"Stop living in the past" ohhh that sets me off. My dad says this to me about similar stuff I struggle with. It ISNT the past! The person is gone from her life AT THAT MOMENT!! I hate people like this!
Wow. WOW. I don't say this lightly but that step mother is a MONSTER. That poor child!! She's suffering and being punished for it! My heart is breaking for her. This one really got to me.
Making her stayin her room and the way treat her is abusive. They are responsible for her attempting suicide with their treatment. Punishing her for attempting suicide, reading her journals, taking her door this is abuse. WTH they are tormenting her.They should be in jail.
100% agree, bother the father and stepmonster are just completely vile excuses for human beings. I hope karma will catch up to them.. Not to mention how he was abusing his wealth to keep her trapped living with him.
Religious ones. Notice his rejection of real medical therapy instead he wants her to go to the pastor which always leads to the same outcome. Forgive abuse and father knows best 🙄🙄🙄
"Form a deeper bond" uh thats not how that works? They were twins and close. A sibling a decade younger than them isn't likely to have as close a bond as two the same age let alone a stronger one. And even if they have a very strong bond some day its still not a replacement for a lost sibling, come on.
Wow! That stepmother showed no remorse for what happened to OP's sister! Even though she was the cause of the poor girl's death! And dad is a damn jellyfish for not doing anything about it! And punishing her for all of the pain that she was suffering! He's a shitty person who doesn't deserve to be a parent!
I am trying to fathom how the father is okay with her nonchalance with her attitude toward his twin daughter! A sane man would have divorced and blamed her for it!
The 1st story is awful. I really feel for OP. 6 years ago my 6yr old daughter and best friend of 17 years both passed within weeks of each other. I'm an adult and I barely handled it. I feel for kids that have to experience such huge loss so young. It makes me think of my sons and how hard it was for them. That sperm donor sucks big time. The amount of things I've done to help my boys as much as possible get through everything....I could never ever treat them The way that piece of crap did to OP
The young lady who lost her twin, I’m so sorry for all of your pain. And you should have gone to the police for what your father and stepmother did to you! And perhaps your stepmother got a bit of karma. Yeah Benadryl is a terrible thing to take. Your father is a terrible person. I sincerely hope his karma comes his way.
that face blindness story, OP dismissing the abuse allegations because "it's a big word" is absolutely why people stay in abusive relationships. dude was absolutely abusing her, but she didn't want to see it when shown to her point blank...
Yeah, those first parents didn't have 4 children they had 2 children and 2 burdens they wanted to disappear. Never understood why some parents fight to keep children they clearly never wanted.
Pettiness, spite, control and punishment towards the Ex presumably. He seems to view OP as his possession rather than a person. Probably a narcissist to boot.
They do it to take something that the other loves from them, whether it be children, pets or prized possessions. As long as the other person suffers for it, it doesn't matter what it is.
@@knightmare39 Yes, that is how those kinds of people operate. Especially if they are narcisists or have strong narcissistic traits. It's not about what they want themselves, it's about denying the other access to things they want in order to hurt them.
God that last story makes me really uncomfortable. I have face blindness too, and some people just don't fucking believe you. Like, I've genuinely left movies and went cry in the shower because I could not track any of the plot to save my life. All the characters kept changing clothes and hair, and I'm not good enough with voices to keep track of them. If I see someone outside of a scenario I expect to see them in, I'll be completely lost on who they are. I've walked right past my own mother in a parking lot before because I couldn't recognize her after a haircut. Then you have people who think it's not real and some excuse, and it's just so confusing to me. Why and how do you think I fake this?
I haven't heard the story yet and more likely won't given this comment. I just finished story 1 with the twins and I honestly can't go on. I do not have prospognosia (sp??) spelling but I wear glasses. Being low income, I've had so many situations when I would have to go extended periods of time without any - everything is a blur. I constantly have to ask people what is in front of me, let alone seeing down the street, to read etc. Squinting doesn't even help and gives away to those around me I have issues seeing - I don't want to be a sitting duck 🦆 of a target 🎯. If people waved at me, discomfort/fear would overtake me. I can hear them and make out blurred colors etc but I can't make out their face at all until they are really really close which they may never be if they aren't passing by so near and on their way to else where. To wave and smile at people I didnt know and to fake knowing them while racking my brain if I am talking to a serial killer was stressful. All these agent 007 tactics just to get by. To seem friendly but not say anything of real substance in case they were a stranger or someone else. It is just so stressful. I think I may have heard the story before - something about the bf not believing her and running tests/pranks. I can imagine that's only funny if they happen by genuine mistakes as stories that can make light of the situation - gets you to laugh instead of cry, put life into perspective and relax - and retold sparingly at that. Directly undermining, testing etc seems innocuous but honestly sounds like a harbinger for abuse. I can't imagine playing with people's vulnerabilities like that. I would honestly make it a point to be identifiable and always announce who I am along with a code word system that changed depending on the day of the week, time of day or something like that. We have security questions for emails and banks - your partner reminding you of a funny anecdote or inside joke or love language connected to whatever to verify, "Hey it's me." Is so little. I would even go as far as to tell them who people we pass by are, or low key signal for my partner to know, "Hey, is that you Kelly from Key Foods? Thanks for giving me that discount last time - what's up?" So my partner would know. Things seem hard or unbelievable when you don't respect, love and communicate with your partner. #1 Respect and #2 Be fuckin responsible and the other shit show fuckery won't happen. because you would be more Cognizant that you have to claim and answer for you behavior later. I am so sorry you felt that way at the movies and with your mom. My know glasses, bad at hearing, mental instability to the point I can't read, write or follow plots at times and horrible memory feels your pain. I get the feeling he is an asshole I won't even want to subject my self to being narrated about. ❤😊🎉
Faceblindness is not a joke. It's a state of constant anxiety. You never feel secure in the world around you. I'm not totally faceblind, but Im having a very hard time, including problems recognizing my own face. When I was a child I would often just walk besides strangers in crowded places when they had similar hairstyles and clothes as my parents. My parents absolutely hated going shopping etc. with me.
Story 1 - I can't. Why did the father fight to gave them, in order to spite the Mom? Feels bad no one wants him? He nor the step mom care about those girls or seem to want them - why?? Did he even feel anything major that his daughter died? He has other children - why gang onto them/her?? Those poor youngins - they sbout to go through sone shit without their scapegoat and/or turn into little shits. Im glad OP updated - they look fucking horrible for the world to see. When the in laws called to yell at Dad Im assuming the to SM side else they would have been yelling at the BOTH of them. Jesus.
Wow. I am mad for OP. The step mom is the asshole and heartless for telling OP she is living in the past. A twin is more than just a sibling. No one would understand their bond unless they have experienced it. I don't blame OP for feeling the way she does. It's your moms responsibility to be there for you. You shouldn't carry that burden on you at your young age. The step mom is a selfish monster. And OPs dad is an idiot!! He is letting his wife, who killed one of his daughters, treat his other daughter like crap.
Op is not the A-hole. They spent ALL those years neglecting her trauma and grief, then expect her to be OK when they start erasing what she has left of her sister? That's fucked. Immensely.
For the first one I have a feeling she wanted to kill them both with the crash sound fishy how they moved on so fast and hot the stepmom is so non chalant
I hate OP1's father and his family. He didn't want those girls- he just wanted to make his ex suffer. And his daughters paid the price, but he doesn't even care. Im so glad she was able to escape! Story 2- i hate that the daughter wins, but OP did the best thing for her. And while normally i am against a parent abandoning their kid, but i do think he needs a break from her for a bit. Im glad OP4 and her sister are getting help. I also get why she's more mad at Jake than Sarah; he knew Sarah was vulnerable and not emotionally stable but did it anyway. Sarah's mental illness is not a free pass to do what she did, but it makes what Jake did even worse imo. Story 5- he is icky and im so glad she broke up with him.
Unfortunately it's almost every single president/prime minister in the world. Seriously, except for maybe one or two people all our leaders are Methuselahs.
If you were doing the same thing to her you will be glad the evil stepmother your husband were left you so fast Opie run run as far away as you can NTA
Your father and your stepmother really piece of work how to make a calendar and countdown the days on the last move away change your number and go no contact with your father n a t
The first story is a great example of why some people don’t deserve kids. The story of the sister sleeping with OP’s boyfriend. That is just tragic. The family should have gotten her help a long time ago. She is also jealous of her sister that’s why she did what she did. When people are angry they reveal their truths. As for the OP with face blindness. She did the right thing. I wonder if her ex had bad break ups in the past is because he allows his own insecurities with his exes destroy his relationship and he can’t stand being held accountable for that. That’s why he has bad break up cause the girls would most likely tell him his shortcomings and he can’t swallow that pill!
*For the first story;* Reddit and most other people don't understand exactly how segul international marriage, divorce and custody issues are for the person living outside their country. I used to be fine with international relationships till some lady in my country had her ex take their kids to the US then the US government but her on a do not grant visa black list coz she has a high risk of overstaying her visa. No shit, her kids are there. Word of advise; don't move to someone else's home country, marry them and have kids with them there. Stories like story one are more common than you'd think.
First story is the perfect example of why some people just shouldn't be allowed to have kids to begin with. Assuming it's true, god that story pisses me off.
People don't realize how hard it is to lose a twin. It's like losing a part of yourself and I've heard a lot of mental health issue come from it so the fact that her dad won't give her help is sad because my best friend's father, who was a twin, committed suicide a month after his twin died because of how hard it was to live without him. I Hope it works out for her.
The first story made my fucking blood boil. What the actual hell. How do those so-called "parents" sleep at night? Are they that oblivious to reality or just plain evil? I can't for the life of me comprehend it, and I don't think I want to. I'm just glad OP is out of there now.
I feel so much sadness for the girl in the first story. I myself am a twin too, and the bond is something that can be described or replaced. I would contemplate suicide too just merely finding out my sister died; and she had to deal with the bs of the "family" she lives with. I honestly think that dad wants control over the bio mom, cause why else would he want to keep children he doesn't care about? OP is strong for holding on, and if the dad or stepmother ever come around and happen to see this comment: go to hell.
Story 1: when her fathers wife said OP was living in the past I want so bad for that woman to be told : "I am not living in the past. This is every day of my life. I wake up reminded that the one person who shared everything with me, who was meant to continue to be a major part of my life was taken. Her life cut short by YOUR carlessness. You may want absolve your own sins by pretending that it was fate or chance,maybe even that she didnt exsist, but the truth is, somewhere in that smooth brain of yours, you know her death was your fault. I hope it eats you alive, just like it does me everyday. You are not family, just my dad's wife. How can you be a mother when you dont care about me or my siblings.The day I am no longer obligated to endure your presence cannot come soon enough."
6:29 - I’m sorry but what is with parents expecting their children to just accept an affair? That’s usually not how life works. Her father cheated on her mother and left her for the affair partner. Why on earth do these type of people think children are selfish for not falling head over heels for the ones who destroyed their family. These two adults are even nastier than most cases. She was the cause of a child’s death! Not to mention the fact that she pretends that the child did not exist in the first place. She should count her freaking lucky stars that she hadn’t been arrested for vehicle manslaughter because quite frankly, she missed a Stop sign because she was too busy yelling at two children that is in her care for “waking her up from a nap”. Oh, don’t worry, I hadn’t forgotten about Daddy Dearest. The stepmother is a vile human being… but the father is a true monster. Not only did he cheat on his wife and blew up his family for her, he actually stayed *with* her after she had been responsible for his child’s death. This monster… should not be called a father. There are animals… freaking *animals* that treat their children better than he does/did. Any reasonable parent would *not* stay with someone who killed their kid. With the way he handled the situation of his child dying and his surviving child, I actually believe he does not love either child. He absolutely showed his true colors when he stayed by that woman. Now my next question to ask is this: If he despised his twins so much… why even bother taking them in? Yes, they were in school, had friends, etc. But he obviously don’t give a d*mn about them… he should have sent them to live with their mother and relinquished all parental rights. I truly truly despise parents that keep children they know darn well that they don’t want, can’t truly provide for, etc. If you hate your child that much,.. then do them and yourselves a favor… give them to someone who wants and loves them. It’s obvious you don’t care so why keep them? It always feels that they want to control someone and if that’s the case, I suggest getting a plant. No, not a pet because just like children they have emotions. Just get yourself a plant to destroy. They may feel pain depending on the species (recent study came out that suggests plants are also be sentient. But only some) but at least you are least likely to destroy a being with actual feelings. Edit to Add: That’s what my mom said to me randomly one day. When I was in my early 20s I moved in with her (despite not wanting to and wanting to return to live with my dad), I had one rule, that my siblings don’t go in my room unless they asked. This rule was created due to the fact that they had went into my room, got my kitten, and put her in another room with cat food that had ants in it. I seem to recall many ants being on her. Well, the day when my mom exploded on me, my younger sibling had went into my room without permission. I chased him through out the house, tackled him, and began to tickle him relentlessly while asking him who gave him permission to be in my room? My mom… snapped. She began to yell at me and say that I am ruining her life, that I was an awful daughter, and that I should hurry the eff up and get out of her house. 1. It wasn’t her house but her second husband’s 2. I did not ask to live with her, she offered for me to move in when no one else wanted to pay for me to return home. (I had no income and my parents had agreed that one would get my ticket to go to my mom’s and one was supposed to get my return ticket. Both shirked that responsibility after a few trips) 3. I was not the cause of all of her problems. I knew that even then. All of her problems came from her first marriage, her alcoholism, not treating me like an adult, etc. and I sure as hell didn’t ask to be born. Not to mention, she is partially responsible for many of the problems I have to this day. (That rant was about her as well. She didn’t want me for any good reason outside of wanting someone who would worship her no matter what. *Her* words. She kicked me out despite the pleas of my sibling who admitted it was him who broke my only rule. She did not care. I was kicked out. I had no money (I would give her some of it for rent and the rest went to buying things) I know you wonder what her second husband said about me being kicked out? Well… he didn’t know that was what happened. My mom told him half the truth. She said I left of my own accord despite her telling me I could stay with her no matter what. It wasn’t until a bit later he heard the full story from me *including* the part where I did leave but it was because she threw me out and told me to never return. My mother said a lot of what OP’s father said to her. Again: parents if you don’t want your child(ren) just give them to people who will. Edit to Add 2: I SAID IT BEFORE AND I WILL SAY IT AGAIN… THAT MAN IS A MONSTER.
the story about faceblindness i have autism, and that's usually comorbid with face blindness, and I think I mildly have it. not as bad as some people in these comments, but still not fun to have. i think for me its at least partially between struggling to make eye contact and struggling to picture things in my mind, but there's got to be more to it. i cant even describe faces that I've seen my whole life, like mine, my brother's, and our parents' just from memory, i dont tend to notice even big changes in appearance (hair colour/cut, other accessories and similar), and i struggle to know if i know someone out of context. I once passed by my therapist of maybe 4 years on a walk and didn't know it was her until our next appointment when she brought it up i wonder if op has autism or any other neurodivergence. like I'm not going to armchair diagnose them or anything, more just a curiosity with the comorbidity of such conditions
Crazy how this family instead of consoling her for almost killing yourself (I get that selfish in both ways but still )they take away what she likes doing and all of her privacy. That’s gotta be illegal right you can’t just leave the bathroom door open, but someone waits right by the door to stare at you. That’s pretty weird even when you don’t want it to happen.
"She started crying" Don't ask questions you don't want the answers to. Oh boo hoo, the kids from the family YOU destroyed hate you because you caused an accident by crashing because you don't know what a stop sign is. That must be real hard for you.
She mentions that her father is wealthy he probably had very good lawyers explain away a lot of the consequences. She had a fine and she's on probation. If you add this probably being the first offense it explains why she got such a light sentence. Especially saying as she was the driver in the accident with the kids if she played the whole I'm so heartbroken that I lost my daughter card. It may have worked on a sympathetic judge
Not really? Blowing a stop sign, or rather a red light, usually only gives you a fine or maybe suspends your driver license. And as the dead ones were considered her loss, rather than inflicting it on the other party, she isn't really viable for vehicular manslaughter, as she killed "her own" rather than someone else. IE, her suffered loss is considered part of her punishment, that she has to live with the guilt of having killed her own step-daughter. Which of course only really works for people who are decent and who loves their family, but that's not really something the legal system takes into consideration.
I don't think I would cut off a family member for doing something while in the grip of mental illness if they had not been diagnosed or treated. I might cut them off if they refused treatment, but only for my own safety and well being. If they sought treatment and got better, I'd likely give them another chance because many mental illness don't allow the person to rationalize properly which includes evaluating right and wrong and whether to seek treatment. It doesn't help that there is such a stigma which makes it scary to admit you might need mental health treatment. Anyway Ops choice to not cut off her sister doesn't stop what she did from severly hurting her. I really feel for her. The situation sucks all around. Jake sucks the worst though. He betrayed OP and took advantage of her severely mentally ill sister. Op was right to show him the door. What a scumbag!
Last story: How can any of the bfs friends have been OK with that? If they switched in the bedroom, that can be considered r***, because OP didn’t consent to sleeping with this person. What a waste of carbon atoms.
Story 2: I don’t know why everyone is so hostile towards the ex boyfriend, he didn’t do anything wrong, he is a victim of his narcissistic daughter as well
The problem is that this isn't new Behavior. She has ruined past relationships according to him. This is taking it 10 steps farther than she could have gone with previous relationships. She was a literal threat to his girlfriend's life. The responsible thing to do is either never bring his daughter there again. Or break up to keep her safe from his daughter if he wants to keep his visits with his daughter which is the more likely thing he should have done. What he wanted was to have his cake and eat it too which he could not do. He tried but it's not possible.
The facial blindness story is complicated. I am not trying to say to forgive the boyfriend, but he likely does not understand the severity of the problem. The late neurologist Oliver Sachs had this condition. He explained it in the most eloquent way which made me realize how terrifying this condition actually is. Try to assign a name to a leaf of a tree. Now try to identify that leaf every time you see it. That is how difficult living with this disorder is. But most people could not wrap their heads around it.
He kept gaslighting her. He swapped places with his friend. He knew what he was doing. His earlier brake ups probably were messy because he couldn't accept his own wrongdoing.
The first story how terrible and awful of a step mom can you be to think this is ok glad she can't have a baby if she did she trouble torment that poor kid also shit father fir letting this happen and making your child try to end there own life he doesn't deserve to be a parent either can't believe that the step mom's family was supposed what she did horrible
La OP que tiene problemas de visión también es demasiado ingenua. Yo le hubiese curado la estupidez al novio con un puño cuando me hiciera “una prueba”. Después le “pido disculpas” porque lo confundí. Yo, pasiva-agresiva para que madure.
it's funny that children can choose their sexuality but not who will take care of them for the opposite reason, with the sexuality being that they have the right to choose, but when it comes to who takes custody of them, they are still too immature and cannot decide on their own. The environment in which the child grows up in is just as important as their identity, and if money is the issue, then did they think low income families are non-existent? For poor teenage mothers, why isn't the child's custody given to the father when her situation is worse than a working woman? Plus there's the child support if the mom really cannot raise the kids herself.
Low income families aren't non-existent, they are just not important as they don't have the financial means to affect the political system. Unless they are represented by a powerful lobbying group. Which goes on to explain the thing about choosing their sexuality and gender etc. Lots of money and political power that are pushing for what they consider important.
That's only possible if she could even fight for that. Given the fact that the mom doesn't live in that country anymore. And that the father has more money to drag out the fight and make her waste her money. And the most important fact he doesn't give a flying f*** about his kids once he just wants to hurt his ex. The fact that they begged him right after the funeral and he still said no and threatened legal action if she didn't leave quote his family alone. He never loved his damn kids. His wife may be a monster but he is as well. He simply a different breed of bastard that's all
The thing is that lawyers cost money. People seem to assume things like lawyers, therapists etc are just free services. Except they aren't. And not everyone has a lot of disposable income.
"Stop living in the past" ohhh that sets me off. My dad says this to me about similar stuff I struggle with. It ISNT the past! The person is gone from her life AT THAT MOMENT!! I hate people like this!
Wow. WOW. I don't say this lightly but that step mother is a MONSTER. That poor child!! She's suffering and being punished for it! My heart is breaking for her. This one really got to me.
Dude they're ABUSING HER! UGH WHY DOES THIS EVIL EXIST IN THIS WORLD
I literally started crying when she got out of there. Thank God there was a happy ending. This was basically a horror story.
Making her stayin her room and the way treat her is abusive. They are responsible for her attempting suicide with their treatment. Punishing her for attempting suicide, reading her journals, taking her door this is abuse. WTH they are tormenting her.They should be in jail.
100% agree, bother the father and stepmonster are just completely vile excuses for human beings. I hope karma will catch up to them.. Not to mention how he was abusing his wealth to keep her trapped living with him.
That first story has me so mad I'm crying. What kind of father acts like that
Religious ones. Notice his rejection of real medical therapy instead he wants her to go to the pastor which always leads to the same outcome.
Forgive abuse and father knows best 🙄🙄🙄
Story one: What was the point of that father keeping his daughters if he was just going to neglect them? Even at the expense of one of their lives.
Spite and power.
Their mom didn't want them
@@AgniFirePunchyou don't know that
@@donbeedrill why aren't you saying that to the person above me?
Hatred towards an ex can overpower everything else.
"Form a deeper bond" uh thats not how that works? They were twins and close. A sibling a decade younger than them isn't likely to have as close a bond as two the same age let alone a stronger one. And even if they have a very strong bond some day its still not a replacement for a lost sibling, come on.
Wow! That stepmother showed no remorse for what happened to OP's sister! Even though she was the cause of the poor girl's death! And dad is a damn jellyfish for not doing anything about it! And punishing her for all of the pain that she was suffering! He's a shitty person who doesn't deserve to be a parent!
She's a psycho
Jellyfish? He's an active abuser just like the stepmonster, he's the one stopping OP from seeing her family in France and isolating her.
I am trying to fathom how the father is okay with her nonchalance with her attitude toward his twin daughter! A sane man would have divorced and blamed her for it!
The 1st story is awful. I really feel for OP. 6 years ago my 6yr old daughter and best friend of 17 years both passed within weeks of each other. I'm an adult and I barely handled it. I feel for kids that have to experience such huge loss so young. It makes me think of my sons and how hard it was for them. That sperm donor sucks big time. The amount of things I've done to help my boys as much as possible get through everything....I could never ever treat them The way that piece of crap did to OP
Did you mean 16 year old daughter
@@stephanienoblet8503 no. My daughter was only 6. My best friend was someone I'd known for 17 years.
@@stephanienoblet8503 no. I mean by 6 year old daughter.
Listening to that first story made me the maddest I’ve been since I can remember. I’m a fault genuinely furious
The young lady who lost her twin, I’m so sorry for all of your pain. And you should have gone to the police for what your father and stepmother did to you!
And perhaps your stepmother got a bit of karma.
Yeah Benadryl is a terrible thing to take. Your father is a terrible person. I sincerely hope his karma comes his way.
that face blindness story, OP dismissing the abuse allegations because "it's a big word" is absolutely why people stay in abusive relationships. dude was absolutely abusing her, but she didn't want to see it when shown to her point blank...
Yeah, those first parents didn't have 4 children they had 2 children and 2 burdens they wanted to disappear. Never understood why some parents fight to keep children they clearly never wanted.
Pettiness, spite, control and punishment towards the Ex presumably. He seems to view OP as his possession rather than a person. Probably a narcissist to boot.
They do it to take something that the other loves from them, whether it be children, pets or prized possessions. As long as the other person suffers for it, it doesn't matter what it is.
@@knightmare39 Yes, that is how those kinds of people operate. Especially if they are narcisists or have strong narcissistic traits. It's not about what they want themselves, it's about denying the other access to things they want in order to hurt them.
God that last story makes me really uncomfortable. I have face blindness too, and some people just don't fucking believe you.
Like, I've genuinely left movies and went cry in the shower because I could not track any of the plot to save my life. All the characters kept changing clothes and hair, and I'm not good enough with voices to keep track of them. If I see someone outside of a scenario I expect to see them in, I'll be completely lost on who they are. I've walked right past my own mother in a parking lot before because I couldn't recognize her after a haircut.
Then you have people who think it's not real and some excuse, and it's just so confusing to me. Why and how do you think I fake this?
I haven't heard the story yet and more likely won't given this comment. I just finished story 1 with the twins and I honestly can't go on.
I do not have prospognosia (sp??) spelling but I wear glasses. Being low income, I've had so many situations when I would have to go extended periods of time without any - everything is a blur.
I constantly have to ask people what is in front of me, let alone seeing down the street, to read etc. Squinting doesn't even help and gives away to those around me I have issues seeing - I don't want to be a sitting duck 🦆 of a target 🎯.
If people waved at me, discomfort/fear would overtake me. I can hear them and make out blurred colors etc but I can't make out their face at all until they are really really close which they may never be if they aren't passing by so near and on their way to else where.
To wave and smile at people I didnt know and to fake knowing them while racking my brain if I am talking to a serial killer was stressful. All these agent 007 tactics just to get by. To seem friendly but not say anything of real substance in case they were a stranger or someone else. It is just so stressful.
I think I may have heard the story before - something about the bf not believing her and running tests/pranks. I can imagine that's only funny if they happen by genuine mistakes as stories that can make light of the situation - gets you to laugh instead of cry, put life into perspective and relax - and retold sparingly at that.
Directly undermining, testing etc seems innocuous but honestly sounds like a harbinger for abuse. I can't imagine playing with people's vulnerabilities like that. I would honestly make it a point to be identifiable and always announce who I am along with a code word system that changed depending on the day of the week, time of day or something like that. We have security questions for emails and banks - your partner reminding you of a funny anecdote or inside joke or love language connected to whatever to verify, "Hey it's me." Is so little. I would even go as far as to tell them who people we pass by are, or low key signal for my partner to know, "Hey, is that you Kelly from Key Foods? Thanks for giving me that discount last time - what's up?" So my partner would know.
Things seem hard or unbelievable when you don't respect, love and communicate with your partner. #1 Respect and #2 Be fuckin responsible and the other shit show fuckery won't happen. because you would be more Cognizant that you have to claim and answer for you behavior later.
I am so sorry you felt that way at the movies and with your mom. My know glasses, bad at hearing, mental instability to the point I can't read, write or follow plots at times and horrible memory feels your pain.
I get the feeling he is an asshole I won't even want to subject my self to being narrated about.
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That "No, we have 3" line would've gotten her killed and me locked up...
I would've replied with, "There's 3 of us because you killed my twin." Out loud and for all to hear.
Faceblindness is not a joke. It's a state of constant anxiety. You never feel secure in the world around you. I'm not totally faceblind, but Im having a very hard time, including problems recognizing my own face. When I was a child I would often just walk besides strangers in crowded places when they had similar hairstyles and clothes as my parents. My parents absolutely hated going shopping etc. with me.
When stepmom lost the baby, I would've 100% threw the "everything happens for a reason, God works in mysterious ways" horseshit back in her face
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@@Snowy0086 Thank you!!!
It's hard to "enjoy" such gut wrenching stories but that aint your fault man, you're a rockstar.
Interesting fact: Jane Goodall (the lady with the chimps) has face blindness
Story 1 - I can't.
Why did the father fight to gave them, in order to spite the Mom? Feels bad no one wants him? He nor the step mom care about those girls or seem to want them - why?? Did he even feel anything major that his daughter died? He has other children - why gang onto them/her?? Those poor youngins - they sbout to go through sone shit without their scapegoat and/or turn into little shits. Im glad OP updated - they look fucking horrible for the world to see.
When the in laws called to yell at Dad Im assuming the to SM side else they would have been yelling at the BOTH of them. Jesus.
They forced her to live with her sister's murder. That's so ridiculous. I hope she never speaks with dad again.
Wow. I am mad for OP. The step mom is the asshole and heartless for telling OP she is living in the past. A twin is more than just a sibling. No one would understand their bond unless they have experienced it. I don't blame OP for feeling the way she does. It's your moms responsibility to be there for you. You shouldn't carry that burden on you at your young age. The step mom is a selfish monster. And OPs dad is an idiot!! He is letting his wife, who killed one of his daughters, treat his other daughter like crap.
Op is not the A-hole. They spent ALL those years neglecting her trauma and grief, then expect her to be OK when they start erasing what she has left of her sister? That's fucked. Immensely.
Omg, poor OP in the first story 😭😭😭 i feel so bad for her 😢😢😢
Stranger: "how many Kids you had?"
Dad: "4"
Stepmother: "no, its 3"
Dad: "4 and a divorce coming up!"
That's how this Conversation should have been!
For the first one I have a feeling she wanted to kill them both with the crash sound fishy how they moved on so fast and hot the stepmom is so non chalant
I hate OP1's father and his family. He didn't want those girls- he just wanted to make his ex suffer. And his daughters paid the price, but he doesn't even care. Im so glad she was able to escape!
Story 2- i hate that the daughter wins, but OP did the best thing for her. And while normally i am against a parent abandoning their kid, but i do think he needs a break from her for a bit.
Im glad OP4 and her sister are getting help. I also get why she's more mad at Jake than Sarah; he knew Sarah was vulnerable and not emotionally stable but did it anyway. Sarah's mental illness is not a free pass to do what she did, but it makes what Jake did even worse imo.
Story 5- he is icky and im so glad she broke up with him.
33:06 "Or maybe not run a country past a certain age" Oh? Who might you be talking about? xD
It's a statement that unfortunately applies to a lot of people in the US lol
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Unfortunately it's almost every single president/prime minister in the world. Seriously, except for maybe one or two people all our leaders are Methuselahs.
As it's US-centric then there are two candidates unfortunately. Both the current president and the presidential candidate are both old geezers.....
If you were doing the same thing to her you will be glad the evil stepmother your husband were left you so fast Opie run run as far away as you can NTA
First time ive ever been happy to hear about a miscarriage, the universe knows she shouldnt have children.
that twins sisters story parents was grim and that stepmother is awful
Your father and your stepmother really piece of work how to make a calendar and countdown the days on the last move away change your number and go no contact with your father
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The first story is a great example of why some people don’t deserve kids.
The story of the sister sleeping with OP’s boyfriend. That is just tragic. The family should have gotten her help a long time ago. She is also jealous of her sister that’s why she did what she did. When people are angry they reveal their truths.
As for the OP with face blindness. She did the right thing. I wonder if her ex had bad break ups in the past is because he allows his own insecurities with his exes destroy his relationship and he can’t stand being held accountable for that. That’s why he has bad break up cause the girls would most likely tell him his shortcomings and he can’t swallow that pill!
Dad: i have four kids
Step-monster: No, you have 3
Me: Yeah, cause you killed one of them
It doesn't really a hole you think one of your kids trying to take their own life will make you see the light no you're still punishing him
I'm guessing the anger at that awful dad made you accidentally drop a whole lot of words?? I do that a lot, even while talking.
The lady with face recognition will never be able to trust that guy. It’s funny that he has trouble trusting because of past relationships?!?
*For the first story;* Reddit and most other people don't understand exactly how segul international marriage, divorce and custody issues are for the person living outside their country. I used to be fine with international relationships till some lady in my country had her ex take their kids to the US then the US government but her on a do not grant visa black list coz she has a high risk of overstaying her visa. No shit, her kids are there. Word of advise; don't move to someone else's home country, marry them and have kids with them there. Stories like story one are more common than you'd think.
First story is the perfect example of why some people just shouldn't be allowed to have kids to begin with. Assuming it's true, god that story pisses me off.
Holy moly the first story is having me shaking with fury.
People don't realize how hard it is to lose a twin. It's like losing a part of yourself and I've heard a lot of mental health issue come from it so the fact that her dad won't give her help is sad because my best friend's father, who was a twin, committed suicide a month after his twin died because of how hard it was to live without him. I Hope it works out for her.
sarah will never change if everyone continues to shift blame
The story with sister sleaping with OPs husband she is such a hypocrate for blaming husband more than her sister
I havent even finished this video and that first story is a bloody doozy.
The first story made my fucking blood boil. What the actual hell. How do those so-called "parents" sleep at night? Are they that oblivious to reality or just plain evil? I can't for the life of me comprehend it, and I don't think I want to. I'm just glad OP is out of there now.
I feel so much sadness for the girl in the first story. I myself am a twin too, and the bond is something that can be described or replaced. I would contemplate suicide too just merely finding out my sister died; and she had to deal with the bs of the "family" she lives with. I honestly think that dad wants control over the bio mom, cause why else would he want to keep children he doesn't care about?
OP is strong for holding on, and if the dad or stepmother ever come around and happen to see this comment: go to hell.
Please, can you timestamp the video? Thanks
in first story, he shoulda said, "How can I move on when I live with the person who killed her"
The parents sound as though they had indulged Sarah all her life. They are partially responsible for Sarah's behaviour.
My god in reference to story 1 i don't know how these people get through this without straight up murdering someone.
Story 1: when her fathers wife said OP was living in the past I want so bad for that woman to be told : "I am not living in the past. This is every day of my life. I wake up reminded that the one person who shared everything with me, who was meant to continue to be a major part of my life was taken. Her life cut short by YOUR carlessness. You may want absolve your own sins by pretending that it was fate or chance,maybe even that she didnt exsist, but the truth is, somewhere in that smooth brain of yours, you know her death was your fault. I hope it eats you alive, just like it does me everyday. You are not family, just my dad's wife. How can you be a mother when you dont care about me or my siblings.The day I am no longer obligated to endure your presence cannot come soon enough."
6:29 - I’m sorry but what is with parents expecting their children to just accept an affair? That’s usually not how life works. Her father cheated on her mother and left her for the affair partner. Why on earth do these type of people think children are selfish for not falling head over heels for the ones who destroyed their family.
These two adults are even nastier than most cases. She was the cause of a child’s death! Not to mention the fact that she pretends that the child did not exist in the first place. She should count her freaking lucky stars that she hadn’t been arrested for vehicle manslaughter because quite frankly, she missed a Stop sign because she was too busy yelling at two children that is in her care for “waking her up from a nap”.
Oh, don’t worry, I hadn’t forgotten about Daddy Dearest. The stepmother is a vile human being… but the father is a true monster. Not only did he cheat on his wife and blew up his family for her, he actually stayed *with* her after she had been responsible for his child’s death.
This monster… should not be called a father. There are animals… freaking *animals* that treat their children better than he does/did. Any reasonable parent would *not* stay with someone who killed their kid.
With the way he handled the situation of his child dying and his surviving child, I actually believe he does not love either child. He absolutely showed his true colors when he stayed by that woman.
Now my next question to ask is this: If he despised his twins so much… why even bother taking them in? Yes, they were in school, had friends, etc. But he obviously don’t give a d*mn about them… he should have sent them to live with their mother and relinquished all parental rights.
I truly truly despise parents that keep children they know darn well that they don’t want, can’t truly provide for, etc.
If you hate your child that much,.. then do them and yourselves a favor… give them to someone who wants and loves them. It’s obvious you don’t care so why keep them? It always feels that they want to control someone and if that’s the case, I suggest getting a plant. No, not a pet because just like children they have emotions. Just get yourself a plant to destroy. They may feel pain depending on the species (recent study came out that suggests plants are also be sentient. But only some) but at least you are least likely to destroy a being with actual feelings.
Edit to Add: That’s what my mom said to me randomly one day. When I was in my early 20s I moved in with her (despite not wanting to and wanting to return to live with my dad), I had one rule, that my siblings don’t go in my room unless they asked. This rule was created due to the fact that they had went into my room, got my kitten, and put her in another room with cat food that had ants in it. I seem to recall many ants being on her.
Well, the day when my mom exploded on me, my younger sibling had went into my room without permission. I chased him through out the house, tackled him, and began to tickle him relentlessly while asking him who gave him permission to be in my room?
My mom… snapped. She began to yell at me and say that I am ruining her life, that I was an awful daughter, and that I should hurry the eff up and get out of her house.
1. It wasn’t her house but her second husband’s
2. I did not ask to live with her, she offered for me to move in when no one else wanted to pay for me to return home. (I had no income and my parents had agreed that one would get my ticket to go to my mom’s and one was supposed to get my return ticket. Both shirked that responsibility after a few trips)
3. I was not the cause of all of her problems. I knew that even then. All of her problems came from her first marriage, her alcoholism, not treating me like an adult, etc. and I sure as hell didn’t ask to be born. Not to mention, she is partially responsible for many of the problems I have to this day. (That rant was about her as well. She didn’t want me for any good reason outside of wanting someone who would worship her no matter what. *Her* words.
She kicked me out despite the pleas of my sibling who admitted it was him who broke my only rule. She did not care.
I was kicked out. I had no money (I would give her some of it for rent and the rest went to buying things)
I know you wonder what her second husband said about me being kicked out? Well… he didn’t know that was what happened. My mom told him half the truth. She said I left of my own accord despite her telling me I could stay with her no matter what.
It wasn’t until a bit later he heard the full story from me *including* the part where I did leave but it was because she threw me out and told me to never return.
My mother said a lot of what OP’s father said to her.
Again: parents if you don’t want your child(ren) just give them to people who will.
Edit to Add 2: I SAID IT BEFORE AND I WILL SAY IT AGAIN… THAT MAN IS A MONSTER.
Ok what crazy ppl we / storys we got this time always good oh my gif the amount of crazy parenting in story 1 wtf
the story about faceblindness
i have autism, and that's usually comorbid with face blindness, and I think I mildly have it. not as bad as some people in these comments, but still not fun to have. i think for me its at least partially between struggling to make eye contact and struggling to picture things in my mind, but there's got to be more to it. i cant even describe faces that I've seen my whole life, like mine, my brother's, and our parents' just from memory, i dont tend to notice even big changes in appearance (hair colour/cut, other accessories and similar), and i struggle to know if i know someone out of context. I once passed by my therapist of maybe 4 years on a walk and didn't know it was her until our next appointment when she brought it up
i wonder if op has autism or any other neurodivergence. like I'm not going to armchair diagnose them or anything, more just a curiosity with the comorbidity of such conditions
Crazy how this family instead of consoling her for almost killing yourself (I get that selfish in both ways but still )they take away what she likes doing and all of her privacy. That’s gotta be illegal right you can’t just leave the bathroom door open, but someone waits right by the door to stare at you. That’s pretty weird even when you don’t want it to happen.
"She started crying"
Don't ask questions you don't want the answers to. Oh boo hoo, the kids from the family YOU destroyed hate you because you caused an accident by crashing because you don't know what a stop sign is. That must be real hard for you.
Story 1 makes no sense- Step Mom blew a Stop sign-killed a child and is not in Court or Jail? Gotta be BS.
She mentions that her father is wealthy he probably had very good lawyers explain away a lot of the consequences. She had a fine and she's on probation. If you add this probably being the first offense it explains why she got such a light sentence. Especially saying as she was the driver in the accident with the kids if she played the whole I'm so heartbroken that I lost my daughter card. It may have worked on a sympathetic judge
Not really? Blowing a stop sign, or rather a red light, usually only gives you a fine or maybe suspends your driver license.
And as the dead ones were considered her loss, rather than inflicting it on the other party, she isn't really viable for vehicular manslaughter, as she killed "her own" rather than someone else. IE, her suffered loss is considered part of her punishment, that she has to live with the guilt of having killed her own step-daughter.
Which of course only really works for people who are decent and who loves their family, but that's not really something the legal system takes into consideration.
I feel bad for girl wirh crazy sister. Horrible she should ditch that loser luckily she didn't marry him
Man some of the read comments really shows people say they read but didn't read
I don't think I would cut off a family member for doing something while in the grip of mental illness if they had not been diagnosed or treated. I might cut them off if they refused treatment, but only for my own safety and well being. If they sought treatment and got better, I'd likely give them another chance because many mental illness don't allow the person to rationalize properly which includes evaluating right and wrong and whether to seek treatment. It doesn't help that there is such a stigma which makes it scary to admit you might need mental health treatment.
Anyway Ops choice to not cut off her sister doesn't stop what she did from severly hurting her. I really feel for her. The situation sucks all around.
Jake sucks the worst though. He betrayed OP and took advantage of her severely mentally ill sister. Op was right to show him the door. What a scumbag!
Last story: How can any of the bfs friends have been OK with that? If they switched in the bedroom, that can be considered r***, because OP didn’t consent to sleeping with this person. What a waste of carbon atoms.
Of course Stepmom wants to forget. She's the one who killed her. 💁🏼♂️
YOU SILLY GOOSE 😂😂
Story 2: I don’t know why everyone is so hostile towards the ex boyfriend, he didn’t do anything wrong, he is a victim of his narcissistic daughter as well
The problem is that this isn't new Behavior. She has ruined past relationships according to him. This is taking it 10 steps farther than she could have gone with previous relationships. She was a literal threat to his girlfriend's life. The responsible thing to do is either never bring his daughter there again. Or break up to keep her safe from his daughter if he wants to keep his visits with his daughter which is the more likely thing he should have done. What he wanted was to have his cake and eat it too which he could not do. He tried but it's not possible.
Damn 1st story her father is a pos and when she grows up hopefully she never talks to him again. Also op needs to stop being a pushover
The facial blindness story is complicated. I am not trying to say to forgive the boyfriend, but he likely does not understand the severity of the problem. The late neurologist Oliver Sachs had this condition. He explained it in the most eloquent way which made me realize how terrifying this condition actually is. Try to assign a name to a leaf of a tree. Now try to identify that leaf every time you see it. That is how difficult living with this disorder is. But most people could not wrap their heads around it.
He kept gaslighting her. He swapped places with his friend. He knew what he was doing. His earlier brake ups probably were messy because he couldn't accept his own wrongdoing.
The stepmom called the death of the twin she caused an act of God and says he works in mysterious ways, while she also has 3 miscarriages... Curious
The first story how terrible and awful of a step mom can you be to think this is ok glad she can't have a baby if she did she trouble torment that poor kid also shit father fir letting this happen and making your child try to end there own life he doesn't deserve to be a parent either can't believe that the step mom's family was supposed what she did horrible
Making her read her journal out loud going through her personal stuff WTF who does that that's some crazy religion cult shiiiiiiiet
How many excuses does this guy make. Face blindness story
La OP que tiene problemas de visión también es demasiado ingenua. Yo le hubiese curado la estupidez al novio con un puño cuando me hiciera “una prueba”. Después le “pido disculpas” porque lo confundí. Yo, pasiva-agresiva para que madure.
I hope OP went to go be with her mom. OP has a shitty dad and stepmom
Why do pronounce ’Live’ like that…?🤔
Sounds like bi polar 2
it's funny that children can choose their sexuality but not who will take care of them for the opposite reason, with the sexuality being that they have the right to choose, but when it comes to who takes custody of them, they are still too immature and cannot decide on their own. The environment in which the child grows up in is just as important as their identity, and if money is the issue, then did they think low income families are non-existent? For poor teenage mothers, why isn't the child's custody given to the father when her situation is worse than a working woman? Plus there's the child support if the mom really cannot raise the kids herself.
Low income families aren't non-existent, they are just not important as they don't have the financial means to affect the political system. Unless they are represented by a powerful lobbying group. Which goes on to explain the thing about choosing their sexuality and gender etc.
Lots of money and political power that are pushing for what they consider important.
#Lstepmom
I don't see why you would have to stay with your father. You're on a you're a teenager. You can choose where you go
You sound old enough that you should be able to choose to go live with your mom You should try to talk to a lawyer
That's only possible if she could even fight for that. Given the fact that the mom doesn't live in that country anymore. And that the father has more money to drag out the fight and make her waste her money. And the most important fact he doesn't give a flying f*** about his kids once he just wants to hurt his ex. The fact that they begged him right after the funeral and he still said no and threatened legal action if she didn't leave quote his family alone. He never loved his damn kids. His wife may be a monster but he is as well. He simply a different breed of bastard that's all
The thing is that lawyers cost money.
People seem to assume things like lawyers, therapists etc are just free services. Except they aren't. And not everyone has a lot of disposable income.