Lessons From a 15-Year-Old About Grief

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  • Опубликовано: 28 сен 2024
  • Today I will read a letter that contains lessons from our 15-year-old daughter on her thoughts about his cancer journey and death. She is now 22, but she wrote this journal entry 3 weeks after he died, and shared with with me. I am reading it here with her permission to show how our perspectives of grief can be different, even when it's the same person who died.
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Комментарии • 49

  • @OneHappyWidow
    @OneHappyWidow  2 месяца назад +5

    Feel free to reply with any messages to Braylin (who did give permission for me to share this), and I'll pass them along to her!

  • @aaliyahmitchem8668
    @aaliyahmitchem8668 2 месяца назад +5

    Me and Bray grew up together. He was ALWAYS at our games. He was ALWAYS the loudest one in the gym. He was ALWAYS the life of the party. no matter how bad we lost, he was always giving us a pep talk. I lost my dad last year and Bray has been one of the most supportive people i can just cry to whenever i need it. The loss of a dad is like no other.

    • @OneHappyWidow
      @OneHappyWidow  2 месяца назад

      I’m glad you had each other to lean on. Thanks for sharing your memories!

  • @lealugerlynch802
    @lealugerlynch802 22 дня назад

    I lost my dad at 26 I can’t imagine only being 15. I was devastated and cried every day for a year. It been almost 50 years but I can honestly say I miss him dearly. A few months ago he visited me in a dream. It was wonderful. Thank you for sharing your thought. Sending you my love and a hug. Your a wonderful daughter ❤️🤗

    • @OneHappyWidow
      @OneHappyWidow  21 день назад

      Thanks for watching and sharing your feedback

  • @RachelLeMay-y9w
    @RachelLeMay-y9w 2 месяца назад +4

    Thank you so much Braylyn for letting your mom share this. I lost my father when I was 13 years old. I had no warning as he died from a heart attack. I also stuffed all my feelings in. It ended up coming out as depression and anger especially in my teenage years. I took that all out on my mother. She was also one of those that did not cry in front of the children. This was back in 1968 and they didn't have grief counseling or even books on Grief or any of that stuff so I didn't know what to do with it my mother and I were also able to talk it out before she died when I was 21. This video has brought me back to when I was 13. I still don't think I actually really fully grieved my father and I'm 69 years old. I didn't come across this video by mistake I know it was a God thing I believe some healing is going to take place I actually subscribe to this site because I had a friend who is a recent Widow and I had never having been married needed a perspective on what she was going through on what she was going through so I could be there for her thank you so much

    • @RachelLeMay-y9w
      @RachelLeMay-y9w 2 месяца назад +2

      Sorry about the run-on sentence and repetition at the end but I use the voice texting and it messes up sometimes

    • @OneHappyWidow
      @OneHappyWidow  2 месяца назад +2

      Definitely a God thing! Thanks so much, and I’ll pass this along to Braylin, she will appreciate it.

  • @toniwaugh1823
    @toniwaugh1823 2 месяца назад +2

    Leo, thank you for sharing Braylin's essay regarding her beloved daddy's passing with us. It was beautifully written and her raw emotions shone through at the very young age of 15. Thank you to her for allowing your community to listen to her powerful words just three weeks after her daddy's passing. Leo, your videos are always insightful and helpful to widows/widowers trying to navigate through their grief journeys. Thank you for all that you do to help people experiencing the loss of a spouse.

    • @OneHappyWidow
      @OneHappyWidow  2 месяца назад +1

      I will let her know about your kind message. Thanks for watching!

  • @muzikaishokolad
    @muzikaishokolad 2 месяца назад +2

    I love your awareness, your authenticity and strength to face your emotions. Your daugther is just as wonderful as you are. Such a deep letter, and she conveyed her emotions in a fascinating way and language.
    I’m impressed! Hug you both!
    You helped me to try to pay even more attention to my son’s emotions and validate them. ❤

    • @OneHappyWidow
      @OneHappyWidow  2 месяца назад +1

      Thanks for watching and sharing your feedback!

  • @marydriskell2106
    @marydriskell2106 2 месяца назад +2

    Thank you for sharing this. It’s truly amazing how family members can be going through the same thing and see it so differently. It’s a good lesson for all of us. I’m sure her Dad is so proud of her and watching over her each and every day. Always forward. ❤️🙏🏻❤️

    • @OneHappyWidow
      @OneHappyWidow  2 месяца назад +2

      Thank you for your kind words!

  • @truelily7
    @truelily7 Месяц назад +1

    Leo, I was so very touched by your daughter's writing. I agree with you about showing emotions in front of your kids. My situation was totally different. Kids grown and one estranged from us. Long story there. I really thought about what she said about showing love and appreciation to one's near and dear. We are good about that but One estranged probably never coming back. Very complicated.
    But I know we will meet on the other side and be in true spirit and together again. One thing I have learned in life is All things must pass and and some things you must learn to accept and be at peace with. I find peace by accepting what is, though I miss my husband everyday. Thank you so much for Sharing.
    this.

    • @OneHappyWidow
      @OneHappyWidow  Месяц назад

      Thanks for watching and sharing your feedback. I also have an estranged daughter, and am unsure if we will ever be able to reconcile. It makes me very sad.

  • @marshamagic8551
    @marshamagic8551 2 месяца назад +1

    I too lost my dad. That was wonderful..

    • @OneHappyWidow
      @OneHappyWidow  2 месяца назад +1

      Thanks for watching and sharing your feedback

  • @lindawalters1836
    @lindawalters1836 2 месяца назад +3

    10 yrs for me. My husband died from cancer complications.

  • @jessicavaia2122
    @jessicavaia2122 2 месяца назад +1

    Thank you for sharing this with us I need more tissues. You’re right how you can a different perspective even though you’re going through the same thing.
    Bray did an amazing job with her journal and I’m sure her dad is so proud of how she helping other people in this same situation. She writes so beautifully and thank you again for sharing this with us.

    • @OneHappyWidow
      @OneHappyWidow  2 месяца назад +1

      Thanks for watching and sharing your feedback

  • @wendywright5486
    @wendywright5486 Месяц назад +1

    My grandson was here for the 1st time since my husband died a few days ago he is devastated As my husband.
    Was the only male in the family wake up and they did a ton of stuff together he took him To the first big race of the season , knowing full well that he was going into hospice a couple of days later I see he keeps the selfie they took As his screen saver , he's sixteen , so this is really big deal my dad Was his guardian and He died of renal failure when he was seven and my husband died of renal failure/medical mistakes when he was sixteen so He's being very guarded with his feelings

    • @OneHappyWidow
      @OneHappyWidow  Месяц назад

      Poor kiddo…it’s so sad to hear about kids dealing with this type of grief. Seems so unfair!

  • @Linda-gc6le
    @Linda-gc6le 2 месяца назад +2

    I agree with you, but it's hard to show emotions especially when you are trying to make ends meet.

    • @OneHappyWidow
      @OneHappyWidow  2 месяца назад +2

      Yes, I totally understand. We have to juggle it all when we still have kiddos at home to take care of.

  • @marshamagic8551
    @marshamagic8551 2 месяца назад +1

    I’ve missed you..

  • @antonellatotino2794
    @antonellatotino2794 2 месяца назад +3

    Thankyou.
    Thankyou for sharing your deep grief and pain with us.
    My son was 14 when his daddy passed away. 2017 as well.
    It has been a difficult journey too.
    Braylin, you mentioned fainting outside the hospital room. Wow, I understand. I am sorry.
    My son ran down the hospital yelling "Daddy", the moments after he died.
    So heartbreaking for the children.
    I am sorry, but thank you.
    Different experiences felt by everyone in a different way.
    Hard lessions to learn.
    Thanks again.
    Lovely family with God guiding you.

    • @OneHappyWidow
      @OneHappyWidow  2 месяца назад +1

      Thanks for watching and sharing your story. I will pass this along to Braylin.

  • @tammymarsden4852
    @tammymarsden4852 2 месяца назад +2

    Thank you so much for sharing her story qith us, I'm crying tears from alot of mixed emotions what a brave girl she is, I lost my dad when I was just 11 and it w a s tough, now many years later I'm grieving for the love of my life and his death anniversary is Aug 4th coming so quickly, I am so proud of your daughter pls give her hugs for me she is amazing and so are u ❤️ tha KS again for sharing I am so blessed to have found your channel when I needed it most and have watched every video and will continue to watch may God bless y'all always.

    • @OneHappyWidow
      @OneHappyWidow  2 месяца назад +1

      Thank you for watching and sharing your feedback

  • @susankeenan686
    @susankeenan686 2 месяца назад +2

    Four and a half years since my husband passed away from cancer. Nine months from being diagnosed until he died. He was only 57. Our daughter was 22 and our son was 19. I hid my grief from them like you because when I broke down in front of them shortly after he died they told me it worried them so I stuffed it inside after that. Looking back I'm not so sure it's the best for me or them. Your daughters letter is so insiteful for someone at such a young age.

    • @OneHappyWidow
      @OneHappyWidow  2 месяца назад +1

      Thank you for watching and sharing your experience as well

  • @marshamagic8551
    @marshamagic8551 2 месяца назад +2

    Train wreck of a life, mine that is..

    • @OneHappyWidow
      @OneHappyWidow  2 месяца назад +2

      I’m so sorry, #widfam

    • @truelily7
      @truelily7 Месяц назад +2

      Love and Light to you.

  • @lynhead52
    @lynhead52 2 месяца назад +1

    That was touching. My dh died from cancer too. 7 yr journey. I remember when my dd and I decided that grands shouldn't come anymore because he wasn't himself. It took me a long time to comes to terms with hings. I appreciate you so much- you walked with me through this journey. It's less than two yrs. It's hard not having him here after us being together 48 yrs. Next yr would be our 50th Anniversary. My heart hurts.

    • @OneHappyWidow
      @OneHappyWidow  Месяц назад

      Thanks for watching and sharing your feedback #widfam

  • @Butterfly.2002
    @Butterfly.2002 2 месяца назад +1

    I haven’t spoken to my adult sons too much about this same topic…my grief of losing my husband and their dad was so different…I was consumed with my own grief and path forward that I wasn’t there to help them with their grief as much as I could have…thanks for reading your daughter’s essay ❤️

  • @alisonjackson4237
    @alisonjackson4237 2 месяца назад +2

    Thank you ❤

  • @AnhTran-ek6cx
    @AnhTran-ek6cx 2 месяца назад +2

    Thank you for sharing your daughter's writing. oh boy for sure I cried so hard . Sending you and your daughter hugs and prayers

    • @OneHappyWidow
      @OneHappyWidow  2 месяца назад +1

      Thanks for watching and sharing your feedback

  • @vedrakuca
    @vedrakuca 16 дней назад

    My sons lost they dad 18 months ago..i dont know what to do..i cry infront them i am super honest about everything infront of themm,still..they dont talk or share or cry ..nothing..i try to encouring them but nothing..i dont know what to do

    • @OneHappyWidow
      @OneHappyWidow  13 дней назад

      I would send them to therapy, maybe they are trying to protect your feelings.

  • @imWillJ
    @imWillJ Месяц назад

    appreciate the beautiful widows that share their stories, it's healing to hear.