Instead of Hagrids ''Youre a Wizard Harry' coming to take Harry to Hogwarts, i'm just imagining Kristen Stewart appearing to 7th grade Mak on the stairs "Youre a lesbian Makaela'' and handing her a carabiner.
Alayna's discreet frown when Mattea explains how she bought a house with a boyfriend that she's been with for a year is every big sister trying to be supportive of her younger siblings but not being able to hide her true feelings lmao
Flight attendant here! A lot of the sound comes from the engine power required for vertical climb. Once you’ve reached cruise altitude, the engines don’t have to work as hard to maintain that altitude as they do to gain altitude, so that’s likely why the sound gets quieter! The engine is just chilling out ✌🏼 (also pilots feel free to fact check me!)
I know few about plain but engine needing geting power is the same no mater the vehicul it has to ''push'' so just like a car on a long hill the engine make more noise and calm down when going ''slow trotle'' flat drive ;-)
And hot tip, pay attention to the flight attendants! You all know when things are okay and when they are not. If the flight attendants are chill, I'm chill. I was a business frequent traveler for 8 years and one flight there was a women in her 30s who had never flown before. I was in her row and she was asking us for tips and what to expect, while still at the gate. She was super nervous and I told her to watch the flight attendants. That's when the guy ahead of my turned around and I realized he was a pilot. He was like "yup, exactly what she said" and that started a whole new conversation about turbulence (sit near or just behind the wings for best stability!) because it turned out that row ahead of us was all flight staff taking a flight to their next destination. It was a super positive interaction and the women did so good and was super proud of herself.
Mak is so much teenage brother in my head that I envisioned just a waist towel until she said 'went out on the balcony' and my brain went WAIT A MINUTE
There's a guy on tiktok who talks you through every single noise you hear on a plane. Each noise is a different part of the plane activating or turning off when needed and he tells you each one. Might help!
ashley talked a couple episodes about how mattea had a glow up, and i don’t follow her so i didn’t know what ashley was talking about but DAMN i get it now, mattea looks absolutely GORGEOUS
Hi there, love the pod! Mattea actually has a point about blood incompatibility. It's not really about the blood type though, but rather the blood Rh (Rhesus) type. If a Rh-negative partner conceives with a Rh-positive partner, there's a chance that the fetus may have a Rh-positive blood type, inherited from the partner who's not carrying. In such cases, if the fetal blood comes into contact with the carrying partner's blood (which can happen during childbirth, miscarriage, abortion, blood transfusions, or certain prenatal procedures), the carrying partner's immune system may produce antibodies against the fetal Rh-positive blood cells, which can be serious or even life-threatening for the evolving baby. This immune response is known as Rh incompatibility or Rh sensitization and is a well-established aspect of immunology and obstetrics. So, while having a certain Rh blood type doesn't typically make it harder to get pregnant, it can lead to certain complications during pregnancy, particularly if the partners are not both Rh positive or negative. So, it's essential for the carrying Rh-negative partner to receive proper medical care and follow the recommendations of their doctor to prevent Rh sensitization and associated risks during pregnancy.
Right, it usually becomes more of an issue in subsequent pregnancies, since most of the time the person carrying comes into contact with the blood during childbirth. Then, if you have a subsequent pregnancy with an Rh positive fetus, you are likely to miscarry.
i feel like the way Mak realized she was queer is becoming the norm for younger generations. older people had to deal with wayyyy more shit and so usually their journey is much more difficult and takes longer, whereas kids today are learning about being queer from a much younger age and it’s generally more accepted, so people are realizing sooner and have more self acceptance
Came here from Spotify to say I really like my loops for concerts! I have the experience ones + they’re perfect to make the music quieter but still be able to hear anyone you’re with.
The slow almost non existent progress of this video without Ashley is the funniest thing ever! Can't wait for Ashley's review of this on.😂 I enjoyed every second of this episode.❤
About the person who wrote in on the patreon, my husband and I are the same in the opposites. We’ve been together for 15 years now and our oldest is 11 now. So around 5 years ago we figured out 2 things. 1. We started making Saturday night our “date night” they were usually at home as by then we had 3 kids but once we put them to bed we would watch a movie, pop popcorn and snuggle until we were ready for sex. The most important thing for me was he agreed to get up Sunday morning when the kids got up to let me sleep in. It gave us both the thing we needed most and neither of us had to be “worried” that we were going to get our top need met. 2. This also helped us figure out that I need to be seduced. All day. It’s simply not in the forefront of my mind unless you make it the forefront. But I also don’t want to feel like I have to as that’s an instant turn off. So, we figured out through trial and error what worked and now we have a lively sex life (even though we no longer “schedule” for Sat night) but I get the sleep I need 😁.
LOVE THE LOOPS!!! I have engage which is perfect for me. I can’t process what people are saying if there’s background noise and loops help drown it out. I wear them to restaurants, concerts, social gatherings, and at work. Apparently I started a trend at work which honestly makes me so happy. A coworker came up to me to say most of the supervisors have loops now because of me, (I’m not a supervisor nor talk about my loops). I always get excited when people bring up hearing protection. We gotta protect those hearing, ESPECIALLY AT CONCERTS!! I’m going to get the quiet ones before traveling, I reckon it would become a lifesaver for me.
Chosen Family being a tech, anxiety/plane, and product reviews for sensory issues podcast this week. This is my niche 😄 Also, Mattea’s hair is gorgeous!! Congrats on buying a house!
As a former EMT/EMS worker it is better to be embarrassed with a story then dead. FYI most people die from the fumes and smoke then an actual fire or temperature. Edit to add: Love Mattea whenever she is on the pod! AND SLEEP is crucial and if she is a mom to a herd of kids she IS exhausted, deal with it and help carry the burden of child rearing, it is more then chores it is talking and emotionally being there for the children and let's face it MOM is God to children especially when young.
Hello, I recently purchased Loop earplugs for my birthday and I will never go back. It’s a game changer for being in class or doing homework, I’ve used them working out, I’ve used them at stores I love them so much and I would encourage anyone to buy them although they are pricey they are so much better than regular earplugs and I love how seamless they are and how you can’t really notice them.
I use ear loops and I love them!!! I started having panic attacks in busy spaces and they have helped a lot. I have engage and quiet. You can’t tell the difference between the two in a really loud space but in a neutral space the quiet are almost mute
FLARE noise reducing earbuds are great for me. The soft ones don't irritate/pain my ear(canal) and they don't block out too much noise, but somehow still work to feel safer and less anxious. A very big plus for me was that it doesn't change the way you hear yourself talk (which the loops do). In public transport I use overear headphones with noise cancelling (Sony). Love that you shared this topic
Loved this episode I also struggle with loud noises making me anxious during travel :)) I have the “engage” loops, theyre super useful in busy crowded places where I can get overwhelmed. I don’t wear them for super long periods of time as they can get a little uncomfortable after a while but they’ve been very worth it for me
My favorite ear plugs are by the brand Ear Peace! They are mostly clear and pretty unnoticeable in the ear. My favorite part is that it comes with three different inserts that you can swap out that change the intensity of blocking. I think with Loop you need to buy multiple different Loops? but with these you get one pair and can decide what level of awareness/blocking you want.
I use podcasts to motivate me to practice piano (I play a podcast in the background while I sight read), and this is by far my favourite podcast ever!! I never miss a day of practice if a chosen family episode comes out ❤
I have Loop experiences with the gold rings and Loop quiets in red and I love them. For shows and concerts and public transport. They also have the different sizes of the in ear part for everything. Love opening with ten minutes of ear plug talk, by the way. I think another brand is Calmer, but I haven't tried those. The Loops also have these cute little cases you can put on a key chain that they come with. They are also a little cheaper than I thought. It's funny to be at a concert with them and only hear the music and feel like you're the only one singing along because you don't really hear all audience noise (with the experience ones) but it does make you a little self-conscious sometimes until you realise that it's way louder for others and they cannot hear you even trying to talk to them at normal volume.
I currently have a headache and just decided to put in my loops as you guys were talking about noise cancelling headphones to help it. And then Alayna showing her loops made me so happy. I love them and they have saved my brain from so much noise and irritation
Love my Loops! I have the concert ones but where them to any loud event, festival, or concert I attend. I recommend. My mom got the sleeping Loops and she was sad to report that she could still hear my dad snoring.
JBL tune buds are a MUCH more affordable option than AirPods and they’ve got all those other settings you guys talked about as well!! They work amazing I promise. My little brother got a drum set for Christmas so they’ve definitely proven their worth. Also, can confirm, Loops are great!! I take those things with me everywhere. 😅
Hi Alayna, I hope you see this message🤞🏻 I’m excited for your podcast! I just have a request for it… I would love if every episode had a dedicated “latest research” section where you gave an overview of a recently published study or explained a theory that’s very influential in current sex and and relationships research. I feel like you’re so well trained for that given how dedicated you’ve been to your degree. Anyway, thank you for doing all these projects!
I also recommend Flare audio Calmer if you still want to be aware of your surroundings but less bothered by sounds - they make sharp sounds less sharp and loud eaters less annoying, etc. if I wear them I'm less tired by the end of the day - though often I'm too embarrassed to wear them. But they're more discreet than earphones for sure. I use both flare audios and loop earplugs in different contexts (yes, an embarrassing amount of my money goes into not-hearing aids 😂)
I just watched this episode today and got so excited about Mak mentioning Loops because I got my first pair of loop earplugs delivered this morning! They’re the loop engage and so far I’m super happy because everything just sounds smoother and softer and less overpowering, but i can still understand people talking to me perfectly. So I don’t get the anxiety of noise cancelling headphones that always make me feel like I’m too unaware of my surroundings or like I might seem rude not realising someone’s talking to me. So I think if you’re very noise sensitive and maybe neurodivergent (I’m autistic) they’re perfect!
Regarding Noice cancelling headphones (I have Sony over ear, because I can't use inears when I have migraine) the reason you can feel slight queezy after using noice cancelling is because in fact the headphones play the same noice it cancels, but in opposite phase, wich means you have been listening to a lot of noice. The noice canceling is similar on all headphones, but Sony and Apple are regarded to be the best (and most expensive) so I am contemplating to buy Sony in-ears too (not into Apple, at all) to pair with my phone, as I can charge them wireless with my Samsung phone
Flare Calmer are so much less visible than loops. I’ve enjoyed mine. I ordered a normal pair, my ear holes are too small so they sent me the minis for no extra charge, and they’re perfect.
I swear by loop ear plugs. I have two pairs and I wear them to concerts and it’s perfect. It drowns out people talking and crowd noise so I’m not overstimulated at big festivals. I also wear them to spin class so I can hear the instructor and not the squeaking bikes. I have sensory issues and they have really changed the way I interact in busy overstimulating places. Can’t say enough about them
I have to say that I really love that this started out talking about sensory issues and how loud planes are and what earplugs and earbuds work best for Mak and Alayna! I can really relate to what you both were saying! I rely heavily on Flare Calmer ear plugs, which have helped a lot with sensory issues and migraine triggers! They are not noticeable and my family is always asking if I have them in before we go somewhere when I already have them in. So, it’s great that they can help me so much and that I don’t feel like they’re advertising that I’ve got issues with this or that people might think I’m rude like Mak was talking about. I really wish I had found them when I was going to conferences in other states for a previous job as I was relying on swimmers’ earplugs at that time. Even without the plane travel that I used to have, I deal with a TON of plane noises over house that wasn’t a problem when we bought this house years ago. Now that they’ve made the airport bigger, however, the planes are way too many times a day to count. It was the worst possible thing for migraine and seizure triggers! 🙁 The Calmer earplugs reduce the frequency of things so higher pitched and overwhelming loud noises like planes become a thing you’re barely aware of in the background but still let you carry on a conversation with people without your voice or theirs being distorted. They are amazing and have completely changed my life for the better! 😃😃
Today is the day i finally caught up with the episodes.. i was so late to the pod. Saw Ashley in Dublin was incredible, even through the food poisioning
Flare Calmer soft are my fave earplugs! They are comfy and block out extra noise but let me hear the person speaking to me loud and clear. Also I don´t hear myself funny in my own head! Highly recommend but they take some time getting used to!
Mak being embarrassed by the whole bathroom scene meanwhile I'm over here thinking if I had a gf and she did that I would think it was REALLY funny and adorable
I use Loop! I hesitated about it because they are expensive; but I got the 3 in 1 settings one. They are SUCH a relief! I work in a really loud place, and get super super super overstimulated due to adhd and anxiety when it comes to sounds. Loops are GENUINELY fantastic. I was worried I’d have to return them, that they wouldn’t work, but when I put them in at work it was an instant “..Oh! This is so nice!” - the only thing I warn you is when you take them out, you realise just how loud the world is!!!
loops are the best. life changingggg. i have all three. quiet, engage & experience! the i got gold & clear for the experience & engage and so it does look like an earring or not there!
I love the sensory processing talk. I 100% relate as someone with ADHD and anxiety. I have loop 'experience' earplugs and I love using them for grocery shopping. Shopping centres are so noisy - people, beeping checkouts, store music playing. I feel much more relaxed and focused wearing the loop earplugs.
looking forward so much to this ep :) this podcast always makes my week a little better, even when like this week my depression is really bad, this still makes me a little happier
I know these pods are recorded way in advance but I wanted to say I really love my loops. I got the Engage 2's November last year I think(?) and they are quite pricey - especially if you get some of their higher end more adaptable products - for how easy they are to lose but they've really helped me for stuff like study, grocery shopping, live music, travel etc. Omg if you live in London, England (or I guess anywhere with an underground train system) they are a game changer for all the horrible noises the tube makes. The only thing I'd say and I think it's more a me thing than an earplug thing I can't wear them for too long - like more than an hour(?) - because I get headaches from having something in my ear for that long but if you have airpod pros and you don't have that issue with them then you shouldn't have that issue with loops.
Calmer is like Loop but they are way smaller and come in clear, so people will talk to me for a while before noticing I’m wearing them. They’re fantastic for engaging with other people in loud environments, rather than just blocking everything out
Yes, this is what I was going to mention. I only started using these last year, but they’ve made such a HUGE difference for my migraines, because there aren’t so many horrifically loud sounds like planes flying overhead triggering them multiple times a day. I also used them when they were fireworks at New Year’s. I barely knew the fireworks were going off and it was an amazing difference! 😃😃
I am a design engineer for plane engines and I used to not have an issue flying, but now I know more about the engines, even though they go through extreme testing and safety measures, I became more anxious flying than before. For me, more ignorance was bliss 😂
I have the LOOP ones but I chose the one called "experience" they allow to lower the loud sounds but you can still hear everything, it's just softer! I would wear them when I walk by a busy road/ in concerts/ in cinema/ any big gathering or family meals! It really allows me to be present but always comfortable! As an autistic girly, that saved my social life ❤
I'm not sure about the "sleeping around" title, I feel like pretty quickly you're gonna want to expand beyond the topic and you'll be kind of limited by the title, either you won't allow yourself to explore or the title won't be representative of the diverse content and people might not find your content because they misunderstand what you're talking about (it also might make getting guests a little harder). Can't wait for your pod either way, I'm so excited!!
Loops are great and I have multiple kinds, including the switch with multiple modes which are great. But if you want less noticeable, I also use transparent Flare earplugs. I used them when I was a server because I needed something that helped with the noise but still allowed me to hear quiet customers in the loud environment. They don't cancel out a lot of noise but I would almost describe it as smoothing the sound out, if that makes sense. It's a small change but really helped with sensory overwhelm by the end of the night.
Noise cancelling headphone settings are really lifechanging! Especially if you have sensory issues. I cant do buds but I have some for over the ear, love them!
@ Mak: i use Calmer by Flare Audio! They're similar to Loop, but I picked them cos they're smaller. I get pain in my ears occasionally (cos theyre sensitive) and sharp noises like traffic is the worst, and these help a lot - which i noticed also reduces my anxiety. I dont need them all the time, but so handy to have when my ears are being ouchie.
7:25 Engineering, especially in aerospace, where weight is such a huge consideration, is all about managing trade-offs. I can totally picture there being a meeting about mitigating the loudness of the ambient noise, and whether it's worth the weight of the insulation, or the heavier, more rigid parts, where one anxious little guy in a short sleeve button up pipes up and says, "well hang on a just a second..."
I'm sure Alayna's podcast is going to be super successful - it's weird to think about the years in the future when she'll be as big as Esther Perel and I'll have grown up watching her as a peer. Excited to hear it!
Loop is amazing, I have two kinds and one works for loud crowds and one is for medium level noises. I love them both, and the later one is good for noise dampening
I have had my loops (engage) for a while now. I like them, but I hear myself really weird which annoys me so much. I do use them when it's really crowded and for school. I'm also allowed to wear them during tests and exams. My mom uses the quiet loops to sleep and a friend of mine has the experience which are for concerts and stuff. I also found a brand online called flare audio. I have not tried their earbuds, but I do want to. I hear great stuff about them too
Earplug recs: I have flare audio calmer earplugs and they block just a little bit of sound and are SO small people don’t even notice them. I also have the Loop switch, which allow me to choose how much sound I want with a little switch (at the lowest setting they block more than the flare ones). The loops do make my own voice loud to me, which makes me speak quieter to others. They are both good for different situations! I have also heard good things about eargasm ear plugs as well.
MAK LOOPS have made transparent series they just are plastic colored a little bit but some are peach and look WAY LESS noticeable depending on skin tone but I’m sure the pearl peachy one would be perfect for you and the less noticeable vibe
I know exactly what they're talking about with the silence with noise cancellation. A couple years ago, I bought a $40 pair of headphones that had active noise cancellation and was like woah.
Y'ALL I just took a medium length flight and they had completely redone the safety video to parallel what you see in a plane as a tropical Paradise. You're watching the presenter stand in front of the backs of a bunch of people sitting in straight back chairs, in a tropical Paradise. They absolutely engineer that experience. I don't know about the sound. I imagine that what you're hearing is the pressurization turning off. But they engineer everything else
Yes!! It is totally the sound that triggers my anxiety on planes, too! I got headphones that aren’t noise cancelling but block a vast majority of noise and it is GAME CHANGING. Oddly, when that take off engine turns off, that’s when I finally feel as safe as I’ll get on the flight. Take off and landing is the worst for me!
Loop are super good! I have the quiet one and the switch one! I prefere the Switch since I can change between 3 settings depending on the environement! I tried other noise canceling product and nothing beats loop... particulary with the price!
I use the loop experience at school because headphones are banned in some classrooms. It’s been so helpful to be able to talk to people but block out all the random noise in the background!
My mates and I LOVE ‘loops’, especially for good for social situations, particularly clubs or loud music settings, I’ve also seen advertisements for another brand called ‘flare earplugs’ but not sure how good they are 🤷🏻♀️
I can already hear Ashley's notes for the first 13 minutes... "You're both such f*cking nerds.....STOP BOTTOMMING SO HARD FOR CAPITALISM! WHAT ARE YOU DOING?!"
you only need the plane engine during take off and landing. you don't need it when you're high up there, the wings take over and they lower the throttle so that's why it sounds quiet.
FAO Mak - SMALL UNNOTICEABLE EAR THING REQUEST ANSWERED !!! I tried loops, they blocked sound too much for me. Try "Calmer Flares" They are unnoticeable and reduce the intensity of sound. I keep losing them though so bough a pair of the safety ones lol
i’ve heard mixed reviews on loop earplugs. some people really don’t like how much they can hear their own chewing and talking while wearing loops. an alternative brand is Flare, which are more discreet but have a little less variability in products
Every time mak and alayna are left alone, you can guarantee plane talk
the best episodes tbh
Dad is gonna be so mad about how long they talked about headphones.
Instead of Hagrids ''Youre a Wizard Harry' coming to take Harry to Hogwarts, i'm just imagining Kristen Stewart appearing to 7th grade Mak on the stairs "Youre a lesbian Makaela'' and handing her a carabiner.
Alayna's discreet frown when Mattea explains how she bought a house with a boyfriend that she's been with for a year is every big sister trying to be supportive of her younger siblings but not being able to hide her true feelings lmao
Flight attendant here! A lot of the sound comes from the engine power required for vertical climb. Once you’ve reached cruise altitude, the engines don’t have to work as hard to maintain that altitude as they do to gain altitude, so that’s likely why the sound gets quieter! The engine is just chilling out ✌🏼 (also pilots feel free to fact check me!)
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I appreciate this info. I’m supposed to travel soon and I’m a very anxious flyer.
I know few about plain but engine needing geting power is the same no mater the vehicul it has to ''push'' so just like a car on a long hill the engine make more noise and calm down when going ''slow trotle'' flat drive ;-)
Thank you!! ✈
And hot tip, pay attention to the flight attendants! You all know when things are okay and when they are not. If the flight attendants are chill, I'm chill. I was a business frequent traveler for 8 years and one flight there was a women in her 30s who had never flown before. I was in her row and she was asking us for tips and what to expect, while still at the gate. She was super nervous and I told her to watch the flight attendants. That's when the guy ahead of my turned around and I realized he was a pilot. He was like "yup, exactly what she said" and that started a whole new conversation about turbulence (sit near or just behind the wings for best stability!) because it turned out that row ahead of us was all flight staff taking a flight to their next destination. It was a super positive interaction and the women did so good and was super proud of herself.
Probably the most Mom thing Alayna has ever said “I had points on my credit card!” 😂
I can already see the episode where ashley will be yelling to Alina and Mak about the 15min conversation about the phones lol
Cant wait for Ashley’s review of this ep on the next one 😂
I can already hear the "Mak, you're autistic."
She won’t watch it then she’ll ask what did I miss then she’ll yell at them while they explain 😆
I hope she yells about Mak going on too long about saying "evacuate"
"YOU SPOKE ABOUT EARBUDS FOR 15 MINUTES!!!!!!!! WHAT THE F*** IS WRONG WITH YOU?! YOU NERDS!!" -Ashley on next episode, probably
Mak is so much teenage brother in my head that I envisioned just a waist towel until she said 'went out on the balcony' and my brain went WAIT A MINUTE
ME TOOOOO
Don't let Ashley tell you your topics are boring the listeners. I love these goofy topics that you two get stuck on - relatable
I WILL CALL THEM BORING AS MUCH AS I WANT
There's a guy on tiktok who talks you through every single noise you hear on a plane. Each noise is a different part of the plane activating or turning off when needed and he tells you each one. Might help!
There really is everything on the internet these days
Time to obsessively learn every plane noise and when it's supposed to happen and then freak out when you don't hear it
@@Eisog Hahaa oh no! #notallplanes!! 😂
ashley talked a couple episodes about how mattea had a glow up, and i don’t follow her so i didn’t know what ashley was talking about but DAMN i get it now, mattea looks absolutely GORGEOUS
Love seeing Mum and Baby go off about sensory issues. Dad will be bummed she missed out on Julio's gorgeous shaped head.
So weird hearing the pod intro without the ‘you’re a gay orphan who has no family’ bit hahaha
Hi there, love the pod! Mattea actually has a point about blood incompatibility. It's not really about the blood type though, but rather the blood Rh (Rhesus) type. If a Rh-negative partner conceives with a Rh-positive partner, there's a chance that the fetus may have a Rh-positive blood type, inherited from the partner who's not carrying. In such cases, if the fetal blood comes into contact with the carrying partner's blood (which can happen during childbirth, miscarriage, abortion, blood transfusions, or certain prenatal procedures), the carrying partner's immune system may produce antibodies against the fetal Rh-positive blood cells, which can be serious or even life-threatening for the evolving baby. This immune response is known as Rh incompatibility or Rh sensitization and is a well-established aspect of immunology and obstetrics.
So, while having a certain Rh blood type doesn't typically make it harder to get pregnant, it can lead to certain complications during pregnancy, particularly if the partners are not both Rh positive or negative. So, it's essential for the carrying Rh-negative partner to receive proper medical care and follow the recommendations of their doctor to prevent Rh sensitization and associated risks during pregnancy.
I remembered this exact same thing and was about to comment so thank you for informing the masses in a much more informative way than i could have
Right, it usually becomes more of an issue in subsequent pregnancies, since most of the time the person carrying comes into contact with the blood during childbirth. Then, if you have a subsequent pregnancy with an Rh positive fetus, you are likely to miscarry.
I love that Mak only listens to one song in a loop. Glad to know I'm not the only one
whats yours?!
i feel like the way Mak realized she was queer is becoming the norm for younger generations. older people had to deal with wayyyy more shit and so usually their journey is much more difficult and takes longer, whereas kids today are learning about being queer from a much younger age and it’s generally more accepted, so people are realizing sooner and have more self acceptance
Definitely agree with Mak on the song habits. Some songs deserve to shine a thousand different times.
FULLY THOUGHT ALAYNA WAS PREGNANT FOR A SECOND YALL CANT JUMPSCARE ME LIKE THAT
Came here from Spotify to say I really like my loops for concerts! I have the experience ones + they’re perfect to make the music quieter but still be able to hear anyone you’re with.
The slow almost non existent progress of this video without Ashley is the funniest thing ever! Can't wait for Ashley's review of this on.😂
I enjoyed every second of this episode.❤
About the person who wrote in on the patreon, my husband and I are the same in the opposites. We’ve been together for 15 years now and our oldest is 11 now. So around 5 years ago we figured out 2 things. 1. We started making Saturday night our “date night” they were usually at home as by then we had 3 kids but once we put them to bed we would watch a movie, pop popcorn and snuggle until we were ready for sex. The most important thing for me was he agreed to get up Sunday morning when the kids got up to let me sleep in. It gave us both the thing we needed most and neither of us had to be “worried” that we were going to get our top need met. 2. This also helped us figure out that I need to be seduced. All day. It’s simply not in the forefront of my mind unless you make it the forefront. But I also don’t want to feel like I have to as that’s an instant turn off. So, we figured out through trial and error what worked and now we have a lively sex life (even though we no longer “schedule” for Sat night) but I get the sleep I need 😁.
The AirPods/Loop talk made me feel very much seen, haha
LOVE THE LOOPS!!! I have engage which is perfect for me. I can’t process what people are saying if there’s background noise and loops help drown it out. I wear them to restaurants, concerts, social gatherings, and at work.
Apparently I started a trend at work which honestly makes me so happy. A coworker came up to me to say most of the supervisors have loops now because of me, (I’m not a supervisor nor talk about my loops).
I always get excited when people bring up hearing protection. We gotta protect those hearing, ESPECIALLY AT CONCERTS!!
I’m going to get the quiet ones before traveling, I reckon it would become a lifesaver for me.
Chosen Family being a tech, anxiety/plane, and product reviews for sensory issues podcast this week. This is my niche 😄 Also, Mattea’s hair is gorgeous!! Congrats on buying a house!
As a former EMT/EMS worker it is better to be embarrassed with a story then dead. FYI most people die from the fumes and smoke then an actual fire or temperature. Edit to add: Love Mattea whenever she is on the pod! AND SLEEP is crucial and if she is a mom to a herd of kids she IS exhausted, deal with it and help carry the burden of child rearing, it is more then chores it is talking and emotionally being there for the children and let's face it MOM is God to children especially when young.
It has been too long since Mattea on the pod. This was certainly a journey and I loved it.
Hello, I recently purchased Loop earplugs for my birthday and I will never go back. It’s a game changer for being in class or doing homework, I’ve used them working out, I’ve used them at stores I love them so much and I would encourage anyone to buy them although they are pricey they are so much better than regular earplugs and I love how seamless they are and how you can’t really notice them.
The pod is always so humble when Ashley isn’t here
I use ear loops and I love them!!! I started having panic attacks in busy spaces and they have helped a lot. I have engage and quiet. You can’t tell the difference between the two in a really loud space but in a neutral space the quiet are almost mute
FLARE noise reducing earbuds are great for me. The soft ones don't irritate/pain my ear(canal) and they don't block out too much noise, but somehow still work to feel safer and less anxious. A very big plus for me was that it doesn't change the way you hear yourself talk (which the loops do). In public transport I use overear headphones with noise cancelling (Sony).
Love that you shared this topic
Love the SIT. Sensory Issue Talk. I'm not kidding as someone with sensory issues my entire life I 100% relate!
Loved this episode I also struggle with loud noises making me anxious during travel :)) I have the “engage” loops, theyre super useful in busy crowded places where I can get overwhelmed. I don’t wear them for super long periods of time as they can get a little uncomfortable after a while but they’ve been very worth it for me
Mattea is glowing here!!
My favorite ear plugs are by the brand Ear Peace! They are mostly clear and pretty unnoticeable in the ear. My favorite part is that it comes with three different inserts that you can swap out that change the intensity of blocking. I think with Loop you need to buy multiple different Loops? but with these you get one pair and can decide what level of awareness/blocking you want.
I use podcasts to motivate me to practice piano (I play a podcast in the background while I sight read), and this is by far my favourite podcast ever!! I never miss a day of practice if a chosen family episode comes out ❤
I have Loop experiences with the gold rings and Loop quiets in red and I love them. For shows and concerts and public transport. They also have the different sizes of the in ear part for everything. Love opening with ten minutes of ear plug talk, by the way. I think another brand is Calmer, but I haven't tried those. The Loops also have these cute little cases you can put on a key chain that they come with. They are also a little cheaper than I thought. It's funny to be at a concert with them and only hear the music and feel like you're the only one singing along because you don't really hear all audience noise (with the experience ones) but it does make you a little self-conscious sometimes until you realise that it's way louder for others and they cannot hear you even trying to talk to them at normal volume.
I currently have a headache and just decided to put in my loops as you guys were talking about noise cancelling headphones to help it. And then Alayna showing her loops made me so happy. I love them and they have saved my brain from so much noise and irritation
Which loops do you have if you dont mind me asking?
@@WhatsupAiden at the moment I just have the quiet ones I’m planning on getting a couple more in the future tho
Love my Loops! I have the concert ones but where them to any loud event, festival, or concert I attend. I recommend. My mom got the sleeping Loops and she was sad to report that she could still hear my dad snoring.
JBL tune buds are a MUCH more affordable option than AirPods and they’ve got all those other settings you guys talked about as well!! They work amazing I promise. My little brother got a drum set for Christmas so they’ve definitely proven their worth.
Also, can confirm, Loops are great!! I take those things with me everywhere. 😅
Hi Alayna, I hope you see this message🤞🏻 I’m excited for your podcast! I just have a request for it… I would love if every episode had a dedicated “latest research” section where you gave an overview of a recently published study or explained a theory that’s very influential in current sex and and relationships research. I feel like you’re so well trained for that given how dedicated you’ve been to your degree. Anyway, thank you for doing all these projects!
omg this is so smart, writing it down in my ideas note!!
I also recommend Flare audio Calmer if you still want to be aware of your surroundings but less bothered by sounds - they make sharp sounds less sharp and loud eaters less annoying, etc. if I wear them I'm less tired by the end of the day - though often I'm too embarrassed to wear them. But they're more discreet than earphones for sure. I use both flare audios and loop earplugs in different contexts (yes, an embarrassing amount of my money goes into not-hearing aids 😂)
ALSO! If you get the Flares in blue they kind of look like a tiny Smurf giving you the finger 🖕🏻
I just watched this episode today and got so excited about Mak mentioning Loops because I got my first pair of loop earplugs delivered this morning! They’re the loop engage and so far I’m super happy because everything just sounds smoother and softer and less overpowering, but i can still understand people talking to me perfectly. So I don’t get the anxiety of noise cancelling headphones that always make me feel like I’m too unaware of my surroundings or like I might seem rude not realising someone’s talking to me.
So I think if you’re very noise sensitive and maybe neurodivergent (I’m autistic) they’re perfect!
Regarding Noice cancelling headphones (I have Sony over ear, because I can't use inears when I have migraine) the reason you can feel slight queezy after using noice cancelling is because in fact the headphones play the same noice it cancels, but in opposite phase, wich means you have been listening to a lot of noice.
The noice canceling is similar on all headphones, but Sony and Apple are regarded to be the best (and most expensive) so I am contemplating to buy Sony in-ears too (not into Apple, at all) to pair with my phone, as I can charge them wireless with my Samsung phone
Flare Calmer are so much less visible than loops. I’ve enjoyed mine. I ordered a normal pair, my ear holes are too small so they sent me the minis for no extra charge, and they’re perfect.
I swear by loop ear plugs. I have two pairs and I wear them to concerts and it’s perfect. It drowns out people talking and crowd noise so I’m not overstimulated at big festivals. I also wear them to spin class so I can hear the instructor and not the squeaking bikes. I have sensory issues and they have really changed the way I interact in busy overstimulating places. Can’t say enough about them
I have to say that I really love that this started out talking about sensory issues and how loud planes are and what earplugs and earbuds work best for Mak and Alayna! I can really relate to what you both were saying! I rely heavily on Flare Calmer ear plugs, which have helped a lot with sensory issues and migraine triggers! They are not noticeable and my family is always asking if I have them in before we go somewhere when I already have them in. So, it’s great that they can help me so much and that I don’t feel like they’re advertising that I’ve got issues with this or that people might think I’m rude like Mak was talking about. I really wish I had found them when I was going to conferences in other states for a previous job as I was relying on swimmers’ earplugs at that time. Even without the plane travel that I used to have, I deal with a TON of plane noises over house that wasn’t a problem when we bought this house years ago. Now that they’ve made the airport bigger, however, the planes are way too many times a day to count. It was the worst possible thing for migraine and seizure triggers! 🙁 The Calmer earplugs reduce the frequency of things so higher pitched and overwhelming loud noises like planes become a thing you’re barely aware of in the background but still let you carry on a conversation with people without your voice or theirs being distorted. They are amazing and have completely changed my life for the better! 😃😃
Today is the day i finally caught up with the episodes.. i was so late to the pod. Saw Ashley in Dublin was incredible, even through the food poisioning
I like the loops engage ear plugs because they don't echo your own voice back in your head which drives me crazy!
Flare Calmer soft are my fave earplugs! They are comfy and block out extra noise but let me hear the person speaking to me loud and clear. Also I don´t hear myself funny in my own head! Highly recommend but they take some time getting used to!
Alayna is so freaking smart, I love listening to her! Looking forward to the podcast ❤
Mak being embarrassed by the whole bathroom scene meanwhile I'm over here thinking if I had a gf and she did that I would think it was REALLY funny and adorable
Lol, I feel like Mac gave herself the ick. GF knows who she’s in a relationship with. 😊
I use Loop! I hesitated about it because they are expensive; but I got the 3 in 1 settings one. They are SUCH a relief! I work in a really loud place, and get super super super overstimulated due to adhd and anxiety when it comes to sounds. Loops are GENUINELY fantastic. I was worried I’d have to return them, that they wouldn’t work, but when I put them in at work it was an instant “..Oh! This is so nice!” - the only thing I warn you is when you take them out, you realise just how loud the world is!!!
loops are the best. life changingggg. i have all three. quiet, engage & experience! the i got gold & clear for the experience & engage and so it does look like an earring or not there!
Mattea has always been gorgeous but I feel like she's had such a glow up! I dont know if something's different but damnnn
I love the sensory processing talk. I 100% relate as someone with ADHD and anxiety. I have loop 'experience' earplugs and I love using them for grocery shopping. Shopping centres are so noisy - people, beeping checkouts, store music playing. I feel much more relaxed and focused wearing the loop earplugs.
looking forward so much to this ep :) this podcast always makes my week a little better, even when like this week my depression is really bad, this still makes me a little happier
I know these pods are recorded way in advance but I wanted to say I really love my loops.
I got the Engage 2's November last year I think(?) and they are quite pricey - especially if you get some of their higher end more adaptable products - for how easy they are to lose but they've really helped me for stuff like study, grocery shopping, live music, travel etc. Omg if you live in London, England (or I guess anywhere with an underground train system) they are a game changer for all the horrible noises the tube makes.
The only thing I'd say and I think it's more a me thing than an earplug thing I can't wear them for too long - like more than an hour(?) - because I get headaches from having something in my ear for that long but if you have airpod pros and you don't have that issue with them then you shouldn't have that issue with loops.
Calmer is like Loop but they are way smaller and come in clear, so people will talk to me for a while before noticing I’m wearing them. They’re fantastic for engaging with other people in loud environments, rather than just blocking everything out
Yes, this is what I was going to mention. I only started using these last year, but they’ve made such a HUGE difference for my migraines, because there aren’t so many horrifically loud sounds like planes flying overhead triggering them multiple times a day. I also used them when they were fireworks at New Year’s. I barely knew the fireworks were going off and it was an amazing difference! 😃😃
I am a design engineer for plane engines and I used to not have an issue flying, but now I know more about the engines, even though they go through extreme testing and safety measures, I became more anxious flying than before.
For me, more ignorance was bliss 😂
I do that with songs too. I loop the same thing over and over for weeks. I have one I've been looping consistently for years haha
I have the LOOP ones but I chose the one called "experience" they allow to lower the loud sounds but you can still hear everything, it's just softer! I would wear them when I walk by a busy road/ in concerts/ in cinema/ any big gathering or family meals! It really allows me to be present but always comfortable! As an autistic girly, that saved my social life ❤
Ooh you might've just saved my (social) life thank you x
@@stephe1506 you’re so welcome ❤️
"I never realised how much it's the SOUNDS that trigger my anxiety" *cough* 'tism
Your doctor can help you with hearing stuff too; they make custom low-profile earplugs with swappable filters.
I'm not sure about the "sleeping around" title, I feel like pretty quickly you're gonna want to expand beyond the topic and you'll be kind of limited by the title, either you won't allow yourself to explore or the title won't be representative of the diverse content and people might not find your content because they misunderstand what you're talking about (it also might make getting guests a little harder). Can't wait for your pod either way, I'm so excited!!
My wife has been using Loops for years and she loves them! Great for public spaces and concerts
Loops are great and I have multiple kinds, including the switch with multiple modes which are great. But if you want less noticeable, I also use transparent Flare earplugs. I used them when I was a server because I needed something that helped with the noise but still allowed me to hear quiet customers in the loud environment. They don't cancel out a lot of noise but I would almost describe it as smoothing the sound out, if that makes sense. It's a small change but really helped with sensory overwhelm by the end of the night.
Just in time to soak in the bath and watch Chosen Family before dinner
Noise cancelling headphone settings are really lifechanging! Especially if you have sensory issues. I cant do buds but I have some for over the ear, love them!
I can hear ashley losing her shit that you guys are still talking about headphones (not me tho i love this)
I really wish I could see Ashley’s initial reaction to Mak’s fire story. I know she would be judging her so hard 😂
Dudes…this AirPods sensory fest at the beginning is SO fun/ny. And endearing. The struggle is so real.
@ Mak: i use Calmer by Flare Audio! They're similar to Loop, but I picked them cos they're smaller. I get pain in my ears occasionally (cos theyre sensitive) and sharp noises like traffic is the worst, and these help a lot - which i noticed also reduces my anxiety. I dont need them all the time, but so handy to have when my ears are being ouchie.
The headphones evaluation lasting 15 minutes straight is insane behavior 😂😂😂😂 i love mom and bro. Cant wait for dad to flip out when he sees this 😭😭🩷🩷
7:25 Engineering, especially in aerospace, where weight is such a huge consideration, is all about managing trade-offs.
I can totally picture there being a meeting about mitigating the loudness of the ambient noise, and whether it's worth the weight of the insulation, or the heavier, more rigid parts, where one anxious little guy in a short sleeve button up pipes up and says, "well hang on a just a second..."
I'm sure Alayna's podcast is going to be super successful - it's weird to think about the years in the future when she'll be as big as Esther Perel and I'll have grown up watching her as a peer. Excited to hear it!
Loop is amazing, I have two kinds and one works for loud crowds and one is for medium level noises. I love them both, and the later one is good for noise dampening
I have had my loops (engage) for a while now. I like them, but I hear myself really weird which annoys me so much. I do use them when it's really crowded and for school. I'm also allowed to wear them during tests and exams. My mom uses the quiet loops to sleep and a friend of mine has the experience which are for concerts and stuff. I also found a brand online called flare audio. I have not tried their earbuds, but I do want to. I hear great stuff about them too
I have all three types of loops and I swear by them! I don’t go anywhere without them! 100% would recommend!!!
loop are the best. i have them all...lifesaving, so comfy.
Awesome episode!! I'm no stranger to listening to songs on repeat but I've never found one I hung on to for 10 years!
Earplug recs: I have flare audio calmer earplugs and they block just a little bit of sound and are SO small people don’t even notice them. I also have the Loop switch, which allow me to choose how much sound I want with a little switch (at the lowest setting they block more than the flare ones). The loops do make my own voice loud to me, which makes me speak quieter to others. They are both good for different situations! I have also heard good things about eargasm ear plugs as well.
MAK LOOPS have made transparent series they just are plastic colored a little bit but some are peach and look WAY LESS noticeable depending on skin tone but I’m sure the pearl peachy one would be perfect for you and the less noticeable vibe
I know exactly what they're talking about with the silence with noise cancellation. A couple years ago, I bought a $40 pair of headphones that had active noise cancellation and was like woah.
Y'ALL I just took a medium length flight and they had completely redone the safety video to parallel what you see in a plane as a tropical Paradise. You're watching the presenter stand in front of the backs of a bunch of people sitting in straight back chairs, in a tropical Paradise. They absolutely engineer that experience. I don't know about the sound. I imagine that what you're hearing is the pressurization turning off. But they engineer everything else
Yes!! It is totally the sound that triggers my anxiety on planes, too! I got headphones that aren’t noise cancelling but block a vast majority of noise and it is GAME CHANGING.
Oddly, when that take off engine turns off, that’s when I finally feel as safe as I’ll get on the flight. Take off and landing is the worst for me!
Loop are super good! I have the quiet one and the switch one! I prefere the Switch since I can change between 3 settings depending on the environement! I tried other noise canceling product and nothing beats loop... particulary with the price!
I use the loop experience at school because headphones are banned in some classrooms. It’s been so helpful to be able to talk to people but block out all the random noise in the background!
I appreciate everything Alayna said at the end of her answer to the Patreon question! ❤
My mates and I LOVE ‘loops’, especially for good for social situations, particularly clubs or loud music settings, I’ve also seen advertisements for another brand called ‘flare earplugs’ but not sure how good they are 🤷🏻♀️
I can already hear Ashley's notes for the first 13 minutes...
"You're both such f*cking nerds.....STOP BOTTOMMING SO HARD FOR CAPITALISM! WHAT ARE YOU DOING?!"
This episode is INCREDIBLE!!!❤❤🥰 So glad Mattea got to be on too!🥰
I love love love my loop earplugs! I have all the pairs except the switch but the switch are definitely the next ones I get
Why oh why did I look that meme up🤣🤣 now it’s stuck in my head. Also the jean jacket as a shirt is very cute ❤
Alayna I'm so excited for your podcast!!!
you only need the plane engine during take off and landing. you don't need it when you're high up there, the wings take over and they lower the throttle so that's why it sounds quiet.
FAO Mak - SMALL UNNOTICEABLE EAR THING REQUEST ANSWERED !!!
I tried loops, they blocked sound too much for me. Try "Calmer Flares"
They are unnoticeable and reduce the intensity of sound. I keep losing them though so bough a pair of the safety ones lol
my go to noise blocking earbuds are Vibes. i've been using them daily since 2018 and they haven't once failed me lol
i’ve heard mixed reviews on loop earplugs. some people really don’t like how much they can hear their own chewing and talking while wearing loops. an alternative brand is Flare, which are more discreet but have a little less variability in products
Great episode ☺️ Mattea looks great always happy to seeing her ❤