keep my cool and before i knew it, i stood up and head butt him 😂😂😂😂
I only wish I could afford your sessions
Me too
I just asked my husband where does he stand then if I wont give him sex or even lay with him bc he isn't giving me and especially my kids what they need? He said some crap answers like ill change. I said how? He said one day at a time. Im like Jeremy those are generic answers. I said just say you cannot give me what i need and want out of a marriage. He said fine i cant give it. Was quiet for a minute then started showing me things on his phone like we did literally not just both agree that this marriage is over. 🙄 which is a hard one bc i cannot just walk out yet bc i have no job. I have been applying. I am a Christian and know the lord has my back. ❤
TYVM for this, Kenny! I needed to hear this particular message for myself today. Love and Light being sent your way. 💚🙏✨✨✨🕯🕯🕯👍😀
Thank you for exposing the truth regarding co#@$19
Very passive aggressive response towards you mom. She must be old. God know what’s going on inside her. This is not a sign of a good son. She is not going uk be in your life forever. She was acknowledging what you demanded of her not being passive aggressive. I hate this about the western culture. Too much all about themselves. If it was someone else it’s ok but not towards your parents. I like your ideas but not this one 😊🙏 thanks for the insightful advice
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. That’s a very common reaction to people who grew up codependent and boundaryless. When somebody says a boundary with them, they interpret it as passive, aggressive, disrespect. They don’t like healthy boundaries. So they spinet into something different than it is. That’s why I teach that so that people discover what healthy boundaries look like. It’s not passive aggressive. It’s honest it’s loving it’s not manipulative which is what we are all used to and raised with.
You are fantastic ❤ I learned my lesson
...that's the point of everything, when you Say - ok, not anymore of that s*it!
Exactly!!
Beautiful video 👍🙏
My last relationship ended with the narcissist asking what I took from his house. I told him I only took my personal things and he repeatedly asked "What else did you take?" I calmly asked him where he was going with this. He then accused me of stealing an antique clarinet. When I told him I didn't take it he reassured me it wasn't in the house. I don't know if he ever found oit because I left and never went back.
This was good not only for how to be treated but how to treat others.
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Thank you
Good real life examples
Thanks for teaching healthy boundaries. Now I just got to avoid the abusers who can't create relationships with appropriate boundaries.
I hope you believe in jesus and the finish works of christ . You & him could really get alot of work done of helping us all heal .and real healing. For the world can only give coping mechanisms but through the help of jesus and comfort of the holy spirit can perfect healing happen. ❤❤ i put your advice and the lord's power together and its been helping so much so thank you. 😊
Kenny......oh my thank you for posting this. Love your examples. This has been super informative and helpful to understand how much power we really do have and how we've given it away and become victims of others. Thank for the information based on truth. Love it.
The kissy face thing is cultural: In Latino culture it's pretty much like a hand shake. Like how people in Japan bow
Yes, I'm Italian and I can confirm that. Expecially in the South is very common.
But this doesn't imply that everyone likes it.
I absolutely hate it!
Wow, you’re brilliant! I really like the COVID boundary!
Thank you for this video.
Glad it was helpful!
Setting boundaries is so important, but it has to be real and continued to be kept .. setting boundaries dairies does not mean we don’t love others but rather be ayse we do love them as well as our own self
I've listened to a couple of your talks and found them helpful. However, I have diligently searched for something that addresses my problem. My 43 year old stepson is a narcissist who has admitted that he thinks about violence every day. Things he says and does frighten me to the point it affects my health. My husband has kicked him out of our house for good but I am always anxious that he will someday just show up. Police can't do anything and restraining orders are a joke so, if I do encounter him, and my husband is not present, how can I defuse the situation?
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This is the best boundary video ive ever seen. Next up, I'll be reading your book. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom
So he manipulates the hell out of his mother to get her to call only once LOL
Nope. Manipulators are not honest and they lie.
He is honest and tells truth, tells everything without censorship - that he has issues and make things up in his head.
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Thanks so much for this. My son is hard work hes 20 now. Hes currently staying at his grandparents because he kept getting in my face trying to make me mad. Went on for too long and i ended up shouting at him which then made him more into a rage. He kicked and broke my table and wished i was dead. He still hasnt apologised. But im working so hard at protecting myself to not let anyones emotions in. My neighbour also tests us and shouts at us over the slightest thing. 1st time i was in tears and angry. Now it gives me huge anxiety. But try and block it out as much as i can. Its not easy but youre right, it is their problem. ❤
Love your work, Kenny, I always love listening to each video. I totally get where you’re coming from and I feel the same way with the plandemic. I did the same thing too with not wearing masks because it is very unhealthy and it’s all about control the whole thing.
I‘ve actually had a couple people do the same thing to me approached me in my own space and I never said anything to them but they have to come over to you and getting your face. It was just insane. It is heartbreaking that people are so out of touch with the world and they don’t know themselves. Thank you so much for being you !
Right on . Three kisses in Europe has meaning - come back again - you are a true friend - and pretentious Americans have exploited this ancient , sincere action. Bravo that you extend your hand. ♥️♥️♥️
This has helped me tremendously! I didn’t like to wear a mask either but just curious what did you do when it was mandated? I had to wear a mask at work and anywhere I went.
Very useful information. Thank you
Thank YOU Kenny for being the change and making the difference!!!!!! Love your empathy and your teaching style!!!! You are very creative also ❤😂🎉😮😊
I appreciate that!
Hi Kenny, what do you do when you've put boundries in place, in the hopes that the person will come out of their denile (the fact that they're severely codependent), but they're still trying to act like nothing is wrong? I.e. I don't want any contact right now, I'll respond to the occasional text and they still interact with my FB account. Im not ready to do little chit-chat here and there...i want them to do serious self-reflection and come to me having their eyes open. Am i having false hope? Am i being controlling?
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Another awesome video Kenny!
The Covid times were the absolute test of boundaries. I received constant threats from people in positions of power, and threats to call the police to escalate up to physical violence - all over the mask thing. It reminded me of being a child all over again. Simple interactions turn into fight or flight scenarios.
You are a nice person. Thx Kenny 👍
YOU are Awesome and I think you should also be an actor!!!
Amazing coach and actor ❤
WOW!!!! Omygosh thank you 😊...I've got to set my own boundaries. Yes, thank you.
You got this!