"me on my own on a Monday?" "this is the kind of gaslighting that ended our relationship" "this is the kind of gaslighting that ended OUR relationship" a list of all the lines that made me cackle
I overheard some horrible people at my college saying really homophobic things today and it just kinda got me down. Made me smile to come home and see a new episode, so thanks :)
Alayna’s ex being secure in his attachment style is not only proof of “not all men” but also validates queerness! Women aren’t gay because they hate men, they’re gay because they love women! 😂😂😂
Big congratulations Alayna! I am so glad you're going to be a therapist... people truly need someone as centred and insightful as you. Also, on a selfish note excited to learn from your experiences in school from what you will share on the podcast 😂 hooray!
If you've already had the open relationship conversation and your partner is open to it, DO NOT jump into stuff right away. Give it time to sink in, have more conversations about what this could look like, talk about scenarios that you both would be comfortable with, talk about any fears you might have about it (one partner finds someone they like more, you break up because jealousy is a big issue, STI concerns, accidental pregnancy) and weigh if it's worth it, find where each other's initial boundaries are (can you bring people home, do you only do this when you're away from each other for an extended period of time, is it one night stands only or can you have recurring sexual partners?). Once you've done that for a little while, then maybe dip your toes in by flirting with other people, talk with your partner about people you find attractive or what you would want to do with them, gauge each other's feelings as it becomes more real. And if you make it past that, then you can start introducing more real things. Maybe go on (non-sexual) dates, go on dating apps, look at people together. Then start exploring the more physical stuff. Through all of this, COMMUNICATE constantly. Do not hold back on your feelings if you feel uncomfortable with something. It doesn't mean that it has to stop but you need to be sensitive to each other and find ways to work through it.
I am in hetero relationship (f35 and m33). Early on in my relationship with my current partner of 5 years, we had a lot of "what if" discussions. We have discussed everything from crushes to potential open relationship/polygamy. It was/is super hard for both of us to set boundary for other one. (We are way more stright with ourselves than with otherone.) Both are not really feeling like we would want to have another partner...ever. But if that was about to happen, then we would have a new discussion. We want all the best for each other and part of it is the freedom. Right now we use that freedom to be monogamous, but polycurious.
Hey, I feel like I've been going through something similar to this and I can find separate poly and queer things but not necessarily the combined of them, do you happen to know any resources?
I come here for the chaos! The natural flow between you three is like sitting down with close friends and just having organic conversations. I can’t get enough!
I just really want to say thank you for these podcasts because they give me something to listen to at work and not feel like I’m hating my entire life while I’m there… This podcast just really brightens up my day if I’m having a crappy one!!!!!
This is exactly how I feel about the podcast! It makes going to my toxic work place way more bearable when I have their banter going in my AirPods. I hope it gets better for you tho and you don’t feel this way in the long run
I was smiling so hard watching Alayna say she got accepted into the masters program and at Mak & Ashley's responses, it was such a pure and genuine moment. Massive congratulations Alayna, you should feel so proud!
I already thought my therapist was kinda mommy and now my mommy is gonna be a therapist 😂 full circle. No but seriously congratulations Alayna that's amazing news
Gotta say, the 'all over the place-ness' (there's an actual word for this, I'm sure) of this podcast is excellent for my ADHD! I hope this doesn't come across as a backhanded compliment (social skills are *not* my strong suit), but it's one of the only channels I don't have on x2 speed 😅 and it just adds to the family dinner table/chatting on the sofa kind of feel and I love that! ☺️
This was a hilarious start to the podcast! Just the way everybody thought they were being pranked individually by the others! And mak defending themself to both Alayna and Ashley killed me 😂
LETS GO ALAYNA!!!!!!!!!! WE ALL KNEW YOU COULD DO IT!!!!! 🎉🎉 I’m really so happy for you. You’re going to do great things, that program won’t know what hit ‘em❤❤
about the non-monogamy question: my husband & I were listening to a podcast and the idea of ethical non-monogamy came up. So we just kinda stumbled into the idea, we talked openly about it for a long time. we established rules for ourselves and our unique situation. If you are in a position where you want to pursue polyamory with a partner, you absolutely need to be communicating. Ask them their thoughts and assumptions, share what interests you about it, and be prepared to hear a "no." Polyamory is not for everyone, and that's okay :) Neither is monogamy!
gosh how can one episode be better than the other?? the prank(?) in beginning and the follow-ups made me SCREAM. Alayna being accepted made me CRY. Ash talking about je... ops MAIN BABES (twink) was sweet and made me SMILE. anyways I love my early family dinner at 8am with you. ps: ash you really look hot ps2: alayna you are in fact top 1% brilliant people. the program would be NUTS rejecting you. YOU REMEMBERED ABOUT OUR DINNER THANK YOU
I love that you are going back to school. I went back to school in my forties and after nine years, eight months I completed a BS in English and Women's and Gender Studies. I then went straight into my MS and graduated a week ago. I now have a MS in College Counseling and Academic Affairs. I will be taking my counseling license before the year is out. You got this!!!
I almost never comment but it had to say something. The last few episodes have been really heart felt and wonderful but the chaos of this episode was amazing as well. I’ve never felt so included in a conversation before and I appreciate the three of you and the perspectives you bring so much. Thank you for this and congrats on getting into your Masters program Alayna!
Massive congratulations Alayna, I’m so pleased for you! 😊(Also, Mak and Ashley are right, you are one in a million and the only person that’s surprised you got in is you. I’ve probably learned more from listening/watching you than from my actual therapist)
Congratulations Alayna!! Be so proud of yourself ❤ Your love for psychology and people is so eminent, can’t wait to watch you sharpen your skills and knowledge and counsel us all haha! Love from Amsterdam!
I know this is an older episode but your discussion on polyamory was so helpful to me. One of your other episodes helped me in my journey towards being ready to break up with my ex, and this one helped me accept that I'm not a horrible jealous person, I was just cornered into entering polyamory in an extremely unhealthy and stressful way and that's not my fault. I really appreciate you all discussing this topic in such an open and honest way. Edit: I just watched the end of the episode and I also really really appreciate Mac's perspective on this one. I feel very similarly to her and am glad I'm not alone in feeling that way.
congratulations Alayna!!!! I'm also starting a master's next year and (if you're willing to include that in your content) it's going to be very motivating to see you do it at the same time :)) sooo cool that you were able to get in
BEST EPISODE YET!!!!! Alayna congrats on making it to the top 20% therapists that are willing to go a step further and make videos about tik toks so that people can relate to you and feel understood and also getting into that fancy master. I don't know why I just learned that you're a therapist or that you have interest in that subject, everything make a lot more sense now!!
Highlights. Mak's witty green chef ad, Alayna's acceptance and modified hunger games 2 fingers in the air. As for open relationships, even talking in the general sense can break a compromised relationship, especially if people are not secure. I think once the relationship is strong and secure exploration in the general sense can be a gateway to possible opening. Ashley is right about the partner first and not being for a particular person.
This ep was so good lol I laughed so hard at the 'prank' at the start, then I jumped for joy for Alyana, then the editing during the climbing part made me crack up again, and then the lowkey play fitting made me cringe and blush. Went through the full emotional spectrum. Love seeing you all grow on the pod and celebrate each other
A girl I really wanted to be with told me she's poly (after dating her awhile), and because I liked her so much, I tried to be okay with that. I quickly realized I'm a monogamous individual. I believe it is inherent one way or another. (Ofc, thats not always the case, as Ash said) Just my experience
Mak I’m the same way, if I was dating someone and they wanted to open the relationship I would want them to pursue what makes them happy and for me to not hold them back but I don’t think I could be in an open relationship. Monogamy is definitely for me
Mak! Maybe try fostering a kitten or cats? You can decide if being a cat mom is for you, or if you’d like to be a part time furmama and help save kitties!
I was genuinely and utterly happy, excited, and elated when Alayna announced that she got into the program!!! I know that this happened 9 months ago already, but, as I'm watching the podcast from the beginning and not the last ones, this feels new to me. I genuinely started kicking my feet, squealing, and smiling like a fool. I was so happy! Also, we all can agree that Ashley and Mak looked incredibly hot today.
This is my first episode, I don’t really like podcasts but this was hilarious and so chaotic and like being with friends and with having a shitty day; thanks bros. You’re the best. And congratulations Alayna! You’ll be an incredible counsellor!
i always love getting to see parts where y'all say smth like "cut this" but it's obviously still there in the pod it feels like a 'tehe sneak peak into the behind the scenes'
CONGRATS ALAYNA!!! I knew you would succeed, like Mak and Ashley said everyone can see your credentials and how great you are except you. ACCEPT YOUR GREATNESS
Congratulations Alayna 🎉🎉🎉 Also Mak's ad read was chef's kiss And I loved the open relationship chat. I have polyamorous friends, who did some reading & couples therapy before they started dating other people. It can be wonderful, if you're both on the same page. I'm in a monogamous relationship because it's what my wife needs, & I'm blissfully happy. It could be worth asking yourself before you talk to your partner- if they say no, how will I feel about that? Might help you work out whether you're in a good place 🤷🏽
For open/polyamory conversations and negotiations, I recommend the books Love in Abundance and Polysecure. Both are written by therapists. The first has a lot of very practical guidance on boundary and need considerations, as well as jealousy. The second gives a lot of helpful info on attachment. My partner and I also did a few sessions of therapy together with a queer-informed, non-monogamy informed counselor. HIGHLY recommend you read a few books and see someone together. I'm also stoked to see Alayna accepted into the program!! I'm finishing up my masters in Counseling Psych and I'm honestly so happy I did it. It's gonna be great to see her journey.
Loved this episode - thanks fam. Seeing you supporting each other, showing genuine happiness for each others accomplishments, respecting each others boundaries, speaking with respect about previous partners, asking questions with care and attention. You're out here modelling healthy relationships and I'm here for it. Thank you! P.S. Congrats Alayna!
I saw Ashley do comedy last night in my parents’ town & a) She was so funny & she sold out. B) She looked like she was 19 & C) I was super weird when I said “hey” .. I’m typically prettttyyy easy breezy/nonchalant or whatever, but so wasn’t yesterday-Ah well. 🤷♀️ 🙈
I was with him for 5 years & have kids together. It was a conversation we had for nearly the entire duration of the relationship. Towards the end we were actively opening it up but it came down to the core problem of him just not being comfortable with polyamory/open relationships.. I think he felt a lot like how Mak says she would. I felt like it was something I couldn't put off for the rest of my life. We are friends and co-parents. I'm in an open relationship with a new partner now.
omg the way ashley just watched alayna and mak gush about climbing and wishing they were together is sooo funny. and the edit! of the zoom in. danny just killin it
I had a 4 years long closed relationship where she was like Mak, she would say "I can't deal with an open relationship, but whenever you feel that you need to have other experiences, we can break up, and I'll understand" We broke up for another reasons, and now I have a main partner, we live together and all, but we never closed our relationship. It's very challenging, specially living at the same house, we always have to deal with attachment, jealousy and fear, but it's been really amazing to grow and feel more confident, self loving, and empathetic. But yeah, for me, I woudn't go back to a closed relationship ever again.
Pro tip: give the other person the option to react at a later moment. (That was Mak’s first instinct, and I think it’s valuable. You have thought about it a lot, but for the other person this will be the first contact with the subject.)
I have so many things: 1. Congratulations Alayna! 2. Congratulations Ashley 🤣 3. Now I feel a little bad not Congratulating Mak… good job on the climbing skills?! 4. I feel like I should be your phone-a-friend Gen-X lesbian reference. lol. “Get the Old Gay on the line, she’ll have an answer to this question!” And I will! 5. I’m from Tampa. My people are all in Tampa. At first I was all: does that put Ashley on My Chart or my 6 degrees of separation or whatever the kids are calling it these days… and then I remembered - no not a chance. I’ve been out of the game A LONG TIME. And while Tampa has a fairly insular lesbian group, Ashley isn’t kicking it with my generation of ladies. lol. 6. Thanks for the smiles. My Grandma-in-law just passed this weekend, and smiles are in short supply. 7. Tampa is the place you go to for a lesbian 3some. Southern hospitality and all…
OK, finished the podcast now and ohmygosh congratulations Alayna! You're gonna be amazing at it! Love seeing Fulton (sp?) at the cuts to Ashley - he's so sweet! Thanks for the non-monogamy chat! Love hearing your advice on these sorts of things!
Congrats Alayna! I’m in my masters program right now to become a licensed mental health counselor too. Having more queer counselors is so important for representation. Excited and happy for you!
The relationship you have before you get married is exactly the type of marriage you'll have. If you don't sit with your partner at home and think, "God I want it to be like this forever," then you probably shouldn't marry that person. I've been with my partner for almost eight years, and our relationship gets better and better all the time. Even during the toughest years together, our love and friendship have kept us both safe and happy despite the chaos surrounding us. I wouldn't trade him for anything, and I can't imagine loving someone more or being loved better than the way he loves me. You deserve to feel like this.❤
As someone who's been in all diff sorts of relationships, I applaud Ash for opening up about her open relationship. They're not usually easy & takes extra care. Also, I would not participate in an open relationship if there's ANY part of u that isn't into it or wants more from their partner, as it would only cause unneeded pain. I hope Ash isn't secretly hating it, but it seems like its all good. Settling isn't something anyone should have to do. 💜 PS- Threesomes aren't all they're made out to be. 😝 Take it from me.
So excited for you Alayna!!! As a current master's student in clinical mental health counseling you'll see the difference between what you do now and what you will do once you have clients. Im so excited for you to sharpen your already immaculate, and natural abilites to become an amazing counselor!!
Ashley's dead pan stare during the climbing conversation 😂😂
Also
Ashley when called hot: 😎
Ashley when called cute: 😳
She was desperate to do a bit.
Ash’s deadpan everything! 😂😂😂
Okay, but I caught glimpse of your pfp, and not for anything, but I just wanted to say, that you look so cool.
She shivered like a Chihuahua!
"me on my own on a Monday?"
"this is the kind of gaslighting that ended our relationship"
"this is the kind of gaslighting that ended OUR relationship"
a list of all the lines that made me cackle
I love when they compliment bombard each other and then the one being complimented gets all shy and flustered and blushes a little it’s adorable
THIS WHOLE EPISODE IS HYSTERICAL AND CHAOTIC we love so much
and surprisingly wholesome?
Macs excitement for alaynas success is SO damn sweet
Maks*
Mac youngest of the all despite age gap, her love for her partner is so beautiful and solid❤
I love that Ashley confirmed that her podcasts are part of different cinematic universes lmao
Dad ANGRELY complimenting Mom, and Mom DESPERATELY trying to downplay was a joy i didn't know i needed in my life.
I overheard some horrible people at my college saying really homophobic things today and it just kinda got me down. Made me smile to come home and see a new episode, so thanks :)
I love your profile name collagen chronica Are you a biology student?
@Collagen Chronicles yeah, I am, thanks
Sending good vibes your way 🌈🌈
❤
Same thing happened to me. Saw some unnecessary homophobic things on some friends status on whatsap... I'm still feeling bad actually.
Alayna’s ex being secure in his attachment style is not only proof of “not all men” but also validates queerness! Women aren’t gay because they hate men, they’re gay because they love women! 😂😂😂
Sooo true
@@theincredibleknuffibar4834 💖
Yes thank u
15:48 everyone needs a friend who supports them as aggressively as Ashley supports Alayna xD
Oh my gosh CONGRATS ALAYNA THAT IS SO GODDAMN COOL AND EXCITING!!!!!!!!!! ❤️❤️
Big congratulations Alayna! I am so glad you're going to be a therapist... people truly need someone as centred and insightful as you. Also, on a selfish note excited to learn from your experiences in school from what you will share on the podcast 😂 hooray!
If you've already had the open relationship conversation and your partner is open to it, DO NOT jump into stuff right away. Give it time to sink in, have more conversations about what this could look like, talk about scenarios that you both would be comfortable with, talk about any fears you might have about it (one partner finds someone they like more, you break up because jealousy is a big issue, STI concerns, accidental pregnancy) and weigh if it's worth it, find where each other's initial boundaries are (can you bring people home, do you only do this when you're away from each other for an extended period of time, is it one night stands only or can you have recurring sexual partners?).
Once you've done that for a little while, then maybe dip your toes in by flirting with other people, talk with your partner about people you find attractive or what you would want to do with them, gauge each other's feelings as it becomes more real. And if you make it past that, then you can start introducing more real things. Maybe go on (non-sexual) dates, go on dating apps, look at people together. Then start exploring the more physical stuff.
Through all of this, COMMUNICATE constantly. Do not hold back on your feelings if you feel uncomfortable with something. It doesn't mean that it has to stop but you need to be sensitive to each other and find ways to work through it.
I am in hetero relationship (f35 and m33). Early on in my relationship with my current partner of 5 years, we had a lot of "what if" discussions. We have discussed everything from crushes to potential open relationship/polygamy. It was/is super hard for both of us to set boundary for other one. (We are way more stright with ourselves than with otherone.) Both are not really feeling like we would want to have another partner...ever. But if that was about to happen, then we would have a new discussion. We want all the best for each other and part of it is the freedom. Right now we use that freedom to be monogamous, but polycurious.
Hey, I feel like I've been going through something similar to this and I can find separate poly and queer things but not necessarily the combined of them, do you happen to know any resources?
I come here for the chaos! The natural flow between you three is like sitting down with close friends and just having organic conversations. I can’t get enough!
I just really want to say thank you for these podcasts because they give me something to listen to at work and not feel like I’m hating my entire life while I’m there… This podcast just really brightens up my day if I’m having a crappy one!!!!!
This is exactly how I feel about the podcast! It makes going to my toxic work place way more bearable when I have their banter going in my AirPods. I hope it gets better for you tho and you don’t feel this way in the long run
Poor Mak😂😂😂😂😂😂 The beginning was chaos 😂😂😂😂
Edited to add CONGRATULATIONS ALAYNA❤❤❤❤
I was smiling so hard watching Alayna say she got accepted into the masters program and at Mak & Ashley's responses, it was such a pure and genuine moment. Massive congratulations Alayna, you should feel so proud!
I already thought my therapist was kinda mommy and now my mommy is gonna be a therapist 😂 full circle. No but seriously congratulations Alayna that's amazing news
Its the fact that everyone, including me, felt they were the ones getting pranked themselves is beautifully wild. Happy April Fools i guess
Their friendship is so wholesome, it warms my heart
Gotta say, the 'all over the place-ness' (there's an actual word for this, I'm sure) of this podcast is excellent for my ADHD! I hope this doesn't come across as a backhanded compliment (social skills are *not* my strong suit), but it's one of the only channels I don't have on x2 speed 😅 and it just adds to the family dinner table/chatting on the sofa kind of feel and I love that! ☺️
This was a hilarious start to the podcast! Just the way everybody thought they were being pranked individually by the others! And mak defending themself to both Alayna and Ashley killed me 😂
is it just me or did Mak look like she was on the verge of tears the whole time?
we need an episode where ashley gives advice on how to get women
immaculant rizz 🙏🏿
LETS GO ALAYNA!!!!!!!!!! WE ALL KNEW YOU COULD DO IT!!!!! 🎉🎉
I’m really so happy for you. You’re going to do great things, that program won’t know what hit ‘em❤❤
about the non-monogamy question: my husband & I were listening to a podcast and the idea of ethical non-monogamy came up. So we just kinda stumbled into the idea, we talked openly about it for a long time. we established rules for ourselves and our unique situation. If you are in a position where you want to pursue polyamory with a partner, you absolutely need to be communicating. Ask them their thoughts and assumptions, share what interests you about it, and be prepared to hear a "no." Polyamory is not for everyone, and that's okay :) Neither is monogamy!
gosh how can one episode be better than the other?? the prank(?) in beginning and the follow-ups made me SCREAM. Alayna being accepted made me CRY. Ash talking about je... ops MAIN BABES (twink) was sweet and made me SMILE. anyways I love my early family dinner at 8am with you.
ps: ash you really look hot
ps2: alayna you are in fact top 1% brilliant people. the program would be NUTS rejecting you.
YOU REMEMBERED ABOUT OUR DINNER THANK YOU
The first 5 mins were my favorite so far. lol Im only 6:35 in but I loved the beginning so far!
I literally can't express how much I love this podcast! My face hurts from smiling so much
I AM SO LATE TO THE PARTY BUT CONGRATS ALAYNA🎉 CURRENTLY ON MY CHOSEN FAMILY CATCH UP BINGE BECAUSE I JUST DISCOVERED YALL AND IM LIVING
I love that you are going back to school. I went back to school in my forties and after nine years, eight months I completed a BS in English and Women's and Gender Studies. I then went straight into my MS and graduated a week ago. I now have a MS in College Counseling and Academic Affairs. I will be taking my counseling license before the year is out. You got this!!!
Bravo 👏 👏
I almost never comment but it had to say something. The last few episodes have been really heart felt and wonderful but the chaos of this episode was amazing as well. I’ve never felt so included in a conversation before and I appreciate the three of you and the perspectives you bring so much. Thank you for this and congrats on getting into your Masters program Alayna!
These just get better and better!
Congrats Alayna! You'll be amazing at counseling!
I think Ashley's casual sexy look broke Mak today lol
Massive congratulations Alayna, I’m so pleased for you! 😊(Also, Mak and Ashley are right, you are one in a million and the only person that’s surprised you got in is you. I’ve probably learned more from listening/watching you than from my actual therapist)
This was one of my favorite episodes. It was chaotic from the start!
And congratulations to Alayna for getting into her masters!
26:06 Preach it Alayna and Mak!
37:28 Not the slow zoom into Ashley 😂
Not the slow zoom 😂
Congratulations Alayna!! Be so proud of yourself ❤ Your love for psychology and people is so eminent, can’t wait to watch you sharpen your skills and knowledge and counsel us all haha! Love from Amsterdam!
Absolutely excited for her, that profession fits her!
The complimenting Alayna and rubbing in her face how awesome she is was the thing for me on this episode hahahaha
I know this is an older episode but your discussion on polyamory was so helpful to me. One of your other episodes helped me in my journey towards being ready to break up with my ex, and this one helped me accept that I'm not a horrible jealous person, I was just cornered into entering polyamory in an extremely unhealthy and stressful way and that's not my fault. I really appreciate you all discussing this topic in such an open and honest way.
Edit: I just watched the end of the episode and I also really really appreciate Mac's perspective on this one. I feel very similarly to her and am glad I'm not alone in feeling that way.
congratulations Alayna!!!! I'm also starting a master's next year and (if you're willing to include that in your content) it's going to be very motivating to see you do it at the same time :)) sooo cool that you were able to get in
The fact that both of them though mak was doing a bit?? Lol
How did I get goosebumps when I already knew she got in from the comments?!? Congratulations Alayna!!! Im very happy for you!
i cant get enough of the aggressive compliments to Alayna LOL
These videos get me through my graveyard shifts at work. They make me laugh but they also make me calm and really happy :)
BEST EPISODE YET!!!!! Alayna congrats on making it to the top 20% therapists that are willing to go a step further and make videos about tik toks so that people can relate to you and feel understood and also getting into that fancy master. I don't know why I just learned that you're a therapist or that you have interest in that subject, everything make a lot more sense now!!
Highlights.
Mak's witty green chef ad, Alayna's acceptance and modified hunger games 2 fingers in the air. As for open relationships, even talking in the general sense can break a compromised relationship, especially if people are not secure. I think once the relationship is strong and secure exploration in the general sense can be a gateway to possible opening. Ashley is right about the partner first and not being for a particular person.
the pure simp energy of this episode is immaculate
I can not stop laughing at this intro 🤣 it’s so out of hand and I love it 🤣
Also I’m so happy and excited to see your manifestations come into fruition we all knew it would!!!! Congratulations Alayna !!! 💗💗
I LOVE Mak's ad transition 13:47
This ep was so good lol I laughed so hard at the 'prank' at the start, then I jumped for joy for Alyana, then the editing during the climbing part made me crack up again, and then the lowkey play fitting made me cringe and blush. Went through the full emotional spectrum. Love seeing you all grow on the pod and celebrate each other
A girl I really wanted to be with told me she's poly (after dating her awhile), and because I liked her so much, I tried to be okay with that. I quickly realized I'm a monogamous individual. I believe it is inherent one way or another. (Ofc, thats not always the case, as Ash said) Just my experience
Mak I’m the same way, if I was dating someone and they wanted to open the relationship I would want them to pursue what makes them happy and for me to not hold them back but I don’t think I could be in an open relationship. Monogamy is definitely for me
Mak! Maybe try fostering a kitten or cats? You can decide if being a cat mom is for you, or if you’d like to be a part time furmama and help save kitties!
I was genuinely and utterly happy, excited, and elated when Alayna announced that she got into the program!!! I know that this happened 9 months ago already, but, as I'm watching the podcast from the beginning and not the last ones, this feels new to me. I genuinely started kicking my feet, squealing, and smiling like a fool. I was so happy!
Also, we all can agree that Ashley and Mak looked incredibly hot today.
trying to decipher what was going on at the beginning was hilarious
i'm in a postgrad program for psychotherapy in germany - cant wait for you to talk about your process, Alayna! the struggle is real over here tbh
This is my first episode, I don’t really like podcasts but this was hilarious and so chaotic and like being with friends and with having a shitty day; thanks bros. You’re the best.
And congratulations Alayna! You’ll be an incredible counsellor!
Congratulations Alayna! Idk why I never get tired of Ashley's trump impression lmao
If there was ever a time for Ashley to milk the heck out of her trump impression, it's now 😅
I don’t usually comment but Alayna’s news is so amazing 🥳🥳🥳 YAYYY CONGRATS
i always love getting to see parts where y'all say smth like "cut this" but it's obviously still there in the pod it feels like a 'tehe sneak peak into the behind the scenes'
CONGRATS ALAYNA!!! I knew you would succeed, like Mak and Ashley said everyone can see your credentials and how great you are except you. ACCEPT YOUR GREATNESS
Congratulations Alayna 🎉🎉🎉
Also Mak's ad read was chef's kiss
And I loved the open relationship chat. I have polyamorous friends, who did some reading & couples therapy before they started dating other people. It can be wonderful, if you're both on the same page.
I'm in a monogamous relationship because it's what my wife needs, & I'm blissfully happy. It could be worth asking yourself before you talk to your partner- if they say no, how will I feel about that? Might help you work out whether you're in a good place 🤷🏽
Basically an Alayna appreciation episode and I’m here for it 💖 huge congrats Alayna!!! You’re gonna be an incredible therapist 🎉❤
This podcast is one of the few that gives me the same feeling as talking with friends, great episode! Keep em coming :)
The world is so lucky to have an Alayna- pls take care of yourself throughout this new chapter and know we are all cheering for you!
16:19 gave me “He’s very dreamy but he’s not the sun, YOU are.” Vibes
-Cristina Yang
For open/polyamory conversations and negotiations, I recommend the books Love in Abundance and Polysecure. Both are written by therapists. The first has a lot of very practical guidance on boundary and need considerations, as well as jealousy. The second gives a lot of helpful info on attachment. My partner and I also did a few sessions of therapy together with a queer-informed, non-monogamy informed counselor. HIGHLY recommend you read a few books and see someone together.
I'm also stoked to see Alayna accepted into the program!! I'm finishing up my masters in Counseling Psych and I'm honestly so happy I did it. It's gonna be great to see her journey.
Congratulations Alayna!! I knew you would get in, but it's so amazing to hear it confirmed! 🎉
This beginning is incredible. Congrats Alayna for getting into grad school!
I’m watching the beginning of this while at work and desperately trying to quietly laugh 😂
Also, congratulations Alayna!!! That’s amazing 🎉
Loved this episode - thanks fam. Seeing you supporting each other, showing genuine happiness for each others accomplishments, respecting each others boundaries, speaking with respect about previous partners, asking questions with care and attention. You're out here modelling healthy relationships and I'm here for it. Thank you!
P.S. Congrats Alayna!
Congratulations, Alayna! I can't wait to hear your school stories in the future.
I saw Ashley do comedy last night in my parents’ town & a) She was so funny & she sold out. B) She looked like she was 19 & C) I was super weird when I said “hey” .. I’m typically prettttyyy easy breezy/nonchalant or whatever, but so wasn’t yesterday-Ah well. 🤷♀️ 🙈
It probably wasn’t as weird as you thought!
@@ashgavs Lol, likely not.. & thank u :)
I was with him for 5 years & have kids together. It was a conversation we had for nearly the entire duration of the relationship. Towards the end we were actively opening it up but it came down to the core problem of him just not being comfortable with polyamory/open relationships.. I think he felt a lot like how Mak says she would. I felt like it was something I couldn't put off for the rest of my life. We are friends and co-parents. I'm in an open relationship with a new partner now.
I love starting my Wednesdays with this podcast ❤️
Once again, just so great ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
Mak: wanting to be a "Hot Teenage Brother"
Mak: Every podcast proving how much of a baby she is😊😊
I have to say, everyone has AMAZING skin.
Loved the chaotic start to this episode 😂 also YES Ashley's bit at the end was v cute 💕
omg the way ashley just watched alayna and mak gush about climbing and wishing they were together is sooo funny. and the edit! of the zoom in. danny just killin it
I had a 4 years long closed relationship where she was like Mak, she would say "I can't deal with an open relationship, but whenever you feel that you need to have other experiences, we can break up, and I'll understand"
We broke up for another reasons, and now I have a main partner, we live together and all, but we never closed our relationship. It's very challenging, specially living at the same house, we always have to deal with attachment, jealousy and fear, but it's been really amazing to grow and feel more confident, self loving, and empathetic.
But yeah, for me, I woudn't go back to a closed relationship ever again.
Pro tip: give the other person the option to react at a later moment.
(That was Mak’s first instinct, and I think it’s valuable. You have thought about it a lot, but for the other person this will be the first contact with the subject.)
I have so many things:
1. Congratulations Alayna!
2. Congratulations Ashley 🤣
3. Now I feel a little bad not Congratulating Mak… good job on the climbing skills?!
4. I feel like I should be your phone-a-friend Gen-X lesbian reference. lol. “Get the Old Gay on the line, she’ll have an answer to this question!” And I will!
5. I’m from Tampa. My people are all in Tampa. At first I was all: does that put Ashley on My Chart or my 6 degrees of separation or whatever the kids are calling it these days… and then I remembered - no not a chance. I’ve been out of the game A LONG TIME. And while Tampa has a fairly insular lesbian group, Ashley isn’t kicking it with my generation of ladies. lol.
6. Thanks for the smiles. My Grandma-in-law just passed this weekend, and smiles are in short supply.
7. Tampa is the place you go to for a lesbian 3some. Southern hospitality and all…
Not the camera zooming in on Ashley with Mak and Alayna talking in the background...😂
i did not even notice Ashley’s audio being different until she fixed it 😂
Boosting the mani- the special will most definitely go viral
OMG ALAYNA!!! Congrats on getting into your program!! No surprise there. The mental health world needs you ❤
i love how the second i opened this i immediately went "damn ashley looks so good today" and mak and alayna just went on to prove my point
Listener writing in: I am not bothered, I loved every minute
OK, finished the podcast now and ohmygosh congratulations Alayna! You're gonna be amazing at it!
Love seeing Fulton (sp?) at the cuts to Ashley - he's so sweet!
Thanks for the non-monogamy chat! Love hearing your advice on these sorts of things!
Congrats Alayna! I’m in my masters program right now to become a licensed mental health counselor too. Having more queer counselors is so important for representation. Excited and happy for you!
You guys, I'm emotionally, hilariously crying here. You're just getting better and better. Congratulations Alayna 😘🥰
The relationship you have before you get married is exactly the type of marriage you'll have. If you don't sit with your partner at home and think, "God I want it to be like this forever," then you probably shouldn't marry that person. I've been with my partner for almost eight years, and our relationship gets better and better all the time. Even during the toughest years together, our love and friendship have kept us both safe and happy despite the chaos surrounding us. I wouldn't trade him for anything, and I can't imagine loving someone more or being loved better than the way he loves me. You deserve to feel like this.❤
As someone who's been in all diff sorts of relationships, I applaud Ash for opening up about her open relationship. They're not usually easy & takes extra care. Also, I would not participate in an open relationship if there's ANY part of u that isn't into it or wants more from their partner, as it would only cause unneeded pain. I hope Ash isn't secretly hating it, but it seems like its all good. Settling isn't something anyone should have to do. 💜
PS- Threesomes aren't all they're made out to be. 😝 Take it from me.
“This podcast gives me life”. So true! Highlight of the week!
Bro I get so happy when I see there is a new pod out 😆
CONGRATS ALAYNA!!! 🎉🎉
So excited for you Alayna!!! As a current master's student in clinical mental health counseling you'll see the difference between what you do now and what you will do once you have clients. Im so excited for you to sharpen your already immaculate, and natural abilites to become an amazing counselor!!
I am so overly happy for Alyanna, congrats!!!
I love being apart of the family
"I am a Joy Baby" and "OOPS! I am gay" I so want those on shirts! Alayna merch!!!