Tips to everyone (to go with Crys tips): - Date yourself. - Learn to love yourself. - Learn how to be alone. - Find out what you like and don't like - Be forgiving of yourself and any mistakes that you make on your journey. - Learn how to identify red, orange, and green flags by your own standards and not that of others or the society at large
As a married man, I often say this and people think I’m being mean. Everyone isn’t meant to be married. The number of divorces and marriages solidify this stance. People can be great within or without marriage. Why put yourself through so much turmoil based on a societal pressure. Social media has made people think that there is no work involved in marriage, and when you put on “magical” rings you sail off in happiness in the sunset. It requires a ton of sacrifice and being selfless. Also, sometimes the trauma that some people experience is irreparable which rules them out of being able to be married. I’m sorry, but I just want people to be the best version of themselves.
I totally agree…I wanted to be married forever but sometimes it doesn’t work out and I can attest that divorce was like a death from my perspective. I am fine now and have no regrets.
I have to disagree with this. While I’m sure marriage does have its ups and downs, there are still mentally sound people in the world that would make for great successful marriages. I believe it’s a matter of choosing the right person instead of overlooking those red flags
Thank you for sharing sis❤. I remember when you’d taken a trip home (I think) and when you returned you didn’t vlog for a few weeks. Shortly there after you were moving out and you stopped mentioning your husband. My heart broke for you because I knew you were getting a divorce. That sounds crazy but sis I’m a few years older than you but I was watching you do exactly what I did when I was going through my divorce. I’ve watched you do the work over the last year, to heal and to discover your true self. Thank you for living and standing in your truth bravely not only as a woman, but as a woman of color. So many of us don’t believe that we are worthy that we are valuable that we deserve everything. Thankfully, I was able to learn those lessons after my divorce and I am so happy for you and for your continuous growth. Once again, thank you Miss Crystal Nicole❤❤❤
Sis, you said a word. We absolutely cannot live without from God. I always say im rocking with Jehovah because Jehovah’s rocking with me. Im proud of you.
Sis you are so speaking the truth, see I'm about to be 64 years old, and everything you are saying is on point, I'm so glad you are speaking on this and too this emotion, and I thank GOD I'm not that older person that feels I am too old and you can't tell me anything, I love learning from you and other young men and women you can still help even us older ladies, LOVE 💓, love, love you sis.
SO GOOD! ✅So well organized ✅So thorough ✅So edifying I am beyond proud of your grow but you conviction to give back to your community the wisdom you gained . Love you to the moon and back 💞
From the end of last year, I realize that I have extended myself too much, to my detriment. I continue to do so into this year. I felt so overwhelmed a few days ago that I just broke down. I praying for change. I don't want to do it alone, I am seeking the Lord. I will keep going no matter how many times I fail.
You spoke the truth when you said that God is the only thing that is consistent and we are responsible for our own happiness. It’s a struggle to get there but it’s doable.
I'm happy that you're talking about this. I knew you would, when you were ready, so I'm happy that you've gotten to a place where you are happy, at peace with the results, and are willing to share it with us. Cyber hug 🤗
OMG Crystal! You sound like me. I am currently in a breakup (separation) and I am doing the same thing. Forgiving myself was the hardest! I really took the time and asked myself " Why am I like this? Why did I make certain decisions? What shaped me to make these certain decisions? Got to the root of that ( which did stem from my childhood)letting that person go and discovering who I am and who I want to be. Studying and leaning in Jehovah's Love . I could go on and on but I am gonna stop here. Proud of you!!!
Loved this episode and all the gems your are dropping about growth...your growth journey has led you to where you are now and it shows...you are literally glowing from the inside out😍 ...I also loved the reminders about Jehovah being the only external source we can truly rely on ...so true...keep shining❤
I hear you...as long as our journey of self worth and validation dosent take us away from, make us compromise or its a justification to overlook God's laws and principles then that journey is worthwhile. Its the ignoring or dismissing of those laws and principles that lead us to make those regrettable mistakes in the first place. Wish you the best!
This information is so spot on! I especially agree with Crystal saying we are the first generation to try and change the narrative I'm 36 and didn't learn to love myself until about 28 by then I had been in two toxic relationships and dealt with DV I had children so it was a different process being I couldn't 100% focus on myself but I've learned those same principle of self love, happiness not depending on your partner etc. crystal definitely is dropping gems and I'm going to start using some of those tips to grow further... I am so glad you are sharing this part of your world with us. I'm here for it ❤❤❤❤❤❤ I wanted to provide and update on this comment at the time I wrote the top portion I was in an eight year relationship with someone I thought was my forever. I'm on day 5 of that relationship imploding. I have a lot more to learn (the learning never really stops does it?) I'm rewatching this now with new eyes it's painful but now it's really all about me and my children. ❤
Yeah I was bullied a good bit too in school and I swear that helped shaped the person I am today. I was NOT confident and didn't really speak up or speak my mind but I see a big difference in who I was then and who I am now and I'm just proud of me! I'm glad that you found yourself crystal! 🥰
Well hello Ms Crystal Nicole🙂 I'm a long time subscriber.. I'm happy to see your growth and maturity ...you glow from the inside and out. Life is about learning and growing..constantly!.. Keep up the good work on yourself and your channel🙏
You hit on everything I personally did after ending my relationship of 6 years I definitely dated myself loved on myself turned to god went to therapy learned myself worth identified my boundaries and nonnegotiable I also forgave myself and that all helped me grow heal and evolve into a better person and that helped me to attract healed and happy people to me that would no longer bring down my vibrations thank you for sharing
Great video. You spoke straight facts. ❤ I really resonated w when you talked about not relying on external factors to make you happy 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿 I love your outfit and makeup here, you're gorgeous!
I’m very proud of your accomplishments, your dedication to persevere. Your elevation is incredible, keep leveling up, your hard work is paying off. Always have and attitude of gradual, stay prayed up, and continue to do you.
You just inspired me to do my weight lifting today at home! I follow fitness with PJ for women over 40. I’m 53, you can recommend this to your beautiful Mother, if she’s able to exercise! PJ has soo many good exercises for women over 40, and for women of any age in my opinion!
Can you please talk about the hard truth of people leaving you over making healthy decisions and setting boundaries. People say they love you unconditionally and you start making moves to be better they not just take away their love but they act hateful. If you experienced that, what have you done to ignore or endure the hate from people you had a bond with at one time?
Sis this is exactly what I needed to hear! Thank you! I was in a similar situation but I need to stop holding things in like the pain tears etc! Thank you for sharing that it’s ok to cry! I can’t tell you how often I choke back the tears and hold them in! It’s no wonder that I’m still devastated! You’ve been very helpful! Can you please give some suggestions on Journals? I’d like to get a good one! Anyway I can see your growth. Jehovah is truly blessing you with peace of mind and heart. Please keep educating us. I love you little sis. 👍🏽😘❤
Happy for you and your new journey as Crystal Nicole. I pray God continues to heal you through these times. But I must say, I miss Benji 😢, I miss you too❤
She just want to re-introduce herself welcome the beautiful graces, intelligent, gorgeous Crystal Nicole Yes, I am here for it always been your day one
When I learned to sit with myself and be happy, God sent me my husband. I didn’t give up on love and I allowed God to work in and through me! My husband is God fearing and I couldn’t have asked for a better partner. ♥️🙌🏾
I was severely bullied as well 😢 those affirmations matter and also sometimes when we are a spiritual person, we make decisions based off others examples or what we think we are supposed to do but that’s not always what’s good for us..there is more than one way to live it doesn’t mean you’re a bad person cause you choose a different course. Also you don’t have to make mistakes to learn if you take the right course from the beginning but it doesn’t make us bad if we make mistakes it makes us human 😌 I also wish I had started therapy earlier it’s a miscarriage of justice in our community, religious and ethnic..we need therapy 🙌🏽 so many men and women that are religious need therapy 😢
Women and Men often times pick the wrong person to marry. Marriage involves communication, commitment, responsibility and accountability. WE have to do the work.
This has been amazing! Currently reading a self help book called Mrs. To Ms. by Stephanie Loide and it is helping me SOOOOOO MUCH! Definitely recommend to anyone going through a difficult situation. We are all healing 🙏🏾🥰
I remember when I first discovered her natural hair content she blessed her man with some LV sandals. He would be in her vlogs and she was wearing a ring and then there was no ring and no more him in the vlogs. She did right not explaining any of it because some things just aren't anyone's business, but I'm sure he probably was unfaithful and that's probably why she kicked him to the curb, in which she should have. Now that is all of what self worth is, not tolerating infidelity in a marriage, point blank period.
@@user-eb5wq3vi2jShe never said he was unfaithful. Watch the vlog about her Divorce Story. There aren't many specific details but it sounds more like she wanted more and they weren't on the same page as far as growth and what she wanted for her future.
Raise as a JW I completely understand that that God‘s love in Jesus Christ sacrifice is the only thing that’s consistent in life, and I love being alone. Yes, I have a six year old that fills my life completely. He always add to my life but it can’t be Until I have God’s love in my life that’s the only thing that gets me up every morning just to thank him for getting me through another day of life
I started watching you when I started doing twist on my natural hair, maybe about 2 years ago (I think) under your other name, curly cue I think) sorry I can’t remember the name, but, I know it hair curly in it.
I disagree, this generation is following in the footsteps of others who showed me examples of self worth! Maybe not everyone in the past generations, but definitely some people from my past showed me examples of self worth!
Do a red table. But do it the RIGHT way. How about you have HIM on a short video. And show people you can divorce peacefully. Let’s hear how he feels. 😐
Umm that’s the “right” to YOU not her. If this was your platform and your divorce story then it would the right way FOR YOU. You don’t know her or how her marriage was. If you never been in this situation then you have no room to speak on how someone decides to tell THEIR story.
I just like you Crystal and watch your videos because you’re funny and don’t take yourself too serious. But this is the BEST vlog I’ve seen on your channel. Good job!
Girl this is SOOOO good! I went through a self discovery journey(still going through it) after losing my boyfriend in 2021. I went through the worst time of my life, my darkest time. I learned through that experience that God is my source. You so hit the nail on the head with that point. I realized that I had put other people in His place and when I lost my boyfriend, I felt helpless, hopeless and everything in between. I had to learn to put no one before Him. I had to figure me out again. Learn what makes me happy. I put my all into becoming the woman I saw myself being. It has been hard but the journey has been so worth it. This video was amazing. I pray other young women find this and with your tips, gain understanding for loving themselves. It’s a beautiful thing. 🫶🏽
Tips to everyone (to go with Crys tips): - Date yourself.
- Learn to love yourself.
- Learn how to be alone.
- Find out what you like and don't like
- Be forgiving of yourself and any mistakes that you make on your journey.
- Learn how to identify red, orange, and green flags by your own standards and not that of others or the society at large
LOVE these...especially date yourself❤❤❤
Thanks for the reminder
As a married man, I often say this and people think I’m being mean. Everyone isn’t meant to be married. The number of divorces and marriages solidify this stance. People can be great within or without marriage. Why put yourself through so much turmoil based on a societal pressure. Social media has made people think that there is no work involved in marriage, and when you put on “magical” rings you sail off in happiness in the sunset. It requires a ton of sacrifice and being selfless. Also, sometimes the trauma that some people experience is irreparable which rules them out of being able to be married. I’m sorry, but I just want people to be the best version of themselves.
Makes so much sense!
Very true and fair statement ❤
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I totally agree…I wanted to be married forever but sometimes it doesn’t work out and I can attest that divorce was like a death from my perspective. I am fine now and have no regrets.
I have to disagree with this. While I’m sure marriage does have its ups and downs, there are still mentally sound people in the world that would make for great successful marriages. I believe it’s a matter of choosing the right person instead of overlooking those red flags
Thank you for sharing sis❤. I remember when you’d taken a trip home (I think) and when you returned you didn’t vlog for a few weeks. Shortly there after you were moving out and you stopped mentioning your husband. My heart broke for you because I knew you were getting a divorce. That sounds crazy but sis I’m a few years older than you but I was watching you do exactly what I did when I was going through my divorce. I’ve watched you do the work over the last year, to heal and to discover your true self. Thank you for living and standing in your truth bravely not only as a woman, but as a woman of color. So many of us don’t believe that we are worthy that we are valuable that we deserve everything. Thankfully, I was able to learn those lessons after my divorce and I am so happy for you and for your continuous growth. Once again, thank you Miss Crystal Nicole❤❤❤
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Well it's pretty obvious when there's a dramatic shift & no word of anything
Sis, you said a word. We absolutely cannot live without from God. I always say im rocking with Jehovah because Jehovah’s rocking with me. Im proud of you.
Sis you are so speaking the truth, see I'm about to be 64 years old, and everything you are saying is on point, I'm so glad you are speaking on this and too this emotion, and I thank GOD I'm not that older person that feels I am too old and you can't tell me anything, I love learning from you and other young men and women you can still help even us older ladies, LOVE 💓, love, love you sis.
SO GOOD!
✅So well organized
✅So thorough
✅So edifying
I am beyond proud of your grow but you conviction to give back to your community the wisdom you gained .
Love you to the moon and back 💞
Thank you so much best 💕 love youuu🥹
From the end of last year, I realize that I have extended myself too much, to my detriment. I continue to do so into this year. I felt so overwhelmed a few days ago that I just broke down. I praying for change. I don't want to do it alone, I am seeking the Lord. I will keep going no matter how many times I fail.
The Lord will keep you hun…praying for ur strength ❤❤
@valencia9981 God is able he won’t leave you or forsake you just keep holding on 🙏🏾
You spoke the truth when you said that God is the only thing that is consistent and we are responsible for our own happiness. It’s a struggle to get there but it’s doable.
I'm happy that you're talking about this. I knew you would, when you were ready, so I'm happy that you've gotten to a place where you are happy, at peace with the results, and are willing to share it with us. Cyber hug 🤗
Love that you used God’s name…Jehovah is the only consistent thing in this system…I felt that!!! ❤❤❤❤
So true and 💯 in agreement. Jehovah's love is all we NEED!.. thanks sis❤
OMG Crystal! You sound like me. I am currently in a breakup (separation) and I am doing the same thing. Forgiving myself was the hardest! I really took the time and asked myself " Why am I like this? Why did I make certain decisions? What shaped me to make these certain decisions? Got to the root of that ( which did stem from my childhood)letting that person go and discovering who I am and who I want to be. Studying and leaning in Jehovah's Love . I could go on and on but I am gonna stop here. Proud of you!!!
Loved this episode and all the gems your are dropping about growth...your growth journey has led you to where you are now and it shows...you are literally glowing from the inside out😍 ...I also loved the reminders about Jehovah being the only external source we can truly rely on ...so true...keep shining❤
I hear you...as long as our journey of self worth and validation dosent take us away from, make us compromise or its a justification to overlook God's laws and principles then that journey is worthwhile. Its the ignoring or dismissing of those laws and principles that lead us to make those regrettable mistakes in the first place. Wish you the best!
This information is so spot on! I especially agree with Crystal saying we are the first generation to try and change the narrative I'm 36 and didn't learn to love myself until about 28 by then I had been in two toxic relationships and dealt with DV I had children so it was a different process being I couldn't 100% focus on myself but I've learned those same principle of self love, happiness not depending on your partner etc. crystal definitely is dropping gems and I'm going to start using some of those tips to grow further...
I am so glad you are sharing this part of your world with us. I'm here for it ❤❤❤❤❤❤
I wanted to provide and update on this comment at the time I wrote the top portion I was in an eight year relationship with someone I thought was my forever. I'm on day 5 of that relationship imploding. I have a lot more to learn (the learning never really stops does it?) I'm rewatching this now with new eyes it's painful but now it's really all about me and my children. ❤
Yeah I was bullied a good bit too in school and I swear that helped shaped the person I am today. I was NOT confident and didn't really speak up or speak my mind but I see a big difference in who I was then and who I am now and I'm just proud of me! I'm glad that you found yourself crystal! 🥰
You are a beautiful person inside and out. Just keep doing what your doing. Be very careful.
Well hello Ms Crystal Nicole🙂
I'm a long time subscriber..
I'm happy to see your growth and maturity ...you glow from the inside and out.
Life is about learning and growing..constantly!..
Keep up the good work on yourself and your channel🙏
You hit on everything I personally did after ending my relationship of 6 years I definitely dated myself loved on myself turned to god went to therapy learned myself worth identified my boundaries and nonnegotiable I also forgave myself and that all helped me grow heal and evolve into a better person and that helped me to attract healed and happy people to me that would no longer bring down my vibrations thank you for sharing
Great video. You spoke straight facts. ❤ I really resonated w when you talked about not relying on external factors to make you happy 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿
I love your outfit and makeup here, you're gorgeous!
Great serie and your top,/ makeup are absolutely beautiful ❤
Your inner glow is definitely shining through! So happy for you as you navigate life after difficult times ❤
You look amazing! Very pretty.
I’m very proud of your accomplishments, your dedication to persevere. Your elevation is incredible, keep leveling up, your hard work is paying off. Always have and attitude of gradual, stay prayed up, and continue to do you.
Forgiving yourself after a divorce; I definitely UNDERSTAND this.
I am still working on it now.
I grew up the same way so I am struggling.
You just inspired me to do my weight lifting today at home!
I follow fitness with PJ for women over 40. I’m 53, you can recommend this to your beautiful Mother, if she’s able to exercise! PJ has soo many good exercises for women over 40, and for women of any age in my opinion!
Glad that you are now sharing your experience with us.
you are glowing sis!
greetings from colombia!
Can you please talk about the hard truth of people leaving you over making healthy decisions and setting boundaries. People say they love you unconditionally and you start making moves to be better they not just take away their love but they act hateful. If you experienced that, what have you done to ignore or endure the hate from people you had a bond with at one time?
Sis this is exactly what I needed to hear! Thank you! I was in a similar situation but I need to stop holding things in like the pain tears etc! Thank you for sharing that it’s ok to cry! I can’t tell you how often I choke back the tears and hold them in! It’s no wonder that I’m still devastated! You’ve been very helpful! Can you please give some suggestions on Journals? I’d like to get a good one!
Anyway I can see your growth. Jehovah is truly blessing you with peace of mind and heart. Please keep educating us. I love you little sis. 👍🏽😘❤
Happy for you and your new journey as Crystal Nicole. I pray God continues to heal you through these times. But I must say, I miss Benji 😢, I miss you too❤
Hey Sis 🙋🏾♀️🙋🏾♀️🙋🏾♀️🙋🏾♀️🙋🏾♀️ I hope you are doing well. I know you look goodt so that's always a plus.
Congratulations! Great vlog!!❤❤❤❤❤
She just want to re-introduce herself welcome the beautiful graces, intelligent, gorgeous Crystal Nicole
Yes, I am here for it always been your day one
Blessing to you on this new journey Crystal Nicole ❤
I love you Sis!!
When I learned to sit with myself and be happy, God sent me my husband. I didn’t give up on love and I allowed God to work in and through me! My husband is God fearing and I couldn’t have asked for a better partner. ♥️🙌🏾
Needed thisss.
Congrats ❤️
This video was meant for me!
Thank you for sharing ❤ you are looking so beautiful!
I remember when people said you were married but I never saw you with anyone. Makes sense
All I can say Ms Crystal Nicole as I was driving in to work All I Ikeep saying was yep yep yep and more yep much ❤
I was severely bullied as well 😢 those affirmations matter and also sometimes when we are a spiritual person, we make decisions based off others examples or what we think we are supposed to do but that’s not always what’s good for us..there is more than one way to live it doesn’t mean you’re a bad person cause you choose a different course. Also you don’t have to make mistakes to learn if you take the right course from the beginning but it doesn’t make us bad if we make mistakes it makes us human 😌 I also wish I had started therapy earlier it’s a miscarriage of justice in our community, religious and ethnic..we need therapy 🙌🏽 so many men and women that are religious need therapy 😢
Women and Men often times pick the wrong person to marry. Marriage involves communication, commitment, responsibility and accountability. WE have to do the work.
This has been amazing! Currently reading a self help book called Mrs. To Ms. by Stephanie Loide and it is helping me SOOOOOO MUCH! Definitely recommend to anyone going through a difficult situation. We are all healing 🙏🏾🥰
You look amazing!!!
Thanks for sharing ❤
What camera do you use?
love your content. Keep up the good work sis!!
Wow I never looked at it like strings on a puppet that makes so much sense
Started following you during the pandemic. With all these new hair care products, will you occasionally go back to hair styling tutorials?
Love You!❤
Love you💜
Where is your top and necklaces from?
Hello sis !! Can I get your lips combo? You look stunning 😍
I had no idea you were even married…and I’m slightly confused but trying to understand
I remember when I first discovered her natural hair content she blessed her man with some LV sandals. He would be in her vlogs and she was wearing a ring and then there was no ring and no more him in the vlogs. She did right not explaining any of it because some things just aren't anyone's business, but I'm sure he probably was unfaithful and that's probably why she kicked him to the curb, in which she should have. Now that is all of what self worth is, not tolerating infidelity in a marriage, point blank period.
@@user-eb5wq3vi2jShe never said he was unfaithful. Watch the vlog about her Divorce Story. There aren't many specific details but it sounds more like she wanted more and they weren't on the same page as far as growth and what she wanted for her future.
Raise as a JW I completely understand that that God‘s love in Jesus Christ sacrifice is the only thing that’s consistent in life, and I love being alone. Yes, I have a six year old that fills my life completely. He always add to my life but it can’t be Until I have God’s love in my life that’s the only thing that gets me up every morning just to thank him for getting me through another day of life
Congratulations beautiful im so proud of u keep get your blessings 🙏🏽😘❤️💋🫂
Amen Crystal….. only God!
What’s the name of the self-help book?
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I started watching you when I started doing twist on my natural hair, maybe about 2 years ago (I think) under your other name, curly cue I think) sorry I can’t remember the name, but, I know it hair curly in it.
Jesus is the only "external factor" that we should be leaning on. He's loves us.
17:02 hey beautiful , 17:52 Gods love I love this for me.
I disagree, this generation is following in the footsteps of others who showed me examples of self worth!
Maybe not everyone in the past generations, but definitely some people from my past showed me examples of self worth!
Put God first next time
Now she’s reading from the script of a lifestyle scammer.
Do a red table. But do it the RIGHT way. How about you have HIM on a short video. And show people you can divorce peacefully. Let’s hear how he feels. 😐
Umm that’s the “right” to YOU not her. If this was your platform and your divorce story then it would the right way FOR YOU. You don’t know her or how her marriage was. If you never been in this situation then you have no room to speak on how someone decides to tell THEIR story.
I just like you Crystal and watch your videos because you’re funny and don’t take yourself too serious. But this is the BEST vlog I’ve seen on your channel. Good job!
Umm no.
I don’t give a damn how he feels. This is HER channel.
Girl this is SOOOO good! I went through a self discovery journey(still going through it) after losing my boyfriend in 2021. I went through the worst time of my life, my darkest time. I learned through that experience that God is my source. You so hit the nail on the head with that point. I realized that I had put other people in His place and when I lost my boyfriend, I felt helpless, hopeless and everything in between. I had to learn to put no one before Him. I had to figure me out again. Learn what makes me happy. I put my all into becoming the woman I saw myself being. It has been hard but the journey has been so worth it. This video was amazing. I pray other young women find this and with your tips, gain understanding for loving themselves. It’s a beautiful thing. 🫶🏽
This video was deep.🥹🙏🏽