🔥MORE Body Language Questions About Narcissists.🔥
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- Опубликовано: 16 июн 2024
- The questions keep coming for Body Language Expert and Analyst, Scott Rouse. If you have a question, just let him know and he'll answer it!
As a behavior analyst and body language expert, Scott Rouse holds multiple certificates in advanced interrogation training. He has been trained alongside the FBI, Secret Service, U.S. Military Intelligence, and the Department of Defense.
His extensive training, education, and practice of nonverbal communication have made him an expert and consultant to law enforcement as well as Fortune 100 Companies, attorneys, private investigators, executives, and entertainers. He is also a multi-Grammy nominated producer and TEDx Speaker.
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My divorce mediation is tomorrow and I’d love some last minute tips. I cannot believe this odd reality I’ve been living in since 1995 is almost over. Please, please, please learn from my mistakes. Listen to your inner voice. Go with your gut. Don’t ignore the red flags. My 15-year old daughter is so scared right now. My 17-year old showed pure joy for the first time since he was two this past weekend while we were choosing a home w/o his father. I would rather my spouse hurt me every moment of every day than hurt my children once. And yet, he hurt them. My children almost lost their mom (me) last year. I ran out of me by trying to please him. I allowed his narcissism to almost completely devour me… almost. I’m okay now, but please don’t make the same mistake I did. Don’t isolate. Don’t blame yourself. Ask for help
Hope ur ok
Mediation is never good with a Narc. Tried this with my ex similar situation to yours, a waste of money and time. Most likely nothing will get resolved. Your kids will see his true self and be disgusted after a while. Best of luck.
Sounds like you’re on the right track.
This part coming up can be the hardest part.
There are two books I highly recommend
Dangerous Personalities and The Gift of Fear, just based on what you’ve said.
Tips for mediation, listen to your attorney. Lots of ppl fight their attorney’s advice. Listen to them. If you really disagree with your attorney, phone a friend that you trust and get a second opinion.
I’ve not been in your shoes, but I’ve been in your children’s shoes. It’s a messed up reality. Read those two books, they’ll change your life for the better. Maybe contact a battered women’s shelter for advice? Even if there wasn’t so much physical violence, separating from a narcissist can set them off-Nicole Brown, Suzanne Morphew, Gabbie Petito, Maggie Murdaugh. Those are extreme cases, not every situation escalates to M, but it’s better to be aware of the signs and keep yourself and your children safe.
Omg. If only I had support during mine.
Do not let your panic take over!! If you do.. love yourself and be kind to yourself! It’s not the end of the world even when it feels like it.
Always remember that YOU MAYTER TOO!
Lived that same life. I married in 1994. Divorced 2016. Your gut is your guide! Best of luck to you!!
Scott 'Smooth Cat' Rouse: the behavioural nerd's preferred ASMR voice.
Ha! 🙂
OK?😮
His meditations are awesome! I love them.
yup. It works for me better than any sleeping pill I have ever tried and I am not kidding or exaggerating. And learning in the process.
@@PaulGadoury Paul, I agree. It's crazy how good they are. I'm ill just now I can't sleep well so I use these, they're fantastic! My 13 year old listens every night too.
The 🌎 needs to know about narcissists
They out number us....
By a lot
Scott, you are your Fathers double! Rest easy Dr Rouse 🙏 May the happy memories you left and lives you touched live strong, out weighing the grief of your loss. God Bless 🙏♥️
Thank you. 👍
@@ScottRouse 🙏 I don't know if my other comment came through here or if YT censored it on why I know these skills are so important. Thank you Scott.💫
Hi Scott, I discovered my mother had BPD Borderline... same cluster B as narcissistic. She is one of the best liars I know. She lies with such assurance,... but underlying there is fear and insecurity. paranoia, delusions. Would you consider doing a segment on BPD? Thank you ... I am educating myself on BPD . I am great at body language, I think we as children of parents that had these cluster B disorders... we had to read the room so fast as survival.
There’s something to be said about the tone of your voice and style of speaking that makes even a description of fried chicken interesting! 😊
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You absolutely blow my mind with the leap from Behaviour analysis to the comic ability of Ricky Gervais……if that was bottled you could buy a lifetime supply of “Hot Chicken”!
My ex was a narcissist, and despite me knowing I stayed and ended up homeless.
He enjoyed the power trip and the belief that ultimately he would see me fail.
I was fortunate to have friends and asked for help and 11yrs later I hold my head high.
I took control back.
These people are ultimately weak.
If I could turn the clock back he would know he was pathetic.
Thank you for all the help and advice you give and the educational opportunities from your videos.
Simply amazing.
Same with me, but I didn’t quite get homeless. I was in an apt, but had to count how many slices of bread were left, so I could plan on a piece of toast each morning just before my old age security cheque came in. ❤️🙋🏻♀️
Fantastic post. Thank you for sharing your personal experiences. I hope it encourages others ❤ my journey has been similar ❤
Could you do a video highlighting how the behavior of autistic people can look like narcissism but is different, please?
I am autistic and am frequently accused of being a narcissist. But my intentions couldn't be further from a narcissist. Thank you.
My experience of being an INFJ who used to be married to an "upper mid range narcissist" is that you can see through their lies/delusions if your mind can keep up by getting them to contradict themselves one reply to the next when getting hit with word salad.
Scott Rouse (paraphrasing from previous broadcasts; not direct quote) says some characteristics of a psychopath are inability for empathy and modelling behavior of others rather than that behavior or knowledge coming from within the psychopath or from direct experience. It occurred to me, this could also describe A.I. very well. 😮
Nailed it. Watch this: ruclips.net/user/shortsavD2BF47f4w?si=j64_Wf-J3zWaPubl
@@ScottRouse That guy scared me, but if it came down to it, I think I could whup him. 😆
The 🌎 needs to know about narcissists
Yeah, I often think of that when using AI “I’m talking to a paychopath” Especially when it brings the superficial charm.
I'm related to an entire family of narcs. I used to believe they believe their own lies. Now I believe that oblivion is just part of their perpetual display of acting.
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I was stopped speeding on my way to a horse show. I told the officer I was distracted as my horses were being trailered…as the trailer flys past me. He says why are you stressed if the horses are on that trailer? I was quiet for a moment and really thought about my answer, and explained how I need to arrive before the horses to unload them and settle them. He went back to his patrol car, came back and said, “I have two options, give you a ticket or a lecture, you’re getting the lecture.” As I listen to my lecture I realized my hands were on my lap one on top of the other, in a very contrite manner. I thanked him and drove away and my first thought was did he pick up on my body language ? 😂😂😂
I like to believe I'm stopped by airport security because they know there'll be no paperwork :)
Scott, you are the kindest. You remind me of hot chocolate by the fire place on a cold winter day. Just warmth and comfort. Thank you for sharing your expertise spiked with love . Always appreciate you and the TBP team.
That’s so nice and sweet. Thank you so much. I really appreciate that.🙂
Looking forward to this one. Have been in a narcissistic relationship for 10 years. It completely destroyed my mental and physical health..
I came here for your intellectual perspective and all I can focus on is chicken. Now I'm hungry! Thanks Scott 😂 🐔
I think the building rapport nice guy strategy works. I work in mental health. You catch more flies with honey than vinegar as the old saying goes.
Thank you for covering this.
It's the blatant lying and flat out denying that gets me (well... All of this behavior is hard to understand but the "You just said..." "no i didn't" 😵💫)
Love you Mr Rouse 💋
I dated a narcissist about 10 years ago and never encountered someone like this. Love bombing and gifts. One night he was telling an outrageous story over coffee. Something seemed off. Should have walked away at that cringy feeling during the crazy story. Wish my younger self had some of these tips.
lol speaking of being too nice, when I started my job as a housekeeper at a hospital a coworker I met was way too nice I instantly felt something was off about this guy. Recently he was caught doing inappropriate things to himself in front of children while on the job. He was arrested but I heard he bailed out. Dude was creepy.
At one point in your conference you mention the absolute delight you find in interacting with narcissistic persons. This is most interesting as I would love to know how you deal with them without getting negatively involved.
I enjoy the interaction because I learn something every time.
UNSWEETENED TEA Scott?!?! That's sacrilege. Sweet tea is the only tea! Lmao the cc got you again! You said "tells" and the cc said "tails"! I'm dying 😂
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I worked with several. It was so weird, like a nest of them. I'm serious. Took me years to get a grip on what was going on.
I have, too. I understand. I didn't work there long. I got out!
Had they all been diagnosed by psychologists?
@@menarussell It took years to catch on and see a pattern. I now wish I had left. It would have been less stressful, but then, you never know how bad it could be elsewhere. All places can have work relationship issues. I was commenting because of how many there were and to see how they interacted, trying to up each other. Lol.
@@tunein2life681 Did you work in a hospital?
How much would the Behavior Panel charge to do a Thanksgiving assessment? lmao
You know Scott, you have the best personality on the panel, and you don't always get to show your expertise because often you go last. Which is unfair in my view. But, I have to admit that I like geeking out with Chase too. That guy will take you down the rabbit hole. But people watching this channel know you are as good or better than others, but you always go last.
Thanks Paul. I don’t mind going last. It used to be Mark went last all the time. It’s no big deal. But thank you. 🙂👍
I saw Doc Watson in concert at the Lebanon Opera House many years ago with Leo Kottke. He was brilliant. What a rich childhood you must have had with that music.
It was absolutely wonderful. 🙂
There is a waitress at our local restaurant who is "too nice" and it's to the point where it's almost creepy. I get it. Service staff HAVE to be nice to the customer if they want a nice tip, but this lady is over the top. One day my mother and I were having lunch and when the gal left our table after taking our order my mother (83) looked at me and huffed "shoo, she's so damn sweet it gave me a toothache in my dentures!" I laughed....
Can you talk about the different types of narcissists and the most common ones everyone deals with within family and work places?
Hahahaha! This is the longest commercial ever 😂
Well done, Scott. ❤️
My ex was a narcissist and a psychopath. Welding an ax the day I left. If I had stepped into the woods that day, I believe he convinced himself it would look like an accident
I identify with your post and empathise with you. From my heart I pray that you have become emotionally free ❤
@mandychadwick8762 absolutely 💯 free and happy 😊 thank you so much!
Was he diagnosed by a psychologist? Did you see a report? It's just that these words are overused these days.
I would give so much to see you four interrogate the candidates.
I love listening to you. Thank you for making these videos. Learning body language is my hobby and it's helping me so much in my work with teenagers. Today a few youths opened up to me because I was using the skills I've been learning. I love TBP and I currently studying Chase's X ray book.
Greg and Matt are cool too. I really appreciate all the time you must spend filming and editing. Your work is improving the lives of the local youth. You are a hero 🙌 ❤️. X
You guys are changing lives for the better. Thank You, Please Never STOP!
We won’t! 🙂
Hattie B now simply should pay you for your marketing in chicken.
That Wells case keeps me up sometimes… all the things that he’s admitted to make me sick to my stomach but still feel he didn’t actually disappear her.
Learning about body language changed my life - and my circle of friends.
It´s like learning a new language indeed, like French or Spanish.
Once you know you can´t ignore it.
It´s fantastic. I absolutely love it!
That's fantastic!!!😍 go you!!! The meditation Scott does is great. My teenage son listens every night, read Scott's book too. I'm so proud!❤
Yes! 🙌 🙂
21:26 This is amazing 🤣
Your videos are a hilight of my week.
You're amazing 🙏🙌
Awesome! 🙂
Speaking of books, I’m loving yours Scott
Thank you Kathy. I’m glad you like it. 👍🙂
I liken it to being a frog in a pot, not realising how burned you are getting. Hop out now!!!!
thanks for sharing your wisdom and education with us Scott, you’ve opened my eyes to a soul sucking narcissist in my life and saved me from ongoing hurt feelings and degredation. Priceless
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Smash the LIKE button please 👍👍👍
7:59 Scott, you look just like your dad. That’s awesome!
Thank you so much. I sure miss him. 🙂
Watching you on these streams is like hanging out with an old friend. So comfortable, often hilarious and always interesting. Thank you Scott!
Hi Emma. I totally get it. I’m so dang funny, and that combined with being so dang handsome creates this almost ethereal being that connects with any living thing. I can’t help it. I’ve always been that way. Just really smart. Super handsome. And absolutely a hilarious. Quite often people will say “You’re a hoot and a half!”. I hate to sound all snobby, but I’m actually two hoots. I rarely correct them, because I’m such a good person and I don’t want to hurt their feelings. But anyway, if you’d like to know more about me and how important I am, please get my new book titled “Yes, it IS me!” The life of a renaissance man. Thank you so much. 🙏
Now don't get Narky on us, Mr. Too sexy for your shirt! Your too much Scott. 👍😂😉❤️
I knew that about you from the start Scott and your comment confirms it. It radiates through the screen. A man of high integrity: generous, self-deprecating and always deferring to others. Nothing is too much trouble, you hate attention and you are a valued cheerleader for others. Can’t wait to get the new book!
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I know someone who promises the world-telling people what he can see they want to hear. Full of charm and will say how generous he is. Then it comes to it-absolutely no follow-through-a good (?) con-man!
Yeesh. Sounds like it.
When I get accused of something I didd not do, I go ballistic. Last time I remember it happening I went to a gas station, and the attendant said to me, I know you, you were asking people for money earlier today and I am going to call the cops. I told her good, call the cops. So I kept my cool in front of her because she was a woman. But when the cops got there and told me I had to leave?? I went nuts. I was telling them, LOOK AT MY CAR??? I opened my wallet, and said LOOK, I GOT MORE CASH THAN I NEED!!!! I went bananas. I called the station the next day and told the manager I was going to sue. My brother is a Boston educated attorney, as my whole family is, well RI too, RISD and Brown. But, yeah, I go ballistic when I am wrongly accused. To fake that would be difficult. The owner told me the woman had psychological issues. She still works there and I chat with her now. I am not a grudge holder.
Looks you in the eye Zero blinking, breaking a wooden cutting board while screaming/saying 'I'M NOT CHEATING ON YOU" 🤔
Very enjoyable!
Excellent thank you Scott
I think the introduction should be updated to "Scott is a body language and Hattie B's hot chicken expert..." 😁 If they increase their sales, we know why!
Super fun and educational, as usual!
😂👍🏼Right... does he have shares?
Love the stories along with the teachings 💝
Ha! 🙂
Love your work Scott, I’ve learned so much from you ❤🇦🇺
The yelp I let out when you said you freeze it! SCOTT! I feel like I need to reevaluate life now 🤨🤣
Looking great Scott! Love the channel! 🙏💗
I learn so much from other people's questions! Thank you!
Thank you for validating my hobby!
The flying story made me laugh. My son when he was 9-y-o, noticed on a long, very bumpy flight, that I was concerned (though I was trying to hide it). So he explained to me why it was ok to fly in stormy weather with heavy turbulence. He made so much sense that I've been ok with turbulence since then. He got his pilot license at 17 and is now an aerospace engineer so I guess he really did have a clue.
My daughter's father-in-law stares at me. Its weird. I already know he's a psychopath. He has zero emotion or empathy. I just completely ignore it and carry on like nothings happening. Not going to let that man intimidate me. Never show anxiety or fear in front of a psychopath. It triggers them on. Learn to read people. See what they are and act in your own interest. You don't have to give yourself to everyone you meet. Honesty isn't always the best policy with strangers. Stay safe.
I hope your daughter's husband (presumably the son of the psychopath?) is ok, for her sake.
Thanks Scott
Love your voice Scott great channel
Do we just go on you tube to see this live?
They’re actually recorded. And they come out once a week.
My ex husband was a major narcissistic. Everything was ALWAYS about him. He didn't understand the concept of empathy. He was just a bad person. Then he suffered a traumatic brain injury and his personality shifted. He can still be a jerk but his level of narcissism is nowhere what it was. I've known him for almost 30 years, 15 married, 15 divorced. He's a lot easier to get along with now.
Didn't expect this would make me so hungry at the worst time of the day -- when everything's closed!
Scott I love your videos!
Thank you so much for watching them! 🙂
This is so great, Scott! Thanks so much for doing this.
You sure are welcome Cindy. 🙂
Gotta see this one!
Great video!
Thank you!
Psychopaths can fool trained professionals. They definitely pass and are often very well liked. Sometimes the charm and charisma, plus the gut feeling, is enough for me. You can't know. It might be me and my own baggage, and I might be wrong, but my experiences have shown me that's how it is.
I love hot peppers on things.
I add cayenne and cinnamon and olive oil to a fresh, organic apple. It's delicious.
Thank you for being so generous with your time!
You are so welcome!
Thank you for sharing your visdom. It is so interesting and helfulp to navigate better in this world.
Man, you crack me up.
Oh how I wish I’d heard this sooner. It’s past now but never too late to learn something as good as this. Thank You ☺️
LOVE YOU, SCOTT!!!!!!
Yay for me!!!
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Love the chicken story Scott! Had a chuckle!
God dang I love Scott Rouse so much
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Hi Scott! Love you bud.
You're awesome ☺️ I heard the other day on the Behaviour Panel your story about the hairdresser (smthng during Covid) I still laugh occasionally when I remember. It's really a good one!
Can you send a link? I’m so interested!
Is that video you discussed on this channel, with you and Greg? I've been watching a lot of court videos that are a treasure trove of behaviors. I appreciate you saying people who like true crime are simply curious as to what goes on. Its been a real eye opene
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This was great, Scott! Yes, a narcissist's whole world depends on their lies and people believing them. Watching them do their thing can really look weird. Was married to one. He's gone now but what an education! That's why I love you guys, I needed to learn about red flags and how to spot them. Thank you for all you guys do!!
I'm really enjoying your videos more & more & I appreciate your work! I hope your day is going great! 😊
Thank you so much Julie. 👍🙂
Good info as always Scott!
Going through security at the airports is horrible to go through. I have 2 replaced knees (titanium.) I set off all the bells and whistles every time! I would tell them I had replaced knees they were make me go through the scanner every time. I would get patted down. Then sent over to a lead security desk and go through the same drill. I was not afraid just totally embarrassed. By the time they were done with me I would go to my husband and breakdown crying.
Thank goodness now when I approach the scanner they say okay and have me go through an X-ray machine and then they can see my knees and I’m done. Talk about a hassle!
Great informative episode. 😊 thanks for the airplane advice.
Glad it was helpful!
🙏🙏😎 Appreciate you!!
Yay! Thank you. 🙂
I just want to say that you are awesome!!! I’ve learned so much from you. Thank you for putting out great content. 😊😊😊
Thank you so much. That’s do nice of you to tell me that. 🙂
Ha! You freeze it! Wny not! Awesome.
At one point I realised your camera zooms in and out seemingly at random. I tried to work out a pattern to it, and that was a bit distracting. I’m interested in the subject matter, though, so I’ll play it again. 😎
I will have to try theirs. I had my first and only hot chicken experience at the Johnny Cash’s Bar & BBQ. I LOVED IT! Thank you for introducing us to hot chicken. I live in Alabama, and I have not had it to the quality I experienced in Nashville 👍👍👍
I have great respect for you Scott, including the other 3 wonderfully experienced & skilled individuals (kudos to Chase, Greg & Mark on the Behavior Panel. ❤
Yay! 🙂
Hey Scott! I hope your day is great! I bet you've already been asked, but I would LOVE to see you & Greg or Mark or Chase to interview the Proudfoots!
I think it is a great skill for anyone working in sales or jobs which rely on interpersonal skills for decision making. I wish I had more time to really learn the skill of reading people in real time BUT thank you for suggestion to focus on observing one behavior pattern at a time, like hands as illustrators. I am definitely gonna try this out!
I love you Scott, I'd love to see you do a real interview. I'm so used to you on the show so I would love to see what happens.
Wow !! Scott you look like your dad!!
Weird how that works isn’t it?
@@ScottRouse my kids look nothing like me but they look like there dad!!
@@ScottRouse my kids look nothing like me but they look like there dad!!
WOWIE ZOWIE!! HANGING OUT WITH DOC WATSON!!! LUCKY DUCKIE!
He was a sweetheart. I miss him.
We’re finding out Conduct Disorder is genetic. I have dealt with more than a few and I know for certain the outcome is dependent on the schools and the parents. One killed a little boy after growing up; everyone had failed him
They don't believe their own lie, me guesses. The believe it was justified. And mom and dad would say they did no wrong. They are special.
Thank you!❤😊
You sure are welcome. Thank you so much for watching.🙂
Wow you just really helped with my fear of flying I think. I might have to fly soon and have been getting anxious
Don’t you sweat it. I’ll bet you $120M you get there safe and sound. 🙂
Just think of it as a bus with wings, with a few bumps along the way. Your riding with a hundred other people with families. You can get snacks and a beverage. A meal, if your flight is for many hours. Once you go do it, you'll be glad you did. I like to say a prayer for everyone on board, that they all arrive safely to there destinations. Good luck. 😊👍🙏
Good way to learn perception and body language is to be a woman. Best way is to be older. The wisdom only exists later in life, like everything else. 😃🙋🏻♀️
I'll get right on that then.
To say exactly what they said, how they said it... it's really tough for many languages. Translation is in many cases interpretation, many languages don't have the exact same words and phrases.
In Spanish there's a difference between translation (traslación) and traducción (which is the interpretation of a text).
My narc family rehearses their daily narrative constantly. Others exposed to them talking to themselves are struck and find it odd, unsettling. Narc finds it intellectual and calming I'd say.