I’m crying while I’m watching this. Just broke up a 4 yrs relationship and I’m kind of lost. But this gospel brings light to my singleness little by little. I will be ok and I will trust God. Thank you so much.
aggiesoldier thank you! It’s nice to know that all over the world wherever we all are believers can find spiritual family everywhere! Even if we don’t know each other personally we know our God that is alsways with us. After couple of days listening to this sermons of Ben Stuart about relationships and singleness. I am ok now. Slowly getting a detox about my standards, who am I with God and getting back to the path that God crested for me. I realize how deeply lost I was with my vision and I thought it was from God but God had to put me out of that situation to fully see it. I will be ok and he will be ok. And I know that our God will keep His promise for me. And whoever is reading this will be to you too. God be the glory!
Mellet Habana girl you took the words right out of my mouth. I am going through the exact same thing- went through the end of a 4 year relationship 2 months ago. And everything you just said is the only way I’m getting through it and knowing that it’s right and it WILL BE okay. So happy to hear you’re so strong and have a sense of understanding about why God has both you and me in this place right now. If you haven’t watch already- the series Relationship Goals by Pastor Mike Todd at Transformation Church, absolutely life-changing. It will help things make sense even more. I’ll be praying for you 💗
Going through the same thing, just ended a 4.5 year relationship and I am almost 37. Felt like iam losing hope I am to old for a family and finding a man. But need to trust God that he will give me the desires of my heart.
Hello, I have listened to this message over and over, and I felt like to start all over again... I believe that meeting you here isn't a mistake but something that has been ordained by God... I will love to know you better... I will be so excited to get a reply from you dear.
I understand why this may have been a helpful preach for those singles in their 20's and possibly even 30's and I don't dispute anything that was said - but it was surface level and did not address the deeper issues arise of longer-term singleness for those in their 40's and beyond, suggesting that singleness would be short-term. How do we define a 'season'? For many Christians, singleness is something they have experienced for 30 years + . Preaching from pastors who are happily married with children and talk about the quite normal period of singleness in their 20's just don't cut if for me - there has been no real experience by them of the deep, deep pain of longer-term singleness.......the barrenness of childlessness and all the other connected issues of deep, deep loneliness. It also suggests that marriage will come as a reward when you have 'done your time'......and sometimes it doesn't. There is pain and suffering in the gospel that is rarely preached about.....taking up the cross, learning to truly say that His grace is sufficient for me.....even if I remain single for the rest of my life, rather than just during a short-term period of singleness. That is a whole different ballgame and takes faith and relationship with a God to another level. And as to freedom and time........it's not quite that simple!!!!
Well said. At a certain point, all these artificially enthusiastic pep talks masquerading as sermons reveal an embarrassing lack of experience and empathy. Truly prolonged, unwanted singleness is an affliction that none save those who experience it will understand. It truly is like picking up a bloody cross and following Christ. Yet He did, after all, say that discipleship would be like that ....
😂 My pastor literally said the same thing on Sunday lol The holy spirit is moving. I guess the same thing goes for watching fantasy worlds getting saved via scifi movies and shows. 😭
@@MeganOsten Being single gives us the full freedom to get right with GOD, to build into existence once lost relationship, between GOD and creation, between PARENT and child. 1 Corinthians Chapter 7 KJV 32 But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord: 33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. 34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband. 35 And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction. this world presents love as lust, and if you`re not always touched, then you are not loved = lies and fear propaganda. All of it because the MK ULTRA PROJECTS from masons. John 15:13 KJV Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends. And being ALONE (not on your own) does bring forth sober mind. What I have witness in my short life so far is, souls get together for money and because they are bored and the 3th reason is, the pressure of peers and older generations. “People around me repeated daily, get married and have children and move out, so I did. Am I happily living after? NO, i`m bitter, angry, sad, broken, in fear, heavy leaden, in darkness, always in somewhat contests with people around me, who has something better, something more and so on…, I succumbed to the fear of the opinions about my life of others, thats the hurtful truth.” We start feeling lonely, because we are on our own, lonely comes not from BEING ALONE. KJV Bible says; Matthew 6:31 Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed? Luke 12:22 And he said unto his disciples, Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat; neither for the body, what ye shall put on. Matthew 6:25 Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment?
Being in my fifties I can’t believe just how difficult and hurtful never having a spouse or children has been . Pastors like this mean well but always seem to imply that singleness won’t bring its own problems and deep pain, a hurt that few if any in the church will understand or care to understand. You end up alone.
Hello, I have listened to this message over and over, and I felt like to start all over again... I believe that meeting you here isn't a mistake but something that has been ordained by God... I will love to know you better... I will be so excited to get a reply from you dear.
There's a lot of pressure from society to get married and honestly we can do a lot better at viewing singles as equals rather than as less important. Social media doesn't help as everyone is always posting pictures of how happy they are with their partners which is not always the reality. A lot of marriages suffer because of issues that were not dealt with during singleness. It's important to deal with issues while you're single to prevent destroying your marriage/family.
I don't think so. We live in a hookup culture. A lot of men are just out there for games. Marriage is the last thing on their minds. But yes, a lot do go into marriage without actually knowing what it is and not being ready.
@@Chydova it's the men that you want and are attracting that are playing games. What about the guys that you aren't attracted to? You overlook them all the time. Those guys that you put in the "friend zone" are the ones that are marriage minded.
If the church didn’t idolize marriage so much then maybe there would be an equal, if not more amount of preaching on the single life. There’s so much area to cover in this season of life and yet we hear very little about all aspects of it. Not being treated as equals within the congregation only adds more wounds and pain to what is already a tough road to navigate, especially in today’s world. It’s become a race down the aisle instead of learning how to succeed as a Christian single person. I believe this is why, as you stated in your comment, many marriages are a struggle due to lack of work on oneself as a single. You were also right about the pressure in society to marry. Especially on women and more so the older they get
I am 35 yrs & Single & Never in my life time did I think of how I could thrive in my singleness always thought being single in my thirties is a downfall. Thank You Pastor Ben for the Profound Sermon. Be Blessed
Being single is a Beautiful Gift but I think the thing that many of us who are single struggle with is that The culture and the Church doesn't view singleness alot of Times as A Gift but a Bad thing along with pressures to get married!
Awesome message!! It definitely encouraged me to continue to pursue God and not pursue a relationship. It hard to be single and to deny the feeling to have to have someone to text or go to dinner with. I’m trying to learn to be content being single and not feel like I have to have someone
You got this bro! Build yourself up as an upright man of God and find worth in Him so that when you do find someone you'll actually be such a gift to her
Never thought there were guys out there who feel the same as I do. Keep pursuing God and His faithfulness. He knows what's best for you. Seek first HIS kingdom and life will be added to you. We will be rewarded when we put Him first. It's a promise. Keep pursuing Him, keep pressing in and be patient in becoming the man He is changing you into. It's hard I know but He is faithful. All the best to you buddy!
If nobody pursued relationships along with God we would have no marriages. There’s nothing wrong with desiring a spouse, it’s a Godly desire that we can pray to God about just like we do about everything else. You don’t have to exclude seeking God at the expense of seeking a spouse. The bible says Proverbs 18:22 He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord. The word “find” can be a verb or a noun. Both action words which means to be active. I don’t feel that suppressing you’re desire to be married and just seeking God alone is the biblical answer. God bless 💙
Hello, I have listened to this message over and over, and I felt like to start all over again... I believe that meeting you here isn't a mistake but something that has been ordained by God... I will love to know you better... I will be so excited to get a reply from you dear
So weird to be watching after really getting to enjoy alone time with God for the past three years and wanting more. I love the time I'm been able to get to know God's heart for me more, His will for my life, and how he truly wants me to be undistractedly devoted to Him. While it hasn't been fun because I work a menial job but this in turn has given me more time to devote to my composing praise and worship songs for him. I love pursuing time for God and serving those who need to hear His word or be in His presence. Honestly if we don't know how to spend quality time with the Lord how can we spend quality time with others and have something to offer up to them if we're not rooted in the One true God?
Thank you so much for speaking on important issues without bias and in the most biblical manner, this series has redefined the way I was looking at singleness and I am so thankful for leaders who make me want to draw closer to Jesus!
Pastor Ben, thank you so much for preaching this message on singleness (1 Cor. 7). Being single at 52, I really benefited from this message! Maximize the season for God. Amen!
I just got out of a 3-year mourning period from a failed marriage. I thought I'm now ready to date. But watching this video just made me realize that I have not really spent time devoting my time to God. The past 3 years was spent on moving on and getting over the pain. I will postpone entering in the dating scene and will focus my time to God for now.
Agreed because this assumes that you have to reach the pinnacle of perfection before God blesses you with a relationship. Maybe I’m wrong but I don’t think this is the case for all married people.
@@Sunshine26762 its not implying that we have to be perfect before He blesses us with a relationship. Its saying that we have to be 'right' with God first. We have to be secure in our relationship with God before we can be in a relationship with someone else. If our relationship with God is not secure then we will stop prioritzing God and start prioritizing and maybe even idolizing the other person. being happy single with God first is importnat because you learn that you are a whole person on your own and that you don't another person to complete you, you have a relatiobship to add to you. idk if that made sense
@@kaitlynmiron6043I echo this. Nobody, single or not can reach a pinnacle of perfect with God, that's the basis of Christianity. It's not about reaching a certain goal, but more about finding the purpose in life and set off in that direction. You can do this whether you're single or not, but it's easier to focus on it as a single person. It's the equivalent of the non-Christian saying "learn to love yourself before you try to love others", except we Christians believe God loves us more than we can love ourselves.
That is a silly thing to say for more than a few reasons 1. Plenty of Christians manage to get married that have quite a bit to do regarding their walk with God 2. A partner may influence and help you to grow. 3. If we wait till everything is near perfect there would be no marriage for anyone.
I LOVE this season of singleness I am in. I never thought I would get this season and I’m so thankful I get to do what I want, when I want, how I want. I get to spend time with Jesus whenever I’m not at work. I go on adventures alone. I am in counseling. I have a mentor. I journal and read. I am in small group and attend 3 church services a week. I watch whatever show I want, whenever I want. I cook if I want. I don’t cook if I don’t want. I talk to Jesus a lot and we hang out constantly. This message is confirming how well I am doing with this season of life. I am devoted to Jesus and have been focused on becoming whole and more holy. Sometimes I use distractions but it happens when my focus is not on Jesus. I do have a desire for marriage and I know it will come, but this season of singleness is a huge gift and I am beyond thankful for it. I hope everyone can love this season as much as I do. I rarely feel lonely and I spend A LOT of time alone. I see friends sometimes but I usually am alone. It’s beautiful.
Hello, I have listened to this message over and over, and I felt like to start all over again... I believe that meeting you here isn't a mistake but something that has been ordained by God... I will love to know you better... I will be so excited to get a reply from you dear
The 9 people who disliked this are silly. 🤷🏻♀️ That was very well said. Personally I'm living my best life in pursuit of God's plans for me WHILE being single... (For the time being)
Thank you so much for this! Most sermons I hear about singleness assumes it's by choice or my only purpose is to support my married friends as a "backup singer". (I really HATE that!) I come away feeling rejected and "less-than". I was married 15 years to a horrible person that cheated on me a lot. I was already rejected by him and a bit jealous of my happily married friends. I am NOT a back-up singer! If anything, the married people need to come alongside the single people for support. We're alone! They have each other! Thank you for encouraging me to use this time to be closer to God without making me feel like I've decided on purpose to be a nun or something! The only thing I don't really agree with is the assumption that single people have more free time. We don't. At least I don't. I have to work all the time with a full time job and some side gigs to pay the bills with one income! I've recently found you on RUclips and have heard a few messages and really enjoy you. God bless you and keep up the great work!
God also created us to have relationships with each other. He died so He could have a relationship with us. We come to deeper revelation and understanding of this THROUGH our relationships with others.
Hello, I have listened to this message over and over, and I felt like to start all over again... I believe that meeting you here isn't a mistake but something that has been ordained by God... I will love to know you better... I will be so excited to get a reply from you dear
Hello, I have listened to this message over and over, and I felt like to start all over again... I believe that meeting you here isn't a mistake but something that has been ordained by God... I will love to know you better... I will be so excited to get a reply from you dear
This whole playlist was super encouraging a couple of years ago when I first watched it, and now I'm loving the rewatch. I need to read the book again, too. Such good stuff
I am so blessed to find you. I have been thinking if I will never get into a relationship ever . But right now I know the reason of my singleness I am gonna make very good use of it to serve God all day and get a closer relationship with Him 😍😍. I love you Lord.
I think regardless of the season we’re in, Satan will always try to steal our thought life. I know deep in my heart I am single to serve a purpose for God, and I know I will not be single for ever. Like every follower of Christ, not every day will be a good day. We’re all under a type of scrutiny and it’s ok to still reflect who God is when you are expressing things outside of joy and peace. It’s how you respond, treat others, and your attitude when God corrects you when necessary. While I try to remember to pray for my husband, I don’t want to get too caught up in it either. That longing to be filled can only be fellowshipping with God alone. I currently am hurting. Covid has made me more isolated and enhanced how single I truly am, but God has been faithful. 🙏🏼
me to. I cry out to god EVERY DAY why don't have a husband. I keep focusing on what I don't have and desire as a women but I didnt even think about what it truly meant when people say singleness as a gift.
@@brittanychapman5438 Hello, I have listened to this message over and over, and I felt like to start all over again... I believe that meeting you here isn't a mistake but something that has been ordained by God... I will love to know you better... I will be so excited to get a reply from you dear.
It still hurts but not that much Thank you He use to always call and text me the same time when I would read my bible and pray and I would always stop to talk to him because I was so afraid to lose him
This guy is brilliant! Not just this message but the whole series is really enlightening. I was thinking i'd heard it all from the many sermons i've watched but somehow he still brings a fresh perspective in a humorous way!
Ive had a few single seasons. Still single. Been more single than with anyone. Trusting the Lord. Maybe its protection as Ive been hurt lot. ❤ I pray i get a 2nd chance at marriage
I actually love this message, I love going to it to remember why I'm single and the amazing things that God can do through it. I feel as though Ben has a unique gift for this particular area and explains practically and biblically, 1 Cor 7:35, so good.
A very important element in this conversation is community. That is painfully lacking in the sermon. Scripture preaches singleness in a community, not individually. The benefits are felt and the pain is resisted, that way. In community.
Hello, I have listened to this message over and over, and I felt like to start all over again... I believe that meeting you here isn't a mistake but something that has been ordained by God... I will love to know you better... I will be so excited to get a reply from you dear
Thank you. I really have been thinking of loneliness as a powerless situation. I’m anxious and scared I will be single for longer than I wish. I see now I need to maximize my time to do more than I have been doing. Great way to break down God’s word and our intentions in this purposed journey.
Hello, I have listened to this message over and over, and I felt like to start all over again... I believe that meeting you here isn't a mistake but something that has been ordained by God... I will love to know you better... I will be so excited to get a reply from you dear
Hello, I have listened to this message over and over, and I felt like to start all over again... I believe that meeting you here isn't a mistake but something that has been ordained by God... I will love to know you better... I will be so excited to get a reply from you dear
im thankful for this video because lately I have been destracted by a girl i know and i prioratized her attention rather than God and my calling to the point where i was depressed because she was not able to fill that perpose in my life that God gave me anyways it was good
Hilarious!!! If only I found this man of God earlier but it is well Ecc 3:11 definitely enjoying my season of singleness even more after watching this. Thank you 🙏🏾😄😄😄
There is nothing wrong with being single, but churches focus way too much on marriage. The single people get left out and churches do not seem to care about them. I understand why a lot of singles do not go to church and I myself do not like going to church anymore cause the focus is so much on marriage. I would like to be married but I doubt it is going to happen.
Hello, I have listened to this message over and over, and I felt like to start all over again... I believe that meeting you here isn't a mistake but something that has been ordained by God... I will love to know you better... I will be so excited to get a reply from you dear
HNi. Just a note: the sound mixing is uneven. I hear most of the 's' sounds and not the rest of his voice. Might raise the bass up or tweak another sound setting.
I think “having” freedom and time is a choice you make. Obviously there are med students out there who get married, which means they made the decision to get better at time management and make time for whatever’s important to them. I’m a dental student, so I can definitely relate to that feeling of no time. Let’s make the decision to make time for things that are important to us!
Hello, I have listened to this message over and over, and I felt like to start all over again... I believe that meeting you here isn't a mistake but something that has been ordained by God... I will love to know you better... I will be so excited to get a reply from you dear.
I'm a hopeless romantic but after months of pain of unrequited love I feel like I can start giving up and casting my lust away onto love and let god fill me It's hard but I only want to learn how to be content in God
But what about those of us who are single parents? I have a 2yr old and though I am single I still don't have much free time. I don't know what I can do to help my focus be on pleasing the Lord and not be distracted with worldly things?
Be a good steward over what God has placed in your life. Be intentional in the free time you have with God and ask Him to be creative. Don't compare yourself to the ones this pastor used as examples. I'm learning to allow God to strengthen me. I'm so used to giving to others I never do anything nice for myself. Pray like this, "God, I don't need my day to go the way I want it to. I just need You."
Dearest know this, the Lord NEVER gives up on his children, for He loves us so much. He say "You are mine". I'm currently experiencing this season after failed relationships but he has informed me so clearly this month to focus on Jeremiah 29;11. I pray it helps you to remain patient and hopeful for his gifts and blessings are GREAT ❤
What about those who are single but they have kids so they don't have the "time and freedom" to seek God and make a difference? I think single parents have even less time and freedom than married couples with kids. So what about our singleness?
"And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus." Philippians 4:19 ESV I believe God knows what you need. May it be time for God, financial provision, good health, restoration, etc. You just need to ask Him for it. 💖 Praying for you!
I think you use your singleness to build into your children- they are the next generation, and the "talents" that God has given you are your kids. Pour into them - teach them the ways of the Lord, read them Bible stories, take them to Sunday school, LOVE them - which is as Godly as it can get, you are making a difference everyday in how you raise them.
The richness of this content is a guiding force in life. A book I read with related material provided a transformative experience. "Adapting with Aging" by James Crescent
I think calling singleness a "season" is ridiculous and unhelpful. Are married folks in "season" of marriage? no one would ever say that. The truth is, a person is single, that may or may not change.
Singleness is not a season. It was season for you. "When l was in my twenties l was single." That's the whole problem. Singleness in your twenties is fun, it is easy. Churches need to find mature singles to teach about singleness. There are 40, 50 and sixty year old singles, never married singles, widowed and divorced singles. . Was hoping the pastor was single but they never are.. "Undistracted devotion to God, freedom and time ...". What about suffering, sexual frustration, rejection, pressure to be married, lonliness, jealousy, anger, paying for everything yourself, being your own support, having no one to call your own, barreness due to not getting married, single parenthood (Guess they have plenty of freedom and time) . All these things are part of real mature singleness. Trust me the singles are dropping out of church as they grow older. Churches are driving single people away. This man is trying his best but he knows nothing about singleness. Bless his married heart.
Then you're asking for a different message, as this one is obviously tailored to people who assume they can plan on not being single for life. People in harsher scenarios will need a different message that probably incorporates the understanding that they may need to devote their lives as a single person (and I doubt he is lacking the ability to craft such a message, this just happens to be tooled for a specific crowd as most messages are and should be).
Were you single in your 20s? What withholds you from getting married to the right person. Maybe it's working on yourself, maybe there is a curse in your life. God wants marriage for those who desire it. It says that marriage is honourable in all and the marriage bed is undefiled (pure). Hebrews 13:4 This pastor is mainly talking to the youth and he leads by example by how he lived through the season of singleness. There's a woman in my church whose husband divorced her. But she stays "single" to this day in obedience to God. Each one will be led by God to their own ministry. Let God be your refuge and companion through this time. I understand your frustration. I face it too as a late unmarried person especially in my region. But I trust God that he will complete what he has started in me. He has been preparing me. I trust no man but God alone
I’m crying while I’m watching this. Just broke up a 4 yrs relationship and I’m kind of lost. But this gospel brings light to my singleness little by little. I will be ok and I will trust God. Thank you so much.
Oh sister! I am sorry! Praying!
aggiesoldier thank you! It’s nice to know that all over the world wherever we all are believers can find spiritual family everywhere! Even if we don’t know each other personally we know our God that is alsways with us. After couple of days listening to this sermons of Ben Stuart about relationships and singleness. I am ok now. Slowly getting a detox about my standards, who am I with God and getting back to the path that God crested for me. I realize how deeply lost I was with my vision and I thought it was from God but God had to put me out of that situation to fully see it. I will be ok and he will be ok. And I know that our God will keep His promise for me. And whoever is reading this will be to you too. God be the glory!
Mellet Habana girl you took the words right out of my mouth. I am going through the exact same thing- went through the end of a 4 year relationship 2 months ago. And everything you just said is the only way I’m getting through it and knowing that it’s right and it WILL BE okay. So happy to hear you’re so strong and have a sense of understanding about why God has both you and me in this place right now. If you haven’t watch already- the series Relationship Goals by Pastor Mike Todd at Transformation Church, absolutely life-changing. It will help things make sense even more. I’ll be praying for you 💗
Going through the same thing, just ended a 4.5 year relationship and I am almost 37. Felt like iam losing hope I am to old for a family and finding a man. But need to trust God that he will give me the desires of my heart.
@@gabpitch4581 YES!!! ITS AMAZING
I’m happy being single but still longing to have someone to come home to.
I understand and totally feel the same. ✌🙏
That's why I have 2 cats :) But ya, I get u
Hello, I have listened to this message over and over, and I felt like to start all over again... I believe that meeting you here isn't a mistake but something that has been ordained by God... I will love to know you better... I will be so excited to get a reply from you dear.
@@jeksriz3309 this is not a dating site. Leave her alone!
I've felt the same way for years, and still do. :( How are you doing now?
I understand why this may have been a helpful preach for those singles in their 20's and possibly even 30's and I don't dispute anything that was said - but it was surface level and did not address the deeper issues arise of longer-term singleness for those in their 40's and beyond, suggesting that singleness would be short-term. How do we define a 'season'? For many Christians, singleness is something they have experienced for 30 years + . Preaching from pastors who are happily married with children and talk about the quite normal period of singleness in their 20's just don't cut if for me - there has been no real experience by them of the deep, deep pain of longer-term singleness.......the barrenness of childlessness and all the other connected issues of deep, deep loneliness. It also suggests that marriage will come as a reward when you have 'done your time'......and sometimes it doesn't. There is pain and suffering in the gospel that is rarely preached about.....taking up the cross, learning to truly say that His grace is sufficient for me.....even if I remain single for the rest of my life, rather than just during a short-term period of singleness. That is a whole different ballgame and takes faith and relationship with a God to another level. And as to freedom and time........it's not quite that simple!!!!
Well said. At a certain point, all these artificially enthusiastic pep talks masquerading as sermons reveal an embarrassing lack of experience and empathy. Truly prolonged, unwanted singleness is an affliction that none save those who experience it will understand. It truly is like picking up a bloody cross and following Christ. Yet He did, after all, say that discipleship would be like that ....
Amen!
Soooo true. Thankyou.
@@Arcanon10 and when you put it like that I think wow! singles should be esteemed! But typically we just feel lesser because of singleness.
@@popcorn43 God bless you xx
"Don't spend this season saving fantasy worlds while the real world is on fire."
Man that hit deep. Great message!
😂 My pastor literally said the same thing on Sunday lol The holy spirit is moving. I guess the same thing goes for watching fantasy worlds getting saved via scifi movies and shows. 😭
There is a balance to be had. Play videogames or building one. Can say the same thing to girls who watch tv shows or guzzle books.
29:08 - just because I need to hear it again 👏🏼👏🏼
@@MeganOsten Being single gives us the full freedom to get right with GOD, to build into existence once lost relationship, between GOD and creation, between PARENT and child.
1 Corinthians Chapter 7 KJV
32 But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord:
33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. 34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
35 And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.
this world presents love as lust, and if you`re not always touched, then you are not loved = lies and fear propaganda. All of it because the MK ULTRA PROJECTS from masons.
John 15:13 KJV Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.
And being ALONE (not on your own) does bring forth sober mind.
What I have witness in my short life so far is, souls get together for money and because they are bored and the 3th reason is, the pressure of peers and older generations. “People around me repeated daily, get married and have children and move out, so I did. Am I happily living after? NO, i`m bitter, angry, sad, broken, in fear, heavy leaden, in darkness, always in somewhat contests with people around me, who has something better, something more and so on…, I succumbed to the fear of the opinions about my life of others, thats the hurtful truth.”
We start feeling lonely, because we are on our own, lonely comes not from BEING ALONE.
KJV Bible says;
Matthew 6:31
Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed?
Luke 12:22
And he said unto his disciples, Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat; neither for the body, what ye shall put on.
Matthew 6:25
Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment?
Being in my fifties I can’t believe just how difficult and hurtful never having a spouse or children has been . Pastors like this mean well but always seem to imply that singleness won’t bring its own problems and deep pain, a hurt that few if any in the church will understand or care to understand. You end up alone.
Hello, I have listened to this message over and over, and I felt like to start all over again... I believe that meeting you here isn't a mistake but something that has been ordained by God... I will love to know you better... I will be so excited to get a reply from you dear.
Married people end up alone too!
@@Wildlife_SA. I believe that you have the gift of singleness that the Apostle Paul addresses in 1 Corinthians 7.
@@Anthony-yy3kc The married person will almost certainly receive more sympathy and compassion than the lifelong single.
@@Anthony-yy3kc they had a choice in marrying their partner. They can pray for God to heal their marriage. Some singles are not single by choice.
There's a lot of pressure from society to get married and honestly we can do a lot better at viewing singles as equals rather than as less important. Social media doesn't help as everyone is always posting pictures of how happy they are with their partners which is not always the reality. A lot of marriages suffer because of issues that were not dealt with during singleness. It's important to deal with issues while you're single to prevent destroying your marriage/family.
I don't think so. We live in a hookup culture. A lot of men are just out there for games. Marriage is the last thing on their minds.
But yes, a lot do go into marriage without actually knowing what it is and not being ready.
@@Chydova it's the men that you want and are attracting that are playing games. What about the guys that you aren't attracted to? You overlook them all the time. Those guys that you put in the "friend zone" are the ones that are marriage minded.
@@oaklandsoldier8520 but you also need to be physically attracted to the man. I know its not the most important, but it is to some degree
If the church didn’t idolize marriage so much then maybe there would be an equal, if not more amount of preaching on the single life. There’s so much area to cover in this season of life and yet we hear very little about all aspects of it. Not being treated as equals within the congregation only adds more wounds and pain to what is already a tough road to navigate, especially in today’s world. It’s become a race down the aisle instead of learning how to succeed as a Christian single person. I believe this is why, as you stated in your comment, many marriages are a struggle due to lack of work on oneself as a single. You were also right about the pressure in society to marry. Especially on women and more so the older they get
Most of people don’t want marriage.
I need everyone I’m their 20s to watch this
I just found out this man of God and I wish I found him earlier.
Ditto! Found him this week. I welcome the anointing of his teaching as I approach a new DECADE.
@@thedebtfreelady Amen will be visiting this Church on Sunday.
@@claudettenahjela2569 AWESOME!! Glean sis glean
found him yesterday.
@@kirkjabyr751 Went to his church Sunday and it was explosively amazing.
"the amount of time on the clock should impact how you play the game". So good!
I am 35 yrs & Single & Never in my life time did I think of how I could thrive in my singleness always thought being single in my thirties is a downfall.
Thank You Pastor Ben for the Profound Sermon. Be Blessed
I got dumped by my boyfriend 3 days ago. This truly helped me feel a lot better.
well, today some of my 7-8 hours looking at a screen was listening to ben tell me not to look at my screen
Being single is a Beautiful Gift but I think the thing that many of us who are single struggle with is that The culture and the Church doesn't view singleness alot of Times as A Gift but a Bad thing along with pressures to get married!
Awesome message!! It definitely encouraged me to continue to pursue God and not pursue a relationship. It hard to be single and to deny the feeling to have to have someone to text or go to dinner with. I’m trying to learn to be content being single and not feel like I have to have someone
You got this bro! Build yourself up as an upright man of God and find worth in Him so that when you do find someone you'll actually be such a gift to her
Never thought there were guys out there who feel the same as I do. Keep pursuing God and His faithfulness. He knows what's best for you. Seek first HIS kingdom and life will be added to you. We will be rewarded when we put Him first. It's a promise. Keep pursuing Him, keep pressing in and be patient in becoming the man He is changing you into. It's hard I know but He is faithful. All the best to you buddy!
If nobody pursued relationships along with God we would have no marriages. There’s nothing wrong with desiring a spouse, it’s a Godly desire that we can pray to God about just like we do about everything else. You don’t have to exclude seeking God at the expense of seeking a spouse. The bible says
Proverbs 18:22
He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.
The word “find” can be a verb or a noun. Both action words which means to be active. I don’t feel that suppressing you’re desire to be married and just seeking God alone is the biblical answer. God bless 💙
“We care much more about their status before God than our relationship with us.” WOW, that’s some good preaching 🙌
Wow... this just changed my entire view of being single! This has now changed my life !!
Hello, I have listened to this message over and over, and I felt like to start all over again... I believe that meeting you here isn't a mistake but something that has been ordained by God... I will love to know you better... I will be so excited to get a reply from you dear
So weird to be watching after really getting to enjoy alone time with God for the past three years and wanting more. I love the time I'm been able to get to know God's heart for me more, His will for my life, and how he truly wants me to be undistractedly devoted to Him. While it hasn't been fun because I work a menial job but this in turn has given me more time to devote to my composing praise and worship songs for him. I love pursuing time for God and serving those who need to hear His word or be in His presence.
Honestly if we don't know how to spend quality time with the Lord how can we spend quality time with others and have something to offer up to them if we're not rooted in the One true God?
6:36, 16:39, 21:46
"Let not your longings slay your appetite for living"
27:43
sword blacksmith which book ?
@@helmanpulidojr5467 it's a quote from Jim Elliot
Thank you so much for speaking on important issues without bias and in the most biblical manner, this series has redefined the way I was looking at singleness and I am so thankful for leaders who make me want to draw closer to Jesus!
Pastor Ben, thank you so much for preaching this message on singleness (1 Cor. 7). Being single at 52, I really benefited from this message! Maximize the season for God. Amen!
Excellent message 👍🏼
Is it only me or did the ending make me cry? Like wow. Jesus described himself as the groom. What a way to save the world.
Great teachings and awesome personality! He cracks me up every time with his illustrations 😂
Trusting God my beautiful season of singleness 💕
I just got out of a 3-year mourning period from a failed marriage. I thought I'm now ready to date. But watching this video just made me realize that I have not really spent time devoting my time to God. The past 3 years was spent on moving on and getting over the pain. I will postpone entering in the dating scene and will focus my time to God for now.
One thing I hate hearing is….You can’t be in a relationship until your relationship with god is right.
Agreed because this assumes that you have to reach the pinnacle of perfection before God blesses you with a relationship. Maybe I’m wrong but I don’t think this is the case for all married people.
@@Sunshine26762 its not implying that we have to be perfect before He blesses us with a relationship. Its saying that we have to be 'right' with God first. We have to be secure in our relationship with God before we can be in a relationship with someone else. If our relationship with God is not secure then we will stop prioritzing God and start prioritizing and maybe even idolizing the other person. being happy single with God first is importnat because you learn that you are a whole person on your own and that you don't another person to complete you, you have a relatiobship to add to you. idk if that made sense
@@kaitlynmiron6043I echo this. Nobody, single or not can reach a pinnacle of perfect with God, that's the basis of Christianity. It's not about reaching a certain goal, but more about finding the purpose in life and set off in that direction. You can do this whether you're single or not, but it's easier to focus on it as a single person. It's the equivalent of the non-Christian saying "learn to love yourself before you try to love others", except we Christians believe God loves us more than we can love ourselves.
It makes it sound as though a relationship with God is just a means to the real goal of finding a spouse.
That is a silly thing to say for more than a few reasons 1. Plenty of Christians manage to get married that have quite a bit to do regarding their walk with God 2. A partner may influence and help you to grow. 3. If we wait till everything is near perfect there would be no marriage for anyone.
That was good I think everyone should watch this I think they should teach singleness better in schools these days
Thanks for the enlightenment on my singleness...🙏 I don't want my appetite to stop me from living
I LOVE this season of singleness I am in. I never thought I would get this season and I’m so thankful I get to do what I want, when I want, how I want. I get to spend time with Jesus whenever I’m not at work. I go on adventures alone. I am in counseling. I have a mentor. I journal and read. I am in small group and attend 3 church services a week. I watch whatever show I want, whenever I want. I cook if I want. I don’t cook if I don’t want. I talk to Jesus a lot and we hang out constantly. This message is confirming how well I am doing with this season of life. I am devoted to Jesus and have been focused on becoming whole and more holy. Sometimes I use distractions but it happens when my focus is not on Jesus. I do have a desire for marriage and I know it will come, but this season of singleness is a huge gift and I am beyond thankful for it. I hope everyone can love this season as much as I do. I rarely feel lonely and I spend A LOT of time alone. I see friends sometimes but I usually am alone. It’s beautiful.
Hello, I have listened to this message over and over, and I felt like to start all over again... I believe that meeting you here isn't a mistake but something that has been ordained by God... I will love to know you better... I will be so excited to get a reply from you dear
The 9 people who disliked this are silly. 🤷🏻♀️ That was very well said. Personally I'm living my best life in pursuit of God's plans for me WHILE being single... (For the time being)
Thank you so much for this! Most sermons I hear about singleness assumes it's by choice or my only purpose is to support my married friends as a "backup singer". (I really HATE that!) I come away feeling rejected and "less-than". I was married 15 years to a horrible person that cheated on me a lot. I was already rejected by him and a bit jealous of my happily married friends. I am NOT a back-up singer! If anything, the married people need to come alongside the single people for support. We're alone! They have each other! Thank you for encouraging me to use this time to be closer to God without making me feel like I've decided on purpose to be a nun or something! The only thing I don't really agree with is the assumption that single people have more free time. We don't. At least I don't. I have to work all the time with a full time job and some side gigs to pay the bills with one income!
I've recently found you on RUclips and have heard a few messages and really enjoy you. God bless you and keep up the great work!
God also created us to have relationships with each other. He died so He could have a relationship with us. We come to deeper revelation and understanding of this THROUGH our relationships with others.
True but there are so many relationships to have outside of dating and marriage :)
Hello, I have listened to this message over and over, and I felt like to start all over again... I believe that meeting you here isn't a mistake but something that has been ordained by God... I will love to know you better... I will be so excited to get a reply from you dear
@@Varaidzo1philos and agape are the loves mentioned in the NT.
Im happy to see that there are still few real pastors in America. God bless you with more and more wisdom. Hi from Romania.🙂
I too have wandered the aisles of Walmart 😂
Sadie Lanier I cracked up! I too have wandered the aisles of Walmart, Targé, & Malls, OH MY!!!!!
Ben is an amazing Pastor. Pray God continues to pour His anointing over you and Passion City Church.
I'm single, happy and desire to be married. This is a great message! Lord knows what's best for each one of us!
Hello, I have listened to this message over and over, and I felt like to start all over again... I believe that meeting you here isn't a mistake but something that has been ordained by God... I will love to know you better... I will be so excited to get a reply from you dear
May the Lord Jesus Christ grant you the desire of your heart!
@@jeksriz3309 Stop trolling on here. It's totally inappropriate.
This whole playlist was super encouraging a couple of years ago when I first watched it, and now I'm loving the rewatch. I need to read the book again, too. Such good stuff
This was such a beautiful message. Never have I heard such a message on singleness. So blessed.
This is the game changer! Thank you
I am so blessed to find you. I have been thinking if I will never get into a relationship ever . But right now I know the reason of my singleness I am gonna make very good use of it to serve God all day and get a closer relationship with Him 😍😍. I love you Lord.
I think regardless of the season we’re in, Satan will always try to steal our thought life. I know deep in my heart I am single to serve a purpose for God, and I know I will not be single for ever. Like every follower of Christ, not every day will be a good day. We’re all under a type of scrutiny and it’s ok to still reflect who God is when you are expressing things outside of joy and peace.
It’s how you respond, treat others, and your attitude when God corrects you when necessary.
While I try to remember to pray for my husband, I don’t want to get too caught up in it either. That longing to be filled can only be fellowshipping with God alone. I currently am hurting. Covid has made me more isolated and enhanced how single I truly am, but God has been faithful. 🙏🏼
Wow so true I really do have freedom and time. What a gift indeed!!!
me to. I cry out to god EVERY DAY why don't have a husband. I keep focusing on what I don't have and desire as a women but I didnt even think about what it truly meant when people say singleness as a gift.
@@brittanychapman5438 Hello, I have listened to this message over and over, and I felt like to start all over again... I believe that meeting you here isn't a mistake but something that has been ordained by God... I will love to know you better... I will be so excited to get a reply from you dear.
perspective of time is key!!
It still hurts but not that much
Thank you
He use to always call and text me the same time when I would read my bible and pray and I would always stop to talk to him because I was so afraid to lose him
Great sermon on thriving in singleness!
Thank you for changing my perspective on being single. God bless you!
23 years old 24 soon never had a girlfriend, made it easy to save myself for my wife but man hoping she rolls in soon in Jesus name
SUCH A RADICAL MESSAGE! Love it! 🔥💯🙏🏻🌸🌷🦋🌺🙈
This guy is brilliant! Not just this message but the whole series is really enlightening. I was thinking i'd heard it all from the many sermons i've watched but somehow he still brings a fresh perspective in a humorous way!
This was huge for me! Thank you for sharing 😊
Ive had a few single seasons. Still single. Been more single than with anyone. Trusting the Lord. Maybe its protection as Ive been hurt lot. ❤ I pray i get a 2nd chance at marriage
Awesome word. All glory to God.🙌🏾❤
I actually love this message, I love going to it to remember why I'm single and the amazing things that God can do through it. I feel as though Ben has a unique gift for this particular area and explains practically and biblically, 1 Cor 7:35, so good.
WOWW.. excellent points all throughout! Sharing this!
lmao this was hilarious and wonderful, praise God. This was sent to me by my good friend Indonesia, God is so good
I love how ultimately, you have reshared the Gospel! Wow! Thanks for the encouragement and wisdom
A very important element in this conversation is community. That is painfully lacking in the sermon. Scripture preaches singleness in a community, not individually. The benefits are felt and the pain is resisted, that way. In community.
So good! To be of understanding enough to teach and preach is a tremendous blessing. Thank you for this series!
Powerful and helpful during the healing and singleness season! ♥
Hello, I have listened to this message over and over, and I felt like to start all over again... I believe that meeting you here isn't a mistake but something that has been ordained by God... I will love to know you better... I will be so excited to get a reply from you dear
Thank you. I really have been thinking of loneliness as a powerless situation. I’m anxious and scared I will be single for longer than I wish. I see now I need to maximize my time to do more than I have been doing. Great way to break down God’s word and our intentions in this purposed journey.
Hello, I have listened to this message over and over, and I felt like to start all over again... I believe that meeting you here isn't a mistake but something that has been ordained by God... I will love to know you better... I will be so excited to get a reply from you dear
So happy this was recommended! So excited to go through this series
Happy being single. Not knowing yet whether marriage and/or kids are sth I long for. I don't need to have everything figure it out.
Same
Hello, I have listened to this message over and over, and I felt like to start all over again... I believe that meeting you here isn't a mistake but something that has been ordained by God... I will love to know you better... I will be so excited to get a reply from you dear
Haha the bread thing is so relatable! I did YWAM and it's the same🥖🥯🥐🍞
So inspiring! Thank you!!
These messages are great...funny and very helpful. Thank you..
I needed to hear this. Thank you!
38 here and trying to focus on Jesus.
This is what I needed to hear today
Good message!
im thankful for this video because lately I have been destracted by a girl i know and i prioratized her attention rather than God and my calling to the point where i was depressed because she was not able to fill that perpose in my life that God gave me anyways it was good
Such a wonderful word. Thank you for the heart fill
I am 37 and still waiting for the one.❤
Hilarious!!! If only I found this man of God earlier but it is well Ecc 3:11 definitely enjoying my season of singleness even more after watching this. Thank you 🙏🏾😄😄😄
There is nothing wrong with being single, but churches focus way too much on marriage. The single people get left out and churches do not seem to care about them. I understand why a lot of singles do not go to church and I myself do not like going to church anymore cause the focus is so much on marriage. I would like to be married but I doubt it is going to happen.
This is good
Thanks for sharing this with us :)
😂Thanks for the laughter at the beginning.
Where in Corinthians is our Brother getting this season of singleness from? I'm trying to find it but can't as of right now.
In chapter 7
Paul refers to it as his gift in 1 Corinthians 7. But he does not call singleness a season.
Wow, loved this!!!
Hello, I have listened to this message over and over, and I felt like to start all over again... I believe that meeting you here isn't a mistake but something that has been ordained by God... I will love to know you better... I will be so excited to get a reply from you dear
Keep your eyes fixed on Heaven. Everything will be all right there.
HNi. Just a note: the sound mixing is uneven. I hear most of the 's' sounds and not the rest of his voice. Might raise the bass up or tweak another sound setting.
15:58 ...the accuracy though lol
I don't have freedom and time. I'm a med student.
I think “having” freedom and time is a choice you make. Obviously there are med students out there who get married, which means they made the decision to get better at time management and make time for whatever’s important to them. I’m a dental student, so I can definitely relate to that feeling of no time. Let’s make the decision to make time for things that are important to us!
So true,it's a mentality we need to get rid off... Shedding off that part of me that uses medschool as an excuse.
Hello, I have listened to this message over and over, and I felt like to start all over again... I believe that meeting you here isn't a mistake but something that has been ordained by God... I will love to know you better... I will be so excited to get a reply from you dear.
I'm a hopeless romantic but after months of pain of unrequited love I feel like I can start giving up and casting my lust away onto love and let god fill me
It's hard but I only want to learn how to be content in God
14:00 16:40 21:55 27:53 29:08 30:24 32:08 40:37 - 41:12
I got freedom and time
But what about those of us who are single parents? I have a 2yr old and though I am single I still don't have much free time. I don't know what I can do to help my focus be on pleasing the Lord and not be distracted with worldly things?
Be a good steward over what God has placed in your life. Be intentional in the free time you have with God and ask Him to be creative. Don't compare yourself to the ones this pastor used as examples. I'm learning to allow God to strengthen me. I'm so used to giving to others I never do anything nice for myself. Pray like this, "God, I don't need my day to go the way I want it to. I just need You."
I turned 38 in Feb and still single without a GF, wife or kids! I'd say yeah! GOD gave up o me despite my hard work 😢
Dearest know this, the Lord NEVER gives up on his children, for He loves us so much. He say "You are mine". I'm currently experiencing this season after failed relationships but he has informed me so clearly this month to focus on Jeremiah 29;11. I pray it helps you to remain patient and hopeful for his gifts and blessings are GREAT ❤
powerful
19:05 hallelujah for singleness 😂😂😂😂
Ikr
What about those who are single but they have kids so they don't have the "time and freedom" to seek God and make a difference? I think single parents have even less time and freedom than married couples with kids. So what about our singleness?
"And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus."
Philippians 4:19 ESV
I believe God knows what you need. May it be time for God, financial provision, good health, restoration, etc. You just need to ask Him for it. 💖 Praying for you!
I think you use your singleness to build into your children- they are the next generation, and the "talents" that God has given you are your kids. Pour into them - teach them the ways of the Lord, read them Bible stories, take them to Sunday school, LOVE them - which is as Godly as it can get, you are making a difference everyday in how you raise them.
The richness of this content is a guiding force in life. A book I read with related material provided a transformative experience. "Adapting with Aging" by James Crescent
👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼😆! Very good!
when i listen to this guy I catch myself having my mouth wide open
Indeed
I think calling singleness a "season" is ridiculous and unhelpful. Are married folks in "season" of marriage? no one would ever say that. The truth is, a person is single, that may or may not change.
Amen. Marriage is not eternal. "Till death do us part." Why don't we hear about the "season of marriage"?
What would you call it?
14:55 that statement
15:31 😍😍🥰
17:59😂😂😂
28:00
Is there a podcast with this stuff?
Singleness is not a season. It was season for you. "When l was in my twenties l was single." That's the whole problem. Singleness in your twenties is fun, it is easy. Churches need to find mature singles to teach about singleness. There are 40, 50 and sixty year old singles, never married singles, widowed and divorced singles. . Was hoping the pastor was single but they never are.. "Undistracted devotion to God, freedom and time ...". What about suffering, sexual frustration, rejection, pressure to be married, lonliness, jealousy, anger, paying for everything yourself, being your own support, having no one to call your own, barreness due to not getting married, single parenthood (Guess they have plenty of freedom and time) . All these things are part of real mature singleness. Trust me the singles are dropping out of church as they grow older. Churches are driving single people away.
This man is trying his best but he knows nothing about singleness. Bless his married heart.
Then you're asking for a different message, as this one is obviously tailored to people who assume they can plan on not being single for life. People in harsher scenarios will need a different message that probably incorporates the understanding that they may need to devote their lives as a single person (and I doubt he is lacking the ability to craft such a message, this just happens to be tooled for a specific crowd as most messages are and should be).
Were you single in your 20s? What withholds you from getting married to the right person. Maybe it's working on yourself, maybe there is a curse in your life. God wants marriage for those who desire it. It says that marriage is honourable in all and the marriage bed is undefiled (pure). Hebrews 13:4
This pastor is mainly talking to the youth and he leads by example by how he lived through the season of singleness.
There's a woman in my church whose husband divorced her. But she stays "single" to this day in obedience to God. Each one will be led by God to their own ministry.
Let God be your refuge and companion through this time. I understand your frustration. I face it too as a late unmarried person especially in my region. But I trust God that he will complete what he has started in me. He has been preparing me. I trust no man but God alone
Hilarious but practical 👋💝
I’m never getting married