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  • Опубликовано: 20 апр 2021
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Комментарии • 959

  • @AndriaBieberDesigns
    @AndriaBieberDesigns 3 года назад +517

    Just a reminder. Never go back and meet the abuser. They try to get you to meet them again, don’t go. I cannot believe they let this woman out of jail.

    • @PearlFirexx
      @PearlFirexx 3 года назад +25

      Yep they always try to lure you in and guilt trip you into speaking with him. Never give them another second of your time. I've made that mistake before with an abuser but at least those mistakes didn't cost me my life as a result. Pretty lucky.

    • @carolnahigian9518
      @carolnahigian9518 2 года назад +6

      Like Dorothy Straten Story - Waste of all her potential for a wasted life.

    • @witchcerridwen
      @witchcerridwen 2 года назад +1

      yeah i just dont understand why they would go back.they know something bad will happen.

    • @qei431.
      @qei431. 2 года назад

      Well she's a woman so let her go

    • @verytrusfrated
      @verytrusfrated 2 года назад +3

      Or at the bare minimum bring witnesses with you, never go alone

  • @mytruecrimelibrary
    @mytruecrimelibrary 3 года назад +675

    The guy who broke up with her when he found out about her past literally dodged a bullet.

    • @jayuhoo4806
      @jayuhoo4806 3 года назад +47

      5 bullets to be exact

    • @mytoesarecold5555
      @mytoesarecold5555 3 года назад +35

      That tampon part was so 🤮

    • @elphaba4674
      @elphaba4674 3 года назад +2

      🤭

    • @georgiak6017
      @georgiak6017 3 года назад +16

      Like those people who encountered serial killers like Ted Bundy but managed to avoid death.

    • @warrenvanwyk6249
      @warrenvanwyk6249 3 года назад +21

      And then there's me... Sir Dumbass... I saw all the red flags but for some reason ended up marrying her. It ended very badly, however I'm (obviously) still alive. :-)

  • @kathymack3791
    @kathymack3791 3 года назад +794

    “Dear Zachary” is the most heartbreaking documentary I’ve ever seen. I don’t know how Andrew’s parents found the strength to go on.

    • @mrsmacca126
      @mrsmacca126 3 года назад +4

      Hello, Kathy! May I please know where to find the documentary? 🙏

    • @DottieMinerva
      @DottieMinerva 3 года назад +9

      It’s so infuriating 😞

    • @Mountlougallops
      @Mountlougallops 3 года назад +12

      Grace under fire. Two remarkable human beings and I agree. Almost unspeakably heartbreaking. Those poor people. And poor Zachary. Admirable people. I bet Andrew was a great guy too.

    • @DottieMinerva
      @DottieMinerva 3 года назад +31

      @@Mountlougallops the fact that they had to even be around her is SO wrong. What is wrong with that system for victimizing these people even more?

    • @Milkugh
      @Milkugh 3 года назад +9

      Honestly I cried a little just watching this video because it brought back all the details of the story.

  • @Gallop4Me
    @Gallop4Me 3 года назад +490

    Never, never meet a crazy ex anytime or any place, no matter how logical they may seem. If you must meet them, go to a crowded area or a police station. Meeting them alone so "you can talk" most likely will be the last conversation you ever have.

    • @MrsDannunzio
      @MrsDannunzio 3 года назад +42

      YES! In this day and age, with Skype, Zoom, phones, webcams, there is NO REASON to talk in person.

    • @gimmeyourankles
      @gimmeyourankles 3 года назад +33

      @@MrsDannunzio or even better, don't contact them in any way. People online-stalk people now days, i think is better to cut all ties asap, block them in all social media so they don't know where you at, the people you talk to etc.

    • @francesbernard2445
      @francesbernard2445 3 года назад +14

      Would you believe that a psychologist who was educated in the U.S. that was hired by family court where I live here in Canada about 18 years ago now kept on insisting that I allow my soon to be ex-husband to pick me up for us both to attend his office together after I told him he had a history of violence which included a road rage incident which led to him getting charged? At the time father's rights groups had a list of them they would insist upon or none.

    • @mytoesarecold5555
      @mytoesarecold5555 3 года назад +17

      Totally. I had an ex that wanted to see me “just one last time.” Oh, hell no. Go look up pictures of me on fb, or something.

    • @polarbearsrus6980
      @polarbearsrus6980 3 года назад +7

      Exactly! And, never use your ex to have sex with after you break up, that is so stupid!!!

  • @thesouringgentleman
    @thesouringgentleman 3 года назад +1054

    My goal in life is to never do anything that inspires a Dr. Grande video.

    • @mrsmacca126
      @mrsmacca126 3 года назад +10

      Hear, hear

    • @gimmeyourankles
      @gimmeyourankles 3 года назад +18

      Same, can you imagine having a video in this channel dedicated to your case? Scary, but i wonder how Dr. Grande would describe me 😅

    • @s.ormgamalson6489
      @s.ormgamalson6489 3 года назад +3

      Like Chris D'elia's comedy 😆

    • @mytoesarecold5555
      @mytoesarecold5555 3 года назад +29

      Some aren’t bad. The Freddie Mercury and Fred Rogers ones were good. Maybe you just have to be named Fred to get a good Dr Grande analysis.

    • @mariemarie2888
      @mariemarie2888 3 года назад +7

      It's the great humour and sarcasm we all know and love. As long as it's regarding someone else because Dr Grande has the best one liners ,❤️

  • @Scotkhuncap
    @Scotkhuncap 3 года назад +214

    Judge's are untouchable.. That Judge is directly responsible for the baby's death.
    Thank you for the presentation and analysis.

  • @anlawrence1974
    @anlawrence1974 3 года назад +434

    Judge to Shirley Turner: I’m going to release you from jail because you killed a specific person therefore you’re not a threat to other random people.
    Me: What?!
    Other imprisoned murderers: WHAT?!!

    • @maxklemberer3237
      @maxklemberer3237 3 года назад +17

      Its incredible.

    • @elavke5441
      @elavke5441 3 года назад +55

      Judge should and disbarred for deraliction of duty

    • @thezyklonbeast
      @thezyklonbeast 3 года назад +18

      Nah this is Canada... Par for the course there

    • @nealkelly9757
      @nealkelly9757 2 года назад +14

      Canada rewards criminality

    • @jasonmichael3676
      @jasonmichael3676 2 года назад +8

      It's Canada....you get a free murder or 2.

  • @Ruth78620
    @Ruth78620 3 года назад +589

    I cried for most of Dear Zachary that Canadian judge has blood on her hands too. Andrews parents are incredible human beings.

    • @deborahwestendorf9486
      @deborahwestendorf9486 2 года назад +8

      This was so heartbreaking I read the book. I cried a lot!

    • @BeckBeckGo
      @BeckBeckGo 2 года назад +12

      You know what I can’t figure out here. Why random murder is somehow less serious than killing someone you know. For one thing, killing someone you’re not close to is probably a lot easier to do. At least emotionally. It’s easier to get away with because you have no immediately apparent connection to the victim. Which means you can do it without apprehension more times. And you know who else kills strangers? Serial killers and mass murderers. What the fuck was this judge basing his reasoning on?
      It’s Newfoundland. And we canadians have jokes about Newfies all over the place. But we don’t actually believe they’d ever do anything as stupid as this judge did.

    • @Ruth78620
      @Ruth78620 2 года назад +25

      @@BeckBeckGo that judge killed Zachary as sure as that phsyco Shirley did. Surely they did background checks on her and found out she had 4 other children she gave to their fathers because she basically couldn't be arsed to be a mother. I ugly cried my way through that documentary for the sheer sadness for Andrews parents and I've never wanted to get mt hands on someone as much as I wanted to get my hands on Shirley! And im a very peaceful person. I hope that judge was fired.

    • @gerardsanders3225
      @gerardsanders3225 2 года назад +5

      It gets worse. Not only does she still hold her post, but she was referred for the Canadian Supreme Court. She's also got some comparably baffling judgements under her belt.

    • @crybaby3710
      @crybaby3710 2 года назад +1

      I went from smiling to crying in less than 30 seconds (I went into the doc not knowing what happened other than an adult man was killed)
      I've never had a doc have SUCH a twist after a precious moment. broke my heart for them, such good people.

  • @horrortackleharry
    @horrortackleharry 3 года назад +259

    I don't think that judge would be very tough on organised crime. I mean, the mob only ever put hits out on specific people, not random ones- so they're always golden, right?

  • @USALibertarian
    @USALibertarian 3 года назад +176

    "She killed a specific person so she can get out." Ummm...no, she killed anyone whatsoever therefore needs to be in prison ASAP. WTF?

    • @chad3232132
      @chad3232132 2 года назад +18

      I almost feel like in cases like this the judge bears some level of criminal responsibility.

    • @marymartindale884
      @marymartindale884 2 года назад +8

      The judge made absolutely no sense. The fact that she specifically killed the person she wanted dead should not have been a reason to say she wasn't dangerous.

    • @Normaschthewanderer
      @Normaschthewanderer 2 года назад

      That wasn't the final sentence. It was just until there was a verdict. It's still asinine the judge did it considering how much of a flight risk she was, and forcing Zachary into her custody without considering she might be a threat to him.

    • @marymartindale884
      @marymartindale884 2 года назад +2

      @@Normaschthewanderer I know it wasn't the final sentence, but for a judge to literally say that a person is not a danger to the public in general because she's a good shot and killed the guy she was aiming at is ludicrous.

    • @Normaschthewanderer
      @Normaschthewanderer 2 года назад +2

      @@marymartindale884 I don't disagree. It was asinine that she thought it was alright to let her go on bail.

  • @RolandHutchings1928
    @RolandHutchings1928 3 года назад +578

    Compelled to comment as she taught me in high school in small town in Newfoundland , graduated 93 , she was Shirley Caines back then . Her subjects were Chem and Bio , say on Monday we had class she may be in perfect mood all great , next day she could be totally opposite human being , we as students were on eggshells , it was bizarre to see and understand as 16-17 yr old , cause she was out teacher .
    Anyway think she left 95 , go back school and become doctor in St Johns . When all this happened , we were all shocked , but not surprised due to her irrational behaviour we witnessed years before .
    Newfoundland Canadian government failed Andrews parents and ultimately Zachary .

    • @golovastik.mp3
      @golovastik.mp3 3 года назад +59

      very interesting, thank you so much for sharing!

    • @MrsDannunzio
      @MrsDannunzio 3 года назад +46

      WOW! I forgot that she was a teacher. That's terrifying! So interesting to see your perspective during that time. She seemed to be very smart, but so disturbed. I'm sorry that you had to go through that.

    • @nicoles7800
      @nicoles7800 3 года назад +23

      Thanks so much for sharing your experience. I find this case devastating.
      Beyond sad.

    • @rishaa682
      @rishaa682 3 года назад +12

      just like they failed with gabriel wartman👍

    • @francesbernard2445
      @francesbernard2445 3 года назад +10

      Thanks for sharing.

  • @wigglebolt4079
    @wigglebolt4079 3 года назад +282

    “The man broke up with her, Mostly because of the murder part” 😆

    • @Ron4885
      @Ron4885 3 года назад +7

      That would do it for me too. :) (a very dangerous person that looks sweet)

    • @annieportier3584
      @annieportier3584 3 года назад +11

      It's for sure a game changer!!

    • @Throatzillaaa
      @Throatzillaaa 3 года назад +5

      lol I love when he says that... "Mostly because the dying/murder part"

    • @mrsmacca126
      @mrsmacca126 3 года назад +1

      Also, she never cut her toenails

    • @marthasalter405
      @marthasalter405 3 года назад +4

      I just wish he had cooperated with the police, maybe her bail would have been revoked

  • @DottieMinerva
    @DottieMinerva 3 года назад +116

    Canadian justice system is so unbelievably lenient. They have blood on their hands.

    • @heatherbukowski2102
      @heatherbukowski2102 2 года назад +25

      I mean, they literally released a man who ate a guy on a bus free to the public, so. It sure seems that way.

    • @nealkelly9757
      @nealkelly9757 2 года назад +6

      Leftist paradise, coming soon to America

    • @stephenbrand5661
      @stephenbrand5661 2 года назад +14

      @@nealkelly9757 The United States has the biggest prison population on the planet and much higher rates of violent crime than Canada so we could learn a thing or two from that "leftist paradise."

    • @clintthuong6448
      @clintthuong6448 2 года назад +6

      So is Australia’s.

    • @heatherbukowski2102
      @heatherbukowski2102 2 года назад +4

      @@nealkelly9757 Hopefully! Canada def has its problems but they're doing a much better job than we are. We should take notes from other countries and find a better balance.

  • @leximari
    @leximari 3 года назад +235

    David & Kathleen are amazing people, parents, and grandparents. They created an amazing son lost far too soon.

    • @francesbernard2445
      @francesbernard2445 3 года назад +1

      I like your phrase, "-created an amazing son-".

    • @NicoleJacksonnoj100
      @NicoleJacksonnoj100 3 года назад +7

      They are so awesome. Besides knowing how tragic the documentary unfolded for their child and grandchild, it was a honor to get to know those two heros.

    • @chad3232132
      @chad3232132 2 года назад +4

      David probably wishes every day that he'd actually killed Shirley as he considered doing. If he had, Zachary would still be alive. I still can't get over the judge's logic. Most are targeting a specific person. So by this logic wouldn't nearly everyone in prison for murder be deemed "not a danger" to society? Makes no sense.

    • @christinehutchins123
      @christinehutchins123 2 года назад

      @@chad3232132 , yes, and his wife could have raised the baby. Not a good option, but that little boy would be here today.

    • @joerudnik9290
      @joerudnik9290 Год назад

      Too bad they were too honest and too accommodating; they should have taken the baby and given him to someone to hide.

  • @nicolestewart2843
    @nicolestewart2843 3 года назад +402

    I absolutely love seeing doctor grande subscriber count shoot up. He deserves a million and I can't wait to see him get there.

    • @therealbs2000
      @therealbs2000 3 года назад +9

      Grande to the moon

    • @Ruby0465
      @Ruby0465 3 года назад +2

      I concur!

    • @vosaemify
      @vosaemify 3 года назад +3

      His narratives are made of gold. Borderline comedic genius.

    • @ennuiii
      @ennuiii 3 года назад +3

      @@vosaemify missed opportunity to go with "borderline comedian disorder"

    • @jlllx
      @jlllx 3 года назад +1

      he deserves what he gets.

  • @zappawench6048
    @zappawench6048 3 года назад +141

    Poor David and Kathleen had their hearts ripped apart twice by that bitch (sorry, but there's no other word for her). Dear Zachary the documentary was equal parts heart-rending and rage-inducing.

    • @marymartindale884
      @marymartindale884 2 года назад +6

      You are correct, there is no better word to describe her

    • @Lulu-ut9pv
      @Lulu-ut9pv 2 года назад +1

      I personally think bitch is too nice of a word her...
      Maybe super insane mega bitch

    • @AFR0MAMBA
      @AFR0MAMBA 2 года назад +9

      @@marymartindale884 the grandparents called her the devil. that’s more fitting

    • @marymartindale884
      @marymartindale884 2 года назад +1

      @@AFR0MAMBA good point. That definitely fits better

    • @RowanWarren78
      @RowanWarren78 2 года назад

      Zappa, absolutely agreed.

  • @blazefairchild465
    @blazefairchild465 3 года назад +131

    Thank you for covering this topic Dr.Grande , sadly Judges release children to unstable parents way to often. I think Zachary and his father would be alive today had the Judge gotten a forensic mental assessment of this killer. This is the documentary's that is one of the saddest I have ever seen. The fact that she had to take the baby was the sickest thing I have ever seen.

  • @internetperson9121
    @internetperson9121 3 года назад +61

    If the genders were reversed, bail never would have been granted and custody of the child would have never been permitted.

    • @marymartindale884
      @marymartindale884 2 года назад +11

      Very true

    • @Lulu-ut9pv
      @Lulu-ut9pv 2 года назад +11

      100% if she was a man, she will be in jail still! The culture within the law and police system tend to not like women in prison or being procuquited

    • @kotaro1483
      @kotaro1483 Год назад +4

      Unfortunately, my dad was let out on bail despite being in for 100,000 on child rape for sexually abusing me. Can confirm it happens with men too 😅
      They could know he's a sexual predator that was accused before. They could know he's dangerous and was abusive to his partner. And still give him joint custody over me and my brother. Then let him out on bail when he gets arrested for it. The system is broken even all these years later. You're lucky if you never have to get involved with it

    • @OrionSauce
      @OrionSauce 4 месяца назад

      And white 🤷🏼‍♂️

  • @Seldarius
    @Seldarius 3 года назад +58

    Im so incredibly sad for grandparents who try everything to protect children from their murderous parents and still fail in the end. Its horrible and so senseless.

  • @ChristinePerez903
    @ChristinePerez903 3 года назад +52

    What a sad story!! All because someone told her no, Andrew and Zachary lost their lives. Great video Dr Grande!!

  • @JoeinSeattle.
    @JoeinSeattle. 3 года назад +184

    I like the fancy myself a documentary aficionado. This was hands-down the most brutal, disturbing and infuriating documentary I’ve ever seen. It’s a doozy of an tragic story .

    • @cessxiii
      @cessxiii 3 года назад +24

      RIGHT?! i watched it with no prior knowledge at ALL, and couldn't believe the twist.. this was about 10 years ago. And the case STILL stays with me.

    • @JoeinSeattle.
      @JoeinSeattle. 3 года назад +15

      @@cessxiii Same here my friend. The wife and I stumbled on it one night . It wrecked us for weeks.

    • @alyssajessie4779
      @alyssajessie4779 3 года назад +2

      Where can this documentary be found?

    • @JoeinSeattle.
      @JoeinSeattle. 3 года назад +1

      @@alyssajessie4779 Free on Tubi or Amazon prime. Rentable everywhere else

    • @andreakoroknai1071
      @andreakoroknai1071 3 года назад +4

      yeah, I hope that judge that let shirley out has a ton of remorse. what happens in a case like this? are there any consequences for the judge? it's basically their fault.

  • @marys3127
    @marys3127 3 года назад +17

    “Her psychiatrist posted the majority of her bail.” What???!!!

    • @baldanders8717
      @baldanders8717 2 года назад +5

      I read that he was charged 10 grand and given psychiatric counseling as punishment. Not fired/disbarred/removed from his field. The failures and evils committed by shirley were tragic but perhaps, given her nature, to be expected, and what's more they had the potential to be addressed and stopped. The failures and wrongs from the canadian justice system, however, are mindblowing.

  • @Chefgrlangel
    @Chefgrlangel 3 года назад +55

    I cried after watching the documentary. She's a fn monster.

  • @shicadelic
    @shicadelic 3 года назад +69

    As a mom of a toddler, this story breaks my heart.

    • @katielady1686
      @katielady1686 3 года назад +10

      As a human, it breaks mine as well.

    • @co9971
      @co9971 3 года назад +5

      the documentary will make you cry for sure

    • @mytoesarecold5555
      @mytoesarecold5555 3 года назад

      @@co9971 - I cried.

    • @zackc.8015
      @zackc.8015 Год назад +3

      @@katielady1686 It is on a different level when you're a parent.

  • @Dvrynnn
    @Dvrynnn 3 года назад +81

    That documentary had me bawling my eyes out

    • @kathymack3791
      @kathymack3791 3 года назад +5

      Me, too. It absolutely ripped my heart out and tore it to pieces.

    • @mrsmacca126
      @mrsmacca126 3 года назад

      Where can I find the doc, please?!?!?!

    • @lynncrf
      @lynncrf 3 года назад +3

      Same. I was in floods of tears and have never cried like that at any film/documentary.

    • @sarah2.017
      @sarah2.017 3 года назад +3

      @@mrsmacca126 I saw it on Netflix, but if it isn't there, see if you can get a DVD from your local library. I should add that I knew absolutely nothing about the story before I watched it, besides that it involved a custody dispute.

    • @Ruth78620
      @Ruth78620 3 года назад +2

      @@sarah2.017 i was the same and it broke my heart. I was a bawling mess. I found it on RUclips its incredibly sad but an important watch.

  • @reesemorgan2259
    @reesemorgan2259 3 года назад +43

    Watched "Letters to Zachary" years ago. It is one of the saddest stories I've ever seen. The righteous fury of the Grandfather I remember to this day. It's the sort of thing I'm glad I watched, but I couldn't watch it again.

    • @christievanderlaan7575
      @christievanderlaan7575 2 года назад

      Is this different than “Dear Zachary”?

    • @Haseo92
      @Haseo92 2 года назад

      @@christievanderlaan7575 it's the same, the full title has the word "letter" in it

  • @joerudnik9290
    @joerudnik9290 Год назад +3

    This situation is a huge testament to the fact that being ‘right’ and ‘honest’ is not enough. The grandparents should have sought out one of those networks that hide people ( especially children) from psychotics and abusers. The murdered son should have never met with her alone. The family should have investigated her past behavior right from the beginning.

  • @meowmeowmeowbarf
    @meowmeowmeowbarf 3 года назад +25

    Dear Zachary is one of the best films I'll never watch again. It hit so hard.

  • @lornaginetteharrison7168
    @lornaginetteharrison7168 3 года назад +39

    I usually leave somewhat lighthearted comments in response to these videos, appreciating the good doctor’s sense of humour; _mostly_ of late - if I’m honest! - revolving around the configuration of the plant/cacti cast of characters in the Dr. Todd Grande Extended Universe! Not today. 'Dear Zachary' remains one of the *MOST* emotionally powerful documentaries I’ve ever seen. Thank you for covering this absolutely gut-wrenching case so well. Andrew’s parents - Zachary’s grandparents - David & Kathleen Bagby, are truly inspirational people.

  • @TheCommentQween
    @TheCommentQween 3 года назад +57

    I need a shirt with the acronym for OCEANS on it
    Maybe with a cactus on it.

  • @lynncrf
    @lynncrf 3 года назад +27

    I don't think anyone ever gets past *that* moment in the film without being viscerally affected. Wow, just wow.

  • @ARCADE_EXE
    @ARCADE_EXE 3 года назад +72

    Dear Zachary, it's a Double Murder-Suicide. Shirley did it...

    • @masoncaldwell872
      @masoncaldwell872 3 года назад +8

      Didn’t realize it was a “who done it?”

    • @AngelOne11
      @AngelOne11 3 года назад

      @@masoncaldwell872 lolz.... love your reply.

  • @cottontails9003
    @cottontails9003 3 года назад +33

    Good morning Dr Grande. That woman, besides being a stalker.,murder was pure evil. There's absolutely no reason to kill an innocent baby. Could it also be revenge against the grandparents. Great analysis. The topic was a woman of evil. Thank you Dr Grande.

  • @Lesnooch
    @Lesnooch 3 года назад +6

    I do not usually advocate for judges being held liable for bad verdicts because they are human and can make mistakes. But in this case the judge should have been held directly responsible. She is a despicable woman who has no business in the profession.

  • @Ruby0465
    @Ruby0465 3 года назад +75

    This story destroyed me. 😢😢😢😢 One of the best, saddest documentaries I’ve ever seen.
    Edit: Shirley Turner 😡😡😡

    • @meverly4133
      @meverly4133 3 года назад +10

      Probably the first documentary I saw that absolutely wrecked me. I'm not sure anything has of yet come close.

    • @roxannemoser
      @roxannemoser 3 года назад +6

      Me too. The used tampon and photo of herself. She was avery sick woman, AND she was a doctor herself? Oh my, I remember Dear Zachary. My heart broke into bits. He sure did look like his dad.

    • @hedleybutler9706
      @hedleybutler9706 3 года назад +7

      If this doc doesn't leave you absolutely wrecked afterwards you have no soul. 😭🤬🥺

    • @Ruby0465
      @Ruby0465 3 года назад +6

      And Andrews parents were the most sweetest, gentle, loving, nurturing souls I’ve never met. They loved Zachary, they uprooted their whole lives for him. Crazy Shirley could have just dropped Zachary off and said farewell. Poor Zachary 😢, Poor Andrew, 😢.

  • @nursejessie8149
    @nursejessie8149 3 года назад +25

    Dear Zachary was one of the most tragic, depressing documentaries ever made yet it was incredibly well made. I’ve spread my misery after watching with everyone I could. 10/10 recommend.

    • @nicole71047
      @nicole71047 3 года назад

      🤔 what is this world?

    • @WhoTookMyMirr
      @WhoTookMyMirr 2 года назад

      That documentary should be mandatory viewing for people going into law school.

    • @mariakelly1059
      @mariakelly1059 2 года назад

      I've heard about this documentary a few times over the years, but I've never been able to get myself to rent the DVD and watch it.

  • @darksideofthemoon2348
    @darksideofthemoon2348 3 года назад +72

    Dear Zachary. .one of the saddest documentaries that I've seen...he would have been a great dad❤

    • @polarbearsrus6980
      @polarbearsrus6980 3 года назад +3

      Men should consider this and the Jodi Arias case before they decide to continue to use a woman for sex after the break up.

    • @aplusrecommends9406
      @aplusrecommends9406 3 года назад +3

      FACTS. I was so hurt and horrified.

    • @Jujudeze22
      @Jujudeze22 3 года назад +3

      I ugly cried at the end. It’s been several years now, but I still can’t muster up a second viewing.

  • @alexandrahaney8733
    @alexandrahaney8733 2 года назад +7

    I was in senior year of high school when my Film and Media teacher asked me to watch Dear Zachary to see if it was suitable for the class. I was horrified and came back and told him the intense impact it had on me, he ended up showing it to class to show the impact media can have on our emotions. Nearly the whole class was crying.

  • @leximari
    @leximari 3 года назад +17

    This story is so sad, the documentary broke my heart. Shirley was truly truly evil. RIP to Andrew & Zachary, thank you for your take Dr Grande 🕊🤍

  • @mertyagmur5487
    @mertyagmur5487 3 года назад +18

    That Judge Shirley had chose the wrong profession, putting him in charge of keeping silence in a library would be more fitting for someone so gullible

  • @dylanhicks48
    @dylanhicks48 3 года назад +4

    Dear Zachary made me cry more than any other film, book, song, etc. Andrew's parents are such genuine and beautiful people and it is tough to watch them suffer like that.

  • @katielady1686
    @katielady1686 3 года назад +16

    I’m glad you covered this one. Such a tragedy that should have been prevented (in part) by our judicial system.

  • @ericroman2403
    @ericroman2403 3 года назад +11

    These are the worst types of people. The fake and superficial with a narcissistic charm are too dangerous to engage with

    • @rishaa682
      @rishaa682 3 года назад +4

      they are everywhere in society and its dangerous to call them out.

  • @KarkatVantasBitches
    @KarkatVantasBitches 3 года назад +4

    One of the saddest documentaries ever. When the narrator spoke about Zachary's death and started to tear up I burst into full on sobs.

  • @mcr1968
    @mcr1968 3 года назад +11

    Thank you Dr. Grande for covering this story. Unfortunately, some of the actions of Shirley Turner played out in my home province of Newfoundland and was just another glowing example of the twisted mindset of some members of the justice and social welfare systems that exist here. Your analysis is a painful but valuable reminder of the strides we need to make in this province to just begin the process of righting the wrongs of the past. I can't imagine the frustration and hell Andrew Bagby's parents went through.

  • @LMCEK
    @LMCEK 3 года назад +12

    My tears started about half an hour into that film and didn't stop until after it was over. God bless the victims and family.

  • @reingp
    @reingp 2 года назад +4

    How does this judge feel when knowing their actions indirectly caused the death of the baby? Yes, their incompetence is to blame, shameful.

  • @easttowest5984
    @easttowest5984 3 года назад +20

    Don't fall little cactus!
    This doc was heartbreaking. His parents are incredible people for withstanding the loss they've endured.

    • @nancylowe2692
      @nancylowe2692 Год назад

      I just saw your comment..."don't fall, little cactus". Where did you get that saying from? It sounds familiar. Is it a line from a song or poem?

  • @nicolestewart2843
    @nicolestewart2843 3 года назад +4

    Dear Zachary is a documentary that really got inside me and has stayed there ever since. I'm interested in true crime and I watch a lot of things about every aspect of it and I read a lot of books and what not and out of all of that it is one of two documentaries that have just really really stuck with me and stayed with me. I didn't know what I was getting into when I started watching and I probably sat there for about an hour afterwards and silence just trying to really come to terms with what I had watched and what had happened to that poor man in his child

  • @debbierose882
    @debbierose882 3 года назад +14

    Thank you for covering this Dr Grande. Very disturbing story😥

  • @thomasdoubting
    @thomasdoubting 3 года назад +2

    Her diagnosis? EVERYTHING!

  • @1313MockingBird_Lane
    @1313MockingBird_Lane 3 года назад +19

    I got sick to my stomach about what happened to Zachary, just awful...Andrew's death isn't lost on me at all, it's just a mess and a tragedy

  • @clarissa8477
    @clarissa8477 3 года назад +16

    I’ve never heard of this story before, it’s incredibly sad. She had already stalked at least two men, killing one of them. She never should have been released by that judge. There was obviously a pattern of behavior...

  • @annb9422
    @annb9422 3 года назад +15

    Thank you for your excellent analysis. I have to say this is one of the most disturbing and heartbreaking documentaries I have ever seen. The twists and turns are so unbelievable but unfortunately true.

  • @thereal4113
    @thereal4113 3 года назад +10

    Surely it is common knowledge: Never anger a woman named Shirley!!! Thank you Dr. Grande 🪴🪴🪴🪴

    • @kayleewatkins2561
      @kayleewatkins2561 3 года назад +2

      Shirley it's common knowledge ;) and don't call me shirley!

  • @AedanGUnit
    @AedanGUnit 3 года назад +2

    These grandparents showed other worldly self control. Incredibly sad story.

  • @barfymann362
    @barfymann362 3 года назад +10

    Dear Zachary was a documentary which absolutely gutted me, I don't think I ever wanted to watch it again. It was intense.

  • @katyr2382
    @katyr2382 3 года назад +15

    I hadn't heard of this case (I'm in the UK). How utterly heartbreaking

  • @ApolloVIIIYouAreGoForTLI
    @ApolloVIIIYouAreGoForTLI 3 года назад +1

    Years ago I had ran out of Documentaries to watch & put this on without reading anything........Had no idea what I was about to watch.
    Broke my f**king heart by the end of it.

  • @amyedie8902
    @amyedie8902 3 года назад

    I always appreciate learning from Dr. Grande. I'm fortunate to have found his station.

  • @thinktwice8860
    @thinktwice8860 3 года назад +5

    Thanks so much for another great analysis of a terrible case, Dr Grande. This shows that mental illness is not covered specifically with professions like: judges and medical boards. The general public should be taught about dangerous red flags starting in grade school. Further, there should be a well maintained mechanism for culling these people out, attempting to help them, and making a well informed decision as to how their lives should progress. To wait for voluntary action from narcissistic people is to court disaster.

  • @muellerphyllis
    @muellerphyllis 3 года назад +4

    I’m so glad you covered this case. These are the things about life I just don’t understand. Thank you Dr. Grande:)

  • @melindeeecrafts
    @melindeeecrafts 3 года назад +2

    I'm so excited for this video! Dear Zachary is my all time favorite documentary! It's so well done.

  • @nessiequin
    @nessiequin 3 года назад +9

    This is the saddest documentary I’ve ever seen and I see a lot of them. I was sobbing at the end. Thanks for the thorough analysis. Can you cover Demo Lovato Big Chill controversy, your thoughts on the “California Sober” concept and her new documentary? I would love to hear your thoughts.

  • @QCDoggies
    @QCDoggies 3 года назад +4

    I prefer the crime analysis over the celebrity stuff, well done Doctor! This was so horrific. Might make folks think twice before jumping in the hay with a superficial, charming stranger...

  • @kimako8528
    @kimako8528 3 года назад +6

    Borderline best describes to Shirley. Difficulties in relationships especially in romantic.

  • @caroldry9262
    @caroldry9262 3 года назад

    Thank you Dr Granda. I knew about the case but to hear you explain it was incredible. Love your channel. I watch every time you post one.

  • @doktor_ghul
    @doktor_ghul 2 года назад +4

    I had a friend who became involved with a manipulative BPD monster much in the same way that Andrew Bigby became enmeshed in the spider's web of Shirley. While watching DEAR ZACHARY, memories of Brittney came flooding back, and everything that she put my friend through screamed at me while watching the documentary. I am now out of my friend's life because of Brittney, and I believe I dodged a bullet, because my friend was destroyed by his own personal Shirley, and while I could not stop her, at least I was not destroyed by her as he was. If I am ever put in a situation akin to that again, personal restraint will not enter into it. Zachary's grandfather restrained his rage. I respect that. I weep for Zachary and Andrew. All I can say about Shirley is...not suitable for RUclips.

  • @SlugfestWizard
    @SlugfestWizard 3 года назад +5

    Such a tragic/preventable story. Shame on the judge who allowed her to walk the streets after committing murder.

  • @vitdmilk5466
    @vitdmilk5466 3 года назад +5

    That last statement is so true. That’s why the saying “follow your heart” can be dangerous.

  • @dappadappz9374
    @dappadappz9374 2 года назад +1

    This video is so far very underrated in my opinion.. I really felt for something beyond your words in this video. powerful stuff and you deliver it with such respect and grace Dr Grande.. thank you 🇬🇧

  • @joycampi7233
    @joycampi7233 3 года назад

    I remember this story. So sad all the way around. Just heartbreaking and disturbing. Thanks for another informative and riveting video, Dr. Grande!

  • @PajamaJazama
    @PajamaJazama 3 года назад +4

    Ironic that those at the top of the justice system, judges, rarely have to face justice. In cases like this, the judges involved should be sentenced to prison as well.

  • @moongod5013
    @moongod5013 3 года назад +3

    The documentary was the biggest punch in the gut I've ever experienced. Bagby seemed like such a vibrant and likable person, and Zachary was so young. A fantastic analysis.

  • @andreadiamond7115
    @andreadiamond7115 2 года назад

    I would love you to do longer videos, your voice is so calm. I go to sleep listening to true crime stories but finish them. Great work. TY. ✌🏼❤️

  • @lipglosslover09
    @lipglosslover09 2 года назад +2

    The documentary about this case is excellent and heartbreaking, loved your analysis on everything!

  • @LMoon20
    @LMoon20 3 года назад +7

    This was such a horrendous and heartbreaking documentary. My heart completely broke for his parents.

  • @elainearchibald9020
    @elainearchibald9020 3 года назад +5

    Wow! Thanks Dr. Grande for this analysis! I heard about the story previously but didn't know that she ended her life and her poor little boys as well!! She had major behavior problems!! That judge should have been reprimanded for releasing her from prison. Those poor grandparents must have gone through an extreme nightmare!! Sad event! TFS

  • @Megumi646
    @Megumi646 3 года назад

    Oh wow, Dr. Grande actually did it. Been asking for months. Thank you so much! :O

  • @annienoelle4964
    @annienoelle4964 2 года назад

    dear zachary is the best documentaries ive ever seen but i cried almost the entire time. great video, i love your channel

  • @sarahhirshlee
    @sarahhirshlee 3 года назад +17

    READ THE BOOK BY DAVID BAGBY DANCE WITH THE DEVIL this is a book he was writing while Kurt Kueene was doing Dear Zachary a letter to a son about his father. The book of the little deeper into some really good parts of dear Zachary. They compliment each other perfectly! Ironically I was just watching this documentary again this morning as I have watched it literally it's got to be going on 500 times. I'm from St Louis and have met members of the bagby family but I didn't know that was them until the documentary and then I kind of put two and two together but there's just something about David and Kate that is very calming and if I'm having a really bad day and I'm having trouble going to sleep I'll put the documentary on and their voices soothes me as does Kurts

    • @sarahalbers5555
      @sarahalbers5555 3 года назад

      My name is also Sarah Lee, but Lee isn't my last name
      So howdy

  • @suedoenym4055
    @suedoenym4055 2 года назад +3

    I live in St. John's and ran into Shirley Turner just a couple of days before she killed Zachary. There were case updates nightly on the news and it was pretty clear that she was using her son to toy with the Bagbys. They were on the news constantly advocating for their grandson, pleading with the government to listen. Nobody in power ever did. I have a daughter who was born around the same time as Zachary so it was hitting close to home.
    I wasn't sure if it was her at first (her red coat was the giveaway), until she looked at me from behind those glasses. We had a bit of a glare down, and she broke eye contact first. I'm glad I could let that woman know that there was at least one person who had nothing but utter contempt for her before she left the world.
    Rest in peace little man, you deserved so much better.

    • @RosesareAllie
      @RosesareAllie 11 месяцев назад

      You handled it better then I would have! I would of went off on her and wouldn’t of been nice about it.

  • @cromulentwords
    @cromulentwords 3 года назад

    YES!!!!! Been waiting for this video! Thank you, Dr. Grande!

  • @mcd5478
    @mcd5478 3 года назад +2

    OMG 🥺 I don’t recall ever hearing about this case. Appreciate your interesting analysis and your empathetic commentary. 💕💖💕👍🏼

  • @hollyjillrowsell3744
    @hollyjillrowsell3744 3 года назад +3

    This is one of the most heartbreaking stories I have heard in a while. The system really dropped the ball in this case. I agree with you and the fact that she was a doctor, unfortunately, allowed her to "get away" with anti-social behavior more than the average person.
    I know it's just a little thing, but St. Anthony and St. John's are, indeed in Canada, however; the province in which these places are located is Newfoundland and Labrador. Just like Ontario, Alberta, Manitoba, etc. Newfoundland and Labrador is a province of Canada. Just putting that out there as I often hear people refer to places like St. John's being referred to as St. John's, Canada instead of St. John's, Newfoundland and Labardor Canada. I really do enjoy your videos and I try to listen to a new one at least once a day! Thank you for all the work you put into these interesting and informative narratives . Cheers!

  • @crescentmoonchild4031
    @crescentmoonchild4031 3 года назад +5

    She got away with so much because she had an education but we should look past this type of respect because the only difference is being able to complete an education nothing else. This is not a measure of character or integrity. So many professional people especially doctors think they are different or better because they are doctors. Pride goes before a fall

  • @auroram296
    @auroram296 2 года назад +1

    Dr. Grande has such an accessible way to tell every analysis without the need of prior knowledge to the topics he covers. Truly enjoyable as always 👏🏼

  • @richneuman9113
    @richneuman9113 2 года назад +1

    Watching Dr. Grande's analysis is a definite reality check for me, as far as what is happening in our society. It makes me think twice before entering into a relationship. You could probably multiply this and similar scenarios many times as to what is really happening in our world.

  • @RominaJones
    @RominaJones 3 года назад +3

    If you are a danger to one you are a danger to all because your angry can take you to such a place where you will harm another. Outside of defending yourself or others, that one is capable of such extreme reaction, premeditated harm, or murder, then in my estimation that makes one unstable and unpredictable and thus dangerous. Just really can't understand the judge's decision.

  • @maureeningleston1501
    @maureeningleston1501 3 года назад +8

    TRAGIC !!! I remember watching the documentary and being filled with sadness and fury, I hope that "JUDGE" does a lot of soul searching.

    • @susanl8478
      @susanl8478 3 года назад +3

      I can't imagine... I would resign and live the rest of my life questioning everything and be devastated by shame and grief !!!! It was 'all in a day's work for him' ... and then ... Wow. I couldn't live with myself.

    • @maureeningleston1501
      @maureeningleston1501 3 года назад +3

      @@susanl8478 Agree, I would feel I had blood on my hands.

  • @autumnedwards4448
    @autumnedwards4448 3 года назад

    What a tragic case!😢Thank you for your thoughts on this Dr Grande. I always appreciate your insight and keep up the good work!💙💙

  • @patspinello1693
    @patspinello1693 2 года назад +1

    I have watched "Dear Zachary" more than I like to admit. Each time a bawl. I cry for the unbelievable loss. I then get angry on how a system can't see the warning signs.

  • @meverly4133
    @meverly4133 3 года назад +10

    Number 1 on my list of excellent documentaries that I never want to watch again. Seriously, I'd rather suffer through The Cove.

  • @mrparlanejxtra
    @mrparlanejxtra 3 года назад +7

    The judges involved here completely lost perspective and had no regard for the potential of a murderer.

  • @jalasword
    @jalasword 3 года назад

    Again! I don't even get online often during the day. It just works out that I get to catch the videos as soon as they drop. Crazy!

  • @CookingbyCampsite
    @CookingbyCampsite 3 года назад +1

    One of your best videos as of late, doctor. Very, very well done!

  • @francesbernard2445
    @francesbernard2445 3 года назад +3

    I like how thorough of an analysis you did about this terrible tragedy. Dr. Grande I would like to see you do a case analysis of that judge who said it was O.K. to let Shirley get out of jail. Maybe you could call the video: [Name here], a judge who believes it is better when getting to know someone well before killing them.

  • @jeffwalther3935
    @jeffwalther3935 3 года назад +3

    This case validated the old (observation) saying: "Hell hath no fury like a (some) women scorned." Does it not? Salute to the Bagby's as TRUE loving and exemplary parents and a family. The Bagby's are magnificent HEROES. Rest in Perpetual Memoriam, Peace and Glory, Dr. Bagby and Zachary Bagby. You are missed.

  • @theclockworkpineapple
    @theclockworkpineapple 3 года назад

    Oh man, I've been waiting for this one. Thank you!

  • @QPRTokyo
    @QPRTokyo 3 года назад +2

    Thank you. I found this to be one of your more interesting videos. An extremely sad story.