phoebe bridgers when she says she doesn’t like this song because it’s teen girl dramatic but i am a teen girl and very dramatic (i’m joking, her opinion on her own music is totally valid and i completely understand cringing at your own art. just think it’s funny that the things she doesn’t like about it are the things i like.)
Sylvia wrote "The bell jar" when she was 18. "Highschool girl" by Dazai Osamu was about a real 18 year old girl's experience. Phoebe wrote this when she was 16. The teenage girl experience is so unreasonably tragic and deep. It should be studied.
I think this comment right here is the exact reason why the creator of Puella Magi Madoka Magica wrote it as sort of a critique of teenage girls and over-emotional, erratic (characters/actual people, presumably) and simultaneously why when I watched it I absolutely did not see it as a critique at all. Just presenting teen girls as having so many feelings that you can power the universe with them and then being willing to die for each other when they're taken advantage of isn't a critique. It's just ...teenagers. [edit to add:] This song and The Bell Jar and all the (also not-super-depressed) things teen girls have done through sheer passion and impulse and being at an age where so much is expected of you and also everything feels condensed to the present -- are kind of wonderful and they get ripped apart SO much.
Did she not write it when she was about 28-ish? I could've sworn that she wrote it in 1961 before she passed in 1963 at age 30, though I could definitely be wrong!
@@ren-wi was so confused when i saw this reply bc i was like "phoebe bridgers? i don't think she's 28 YET" you are actually right and i shouldn't have been so quick to jump on board! lol. it IS thought to be a pretty autobiographical account, however, with some experiences outright documented in sylvia plath's life, and the protagonist is 18-19, so ...probably a good representation of what she was LIKE as a teen. but you're right, she wrote it starting in august 1961 and it was published only about a half a year before she died.
(also google says she is, in fact: 29 -- she's the oldest of the boy...s, genius, by almost a year, lol. for some reason phoebe always seems younger to me but i think that's because she's often a little more impulsive.)
the inclusion of, "i never grew up with you, and you're not my waiting room," at the end of this performance was too much for my small and fragile gay heart.
i LOVE when/that they (uh, the various members of boygenius, is i guess where the plural comes in here) change their lyrics as songs' meanings evolve in relation to who they are. lots of artists don't and either stop playing songs they can't relate to anymore or just have to handwave them as a moment in time, but i really like being able to change things: it keeps the lyrics sort of living documents and makes live performances really organic (plus, knowing how many shitty relationships phoebe was in as a teenager/younger adult, it makes me happy for her to add a little 'ultimately, fuck that' coda, the same way julien's updating of anti-curse makes me want to sit with my chin in my hands, lol).
Funny that she kind of undermines this as being a song you can really tell she wrote at 16, but dammit I'm 25 and could never express my feelings as well as she does in this song. It's so hard accepting someone you want more than anything in the world will never feel the same way about you. Thank you for your incredible artistry, Phoebe.
@@davidchildress285 music is such a great thing. To live in the era where great musicians are doing different things is ofc an incomparable experience, but what makes music so amazing is that newer generations can still listen to that music. So timeless!! I bet future generations will be talking ab Phoebe, mitski, and prob many more!! Exciting to think ab an age of experimentation
Waiting Room is for the girlies who fall in love too quickly. Waiting Room is for the girlies who fall in love with somebody who they cant have. Waiting Room is the for the girlies who would do anything for the person they like. Waiting Room is for the girlies who would wait forever for someone, no matter how bad they are for their mental health. Waiting Room is for the girlies who try to hold onto a relationship for longer then it should be, then blame themselves when it ends. Waiting Room is for the girls who cry themselves to sleep wishing somebody liked them the way the like people. Waiting Room is for the people who know life isnt fair but keep saying “its not fair”. Waiting Room is for the girlies who try to hard and apologize to much.
They still can fall in love just tell the truth. God forgives all sins. We going to cause another earthquake is that what people want? Because the energy is already there to shake the room
why couldn’t I have heard this song when I was 17 years old and experiencing the full force of unrequited love. definitely one of my favorite phoebe songs :,)
The absolute whole package. Kindred type of spirit, absolute stunning cutie yet all the way down to earth, skilled to the core, channels into real depth Everytime she plays the songs... She has it all, is all of it, and much much more.
I know Phoebe obviously writes these songs mostly about herself and the happenings in her life, but why is it that when she sings, _you're_ the one who feels raw, exposed, and wounded all over again? I don't need a church to be brought to my knees when it comes to her. Unreal.
I know right!!! My 12th grade literature teacher said, “the more specific and unique a piece of writing is, the more universal it ends up being.” I felt like that applied to Phoebe’s music perfectly.
@@carolinehullman7587 if you listen to the one on Spotify from years ago, it doesn’t have that last “I never grew up with you, and you’re not my waiting room part”
if you listen to the original video of her singing it live at 17 it does have the “I never grew up with you, and you’re not my waiting room" part @@abdomumyfnbfbdh672
I always listen to this song and think about my brother who died from a brain tumour. If you think about it as a little sister wanting to do anything to make her older brother smile again it has a different meaning... at least for me. I know it’s for the better bc he wasn’t him anymore but I wish I could reverse time.
As a big brother, this cut deep. We couldn’t be anything without our little sisters. He loves you and is so proud of you! Picture his bright smile because I’m confident that’s what you’re making him do right now! 🤍
everyone's always wondering how she wrote this at 16 but I think that teenagers feel things a lot more intensely than adults. words came so easily to me at 16. at 22, I find it so much harder to be as expressive and raw and honest as I was back then.
If you were a teacher, I would fail your class Take it over and over til you noticed me If you were a waiting room, I would never see a doctor I would sit there with my first aid kit and bleed I want to be the power ballad that lifts you up and hold you down I wanna be the broken love song that feeds your misery And I can wish all I want, but it won't bring us together Plus I know whatever happens to me I know it's for the better When broken bodies are washed ashore Who am I to ask for more, more, more? But you're breathing in my open mouth You're the gun in my lips that will blow my brains out I want to make you drive all night just because I said maybe you should come over I want to make you fall in love as hard as my poor parents teenage daughter She'll be the best you ever had if you let her I know it's for the better...
This is a humanist worship song. Listening to it is always a spiritual experience. It's an unapologetic cry of longing. The pain that wrote this song is the same pain that keeps it alive. You can grow up listening to this song because you can fall back on it and know the lyrics and emotion of the music is going to relate to your pain. Usually, the worst pain you've felt up to that point. Songs like this are rare and underrated, but so insanely important.
i don’t know how to explain it but the way phoebe writes her lyrics especially in this song show how horrible and beautiful falling in love can be, kills me every time
I know Phoebe wrote this song as a teenager and has probably played this song a thousand times but can we take a second to appreciate the fact that for the first two minutes she didn’t open her eyes once? She FEELS this song and we are able to feel a glimpse of what she feels while playing it. Truly beautiful.
@@Google_Does_Evil_Now what an interesting observation! I will listen to her songs with that particular focus now. Can you come up with 1 or 2 song titles where you noticed that?
@@ElowenFaye There's a theory that, using the golden ratio, you can calculate and pinpoint that exact moment in every song (if the song is written well). That point is called the Phi point and is located at exactly 61.8% through the song. Some artists use this in their writing process.
this song means the world to me. i told somone i loved they should learn this on the guitar, and they did. unfortunately, we broke up and i never got to hear it. the day we ended things he told me he would still play it for me some day (after that he ghosted me) i got sick of waiting around for something i knew deep down would never happen, so i learned it on the guitar myself. it was so healing. when we first broke up i coudlnt even listen to this song because of how much it reminded me of him but i’ve turned it into something good that doesn’t have to be violently sad and i now get to enjoy this song in its entirety. i can think about my old experiences but after that i move onto the next thing, and i don’t let it swallow me.
I was constantly working on a new song to play on the guitar for my girlfriend. A few days before we broke up I had decided to learn a song on the piano. I’m much more comfortable on the piano I’ve practically played it my whole life. It was a song with a very important memory attached to it… I didn’t know we would break up before I got to play it for her. I’ve since occasionally come back to the guitar and played some of those songs a few time, it’s nice to regain the song, it’s almost like taking the power back and letting yourself enjoy the music again without that oppressive sadness
This song kinda reminds me of the unhealthy desperation I went through with my first love, especially since she wrote it when she was a teenager. Would have related hard back then. Now it's just beautiful to listen to and reflect on 💕
@@tessdegrazia1407 I'm so sorry. I know it might feel like the end of the world right now but you will get through this with time, I promise. There's so much more world to discover in yourself. Best of luck ❤️
Use 4K RUclips to MP3 on a laptop/desktop and upload it to Spotify via your “Local Files”. That’s how I’ve been getting all of these versions onto my Spotify!
didnt really know how badly i needed this version until i played it while laying on my rooftop watching the LA nighttime skyline, while watching clouds pass through an (almost) full moon somehow being reminiscent of my teenage heartbreak. thank you, phoebe.
I’ve felt that way about a girl years ago. My first love my first heartbreak it was so bad I thought I couldn’t live! I now have a beautiful wife and kid who adore me for who I am. This song always reminds me to cherish the past but never let it consume you ! Peace and love ❤️
Yup 49, 2 Boys. Lost out to massive depression etc. Indledning My ex's suicide attempt in front of me, Kids and her family! Stil trying to pick up the pieces left.
“I never grew up with you and you’re not my waiting room” hurts so much. Lost my baby brother when I was sixteen. Long story short he was a stillbirth. I think about him often and that lyric just HITS.
Lyrics If you were a teacher, I would fail your class Take it over and over 'til you noticed me If you were a waiting room, I would never see a doctor I would sit there with my first-aid kit and bleed I wanna be the power ballad that lifts you up and holds you down I wanna be the broken love song that feeds your misery And I can wish all that I want, but it won't bring us together Plus, I know whatever happens to me, I know it's for the better And when broken bodies are washed ashore Who am I to ask for more, more, more? But you're breathing in my open mouth You're the gun in my lips that will blow my brains out I wanna make you drive all night just because I said, "Maybe you should come over" Wanna make you fall in love as hard as my poor parents' teenage daughter She'll be the best you ever had if you let her I know it's for the better Know it's for the better Know it's for the better Know it's for the better Know it's for the better Know it's for the better Know it's for the better Know it's for the better Know it's for the better Know it's for the better Know it's for the better Know it's for the better Know it's for the better Know it's for the better Know it's for the better Know it's for the better Know it's for the better Know it's for the better Know it's for the better Know it's for the better Know it's for the better Know it's for the better Know it's for the better Know it's for the better Know it's for the better Know it's for the better Know it's for the better Know it's for the better Know it's for the better Know it's for the better Know it's for the better Know it's for the better Know it's for the better Know it's for the better Know it's for the better Know it's for the better
“i never grew up with you, and you’re not my waiting room” all brings me back to my first love. on and off for 5 years straight we practically knew each other for so long, yet could never get it right to meet eye to eye. he was in a different stage in life and so was i. i couldn’t keep hurting myself. it’s hard to let go of all the memories you made with someone for 5 years straight since you were kids. at times i wish he’d come back, like those 5 years still affect him like they affect me. but i know it’s for the better, i can’t wait for someone to change so we can get it right. maybe in some different life. first loves are always something so bitter and sweet. they come so slow and leave so fast, haunting us with the memories. he now only exists in my dreams where i can there talk to him .
When I listen to this song, I don’t think of a lover, I think of a old best friend. We knew eachother so well, we grew together, and as the years go on, and i don’t talk to her anymore, I still think of her when doing small things, just like smelling a perfume from a long time ago, or watching a movie they once liked, or even eating takis. When seeing things that remind me of them, my heart gets a feeling of something i once loved but lost, and a piece of me will always be with them, even if they don’t think of me. My heart has a piece missing from me after we stopped talking, my soul will always be tied to her even if we don’t talk, it’s like I can still feel she still misses me. She put a light and laugh into my life nobody else could’ve, we knew eachothers darkest secrets. I wanna talk to her, but maybe it’s for the better to leave people in the past even after so many nice memories of that person. I still love you so much e, and I wish you talk to me again. Maybe randomly she will listen to this song one day, and see this comment and know it’s about her. I know she would know.
She took this off Spotify today… it’s become a daily listen It’s gotten me through so much hope this video doesn’t get taken down/ we got it back but now it’s gone again 💔💔💔
Sometimes I think to myself “how could a teenage girl write this song” then I realize that only a teenage girl could write this song
Exactly!!!
so real
Istggggg
no bc fr tho
phoebe bridgers when she says she doesn’t like this song because it’s teen girl dramatic but i am a teen girl and very dramatic (i’m joking, her opinion on her own music is totally valid and i completely understand cringing at your own art. just think it’s funny that the things she doesn’t like about it are the things i like.)
this woman could literally sing the script of the bee movie and i'd still sob violently
We can sob together
According to the laws of nature…
Lol
lmao same
YoU liKe jAzZ ? Ohhhhhhohhhhh
Sylvia wrote "The bell jar" when she was 18. "Highschool girl" by Dazai Osamu was about a real 18 year old girl's experience. Phoebe wrote this when she was 16. The teenage girl experience is so unreasonably tragic and deep. It should be studied.
I think this comment right here is the exact reason why the creator of Puella Magi Madoka Magica wrote it as sort of a critique of teenage girls and over-emotional, erratic (characters/actual people, presumably) and simultaneously why when I watched it I absolutely did not see it as a critique at all. Just presenting teen girls as having so many feelings that you can power the universe with them and then being willing to die for each other when they're taken advantage of isn't a critique. It's just ...teenagers.
[edit to add:] This song and The Bell Jar and all the (also not-super-depressed) things teen girls have done through sheer passion and impulse and being at an age where so much is expected of you and also everything feels condensed to the present -- are kind of wonderful and they get ripped apart SO much.
Did she not write it when she was about 28-ish? I could've sworn that she wrote it in 1961 before she passed in 1963 at age 30, though I could definitely be wrong!
@@ren-wi was so confused when i saw this reply bc i was like "phoebe bridgers? i don't think she's 28 YET"
you are actually right and i shouldn't have been so quick to jump on board! lol. it IS thought to be a pretty autobiographical account, however, with some experiences outright documented in sylvia plath's life, and the protagonist is 18-19, so ...probably a good representation of what she was LIKE as a teen. but you're right, she wrote it starting in august 1961 and it was published only about a half a year before she died.
(also google says she is, in fact: 29 -- she's the oldest of the boy...s, genius, by almost a year, lol. for some reason phoebe always seems younger to me but i think that's because she's often a little more impulsive.)
and mitski wrote lush at 18, fiona apple wrote tidal at 18
the inclusion of, "i never grew up with you, and you're not my waiting room," at the end of this performance was too much for my small and fragile gay heart.
I had to double back cause I wasn’t expecting an addition at the end. So beautiful.
i heard it and just started screaming, why does she do this to us??
I literally was oK until she wanted to pull that shit like how dare she
i LOVE when/that they (uh, the various members of boygenius, is i guess where the plural comes in here) change their lyrics as songs' meanings evolve in relation to who they are. lots of artists don't and either stop playing songs they can't relate to anymore or just have to handwave them as a moment in time, but i really like being able to change things: it keeps the lyrics sort of living documents and makes live performances really organic
(plus, knowing how many shitty relationships phoebe was in as a teenager/younger adult, it makes me happy for her to add a little 'ultimately, fuck that' coda, the same way julien's updating of anti-curse makes me want to sit with my chin in my hands, lol).
After exhaustive research, this is objectively the best version of this song.
Agreed
spill
@@vitoria2286 it's not a cover, it's phoebe's own song
yes!! the spotify one is so fast
I need the full band outro though
This is the broken love song that feeds my misery
no fr
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Real
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same
Funny that she kind of undermines this as being a song you can really tell she wrote at 16, but dammit I'm 25 and could never express my feelings as well as she does in this song. It's so hard accepting someone you want more than anything in the world will never feel the same way about you. Thank you for your incredible artistry, Phoebe.
Right?! It's honestly one of my favorite songs of hers. So stinkin' talented
16? That's not fair at all.
@@lagunabxo 6
I am 53 and love this song
I’m so grateful that we got Phoebe in this generation
My generation had Barry White... Bowie... Prince... The Gap Band, et. al... I know exactly what you mean! 😉
@@davidchildress285 music is such a great thing. To live in the era where great musicians are doing different things is ofc an incomparable experience, but what makes music so amazing is that newer generations can still listen to that music. So timeless!! I bet future generations will be talking ab Phoebe, mitski, and prob many more!! Exciting to think ab an age of experimentation
todays bright eyes
Waiting Room is for the girlies who fall in love too quickly. Waiting Room is for the girlies who fall in love with somebody who they cant have. Waiting Room is the for the girlies who would do anything for the person they like. Waiting Room is for the girlies who would wait forever for someone, no matter how bad they are for their mental health. Waiting Room is for the girlies who try to hold onto a relationship for longer then it should be, then blame themselves when it ends. Waiting Room is for the girls who cry themselves to sleep wishing somebody liked them the way the like people. Waiting Room is for the people who know life isnt fair but keep saying “its not fair”. Waiting Room is for the girlies who try to hard and apologize to much.
They still can fall in love just tell the truth. God forgives all sins. We going to cause another earthquake is that what people want? Because the energy is already there to shake the room
@@Dragon-Slay3r Dawg what are you saying rn? 💀
spot on. hurts me every time
okay but why is this so true?
all of this but boys
why couldn’t I have heard this song when I was 17 years old and experiencing the full force of unrequited love. definitely one of my favorite phoebe songs :,)
me right now at 17 i felt this
@@angeliquereg same agH
Did you get friendzoned.
u have literally just described me ;-;
i’m 15, i just listened to this song for the first time and i’m hurting so bad rn lol
she’s so ridiculously talented I can’t
dont then
@@shauryasongara1851 Oh, it's happening.
The absolute whole package. Kindred type of spirit, absolute stunning cutie yet all the way down to earth, skilled to the core, channels into real depth Everytime she plays the songs... She has it all, is all of it, and much much more.
nice name
@@theesweetscience2084 add to that, she’s paid her dues in spades. She started busking at 11 I think.
idc that she thinks this song is dramatic. i am dramatic.
LOL!
real
same
Exactly😤😤😤😤I wanted her to release this so badly a few years ago and now I’m simply angry lol it’s not for the better Phoebe!!😂😭
right
“You’re the gun in my lips that will blow my brains out”. That is one hell of a lyric right there.
I know Phoebe obviously writes these songs mostly about herself and the happenings in her life, but why is it that when she sings, _you're_ the one who feels raw, exposed, and wounded all over again?
I don't need a church to be brought to my knees when it comes to her. Unreal.
Catharsis
Absolutely, I heard Funeral and felt invaded, then I dove into the rest of her first album.
Right? I’m so uncomfortable. It’s awkward hearing myself listen to a song so true.
I know right!!! My 12th grade literature teacher said, “the more specific and unique a piece of writing is, the more universal it ends up being.” I felt like that applied to Phoebe’s music perfectly.
this comment is everything
Waiting Room is just Moon Song but for teenagers
you're so right
Wow, you nailed it! Lol
agreed, i also think it sounds similar to Killer but more teen-y
THIS
I am confused this song is by her or is a cover??
how on earth did she write this song when she was 16??? insane
It's not like she wrote I wish you were here... This song is nice but pretty basic
@@nodiggity8746like you could write a song
@@ilovebroccolis that's not the point. I like the song but it's 16 years old level
@@nodiggity8746there’s like little to no sixteen year old who could write anything like this
@@nodiggity8746get over yourself.
WHAT IS JOE BIDENS PLAN TO GET THIS SONG BACK ON SPOTIFY?????
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Bro😭😭
SODAA
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@@avichauhan7610 SODA
the last little bit she ad libbed at the end i'm gonna cry
she didn't ad lib, it was part of the song originally (way back in the day)
@@carolinehullman7587 if you listen to the one on Spotify from years ago, it doesn’t have that last “I never grew up with you, and you’re not my waiting room part”
if you listen to the original video of her singing it live at 17 it does have the “I never grew up with you, and you’re not my waiting room" part @@abdomumyfnbfbdh672
Phoebe never fucking MISSES. Like damn why do you have to portray every single trauma and neurosis I have with so much poetics and depth
her and lucy dacus every damn time
@@Kat-bb9cn THIS!!
how did she manage to make this song even more sad than it already was
Exactly😂😂 what is that instrument that guy is playing on that makes sad ghost noises?
@Andyyoureastar I think you're talking abt the slide guitar
As a teenage girl going thru teenage girl stuff, this song makes me violently sob.
this song means a fuck ton to me.
I always listen to this song and think about my brother who died from a brain tumour. If you think about it as a little sister wanting to do anything to make her older brother smile again it has a different meaning... at least for me. I know it’s for the better bc he wasn’t him anymore but I wish I could reverse time.
I am so so sorry, currently crying so hard at this. He loves you more than anything.
This gave me chills. Sending love ❤️
wow, I'm sorry. RIP and I hope you find healing. my heart goes out to you.
As a big brother, this cut deep. We couldn’t be anything without our little sisters. He loves you and is so proud of you! Picture his bright smile because I’m confident that’s what you’re making him do right now! 🤍
This has me mentally on the floor. I’m so sorry. Phoebes lyrics are so special. I hope they have helped you just like they have helped me
This version of Waiting Room is my Roman Empire
everyone's always wondering how she wrote this at 16 but I think that teenagers feel things a lot more intensely than adults. words came so easily to me at 16. at 22, I find it so much harder to be as expressive and raw and honest as I was back then.
Im 22 now and i could confirm this. It’s sad. I wish I was 17, writing my way out of life.
ah i’m 17 rn and im scared for when im 22 now lol
how can a person know everything at 18, but nothing in 22
If you were a teacher, I would fail your class
Take it over and over til you noticed me
If you were a waiting room, I would never see a doctor
I would sit there with my first aid kit and bleed
I want to be the power ballad that lifts you up and hold you down
I wanna be the broken love song that feeds your misery
And I can wish all I want, but it won't bring us together
Plus I know whatever happens to me
I know it's for the better
When broken bodies are washed ashore
Who am I to ask for more, more, more?
But you're breathing in my open mouth
You're the gun in my lips that will blow my brains out
I want to make you drive all night just because I said maybe you should come over
I want to make you fall in love as hard as my poor parents teenage daughter
She'll be the best you ever had if you let her
I know it's for the better...
“...I never grew up with you and you’re not my waiting room” (live thing she added at the end)
"I never grew up with you, and you're not my waiting room" goes so hard
turning 20 in 6 mins, spending my last few minutes as a teenager watching this video.
I'm going to do the same now. I'm 18 but it's happening
This is so beautiful
This is a humanist worship song. Listening to it is always a spiritual experience. It's an unapologetic cry of longing. The pain that wrote this song is the same pain that keeps it alive. You can grow up listening to this song because you can fall back on it and know the lyrics and emotion of the music is going to relate to your pain. Usually, the worst pain you've felt up to that point. Songs like this are rare and underrated, but so insanely important.
“ the pain that wrote this song is the same pain that keeps it alive” i’ll never forget that. beautifully said
I'd have given anything to be this aware and intelligent at that age.
i don’t know how to explain it but the way phoebe writes her lyrics especially in this song show how horrible and beautiful falling in love can be, kills me every time
who else is here because the song got taken off Spotify again 😭
Me☝🏾😭😭😭
Me!
me
it's back on Spotify again!
yep
I know Phoebe wrote this song as a teenager and has probably played this song a thousand times but can we take a second to appreciate the fact that for the first two minutes she didn’t open her eyes once? She FEELS this song and we are able to feel a glimpse of what she feels while playing it. Truly beautiful.
fuck me this is so fucking good. why does she hate this song???
harrison's slide is haunting and amazing and needs to be on every one of her songs
I like the part where she says beheheEeter
This starts at about 2:45 , a place in time in many songs where they start a different part which is sometimes the best most intense part of the song.
@@Google_Does_Evil_Now what an interesting observation! I will listen to her songs with that particular focus now. Can you come up with 1 or 2 song titles where you noticed that?
@@ElowenFaye There's a theory that, using the golden ratio, you can calculate and pinpoint that exact moment in every song (if the song is written well). That point is called the Phi point and is located at exactly 61.8% through the song. Some artists use this in their writing process.
@@itscalledsonder3785 wow that sounds really fascinating, I will go and read about that, thank you!!
@@ElowenFaye they’re talking about the bridge, and almost every single taylor swift song has an immaculate bridge
This is a hidden gem in Phoebe's discography.
at least we still have this version to listen to
i cant believe it’s not on spotify anymore 😭😭😭
it’s back! under ‘waiting 4 you’
@@mars-nf9cj took that down 2😭
HEY GUESS WHAT
@@orymscott4782 literally crying with joy omg
ITS BACK ON SPOTIFY IM SO HAPPY
this song means the world to me. i told somone i loved they should learn this on the guitar, and they did. unfortunately, we broke up and i never got to hear it. the day we ended things he told me he would still play it for me some day (after that he ghosted me) i got sick of waiting around for something i knew deep down would never happen, so i learned it on the guitar myself. it was so healing. when we first broke up i coudlnt even listen to this song because of how much it reminded me of him but i’ve turned it into something good that doesn’t have to be violently sad and i now get to enjoy this song in its entirety. i can think about my old experiences but after that i move onto the next thing, and i don’t let it swallow me.
I was constantly working on a new song to play on the guitar for my girlfriend. A few days before we broke up I had decided to learn a song on the piano. I’m much more comfortable on the piano I’ve practically played it my whole life. It was a song with a very important memory attached to it… I didn’t know we would break up before I got to play it for her. I’ve since occasionally come back to the guitar and played some of those songs a few time, it’s nice to regain the song, it’s almost like taking the power back and letting yourself enjoy the music again without that oppressive sadness
🫂🫂 tough love
This song kinda reminds me of the unhealthy desperation I went through with my first love, especially since she wrote it when she was a teenager. Would have related hard back then. Now it's just beautiful to listen to and reflect on 💕
Just went through my first breakup with my teenage love. We dated from 14-19. This hits the nail on the head.
@@tessdegrazia1407 I'm so sorry. I know it might feel like the end of the world right now but you will get through this with time, I promise. There's so much more world to discover in yourself. Best of luck ❤️
one day in the future im gonna listen to this again and remember how it made 17 year old me feel
SO FUCKING REAL!!!!
can’t even listen to the spotify version now because it’s so fast and this one is so much better
i’m returning to listening to this every day. it got taken off again yall 🫡
rest in peace waiting room on spotify miss u
phoebe babe why did we take this off spotify
"I never grew up with you, and you're not my waiting room." HAUNTS ME TO THIS DAY
this is for all my girls going through something right now
"i never grew up with you and youre not my waiting room" IM DONE MY HEART ACHES
it's a crime this isn't available on Spotify
Yesss this version cuts deeper than the one available on spotify :(
ugh agreed. my youtube app keeps this vid at the top of my homepage bc they know what i’m here for
Use 4K RUclips to MP3 on a laptop/desktop and upload it to Spotify via your “Local Files”. That’s how I’ve been getting all of these versions onto my Spotify!
maybe spotify was trying to protect us
theres literally no version available on apple music :(
“how many times have you replayed this?”
yes.
didnt really know how badly i needed this version until i played it while laying on my rooftop
watching the LA nighttime skyline, while watching clouds pass through an (almost) full moon
somehow being reminiscent of my teenage heartbreak.
thank you, phoebe.
SHE TOOK IT OFF SPOTIFY THE END IS HERE
Wow amazing song
Phoebe: oh this old thing ?
PLEASE PHOEBE WE NEED IT BACK OK SPOTIFY
I’ve felt that way about a girl years ago. My first love my first heartbreak it was so bad I thought I couldn’t live! I now have a beautiful wife and kid who adore me for who I am. This song always reminds me to cherish the past but never let it consume you ! Peace and love ❤️
I guess it really was for the better ❤
I am 43 years old and every time I listen to Phoebe Bridgers I cry .. is that normal? Hahaha
me in 23 years
It would be abnormal to NOT cry.
I'm 35 years old with 2 children 😭
Yup 49, 2 Boys. Lost out to massive depression etc. Indledning My ex's suicide attempt in front of me, Kids and her family! Stil trying to pick up the pieces left.
so sorry for your lost fr, may god give u all the support you need in this moment, ur children loves you.
it’s not better without you, i miss you
real
Beautiful. Love the sounds from the guitar as well. That guys got some control over that slide
Definitely. He's got a pretty decent solo record out now too. Harrison Whitford if you're interested
sobbing violenty, throwing up on the floor and ascending in to heaven
i dont think i have or will ever love a song as much as this one
lives in my mind rent free
“I never grew up with you and you’re not my waiting room” hurts so much. Lost my baby brother when I was sixteen. Long story short he was a stillbirth. I think about him often and that lyric just HITS.
this song breaks me in a million pieces and the fact it isn’t on spotify is a crime
This is my favorite song of hers. It speaks to me especially with how much I’ve been in and out of hospitals just like the song implies
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If you were a teacher, I would fail your class
Take it over and over 'til you noticed me
If you were a waiting room, I would never see a doctor
I would sit there with my first-aid kit and bleed
I wanna be the power ballad that lifts you up and holds you down
I wanna be the broken love song that feeds your misery
And I can wish all that I want, but it won't bring us together
Plus, I know whatever happens to me, I know it's for the better
And when broken bodies are washed ashore
Who am I to ask for more, more, more?
But you're breathing in my open mouth
You're the gun in my lips that will blow my brains out
I wanna make you drive all night just because I said, "Maybe you should come over"
Wanna make you fall in love as hard as my poor parents' teenage daughter
She'll be the best you ever had if you let her
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I always come back here to get my heart broken all over again.
kinda glad this song isn’t on spotify anymore bc now im actually in a good place mentally ?????
okay but some of us wanna suffer
If this is what heartbreak feels like I don’t wanna be fixed. Thanks Pheebs
“i never grew up with you, and you’re not my waiting room” all brings me back to my first love. on and off for 5 years straight we practically knew each other for so long, yet could never get it right to meet eye to eye. he was in a different stage in life and so was i. i couldn’t keep hurting myself. it’s hard to let go of all the memories you made with someone for 5 years straight since you were kids. at times i wish he’d come back, like those 5 years still affect him like they affect me. but i know it’s for the better, i can’t wait for someone to change so we can get it right. maybe in some different life. first loves are always something so bitter and sweet. they come so slow and leave so fast, haunting us with the memories. he now only exists in my dreams where i can there talk to him .
i wished she loved this song as much as i do
bring it back on spotify i am begging on my knees
this song breaks my heart in the best way
i guess i just have to listen to it on youtube now 😭😭
not me listening to this everyday
this will forever be the most gut wrenchingly sad song i will ever hear
I guess this is where I have to listen to it now.
Who’s crying listening to this ☝🏼
this got taken down from spotify when i need it the most😭😭
i miss him so damn much fr
this is a soul-crushing, heartbreaking, agonizing, gut-wrenching experience. i love it.
When I listen to this song, I don’t think of a lover, I think of a old best friend. We knew eachother so well, we grew together, and as the years go on, and i don’t talk to her anymore, I still think of her when doing small things, just like smelling a perfume from a long time ago, or watching a movie they once liked, or even eating takis. When seeing things that remind me of them, my heart gets a feeling of something i once loved but lost, and a piece of me will always be with them, even if they don’t think of me. My heart has a piece missing from me after we stopped talking, my soul will always be tied to her even if we don’t talk, it’s like I can still feel she still misses me. She put a light and laugh into my life nobody else could’ve, we knew eachothers darkest secrets. I wanna talk to her, but maybe it’s for the better to leave people in the past even after so many nice memories of that person. I still love you so much e, and I wish you talk to me again. Maybe randomly she will listen to this song one day, and see this comment and know it’s about her. I know she would know.
this is beautiful
This song, this voice, this guitar slide... so beautiful.
i’ve watched this probably 30 times this week
it’s sunday
this is the realest song that ever did song
I CANT BELIEVE THEY TOOK THIS OFF SPOTIFY
never recovering from when i woke up and it was gone... phoebe take it away and i'm taking away my life---
Nobody speaks to my heart and soul like she does.
the way she closes her eyes.... its like shes not on stage or singing but living in the moment of the words..
put it back on spotify you MONSTER 😒
back here listening to this for the 1000th time
the things I would do for this on spotify
I watch this video like, every day, I need this healing.
phoebe if you see this... can you please put it back on streaming plateform.
If you're listening to this, you have a good taste of music
She took this off Spotify today… it’s become a daily listen It’s gotten me through so much hope this video doesn’t get taken down/ we got it back but now it’s gone again 💔💔💔
i’m here everyday . this is my favorite song like ever.
i’m sad this isn’t on apple music
I WANNA BE THE BROKEN LOVE SONG THAT FEEDS YOUR MISERY
I don’t know what I’d do without her or her music
same
honestly
this is my saving grace rn bc she took this off spotify 🙏🏼