I feel like your videos are addressed to younger people who are questioning what to do, but there are millions of men my age who also feel stuck, hate our jobs and want something else.. I'm starting to ask myself, what am I even working my job for? To come home to an empty apartment everyday? I feel like life passed me by and a bit of a loser..
Me and two friend have decided to make a chat with each other for one thing and one thing alone. "Accountability". We all want to "level up" and have big plans for our new years resolutions. We have made a pact that we will improve ourself as much as possible in 2024. We are going to hold each other accountable to make sure we achieve our goals.
That's why I plan to move tf out if I have my apprenticeship done and start doing things that I actually like and meet as much people as I can to find my group
Yeah, well I did that too buddy. I got a welding ticket in my early 30s, and now I'm 40 and just as stuck. Why am I slugging my body everyday so hard to come home exhausted to an empty, quiet apartment, where I can't get out because I'm so wiped and weekends are my only time to recover and relax.. Don't get into this trap either.. It sucks and I hate it. Yeah, it pays well, but for what? To be alone and then work?@@Cataclysm999
1. "A MAN'S LIFE IS A WAR BETWEEN WHO HE IS, AND WHO HE WANTS TO BE” 2. "WHEN A MAN LACKS PURPOSE IN HIS LIFE, HE DISTRACTS HIMSELF WITH PLEASURE” 3. “WE MUST ALL SUFFER FROM ONE OF TWO PAINS: THE PAIN OF DISCIPLINE OR THE PAIN OF REGRET", CHOOSE WISELY 4. "CIRCUMSTANCES DON'T MAKE THE MAN, THEY ONLY REVEAL HIM TO HIMSELF AND OTHERS" 5. "WE CANNOT CHOOSE OUR EXTERNAL CIRCUMSTANCES, BUT WE CAN ALWAYS CHOOSE HOW WE RESPOND TO THEM" 6. "THE WORTH OF A MAN IS MEASURED BY THE WORTH OF WHAT HE VALUES" 7. “IF YOU DO NOT CONQUER SELF, YOU WILL BE CONQUERED BY SELF”
Point #4 is true. I'm 29 and had my girlfriend for 3 years now. I noticed I was getting comfortable and lazy. Got some bad old habits again, and was letting her control my direction too much. I saw signs that she wasn't into me as much as she used to be, so luckily I managed to quickly get back in the gym, eating healthy again, no alcohol/drugs, and started studying after work for the next stage of my career. Now she's not happy that I'm always busy, but certainly more into me. 😂 Cannot sacrifice our own development for a relationship, because your girl can always leave you for somebody who developed while you sacrificed your own development trying to keep your girlfriend happy.
I'm 27, started this year with a great consistent self improvement process. I enrolled myself with a girl around February, she adored me. She wanted to wake up at 7am like me and have these healthy habits. And she kept me late on my schedule. I started to have less time for myself, had dinner later and slept later. I ended up in bad habits again as I was struggling to keep all together. I started to wake up later than her, no focus and issues started to arise between us. I was not putting the effort into my goals anymore. Had to end it a few weeks ago. Now I'm back on track.
@Marlke Yeah, fair enough. It's important to stay on track and date when you feel that you have the free time to do so. My girlfriend is starting to appreciate me going to the gym now that I'm back to getting fit. I also find that if we're going to the gym and trying to build muscle then we need more sleep than somebody who's not trying to put on so much muscle mass, which means that having the same sleeping schedule might not work for both.
@@LibertarianGearhead You may want someone that pushes you to be better. I went abroad a few years and met my amazing wife, she always pushes me to be better (and I've improved a ton thanks to her), she always cooks, cleans, takes care of everything without complaining, and does whatever I ask (albeit needing much instruction as she was a virgin when we met). I went on a dozen lunch dates the week I met her, as I'd decided not to let hormones dictate who I am with anymore ("love at first sight" = lust) so I decided on just having a bunch of coffee and lunch dates with girls at the university I was at abroad. Best decision ever. I treated them all like job interviews, as a small business owner, I knew after all, it's the most important position I'll ever hire for. Even a relatively middle class worker can lose $500,000+ in home equity and assets they build up over a decade or two if they pick wrong, worse they can lose the kids they create. If anyone reading this does go abroad, make sure to avoid westernized women, the easiest way to do so is to ask if they like America (or Europe) as if they gleefully say "yes" that's a big red flag. I found over those dozen lunch dates that all the women who said yes, when I asked "why?" would answer "I love Hollywood movies, Los Angeles, New York, blah blah blah" all had materialistic reasons. Not a single woman who said "yes" ever answered the positive aspects (Judeo-Christian values, founding fathers, capitalism vs. communism without the materialistic consumer reasons for capitalism, etc.). The correct answer was the one my now wife gave, she shrugged, and said she liked her own country (patriotic/conservative) and didn't want to move abroad as she'd miss her family (good relationship with her father/family). So many conservative westerners go abroad trying to avoid westernized women in America, only to end up with a progressive liberal wife from abroad who is materialistic and wants to escape reality by running off with some "rich" (in their mind) foreigner all because those type of foreigner-crazy women are bold and aggressive: the materialistic escapist foreign crazy ones WILL chat you up and try to hook up with you especially if you are young and handsome like I was, which many men are foolishly susceptible to a woman's advances so steel yourselves lads, had the intro scene with women chasing me happen to me as a teenager abroad, (being rich and young is a bad combination) but in hindsight dating one of them was a mistake red flag. Much later after dating many and gaining much wisdom, is when I learned to treat it like a job interview and ask TOUGH questions AND trick questions. Employers will often give people applying to $18/hour desk jobs a psychological test and grill them for hours to figure out if they'll be productive, and yet I often see those same managers or business owners not ask ANY tough questions before sleeping with dates that end up their wives. They literally let an unqualified job applicant sleep their way to the most important role they will ever hire for (wife) and then act surprised that they lost everything (a million in house equity, assets, child support, lost their kids, etc.). Seriously, men would grill the HELL out of a job applicant to be manager of their small business like when picking someone to manage their restaurant or small biz, where only maybe $200,000 is at stake if they screw up, they will give psychological profile tests and grill them for hours. But then that same guy will lose $3 million in a divorce because he didn't ask serious questions and just picked based on hormones and who would sleep with them. Such foolishness.
@@Marlkeleaving was definitely the most best easiest option…. Most girls will definitely do that, only the ride or die ones will understand, that your time as a man is very limited and it call can’t be spent on being romantic and doing relationships buklshit the entire time
Listen to this man gents. I got married young at 23, sacrificed most of those years to support my gf/wife and watched her excel. Jump from multiple jobs to get her almost six figure gov job while I had to be the conservative and stable one to make sure that we didn’t go homeless or hungry. By the time I hit 32, I completely changed careers, changed mentalities, changed schedules back to the old me who was hungry for it all…and she left because I became “Emotionless.” All that time sacrificed for no ROI. Now I’m really cold and calculated, on monk mode, and cranking up my hobbies and generally just putting myself out there to the world and am seeing positive results. Life will determine whether or not you are making the right decision guys. Put your life on hard mode and beat the game. 💯
I’m a 27yo man, Mexican and working as a software engineer remotely, living in a rural area in Mexico. Currently one of my challenges is finding a group of friends with the same goals / background as me because I feel I have outgrown my old group, they are either married or don’t want to improve and are stuck in the same high school mentality and I’m not learning anything anymore. This is affecting my social life. I’m not better than anyone, is just that my life path was different. At first I was the one broke and my mental health was terrible. Also my biggest challenge is dating, I sacrificed this phase of my youth to get a good income and overcome poverty. Thank god it worked out, but Ive never had a real relationship with a woman and in present times, dating is a nightmare. This is affecting my mental health because I feel lonely, like I don’t belong. Now that I’m in a good position and improved my mental health significantly there’s none to share with it or more exactly someone that I can relate to and have same goals and ambitions than me. Is frustrating and depressing. But after finding your video I’m glad to find I’m not the only one going though this weird times. Stay strong brothers 🙏
At 27 years old, I reflect on a challenging childhood due to my physique, which exposed me to teasing and bullying until I was 16. The separation of my parents when I was 13 further complicated my adolescence. At 18, I left my mother's home, and at 22, I went to Germany in search of opportunities. Diagnosed with depression at the beginning of 2022, I started a journey of self-discovery, managing to reconcile with my past. Today, I feel proud to be the adult that I always needed. Tienes mi apoyo hermano. 💪
Бро. У нас очень похожие судьбы! Я тоже выбрал карьеру, работаю ит-инженером в международной компании. Мои одноклассники, которые бухали, бросали учебу, спали с большим количеством девушек и считали себя крутыми, они сейчас работают грузчиками на складах, кассирами в магазине. Они с большим удивлением смотрят на меня сейчас, они меня помнят затравленным ребенком, а сейчас я успешный в свои 25 лет. Я уверен, что у нас всё будет хорошо и достойная девушка появится на наших жизнях. ¡Buena suerte!
Easier said than done. Especiallt by the way you are saying it. Why don't you talk about the actual consequences on motivation and growtj instead? Would be more impacting... than just saying a banaluty like "stop doing bad things"
Just turned 30 this year, you speak the absolute truth brother. Been through this in my mid-20s, snapped out of it 4 years ago and been on the path of change since. The past few years have been full of ups and downs but the important thing is to never lose focus on your long-term goals! 💪
I lived with my mom until age 29. I pictured myself being this way until my deathbed and took a chance, moved hundreds of miles away for a career. It was very very scary. But life got infinitely times better. You gotta take a chance. Get out of your comfort zone. Make the leap. It's basically the same principle with girls. You see a beautiful woman, you break through the barrier of fear and go for it even if you fail over and over. I'm realizing that guys like Denmo keep going no matter what until they achieve their goals, or get the women they really want in life. Only weak men give up.
I just turned 26 and still live at home. I really want to take the leap and buy a house. Fuck an apartment man, my sister just moved out of an apartment and it was kind of a shithole. I’m worried about a lot of things, and I’m not ready to take that leap. When did you decide you were actually ready to leave?
@justgivenofox9543 I was actually content with staying at home the rest of my life and living in a bubble of comfort. I pictured myself at 50 and 60 and simply thought that I could do better than this. I pictured all the things I could buy, having a place of my own, and all the girls in my bed. The whole time I fought internally against being homesick. But it was worth it and I don't regret it at all. I have an apartment now and I'm happy with it. But only because in California it costs an insane amount. Gotta be reasonable
idk if giving up is weak in certain situations it can be the most powerful move… for example if you’re in a toxic and abusive relationship with relatives or a partner i don’t think you’re gonna be like: „oh yeah i should stick with them EveN if i ruin myself beCauSe I‘D bE WeAk iF i‘D QuiT“
@JensVanDeAarde Well I went from a nagging mom and sister to toxic room mates, to living alone. That's the point I was making. Now I have peace and quiet since I made the leap, and can now bring girls over without having to ask anyone's permission or be yelled at.
This hit me good and at the right time. I'm 24 and on my lonely phase currently. Still studying on my 3rd year. Freelancing in my spare time and also looking for something with permanent income. You just made me understand, how much have I self imporved. I honestly failed to realize that. I quit drinking 3 months ago and managed to give up my gaming addiction. I returned to the gym, making hell of a progress. I started dressing elegant and I can already see people noticing me. I even improved my diet and started cooking healthy prep-meals. I'm finally becoming the person I'm comfortable with. The point is. I'm moving out in a couple of weeks. My family is extremely supportive, god bless them. It feels like I'm opening a new chapter in my life. I used to be terified about the future but now I'm looking forward to it. This video felt like a pat on a shoulder from your best friend, saying: "You are on the right path my guy. You aren't there yet but you're going there fast. Keep up with your work and never give up"
As a 41 year old business owner. I've learned that the best motivation is to take on the burden of responsibility, like JP says. I'm currently running my national remodeling company, remodeling a rental property and building 2 high performance houses. Having purpose is very important to progress forward. Staying out of debt is another big one. The more successful that you are the more you find yourself around successful people. I rarely even see people that I grew up with. That's totally okay. The hardest challenge in business is not just starting it and running it but actually scaling it. I didn't realize this until I was 30. Once you learn to scale the real money starts with real responsibilities. It's more of a cashflow management game at that point. I would recommend anyone who has a business needs to know accounting. I did a 2 years associates when I was 23. I hate accounting but it necessary to know numbers and to stay away from debt particularly bad debt.
#1 for me. I'm 26. Everything has been right after another. I lose a job. Two people I thought were friends ghosted me. My car won't start. Ran out of money. I have nothing left to sell on fb marketplace. Missed rent twice. Winter time I highly dislike right now. It's got my brain working 100% now for sure. One thing I know about myself is that I make great comebacks from horrible setbacks. I'm just not done yet, even though I recently just went to absolute 0 out of nowhere.
NO stress bro you're very young and have a lot to look forward to. Start working on yourself. Can be a job you focus on or gym, anything really. You got this.
I spent years working low wage jobs, going to college, and sacrificing my social life, and still ended up in debt. At 21, I decided to dropout and learn the skillset I wanted and develop my social life while working, and now I have a good start as a freelancer in 3d animation. It was scary to make the jump, but I knew investing in myself would be worth it.
A woman here, but what you are saying about being lonely and surrounded by people who don’t match my energy definitely resonated with me. We need that socialize community haha 😊 Wishing all the guys to get out of their funk and stay humble
Because you are losers who surround yourselves with people you know don’t give a fuck about you. You also don’t give a shit about them. Quit crying like the shit happened out of nowhere
Great video, as a man thats 26 about to be 27 and just lost everything from my woman that i was with for about 2.5 years to my job and everything else I needed this video. I feel the pressure and just feel like giving up completely because it seems loke everything i try fail. But this video gives me some hope back, that if i keep going and not give up my life can be the way i want it to be. So thank you and keep up the good work with this channel
last minute or two almost made me cry, it's so hard to keep going, when you are losing money, not moving anywhere and are in a state of stagnation of sorts. very few friends, grinding on yourself, procrastinating in your mind most of the time, and either living your best version of yourself life in your mind, or replaying all the bad scenarios going on. I know many great people had their breaks in 30s or 40s and travelled the world later on, but it's so hard keeping up with people who have families that support them and are in their 20s or same age as you or or maybe 20 yo, you are starting from scrap, they are not, they have safety nets you dont.
Man, I started from scratch at the age of 26, left everything behind and moved to another country. All I had was some modest money to start with (hard saved earlier) and a room to stay, no connections, no family, not even a bank account. It took me just over 7 years of grind, moving to a different places in a foreign country, changing jobs, looking for something I can hold on to, make a foundation on, make a decent living and simply enjoy. Now here I stand at the age of 35, first time in my life I can say I am on the right tracks, work paid off, peace of mind found, work-life balance getting better each day. Never ever give up, because you never know how close to your goal you are. Never regret or envy, if anything - aspire, admire, improve. You got this, my example shows it's never too late for progress. Hoping for the best for you brother.
I'm 33 about to be 34 and no where close I thought I'd be by this age, got charged with a DUI not yet convicted, totalled my car, spent a day and a half in jail, lost a girlfriend, got fired from a job a liked and I feel like I'm starting from scratch again. Recently got my new used car 2 weeks ago, been applying to new jobs and jobs for my career path and I have been steadily trying to accomplish my pending peojects that I have before it feels too late. The upside is that I don't have kids yet but that clock is ticking seeing that I'm at an age that society says I should be married with kids, with a nice job and house by now. At this point I'm trying to make quicker decisions and stops overthinking things, let go and just do it and find that motivation determined focused mind that I had when I was younger.
This is very motivating. My family is extremely music talented and my brother is like a prodigy, he is insanely talented and has been singing since he could talk, and I love him to death and he deserves it he worked his ass off to get that good. I’m 16, and got into singing about a year ago. I always regret not singing earlier and feel as if I wasted my time and can’t ever reach that level. Good to see that I am wrong, I still got my entire life ahead of me.
I believe also that comparing to others will eat most of the energy. Energy which can actually be redirected towards constant progress but only if your focus will aim at your supreme goal 100%
Keep working towards your goals and believe in yourself. Don't let the thoughts of others stop you. It's never too late. You are making progress. Hope you live a great life fam ✌️😁
I really needed this video. I'm gonna be 30 in June and I've felt like I've been going backwards. Was in great shape, had a hot gf, was making good money, but I've been miserable this year and I'm actually taking a pay cut for a easier job but allows for more time to work on myself. This video helped motivate me more on what great things await my future.
I started taking working out seriously about 2 years ago. I believe I'm finally in the best possible mindset about it. I keep it lighter so I don't get deadly soreness, and go more often to keep the habit. Targeting each muscle group mindfully, thinking about what motions or actions I could do more of in daily life. I had some injuries from improper lifting(herniated disc/sciatica) and at one point I was kinda addicted to preworkout(now 1 or 2 x a week.) But just doing the task I wanted to get better at made me internally process all the anxieties I made up about it. I look healthy now and feel better mental health/depression wise. I hope I got my point across and maybe inspired someone. Have a great life y'all, I believe in us 😄
From a business perspective, I love how you upsell the course in this video. And the pricing + FAQ to position it in the right market "Potential high value men" - basically men with the means to pay the course (+monthly fee). I can't imagine the MRR you have right now. I hope I can find a market like this elsewhere!
This has been me in 2023 as a 23 year old man. Hopeless, lonely, feeling that I’m gonna be stuck in retail and remain a virgin that will never get a girlfriend. Fortunately it isn’t over. Just gotta try to put a little more effort into life and stop getting depressed about it.
23 also. Lost the love of my life who I thought I would have a future with and winter time is slow since my family have a business. You’re not alone brother, the gym has been helping me
I’m 28, paid off all my student loans, bought my own car, and moved out of my parents’ place to my own spot all within the last year. Have money saved and a 401k in progress from work. Got a promotion at a (mostly remote) job that I really like and my band (I sing and play guitar) is slowly growing from local to regional size. Also go to the gym or go for runs almost every day and am built. My problem is taking the time to get out of the house by myself. I’m 10 mins closer to all of my closest friends upon moving out but most of my friends are in relationships and don’t go out unless it’s planned way in advanced and a lot of people go or spend most of their time home from long workdays tired and playing video games. This video came up in my feed at a good time. Made a few efforts over the past few days to just spend time out in public but gotta keep that up cuz there’s definitely been a lot of nights in the past couple months where I feel isolated and alone in my apartment.
I’ve lived on my own for years and I know what you’re saying. I fell into that trap because I didn’t have a routine before I moved out. You need to set some goals keep busy bro gym diets hobbies dancing all that stuff go get passionate about something hobby and keep it up, girls will land in ur lap if you do that I promise u. Girls love a guy who has a routine in life it means u got your shit together and they can’t resist that shit. Stable energy is very real.
Reason 4 is flawed, you can have both a successful life and a girlfriend. In fact, married people tend to be more successful if that’s really your main goal in life. But you bash on people who fall in love and make sacrifices for that person, but really those people will find more fulfillment in life.
Idk if you watched the whole thing - he mentioned it’s the people that stop trying to grow after getting a girlfriend instead of taking lead in there own life even with the comfortability of already having a great relationship
For what I will get from a woman in current times. Versus the risks I need to take. Marriage is really not a deal made for the betterment of men in any way.
yeah and then get divorced later and she takes most of the things you worked so hard for in the first place. Not to forget the mental damage and emotional damage if kids are involved. Just don't marry at least not in a western country.
Why’s everyone assuming the marriage will fail? 50% fail, 50% succeed. So half ARE GOOD. And not all that fail are due to toxic women who steal your money, sometimes it just doesn’t work out. The key thing is to take your time and be careful.
If you’re giving up your aspirations for a modern woman, there’s a 99% chance you’re going to end up regretting it. I’m not exaggerating when I say I would bet thousands of dollars that it would be better to focus on yourself. You CAN have a girlfriend, you CAN care about her deeply, you CAN make sacrifices for her, but most of us can speak from experience when saying that it is a TERRIBLE feeling to choose a woman over other life goals and aspirations, just for it to not work out.
it's insane how accurate the reason 4 is. i just lately figure this one out, this girl a wanted kinda want me but because i doesn't really impovre my life / lifestyle she just cant. kinda deal. Overall Good video my guy
Im 24, swallowed my pride and moved home with my parents to save money. I’ve been investing into a business that I’m super interested in. So I’m excited for the future. And I’m hungry. Working as much as I can and I can’t wait till my hard work prevails
Many people go to school to feel like they are accomplishing something but upon graduating and finding a job, reality kicks in. It is right there and then when you will know if you are really being productive in life or not. Many switch careers later in life because they most likely messed up the first time around and now they are doing it right. A classical victim of seeking validation during youth or low self esteem/insecurity.
I recently turned 23, and I've started working out, getting game with girls, I'm living overseas being fluent in a second language and have a good lookout on life. Watching this video made realise how lucky I am
I did one thing good that is being single for the rest of my life. I am not sure whether to be relieved or sad. At least no one is controlling my life. So, I guess its W.
The fuck, bro we are still young, gotta take care of health and your energy will skyrocket. You can look 20 till like 40+ no problem you just have more responsibility, manage it
Yoo My G, I stumbled upon this channel, I'm from and currently living in JA🇯🇲. You've just got a Sub 👏🏽 This content is 10000% accurate. I just turned 30 Last Nov, not been working since April, but it's not all bad. I've been in that loop and the main reason why I'm not working it's because I just don't want another Meaningless Hamster Wheel Job. I've BEEN through the Ringer and I've experienced My Dililah so i felt that when you said you girl runs your life for you. I was cultured to be a simp and it Damaged Me Emotional and Financially, but I'm slowly rebuilding now 🙏🏽. What i do now though is use my EPIC & PAINFUL Story to Encourage Men to wake up and Do Better. Great Content!
Keep on going keep on learning, struggle's and challenges are all part of it, it's natural just fall in love with being the best version of yourself and yes you are gonna fall here and there but never give up, in the future you are gonna look back and be happy that you tried to go for what you want, that you got out of your comfort zone. Have a great 2024 and let's get it
Thanks bro I'm exactly 25Yo and i was just thinking about the exact same thing today Plus here i gotta spend two years in military service, without that i can't get a job or get out of country The good thing is thanks to my university degree i can sit behind desk without guarding anything 😅 and also get payment for my service، and the garrison is in my own town I was thinking about doing some side hustles, learning a new skill and working on myself too while doing it cuz it's an 8 morning to 2 afternoon job And this video came up in the best time possible and made me feel better Thank you brother Much love from 🇮🇷
That girl never loved you if she did she would never project her insecurities on to you and break up with you. A woman breaking up with you because you have an addiction is 👿👎 ridiculous.
Similar situation for me too, it’s tough to look back and deal with. Stay strong get social and improve. Not too late to find another girl and be happy brother.
At 30, I had a dead end job and a wife who was a complete liability. Left the job, dropped the wife. I have two houses, a healthy portfolio and almost making $200k annually.
My life was complete shit, 13-23, everything just went better from there. The was really low lol. But im doing good now. A job, a wife, family and a home.
Got out of the military. Did the infantry for 4 years. Did not go to college and I'm not going to. Moved out for 2 years now got a job as a Cop don't like it not enough. Joining the Guard in Utah and trying out SF hopefully I can find my identity again. Is there anyone out there who having a hard time like me?
I’ve been out for 4 years and I realized I had to not make that my whole identity anymore. Still looking for a purpose, I think the infantry makes it hard to find actual purpose in the real world, but I’m working everyday at it
😅 i am almost 24 i am a polyglot, trying to be a software engineer, and i have an entrepreneurial mindset. For some reason my mind was telling me i am doing bad this video came in the right time.
Pt 4 is true bro, ultimately the guys lose out. I’m 29 now my ex of 6 years got bored and left now I’m playing catch up, but it’s not over i been improving so fking fast it’s nuts I’m already peaking after few months and I’m not stopping. It’s possible to come back kings .
Very interesting. From 17-22 my family kept encouraging me to date. They would say things like "I think [insert name of girl from school] likes you, you should ask her out!" and "you interested in any girls from band practice?". Now that i'm 24, this energy has completely stopped, and I am expected to get my shit together before putting any attention into dating.
Going to turn 29 next April... and I am scared of going into Engineering for 4 years and finishing the degree at 33... the thought of "am I too old now?" "Can I even get a job at that age?" hunt me... and idk what to do.
Literally me, 33... I had it all a year ago, an amazing career, a fiancée, a house... and lost it all. Now I'm on the grind, starting all over again, about to go to university next year, losing weight, trying to get my health back... Much love boys, focus on the grind and good things will come your way 💯
I spent my early 20s all into minimalism and philosophy and shit and it really delayed my ability to make money. It’s a shame because now with all the stress of my current business I don’t feel like I have the same energy I used to
Overall I think it was pretty beneficial. I don't really want much except being healthy and doing work I find meaningful. It's kind of hard to find the motivation to seek money since I don't care about cars or watches or any of that stuff, but I find freedom and security really important so that drives me to make money. My main goal is to help people and do something I enjoy. What I regret is when I used to think making money was stupid and that I should just live off nothing haha lower your needs is cool and all, but we all need money to survive and give back.@@nikosgoutakolis3670
I’m interested and glad i came across this channel Ive been honest confused about life and this helped as a 19 year old male. Working towards an engineering degree in either nuclear or aerospace. I honestly never fitted in HS cause i am honestly an old soul i don’t have social media. Really cool video and learn from this!
Im about to be 25 in a few day, i just drive a truck, nothing more, nothing less, i am content with it. I don't need other people. I just do what i want when i want when im done driving for the day.
Many people have brothers, cousins, and things like that (i wont bet on on childhood friends, as to not be far-fetched). When you see them wholeheartedly engaging in business, relationships and the like, you kinda feel like doing that to your own life. Because a normal person has an idea of what it it is needed to achieve these, but seeing these things unfolding succesfully in close ones is a further push.
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Thank you. Really needed this message. I'm 28 and even though life's been easy on the money/work side, I question myself a lot if the grind will be worth it. Keep up the videos bro! Cheers from Brazil (:
Once you've found a person both of you have to make goals together or else there's no direction in either of your lives. The relationship will become stale and infidelity is likely to occur. And/or other issues like lack of trust in the relationship, or just a general end of the partnership. In 2023 i based a lot of my effort on finding a woman. She's here now and now it's time for me to figure out what to do outside of my romantic life. I am going to see if i can start working towards financial independence again come 2024.
Idk what you talking about but sheesh life got easier for me. Last 10 years were just straight up wars for me both, parents died exc. After I turned 25 this year I finally had a year of peace lol. Life was never easy for me so it’s only up from here.
Dont even have 5 friends. Living in a House with my brother. I Have 1 friend. If I count my brother 2 friends. 5 friends seems too much to handle for me.
Thank you so much for the video ❤ am 17 and i am going to college next year although i really dont want it i am doing it for my parents and people but i was truly planning on not going and this video really makes me want to take risk and pursue what i truly want to do with is to become a professional video editor and artist and if it doesnt work out i can always go back
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You need to find a group of men to level up with. www.denmo.social/socializer
I feel like your videos are addressed to younger people who are questioning what to do, but there are millions of men my age who also feel stuck, hate our jobs and want something else.. I'm starting to ask myself, what am I even working my job for? To come home to an empty apartment everyday? I feel like life passed me by and a bit of a loser..
Me and two friend have decided to make a chat with each other for one thing and one thing alone. "Accountability". We all want to "level up" and have big plans for our new years resolutions. We have made a pact that we will improve ourself as much as possible in 2024. We are going to hold each other accountable to make sure we achieve our goals.
That's why I plan to move tf out if I have my apprenticeship done and start doing things that I actually like and meet as much people as I can to find my group
Yeah, well I did that too buddy. I got a welding ticket in my early 30s, and now I'm 40 and just as stuck. Why am I slugging my body everyday so hard to come home exhausted to an empty, quiet apartment, where I can't get out because I'm so wiped and weekends are my only time to recover and relax.. Don't get into this trap either.. It sucks and I hate it. Yeah, it pays well, but for what? To be alone and then work?@@Cataclysm999
1. "A MAN'S LIFE IS A WAR BETWEEN WHO HE IS, AND WHO HE WANTS TO BE”
2. "WHEN A MAN LACKS PURPOSE IN HIS LIFE, HE DISTRACTS HIMSELF WITH PLEASURE”
3. “WE MUST ALL SUFFER FROM ONE OF TWO PAINS: THE PAIN OF DISCIPLINE OR THE PAIN OF REGRET", CHOOSE WISELY
4. "CIRCUMSTANCES DON'T MAKE THE MAN, THEY ONLY REVEAL HIM TO HIMSELF AND OTHERS"
5. "WE CANNOT CHOOSE OUR EXTERNAL CIRCUMSTANCES, BUT WE CAN ALWAYS CHOOSE HOW WE RESPOND TO THEM"
6. "THE WORTH OF A MAN IS MEASURED BY THE WORTH OF WHAT HE VALUES"
7. “IF YOU DO NOT CONQUER SELF, YOU WILL BE CONQUERED BY SELF”
If you didn‘t know, now you know 🔥
What/who is this from?
epic comments thanks bro.
Wahe Guru!
Thank you
Point #4 is true. I'm 29 and had my girlfriend for 3 years now. I noticed I was getting comfortable and lazy. Got some bad old habits again, and was letting her control my direction too much. I saw signs that she wasn't into me as much as she used to be, so luckily I managed to quickly get back in the gym, eating healthy again, no alcohol/drugs, and started studying after work for the next stage of my career. Now she's not happy that I'm always busy, but certainly more into me. 😂 Cannot sacrifice our own development for a relationship, because your girl can always leave you for somebody who developed while you sacrificed your own development trying to keep your girlfriend happy.
I'm 27, started this year with a great consistent self improvement process. I enrolled myself with a girl around February, she adored me. She wanted to wake up at 7am like me and have these healthy habits. And she kept me late on my schedule. I started to have less time for myself, had dinner later and slept later. I ended up in bad habits again as I was struggling to keep all together. I started to wake up later than her, no focus and issues started to arise between us. I was not putting the effort into my goals anymore.
Had to end it a few weeks ago. Now I'm back on track.
@Marlke Yeah, fair enough. It's important to stay on track and date when you feel that you have the free time to do so. My girlfriend is starting to appreciate me going to the gym now that I'm back to getting fit. I also find that if we're going to the gym and trying to build muscle then we need more sleep than somebody who's not trying to put on so much muscle mass, which means that having the same sleeping schedule might not work for both.
She prolly already cheated on u u just don’t know 🪦
@@LibertarianGearhead You may want someone that pushes you to be better. I went abroad a few years and met my amazing wife, she always pushes me to be better (and I've improved a ton thanks to her), she always cooks, cleans, takes care of everything without complaining, and does whatever I ask (albeit needing much instruction as she was a virgin when we met). I went on a dozen lunch dates the week I met her, as I'd decided not to let hormones dictate who I am with anymore ("love at first sight" = lust) so I decided on just having a bunch of coffee and lunch dates with girls at the university I was at abroad. Best decision ever. I treated them all like job interviews, as a small business owner, I knew after all, it's the most important position I'll ever hire for. Even a relatively middle class worker can lose $500,000+ in home equity and assets they build up over a decade or two if they pick wrong, worse they can lose the kids they create. If anyone reading this does go abroad, make sure to avoid westernized women, the easiest way to do so is to ask if they like America (or Europe) as if they gleefully say "yes" that's a big red flag. I found over those dozen lunch dates that all the women who said yes, when I asked "why?" would answer "I love Hollywood movies, Los Angeles, New York, blah blah blah" all had materialistic reasons. Not a single woman who said "yes" ever answered the positive aspects (Judeo-Christian values, founding fathers, capitalism vs. communism without the materialistic consumer reasons for capitalism, etc.).
The correct answer was the one my now wife gave, she shrugged, and said she liked her own country (patriotic/conservative) and didn't want to move abroad as she'd miss her family (good relationship with her father/family). So many conservative westerners go abroad trying to avoid westernized women in America, only to end up with a progressive liberal wife from abroad who is materialistic and wants to escape reality by running off with some "rich" (in their mind) foreigner all because those type of foreigner-crazy women are bold and aggressive: the materialistic escapist foreign crazy ones WILL chat you up and try to hook up with you especially if you are young and handsome like I was, which many men are foolishly susceptible to a woman's advances so steel yourselves lads, had the intro scene with women chasing me happen to me as a teenager abroad, (being rich and young is a bad combination) but in hindsight dating one of them was a mistake red flag. Much later after dating many and gaining much wisdom, is when I learned to treat it like a job interview and ask TOUGH questions AND trick questions.
Employers will often give people applying to $18/hour desk jobs a psychological test and grill them for hours to figure out if they'll be productive, and yet I often see those same managers or business owners not ask ANY tough questions before sleeping with dates that end up their wives. They literally let an unqualified job applicant sleep their way to the most important role they will ever hire for (wife) and then act surprised that they lost everything (a million in house equity, assets, child support, lost their kids, etc.).
Seriously, men would grill the HELL out of a job applicant to be manager of their small business like when picking someone to manage their restaurant or small biz, where only maybe $200,000 is at stake if they screw up, they will give psychological profile tests and grill them for hours. But then that same guy will lose $3 million in a divorce because he didn't ask serious questions and just picked based on hormones and who would sleep with them. Such foolishness.
@@Marlkeleaving was definitely the most best easiest option…. Most girls will definitely do that, only the ride or die ones will understand, that your time as a man is very limited and it call can’t be spent on being romantic and doing relationships buklshit the entire time
Listen to this man gents. I got married young at 23, sacrificed most of those years to support my gf/wife and watched her excel. Jump from multiple jobs to get her almost six figure gov job while I had to be the conservative and stable one to make sure that we didn’t go homeless or hungry. By the time I hit 32, I completely changed careers, changed mentalities, changed schedules back to the old me who was hungry for it all…and she left because I became “Emotionless.” All that time sacrificed for no ROI. Now I’m really cold and calculated, on monk mode, and cranking up my hobbies and generally just putting myself out there to the world and am seeing positive results. Life will determine whether or not you are making the right decision guys. Put your life on hard mode and beat the game. 💯
I’m a 27yo man, Mexican and working as a software engineer remotely, living in a rural area in Mexico. Currently one of my challenges is finding a group of friends with the same goals / background as me because I feel I have outgrown my old group, they are either married or don’t want to improve and are stuck in the same high school mentality and I’m not learning anything anymore. This is affecting my social life. I’m not better than anyone, is just that my life path was different. At first I was the one broke and my mental health was terrible. Also my biggest challenge is dating, I sacrificed this phase of my youth to get a good income and overcome poverty. Thank god it worked out, but Ive never had a real relationship with a woman and in present times, dating is a nightmare. This is affecting my mental health because I feel lonely, like I don’t belong.
Now that I’m in a good position and improved my mental health significantly there’s none to share with it or more exactly someone that I can relate to and have same goals and ambitions than me. Is frustrating and depressing. But after finding your video I’m glad to find I’m not the only one going though this weird times.
Stay strong brothers 🙏
I love this❤
At 27 years old, I reflect on a challenging childhood due to my physique, which exposed me to teasing and bullying until I was 16. The separation of my parents when I was 13 further complicated my adolescence. At 18, I left my mother's home, and at 22, I went to Germany in search of opportunities. Diagnosed with depression at the beginning of 2022, I started a journey of self-discovery, managing to reconcile with my past. Today, I feel proud to be the adult that I always needed.
Tienes mi apoyo hermano. 💪
Бро. У нас очень похожие судьбы! Я тоже выбрал карьеру, работаю ит-инженером в международной компании. Мои одноклассники, которые бухали, бросали учебу, спали с большим количеством девушек и считали себя крутыми, они сейчас работают грузчиками на складах, кассирами в магазине. Они с большим удивлением смотрят на меня сейчас, они меня помнят затравленным ребенком, а сейчас я успешный в свои 25 лет.
Я уверен, что у нас всё будет хорошо и достойная девушка появится на наших жизнях.
¡Buena suerte!
As a late 30s guy, I advise 25 yr old guys to stop drinking alcohol and do drugs if you are
I don’t do none of that. But I’ve a temptation of having a escort
@@MJ98.Gotta quit all the bad habits bruh. Anything you probably think is bad- is indeed bad. Stop overthinking it and get your life back!
@jm8585 still...super stressed out
Easier said than done. Especiallt by the way you are saying it. Why don't you talk about the actual consequences on motivation and growtj instead? Would be more impacting... than just saying a banaluty like "stop doing bad things"
And smoking
Just turned 30 this year, you speak the absolute truth brother. Been through this in my mid-20s, snapped out of it 4 years ago and been on the path of change since. The past few years have been full of ups and downs but the important thing is to never lose focus on your long-term goals! 💪
all good bro keep going
I lived with my mom until age 29. I pictured myself being this way until my deathbed and took a chance, moved hundreds of miles away for a career. It was very very scary. But life got infinitely times better. You gotta take a chance. Get out of your comfort zone. Make the leap. It's basically the same principle with girls. You see a beautiful woman, you break through the barrier of fear and go for it even if you fail over and over. I'm realizing that guys like Denmo keep going no matter what until they achieve their goals, or get the women they really want in life. Only weak men give up.
I just turned 26 and still live at home. I really want to take the leap and buy a house. Fuck an apartment man, my sister just moved out of an apartment and it was kind of a shithole. I’m worried about a lot of things, and I’m not ready to take that leap. When did you decide you were actually ready to leave?
@@justgivenofox9543I was in a similar place to you. You're never going to be fully ready. Search for a good place and take a chance.
@justgivenofox9543 I was actually content with staying at home the rest of my life and living in a bubble of comfort. I pictured myself at 50 and 60 and simply thought that I could do better than this. I pictured all the things I could buy, having a place of my own, and all the girls in my bed. The whole time I fought internally against being homesick. But it was worth it and I don't regret it at all.
I have an apartment now and I'm happy with it. But only because in California it costs an insane amount. Gotta be reasonable
idk if giving up is weak
in certain situations it can be the most powerful move…
for example if you’re in a toxic and abusive relationship with relatives or a partner
i don’t think you’re gonna be like: „oh yeah i should stick with them EveN if i ruin myself
beCauSe I‘D bE WeAk iF i‘D QuiT“
@JensVanDeAarde Well I went from a nagging mom and sister to toxic room mates, to living alone. That's the point I was making. Now I have peace and quiet since I made the leap, and can now bring girls over without having to ask anyone's permission or be yelled at.
This hit me good and at the right time.
I'm 24 and on my lonely phase currently. Still studying on my 3rd year. Freelancing in my spare time and also looking for something with permanent income.
You just made me understand, how much have I self imporved. I honestly failed to realize that.
I quit drinking 3 months ago and managed to give up my gaming addiction. I returned to the gym, making hell of a progress. I started dressing elegant and I can already see people noticing me. I even improved my diet and started cooking healthy prep-meals. I'm finally becoming the person I'm comfortable with.
The point is. I'm moving out in a couple of weeks. My family is extremely supportive, god bless them. It feels like I'm opening a new chapter in my life.
I used to be terified about the future but now I'm looking forward to it.
This video felt like a pat on a shoulder from your best friend, saying:
"You are on the right path my guy. You aren't there yet but you're going there fast. Keep up with your work and never give up"
You gave up on your gaming addiction as in you play way less than you used to, or none at all?
@@JC-tg5xx I still do but much less than before and most importantly I don't feel the unstopable urge to play anymore
@@flanekplicha8685 for me, it came naturally, im not quite sure why
As a 41 year old business owner. I've learned that the best motivation is to take on the burden of responsibility, like JP says. I'm currently running my national remodeling company, remodeling a rental property and building 2 high performance houses. Having purpose is very important to progress forward. Staying out of debt is another big one. The more successful that you are the more you find yourself around successful people. I rarely even see people that I grew up with. That's totally okay. The hardest challenge in business is not just starting it and running it but actually scaling it. I didn't realize this until I was 30. Once you learn to scale the real money starts with real responsibilities. It's more of a cashflow management game at that point. I would recommend anyone who has a business needs to know accounting. I did a 2 years associates when I was 23. I hate accounting but it necessary to know numbers and to stay away from debt particularly bad debt.
Your videos on the male filter and grinding in your 20s are the only things that I look forward to these days.
all good bro keep going talk to some other lads in the discord
#1 for me. I'm 26. Everything has been right after another. I lose a job. Two people I thought were friends ghosted me. My car won't start. Ran out of money. I have nothing left to sell on fb marketplace. Missed rent twice. Winter time I highly dislike right now.
It's got my brain working 100% now for sure. One thing I know about myself is that I make great comebacks from horrible setbacks. I'm just not done yet, even though I recently just went to absolute 0 out of nowhere.
NO stress bro you're very young and have a lot to look forward to. Start working on yourself. Can be a job you focus on or gym, anything really. You got this.
I spent years working low wage jobs, going to college, and sacrificing my social life, and still ended up in debt. At 21, I decided to dropout and learn the skillset I wanted and develop my social life while working, and now I have a good start as a freelancer in 3d animation. It was scary to make the jump, but I knew investing in myself would be worth it.
That's me right now in university. I'm doing my damndest to turn myself around, but it's hard. Real hard. Thanks for this video, I needed these tips.
gotchu bro. send it to your friends to help them too
Please make the most of your college years, make as many memories as you can.
Me 25 going to a community college
Unis great and all. But the sooner you get out the better. Theres so much more to life than studying.
Turning 25 in a week. I’ve accomplished a lot and still very hungry. Quitting my job of 7 years soon and investing in myself. So much more to do 💪
keep going my man
A woman here, but what you are saying about being lonely and surrounded by people who don’t match my energy definitely resonated with me. We need that socialize community haha 😊
Wishing all the guys to get out of their funk and stay humble
big shoutout to all the women watching these vids
Because you are losers who surround yourselves with people you know don’t give a fuck about you. You also don’t give a shit about them. Quit crying like the shit happened out of nowhere
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Great video, as a man thats 26 about to be 27 and just lost everything from my woman that i was with for about 2.5 years to my job and everything else I needed this video. I feel the pressure and just feel like giving up completely because it seems loke everything i try fail. But this video gives me some hope back, that if i keep going and not give up my life can be the way i want it to be. So thank you and keep up the good work with this channel
last minute or two almost made me cry, it's so hard to keep going, when you are losing money, not moving anywhere and are in a state of stagnation of sorts.
very few friends, grinding on yourself, procrastinating in your mind most of the time, and either living your best version of yourself life in your mind, or replaying all the bad scenarios going on.
I know many great people had their breaks in 30s or 40s and travelled the world later on, but it's so hard keeping up with people who have families that support them and are in their 20s or same age as you or or maybe 20 yo, you are starting from scrap, they are not, they have safety nets you dont.
Man, I started from scratch at the age of 26, left everything behind and moved to another country. All I had was some modest money to start with (hard saved earlier) and a room to stay, no connections, no family, not even a bank account. It took me just over 7 years of grind, moving to a different places in a foreign country, changing jobs, looking for something I can hold on to, make a foundation on, make a decent living and simply enjoy. Now here I stand at the age of 35, first time in my life I can say I am on the right tracks, work paid off, peace of mind found, work-life balance getting better each day. Never ever give up, because you never know how close to your goal you are. Never regret or envy, if anything - aspire, admire, improve. You got this, my example shows it's never too late for progress. Hoping for the best for you brother.
@@sLim88CPC appreciated
I'm 33 about to be 34 and no where close I thought I'd be by this age, got charged with a DUI not yet convicted, totalled my car, spent a day and a half in jail, lost a girlfriend, got fired from a job a liked and I feel like I'm starting from scratch again. Recently got my new used car 2 weeks ago, been applying to new jobs and jobs for my career path and I have been steadily trying to accomplish my pending peojects that I have before it feels too late. The upside is that I don't have kids yet but that clock is ticking seeing that I'm at an age that society says I should be married with kids, with a nice job and house by now. At this point I'm trying to make quicker decisions and stops overthinking things, let go and just do it and find that motivation determined focused mind that I had when I was younger.
This is very motivating. My family is extremely music talented and my brother is like a prodigy, he is insanely talented and has been singing since he could talk, and I love him to death and he deserves it he worked his ass off to get that good. I’m 16, and got into singing about a year ago. I always regret not singing earlier and feel as if I wasted my time and can’t ever reach that level. Good to see that I am wrong, I still got my entire life ahead of me.
I believe also that comparing to others will eat most of the energy. Energy which can actually be redirected towards constant progress but only if your focus will aim at your supreme goal 100%
Keep working towards your goals and believe in yourself. Don't let the thoughts of others stop you. It's never too late. You are making progress. Hope you live a great life fam ✌️😁
“The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago. The second-best time is now.”
I really needed this video. I'm gonna be 30 in June and I've felt like I've been going backwards. Was in great shape, had a hot gf, was making good money, but I've been miserable this year and I'm actually taking a pay cut for a easier job but allows for more time to work on myself. This video helped motivate me more on what great things await my future.
glad it helped you G. send it to your friends as well
I started taking working out seriously about 2 years ago. I believe I'm finally in the best possible mindset about it. I keep it lighter so I don't get deadly soreness, and go more often to keep the habit. Targeting each muscle group mindfully, thinking about what motions or actions I could do more of in daily life. I had some injuries from improper lifting(herniated disc/sciatica) and at one point I was kinda addicted to preworkout(now 1 or 2 x a week.) But just doing the task I wanted to get better at made me internally process all the anxieties I made up about it. I look healthy now and feel better mental health/depression wise. I hope I got my point across and maybe inspired someone. Have a great life y'all, I believe in us 😄
As a millennial, I highly admire your efforts to get Gen Z kids inspired in the times of their quarter life crisis.
I’ve been grinding in my 20s even during the pandemic, learned a language and worked low end jobs. Now work downtown and finished school last year
What language did you learn?
Thank you. It’s normal to feel down and depressed and we need to find a path
From a business perspective, I love how you upsell the course in this video. And the pricing + FAQ to position it in the right market "Potential high value men" - basically men with the means to pay the course (+monthly fee).
I can't imagine the MRR you have right now.
I hope I can find a market like this elsewhere!
XD
This has been me in 2023 as a 23 year old man. Hopeless, lonely, feeling that I’m gonna be stuck in retail and remain a virgin that will never get a girlfriend.
Fortunately it isn’t over. Just gotta try to put a little more effort into life and stop getting depressed about it.
Hey, I’m 23 too! Wanna be friends?
23 also. Lost the love of my life who I thought I would have a future with and winter time is slow since my family have a business. You’re not alone brother, the gym has been helping me
I’m 28, paid off all my student loans, bought my own car, and moved out of my parents’ place to my own spot all within the last year. Have money saved and a 401k in progress from work. Got a promotion at a (mostly remote) job that I really like and my band (I sing and play guitar) is slowly growing from local to regional size. Also go to the gym or go for runs almost every day and am built. My problem is taking the time to get out of the house by myself. I’m 10 mins closer to all of my closest friends upon moving out but most of my friends are in relationships and don’t go out unless it’s planned way in advanced and a lot of people go or spend most of their time home from long workdays tired and playing video games. This video came up in my feed at a good time. Made a few efforts over the past few days to just spend time out in public but gotta keep that up cuz there’s definitely been a lot of nights in the past couple months where I feel isolated and alone in my apartment.
I’ve lived on my own for years and I know what you’re saying. I fell into that trap because I didn’t have a routine before I moved out. You need to set some goals keep busy bro gym diets hobbies dancing all that stuff go get passionate about something hobby and keep it up, girls will land in ur lap if you do that I promise u. Girls love a guy who has a routine in life it means u got your shit together and they can’t resist that shit. Stable energy is very real.
Reason 4 is flawed, you can have both a successful life and a girlfriend. In fact, married people tend to be more successful if that’s really your main goal in life. But you bash on people who fall in love and make sacrifices for that person, but really those people will find more fulfillment in life.
Idk if you watched the whole thing - he mentioned it’s the people that stop trying to grow after getting a girlfriend instead of taking lead in there own life even with the comfortability of already having a great relationship
For what I will get from a woman in current times.
Versus the risks I need to take.
Marriage is really not a deal made for the betterment of men in any way.
yeah and then get divorced later and she takes most of the things you worked so hard for in the first place. Not to forget the mental damage and emotional damage if kids are involved. Just don't marry at least not in a western country.
Why’s everyone assuming the marriage will fail? 50% fail, 50% succeed. So half ARE GOOD. And not all that fail are due to toxic women who steal your money, sometimes it just doesn’t work out. The key thing is to take your time and be careful.
If you’re giving up your aspirations for a modern woman, there’s a 99% chance you’re going to end up regretting it. I’m not exaggerating when I say I would bet thousands of dollars that it would be better to focus on yourself.
You CAN have a girlfriend, you CAN care about her deeply, you CAN make sacrifices for her, but most of us can speak from experience when saying that it is a TERRIBLE feeling to choose a woman over other life goals and aspirations, just for it to not work out.
it's insane how accurate the reason 4 is. i just lately figure this one out, this girl a wanted kinda want me but because i doesn't really impovre my life / lifestyle she just cant. kinda deal. Overall Good video my guy
I never realized how much Denmo looked like Mr Beast until I saw him outside 😂
Im 24, swallowed my pride and moved home with my parents to save money. I’ve been investing into a business that I’m super interested in. So I’m excited for the future. And I’m hungry. Working as much as I can and I can’t wait till my hard work prevails
Many people go to school to feel like they are accomplishing something but upon graduating and finding a job, reality kicks in. It is right there and then when you will know if you are really being productive in life or not. Many switch careers later in life because they most likely messed up the first time around and now they are doing it right. A classical victim of seeking validation during youth or low self esteem/insecurity.
I recently turned 23, and I've started working out, getting game with girls, I'm living overseas being fluent in a second language and have a good lookout on life.
Watching this video made realise how lucky I am
Very inspiring. Came at the right moment for me. Many men need to see this.
i´m from Mexico and the only thing i can say its: thanks for alls the tips i really enjoy every video that you made
As a 30 year old- advise to a 25 year old. Take the risk with business not with your life.
I did one thing good that is being single for the rest of my life. I am not sure whether to be relieved or sad. At least no one is controlling my life. So, I guess its W.
thank you for this. Working daily to try and change. I am 26 and want to change bad. I miss my youth.
The fuck, bro we are still young, gotta take care of health and your energy will skyrocket. You can look 20 till like 40+ no problem you just have more responsibility, manage it
Yoo My G, I stumbled upon this channel, I'm from and currently living in JA🇯🇲. You've just got a Sub 👏🏽
This content is 10000% accurate. I just turned 30 Last Nov, not been working since April, but it's not all bad. I've been in that loop and the main reason why I'm not working it's because I just don't want another Meaningless Hamster Wheel Job.
I've BEEN through the Ringer and I've experienced My Dililah so i felt that when you said you girl runs your life for you. I was cultured to be a simp and it Damaged Me Emotional and Financially, but I'm slowly rebuilding now 🙏🏽. What i do now though is use my EPIC & PAINFUL Story to Encourage Men to wake up and Do Better.
Great Content!
good man. Hope to see you around more
@@Denmosocial 👊🏽
Well spoken. Remember: tomorrow's yesterday is today. make it count 😊.
Keep on going keep on learning, struggle's and challenges are all part of it, it's natural just fall in love with being the best version of yourself and yes you are gonna fall here and there but never give up, in the future you are gonna look back and be happy that you tried to go for what you want, that you got out of your comfort zone. Have a great 2024 and let's get it
Thanks bro
I'm exactly 25Yo and i was just thinking about the exact same thing today
Plus here i gotta spend two years in military service, without that i can't get a job or get out of country
The good thing is thanks to my university degree i can sit behind desk without guarding anything 😅 and also get payment for my service، and the garrison is in my own town
I was thinking about doing some side hustles, learning a new skill and working on myself too while doing it cuz it's an 8 morning to 2 afternoon job
And this video came up in the best time possible and made me feel better
Thank you brother
Much love from 🇮🇷
Came right on time
Bro, so you are telling me that when I turn 25 in a month... I can still make it? Oh damn! 💥
My porn addiction led to me loosing my wife. Married at 26, divorced by just shy of 30. Don’t watch porn
That girl never loved you if she did she would never project her insecurities on to you and break up with you. A woman breaking up with you because you have an addiction is 👿👎 ridiculous.
Similar situation for me too, it’s tough to look back and deal with. Stay strong get social and improve. Not too late to find another girl and be happy brother.
At 30, I had a dead end job and a wife who was a complete liability. Left the job, dropped the wife. I have two houses, a healthy portfolio and almost making $200k annually.
Kevin saved you rip
Mickey Rourke became famous at his 30-40s and before he was starving and working to pay for acting lessons
didnt know that, amazing to hear
Amazing! Thank you Denmo
My life was complete shit, 13-23, everything just went better from there. The was really low lol. But im doing good now. A job, a wife, family and a home.
Recently started watching you man, you definitely been helping
I just turned 23. This was a good video for me to see right now. Thanks for the reminder bro 🤛
Got out of the military. Did the infantry for 4 years. Did not go to college and I'm not going to. Moved out for 2 years now got a job as a Cop don't like it not enough. Joining the Guard in Utah and trying out SF hopefully I can find my identity again. Is there anyone out there who having a hard time like me?
Met some SF candidates who were going SF Guard. Real good dudes. Strong too.
@@fzerobuffnippleyea4958going to fort Jackson in January
Get his socializer course bro. I was in the USMC infantry for 4 years and this course has really helped me a lot.
I’ve been out for 4 years and I realized I had to not make that my whole identity anymore. Still looking for a purpose, I think the infantry makes it hard to find actual purpose in the real world, but I’m working everyday at it
I haven't stopped yet, cuz I will never stop
😅 i am almost 24 i am a polyglot, trying to be a software engineer, and i have an entrepreneurial mindset.
For some reason my mind was telling me i am doing bad this video came in the right time.
You should also remember everything you accomplished in your late 20's. I thought I wasted them but looking back I accomplished a lot.
Thanks 4 this Denmo we will continue to stay the path
sounds good my man
Am 23 and am super shy I can’t stand people my age getting into relationships and I can’t find no one it’s stressful
Pt 4 is true bro, ultimately the guys lose out. I’m 29 now my ex of 6 years got bored and left now I’m playing catch up, but it’s not over i been improving so fking fast it’s nuts I’m already peaking after few months and I’m not stopping. It’s possible to come back kings .
Just work out bro and have your own hobbies and run the house
Very interesting. From 17-22 my family kept encouraging me to date. They would say things like "I think [insert name of girl from school] likes you, you should ask her out!" and "you interested in any girls from band practice?". Now that i'm 24, this energy has completely stopped, and I am expected to get my shit together before putting any attention into dating.
maybe you're one of those who "need a woman's touch" to get back on track?
This is great, I really felt attached to everything youre saying!
Going to turn 29 next April... and I am scared of going into Engineering for 4 years and finishing the degree at 33... the thought of "am I too old now?" "Can I even get a job at that age?" hunt me... and idk what to do.
Change is awesome. I’m excited to get out of my country and go into film!
good man i believe in you
Great video to watch and look back on as a 33 year old.
Literally me, 33... I had it all a year ago, an amazing career, a fiancée, a house... and lost it all.
Now I'm on the grind, starting all over again, about to go to university next year, losing weight, trying to get my health back...
Much love boys, focus on the grind and good things will come your way 💯
U will get back, may take time, maybe years. but you'll be there :)
@@auliaazzi8578 appreciate your support, much love back to you brother 🙏
Shit dude lost it all?
@@tomdoingfunstuff yes brother... it brought me to my knees... took everything not to give up. Started to focus on solutions. On the proper path now
What happened bro?
I spent my early 20s all into minimalism and philosophy and shit and it really delayed my ability to make money.
It’s a shame because now with all the stress of my current business I don’t feel like I have the same energy I used to
Was it bad? The minimalism and philosophy phase? I mean was it not ”worth it”
Overall I think it was pretty beneficial. I don't really want much except being healthy and doing work I find meaningful.
It's kind of hard to find the motivation to seek money since I don't care about cars or watches or any of that stuff, but I find freedom and security really important so that drives me to make money. My main goal is to help people and do something I enjoy.
What I regret is when I used to think making money was stupid and that I should just live off nothing haha lower your needs is cool and all, but we all need money to survive and give back.@@nikosgoutakolis3670
Thank you for this!
no problem bro, send it to your friends
Turning 26 next year.
Starting tattoos and so much more but even then, I’m just worried I’ll stay stuck.
I never had a great social life until late 30's when I moved to another city and joined fraternal societies.
Great content Denmo, thanks! Greetings from Brazil.
thanks G shoutout to brazil
Here here is another like and comment to help you grow, Love your stuff bro👊
Great video brother, stay the course everyone I pray we don’t go astray
I feel all of this at 21 so i can only imagine at 25-30
bro my girl always comes back when I finally am up for improving myself AFTER she breakes up HAHAHAHA
holy shit, thats so true man........totally relatable !
like the saying goes: "nothing good grows in a comfort zone"
Thx for the encouragement Denmo, appreciate it 🤜
I’m interested and glad i came across this channel Ive been honest confused about life and this helped as a 19 year old male. Working towards an engineering degree in either nuclear or aerospace. I honestly never fitted in HS cause i am honestly an old soul i don’t have social media. Really cool video and learn from this!
Im about to be 25 in a few day, i just drive a truck, nothing more, nothing less, i am content with it. I don't need other people. I just do what i want when i want when im done driving for the day.
I do own a home that was built this year so thats pretty neat, amassing my fortune is whats kept me going
Appreciate your content bro
I gotchu nico
I'm 22years old now, me watching this video again in 2033 10years later the man i became.
Thanks for this video am 25 and it helped a lot :)
THIS man be super motivational
Many people have brothers, cousins, and things like that (i wont bet on on childhood friends, as to not be far-fetched). When you see them wholeheartedly engaging in business, relationships and the like, you kinda feel like doing that to your own life. Because a normal person has an idea of what it it is needed to achieve these, but seeing these things unfolding succesfully in close ones is a further push.
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:00 🚨 *Between ages 25 to 30, men often face two situations: a struggling life or excessive comfort leading to decline.*
02:21 🎓 *Society's shift from viewing you as a young adult to expecting you to "grow up" can make you defensive, hindering personal growth. *
04:56 🔄 *Loneliness and isolation in your mid-20s, especially in the corporate world, may push you to conform to others' lifestyles, impacting your authenticity.*
07:18 🌐 *Fear of change and being set in old ways restrict personal and professional growth, preventing men from taking necessary risks.*
09:11 💑 *Allowing a girlfriend to dictate your life can lead to complacency, hindering self-improvement and potentially jeopardizing the relationship.*
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Thank you. Really needed this message. I'm 28 and even though life's been easy on the money/work side, I question myself a lot if the grind will be worth it.
Keep up the videos bro! Cheers from Brazil (:
shoutout to Brazil keep going homie
I appreciate the reminder that men peak in their 30s. God Bless you. 🙏
Life was never easy for me.
Denmo your thumbnail are sick 🔥🔥🔥. I am facing reason 2 in my 20s lonely 😢
I'm right there with ya bud.
@@dardhadard837am late teens and struggling the same
Great great great video man. Thank you, cheers
Once you've found a person both of you have to make goals together or else there's no direction in either of your lives. The relationship will become stale and infidelity is likely to occur. And/or other issues like lack of trust in the relationship, or just a general end of the partnership. In 2023 i based a lot of my effort on finding a woman. She's here now and now it's time for me to figure out what to do outside of my romantic life. I am going to see if i can start working towards financial independence again come 2024.
Idk what you talking about but sheesh life got easier for me. Last 10 years were just straight up wars for me both, parents died exc. After I turned 25 this year I finally had a year of peace lol. Life was never easy for me so it’s only up from here.
Denmo cooked again
Thank you for the video.
I love how Denmo came from interviewing drunk girls and get clicks to a big influence for a whole generation❤
Dont even have 5 friends. Living in a House with my brother. I Have 1 friend. If I count my brother 2 friends. 5 friends seems too much to handle for me.
well the brother is the most important one so no problem
This guy knows.
Thank you so much for the video ❤ am 17 and i am going to college next year although i really dont want it i am doing it for my parents and people but i was truly planning on not going and this video really makes me want to take risk and pursue what i truly want to do with is to become a professional video editor and artist and if it doesnt work out i can always go back
Absolute based mate
what's so bad about being lonely, while you're building yourself?