HOW TO BE CONTENT IN SINGLENESS | CHRISTIAN SINGLE ADVICE | CONTENTMENT IN SINGLE SEASON

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  • Опубликовано: 4 ноя 2024

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  • @k92aida
    @k92aida 4 месяца назад +3

    Omg I FINALLY had a spritual breakthrough by what you said. The Holy Spirit put something that instantly gave me peace after so much time spent obsessing. How would you feel if you're future husband was spending his free time just looking up videos about being single and not having a life of his own, then putting you on a pedestal if when he meets you? You would sense this DESPERATE clingy, cringey energy, which is basically idolatry. Act like how you would want your future husband to act in day-to-day life!! Just chilling, kind to people, not bitter, involved in Church, enjoying life, having their own hobbies and family/friends. Don't act like the cringey guy you wouldn't want to text back because you can sense his desperate energy. THANK YOU LALA. This has helped me so much🙏

  • @TheAfricansara
    @TheAfricansara 3 года назад +61

    Girl one of my biggest fears is to idolize my future husband. Right now im focused on Jesus.

    • @cahmelllaurente4160
      @cahmelllaurente4160 Год назад

      Same ❤

    • @Angela-zl5lz
      @Angela-zl5lz Год назад

      Me 2

    • @rebeckah511
      @rebeckah511 Год назад +2

      Idolatry is something I've always, always ended up doing with crushes I've had. Not just with boyfriends and I've only had 2. And then at one point years ago, I was so content being single and focused on Jesus I told someone that being in a romantic relationship/marriage can be a distraction from Jesus and I feared that. Today, I was worshipping and the Holy Spirit reminded me that the right godly relationship/marriage for you is suppose to compliment your relationship with God, not distract you. I realized that there's no real good pure reason to idolize a significant other. We are all equally broken, flawed and work in progress. We all need Jesus every single day.

  • @onetallgirl1369
    @onetallgirl1369 Год назад +18

    “Contentment does not mean you don’t have a desire for a spouse, Contentment means that that desire does not consume you” WOW!!! That was so profound to me!! I am you, going out of my way to find a man, but I am tired of being sad and frustrated. So I’m with you sis, I need to learn to be consistently content in my single season! TFS!

  • @bethanydanielle1
    @bethanydanielle1 2 года назад +25

    Needed to hear this! I’m content but the feels come in waves 😩. As much as I want a relationship, I need to stay focused on Him

  • @khethymagwaza165
    @khethymagwaza165 Год назад +14

    Amen! You’re speaking my language “God will never bless you with something that will take you away from Him” ❤ Thanks for sharing

  • @MissKendra15
    @MissKendra15 3 года назад +35

    I loved this and it was right on time. We had a whole Bible Study 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 You are such a blessing. ♥️

    • @LaLaJenkins
      @LaLaJenkins  3 года назад +1

      Yay! Praise God! Glad you were blessed! 🙌🏽🙌🏽

  • @nataliehunter3033
    @nataliehunter3033 Год назад +11

    Thank you for this video as I have a feeling of discontent with my life because I don’t have the husband and kids….but how ungrateful is that because God has done so much good in my life. Thank you for outlining this so perfectly. I will definitely continue to work on seeking and delighting in Lord and in turn will bring contentment🙏

  • @chantalbolembo
    @chantalbolembo Год назад +6

    Loved this so much. I’m still young, just finished high school last year 😅 I was talking to a guy last year and he was amazing ‼️ basically everything I had ever wanted in a man. He was hardworking, God fearing and all the above. I made the mistake of getting into a relationship knowing I wasn’t spiritually ready. I was still struggling with sexual sin and at the back of my head I knew this would effect our relationship. Eventually we both fell into sexual sin and it became a daily thing. I stopped reading the bible, praying, and my attention fully shifted to the relationship. We decided to end the relationship because it was harming both of us spiritually. It was tough, but God knew exactly what he was doing. I’m still at the beginning of my journey of Single season and I have indeed seen the Lords hand in my life. I really love how this message basically answered all my questions 😭 God bless you ❤and I pray that God continues to give you more knowledge to share 🙌🏾

  • @dvnwifey222
    @dvnwifey222 Год назад +3

    I just went through this same exact thing! Yes. I was being so ungrateful. Sitting in an answered prayer and still had my hand out! God forgive me. Jesus you are ENOUGH, more than enough for me. All that I need! Even if the Lord never gave me another thing or made another move for me… HE WOULD STILL BE ENOUGH 😩 Lord we thank you for LaLa! Amen sis. Amen 🥹

  • @celeste_lovesyouxoxo
    @celeste_lovesyouxoxo Год назад +2

    I’ve been struggling with my season of singleness and I just wanted to say that this video has helped me so much and it came to mind that if you didn’t go through that then myself and the viewers never would’ve seen this video and heard what we needed to hear. God is good, thank you for this message

  • @jasminellison2790
    @jasminellison2790 3 года назад +18

    This was right on time for me. God has been working on my mental and spiritual readiness for marriage. He always reminds me that when the one he has for me finds me the work doesn’t stop there. The woman I am now is the prequel to the future mother and wife God made me to be.

    • @LaLaJenkins
      @LaLaJenkins  3 года назад +1

      YES! Exactly! Thanks for watching and sharing this! 🙌🏽❤️

    • @marthaleak4903
      @marthaleak4903 2 года назад +1

      @@LaLaJenkins You're teaching good!!!!!!

    • @LaLaJenkins
      @LaLaJenkins  2 года назад

      @@marthaleak4903 🙌🏽🙌🏽

  • @Ninagaloree
    @Ninagaloree 2 года назад +9

    Thank you for your transparency!!! Matthew 6:33 was in my mind as I was listening to this.

    • @LaLaJenkins
      @LaLaJenkins  2 года назад +2

      🗣SEEK FIRST HIS KINGDOM! Amen! 🙌🏽🙌🏽

  • @Journeyman89
    @Journeyman89 Год назад

    I've been looking for my Queen for awhile I'm very impatient but never desperate so this was confirmation and reminder that GOD timing is always Supreme

  • @ntombinakeli3327
    @ntombinakeli3327 6 месяцев назад

    Thank you Jesus for using your daughter ❤️🙏

  • @natashazinc
    @natashazinc Год назад +1

    Okay because THIS!

  • @whatsernamelj
    @whatsernamelj Год назад +2

    Im so glad i stumbled on this video. I am struggling emotionally and mentally right now with men and i needed to hear this sis

  • @shyaanboodoo1172
    @shyaanboodoo1172 2 года назад +5

    Your channel is amazing and inspirational. I have learned so much from you and your integrity.

  • @loveaicha
    @loveaicha 3 года назад +3

    I have been so mad at myself and feeling so hurt and after my quiet time today, God sent me to this video. I’m sitting here like where has this channel been 😭😭😭 thanks for sharing this sis. God bless you 💕

  • @nicolesuarez4440
    @nicolesuarez4440 Год назад +1

    Thank you for this beautiful encouragement & wisdom. ✝️❤️💕😭🙏✨✨✨✨ Needed this. Perfect timing. 💖💖💖💖👂👂

  • @CourtneyLynne_
    @CourtneyLynne_ Год назад +1

    Struggling with this right now. Thank you for your message ❤

  • @chanelvw4559
    @chanelvw4559 2 года назад +3

    Yes Amen, great video! "Your word is not accurate" haha i had to laugh. I also am now content in singleness since Ive realised I have more time for God, to grow in Him and be used by Him. La, your public faithfulness to God is a great testimony that God is using to lift up so many people.

    • @LaLaJenkins
      @LaLaJenkins  2 года назад

      Amen! Glory to God! 🙌🏽🙌🏽

  • @rarediamondjourney
    @rarediamondjourney 6 месяцев назад

    Thank you so much for sharing your journey Sis, God has really led me to come across this video and it has really blessed me and has helped me to understand why I should be content in my season of singleness and how I can be content. God bless you❤❤❤

  • @daughteroftheking01
    @daughteroftheking01 Год назад

    🙌🏾 wow… it’s hard to click off your videos. He def sent me here.

  • @michele4346
    @michele4346 Год назад +1

    Omg you are hilarious and just so transparent. I’m glad God put you in my algorithm, I absolutely needed this word !!

  • @__daughterofthemosthighKING
    @__daughterofthemosthighKING 4 месяца назад

    Thank you for this video! Still present till today!👏🏽

  • @nikkiparker7399
    @nikkiparker7399 2 года назад +3

    Gurl! I love ur energy and how honest u are. I think we do look over the key points in some verses like u pointed out. Ty for this video! ❤️😊

  • @aprilmc8509
    @aprilmc8509 10 месяцев назад

    I stumbled across this video and I truly believe God wanted me to see it because of where I am at this current moment in my life. Just like yourself, I desire a husband and seems like it's all around me for others and I've asked God over and over again why hasn't it happened yet for me? I guess this video is his response back to me. We don't always like how he replies but it's all in love from God because of what he has just for us, in his timing. Thank you for this video. May God continue to bless you. 💜

  • @omoowobhd
    @omoowobhd Год назад

    This is sound counsel for single women & men. Let YAH do the picking & choosing of a husband instead of women choosing based on worldly standards & status seeking to impress others. People choose their spouses for many reasons believing they know better, when it doesn't last, THEN they blame YAH when he never ordained them. I have multiple female relatives who were burdened with a mate they never married, some who did marry, have children but the union dissolved & it was a hardship. Nothing is more valuable than our souls which have been ordained to do YAH's work for his kingdom building. I noticed that the more people stray from biblical instruction, the more people need it...

  • @VaniaVictoria_
    @VaniaVictoria_ Год назад

    You probably won’t see this, bc this video is a bit old but I’m going through my single season, after coming out of a 4 year relationship that may have not been for me. My heart is sad I had to break it up but the Holy Spirit would not let me rest until I broke it off. These videos are very encouraging for me. I’m done dating! I idolized the relationship SO much and it was toxic and damaging to me and my ex ..and he was a man of God! I just want Gods best for me..until then I’m good being single and content.

  • @Julia-ej4jz
    @Julia-ej4jz 2 года назад +1

    Thank you for sharing. I'd like to point out another point of view. A spouse is not always a blessing. He may also be a trial (from God). Singleness is a trial but marriage may also be a trial.

  • @RachelNichols-writer
    @RachelNichols-writer Год назад

    I'm reading The Hiding Place by Corrie ten Boom. She was a godly, Christian women who delighted herself in the Lord, practiced contentment in her singleness, and faithfully served Him. Because she delighted in God alone, found contentment in her singleness, and served Him so well, He kept her single into her eighties when she died and went home to meet Him.

  • @nadirawhite
    @nadirawhite 3 года назад +1

    I absolutely loved this! Your honesty and transparency is everything!! You will receive everything that the Lord has for your life on His timing. Thank you for your inspiration! God bless you! 💕💕

    • @LaLaJenkins
      @LaLaJenkins  3 года назад

      I receive that! 🙌🏽 Thank you for watching! ❤️❤️

  • @GETYOBAGMONIQUE
    @GETYOBAGMONIQUE 2 года назад +1

    Don't be hard on your self we do not know any better we are learning as God's children 🙏 and your desire to want to be married to a great Godly man and praying for one and actually waiting is strength 💪 that God is building with in you. someone once told me when you pray for something let go and let God handle it he heard your prayer have faith in God he will full fill your prayer and answer it

  • @SL1133DZ
    @SL1133DZ 2 года назад +1

    I don't know how I rolled up on this video, but this was for me.

  • @Julia-ej4jz
    @Julia-ej4jz 2 года назад +4

    I am super-depressed and resentful because of loneliness. I have very little communication on my life. Most of the time, I am by myself. I want to go out with friends but noone wants to. Maybe I'm a bad person, I don't know. I'm trying to do my best, I always have. With men and women, I've been trying to be a good friend and spouse and it did not work, nobody is interested in me. I'm very miserable. I visit a church but here in Russia going to a church does not always involve a lot of communication.

    • @LaLaJenkins
      @LaLaJenkins  2 года назад

      Praying for you. 🙏🏽🤎

    • @mpdoriscar
      @mpdoriscar 2 года назад

      God is going to guide you in the way you should go. Also, begin to have compassion on yourself rather than having self pity. You're still in God's plan even while in Russia. God made every man and woman in Russia he can create a miracle beyond your expectations. You were placed there as a calculated act by God. He will bring you to your complete season. Amen.🙏

    • @Julia-ej4jz
      @Julia-ej4jz 2 года назад

      @@mpdoriscar Thank you! Well, I should accept life as it is. Maybe God's plan for me is to be single. I've been searching for a spouse for 20 years. Maybe there aren't enough nice men on this planet. I don't want to be with a bad man.

  • @tgaddis89
    @tgaddis89 Год назад

    Thank you for talking about this. Someone shared it on a group I am in. Definitely needed to hear it.

  • @WordsPictures997
    @WordsPictures997 3 года назад +2

    Giiirrrlll! This was soooooo good! Thank you so much for sharing so openly. God bless you Lala. Witnessing you grow is such a blessing and encouragement.

    • @LaLaJenkins
      @LaLaJenkins  3 года назад +1

      Yay! Sooo glad you enjoyed it! The Holy Spirit wouldn’t let me rest until I discussed everything I revealed in this video. So I’m truly glad you were blessed by my transparency! 🙌🏽🙌🏽

  • @joytucker1273
    @joytucker1273 Год назад

    Baby the conviction I felt watching this. Lol awesome information.

  • @tabithachantel2413
    @tabithachantel2413 3 года назад +1

    I love and receive this beautiful message it's so beautiful to hear from like minded women who are on the same journey as me , I love your channel ❤️ I definitely can see you organizing a single ladies conference or single ladies retreat in the future that would be amazing your messages are needed and encouraging 🤗🤗

  • @Cantthinkofwhatshouldgohere
    @Cantthinkofwhatshouldgohere Год назад

    I’ve gone through so many stages of idolizing marriage, giving up, contentment- was a long period of contentment to the point that I didn’t want marriage and it still never happened. At 38, to me it’s embarrassing to still be hoping for marriage and children. I give up once and for all. If you come across my comment, please pray for my contentment and peace in spinsterhood lol.

  • @michelalvarez637
    @michelalvarez637 Месяц назад

    Thanks so much for this video!

  • @justilyp7905
    @justilyp7905 2 года назад

    im learning i almost there become one.amen

  • @Dancingbyfaith3
    @Dancingbyfaith3 Год назад

    I pray the Lord answers your desires for a spouse speedily. 😇🥰 if he already hasn’t.

  • @beingroxy
    @beingroxy Год назад

    Contentment in singleness is rough, ladies. Im in it right neoow. And i want to be content so bad, but i dont wanna be so content that I dont desire him at all.
    Can it be possible that because you grow increasingly discontent that it may be closer? Not to the point it consumes you though?
    I think of Hannah crying out to the Lord for a child. Would we consider her discontent? She eventually received her promise and gave her son back to God. The posture of our hearts need to be right. ❤
    Can we ever achieve a place of FULL contentment? Or will we experience waves?

  • @tianaleigh7984
    @tianaleigh7984 3 года назад

    Right on time baby girl 🤍💯💯🙏🏼✨✨✨ Thank you for this !!!! Currently watching as I do my paper🤣🤍

  • @leratomaselwane9454
    @leratomaselwane9454 Год назад

    Pls ma’am you’re so funny😂😂 I just love your videos ♥️

  • @ronj1215
    @ronj1215 3 года назад

    👍🏿now you're back on track! Stay focus....."GOD FIRST" - always.....that blessing is coming heck he is probably watching now cleaning out his closet.
    Happy V-Day!

  • @Julia-ej4jz
    @Julia-ej4jz 2 года назад

    I've decided to follow the 12-step program of codependent people. I hope I will learn to be content in singleness. It is not a "single season", I guess I will be single for my whole life.

    • @Anthony-yy3kc
      @Anthony-yy3kc 2 года назад

      Julia, yes I joined a 12 step recovery program for addiction and I am finding that I am much better able to surrender my desires for physical intimacy which I cannot express as a single man. But the desire is becoming less intense as I continue to surrender it to him .

  • @sinazoboyana2245
    @sinazoboyana2245 2 года назад

    Thank you for the message I feel like God lead me to this video and your channel, your are much appreciated♥

  • @shelisset6196
    @shelisset6196 3 года назад

    I came right over after I read your comment from the other video. Great job. God is an on time God. All of the preparations you are making in this season are setting you up for greater. I pray you find peace in the season you are in so God can bless you and those that are connected to you beyond what you can imagine.
    Now I have to subscribe to see how your blessings unfold 😊.

    • @LaLaJenkins
      @LaLaJenkins  3 года назад +1

      Yesss! Thank you for watching and subscribing! 🙌🏽❤️

  • @angela9809
    @angela9809 3 года назад

    This touched me sis!! Thank you for your truth and transparency I can relate so much!! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🔥🔥🔥

  • @quintonmudd2072
    @quintonmudd2072 3 года назад

    Thank you for sharing this video...it was very helpful. Have a blessed evening❤

  • @kristin7542
    @kristin7542 2 года назад

    Thank you so much for this. God Bless!

  • @quintonmudd2072
    @quintonmudd2072 3 года назад

    Also I would like to say thank you for all you put in this video because it really helps. I appreciate it alot❤

  • @Anthony-yy3kc
    @Anthony-yy3kc 2 года назад

    I am content in my singleness! I just am; can't really tell you why. And more so I am even content with remaining celibate forever! It's just how I want to live!

  • @patrucvas_
    @patrucvas_ 3 года назад

    A great video!! God bless you! I will pray for you!!

  • @CreoleBeautyCooking
    @CreoleBeautyCooking 3 года назад +2

    I received it sis !!

  • @tametriacalhoun
    @tametriacalhoun Год назад

    Hello. What version is your study bible? Or do you have a link for it?

  • @Julia-ej4jz
    @Julia-ej4jz 2 года назад

    After a devastating marriage I feel that as we are all sinful and selfish, relationships are a very dangerous place. I guess I won't venture a relationship in the near future. I'm too afraid of all the hurt. I should heal from codependency first. Luckily, there are a lot of books and programs for healing from codependency. I hope I will become self-sufficient. I will visit "codependent anonymous" and "adult children of alcoholics", I hope this will help. Anyways, I don't believe in happy marriage anymore. I should learn to love myself in the first place.

  • @hermonferon
    @hermonferon 3 года назад

    This was great and so timely thank you! ♥️

    • @LaLaJenkins
      @LaLaJenkins  3 года назад +1

      Yay! Thank you for watching! 🙌🏽❤️

  • @kalemapius7958
    @kalemapius7958 2 года назад

    Thank you for the vid.. love from Uganda

  • @Julia-ej4jz
    @Julia-ej4jz 2 года назад +1

    My opinion is that there are no "algorithms" that lead to marriage. And being obedient and delighting in Lord does not guarantee getting married. I'm trying to accept the fact that some people are single their whole life, others are unhappily married. Only a small portion of people are blessed with a good spouse. Everyone "deserves" a good spouse but not everyone gets one. Not all nice ladies in Bible had nice husbands. Navaal was mean. Oftentimes, a good person gets a bad spouse.

  • @hamilton5689
    @hamilton5689 2 года назад

    For me I want to be single. I am not anti-marriage, but just for me personally I don't want to be married. I know what I will be missing, but I am content alone.

  • @kevinthomas6924
    @kevinthomas6924 3 года назад +5

    Look I am a guy and I am tired of being single bring her on

    • @LaLaJenkins
      @LaLaJenkins  3 года назад

      Did you watch the video?

    • @kevinthomas6924
      @kevinthomas6924 3 года назад

      @@LaLaJenkins yes I always watch your videos

    • @kevinthomas6924
      @kevinthomas6924 3 года назад +1

      I've been single since I was in my teenager years and now I am 37 with no kids live alone I am getting tired of it

    • @LaLaJenkins
      @LaLaJenkins  3 года назад

      @@kevinthomas6924 I’m sorry to hear that. Have you tried talking to God about it? Maybe asking why He has you in this prolonged single season?

    • @kevinthomas6924
      @kevinthomas6924 3 года назад

      @@LaLaJenkins I talk to God everyday still no answer

  • @lawandacole6547
    @lawandacole6547 Год назад

    I'm struggling and focus on God and content during my singleness season at 41 😭

  • @NicoleEstrella-o3e
    @NicoleEstrella-o3e 9 месяцев назад

    i recieve it 🎉

  • @jackcarraway4707
    @jackcarraway4707 2 года назад +1

    From a guy's perspective: get off of social media and develop goals to better yourself. Work out, start a side hustle to make extra money, etc.
    As a guy, marriage is a scam to me anyway.

  • @latoyawalker6279
    @latoyawalker6279 3 года назад

    I love your videos, they are blessing me and giving me confirmation on things going on with me. It seems like every video you post the topics relate to me or i need guidance on that issue. Continue to do what God has called you to do to contunue blessing all of us! Andddd what brand of make up you use because i need some lol

    • @LaLaJenkins
      @LaLaJenkins  3 года назад +1

      Glad my vids are a blessing! 🙌🏽 And I use a mixture of brands.. mostly MAC

    • @latoyawalker6279
      @latoyawalker6279 3 года назад

      @@LaLaJenkins thank you!

  • @Esmeb89547
    @Esmeb89547 Год назад

    What about make up, weave, lashes, fake nails?

  • @breeya7507
    @breeya7507 3 года назад

    Gems

  • @Julia-ej4jz
    @Julia-ej4jz 2 года назад

    Lala, how do you know that a man is sent by God? What are the signs??? For example, there were mutual feelings with my husband and also special signs but later on he abandoned me... A man sent by God is supposed to be a good husband or not necessarily so??? In Bible we see cases of unhappy marriages.

    • @LaLaJenkins
      @LaLaJenkins  2 года назад +1

      I think God’s plan looks different for everyone. He could have allowed you to go through that marriage for certain lessons. If you really want clarity, I suggest fasting. 🙏🏽

    • @promise7407
      @promise7407 2 года назад

      @@LaLaJenkins this was a really great response🤎

    • @LaLaJenkins
      @LaLaJenkins  2 года назад

      @@promise7407 🙌🏽

  • @hamilton9651
    @hamilton9651 2 года назад

    I somehow feel that marriage was never intended to be as complicated as we in the churches have made it to be! That being said it is absolutely screwed up now and my suggestion is to run as far away from it as possible!

  • @jesuschristsaves392
    @jesuschristsaves392 2 года назад

    Dear God💗❤️♥️💖💖💕❤️💞🙏in heaven, I come to you in the name of Jesus. I acknowledge to You that I am a sinner, and I am sorry for my sins and the , life that I have lived; I need your forgiveness.
    I believe that your only begotten Son Jesus Christ shed His precious blood on the cross at Calvary and died for my sins, and I am now willing to turn from my sin.
    You said in the bible that if we confess the Lord our God and believe in our hearts that God raised Jesus from the dead, we shall be saved.
    Right now I confess Jesus as my Lord. With my heart, I believe that God raised Jesus from the dead. This very moment I accept Jesus Christ as my own personal Savior and according to His Word, right now I am saved. Amen.

  • @oaklandsoldier8520
    @oaklandsoldier8520 2 года назад

    Could a christian single man like myself use this advice too?

  • @alazarefuye434
    @alazarefuye434 2 года назад

    Every "Christian" woman I have ever been in a relationship with either cheated or said I'm putting too much weight on saving myself.... Picking only Christian woman limits my dating options, but then when they're lukewarm it's like where is the Proverbs 31 woman? lol 😂

    • @LaLaJenkins
      @LaLaJenkins  2 года назад

      Continue to wait on God. He’ll bring the right one when it’s time. 🙏🏽

  • @breeya7507
    @breeya7507 3 года назад

    🥺

  • @GETYOBAGMONIQUE
    @GETYOBAGMONIQUE 2 года назад

    Theirs nothing wrong with you their is a lot of things wrong with these men

  • @vsooziev7896
    @vsooziev7896 Год назад +1

    14:38 has me cracking up! Thank you for this video, even though I’m still young I can’t help but feel like my time is running out. When really I just need to wait on God and his time because his timing is always right!

  • @jesuschristsaves392
    @jesuschristsaves392 2 года назад +1

    The Gospel of salvation of our souls: 💜💕💖✨💖❤️📖✝️🕎💡💡❤️❤️💞💕💖❤️❤️💖💕💕💜♥️❤️💕For what I received I passed on to you as of [first importance]: that Christ died for our sins according to the Scriptures, that he was buried, that he was raised on the third day according to the Scriptures, and that he appeared to Peter, and then to the Twelve. After that, he appeared to more than five hundred of the brothers and sisters at the same time,

  • @oneyorbaginwa6443
    @oneyorbaginwa6443 Год назад

    Thank you so much for this message.🥲

  • @mattie1332
    @mattie1332 Год назад

    This blessed me so much, thank you!!