Molested by her Brother
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- Опубликовано: 23 июл 2024
- Guest Lexie, shares the harrowing story of the assault she experienced at the hands of her own brother. Lexie opens up about the traumatic experiences she endured within her own family. Her story is a searing account of the deep emotional wounds inflicted upon her by someone she should have been able to trust, and her journey towards healing and reclamation.
Time Stamps:
00:00 - intro
00:10 - childhood/family
03:30 - first SA encounter with brother
05:30 - cycle/pattern of SA within the family
07:50 - legal action
08:38 - biological mother
15:08 - impact on mental health
18:30 - meeting her little brother
21:00 - mothers trial
28:30 - where her other siblings are
32:22 - coping/keeping her story to herself
34:25 - therapy
37:20 - conclusion
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Whatever family therapist told her that “but he’s your brother” is insane . And needs their license revoked .
Had the same thing said to me in regards to my dad and have been trying to get her license revoked but it’s almost impossible due to the lack of people in that workforce 💔
That’s why I don’t trust most therapist. In my opinion, only very few are qualified. They’re just normal everyday people who went to school. Most aren’t that smart
my father says this, what the hell do i do then..
some therapists really just say shit. i had one tell me i needed to take responsibility for being drunk when i was SA’d……… i was practically force fed alcohol. (plus i was very open about the fact i was drunk- i feel like that was a key element in what happened)
@@kirbysthiccthighs at the end of the day, I always try to hold myself accountable for what happens to me. That doesn’t mean I think other people are justified for taking advantage of me though. I think it means they’re nasty and sick and that I should realize that these people do exist. I feel like it’s important to have a sober a sober chaperone.
I was molested by my brother at a very young age , 8 years he molested . Hearing her story and how it affected her ; it has helped me understand that I shouldn’t feel embarrassed or ashamed . I promised myself I wouldn’t tell anyone but seeing her talk about it made me realize that I shouldn’t be ashamed of telling my family. So thank you for sharing you’re story
❤ kia kaha
Big love and healing energy to you darling xo 💖💖🧿🧿
You should not feel ashamed of telling your family, but I do want to caution you that it may not go the way you want and to be prepared for whatever reaction/outcome.
God bless you . I wish you the best in your healing journey!
sending so much love and support!! wishing you a happy, healthy healing experience💜💜💜
Child on child abuse needs to be discussed more! Parents teach your kids to keep their hands to themselves!!! It’s such a weird and complicated thing to talk about, that a child is capable of something like that
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It blows my mind her mom would ask her what she wanted to happen to him and follow that request. She was waaaayyy to young to make that call
Not to mention the power dynamics between victims and perpetrators
Yes she put her responsibility on the abused child.
I was sexually abused by my brother at a young age, it went to the police, where I was questioned by a "special detective" idk the name of them. But she asked me the same question when I was a child. It makes you wonder if that's the way they were taught how to approach that kind of situation???
@@babysacrifice idk but they may ask just to gauge how the victim is feeling/how ready they are to talk about it. Her mom did take responsibility by getting her to therapy and preventing it ever happening again. You'll never know how you'd handle it unless you're put in that situation (and I truly wish these problems didn't exist.)
I was molested by my older brother last year and hearing her story makes me less ashamed of sharing my story. My heart goes out to anyone dealing with the same thing, you’re not alone.
Dam
@@ruxandstuff6622 tell me why ur comment made me laugh
@@Vcenxzzz twisted humor maybe
same, her story was so similar to mine
@@AshFlowers-xx8rn that some tough shit man
As a 15 year old to feel sexually attracted to a 7 YEAR old child is beyond mentally ill. Nobody who feels this way should ever be allowed to walk freely into the world, considering children are everywhere. If at 15 years old he was capable of molesting his OWN family, what would he be capable of later into the future?
Those ppl usually had a sexual trauma at a young age.
I honestly don’t think it’s “beyond mentally ill” 15 years old is still a child, too. I’m not saying it’s right that it happened. They are old enough to know better, but I don’t think it is right to say it’s “beyond mentally ill”. 15 year olds hang out with 7 year olds all the time. It’s not that abnormal for them to be around kids that age. The only abnormal part is the assault.
@@raechel381 Well I obviously do know 15 year old's hang out with children pretty fairly, but to ASSAULT and permanently scar your 7 year old nephew is BEYOND mentally ill from my perspective. He was supposed to be someone she trusted with her life.. He might still had been a child, but that should **never** make it right. Fifteen years old is is old enough to distinguish good from bad, ethical from unethical.
In most cases it is not sexual attraction but opportunity. Children become victims because they are easier to abuse than people of the same age. Most child molesters are not pedos. It's about power and availability of the victim. In this case it's easier for the brother to abuse his younger sister than finding and grooming a victim elsewhere.
I agree, every 15 yr old has common sense and knows damn well not to sexually touch a family member especially a younger one.
my brother was 14, i was 6. Thank you for posting this. please be weary in justifying the brothers actions.
oh my god me too I’m so sorry you had that happen
My brother was 13 I was 8
I have such mixed feelings. I love the comfort that comes from knowing she's my age and has been through a lot of similar experiences. But, I'm also so hurt seeing other people having been put through so much.
Well said ❤
This is the first time I’ve heard someone speak on something like this happening.
I was abused by my brother for 10 yrs from 2 to 12 & still to this day as a grown woman with a family of my own I still have nightmares & triggers.
Thank you so much for sharing your story.
I feel you girl ❤️❤️❤️ sending you love during this time of healing
That is crazy because I couldn’t imagine that it was 5 years for me I don’t think I would be able to live with that for 5 more years
Thank goodness you all made it through. I went thru it too; step brother
this is something so common and stomach turning. i’m proud of those who are strong enough to speak up about it
When I saw the title I got hit with emotion because this is something very big in my life and it’s horrible but comforting to hear I’m not alone in this situation - I know many people unfortunately have this horror story but it’s nice to know other peoples experience and feel less alone 🤍 I’m ‘excited?’ To watch 🙂 thank you for sharing your story
I pray for healing, for anyone this has happened to. My brother groomed me and did it to me when I was 6. I pushed it away until I couldn’t anymore, but nothing really came from it. I’m going to have to pause this bc of the emotion. It’s so good though, I will be coming back tonight to finish it
I can’t even begin to imagine what you both must of went through and mentally still go through everyday I assume. Hope you can both still find happiness in your lives and get real love from the people you do trust ❤
Lexie has such a kind and calming presence, I feel very grounded when she speaks and I admire her extreme resilience she displays without sacrificing her gentle spirit. I wish you the absolute best on your journey🤍!
This happened to me as a child, as far as I can remember. Before starting kindergarten. At the time didn't realize I was being affected so I even just let it happen because I just didn't understand. It affected how sexually active I was during my teens. He stopped when I was in middle school because I finally told him to stop and one time I even threw a pair of metal scissors. I'm 29 now and at age 25 I started having breakdowns during sexual intercourse. It all caught up to me and I am so thankful my partner really helped me to navigate through it. I still get intrusive thoughts at times but I don't break down anymore at least. When I finally told my parents about 3 years ago and my mom also asked me what I wanted to happen to him. This is all just so fucked. Thank you for sharing your story Lexie. You're not alone❤
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I don't think I've ever heard a story so close to mine. My birth mom lost all my siblings to dr*gs and I was born on m3th I have 10 siblings. Only 4 of us stayed with my gma but she legally adopted me when I was a baby and never told me I was adopted until I was about 7. My oldest brother is sadly the reason I relate to this video so much. Thank you Lexi for telling your story you have no idea what kind of comfort it gave me knowing I'm not alone.
I was sexualized at a very young age. I was groped by peers, groomed and groped by a friends older cousin who was married with children of his own. I was hit on by my older siblings friends. I was groomed and manipulated by my oldest sisters husbands coworker. I'm learning now as an adult woman, that all of those scenarios have affected my subconscious views on relationships. Of men. For a long time I accepted any attention as good attention, even when it wasn't. Now at 31 I'm finally okay being alone. I'm finally putting my foot down on things i will not accept from men, from relationships. Even the things that seem so insignificant at the time, can mess you up for life.
i love this
Been through similar situations, and recently I've come to the same place as your were here. I hope you're doing much better, and I wish you a happy life full of healing 🫂❤️ we both got this
Are you Pakistani ?
I feel very heavy and deep listening to this because I was molested by my step brother when I was 12 I am currently 17 and now 5 years later I’m battling ptsd and trauma from it. I want to give her a hug
Please reach out for resources where available none of it was your fault and you shouldn’t have to suffer any second longer than you have. It never leaves you fully but you can get to a better quality of life and you deserve that 🫂💜
It seems at times that the host wants to seem as unbiased as possible to the point of not taking a stance against clearly wrong behavior. The brother’s actions are inexcusable, even if he was abused too. The grandmother should have done more to protect the victim and help her process what had happened. Explaining away inexcusable behavior just creates more gray area for abusers to justify their actions, and for bystanders to refrain from taking action.
Yes
Right? I’ve wanted to share my story here about surviving csa and incest, but still feel iffy with how the host handles certain things
@@Poopiepies totally makes sense. I like her as a person but I’ve felt this with a few of the vids. Maybe there’s a similar platform with a therapist host or other professional trained in dealing with those issues? It’s awesome that you want to share your story. 💜
@@andreafahnestock9349 I’ve done therapy and all that, I just wish there were more stories about women on women sexual abuse. I feel like it’s so taboo to talk about and not represented much in any form of media. I’ve seen a few people share their stories (shows like iyanla fix my life) but it’s still very rare to hear true stories of women surviving incest and csa from another woman.
@@PoopiepiesJessica Simpson writes in her book about her family friend that was female molested her for years and when she finally told her parents all her mom said in the car was ,
“I told you something was going on!” To her dad and that was basically it. Never talked to her about it etc…..
listening to her speak out is honestly so empowering. child on child sexual abuse is real and i’ve been through it also but haven’t really spoken out about it. she’s so strong for telling her story and i wish the best for her
I just wanted to say that I’m so proud of this girl for sharing her story - this type of abuse is SO common yet so stigmatized and for this woman to come on and tell her experience to the world is really brave and incredible.
Host please be kind when “justifying” why the brother did what he did. You kinda spoke against her and her theory. I understand he may have “learned that behavior and didn’t feel how wrong it was” but it was totally wrong and shouldn’t have been done
Yeah stuff like this is very complicated and there is an element of a cycle of abuse here.
I truly hope that everyone who had similar experiences is doing alright. I have my own trauma revolving around it. You are never, ever at fault. You did nothing that could warrant someone that you love hurting you in such a way. You deserve to be truly loved and cared about.
this is one of the only podcasts I’ve been watching lately. hearing everyone’s stories makes me so emotional 😭
Child on child sexual abuse happens more that you would think!! Please never let children play alone behind closed doors. Supervise or frequent check. It takes ONE time then they have trauma.
this
my mom said “i never had anyone around” but she didnt have to, it easily happens inside the family
this is such a sad story and it almost makes you think that it could be hereditary with how many others in her family suffered the same way that she did. very relatable unfortunately but also very inspirational to hear her speak on something so vulnerable.
Trauma definitely travels through bloodlines. Generational curses is what it can be referred to as.
@@Olivia-yx9dh scary and also v sad 🙁
@@CedeJacobs absolutely !
This is what we aren’t going to do. Just because there were many people who continued the pattern of trauma in her family does not make it hereditary. These sort of thoughts are SO harmful to survivors of this type of trauma. They will always wonder if there’s a monster just like their abuser lurking within them because people like you think it’s genetics instead of sick people making sick choices.
@@Poopiepiessomebody doesn't know what a cycle if abuse is.
This happen to me too when i was 7 years old, it was my brother and i never told my parents. I felt and still feel like shit, ashamed and angry. Now I'm 21 years old and i'm a total mess, i feel like i'm not a normal person, i feel like he took away my childhood. And i'm thinking that because of that I'm never going to have a normal and happy life, This is so unfair, life is so unfair
Go to therapy.
Tell your parents. They can do with the information what they will, but it is so liberating to stop pretending at every family event.
Awwwwn I’m so sorry that happened to you 💔 You should consider getting a therapist ❤️ I can see the hurt
Please seek counseling. My daughter told me about her brother. I believed her and he never lived with us again. We had to go to court. I try not to ever have them in the same situation with the family. Maybe twice in 6 yrs.
My friend went through something very similar and her family still hasn’t healed from these cycles bc they refuse to acknowledge it. To say it broke my heart to find these things she went through was an understatement. I have two close friends both victims of incest. I had no idea how common it seems to be. I think these conversations are so important to be had so victims know they are not alone.
This is so sad, I have had almost the same experience in my own life and it's a hard thing to get past. She is such a strong woman and I am so proud of her for speaking out 💛💛💛
thank you so much for sharing your story. i have a friend that went through this and she doesnt talk about it much, and, of course, i would never want to pry, so being able to hear about what someone who went through this experienced is really eye-opening.
Thank you for giving all these people the platform and a listening ear to share there stories which are so hard to get out of people who have trama but your kindness is beautiful
Omg i was molested and raped by my older brother. Thank u for telling ur story. It helps so many people and i truly wish this incest would stop.
Why do you have this name ?
This is so important. Thank you Lexi for sharing your story and thank you pod for amplifying the voices of victims. You’re not alone 🤍
Such a soft spoken person but how powerful. I was really impacted by this story in a positive way. Thanks for sharing Lexi❤
As someone who has an extremely similar story, it is almost comforting for me to hear how this has affected her because I have had the same exact reaction physically, and mentally overtime!
My nickname is also Lexii .. so many parallels. I appreciate you telling your story.
Thankyou for putting this out there, my mom and my aunt have been through this with the same brother and I just want to say how much I appreciate you for being strong enough to say this on the internet 💕 I’ve also been through a similar situation but with a girl who was five years older than me, this makes me feel more comfortable within myself
Thank you for speaking your truth. This podcast was extremely comforting.
Ur not alone girl🖤 I’m 25 with a similar situation. I’m lost too. But being lost means your really setting things in motion towards your healing and growth and figuring out who we truly are🖤✨ hang in there and let the lost be your comfy velvet black blanket as you take each day on one at a time ❤🖤✨
29 with a similar story too. I didn’t figure things out and begin healing until I was 23
Thank you for this. My (female) cousin and I were molested and s3xually abused by our other (male) cousin from like 5 to 10-ish and it's still a "family secret" everyone in the family knows about. I of course don't talk or relate to them at all. We might have the same blood but that doesn't make you even a friend to me if you're an abuser.
this happened to me too, but it happened by multiple family members & i lost my memories for so long. i never fit in the family either. i could tell something was wrong, but i couldn't remember. i recently got my memories back & cut family ties. now it makes sense why i have the personality i have, why i react like a child most times. it's sad and confusing. but i'm grateful to be able to be free now & have my own life. but damn, this stuff is evil. it's like a generational family thing, so strange.
this happened to me too. its sickening.
My family made it a "secret" too. I'm so sorry you and your cousin had to go through that.
happened to me as well. Then the first person I ever trusted enough to tell and got in a relationship with sexually exploited me and molested my sister. Abusers are everywhere and most of the time they are NOT strangers.
These are literally generational curses of molestation on this family 😢
it happened to me too, i literally have never told anyone about it i dont even know how to explain it. right now i'm at my lowest point and it's been haunting me. i dont feel like i will ever be able to talk about it and i'm so scared, i'm scared about the future and i'm scared i'll break my mom's heart. i dont want anything to change but at the same time i dont want things to stay the same.
Speak up
Jesus Christ.💚
@@NinjaDaReal 🙏🙏🏽
i hope u find peace , i still cant at 36
Please tell her. I'm a mom and it did break my heart, but I immediately helped my daughter. Go to therapy as well.
This title made my heart absolutely sink, as this is what I am healing from. Then hearing the story just. Dang. Heart ripped.
So conflicting when a child who’s been molested, molests another child. How do you react to that? Do they deserve jail time? Just therapy? How can you allow that child to carry on living alongside the sibling they molested? But in the same note how can you punish them and send them away for repeating the same behaviours that happened to them that they believed were normal? So difficult
She is a blessing to this world. People are so afraid to talk about this specific type of sexual abuse and it means so much to me as a victim of the same exact type of abuse. If she ever sees this thank you so much. I can’t even thank you enough. This matters so much.
i was not molested but SAed by my own cousin starting at 9(me) and about 11 or 12(him) lasting till 13 and 16. its literally insane to me that a CHILD is capable of doing that to a peer. it caused me to act out in so many ways, not knowing what was going on with me, not knowing it happened or understanding it was not normal. and when i finally remembered and got the courage to say something to my family, they abandoned me, spread rumors, and did not speak to me or my part of the family (me, my mom, my father, and my brother). and then being told to talk to them again because its my family that makes me sick. the one-year anniversary of the last time i spoke to my family is coming soon, as well as times i know for sure it happened. its been causing panic attacks and depression. i hate what my cousin and my family did to me. i will never speak to them again.
ive been through a very parallel experience as you. family turning their back on you is devastating, and trust me the grieving ends. it’s been almost two years since ive spoken to them for me. I hope your life is full of love, I need you to know you’re not alone. my mother,my brother,my cousin,my neighbor,best friends brother, were all people who assaulted me. trust is hard for people like us, I see you.
this was the same difference between me and my brother, but i think we were way younger i think I was probably 6 i barely remember but i do remember it happening yk, but I've never blamed him cause idk maybe he was to young to understand too. but now idk maybe i should blame him? i rlly don't know , I've never told anyone about it, and I wouldn't even know how (im 17 now)
@@briannacastillo5214suspect and question why would he do that so young?? I did too for a long, long time. Until he did something to me again at the age of 16. I use to think maybe somebody did something to him which caused him to do it to me, even if that’s true. He knew that was never okay, and still proceeded to try again years later. Forgive but don’t forget. Forgive yourself for questioning anything you have questioned, forgive you first. You can forgive these people for the sake of your well being. You must speak about this soon. I learned it was the only way I can live truthfully.
@@briannacastillo5214yeah that age u don't blame you for not knowing if he knew i'd look at therapists that specializes in this specific area of expertise whether he knew or not is not related to you still being the victim and shouldn't feel shame
@@briannacastillo5214this is what sucks. Because you can’t tell the difference between evil intention and the innocence a child Carry’s. Trust your own gut ❤ your feelings matter, your feelings deserve to feel validated.
This is a very personal and touchy subject.. I admire her for her vulnerability. Thank you for sharing your story as I can relate and it helps to hear that I’m not alone, thank you.
I relate to Lexie so much… it’s nice to hear someone with a similar experience who is in the same place in time of “ idk what I’m doing with my life right now”. Same here Lexie, I’m not sure what I am doing right now. I’m just living each day with my dog, day by day.
i was surprised to find someone with similar circumstances to me.
i never dealt with foster care or being adopted, but i also ran into the problem that he was the favorite child. no one ever protected me. they protected him.
I was molested by my 15 year old brother at 9 years old and so much of this resonates with me, especially the complex relationship with sex after having this experience so young and the generational trauma that is carried from sexual abuse.. thank you so much for sharing your story. 💕
God I can’t even imagine; just feeling so invalidated and unsafe in your own home. I hope she and many others continue to heal and grow despite the cards they were dealt
Since i started watching your podcast i wait every week for the next one! Love love love hearing these stories! I too also molested by a family member for years..i am 37 now and you never forget forgiving i have peace within me now for forgiving but knowing i am better than that person to be able to do that because it's not easy! Good luck to you girl!
This is so heartbreaking, you have such a sweet voice. and it’s saying something how calm you can make people from such pain.
this is so much more common than people realize, it's devastating. I experienced something similar and the way she explained how it affected her made me feel less alone under these horrible circumstances. Thank you for sharing
I was molested when I was a child by my neighbour and while it wasn’t a sibling but I can relate how much it affected her. I’m glad she has come out and talked about it help other people
She should get into some kind of therapy career if she’s unsure with what she wants to do. Even with kids, because she definitely has a good aura for it like they were saying.
The moment a therapist makes extremely bad behaviour valid, excuse that behaviour towards another, they need their license revoked and never allowed to work with children. They are an enabler.
My bro didn’t molest me. Well not that I know of but he did ask my ex for sexual photos of me. Asked what having sex with me was like etc etc. admitted he was in love with me and couldn’t find a woman like me. It was beyond disturbing. My mom constantly dismisses that he ever said those things to me. Well. My brother a few years ago tried to say my dad molested him. And my mom would try to bring us all together and I said I don’t want anything to do with my brother.
My mom had the guts to say “well he said those things to you bc your dad molested him.” Which was so insanely false.
I’ll never forgive my mom. She’s sick.
I found the article on her birth mom and her murderer…. This girl is stronger than I am sure people think she is…
You are so kind while conducting your interviews💚
Watching this brings a lot of things back in my life i hope you know Lexie how stronv you are for sharing this sending you prayers and love
I was molested by my brother from age 7-10ish. If one adult in my life would have shown me what molestation looked like, it would have changed my life, because to me it looked like love. I locked it all away in a box for years and just started processing it with in the last two years. Telling my mom was heartbreaking.
What a caring gentle sweetheart this one is, do as much of that difficult therapy work now so you don't have to waste any more time ruminating about how past relationships were inaccurately perceived and the behavioral reactions on going. I think you'll make an excellent mother
Thank you for sharing your story makes us feel less alone 🫶🏽
i have been waiting for this. thankyou
Lexie, you are beautiful inside and out. I am so proud of you for sharing your story. You are breaking that generational trauma!
Before you even mentioned how sweet and gentle her aura is I just felt it beaming through the screen. I haven’t even watched the video cause I’m listening to it as I get ready but Wow she is truly an angel, and I aspire to be as resilient and gentle as her.
She tells the most fucked up things in such a calm manner I hope she has found her peace already😢 my heart goes to you girl❤
I feel so much less alone. Thank you so much for sharing your story, I know it must’ve been incredibly hard. I was in the same situation as you, same family dynamic, I was the baby of the family, I didn’t think anything was really wrong, I didn’t know any better, and I didn’t realize how badly those childhood experience messed me up so much so that I’m not able to use tampons, get a Pap smear, or even look at myself down there, and I have so many intimacy issues and trust issues, it’s difficult for me to hold any sort of romantic relationship because of fear. Everything is painful and my OBGYN told me to see a trauma therapist because of it. Hearing your story, although I’m so saddened it happened to you, it brings me comfort that we can relate to each other because I’ve felt so alone on this my whole life.
She seems like the calmest and sweetest lady!
Props to Lexi for working on herself & doing what she can to break the patterna given to her by her bloodline! That's so so powerful & inspiring! ❤️🔥
There’s a lady who pays drug addicts who have had a few kids to get a reversible steralization so they don’t keep having kids like this. I had a friend actually say this was immoral bc it isn’t right to sterilize someone. The naive delusion of that man! Kids are being abused, hurt, born with drugs and drug addled parents! This lady has grown up and become a strong advocate but there are thousands like her
I wonder why the state doesn't intervene.
Love your podcast Devorah ♥️
When I was 4-9 I was sa'd by an older cousin. Similar reasons it was started/tolerated. His mother watched me while my parents were working and he'd let me play with him and his friends or I could play in his room. His mother/my aunt was checked out in a toxic marriage at the time so it was hours of loneliness for an only child if he shunned me that day.
And I'm horrified that it was put on Her to decide what the punishment or consequences were to be for her abuser. To put that responsibility on a child is disgusting, too. There are so many levels of disgust in all of our stories and experiences.
Edited for typo.
imho, her brother absolutely knew it was wrong, hence the “blanket” was used covering it. sad story!
Just started watching & I’m stressed.. god bless you.
she seems like such a sweetheart
It's weird that the interviewer was going on trying to empathize with the molester.
In the other video. She literally said '' men are men '' '' I can see why, you are hot'' to a woman who got sexually harassed so yeah the host is just a shitty person
you can tell she caters to men. everything ab her look at her and her foot placement
What would you think if the molester was a female?
It's not empathising, it's understanding how abuse happens.
Love this channel!
This is horrible 💔 I have two brothers myself and I really can't imagine them ever doing that to me (thankfully!)
I want to give her the biggest hug bc I feel everything she’s saying and I’ve been there.
whoever told her its her brother regardless of the abuse should be charged with misconduct an absolute betrayal.
what a beautiful, unique, strong soul!
i’ve unfortunately been waiting for a post on this topic because it’s been 8 years since my brother molested me and i have had no idea how to navigate the trauma
Umm I was also molested by my brothers, you need therapy not RUclips videos. Trust me.
Awww man this one is gonna open up a chapter of trauma, can’t wait to listen to this ep. I’ll come back w the update
A very similar thing happened. And i dont know what to call it because i can remember it happening a few times and thinking back i feel heavy discomfort think of those times.
This inspired me to head back to therapy..
so excited to watch this
This is my comfort podcast
When you go through trauma like that, it's so common for women/men to "retraumatise" subconsciously in adult relationships. Because that's how it was drilled mentally into them.
It's something I learned in my counselling degree, also made me realise I also was doing that in my early relationships due to my own trauma.
Same happened to me … still stalks me to this day.
it just kept getting worse.
Wow…this saved my life
are you ok?❤
I never really gave my sister that much attention, I'm kind of a loner. This kind of made me wish we had been closer because these sisters needed good, caring brothers, and instead got monsters. Damn.
my fave podcast 🥰
Devorah is a really good host... She allows people to talk and keeps a good format for the podcast! Keep up the good work
Weird of the host to give her opinions on why the older brother molested the victim directly to the victim when she hadn’t asked… kinda disgusting.
Right? Like she can speak up here to try and justify a literal molester but keeps her mouth shut on the girl who claimed her mom was a narcissist (not diagnosed and very shitty episode)
Yeah! So out of line
I was also molested by my brother shortly after my fathers funeral. This video really resonantes with me I heavily relate to it.
did you went to the police ?
I find it a wee hard to listen to when dev attempts to therapize her guests even tho I know her intentions are good
I agree. it's generally ok to discuss speculations with people about their experiences, but with these types of things (trauma, ab#se) you need to understand that talking about these things in a way that isnt trauma informed or if you're not trained/knowledgeable it can cause harm to people. (Not sure if i worded this right)
Its the same reason i dont get into the background of kids i work with (im a mental health support worker/respite carer), because even though i am trauma informed and have years of psych experience and education, i dont have specific training on how to talk to people about trauma, especially young people.
this story way to confusing i wish i could get better understand...
Here from Instagram 😢 good job girls
I’m so confused with the whole mom/siblings thing. Like I get that her gramma is who she refers to as mom, but how are her uncles or aunts considered siblings too? Im really confused and she doesn’t seem to elaborate on that aspect
yeah, she isn’t a very good storyteller in that sense. Not setting up a good understanding of the family dynamics right at the beginning made it all very confusing
she grew up knowing her grandma as her mom. her grandma also had kids of her own that she was raising alongside her. since she viewed her grandma as her mom, she also viewed her aunts and uncles as her siblings.
But she said she was in foster care and then her grandma took her in, so did she think her grandma was her mum tho?
@@user-nr2yl8ir1oshe calls her that and sees her like that but she know ist her grandma
This one hit so close to home. i know this pain and confusion
Wow... I thought my family was messed up. Holy ef. She seems like a totally normal person and all THAT happened.