Very interesting. Thank you. My mother never gave my brother or myself a pacifier. When my brother and his wife had kids, none of them were giving a pacifier. I wasn't planning to give my own baby a pacifier unless I came across a different recommendation here.
In my personal opinion, no pacifier is better! Anytime you introduce something external, it’s just another factor to juggle. But many parents find them useful so I just tried to gather the research I could find so you can make your own choice.
Thank you for this. I didn't use a pacifier and breastfed and also expressed for my first born from birth. My second born is 3 weeks 6 days and has really bad gripping pain. I just bought one, as well as gripe water which I can only use tomorrow. I hope to use it to soothe her. If I must. Thank you for this!
Be prepared to advocate for your baby and yourself regardless of how "baby friendly" a hospital claims to be. I made sure mine was (or said they were). They even had "baby friendly" posters everywhere with tips and guidelines they claimed to follow. Not long into our stay, I was nearly ripping them off the wall. I was denied skin-to-skin, he was kept away from me and I was not allowed to start BF for a length of time that later staff was appalled and baffled by and the same nurse who was responsible for those things and supposed to be caring for him gave a pacifier without permission (before even letting my put him to the breast) to make him stop crying. We quickly discovered why he was crying... she was ignoring his soiled diaper and just kept forcing the pacifier instead of checking basic needs. Also I was pumping immediately once I was conscious (with no direction from staff... my partner had to help figure it out) and then discovered he wasn't being fed the colostrum and it was just being left on the counter, not even refrigerated, and tossed. Baby friendly my butt. They promised help from an LC as well. That lasted about 5min, max, and consisted.only.of information I already knew and shrugs when I answered questions. I'm sure most are great, but don't assume it just because they say the words "baby friendly".
Super interesting! We used a pacifier with our daughter, weirdly enough it is actually what make breast feeding work. She would NOT latch for the life of me, but she would onto her pacifier, so I could use her pacifier to get her interested by rubbing it on or around her mouth and then quickly put my nipple in its place. we only had to do that for the first 3-ish weeks. I was adamant that if she wanted something to soothe with that we give her a pacifier because my husbands sister sucked her thumb and had to have a TON orthodontic work done and even 4 years later, at 17 she unconsciously sucks her thumb in her sleep or when laying on the couch browsing on her phone. I thought if I had to break my daughter of a habit I could throw away the pacifiers, but I mean, what was I supposed to do if it was her thumb? It just seemed easier. My daughter quit using the pacifier by the time she was 8 or 9 months old, on her own. she still sleeps with a few, one free standing, a wubanub, and one attached to another plush and she will hold one or more at night, but wont suck on them. I got lucky there! I had planed on returning to work after 12 weeks, so it was helpful that she had something besides my boob to make her happy. Convenience, freedom, and being able to soothe her, and then being able to give myself some peace of mind, it was all around the right decision for us. We will be trying one with #2 in December as well. I agree though that its a personal choice, my hospital is a baby friendly hospital, and I loved them, but I didn't love the shaming from family, the nurses, my doctor, and random people for giving my daughter one.
Hi Allison. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on pacifiers. My firstborn likes to suck her thumb for comfort, specially when she wants to sleep. Do you think that in such case it would be advisable to give pacifier or is there another solution to prevent her from sucking her thumb? Thanks in advance.
@@davoncci Thank you David. I'll give it a try. Some people use a kind of nail polish, but I heard that it's specifically for nail biting problems. A friend told me she used to put tape on the finger tips.
I would love a video on bottles for pumping moms. My boys refused the bottle after we tried when i went back to work. I had all this milk stashed and he wouldn't take it. I know other moms have had similar experiences and have difficulty working through it.
My baby wouldn’t take a bottle until I rubbed the nipple on my wrist... I... don’t know why it but it worked, I figured maybe if it smelled like me or was warmer?
I know I may be late responding to you but my son wouldn’t take a bottle until we ordered the nenobebe bottles and that’s what he uses with no problems
To me I feel like a lot of people use a pacifier but as a result their baby ends up eating less because they are sucking on a pacifier. I have two babies under two and neither of them ever used a pacifier on a regular basis.. we do have some around the house but mainly I’d see my 19 month old running around chewing on it because she is teething but she does not seek it out everyday or even weekly I don’t see them often they are in the toy box for now.
Is it also ok not to use pacifier at all? I never use one for my first born. Currently on my 33 weeks and i plan not to use any pacifier also for baby #2.
Old comment but just want to throw it out there. I've had 5 kids and some how none of them have wanted it. So I always give up trying to make them take one.
I am breastfeeding and my baby is 2 month old now ...now I want him to use pacifier but he don't want to take it ....and also I don't think he need it ...but whenever he is in car seat he start crying...this is the reason I want him to take pacifier.....what is your suggestion on this please?
I’m having this same issue with my two month old . He takes the pacifier once in a while but in the car he screams at the top of his lungs so our car rides can’t be long for this reason..
Since 2 month and now going 4 months im still struggling on getting my baby to use paci... in the car, she is fine but at the doc's, oooooh different story so yes I am so looking for the right paci...any advice?
I think the research can help us see the risks vs benefits and help you make a decision whether the good outweighs the bad in your individual situation. It’s true there is no clear answer, so we just make the best decision we can with the information we have.
Very interesting. Thank you. My mother never gave my brother or myself a pacifier. When my brother and his wife had kids, none of them were giving a pacifier. I wasn't planning to give my own baby a pacifier unless I came across a different recommendation here.
In my personal opinion, no pacifier is better! Anytime you introduce something external, it’s just another factor to juggle. But many parents find them useful so I just tried to gather the research I could find so you can make your own choice.
@@NewLittleLife Thank you so much... for all of your videos. :)
Thank you for this. I didn't use a pacifier and breastfed and also expressed for my first born from birth. My second born is 3 weeks 6 days and has really bad gripping pain. I just bought one, as well as gripe water which I can only use tomorrow. I hope to use it to soothe her. If I must. Thank you for this!
Be prepared to advocate for your baby and yourself regardless of how "baby friendly" a hospital claims to be. I made sure mine was (or said they were). They even had "baby friendly" posters everywhere with tips and guidelines they claimed to follow. Not long into our stay, I was nearly ripping them off the wall. I was denied skin-to-skin, he was kept away from me and I was not allowed to start BF for a length of time that later staff was appalled and baffled by and the same nurse who was responsible for those things and supposed to be caring for him gave a pacifier without permission (before even letting my put him to the breast) to make him stop crying. We quickly discovered why he was crying... she was ignoring his soiled diaper and just kept forcing the pacifier instead of checking basic needs. Also I was pumping immediately once I was conscious (with no direction from staff... my partner had to help figure it out) and then discovered he wasn't being fed the colostrum and it was just being left on the counter, not even refrigerated, and tossed. Baby friendly my butt. They promised help from an LC as well. That lasted about 5min, max, and consisted.only.of information I already knew and shrugs when I answered questions.
I'm sure most are great, but don't assume it just because they say the words "baby friendly".
I'm so sorry you had experience like this. Sounds horrible.
I’d like to try to birth at home for my third baby and hire a doula or someone specialized in birth at home!
Super interesting! We used a pacifier with our daughter, weirdly enough it is actually what make breast feeding work. She would NOT latch for the life of me, but she would onto her pacifier, so I could use her pacifier to get her interested by rubbing it on or around her mouth and then quickly put my nipple in its place. we only had to do that for the first 3-ish weeks. I was adamant that if she wanted something to soothe with that we give her a pacifier because my husbands sister sucked her thumb and had to have a TON orthodontic work done and even 4 years later, at 17 she unconsciously sucks her thumb in her sleep or when laying on the couch browsing on her phone. I thought if I had to break my daughter of a habit I could throw away the pacifiers, but I mean, what was I supposed to do if it was her thumb? It just seemed easier. My daughter quit using the pacifier by the time she was 8 or 9 months old, on her own. she still sleeps with a few, one free standing, a wubanub, and one attached to another plush and she will hold one or more at night, but wont suck on them. I got lucky there! I had planed on returning to work after 12 weeks, so it was helpful that she had something besides my boob to make her happy. Convenience, freedom, and being able to soothe her, and then being able to give myself some peace of mind, it was all around the right decision for us. We will be trying one with #2 in December as well. I agree though that its a personal choice, my hospital is a baby friendly hospital, and I loved them, but I didn't love the shaming from family, the nurses, my doctor, and random people for giving my daughter one.
Thanks so much for sharing your story! 💕
Hi Allison. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on pacifiers. My firstborn likes to suck her thumb for comfort, specially when she wants to sleep. Do you think that in such case it would be advisable to give pacifier or is there another solution to prevent her from sucking her thumb? Thanks in advance.
We personally use a mitten. It definitely prevents our daughter from sucking her thumb. So, what other or better options do you recommend?
@@davoncci Thank you David. I'll give it a try.
Some people use a kind of nail polish, but I heard that it's specifically for nail biting problems. A friend told me she used to put tape on the finger tips.
I would love a video on bottles for pumping moms. My boys refused the bottle after we tried when i went back to work. I had all this milk stashed and he wouldn't take it. I know other moms have had similar experiences and have difficulty working through it.
My baby wouldn’t take a bottle until I rubbed the nipple on my wrist... I... don’t know why it but it worked, I figured maybe if it smelled like me or was warmer?
@@nicholasdignan1407 great idea!!
I know I may be late responding to you but my son wouldn’t take a bottle until we ordered the nenobebe bottles and that’s what he uses with no problems
To me I feel like a lot of people use a pacifier but as a result their baby ends up eating less because they are sucking on a pacifier. I have two babies under two and neither of them ever used a pacifier on a regular basis.. we do have some around the house but mainly I’d see my 19 month old running around chewing on it because she is teething but she does not seek it out everyday or even weekly I don’t see them often they are in the toy box for now.
Thats was realy helpful thank you 🙏🌸
Is it also ok not to use pacifier at all? I never use one for my first born. Currently on my 33 weeks and i plan not to use any pacifier also for baby #2.
You bet! It’s an artificial nipple, definitely not “needed”. A real nipple is ideal :)
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Old comment but just want to throw it out there. I've had 5 kids and some how none of them have wanted it. So I always give up trying to make them take one.
Thank you
Interested topic
I am breastfeeding and my baby is 2 month old now ...now I want him to use pacifier but he don't want to take it ....and also I don't think he need it ...but whenever he is in car seat he start crying...this is the reason I want him to take pacifier.....what is your suggestion on this please?
I’m having this same issue with my two month old . He takes the pacifier once in a while but in the car he screams at the top of his lungs so our car rides can’t be long for this reason..
Since 2 month and now going 4 months im still struggling on getting my baby to use paci... in the car, she is fine but at the doc's, oooooh different story so yes I am so looking for the right paci...any advice?
Great video!!
Sorry this is still confusing. Maybe because the research is useless.
I think the research can help us see the risks vs benefits and help you make a decision whether the good outweighs the bad in your individual situation. It’s true there is no clear answer, so we just make the best decision we can with the information we have.
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