Thank you for helping to heal my childless soul and for being a voice for Alice. I used to think when I aged, I would regret being childless. At 62, my childless self is at peace with decisions made in my youth to not have children. You are so wise beyond your years.
I think that sometimes the calling NOT to have children is just as strong as the calling to have children . We must listen to our inner voice and live our lives as authentically as possible. The love I feel for my son is totally different to any other relationship because he is the only person on this planet who has heard my heart from the inside it creates an intrinsic bond where I feel truly blessed to experience that. But we should never impose OUR views on others. The beauty of life is that we are all so diverse and different , lets embrace that in each other xxx
To everyone their path. There is no right or wrong. I support you in choosing to dedicate your life to animals. I wish the whole world considered their purpose and why are they here for a second instead of just following what everybody else is doing.
I used to feel like that by the idea of motherhood as younger. Now, I haven't used any protection in years and never gotten pregnant. My trauma has prevented me from getting pregnant. Being in constant fight or flight for years. Causing gut issues. Your body will always choose survival over reproduction. I've started to heal and trying to trust that if motherhood is meant for me, it will happen. I will not force it. Thanks for your videos. You are so beautiful ❤
Hi, Another thoughtful video. Thank you. Somebody asked me once what i thought the meaning of life was. They said that in their view it was to get married and have children. I said, for me, it was to be kind to others and to leave the world in a better place than when i found it. I agree with your philosophy. 🤠
How wonderful that you are so in touch with your purpose on this planet. There are so many ways to be loving and nurturing in this world, motherhood isn't the only path. ❤️
When I was a boy I knew I would never be a father. I'm turning 50 this year, I am not a father. My life is what it is, I never closed the door to marriage or fatherhood, it simply never opened. My horses are my passion, the natural world, the fields, forests, the realm of the spirit. The journey continues. May you find peace and meaning in your own journey.
I feel so alive, hearing your truth, spoken through your art. Each video a world within worlds. A meditation, a poem. Every frame…art…the space and breath you give, feels like a meditation break, not rushed. Sharing your choice with a world with such courage. Your words offered, not owed. I feel such solace and inspiration from your share. You brave soul. Thank you for sharing your love letter to life (in all forms). You are infinite gifts.
Oh, Vanille. If there is anything like people coming from the same soul line, I feel like we share it. Feels like my own soul in another body. I can relate to almost everything you post here. I understand your pain, your wildness, your beautiful heart, struggles and sorrows. I understand those things because they're also mine. Love the way you express yourself! Thank you for showing up. Keep shining, you have a lot to give.
Wow… ! That is so close to my own life journey, Vanille! I’m a couple of decades older than you, but I too just couldn’t see myself as a mother, and have instead spent my life searching for my true purpose and mission. I came to the realization that I too wish to dedicate my life to helping animals, and repairing the soul rift that has occurred between humans and animals (which means helping humans heal as well). And of course, like you, I realized that one can be a ‘mother’ to so many beings who cross our paths! I think a life of simply loving and nurturing those beings that you feel called towards is beautiful and worthwhile. Lots of love and appreciation to you, soul sister!
I 100% identify. I am 69 and I knew from a young age after raising my own siblings that I did not want to have children on my own. I too have made it my life's mission to help abandoned animals and to speak the truth about animal farming. Thank you for your beautiful video and your bravery and your kind heart you are such an inspiration
Thank you yet AGAIN for giving voice to topics that have been hidden for so long. Being aligned with one’s heart (purpose) is more important than fulfilling society’s expectations. Thank you for another beautiful video, I can’t get enough of them! ❤
I cannot wait to be a mother, but I wholly understand your decision and thats just it - its your decision, your gnosis. What a vunerable, but beautiful share. Women are all mothers, whether we choose to have children or not. Your motherely energy is still so appreciated and felt by this Earth. Bless you, Vanille! 🤍
It tells me that you have a lot of self responsibility. And that you even give it a name. Wonderful. To change the pattern of must have children to consciously choosing to have children. I think it's a beautiful, courageous transformation. And can only do the world good. I also consciously choose not to have children. And when asked why I say "it takes a village to raise a child, unfortunately I haven't found my village yet" "Not a part of my soul contract" and "I'am here to be the voice animals don't have." are my take aways. Thanks
The mother aspect is not just natal but also nurturing. It sounds like you found your purpose is to help provide the nurture the world so desperately needs. What a blessed, noble calling.
Brave video, and very beautifully done. I also made the choice not to have children and I haven't regretted it. I just don't have an interest in children, never have, never will. It's not a selfish choice, more men and women need to be able to make that choice without condemnation from others. The world needs better parents, not more children.
Most people live life black and white . You go to university, get a job, have kids etc . And if you live different to that you are judged.. I am like you Vanille, empathic, sensitive, a stargazer- I too can’t be around crowds for too long without wanting to disappear into the woods to recharge my soul in silence & serenity. But I love to live unconventionally too. I don’t want to be the same as everyone else and I never have been … always ignored , outcasted- but that’s ok I’ve learnt to accept that. I also didn’t want children and longed to live by the Cornish coast surrounded by cats. For many years many mediums told me I would have a boy, but I always thought I would be by myself I didn’t want to get married. I met my soulmate & a close friend psychic told me a boy soul is lingering desperate to come through in this lifetime. I now have my little son, my unexpected gem. I know he was meant to come through in my soul cluster this lifetime. He is my little best friend - but as an extreme sensitive in all ways having a baby is very overstimulating and I don’t have time for creativity. But I am trying to enjoy the moments I know will not last. Yes vanille you are a mother to many. It doesn’t matter about biological, my step mum is a real mum to me more than my blood mum, and you are a mother to the animals and people in need here x
It's interesting to see (when reading the comments) that so many humans are still not able to value and accept the individual experiences and life paths of another soul. Beautiful video, dear Vanille! I also see the struggle in my ancestral line of women. My great-grandmother died on uterus cancer and her daughter had an operation where they removed the uterus and I had early gynecological problems too, had an emergency operation at the age of 19 and other operations followed. I also see that we carry the wounds of our ancestors further and have the possibility to heal/solve it finally. Sending lots of love!
I'm not surprised by the comments. All souls have a different mission in life, and for those who are "young souls" they can not understand why we make certain life choices. We don't all crave for the same things. I know deep in my soul that I'm not meant to be a mother in this lifetime. Some are here to break generational trauma, or just to exist. Having a child will keep you attached to this world. And I'm already exhausted, I feel like I have another purpose, and I will not allow society to pressure me into thinking i'm "wrong".
I have a similar feeling, I did not plan to have children during this incarnation and it has not bothered me. I am beyond being able to have them and do not regret this choice. People come here for multiple reasons, and I have a different purpose.
I do know many women who never wanted to be a mother. I have always wanted to be one, and I have three children and want one more. I am almost 41. My womb craves and calls for bearing children, while yours screams out the opposite. I have known several women who said they didn't want to be mothers and when they became them, they were truly happy and changed, but that is not true for everyone. I am sorry to hear about what your great-grandmother did that she lost her own life in the process. I am glad she had a child somewhere in the mix that you came from that line. That is a beautiful thing. Life is valuable and beautiful as you are too.
As a man... old enough to be your dad... allow me to say... kids are not always what they are cracked up to be. While sparing you two decades worth of details, it doesn't always turn out well. They don't always turn into your little "best friends". With that, feel no guilt. Your decision is your choice. You are not obligated to reproduce... just because you can.
Beautiful video as usual, Vanille! I love how you said that motherhood is giving love.. there are so many being and things we can pour our love into to benefit the world. I am 30 and don't know if I'll be a mother yet. I think motherhood can be a beautiful and enriching experience that teaches one a lot and brings out a lot of the best qualities. But I don't think it's a necessary thing and that expectation in some families/societies is an unhealthy one. Much love, Kseniya
Beautiful. My dear, I send you all the best in your awesome journey. It's so beautiful that you know deep inside that you're not meant to be a mother in this lifetime. Love. Light. Power. Strength. 😊
Thank you for your beautiful sharing Vanilla. I was a nanny for over 20 years of my life so I took care of a lots of children. I change career. I'm an also a voice for animals. I have my own petsitting business where I take care of my clients sentients beings at their home. I always had a very special connection with them. Our connection is so so deep and I feel very grateful to be there for them. Bisous et Merci. Sabine
There is a philosopher that I listened to who was once a struggling musician like myself, and who said that every song that he wrote and recorded was like a child of his - in that once it born to the world it is up to him to help nurture and watch it grow and either flourish or wither away. I wonder in this respect if this channel is like your child. I am so intrigued by the way you live your life - it so completely different than my own. Plus in the way you show it is very beautiful and innocent. This channel and the way you show how you live your life feels like I am watching an innocent child in paradise. Peace to you.
Thank you for saying all that sweet sister Just because we are women, doesn't mean we are meant to have children And i believe we, i, have had thousands of children's in all our other lifetimes and bodies. So much work, time, pain and energy It's a choice now today. I had 4 for you sister. 4 beautiful star seeds that will carry all the wisdom and knowledge and hold the light for the planet. I bless your choices and your journey So beautiful So strong Loving you from Paonia
I hear you, I have the same mission, animals are to be saved as much as humanity, to me my mission is doing the animal part too. I have no children at 55 yrs old now and I do not regret it one bit. I saved a lot of animals though and I love children but they are not for me to have in this life and I always knew that too
Salut Vanille, I think people like you who care for other beings are certainly mothers in this world. I don't have children neither but beautiful pets and I brought quite some nice projects to life within the last decades. Never had any regret whatsoever to not have my 'own' children. There is always so much to care about, to create and to love. You're magical! 💫Love from Berlin
Childfree, that is how I like to perceive this choice. Free to choose, in all circumstances, about all choices. We are allowed choice, we are allowed sovereignty. Thanks for a beautiful video.
I admire the love you have for animals. You are acting exactly as a loving caregiver/parent /mother. By sharing your love and caring and nurturing. It matters not what or who you share your love with. You dont have to give birth to be a parent or mother, and those animals or humans that you care for are im guessing truly blessed by your energy. ❤️
Such a beautiful video! It made me cry, in a good way! I too have endometriosis and I know how painful it is. I wouldn't wish it on anyone. I was always afraid to have children because somewhere in my soul I felt I would die from it. Probably a past life. I had two pregnancy loses, but 3rd one's a charm and I did have a beautiful baby girl who is now 20 years old. I did have to have a C-section due to her being breech, which was a good thing, as her cord was twisted in a knot. I have always loved animals more than humans. They are our angels without wings. Society does not think of women being Mothers if they only have furry babies, but yes, we are. We are their Guardians and we can be fierce warriors to protect them. I think it's wonderful that you are on this path. Best Wishes Vanille! Hugs!
This video is perfection. I feel EXACTLY the same. So much so I was moved to tears. I am here for the animals, for the voiceless who desperately need a voice. I've always felt this way, just like you. For those of us who feel it, we know the strength, the fire, the conviction, and the LOVE. It is indeed a mother's love! ❤❤❤
@@Rise876 of course not. Not everyone SHOULD have them even if they want them also. I only worry about a precedent she may set for someone who is lost.
You are such a wise and warm woman with a deep connection and empathy with yourself and with life, so your choices come from the Source (it feels that way). Plus - great quality videos!
Same. I got raped and erased and became a captive in my own country. I dream of justice and liberty. I wish I could be free again - and myself. They even took my body and brain.
Your beautiful, vulnerable, quivering humanity always speaks to me.... Again...Thank you for sharing your precious self for those of us who appreciate, understand and crave the connections that you highlight in each installment of your journey... Bless you dear heart....
So beautifully expressed. 💚🙏Some of us are not meant to be mothers, but this doesn't mean that we don't have a deep longing for caring, for less fortunate people, for our loved ones, for our fellow creatures, the animals and plants, the ecosystems of the planet.
Great video! As im turning 30, this topic is very relevant! Still dont know if I want to be a mother or if will run out of time, still so deep in my healing journey it would not be possible for many ears
Form the pain you have overcome and wisdom you have gained from it, maybe there's a teaching you are giving birth to that could bring more love and awareness to others 🔥🌺
this is my story too, this is my journey too. i wanted to be a mother DESPARATELY but my endometriosis even though i tried with all my might to heal it naturally, had other plans. i am now almost 46 and have run out of time but you, my dear, have healed my BROKEN heart a little with this BEAUTIFUL video today, i AM a mother to 4 dogs and one INCREDIBLE cat and ALL the animals i come into contact with, i AM their mother, I AM A MOTHER, THANK YOU 🤍✨🌱🤍✨🌱🤍✨🌱
Thank you for sharing. We need more compassion in this world and less judgement. That "not able to have children" from a medical professional is a tough thing to reconcile especially when society weighs it so heavily into the value of and role you are expected to play in society based upon the vessel you are born into and disregards the value of your soul. And your soul is infinite, and far more valuable than the minerals and functions of the body physical. Blessed be.
You are such a beautiful and spiritual soul and in a sense,to me you are a mother or at least an aspect of mother nature. Bless you and your journey and may all of your endeavors be successful and fulfilling ones ❤
Yes, a woman holds the power that is capable of creating life. But that same life creating energy can be used to create many other things. It can be used to create art, music, movement, inspiration, trust, wisdom, love, on and on. The idea that a woman’s purpose is reproduction is a false perception of the true power of the womb and of womanhood. I’m so glad you shared this. As a fertility awareness instructor, I help women understand their cycle and its potential so they know fertility doesn’t have to be a burden. I’m proud of you and i support you endlessly. Keep birthing your gifts to the world, we love them.
Hi Vanille, I am a big fan of you and your channel and the only thing I can tell you after watching this video is: Never say that you will never be a mother, especially if you are 29. Animals will never replace the biggest gift of life that is being mother or father, they can only complement that gift, and they are great doing that. Beying a mother or father It's a love we cannot describe in words, maybe for that reason you have a lot of words to say int his video. I became father after 40 and was only at this age that I noticed how magic and different is this love. Nevertheless I respect your opinion and I hope you can be happy with your decisions.
"The complexity of human interactions..." Boy do those words ring true sometimes. You make interesting and thoughtful videos. I will give you an A+ for that.
Many thanks for sharing your thoughts on this topic. I knew I didn't want children from an early age and of course other people pretended they knew better than me. 'Oh you'll change your mind later' and all that. Now at the age of 62 I see not having children as the life achievement of which I am most proud. I've stopped that trail of misery dead in its tracks. Oh, and animals make better friends than people. At least most of the time.
had endo so bad that it even took some parts in my body. It strangled and killed one of my ovaries. It was everywhere but thankfully it did not reach my brain because it can. . It was during a time when nobody knew what It was or knew what was wrong and treated me as if I was making it up. I am so glad they know more now.
I fathered eight children and should of never been a father.. Now that I am older I know that... Didn't have the best parents or childhood and just went with it...
I understand what you are saying. I have also always understood--that being a Mother--Mothering--is not limited to having physically given birth. Your Mothering Spirit/Essence is alive and well in your love and concern toward the other creatures that we share our lives with. Most childless women are Mothers. Although I have 2 grown children that I love dearly....if I were a young woman today...I absolutely would not have children. This world is on a trajectory that is not good. We must do what we can to fight the darkness, yet it still grows darker and darker. I would refuse to bring new, innocent beings into this MESS. But that would be MY choice during these times. Ultimately, it's a personal choice. Each person's choice should be respected. It's unbelievable to me that people think they have the right to pass judgment on your choice. Many women who have had children, get triggered by someone who goes down a different path. They need to ask themselves why they get triggered by a woman who doesn't want to give birth. For those who want to have children--have them. If you don't---then don't. It's not our business what a woman decides for her own life. No one lives her life...only she has a right to decide for herself.
A beautiful video, it really spoke to me. ❤ Although I'm very social and I like kids, I always felt more connected to animals too. Raising a child needs so much focus and energy, I think that would consume all my time and I couldn't be there as much for other people as I'm now. I think society needs also people without kids. Their time and energy ist needed and precious. Too bad a lot of people don't understand this and just blame you for not having kids. 😢 Wish you all the best, you're doing a great job!
Thank you for sharing your journey. It resonates with me and very similarly mirrors my life and health experience. At 50, I have never had children but am also a lover of animals. I have been healing so much trauma. I agree that in this incarnation, it was not in the plan for me to have children.
Life is full of beauty and endless adventures, but without having my children, and now my grandchildren, I can’t imagine that life would’ve been as full. It’s giving me more joy than could be imagined. I would’ve felt so alone and lonely, had i had that experience and my children around now that I am growing older and my grandchildren. Will you feel alone, will you be alone when you’re older will you regret your decisions …….with it without children we could say yes or no.
Yes. Children are neither a guarantee for company in age nor for a full life. Living child-free is neither condemning us to loneliness (in fact we are more likely to have more time to grow extra familial communities) nor to emptiness. Life is overflowing and I need no children of my own or at all to fill it. I am so full myself I cannot keep up X'D It's just different ways of life with various outcomes which are also only partially in our hands as individuals. No "right or wrong" wherever we apply care.
That’s your life! Stop putting off your choices onto others! Not every woman wants to be barefoot and pregnant while their man goes off in the streets and hooks up with some skank! I don’t want them gremlins either eating me out of my house! It’s a solid NO from me! All women have these babies to try to keep their man at home and he still don’t be at home!
What a powerful and heartfelt message. Your story reflects a profound journey of self-discovery and ancestral healing. It’s incredibly moving how you’ve transformed personal pain into a calling that aligns so deeply with your values. Embracing this unconventional path-being a mother through your compassion for animals and commitment to their welfare-is a beautiful testament to the many forms love and purpose can take. Your connection to animals shines through with such authenticity. The way they accept and love without judgment resonates with the nurturing energy you've chosen to share with them. It’s inspiring to see how you’ve embraced a unique form of motherhood that fulfills you and brings healing to the world around you. You've found a path that not only honors who you are but also echoes the legacy of your past, allowing you to carry forward a new, intentional narrative. Thank you for sharing this journey; it’s a reminder that motherhood and purpose are as boundless as the love we choose to give. And always remember… every time you click the ‘like’ button… an angel gets its wings.
Hello Vanille, you know that I have always found you to be very wise and caring and your decision is to be respected I am sorry to see these spiteful and petty people leaving their childish comments I am certain that you will be well mon cher. I am happy to see you.
J’avais à peine fini de cueillir de la lavande dans mon jardin que je suis tombé sur ta vidéo où tu faisais exactement la même chose. On sait vraiment comment apprécier la beauté qui nous entoure.
It feels like life separates our type of souls to balance the world. Hug from Argentina's Patagonia. Here, El Bolsón, feels like a place where you'd belong. Maybe it's a mirror of where you are 🤔 🤗
This was so beautiful ❤ and exactly my feelings and story as well.... I think I've always known I'd never get married or have children.. The animals have always called me and found me and I wouldn't have it any other way ❤
TO ALL THE PEOPLE IN THE COMMENTS THINKING THEY KNOW BEST WATCH THE VIDEO AND LISTEN TO WHAT SHE'S SAYING YES YOU MAY HAVE AN OPINION. SO DOES SHE. SHE IS SURE. SHE'S NOT GOING TO DO ANYTHING WITH YOUR OPINION ON HER PERSONAL DECISIONS. thanks for listening to my Ted talk ❤
I love the way you expressed your thoughts and really appreciate it however I really wanna be a mother as well as connect with the nature and animals ❤
We are very very very many. We just often cannot speak up because it still results in abuse by people who cannot recognize a boundary for the life of them :'D Particularly often also it's people who are not seeing what harm they do and have done to their own children, too. It's very bad coping and avoidance of accountability and being pained when seeing modelling of said accountability.
I am the same, never wanted to bring a child in to this world. Animals are everything to me, they are innocent and suffer so much at the hands of humans. Animal farming is the hidden hell that goes on in this world that so many people just ignore and don't want to know about. But, I'm sure in a previous video you said that you were no longer vegan and started eating animals again. Have you become vegan again?
Thank you for helping to heal my childless soul and for being a voice for Alice. I used to think when I aged, I would regret being childless. At 62, my childless self is at peace with decisions made in my youth to not have children. You are so wise beyond your years.
I see you Julia. 🤍
@@VerdantVanilleIt's completely your choice whether you want kids or not but what broked my heart is you compared kids with cats 😭😭.
@@henrik908yeah, cats rule. 😅😂😅😂
I think that sometimes the calling NOT to have children is just as strong as the calling to have children . We must listen to our inner voice and live our lives as authentically as possible. The love I feel for my son is totally different to any other relationship because he is the only person on this planet who has heard my heart from the inside it creates an intrinsic bond where I feel truly blessed to experience that. But we should never impose OUR views on others. The beauty of life is that we are all so diverse and different , lets embrace that in each other xxx
To everyone their path. There is no right or wrong. I support you in choosing to dedicate your life to animals. I wish the whole world considered their purpose and why are they here for a second instead of just following what everybody else is doing.
I used to feel like that by the idea of motherhood as younger. Now, I haven't used any protection in years and never gotten pregnant. My trauma has prevented me from getting pregnant. Being in constant fight or flight for years. Causing gut issues. Your body will always choose survival over reproduction.
I've started to heal and trying to trust that if motherhood is meant for me, it will happen. I will not force it.
Thanks for your videos. You are so beautiful ❤
Only people who want to have children, should have them. This is the only way to create a better society.
Wanting to have children doesn't equal good parent.
Source: my father
@@AndreasConfirmed wanting and having the opportunity are two different things. Time to get out of the matrix.
Hi, Another thoughtful video. Thank you.
Somebody asked me once what i thought the meaning of life was.
They said that in their view it was to get married and have children.
I said, for me, it was to be kind to others and to leave the world in a better place than when i found it.
I agree with your philosophy. 🤠
How wonderful that you are so in touch with your purpose on this planet. There are so many ways to be loving and nurturing in this world, motherhood isn't the only path. ❤️
When I was a boy I knew I would never be a father. I'm turning 50 this year, I am not a father. My life is what it is, I never closed the door to marriage or fatherhood, it simply never opened. My horses are my passion, the natural world, the fields, forests, the realm of the spirit. The journey continues.
May you find peace and meaning in your own journey.
@@gentlegiants1974 it's not too late
I feel so alive, hearing your truth, spoken through your art. Each video a world within worlds. A meditation, a poem. Every frame…art…the space and breath you give, feels like a meditation break, not rushed. Sharing your choice with a world with such courage. Your words offered, not owed.
I feel such solace and inspiration from your share. You brave soul. Thank you for sharing your love letter to life (in all forms).
You are infinite gifts.
Your words just brought tears to me eyes.
Thank you for providing the echo my soul yearns to hear. 🤍
Oh, Vanille. If there is anything like people coming from the same soul line, I feel like we share it. Feels like my own soul in another body. I can relate to almost everything you post here. I understand your pain, your wildness, your beautiful heart, struggles and sorrows. I understand those things because they're also mine. Love the way you express yourself! Thank you for showing up. Keep shining, you have a lot to give.
We mirror each other, soul sister. 🤍
Wow… ! That is so close to my own life journey, Vanille! I’m a couple of decades older than you, but I too just couldn’t see myself as a mother, and have instead spent my life searching for my true purpose and mission. I came to the realization that I too wish to dedicate my life to helping animals, and repairing the soul rift that has occurred between humans and animals (which means helping humans heal as well). And of course, like you, I realized that one can be a ‘mother’ to so many beings who cross our paths! I think a life of simply loving and nurturing those beings that you feel called towards is beautiful and worthwhile. Lots of love and appreciation to you, soul sister!
Animals. You’re replacing one for the other but the drive is still there. Admit it’s because of personal flaws and issues.
I 100% identify. I am 69 and I knew from a young age after raising my own siblings that I did not want to have children on my own. I too have made it my life's mission to help abandoned animals and to speak the truth about animal farming. Thank you for your beautiful video and your bravery and your kind heart you are such an inspiration
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Thank you beautiful Susie ♥️
Thank you yet AGAIN for giving voice to topics that have been hidden for so long. Being aligned with one’s heart (purpose) is more important than fulfilling society’s expectations. Thank you for another beautiful video, I can’t get enough of them! ❤
Anchoress, your support is my sacred water.
I cannot wait to be a mother, but I wholly understand your decision and thats just it - its your decision, your gnosis. What a vunerable, but beautiful share. Women are all mothers, whether we choose to have children or not. Your motherely energy is still so appreciated and felt by this Earth. Bless you, Vanille! 🤍
Wisdom, Phoebe. 🤍
@@phoebejaneb a possible mother is not a mother. Me thinking of wanting a million dollars will not a millionaire make.
Agreed, love for nature is motherhood.
It tells me that you have a lot of self responsibility. And that you even give it a name. Wonderful. To change the pattern of must have children to consciously choosing to have children. I think it's a beautiful, courageous transformation. And can only do the world good. I also consciously choose not to have children. And when asked why I say "it takes a village to raise a child, unfortunately I haven't found my village yet" "Not a part of my soul contract" and "I'am here to be the voice animals don't have." are my take aways. Thanks
The mother aspect is not just natal but also nurturing. It sounds like you found your purpose is to help provide the nurture the world so desperately needs. What a blessed, noble calling.
I smile, wise awl.
Thank you for your eternal support Robert, it means SO MUCH to me.
You shine.
Brave video, and very beautifully done. I also made the choice not to have children and I haven't regretted it. I just don't have an interest in children, never have, never will. It's not a selfish choice, more men and women need to be able to make that choice without condemnation from others. The world needs better parents, not more children.
That’s an awesome choice you made, there’s nothing wrong with that decision. I applaud you for not allowing society dictate what you can and can’t do.
Most people live life black and white . You go to university, get a job, have kids etc . And if you live different to that you are judged.. I am like you Vanille, empathic, sensitive, a stargazer- I too can’t be around crowds for too long without wanting to disappear into the woods to recharge my soul in silence & serenity.
But I love to live unconventionally too. I don’t want to be the same as everyone else and I never have been … always ignored , outcasted- but that’s ok I’ve learnt to accept that. I also didn’t want children and longed to live by the Cornish coast surrounded by cats. For many years many mediums told me I would have a boy, but I always thought I would be by myself I didn’t want to get married. I met my soulmate & a close friend psychic told me a boy soul is lingering desperate to come through in this lifetime. I now have my little son, my unexpected gem. I know he was meant to come through in my soul cluster this lifetime. He is my little best friend - but as an extreme sensitive in all ways having a baby is very overstimulating and I don’t have time for creativity. But I am trying to enjoy the moments I know will not last. Yes vanille you are a mother to many. It doesn’t matter about biological, my step mum is a real mum to me more than my blood mum, and you are a mother to the animals and people in need here x
It's interesting to see (when reading the comments) that so many humans are still not able to value and accept the individual experiences and life paths of another soul. Beautiful video, dear Vanille! I also see the struggle in my ancestral line of women. My great-grandmother died on uterus cancer and her daughter had an operation where they removed the uterus and I had early gynecological problems too, had an emergency operation at the age of 19 and other operations followed. I also see that we carry the wounds of our ancestors further and have the possibility to heal/solve it finally. Sending lots of love!
Your light matters. 🤍
I'm not surprised by the comments. All souls have a different mission in life, and for those who are "young souls" they can not understand why we make certain life choices. We don't all crave for the same things. I know deep in my soul that I'm not meant to be a mother in this lifetime. Some are here to break generational trauma, or just to exist. Having a child will keep you attached to this world. And I'm already exhausted, I feel like I have another purpose, and I will not allow society to pressure me into thinking i'm "wrong".
Just keep any mind that when you get older nobody will care about you
Your wrong...
My first girlfriend got married for the first time at 40 and had her son at 44. The three of them are a happy and healthy family.
I have a similar feeling, I did not plan to have children during this incarnation and it has not bothered me. I am beyond being able to have them and do not regret this choice. People come here for multiple reasons, and I have a different purpose.
I do know many women who never wanted to be a mother. I have always wanted to be one, and I have three children and want one more. I am almost 41. My womb craves and calls for bearing children, while yours screams out the opposite. I have known several women who said they didn't want to be mothers and when they became them, they were truly happy and changed, but that is not true for everyone. I am sorry to hear about what your great-grandmother did that she lost her own life in the process. I am glad she had a child somewhere in the mix that you came from that line. That is a beautiful thing. Life is valuable and beautiful as you are too.
Thank you special soul ♥️
Another masterpiece! Thank you ❤
Thank you love 🤍
As a man... old enough to be your dad... allow me to say... kids are not always what they are cracked up to be. While sparing you two decades worth of details, it doesn't always turn out well. They don't always turn into your little "best friends". With that, feel no guilt. Your decision is your choice. You are not obligated to reproduce... just because you can.
your kids are very happy they're alive though. It's not all about us
Beautiful video as usual, Vanille! I love how you said that motherhood is giving love.. there are so many being and things we can pour our love into to benefit the world. I am 30 and don't know if I'll be a mother yet. I think motherhood can be a beautiful and enriching experience that teaches one a lot and brings out a lot of the best qualities. But I don't think it's a necessary thing and that expectation in some families/societies is an unhealthy one. Much love, Kseniya
Always a pleasure Kseniya 🤍
An individual's body is theirs. Nobody else's. Please don't let anyone put any guilt on you for simply being you.
Thank you. 🤍
I feel you deeply! I am like you. In my 50s now. Still the same person! Animals are my family and the love of my life!❤❤❤❤
Thank you for this video. I feel it the same, but never was able to put in words. ❤
Beautiful. My dear, I send you all the best in your awesome journey.
It's so beautiful that you know deep inside that you're not meant to be a mother in this lifetime.
Love. Light. Power. Strength. 😊
Thank you for your beautiful sharing Vanilla. I was a nanny for over 20 years of my life so I took care of a lots of children. I change career. I'm an also a voice for animals. I have my own petsitting business where I take care of my clients sentients beings at their home. I always had a very special connection with them. Our connection is so so deep and I feel very grateful to be there for them. Bisous et Merci. Sabine
There is a philosopher that I listened to who was once a struggling musician like myself, and who said that every song that he wrote and recorded was like a child of his - in that once it born to the world it is up to him to help nurture and watch it grow and either flourish or wither away. I wonder in this respect if this channel is like your child. I am so intrigued by the way you live your life - it so completely different than my own. Plus in the way you show it is very beautiful and innocent. This channel and the way you show how you live your life feels like I am watching an innocent child in paradise. Peace to you.
Although I have always wanted to be a mother and grandmother, I am happy for you realizing and embracing your own path.
Thank you for saying all that sweet sister
Just because we are women, doesn't mean we are meant to have children
And i believe we, i, have had thousands of children's in all our other lifetimes and bodies. So much work, time, pain and energy
It's a choice now today.
I had 4 for you sister.
4 beautiful star seeds that will carry all the wisdom and knowledge and hold the light for the planet.
I bless your choices and your journey
So beautiful
So strong
Loving you from Paonia
You shine.
I hear you, I have the same mission, animals are to be saved as much as humanity, to me my mission is doing the animal part too. I have no children at 55 yrs old now and I do not regret it one bit. I saved a lot of animals though and I love children but they are not for me to have in this life and I always knew that too
Salut Vanille, I think people like you who care for other beings are certainly mothers in this world. I don't have children neither but beautiful pets and I brought quite some nice projects to life within the last decades. Never had any regret whatsoever to not have my 'own' children. There is always so much to care about, to create and to love. You're magical! 💫Love from Berlin
I so agree with you beautiful ♥️
Childfree, that is how I like to perceive this choice. Free to choose, in all circumstances, about all choices. We are allowed choice, we are allowed sovereignty. Thanks for a beautiful video.
Thank you for loving the animals and nature. ❤
Much needed one , at times we go through things not as a curse its blessing in disguise.
I admire the love you have for animals. You are acting exactly as a loving caregiver/parent /mother. By sharing your love and caring and nurturing. It matters not what or who you share your love with. You dont have to give birth to be a parent or mother, and those animals or humans that you care for are im guessing truly blessed by your energy. ❤️
Such a beautiful video! It made me cry, in a good way! I too have endometriosis and I know how painful it is. I wouldn't wish it on anyone. I was always afraid to have children because somewhere in my soul I felt I would die from it. Probably a past life. I had two pregnancy loses, but 3rd one's a charm and I did have a beautiful baby girl who is now 20 years old. I did have to have a C-section due to her being breech, which was a good thing, as her cord was twisted in a knot. I have always loved animals more than humans. They are our angels without wings. Society does not think of women being Mothers if they only have furry babies, but yes, we are. We are their Guardians and we can be fierce warriors to protect them. I think it's wonderful that you are on this path. Best Wishes Vanille! Hugs!
I'm so happy to hear you're going to help our animals. This is greatly needed. Thank you for this and for your beautiful video.
but you are a mother....a mother to the rebirthing of a new consciousness on this earth SWEETHEART. thank you💗
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WE are 🤍
This video is perfection. I feel EXACTLY the same. So much so I was moved to tears. I am here for the animals, for the voiceless who desperately need a voice. I've always felt this way, just like you. For those of us who feel it, we know the strength, the fire, the conviction, and the LOVE. It is indeed a mother's love! ❤❤❤
Pets are close to children but will never be a replacement.
@ronmaest Theyre not meant to be a 'replacement'. Not everyone needs or wants to have children.
Wow, thank you!!! ♥️
@@Rise876 of course not. Not everyone SHOULD have them even if they want them also. I only worry about a precedent she may set for someone who is lost.
You are such a wise and warm woman with a deep connection and empathy with yourself and with life, so your choices come from the Source (it feels that way). Plus - great quality videos!
Thank you SO MUCH 🤍
Same. I got raped and erased and became a captive in my own country. I dream of justice and liberty. I wish I could be free again - and myself. They even took my body and brain.
I'm incredibly sorry that you suffer. It's not OK!
Your beautiful, vulnerable, quivering humanity always speaks to me.... Again...Thank you for sharing your precious self for those of us who appreciate, understand and crave the connections that you highlight in each installment of your journey... Bless you dear heart....
Why are so many people triggered by a person's decision not to have children?? The comments on this video are wild.
I am of the belief that just because people can have children it doesn't mean that they should
You can "thank" sexism for this mess.
So beautifully expressed. 💚🙏Some of us are not meant to be mothers, but this doesn't mean that we don't have a deep longing for caring, for less fortunate people, for our loved ones, for our fellow creatures, the animals and plants, the ecosystems of the planet.
YES 🤍
I love you as a friend, and an equal.
Great video! As im turning 30, this topic is very relevant! Still dont know if I want to be a mother or if will run out of time, still so deep in my healing journey it would not be possible for many ears
No, you don't. The world will be Hell soon, even if you want that from obscure reasons, remember nobody would want to be born now...
Form the pain you have overcome and wisdom you have gained from it, maybe there's a teaching you are giving birth to that could bring more love and awareness to others 🔥🌺
@@johnskillicorn spot on ♥️
You are a teacher for the world
You know what is best for you. I like what you say about Dharma. Your vision of your mission on earth is beautiful.
this is my story too, this is my journey too. i wanted to be a mother DESPARATELY but my endometriosis even though i tried with all my might to heal it naturally, had other plans. i am now almost 46 and have run out of time but you, my dear, have healed my BROKEN heart a little with this BEAUTIFUL video today, i AM a mother to 4 dogs and one INCREDIBLE cat and ALL the animals i come into contact with, i AM their mother, I AM A MOTHER, THANK YOU 🤍✨🌱🤍✨🌱🤍✨🌱
Thank you for sharing. We need more compassion in this world and less judgement. That "not able to have children" from a medical professional is a tough thing to reconcile especially when society weighs it so heavily into the value of and role you are expected to play in society based upon the vessel you are born into and disregards the value of your soul. And your soul is infinite, and far more valuable than the minerals and functions of the body physical. Blessed be.
You are such a beautiful and spiritual soul and in a sense,to me you are a mother or at least an aspect of mother nature. Bless you and your journey and may all of your endeavors be successful and fulfilling ones ❤
Yes, a woman holds the power that is capable of creating life. But that same life creating energy can be used to create many other things. It can be used to create art, music, movement, inspiration, trust, wisdom, love, on and on. The idea that a woman’s purpose is reproduction is a false perception of the true power of the womb and of womanhood. I’m so glad you shared this. As a fertility awareness instructor, I help women understand their cycle and its potential so they know fertility doesn’t have to be a burden. I’m proud of you and i support you endlessly. Keep birthing your gifts to the world, we love them.
Wow. Thank you so much for your kind words and for what you do 🤍
IM A MALE I AINT HEAR TO HAVE KIDS EITHER...KEEP SHINING EARTH ANGEL ..💚👽🤡😇
You are such a strong human. Open up your soul and talk about these things is only for the brave.
Thank you for seeing me. 🤍
Takes a brave soul to see another 🔥
Thank you - Thank you for beeing there for the animals who come your way ...❤ - Im truly grateful you choose this path in this life - 🎉🙏❤️
Thank you, Vanille
I truly loved this video!!! 💜🕯🫂
Hi Vanille, I am a big fan of you and your channel and the only thing I can tell you after watching this video is: Never say that you will never be a mother, especially if you are 29. Animals will never replace the biggest gift of life that is being mother or father, they can only complement that gift, and they are great doing that. Beying a mother or father It's a love we cannot describe in words, maybe for that reason you have a lot of words to say int his video. I became father after 40 and was only at this age that I noticed how magic and different is this love. Nevertheless I respect your opinion and I hope you can be happy with your decisions.
Thanks. Mad respect and love Miss Vanille for sharing your truths. You're amazing. 💜🤗💯🤗💯
Ohhh Ray!!! Thank you bringing such sunshine in my heart ☀️🤍
I deeply appreciate your generosity and kindness.
You are just so amazing… And HAPPY belated BIRTHDAY btw!!! 🖤
Wonderful video, and a noble purposed journey, thank you!
"The complexity of human interactions..."
Boy do those words ring true sometimes.
You make interesting and thoughtful videos. I will give you an A+ for that.
My FIRST A+!!!!!! Thank you!!!!
Thank you for sharing. Have a wonderful day. Everyone stay, safe, happy and healthy.
A lot of women don’t want to be mothers. Not a big deal where I live. I can name 4 people I know that never chose that route.
Animals give only one thing, and ask for only one thing in return. LOVE!!!
Many thanks for sharing your thoughts on this topic. I knew I didn't want children from an early age and of course other people pretended they knew better than me. 'Oh you'll change your mind later' and all that. Now at the age of 62 I see not having children as the life achievement of which I am most proud. I've stopped that trail of misery dead in its tracks.
Oh, and animals make better friends than people. At least most of the time.
had endo so bad that it even took some parts in my body. It strangled and killed one of my ovaries. It was everywhere but thankfully it did not reach my brain because it can. . It was during a time when nobody knew what It was or knew what was wrong and treated me as if I was making it up. I am so glad they know more now.
I love you! Thanks for this video
JUST BEAUTIFUL...makes me cry...of joy...❤❤❤...THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH for having chosen this soul contract...❤❤❤
I have always known too... that this is not in Soul's chosen path... Thank you for sharing sweet, gentle being
I fathered eight children and should of never been a father.. Now that I am older I know that... Didn't have the best parents or childhood and just went with it...
I understand what you are saying. I have also always understood--that being a Mother--Mothering--is not limited to having physically given birth. Your Mothering Spirit/Essence is alive and well in your love and concern toward the other creatures that we share our lives with. Most childless women are Mothers. Although I have 2 grown children that I love dearly....if I were a young woman today...I absolutely would not have children. This world is on a trajectory that is not good. We must do what we can to fight the darkness, yet it still grows darker and darker.
I would refuse to bring new, innocent beings into this MESS. But that would be MY choice during these times. Ultimately, it's a personal choice. Each person's choice should be respected. It's unbelievable to me that people think they have the right to pass judgment on your choice. Many women who have had children, get triggered by someone who goes down a different path. They need to ask themselves why they get triggered by a woman who doesn't want to give birth. For those who want to have children--have them. If you don't---then don't. It's not our business what a woman decides for her own life. No one lives her life...only she has a right to decide for herself.
Thanks so very much. I really needed this. 💚
A beautiful video, it really spoke to me. ❤ Although I'm very social and I like kids, I always felt more connected to animals too. Raising a child needs so much focus and energy, I think that would consume all my time and I couldn't be there as much for other people as I'm now. I think society needs also people without kids. Their time and energy ist needed and precious. Too bad a lot of people don't understand this and just blame you for not having kids. 😢 Wish you all the best, you're doing a great job!
Thank you, kindred soul 🤍
When your 55+ and lonely, let's see if you would feel the same.
Thank you for sharing your journey. It resonates with me and very similarly mirrors my life and health experience. At 50, I have never had children but am also a lover of animals. I have been healing so much trauma. I agree that in this incarnation, it was not in the plan for me to have children.
What an absolute inspiration. This is the goal
Life is full of beauty and endless adventures, but without having my children, and now my grandchildren, I can’t imagine that life would’ve been as full. It’s giving me more joy than could be imagined.
I would’ve felt so alone and lonely, had i had that experience and my children around now that I am growing older and my grandchildren.
Will you feel alone, will you be alone when you’re older will you regret your decisions …….with it without children we could say yes or no.
Yes. Children are neither a guarantee for company in age nor for a full life. Living child-free is neither condemning us to loneliness (in fact we are more likely to have more time to grow extra familial communities) nor to emptiness. Life is overflowing and I need no children of my own or at all to fill it. I am so full myself I cannot keep up X'D
It's just different ways of life with various outcomes which are also only partially in our hands as individuals.
No "right or wrong" wherever we apply care.
it would have been much better for everybody.
That’s your life! Stop putting off your choices onto others! Not every woman wants to be barefoot and pregnant while their man goes off in the streets and hooks up with some skank! I don’t want them gremlins either eating me out of my house! It’s a solid NO from me! All women have these babies to try to keep their man at home and he still don’t be at home!
What a powerful and heartfelt message. Your story reflects a profound journey of self-discovery and ancestral healing. It’s incredibly moving how you’ve transformed personal pain into a calling that aligns so deeply with your values. Embracing this unconventional path-being a mother through your compassion for animals and commitment to their welfare-is a beautiful testament to the many forms love and purpose can take.
Your connection to animals shines through with such authenticity. The way they accept and love without judgment resonates with the nurturing energy you've chosen to share with them. It’s inspiring to see how you’ve embraced a unique form of motherhood that fulfills you and brings healing to the world around you. You've found a path that not only honors who you are but also echoes the legacy of your past, allowing you to carry forward a new, intentional narrative.
Thank you for sharing this journey; it’s a reminder that motherhood and purpose are as boundless as the love we choose to give. And always remember… every time you click the ‘like’ button… an angel gets its wings.
@@WatercolorWisdom thank you from the bottom of my heart, special soul.
Hello Vanille, you know that I have always found you to be very wise and caring and your decision is to be respected I am sorry to see these spiteful and petty people leaving their childish comments I am certain that you will be well mon cher. I am happy to see you.
Thank you dear Martin 🤍
@@VerdantVanille You are most welcome.
What an incredible realization
I always forget you are 29. You are wise. ❤
J’avais à peine fini de cueillir de la lavande dans mon jardin que je suis tombé sur ta vidéo où tu faisais exactement la même chose. On sait vraiment comment apprécier la beauté qui nous entoure.
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I ❤ your soul ✨️
It feels like life separates our type of souls to balance the world. Hug from Argentina's Patagonia. Here, El Bolsón, feels like a place where you'd belong. Maybe it's a mirror of where you are 🤔 🤗
Beautifully said! The world needs more people like you.
Thank you Julian ♥️
This was so beautiful ❤ and exactly my feelings and story as well.... I think I've always known I'd never get married or have children.. The animals have always called me and found me and I wouldn't have it any other way ❤
TO ALL THE PEOPLE IN THE COMMENTS THINKING THEY KNOW BEST
WATCH THE VIDEO AND LISTEN TO WHAT SHE'S SAYING
YES YOU MAY HAVE AN OPINION. SO DOES SHE. SHE IS SURE. SHE'S NOT GOING TO DO ANYTHING WITH YOUR OPINION ON HER PERSONAL DECISIONS.
thanks for listening to my Ted talk ❤
Ahhh, thank you. 🤍
I love the way you expressed your thoughts and really appreciate it however I really wanna be a mother as well as connect with the nature and animals ❤
Absolutely beautiful 🌅🙏🏽
Oh gosh! I've just found another non-mom woman ❤
I am so kind to children but I don't want to have my own. 😊
We are very very very many. We just often cannot speak up because it still results in abuse by people who cannot recognize a boundary for the life of them :'D Particularly often also it's people who are not seeing what harm they do and have done to their own children, too. It's very bad coping and avoidance of accountability and being pained when seeing modelling of said accountability.
No being a mother was never my path either….it’s more a spiritual path.
Beautiful 😍❤️ not all women who give birth have the love of a mother
I am the same, never wanted to bring a child in to this world. Animals are everything to me, they are innocent and suffer so much at the hands of humans. Animal farming is the hidden hell that goes on in this world that so many people just ignore and don't want to know about. But, I'm sure in a previous video you said that you were no longer vegan and started eating animals again. Have you become vegan again?