In my opinion ive found it completely pointless for women to train bjj for self defense. Its one thing to train as sport but for self defense it is pointless. Ive seen countless times in the gym training females just not being able to compete with the men. Blue belts tapping brown or even black belt females.
Jiu Jitsu had a bad reputation in Brazil in the 90's because a lot of "bad boys" used to train just to bully people on the streets. So I was kinda scared to step in a Jiu Jitsu gym for the first time, but when I finally gathered courage to join, I found the most friendly and helpful people that I ever met. For me it was a life changing experience.
My mom thought I was being abused when she saw me with a black eye. Took her forever to understand that it just happened in training and was not malicious at all.
If anything, I actually feel like other women have been more rude to me in BJJ than the men have. One of them even says “oh I’ll roll with you, don’t worry I’ll go easy”. Meanwhile I’m submitting other people who have equal experience, so I don’t know why she feels the need to act that way. Men who are definitely better/stronger never make rude comments about my strength/skill like that. Anyways, just be respectful to everyone! And great advice about the period, I’ve been struggling with that.
for people who only use pads (myself included) i really recommend getting a pair of tight compression shorts, and wearing like a long pad. The shorts really keep the pad in place and keep it from moving, and a long pad will make sure blood doesn’t seep to the back of your underwear
You’re going to love it! Just have fun, you don’t have to be good in the beginning. The women you meet training will likely become lifelong close friends!
I was the only female at my Judo gym for years and with the occasional female visitor, they became like brothers. It's hard to be at a disadvantage with weight but you get insanely good technique after a while so you can start to beat up the guys
don't be nervous, enjoy it, everyone trains for different reasons. woman are some of the best because they don't depend on bravado and strength. women are technical and very cerebral. iron sharpens iron.
@@lifeinthefastlane1022 Yeah, it's always enjoyable rolling with "technical and cerebral" weak people, applying my 0 IQ advance and muscling my way into a random submission.
If a man feels uncomfortable to roll with a woman, there is nothing wrong with that. We should not be forced into to things we do not feel comfortable with.
Forced? No. But hardly anyone would feel comfortable rolling with their same sex at the very beginning, and we all sure manage to get over that. Maybe it's worth stepping outside your comfort zone; it'd certainly be a lot more helpful. No woman trains BJJ so she can defend herself from other women, you know.
@@Herosoyyo2no. it’s really not comparable rolling with another man for the first time than rolling with a woman. Some times it’s not about “comfort zone” but personal beliefs and convictions that some men have to not “roll” with women that shouldn’t be violated. If a man feels comfortable rolling with a woman then have at it.
@@deus_vult8111 I can hardly speak to "personal beliefs and convictions" in the abstract. I can only remind you to do your best for yourself, your training partners, etc.
Great content. As a dad of young girls that train, I’m hopeful that they keep training and find solace in an online woman’s community of BJJ players so they have their own space. And the other side of things is that BJJ experiences can vary radically from gym to gym because each place has its own culture. Some places are survival of the fittest and some are very welcoming. I think you should find a place that is very welcoming and watches out for you. Sometimes it makes sense for a coach to dictate who you train with early on since you might not have the confidence to speak up in such a hierarchical community.
The social aspect is definitely a big thing. I am one of the only females at my gym, and sometimes I have trouble getting in on conversations because Jiu Jitsu is definitely a boys club lol!
100%, I have struggled with this too. Some gyms are better than others , just the culture is more welcoming. But getting involved with women’s open mats and events can help with finding community!
Men are more compelled to seek out combat arts and sports like jujitsu than women. Just by the numbers learning how to fight is earnest will mostly be a boy's club but that doesn't mean you don't deserve to be there. It just means you have an exceptional drive for this path.
@@antonioyeats2149 No exceptional drive which empowers her to push hard at doing hard things despite being less naturally suited to them. Most people generally lack that level of drive. Also, stop putting words into my mouth based on your own beliefs.
This video was super relatable in Waze that I hadn’t considered. I am a dude with a disability, cerebral palsy. I’ve been doing martial arts since I was six, I trained in karate and traditional Japanese jujitsu. And so much of your advice is on point, I thought this was a fantastic video and my only regret is that I hadn’t found your channel sooner. Your tip about training with people that are similarly sized is indispensable, and it was a hard won lesson for me. I wish I would’ve learned that much sooner
I've trained with a guy who has a cerebral palsy and the hard thing for me was understanding the limitations of the person I was training with and this sometimes is the case with women too, good communication and openness. From my side I want to make sure they get a good partner who goes 'hard enough', but not too hard.
If you really feel like your aging your body, you probably need a good stretching/mobility routine. I do a lot of upper back work, because I pulled every myself in back the first few months and it was very painful. So, basically injury prevention does take work, we don’t have to feel old all the time. Just sometimes! :)
Super helpful, thank you! I’ve been training for one month now and should be getting my period so I hadn’t even considered that yet! Thank you for the tips!
This is great info. I’m a guy who just started the sport with my kids and wondered if it was okay to ask to roll with females. It felt like I was treating it as a middle school dance where boys and girls are separated until someone asked to dance. This gives me a good perspective for females on the mat. Thank you for the info!
Getting injured during training shouldn't happen. Training partners shouldn't be injuring each other. Shortening your life is exactly what you train to prevent enemies from doing.
Either that, or she's training too hard or not tapping. Regardless, i have never had such extreme injuries training jiujitsu in the years i've done this. (Then again, i'm not a woman)
You can't prevent that entirely. If you never get injured, you're not trying hard enough. It's ok to get injured from time to time, especially if you're not a top athelete. And that's true for any sports.
@@statoncoleman6527 You can't know, because everyone's body is different. People are responsible for tapping for themselves. I've often slipped out of a submission hold after fighting it for a while.
There are a lot of points in here that apply to both men and women honestly. I've only been training for about a year, but would advise any practitioner to have a chiropractor on standby. I was just stacked on the neck yesterday morning and had to have my chiro push some of the vertebrae back in place. I'm 43 so I don't heal like I use to:). Much success in your training!!
similar age and experience to me - even down to getting stacked and needing therapy lol! Am loving it though - I know I'm a hobbyist and I'm totally fine with it.
As a bigger and heavier dude i find training with women to be easy, dont ask to roll with them, let them approach you. Its training not a fight, use technique and try and match strength. Since im also heavier 225lbs, i also use that time to practice diffrent types of passes instead of just smash pass.
When I have a black eye and someone asks me what happened. I tell them well there is this club but the 1st rule is I cant talk about it and the second rule is I cant talk about it and then I stare at them seriously and nod my head.
Good advice. I've been training for only 3 weeks, and broke my hand rolling with the largest guy in the school. I might start thinking about matching body size with roll partners.
Jiu jitsu is very man dominated, I’m 15 and started a couple months ago and one of the guys have already taken me under his wing and even told a coach off because he tried to have me do the simpler things not because of my belt but simply that I’m a girl. There are definitely some guys that have the sly comments or even I have the most trouble with teenage boys because of the sexual aspect, I’ll get in mount and they say “I like the view from down here” and crap like that. I always roll with compressions shorts just because day one I realized I could see every guys underwear and that’s the last thing I wanted. Nike pro shorts for the win!
@@GetShitOnKid My instructor has been out the past couple of weeks on sick, but I will once he gets back. For now, most of the fill-in coaches are just high belts that usually train with us so they know I don't want to roll with those two boys. Most of the adults I have confided in have just told me off with "he's a teenage boy" which is the biggest bs but I think my coach will have my back
Damn, I've never seen any shitty comment like this one here in Brazil. When we roll with women, is a "no trash comments" and "no all in" implied rule. Hope you got it sorted out
As a person whose been doing martial arts for 38 years I'll say this judo jujitsu when you're young is best I've found it to difficult over 50 because people on the Mat who are much younger don't treat you with much regard to your age.
I haven't rolled in about a decade due to a bad back, but I remember being way more nervous and awkward about rolling with a hot girl in class back in the day than she was about rolling with me even though I probably had 80 lbs on her. To me, there is NOTHING worse than a girl thinking you are creepy or a girl getting bad vibes from you and having to give "the look" to a friend to come "save" her from you. But here's the thing and I hope it helps to alleviate the stress of other guys afraid of offending women here, she didn't mind or think anything bad about my intensions or thoughts at all! I remember I got her into Mount due to my strength advantage wish I also felt bad about by the way, and she immediately pulled both of my hands in onto her chest so I couldn't isolating the arm for an arm bar or a key lock/Americana, but I didn't want her to think I was creepy for having both of my hands on her chest! So, I immediately took them both off and she immediately pulled them back on lol, she didn't give a fuck about that, she was all business!
I've seen lots of Jiu Jutsu matches between different women here on YT, and there can certainly be issues with hair grabbing as well as ponytails getting in the way as a hazard. Also, I think a woman who is 120 lbs should train with guys who are below 180 lbs if another woman is unavailable as a training partner. I saw a video where a 130 lb woman trained with a 165 lb man, and she looked like she was the only female in her Jiu Jutsu gym, but she practised with practically every guy in the gym who brought something different, like another style or a different technique. It's also a good way to form bonds and friendships with other members in the sport, whether it's during training sessions or live competitions. Like almost every sport, some rivalries do form and that's where the "we must kill each other" mentality can come in, but for most competitors, it's all about wanting to compete with other people outside of their Jiu Jutsu circle, and pick up some pointers wherever they can with whoever they can roll with.
You are pretty young for so many injuries. I've trained the martial arts for a lifetime. Definitely learned to make it in the long run. Trust me, find ways to avoid injury or by 30, you will be a mess.
Grappling arts that train competitively have high injury rates because of the force involved. There isn't really a way to do light sparring that has any real functional benefits in grappling.
Things I wish I knew before starting jiu jitsu: 1) bruises; 2) don’t use R.I.C.E as a substitute for actually going to the doctor when dealing with an injury; 3) there are competition requirements for how long your jiu jitsu pants are [bought many gis that were almost too short]; and 4) don’t overtrain even when you are trying to push yourself.
@@CKWatiyeli Ooh damn. No wonder. That is the OPPOSITe of what you want to do WTH ?! Never put ice in an inflamed area, its inflamed because its supposed to , rather you want to HEAT that area. Wth ?! ELEVATE ?! Why ?! Elevating is going to slow down the Blood supply to the injrued area the EXACT OPPOSITE THAT YOU WANT!! REST ?! ?! wth... you need some movement wth.. COMPRESS ?! ?! ... No words anymore damn whoever came up with that is ignorant or wanted to do you Harm!!
Being a 100kg (220lb) white belt, I'm always self-conscious when rolling with women, or boys who weigh half my weight. I'm always careful applying pressure without being insulting either. When I'm going for a d'arce or a arm triangle choke, I know I have to put my arm behind her neck, and I'm like omg I hope I don't pull her hair. If I go for the double under pass, my face is staying well away from her crotch. This sort of things.
I think that I would maybe edit this. You speak truth, but I think that most women looking at this will not even try. My wife is in BJJ for 3 years now and I think that the injuries are over stated. It also might be a personal problem. Guys in our gym that start to “smash” women don’t last the session if they are not stopped right away. Yet, I know some women that just jump in and attack. Personally, I just go into defense mode. But mostly you speak truth. BJJ is NOT EASY.
Two kinds of people that have the hardest time finding partners to roll with: guys my size, and others (usually women) who are the other end of the spectrum. I should do a video about being the big guy when you're starting BJJ, but most people aren't, so I don't know how relevant it would be. A couple days ago after class when there was rolling, two leftovers were me and this one girl. We didn't spar, just worked technique a bit. I don't think I would be comfortable doing anything else with someone I'm twice the size of, and even then I got talked to or I guess minorly warned...like I'm going to try something??? I'm reluctant to try some of the basic arm-bar positions just in case I step or fall on someone's head by accident, male or female...I mean, I do it because I want to learn and get fit, but there's no way I'm going to roll full-out with someone like that, and I'm not good enough yet to not go full-out. I don't think I'm being patronizing in this attitude because it's almost the same as when I was working with this really small guy. He's a blue belt but a lot smaller than me, and so after he did some positions with him on top, we got another person I could work with I wouldn't crush by accident just doing the same stuff. __ After no-gi last Saturday, I rolled three times, all with one guy. He's about 6'2" and a little bit over 250#. I'm 6'4" and down to 310#. He's younger then I am and in better shape, also been doing BJJ a bit longer. He's a good guy, but some sessions it's like he's the only one I get to go rounds with. I don't roll with anyone except the over 200 pounders unless they're at least blue belts, sometimes not even then. Walking to someone looking for a partner and they're smaller makes me feel like a bully, but they're ALL smaller. Even the guys as tall or taller than me are usually a lot lighter / skinnier. It's nice to work with more people, but that's an option you don't get so much at either end of the spectrum I think. The girls in the class usually roll with each other or occasionally smaller guys; otherwise it'd probably be just technique drills. __ Anyways, it's nice to see women doing stuff like that, and I don't know every gym, but my experience in the one I'm in now is pretty positive. There are very few women there, but the ones who are there stay there, so I think others are friendly and supportive too. Frankly, despite some frustrations I experience with myself not being able to do some stuff I used to or think I should or having a limited set of people that will work with me, I'm pretty amazed sometimes by how open and friendly we are, and it seems like this isn't unique but is actually widespread in BJJ because you hear that kind of thing over and over from most other gyms too.
Shoulder dislocated.... had this 7 times now since 2003. REcently had my 3rd surgery because of this. That is the reason why things like BJJ, wrestling or Judo are not for me. I wish they were as they would supplement my Karate quite well.
Sally Hansen holds well, better than the most expensive brands. I like to paint my toe nails, because I'm showing my feet year round, and, well, no polish is 100% resistant to heavy BJJ wear and tear, but surprisingly, Sally Hansen proved better than Essie, that being said I only buy when they are on discount at the store, so maybe other fancy brands are better
I just started 3 mths ago, I bruise very easy like a peach (I’m 45), strangers asked if I need help, I explain I train jiu jitsu and give info of my gym free advertisement. My most challenging time is during that time of mth, so much more pain and issues during that time… I have cyst & fibroids so extra ouch, also sometimes heads go places not normally go unless doing something else 😉, 😳 ha ha. I am going to try the period proof underwear, always worry about leakage and or smell, I also put a few swipes of deodorant on underwear, I’m normally only female too, but I’m use to it from being mostly only female from before when I trained JKD, Kali & CSW. My 12 yr old son also trains (he’s trained for 8mths) we are both having fun and up for a challenge.
My daughter will be 12 in a couple of months and her father decided to put her in classes. I was afraid this would make her more tomboyish, at first she hated it but the praise she gets seems to be motivating her. She struggles with self esteem and I want her to be more feminine but her mental health is more important. If the exercise can help her mood and self confidence I’ll be happy. Maybe as she gets older it will get rougher and she can try something else.
Putting your daughter - especially at the age of 12 - into a class like Brazillian Jiu-Jitsu is an excellent way for her to learn how to defend herself on a realistic basis. I personally wouldn't say it changes anything other than your mindset; once starting BJJ, your mind is trained to think before acting. Don't worry about a lesser feminine approach, nothing about your personality changes, and BJJ is great to get into! 🥳
there's nothing wrong with your daughter being less feminine or more tomboyish. jiu jitsu isn't going to do that to her but if that's who it turns out she is then you need to learn to accept asap or she will only end up resenting you
My 8 year old granddaughter just started this sport. There have been a few "wardrobe malfunctions" so far. We are trying various undergarments so it doesn't continue being an issue. Looking for recommendations. Thanks!!
I am assuming that this is occurring during training in the Gi? A tight fitting rashgaurd and compression briefs to wear underneath would likely solve the problem. Just have a chat with her coach to ensure they are ok with whatever the rashgaurd is before you pick one up as some gyms are particular about colors.
ruclips.net/video/RZOgw4RYJvk/видео.html This method of typing the belt also helps considerably to prevent it coming undone. I hope this helps, thank you for supporting your granddaughters Jiu-Jitsu!
@@michaeladams1124 She's in rash guard & compression shorts underneath her gi now. Also, training noGi. She earned her 3rd belt stripe today. Kicking some serious butt!!
I've been doing jiu-jitsu since I was 9, and now I'm 13 and I love jiu-jitsu. It gives me something to look forward to, and I overall love it. I love working with all types of partners. I don't remember my body feeling like it's aged, but maybe that's because my body is accustomed to it due to how young I started. But this is a very useful video for people beginning!
My issue is I wrestled back in the day, but we wore shoes. I’m getting mat burn bad on my feet. Keeps me out for weeks at a time. I’m brand new to Jiu Jitsu and feel like I got hit by a freight train. So sore probably because I’m not that young anymore, 35.
How can a Father advise their 13 year old daughter before joining BJJ? She started Kick Boxing at JKD, and as uncomfortable as I am, I will also like her to learn BJJ for defense.
Only do what you're comfortable with, but step a bit out of your zone. It's gonna be hard starting out but you'll find your place, and it really is incredible
I really want to join, but do you think I should join? I'm a teenage girl and I don't know if it would be good for me but I still want to join. (also the weird positions and grappling with boys on the ground...)
What is your current rank? I’m a no-gi 43 yr old purple belt guy. I have been coaching and instructing a lot. I help a lot of females. I just didn’t have some answers, you answered here. Thanks.
6:43 most of the time, if a guy doesn’t roll with a girl it’s either a) he thinks she will feel weird rolling with a guy she doesn’t know (hence the problem goes away once you get to know each other) b) he’s probably just naturally awkward around girls c) he has some personal beliefs around “beating” women I think it’s very rare that it’s because they think little of you as a woman and for options a and b above (and this might be unfair since the girl is in the minority) the easy solution is for the girl to ask/initiate the roll so the guy knows it’s ok and knows that she feels comfortable. I think most guys will avoid a girl if they get the slightest hint of discomfort from her because in their mind they don’t want to be “creepy”
Maybe you can help me? My husband trains bjj and he’s really good and into it! It makes me happy and proud of him, but I hate it when he rolls with his female counterparts. I admit it makes me jealous! I’m trying to understand, to get it etc, but I have a real problem with this. I think if we didn’t have a past of him being unfaithful to me I’d have less of an issue with it. Any advice or feedback for me? Thank you and great video
In my humble opinion (coming up on 2 years training) I don't think you have anything to worry about. The culture of jiu jitsu promotes everyone being a good training partner to help each other improve at jiu jitsu. Anyone serious about showing up to train is there for that reason, not to flirt or date. It would be SUPER weird for anyone to try to exploit the physical proximity that happens during training to try to 'make something happen' with their training partner and I can't see it being reciprocated. Most likely it would get reported.
@@NextScamdemicLol, you don't need to start shagging on the matts to hook up with a training partner. Her guy already cheated on her before, so that's a perfectly rational concern.
I do it and I’m 15 and one of the boys I’m my grade is in my class and because we are the only young ones we have to roll together then at school we never speak 😅😂
Every woman as the right to deny a man a roll if she feels uncomfortable doing so. No further questions asked. Same thing the other way around. End of story.
There are alot of things that disgust me about martial arts communities in the states but the biggest is just the misogny that is so thick in the air. Most of the time its a combination of the hobbyist and hardcore guys but those who have been in for the longrun should no better. Your not competing its just practice and there are alot of women in mma who can teach guys alot. Its not even worth an argument, some guys think theyre better than everybody when in reality they arent shit
Yeah jiu jitsu is nice but nice to get several injuries. I am fit always been to bodybuilding and since I start jiu-jítsu 4 months ago I just pick injuries, injuries I never had when I was bodybuilding . And yeah jiu jitsu is not efective in the street because you being in the ground in your guard someone will come and kick your head. Better kick boxing or Muay Thai for self defense.
Todos los deportes y actividades desgastan,pero mas dañino es no hacer nada.Quiza sea q tenes un sistema oseo mas frágil,en mi academia entrenan muchas mujeres y nunca les paso nada.
Blue belt with some MMA xp here, ya know rolling is not just awkward for women, as a guy I have felt plenty of hardons where they shouldnt be. A lot of guys start quivering with how weird it is to wrestle, but that goes away. I have rolled with women plenty of times, i never had a problem not being "excited" often it just seems like rolling another guy unless you get some obvious north south objects in your face or something, but usually women are aware of and avoid it. Once I was rolling with this one girl, yea she was cute but I wasnt thinking about it, I was thinking about a move and i slowly moved my hand to the next point when I realized I had just completely grabbed her boob instead. I jerked my hand away, it was a little awkward, but damn I am glad she understood I didnt mean it. It's more awkward rolling with women cause these days you never know if women are gonna freak out even when you dont mean it, but women have to understand, in BJJ its gonna happen. Getting hurt happens too, you have to anticipate and prepare for it.
It's the same for a male as it is for you :) Everybody (regardless of their physical stature or gender) has to pay their dues and receive their nicks scrapes. You keep going girl!! You'll be all the better for it!
I love rolling with women, a lot of the women in our gym will smash the dudes 😂 if you are a stronger, bigger, man then you should be reducing the strength you use and focus on actually applying techniques properly. When rolling with another strong guy we know we have a tendency to brute strength some things, and it's working hard not smart.
Just wondering why you chose Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu vs Muay Thai? I personally think BJJ is useless when facing multiple attackers on the street. 80lbs women trying to take down and roll with 200lbs men just doesn't make sense
When I started BJJ I was lifting, and was 6"1 225lbs. I was getting repeatedly owned by a 5"3 110lbs woman. Of course, striking wasn't part of the game, but still it's a very impressive indicator of how BJJ technique and strategy works. As women are more likely to find themselves on the ground when assaulted, I always suggest BJJ instead of a striking system. As for multiple attackers... Muay Thai can work as long as you have the space to keep retreating and drawing them out into a line. If you have the space and time to do that, you're better off just turning and running. If you don't have space/time to do this, Muay Thai won't help you. Only a gun will.
There is NO martial art that is good against multiple attackers *period*. I don't care what you think. Objectively speaking, you can only hit one person at a time, and the multiple attackers aren't as stupid as you think they are. (Even if they are indeed quite stupid) They won't just let you line them up. And the guy you're using as space between yourself and the other guy? Yeah, he can still move, and hit you, and try to take you down. Even if all of the attackers have never trained or have garbage takedowns, you're going down if they want you to go down. Especially if they're willing to take some punches and kicks to take you down. Do you have a weapon? Depending on what it is, what range you're using it, and how many there are, it's their weapon now. Does one of them have a weapon? It's going to be their weapon until they don't want or need it anymore. Do multiple, if not ALL of them have weapons? You're dead(er) than a doorknob. And you better hope to GOD you don't trip on a comedically placed banana peel, or something that causes you to no longer have the ability to keep at least one of them away from you. Even one tiny, miniscule mistake will end all hope of making it out just bruised and battered. The only thing that is good against multiple attackers is running away, or having multiple friends. And then if those multiple friends know legit martial arts then you have a death squad.
I tried bjj once in 2007 shortly after i started muay thai/boxing, those days were the tail end of the "gladiator" days in MMA gyms and the dude just ragdolled me and the other dudes were complete douchebags. I hated bjj for so long, now i wanna try it again but these days in my city (sd) the classes have lots of girls and sometimes more than half are girls and they are INSANE at it and i feel now ima get tapped by a girl and everyone will be douchebags again.
I was in a woman's guard and she tried to break my posture. I tried to post up and accidentally grabbed her breasts...I was mortified and quickly took my hands off her...and lost posture and got cross choked 🙄😩
I really think schools should have women's classes. That not cool for the lady's. Some lady's just don't want men touching them every where. I have people in my family that are lady's that would like to learn but not trying to roll with men til there comfortable. I think schools are so stupid for this. Guarantee you once there's a women's only class the schools will be so surprised that that how many women will join. To be martial artist there not to smart not having a all women's class. Shows s how dum these schools really are.
If it really was that profitable they'd probably be doing it already. Bjj's been a thing for a good few decades now lol as commercial combat sport instruction goes they're essentially well into adulthood.
1) There are women's only classes. 2) In most places there aren't enough women for them not to train with men. 3) Most women wanting to be in a high contact sport like that probably don't mind body contact.
@@robb00 That feeling of being uncomfortable is something that needs to be overcome when training martial arts. And, tbh, that applies to far more than just training with the opposite sex. If you are truly learning to fight, you will find yourself in many situations that make you feel uncomfortable. If you can't get past those and overcome that feeling within, you will never succeed.
@@judosailor610 It's not true at all. It depends all on your kind of discomfort and what your goal is. If your goal is competing, you don't need of opposite sex to be successful. A great friend of mine, a guy who does muay thai and doesn't train with women, is a high level competitor. At my gym there are also women only classes and there we have a female purple belt who doesn't train with men. She is a very good athlete who obtained great success at competitions. But most people are not competitors they are only hobbists who want to do a combat sport just for fun. Some of these people don't want to face discomfort, they only look for a hobby to have fun and forget their troubles for few hours with. Live and let live. If you want to train with everyone, great! If you are uncomfortable and you want to try and overcome your discomfort great! If you are uncomfortable and you want to do only what make you comfortable, great too! It's your journey, do what you make you feel happy. Nobody should feel forced to do something against their will.
@@robb00 so, first of all, it is absolutely true and without doubt that in order to learn how to fight you have to overcome a lot of things that make you feel uncomfortable or that you're scared to do. From the first time you spar, to the first time you get punched in the face, to the first time you get submitted, to the first time you feel that incredible pressure and pain of someone doing knee on belly and you just want to give up because it's so uncomfortable. You have to learn how to overcome those things and be comfortable in those situations that used to make you uncomfortable. That's indisputable. Now that said, I guess you're right, you can overcome all those other things and probably learn how to fight without ever rolling, sparring or training with someone of the opposite sex. However, in my opinion, that's still problematic. It may be natural to have that fear or to feel uncomfortable when you're new. And of course if you have some past trauma, that may also contribute to it. But you're doing your training partners and yourself a disservice if you never work through that and get past it and overcome it. At least that's my opinion.
Jiu Jitsu is a stupid choice for normal people. You end up injuring yourself over and over and 99.9% of them will thankfully never use it in self defense. Krav, Judo, or even good striking arts will teach you to defend yourself against a random attacker and you don't run such a high risk of beating your body up.
Kravs not very good in a fight and judo doesn't work very well with big size differences. The best martial art for self defense is gang-fu(safety in numbers) and having a weapon on you xD
What do you wish you knew before you started training? And if you haven't started what questions do you have?
at least you can puck up anyone trying to get too frisky with you lady🤣
I have always wanted to start jui jitsu but life has just been a challenge. What age is considered too old to train?
In my opinion ive found it completely pointless for women to train bjj for self defense. Its one thing to train as sport but for self defense it is pointless. Ive seen countless times in the gym training females just not being able to compete with the men. Blue belts tapping brown or even black belt females.
@@1111om People have started training in their fifties I started at 48.
@@simonsmith8974 wow that’s great to know! Thank you 🙏🏻❤️
Jiu Jitsu had a bad reputation in Brazil in the 90's because a lot of "bad boys" used to train just to bully people on the streets. So I was kinda scared to step in a Jiu Jitsu gym for the first time, but when I finally gathered courage to join, I found the most friendly and helpful people that I ever met. For me it was a life changing experience.
White belt is the hardest belt, stepping first time into the dojo/gym
The media there trashed the sport really bad back in the 90s
My mom thought I was being abused when she saw me with a black eye. Took her forever to understand that it just happened in training and was not malicious at all.
If anything, I actually feel like other women have been more rude to me in BJJ than the men have. One of them even says “oh I’ll roll with you, don’t worry I’ll go easy”. Meanwhile I’m submitting other people who have equal experience, so I don’t know why she feels the need to act that way. Men who are definitely better/stronger never make rude comments about my strength/skill like that. Anyways, just be respectful to everyone!
And great advice about the period, I’ve been struggling with that.
for people who only use pads (myself included) i really recommend getting a pair of tight compression shorts, and wearing like a long pad. The shorts really keep the pad in place and keep it from moving, and a long pad will make sure blood doesn’t seep to the back of your underwear
I'm starting next week and I'm so nervous, specially since there isn't a lot of women, or any that I know. Thanks for talking about it.
You’re going to love it! Just have fun, you don’t have to be good in the beginning. The women you meet training will likely become lifelong close friends!
I was the only female at my Judo gym for years and with the occasional female visitor, they became like brothers. It's hard to be at a disadvantage with weight but you get insanely good technique after a while so you can start to beat up the guys
How has your journey been so far?
don't be nervous, enjoy it, everyone trains for different reasons. woman are some of the best because they don't depend on bravado and strength. women are technical and very cerebral. iron sharpens iron.
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Yeah, it's always enjoyable rolling with "technical and cerebral" weak people, applying my 0 IQ advance and muscling my way into a random submission.
If a man feels uncomfortable to roll with a woman, there is nothing wrong with that. We should not be forced into to things we do not feel comfortable with.
Forced? No. But hardly anyone would feel comfortable rolling with their same sex at the very beginning, and we all sure manage to get over that. Maybe it's worth stepping outside your comfort zone; it'd certainly be a lot more helpful. No woman trains BJJ so she can defend herself from other women, you know.
@@Herosoyyo2no. it’s really not comparable rolling with another man for the first time than rolling with a woman. Some times it’s not about “comfort zone” but personal beliefs and convictions that some men have to not “roll” with women that shouldn’t be violated. If a man feels comfortable rolling with a woman then have at it.
@@deus_vult8111 I can hardly speak to "personal beliefs and convictions" in the abstract. I can only remind you to do your best for yourself, your training partners, etc.
The purpose of martial arts at core is to dispel insecurities. If youre this insecure that you cant even train with women youre the problem.
@@Herosoyyo2 The best means respecting people’s boundaries
Great content. As a dad of young girls that train, I’m hopeful that they keep training and find solace in an online woman’s community of BJJ players so they have their own space.
And the other side of things is that BJJ experiences can vary radically from gym to gym because each place has its own culture. Some places are survival of the fittest and some are very welcoming. I think you should find a place that is very welcoming and watches out for you. Sometimes it makes sense for a coach to dictate who you train with early on since you might not have the confidence to speak up in such a hierarchical community.
The social aspect is definitely a big thing. I am one of the only females at my gym, and sometimes I have trouble getting in on conversations because Jiu Jitsu is definitely a boys club lol!
100%, I have struggled with this too. Some gyms are better than others , just the culture is more welcoming. But getting involved with women’s open mats and events can help with finding community!
Men are more compelled to seek out combat arts and sports like jujitsu than women. Just by the numbers learning how to fight is earnest will mostly be a boy's club but that doesn't mean you don't deserve to be there. It just means you have an exceptional drive for this path.
I know!!!! I try so hard to get females to join my gym. Its like just try it i promise you’ll fall in love!!
@@SurmaSampo exceptional drive for a woman
@@antonioyeats2149 No exceptional drive which empowers her to push hard at doing hard things despite being less naturally suited to them. Most people generally lack that level of drive.
Also, stop putting words into my mouth based on your own beliefs.
This video was super relatable in Waze that I hadn’t considered. I am a dude with a disability, cerebral palsy. I’ve been doing martial arts since I was six, I trained in karate and traditional Japanese jujitsu. And so much of your advice is on point, I thought this was a fantastic video and my only regret is that I hadn’t found your channel sooner. Your tip about training with people that are similarly sized is indispensable, and it was a hard won lesson for me. I wish I would’ve learned that much sooner
I've trained with a guy who has a cerebral palsy and the hard thing for me was understanding the limitations of the person I was training with and this sometimes is the case with women too, good communication and openness. From my side I want to make sure they get a good partner who goes 'hard enough', but not too hard.
@@simonsmith8974 this is absolutely the best way to look at it and I appreciate your comment dude
@@RonaldBradycptgmpy thank you you are very kind
If you really feel like your aging your body, you probably need a good stretching/mobility routine. I do a lot of upper back work, because I pulled every myself in back the first few months and it was very painful. So, basically injury prevention does take work, we don’t have to feel old all the time. Just sometimes! :)
Super helpful, thank you! I’ve been training for one month now and should be getting my period so I hadn’t even considered that yet! Thank you for the tips!
This is great info. I’m a guy who just started the sport with my kids and wondered if it was okay to ask to roll with females. It felt like I was treating it as a middle school dance where boys and girls are separated until someone asked to dance. This gives me a good perspective for females on the mat. Thank you for the info!
You are training to fight and fighting is hard. Choosing to be good at doing hard things makes you a greater person.
Getting injured during training shouldn't happen. Training partners shouldn't be injuring each other. Shortening your life is exactly what you train to prevent enemies from doing.
Either that, or she's training too hard or not tapping.
Regardless, i have never had such extreme injuries training jiujitsu in the years i've done this.
(Then again, i'm not a woman)
Even without tapping, someone who calls themselves a training partner should know better than to injure their training partner.
You can't prevent that entirely.
If you never get injured, you're not trying hard enough. It's ok to get injured from time to time, especially if you're not a top athelete.
And that's true for any sports.
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You can't know, because everyone's body is different. People are responsible for tapping for themselves. I've often slipped out of a submission hold after fighting it for a while.
@@MrCmon113 I have as well. I still don't find it necessary to injure your partner in order to ensure that he doesn't slip out of your technique
As a guy who trained with longish hair, I can recommend wearing a rugby scrum cap to stop them getting pulled ect.
There are a lot of points in here that apply to both men and women honestly. I've only been training for about a year, but would advise any practitioner to have a chiropractor on standby. I was just stacked on the neck yesterday morning and had to have my chiro push some of the vertebrae back in place. I'm 43 so I don't heal like I use to:). Much success in your training!!
similar age and experience to me - even down to getting stacked and needing therapy lol! Am loving it though - I know I'm a hobbyist and I'm totally fine with it.
It's cool that a chiropractor helped you, but you definitely can't push a vertebra back in place from the outside like that.
As a bigger and heavier dude i find training with women to be easy, dont ask to roll with them, let them approach you. Its training not a fight, use technique and try and match strength. Since im also heavier 225lbs, i also use that time to practice diffrent types of passes instead of just smash pass.
When I have a black eye and someone asks me what happened. I tell them well there is this club but the 1st rule is I cant talk about it and the second rule is I cant talk about it and then I stare at them seriously and nod my head.
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Good advice. I've been training for only 3 weeks, and broke my hand rolling with the largest guy in the school. I might start thinking about matching body size with roll partners.
Jiu jitsu is very man dominated, I’m 15 and started a couple months ago and one of the guys have already taken me under his wing and even told a coach off because he tried to have me do the simpler things not because of my belt but simply that I’m a girl. There are definitely some guys that have the sly comments or even I have the most trouble with teenage boys because of the sexual aspect, I’ll get in mount and they say “I like the view from down here” and crap like that. I always roll with compressions shorts just because day one I realized I could see every guys underwear and that’s the last thing I wanted. Nike pro shorts for the win!
Those kinds of comments aren't okay and you if they get bad enough you should let your professor know
@@GetShitOnKid My instructor has been out the past couple of weeks on sick, but I will once he gets back. For now, most of the fill-in coaches are just high belts that usually train with us so they know I don't want to roll with those two boys. Most of the adults I have confided in have just told me off with "he's a teenage boy" which is the biggest bs but I think my coach will have my back
Damn, I've never seen any shitty comment like this one here in Brazil. When we roll with women, is a "no trash comments" and "no all in" implied rule. Hope you got it sorted out
As a person whose been doing martial arts for 38 years I'll say this judo jujitsu when you're young is best I've found it to difficult over 50 because people on the Mat who are much younger don't treat you with much regard to your age.
I haven't rolled in about a decade due to a bad back, but I remember being way more nervous and awkward about rolling with a hot girl in class back in the day than she was about rolling with me even though I probably had 80 lbs on her.
To me, there is NOTHING worse than a girl thinking you are creepy or a girl getting bad vibes from you and having to give "the look" to a friend to come "save" her from you.
But here's the thing and I hope it helps to alleviate the stress of other guys afraid of offending women here, she didn't mind or think anything bad about my intensions or thoughts at all!
I remember I got her into Mount due to my strength advantage wish I also felt bad about by the way, and she immediately pulled both of my hands in onto her chest so I couldn't isolating the arm for an arm bar or a key lock/Americana, but I didn't want her to think I was creepy for having both of my hands on her chest! So, I immediately took them both off and she immediately pulled them back on lol, she didn't give a fuck about that, she was all business!
@ThePHiLsTeR lmao 🤣 my dumbass didn't even think of that till I saw your comment
I've seen lots of Jiu Jutsu matches between different women here on YT, and there can certainly be issues with hair grabbing as well as ponytails getting in the way as a hazard. Also, I think a woman who is 120 lbs should train with guys who are below 180 lbs if another woman is unavailable as a training partner. I saw a video where a 130 lb woman trained with a 165 lb man, and she looked like she was the only female in her Jiu Jutsu gym, but she practised with practically every guy in the gym who brought something different, like another style or a different technique.
It's also a good way to form bonds and friendships with other members in the sport, whether it's during training sessions or live competitions. Like almost every sport, some rivalries do form and that's where the "we must kill each other" mentality can come in, but for most competitors, it's all about wanting to compete with other people outside of their Jiu Jutsu circle, and pick up some pointers wherever they can with whoever they can roll with.
I find that rolling with cornrows helps to not lose as much hair, I normally do two rows and haven’t lost any hair or even damaged my hair
You are pretty young for so many injuries. I've trained the martial arts for a lifetime. Definitely learned to make it in the long run. Trust me, find ways to avoid injury or by 30, you will be a mess.
Grappling arts that train competitively have high injury rates because of the force involved. There isn't really a way to do light sparring that has any real functional benefits in grappling.
@@SurmaSampo Yeah, they like to call it the gentle art, but those of us that do it know better.
Been training for a year now but still found this video so helpful. Love the advice about how to train on your period. Thank you
Things I wish I knew before starting jiu jitsu: 1) bruises; 2) don’t use R.I.C.E as a substitute for actually going to the doctor when dealing with an injury; 3) there are competition requirements for how long your jiu jitsu pants are [bought many gis that were almost too short]; and 4) don’t overtrain even when you are trying to push yourself.
Super true and helpful! Love point number 2!
Whats a "rice"?
@@ottomanpapyrus9365 Rest - Ice - Compress - Elevate
@@CKWatiyeli Ooh damn. No wonder. That is the OPPOSITe of what you want to do WTH ?! Never put ice in an inflamed area, its inflamed because its supposed to , rather you want to HEAT that area. Wth ?! ELEVATE ?! Why ?! Elevating is going to slow down the Blood supply to the injrued area the EXACT OPPOSITE THAT YOU WANT!! REST ?! ?! wth... you need some movement wth.. COMPRESS ?! ?! ... No words anymore damn whoever came up with that is ignorant or wanted to do you Harm!!
this really helped especially tip number 4 lol i had no clue what to do about that and i really did not want to search it thank you so much
Being a 100kg (220lb) white belt, I'm always self-conscious when rolling with women, or boys who weigh half my weight. I'm always careful applying pressure without being insulting either. When I'm going for a d'arce or a arm triangle choke, I know I have to put my arm behind her neck, and I'm like omg I hope I don't pull her hair. If I go for the double under pass, my face is staying well away from her crotch. This sort of things.
Just signed my little one up for this. Good video.
I think that I would maybe edit this. You speak truth, but I think that most women looking at this will not even try. My wife is in BJJ for 3 years now and I think that the injuries are over stated. It also might be a personal problem. Guys in our gym that start to “smash” women don’t last the session if they are not stopped right away. Yet, I know some women that just jump in and attack. Personally, I just go into defense mode. But mostly you speak truth. BJJ is NOT EASY.
Two kinds of people that have the hardest time finding partners to roll with: guys my size, and others (usually women) who are the other end of the spectrum.
I should do a video about being the big guy when you're starting BJJ, but most people aren't, so I don't know how relevant it would be.
A couple days ago after class when there was rolling, two leftovers were me and this one girl. We didn't spar, just worked technique a bit. I don't think I would be comfortable doing anything else with someone I'm twice the size of, and even then I got talked to or I guess minorly warned...like I'm going to try something??? I'm reluctant to try some of the basic arm-bar positions just in case I step or fall on someone's head by accident, male or female...I mean, I do it because I want to learn and get fit, but there's no way I'm going to roll full-out with someone like that, and I'm not good enough yet to not go full-out.
I don't think I'm being patronizing in this attitude because it's almost the same as when I was working with this really small guy. He's a blue belt but a lot smaller than me, and so after he did some positions with him on top, we got another person I could work with I wouldn't crush by accident just doing the same stuff.
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After no-gi last Saturday, I rolled three times, all with one guy. He's about 6'2" and a little bit over 250#. I'm 6'4" and down to 310#. He's younger then I am and in better shape, also been doing BJJ a bit longer. He's a good guy, but some sessions it's like he's the only one I get to go rounds with.
I don't roll with anyone except the over 200 pounders unless they're at least blue belts, sometimes not even then. Walking to someone looking for a partner and they're smaller makes me feel like a bully, but they're ALL smaller. Even the guys as tall or taller than me are usually a lot lighter / skinnier. It's nice to work with more people, but that's an option you don't get so much at either end of the spectrum I think. The girls in the class usually roll with each other or occasionally smaller guys; otherwise it'd probably be just technique drills.
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Anyways, it's nice to see women doing stuff like that, and I don't know every gym, but my experience in the one I'm in now is pretty positive. There are very few women there, but the ones who are there stay there, so I think others are friendly and supportive too. Frankly, despite some frustrations I experience with myself not being able to do some stuff I used to or think I should or having a limited set of people that will work with me, I'm pretty amazed sometimes by how open and friendly we are, and it seems like this isn't unique but is actually widespread in BJJ because you hear that kind of thing over and over from most other gyms too.
Shoulder dislocated.... had this 7 times now since 2003. REcently had my 3rd surgery because of this. That is the reason why things like BJJ, wrestling or Judo are not for me. I wish they were as they would supplement my Karate quite well.
Sally Hansen holds well, better than the most expensive brands. I like to paint my toe nails, because I'm showing my feet year round, and, well, no polish is 100% resistant to heavy BJJ wear and tear, but surprisingly, Sally Hansen proved better than Essie, that being said I only buy when they are on discount at the store, so maybe other fancy brands are better
I just started 3 mths ago, I bruise very easy like a peach (I’m 45), strangers asked if I need help, I explain I train jiu jitsu and give info of my gym free advertisement. My most challenging time is during that time of mth, so much more pain and issues during that time… I have cyst & fibroids so extra ouch, also sometimes heads go places not normally go unless doing something else 😉, 😳 ha ha. I am going to try the period proof underwear, always worry about leakage and or smell, I also put a few swipes of deodorant on underwear, I’m normally only female too, but I’m use to it from being mostly only female from before when I trained JKD, Kali & CSW. My 12 yr old son also trains (he’s trained for 8mths) we are both having fun and up for a challenge.
From jkd and kali to bjj? Ur a beast
Im 42 years old and I feel like BJJ has actually changed my body for the better, Ive only been doing it for 2 months so maybe that'll change (?)
Yup! You’re probably going to have a dreadful knee, ankle or elbow injury. At 42 that will be very difficult to recover from.
@@ch0wned fast forward to 1 month later and Ive got an elbow injury I havent recovered from yet, serves me right 😂
Wow that’s so helpful to hear from a woman’s perspective! What age range are women who train typically?
My daughter will be 12 in a couple of months and her father decided to put her in classes. I was afraid this would make her more tomboyish, at first she hated it but the praise she gets seems to be motivating her. She struggles with self esteem and I want her to be more feminine but her mental health is more important. If the exercise can help her mood and self confidence I’ll be happy. Maybe as she gets older it will get rougher and she can try something else.
Putting your daughter - especially at the age of 12 - into a class like Brazillian Jiu-Jitsu is an excellent way for her to learn how to defend herself on a realistic basis. I personally wouldn't say it changes anything other than your mindset; once starting BJJ, your mind is trained to think before acting. Don't worry about a lesser feminine approach, nothing about your personality changes, and BJJ is great to get into! 🥳
there's nothing wrong with your daughter being less feminine or more tomboyish. jiu jitsu isn't going to do that to her but if that's who it turns out she is then you need to learn to accept asap or she will only end up resenting you
Thanks for your very informative video! Is it ok with you if I use the segment about menstrual cycle and grappling for my women's catch league video
My 8 year old granddaughter just started this sport. There have been a few "wardrobe malfunctions" so far. We are trying various undergarments so it doesn't continue being an issue. Looking for recommendations. Thanks!!
I am assuming that this is occurring during training in the Gi? A tight fitting rashgaurd and compression briefs to wear underneath would likely solve the problem. Just have a chat with her coach to ensure they are ok with whatever the rashgaurd is before you pick one up as some gyms are particular about colors.
ruclips.net/video/RZOgw4RYJvk/видео.html This method of typing the belt also helps considerably to prevent it coming undone. I hope this helps, thank you for supporting your granddaughters Jiu-Jitsu!
Do no-gi if possible. No wardrobe issues then.
@@michaeladams1124 She's in rash guard & compression shorts underneath her gi now. Also, training noGi. She earned her 3rd belt stripe today. Kicking some serious butt!!
@@MrCmon113 Half of her training is noGi. We have the wardrobe issues figured out now. Thanks!
Some of my best rolls have been with women I would like to say.
I've been doing jiu-jitsu since I was 9, and now I'm 13 and I love jiu-jitsu. It gives me something to look forward to, and I overall love it. I love working with all types of partners. I don't remember my body feeling like it's aged, but maybe that's because my body is accustomed to it due to how young I started. But this is a very useful video for people beginning!
It's because you're 13! (Also, learn to Box)
@@ch0wned ah, yes. My coach also does some Kickboxing here and there as well!
You are mature for your age
Awesome starting next month. I’m 6’4 linebacker so not very flexible this will be interesting
I like how it's referred to as involuntary yoga. It will make you want to be more flexible - if you stick with it.
How about mat rash funk? As an obsessive hypochondriac that's been something to get used to.
My issue is I wrestled back in the day, but we wore shoes. I’m getting mat burn bad on my feet. Keeps me out for weeks at a time. I’m brand new to Jiu Jitsu and feel like I got hit by a freight train. So sore probably because I’m not that young anymore, 35.
How can a Father advise their 13 year old daughter before joining BJJ?
She started Kick Boxing at JKD, and as uncomfortable as I am, I will also like her to learn BJJ for defense.
Only do what you're comfortable with, but step a bit out of your zone. It's gonna be hard starting out but you'll find your place, and it really is incredible
I'll take this into consideration, when I spar not just women but everyone in the gym.
I really want to join, but do you think I should join? I'm a teenage girl and I don't know if it would be good for me but I still want to join. (also the weird positions and grappling with boys on the ground...)
Guy with long hair here and I’m gonna use your pony tail tip! Thanks 😂
What is your current rank? I’m a no-gi 43 yr old purple belt guy. I have been coaching and instructing a lot. I help a lot of females. I just didn’t have some answers, you answered here. Thanks.
Rib cartilage was day 1-60 for me lol
I want to get back into training but I have a lot of injuries. My back is bad, shoulder etc.
6:43 most of the time, if a guy doesn’t roll with a girl it’s either a) he thinks she will feel weird rolling with a guy she doesn’t know (hence the problem goes away once you get to know each other)
b) he’s probably just naturally awkward around girls
c) he has some personal beliefs around “beating” women
I think it’s very rare that it’s because they think little of you as a woman and for options a and b above (and this might be unfair since the girl is in the minority) the easy solution is for the girl to ask/initiate the roll so the guy knows it’s ok and knows that she feels comfortable. I think most guys will avoid a girl if they get the slightest hint of discomfort from her because in their mind they don’t want to be “creepy”
Thanks for sharing🙏❤
I want to do this so bad but I am NOT willing to give up the hair health, so thanks for saying something because NO
Maybe you can help me? My husband trains bjj and he’s really good and into it! It makes me happy and proud of him, but I hate it when he rolls with his female counterparts. I admit it makes me jealous! I’m trying to understand, to get it etc, but I have a real problem with this. I think if we didn’t have a past of him being unfaithful to me I’d have less of an issue with it. Any advice or feedback for me? Thank you and great video
In my humble opinion (coming up on 2 years training) I don't think you have anything to worry about. The culture of jiu jitsu promotes everyone being a good training partner to help each other improve at jiu jitsu. Anyone serious about showing up to train is there for that reason, not to flirt or date. It would be SUPER weird for anyone to try to exploit the physical proximity that happens during training to try to 'make something happen' with their training partner and I can't see it being reciprocated. Most likely it would get reported.
@@NextScamdemicLol, you don't need to start shagging on the matts to hook up with a training partner. Her guy already cheated on her before, so that's a perfectly rational concern.
I do it and I’m 15 and one of the boys I’m my grade is in my class and because we are the only young ones we have to roll together then at school we never speak 😅😂
What do you think of MMA ?Do you admire people that do it? Does it seem pointless or evil or nihilistic to you?
Is anyone hurting you??? No it's jiu jitsu I found that comment hilarious
I train in my cup too. I love it. If I use a tampon I change it immediately before and after.
Every woman as the right to deny a man a roll if she feels uncomfortable doing so. No further questions asked. Same thing the other way around. End of story.
How do you deal with selecting training partners? Do you flat out just say no, or just don't look at their direction? Lol
As a guy doing Judo, I have to try the hair tie thing since I got chest length
There are alot of things that disgust me about martial arts communities in the states but the biggest is just the misogny that is so thick in the air. Most of the time its a combination of the hobbyist and hardcore guys but those who have been in for the longrun should no better. Your not competing its just practice and there are alot of women in mma who can teach guys alot. Its not even worth an argument, some guys think theyre better than everybody when in reality they arent shit
Yeah jiu jitsu is nice but nice to get several injuries. I am fit always been to bodybuilding and since I start jiu-jítsu 4 months ago I just pick injuries, injuries I never had when I was bodybuilding . And yeah jiu jitsu is not efective in the street because you being in the ground in your guard someone will come and kick your head. Better kick boxing or Muay Thai for self defense.
Todos los deportes y actividades desgastan,pero mas dañino es no hacer nada.Quiza sea q tenes un sistema oseo mas frágil,en mi academia entrenan muchas mujeres y nunca les paso nada.
Blue belt with some MMA xp here, ya know rolling is not just awkward for women, as a guy I have felt plenty of hardons where they shouldnt be. A lot of guys start quivering with how weird it is to wrestle, but that goes away. I have rolled with women plenty of times, i never had a problem not being "excited" often it just seems like rolling another guy unless you get some obvious north south objects in your face or something, but usually women are aware of and avoid it. Once I was rolling with this one girl, yea she was cute but I wasnt thinking about it, I was thinking about a move and i slowly moved my hand to the next point when I realized I had just completely grabbed her boob instead. I jerked my hand away, it was a little awkward, but damn I am glad she understood I didnt mean it. It's more awkward rolling with women cause these days you never know if women are gonna freak out even when you dont mean it, but women have to understand, in BJJ its gonna happen. Getting hurt happens too, you have to anticipate and prepare for it.
Afaik boob control is perfectly legal.
You can still get mani pedi as a man who does jiujitsu.
Those goofy long nails are nonsensical anyways, you are better off
Jiujitsu the art of folding clothes with people inside them
LOL! So many of these things. I'm nine years in, it's too late for me now.
1:29- STILL it's worth going to self defence classes- if not jujitsu--
There are all sorts. Mixed and only female.
It's the same for a male as it is for you :) Everybody (regardless of their physical stature or gender) has to pay their dues and receive their nicks scrapes. You keep going girl!! You'll be all the better for it!
I love rolling with women, a lot of the women in our gym will smash the dudes 😂 if you are a stronger, bigger, man then you should be reducing the strength you use and focus on actually applying techniques properly. When rolling with another strong guy we know we have a tendency to brute strength some things, and it's working hard not smart.
Just wondering why you chose Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu vs Muay Thai? I personally think BJJ is useless when facing multiple attackers on the street. 80lbs women trying to take down and roll with 200lbs men just doesn't make sense
When I started BJJ I was lifting, and was 6"1 225lbs. I was getting repeatedly owned by a 5"3 110lbs woman. Of course, striking wasn't part of the game, but still it's a very impressive indicator of how BJJ technique and strategy works.
As women are more likely to find themselves on the ground when assaulted, I always suggest BJJ instead of a striking system.
As for multiple attackers... Muay Thai can work as long as you have the space to keep retreating and drawing them out into a line. If you have the space and time to do that, you're better off just turning and running. If you don't have space/time to do this, Muay Thai won't help you. Only a gun will.
no martial art would help a 80lbs women vs multiple attackers on the street
An 80lbs female Muay Thai practicioner isnt going to do much harm to a 200lbs man either...
There is NO martial art that is good against multiple attackers *period*.
I don't care what you think. Objectively speaking, you can only hit one person at a time, and the multiple attackers aren't as stupid as you think they are. (Even if they are indeed quite stupid)
They won't just let you line them up.
And the guy you're using as space between yourself and the other guy? Yeah, he can still move, and hit you, and try to take you down.
Even if all of the attackers have never trained or have garbage takedowns, you're going down if they want you to go down.
Especially if they're willing to take some punches and kicks to take you down.
Do you have a weapon? Depending on what it is, what range you're using it, and how many there are, it's their weapon now.
Does one of them have a weapon? It's going to be their weapon until they don't want or need it anymore.
Do multiple, if not ALL of them have weapons? You're dead(er) than a doorknob.
And you better hope to GOD you don't trip on a comedically placed banana peel, or something that causes you to no longer have the ability to keep at least one of them away from you.
Even one tiny, miniscule mistake will end all hope of making it out just bruised and battered.
The only thing that is good against multiple attackers is running away, or having multiple friends.
And then if those multiple friends know legit martial arts then you have a death squad.
And striking with them does 😅🤣🤣😂
I tried bjj once in 2007 shortly after i started muay thai/boxing, those days were the tail end of the "gladiator" days in MMA gyms and the dude just ragdolled me and the other dudes were complete douchebags. I hated bjj for so long, now i wanna try it again but these days in my city (sd) the classes have lots of girls and sometimes more than half are girls and they are INSANE at it and i feel now ima get tapped by a girl and everyone will be douchebags again.
i can take you on. Beware of my Imanari Roll and Gogoplata.
I was in a woman's guard and she tried to break my posture. I tried to post up and accidentally grabbed her breasts...I was mortified and quickly took my hands off her...and lost posture and got cross choked 🙄😩
Stay focused she is an opponent. In the street, nobody would care that you grabbed her boob. You are fighting to survive and subdue your opponent.
.....i dont wanna get hurt. Especially bc i have small kids.😮
I really think schools should have women's classes. That not cool for the lady's. Some lady's just don't want men touching them every where. I have people in my family that are lady's that would like to learn but not trying to roll with men til there comfortable. I think schools are so stupid for this. Guarantee you once there's a women's only class the schools will be so surprised that that how many women will join. To be martial artist there not to smart not having a all women's class. Shows s how dum these schools really are.
If it really was that profitable they'd probably be doing it already. Bjj's been a thing for a good few decades now lol as commercial combat sport instruction goes they're essentially well into adulthood.
1) There are women's only classes.
2) In most places there aren't enough women for them not to train with men.
3) Most women wanting to be in a high contact sport like that probably don't mind body contact.
Nails are not my ting. I m going to cut my hair short.Judo with wrestling 🤼♂️
nobody told u bec its obvios
If your hair is being ripped out during training find better partners 🤣🤣
Or tie it up better jeez xD
If someone thinks rolling with a woman is "sexual" what does that say about them rolling with men? 🤔😏
Exactly
Some people are simply uncomfortable to have a high contact with opppsite sex people. It's not so difficult to understand. I goes for men and women.
@@robb00 That feeling of being uncomfortable is something that needs to be overcome when training martial arts. And, tbh, that applies to far more than just training with the opposite sex. If you are truly learning to fight, you will find yourself in many situations that make you feel uncomfortable. If you can't get past those and overcome that feeling within, you will never succeed.
@@judosailor610
It's not true at all. It depends all on your kind of discomfort and what your goal is. If your goal is competing, you don't need of opposite sex to be successful. A great friend of mine, a guy who does muay thai and doesn't train with women, is a high level competitor.
At my gym there are also women only classes and there we have a female purple belt who doesn't train with men. She is a very good athlete who obtained great success at competitions.
But most people are not competitors they are only hobbists who want to do a combat sport just for fun. Some of these people don't want to face discomfort, they only look for a hobby to have fun and forget their troubles for few hours with.
Live and let live. If you want to train with everyone, great! If you are uncomfortable and you want to try and overcome your discomfort great! If you are uncomfortable and you want to do only what make you comfortable, great too! It's your journey, do what you make you feel happy. Nobody should feel forced to do something against their will.
@@robb00 so, first of all, it is absolutely true and without doubt that in order to learn how to fight you have to overcome a lot of things that make you feel uncomfortable or that you're scared to do. From the first time you spar, to the first time you get punched in the face, to the first time you get submitted, to the first time you feel that incredible pressure and pain of someone doing knee on belly and you just want to give up because it's so uncomfortable. You have to learn how to overcome those things and be comfortable in those situations that used to make you uncomfortable. That's indisputable.
Now that said, I guess you're right, you can overcome all those other things and probably learn how to fight without ever rolling, sparring or training with someone of the opposite sex. However, in my opinion, that's still problematic. It may be natural to have that fear or to feel uncomfortable when you're new. And of course if you have some past trauma, that may also contribute to it. But you're doing your training partners and yourself a disservice if you never work through that and get past it and overcome it. At least that's my opinion.
She looks smart and fine already.😏 Nothing else needed for more😇
I would love to have the beautiful Maya Nazareth maneuver me into a Triangle Choke. I would lose to this beautiful girl every single time.
Jiu Jitsu is a stupid choice for normal people. You end up injuring yourself over and over and 99.9% of them will thankfully never use it in self defense. Krav, Judo, or even good striking arts will teach you to defend yourself against a random attacker and you don't run such a high risk of beating your body up.
Kravs not very good in a fight and judo doesn't work very well with big size differences. The best martial art for self defense is gang-fu(safety in numbers) and having a weapon on you xD
Learning striking or judo seriously is almost guaranteed brain injury, bjj is way safer.
jew
what do you do when someone in your favourite gym gets into you..... and you notice it? lol.
Like if they have a crush or something on you?