What about a small apartment? Renting sounds like a good option to me. Can you take some of the rent off your taxes like you think you might be able to take some of the mortgage? We are in the same situation. Alabama, Massachusetts and North Carolina for our children. We have always been able to stay with our children until recently -I can’t do the steps.
Not an easy decision BUT one that would be a wise one as well. For me...we wanted out of CA! So when our daughter and husband said they wanted to move to WA, pack her up, we are moving. We did have a son also in CA..but no children. Our other daughter and husband in VA...military. I have NO regrets moving. You MUST consider weather at your age AND YOUR KNEE! Dang this first cold snap, I feel the cold. Gardening...smaller area, less gardening. And face it, when we move, it isn't easy. But you can find something nice that is geared towards seniors. Hear is the answer...GITG - Give It To God!! I'll be 🙏🙏🙏
@@annajean-nanaarbogast2487 God can support you in your decision but she has to weigh all the issues of health, cost of housing, medical access, other friends she’d leave behind, taxes elements in real estate, the politics of the location, God can support you emotionally but SHE and her husband and her brothers and her close friends Jer who have known her for years and family, need to make that decision together. God isn’t going to make that for you.
It may seem a bit unfeeling, but have you talked to your son about how he feels about you spending half the year near him? I loved my parents, but there was no way I wanted to live near them. Personally I would never buy a second home to spend time near my kids. That decision is easy for me since I don't have kids.
Yes actually we’ve talked extensively and he would like us there. He works full time so we wouldn’t see him all the time but could definitely see each other more often 😍
Only listened to the first few minutes but WHY…WHY are you staying in a hotel when your sonhas a place and you have brothers out there. I am US born and we go back 6 generations. What is it with Americans they stay in hotels visiting family. I lived in Italy 10 years would NEVER happen there. Your family would accommodate you. It’s immoral allowing you to staying in a hotel. I had a small studio in San Francisco and my mother would visit with my aunt and they stayed in my studio. They lived in Delaware and if they are coming across the county I want to be with them every second.
#4...YOU are responsible for evry detail...every frozen pipe, snow removal, or property management. Not you want to add on now since you want something to enjoy when you go there, not work!
I hear your heart, but you don't want to spend with your heart. I'm a senior too with out-of-state children and grandchildren. Your first consideration is to be debt free. It makes a huge difference. Please, consider a long term rental with the ability to cook your own meals. Decide on your budget ahead of time and work with it. You may need to limit your travel to once annually. We also, have opted to purchase a plane ticket for our daughter and host her visit instead of the reverse. You have lots of moving parts and uncertainty. Maybe talk to a financial planner to develop a strategy to move in a more comfortable direction. I so wish you the best. Just don't set yourself up to be devastated in your most vulnerable years...please.
Wishing you peace on your journey
I’m in Mn and housing is very expensive, good luck on your search
Its a rough decision. Renting sounds like a good option
@@kmgreenrph yes i forgot to add that
My husband suggested possibly tenting as well
What about a small apartment? Renting sounds like a good option to me. Can you take some of the rent off your taxes like you think you might be able to take some of the mortgage? We are in the same situation. Alabama, Massachusetts and North Carolina for our children. We have always been able to stay with our children until recently -I can’t do the steps.
@@macha1617 oh boy you have 3 states good luck
I also thought of an rv but that is alot of driving
Renting may be a better option
Not an easy decision BUT one that would be a wise one as well. For me...we wanted out of CA! So when our daughter and husband said they wanted to move to WA, pack her up, we are moving. We did have a son also in CA..but no children.
Our other daughter and husband in VA...military.
I have NO regrets moving.
You MUST consider weather at your age AND YOUR KNEE! Dang this first cold snap, I feel the cold.
Gardening...smaller area, less gardening. And face it, when we move, it isn't easy. But you can find something nice that is geared towards seniors.
Hear is the answer...GITG - Give It To God!! I'll be 🙏🙏🙏
All great advice!!
@@annajean-nanaarbogast2487 God can support you in your decision but she has to weigh all the issues of health, cost of housing, medical access, other friends she’d leave behind, taxes elements in real estate, the politics of the location, God can support you emotionally but SHE and her husband and her brothers and her close friends Jer who have known her for years and family, need to make that decision together.
God isn’t going to make that for you.
It may seem a bit unfeeling, but have you talked to your son about how he feels about you spending half the year near him? I loved my parents, but there was no way I wanted to live near them. Personally I would never buy a second home to spend time near my kids. That decision is easy for me since I don't have kids.
Yes actually we’ve talked extensively and he would like us there. He works full time so we wouldn’t see him all the time but could definitely see each other more often 😍
@@homesteadpatch8663 That is adifficult but important conversation to have. I am glad you did it.
Only listened to the first few minutes but WHY…WHY are you staying in a hotel when your sonhas a place and you have brothers out there. I am US born and we go back 6 generations. What is it with Americans they stay in hotels visiting family. I lived in Italy 10 years would NEVER happen there. Your family would accommodate you. It’s immoral allowing you to staying in a hotel. I had a small studio in San Francisco and my mother would visit with my aunt and they stayed in my studio. They lived in Delaware and if they are coming across the county I want to be with them every second.
#4...YOU are responsible for evry detail...every frozen pipe, snow removal, or property management. Not you want to add on now since you want something to enjoy when you go there, not work!
I hear your heart, but you don't want to spend with your heart. I'm a senior too with out-of-state children and grandchildren. Your first consideration is to be debt free. It makes a huge difference. Please, consider a long term rental with the ability to cook your own meals. Decide on your budget ahead of time and work with it. You may need to limit your travel to once annually. We also, have opted to purchase a plane ticket for our daughter and host her visit instead of the reverse. You have lots of moving parts and uncertainty. Maybe talk to a financial planner to develop a strategy to move in a more comfortable direction. I so wish you the best. Just don't set yourself up to be devastated in your most vulnerable years...please.
Thank you for your comment. Those are great suggestions i like the idea of sending him a plane ticket here. Will do that next time ❤️