The Narcissist Can't Let You Go

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  • Опубликовано: 20 янв 2025
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Комментарии • 89

  • @sky4all1
    @sky4all1 25 дней назад +42

    It is like crazy train. You can regain yourself only with no contact or else you will suffer unimaginably.

    • @jessmacc-504
      @jessmacc-504 25 дней назад +2

      🙏🏽

    • @milespoutu8316
      @milespoutu8316 25 дней назад +2

      That's her nickname crazy train

    • @jimjackson5836
      @jimjackson5836 25 дней назад +8

      More like a Train Wreck just being around them!!!!!

    • @melisentiapheiffer3034
      @melisentiapheiffer3034 25 дней назад +1

      Yep. The malignant narcissist wants to get me to have sex with him again. It won't ever happen. I guess he feels he has lost control.😂

  • @JustSir430
    @JustSir430 25 дней назад +36

    My ex narc called me about a month ago after about 5 months after I walked away. I didn't recognize the # so I answered. I didn't recognize her voice and asked who it was..she sounded shocked and identified herself. My response was, "Oh. What do you want? She said her car was broken down and asked if I was in her area. I told her to call her boyfriend as she was not my problem any longer. There was a little more conversation but, at the end, she was silent and just said, "ok..." She sounded surprised. I was proud I was able to do that as, 6 months ago, I couldn't have done it.

    • @michaelmich00
      @michaelmich00 24 дня назад

      goodjob, remember narcs wont ever change, they will keep hurting people. and no therapy doesnt work too, already showed by lots of studies a narc or borderline can have 10y of therapy and fall back in 1 day!!!

    • @James_Duncan
      @James_Duncan 19 дней назад +1

      Well done for being strong 💪🏻

  • @fahimashuma
    @fahimashuma 25 дней назад +21

    It’s sickening. They can’t detach. No contact. Blocked still leaves vm crying he misses me. Uses manipulation tactics which doesn’t work. Has multiple supplies I told him to leave me alone. 17yrs I dealt with him. We Share a child. But I Let him go from child responsibility. Still comes by stalking wants to talk see our son. 1yr still the same victim mood. The blame shift & fighting is mind blowing.

  • @petemoore8923
    @petemoore8923 25 дней назад +19

    My wife had a complete meltdown when she discarded me after sixteen years for somebody else. I couldn’t understand it until I educated myself.

    • @CarolineSmith-m8n
      @CarolineSmith-m8n 23 дня назад +1

      That is really interesting as my ex discarded me without explanation in May after about 3 years together and he had an alleged breakdown and I believe he had someone else.

  • @douglasmiller1212
    @douglasmiller1212 24 дня назад +8

    "... they can't understand that you need space, that you need time ... " I once said to her, "You do realize we're two different people, right?" That was before I understood narcissism and realized this was a fundamental flaw in the connection and their world view. When you need ANYTHING that's inconvenient for them, you are a malfunctioning accessory and will pay dearly ...

  • @dcikaruga
    @dcikaruga 25 дней назад +23

    They hate abandonment, can't take it, yet they love to do it to others - I never understood that. And it's called a core wound? Like PTSD? I don't know what to call it myself, but it's really messed their head up, that I'm damn sure of, they gotta be crazy.

    • @melisentiapheiffer3034
      @melisentiapheiffer3034 25 дней назад +5

      It's nothing like having PTSD. They have bypassed that. They have become predators. This is why they are narcissistic.

    • @lisaz4411
      @lisaz4411 24 дня назад +1

      Yeah they are sick in the head and have demons

  • @clementinegordon9429
    @clementinegordon9429 24 дня назад +8

    Thank you for this, I can't stand this anymore 😢

  • @xEKOy
    @xEKOy 25 дней назад +11

    Im 4 months no contact now. I moved the relationship to a diferent part of my brain now and it feels amazing ❤😊

  • @andrew1716
    @andrew1716 16 дней назад +2

    I've learnt to forgive him so i can move on. . When I think about how he treated me like rubbish. . He makes me sick to my stomach. . I won't let anyone treat me like that ever again be strong take control say NO NO NO and just walk away.

  • @johncummings5755
    @johncummings5755 25 дней назад +23

    JUST RUN

    • @Aquarius285
      @Aquarius285 22 дня назад

      How without finnancinal support in other country?

  • @Werderina
    @Werderina 25 дней назад +21

    I didn’t ask for their permission. So whatever they do or try… They control nothing when you are GONE 🤷‍♀️

    • @Aquarius285
      @Aquarius285 22 дня назад

      If you are go in other country,then how they will back you?

    • @Aquarius285
      @Aquarius285 22 дня назад

      I want to go in other country...how can i do that without finnancinal support?

  • @dennishaas4745
    @dennishaas4745 25 дней назад +18

    I have been in radio silence for 18 months and hope I never hear or see my ex again !

    • @lisaz4411
      @lisaz4411 24 дня назад +2

      Same. ❤. One year for me

    • @NarcissistHex-nf9eq
      @NarcissistHex-nf9eq 24 дня назад +1

      You should expect a Hoover sooner or later, it would be highly unusual if they do not Hoover you.

    • @NarcissistHex-nf9eq
      @NarcissistHex-nf9eq 24 дня назад +1

      @@lisaz4411 I'll be very surprised if there has been no Hoover attempts.

    • @dennishaas4745
      @dennishaas4745 23 дня назад +1

      @@NarcissistHex-nf9eq I think that she is too big of a coward and don't want to take any accountability !

    • @NarcissistHex-nf9eq
      @NarcissistHex-nf9eq 23 дня назад +1

      @@dennishaas4745 Yes, well I hope youre right.

  • @CookieMonster-hm8hx
    @CookieMonster-hm8hx 24 дня назад +2

    This perfectly explains how a particular person relates to me.

  • @getbackinthekitchen0
    @getbackinthekitchen0 18 дней назад +2

    so accurate Anoushka ; in fact , because of what you said , I could anticipate the contact after so long 'no contact' .... it seemed ridiculous because they reject you and you go no contact , but they just can't leave you alone , and out of the blue , as if nothing ever happened .... they start all over again ... Anoushka , so pathetic reALLY , and ZERO INSIGHT ... and PREDICTABLE

  • @EkeauaVJames
    @EkeauaVJames 25 дней назад +5

    This is so true thank you very much

  • @peterknyk1942
    @peterknyk1942 24 дня назад +4

    They are selfish! Always doing everything for themselves, no matter what the consequences!

  • @lauralela4554
    @lauralela4554 25 дней назад +6

    I’ve had this I walked away so I just keep him blocked and keep going I’m struggling with this he mentally put me down so much

  • @steenkristensen6351
    @steenkristensen6351 25 дней назад +2

    Skønne dig, jeg ved udmærket hvad du snakker om god dag Anouska 🙂👍

  • @ls.1179
    @ls.1179 18 дней назад

    Thank you very much for your videos dear Anoushka ❤️!

  • @maheshas8157
    @maheshas8157 25 дней назад +9

    Why some narcissist will discard and let move forward their supply and mirroring no contact and no emotions show back to the supply they are ignoring as I do

  • @shelley4073
    @shelley4073 22 дня назад +1

    This video was incredibly timely for me! I can not thank you enough for all the information you share on your channel. I have no doubt it is helping many many people as it has certainly helped me. When I find a job and I am able to afford it, I will be in contact to set up a one on one. You have an amazing gift of communicating the road map of surviving this kind of trauma. I wish you a blessed 2025 and thank you so much for sharing this video today. It helped me so much❤

  • @stricklandsue515
    @stricklandsue515 21 день назад +1

    The narcissist that i cut off recently told me that he owned me. He told his sister the same about me. It was so disturbing for me. He has resorted to calling my sons work bc i changed my number. He calls that place of business 5-8 times a day, asking them to give me messages. He's irrational! He is in prison, and i can't imagine what it would be like if he was out. He controlled my every move. If i didn't answer his calls, he began accusing me of talking to other men. I was miserable. He involved his sister and caused her undue stress bc he told her that if i didn't go back to him, he was going to hurt himself. Of course he didn't. I dont know what he will do next, but i don't want to be in that destructive relationship. I won't talk to his sister either bc she tries to persuade me to talk to him because he is so distraught. I've been thru that too many times in the past. I've experienced everything you talk about in this video. It's a little depressing to hear that it may not be over with him. I want my life back and rely on God to give me the resolve and strength to continue moving on.

  • @JoeVellaMalta
    @JoeVellaMalta 24 дня назад +2

    Connecting dots with each video. Thanks helpful

  • @laurieanderson9290
    @laurieanderson9290 20 дней назад

    In a situation where you still have unavoidable contact.. emotional disconnection is the ultimate challenge.

  • @jacksavage279
    @jacksavage279 25 дней назад +2

    Ty for this valuable information and content.

  • @Strongerthanyouthink78
    @Strongerthanyouthink78 25 дней назад +3

    Turned up at mine Christmas crying saying he made a mistake with the supply but he won’t let her go either even though he’s miserable and she’s on alcohol and drug addiction and obsessively controlling. I was just getting stronger and he’s broken me all again

    • @anissaholmes4495
      @anissaholmes4495 25 дней назад +2

      It takes an abuse victim at least seven times to truly leave the relationship.

  • @kathyball-it4zm
    @kathyball-it4zm 25 дней назад +6

    Haven’t heard from my ex in almost two years and we was together 13 years

  • @Lasagna-z8w
    @Lasagna-z8w 25 дней назад +4

    This was good thank you much appreciated 😊

  • @carolinechitra_888
    @carolinechitra_888 4 часа назад

    We’re not physically seeing each other but I feel him so much in my energy.. it’s crazy. My tarot cards are also saying that he still wants another chance after I let him go after busting him with cheating. He’s fucking crazy.

  • @KayeHolcomb
    @KayeHolcomb 25 дней назад +5

    But he did - he is now courting a widower with more $$$ - he’s beautifully happy and I too am discovering a new relationship - he is the exact opposite of this narcissistic person I was involved with

    • @PurpleFlower1977
      @PurpleFlower1977 23 дня назад

      The mask will slip at some point and that new supply will see the light (hopefully)

    • @empress9857
      @empress9857 19 дней назад +1

      Oh that person still exist and she gonna experience everything you did whether you get the news or not think about what you went thru and outwardly how it looked like y’all was happy Chile please it’s gonna happen

  • @lauralela4554
    @lauralela4554 25 дней назад +7

    Do I just keep him blocked and keep going

    • @lisaz4411
      @lisaz4411 24 дня назад +3

      Yes that’s exactly what you have to do to heal.

    • @lauralela4554
      @lauralela4554 24 дня назад

      @ it can be so hard thanks

    • @lauralela4554
      @lauralela4554 24 дня назад

      @ sticking to the no contact is so hard

  • @LucyFre
    @LucyFre 25 дней назад +11

    We coming back with our thoughts. Because there was no closure and we loved this person.S.Vankin says if someone close just vanishing from our life , without closure explanation emotions bad or good emotions, its psychopath . Not narcistist. Because narcistist got " kafexis " or ...something ( I dont know if I spell it right?) Because psychopath got " flat affect"

    • @ladyvirgo013
      @ladyvirgo013 25 дней назад +3

      I must have been married to a Psychopath then

    • @LucyFre
      @LucyFre 25 дней назад +2

      @ladyvirgo013 I had the same. Watch Vatkins " Was your ex narcistist or psychopath"?

    • @ladyvirgo013
      @ladyvirgo013 25 дней назад +3

      @LucyFre I'm assuming psychopath since he came home after work one day, packed one bag and off he went. He changed his number and immediately moved in with his coworker/ next fuel source. We were married 13 years, he ghosted me and my adult daughter. Erased like we never existed

    • @LucyFre
      @LucyFre 25 дней назад

      @ladyvirgo013 🫨

    • @svgitana2499
      @svgitana2499 25 дней назад +1

      @@ladyvirgo013wow how do you recover from that 😮
      Best of luck to you both

  • @DMK2CPT27
    @DMK2CPT27 25 дней назад +2

    Oh my days thank you.

  • @nilaja-itsmylife
    @nilaja-itsmylife 25 дней назад +3

    Going through this now with my ex husband. Our son will be 2 next month. 😵‍💫

  • @DEEJOJOHNSON
    @DEEJOJOHNSON 25 дней назад +2

    Very true, my narcissistic ex-wife committed adultery with a dude from her past 11 years ago

  • @rhviana
    @rhviana 25 дней назад +2

    Lovely

  • @paulboyd-m3r
    @paulboyd-m3r 19 дней назад

    its time to stand back think about the person you were before you met this nobody its your time to SHINE and be that loving person again❤❤bless you all

  • @svgitana2499
    @svgitana2499 25 дней назад +2

    Does that apply to people that called them a narcissist to their face? 😮
    I’ve been block for 7 months, not that I want to get back with that lying scum

  • @whygohome172
    @whygohome172 23 дня назад +7

    THEY'RE dangerous! Uf you leave them, NEVER go back because you will be PUNISHED for rejecting them.

    • @Aquarius285
      @Aquarius285 22 дня назад

      But if you escape in other country without support for money...are they will try to back you?

    • @Aquarius285
      @Aquarius285 22 дня назад

      If you leave them and you go into other country, then how can they will back you?

    • @whygohome172
      @whygohome172 21 день назад +1

      @Aquarius285 they're sneaky and can POP UP ANYWHERE, ANYTIME.

    • @Aquarius285
      @Aquarius285 21 день назад

      @@whygohome172 but i need the peace from them...new house..new people...they are DANGEROUS...

  • @anitaaustralia
    @anitaaustralia 25 дней назад +3

    I don't understand. He got new supply but he still calls?! He's blocked.. but still calls lol

  • @whygohome172
    @whygohome172 23 дня назад +2

    THEY'RE USERS! They love you like you love your toaster!

  • @lisahead6868
    @lisahead6868 23 дня назад

    My brother couldn’t get away. He was so trapped that he chose to end his life.

  • @mmm091000
    @mmm091000 25 дней назад +6

    It does make sense fully 😊

  • @Angelxbaby88
    @Angelxbaby88 22 дня назад

    Well, the narc stopped talking to me so I am fine! Goodbye Narc!!!!!!

  • @tonebone69
    @tonebone69 25 дней назад +9

    These videos are good. As a narcissist, it gives me some hope i can catch my behaviours more often, now that i know what to look for. I'll still be an asshole im sure, but maybe less of an asshole. Hopefully, i can disrupt fewer lives than i typically do.
    Or i guess if i stay the same i will use this information to improve my lies and manipulation.

  • @josephl6289
    @josephl6289 24 дня назад +2

    Narcissism and bpd are genetic. Its just their blueprint, adaptive.

  • @georgedaccache8521
    @georgedaccache8521 21 день назад

    Do they come back and contact you ever again ?

  • @josephl6289
    @josephl6289 24 дня назад +1

    Sounds more like bpd than narcissism

  • @nicholecornes1915
    @nicholecornes1915 25 дней назад +2

    I feel like you're romanticizing this to much

  • @martemacdougall1985
    @martemacdougall1985 25 дней назад +9

    I "ended " our 5 year relationship with this alcoholic narcissist about 5 years ago. Blocked his phone number and told him to leave me in PEACE ! Guess what! He never did. Anything from emotional manipulation and orders to do this, that or the other , came in intervals of about 6 months. I've had hoover notes 📝 and pouty faces 😢 and even sarcastic remarks when I walk by him without acknowledging him,
    like "I don't bite." I will not go into the extent of his drunken behavior here, but all I can say is that he makes me SICK. LITERALLY. Anyway, 4 days ago he put a Xmas card on my door saying how much he wished that I showed him CIVILITY , like I used to.
    Can you believe that?
    I returned his card back to his door. Now in retrospect, I wish that I had kept it and done NOTHING , that would be truly taking my power back. Oh well, lesson learned. Unfortunately we live in the same apartment building and I can't really afford to move. I may have to. I continue to ignore him.
    Thank you for this video today, perfectly resonant.
    And on this Boxing day 2024, I wish you a Happy and healthy New Year. ✨️🎆🧧🎉✨️

  • @Lasagna-z8w
    @Lasagna-z8w 25 дней назад +4

    This was good thank you much appreciated 😊