Learning to Let Go of the Past While Decluttering

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  • Опубликовано: 29 дек 2024

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  • @ShellTay32
    @ShellTay32 2 года назад +20

    I teared up just HEARING the stroller story. My "baby" is 15 and getting rid of pretty much ANYTHING he touched as a baby is so hard for me to get rid of, so I SO get it. The only thing that really helped me start with the journey of parting with lots of baby stuff is, was you mention, donating or passing it along to someone who truly needs it. Knowing that my son's unused items are making another child's life better helped me so much to let go.

  • @lenavonstein9671
    @lenavonstein9671 6 месяцев назад +4

    I am becoming a first-time-mom in 4 weeks and I am so happy I got to borrow almost every little thing from friends and family and it frees me because I know I can use these things and can give them back to their original owner afterwards so it is not cluttering up our small apartment

  • @KymberlySeabolt
    @KymberlySeabolt 3 месяца назад +1

    We sold a much larger item - a camper. Facing that our grown college age kids weren't going to be going on long family camps with us. It was so hard - until the family that bought it came to pick it up and their young children ran through it. The little girl exclaiming over how many stuffed animals she could fit in "her" bunk made it all fine. ❤

  • @LadyGreyBlack
    @LadyGreyBlack Год назад +7

    Your kitty is adorable, just had to say that!

  • @BL-rb7jm
    @BL-rb7jm 2 месяца назад

    I remember when my mother committed suicide. I was seventeen it was so devastating. And that's when I lost everything. My dad sold the house and I took all my belongings from my mother. And all the furniture and a transport truck came into our yard out in the country. And filled it up with all of Everything that we ever owned. I had a nervous breakdown and ended up being on the street for a very short period of time. Never did drugs ir anything bad, but it was a shock to witness my mother do this in front of me at a early age.And then I eventually got some help, but in a way. I think that was easier to deal with when you're younger. Than to deal with it years down the road. When you have so many things and so many item at least I let it go because I had no other choice.
    And i had the autioneers give me 2,500 for a three bedroom house full of antiques. They took advantage of a young girl who just lost her mom. But heck its just things.
    You can buy things, but you can buy time. And especially time with family. Just let Unnecessary.
    Material things go. Time is passing very fast don't have regrets.

  • @donnataylor1059
    @donnataylor1059 3 месяца назад +1

    Hi Katy - A lot of your comments are right on, I can relate as I am starting to tackle paper item clutter, the worst kind for me as I have many different categories of info saved over a number of years that had meaning. Thanks for approaching this area with graciousness!

    • @katyjoywells
      @katyjoywells  3 месяца назад

      Paper clutter accumulates so fast but it feels so good to get rid of!

  • @syasyanorulhuda9445
    @syasyanorulhuda9445 8 месяцев назад +2

    I came across your video when I'm looking for strength to declutter my university stuff. My handwritten notes, test papers, quizzes, etc are still there inside my cabinet and I've been dreading to let them go. I don't even consider them my accomplishment because I was a struggling student, acdemically. So I consider those papers as proof of my struggle, my sweat and tears just to get that degree eventhough now I'm not even working in the industry that I painfully studied for.
    Even after watching your video, I still struggle to start going through it but hopefully I could throw away atleast some of it.

    • @katyjoywells
      @katyjoywells  7 месяцев назад +2

      Sentimental clutter can be the hardest! You aren't alone!

  • @lifewithmorgellons
    @lifewithmorgellons Год назад +2

    Amazing advice! Thank you!

  • @FaithFilledHomemaker
    @FaithFilledHomemaker 2 года назад +5

    💜💜💜 I just love your channel! You have helped me so much! I just had a baby last month, but was able to get rid of 4 black garbage bags yesterday mainly from my sons room! It feels like such a huge accomplishment! He just turned 5 and had wayy to many toys. (Still probably does… lol) but now it’s actually manageable and fits in a few bins! I did take a few toys and put them in the garage and only allowed what would fit on a small three tier shelf that I will rotate every so often. It was hard to get rid of a few of the items but I don’t think I got rid of anything he will even miss. SUCH a weight off my shoulders. I still have a long ways to go with the house but one of the most stressful rooms to declutter i have, is now done!

    • @katyjoywells
      @katyjoywells  2 года назад +1

      that's amazing! I'm sure you feel so much lighter and less burdened, use that for motivation to move into those other spaces in your home! thanks for being here! xx Katy

  • @stewbugz5213
    @stewbugz5213 5 месяцев назад

    I’m a mom of four. My husband and I stored “favorites” of our children’s stuff like; clothing, toys, athletic equipment, trophies, school papers, artwork, etc.
    One day a flood hit, all the drains in our neighborhood were jammed and backed up into our basement! Mud and water up to our ankles! 90% of our basement was wiped out. We were forced to downsize and throw out most of it. At that point I realized this stuff was wasting away and just taking up space! Our kids are older now. When our oldest son moved out, he wanted nothing! lol 😝
    Great video thank you for the motivation!

  • @florenceb1537
    @florenceb1537 Год назад +3

    I lost my daughter & husband 20 & 25 years ago! 😢 I still have a box of memories from my daughter especially - I have been able to let go of things by taking pictures!

    • @katyjoywells
      @katyjoywells  Год назад +1

      I am sincerely sorry for your loss 😢💕

  • @Joseph2day
    @Joseph2day 6 месяцев назад +1

    I really like people who tackle this harder part of minimalism, I think I have gone a fairly common and practical way towards minimalism, which was to first get rid of trash, then junk, then old stuff that I knew I did not want anymore. Those first steps were not easy, but I do believe for me and for most are probably a good order of operation for getting rid of stuff, but then there is still stuff that is hard to get rid of, and for good reasons. These things do require some emotional coming to terms with a fact, and it is not always easy but I think very important for growth. I feel I have grown in the process of getting rid of stuff. I wish it was easier, but some of the best things to go after in life are not easy.
    Also, in science there is a concept that the simplest explanation that fits all of the data (facts) is often the correct one, but finding that simple solution is not always easy. I think often minimalism done right often aligns with that one premise of science. I try to find the simplest path through life that fits all of my truest goals, wants, desires, and aspirations with an emphasis on the word "truest".

  • @vivianhudacek1556
    @vivianhudacek1556 2 года назад +1

    Great video! I love acronyms too. I’m in my 70s & am super sentimental. You wouldn’t believe the stuff I’ve kept, but I’m on the decluttering journey as a gift to myself & my family, especially our daughter, so that she won’t be burdened with it when we pass on. The sentimental stuff (which for me can be almost anything) is definitely the toughest. Thanks for a lovely channel.

    • @katyjoywells
      @katyjoywells  2 года назад +1

      Thanks so much for watching! 💗

  • @gigi4874-w3w
    @gigi4874-w3w 8 месяцев назад

    💕💕💕 Fold the sweater collar inwards.

  • @haileynichelle8343
    @haileynichelle8343 Год назад +14

    A - Accept
    R - Reframe
    T - Time

  • @mella9619
    @mella9619 6 месяцев назад

    Thank you for this :’) I struggle with letting go of clothing that I think I’ll someday pass off to my future kids; you’re so right though, the recipient might not receive the gift how you *expect*, and that could be a really upsetting situation. I don’t need to harbor so much stuff with me from place to place. decluttering is an ongoing process for me, so pretty much daily I go through my closet and pull out things I’ve finally released an attachment from. I’ll definitely be able to donate some more clothing after this video. thanks again!

  • @RainVine
    @RainVine 3 месяца назад +1

    That cat looks like he's contemplating his existence. 🤣

  • @kennethbailey9853
    @kennethbailey9853 Год назад +1

    😢Thankyou. 😊

  • @JohannesJunkJournalLife
    @JohannesJunkJournalLife 2 месяца назад

    I had 7 kids so my stuff is so old no one would want it except for me!!!! Where do you go from there?! I don’t save everything but…

  • @carolinalv5708
    @carolinalv5708 5 месяцев назад

    I wanted to pass down some things to a future child. After a medical treatment, I cant even have children. I am not ready to let go because it is sort of letting go an accepting that I will never be a mother

  • @rickasbell8825
    @rickasbell8825 Год назад +1

    I am still surrounded by 46 year old crap in my apt please help me throw away old memories of these stupid friends and memories of family that is haunting me😢

    • @larajohnson8656
      @larajohnson8656 Год назад +5

      I see that no one has answered you, so I will try. Some things I say to myself are
      1) I imagine putting one of these items in a gift bag and giving it to someone. Would they be pleased or disgusted? If I can admit to myself that they would say, “eww” then it is okay to toss it.
      2) Put all the items that remind me of one person in a pile. Count them. Divide the number by 5. Can I toss that many today? Can I toss that many again in three months? Slow progress is still progress.
      3) Take the items and put them in a different bin and take them to a different room. Or just move the item to a different display location. This sounds absurd, but it dislodges the stuckness somehow. Soon you will notice a difference in the way you feel about that item.
      4) Trust the process. Say out loud, “How am I going to get rid of this stuff?” The Universe will answer you. You’ll be surprised.
      5) Imagine what you are going to do with the space that is vacated by the tossed items. If you can, set it up that way now. Move the items closer to the exit. Once again, it sounds absurd; trust the process.

  • @giocondakisses
    @giocondakisses 2 года назад +2

    Aahhh I have such a difficult time with this, I have a plastic medium box with little clothes and accessories that belonged to my little 3 pounds chi, she's been gone for 7 years but she was and will always be the little love of my life, the collar and t-shirt that she was wearing last time I have them with her ashes, but I'm not sure what to do with the rest, I know if one day I have another tiny chi I won't want to dress her on same clothes, so, should I keep the box, should I donate them? I don't know

    • @ShellTay32
      @ShellTay32 2 года назад +5

      I so get how you feel. My "spirit animal" kitty passed in 2020. And I still miss her ever day. I have a small box items that belonged to her, like her red dish, and I have it in a place that I can see but it 's out of the way. It doesn't cause me pain to have it. I did donate some of her items to an animal shelter, which felt like passing on the love. I have other cats now, but as you said, I got them their own things. Maybe ask yourself if keeping the items make you sad or if they comfort you? I am so so sorry for your loss. I know that even after 7 or 70 years we still miss them.❤

    • @katyjoywells
      @katyjoywells  2 года назад

      I totally get it! 💗

  • @R_DLF
    @R_DLF 6 месяцев назад

    ART
    A- Accept and Identify
    R- Reframe
    T- Time

  • @Tangentbordsblues
    @Tangentbordsblues 10 месяцев назад

    Nyaan

  • @rickasbell8825
    @rickasbell8825 4 месяца назад

    I need to declutter my clothes im wearing a shirt a giftvfrom David twenty four years ago i keep it because he committed suicide

  • @SirenaSpades
    @SirenaSpades Год назад

    So you did this whole video but we don't have any idea with this ART method even is?!

    • @katyjoywells
      @katyjoywells  Год назад

      Hi there! I went through the ART method in the video starting at 2:16!