I cut them all off. I took my power back. I refuse to tolerate childishness and foolishness. I will no longer be a doormat for anyone in my life ever again
Good for you! I've watched TV Interviews with Anna Delvey/Sorokin, Michael Alig, and even The Assassination of Gianni Versace. They are folks who were beyond horrible many of which lived The Tom Ripley Syndrome. "It's better to be a fake somebody instead of a real nobody." The Narcissist will take you to the cleaners, lie and deny that they owe you anything or do not acknowledge how much of a hard time they give you. Saying "No!" is the best thing to do. Arguing with them, is impossible, they can't handle the truth about themselves.
I sincerely hope that you keep this promise to yourself to never be a doormat again! Stay alert for new narcs to arrive in your life. That’s NOT a reflection on you, but rather a reflection of how many of them exist! Be alert to your inner thoughts, feelings, and urges. Don’t compromise yourself - it’s a potential sign of someone attempting to manipulate you. Always remember - it’s not your job to serve, nurture, or rescue others! Best wishes to you for a healthy life journey. 🌸
Ignore them or stick to short answers. Don't take the bait. Say whatever, shrug your shoulders, walk away. Smile, say I don't know what your talking about. Distance your self.
IF SOMEONE SAYS... ITS HORRIBLE TO DISCARD THEM... THEY ARE HURT... WORTH SAVING AND STUFF... NEVER BELIEVE THAT... I WASTED 18YRS... TRYING TO CHANGE AND SAVE... IF YOU SPOT A NARCISSISTI...RUN THE OTHER WAY.... ❤❤❤ You fellow survivors..
Life with my ex was so toxic. I had lost all my self esteem, and always felt useless. In addition to your points, I asked GOD for help. I got out, and am trying to focus on me. Your videos have really helped me. Thank you.
As a military veteran I was challenged with a lot but the challenges I have encountered as I deal and have dealt with a narcissist are worse! The strategies you put forth here are excellent! Thank you so much Clarice! Happy Sunday to you! 🌻 PS! "Know thy enemy" is appropriate in both situations.....
Thank you for this information and guidance. Having been very hurt by Narcissists I have come to the awareness that all the love we so freely gave to these individuals we need to give to ourselves.. Many of us have been in a spiritual battle without knowing it and we really do need to take back our power with love after all love without power results in becoming a subservient door mat and power without love equals becoming a tyrant. 🥶.
I could have used this video in 2018, It would have helped me so much with dealing with my narcissistic mother. Now, she is dead and I have C-PTSD & anxiety. And I have tried therapy three different times, but none of them got it.
My wife's mother (adoptive) has BPD and shares many narcissist traits, and thankfully my wife found a great therapist years ago that has helped her immensely. They do exist, it's just about finding the right one who can understand you and your situation. It can be tiring going through different people, but its worth it once you find the right one that sets you free
Your comments always help me understand the narcissists I've had to deal with in my life and not feel guilty about having nothing to do with them.many thanks clarice.
I'm already living with mental health (Cptsd & Depression & Anxiety) & recently a new neighbour moved in next door. At 1st everything seemed ok. But after only around 2 months, they were always asking to borrow money or cigarettes, it became too much for me, & in the end. I'd to av a polite word with them & I explained I cudnt afford to keep doing this. It was afew days after that, wen the mind games started. Gaslighting, Intimidation attempts, Stalkerish behaviour after dark outside my bedroom window (bungalow), making me constantly hypervidgalent & my mental health decline further. I've put camera (old phone) in window to try to get evidence of it, but it is harder than it sounds to catch something concrete. I'm trying to look for other places to move, but that's not gonna happen overnight. Do u think they cud be a narcissist? Wot advice can u give me. Thank u so much. Uk 🇬🇧
I like those videos, they help narcissists victims, a lot. It even helped me to cope with the abuse and trauma. But they do not solve the problem narcissism. If we do not get rid of them, every single one of them, they will ruin the world for all of us including themselfes. When do we get a video telling us what the future brings us regarding the increasing number of narcissists? When do we get a video telling us how to cope with this?
@@elcee7800 I read a good quote recently it went “things to burn to remove negativity, sage, juniper, rosemary, narcissists, lavender. It did make me laugh just like your comment, if only we could 😂
Narc and flying monkeys aside, does anyone experience being picked on by outsiders since their breakup/discard? I find people pushing their weight around with me, pecking at me like crows.
If that happens online I can tell you those people got primed by the narc. I experienced people out of nowhere being rude or aggressive, that were before freindly and kind. As I looked back in time I saw those People have been all been in some way connected to the narc and I didn't know them before getting to now her. If that is not the case consider being cybermobbed. It may be your behaviour as a victim or that your narc has "sold" you to the lynch mob. What else can be is that you are not devastated or hurting enough. People are cruel when you say "I am a victim" but you hold your head up high. They may call you attention seeker or other colorful words.
It’s possible that you’ve become more keenly aware of potential abuses, from hard learned lessons. I don’t know if it’s true or not, but I’ve had a theory about American society: That if you’re single, some people will treat you like you’re somehow more vulnerable and ‘less valuable’ because you’re not coupled up.
How to deal with narcissistic neighbours who always does prejudicial things or says something prejudicial to hurt us? They are always there in the vicinity.
Hi Sharon. I appreciate your support. The shout out is for people who join the Membership program. Click here for more info ruclips.net/channel/UCfGUmsIsci2t1NxGqgWGFRQjoin
Hi Audrey. Yes that is one of the perks of joining the membership program; that person gets a shout-out in one of my videos. I am notified when somone joins and I take a note of their name and mention them when I can. It is as little as 1.99 a month. You can cancel whenever you want but your name remains on the credits at the end. Also, most of my members are not currently suffering from Narcissistic Abuse they are on a healing journey or on the other end (post narcissistic abuse).
I stopped watching after the first rule. To get your power back Rule #1 Make sure you have a healthy and fulfilling interaction with the opposite sex. (Not sex) Rule #2 Spend quality time with your family Rule #3 challenge yourself physically Rule #4 give yourself enough time to detoxicat and come to your senses Rule #5 stay away from numbing habits (sugarcoating, pleasure chasing, drugs, TV, radio, self fulfilling ideas)
Saying they can’t Change is horrible. So discard them and make them worse? There has to be a way to help them. All this talk of running away is lazy. They are like that for a reason. The behavior is a symptom.
So people are supposed to tolerate such behavior? Narrcissts are incapable changing because they don't see an issue with the misery they bring to others. Clearly, you have never dealt with one, or even have a clue what they're capable of, or you wouldn't be defending them.
You are an ENABLER... PLZ DO THE SAVING BY YOURSELF... DO NOT ASK OTHERS TO DO THAT.. I lost 18yrs trying to change and save... SO HELL WITH NARCCISSTS!!!!
I cut them all off. I took my power back. I refuse to tolerate childishness and foolishness. I will no longer be a doormat for anyone in my life ever again
Good for you! I've watched TV Interviews with Anna Delvey/Sorokin, Michael Alig, and even The Assassination of Gianni Versace. They are folks who were beyond horrible many of which lived The Tom Ripley Syndrome. "It's better to be a fake somebody instead of a real nobody." The Narcissist will take you to the cleaners, lie and deny that they owe you anything or do not acknowledge how much of a hard time they give you. Saying "No!" is the best thing to do. Arguing with them, is impossible, they can't handle the truth about themselves.
Me too!
Amen to that.
👏❤️
I sincerely hope that you keep this promise to yourself to never be a doormat again! Stay alert for new narcs to arrive in your life. That’s NOT a reflection on you, but rather a reflection of how many of them exist! Be alert to your inner thoughts, feelings, and urges. Don’t compromise yourself - it’s a potential sign of someone attempting to manipulate you. Always remember - it’s not your job to serve, nurture, or rescue others! Best wishes to you for a healthy life journey. 🌸
Ignore them or stick to short answers. Don't take the bait. Say whatever, shrug your shoulders, walk away. Smile, say I don't know what your talking about. Distance your self.
I agree! An intelligent person would take that as a hint, meaning I'm not interested in talking to you.
IF SOMEONE SAYS... ITS HORRIBLE TO DISCARD THEM... THEY ARE HURT... WORTH SAVING AND STUFF... NEVER BELIEVE THAT... I WASTED 18YRS... TRYING TO CHANGE AND SAVE... IF YOU SPOT A NARCISSISTI...RUN THE OTHER WAY.... ❤❤❤ You fellow survivors..
Distance yourself from anything that hurt you or disturb your peace..‼️
Life with my ex was so toxic. I had lost all my self esteem, and always felt useless. In addition to your points, I asked GOD for help. I got out, and am trying to focus on me. Your videos have really helped me. Thank you.
Wonderful!🙏
Thats how the narc feel ..useless.
Nothing stops them like the truth. 😆
Exactly! They absolutely hate the truth!
I love that, thankyou.
As a military veteran I was challenged with a lot but the challenges I have encountered as I deal and have dealt with a narcissist are worse! The strategies you put forth here are excellent! Thank you so much Clarice! Happy Sunday to you! 🌻
PS! "Know thy enemy" is appropriate in both situations.....
I got two sociopathic vet neighbors... they think they're healthy
Brilliant, brilliant and brilliant.
Simple and concise without the confusing jargon.
From Rotorua, New Zealand 🇳🇿
Thank you for this information and guidance. Having been very hurt by Narcissists I have come to the awareness that all the love we so freely gave to these individuals we need to give to ourselves.. Many of us have been in a spiritual battle without knowing it and we really do need to take back our power with love after all love without power results in becoming a subservient door mat and power without love equals becoming a tyrant. 🥶.
👏👏👏👏👏
Great and powerful video. Thank You, Clarice.
Glad it was helpful! Thank you🙏
I could have used this video in 2018, It would have helped me so much with dealing with my narcissistic mother. Now, she is dead and I have C-PTSD & anxiety. And I have tried therapy three different times, but none of them got it.
So sad that some of these trained professionals are no help to sufferers of Narc Abuse. One day!🙏🙏
@Exposing the Narcissist with Clarice, It is with so many of us who suffer this kind of abuse. But thank God, we have people like you.🩷🙏
U may check Ellie Frost channel on C-PTSD, I just found her channel and I find it helpful too
Great thanks to our Coaches
My wife's mother (adoptive) has BPD and shares many narcissist traits, and thankfully my wife found a great therapist years ago that has helped her immensely. They do exist, it's just about finding the right one who can understand you and your situation. It can be tiring going through different people, but its worth it once you find the right one that sets you free
@@yemisiaderuku2902 Thank you. I will!
Wonderful piece, many thanx...the 'numbers' of 'the KNOWING'...is...GROWING!!!
Blissful Sunday Sister Clarice! Thank You!🌻
Great Vid, Clarice
Thank you!
Accept that if God couldn’t reach this person, what makes you think you can. Get out. Stay out! Save yourself from hell!
Who said he was done? He could just use you. Not everything is miraculous.
Thank you. These videos are helpful. You are a Godsend
Happy to help! You are so welcome.
Your comments always help me understand the narcissists I've had to deal with in my life and not feel guilty about having nothing to do with them.many thanks clarice.
I agree! It's to bad that it's one or two people who make it unpleasant.
Excellent Clarice.
Very useful advice/information.
Some of these are also useful in ANY relationship!
A very well presented video. Thank you. ♥
I'm already living with mental health (Cptsd & Depression & Anxiety) & recently a new neighbour moved in next door. At 1st everything seemed ok. But after only around 2 months, they were always asking to borrow money or cigarettes, it became too much for me, & in the end. I'd to av a polite word with them & I explained I cudnt afford to keep doing this. It was afew days after that, wen the mind games started. Gaslighting, Intimidation attempts, Stalkerish behaviour after dark outside my bedroom window (bungalow), making me constantly hypervidgalent & my mental health decline further. I've put camera (old phone) in window to try to get evidence of it, but it is harder than it sounds to catch something concrete. I'm trying to look for other places to move, but that's not gonna happen overnight. Do u think they cud be a narcissist? Wot advice can u give me. Thank u so much. Uk 🇬🇧
Am very thankfull for all your vedios, I have been following your chanel more than a year, it's been very usefull
Thank you so much❤
You are very welcome!
Hi Clarice. This Is short, sweet and spot on.....very nice. Thank You !!!...Love You!
Big 👍❣
Thank you
Super. Ty
Wim Hof breathing saved my life.. regimented breathing routines are ideal for wellness.
I like those videos, they help narcissists victims, a lot. It even helped me to cope with the abuse and trauma. But they do not solve the problem narcissism. If we do not get rid of them, every single one of them, they will ruin the world for all of us including themselfes. When do we get a video telling us what the future brings us regarding the increasing number of narcissists? When do we get a video telling us how to cope with this?
🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Set their “pods” on fire 😂 !!!!
(Invasion of the Body Snatchers)
@@elcee7800 I like how you are thinking! 😆
@@elcee7800 I read a good quote recently it went “things to burn to remove negativity, sage, juniper, rosemary, narcissists, lavender.
It did make me laugh just like your comment, if only we could 😂
Ellie Frost videos answer some of these questions too
Thank God for the internet
Everything that you said in this video is true.
Thanks for listening!
God bless you
Narc and flying monkeys aside, does anyone experience being picked on by outsiders since their breakup/discard? I find people pushing their weight around with me, pecking at me like crows.
If that happens online I can tell you those people got primed by the narc. I experienced people out of nowhere being rude or aggressive, that were before freindly and kind. As I looked back in time I saw those People have been all been in some way connected to the narc and I didn't know them before getting to now her. If that is not the case consider being cybermobbed. It may be your behaviour as a victim or that your narc has "sold" you to the lynch mob. What else can be is that you are not devastated or hurting enough. People are cruel when you say "I am a victim" but you hold your head up high. They may call you attention seeker or other colorful words.
It’s possible that you’ve become more keenly aware of potential abuses, from hard learned lessons.
I don’t know if it’s true or not, but I’ve had a theory about American society: That if you’re single, some people will treat you like you’re somehow more vulnerable and ‘less valuable’ because you’re not coupled up.
That’s the smear campaign I think
this video is really interesting and inspiring
Thanks for watching!
How to deal with narcissistic neighbours who always does prejudicial things or says something prejudicial to hurt us? They are always there in the vicinity.
Thank you 🙏🙏❤️
Block block block. To hell with them
Thanks 😊
Nice knowlage. 😮
The darkness needs and uses narcissists to get spread to the maximum and the Light spreads to the maximum all by itself. Thank You!!:))!!👍💯%!!💐🍀🌺🎁🌈⚓!!
My boundaries are purposely stepped onto, what to do?
Stay away from that person
Clarice, why you never shouted me out , I support your channel
Hi Sharon. I appreciate your support. The shout out is for people who join the Membership program. Click here for more info ruclips.net/channel/UCfGUmsIsci2t1NxGqgWGFRQjoin
I have liked all your posts for a while, do you only mention the people who are suffering narcissistic abuse that financially support you ?
Hi Audrey. Yes that is one of the perks of joining the membership program; that person gets a shout-out in one of my videos. I am notified when somone joins and I take a note of their name and mention them when I can. It is as little as 1.99 a month. You can cancel whenever you want but your name remains on the credits at the end.
Also, most of my members are not currently suffering from Narcissistic Abuse they are on a healing journey or on the other end (post narcissistic abuse).
@@ExposingtheNarcissist I think I’ll exit
I used to think the narcissist was my ex - now I know it's my younger sister
Sucks when it's the younger sister
I stopped watching after the first rule. To get your power back
Rule #1 Make sure you have a healthy and fulfilling interaction with the opposite sex. (Not sex)
Rule #2 Spend quality time with your family
Rule #3 challenge yourself physically
Rule #4 give yourself enough time to detoxicat and come to your senses
Rule #5 stay away from numbing habits (sugarcoating, pleasure chasing, drugs, TV, radio, self fulfilling ideas)
👍👏🙏🌺
Saying they can’t Change is horrible. So discard them and make them worse? There has to be a way to help them. All this talk of running away is lazy. They are like that for a reason. The behavior is a symptom.
So people are supposed to tolerate such behavior? Narrcissts are incapable changing because they don't see an issue with the misery they bring to others. Clearly, you have never dealt with one, or even have a clue what they're capable of, or you wouldn't be defending them.
So youre putting theyre mental health above yours. Good luck with that
You are an ENABLER... PLZ DO THE SAVING BY YOURSELF... DO NOT ASK OTHERS TO DO THAT.. I lost 18yrs trying to change and save... SO HELL WITH NARCCISSTS!!!!
@@vaanavi8980 Well said!!!
You haven't encountered a Narc... have you.🥴
No
None of that worked.
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