John McEnroe: Anger became an addiction
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- Опубликовано: 6 сен 2024
- John McEnroe recalls a couple anger-fueled incidents from his pro tennis career and reflects more broadly on the benefits both of anger and anger management therapy.
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Him admitting an addiction to anger is huge. I don't think a lot of people realize that their anger responses are actually addictions to anger. They are addicted to responding like that because they feel like it gives them power when otherwise, they feel weak.
I'm 57. McEnroe is the best that I have seen. His balance on the court was magic! His reflexes, especially his back hand return of service was instinctive!
You know what, the eighties was a special time to be alive!
So true. Mcenroe was an excellent tennis player, but also an excellent entertainer!
@@jasonkhan854 Amen. He was the greatest in all ways. A truly honest player who showed his human side.
@@scpmdtWe are ALL human. However, it doesn't excuse the fact that we must be held accountable for our actions when we do something that is inappropriate, or hurtful to someone else. In my opinion, Mcenroe got away with too much with his bad behavior! He didn't set a positive example for up and coming young professional tennis players. With that in mind, I am curious as to whether he was a good father and positive role model for his children. Based on what I have witnessed on the tennis court with him, I can assume the worst.
@@jasonkhan854 Do not judge, lest you be judged
@@scpmdt I don't judge him, I am judging his bad behavior! Christ himself instructs Christians to condemn sin, but not the sinner! There is a difference!!!! Read the Bible! It says it clearly!
McEnroe's temper was all part of his entertainment!
Anger was also part of who he was; as no one can sustain that, without it being true on some level.
you've got it, that's why i.like john in the tennis court.
My number hero in tennis.court.is
Marat Safin - entertaining
Sampras and Federer, are just masters, but no kick.
A Marat Safin has.
@@brainsareus Very true and excellent point! It makes me wonder what went on behind closed doors between he and his wife and children.
Yep got my mum watching tennis
Exactly I will be like John McEnroe in fighting and wrestling use my anger problem to be entertaining
I love how honest McEnroe was in the interview.
Good therapy 😌
"Answer the question! The question jerk!" Love that quote!!
Classy
John is one of the greatest majors broadcasters/analysts in the history of this great game of tennis. He should be re-inducted to the Tennis Hall of Fame as a contributor as well. Once again, Game, set, and match, Mr. McEnroe!!!
Johnny Mac...since I was a teen boy playing tennis I've always loved this guy...a genius on the court and truly a thoughtful human being...not to mention he's such a cool badass guy.
I really like John McEnroe... him and his brother did good things in the sport I give them a lot of credit
Through all of your misdeeds on the court, John, tennis fans around the world still love you and especially love the fact that you have chosen, after your career on the court was over, to stick around and give even more back to the game that has given so much to you. Well done! .......A fan for life.
Plz. speak for yourself. Not all tennis fans liked him. I know many still hate his theatrics. He brought negative energy on the court. Pluswise, he is a great analyst of the game.
"I just wanted to clear the table." lol
'...soda speak'
literally
How he managed to avoid having hid teeth knocked out I'll never know!
Graham, it's incredible how you get all of the right people to interview. Great job.
Brilliant job
I was never a huge fan, but this stream of interview clips makes me like and respect him a lot.
outstanding interviewer skills
McEnroe, to me, will always be remembered as honest, deep, complex but most of all, great quality human being. Everything he has achieved in life, is a reflection of that solid foundation.
Just loved this guy. Always entertaining, never dull. What a fantastic tennis player and competitor!!! Tennis was never the same when he retired.
As usual, Graham's interviews are absolutely OUTSTANDING.
The fire of McEnroe the ice of Borg will never be matched.
Could yousend a link for that please?
This popped up at the right time. I got into a fight with my brother today over something stupid and I felt this seemed helpful to me.
I've seen interviews in French, Arabic and English, and Graham Bensinger is by far the best interviewer i ever saw, he might be the bes t in the world at what he does.
liamsi75 you joking? Most boring monotone interviewer I've ever heard.
A good interviewer should be discreet, ask clever questions and disapear like he's not in there. We're here to hear the guest not the host. And at that Graham is perfect. The opposite of Steve Harvey for example, he might be entertaining and colorful but he can't be a good interviewer.
Andrew Denton
Thanks for the kind words!
Graham Bensinger's style of interview reminds me of Johnny Carson's. No interrupting the person you are interviewing, and giving that same person free rein. A winning formula in my book. Thank you.
John more often than not was able to go out after expressing his anger and play better with more focus. He would capitalize on it. It didn't work that way for me. When I got extremely angry and expressed it, my head became more clouded, and I played worse, making me even angrier. It usually led to my downfall.
O I love John McEnroe. Bring back those days. He was the greatest in tennis for his era. He was entertaining with all his antics. I know I’ll get a lot of flack from many but he was real & showed his emotions , which displayed his human side. He is very honest about his life & that’s what makes him so lovable.
Never heard of Bensinger before, but he's got a future; these are great interviews.
John Rain McManus peep his channel. He's interviewed some legends
He's been interviewing since 2011
THERAPIST: I think you should try to take things a little less seriously.
MCENROE: You cannot be serious!!! You're the pits of the goddamn world!!! Grow some hair!!!
At first, I was like why McEnroe be talking to the rapist?
@@senorsunset what on earth are you talking about?
@@Ryan2022 When I read it I saw two words, where people might ordinarily see one. "THERAPIST"...
NOw that he’s a balding old man
He was full of anger, but the reason why people loved him is because the anger stemmed from passion. He never hated anyone, he was just extremely passionate
Luke Cagle ...yeah keep fooling yourself with this thought
The Shrimp Lord i totally agree with your analysis sir
Exactly, unlike some modern tennis player from down under who is angry and doesn't give a crap he won't win a slam despite having the talent
@@semoneg2826 Lol So goddamn true. Dafuq that means. Wasn't he angry? What imaginary parallel universe is this dude living in.
Mac is a New Yorker. They hate everyone....lmao
How can you interview the great Mcenroe without a big smile on your face?
you can tell when he is talking about clearing the table and doused the King of Sweden "who apparently loved it" (justifying) John smiles retelling his deliberate drama antics, his Ego is still vested in that younger version of himself with pride. even with the awareness he now has, he is still Emotionally attached to his old version of his story.
Wow. First, I appreciate someone speaking openly abt therapy and their personal mental health. Often we speak of mental health in general or somebody else's mental health so I feel that it takes courage. Never saw Mac that way. which brings me to, I watch Graham from time to time, enjoy many interviews but I never thought of him as outstanding. Now I see it. good preparation, a few thoughtful prompting questions and then the genius part is, he (or u) allow(s) the person to speak as much as they want with minimal interrupting. He often does another thing that I enjoy in which he also responds to their response, before diving into the next question. Good job it seems obvious but I'm always disappointed when it goes the other way.
Really appreciate the kind words and thanks so much for watching!
So refreshing to see real interviews of actually hardworking people who have made a postive impact and earned their respects all over the world..keep going Graham..subscribing now
I loved 🥰 watching John play. Temper and all!
The more and more I listen to Mac, the more I like him. Smart, talented, father of six, what's not to respect?
Awesome interview. Could listen to this guy talk all day and you got some very real responses from John, well done
He was Right a LOT when he criticized those Refs!!!
McEnroe was so good he could have played about 5 more years when he retired. I remember Jimmy Conners reamed him out for it too, cuz Jimmy kept playing into his late 30’s I believe!
Thank you John for being so honest. You make me feel so human.
Such a great player! Brilliant!=)
Awesome interview.
This is really true . U have to be careful with anger because it really does become a negative feedback loop in my experience
My. Iconic. I grew up with mcEnroe and tony montana...... today. I own a huge mansion and 2 4wd transportations with a huge of toys video game . Vinyl. Collection. Oh btw. A bunch of firearms tooo ... respect
Anger is an energy.
I was in a fight, but I don't get in fights, but I got in a fight that day, but that's not me.... #sad.
I've always liked J. Mc. I saw him at Wimbledon 1982 Final with Connors. Also got some photos of warm up with Fleming on outer court. As for his temperament,, its all part of the game for him. Not to mention the Irish in him! I say that an Irish girl. All the best to him.
I think part of the reason Tatum liked him so much was because she was angry like her Dad.
Tatum confessed, her only love.
his anger was also gamesmanship.
best hands at the net!
You cant say he wasnt Box Office at Wimbledon we would queue over night to get tickets and everyone in the queue wanted to watch John before anyone
Johnny Mac! 💕🤙🏼
My spirit animal.
Even in this interview he's like a coiled spring.!!
Brad Gilbert did a pretty good analysis of John McEnroe's temper tantrums, in his book "Winning Ugly" . Basically, if he was losing, he'd stall the momentum of the game and his opponents rhythm, by arguing line calls.
Radnally nope. Gilbert was out to lunch on that one. Don’t get me wrong, there was that aspect to Mac - especially early on, and that’s what Gilbert experienced, but later it started to hurt John. Which he admitted privately. Early on his anger made him play better after, but later it was doing the opposite. He was nothing if not sincere. Outburst would occur and then he’d talk about it for 2 hours in a press conference saying he had to change and stop doing it.... then he’d be good for a few weeks and boom he’d snap again. John was a genuinely nice and thoughtful guy with a really bad temper on court - ironically late in his career - and in the seniors - he stopped trying to control it because people “expected” it as part of the show, now he just lets it go! Lol. You want to see contrived? Jimmy connors. For that matter, most of the players today play stupid games with injury timeouts, yelling and other things ... gone are the old aussies and Pete Sampras and edberg. Now it’s all histrionics and passive-aggressive gamesmanship.
@@datacipher It's insights like this that make me wish I'd have experienced the golden age of tennis back in the day. And the obscure players. From what I've seen bits of there's some very good ones, just not on the same consistent level as Connors/Lendl/Mac, Becker, Cash and the swedes. Really did seem like the wild west too when it came to rules and outbursts
@@datacipher Gilbert was correct. Using temper tantrums distracted his opponents (remember the fine Czech player Ivan Lendl? It was just another shot in his arsenal. He should have been penalized by points, and been expelled. Like Serena the ATP have acceoted it because it sells tickets.
@@Dman9fp yes it certainly was, but what I really miss is the diversity of styles. It was fascinating to speculate how... mecir’s smooth control would match up against edberg’s volleys or mac’s all court attack... or lendl’s topsin power or Connors flat laser beams... is Becker going to serve and volley a lot today or stay back?
Today’s players are great too but they come out of cookie cutter academies and teaching styles... power baseline but from well behind the baseline all day, every day... they do that style as well any anyone ever has... but that’s all any good then do (for the most part). Murray and djokovic have had great battles I’ve enjoyed but they basically play the same game, and after 1 set, I’ve already seen every single possible point they can play - great points, but I’ve seen them all!
@@annbush1826 no. As Mac noted then and now, he regretted his actions... he was famous for hour long press conferences - describes as irk journalists as therapy sessions - after outbursts where he’d wax on about how he disappointed himself and his kid and how he was now going to change (which he then would ... for a days to weeks before it happened again). Everyone knew this though the simple - and generally false - narrative was that he was using it as a weapon. That was Connors - Connors manipulated everyone all the time and he absolutely used it as a ploy.
Moreover by 86, people were noting how instead of playing better after tantrums he was now playing worse. Nastase even noted that st the time saying the same thing was happening to Mac that happened to him: earlier in his career that anger made him play better but later it started having the opposite effect.
I enjoy listening to Mac as an adult 😎
YOU CANNOT BE SERIOUS! I LOVE Mac the Mouth.
Too bad he is remembered more for his outburst than for his game and all his interviews are about his anger issues, but who can blame us? John McEnroe is synonimous with tantrums.
Another crazy Mick, gotta, luv it ....
"You know what its like to get riled up dont ya Johnny Mac"?
That i do
“God knows they charge too much for most people”. We wonder why so many people out there are suffering
You know for fact that he's the kinda guy who would flip a house of he lost his keys lol.
You can see his temper boiling up in this interview.. reminds me of larry david.. fucking lvoe it
I could just imagine what his temper tantrums were like when he was a little kid lol!
Can u imagine going on a date with mcenroe after his divorce and listening him bobbing his head and waving his arms go ON and ON and ON about himself like a machine gun at the dinner table? i think my eyes would glaze over (not from awe) and I would feel like a trapped animal! looking desperately for an escape...
His act wouldn't be necessary with the line caller technology that exists today. Scream all you want but the technology doesn't lie.
John McEnroe, Jimmy Connors, and Illie Nastase, changed the game of Tennis -- from boring to first class entertainment.
His anger and antics became a part of his strategy as he would intimidate both his opponent as well as the umpires to try to gain an advantage. The only time that he really got punished was getting defaulted from the 1990 Aussie Open. I think that his behavior had a terrible influence on the game overall, but it worked for him.
He ultimately became hotheaded and rageful to the point of self-parody.
Absolute nonsense. Have you read his book? He speaks honestly that he felt his meltdowns only made him play worse, and did nothing to his opponents.
LastManSleeping ....don't bother with those hypocrites but they want to kill Serena
Grew up watching JMcR --- dude kicks ass
McEnroe legende TENIS
1. Am I correct in reading between the lines that if he didn't have children, maybe marriage, that he'd be more justified in keeping the purity of his anger and thus be more effective on the court?
2. I respect and like listening to him. On the other hand, let me tell of the opposite, my late friend Rick was at a basketball game, NBA, probably in Canada, when he witnessed a player who was on the sidelines bleeding and injured in the mouth, holding two big cups, one filled with water to wash out his injured mouth. He turned around to the front row of spectators and instead of spitting out the water into the one empty cup, he just splattered a number of people in a very negligent and disrespectful manner.
So who knows what diseases his blood contained, he didn't care.
I've witnessed really ignorant behavior from many pro NBA players. No need to enumerate them here.
I do not put John in that category at all, fwiw.
Even if u don't have kids u can end up negatively affecting your other family , siblings that have kids that are scared to bring you to dinner because u might blow up . Getting in legal trouble if it becomes physical . It's really kind of nuts if you just follow through with your anger to the end . I'm not saying dont express it constructively but the first impulse is more often the wrong one . Unless someone is genuinely threatening your life
Good tennis player
Yeah it real funny thing about John here in the States,when I was grown up as kid playing tennis in a tennis family I have said it before I missed all of John's great moments because everyone I met,when I tell them I teach tennis all would say what do you think of MacEnroe,I say again,well he's a great player,but he needs a good talking too ,no just kidding ,but they would go on,useally people would be split 50 50 on john,they say I don't like him,or they say I like him,5 against 5,just general public folks,that isn't bad for main stream, fans versus other sports fans who really don't care much for tennis,ooh ooh I didn't know new Yorkers were allowed in pro tennis match,to me that's what John was he was New York all the way,tough as nails and never excepting anything for face value,I always one step a head,but as teaching pro I have tried to study the game and the players and the different ways they each played and I just picked up stuff from each from tv,Borg I copied his forehand and his backhand,Connors his forehand and backhand,Mac I used to like a lot people be fascinated by his service stance and his motion,and wow the kicker,it took me a while when I got time,but what a rewarding serve,I laughed when John saying something about his back bothering him,because coping his serve was giving my back trouble,john so if your wondering why that's it,but it was worth it that's a hell of jump when u get it right u can almost get it all the way around some one.The anger thing is tricky you need to channel it but its like using a bellows to keep the fire red hot with gas can in your other hand my dad has a real anger issue,but I have learn to put it into my competitiveness and use it energy to fight back and win points and games and matches,managing the pressure is key because it a heavy toll on you if you let it in,the key is to use it control it and turn it off when you don't need it,and to keep emotion out of it,which is probably the really really hard part of it...good ruck...yeah that cool people are expecting john to blow a fuse or blow someone's few or try so now you gotta put on a show,hey dats why you get paid da bigses bucks...you guys....
I love McEnroe!
He is good in mathematics ... he has a degree on something near of .. if am not wrong ! Smart guy !
This interview 😂😂
ANGER CANNOT BE DISHONEST. -Marcus Aurelius
You used the question I suggested. Thanks, really wanted to know.
Skinny-jeans and a padlock necklace.. Enough said.
He gives me Dr. Jordan Peterson vibes when he talks about serious stuff
Would he have cleared the table if
1. He knew the King of Sweden was sitting in the front row; and
2. There was a Nobel Prize for Tennis?
Yep that's true he is w one of the best tv tennis guys ,like john Madden of tennis,if you can't get me that MacEnroe feller get me his brodder ,Patrick he just as good put a hat on him and u can't tell them apart....hah hah.thanks,not for nothing but I really liked mac on tennis if he wasn't on I didn't want to watch basically ,it was like Football without Madden,comforting and senseable comments,that's just me,I'm not a cop but I play a cop on television,remember those kids...
Well, John was an amazing player, but also a jerk. He could not control himself and used his anger on purpose to make him play better. He was a very bad example for young tennis player, and a very bad role model.
Despite my liking of John I would have laughed every time he lost it .
Normal guy trying to get better 🇦🇺
cocaine is a hellava drug
8 Psychs. Can't have been fans.
Spare the rod spoil the child
You can’t be serious……
Nero-peptides.........
Lots and lots of...excuses...
Please. At what point does a poor sport become a "struggling artist"? The guy never lost it when he was ahead, but managed to always lose it and disrupt his opponent when he was behind. Where I come from that's being a lousy sport no matter how good the person is.
Not a fan of this whole bs about him making commercials mocking his behavior. It's not funny.
He's not like that? Take a look at this video. Keep in mind that this is a meaningless senior event, the guy is almost 50 years old and there's a ball kid standing 5 feet from him. How's that for a role model? The guy has serious issues and none of them are "cute".
ruclips.net/video/rkq6ZsYqd5o/видео.html
John Jerkenroe
very very sad
Jhone is like nick kyrigos.But ı love jhone he is angry but dosent mather
If McEnroe didn’t have tennis with it’s money and fame he would have probably ended up in prison. That’s where the angry end up 🤬!
bordering!?!? hahaha xD
This guy just mAkes a lot of excuses
He's bald.