“If he wants to, he will try and find you” - Stacey Dooley: Stalkers | BBC Three
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- Опубликовано: 20 янв 2022
- Stacey Dooley meets a woman stalked by her Gym instructor. Watch the two part series on iPlayer now and coming soon to BBC Three TV!
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I have said it for years but stalkers are the most dangerous type of person on earth if you are the victim. No law, no police action and absolutely no warnings will stop them. If it comes to the day they decide to kill you, they will never stop until they are in jail, dead or they win. We need to do more to support people.
How do you stop stalking? Is it by raising men to be less crazy?
some people get cancer, some get stalkers. bad luck
Well said! 👍🏻
Why didn't she just change mobile number from the beginning?
Truest words on earth and domestic abuse is a big factor of stalking
Even if he never contacts her again, that level of fear that he's infected her with could take years or a lifetime to overcome, not even mentioning how much stress it causes and energy it drains. He got 7 months, but he's definitely taken away more from her.
She got out of that relationship just in time before he went full psycho. This is him at 50% right now
A sick world nobody should have to go through this . ..
Always wondered what goes through the mind of a stalker? What do they think they will achieve by stalking someone, and putting them in such a dangerous situation, eventually getting right into their head? I will never understand.
me too, we having a lesson right now about stalking - and i am completely lost, I simply don't understand why a stalker stalks 🐧
Its about control
Thanks Stacey your documentaries are Brilliant! I have know both a man and a woman who have been seriously stalked by their x-partner. And when I was was doing my technical training I had a stalker but he was deterred by a few friends of mine. I was very lucky.
My other two friends were not so lucky.
Why is he being let out early when he's barely served his sentence?
I suppose from the judge's point of view he hasn't harmed anyone physically and he didn't make physical threats to harm. But he has harmed! By stalking this woman, he has psychologically harmed her because she feels so unsafe and is scared to even sleep! That's so scary and harmful and it will take months perhaps years to undo the damage done.
This applies to any stalker victim, man or woman. The harm that is afflicted is psychological and whilst it cannot be quantifiably measured like with physical injuries, it doesn't mean it matters less! So if they get a sentence they need to carry it out to the end.
It's not a severe crime like murder. You can't put people away for 10 years for being a creepy stalker just cos they MIGHT be a crazy murderer.
But I think 5-7 years should be the minimum for stalking conviction especially for cases where the victim has been made to feel unsafe in their own house.
The stalker should have a lifetime restraining order plus the state/offender should pay for security measures.
Once they get out and they, the stalker goes too far, the Police should be fired, not that anything will be enough. This is ridiculous. This poor woman, she’s never going to rest and why should she have to live like this
Brilliant documentary. Its about time these very dangerous stalkers were exposed
I have Staceys book and it is really interesting. She turned from a shoplifter to a good doc maker
What an awful piece of crap.
Stalkers are so incredibly dangerous, because of whatever emotional / mental health reasons that they've formed these incredibly unhealthy attachments to their targets (Because that's sadly what they've become) and once you've gone from being a literal angel walking the earth to the most evil person who has hurt or "wronged" them.
And the often either lackadaisical or indifferent attitudes that the police have towards these cases doesn't help at all either, because then not only do these poor people feel like they're very much on their own in these situations, but they are as far as support and security goes.
in some ways it's better off that the dangers and behaviours are caught out early and that separation happens sooner rather than later when not only will they have integrated themselves deeper in their lives but also gained information, maybe obtained passwords, cut keys etc, but also then the perceived wrongdoing by their target telling them that they no longer want to be with them is SO much worse.
There's so much more that should be done about keeping not just the women and men in these situations safe, but overall anyone who is vulnerable for whatever reason.
Really hoping that things begin to improve for this poor girl and this guy leaves her alone ( But also not because he's found someone else to target, which sadly is often the case)
Please, stay safe out there everyone and remember, you are worth and deserving of so much more.
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This guy is displaying controling narcissistic behavioral traits bordering on sociopathic.
If someone goes to jail for stalking and re-offends I think they should be re-jailed and put on some sort of medical hold until a psychologist clears them. They're not right in the head.
Don't know if I'm being stalked the man next door has said he knows when I go to bed, in the bath, in the kitchen, even knows where I go when I'm out, he has scanners on his shed roof and cameras all over, honestly creepy...
Please be careful. This has happened to me. It will escalate. I have moved a good distance away. I would advise you to do the same. I ended up being assaulted by this man and he posted 268 videos on RUclips of me. He hacked into my indoor cameras. It's now with the CPS awaiting charges. I feel crushed and totally drained.
I to have been stalked by a man but not quite to the same extent of this woman. I wish her nothing but the best and hope she can stay safe!! That’s so uncomfy and wrong!!!!!
Yeap, her life will never be the same again. Sadly, the "justice system" doesn't take that into account.
And to you brave girl, remember you are strong. Fight back as long as you can. You are not alone.
These men lost their minds. I can't even walk out in public without being targeted. This guy on a dating site, I said he can add me on Facebook then he disrespected me over video chat. Then he goes on Tiktok and makes a fake account and says he's sorry.
He won't stop leaving me alone.
Call the police
Im 55 yr old always thought i was independent until my ex, was vulnerable looking after my Dad with cancer my biggest support and felt i couldn't
Anyway tyvm great parents and support so much appreciated xxx
Imagine having to live on that edge in your own home...with a "go bag" ready to run. SO SCARY!
Watching this now, it's absolutely horrendous what these women have gone through.
please follow up on this story
i worry for her when he gets out. i really hope she stays safe because he clearly is so dangerous, he will reoffend and it could be ten times worse:(
Lad's like that needs sorting out 👊 simple as
Unpredictable is the stalker as to what comes next.
They infect every part of a victims lives.
Beyond frightening bless the Police for assisting all these people who have lost their peace of mind.
My crush got stalked and the stalker said to her dont trust him (me) he is not trustable he cheated on girls wich is all not true but my gf didnt know yet i explained to her that its not true what he said than i texted that stalker and he was threatning to kill me hurt me crazy things
Stalkers are not only men
Men need to just suck it up and leave women alone when its over its over. Same for the ladies out there when its the end its the end move on
I’d rather be dead than with the man who’s stalking me . He misread my niceness as interest. 😢 and now he won’t leave me alone . He’s so starved of attention and love he wanted believe I loved him the fool the mind will convince itself lies just to protect the heart and ego . He’s a lonely old man and he always will be if he doesnt stop this behaviour and work on himself and move on . He willl never be with me . Never ever ever ever ever . Until he knows This he won’t leave me alone . He can’t control his obsession . He isn’t doing this Becaue I’m so gorgeous he’s doing it Becaue I was nice to him and he isn’t use to that . His ego is damaged and he is damaged I hate him and will never be with him . He wants bully me into a relationship but I will never ever consent to being with him he makes me sick repulses me and angers me he thinks everyone is stopping him from happiness and being with me he doesn’t realise . Il never ever be with him ever ever ever ever ever be with him . There’s nothing he can ever do to change my mind even if he was my type of hate him after what he’s don’t to me but what makes it worse is 1 I don’t find him attractive and 2 he’s been nasty and sadistic towards me . Il never see him or want him as a partner . He’s a poor excuse for a human . Do I need tell the world he’s a stalker and that I don’t want him . He’s pushing me to let everyone know how much he repulses me . All Becaue he read my nice nature as intrest and attraction . Zero attraction. No way. Not interested never will be . He can lie and isolate me il never be his .
No therapy offered to perpetrators in prison??
Just get the right people to have a word with him when he gets out 😉 😉
Sadly not everyone knows them people probably just her and her mum wanting a quiet life
It would be interesting to know what other countries do, to tackle this problem (I'd guess in India it wouldn't be an offence)
5 years hard labour would be my choice of sentence doubling each time for reoffenders.
Where can I watch this??
Try bbc iplayer
how can i watch this in canada
Try using bbc I player using vpn
Thrre are all types of Stalkers even ones that use thier own prorperty for Stalking and Harrasment. This crime is rapidly on the Rise and the actions and crimes are not being taken seriouse by the Police in the early stages. However this can at times be due to the filter system being blocked by any PCSOs interactions and the way they are allowed to access and use personal judgements over legal judgements and walk away from a Victim without escalating the harm to a higger level.
The rights of the Victim imto protect themselves is severly challenged and there needs to be Clearer guidelines for the Police regarding the collection of Stalking and Harrasment evidence for both Civil and Criminal proceedings.
Civil evidence can be collected differently to Criminal Evidence.
However the Police feel they have the power to stop a person protecting themselves by stopping them gathering civil evidence where and when the Police fail to protect a Harrassed or Stalked Victim.
If the Police fail to protect a Victim then that Victim must be allowed to do what ever they need to do to create the path for thier own civil procedings for protection.
Evidence collecting of a perpertrator can be a Criminal act by police standards the perpertrators human rights are being protected over and above rhe victims. Especially if the perpertrator is Stalking or Harrasing you from thier own private land where they can watch and hunt you from thier own property.
The Victims are mostly alone through this and they often struggle to have any witnesses. This Police action to choose to not allow the recording of rvidence in the early stages of harrasment or stalking due to the perpetrators reports that thier victim has a camera, then places the victim at a greater threat of having escalated unrecorded actions made against them.
The Victims are then left with the inability to get the protection orders needed to keep them safe due to lack of evidence.
It has been proven many times that early recorded evidence can be used before a escalted physical attack takes place.
This situation of Police Control and threats of arresting Victims of Stalking and Harrasment needs more clarity as the Police are leaving harrased and stalked victims at a higher risk.
If the Police wish to take this route and leave Victims at risk and not having the resources to take the private route necessary then the Police must take Harrasment and Stalking more Seriouse in the very early stages.
Watch the full episode, DT appears near the end.
Where’d you watch the full episode ??
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Being cyber stalked while overseas, he’s doing the offence from Sussex U.K. but I’d have to go to police here. There’s the language barrier and police in the U.K. just gave me the brush off. I also reported him for rape and sexual assault of which he was investigated and ended with him having a criminal record for life. I’m the only victim to come forward so stronger action couldn’t be taken as historic. He’s a martial arts instructor and still teaches 😑 safeguarding removed his status with them as they haven’t been able to prove dbs checks out where he’s also down as a welfare officer! He’s probably reading this very message - it’s hard not to feel worried all the time. 😢
I’ve had several guys do this to me and it’s very scary
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@@IssacLHunt you absolute weirdo 😂
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The stalker should pay for the cameras and alarms. (of course not directly)
I had three of them,( stalkers) each one seems normal untill for whatever reason.
But breaking parole seems to get no punishment, why is this person being even considered for release after all he’s done???
Why are offences against people not taken far more seriously??
Those cameras are a waste of money. All they are going to do is record you being slapped about in 4k. Get a dog, a big one.
yes, you are right, but she said herself that those cameras are for making evidence for the aftermath not to prevent his actions.
Oh deer
I hope one day there be a show talking about men being stalked by women too as both sexes need to stop stalking each other and move on
Are there any stalkers/ex-stalkers here? Please reply to my comment i need to talk to you...
What a little creep
Society is sick and these stalkers are the byproducts of that sickness.
That's not to say I am romanticising or justifying their actions. What they're doing is wrong.
But in a society where ❤ is cheap, people cheat, lie.and hurt each other well... People like this become more and more common.
Imagine how desperate you would have to be to stalk that.
Listen, Man United might not thank me but get the contract out, put it on the table. Let him sign it, let him write whatever numbers he wants to put on there, given what he's done since he's come in. RANGNICK'S (Ole 3.0) at the wheel, man. He's doing it. He's doing his thing. MAN UNITED ARE BACK!!!!
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Why not move? I would
She’d have to give up her house, job and whole life just for a small possibility he won’t find her. People like him won’t stop at anything so it wouldn’t matter if she moved, it just means her support system isn’t there anymore and different local police won’t be aware of the situation. She shouldn’t need to move for people like him
That’s silly to suggest she move. What’s to say he won’t follow her or another stalker situation happens in the place she moves. She would have to give up friends and family that lived near her if they did and she would have to give up her job her home her hobbies possibly and her gym membership if she had one etc. that also is saying to her stalker ok u win! She should be able to live wherever she wants and feel safe and protected
@@ells3109 GREAT POINT ABOUT THE POLICE!!!! Often stalker cases aren’t taken seriously until severe bodily harm occurs or death!
Moving might be a bad idea if other cops in different areas have no clue of her situation or just don’t care to take it seriously. Well stated
Maybe it's the real friends or people you thought you were friends with who are messing with him, to make him look stupid?
That sounds so dumb
@@Trxllz idk sounds like something people would do tbh
can anyone else also not stand stacey dooleys reporting? she always seems over emotional for a reporter and trying to sensationalize everything even more.
She’s just human
No just you !!
Stacey prays she had a stalker
Shut up
@@akiraholland457 because akira told me too...? I think not baby puppy
@@TheAshCooper your a bad puppy mate
@@olliemoore2869 It has been said.....
No one would pray they had a stalker .
We can all go a bit crazy in love !..move on he's done his time .probably wants to forgot this drama .we all make mistakes !!
i got all excited my best friend shaun said there was a doc about ginger pubes and the thumb nail had two ginger wenches and i get a bloody stalker doc. ill have to put the xmas gift body lotion, i mean lube away...
I like Stacey where does she live anyone know?