I try all the time. Just yesterday a man's card was declined in front of me for some soup and chicken patties. Rich looking people aggravated behind me and a broken man in front of me. I only had 80 dollars to last two weeks but I stopped him as he was leaving the store and brought him back in to buy his purchase. He said thankyou so much. I told him I don't have much but happy to help. The rich people behind didn't say a word and didn't even react but to be in more disgust that I held up the line longer. I don't feel sorry for that man who wanted a meal. I feel sorry for those rich people who have lost something much more special. Compassion and love.
I was in my 20's in New York when I came across a man in rags with newspaper binding his feet in the cold, staring through a mcDonalds window at all the people eating and ignoring him. I went in an bought him 2 of everything. He could barely respond as I handed him the two bags, he was not able to. I have since realized people are on a path of knowledge gained through experience. You cant know something only mentally, you must feel it to know it. Ive realized people are the way they are because of choices made and everyone is expanding. Im saying communism is dark. The freedom to learn and choose until you know good and know your own power is crucial. Im not saying I dont help when asked. Im saying we are each responsible for our evolvment in the physical experience. Freebies are for the handicapped. And for gift giving. Not to handicap a person perfectly capable of taking their journey and being responsible for their choices. The maudlin weeping of triggered emotional and unhealed people, often women, not understanding why why why, is not a source of wisdom. Its a reason to know the power of our beliefs.
@@FuchsiaFire444I hope you got him shoes as well. We r all in different phases of our development. Regarding tidying and cleaning some children already at a level I might never reach. Same goes for people skills. But when I see injustice bullying or can offer any help. I usually will. And I will speak up. The thing is we can't have it all. We sacrifice certain skills in order to excel at others. Our capacity is Limited.
I was bullied and abused as a child, struggled with drug addiction, many chronic health problems, most all my family has passed away from su1c1de, my 2 children are disabled, and I recently got diagnosed with Autism, which explains many of my struggles. I refuse to not love this life. I will always keep my heart open to others and try my best to help. I am not good nor bad, I just am. Art, the beauty of this world, and people like this lovely person keep me going. Wisdom is priceless and can only come from a lived life. To many, I don't deserve to exist, but I will until my time on this planet is over, and I return to it. Beautiful words in this wonderful video. Thank you ❤
You are a wise woman. I can relate to you in concern the hardships and continuous struggle. And yet, my experiences have made me a wealth of life understanding. I would not trade my life for an easier life. Sending you all my love. ❤
Your story is very similar to mine. Bullied and abused, chronic health problems, lost loved ones to su1c1d3, late diagnosed autism. My own mother doesn't think I deserve to exist. She thinks I'm a selfish, disgusting monster. My entire life, the world has kicked me down and told me I was a freak that did not deserved to be loved. Every time I've ever experienced love, it was under the condition I masked my true self in perpetuity. That I remained quiet, polite, and convenient at every hour of every day. I have lived a life of pain and loneliness and once considered ending it all to escape the cycle. Nowadays, I stand up to the cruelty of nature and humanity, spit in its face, and tell them they can't stop me from being happy. I dance DAILY. I sing, I kick my feet, giggle, flap my hands. I create art that shows the beauty and joys of the world I've had the pleasure of experiencing alongside the ones I crave the most. I only have this one life and I refuse to waste another second wallowing in misery when I could use that time to smile and create beautiful things.
Thanks Emmy. I suffer daily. So daily I turn simple things into a theatrical production. I rescue worms from the road, smile at people when they can't see me, talk to myself, wear lipstick, laugh at nothing in particular, love every tiny creature with all my heart and judge no-one. I cry a lot, but that's okay.
Keep going!!!! It’s not going to be “easy” - some days are incredibly tough, incredibly painful. But the other days, gradually, the good days, will increase. Keep striving to learn and evolve and be a better version of who you WERE. I told myself I’d never “heal” because I knew that it would be a lifelong journey…until my last breath I will be growing…because not one of us is perfect. We just have to keep striving. Peace, comfort, joy, love, and light ❤
As a retired person,, It takes me all day just to have coffee, and breakfast, read facebook, emails and youtube, and then do dishes, take shower, make bed. Yes, incredibly hard to maintain myself, and then have time for fun is not easy. And by 3pm, I am pooped. Thank you for your loveliness and wisdom , you are a treasure.
Here is a saying - " till the field , draw water , become enlightened , till the field , draw water ". With this in mind your seemingly dull routine becomes a meditation on how beautiful are the small things in life.
yes most days it feels like that .. just doing life 'maintenance' takes time .. and when you awaken early you run out of steam early too .. however since we are 'retired' there is no pressure to excel or be productive and only have to answer to our selves .. try to plan fun time into the daily routine .. music .. a walk .. even shopping can be a social event ...
@@direwolf6234so true! Life maintenance takes up most of the day and I’m not very social- so when my family says to me “what do you even DO with your days?” as if it’s not enough…… it makes me feel like I’m doing something really wrong here. 😢
Please don't associate with toxic people, especially family. I'm71, I know from experience. There's nothing wrong with you, beautiful soul, celebrate life & be good to yourself! Whatever makes you happy, a companion animal, gardening, craft projects, & don't forget good music!💖💖💖💖💖💖
It shouldn't if we'd had proper direction. Our minds are warped by media even before we attend school; an institution once designed to process unquestioning industrial commodity, now supplanted by political activists with terrifying goals in mind. Once, we were wise enough to learn from our elders. We would congregate with them along with our children. We used to learn. Now we simply comply.
Is anyone going to talk about how visually stunning this video is? The lightning, your silvery hair blowing and all of this contrasting with the sobering message. The Artist in me loves all of it. 😍
I suffer with chronic depression, ptsd and drug addiction recovery. I'm having a crap run, atm. I'm off work, looking after Foggle... my oldest chicken, who's sick. I spent the day crying, and looking after her. She slept on me and groomed my beard. That's enough for me. I am blessed.
As the kitty sleeps next to me, I'm reminded how we must protect our friends in an unfair world. Birth Life Death, all species, all equal in that regard.
I'm a cat owner too and I think the same but I'm also highly aware that this is impossible as a cat owner. The cat food is always from mass market meat. Those animals aren't allowed to live a good life. And yet, we need the food for our kitties to have a good life. Cats can't be vegan, even if the most fundamentalist vegans want it to be so. Even if I became fully vegan, I would still buy so much meat for my two house tigers. And yet, cats are what makes my life a tiny bit less bad. So I will probably own cats for the rest of my life. Sometimes, we have to choose the evil we do.
@@phoebeel Ultimately, I believe this is what lab grown meat is for. It's not really necessary for humans, but we could use it to feed obligate carnivores like wild and domestic cats. x
There are some things we can’t do anything about. I just saw there are 2 million homeless cats in Hawaii alone. How do you choose between saving a cat vs not wanting to have to participate in the terrible pet food production system? It’s a rock and a hard place.
But then, @@NataschaO what about the land that will be taken to build the labs to grow the meat? Those animals will lose their homes, and the planet will become less healthy with less trees. There will always be a loser.
I too live on the north Norfolk coast England and I too pick up litter and plastic from the promenade and beach so that it doesn't end up in the sea. Such a lovely simple pleasure indeed. Blessings good neighbour x
Everyone will reach old age one day, the point is, what wisdom did you gather and learn from? Always try to do what is right! Stay on the right and good side of history! Art and love is the most beautiful gift the creator gave us, every one can give love, everyone can either love or do art! Giving is always better than receiving in the long run!
Emmy, I’m learning this on my disability acceptance journey. I make little watercolor art pieces and give them to people. It’s my way of alchemizing and counterbalancing all the darkness. I used to work in big tech and compete in Ironman triathlon - Ego compensation, wounded bird. Of course it felt unfair I couldn’t dominate on the race course and rake in 6 figures anymore but that was clearly not my design or destiny. 💓
i love your positive attitude. I often think about how unfair life is for lots of people and dont know how I'd cope if i were in their situations which lead me to believe not every situation is "copable" which would lead me to depression... but seeing how you radiate positivity gives me hope that maybe there is always a way out... thank you and know that your optimism is inspiring. i pray goodness and abundance reaches you in life. lots of love 💞
@@princess_zulica Thank you so much for your kindness. 🙇 Living with autism is one of those un-cope-with-able things and led me into the deepest depression of my life the past 4 years after diagnosis, which I'm slowly coming out of after processing my entire life again through that newfound awareness about myself. I'm 40, and it's taken me this long to unravel some beliefs and decouple some of that to get back to living life more freely, more connected with better boundaries, more as ME! I found a lot of my unhappiness was other people's thoughts and beliefs about me, also noticed how politics and religion divide families. I get to choose how I show up in the world, the only thing I have some influence over, so that's what led me out- daily routine of self care, exercise, focus on nutrition, art, basically watering my garden, showing up for myself. 🌞
I'm leaving the country I was born in 64 years ago, seeking a new life somewhere else. This place has not always been good for me or to me, until I find myself alone, isolated, sad and very concerned. Maybe a new beginning in a new land will repair this broken heart and give me new life. Thank you for confirming my quest.
Wishing you much strength, courage and determination. It is a big challenge you are taking on and it will pay dividends after you get through all the difficulties that it will create for you, which is exactly how it works in life generally.
I so identify. Wishing you safe travels, ease and grace as you manoeuvre yourself into your new life. 5 years ago, at 67, did the same. Sold up and left. And it's been rewarding and challenging in equal measure. Grit and inner fortitude is needed. Draw from yourself and hopefully you have someone whose hand you can hold. I didn't but here I am. Blessings and take care. 🙏🥇🧡
I too am thinking of moving to Ireland, the land of my forefathers. The division and anger here in the U.S. is discouraging. I am 70, and want to live what life I have left in peace. If you pray, could you put in a good word for me, and my bew life adventure❤
These days, I often find the state of the world very depressing. However, I've discovered that there is great comfort and joy to be found in 'simple pleasures' (e.g. a cup of tea whilst looking at the birds in the garden), creative projects (e.g. music, making things) and doing something positive with others (e.g. working for an environmental charity). The world is - and probably always will be - very unfair, but I agree, we can spread seeds of hope and shine a little light of kindness.
That spoke to me. I feel at 50 yrs old that I do my work and hide away in my home, when I know I need to give something back by maybe voluntereering in some form, or joining a rambling group, or finding new musicians to play with. I know I would be happier for it. My life has mostly revolved around alcohol when it comes to socialising and I don't want that life anymore. I want the courage to change it for good, and get out there and meet people as the sober, authentic me.
I wish you so much happiness and joy! You've got this and you are precious just as you are! Becoming genuine is one of the most beautiful and important things we can do in life... A dog may be our most loving companion 🤍
“Why do you stay in prison when the door is so wide open? Move outside the tangle of fear-thinking. The entrance door to the sanctuary is inside you.” ― Rumi
As someone who has no grandparents and no contact with narcissistic parents and moving to a foreign country to grow as a person and create a new life I thank you so much for sharing this wisdom. 🙏
Thank you, Granny. I am nearly 40, life has been challenging, but I am training to be Parish Vicar and find that Pastoral Care gives my life purpose. Purpose is more precious than wealth.
In the 70s and 80s I had a serious learning disability. I really had a lot of problems back then. I hated myself and judged myself next to other more successful people. But one day I finally understood that other people in the world had it worse than me. I understood my life wasn’t that bad. I started to love myself more and I started attracting good things into my life. My struggles have made me a more thoughtful person. I have more empathy now when I see people in daily struggle. I’m grateful now.
@@michaelknapp8961 Fabulous Michael! You have put the existential ideas into practice and have created a good life for yourself in which you understand the struggle and appreciate what you have achieved.
Cheese cloth mysticism. o.k if you have good land in the country, meanwhile many are stuck renting an overpriced shoe box from a capitalist slumlord and doing things they hate just to survive.
When She said "make the most of what you have been given."That really struck a chord with me. Even though you hear this all throughout your life, somehow She seems to have the capacity to communicate on a cellular level. ❤🎉 Thank you for your healing work.🎉❤
To add to your wise words, I recommend the poem, Desiderata by Max Ehrmann. Within the poem it states, ‘for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself’. Such humbling words. I truly like this poem. It keeps me grounded. Thank you for your video : )
It’s amazing to return to that poem after reading it as a child. I made a video about the man who wrote it because I was curious to find out how he came into this wisdom. I hope people find your comment and go look for the poem again. It has so much healing possible in it.
Hello! RUclips just recommended this video to me. Im an artist and i've just finished painting for the day, and laid down to have a rest and watch some videos. I have some chronic illnesses and Carpal tunnel, so I can only make art a few hours a week these days. Sometimes I get frustrated and discouraged and don't make anything for months. You reminded me that it's okay and to keep going, even if it's slower than before. Thank you! ❤
This is what we need, those that can articulate the self so well, and share with others what they understand of the world. The more stories we tell, and hear and explore and listen too. The more we shall listen, and understand one another. Fairness comes from within, it is your spirit - shaped by character, - conscience, fellowship, and intuition. (Yes, I did google it and take the first answer). Now I am lost, anyway - I fancied sharing these thoughts on this video because I have resonated with it so much. We need more Emmy van Deurzens! Plural. Thankyou, friend.
Thank you. Emmy. A small amount of encouragement goes a long way with me. I believe we need a channel with older folks who have some meaningful words to share with those who are willing to love, listen,learn and grow. From: A 75 year old life time learner.
if my parents ever just said something similar even ONCE (yes generic) but uplifting and insightful feeling type things…i’d be in a better place most likely. they’ve esteemed me w literally nothing nor hope tbh.
As i said before I truly appreciate the gift you share with others, communication that is common sense based and directly to the human heart. Thank you Emmy.
The thought of equality and class don't exist. All of us have the same energy within us, exert it the same, and radiate it the same; those who don't have a lot of material things are spared the misery that comes from wealth...their energy is spent maintaining that wealth rather than evolving, growing, and advancing themselves. Those without a lot of material things can focus on the things that truly matter. What a gift!!!
The thing about videos like this is that the wisdom pours out of the speaker and makes me realise that we are all dealing with the same problems and issues. I really hear you ❤😂
Thank you for your intelligent and loving words. Where the world strives for ‘getting it all’ I like your sentiment that ‘it’s enough’. Being at peace with oneself and others isn’t something that everyone achieves.
I respect what you shared - thank you. My “however” is these days (the last 33+ yrs) I have let go of words such as “fair” or “unfair”, as the latter leads to resentments. I deal with life on life’s terms or on God’s term and live in the world of gratitude. I cannot afford a resentment thru thinking it is all “fair or unfair”…. By having gratitude from the first 2 gifts of the day - my eyesight…. I live one day at a time. For ME that works and when it doesn’t, I know to delve into my heart & spirit. Thank you for yr beautiful and wise share. Chris, NZ
@@ChrisBlack-v2v Welcome friend. I agree one hundred percent, but sometimes it is important to meet people where they are. ruclips.net/video/xhT83TJqwVM/видео.htmlsi=miZIWOlMsCiKmRBR
I resonate with your sentiments, Chris. I practice living life on life’s terms even when it bites. One day at a time. Looking to the Light. Count my blessings. Remember to focus on the prize. From Terri Jo in Hope, B.C., Canada
My Grand mother was Dutch. I remember her even though she passed when I was young. She was so sweet and beautiful. Your smile reminds me of her. Thank you, your messages and advice are just what I need to hear.
Beautiful wisdoms from an equally beautiful and wise soul. Thank you for that, much needed and timely advice delivered with such compassion and kindness 🙏❤️Eternal blessings to you
I really love this approach. It acknowledges the unfairness of life, which many positive philosophies do not. And it embraces a bit of stoicism as well, making life obstacles into building blocks for the work of art you speak of. I will be rewatching this video, I'm sure, when I need a reminder. 🤗❤
You are so beautiful in that nature all around you, like the prettiest flower. Your voice speaking so beautiful. Thank you for being you and sharing this message with me tonight. You make me feel I’ll be alright.
I appreciate you sharing this with people. There are a lot of reasons to get discouraged during your life so it's nice to have a pep talk every now and then.
It’s been so freeing to come to terms with this fact as I’ve walked along my healing path. It’s been so fascinating to me how you can hear the truth a million times from people who want to hurt you with it, and you’ll never believe it for a second. When you hear it once from someone who simply wants to give you the chance to know it, you believe it almost instantly. The part that’s hardest to emotionally accept, is that you have to accept that the first group will always tell themselves they’re the second, and you should love them for trying anyway.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom! ❤️ We are not equal, we are all unique and special. “Always remember that you are absolutely unique. Just like everyone else.” ~ Margaret Mead
I lost my notebook that one rainy afternoon, there are notes that I wrote that is included in the requirements, it was devastating and one night later, this popped up. I certainly agree the world is still unfair and unequal and all of the things I experience, that past, it's already been done, but it still gets me because I still bereaved on it(well only in the notebook part) like someone I gave all that heart and passion died because of my forgetfulness. I panicked, overreacted, worried that thats it in my life but thanks be to god, my mom, knows how to calm me down. And again of that statement, you popped up, you're in my RUclips's recommended videos and wow, you made me think that life is art, create, experiment, destroy, reinvent, perfected and preserved, and the cycle goes on. And to add that, you made think that my life is kind of a dramatic renaissance art because I think that is, like some Soap Opera, god, I said too much and I just wanna say thank you, just thank you for all of it.
Coming to the realization of how much trauma and abuse I’ve been through has been hard. But what I’ve been reminded of recently is the compassion, kindness, and understanding I’ve gained of myself and the world during my journey. Although the road may not have been entirely kind to me, I find in myself the kindness to help myself and the people in my life in ways I didn’t get before. ❤
What a gem you are. Each day has lessons and blessings built into it. You just have to look , learn, and Love. Tons of opportunities for growth. It's why we are here and time is short. Sending Love to ALL❤❤❤
It is interesting how you describe inequality in the terms of age and presence. I love how you talk about what we can do. I’ve always been into fairness but sometimes it turns into judgement. Thank you for this adaptation. My daughter told me she wants to be a lawyer. She has had a great sense of justice. As a small child even calling me out on my own actions. I’m excited to see what she does with it.
Emmy, I totally agree! Everyone has something to offer. Something really good!! Our struggles may not look the same, but like you said, look for what is good no matter what is going on in your life. Make the changes that you can make, and don't compare yourself to others,
Ah Emmy, thank you so much for continuing to post your wonderful wise self. As you share in this video, when I am attentive and do my best I do indeed find that it is enough and I am enough. I am 62 and I am grateful to at last to feel enough. When I walk through the mountains and forests here where I live in Wicklow, Ireland I feel like one of the trees (all different and in different places) and your words are true to me that life is not fair and we are not equal but I do have a choice as to how I take my space and inhabit my body and biography. My good wishes to you my friend; le grá
@@LilyGazou Took me a life time to live in this way. Did twenty years of daily commutes into London from the suburbs and twenty two years of weekly commutes from Sheffield to London. But I always chose to live in houses that had some parkland nearby.
What a blessing that I had your face pop up on my screen. You are speaking everything I have always believed but, through pure fear, have forgotten to practice. Thank you. You have rekindled a spark of courage in my spirit. I’m thankful for your life and your courage which has inspired you to speak out and call out truth to myself and others. Today I make a choice to live in less fear. Again, thank you. God be with you. Xoxo
What a gift and fortunate blessing to hear your message, Emmy! Much in alignment with an anonymous philosophical and/or spiritual design for living that I practice with gratitude. Thanks from Terri Jo in Hope, B.C. Canada
Life is unfair on purpose. It's how we deal with it that determines our rise or fall in consciousness. It is impossible to be alive without struggling with something. That is the purpose of life.
Being Nice to yourself is a Great Start, Have the Same Respect for Yourself as you do for that Special Friend that You Have, Let Self Love Grow from the Inside by Not Looking for Validation on the Outside & Don’t Compare Yourself to Others - Gratitude for This Message 🙏🏻💛✨
I discovered this video at a beautiful point in my life where I'm finally starting to not hate the person looking back at me in the bathroom mirror. Thank you so very much. You are such an amazing and wonderful human being. I'm thankful that we share space on this planet together. From many miles away, your words have changed someone's life.❤
"We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars." Oscar Wilde
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@@uzeela ❤
@@evagrosz1621 precisely.
@@EmmyvanDeurzen ❤
Lovely! I like that even better than the saying, “we’re all in the same ocean but we’re not all in the same boat.” 🫶🏽
I try all the time. Just yesterday a man's card was declined in front of me for some soup and chicken patties. Rich looking people aggravated behind me and a broken man in front of me. I only had 80 dollars to last two weeks but I stopped him as he was leaving the store and brought him back in to buy his purchase. He said thankyou so much. I told him I don't have much but happy to help. The rich people behind didn't say a word and didn't even react but to be in more disgust that I held up the line longer. I don't feel sorry for that man who wanted a meal. I feel sorry for those rich people who have lost something much more special. Compassion and love.
Good points and good deeds. You are so on the right track, my friend.
this is beautiful it brought tears to my eyes, i’m so glad there are still loving people in this world
I was in my 20's in New York when I came across a man in rags with newspaper binding his feet in the cold, staring through a mcDonalds window at all the people eating and ignoring him. I went in an bought him 2 of everything. He could barely respond as I handed him the two bags, he was not able to. I have since realized people are on a path of knowledge gained through experience. You cant know something only mentally, you must feel it to know it. Ive realized people are the way they are because of choices made and everyone is expanding. Im saying communism is dark. The freedom to learn and choose until you know good and know your own power is crucial. Im not saying I dont help when asked. Im saying we are each responsible for our evolvment in the physical experience. Freebies are for the handicapped. And for gift giving. Not to handicap a person perfectly capable of taking their journey and being responsible for their choices. The maudlin weeping of triggered emotional and unhealed people, often women, not understanding why why why, is not a source of wisdom. Its a reason to know the power of our beliefs.
I always tell these types a few minutes won't kill ya/hurt ya
@@FuchsiaFire444I hope you got him shoes as well. We r all in different phases of our development. Regarding tidying and cleaning some children already at a level I might never reach. Same goes for people skills. But when I see injustice bullying or can offer any help. I usually will. And I will speak up. The thing is we can't have it all. We sacrifice certain skills in order to excel at others. Our capacity is Limited.
I was bullied and abused as a child, struggled with drug addiction, many chronic health problems, most all my family has passed away from su1c1de, my 2 children are disabled, and I recently got diagnosed with Autism, which explains many of my struggles. I refuse to not love this life. I will always keep my heart open to others and try my best to help. I am not good nor bad, I just am. Art, the beauty of this world, and people like this lovely person keep me going. Wisdom is priceless and can only come from a lived life. To many, I don't deserve to exist, but I will until my time on this planet is over, and I return to it. Beautiful words in this wonderful video. Thank you ❤
@@theslitherysylvie4010 the world needs you !
You are a wise woman. I can relate to you in concern the hardships and continuous struggle. And yet, my experiences have made me a wealth of life understanding. I would not trade my life for an easier life. Sending you all my love. ❤
How did u heal from all that
Listen to NDE's it will explain so much.
Your story is very similar to mine. Bullied and abused, chronic health problems, lost loved ones to su1c1d3, late diagnosed autism. My own mother doesn't think I deserve to exist. She thinks I'm a selfish, disgusting monster.
My entire life, the world has kicked me down and told me I was a freak that did not deserved to be loved. Every time I've ever experienced love, it was under the condition I masked my true self in perpetuity. That I remained quiet, polite, and convenient at every hour of every day. I have lived a life of pain and loneliness and once considered ending it all to escape the cycle.
Nowadays, I stand up to the cruelty of nature and humanity, spit in its face, and tell them they can't stop me from being happy.
I dance DAILY. I sing, I kick my feet, giggle, flap my hands. I create art that shows the beauty and joys of the world I've had the pleasure of experiencing alongside the ones I crave the most. I only have this one life and I refuse to waste another second wallowing in misery when I could use that time to smile and create beautiful things.
What a WISE WOMAN. Even broken crayons still give us color.
is she the broken crayon in this equation😭
Thanks Emmy.
I suffer daily. So daily I turn simple things into a theatrical production. I rescue worms from the road, smile at people when they can't see me, talk to myself, wear lipstick, laugh at nothing in particular, love every tiny creature with all my heart and judge no-one. I cry a lot, but that's okay.
Me too 😊...except I rescue snails from sidewalks...otherwise ditto...and that's totally OK 🤗
@@MaryamBehairy Bravo! 🤗
Oh, I really like this. It resonates.
i would love to be your friend. with that kind of thinking the world is a tiny little better
Beautiful ❤️
"You have to work incredibly hard to just maintain yourself, let alone do well for yourself". This feels so true and I am doing my best
Fabulous. It's tough, but gratifying when you realize you are doing things right and getting results.
Yes I thought "finally someone said it." I never heard this truth out loud.
Keep going!!!! It’s not going to be “easy” - some days are incredibly tough, incredibly painful. But the other days, gradually, the good days, will increase. Keep striving to learn and evolve and be a better version of who you WERE. I told myself I’d never “heal” because I knew that it would be a lifelong journey…until my last breath I will be growing…because not one of us is perfect. We just have to keep striving. Peace, comfort, joy, love, and light ❤
@@wholewellnesswithann Spot on.
@@wholewellnesswithann in our imperfections we are perfectly unique; each one of us a miracle seemingly by chance.
As a retired person,, It takes me all day just to have coffee, and breakfast, read facebook, emails and youtube, and then do dishes, take shower, make bed. Yes, incredibly hard to maintain myself, and then have time for fun is not easy. And by 3pm, I am pooped. Thank you for your loveliness and wisdom , you are a treasure.
Here is a saying - " till the field , draw water , become enlightened , till the field , draw water ".
With this in mind your seemingly dull routine becomes a meditation on how beautiful are the small things in life.
yes most days it feels like that .. just doing life 'maintenance' takes time .. and when you awaken early you run out of steam early too .. however since we are 'retired' there is no pressure to excel or be productive and only have to answer to our selves .. try to plan fun time into the daily routine .. music .. a walk .. even shopping can be a social event ...
@@direwolf6234so true! Life maintenance takes up most of the day and I’m not very social- so when my family says to me “what do you even DO with your days?” as if it’s not enough…… it makes me feel like I’m doing something really wrong here. 😢
Thank you for this lovely talk ❤
Please don't associate with toxic people, especially family.
I'm71, I know from experience. There's nothing wrong with you, beautiful soul, celebrate life & be good to yourself!
Whatever makes you happy, a companion animal, gardening, craft projects, & don't forget good music!💖💖💖💖💖💖
It takes many full moons to get to this level of beautiful wisdom
She has come into her crone wisdom. I am envious and eager to get there myself one day.
@@theimperfectscrapper5313 poetic 🔥
true
It shouldn't if we'd had proper direction. Our minds are warped by media even before we attend school; an institution once designed to process unquestioning industrial commodity, now supplanted by political activists with terrifying goals in mind. Once, we were wise enough to learn from our elders. We would congregate with them along with our children.
We used to learn. Now we simply comply.
Is anyone going to talk about how visually stunning this video is? The lightning, your silvery hair blowing and all of this contrasting with the sobering message. The Artist in me loves all of it. 😍
@@Jh90428 That is really lovely and unique feedback. Much appreciated.
@@EmmyvanDeurzen You are very welcome. Thank you for sharing your beautiful message.
And a lovely articulate voice with dignity to boot!
I loved it too!
Yes! Visually stunning! That is what attracted me to play this video. Yes, love love this message 🙏❤💫
I suffer with chronic depression, ptsd and drug addiction recovery. I'm having a crap run, atm. I'm off work, looking after Foggle... my oldest chicken, who's sick. I spent the day crying, and looking after her. She slept on me and groomed my beard. That's enough for me. I am blessed.
That sounds very sweet, despite everything.
I pray Foggle is better. I’m so thankful that you are giving love to each other. Peace be with you.
Checkout Eckhart Tolle. His mindfulness living could be very helpful.
Hope you feel better and stronger very soon ❤
To love and be loved in return especially by Foggle is a wonderful, mysterious privilege. You and your chickens are blessed indeed.
As the kitty sleeps next to me, I'm reminded how we must protect our friends in an unfair world. Birth Life Death, all species, all equal in that regard.
I'm a cat owner too and I think the same but I'm also highly aware that this is impossible as a cat owner. The cat food is always from mass market meat. Those animals aren't allowed to live a good life. And yet, we need the food for our kitties to have a good life. Cats can't be vegan, even if the most fundamentalist vegans want it to be so.
Even if I became fully vegan, I would still buy so much meat for my two house tigers. And yet, cats are what makes my life a tiny bit less bad. So I will probably own cats for the rest of my life. Sometimes, we have to choose the evil we do.
@@phoebeel Of course. Just do the best you can.
@@phoebeel Ultimately, I believe this is what lab grown meat is for. It's not really necessary for humans, but we could use it to feed obligate carnivores like wild and domestic cats. x
There are some things we can’t do anything about. I just saw there are 2 million homeless cats in Hawaii alone. How do you choose between saving a cat vs not wanting to have to participate in the terrible pet food production system? It’s a rock and a hard place.
But then, @@NataschaO what about the land that will be taken to build the labs to grow the meat? Those animals will lose their homes, and the planet will become less healthy with less trees. There will always be a loser.
I live on the coast in Norfolk England and my everyday pleasure is picking up plastic that has been washed in on the tide. Simple pleasures 👍🙏🌷
You are a guardian of the earth. 🌺
I live in Norwich this was lovely to read!
I too live on the north Norfolk coast England and I too pick up litter and plastic from the promenade and beach so that it doesn't end up in the sea. Such a lovely simple pleasure indeed. Blessings good neighbour x
I don't know who this women is but I want her for my grandmother 😭, what a beautiful soul.
She is like the guru i always felt was absent in my entire brief life
Everyone will reach old age one day, the point is, what wisdom did you gather and learn from? Always try to do what is right! Stay on the right and good side of history! Art and love is the most beautiful gift the creator gave us, every one can give love, everyone can either love or do art! Giving is always better than receiving in the long run!
SAME
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I highly recommend looking her up, she is an extremely accomplished existential therapist and has written many incredible books ❤❤
Just be the best you you can be. In a world where you can be anything, why not be kind? I am personally always grateful for smiles from strangers.
❤them too!
kindness is the key
Agreed!I wish I could have a friend like you
Emmy, I’m learning this on my disability acceptance journey. I make little watercolor art pieces and give them to people. It’s my way of alchemizing and counterbalancing all the darkness. I used to work in big tech and compete in Ironman triathlon - Ego compensation, wounded bird. Of course it felt unfair I couldn’t dominate on the race course and rake in 6 figures anymore but that was clearly not my design or destiny. 💓
@@SharkyJ40 this is the bigger challenge!
i love your positive attitude. I often think about how unfair life is for lots of people and dont know how I'd cope if i were in their situations which lead me to believe not every situation is "copable" which would lead me to depression... but seeing how you radiate positivity gives me hope that maybe there is always a way out... thank you and know that your optimism is inspiring. i pray goodness and abundance reaches you in life. lots of love 💞
@@princess_zulica Thank you so much for your kindness. 🙇 Living with autism is one of those un-cope-with-able things and led me into the deepest depression of my life the past 4 years after diagnosis, which I'm slowly coming out of after processing my entire life again through that newfound awareness about myself. I'm 40, and it's taken me this long to unravel some beliefs and decouple some of that to get back to living life more freely, more connected with better boundaries, more as ME! I found a lot of my unhappiness was other people's thoughts and beliefs about me, also noticed how politics and religion divide families. I get to choose how I show up in the world, the only thing I have some influence over, so that's what led me out- daily routine of self care, exercise, focus on nutrition, art, basically watering my garden, showing up for myself. 🌞
This share was a blessing, thank you . 💐
Do you share your little watercolor works anywhere online? I'd love to see them 🤗
My inner child just adopted you as a foster parent, just an FYI... Thanks, Emmy!
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AHHHHH, The sound of lovely rational, logical, and wise speech. Thank You!🙏
Welcome to my channel.
@@EmmyvanDeurzen Thank you
I'm leaving the country I was born in 64 years ago, seeking a new life somewhere else. This place has not always been good for me or to me, until I find myself alone, isolated, sad and very concerned. Maybe a new beginning in a new land will repair this broken heart and give me new life. Thank you for confirming my quest.
Wishing you much strength, courage and determination. It is a big challenge you are taking on and it will pay dividends after you get through all the difficulties that it will create for you, which is exactly how it works in life generally.
@@EmmyvanDeurzenwherever you go,
there you are
@@NoMeNoYouNot2 Absolutely.
I so identify.
Wishing you safe travels, ease and grace as you manoeuvre yourself into your new life.
5 years ago, at 67, did the same. Sold up and left. And it's been rewarding and challenging in equal measure.
Grit and inner fortitude is needed. Draw from yourself and hopefully you have someone whose hand you can hold. I didn't but here I am.
Blessings and take care. 🙏🥇🧡
I too am thinking of moving to Ireland, the land of my forefathers. The division and anger here in the U.S. is discouraging. I am 70, and want to live what life I have left in peace. If you pray, could you put in a good word for me, and my bew life adventure❤
Nice to stumble upon a positive RUclips video!
These days, I often find the state of the world very depressing. However, I've discovered that there is great comfort and joy to be found in 'simple pleasures' (e.g. a cup of tea whilst looking at the birds in the garden), creative projects (e.g. music, making things) and doing something positive with others (e.g. working for an environmental charity). The world is - and probably always will be - very unfair, but I agree, we can spread seeds of hope and shine a little light of kindness.
Read my book Rising from Existential Crisis!
That spoke to me. I feel at 50 yrs old that I do my work and hide away in my home, when I know I need to give something back by maybe voluntereering in some form, or joining a rambling group, or finding new musicians to play with. I know I would be happier for it. My life has mostly revolved around alcohol when it comes to socialising and I don't want that life anymore. I want the courage to change it for good, and get out there and meet people as the sober, authentic me.
We are very much alike, Andy. I am 58 and live a life very much like yours it sounds. Blessings to you! I wish you happiness, peace, and contentment.
I wish you so much happiness and joy! You've got this and you are precious just as you are!
Becoming genuine is one of the most beautiful and important things we can do in life... A dog may be our most loving companion 🤍
YES! ♥️
“Why do you stay in prison when the door is so wide open? Move outside the tangle of fear-thinking. The entrance door to the sanctuary is inside you.” ― Rumi
When you've been caged all your life you don't know what freedom is.
I'm 67. No extra money. When I listen to you I believe you.
I’ve a feeling this lady has ( mostly at least) lived by her words. ❤
Working on it.
@@EmmyvanDeurzen😊🙏♥️blessings to you Emmy, thanks for a lovely reminder... 🥰🌼♥️🙏💚🌱🌈💫
As someone who has no grandparents and no contact with narcissistic parents and moving to a foreign country to grow as a person and create a new life I thank you so much for sharing this wisdom. 🙏
Wishing you all the best!
My story is the the exact same as yours and I applaud you for taking that big step! All the best! 💯✨
Lucky are the people who have you as a friend and acquaintance.
Wealth is fleeting
Hold your peace
It’s priceless I’m learning
Ive never heard equality and justice explained like this. Very wise.
Thank you, Granny. I am nearly 40, life has been challenging, but I am training to be Parish Vicar and find that Pastoral Care gives my life purpose. Purpose is more precious than wealth.
Her name is Emmy
In the 70s and 80s I had a serious learning disability. I really had a lot of problems back then. I hated myself and judged myself next to other more successful people. But one day I finally understood that other people in the world had it worse than me. I understood my life wasn’t that bad. I started to love myself more and I started attracting good things into my life. My struggles have made me a more thoughtful person. I have more empathy now when I see people in daily struggle. I’m grateful now.
@@michaelknapp8961 Fabulous Michael! You have put the existential ideas into practice and have created a good life for yourself in which you understand the struggle and appreciate what you have achieved.
During such a difficult time in my life, talks like yours are like flowers along the way. A lovely way to start my day. Thank you, Emmy! 💚🌹❤
As Marcus Aurelius always said the only thing we can control is our reasoned mind.
Thank you for this content. A breath of fresh air to hear deep truth from elders. 🌊
Cheese cloth mysticism. o.k if you have good land in the country, meanwhile many are stuck renting an overpriced shoe box from a capitalist slumlord and doing things they hate just to survive.
When She said "make the most of what you have been given."That really struck a chord with me.
Even though you hear this all throughout your life, somehow She seems to have the capacity to communicate on a cellular level.
❤🎉 Thank you for your healing work.🎉❤
To add to your wise words, I recommend the poem, Desiderata by Max Ehrmann. Within the poem it states, ‘for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself’. Such humbling words. I truly like this poem. It keeps me grounded. Thank you for your video : )
It’s amazing to return to that poem after reading it as a child. I made a video about the man who wrote it because I was curious to find out how he came into this wisdom.
I hope people find your comment and go look for the poem again. It has so much healing possible in it.
Thank you so very much beautiful wise lady. I will let my light shine on this world. Wisest person ever. I will forever come back to this video.
That was real nice. A gentle soul, spreading a little kindness with no barriers. Sweet. My day just got better. Thanks, mum.
Hello! RUclips just recommended this video to me. Im an artist and i've just finished painting for the day, and laid down to have a rest and watch some videos. I have some chronic illnesses and Carpal tunnel, so I can only make art a few hours a week these days. Sometimes I get frustrated and discouraged and don't make anything for months. You reminded me that it's okay and to keep going, even if it's slower than before. Thank you! ❤
@@Katie_v absolutely 👍
"TAKE UP SPACE & BE FAIR TO YOURSELF" - wise words - working on it 🥰🙂 thank you
“You can use the problems as building blocks to pave a better way for yourself in this world”
Wonderful kind and clear. It is inspiring, when I see the message coming through the eyes of the messenger. Thank you kindly ❤
This is what we need, those that can articulate the self so well, and share with others what they understand of the world. The more stories we tell, and hear and explore and listen too. The more we shall listen, and understand one another. Fairness comes from within, it is your spirit - shaped by character, - conscience, fellowship, and intuition. (Yes, I did google it and take the first answer). Now I am lost, anyway - I fancied sharing these thoughts on this video because I have resonated with it so much. We need more Emmy van Deurzens! Plural. Thankyou, friend.
@@harrison3177 your appreciation is important to me.
*THIS WAS MY PRONOIA SIGN FROM THE UNIVERSE TODAY. THANK YOU!*
Words of love, softly spoken. Such a Blessing. Thank you!
Thank you. Emmy. A small amount of encouragement goes a long way with me. I believe we need a channel with older folks who have some meaningful words to share with those who are willing to love, listen,learn and grow.
From: A 75 year old life time learner.
if my parents ever just said something similar even ONCE (yes generic) but uplifting and insightful feeling type things…i’d be in a better place most likely. they’ve esteemed me w literally nothing nor hope tbh.
A vastly important message, Emmy. Well said!
You are right.....! We can make the world a better place....! For ourself and others.
This is such a simple, loving, and profound concept. Consider always uplifting others around you.
Beautiful message food for toughts, thank you for sharing
how simply sweet this kind woman is to share this encouragement & wisdom! what a wise goddess!!! beautiful!
thank you for speaking to me today. this makes sense especially in the UK and the world around me that as I age is losing all sense to me.
Same here.👍🙏🌈
Thank you. You are wonderful. I’m 55. A grandma in Vegas. I needed to hear this!
As i said before I truly appreciate the gift you share with others, communication that is common sense based and directly to the human heart. Thank you Emmy.
@@dalelight8340 Much appreciated.
Yes! Each of us is a work of art in progress. Inside we can EACH make a difference!!! Thank you for your thoughtful words.
What a beautiful message, thank you so much for this
Thanks!
What a beautiful message from a beautiful soul, thank you
A True Wise Elder. So refreshing to hear this balanced message. Thank you.
The thought of equality and class don't exist. All of us have the same energy within us, exert it the same, and radiate it the same; those who don't have a lot of material things are spared the misery that comes from wealth...their energy is spent maintaining that wealth rather than evolving, growing, and advancing themselves. Those without a lot of material things can focus on the things that truly matter. What a gift!!!
You my dear are a beautiful human being and I appreciate you taking the time out to express what's inside of you on camera . Bravo!
Love this! Just what I needed to hear. Very wise and kind woman! TY❤
The thing about videos like this is that the wisdom pours out of the speaker and makes me realise that we are all dealing with the same problems and issues.
I really hear you ❤😂
Thank you for your intelligent and loving words. Where the world strives for ‘getting it all’ I like your sentiment that ‘it’s enough’. Being at peace with oneself and others isn’t something that everyone achieves.
“When in doubt, go where you are needed most”
I respect what you shared - thank you. My “however” is these days (the last 33+ yrs) I have let go of words such as “fair” or “unfair”, as the latter leads to resentments.
I deal with life on life’s terms or on God’s term and live in the world of gratitude. I cannot afford a resentment thru thinking it is all “fair or unfair”…. By having gratitude from the first 2 gifts of the day - my eyesight…. I live one day at a time. For ME that works and when it doesn’t, I know to delve into my heart & spirit. Thank you for yr beautiful and wise share. Chris, NZ
@@ChrisBlack-v2v Welcome friend. I agree one hundred percent, but sometimes it is important to meet people where they are. ruclips.net/video/xhT83TJqwVM/видео.htmlsi=miZIWOlMsCiKmRBR
I resonate with your sentiments, Chris. I practice living life on life’s terms even when it bites. One day at a time. Looking to the Light. Count my blessings. Remember to focus on the prize. From Terri Jo in Hope, B.C., Canada
My Grand mother was Dutch. I remember her even though she passed when I was young. She was so sweet and beautiful. Your smile reminds me of her. Thank you, your messages and advice are just what I need to hear.
Beautiful wisdoms from an equally beautiful and wise soul. Thank you for that, much needed and timely advice delivered with such compassion and kindness 🙏❤️Eternal blessings to you
I love your calming presence ♡
Thank you for what you are creating ☀️
I really love this approach. It acknowledges the unfairness of life, which many positive philosophies do not. And it embraces a bit of stoicism as well, making life obstacles into building blocks for the work of art you speak of. I will be rewatching this video, I'm sure, when I need a reminder. 🤗❤
@@patriciasalem3606 Great to have you around.
Wise words and beautiful scenery ❤❤❤
You are so beautiful in that nature all around you, like the prettiest flower. Your voice speaking so beautiful.
Thank you for being you and sharing this message with me tonight.
You make me feel I’ll be alright.
I appreciate you sharing this with people. There are a lot of reasons to get discouraged during your life so it's nice to have a pep talk every now and then.
It’s been so freeing to come to terms with this fact as I’ve walked along my healing path.
It’s been so fascinating to me how you can hear the truth a million times from people who want to hurt you with it, and you’ll never believe it for a second. When you hear it once from someone who simply wants to give you the chance to know it, you believe it almost instantly. The part that’s hardest to emotionally accept, is that you have to accept that the first group will always tell themselves they’re the second, and you should love them for trying anyway.
This made me cry. What a lovely and heartwarming message. Thank you Emmy ❤
Thank you for sharing your wisdom! ❤️ We are not equal, we are all unique and special. “Always remember that you are absolutely unique. Just like everyone else.”
~ Margaret Mead
@@ElenaShumskaya Great quote.
Your wisdom is appreciated. Thank you!!!
This is exactly what the Artist’s Way teaches. Thank you!! I needed this today!
I lost my notebook that one rainy afternoon, there are notes that I wrote that is included in the requirements, it was devastating and one night later, this popped up. I certainly agree the world is still unfair and unequal and all of the things I experience, that past, it's already been done, but it still gets me because I still bereaved on it(well only in the notebook part) like someone I gave all that heart and passion died because of my forgetfulness. I panicked, overreacted, worried that thats it in my life but thanks be to god, my mom, knows how to calm me down.
And again of that statement, you popped up, you're in my RUclips's recommended videos and wow, you made me think that life is art, create, experiment, destroy, reinvent, perfected and preserved, and the cycle goes on.
And to add that, you made think that my life is kind of a dramatic renaissance art because I think that is, like some Soap Opera, god, I said too much and I just wanna say thank you, just thank you for all of it.
You are on the path. Keep going.
It is difficult to convince oneself that one is enough :(.
Your words help me, thank you for that.
Coming to the realization of how much trauma and abuse I’ve been through has been hard. But what I’ve been reminded of recently is the compassion, kindness, and understanding I’ve gained of myself and the world during my journey. Although the road may not have been entirely kind to me, I find in myself the kindness to help myself and the people in my life in ways I didn’t get before. ❤
What a gem you are. Each day has lessons and blessings built into it. You just have to look , learn, and Love. Tons of opportunities for growth. It's why we are here and time is short. Sending Love to ALL❤❤❤
It is interesting how you describe inequality in the terms of age and presence. I love how you talk about what we can do. I’ve always been into fairness but sometimes it turns into judgement. Thank you for this adaptation. My daughter told me she wants to be a lawyer. She has had a great sense of justice. As a small child even calling me out on my own actions. I’m excited to see what she does with it.
What a wonderful message to us all. What a beautiful, warm hearted lady! Love, love, love this message. I will try hard today & every day. ❤❤❤❤❤
Thanks for your beautiful words. Look for the goodness, have gratitude for everything. ❤❤❤
Emmy, I totally agree! Everyone has something to offer. Something really good!! Our struggles may not look the same, but like you said, look for what is good no matter what is going on in your life. Make the changes that you can make, and don't compare yourself to others,
Ah Emmy, thank you so much for continuing to post your wonderful wise self. As you share in this video, when I am attentive and do my best I do indeed find that it is enough and I am enough. I am 62 and I am grateful to at last to feel enough. When I walk through the mountains and forests here where I live in Wicklow, Ireland I feel like one of the trees (all different and in different places) and your words are true to me that life is not fair and we are not equal but I do have a choice as to how I take my space and inhabit my body and biography. My good wishes to you my friend; le grá
Fabulous. Greet the Wicklow trees for me.
“It is solved by walking “
You are in a beautiful place for walks.
@@LilyGazou Took me a life time to live in this way. Did twenty years of daily commutes into London from the suburbs and twenty two years of weekly commutes from Sheffield to London. But I always chose to live in houses that had some parkland nearby.
So true, Wonderful wisdom. ❤😊🦋⚘️💛
What a blessing that I had your face pop up on my screen. You are speaking everything I have always believed but, through pure fear, have forgotten to practice. Thank you. You have rekindled a spark of courage in my spirit. I’m thankful for your life and your courage which has inspired you to speak out and call out truth to myself and others. Today I make a choice to live in less fear. Again, thank you. God be with you. Xoxo
What a gift and fortunate blessing to hear your message, Emmy! Much in alignment with an anonymous philosophical and/or spiritual design for living that I practice with gratitude. Thanks from Terri Jo in Hope, B.C. Canada
Hello 👋,Beautiful Lady 🌹..How are you and the weather condition like ?
Life is unfair on purpose. It's how we deal with it that determines our rise or fall in consciousness. It is impossible to be alive without struggling with something. That is the purpose of life.
This is Wisdom... To the young, you don't have to be our age before you realize this. You just have to practice ❤
Yes, that's right. You can practice this at any age.
YOU make me believe that I CAN!! Much gratitude!
@@specialeeffexx you can, for sure!
Being Nice to yourself is a Great Start, Have the Same Respect for Yourself as you do for that Special Friend that You Have, Let Self Love Grow from the Inside by Not Looking for Validation on the Outside & Don’t Compare Yourself to Others - Gratitude for This Message 🙏🏻💛✨
Well spoken and thank you for sharing, thereby adding a deed to your words. Making meaning is a beautifull form of human art
I discovered this video at a beautiful point in my life where I'm finally starting to not hate the person looking back at me in the bathroom mirror. Thank you so very much. You are such an amazing and wonderful human being. I'm thankful that we share space on this planet together. From many miles away, your words have changed someone's life.❤
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treat others as you wish to be treated yourself
Thank you - your message for me calls for a simplicity in life.🌷
Thanks! This is a video to keep and rewatch at times. A very simple message but a message marked by wisdom. I hope to understand it more and more.
A really great talk