Now I'm understanding you more..you have a eclectic knowledge base that you integrate in this explanation. I totally know all the terms and understand your description. Very cool..I've been studying attachment styles, Cluster B personality traits and disorders fro a few yrs now..Based on DSM V here in USA..I'm not mainstream about personalities or attachment styles..as you talk about this. I invoke my knowledge and experience and shrink it to a micro level..kind if like you do..now I must watch your other vlogs. You are well versed in this..
Hello, I'm fairly new to the tests of infj..it describes me in its core traits. I have a psychiatric social work back ground and education. I actually had a class re: enneagtam. So a journey into myself and upbringing and how it's effected my attachment styles, which are different..just for me to have the ability to zoom up and look down on how I have behaved, what I've said and who I've been attracted to..is my insight goal..I have patterns...etc..I think for makes it's directly related to how a female adult caregiver sort of taught us, as children to get what we needed as children..our need to bind, love, affection, human touch, safety needs, intamscy..which most came from what we thought we had to do to recurve these from adults..and this behavior is shaped by norms, values as we get older..if had mostly good healthy relationships..tho I've never married,..blah .I'm rambling..yes..I'm honest .I don't feel talking like this is very vulnerable..because I've worked on my self..emotionally etc..I'll just listen to you..ty very much..
Yeah that's the thing; there are many (contradicting) theories within MBTI. My knowledge is based on CS Joseph (who uses many different sources himself), John Bebe and Carl Jung.
Totally agree with Fifty Shades of Grey. That's how it was between me (Prolly ENTP) and INFJ , who looked, talked and behaved like you. Weirdly kinky. Hahah
Great video! I agree with a lot of it! Especially in terms of everything that is sexual in this relationship especially when she lets go of that performance anxiety! 🙌 Also I definitely understand what you mean when you say the “listen to me dynamic”. It is true that I definitely need to work on being more of a listener in conversations and take other peoples advice if it seems like something that will work out in that moment of time. A lot of our fights begin because I say some thing that she feels I am attacking or saying something incorrectly and she becomes emotional. Causing me to get angry because I tried to keep it as a debate until she brings in how she feeels about something lol lol. I try to keep emotions out of my debates because I can’t really always trust my feelers, they lie sometimes! Like for example o think that every person I meet that they are going to be a good person, I automatically give the benefit of the doubt about people and just let them show me who they are over time so that way I know in what way best I need to wear my mask around individuals. I tolerate people and be who they think I am just to navigate my way through life. I don’t really have time to debate or get into emotional traps with random people or people I deal with in the politics of my career. Every day I have to be careful because I’ve been knocked off the ladder many times before and have found my way back up again, I know what needs to be done. I know my goals, I just have to adapt to people to get my way in life. I appreciate you getting personal, don’t be afraid to! It creates a bond, sharing stories of your life will build an audience. Makes people feel like they are behind the scenes with you. People are going to either resonate with it or not, if they don’t that’s okay they may not see things the way you do but some people out there will, I know many things you said about this relationship I 100% agree! Thank you 😊
I quote you; ''A lot of our fights begin because I say some thing that she feels I am attacking or saying something incorrectly and she becomes emotional. Causing me to get angry because I tried to keep it as a debate until she brings in how she feeels about something lol lol.'' I think the key here, with her bringing in her feelings, is that she should keep it very primairy. When it comes to expressing feelings, most people are lacking skills I'm afraid. What we call feelings, aren't really feelings. Often they are conclusions, assumptions and blame giving. ''You are mean!'' is not an expression of a feeling, it's a blaming label that won't help anybody. An alternative that could express the feeling behind is ''When you say xyz, it hurts me and makes me sad.'' I dare say the ENTP will react to that directly. Fe child can't stand making people sad. I have a little video for you, where Gabor Mate illustrates my point (who I suspect is a well integrated ENTP). Tim Ferris seems to be an INFJ as well. He does take it quite a bit further, but the first few minutes; ruclips.net/video/__JLFw2FtEQ/видео.html
I 100% agree with what you said about being personal. In this case I didn't think my boyfriend would have appreciated it lol. He told me he watched the whole video to find out what I was saying about us in the bedroom 😂 (he usually doesn't really watch)
50 shades of grey.... 🤣🤣🤣🤣 The characters in the movie do seem like an INFJ and an ENTP now looking back on it! You just threw the INFJS are angels stereotype RIGHT OUT THE WINDOW! It's always the quiet girls...... 🤣🤣🤣🤣
However that INFJ always having that initiating or giving role is absolutely nonsensical.. INFJ is always on the bottom and entp on the top.. INFJ forgets all performance anxiety when she gets in bed ofcourse as a submissive.. I think it is the same with INFJ men, lol.. but what I observe is that entp will always initiate and lead unless they have some trauma or something.
@@janapreful it's a specific BDSM term, but used also by people that don't really practice that. It means to switch between dominant and submissive roles
Thanks for your courage in sharing your personal feelings!
wow, you are not an entp but you describe us very well 👍🏻
Now I'm understanding you more..you have a eclectic knowledge base that you integrate in this explanation. I totally know all the terms and understand your description. Very cool..I've been studying attachment styles, Cluster B personality traits and disorders fro a few yrs now..Based on DSM V here in USA..I'm not mainstream about personalities or attachment styles..as you talk about this. I invoke my knowledge and experience and shrink it to a micro level..kind if like you do..now I must watch your other vlogs. You are well versed in this..
Hello, I'm fairly new to the tests of infj..it describes me in its core traits. I have a psychiatric social work back ground and education. I actually had a class re: enneagtam. So a journey into myself and upbringing and how it's effected my attachment styles, which are different..just for me to have the ability to zoom up and look down on how I have behaved, what I've said and who I've been attracted to..is my insight goal..I have patterns...etc..I think for makes it's directly related to how a female adult caregiver sort of taught us, as children to get what we needed as children..our need to bind, love, affection, human touch, safety needs, intamscy..which most came from what we thought we had to do to recurve these from adults..and this behavior is shaped by norms, values as we get older..if had mostly good healthy relationships..tho I've never married,..blah .I'm rambling..yes..I'm honest .I don't feel talking like this is very vulnerable..because I've worked on my self..emotionally etc..I'll just listen to you..ty very much..
Pedagogue relationship. Interesting. First I’ve heard of this. Two years into MBTI.
Yeah that's the thing; there are many (contradicting) theories within MBTI. My knowledge is based on CS Joseph (who uses many different sources himself), John Bebe and Carl Jung.
I def agree with what you are saying about sex, intamscy..and or for play type gentle touching .etc..
Totally agree with Fifty Shades of Grey. That's how it was between me (Prolly ENTP) and INFJ , who looked, talked and behaved like you. Weirdly kinky. Hahah
Great video! I agree with a lot of it! Especially in terms of everything that is sexual in this relationship especially when she lets go of that performance anxiety! 🙌 Also I definitely understand what you mean when you say the “listen to me dynamic”. It is true that I definitely need to work on being more of a listener in conversations and take other peoples advice if it seems like something that will work out in that moment of time. A lot of our fights begin because I say some thing that she feels I am attacking or saying something incorrectly and she becomes emotional. Causing me to get angry because I tried to keep it as a debate until she brings in how she feeels about something lol lol. I try to keep emotions out of my debates because I can’t really always trust my feelers, they lie sometimes! Like for example o think that every person I meet that they are going to be a good person, I automatically give the benefit of the doubt about people and just let them show me who they are over time so that way I know in what way best I need to wear my mask around individuals. I tolerate people and be who they think I am just to navigate my way through life. I don’t really have time to debate or get into emotional traps with random people or people I deal with in the politics of my career. Every day I have to be careful because I’ve been knocked off the ladder many times before and have found my way back up again, I know what needs to be done. I know my goals, I just have to adapt to people to get my way in life. I appreciate you getting personal, don’t be afraid to! It creates a bond, sharing stories of your life will build an audience. Makes people feel like they are behind the scenes with you. People are going to either resonate with it or not, if they don’t that’s okay they may not see things the way you do but some people out there will, I know many things you said about this relationship I 100% agree! Thank you 😊
I quote you; ''A lot of our fights begin because I say some thing that she feels I am attacking or saying something incorrectly and she becomes emotional. Causing me to get angry because I tried to keep it as a debate until she brings in how she feeels about something lol lol.''
I think the key here, with her bringing in her feelings, is that she should keep it very primairy. When it comes to expressing feelings, most people are lacking skills I'm afraid. What we call feelings, aren't really feelings. Often they are conclusions, assumptions and blame giving. ''You are mean!'' is not an expression of a feeling, it's a blaming label that won't help anybody. An alternative that could express the feeling behind is ''When you say xyz, it hurts me and makes me sad.''
I dare say the ENTP will react to that directly. Fe child can't stand making people sad.
I have a little video for you, where Gabor Mate illustrates my point (who I suspect is a well integrated ENTP). Tim Ferris seems to be an INFJ as well. He does take it quite a bit further, but the first few minutes; ruclips.net/video/__JLFw2FtEQ/видео.html
I 100% agree with what you said about being personal. In this case I didn't think my boyfriend would have appreciated it lol.
He told me he watched the whole video to find out what I was saying about us in the bedroom 😂 (he usually doesn't really watch)
Great video would love to see more👍❤
50 shades of grey.... 🤣🤣🤣🤣
The characters in the movie do seem like an INFJ and an ENTP now looking back on it!
You just threw the INFJS are angels stereotype RIGHT OUT THE WINDOW!
It's always the quiet girls...... 🤣🤣🤣🤣
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However that INFJ always having that initiating or giving role is absolutely nonsensical.. INFJ is always on the bottom and entp on the top.. INFJ forgets all performance anxiety when she gets in bed ofcourse as a submissive.. I think it is the same with INFJ men, lol.. but what I observe is that entp will always initiate and lead unless they have some trauma or something.
I disagree. Sorry for the late reply
ENTP's and INFJ's are switches
@@annethepaladin3235 Hi anette, what do you mean by switches? Genuinely curious (sorry for my english).
@@janapreful it's a specific BDSM term, but used also by people that don't really practice that. It means to switch between dominant and submissive roles
ENTPs are like cats. ٩(๛ ˘ ³˘)۶♥
I would agree with that