The mindset that's changing my life
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"The problem is not the problem. The problem is your attitude about the problem."
- Captain Jack Sparrow
yes
He really said that in the movie? Nice
Yes, one of the most bestest super heros
Someone else reread the comment with jacks voice? 😂
he never even said this idk why this is a thing
The best way I've heard it phrased is: "You might have a good excuse... but you don't have to use it."
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Stealing this.
Damn thats a good one
@Turtle Riley Yes it does. It's saying there might be something in the way of something or something stopping you, but you don't have to let it. You can keep going, find other solutions and not give up.
I like that.
I really like the way you narrate! Keep up the goodwork!
Awwe look who's here !! ❤️
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OMG Psych2Go weeee
Omg hiiii! Speaking of narration - I’d love to narrate for your channel if given the chance
Imagine a collab vid between you guys. Would definitely watch
"why is everyone posting motivational quotes"
- Een paard
underrated comment lmaooo
They have depression .
Éen Paard*
Because the quotes hold wisdom, I enjoy reading them
Lol😂
every family has a person who breaks the chain of poverty. I hope you will be that person!
Yes I will , thank you I needed that reminder
@@superiorspider-man1720 You are the Superior, so don't worry about it!
@@SelfMadeWealth but i'm not poor
@@princeali417 well your lucky🤞
🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
"Whether you think you can, or you think you can't--you're right." - Henry Ford
This made my day. Thank you
@@SukhpreetSingh-pf2jd Glad that you're on the right side of that. I've met people who are sad when they hear that quote...which means they think they can't.
Damn. So simple but mindblowing lol
This is the 2nd time I am hearing this, this week.
this is a good one!
"Once you start adopting more of an internal locus of control, it will start to feel a lot less like life is happening to you, but it will start to feel more like life is happening due to you".
I needed to hear this, thanks a lot.
same
I read this comment exactly when he was saying that sentence!! 😁
This reminds me of Stoicism which talks about focusing on things which we can control and accept what we can't. Make best use of what's in our power. Do our best to succeed and also accept that outcome is out of control.
I practice this philosophy as well. Exactly
@@Gruso57 Very good 👍
That’s so true. I’ve been searching for good books on Stoicism lately, would you happen to know any you could recommend?
@@Gabriela-rp9mc Meditations by Marcus Aurelius is a good read :)
@@Gabriela-rp9mc You can start with the Daily Stoic it's a good book for beginners.
“Our default Should be to look at the cards we’re given and take full responsibility for how we play those cards.” 100% Agree. Love these videos!
Hi can any 1 tell the meaning of this
@@ganeshbhat8774 basically, we should be taught that our actions, reactions, thought patterns and perspective affect how the events in our life play out for us. We have all the power in our own hands because we have the ability to process what’s happening and choose how it effects us.
@@cydneegomez oh thank u understood now 😊
@@ganeshbhat8774 Nothing. Most of people in world are not going to have change in poverty, diseases or dictatorship by attitude change
he uses "We" more often than "You" , we're all in this together
What a Comrade!
@@toddharig8142 have a good one
@Maria Lindell Inte det minsta roligt >:(
@Maria Lindell Haha, nä. Det är ett pseudonym. Vet inte riktigt varför jag landade på "todd" eller "hårig" utöver att det är mina initialier menmen.. Here we are ^^
@Maria Lindell Du har gemonskådat mig :)
"When the world shoves you around, you just gotta stand up and shove back. It's not like somebody's gonna save you if you start babbling excuses." Eiichiro Oda, One Piece, a quote to live by.
Thank you for the quote...not putting my kids in this world for sure...
One Piece as in Anime ?
You killed 5 people
As an Asian male who feels victimized in romantic ways, this resonates hard. Thank you
Is it just me or has anyone else been feeling much happier these last few days?
Maybe your mood is influenced by the weather since its getting warmer and brighter outside
@@dominiquegoedhart9445 How do you know it’s not rainy where he lives tho? Haha
@@dominiquegoedhart9445 I dunno I mean it actually snowed here in Phoenix 😂
That’s crazy
@Ed fr that makes me happier
Gandalf knew this stuff (or Tolkien did lol): “I wish it need not have happened in my time,” said Frodo. “So do I,” said Gandalf, “and so do all who live to see such times. But that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.”
Literally read this a few days ago.
I am sure Tolkien laughed out loud at least once in his life... So that must mean Gandalf didn't know this stuff, which is clearly not true. Hence your statement is false.
Second time in as many days that I'm seeing this quote pop up ... I think the universe is sending me a message hehe
And this quote is so much more powerful by knowing all that Tolkien has been through, during World War 2
@@andreferrer9350 world war one even more so
How to Take Full Ownership:
1. Identify the problem
2. Set goals
3. Enjoy the flow
Good luck to y’all 💫🙏🏾
Thank you I to wish you the best brother.
dude I literally see you in almost every RUclipsr's comment sections that I watch 😂
I'd add another point between 2 and 3: Take consistent steps towards your goal. If it's hard, make it a habbit and I am sure it will become easier after a short while. Remember: long term consistency beats short term intensity.
You just skipped over the single most important step in this. Like set goals and that’s that? What about r e a l i z i n g them? Like take each necessary step needed to achieve your goals, which is the absolutely hardest part of all of this. That’s where 99% of the people fail
thank you, and you to!
In German we have a saying: "Jeder ist seines eigenen Glückes Schmied", meaning: "Every individual is it's own's luck blacksmith"...
*own luck’s blacksmith
Thanks for sharing, I really love this expression!
Dude, we have exactly the same expression in Russian
Человек- сам кузнец своего счастья.
Yooo we have the same meaning of an expression here in Spain: "Más vale goma en pene, que bebé el año que viene"
In Swedish it’s “du är din egen lyckas smed” 👍
1. What's the one thing you like most about Better Ideas?
2. What kind of videos would you like to see more on RUclips in the personal development space?
I'm doing a bit of research and I'd appreciate your help.
Thank you so much.
"Not only do you have the power to change your life; you're the only one who does". So straight foreward, yet so profoundly true, and i think people innately know this, but trick themselves out of it by, like you stated before, blaming the world and expecting someone to save them because they feel entitled or deserving. And wether you do deserve better, no one will change it but yourself. I wrote that quote down immediately. I just found your channel, and am finding inspiration from your videos. Powerful messages(especially the being miserable one lol) shamefully admit i fall into several of those pitfalls, but am intently focused on making a better life. Thanks for putting positive into the world.
In case no one has told you today, Keep pushing through the heartache, lack of motivation & self doubt. When you feel lost, that’s the perfect opportunity to find a reroute. There’s so much you’re meant to do in this lifetime, don’t give up on it. Hope our channel helps you on your journey ✌
“Persistent people are able to visualize the idea of light at the end of the tunnel when others can't see it” - Seth Godin.
Thank you
Visualisation + Patience + hardwork + humility = wanted outcomes
ive always been able to create strong visual images in my mind.... its something that thought everyone was good at, however i really dont think that is the case anymore.
Just stay focused and make sure the light at the end of the tunnel isn't a freight train coming your way.
Except when you have aphantasia...
"Personal Mastery creates Professional Capabilities" Everyone out there trying to master their mind, You got this! All change is hard at first, messy in the middle and gorgeous in the end.
Getting out of the victim mindset is freeing and empowering. It gives me hope that what I'm doing is actually going to propel me forward and that I'm the one in control.
"Last time I recall, I was using my mind, my mind was not using me! Our mind is a tool, use it, don't let it use you."
thanks
´Not only do you have the power to change your life - you´re the only one who does.´ Well said. Honestly. Nothing to add.
The writing and delivery--even down to the music editing--on the last part is so good.
Thank you for making this video, it brought me great insight into what my core problem might be. It made me understand why I function the way i do.
As someone who is brought up by a narcissistic parent I developed great extent of dependency on them . This dependent personality was fed deliberately through helicoptering & controlling.
The only thing I was handled control & ownership over is my academics, being an A+ student was a way to exercise power over something in my life, it was what identified me ..elevated me & my broken self-esteem in my overly critical patent eyes and everyone else's.
I built my only social circle & interactions through toxic competitiveness with my schoolmates!!
It was the only thing that gave me a sense of self & purpose maybe!
The only thing i was held responsible for & I couldn't fail. Until i failed.
I was brought up in an environment where I could only have an *external locus of control* that centered around my parents.
I was never taught how to fend for myself or hold responsibility - unless it's time for criticism, blame or guilt-tripping!
In my 2nd year of high school I fell into burn out depression, i was totally consumed & burnt-out from years of pressure, anxiety and OCD.
I tried to get through it but the depression settled in.
I'm now diagnosed with severe Major Depressive Disorder.
After I failed my academics i lost every bit of *internal locus of control* along with self respect..
Been cursing everything & everyone that got me to where I am right now. Including myself.
Angry at myself without understanding.
I fell down a rabbit hole of lamenting & dwelling.
It's been 10 years. Haven't achieved anything in my life.
Maybe i am a victim of my parents' upbringing, maybe alot was indeed out of my control.
But now i understand a little better.
Understanding is the first step to change , right?
Internal locus of control: I take action and know that my actions are all I can control
External locus of control: I depend on others’ approvals/actions for happiness
Great topic 👍🏽
My mom just died in December 2020 my dad March 2018. I feel like I'll be OK as an adult without them... But maaaaaan do I miss them both, especially mom, I really really miss her. I was with her, spoke to her etc every single day of my life, we were so close. But I know I'll be able to adult without her, though I won't have her support anymore 😢What I'll miss most is her just being there...
This moved me to tears. It’s so hard to lose parents so close together.
Sending love!
@@rebeccasperring1747 Thank you Rebecca, I really appreciate it. Mom's funeral is actually tomorrow, I'm preparing for it as I type this... I was on RUclips for a little distraction, what Better Ideas said about a good parent, resonated because yes absolutely they both phased themselves out from my day to day. But mom especially I would call my best friend, and I just miss her... Not really for anything she could do for me, I just miss her as a person... PS. I'm crying too, the tears show we care, and I'm glad even though we don't know each other you care enough to shed a tear. Thank you again, and take care of yourself
They are still with you. Inside you lives a part of them. Make them proud.
Hey Bud How do you do Hope you are doing well
Hey how are you doing?
This is one of my biggest fears.🥺
How do you find the courage to keep moving forward?
I really appreciated the way you phrased this video. Too often this topic becomes a 'pull yourself up by the bootstraps' rant but you talked about it in a really sensitive way, acknowledging that people's struggles are valid but also that you have the option to make a difference in your life if you focus on what you can control. Thanks!
Wish this video was like half an hour long. I loved this entire message. Definitely consider doing a deep dive on this one, I think the world needs it now more than ever.
This is so spot on. Working to create an inner world that is chill, confident, and just peaceful and choosing (every day when I wake up) to operate/interact from there has given me so much clarity.
That's awesome!
I like the fact that this has nothing to do with a motivational speech but rather an objective analysis of behaviors we tend to develop
you got me in the first minute. literally since i was a kid i followed the people who i feel like just had it and wanted their confidence
True: you're probably able to work your way out of a bad situation and the only person who can. Also true: most times you will fail, even if you put in an insane amount of effort. The "power to change your life", then, is the willpower to start the process again and again, knowing that if the next outcome is a new failure, it will feel even more bitter. And you will have slid back somewhat in the time interval between a failure and the moment when you've gathered enough willpower to start all over again. Realistically, I think there's only so many attempts that people will find the strength for until they give up. This is why I think motivation and pulling yourself by the bootstraps only go so far. At some point, the unluckiest people either have to be cared for structurally by the rest of society (return to the external locus of control) or just abandon their current life altogether to try out a different mode of existence in another environment (kind of taboo as it's scary and not in the society's interest).
Literally everyone:
Write this down, write this down!
I STRONGLY DISAGREE! Being as famous as I am on RUclips, I know that it gets hard to read every comment I get. I try my best, but I am just so famous, that I can't do it much longer. Sorry, dear will
@@AxxLAfriku lol nice try tho
SAME
No one
Me: hey I need to change my mindset.
Better Ideas:
In a very low week and needed this thank you, subbed
"Your efforts are not in vain.."
Needed to hear that today. Thank you 🙏
100% this. It’s a shame that the people who need this message the most are going to feel attacked by this video.
Ain't that the truth :(
Being honest with yourself can be extremely hard, but it is a prerequisite to start to change. Lies breeds mediocrity.
Thanks uncle Joey for the insights
what is the message?
@@danurkresnamurti3598 don't be a victim. You have the power to change what you don't like but not if you continually blame everything else but your reactions/actions.
@@katrinap9448 thankyou. god bless you
Couldn’t agree more, the locus of control is so important, change your perception, change your life!
Loved this video! I’ve recently reached the same conclusions. As someone who came from an unstable family, I can tell anyone it is possible to overcome any obstacles and outgrow that “helpless” feeling. It is challenging and it’s a long run, but you can totally do this. And videos like this can give you a push to go for it. You got this🙌🏼
Not falling on traps like Procrastination, Overthinking, Negativity really helps me a lot.
I loved the 'ego' video, because subconsciously I was harbouring ego in the fact that I would do good in college since I thought I know everything. But after watching that video I realized how little I know and how much I have to learn. And now I have started doing better.
I love the "free yourself from the notifications" speech, it made me hit the bell
JK i already got the notifications
Again Wow!! The messages you have taught between this video and the video on confort zones are amazing. They truly have pulled me out of a feeling of depression I couldn't explain. Many thanks
That last part tripped me out hahaha great video man! Great message
“ Life is happening due to you “ hard, but true..
Read a quote yesterday that goes along with this mindset: "All that you seek is already within you"
I get so excited each time I see a new video from you and seeing how much you’ve grown. I remember finding your “how to read more” video when starting out uni and digesting your content. Now I’m graduating and you’ve reached over a million subscribers with hundreds and thousands of views in minutes from uploading. You’re on fire Joey!! Keep up the great work !
I really needed this right now. I watched it over twice. Thank you
I loved how you used clips from The Tree of Life for your video. That movie is like a holy ancient text haha, it has so many deep lessons.
This video really helped me. I've been contemplating this powerless thought for the past while, as in, the world is every man or woman for himself it seems like. So, this helped me feel like I was impowered.
Also, he makes me believe there are educated, thoughtful, handsome Canadians out there whom I will be able to meet once this thing is over. You know, get my single butt on a date after sitting in my room for the past year doing work out videos. There is hope, and I can do what I can with the cards I'm given.
this is so powerful, thanks man, covid did make it VERY hard for me to see the good in anything or that I could still live my life in a certain way, I was beaten down so much right away, the first day of lockdowns I had basically resigned to trying at all anymore, but after a while you start to get used to the way it is, and think ok, I can either talk about how much this sucks, when the truth is it will never change, or at least not for a long time, or I can start to take actions to make things better when I do come out of this, and I have, it hasnt been easy, and I certainly would NOT blame anyone for being that way about everything, it took everything I had not to give up, but I've started going to the gym, and mapping out the rest of my life, and it feels damn good to have some control again, everyone needs to pay attention to this, unless you want to be lost forever
This is great, I needed to hear it. Thank you!
This change in attitude is really something which brought me further to reach my goals. Which, fun fact, until right now I didn't even realize that my mindset changed so much over the last year 😅
love that 'father you never had' joke really balanced out the seriousness
I came across your videos recently. Great content. And I also love jazz piano improv so even more respect 🙌
Beautifully-said/written. This hits close to the heart and mind.
“NO ONE IS COMING TO SAVE YOU” RG
Thank you, you perfectly described this exact feeling I've had lately. I'm constantly stessed because of my boss, I find myself complaining to my co-workers and I was getting annoyed by my own self so I can only imagine how they feel. Anyways I took it to mean I have stop blaming the way I feel on others, sure she adds to it but it's obviously much deeper than just some person in my life.
I love the way you arrange your thoughts in your video!
Great thoughts and beautifully put together! 🙏🏼
I'm making an effort to watch the news less, because I want to focus less on things outside my control and, instead, direct my attention towards the things I can control that will make a real difference in my life.
I started doing this a year ago and it’s been one of my best decisions ever. I came to realize a lot of stuff on the news that seems like something that matters to use very rarely does. I hope you see the same benefits.
well said! and thank you
Yep. I stopped watching the news 2 years ago and I've never felt better.
If there’s anything important in the news, you’ll eventually get the news, so don’t even bother watching channels and stuff..most of the news are just foolish statements made by politicians which hold no meaning..just focus on the things you gotta do and have fun!
BRO!!!! I now understand why my dad is telling me to not stay updated to news all the time because I will be unhappy. THIS WAS IT!
The Locus of control is an interesting concept. Sometimes that “taken care of” could be absent upon growth until later on in life.
Thus, resulting in an almost endless cycle of playing catch up. Having the power to change your trajectory is difficult to implement nevertheless breaking the bad habits that correlate. Thank you for the video.
I've never been after the sponsoring part. I love the final, it feels so personal... Thank you sir, you are changing lives!
This is amazing - it puts into words something I've been desperately trying to communicate to my sister for a long long time. The music and editing is awesome too. A big thanks for this one.
I really agree with what youre saying. though i feel that having both an internal and external locus of control at a properly balanced level is even better. While it's good to be proactive about things and not hide behind a wall of helplessness, there is some good in believing that some times things are just out of your control. Having too much of an internal locus of control can be overwhelming at times of great decisions, it could feel like your life is hanging on every moment. That could lead to perfectionism. That's why I believe balance is key in all things in life
And external locus of control is of no benefit to anyone. The reality is that bad things happen.
I love the reminder that I have the power to choose what I want my life to be, I can choose to be the person who wakes up early and goes for a run, nothing is stopping me. I needed this today :)
Definitely needed this
One of my favorites thus far. Thank you.
I think I have developed that helplessness since the pandemic started. And thus I have made my life very difficult to live. Though I knew these concepts, but thank you for bringing these to my attention and making me more aware.
there is one thing that made feel hopeless,it is school. like how bad the education is how litle benefits it has and how such numbers will determine my futur.
Youre always on point man
I enjoy the comments as much as I enjoy the video. It's so cool to see people quote their favorite parts of your video and explain what it means to them. Love these videos!!
At some point I fell into a major depression on and of everyday for a decade. I realized that my brain was controlling me. Completely living off of impulses and at some point having negative thoughts about myself constantly. I even started hearing other people talk about me clear as day to look over and see no one was speaking. Mental health is real , free yourself from your brain. A great song to listen to is YOUNG RISING SONS HAPPY. Blessings
Everything is figureoutable!
Man I went into this skeptical but you really shined clarity on a highly nuanced topic. Hat tip to you.
Thank you brother for this video. Spot on !!!
The first habit of "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People"
This is one reason why it’s so dangerous to tell an entire group/race of people the system is rigged against them and there is no point in even trying. Even if it IS rigged against them... they’ll do a lot better without internalizing that thought.
Oh yeah, let's just positive-think the systemic racism away lmao. "They" would do much better if "they" didn't realize the system is rigged against "them"? You realize how this all sounds, right?
Awful take that invalidates centuries of systemic racism
@@CorruptPianist the term is completly grammaticlly correct to the context, theres no deep meaning to the "they" aspect, he's talking about a group of people that dopesnt entale him, so he cant use "we". "they" is a group of multiple people.
Yup. I tell my slaves this all the time. Stop internalizing things and be more like Chicken George. Learn to fiddle dammit and stop whining
I don’t think the entire group is being told the system is rigged. Who and how would be telling said group and doing so, so effectively?
I needed this right now
Man i don't know if you'll ever realize how powerful your work is. Your words are eye-opening. Massive appreciation keep up the good work !!
"There is no greater feeling than success. It is the ultimate culmination of all of our efforts. With vindication and affirmation giving way to elation and joy."
The mind controls everything so a good mindset seems important.
thank you for your work! i needed that badly!!!!
This actually makes me feel so much better thank you
This pandemic has been a blessing for me. It allowed me to focus on many new things. My home looks better than it ever has. I finally have no more excuse to not pick up on-line dating. I've been able to work on myself a lot (like figuring out that making a plan for each day and evaluate at the end of it works really well for me). I hope that y'all are able to see the good that this time has to offer.
"Life is not about the events that happen to a person, but rather it is the person that happens to the events."
-Dane Rudhyar
I absolutely love your narration style! Keep up the fantastic work!
Great message man!! Thanks!!!
"Probably not the best use of my money but I couldn't resist' I felt that lol.
"They put themselves in a hole they can't get out of, they can't see the opportunities around them, they have a negative attitude and they seem perpetually stuck" sir i have clinical depression
Dude, what about people who dont put themselves into a hole, but rather are put into a hole by someone else? Doesnt sound as fair to just expect them to climb out on their own and just try hard as they are being pushed deeper (into debt, joblessness, depression, etc).
@@nicoslavia1 Who put you in a hole?
@@nicoslavia1 It might not be fair, but why would you not try as hard as you can to climb out? Whatever circumstance you're in, somebody in a worse circumstance has found their way out. Even if your situation is futile, trying is still better than giving up.
@@nicoslavia1 it's completely not fair, and that's not really the point of this video. If you're in that situation it sucks and it's horrible, but the only way forward as an individual is to focus on the things you do have control over and work on them (and in the process it's totally fine to grieve the shitty things that happened to you)
Get some 20 lb dumbbells and learn to exercise
Thank you for making this!
Thank you for sharing this
This video is kinda tackling the “nature vs. nurture” concept. It’s never one or the other, but a combination of both! Great video, you definitely exhibit a strong locus of control 👌
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Once we figure out that it is a combination of the two, we'll move forward better.
"The tree of life" was the only movie that I ever saw people walking out of the theater before it was over.
@Imran Because there is such a thing as too cerebral.
I just discovered this channel and it is amazing. Thank you! I needed this!
You’re content is so wise and sounds so right, thank you for that 🙏🏻
I needed this. If there’s one self help RUclipsr I had to pick, it would be you. Continue keeping it real
Good stuff, but whenever this kind of "personal responsibility" advice is given, you see it used in a way that implies that "those people" should take personal responsibility. It's great advice if you use it for yourself, but it's not a great way of understanding others. For myself, I try to have an internal locus of control. For others, I try to apply this: "Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind. Always."
Yeah I was thinking the same thing too. or else its like we put so much pressure on others, not feel that empathy for them, and our expectations for people rise which isn't fair to do since we can't control others and they have there own life how they want to do things. I love what you said, be kind always, and people will see that in us too and naturally cause a positive impact in their life. Thanks for sharing that thought.
Thanks for making all these videos Joy they're all amazing, you are a wise man who seems to always get things figured out. keep up the good work I'm rooting for you
Needed this right now. Thank you 🙏🏻